Just turned 53 and still don't have it all figured out. I'm probably a bit slow but I'm starting to realise that "having it all figured out" isn't all that important! :)
As someone who went through an ED as well I think a full video would be great to raise awareness. I would love if you could talk a bit about maintaining the balance with training and shutting out toxic practices you are exposed to in the running world. Loving your recent videos ❤
58 and apparently like many others here, I still don’t have things figured out yet. I’ve been very successful in some areas of my life but feel I’ve always been faking it. I’m looking forward to retirement to start another part of my journey. In preparation of that, I’ve taken up running and biking and swimming to get more fit. I’ve also started studying Zen for a better mental outlook. My advice to my former self would be don’t think as much about what you THINK others think about you, just do what feels right for you. I spent too long living the life others wanted, or thought others wanted, and didn’t live MY life. I’m done with that finally, I hope. Great advice Philly.
Haha another 51 year old here. My personal experience is that thinking you have it all in control with a defined life plan can be a high risk state to be in. I thought I had all my ducks in a row and when last year an unforeseen circumstance and I essentially lost my 30 year career overnight, I had no adaptability to cope and essentially fell apart mentally. I'm far from fully fixed but getting there and determined to keep a day to day mentality. So well done you for figuring this out a lot younger than I did 😄
@@PhilyBowden No one does. We live for a blink of an eye, and all end up in the same place. I'm 30 and I've learned that the most important thing is HEALTH. It sounds corny, but it's true. Your health, your body, this is what sticks with you through thick and thin, through financial gain and financial loss. You always have your body. So one should strive to look after it!
As someone who lived this 30 plus years ago, how fortunate now that there are people like you willing to be vulnerable enough to share this message ! The voices in your head will tell you all kind of lies about yourself and it is so hard not to believe them! Keep sharing and encouraging others.
What a gift you've given us with this video, Phily. Thank you. And I, for one, think your reflections on your eating disorder could help a lotta people. For what it's worth! Also, as a 48-and-a-half-year-old woman who's never been married or had children, I appreciate your "digression" about societal pressures on women to do both. I've never regretted my choices, and truth be told, in making them, I kinda think I found the secret to happiness. I KNOW I found the secret to MY happiness. Wishing you great happiness, however you find it, friend!
I'm 61 now. I'm still waiting for that Eureka moment of "having it all figured out". When I was younger I could not find a path towards what I wanted with my life, because I had no idea what to choose and worried that what ever I chose, it would be wrong... So I joined the army... Became Sergeant Major and was quite contend, but then had major issues trancending to civilian life, for 10+ years after. It wasn't until I met a woman and we had a child (yes, she is a lot younger than I am), and I found a job that clicked with me for the first time, and our child turned out to be autistic, and I succesfully integrated my physical training - mostly running - in to my life, that everything began to work positively again. I must admit that I love the demands it is, being a father of a child with autism, making his life function positively. It gave me a serious purpose with my life.
I am so obsessed with this channel nowadays :~) Little Phily 😱😍 she stole the show! It can seem so small to share how you feel & how you experience life, but I am always appreciative of every bit. And your attitudes toward sport & life could make this word & our collective culture better than before
I think there are so many people who can relate to this Phily. We are expected to conform and sometimes we don’t want children 🙋🏻♀️ or to get married, or to have a steady job. That’s ok. I think you put the message over brilliantly and young people especially will take comfort from that. This is what a role model looks like. Great video Phily 👌🥰
Phily, I am so so grateful for the content you and Daniel put out. I am not even a runner, but I row at the elite level, and I resonate so much with your content. Aside from the fact that your content is fun to watch, you and your work ethic are incredibly inspiring and I wish younger me would've had someone like you to watch!! It probably would have helped me recover way quicker from my ED :). My ED sometimes still tries to sneak up on me when times are hard but having videos like this really help me!! So I'd say, this video definitely was worth it because it helped me ;). Please keep doing what you're doing, you and Daniel are amazing!! I wish you guys all the best
I’ve literally been making it up on the run since May 1987; no plan, no strategy, good luck, bad luck, it all works out in the end. Play the game in front of you, don't worry about things until they happen.
