Our First (and Last😅) Couple Q+A ❤️ ft.

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  • Опубликовано: 9 янв 2025

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  • @AbroadinJapan
    @AbroadinJapan Год назад +7005

    I really enjoyed sipping my hair drenched coffee throughout this video.

    • @pomelo9262
      @pomelo9262 Год назад +64

      Premium coffee

    • @Divergence
      @Divergence Год назад +55

      🤔High in fiber? 🤣

    • @lizthedisjointedzebra692
      @lizthedisjointedzebra692 Год назад +97

      YOUR HAIR'S UNACCTHEPTABLE

    • @JohnTaylor_406
      @JohnTaylor_406 Год назад +14

      What about Iceland for a honeymoon?

    • @Zefa2213
      @Zefa2213 Год назад +19

      Real talk, you went on that bike trip to lose weight and impress her didn’t ya! 😆 Jokes aside I’m happy that you’re together, it’s easy to tell you liked her for quite a while now (yes this info is new to me)

  • @Selkie15
    @Selkie15 Год назад +1582

    Been watching Chris for around 8 years, and I don't think I've EVER seen such a genuine, gentle smile on the mouth like pitbull. Sappy bastard is head over heels. It's like a magic.

    • @sharlainjapan
      @sharlainjapan  Год назад +329

      10/10 comment 😂👌🏻

    • @michaelhawkins7389
      @michaelhawkins7389 Год назад +18

      @@sharlainjapan Since you love England so much , Ask Chris to take you to the beautiful city Of York, in North Yorkshire it is amazing medieval city , it has been home to the romans and even the Vikings

    • @Nina-bh5jj
      @Nina-bh5jj 2 месяца назад

      @@michaelhawkins7389 excellent move, I live there for Uni right now and I told all my friends in Korea to visit when they go to the uk!! Best city in England

  • @heyspeckle8782
    @heyspeckle8782 Год назад +2051

    when I watched the proposal-storyline of Chandler and Monica on Friends I thought no one would be as stupid as Chandler making their partner believe they didn't want to get married and make them really upset but I stand corrected 😂

    • @Chalepastel
      @Chalepastel Год назад +56

      oh god that's so true

    • @laurielansue4131
      @laurielansue4131 Год назад +75

      In the cutest way. I think Chris is far more likeable than Chandler, lol.

    • @lindatannock
      @lindatannock Год назад +3

      🤣🤣

    • @NilsVanDessel
      @NilsVanDessel Год назад +144

      I was literally shouting at this video as they were telling the story "CHRIS PULLED A FUCKING CHANDLER?!"

    • @melyourheart
      @melyourheart Год назад +11

      Hahaha that’s what I also thought about while watching the vid hahahahaha

  • @LinusBurgerMan
    @LinusBurgerMan Год назад +571

    That proposal story is the most on-brand thing Chris could do LMFAO

  • @Taylor_R
    @Taylor_R Год назад +1823

    This was so cute!! I love all the old footage of you two ❤ Chris’ hair looks great 👍

    • @sharlainjapan
      @sharlainjapan  Год назад +203

      Haha it’s so funny looking back at old videos now😂

    • @Zoyphinx
      @Zoyphinx Год назад +2

      💗

    • @Lonesome__Dove
      @Lonesome__Dove Год назад +4

      Omg! You watch this channel too? First i seen ya on Megan moons comment section now i see ya here! 😊 I don't why that makes me so happy but it does ♥️

    • @Gutzle1990
      @Gutzle1990 Год назад +36

      @@Lonesome__Dove they are longtime friends 😅

    • @kaori9478
      @kaori9478 Год назад +23

      @@Lonesome__Dove Taylor used to live in Japan and they made many videos together in the past :)

  • @neonnwave1
    @neonnwave1 Год назад +1631

    Relationships that spawn from friendships tend to work out better than strangers who have met. I think the reason is because the two got to know each other better and have formed a better sense of trust. However, that's not always the case and not all friends can be compatible lovers. Asking out a friend can be very scary because if the feeling isn't mutual, it can cause a rift and things fall apart after that. But I'm glad it worked out between you two.

    • @HeavenlyCreature.
      @HeavenlyCreature. Год назад +70

      How could Chris not have fallen for Sharla´s Premium face? 🥰

    • @stuntmonkey00
      @stuntmonkey00 Год назад +45

      Just randomly dating strangers is scary because you don't really know them. Romantically crossing the line with friends is terrifying because there might not be a going back. But going from friendship to relationship is so much more satisfying because the relationship is based on a solid foundation. You know them, then you get infatuated because you know them.

    • @neonnwave1
      @neonnwave1 Год назад +23

      @@stuntmonkey00 You're correct. But most people would rather date someone they just met than someone they've been friends with for years precisely for the reason of 'there might not be a going back'. If you lose someone you've known for a short while, it'll hurt less than losing someone you've known and trusted for much longer.

    • @SpaghettiNachos
      @SpaghettiNachos Год назад +27

      Can say from experience, falling for a friend is VERY scary. It actually made me sick from the anxiety. I told her, and she didn't feel the same. But we're still great friends 🙂. You can't lose what you never had, so it didn't hurt too much.

    • @FragileStars
      @FragileStars Год назад +11

      I've been dating my best friend for 8 years, known each other for 13 years and I have to say it was the best decision I ever made. We got married last year, and have a 4 year old, and I couldn't imagine having this life with anyone else 🥰

  • @Stephen-up3sd
    @Stephen-up3sd Год назад +1655

    As a Brit I knew that Chris liked you as soon as he started teasing and insulting you. That’s how we show affection in the UK! Congratulations and best wishes to you both!

