I have a friend that gets suicidal every now and again. I told her to call me any time day or night. What started happening was my sleep was becoming disrupted, my stress level increased and after 2 weeks of this, my own health had deteriorated. Now I was of no good to anyone. She has professionals that help her, but I she also needed regular people who cared. She isolated herself for so long she doesn't have many supports. It took.a lot out of me during the times I was supporting her through her suicidal experiences. Please make sure you aren't sacrificing your own health. It can make things worse.
This must be very difficult and you are a very supportive and loving friend, so take care of yourself too and make sure you also have support xx Marisa Peer Team
You have yo take care of you first. You don't sacrifice yourself or your health at that point. There has to be boundaries. We are not an open door. We can be a vessel of support but not an anchor. 💛🥰 I was a caregiver to a covert narc husband who was often suicidal. It destroyed my health. I didn't have enoughness then and boundaries. Hes gone now and I have learned from it. Best to you on your journey. A book called boundaries is wonderful by Townsen and cloud 💛🍁🧡🥰
Thank you all for your replies. I do need to work on bounderies, thank you for the book recommendation. It can be difficult setting boundaries with needy people. I realise how important it is to my health that I make sure I am taking proper care of myself. Please leave a reply if you have some "go to" statements that you use when setting your boundaries with others. Thank you and Blessings
No! Or I'm sorry I can't! Or let me check my schedule first. Or this sounds great but it won't work for me this time. The boundaries book is an easy read and great tools and ideas. 🤗💛
Thank u, dear Marisa. I've never been on my phone so much, since Lockdown started, helping all the depressed people. It's real. It's the least we can do to make others feel worthy.
Wonderfully compassionate and insightful, Marisa. In my depression I wanted my family to say 'you are valued' but they just say. be positive, stop grumbluing, youre so negative, others had it harder (cancer, etc), people worse off (homeless, etc) - this just undermines my own feelings, never a real conversation.. they are my family and i expect more compassion...
So sorry to hear this, remember that you can tell yourself those words too ‘I am valued, I am enough’ and you can share that compassion with others too xx Marisa Peer Team
Annette Gulliver sorry to hear your experience, we cannot choose our family and it makes our journey harder, but I hope you find some comfort in Marissa’s words, it is tough to fix oneself.
Wonderfull. Be present...and give hope. Yes. I wish I had someone. In my case depression lasted 27 years. Not even many criminals or murderers in prison get that sentance. And I did nothing wrong. Just being highly sensitive artist. But this videos help keeping me present. Thank you Marisa. 😘🌼🌼🌼
I’m so very sorry you suffered for so long. That hurts my heart. I am in that kind of mental pain and have experienced it several times in my life. This time is the most unbearable of all. I’m 70.
I had a breakdown and was contemplating suicide spring of last year. I actually had to be hospitalized for a week. Very humbling experience. Glad I made it out of that. I actually learned so much about myself at that rock bottom and gained some clarity about my life (once I started coming out of it). But in that headspace you are blinded. The pain and discomfort was so intense I just needed it to end. I couldn't stand to be with myself. You don't imagine that things could change.
Thanks Marisa, Depression is on the rise now and this was a much needed topic. I truly know what to do now if i'm faced with someone who is depressed and thanks to you for sharing this wonderful video. Much love..🙏💞❤
Thank you for these great thought and positive backups of this do to do. I have a suicidal member of my family. I didn't know how bad things were till yesterday. I watched this and I'm going to watch more before I see him tomorrow. Thanks for this upload even it's not the original poster.💖
I am very grateful Marisa for your incredible advice, it is one of the most valuable things I have heard in my life🙏🏼, to have the opportunity to help those who need it, we all can do it, a giant hug for all♥️
This video touched me so profoundly in my feels--I can relate. Last year, March, I had my first bipolar manic-psychotic episode, and I was, subsequently, involuntarily put in a psychiatric hospital for two months. I had to forfeit the entire first semester of my studies. And by the time I got discharged, I was so overwhelmed with depression--I was down and defeated. I had this unshakable sense of loss, a loss of self--I didn't know who I was anymore. I felt the emotions of unworthiness and unlovability to the core--I felt as though I was not worthy of any forgiveness for the things I had done during my episodes and that no one would ever love me again. I believed that all the traits and symptoms of bipolar were my permanent tags--who I am, fundamentally. They became my statements of truth--I became the bipolar diagnosis itself--I used to excuse my sullen behaviour and sombre mood to those who knew me prior the incident as, "Excuse my dullness, it's the meds--I AM [the] Bipolar". I lost all connection with my Being and the world around me. I opted to go back to University for the second semester in July, as opposed to taking the rest of the academic year off as the Doctor suggested. And when I did--I felt so much shame for being the kid who lost her mind on a public platform, Facebook, with her delusional writings. Every day it felt like I was out of pulse with the world around me, with society--while the other students were going about their academic and social lives, jolling, connecting, and all. I locked myself in my residence and withdrew from the world. I didn't even have any electronics-I had to go to campus to have access to the world. I had no smartphone and no laptop--I was using a Nokia burner phone to call family members and close friends. I lost my smart gadgets during my episode. I felt so impoverished for not having a smartphone, and for not having the things I used to have before and during my mania. I felt so much shame showing my face in public--it felt like everyone knew I was once insane and that I currently hated my life. I felt rejected and isolated--that was the most unbearable time of my entire existence. I wanted to die every waking day--there was nothing wonderful or blissful about living at all. All I thought about was negative and dark and self-sabotaging content. Positivity was out of reach to me--I couldn't feel it even for a slight, fleeting moment. I didn't feel it at all. All I felt was self-pitty, self-loathing, shame, unworthiness, unlovability, insignificance and hopelessness. All the negative emotions of unforgiveness, I felt every single one, every single day. I thought if I could get through that semester, I would feel better about myself. I would prove to myself that I was still intelligent and somehow "worthy". I did pass that semester, above-average to my surprise. But, still, I was so unhappy. The day after Christmas Day, I was so sad and unhappy where I was, I decided that I am going to end the suffering there and then. I attempted suicide and overdosed on my bipolar medication, a mood stabiliser called Lithium. Truth to tell, I didn't want to die--I just wanted the pain to end. I thought if I could attempt to kill myself, I'd end up in a psych ward and the Doctors would change something in my pill combination, and I'd feel better. I naively believed that I needed the right pill combo to feel good about myself; about my life. Luckily, I survived as hoped for, and the Doctors changed my medication and prescribed to me a different anti-psychotic to go with the Lithium. I went to therapy, and very little changed. I was still unhappy. I could be happy for a short while--because of external events such as doing my hair or going out clubbing with friends etc.--but it never lasted. Immediately when I was alone with my thoughts in my room, the pain came back all over again more fierce than before. And it was until I came across your free masterclass "Uncompromised Life" on my Facebook feed, that I experienced real transformation on my mental health, general wellness, and livelihood. That masterclass highlighted what you are emphasising on this video, that during our dark times, we need to feel that we are worth it, we have something of value to offer the world today, we matter, we are significant and that we are lovable. And that we are enough just the way we are right now. After that insightful video, I have never been the same again, for the better. I am genuinely happy, every day, I praise myself--and it works like a boss. I have a strong immunity to criticism--can't nothing get me down now without my consent. I am unfuckwithable. I read books like Stillness Speaks and The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I am in touch my Being once again. I know who I am and what my purpose on Earth is. My life has a higher meaning. I don't say I am the bipolar anymore; I don't define my Being with it. However, I still take my medication for it, and I go to my Doctor's appointments every second month. I exercise now--I do Brazillian dance workouts with Keaira LaShae via RUclips--I love it a lot, and I eat well. I am in the best shape I have ever been in my whole life, I effortlessly lost a significant amount of weight. My body miraculously just shed it all off--I feel like a chickpea, I love my body. I am the happiest I have ever been in years. I am eternally grateful to you, Marisa Peer for that--hypnotherapy is the shit, I love it! From this video, now I know how I can pay that grace, for which you have extended to me, forward. I cannot wait until an opportunity presents itself for me to step up and be someone else's light and hope in their moment of devastation and depression. Thank you, Marisa, for the tools you have supplied in this video. I am so grateful to know how I can effectively use my Presence and kindness and love to be an agent for positive change in the world. You are so important to me. And I am sure many people feel the same way. Yay you, go you!