At 55 I haven't figured everything out, for instance how I can get rid of my painful achilles tendon, or how to get along with my daughter... oh well. Life would be pretty boring of everything was clear and laid out for us.
Ha! @ 5:57 . . . I was going to say I still dont have it figured out. That's a good healthy attitude. Life happens whether you plan it our not. You are silly and smart so you will make a great mom if/when that happens. You will have smart children.
You're ED story resonates so much with me. It was trying to control _something_ when I was feeling completely lost and out of control. One of my fave quotes now is from Too-ticky: "All things are so very uncertain, and that's exactly what makes me feel reassured." (From Moominland Midwinter)
Thank you for the great advice, would love to see a video about your eating disorder and how you coped (or didn’t cope with it) I understand that this wouldn’t be a video everyone would like to watch but me personally would love it. Keep up the great content and LOVE THE GRIND 💪💪
Thank you for sharing your insights. 44 y.o. myself and the best things came unplanned so far. Love your content. Inspires me as a runner and even more so as a human being ❤️
As someone who has taken your journey as inspiration on my own recovery, I think a video about your own journey to recovery and maintaining balance would be incredibly helpful to so many people. It has always helped me to know that others have been in that place and have made their way through it successfully.
I think it would be so awesome if you and Allie Ostrander got together to have a conversation about eating disorders! Would be very interesting to compare the similarities and differences between both of your experiences
I love this. Probably have to watch this again to take it all in.. but a lot resonates with me. Thank you! Would love to hear you talk more about your ed experience.
Great advice Phily. I think we all need to just find our own happiness in life, whatever that may be, and hold onto it. Don't chase what society says we should be chasing. LOVE THE GRIND! =D
As a mental health professional of over 25 years I’ve seen too many people have to rebuild themselves in their 30/40’s after rushing into decisions in their teens/20’s. Take your time over life. Success is only ever measured by your happiness.
I would love a video around your ED recovery. Maybe tips on how to recover “in the moment” and then things you do now to overcome any thoughts. Any also benefits you have seen since recovering and changing you mind, eating, improving weight etc?
I now get my Old Age Pension (does that make me the oldest person to post about this video?) Never be afraid to start something new. a decade ago I took over a bookshop with absolutely no experience in retail or any other business. Made some awful mistakes to begin with but managed to learn from them and ,well, I'm still here! Running wise I would say that the hardest lesson I learned was to have confidence in the training that got me initial success - even if most "experts" wee telling me it was all wrong. Changed my training completely at University and never had the career I thought I was destined for. Every runner is unique, what works for one person won't necessarily work for you
Loved this video! Little concerned by the partnership with better help though, I’ve literally only heard awful things about the service they provide. Hope you’re not tied into too long a contract to advertise them Philly!
41 years old I still want to know when I'm supposed to have life figured out. I've spent 20 years in my stop gap job waiting for my career decision to come 😂
Since us 50 plus year olds are making comments, I feel obligated to add my two cents. I’m 51 and of course I don’t have it all figured out. Here is a spoiler, most likely I will never have it all figured out, and that’s okay. I am fine with that. I love my life and that’s what is important. Like Phily, I can’t say I regret anything because if I did something differently, I might change too much. All we can ask of ourselves is to continue to move forward, try and improve, oh and love the grind.😎
I had absolutely no idea going through school, A levels, uni what I wanted to do in later life. But then I discovered something that I enjoyed doing, people paid me to do it, and 40 years career took off from there.
As a new runner, i wish i could go back and tell my highschool self to run track or XC instead of hanging out under the bleachers 😆 Your videos motivate me to run. Are you running another marathon to try and get an Olympic qualifying time? Rooting for ya!
A dedicated ED video would be so great. It would be really insightful to know how you overcame it, and learnt (and accepted) to fuel your body properly for running.
