In the age of 47, yesterday I asked myself “who am I actually, and what is my identety?” Because all my life I was called “strange” “weird” “oh its just her..” or “silly” but inside of me, from my early childhood I knew that i dont resonate with surroundings, and closest people around me. Inside, I was always curious, serious, deep thinker, wonderer, dreamer, visionery.. but outside I learned to keep my mouth shut, to don’t speek my mind and to people please. Yes, today I am realising that I growed up in toxic family and always been correlated with toxic people. With a grace of God I am healing.. Thank you for this video❤️
You are not alone. I recognise everything you write because of the toxic environment around me. The being curious, the thinking and wondering and the staying silent. Reading and expressing gratitude are helpful to me and gardening as well as sewing are wonderful things to concentrate on. Thank goodness you are healing, I’m over sixty years old my proces of healing has started a while ago but it’s never too late. Knowing there are more of us who have been there is a great support. You, and all of us healing individuals are actually a very strong and wise kind of people. We do belong after all to a very extended family!✨🌈🕊️🍀
I feel like you are my lost sister from a different mister. I will achieve level 47 here soon and still do not know who I am or my purpose, nor have I ever felt like I fit in and belonged, especially when around family. I have even moved 1000 miles from what I have known in an attempt to find myself in someway, and maybe people who I feel I belong with. I never knew this struggle would fill my whole life thus far. I will never give up on myself to find lasting true happiness and love, even if it is just myself on this journey, though I pray its not.
I just had to chew my parent out about this. They were gloating to friends that they never had to deal with kids sneaking out the house and would have beat us. I had to let them know that their mouth and them talking down on me to whomever would listen was the reason they never experienced me in my authentic entirety and why they still don't know me today. Imagine thinking you were a great parent because you did what you were supposed to do financially but never emotionally connected to your child to get to know them.
@@divathedivinegoddess8001 let's do it! Because some parents should have stayed alone instead of connecting to conceive and folks like us need to know we are worthy because we're here period. Not because our parents loved us or didn't love us.
That's my experience also. My parents played their stereotypical roles (dad was breadwinner and mum was housewife) but they had absolutely no interest in me as a person. I would often look at them and think they were robots. I was either irrelevant or they were intensely angry at me for being a bad person - which, as a child, I never understood. In retrospect, I think they were angry at me because they had either made up some garbage in their own head about me or, more likely, they had been brainwashed with gossip by my narcissistic older brother.
@@heathergrahame9647 wow. It's crazy to me that some parents don't take the time to understand their own personal little creations but are so critical and in the same breath don't have the patience or desire to actually teach or raise up that creation in a way that they will be proud of. My mom used to always believe everyone's opinion of me and it used to hurt me so bad that she thought the worst of me and treated me like I wasn't hers.
I feel that a lot of the way a Sigma female is introverted and seeks no validation can be from growing up with a parent that is self-absorbed. A parent who always seeked validation from her children and everyone else. When a person grows up like that, they want to hide from the world because they realize that is not what life is all about. They realize at a young age that beauty stems from within, and they cultivate their inner beauty through deep solace and prayer. In doing this, they develop great humility because they realize beauty comes from within and not from outside validation.❤
At my age 43 I discovered I was a sigma damaged but 3 years ago I went in a journey of discovering myself. I feel proud to be a sigma female I am not longer damaged
I would have been burnt at the stake, if I had lived in de 15 century. In this life, I’m often exhausted. Apparently I just don’t seem to understand how to be a normal human being, in the eye of other people. Don’t know how it is to be treated as one. Knowing there are more of my kind is a great comfort, thank you❤
You DID LIVE IN THE 15th century and MANY of us were burnt on the stake ... 😔 The corrupt Rom. Catholic Church couldn't allow the truth to be revealed by women (and men) who were visionaries and who were advocating that we DO NOT NEED an intermediary between ourselves and God. We can fin God by looking INSIDE us. That's a very uncomfortable truth (for the cursed church).
Yeah. I would have been burnt at the stake or at minimum Joan of Arc type situations in the past. Badly damaged Sigma 💔 issues are why I decided to become a Psychologist at age 10.
