The moment the narcissist realizes they may have lost you for good

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  • Опубликовано: 3 дек 2024

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  • @joebhouse
    @joebhouse  5 месяцев назад +11

    Don't forget to follow me on Instagram - instagram.com/joe_b_house/

  • @HELLo_tHERE_plAyLists
    @HELLo_tHERE_plAyLists 4 месяца назад +42

    Your closure - when they show you who they are believe them

  • @pumiabroad
    @pumiabroad 4 месяца назад +44

    10 days no contact and I am proud of myself 💃💃💃🇿🇦
    Update:
    Today I am celebrating a full month of no contact.

    • @LadyLibra-kp8ox
      @LadyLibra-kp8ox 3 месяца назад +2

      LET’S GOOOO!!!!💪🏾💪🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 You got this!!! Congratulations!!! Now watch your life bloom!! Remember, no contact means NO contact. The real test comes when they hoover. Your strength and resilience will be truly tested then. They WILL hoover. It doesn’t matter how much time has passed. They WILL hoover. No matter what….NO CONTACT. I’m rooting for you👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

  • @nickf2170
    @nickf2170 3 месяца назад +20

    Getting me back?....that would be a miscalculation on their part.

  • @agusia1217
    @agusia1217 3 месяца назад +15

    😊 THE MOMENT I DECIDED TO WALK AWAY I GOT MY CLOSURE 😊 I'M MOVING ON 😊

    • @rydstallion75
      @rydstallion75 Месяц назад

      Yes I agree. She discarded me many times and I couldn't get closure, the minute I decided to end it, I was able to achieve it and gain my self respect

  • @sonlightpsalm942
    @sonlightpsalm942 5 месяцев назад +63

    The narcissist was or is in your life for one reason.
    It's so you'll wake up from the illusion that you need validation or love through their affirmation, which they'll never give you. They're there to teach you that you have to find affirmation through reparenting your inner child and unconditionally loving yourself because you're a beautiful person and have intrinsic value.
    Learning to love yourself is not easy, but essential on this journey called life.
    Remember, you don't have to hate the narcissist. You have to understand them, as well as yourself, or you're bound to repeat the process of abuse.
    Don't be a victim like the narcissist ( or so they say), become an overcomer! 😊❤😊
    Tip: Love God the Creator 1st.
    Love yourself 2nd, then your neighbor, so you'll have the necessary boundaries that you didn't learn as a child. 😊
    Don't feed the narcissist your time, devotion, sympathy, or money. Walk away from the abuse, and learn to value yourself 😊

    • @jeannieotb8491
      @jeannieotb8491 5 месяцев назад +5

      Yes dont be an enabler. Stop them i their tracks. Boundaries. Don't let them in. xx

    • @debbiehepler2007
      @debbiehepler2007 5 месяцев назад +2

      @@sonlightpsalm942 well said thanks

    • @lillybellmarisa9996
      @lillybellmarisa9996 3 месяца назад +1

      Perfect Said Amen 🙏🏼

    • @Job.Well.Done_01
      @Job.Well.Done_01 3 месяца назад +1

      Well- written truth.

  • @justlookalittledeeper9953
    @justlookalittledeeper9953 5 месяцев назад +37

    Love what you said about time being an ally of ours but always the enemy of the narcissist.

  • @qubex
    @qubex 5 месяцев назад +102

    I went absolutely no contact 449 days ago and I can’t stop ruminating.

    • @raylanier4519
      @raylanier4519 5 месяцев назад +27

      It’s been over a year and I think of her constantly

    • @AndreaDawnBrewer
      @AndreaDawnBrewer 5 месяцев назад +44

      It gets easier, but I know what you mean. Find hobbies to redirect your focus. It will help a lot!

    • @ceyciemateo9411
      @ceyciemateo9411 5 месяцев назад +9

      Invest in a recovery coach

    • @Cheezin1
      @Cheezin1 5 месяцев назад +29

      You won! And you fkn know bout this s*t, lets Go💪

    • @qubex
      @qubex 5 месяцев назад

      @@ceyciemateo9411 I’ve already got a therapist that helps me a lot.

  • @ms.k7487
    @ms.k7487 5 месяцев назад +41

    Time does change the dynamics. However, even if you move on, the rumination seems to get worse. Even though you know it was all a façade. I've been in contact and would never take him back! It's the disbelief that someone could be so cruel to you that doesn't disappear.

    • @miraclesforus
      @miraclesforus 4 месяца назад +1

      Well said..