I'm starting to realize that I have an eating disorder and now I think almost everyone does. Mine just does not show because I work most of it off but I eat when I know I should not eat and when I dont need to eat DESPITE really wanting to stop doing it. If I can stay out of the house and keep busy I can do it but as soon as I get home I star eating. I must equate home with food. It's a mental disorder. Thing is . . . I'm retired so I'm home a lot. You would not think it from looking at me being 6'2" and 210-215 but when I can get out and hike a lot I sometimes drop to 200. That's the wall I keep hitting and I need to be 180. Little numbers for most people but that makes a big difference in being able to run without killing my feet and ankles. The world is going crazy . . . I went to the trails today, it's a 30 mile drive. but it was CLOSED because it was muddy. WHAT the &%%#. They had guards threatening to give tickets to anyone that tried to go for a hike with it being closed. Why? Because they dont want to have to rescue any bikers that slip and fall. OK, keep the bikes out but why keep people from walking there . . . it ludicrous. What kind of people are running this world (I'm in Calif so that might explain some of it)
Really very easy answer ... time. Everything else happens automatically, comes naturally. Take at least 40 minutes for your run, even if that might involve walking at the start of your running journey. If you are training alone, talk to yourself "loudly", not only in your thoughts. If you can't say one or two sentences in one go, run slower.
Do you think that time away from the sport was needed. I’m currently in a similar situation; been “broken” by the ncaa and questioning my belonging in this sport but deep down know if i give it up forever i will regret it…
I wonder if the marathon peak being in people's 30s is down to their fitness level, or actually, rather their experience. I wonder what could happen if you put the experience of a 35 year old in a 20 year old's body, what could be achieved in a marathon.
Just turned 53 and still don't have it all figured out. I'm probably a bit slow but I'm starting to realise that "having it all figured out" isn't all that important! :)
Me too. I'm 66 and still figuring things out. It keeps me busy 🐝
As someone who went through an ED as well I think a full video would be great to raise awareness. I would love if you could talk a bit about maintaining the balance with training and shutting out toxic practices you are exposed to in the running world. Loving your recent videos ❤
58 and apparently like many others here, I still don’t have things figured out yet. I’ve been very successful in some areas of my life but feel I’ve always been faking it. I’m looking forward to retirement to start another part of my journey. In preparation of that, I’ve taken up running and biking and swimming to get more fit. I’ve also started studying Zen for a better mental outlook. My advice to my former self would be don’t think as much about what you THINK others think about you, just do what feels right for you. I spent too long living the life others wanted, or thought others wanted, and didn’t live MY life. I’m done with that finally, I hope. Great advice Philly.
Haha another 51 year old here. My personal experience is that thinking you have it all in control with a defined life plan can be a high risk state to be in. I thought I had all my ducks in a row and when last year an unforeseen circumstance and I essentially lost my 30 year career overnight, I had no adaptability to cope and essentially fell apart mentally. I'm far from fully fixed but getting there and determined to keep a day to day mentality. So well done you for figuring this out a lot younger than I did 😄
Its so cool to hear this from people more experienced at this 'life' thing that no one really has it figured out!
@@PhilyBowden No one does. We live for a blink of an eye, and all end up in the same place. I'm 30 and I've learned that the most important thing is HEALTH. It sounds corny, but it's true. Your health, your body, this is what sticks with you through thick and thin, through financial gain and financial loss. You always have your body. So one should strive to look after it!
As someone who lived this 30 plus years ago, how fortunate now that there are people like you willing to be vulnerable enough to share this message ! The voices in your head will tell you all kind of lies about yourself and it is so hard not to believe them! Keep sharing and encouraging others.
Aw thank you so much for thinking this... I hope you're right!
What a gift you've given us with this video, Phily. Thank you. And I, for one, think your reflections on your eating disorder could help a lotta people. For what it's worth!
Also, as a 48-and-a-half-year-old woman who's never been married or had children, I appreciate your "digression" about societal pressures on women to do both. I've never regretted my choices, and truth be told, in making them, I kinda think I found the secret to happiness. I KNOW I found the secret to MY happiness.
Wishing you great happiness, however you find it, friend!
I am 41 and I started studying sports science before 6 months. Never it's too late. Chase your dreams and it's ok if you don't know them yet
I'm 61 now.
I'm still waiting for that Eureka moment of "having it all figured out".
When I was younger I could not find a path towards what I wanted with my life, because I had no idea what to choose and worried that what ever I chose, it would be wrong...
So I joined the army...
Became Sergeant Major and was quite contend, but then had major issues trancending to civilian life, for 10+ years after.
It wasn't until I met a woman and we had a child (yes, she is a lot younger than I am), and I found a job that clicked with me for the first time, and our child turned out to be autistic, and I succesfully integrated my physical training - mostly running - in to my life, that everything began to work positively again.