Wow. You hit the nail on the head about everything. 50 years, and im just now thinking that i was forced to change my identity. Everything you said except for the vengeful part is spot on. I was just thinking this yesterday morning when i was journaling. It was an A Ha moment.
As a 53 year old Sigma female, this video sent me into orbit. It pisses me off that I am just now recognizing all of the (basically) abuse I endured as a child. I've been unpacking and breaking the proverbial 'generational curses' over the last 4 years. Ironically, as someone with ADHD, my parents would never have even thought of taking me to see someone about it. They punished me for 'acting out'. Which I clearly was not doing, they just tried to stifle me. This is some heavy stuff here. I was held back from GATE because they felt I would 'get a bigger head' if I was put in those classes. I was already 'too smart for my own good.' I prided myself on being smart, why was that so bad? They held me back from sports for the same reason. I am just shaking my head here. Thankfully I have stepped into my own light now and fully embrace what it means to be a 'Sigma Female'. Thank you for making this. I hope it enlightens women like myself who need to know that what they've endured wasn't their fault. Stay the course, sisters! Love and light. xoxo
I was around 6 when I had a dream that EVERYONE I knew were monsters in people suits. I thought my mom might be a person, but I couldn't be sure. I knew that I couldn't let anyone know that I was actually a little girl and not a monster, or they would eat me. I didn't realize just how insightful that dream really was until about 7 years ago. I've pretty much decided that my mom isn't a monster, and that she actually protected me from a monsterous world for as long as I would let her.
My mother was a narcissist. From an early age I was beaten into submission but by my teen years, I morphed into defiance and repeatedly put into psychiatric facilities and I became the scapegoat and was deemed responsible for every bad thing that my mother experienced. I left home at age sixteen followed by years of abusive personal relationships and more than a couple marriages. I was reeled back in by a controlling mother but with a clear goal in mind. I still held my ground to some extent which meant having to endured the backlash but I knew that if I could outlive her, I would be in a free and secure position in my later years. The gamble paid off and today I live a wonderful solitary life, where I'm truly free to pursue my own interests and be my authentic self. It did not come without a cost but I now have a wonderful life and a little heaven-on-earth into my golden years and much truer to myself than I could ever have been before. It wasn't easy but I am now where I always longed to be
In my case, being the scapegoat of my narcissistic mother, my first bully, it's not that I wanted to be unattached, I was rejected by everyone but if someone was nice to me, the cook, a girlfriend, she got rid of them. I learned not to bring friends to their home. It seems I fit into this category and the INFJ but I'm not so introverted, my real self is extroverted and outgoing but I have learned I get pick on by narcissists and nowadays, I'm trying to unlearn all of my coping mechanism and my mother's indoctrination. I'm in no contact and relief 😮💨
@@solutions4tenants141 Thanks for your answer. I always wonder if I'm introvert or extrovert. I enjoy good company and crave it but I don't find people to whom I can be myself without them making me feel like an 👽.
@@betula-pendula i learned a while ago that if i make it my job to avoid giving others anxiety by just being myself, i only end up giving myself anxiety. If i'm doing it to avoid feeling their anxiety and it causes me to have my own, why not just let them feel theirs, instead? If you speak truth and you know it is truth but just speaking it gives you anxiety, remember it isn't your anxiety: it's that of the people who were benefitting from you holding your tongue. Namaste 💜🙏🏽🕊️
@@crptnite those are wise words. Yes it's true, being people pleaser is to avoid making them angry or feeling anxious. (being angry is just the next step if someone wants to hide that he is anxious, in my opinion.)
I cannot explain how relieving it is to watch and understand a video that describes me perfectly. I have begun to peel back the layers of myself in the discovery of the real me, confront others, speak up more, and find self-satisfaction as to why I love being "smart but different." Thank you for introducing me to me. Lots of work to do, but I love me more than ever b4. It's OK to be different and weird, to think differently from everyone around you, and be alone but loving your silence ❤ You are helping to free others that are ready to understand the "why's" of life no one could explain. Keep it up and THANK YOU.