@@DV-dt9sq You also so strong --I am certain of it. It's a matter of time until you connect to that strength. Keep on being Present --participate consciously in your internal dialogue, and as Marisa suggests, regenerate accordingly. Transcend your mind --don't fully identify with it or goings-on. The same way you have a stomach in your body, but are not it, you are not your mind--you have a brain. You are fine already --continue being here, now, with yourself. Take care of yourself. You are enough just the way you are now. ❤
That is some story thanks for sharing. But so many of us are not there yet I don’t feel we will ever be there. I’ve tried every antidepressant. I’m just getting ready to try ketamine. I’m even going to do the keto diet. If those things don’t work I’ll be leaving the world in 2022.
Thank you so much for doing this, feeling helpless is a terrible feeling. ♥️♥️♥️ I have been on both sides of depression. It takes work to get out of it. There is hope, and this is what we must have. The depressed and those watching those suffer 💓🙏🏻
I have also been on both sides. It is more important than ever that we keep our eyes open to those who may be struggling. Look at the signs and offer hope. Have an amazing day! 🧡🙏🤗
Krisztina Chigozie after trying numerous antidepressants, I hated the way they made me feel. So decided to fight it naturally, but it’s not a fight it’s some thing to move through what to try and understand, issues from the past that need examined or reflected upon to come to a place of peace. I also started walking outdoors, in nature, in sunshine. Working out and doing yoga. 80-90% of our serotonin is in our gut so eating better plays a huge roll. Gluten, sugar and alcohol have been shown to cause inflammation and issues with our gut therefore our mental health. 💓 there is so much we can do, taking baby steps. Practicing gratitude and finding what lights us up. There is a purpose within the pain.
@@dinavalerie130 thank you for sharing in more depth! I have experienced doing the same changes and doing the same things you did. I'm a different person now. Changing what you put in your body, I'm whole food plant based no animals or animal products, only living foods, healing past traumas, getting out in nature, watching our thoughts etc. There's work that needs to be done for healing, but it's worth it. 🧡🕊🙏👌
Thank you so much Marisa 🙏 I get these feelings often, and so does some of those I'm close to. It's a slip of the moment feeling. Highs and lows that comes and goes. But I manage to battle it by sleeping it off thank God. I know I have to complete my mission here on earth. I should not abort my time. I've got that fight within me.
Thank you so much for your content again you have changed my life. Words cannot express how much I appreciate and value your content. Sending love and light right back to you xoxo
The reason can also be the hugh excpectation and pressure from the school, the society, and sometimes the family. Especially the education system, you have to know what you want to study already as a child. From 7.grade, education and exams, are the only thing teachers are focusing on.
So far a great message. This speaker talks in a long run- on sentence with no punctuation. It’s hard to follow when there are no pauses in between sentences.
Wow, you are such an amazing person Marisa! I feel your compassion for this important subject.. This is much needed right now I know first hand unfortunately because I feel very alone struggling for decades. I would love to heal but every time I think I find something that may help me I quickly learn I cannot participate because I cannot afford it . I am praying for a miracle please God I do not want to suffer alone anymore like this. Depression,Ptsd the works.
how does a person on disability/more than tight budget do this? I know the whole iinsurance trap is bad but how do people struggling that really need help afford this? Sadly now 2022 inflation is just so high.Trying to learn more information on this subject of RTT
Yes, that’s it!!! Mom is bipolar since 1986, so there’s a difference in my family that distinguish us from the others, you can see us, among the people, we always make the difference, even when we walk along the street, we walk different, and you can’t stop your head turning on our way to look at us, walking, stopping for a moment... and then re-start our “promenade” down the street... We’re different, you can smell it!
Me.... her words don't appy to my situation. I'm really in a place, no one can help or understand. I cannot resolve, it impossible. .... im just ruined my life and I have to accept it..... but, I don't/can't accept
Dear Marisa ❤️ I love you so much ❤️your heart is so expansive I can feel your commitment to transform this unhappy suffering world to bring Happy world that we all deserve. I really appreciate and thankful for your work 🙏🙏 I’m working on myself to be a contributor to this world too ❤️❤️
How wonderful!!! Such an insightful video.., thank you so much for taking the time and sharing this empowering information. By any chance are you available to work with someone in great need ?
Amazing video Marisa; please film more videos like these how to help others as well; people with addictions or people with negative/mad behaviors. Much love and Happy new Year :* Thank you for your daily insight
Thank you Marisa for making these videos. Can you please do a positive affirmations video for THIS subject. Its a little different than other affirmations.. Things we need to hear.
From a friend of mine! Today's post on Facebook! 🧡 "You are not alone. 🤍 We are all going through very tough, transformational times in this world right now so be gentle with yourself. ⛈🌈 You are a human being with human emotions that will range from sadness, anger, grief, joy, guilt, happiness, etc. 😢😆😫😳🤬 Embrace each one and learn what you must in order to live a happy, successful life. Remember, this world needs what you’ve got to give! 🌎" Natasha Anneliese 🧡
Great vidéo, as always I wish you had one where you hypnotize us into cleaning the house. That's what's making me depressive lately. I have a lot to do and I feel paralyzed and unable to do my chores. I've tried giving myself suggestions and finding strategies but it only works for 5 minutes when I wake up in the morning after a full night because my brain is not fully turned on yet. I have too much on my mind lately since the pandemic so I shut down and fall into numbing all the time.
This is real. This is good. And this would have worked for me when I was down. That pain is so intense and does not let up it is a pain I would not wish on my worst enemy, I do know depression I do know suicide. It just didn't work for me and like the guy that jumped I decided it was not my job.