I must admit that I love the demands it is, being a father of a child with autism, making his life function positively.
It gave me a serious purpose with my life.
I am so obsessed with this channel nowadays :~) Little Phily 😱😍 she stole the show! It can seem so small to share how you feel & how you experience life, but I am always appreciative of every bit. And your attitudes toward sport & life could make this word & our collective culture better than before
Oh. My. Goodness. little Phily is so adorable! And thank you for another nice video :)
I think there are so many people who can relate to this Phily. We are expected to conform and sometimes we don’t want children 🙋🏻♀️ or to get married, or to have a steady job. That’s ok. I think you put the message over brilliantly and young people especially will take comfort from that. This is what a role model looks like. Great video Phily 👌🥰
Phily, I am so so grateful for the content you and Daniel put out. I am not even a runner, but I row at the elite level, and I resonate so much with your content. Aside from the fact that your content is fun to watch, you and your work ethic are incredibly inspiring and I wish younger me would've had someone like you to watch!! It probably would have helped me recover way quicker from my ED :). My ED sometimes still tries to sneak up on me when times are hard but having videos like this really help me!! So I'd say, this video definitely was worth it because it helped me ;). Please keep doing what you're doing, you and Daniel are amazing!! I wish you guys all the best
I’ve literally been making it up on the run since May 1987; no plan, no strategy, good luck, bad luck, it all works out in the end. Play the game in front of you, don't worry about things until they happen.
Great video! I would love to hear about your experience with an eating disorder. I'm struggling myself.
At 55 I haven't figured everything out, for instance how I can get rid of my painful achilles tendon, or how to get along with my daughter... oh well. Life would be pretty boring of everything was clear and laid out for us.
Ha! @ 5:57 . . . I was going to say I still dont have it figured out. That's a good healthy attitude. Life happens whether you plan it our not. You are silly and smart so you will make a great mom if/when that happens. You will have smart children.
You're ED story resonates so much with me. It was trying to control _something_ when I was feeling completely lost and out of control. One of my fave quotes now is from Too-ticky: "All things are so very uncertain, and that's exactly what makes me feel reassured." (From Moominland Midwinter)
Thank you for the great advice, would love to see a video about your eating disorder and how you coped (or didn’t cope with it) I understand that this wouldn’t be a video everyone would like to watch but me personally would love it. Keep up the great content and LOVE THE GRIND 💪💪
Thank you for sharing your insights. 44 y.o. myself and the best things came unplanned so far. Love your content. Inspires me as a runner and even more so as a human being ❤️
As someone who has taken your journey as inspiration on my own recovery, I think a video about your own journey to recovery and maintaining balance would be incredibly helpful to so many people. It has always helped me to know that others have been in that place and have made their way through it successfully.
I think it would be so awesome if you and Allie Ostrander got together to have a conversation about eating disorders! Would be very interesting to compare the similarities and differences between both of your experiences
I love this. Probably have to watch this again to take it all in.. but a lot resonates with me. Thank you! Would love to hear you talk more about your ed experience.
Great advice Phily. I think we all need to just find our own happiness in life, whatever that may be, and hold onto it. Don't chase what society says we should be chasing. LOVE THE GRIND! =D
We love you Phily!
As a mental health professional of over 25 years I’ve seen too many people have to rebuild themselves in their 30/40’s after rushing into decisions in their teens/20’s. Take your time over life. Success is only ever measured by your happiness.
I would love a video around your ED recovery. Maybe tips on how to recover “in the moment” and then things you do now to overcome any thoughts. Any also benefits you have seen since recovering and changing you mind, eating, improving weight etc?
I so want to be a pro thanks for the inspiration Philly
Loved it- thanks for being candid. ❤ and a request for more RUclips shorts!!
Ha ha, I am fast approaching 64 and I still don't know what I want to do when I grow up! 😂
I now get my Old Age Pension (does that make me the oldest person to post about this video?) Never be afraid to start something new. a decade ago I took over a bookshop with absolutely no experience in retail or any other business. Made some awful mistakes to begin with but managed to learn from them and ,well, I'm still here!