Oh my gosh if only i could have heard this message when i was young... so many wasted years believing there was something wrong with me and doing everything to just survive. Because thriving was just always going to be out of the question. 😢
I am 48, it has taken me literally half a century of copying with all described in this video and more. Tough lessons that just now are serving me to open my eyes and finally put all those limits I should have used decades ago. One thing I am noticing is that suddenly even my mother like me less and many seem surprised to see the real me. it can turn into a lonely journey, but I am grateful that my freedom has come and I have the voice today to stand up and stop pleasing everybody as the good girl that puts her last in her priority list. Thank you for a great video ❤
Oh This is so true that i am at the verge of crying 😭 i am having a depressing about this almost 4 years and NOW all pieces came together ... I CAN'T BELİEVE
All I can say is WOW! I just found out recently that not only am I ‘highly sensitive’, and empathic, and an INFJ, but I’m also a Sigma female. It’s been freeing to find this out. I was raised by a Narcissistic mother who is still in my life today and fakes her ‘sweetness’. Anyway. I’m so grateful for this stunningly well done video. Thank you so much ❤ I would also love to chat with other Sigma females (I don’t know any) so if you’d like to chat and are a sigma, please post a comment.
I am a SIGMA female, and there are certain things about this video I agree with, but I am going to speak up and be honest, lots of it is either just poorly worded, or just plain wrong. We do not just submit and do what we are told, we go against the grain of society's ridiculous expectations and stereotypes, and we remain true to ourselves because we realize that no matter what we do, the majority are not going to approve... and that right there is incredibly liberating! We do go through all the challenges you mentioned, and then some, but we are the strongest of all personality types and we love ourselves regardless of what other people think about us, and we only grow even stronger because of the challenges. We have a mind of our own and we put it to good use by thinking for ourselves even though we think differently than others... It's one of the things about ourselves that we love and a quality we value most...I am proud to be a SIGMA female.🎉
@@jenster29 even damaged sigmas (either male or female) can't help but to go against the grain. They're natural non-conformists, and whatever happens doesn't change that. They may grow quieter and more observant, and even isolate, but not more compliant. Even at an early age, they may not know exactly who they are, but they have a strong sense of self, and an inner compass that no, doesn't allow them to conform as the video narrates. What the video narrates about being born a sigma then fully turning into a beta is truly inaccurate. Being a sigma (or alpha, gamma, etc.) isn't a life phase. You don't lose your main traits (or instincts). Either you have them or you don't.
@@manuandrade2484i early childhood traumatized sigmas lost themselfes. There are different results by different treatments. And eyery sigma is different. There are no identic sigmas.
I've turned my people pleasing into getting people to like me and wanting to make me happy instead. Everything can be a weapon if you're skilled enough. Uno reverse that shit!
It’s been a long journey. I have grown so much in the past 5 years! My relationship to Christ has lead to my redemption! I am so blessed to have found the light and not let the devil get his way and have me take my own life feeling so alone! It’s my superpower! This helped me a lot! I’m glad it was placed on my feed! I used to be a people pleaser! Never again!!
You have it the other way around Your parents emotional detachment caused the damage and made you a 'sigma'. Its a survival thing and it's not always beneficial
@@jenster29 Indeed, in one way it turn out in a good way, actually I should be thankful to my parents for their detachment that made me strong and brought little Lioness inside me in the early age. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 😊👍
It’s because we have lost our memories from being scapegoated in childhood. I’m so badly damaged and had no clue. Now that I remember everything my entire life makes sense why I never fit in. Why I drank. The extreme sorrow in my blood and bones that hung on to me like a rocks and chains. I was the fool to magician. Alchemized all the trauma brutal beaten by the entire family. No one cared. No one stopped them. Behind closed doors anything was allowed. And I was the punching bag. Sigma is the split. You ar e beautiful and strong despite the trauma. I didn’t see the abuse nor did I show the world. I am an enigma too myself even. But I brought the Split to a close. And reconciling the entire life of the character I was playing. Reactive programmed and desperately trying ti get back to the truth. To Self. I am the one self. Now the narcs should be afraid of me. I have control of both hemispheres of my brain. I see them I see right through them.
Well Sigma females would terrify female narcissistic women especially. The narcissist female can't get a read on us because we don't fit into any molds.