Amazing to see how damaging family can actually be. Grew in a narcissistic family and they systematically did the opposite towards me my entire life including devaluing, ridiculing, and denigrating all my accomplishments and invalidating my emotions. It is disgusting to see how they behaved in comparison to the advise Marisa gives to people. Going no contact as the only thing to do with these pits of black
"you're better off without me" is the last thing I heard from a friend who has been suicidal for several years. He is still around but haven't heard from him in over a year. I'm not sure how to reconnect with him, except say "I'm here for you if you need me"
It's very hard to reach out to people when you're depressed. If you're feeling despair, to pick up the phone or ask for help will seem impossible. Let him know that you're there. Text, WhatsApp, voice notes, etc can all be left on a daily/weekly basis. "Hey xxx, it's Monday and I'm thinking of you." The messages don't have to be long, they don't have to have an expectation for someone to message back. The purpose they serve is just so that people know you're thinking of them. Don't say "I'm here if you need me" just message that you're there whether he thinks he needs you or not X
@@MarisaPeer thanks Marisa that's really helpful. It's a complex situation, I've also heard terrible things like "you don't really know me or how bad I am. I am beyond help" but I have been there for him in the past and I think I probably prevented his suicide. I'm sure I'll be seeing him soon.
I trying jumping from a bridge 3 weeks ago. I got stopped by police and a suicidal prevention unit. Got held in a hospital for a day and then sent home. Boyfriend doesn't know how to help. Nothing has changed. I regret not jumping when I had the chance.
Hi, please seek professional help in these circumstances. We recommend reaching out to speak to somebody who can have a conversation and help you: www.suicidestop.com/call_a_hotline.html Marisa Peer Team
I cannot bare this pain! My family, Friends tells me how much i matter, i don't care. I keep betraying Myself!, and do foolish mistakes/thing's that ruined ALL aspects of myself. I quit my sports, my hobbies!.. they were so important to me. I FOOLISHLY retired from my career job!!! because someone said i earned it.!..???? Now , i lost more! Purpose, identity, social interactions , coworkers, friends, security etc...!!! and im alone. How stupid!! I just hate myself, !! Now suffer from Stress, Anxiety, insomnia, and depression. My Mental and physical health are declining, my eyesight, my hair, my weight loss and skin.... it like im on auto destruction.
Can you recommend some books to read about preventing suicide for adults who lost a child or general good books to help an adult who has no support system
I've exhausted my options. I have a severe sleep issues. Cannot falland stay asleep. I have tried everything over the counter, RX , meditation hypnosis. Over 6 months I live on my couch. Cannot make plans BC I never know how I will be and cannot work. My life is over I have the right to not suffer . It's my life to end. I can't take it anymore. I am a burden in my family and useless to society. I can't afford RTT. If you're rich, then good for you. You get help. Thankfully I have a way out. I cannot be saved.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES! "Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest" "I am the light of the world whoever believes in me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life." ruclips.net/video/EXQGTInPpZU/видео.html "I am the way, the truth, and the life" You can
I have insomnia too. It's horrible. Especially with anxiety, and depression. After loosing everyone . .. everything.. and my Career job I loved!!!!... I just hate.
Currently feel all of this. But never got to the point where I would kill myself. I Feel like running away, I feel like no one would care anyway. But definitely have the feeling of severe loneliness that's what living by yourself for 11years does to you, of desperately wanting a child and feeling like I could miss that chance nearly 36, of feeling like no one understands or sympathises with me over how I feel. Feeling like no one has time for me not even my own family. I suffer with social anxiety also which isn't great.
My hole life im suffering the most extreme depression after been abused by my parent i went on to meet anothrr individual who abused me had my kids he was abusive lomg after i left him he brainwashed my kids to abuse me not listen to me had to ler them go live with him pain was so unbearable what these individuals caused i feel life is a waste of time its so black i spent my hole life been kind to others ended up in jobs where i was also abused i dont know where to turn anymore lost so much in my life my x gets away with all his evil this hasnt ever passed for me this black hole of depression andd hopelessness i asl gpd everyday why did my mother abise me ridicule me to such a degree rest of my life was ruined rejection is all ive. Felt my hole life how can the worst thing happening to u can be the best that makea no sense to me
I NEED HELP PLS I have a Family member that has done it, not once but twice. They found him laying down by god grace or luck they found him on time, and brought him back. I need help to find the way to help him I need to find the words to talk to him, pls anyone his only 18.
What to do when you're suicidal and getting worse? I want to seek help and a good therapist but I don't have the money. I feel like society just sends a signal that I'm not worthy of health just because I do not have money. This then makes me more suicidal because I don't want to live in a world where kind and good people are left to suffer alone because of "money". Don't we all deserve great care, love, healthy food and shelter? Apparently I do not
Mi prometido se suicido durante la cuarentena en su trabajo, yo queria ayudarlo mucho pero en su trabajo, estaba mi anterior jefe que me acoso laboralmente por que no lo eleji y no me dejaron ayudarlo, le roge a la doctora la noche antes de que muriera que lo cuide porque estaba al limite y nadie hizo nada, y cuando paso nadie se hizo responsable por lo que ellos mismos causaron, iba a llevarlo a terapia y lo que el necesitara, me mude con el para que siempre este bien y todo fue en vano.
Is it you they won't accept help from or everyone? There is a saying, "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink." Make sure all the information is around them and if they choose to watch/listen/read on their own behalf then you have done all you can x
Yogis leave their body as they accomplish the mission they had. No one says this type of suicide is bad, right? The people who feel like killing them selves don’t feel like having a purpose. What if the purpose of their lives is really to go in this way? Is this a lecture for society? Their family? What is this one loss if the example being shown to many improves many? But reasons must be adressed as they are. The society that has currupted the minds of people through entertainment. The ideas of needs and desires. The pressures of expectations- from others and torward others. Those expectations are just the wrong way of seeing at oneself and projected picture of life that is ever changing. “Today is bad, but that is today”, what I used to say to myself laying early in the bed, knowing that as I wake up, and my brain rests, complete new mindset will arise and new opportunities to laugh and enjoy will come. From my personal opinion, the more I suffered, that more I learned and improved myself. There is always a significant growth connected to suffering. What people miss to see, as they suffer, is that it is a chance to find out who they are and why they suffer. The truth is, no one owes anything to anyone and the sooner one realizes, one’s life will be easier to enjoy. Unplug the screens and music and the rest of artificial distractions. Solitude is the best lover. Life is in nature. Pet an animal. Walk barefoot. Drink spring water. Fast. And talk honest to yourself. Peace.
heres the thing, im not even kidding, i've been helping other people with this for almost 2 years and rn i've done pretty much all of this with my gf, she isnt depressed but she has suicidal thoughts on a daily basis(also she self harms) HOW IN THE FUCK DO I HELP SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN RAPED OVER 15 TIMES, BEATEN UP, CHEATED ON by someone she loved? pls im really curious, im desperate in need of help, im so fkin broken and lost in this situation, if anyone is reading this, i wish you everything the best
Hi. Any advice. I have a friend who keeps asking money to help him. If I don't give him money he threatens to kill himself. I stopped giving him money when I realized he cannot even help himself and give me threats that he will kill himself. And use the sentence so your last words you can't help me. I really tried to be a good friend.