    • @stevehall3228
      @stevehall3228 Год назад +87

      fellow british stephen here and i also knew straight away! cant trick us, we know what we're like

    • @Hi-hb3mr
      @Hi-hb3mr Год назад +311

      That means he’s also in Love with Ryotaro

    • @ross1972
      @ross1972 Год назад +33

      Im a kiwi and I thought that thier was sparks when they cycled around Mt Fuji

    • @MagneticUnicornVlogs
      @MagneticUnicornVlogs Год назад +2

      TIL

    • @slax4884
      @slax4884 Год назад +21

      @@J-Hz harem anime

  • @EnigmaDave
    @EnigmaDave Год назад +1356

    All of my girlfriends were friends first. I knew Terry was special within hours of meeting her. I knew I wanted to marry her during our 4th date. I didn't believe she'd ever agree to marry me, so it took years to propose. I lost Terry to cancer in 2015. I was a very lucky man to have her in my life.

    • @yippykiay13
      @yippykiay13 Год назад +140

      I’m so sorry for your loss, but that was beautiful too.

    • @ondrejsrnka768
      @ondrejsrnka768 Год назад +12

      Sorry for your lost

    • @xEPICxNESS
      @xEPICxNESS Год назад +33

      What a beautiful story. How amazing it is to fall in love, even if loss comes with it. It’s so amazing how you got to spend the last years of her life surrounded by love. I’ll tell my family I love them today ❤

    • @xman5393
      @xman5393 Год назад +6

      😭

    • @MagneticUnicornVlogs
      @MagneticUnicornVlogs Год назад +3

      ❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @snowfoxxie
    @snowfoxxie Год назад +318

    What I learned from this video: Chris isn’t jealous of guys, he is jealous of bread.

  • @user-tm2xx8vh3o
    @user-tm2xx8vh3o Год назад +556

    I admire Chris for being such a good sport about actually participating in a video like this. . .and I couldn't help but notice that he was glowing. You can tell he is happy-they both look that way. Congrats to Sharla and Chris!

  • @suineg1
    @suineg1 Год назад +148

    "I kissed Sharlainjapan - the ultimate subscription".
    I died here 🤣
    You guys never disappoint us! 😄👍

  • @LexieEclectic
    @LexieEclectic Год назад +251

    He may not be the best at articulating his feelings (he's terrible at it actually) but I can see in the way he looks at her and his body language that he really really loves her. It's so cute to see. So excited for the wedding.

  • @TheLAexplorer
    @TheLAexplorer Год назад +604

    This is wild. I started watching you both at about the same time over 10 years ago. It's so interesting watching y'all grow up, get married

    • @jazzestardust
      @jazzestardust Год назад +13

      same!!! Its so wholesome

    • @kme3894
      @kme3894 Год назад +8

      me too! their story is the most romantic ever ❤

    • @AmyBrueckman
      @AmyBrueckman Год назад +2

      SAME!

    • @SerbianSabre1
      @SerbianSabre1 Год назад +12

      Ever since I saw them together on that "Cycle across Japan" episode with the rollercoaster ride, where Sharla was dropping F-bombs at Chris I believed they were made for each other.

    • @brianlovesart
      @brianlovesart Год назад +7

      Same for me. It’s so odd to have started watching them both when they didn’t even know each other and now this. I absolutely love it!

  • @jessicawarby6227
    @jessicawarby6227 Год назад +107

    The fact Sharla dropped the C bomb shows she’s defiantly in love with Chris and has learnt a lot about British culture 😂❤

  • @JoyandSerenity.
    @JoyandSerenity. Год назад +319

    How you guys got together is pretty much how me and my boyfriend got together. We were mates for ages, spent hours every day talking and playing games together, just really good friends who can chat about aaaaanything. Then one day we are sat watching something in my bedroom and my older brother walks in, doesn't even knock or anything, looks at us both chilling and says "so are you guys gonna go out already or what?" and then laughs and walks off.. We look at each other stunned like eh? is that an option? we literally just said "you wanna give it a go?" and yeh, its been 11 years :D He still makes me laugh everyday, its the best.

    • @elias.t
      @elias.t Год назад +26

      Your brother is Cupid?

  • @Badzeep
    @Badzeep Год назад +755

    I'm happy to hear you two are in the same page with kids. I'm 31 next month and my partner is 33 and we both share the same feelings on kids. Not everyone should have children. You shouldn't be shamed for wanting to remain child free either.

    • @kaitlynwalters9086
      @kaitlynwalters9086 Год назад +84

      I’ve known I don’t want kids for a very long time. I’m only 22 but everyone keeps saying “you can change your mind.” It’s annoying how if you want kids, no one will ever say that to you though. Kinda like how Chris said, I don’t think I’d be a good parent. Me and my bf both don’t want kids and know we wouldn’t be a good fit for the job. We both prefer animals to people so we’ll just adopt some animals and give them a good life. As long as the people in a relationship know what they want, I wish more people would respect that

    • @CarinaCoffee
      @CarinaCoffee Год назад +67

      ​@@kaitlynwalters9086 yeah and especially women are just often ask when they plan to get pregnant? It's invasive (and can be really harsh when that person is actually wanting children, but is infertile) and when you do bother to respond with saying you don't want any people always tell you you'll change your mind.
      It's reducing especially women to just their reproductive functions and when you're told you'll change your mind, it's taking away agency.

    • @CarinaCoffee
      @CarinaCoffee Год назад +40

      @@favi677 I think everyone is allowed to change their mind, but I think it's super invasive and disrespectful to ask people this and then if they tell you how they feel, people then doubling down and not excepting someone's genuine feelings at the time.
      And maybe some people feel the need to be so adamant about their views on not wanting children, because of societal pressure.
      Overall I think it's a an issue that people sort of see married with kids as the societal standard. It's quite hard to unlearn this, growing up like this I too still catch myself thinking about that sometimes e.g. when I hear someone's getting married. But I think it's sort of invalidating life when you only see this sort of "goal". People don't ask others "are you happy?" they ask "are you in a relationship yet", etc. when being on your own doesn't have to mean lonely.
      And it's super a super allo-centric view too. There are people that are ace and/or aro or demi and they're not unhappy.
      I think if people just pressure people less and don't ask invasive questions we would all have a more chill time together. Because I know people that don't really want to meet family anymore because it pulls them down psychologically to be pressured like that. And people don't even think they're pressuring others, because they're socialised to think asking these invasive questions is normal.