At my age 41 I discovered I was a sigma damaged but 7 years ago I went in a journey of discovering myself, but it took my mothers passing to remove the vail and leaving a toxic person I feel proud to be a sigma female even though I am still a little damaged but healing takes time and I know you can not rush things in life but to work on them and I am a mother to a young sigma and I am trying not to do what has been done to me
Me too. I’m resistant to this kind of stuff usually but there’s a lot I identify with here so…….maybe I’m sigma like. Damn shame about the bot narrator
I can relate..I too only knew that I was a lone wolf didn't fit in with my family of origin..had to survive alone and grew to love it as I thrived as I broke away from other people's expectations of me. I validate me and my higher power does this as well, which is all the validation I require 🎉
I am obviously one after all my research i now know im not stupid and could never figure out why i "wasn't normal " per my families inability to understand me. I must say that i always felt the parents seemed very jealous of me and tried to put me "in my place" my whole life. They knew i was smart but were embarrassed because of it. Its so infuriating to look back at how and why i was verbally and emotionally abused. I was the only child in the whole family of adults who didnt understand me and too self absorbed to try. They never saw my worth and made it clear early on that was how it would be to be seen and not heard. Such a shame they never knew who i would become or did anything to encourage me along my life.
Thanks again for understanding us, Sigma Female, I resonate with you 💯. I was raised by my malignant narcissistic mother, the same as my father than came my sister a grandious narcissist, my childhood was hell back and forth with out love and comprehension of any kind I was the scapegoat of the family and friends and the idiot, my father called me dogmeet and I loser like everyone else, my son's father has a narcissist, many years after a married a narcissist who lied to me mirroring me the whole two years so I could marry him, after that he took off his mask and showed me his real self and wow!!!!!!! He was like a demon, my son is a psychopath narcissist who hates me with all his guts. I left everyone of them and moved to another continent and never looked back, today I am happy, have new friends and a met a man who is an empath and we are happy together, of course when I left I was very sick mentally and fisicaly, I have been in treatments for 8 years now and I am getting there, doing very well.
My mother has my gratitude. Even though my father passed away only a month ago, I am grateful for all the struggles you underwent to raise me and my siblings to provide for all of our needs. I miss you, papa. ❤❤🌹🌹❤❤
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It wasn’t my Mother, it was my Dad!!! Until he died at 99 I still had to lie & act as if I loved him to suit his ego! Now I am free of that but the trail of emotional destruction he left behind still remains! I fear it’s too late now.
I can relate to this so well, my parents weren't that challenging but every other individual around me tried their best to subdue intellectually and mentally. We are easily misunderstood for what we are not.... We r calm, we are not gullible as society needs us to be hence we are considered witches of the time a stubborn, bad ass.
This feels like it was written about me. I imagine many of us feel this way. My Mom was never mean to me, but she was also a damaged Sigma raising me, so she was emotionally exhausted. Her ex-husband was the one who was abusive. I'd essentially get made fun of at school, then go deal with getting put down by her ex. It shapes you into becoming uncomfortably aloof. I hope to break the generational trauma as much as I can and be vulnerable with my kids, and, above all, apologize for mistakes so they know adults make them too. No perfect person ever has existed.
Thanku for this video. It's helping what a whole lifetime has been searching for. I'm working on being a big positive impact for others who have unanswered questions
Same here, and I'm 74. I always thought the 50's were a powerful age, the body is still obedient, much can be achieved. I celebrate you. We've been through so much to gain what we have now.
This is me to a "T". I was raised to do as I was told, please everyone around me, never say "no" to any request or demand. I was made to fear anything outside of my parents way of thinking or believing. I was never asked what I was feeling or thinking. I was isolated and lonely. My marriage wasn't much better. I am free of all that now and I have spent the last 13 years trying to figure out who I am and what I want from life. I've been on a spiritual journey which has helped great deal. Learning about the Stoic principles has been life changing thanks for these teachings
I'm definitely a sigma but none of this has ever happened to me because I am who I am and if no one likes it, well that's just too bad for them! I suspect my mother is a sigma too and fully understood how to raise me to be myself. Thank Jesus!