    • @Marienunez23
      @Marienunez23 4 месяца назад +1

      Indeed 🤍

    • @petemoore8923
      @petemoore8923 2 месяца назад +2

      Yes. The cruelty left me in awe. This completely devastated my daughters ages 9 and 5 and she didn’t even blink when they were howling crying.

    • @1976smb
      @1976smb 2 месяца назад +2

      The rumination does eventually end after you’ve figured everything out. Every interaction and conversation. You figure out that nothing you did, or could have done would had made it any better.

    • @1976smb
      @1976smb 2 месяца назад +1

      Why it is good to journal.

  • @caribooskidoo3997
    @caribooskidoo3997 5 месяцев назад +24

    Each day just keeps getting better and better!

  • @janicemurphy4373
    @janicemurphy4373 3 месяца назад +18

    That’s so sick 🤢 that someone needs to destroy you that, bad so bad to make themselves feel better, sick sick sick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • @caramelfrappuccino234
      @caramelfrappuccino234 3 месяца назад +2

      Yessss I said that exact same thing earlier today.

    • @atpeace006
      @atpeace006 2 месяца назад

      Very sick and evil!...no contact for a year and he just cannot stop stalking by proxy....become a way of life now

  • @Stephanie.101
    @Stephanie.101 4 месяца назад +15

    65 days no contact and I’m actually getting better. Some days are good, some are bad had nightmares about them a couple of times too but I’m definitely way much better now than when they were actively in my life

    • @spindrifter7519
      @spindrifter7519 4 месяца назад +2

      Keep it up, it's definitely worth it.

    • @angelalowe6549
      @angelalowe6549 4 дня назад +1

      You’re doing really good keep going. Never go back you just have to restart your emotional healing journey from square one. I am now 65 days no contact. I can’t even image picking up the phone up contact him gives me the ick. But just like you I have bad and good days

  • @louiseelliott6404
    @louiseelliott6404 5 месяцев назад +10

    Thanks Joe. Ultimately what was your weakness becomes your strength and what appeared to be the narcissist’s strength was never that because deep down they were always weak and still are ……

  • @PatriciaPeck-j3u
    @PatriciaPeck-j3u 3 месяца назад +5

    After listening to your videos today I blocked him on both cell phone and Facebook. In the end it would always have the same ending. We try to rationalize their ways but their ways have no feeling or character about them. Thank you for letting me see this.
    If they truly loved you their attention would never have changed to pull them away. They only pull away because they want to be pulled away!🌹

  • @cajuncrackerranch7990
    @cajuncrackerranch7990 5 месяцев назад +15

    Thanks Joe 🙏
    and so the true pursuit of happiness begins…
    No drama
    No lies
    Just the wind
    No chaos
    No cheating
    For the win
    Let the pursuit of happiness begin.
    Peace and prosperity ✌️

  • @lorawhite1017
    @lorawhite1017 5 месяцев назад +25

    I didn't loose a dam thing but a minultive, controlling sob

  • @debbiehepler2007
    @debbiehepler2007 5 месяцев назад +19

    Joe thank you for continuing these. I’ve been watching for a year and I still need the extra encouragement you give to keep on going.

    • @jeannieotb8491
      @jeannieotb8491 5 месяцев назад

      Try andrew on narc daily and narc con. Both also very good for extra help. xx

  • @qwickvids1140
    @qwickvids1140 2 месяца назад +3

    Ruminating helped me to understand the discard, her behaviour and why the right decision was made to leave. During that time i would drive by her house just to see how far ive distanced myself from her. It took me almost one year to fully disconnect from her mentally. Its been 986 days no contact. And alot of personal development, alot of soul searching, alot of character building, alot of people cut off, and alot of forgiveness. I experienced the shift this week and the evil still tries harder to take me off course but God has already won. Walk by faith not by sight.

  • @MimiTells-t7w
    @MimiTells-t7w 3 месяца назад +6

    Miss you 😢 I hope everything is okay. ❤

  • @catalina9876
    @catalina9876 2 месяца назад +2

    I have realized that I must be a codependent. I’ve been just too nice. I have tended to reward him after he treats me badly because I didn’t want any conflict.

    • @kathyhoskin8350
      @kathyhoskin8350 19 дней назад +1

      Me too. It never stops. We’re just too nice. The best thing I’ve done is learn thru my experiences. I’ve gotten to know my value by reading affirmations. with who I am and that has helped tremendously.

  • @user-wq5kv2hu2s
    @user-wq5kv2hu2s 12 дней назад +1

    Its been too long Joe hope all's well the world needs these videos

  • @gangGreenthumb
    @gangGreenthumb 3 месяца назад +8

    I really miss your content. I hope you'll come back, but take care of yourself if you need a break.