    • @bex6638
      @bex6638 Год назад +3

      🙌

    • @KiyokaMakibi
      @KiyokaMakibi Год назад +18

      @@kaitlynwalters9086 I've known I haven't wanted kids since I was probably under 10 lol!

  • @cynicalleviathan
    @cynicalleviathan Год назад +45

    Man that video of you eating bread must have been the greatest thing Chris had ever seen, not only did it inspire him to make youtube videos in Japan he also decided to marry the person who made the video.

  • @shiftyy2786
    @shiftyy2786 Год назад +714

    Can I just say, I really appreciate hearing you guys talk about not wanting children. My partner and I feel almost the exact same! And sometimes it can feel strange like, you’re all alone making this (seemingly) wild and strange decision. It’s nice to hear it spoken about openly!

    • @drskelebone
      @drskelebone Год назад +40

      I don't have a partner to consult with, but I'm firmly in the not wanting children category. I enjoy kids, and holding a baby as it does baby things is cool, but I like being able to go home without them.
      I also have moral objections given the state of the world about making someone live with the consequences of what I could have tried harder to fight against.

    • @NoodyDraws
      @NoodyDraws Год назад +14

      Exactly! We feel the same way and it always feels like a very unconventional decision. Good to hear people speak about it. :)

    • @magicalfluffybunny
      @magicalfluffybunny Год назад +23

      My husband and I have been happily married for 8 years, no kids and don't want em. :)

    • @deaniej2766
      @deaniej2766 Год назад +9

      As part of the Hippy Generation, "Childless by Choice" is a real thing and we chose it too.

    • @brandond8197
      @brandond8197 Год назад +8

      Whatever makes you happy, I am about to have my third child and I couldn’t imagine why life without them. I have married friends that don’t Holman on having kids and it works for them. To each their own.

  • @grey3318
    @grey3318 Год назад +13

    100 things I like about you? That is absolutely adorable, Sharla. What an incredibly sweet gesture!

  • @pochuyma9530
    @pochuyma9530 Год назад +13

    Chris deserves a happy relationship!
    He has brought so much happiness with his AbroadinJapan videos🥰

  • @NilsVanDessel
    @NilsVanDessel Год назад +236

    25:53 The look on Sharla's face after Chris said the rather awkward "Stuff happened" is an image I will treasure for eternity.

    • @tamashiranai1091
      @tamashiranai1091 Год назад +36

      not only that but the fact she decided to leave it in XD

    • @TheSylfaein
      @TheSylfaein Год назад +18

      Well, Chris is lighting up as well. He's pretty much glowing... Basking in delight. ☺

    • @nicokojima4214
      @nicokojima4214 Год назад +7

      Favourite moment haha

  • @Diamondkitsune
    @Diamondkitsune Год назад +215

    Oh god, hearing about Chris's attempts to throw you off the proposal just reminded me of Friends, except with more language 😂 I'm so glad you guys are so happy together.

    • @Noname.118
      @Noname.118 Год назад +14

      I thought the same 😆 I can imagine Chris acting crazy like Chandler

    • @Polkaknot
      @Polkaknot Год назад +21

      Chris Broad = British Chandler Bing

  • @millennialchicken
    @millennialchicken Год назад +82

    Still can't believe we live in the timeline where these two are together. Good things do indeed happen.

  • @denmarq
    @denmarq Год назад +265

    Hi Sharla! I just saw your story on IG where you went through a grotesque comment about the lifestyle you chose for yourself. Even if most of us don't know you deeply, it is apparent that what you bring to us here is wholesomeness and an appreciation of life, and most of us appreciate the extent of what you share from your unique perspective in order to inform, entertain, and connect in general to us. There will always be a few closed-minded rotten apples who's out to bring down others for their twisted pleasures or misguided beliefs, but you chose to stand firm against it while being understanding. They're the ones projectiving naivete. I know you have experience dealing with a handful of these as someone with a large following, but sometimes it can still hurt. Stay strong. You and Chris are commendable human beings.

    • @TheHonest50s
      @TheHonest50s Год назад +35

      Just saw too, made me sick to read how vile some people can be and take time to post things like that to anyone. They look happy together and is all that counts and its their life, no one should meddle.

    • @hana4449
      @hana4449 Год назад +9

      People that have the need to criticize others’ personal choices need to really back off! What a pity human being to attack another like this.

    • @AliceElricSama
      @AliceElricSama Год назад +7

      That comment made me laugh so hard. "Liver spotted hands"? Lmao! Jealousy at its finest.

    • @kiera3603
      @kiera3603 Год назад +13

      I hope karma gets to that person who talked to Sharla that way. I wish people wouldn’t push their narrow minded, old fashioned onto others. It’s so gross.
      Pretty much everyone loves Sharla. I hope she knows that.

    • @ragnhildmd5063
      @ragnhildmd5063 Год назад +7

      ​@@AliceElricSama yep, jealousy at it's finest. Not to mention that Chris not wanting children isn't something new that he decided on when him and sharla began dating. I remember him mentioning this years ago. But then again, the person who made the comment must be very dissatisfied with themself, and probably felt the urge to Just spout a bunch of verbal bile everywhere to feel better. Too bad Sharla had to be the target of that. She's such a sweetheart.