I was reading my father's science fiction books aged 7..... my headmaster phoned my mother and told her that I couldn't read and was stupid..... hahahahahaha she went to my bedroom and brought the book that I was was reading.... his response was: we'll see.... he called me into his classroom and gave me king James bible to read a paragraph and another book.... I read and explained the meaning of words he asked.... thee, thou I do remember.... he told my mother: yes, your daughter can most definitely read..... from that day on.... the library was open to me during Peter and Jane boring reading time.....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I totally can relate and agree to everything that is said in this video. Sigma Females have to fight for everything, their entire life- even for love and always have to defend their place beside a partner and even inside their own family & home. Tossed away and getting replaced isn’t something rare but something getting used to like any other daily routine to keep up with your life. Me personally can’t remember a time other than find myself being pushed into a permanent state of fight & flight mode- getting betrayed, taken advantage of me, wrongly blamed & get taken into custody as a scapegoat for other people’s actions- mainly of course of people who were close to me or gotten supported by me. Justice and getting the basic human & decency of fairly treatment when it comes to medical care, official procedures, government documents- not to mention when it comes to the whole financial sector, even my inherited wealth or compensation by law doesn’t get handed out to me. BUT… I’m still standing my ground and being thankful for what I have achieved so far, especially for these things money can’t buy. Bless all of you who are actually reading this now ❤
I agree with many of the challenges sigmas (either male or female) go through, such as how parents/family/guardians and society keep trying to control us, label us and beat us down, and how there can be severe wounds as a result, but the coping mechanisms described are not compatible with the profile. They may become quieter and more observant, isolate (as they feel like outcasts and are often led to believe that they may not have a place in the world) and even develop self-destructive tendencies. But never people pleasing and conforming. What's narrated about being born a sigma then fully turning into a beta is truly inaccurate. Being a sigma (or alpha, gamma, etc.) isn't a life phase. You don't lose your main traits, or instincts. Either you have them or you don't. And a sigma's inherent and most defining INSTINCT is to go against the grain, to rebel, to find it unbearable to conform. Even at an early age, they may not know exactly who they are, but they DO have a strong sense of self, and an inner compass that no, doesn't allow them to conform as the video narrates, even when it gets them into trouble; that is why they are rare. If they act against their nature, it's not because they believe they were wrong to do otherwise, but because they found themselves without an option; they'll do so consciously, yet will go back to their ways as soon as they have the slightest chance. You can do the inner work and adopt sigma traits (and good for you), but when you're truly one, you're first and foremost a natural non-conformist and that's a non-negotiable early on.
This video resonated with me so much, for a while, i believed i might be autistic or have adhd. I use to be a huge people pleaser, but my husband helped me out of it. I'm starting to realize why, God made me different and that's ok. I love people, but I also need personal space. I love learning about the human mind and trying to understand people. I grew up in an unhealthy home life, but I still love my parents and i know that they did their best to raise me. I am so thankful God has put me on this path of healing and helping me understand myself. I still wonder if i might be neurodivergent, but at the same time some of my "autistic" -like quirks might be purely from trauma. I hope to better understand my own brain and know what I need to be a better human and help myself become who God has meant me to be. God bless you, you are made the way you are for a reason, and its beautiful! Don't let anybody tell you otherwise!
I have always suspected I had a touch of Aspergers. I was born into a family of narcissists. I escaped, returned home to be a caregiver then started getting abused as a woman in my 50s. So a few months ago, I chose self preservation and left again.
