I Thought You Were a Nice Guy

When I met my ex-husband, I was eighteen and I was dating his best friend. His BFF was a jock, sooo not my style, but I was young and I liked bad boys. I stayed friends with my one-day-ex for two years before deciding I wanted to try dating a nice guy for once. He had had a crush on me the entire time, and was really just waiting for the green light to date me. I should have known he wasn't a good guy the day his other best friend tried to physically beat me up in front of him and he did nothing to step in and stop him. AND I knew this guy was beating his pregnant girlfriend and dating my best friend at the same time....and so I told the girlfriend his secret and that's why he tried to hurt me. I later found out my one-day-ex also knew this was all going on and stayed friends with him even though he was beating his pregnant girlfriend.
Why, oh, why, did I think he was a nice guy? Any man who allows that to happen in his presence isn't a man at all. He's a coward. But I didn't realize it at the time and I told him I liked him and one month later I found out I was pregnant.
We were forced to get married by our parents (they said they would not help us out with the baby if we didn't) and four years later, our second son was born, and three years later, I left him. He was verbally abusive from the start and didn't start physically abusing our kids until I left him. And CPS did nothing to stop him.....so I took the situation and made it horrible for his new wife and his wife told him "it's either me or them" and he picked her and gave up his rights. It was the best choice he ever made as a father.
Now my kids are 26 and 22 and they have a semi-okay relationship with him, after many, many years of having no contact with him at all.
My ex was a mess. My oldest doesn't really want much to do with him, as he's the one who was the one who got his father's abuse. He's now starting to realizing just how manipulative he is and was. I've always been fair about him (my ex) allowing my kids to form their own opinions about him. Growing up my ex tried to fill my kids heads with lies, but they were too smart for that.
My ex is a narcissist. And I don't want to have anything to do with him ever again. Not because I hate him. But because there is no reason to. That chapter of my life is over. The other day he told me how sorry he was that he dumped the girl he was dating for me (he said his father pressured him into dating me, which is total BS). But he never once tells me he's sorry for doing what he did to us. Because, you know, everything is everyone else's fault, not his. And if he said he was sorry to me, he'd have to admit that.
And that's why I am done with him. I hardly ever talk to him, but when I do, I realize how freaking useless it is. Never again. I will send him straight to voice mail.
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