  • @Cheeseypuff17
    @Cheeseypuff17 Год назад +27

    I was never actively shipping you two, but I remember years ago thinking "aw they'd make a cute couple." Then seeing y'all on the cycle across Japan series, I thought "oh how cute would it be if they ended up dating?? They're such good friends." Then I saw the announcement and I'm like *jaw dropped, head exploded*
    Happy for you two, and wish you both a successful and happy marriage ❤

  • @KB-ql8cx
    @KB-ql8cx Год назад +161

    You are 100% correct, not everyone needs to have kids and you should never feel obligated and shouldn’t have to explain why

    • @donnahdunthorn5207
      @donnahdunthorn5207 Год назад +4

      Except this is literally a Q & A.

    • @hayapatel_
      @hayapatel_ Год назад +16

      @@donnahdunthorn5207 just bc it's a Q&A doesn't mean they owe you an explanation nor are they obligated to really answer the question. They can just say yes/no and leave it at that

    • @jigglypuff52
      @jigglypuff52 Год назад +22

      ​@@donnahdunthorn5207
      They're allowed to reject questions that are too personal. They don't owe their audience every little detail of their lives and health.

  • @SimplyPharmD
    @SimplyPharmD Год назад +355

    I love how giggly and genuinely happy you both seem; warms my heart 🥰 thank you guys for sharing. I know parasocial shit can get weird, but I'm just so giddy to see 2 of my favorite creators so happy and supportive of each other. especially given everything the both of you have gone through.

  • @SmilingRuby
    @SmilingRuby Год назад +191

    Kids are a huge commitment. I'm so happy you guys are walking into it eyes wide open. They are wonderful, but they are life consuming, at least for the short-term and if you know you can't give a child what they need this is the decision to make. You'll be a wonderful Auntie and Uncle to any of kids in your life.

    • @nuggyfresh6430
      @nuggyfresh6430 5 дней назад

      lol it's amazing how parents always have to frame it like 'can't give a child what they need' no, they don't want one. Sorry... I love kids I just don't get how people always have to couch is so stupidly.

  • @quokkakola1722
    @quokkakola1722 Год назад +265

    I am so happy for you both. It’s so refreshing to hear people speak openly about a child free lifestyle, even though it does attract the crazies coming out in the comments and taking it personally. The obsession some people have about other people having children is at best obnoxious and at worst aggressive and deeply inappropriate.

    • @ptjzmemory
      @ptjzmemory Год назад +10

      Well said. Not everyone wants children and that's fine. As you stated, it is refreshing to hear it discussed openly.

  • @garaktartv3647
    @garaktartv3647 Год назад +20

    the fact that Sharla basically "knew" Chris since robot wars and they ended up together is pure insanity, this is such a awesome coincidence.

  • @MelancholyMoondancer
    @MelancholyMoondancer Год назад +218

    My husband and I were friends first. Took me nine months to realize I had feelings beyond friendship for him. That was about 24 years ago. This year will be our 15th wedding anniversary. We also didn't really have a "this is when we started dating" date. We picked the day when we had The Talk about where our relationship is going.
    I'm so happy to see y'all together. It's so wonderful to see you both so happy!

  • @Probably.knitting
    @Probably.knitting Год назад +278

    I hate shipping, I think it's deeply inappropriate, but I always saw the friendship you two had as so fun and healthy. When Sharla said she was moving to Sendai, I knew you two were probably more than friends, and it warmed my cold dead heart 💜

    • @nutrinogirl456
      @nutrinogirl456 Год назад +23

      only fictional shipping is a good ship!

    • @Crybaby-Media
      @Crybaby-Media Год назад +7

      @@nutrinogirl456 I’m not trying to be rude or anything , I’m genuinely curious. And maybe I’m just unclear on what the exact definition of shipping is .
      What’s the harm in saying something like “those two would be so cute together .” Or something along those lines.
      I agree it’s inappropriate to say something like “they should date!” Because it puts a weird pressure and might introduce some awkward feelings to the relationship.
      But I think two friends who are confident in their friendship, are probably able to handle somebody saying. “Oh are you two dating?” Or “you two are so cute together” from someone who doesn’t know all the details .
      Sorry I’m a little blazed and I type a lot when I’m high .
      TLDR in your opinion, are there limits to things you can say (in the context of shipping) , or is everything completely off limits?

    • @j134679
      @j134679 Год назад +1

      I think if someone being shipped is affected, then at least a part of them is hoping for that relationship.
      I've been shipped countless times to multiple friends of both sexes & it never made me uncomfortable as I had 0 romantic attraction to them. Like even if they courted me for months, I knew it would be a no from the get-go.

    • @Probably.knitting
      @Probably.knitting Год назад +21

      @@Crybaby-Media especially with internet personalities, you don't know them. To try to throw romantic or sexual connotation to their relationship is overstepping. I'd argue it's weird to say "you'd be cute together" to friends too, but at least then it can potentially come from a place of knowing the nuance of the relationship. With celebs and influencers, you don't know the nuance to their relationship. Having to hear it over and over and over from people who don't know you that you'd be "so cute with (friend)", it's like this weird expectation that people can't have close, platonic relationships with the gender they're attracted to.

    • @Probably.knitting
      @Probably.knitting Год назад +20

      @@j134679 hard disagree. I hate being paired with another person by others, it's sexualizing me when I didn't ask to be. Even if it's an innocent "you'd be a cute couple," the next statement is almost always "you'd make cute babies." If I thought I'd be cute with another person, I'd make that call. Another person's opinion is unwarranted and unwanted.

  • @MxPotato84
    @MxPotato84 Год назад +88

    From bread girl and telling pigeons to f**k off, to cursing at each other playfully in an adorable way. Seeing the two of you evolve has been fun and cute. Your relationship did seem like it just randomly morphed on its own and you two just went long with it like gravity.
    Keep evolving, you two!! ❤❤

  • @yulie1022
    @yulie1022 Год назад +95

    10 years ago I had dreams of living in Japan, and I watched both your channels. 30 years old now and life didn’t quite turn our like I planned BUT finally getting to visit Tokyo later this month. Thank you both for all your videos, letting us watch you throughout the years and get a glimpse in your lives. Congratulations and I hope you keep helping one another fulfill as many dreams as you can. ❤

  • @katiavandam8435
    @katiavandam8435 Год назад +21

    The chemistry between both Chris and Sharla is undeniable! During a few distant episodes and over time I could tell there was something there, just didn't know if you both realized the attraction could be lifelong. Supporting each other is what you both do best and that in itself is the key to keeping the relationship strong.