  • @matarcher3145
    @matarcher3145 3 месяца назад +7

    We need a new video!

    • @ghostrecon3834
      @ghostrecon3834 3 месяца назад

      @@Job.Well.Done_01how do you know this?

  • @shawndarodgers939
    @shawndarodgers939 4 месяца назад +3

    Thank you Joe I needed this today as my exnarc is losing his mind after 4 months of NO CONTACT we have never went this long and Im truly done for good. I appreciate your words ❤

    • @pinkchilldivestmentor
      @pinkchilldivestmentor 4 месяца назад +1

      Hey stop calling him ‘my’ call him ‘the’. Dehumanize narcs💯💯

  • @MrMaxedout00
    @MrMaxedout00 4 месяца назад +1

    I have to say big thank you to joe your videos and understanding of the condition you pulled me form the deep well that I was thrown into and now nearly at the top and never could say thanks enough . I would ask everyone to go through all them and by the end you will have a clear understand of what the hell happened . He will save you life and help you get to where you need to be . (Free)

  • @Sparky-if9sn
    @Sparky-if9sn 4 месяца назад +7

    Joe where have you been man?!?!?

    • @ghostrecon3834
      @ghostrecon3834 4 месяца назад

      He periodically disappears for a month or two every now and then.

  • @lioubovgrant1935
    @lioubovgrant1935 5 месяцев назад +7

    Good morning ! 🌞Joe treating us with a new magical video this morning ! Lets have a cup of Joe ☕☕ with Joe and enjoy it ! Thank you Joe ! 🤗 ❤ Happy weekend ! 😎 ⛱

  • @JulianotKaren
    @JulianotKaren 4 месяца назад +4

    They realise nothing. That would require them to be self aware.
    Healing from these creatures is as mythical as they are.

    • @vodkavuitton
      @vodkavuitton 4 месяца назад

      The bottom line to their madness is they are broke 😂😂 the world is not the same as it used to be so they are stuck in the past & have not mastered how to keep their funds coming in this new economy that couldn’t care less about their popularity. They are BROKE ✌🏿

  • @I-love-Almighty-God
    @I-love-Almighty-God 5 месяцев назад +6

    This is the first case, an abuser left victim!😂

  • @angiemcguinness355
    @angiemcguinness355 5 месяцев назад +6

    Thanks Joe

  • @GodisGreat6527
    @GodisGreat6527 3 месяца назад +3

    Your voice is beautiful

  • @jeffrey268
    @jeffrey268 4 месяца назад

    This is astute and , sadly, quite correct. Thanks for sharing clarity.

  • @CookieMonster-hm8hx
    @CookieMonster-hm8hx 3 месяца назад

    Great analysis - something to refer back to - I like how time away from the narc is on our side as long as they are not actively involved.

  • @patbirkett4131
    @patbirkett4131 4 месяца назад +1

    My wife and have separated now for nearly 5, she’s been living her best life!
    Ive been in hotels pretty much that whole time other than the odd day being at home.
    It’s been hell

  • @catalina9876
    @catalina9876 2 месяца назад

    I’m going through a discard for the second time in my history with this miserable narc.
    My grief is heavy, but I know full well that he does not care about me.
    I do feel like a fool. He did come back when I was happy and at peace. This time around, I’m done. Once he moves out of here, I’m going NO CONTACT.

  • @angelalowe6549
    @angelalowe6549 4 дня назад

    I’ve been no contact for 64 days I received about 7 Hoovers. Thanksgiving just past and it was really hard emotionally for me. Thanksgiving was hard but the next day I felt a lift in my emotions. I know the narc is a fake and phony person. I have to get rid of my true authentic feeling about him. Some days I’m so happy he isn’t a part of my life. Some days I’m so thankful and I feel disgusted by him and other days I’m mad he deceived and manipulated me once again. I’m mad I opened my door up to him again. He deceives many but not for long. He is still an untrustworthy narc and now when I do see him when he picks up our daughter he looks dusty to me and not attractive at all

  • @BeTheLight624
    @BeTheLight624 5 месяцев назад +3

    Thank you!

  • @withmessagesofvirtueiamunt2380
    @withmessagesofvirtueiamunt2380 5 месяцев назад +12

    They will know for certain they have lost you when you found the King of Innocence. All you have to do is talk about innocence in any form or fashion and they will become uncomfortable and play devils advocate against unwavering teachings.