I usually agree with you but here I don’t. Some people are suicidal because of irreversible decisions and unchangeable situations. It’s not about burdening anyone or wanting to matter to someone. It’s about being deeply unhappy, with no fulfilment and a deep pain and soul crushing burden every waking and even sleeping moment. This is incurable for some, and that is why they want to die. What is the solution for that person? Not everyone who wants to die is depressed. I think this is the real issue, we pass off anyone who wants to die with a “depressed” brush, simplifying why some people want to end it all. Death is the only option for some people to relive suffering that has no other remedy.
Well said... and true. Yes, the burden., regret, shame, mistakes, pain etc.. Cannot be resolved., Also with insomnia, My suffering is 24/7... since I foolishly lost my career job I loved... I have all day to suffer.! Now with stress, anxiety and depression. I lost all interests in everything. No desires. ... You're comment was correct
We have to understand what kind of emotional support that person is looking for....that little attention and care will go a very long way in encouraging them to appreciate life.
@@Introvertsmindset12 observe their circumstances, u will know. Everyone wants to be needed, recognized and loved. There could be other reasons if its a youngster...
I care ❤ I have been where your at many times. I even tried when I was 17. I'm glad it didn't work. I wouldn't be here to talk about it and help others. I know what it feels like to not be thrown a life raft or life ring. You are not alone. We are here for you. You are valuable and special ❤ you are enough! My thoughts and prayers are with you! Reach out 🧡
My you tube video I made about my first attempt. I had anxiety, deoression and suicial thoughts alot throughout my life because I felt alone and no one cared or seen me. Youf not alone! We see you! 🧡🤗🙏ruclips.net/video/nvnX3pQ9_VA/видео.html
Why can't people be allowed to make this choice? What if you literally just don't want to be here? What if you don't care about people,friends or wanting to be loved or whatever TF, what a condescending video.
The question isn't really about being "allowed" to make that choice, it's about WHY would someone make that choice. What if that person used to care about people and friends and wanting to live, why would those around them not want them to feel that way again?
This is a great video but not everyone does have a future. No matter what anyone says, there may be no way out from what their life has become. I have set an exit date. I found nembutal online and will order it next month. After I get my affairs in order I’m thinking May 2022 will be my last month on the planet, thank God. I just want to go to sleep and never wake up. My life has become unbearable. People should think twice before opening their mouths and saying hateful things. It’s very difficult to live with a label, being ostracized and gossiped about behind your back by your own family.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES! "Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest" "I am the light of the world whoever believes in me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life." "because I live, you also will live" ruclips.net/video/EXQGTInPpZU/видео.html Someone has died so you can live. The burden was never yours to carry. He makes all things new again. Dont go. To be born again is second life.
I will start again or find some other inspiration, because that seems to be how life works. I hope, I get lost, I find my way, then the path disappears again, and I just have to keep looking. Success and happiness come in small pieces, surrounded by struggle and plenty of failure. Accepting that and moving forward may get me to a good place again… I hope…❤️
I have a friend that gets suicidal every now and again. I told her to call me any time day or night. What started happening was my sleep was becoming disrupted, my stress level increased and after 2 weeks of this, my own health had deteriorated. Now I was of no good to anyone. She has professionals that help her, but I she also needed regular people who cared. She isolated herself for so long she doesn't have many supports. It took.a lot out of me during the times I was supporting her through her suicidal experiences. Please make sure you aren't sacrificing your own health. It can make things worse.
This must be very difficult and you are a very supportive and loving friend, so take care of yourself too and make sure you also have support xx Marisa Peer Team
You're a wonderful friend. If only more people were like you and less selfish a lot of lives would be saved ❤️
You have yo take care of you first. You don't sacrifice yourself or your health at that point. There has to be boundaries. We are not an open door. We can be a vessel of support but not an anchor. 💛🥰 I was a caregiver to a covert narc husband who was often suicidal. It destroyed my health. I didn't have enoughness then and boundaries. Hes gone now and I have learned from it. Best to you on your journey. A book called boundaries is wonderful by Townsen and cloud 💛🍁🧡🥰
Thank you all for your replies. I do need to work on bounderies, thank you for the book recommendation. It can be difficult setting boundaries with needy people. I realise how important it is to my health that I make sure I am taking proper care of myself. Please leave a reply if you have some "go to" statements that you use when setting your boundaries with others. Thank you and Blessings
No! Or I'm sorry I can't!
Or let me check my schedule first. Or this sounds great but it won't work for me this time. The boundaries book is an easy read and great tools and ideas. 🤗💛
Amazing. Mental health is so important. I wish the stigma didn’t exist.
Thank u, dear Marisa.
I've never been on my phone so much, since Lockdown started, helping all the depressed people. It's real. It's the least we can do to make others feel worthy.
One of my friends is severely depressed and I felt so helpless. This helped so much, you are a true hero
I struggle with desperate feelings too, it’s very scary
Wonderfully compassionate and insightful, Marisa. In my depression I wanted my family to say 'you are valued' but they just say. be positive, stop grumbluing, youre so negative, others had it harder (cancer, etc), people worse off (homeless, etc) - this just undermines my own feelings, never a real conversation.. they are my family and i expect more compassion...
So sorry to hear this, remember that you can tell yourself those words too ‘I am valued, I am enough’ and you can share that compassion with others too xx Marisa Peer Team
Yep. Hear what you're saying. I grew up knowing I was unwanted. When I was ill after my breakdown I got no support.
My family are the same...even during breakdowns, they undermine me
Tina Kotecha sorry to hear this, thank you for sharing your experience, I hope you find some comfort in these videos.
Annette Gulliver sorry to hear your experience, we cannot choose our family and it makes our journey harder, but I hope you find some comfort in Marissa’s words, it is tough to fix oneself.
Wonderfull. Be present...and give hope. Yes.
I wish I had someone. In my case depression lasted 27 years. Not even many criminals or murderers in prison get that sentance. And I did nothing wrong. Just being highly sensitive artist. But this videos help keeping me present. Thank you Marisa. 😘🌼🌼🌼
I’m so very sorry you suffered for so long. That hurts my heart. I am in that kind of mental pain and have experienced it several times in my life. This time is the most unbearable of all. I’m 70.
Same here...
I'm glad someone gets this topic
Marisa is really now showing the depth of her empathy and and compassion for fellow human beings. Thank you. God bless you and your work Marisa.
My life calling is to be like you, Marisa.
The most sensible and understanding I ever heard! Thank you and be blessed!
Thank you so much for putting these tips out here.
True. No one knows exactly how another person feels. It’s worse than physical pain. Pure agony.
Fantastic Marisa. Wish you were there when I was suicidal. I somehow got myself out of it.
I had a breakdown and was contemplating suicide spring of last year. I actually had to be hospitalized for a week. Very humbling experience. Glad I made it out of that. I actually learned so much about myself at that rock bottom and gained some clarity about my life (once I started coming out of it). But in that headspace you are blinded. The pain and discomfort was so intense I just needed it to end. I couldn't stand to be with myself. You don't imagine that things could change.