  • @scotmcpherson
    @scotmcpherson Год назад +65

    I think you've been in a genuine relationship for years even as friends. You've just had that chemistry, but didn't realize your relationship until more recently.

  • @xSmartassxChibix
    @xSmartassxChibix Год назад +54

    Also, I'm sorry, but your engagement story truly does remind me of a shojo anime plotline 😂 love you guys together, I'm so happy for you!!

    • @sharlainjapan
      @sharlainjapan  Год назад +26

      It would probably make a good manga😂

  • @ParaSytius
    @ParaSytius Год назад +107

    I met my wife at work coming up to about 10-years ago now, we were friends for five years before eventually becoming a couple. That initial friendship laid down some firm foundations to build upon once we started dating. Good to see you both went through the same thing and best of luck to your future together.

  • @AshleeHarveyMusic
    @AshleeHarveyMusic Год назад +192

    As someone who also doesn’t want children, it is extremely validating to hear other people openly say that they don’t want children and don’t really like them. I worry about being judged for not having an affinity for children and for not following the social norm and having kids, so I really appreciate you guys being so honest about it ❤️

    • @MelancholyMoondancer
      @MelancholyMoondancer Год назад +23

      I can say, as someone who never wanted children and never did, I am perfectly happy with the decision. I was also told by a spine doctor (I have a degenerative chronic spine condition) that be in my "best interest not be pregnant". Fine with me!

    • @ab.c
      @ab.c Год назад +2

      Yes so true

    • @kathleenhawkes7543
      @kathleenhawkes7543 Год назад +4

      I never wanted children either, and then one day, it just happened. My children are definitely the best part of my life now and I thank the universe every day for that funny surprise.

    • @billyb6001
      @billyb6001 11 месяцев назад +1

      You should have kids

    • @bararobberbaron859
      @bararobberbaron859 4 дня назад +1

      @@billyb6001 People who don't want children absolutely shouldn't have children, what terrible advice!

  • @JC_2311
    @JC_2311 3 дня назад +1

    11:34 People, take note. It's a great present and as someone who was on the receiving end (my then GF of 3 years/now wife gave me a photobook of us with 99 things she loved about me) it's one of the most memorable things I've ever gotten and really appreciate it, even now, 9 years of marriage later.

  • @kookurikapooh
    @kookurikapooh Год назад +35

    The friend strat is consistently at S-tier for finding suitable partners.
    Exposes any unwelcome or pleasant surprises or secrets.
    Easy way to establish rapport with the person.
    Makes knowing the other person easier and in a natural, organic, and less awkward way.
    11/10. Would highly recommend but i won’t personally try it ever again as I’ve done it with my best friend-now my wife.

    • @chendaforest
      @chendaforest Год назад

      What is S-Tier ?

    • @kookurikapooh
      @kookurikapooh Год назад +1

      @@chendaforest
      Highest spot on a tier list.
      It’s a ranking system that usually go: S, A, B, C, D, E, F (S tier being the highest and F being the lowest.
      Unless your question was rhetorical or a joke that i missed

    • @chendaforest
      @chendaforest Год назад +1

      @@kookurikapooh thanks I didn't know.

  • @marianariveram7692
    @marianariveram7692 Год назад +67

    I think we all saw this relationship coming from waaaay before you guys did . I'm just so happy it worked out for you both! You've always had a great chemistry

  • @SinzPet-
    @SinzPet- Год назад +50

    that is one of the most funny proposal stories i've heard in a while XD

  • @lynseythompson7268
    @lynseythompson7268 Год назад +11

    I remember following both your videos when I was planning my trip to Japan in 2019. At the time i was 6 years single and gave up on love and when I came back reconnected with my childhood sweetheart and now we're getting married later this year in September. Now we're planning a trip to Japan for us next year! It makes me unbelievably happy the 2 of you have found each other and fell in love. This news makes me so happy!! ❤❤❤

  • @newday-om6qh
    @newday-om6qh Год назад +12

    As a 34 y.o. single person. This is inspiring ❤.
    Although, after seeing how you two became friends years ago at a youtube party. Now this...
    Chris, it's time to write that youtube RomCom short-film.

  • @julesg9004
    @julesg9004 Год назад +87

    Laughing so much at your stories - If you can upset Sharla that much one minute & she still says YES to marriage then its meant to be 😆I've literally never been happier to know that 2 people are a couple. I hope maybe we get lots of 'Sharla - Abroad' collaborations - Journey across Japan style! x

  • @NightOwlsMedia
    @NightOwlsMedia Год назад +95

    I don't know if you guys actually read these or not, but I had to write this. I have followed you both for so long. You give so much to the world and the community of viewers and Japanophiles and on top of that you bring so much joy and positivity as well. I have found so much assuage and comfort in your videos through the years and can not thank you enough for that alone. But knowing you two have found each other and fallen in love makes my heart swell with happiness. That alone is why I wanted to write but I also wanted to possibly send an offer. I know we are a world apart and you don't know me from Adam, but I have worked in weddings for over 14 years and know quite a bit about planning and such, as I am sure you are being swarmed with offers and comments galore, but if there is anything a wedding cinematographer from Chicago, IL can do to help, even if it's just advice or planning tips, I am happy to do so :) Congratulations to you both, to your friends and family as well. This is such a huge thing not only in your lives but also the worlds of the people you give to on a daily basis! We are so happy for you

  • @AnniS
    @AnniS Год назад +55

    The announcement that you guys are dating was one of the best RUclips days ever anyway ❤ wishing you years and years of happiness!