Running wise I would say that the hardest lesson I learned was to have confidence in the training that got me initial success - even if most "experts" wee telling me it was all wrong. Changed my training completely at University and never had the career I thought I was destined for. Every runner is unique, what works for one person won't necessarily work for you
Loved this video! Little concerned by the partnership with better help though, I’ve literally only heard awful things about the service they provide. Hope you’re not tied into too long a contract to advertise them Philly!
Needed to hear this!
Hi Phily! Nice to see you in Brunel kit. Watching this as a Brunel student and your vids inspire me to be a better runner and person.
This was the video I needed now Thanks for the advice and for sharing❤ you are the best❤
41 years old I still want to know when I'm supposed to have life figured out. I've spent 20 years in my stop gap job waiting for my career decision to come 😂
Since us 50 plus year olds are making comments, I feel obligated to add my two cents. I’m 51 and of course I don’t have it all figured out. Here is a spoiler, most likely I will never have it all figured out, and that’s okay. I am fine with that. I love my life and that’s what is important. Like Phily, I can’t say I regret anything because if I did something differently, I might change too much. All we can ask of ourselves is to continue to move forward, try and improve, oh and love the grind.😎
Really appreciate this video.
Good video this, made me quite emotional, although that might be the effects of the grind
Love you are still holding a microphone
I had absolutely no idea going through school, A levels, uni what I wanted to do in later life. But then I discovered something that I enjoyed doing, people paid me to do it, and 40 years career took off from there.
Thanks for opening up. I
As a new runner, i wish i could go back and tell my highschool self to run track or XC instead of hanging out under the bleachers 😆 Your videos motivate me to run. Are you running another marathon to try and get an Olympic qualifying time? Rooting for ya!
A dedicated ED video would be so great. It would be really insightful to know how you overcame it, and learnt (and accepted) to fuel your body properly for running.
I read this first as erectile dysfunction. 😂
I'm starting to realize that I have an eating disorder and now I think almost everyone does. Mine just does not show because I work most of it off but I eat when I know I should not eat and when I dont need to eat DESPITE really wanting to stop doing it. If I can stay out of the house and keep busy I can do it but as soon as I get home I star eating. I must equate home with food. It's a mental disorder. Thing is . . . I'm retired so I'm home a lot. You would not think it from looking at me being 6'2" and 210-215 but when I can get out and hike a lot I sometimes drop to 200. That's the wall I keep hitting and I need to be 180. Little numbers for most people but that makes a big difference in being able to run without killing my feet and ankles.
The world is going crazy . . . I went to the trails today, it's a 30 mile drive. but it was CLOSED because it was muddy. WHAT the &%%#. They had guards threatening to give tickets to anyone that tried to go for a hike with it being closed. Why? Because they dont want to have to rescue any bikers that slip and fall. OK, keep the bikes out but why keep people from walking there . . . it ludicrous. What kind of people are running this world (I'm in Calif so that might explain some of it)
Hi, i just started running. should i focus on time or distance? your advice pls!
Really very easy answer ... time. Everything else happens automatically, comes naturally. Take at least 40 minutes for your run, even if that might involve walking at the start of your running journey. If you are training alone, talk to yourself "loudly", not only in your thoughts. If you can't say one or two sentences in one go, run slower.
“I don’t have children” … “AHEM!!!?!! Excuuuuuuse is??!!” - Uhtred and Delilah 🐈⬛ 🐈⬛
Do you think that time away from the sport was needed. I’m currently in a similar situation; been “broken” by the ncaa and questioning my belonging in this sport but deep down know if i give it up forever i will regret it…
I wonder if the marathon peak being in people's 30s is down to their fitness level, or actually, rather their experience. I wonder what could happen if you put the experience of a 35 year old in a 20 year old's body, what could be achieved in a marathon.
all the "mistakes" and "bad decisions" you made brought you to where you are now
Hey philly, I've had mates who went backwards in their sporting lives in the States also. Something about it
Guuurrrl you absolutely have children. The furry ones count! 🐈🐈 xo
Dr. Daniel Evil muahahahaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa...
This video?
Aww you were a cute baby 🥰
Thanks to either you or RUclips for taking down my comment criticizing this awful sponsor.
Yes! Would love to hear your eating disorder story