I am a sigma female, and I only have one critique to give on this, and it is the misconception/stigma/misunderstanding of ADHD and Autism or Asperger's. The bad things in the symptoms of those disorders are actually only half of the kind of Neurodivergent they are. Especially when it comes to people with both like me and a friend of mine. There are many neutrals and positives that it gives the people with them, and those positives (& POTENTIAL positives) pretty much DESCRIBE a sigma. - deep thoughts, MANY thoughts, many deep thoughts - loyalty & compassion - high capacity for understanding & empathy - B$ detector (especially autisics. Narcissists are secretly afraid of y'all) - high perception - high intelligence - self-sufficiency - march to the beat of their own drum/free spirit - extremely creative Like I swear, almost everyone with ADHD, Autism or Asperger's, or a mix that I've met has the most sigma potential out of anyone else in the world. Some neurodivergence needs to start getting some recognition & praise. Divergence is a fancy word for being different. And EVERYONE READING THIS agrees that "different" doesn't actually mean "bad". So NEUROdivergence is just your brain being different than what is considered TYPICAL. NEUROtypical. "Normal". Sigmas CANNOT be neurotypical because they DO NOT THINK neurotypically! I was first just diagnosed with ADHD. My symptoms (negative signs) are: - Hyperactivity that gets REALLY BAD sometimes, and that includes a restless mind. - struggling to pay & keep attention - easily distracted - learning disability - caffeine and sugar are not very nice friends beyond their safe doses even as an adult - I forget a lot of things easily. I recently found out (after much skepticism and self-discovery) I also have either Autism or Asperger's. I just never showed much of the symptoms. I do definitely have social difficulties, and use to be very aggressive towards any BS I sensed in any place that didn't have authority over me. I was always weird, I repeated things I found fun, I was always a logical thinker, very creative, no one understands me except God right now (a few people are coming close), and the ways I properly express happiness, contentment, or get excitement out is childlike and animal-like. I also love to hyperfocus and gush on my special interests (anything that helps learn about & improve myself & others), it's hard for me to change routine, I keep inside more than I should, I've always preferred to walk on the front of my feet, and several others I know I'm forgetting.
That's a kind of ridiculous take. Saying all Sigmas must be neurodivergent has no basis in reality. I know many women who I would consider Sigmas and they aren't autistic or have adhd etc. It's not special to be neuro typical nor neurodivergent and has no correlation to personality types.
@@jenster29, my dear own brethren, I just GAVE a basis that is WELL within reality. I'm not sure you read my elaboration correctly. Many people (including yourself) would be surprised to learn just how many people are on the spectrum and don't seem like they are, nor are ever diagnosed. And even those that are diagnosed get treated so poorly and looked down upon so harshly, they never get to shine their wonderful potential. As I analyze your comment, You seem like one of MANY individuals who do not actually understand sigmas all that well or how to spot them, nor do you understand the autism spectrum or how to spot people who are definitely or possibly on it. So therefore, I challenge you to study EXTENSIVELY on both Sigmas, and the autism spectrum. Find any contrasts to them other than simply: "One is labeled as "a personality type" and the other being labeled as "a mental disorder". While you're doing this, also be looking for similarities. And it is very possible that the women you CONSIDER sigmas, either aren't actually sigmas, or they ARE, there are just things about them you never knew or can fathom from them. If you refuse this challenge to prove me wrong, don't worry, I won't be hurt much, that'll just tell me more about you as one of the many individuals who thinks they got me in the bag like they actually really read & properly analyzed what I said without cognitive dissonance. Not to mention I've already been in the process of writing my own study project on this, so you'll be delaying the inevitable anyway. It presents such a ground-breaking idea, (yet also mind-breaking concept,) that you'd have to be TRULY open & aware of yourself, others, and open to see & accept the B$ 99.9% of people are secretly full of. I apologize for this being a bit long and rant-like, but I hope you come to understand. Until then (if then happens), I will not waste my time in responding to you a second time.
Wish I could form a local sigma lady club and have brunch and mimosas once a month. We could make it even weirder and wear historically accurate attire (Victorian era tea party, 1950s pool party, 19th century Egyptologist, those sleek WW2 lady uniforms, classy 90s babes) -That may not be sigma female specific, might just be me 😅
I've just been crying watching this video, it's just like watching someone describe my life, I'm deeply hurt to my soul, I've spent over 30 years wondering who I really am because I've spent the better part of my life PLEASING PEOPLE! What did I gain? Betrayals, pain from same people, they just kept using me and tossing me when they were done, they hate my guts and hate my intelligence, they mock me with the slogan "Ms. Know It All!" This happens mostly when they know that I am right and can't be countered. But all this is in the past now, because from now on, I'll be the monster humanity dread, I will use and manipulate whoever makes the mistake of thinking they can come close to me, I will own myself and love myself above anyone, I come first and I don't care what damages I create in my wake.