  • @saraaguayo-aponte9014
    @saraaguayo-aponte9014 Год назад +24

    I just found out you guys got together! What a lovely surprise! I always thought you two would make a great couple. All the happiness to you both.❤

  • @christah9420
    @christah9420 Год назад +44

    It’s so lovely to see two people so happy to build a life together, especially when it’s two people who are obviously perfect for each other. Cheers guys, and thanks for sharing your journey with all of us! ☀️

  • @n1hondude
    @n1hondude Год назад +66

    You're both wholesome so I don't think there is a single soul out there who's upset you're a couple, we've all been cheering and it's been obvious since the first journey across Japan! :D

    • @minhdo3482
      @minhdo3482 Год назад +6

      I think U forgot abt Connor lol

    • @n1hondude
      @n1hondude Год назад +2

      @@minhdo3482 Oooohh you're right, I'm sure Connor will be happy to be the mistress in the relationship

  • @Hitogata
    @Hitogata Год назад +324

    As someone who's had 2 crazy cats for 11 years and is now a mother to a human toddler, I tell you, no matter how demanding your cats are, it doesn't remotely compare to how physically and mentally exausting it is to have a baby/toddler 😅 I just want 5 minutes to myself, please 😂 Definately I think it's something you should do only if you both really want it!

    • @anidanielle
      @anidanielle Год назад +11

      Yes, I have 3 kids and honestly have no time for my 3 cats anymore because they're so self sufficient compared to kids. I pet them at night to make sure they get some attention though.
      My kids also don't really sleep well until they're older. There is no way to prepare for the absolute exhaustion that comes from years of being woken up every few hours at night. Thankfully now it's only one or twice a night since my youngest is 1.5 years old.

    • @Lisallamaa
      @Lisallamaa Год назад +13

      Yes, and with cats you can, like, leave. You have to take your children with you 😅 I will say I call my cats my babies, but my human children are the reason for my white hairs.

    • @YukiOnna86
      @YukiOnna86 Год назад +3

      2 cats and 1 toddler mom here as well. I couldn't agree more.

  • @Ldubs24
    @Ldubs24 Год назад +27

    Don't feel bad Chris, my husband had a similar experience with weather and unavoidable events interrupting his proposal. I was in on the general timing and we got to the very end of the trip we were on before I point blank asked him if he still wanted to get married or what. I swear he almost cried explaining the series of unfortunate events. He proposed the next morning right before we were meant to leave for our flight and the rest is history.

  • @lokicooper4690
    @lokicooper4690 Год назад +24

    Chris: "She swears a lot more"
    Me (a fellow Canuck): "That's cause she's Canadian." We are polite, but once you get to know us better, we swear.. a lot! Lol!
    This was fun to watch, and intresting to learn new things about you both.

  • @Spawn256
    @Spawn256 Год назад +3

    I hope your love for each other grows to the point you guys can admit to each other how much you love each other, not sarcastically.

  • @ColdBrewBarbie
    @ColdBrewBarbie Год назад +62

    I love that you to are so open about not having kids! My husband and I decided we don't want kids and its refreshing to see other couples our age say that too! Love this video!

    • @LdeV26
      @LdeV26 Год назад +7

      Yes, there need to be more people like us out there. Always happy to see couples I can relate to.

    • @simgrmehmej8075
      @simgrmehmej8075 Год назад +1

      @@LdeV26 “need to be more people like us” ..huh

    • @est02
      @est02 Год назад

      @@LdeV26 there is no “need”, only preference

    • @LdeV26
      @LdeV26 Год назад +1

      @@est02 No there is need.

    • @LdeV26
      @LdeV26 Год назад

      @@simgrmehmej8075 Yup.

  • @DelorienAz
    @DelorienAz Год назад +48

    You really don't need kids to have a fulfilling life. My husband and I were together for almost a decade without kids and we loved our life. We both felt that we weren't missing out on anything. We did end up having a surprise baby and it's been a great experience but if it hadn't happened, we'd still be OK. Our son is a bonus joy, but not our only reason for living. Either way, no one should be shamed for their very personal choice! Wish you both happiness:)

  • @IrinaUlrich
    @IrinaUlrich Год назад +10

    The best thing about becoming partners after friendship is that you know you are in a partnership, you can trust eachother 100%...on every level. So happy for you!

  • @heratlas
    @heratlas Год назад +16

    Many congratulations on your new chapter!! You should look into going to New Zealand for your honeymoon.. beautiful beaches and stunning mountains.. tons of opportunities for riding bikes and adventure stuff... or you can hang out at a winery all day :) bonus...great food options for Sharla! I've never been but it's on my bucket list! Also, it's not my business, but really thinking about children the way you do as a serious decision.....already makes you great potential parents :3

  • @LordVerdo
    @LordVerdo Год назад +16

    I’m really to see you guys happy! I noticed the chemistry right away in the first journey across Japan series!

  • @eels3658
    @eels3658 Год назад +98

    "I don't think we need to live in a world where everyone has to have a kid", I completely agree!

  • @MrNoe1993
    @MrNoe1993 Год назад +19

    It makes me laugh every time he calls you "SharlaInJapan" 🤣🤣. You guys are just so funny in videos together.

  • @anthonyleung5277
    @anthonyleung5277 Год назад +46

    Having watch them both for over a decade. It is such a beautiful story and really happy for both of them.

    • @rdu239
      @rdu239 Год назад +2

      They are a couple? no way!

  • @galactic_aly
    @galactic_aly Год назад +5

    After seeing that horrible comment on your Instagram story, I just wanted to say how much of a role model you are. After many years of watching your videos, I absolutely love the content you produce as well as your happy, upbeat energy. I'm so happy that my two favorite RUclipsrs have found each other. It's inspiring!