Hospitalization scared the snot out of me, compounding my trauma. Lesson: tell no one.
Thanks Marisa, Depression is on the rise now and this was a much needed topic. I truly know what to do now if i'm faced with someone who is depressed and thanks to you for sharing this wonderful video. Much love..🙏💞❤
Depression and stress can really destroy a lot of things in a person
Exactly.!!!!!! I'm below the lowest point. I lost everything!, and cannot get back , nor resolve my mistakes....
Depression is so horrible
Thank you for these great thought and positive backups of this do to do. I have a suicidal member of my family. I didn't know how bad things were till yesterday. I watched this and I'm going to watch more before I see him tomorrow.
Thanks for this upload even it's not the original poster.💖
Very good video especially today there is so much of this happening today. I want to know how to help the people around me. Thank You! ❣️🇺🇸❣️
I am very grateful Marisa for your incredible advice, it is one of the most valuable things I have heard in my life🙏🏼, to have the opportunity to help those who need it, we all can do it, a giant hug for all♥️
Thank you Marisa. Your advice is priceless.
So glad you’ve found it helpful 💖
This video touched me so profoundly in my feels--I can relate. Last year, March, I had my first bipolar manic-psychotic episode, and I was, subsequently, involuntarily put in a psychiatric hospital for two months. I had to forfeit the entire first semester of my studies. And by the time I got discharged, I was so overwhelmed with depression--I was down and defeated. I had this unshakable sense of loss, a loss of self--I didn't know who I was anymore. I felt the emotions of unworthiness and unlovability to the core--I felt as though I was not worthy of any forgiveness for the things I had done during my episodes and that no one would ever love me again. I believed that all the traits and symptoms of bipolar were my permanent tags--who I am, fundamentally. They became my statements of truth--I became the bipolar diagnosis itself--I used to excuse my sullen behaviour and sombre mood to those who knew me prior the incident as, "Excuse my dullness, it's the meds--I AM [the] Bipolar".
I lost all connection with my Being and the world around me. I opted to go back to University for the second semester in July, as opposed to taking the rest of the academic year off as the Doctor suggested. And when I did--I felt so much shame for being the kid who lost her mind on a public platform, Facebook, with her delusional writings. Every day it felt like I was out of pulse with the world around me, with society--while the other students were going about their academic and social lives, jolling, connecting, and all. I locked myself in my residence and withdrew from the world. I didn't even have any electronics-I had to go to campus to have access to the world.
I had no smartphone and no laptop--I was using a Nokia burner phone to call family members and close friends. I lost my smart gadgets during my episode. I felt so impoverished for not having a smartphone, and for not having the things I used to have before and during my mania. I felt so much shame showing my face in public--it felt like everyone knew I was once insane and that I currently hated my life. I felt rejected and isolated--that was the most unbearable time of my entire existence. I wanted to die every waking day--there was nothing wonderful or blissful about living at all.
All I thought about was negative and dark and self-sabotaging content. Positivity was out of reach to me--I couldn't feel it even for a slight, fleeting moment. I didn't feel it at all. All I felt was self-pitty, self-loathing, shame, unworthiness, unlovability, insignificance and hopelessness. All the negative emotions of unforgiveness, I felt every single one, every single day. I thought if I could get through that semester, I would feel better about myself. I would prove to myself that I was still intelligent and somehow "worthy". I did pass that semester, above-average to my surprise. But, still, I was so unhappy.
The day after Christmas Day, I was so sad and unhappy where I was, I decided that I am going to end the suffering there and then. I attempted suicide and overdosed on my bipolar medication, a mood stabiliser called Lithium. Truth to tell, I didn't want to die--I just wanted the pain to end. I thought if I could attempt to kill myself, I'd end up in a psych ward and the Doctors would change something in my pill combination, and I'd feel better. I naively believed that I needed the right pill combo to feel good about myself; about my life. Luckily, I survived as hoped for, and the Doctors changed my medication and prescribed to me a different anti-psychotic to go with the Lithium. I went to therapy, and very little changed. I was still unhappy.
I could be happy for a short while--because of external events such as doing my hair or going out clubbing with friends etc.--but it never lasted. Immediately when I was alone with my thoughts in my room, the pain came back all over again more fierce than before. And it was until I came across your free masterclass "Uncompromised Life" on my Facebook feed, that I experienced real transformation on my mental health, general wellness, and livelihood.
That masterclass highlighted what you are emphasising on this video, that during our dark times, we need to feel that we are worth it, we have something of value to offer the world today, we matter, we are significant and that we are lovable. And that we are enough just the way we are right now. After that insightful video, I have never been the same again, for the better.
I am genuinely happy, every day, I praise myself--and it works like a boss. I have a strong immunity to criticism--can't nothing get me down now without my consent. I am unfuckwithable. I read books like Stillness Speaks and The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. I am in touch my Being once again. I know who I am and what my purpose on Earth is. My life has a higher meaning. I don't say I am the bipolar anymore; I don't define my Being with it. However, I still take my medication for it, and I go to my Doctor's appointments every second month. I exercise now--I do Brazillian dance workouts with Keaira LaShae via RUclips--I love it a lot, and I eat well. I am in the best shape I have ever been in my whole life, I effortlessly lost a significant amount of weight. My body miraculously just shed it all off--I feel like a chickpea, I love my body. I am the happiest I have ever been in years. I am eternally grateful to you, Marisa Peer for that--hypnotherapy is the shit, I love it!
From this video, now I know how I can pay that grace, for which you have extended to me, forward. I cannot wait until an opportunity presents itself for me to step up and be someone else's light and hope in their moment of devastation and depression. Thank you, Marisa, for the tools you have supplied in this video. I am so grateful to know how I can effectively use my Presence and kindness and love to be an agent for positive change in the world. You are so important to me. And I am sure many people feel the same way. Yay you, go you!
Vuyisa Coko you are so strong and I wish you the best! I’m sure you gonna be the light for so many people. ❤️
As if you described me. But I am still strugling with it. I still haven't found that strongness you have. I am sooo happy for you xxxx
@@DV-dt9sq You also so strong --I am certain of it. It's a matter of time until you connect to that strength. Keep on being Present --participate consciously in your internal dialogue, and as Marisa suggests, regenerate accordingly. Transcend your mind --don't fully identify with it or goings-on. The same way you have a stomach in your body, but are not it, you are not your mind--you have a brain.
You are fine already --continue being here, now, with yourself. Take care of yourself. You are enough just the way you are now. ❤
@@vuyisa33 : Thank you. You are wonderfull 💜🙋
That is some story thanks for sharing. But so many of us are not there yet I don’t feel we will ever be there. I’ve tried every antidepressant. I’m just getting ready to try ketamine. I’m even going to do the keto diet. If those things don’t work I’ll be leaving the world in 2022.
Thank you so much for doing this, feeling helpless is a terrible feeling. ♥️♥️♥️ I have been on both sides of depression. It takes work to get out of it. There is hope, and this is what we must have. The depressed and those watching those suffer 💓🙏🏻
I have also been on both sides. It is more important than ever that we keep our eyes open to those who may be struggling. Look at the signs and offer hope. Have an amazing day! 🧡🙏🤗
Hi Dina!