Unfortunately my Father was a narcissist - I'm only learning and coming into my own by shaking off every label and experience forced on to me in my childhood. No more.
Thank you so much... The little girl 4 years old thinking about the big one thank you! Thinking about quantum physical thinks at 4, crying alone in the yard and hiding why from my mother asking me about my tears... Feeling so alone and misunderstood... Thank you ❤
I cannot believe i found myself and became me again. I love the way i was growing up and was bullied and called weird. I am working on myself now and stopped people pleasing as i was tought to do for people and respect which resulted in people taking advantage of me and abusing me especially in both friendships and relationships. Now i changed and people are angry bc i no longer please. I LI
My journey of healing, from an abusive upbringing, as a sigma female, started 33 years ago. After being raped for the 3rd time , I began the road of healing! I knew at age 10, that I was very different from my siblings and other children! Long before social media came up with the "Label " Sigma! So, watching this video is just part of the journey of self improvement! Thank you!
I was so quiet in kindergarten they held me back for not being socially ready. I didn’t like people my age as much as adults but I even became shy of my teachers as I have more trauma from school and peers than I ever got at home. In fact home life was pretty normal. I have always been more fascinated by my own mind than anything outside of me. Later in life I was diagnosed with ADD… without hyperactivity. Also I am not broken nor do I need to be fixed. Nothing outside of me can bother me unless I choose. All we need to do is be our authentic self’s. Nothing is broken or you wouldn’t still be here.
2:08 I have found that people who want to control you, do so because you make them feel insecure. I have noticed this from working with many low value women.
Thanks for this video seriously. I'm sigma with an ASPD w NPD traits and sadistic PD Mother that surely even today hates me and wants me destroyed and has gone about making that so but so far has not killed me but close to it a few times. I have spent seven solid years in therapy and two more years of short check ups or visits to help current life situtions. I doubt I'd still be up and living without the workdone in therapy. It's true we don't look anything at all like what we have been through. There are times when time allows me to be alone long enough to do some inner work resolving some buried past pain, I know there will be tears and anger and hate and feelings of being held out over a cliff. In gettig through the excrutiating emotions impact on my body, can and does make me look more like what I've been through. It takes me a day or two and a night of sleep to be able to relax into the internal orginization of these known and unknown deals that cause the chronic emotional pain that I do deal with everyday. I wake up eveyday not upset but where I am internlly. This is more or less automatic now but in the early days when my eyes opened I consciously checked the internal emotional status to locate where on the spectrum/scale "in the abuse" on the low end to "balanced with full self love born worthy". In the past when I have been asked what is it that makes me so different, I know exactly what it is. From life long experiences with this question, when I tell them the God's truth, I can watch their emotional and logical minds turning over and over and I can see their expressions that are reflecting the internal changes happening inside the persons listening to my truth. In the harshest portions it's so weird how every single persons physical responses to the thought processes they are experiencing hearing truths of a macabre nature are the same. The ones who hear the more complete accounts become distant from me, they are so badly affected they have no way to cope with the intensity and seeing me brings all that ish back to them and they are traumatied just trying to live with knowing someone healed as much as possiblle from a sociopathis saddistic egoist mother with intelligence above MOST people, they avoid me because out of a primordial low grade terror that evil exists and I lived with it and they knowing my mother who made me live it how both our persona's hide the fact. Both our appearances hide the facts, both our daily lives hide the fact, both of us know perfectly what to do to comply with the mothers baseline servitude necessary to have a chance for a day to go by without new harms. People just have a hard time with that. I mde a choie one day to avoid telling the answers to even persistent questions. I deided to spare people who don't really know what they are asking of me. They don't see that it is very painful to tell and it drains my energy it puts me back into the memory and my poor brain only knows reality so it exhibits the internal sympathetic responses to cope with the physicl memories of trauma storage is gone through again. Since then where I on't answer with what I know those people wak off mad or feeling manipulated they can see I'm withholding and think