  • @Honeybee4678
    @Honeybee4678 Год назад +8

    I’m really impressed by this relationship. You truly seem to connect intellectually and respect each other. looking forward to more videos together and from both of your channels!

  • @Fiveonesix
    @Fiveonesix Год назад +21

    I really love that people are being more open that having children is not for them - my husband and I have to deal with people pushing that we will change our minds and it's been 8 years and no change in our minds. It's not a lifestyle for everyone.

    • @chendaforest
      @chendaforest Год назад +1

      Totally agree. I've never wanted any I have very few maternal instincts :)

  • @magicaaria
    @magicaaria Год назад +39

    I absolutely just adore you both and how willing you are to discuss the reality of your relationship and thoughts on camera. :”) you’re both so genuine and it’s so refreshing to see!! It’s like you’re watching two of your best friends growing up and just achieving so many great things!!

  • @izabellavanryn3531
    @izabellavanryn3531 Год назад +24

    Chris' life flashing before his eyes at the cat question, and then the immediate look of relief when you said two cats is enough. 🤣 My husband and I had 4 at one point, and I agree that two is enough. We love each of them so much, but it was definitely chaotic!

  • @UtherForgermann
    @UtherForgermann Год назад +11

    I don't know why, because obviously I don't know you both personally; I must say that the fact that you are a couple puts a huge smile on my face and I'm glad you're happy together :) keep at it folks!

  • @Lrbrz
    @Lrbrz Год назад +67

    I’m a child free woman as well and I’m coming here directly from your Instagram story. Absolutely disgusted that people criticize you and Chris for your choice. I love you guys and have followed you both since both your channels started and seeing your friendship blossom into love and watch your lives grow separately and now together is a beautiful thing. I’m so happy for both you ♥️

    • @smome777
      @smome777 Год назад +9

      Im always surprised people still get mad at people for this choice. It's weird.

  • @mariaafanasieva45
    @mariaafanasieva45 Год назад +18

    This kind of genuine love is so rare and I am infinitely happy for my 2 favorite creators, always thought you would be a great couple

  • @bex6638
    @bex6638 Год назад +36

    I've been with my boyfriend for over 11 years now and I've watched both of you through that time.
    We're now preparing to go on our own adventure, first to Mexico, then to Japan this year.
    You both played a major role in inspiring that.
    Thank you for all you contribute. ❤️

  • @Rebecca-qf7is
    @Rebecca-qf7is Год назад +53

    My husband and I were friends before we ever started dating. We've been married 13 years, I highly recommend being friends first. You guys are adorable and the fact that you saw him on TV on Robot Wars is hilarious.
    On another note, I've been watching your videos since the way back days, you are the reason I'm so interested in visiting Japan and it's why I'm finally going to check it off my bucket list at the end of March!!

  • @333Vampirewillrule33
    @333Vampirewillrule33 Год назад +6

    I appreciate what you guys touched on throughout the video. Especially the topic of children. Overall, people even nowadays can't wrap their head around a happy couple that doesn't plan to raise kids and how you explained it was very well put ❤
    It's so fun to see ya'll come together, you make such a cute couple ❤️

  • @untilwemeetagain2010
    @untilwemeetagain2010 Год назад +4

    I remember when I was waiting for you to get Maro back home, and now you have a man you're going to marry. I couldn't be happier for you both. All I have to say is humor is the spice of life, and I wouldn't be married and be with my husband for as long as I have been without it. I'm so happy you have that, and you deserve it after the health scare you went through! Congrats!

  • @divaesp
    @divaesp Год назад +8

    I love how Chris looks at you. He's eyes twinkle with so much love! Love you both. Congratulations guys!

  • @alisonshellum9870
    @alisonshellum9870 Год назад +21

    Adorable Q&A. I had fortune teller vibes from the Journey Across Japan series too (and Im British, so I got the “Friend” jibe in the frenemy context that was intended). Chris has been the boy pulling at Sharla’s pigtails to get her attention for a looong time! The robot definitely needs to be the ring bearer at the wedding.

  • @IsonosDen
    @IsonosDen Год назад +39

    This was cute to watch and listen to. How you guys went from friends to partners was similar to how my husband and I started out. The snoring thing is forever annoying, invest in sound reducing or cancelling ear plugs, I did. I really wish you guys a long and beautiful future together. I can tell how happy and comfortable you are with each other and it's just so sweet. Thank you both for the fun video!

  • @cloudkitt
    @cloudkitt Год назад +7

    "A premium face" is my new favorite compliment.

  • @bigmanmccheez5342
    @bigmanmccheez5342 Год назад

    How to use a British tap
    1.Put plug in the basin drain
    2.Put hot water into basin
    3.Test water temperature
    4.Add cold water and repeat step 3 until the temperature is acceptable
    5.Put your hands in the sink to wash them and whatever else needs to be done.
    6.Take out drain plug

  • @pedrorserra
    @pedrorserra Год назад +38

    Chris, make your father repair the robot so it can take the rings on the ceremony! 😂

    • @sharlainjapan
      @sharlainjapan  Год назад +15

      HAHA love that

    • @HenryKlausEsq.
      @HenryKlausEsq. Год назад +2

      @@sharlainjapan Recover the original sprockets from Killertron and have rings made to size. Or instead of rings get knuckle-dusters that you can wear permanently.

  • @jjdinanno4147
    @jjdinanno4147 Год назад +12

    Joyful. That's how I felt watching this video. It's silly I suppose for a middle-aged GenXr such as myself. But I've been watching you both for over 10 years. This is like a major milestone in my own RUclips journey of sorts. Looking forward to what you both cook up next. I know it'll be great no matter what it is.