Can I ask you, how you got out?
Thank you for sharing this, you’re in a position now to understand and offer that hope to others xx Marisa Peer Team
Krisztina Chigozie after trying numerous antidepressants, I hated the way they made me feel. So decided to fight it naturally, but it’s not a fight it’s some thing to move through what to try and understand, issues from the past that need examined or reflected upon to come to a place of peace. I also started walking outdoors, in nature, in sunshine. Working out and doing yoga. 80-90% of our serotonin is in our gut so eating better plays a huge roll. Gluten, sugar and alcohol have been shown to cause inflammation and issues with our gut therefore our mental health. 💓 there is so much we can do, taking baby steps. Practicing gratitude and finding what lights us up. There is a purpose within the pain.
@@dinavalerie130 thank you for sharing in more depth! I have experienced doing the same changes and doing the same things you did. I'm a different person now. Changing what you put in your body, I'm whole food plant based no animals or animal products, only living foods, healing past traumas, getting out in nature, watching our thoughts etc. There's work that needs to be done for healing, but it's worth it. 🧡🕊🙏👌
Thank you, Marisa, for putting out this video.
I really don’t feel my life can get better. I’ve tried so
Many times
Thank you so much Marisa 🙏 I get these feelings often, and so does some of those I'm close to. It's a slip of the moment feeling. Highs and lows that comes and goes. But I manage to battle it by sleeping it off thank God. I know I have to complete my mission here on earth. I should not abort my time. I've got that fight within me.
Love all your perspectives on this Marisa, there are many stereotypical views on suicide and I feel you have cleared them up.
Thank you so much for your content again you have changed my life. Words cannot express how much I appreciate and value your content. Sending love and light right back to you xoxo
Thanks for sharing this information your videos will help save lives👍👍👍
The reason can also be the hugh excpectation and pressure from the school, the society, and sometimes the family. Especially the education system, you have to know what you want to study already as a child. From 7.grade, education and exams, are the only thing teachers are focusing on.
Thankyou very much. This helped me alot. Dealing with someone very close to me at high risk.
So far a great message. This speaker talks in a long run- on sentence with no punctuation. It’s hard to follow when there are no pauses in between sentences.
There are plenty of pauses.
Thank you. This helped a lot. Im happy to hear her laugh again.
Thank you for this .. such an important topic to hear someone like you’re self speak about 🙏
Wow, you are such an amazing person Marisa! I feel your compassion for this important subject.. This is much needed right now I know first hand unfortunately because I
feel very alone struggling for decades. I would love to heal but every time I think I find something that may help me I quickly learn I cannot participate because I cannot afford it . I am praying for a miracle please God I do not want to suffer alone anymore like this. Depression,Ptsd the works.
how does a person on disability/more than tight budget do this? I know the whole iinsurance trap is bad but how do people struggling that really need help afford this? Sadly now 2022 inflation is just so high.Trying to learn more information on this subject of RTT
YOU; ARE, LOVED!!
Thank you Marisa! God bless you! You got it!
Mental health is very important to maintain in good standing. I am not qualified to help someone. I can redirect them privately to someone that can.
Yes, that’s it!!!
Mom is bipolar since 1986,
so there’s a difference in my family that distinguish us from the others,
you can see us, among the people,
we always make the difference,
even when we walk along the street,
we walk different,
and you can’t stop your head turning on our way to look at us,
walking, stopping for a moment...
and then re-start our “promenade” down the street...
We’re different,
you can smell it!
Anyone else watching this to help yourself??
Me.... her words don't appy to my situation.
I'm really in a place, no one can help or understand.
I cannot resolve, it impossible.
.... im just ruined my life and I have to accept it..... but, I don't/can't accept
I found this educative and helpful
Marisa thanks for your videos. They re helpful i like them very much
Dear Marisa ❤️ I love you so much ❤️your heart is so expansive I can feel your commitment to transform this unhappy suffering world to bring Happy world that we all deserve. I really appreciate and thankful for your work 🙏🙏 I’m working on myself to be a contributor to this world too ❤️❤️
Ur amazing thank u
How wonderful!!! Such an insightful video.., thank you so much for taking the time and sharing this empowering information. By any chance are you available to work with someone in great need ?
Thank you Marisa
Amazing video Marisa; please film more videos like these how to help others as well; people with addictions or people with negative/mad behaviors. Much love and Happy new Year :* Thank you for your daily insight
Be present for someone else!
Thank you Marisa for making these videos.
Can you please do a positive affirmations video for THIS subject.
Its a little different than other affirmations..
Things we need to hear.
We are all insignificant and alone. There is no hope.
From a friend of mine! Today's post on Facebook! 🧡
"You are not alone. 🤍
We are all going through very tough, transformational times in this world right now so be gentle with yourself. ⛈🌈
You are a human being with human emotions that will range from sadness, anger, grief, joy, guilt, happiness, etc. 😢😆😫😳🤬
Embrace each one and learn what you must in order to live a happy, successful life.
Remember, this world needs what you’ve got to give! 🌎"
Natasha Anneliese 🧡
Beautiful post xx Marisa Peer Team
Great vidéo, as always
I wish you had one where you hypnotize us into cleaning the house. That's what's making me depressive lately. I have a lot to do and I feel paralyzed and unable to do my chores. I've tried giving myself suggestions and finding strategies but it only works for 5 minutes when I wake up in the morning after a full night because my brain is not fully turned on yet. I have too much on my mind lately since the pandemic so I shut down and fall into numbing all the time.
Thank you Marisa
This is real. This is good. And this would have worked for me when I was down. That pain is so intense and does not let up it is a pain I would not wish on my worst enemy, I do know depression I do know suicide. It just didn't work for me and like the guy that jumped I decided it was not my job.
Am surprised am watching this I am having exactly what she is saying
Amazing to see how damaging family can actually be. Grew in a narcissistic family and they systematically did the opposite towards me my entire life including devaluing, ridiculing, and denigrating all my accomplishments and invalidating my emotions. It is disgusting to see how they behaved in comparison to the advise Marisa gives to people. Going no contact as the only thing to do with these pits of black
Hello Hello. From Thailand 👍👍😍😍😊😊😊
"you're better off without me" is the last thing I heard from a friend who has been suicidal for several years. He is still around but haven't heard from him in over a year. I'm not sure how to reconnect with him, except say "I'm here for you if you need me"
It's very hard to reach out to people when you're depressed. If you're feeling despair, to pick up the phone or ask for help will seem impossible. Let him know that you're there. Text, WhatsApp, voice notes, etc can all be left on a daily/weekly basis. "Hey xxx, it's Monday and I'm thinking of you." The messages don't have to be long, they don't have to have an expectation for someone to message back. The purpose they serve is just so that people know you're thinking of them. Don't say "I'm here if you need me" just message that you're there whether he thinks he needs you or not X
@@MarisaPeer thanks Marisa that's really helpful. It's a complex situation, I've also heard terrible things like "you don't really know me or how bad I am. I am beyond help" but I have been there for him in the past and I think I probably prevented his suicide. I'm sure I'll be seeing him soon.