  • @stylist62
    @stylist62 5 месяцев назад +3

    Haven’t seen him, he instantly found someone got engaged married to me still, she gave me a call, never have heard from him, 1 1/2 year, he was grooming someone cleaned out my storage filled it with cheap junk trash so I would know

  • @India-m7w
    @India-m7w 5 месяцев назад +3

    Excellent

  • @qwickvids1140
    @qwickvids1140 2 месяца назад

    Alot of prayers too

  • @Gwendeline
    @Gwendeline 4 месяца назад +1

    I’m dead he’s taking everything I’m glad he won now I sleep

  • @DJKier-v9s
    @DJKier-v9s 2 дня назад

    Sure hope so!

  • @shieldoffaith7099
    @shieldoffaith7099 4 месяца назад +4

    Hey Jo jo missing you bbz ❤

  • @kathyhoskin8350
    @kathyhoskin8350 19 дней назад

    How the heck do you know this? I’ve been trying to figure this out my entire life and I’m 70.

  • @Acceptancetoday
    @Acceptancetoday 3 месяца назад

    When he kicked me out of the apartment his daughter provides for him when I refused to say he was God, refused to say we are all God, he went into a rage claiming no one ever was helped by the Bible, the commandments are bullshit…..threw my dog on the floor and made me leave…….a page turned in my brain when my religion was completely disrespected and I was done…..a gift from God. When we talked next in a day he tried to skip over the entire horrible experience and I just said we can only be friends. I will no longer give him 1 k a month believing we had a future. I’m peacefully done, I could pinch myself, the energy connecting us is gone.

  • @Sylvie-o6f
    @Sylvie-o6f 4 месяца назад

    I'm in recovery
    I feel addicted to your videos
    Where are you?
    I know I'm weak... and not.
    Who knows ?

  • @EdwardHaren
    @EdwardHaren 4 месяца назад

    She is all I have left, I gave her my word I wouldn't leave her, stemming from a conversation about her personality disorder. She's cheated or raped whatever and she is gone. I am here for her but. I won't be no more confusion of pain.

  • @beemonroe4330
    @beemonroe4330 5 месяцев назад +5

    🗞️ ☕️ 🥯

  • @ghostrecon3834
    @ghostrecon3834 2 месяца назад +1

    Finding out Joe is done with his YT channel did not make today any better :(
    Deleting this app, honestly don’t even blame Joe. YT drains as much time and life out of me as my ex narc did. No fucking more.

    • @alejt
      @alejt 2 месяца назад

      Where did he say that? Sad to hear if it’s true

    • @Sarah_sunshine14
      @Sarah_sunshine14 2 месяца назад

      😞😞….can understand it though. Joe has been the best ❤️

  • @tinalight7106
    @tinalight7106 5 месяцев назад +4

    Hi Joe🪷

  • @blueprintfitness8389
    @blueprintfitness8389 4 месяца назад

    New vid soon?

  • @fitnesslk
    @fitnesslk 5 месяцев назад +7

    Always the same fkn topic

    • @debbiehepler2007
      @debbiehepler2007 5 месяцев назад +37

      If you don’t like it go away.

    • @jeannieotb8491
      @jeannieotb8491 5 месяцев назад +26

      we need it. Go away if you don't. you must be a narcissist yourself or you would understand that!

    • @vodkavuitton
      @vodkavuitton 4 месяца назад

      They are weirdos watching someone & using everything they observe to paint someone as a narcissist 😂😂 it’s like they believe that is the code to break someone’s spirit who couldn’t care less if they was a psychopath 🤷🏿‍♀️ they are a psychopath not bothering their weird ass & they need to stop begging for attention period. They will crash all the way out because they are too prideful to just stop harassing someone & will exhaust every one of their pathetic options. Regardless their time is up ✌🏿 let them no longer mistake me for somebody who gives af

    • @fitnesslk
      @fitnesslk 2 месяца назад

      @@jeannieotb8491 😂 are you a triggered super empath or a beta empath ? Why so hars comments ? Meybe YOU are the narcissist ! I didnt acuse anyone you ran straight to ad hominem ! "Clap clap" smh

    • @fitnesslk
      @fitnesslk 2 месяца назад

      @@debbiehepler2007 i like the topic thanks for your concern lol 😅 are you an agree person ? Its still alwaya the same topic he speaks the same topic in circles with new words.... not much classification.... you do understand that your comment is a little to much defensive right? Did alot of Narcs trigger you in the past ? Dont let everyone trigger you ! Woek on your self ! Dont attack critisism thats pretty valid, if you have something oposite to say about what i say then say it instead of behaving like a black life matters/body shame movement type of a person 😅