  • @sarameitner6770
    @sarameitner6770 Год назад +16

    This was a fun treat. Watching your friendship since "way back when" has always been a delight. It's great that the foundation of that strong friendship bond has developed into something so much stronger and deeper. You guys rock.

  • @nicop6165
    @nicop6165 Год назад +14

    I literally could not stop smiling throughout this video. As a long time subscriber of both of you separately, it's lovely to see how happy you guys make each other. Thank you for sharing this with us ❤

  • @mercerworldtravels5980
    @mercerworldtravels5980 Год назад +3

    Rain on the wedding day is a good sign. I suppose it could be on the proposal too. It's weird watching Abroad in Japan and Sharmeleon knowing we have mutual friends in Japan. Thanks for all the effort you guys put into your videos. I know my wife really appreciates being able to see everything you both show about Japan.

  • @swish043
    @swish043 Год назад +32

    Mentally and physically rejuvenated by how cute this was. Happy for you guys ♥️♥️♥️

  • @_marimopeace
    @_marimopeace Год назад +21

    8:33-11:03 "despite everything going wrong" AHAHAH oh god so happy everything worked out I do feel bad the misdirection led to Sharla crying for hours that's never fun 😭
    20:18-20:56 "like a 1980s stock trader" oh god "bread girl" was one thing but that just took me out 😂
    thank you for sharing this first/last q&a with your audience!! good to hear from both of you and have some laughs over y'alls humor

  • @Aiken47
    @Aiken47 Год назад +40

    Our 33rd anniversary is this year, friends first is a good basis for a long solid relationship IMO, you get to see each others best and worst moments over a good length of time.
    It’s cute to see Chris blush and go coy when he thinks about the change from friends to dating.
    My wife is obsessed with True Crime RUclips channels too. Apparently it’s a woman thing. 🤷🏻‍♂️
    Pendulum is a great choice, I listen to it when riding my motorbike or driving.

  • @kellyjaggers8934
    @kellyjaggers8934 Год назад +10

    I saw your post on IG and I wanted to say that, as a barren dog lady who locked down a high value male and didn't have children, you don't owe anyone an explanation for how you choose to live. Some people can't fathom life choices different to their choices. I have found they wallow in negative feelings because they are unhappy with their lives and need to bring others down to feel even a tiny spark of joy.
    Occasionally someone will ask if I regret not to having children. I can assure you that as a mid-40's lady I don't regret my choice not to to have children. I am happy, and so is the high value male I gaslit into not to having children with me. ❤️
    Maro has the right idea. Ignore the haters. Be happy. Enjoy your life the way you want to live it!

  • @shwetasonny
    @shwetasonny Год назад +16

    Sharla I just saw your Instagram post and I just want to say that pls ignore all the negative comments. Don't even consider reading them because honestly, these people are too hateful towards the world so they find RUclipsrs to be easy targets. Lots of love to you guys.

  • @ExiledSwede
    @ExiledSwede Год назад +46

    This was so wholesome! As someone who also isn't having children, mainly because of my thyroid disorder, but other reasons also, I'm so happy to see other people openly talking about and destigmatising not having children.

  • @mizzprettyhuston
    @mizzprettyhuston Год назад +16

    My husband and I will have been together 22 years this April. We started out as friends for a couple years and then just ended up as a couple. We have been married the last 6 (this coming June) I think the best relationships last when they've been friends first. Congratulations & thank you for sharing ❤ I'm so happy for you both.

  • @DanielFHanson
    @DanielFHanson Год назад +53

    To me, the fact that Chris doesn't upload videos very often is a sign that he _does_ work really hard. Maybe I'm just attuned to other channels like CGP Grey, Folding Ideas, and hbomberguy, where I know that if they haven't uploaded in a while, it's because they're working insanely hard on the next big thing(s).
    Also, Witchcraft is an _amazing_ song!

  • @carolhardwick8177
    @carolhardwick8177 Год назад +3

    Congrats on your engagement. I agree with you 100% that when you're friends, it's better. Laughter! If they can make you laugh, another good thing. Here' to a life of loving, awesome memories for the both of you.

  • @glenncamp733
    @glenncamp733 Год назад +2

    Happened onto the two of you together when you were going cross country 1. Always thought you should be together, but truly thought you were just friends. It was a delight hearing this response to questions. Looking forward to updates as you move forward.
    Thanks for filling in all those blanks.

  • @MazAMaTaz
    @MazAMaTaz Год назад +51

    I'm just watching this video smiling like an idiot because you're both ADORABLE. It's crazy because (and I know you've heard it before because I've seen loads of comments that say this) I've thought you guys were so compatible for soooo long just from watching the videos where you were together, haha. So happy for both of you!

  • @rufusdrumknottvgc
    @rufusdrumknottvgc Год назад +17

    'It's a nice face innit?' Ah yes, classic British flirting.
    The flashbacks to Chris talking about Sharla's videos way back when were so funny I was losing my mind laughing! I feel like this was a really lowkey video, no music and just the same background, but you guys have such an amazing chemistry that you're hilarious and entertaining and so much fun to watch even when you aren't on a crazy trip together or anything like that. Love watching you guys together so much

  • @betsyliskovec8096
    @betsyliskovec8096 Год назад +16

    Sharla is so right telling someone that you like them first is so hard before dating that's why I'm still single I missed out on so many chances on telling a guy I like them because I'm scared, I'm so happy you guys are together love you ❤️❤️❤️

  • @KhaoticBruja
    @KhaoticBruja Год назад +7

    I honestly think it’s epic that two of my favorite RUclipsrs ended up together.💕

  • @empressmeowmeow9581
    @empressmeowmeow9581 Год назад +9

    I love this! I've been watching @AbroadinJapan for so many years and then began watching your videos too. I'm probably a lot older than the usual audience for either of you (I'm turning 60 in June), and it makes me happy to see the two of you engaged. I always thought there was such a nice spark between you, so this is lovely Wishing you all the happiness in the world!