I trying jumping from a bridge 3 weeks ago. I got stopped by police and a suicidal prevention unit. Got held in a hospital for a day and then sent home. Boyfriend doesn't know how to help. Nothing has changed. I regret not jumping when I had the chance.
Hi, please seek professional help in these circumstances. We recommend reaching out to speak to somebody who can have a conversation and help you: www.suicidestop.com/call_a_hotline.html Marisa Peer Team
@@MarisaPeer Thank you. My nice made several attempts to kill herself. Hope this will help.
I cannot bare this pain! My family, Friends tells me how much i matter, i don't care.
I keep betraying Myself!, and do foolish mistakes/thing's that ruined ALL aspects of myself. I quit my sports, my hobbies!.. they were so important to me. I FOOLISHLY retired from my career job!!! because someone said i earned it.!..???? Now , i lost more! Purpose, identity, social interactions , coworkers, friends, security etc...!!! and im alone. How stupid!! I just hate myself, !!
Now suffer from Stress, Anxiety, insomnia, and depression. My Mental and physical health are declining, my eyesight, my hair, my weight loss and skin.... it like im on auto destruction.
Can you recommend some books to read about preventing suicide for adults who lost a child or general good books to help an adult who has no support system
It's so wonderful to listen this but unfortunately why hardly ever antibody is doing it .
This vídeo Made me sad
What to do if you are tired of your depressed friend who is not willing to change her life?
Hola Marisa , en "Español" porfavor Gracias ❤
I've exhausted my options. I have a severe sleep issues. Cannot falland stay asleep. I have tried everything over the counter, RX , meditation hypnosis. Over 6 months I live on my couch. Cannot make plans BC I never know how I will be and cannot work. My life is over I have the right to not suffer . It's my life to end. I can't take it anymore. I am a burden in my family and useless to society. I can't afford RTT. If you're rich, then good for you. You get help. Thankfully I have a way out. I cannot be saved.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
"Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever believes in me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life."
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"I am the way, the truth, and the life"
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I have insomnia too.
It's horrible.
Especially with anxiety, and depression.
After loosing everyone . .. everything.. and my Career job I loved!!!!... I just hate.
Any chance you could make I guided meditation on nightmares? I'm having apocalyptic ones or some where I'm being hunted
Currently feel all of this. But never got to the point where I would kill myself. I Feel like running away, I feel like no one would care anyway. But definitely have the feeling of severe loneliness that's what living by yourself for 11years does to you, of desperately wanting a child and feeling like I could miss that chance nearly 36, of feeling like no one understands or sympathises with me over how I feel. Feeling like no one has time for me not even my own family. I suffer with social anxiety also which isn't great.
If you need a friend Stacy im here don't end I want to end it sometimes but idk mental health takes alot our of us.
My hole life im suffering the most extreme depression after been abused by my parent i went on to meet anothrr individual who abused me had my kids he was abusive lomg after i left him he brainwashed my kids to abuse me not listen to me had to ler them go live with him pain was so unbearable what these individuals caused i feel life is a waste of time its so black i spent my hole life been kind to others ended up in jobs where i was also abused i dont know where to turn anymore lost so much in my life my x gets away with all his evil this hasnt ever passed for me this black hole of depression andd hopelessness i asl gpd everyday why did my mother abise me ridicule me to such a degree rest of my life was ruined rejection is all ive. Felt my hole life how can the worst thing happening to u can be the best that makea no sense to me
I NEED HELP PLS I have a Family member that has done it, not once but twice. They found him laying down by god grace or luck they found him on time, and brought him back. I need help to find the way to help him I need to find the words to talk to him, pls anyone his only 18.
What to do when you're suicidal and getting worse? I want to seek help and a good therapist but I don't have the money. I feel like society just sends a signal that I'm not worthy of health just because I do not have money. This then makes me more suicidal because I don't want to live in a world where kind and good people are left to suffer alone because of "money". Don't we all deserve great care, love, healthy food and shelter? Apparently I do not
It is tough to get help without money. Stay strong. Take care. Like Marisa said, you are worth it.
I hope you are feeling better
13:15 You make me laugh my teacher. That is lovely. Lol
I feel like i can't reach my friend. I feel so helpless.
Mi prometido se suicido durante la cuarentena en su trabajo, yo queria ayudarlo mucho pero en su trabajo, estaba mi anterior jefe que me acoso laboralmente por que no lo eleji y no me dejaron ayudarlo, le roge a la doctora la noche antes de que muriera que lo cuide porque estaba al limite y nadie hizo nada, y cuando paso nadie se hizo responsable por lo que ellos mismos causaron, iba a llevarlo a terapia y lo que el necesitara, me mude con el para que siempre este bien y todo fue en vano.
Please help he’s not responding to my calls or texts
What if the person is so extremely difficult that you just can’t help because he or she won’t allow any help? How can you help under this situation?
Is it you they won't accept help from or everyone? There is a saying, "You can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink." Make sure all the information is around them and if they choose to watch/listen/read on their own behalf then you have done all you can x
Yogis leave their body as they accomplish the mission they had. No one says this type of suicide is bad, right?
The people who feel like killing them selves don’t feel like having a purpose. What if the purpose of their lives is really to go in this way? Is this a lecture for society? Their family? What is this one loss if the example being shown to many improves many?
But reasons must be adressed as they are. The society that has currupted the minds of people through entertainment. The ideas of needs and desires. The pressures of expectations- from others and torward others. Those expectations are just the wrong way of seeing at oneself and projected picture of life that is ever changing.
“Today is bad, but that is today”, what I used to say to myself laying early in the bed, knowing that as I wake up, and my brain rests, complete new mindset will arise and new opportunities to laugh and enjoy will come.
From my personal opinion, the more I suffered, that more I learned and improved myself. There is always a significant growth connected to suffering.
What people miss to see, as they suffer, is that it is a chance to find out who they are and why they suffer.
The truth is, no one owes anything to anyone and the sooner one realizes, one’s life will be easier to enjoy.
Unplug the screens and music and the rest of artificial distractions.
Solitude is the best lover.
Life is in nature. Pet an animal. Walk barefoot. Drink spring water. Fast.
And talk honest to yourself.
Peace.
Does RTT THERAPY HELP AND WHAT OTHER THERAPIES WOULD YOU RECOMMEND
Of read stories of the tapping method helping people.
Goddess! 💕
When debt leading to multiple never ending troubles n interlink with severe depression ,nobody can help..the only way is to end it all
heres the thing, im not even kidding, i've been helping other people with this for almost 2 years and rn i've done pretty much all of this with my gf, she isnt depressed but she has suicidal thoughts on a daily basis(also she self harms) HOW IN THE FUCK DO I HELP SOMEONE WHO HAS BEEN RAPED OVER 15 TIMES, BEATEN UP, CHEATED ON by someone she loved? pls im really curious, im desperate in need of help, im so fkin broken and lost in this situation, if anyone is reading this, i wish you everything the best
It sounds like she needs counseling and to talk to someone.
Hi. Any advice. I have a friend who keeps asking money to help him. If I don't give him money he threatens to kill himself. I stopped giving him money when I realized he cannot even help himself and give me threats that he will kill himself. And use the sentence so your last words you can't help me. I really tried to be a good friend.
I usually agree with you but here I don’t. Some people are suicidal because of irreversible decisions and unchangeable situations. It’s not about burdening anyone or wanting to matter to someone. It’s about being deeply unhappy, with no fulfilment and a deep pain and soul crushing burden every waking and even sleeping moment.
This is incurable for some, and that is why they want to die.
What is the solution for that person?
Not everyone who wants to die is depressed. I think this is the real issue, we pass off anyone who wants to die with a “depressed” brush, simplifying why some people want to end it all. Death is the only option for some people to relive suffering that has no other remedy.
Well said... and true.
Yes, the burden., regret, shame, mistakes, pain etc..
Cannot be resolved.,
Also with insomnia,
My suffering is 24/7... since I foolishly lost my career job I loved... I have all day to suffer.!
Now with stress, anxiety and depression. I lost all interests in everything. No desires. ...
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We have to understand what kind of emotional support that person is looking for....that little attention and care will go a very long way in encouraging them to appreciate life.
How can we identify which kind of support they need
@@Introvertsmindset12 observe their circumstances, u will know. Everyone wants to be needed, recognized and loved. There could be other reasons if its a youngster...
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I'm just about to choose a suitable tree...nobody cares.
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I care ❤ I have been where your at many times. I even tried when I was 17. I'm glad it didn't work. I wouldn't be here to talk about it and help others. I know what it feels like to not be thrown a life raft or life ring. You are not alone. We are here for you. You are valuable and special ❤ you are enough! My thoughts and prayers are with you! Reach out 🧡
My you tube video I made about my first attempt. I had anxiety, deoression and suicial thoughts alot throughout my life because I felt alone and no one cared or seen me. Youf not alone! We see you! 🧡🤗🙏ruclips.net/video/nvnX3pQ9_VA/видео.html
Why can't people be allowed to make this choice? What if you literally just don't want to be here? What if you don't care about people,friends or wanting to be loved or whatever TF, what a condescending video.
The question isn't really about being "allowed" to make that choice, it's about WHY would someone make that choice. What if that person used to care about people and friends and wanting to live, why would those around them not want them to feel that way again?
My sister criticises me for feeling suicidal for 5 years and having breakdowns. My own sister :'(
And it is horrible when you are beeing abused in addtion even in a hospital!
I am sorry for you!
This is a great video but not everyone does have a future. No matter what anyone says, there may be no way out from what their life has become.
I have set an exit date. I found nembutal online and will order it next month. After I get my affairs in order I’m thinking May 2022 will be my last month on the planet, thank God. I just want to go to sleep and never wake up. My life has become unbearable. People should think twice before opening their mouths and saying hateful things. It’s very difficult to live with a label, being ostracized and gossiped about behind your back by your own family.
I started drinking when I was 16. I would drink at parties, but I also started drinking alone because I was unhappy, and I was in a lot of emotional pain all the time. My mom was very aggressive when I was younger, and my brother hated her and so did I. He started hanging out with shady people, he started failing all his classes, he was never home, and my parents fought all the time. I also ran away several times. I was always trying to figure out a reason as to why I was here or what the purpose of life was. So, I started looking at different philosophies, religions, and beliefs. When I was 18 after I was hungover, I got on my knees and I prayed for the first time. I asked if God was real that he would show me he was real because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was crying when I prayed for this. At that moment I felt a presence come over me like a wind. It was barely noticeable, but it was unlike anything in my life I had experienced up until that point. I was surprised when I felt it and I remember saying “what was that?” after that experience I pretty much forgot what happened and kept partying, until my senior year when I got arrested. After my arrest, my parents lost all their trust in me and I was expelled from high school. I was told never to come back. At that time, I felt afraid and hopeless. That’s when I started looking for God, and I prayed that he would reveal himself in my life and that he would give me signs. My prayers began getting answered so consistently that I couldn’t deny that God was doing something. It was mysterious and compelling. I ended up in Church and started reading the bible hours a day. I stopped hanging out with all my other friends because they were continually getting arrested. I was able to forgive my family and myself and to ask to be forgiven. I noticed how at Church people were judgmental and how they formed cliques but were afraid to be around anyone else different from them. It increased my faith because I realized Jesus was not like that and ever since I was young, I saw people as people regardless of who they were. After a while, it’s like I could see God's presence was in my life and then it felt like he wasn’t, and then he was, and then he wasn’t. One day I woke up and felt more depressed than I ever have in my entire life. I felt like I was dying on the inside. That night I prayed, and I said, God, I don’t see my life five years from now I'm going to die Jesus save me Lord, please save me. I was weeping when I said it and when I asked him to save me, I felt a presence inside of me like a heartbeat, and I felt it once like a pulse, and I said Lord please save me and I felt it again even stronger. It was like radiance. When I woke up the next morning, I had transformed everything felt brand new like I was a kid again. All my fears and all my racing thoughts everything was gone. I looked at my hands, and I said this can’t be real it’s impossible. When I looked at myself in the mirror, I saw a different person. I started praying, and the holy spirit became entirely real to me it was washing over me and inside of me. It was total love and peace, and I heard a voice but not an audible one, it was an inner voice. It said I am with you; I love you, I will never leave you, it’s done it’s finished. That was May 3rd, 2009, and ever since then I’ve followed God, I have seen many things change and many things I know wouldn’t have changed without faith and belief. I know what it’s like to be lost to feel you have no hope. Don’t ever think you’re stuck, or life can’t change because it can. My mom is a Christian now, Its night and day. Some of the things that went away during that period were severe anxiety and my addiction to alcohol. I’ve seen and experienced so many things that are miraculous and seen how God has worked in my life. When we ask God to forgive us for what we’ve done and turn away from our sins and wrongdoings and we believe in Christ's sacrifice everything changes. His word says if we confess with our mouths that Jesus is Lord and believe in our hearts that he died and rose again we will have eternal life but not just life after death but abundant life in the present. Our sins are erased not only past, present, and future but our burdens and fears are lifted also. Our thoughts, our minds, our hearts, our souls are transformed and united with God and we know his spirit lives in us. If you seek, pray, and knock you will know JESUS IS KING!!! HE LIVES!
"Come to me all you who are weary and burdened and I will give you rest"
"I am the light of the world whoever believes in me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life."
"because I live, you also will live"
ruclips.net/video/EXQGTInPpZU/видео.html
Someone has died so you can live. The burden was never yours to carry. He makes all things new again. Dont go. To be born again is second life.
I will start again or find some other inspiration, because that seems to be how life works. I hope, I get lost, I find my way, then the path disappears again, and I just have to keep looking. Success and happiness come in small pieces, surrounded by struggle and plenty of failure. Accepting that and moving forward may get me to a good place again… I hope…❤️