a variety of negative ways about me for not telling. It makes people sometimes retaliate hate compete insult and gossip about me. Those are the ones I found out the hard way that if I go ahead bc they insist knowing bc "it couldn't be all that bad" do find out it is all that bad an they are so traumtied that they believe I am a liar on all counts and go to great lengths to prove me a liar even going to my mother and confronting her. When they leave they are under her spell and I am trash to the both of them. So I myself am damned if I do and damned if I dont' There are people right now who asked or just listened to another sociopath in my life telll them whatever they can imagine and make up about me being the sociopath ego sadistic mean low life addict. He has convinced these people I am their worst enemy aand I need to be taken out i am so unfit for life and these people believe them and set about what they believe they can do to bring me to my knees suffering. Ya;; what joke y'all don't understand what it's like giving aa sadist sociopath a baby to have all alone to herself everyday for eight hours. She intended to have a baby that would worship her and love her even sacrifice her life for the love of mother. Tht didn't happen and it fueled her even more. So peope doing spells or gossiping with lies and insults will never be something over my head, mom had voo doo and very old wives tales to draw from. Also I'm not an infant now. When I was a neworn just like when you were a newborn pure and innocent and our soul/mind just came to Earth from being in the higher dimension and lived near to Creator it's genera consus that Angels nd God are communicating with the soul/mind of the baby. When near death experiences in infancty and todderhood, I choose to see this as what keeps baabys' mind/soul in direct communication with the Creator. The abuses pains have us calling out for internal help and we don't have as much trust in the Matrix and reject some of the key points that seprate us from the infant like communicating with God Angel's ancestor's guides. It keeps our minds open to the reality of the dimensions other than the third. I have seen strength proiferate in my interna steadfastness to not be defeated while not adding to the turmoil that they do attempt to spread to all my family friends co-workers to prevent a backwards path. I have my profession my children now grown and healthy educated employed completed in a way I am proud of considering what I could have been, ie just like her. I am proud that the collateral drama she wanted with very limited bc I wouldn't play. But now with being just me alone (divorced) and she is still coming at me every chance and she searches for chances IWANT MY PEACEI am tired fed completely up that I have taken the brunt of all her damaging intentions minimized the impacts, jumpped some hoops for my kids benefits. I've been patient with her and this b...h pulls out her trump card of the dog whistle theory. She programmiing me to specific words to be a trigger for reactive nearly psychosis. It's like post hypnotic suggestion. She did this last time with a text and I went nuts teting back saying shes a troll, her flying monkeys how low down and f'd she is. She sent back one text LOL gotcha now. She nay as well have published it in the news. I'm seeking a legal relief, actively.
I’m a complete enigma sigma:) Some ppl think I’m very outgoing & crazy & some think I’m a loner! lol! I’m both, as it is necessary. Loud, chaotic places actually drain me, I feel panic. When I used to drink, I actually loved it. Not now, big cities, places of so much noise & commotion, I can’t do it. As I’ve aged, raised family, I’m now a grandmother. I no longer ever entertain trying to socialize outside w most. I stay to myself & do as I wish in my own privacy. I don’t feel the need to do so any longer. The world, ppl have lost their minds. If I can be of assistance, I help. I don’t go out into this fallen world any longer w out a strong reason. Love yourself, be kind to you… no one else is going to on this earth. Self care, patience & doing for yourself is actually a beautiful thing.
The injustice suffered in the past was wrong. However it was not because you were strong, it was because you were strong, they can use you to advocate bad things! They support the worst feelings inside you. Consider all perspectives, know that learning and having empathy is great. Sure, maybe not now with probably a feeling of frustration at failure, but you learned from it 🎉🎉🎉
I am a true sigma female. I was not aware until a friend let me know what he saw in me. I find this intriguing and love to learn more about it, since I am on a path of self discovery and knowledge.
People who don't understand who we are, will never understand us. I was severely abused all my life, I was also labeled mentally ill and had ADHD WITH DISLEXIA. I WAS NEVER treated with respect or love. ❤going through hell on earth only damages our souls 💔 and hearts
I've dropped school 15 because the teacher called me out at a girl meeting and did not make friends with me. Then I partied until 19 getting on a continuing education and got a high pay job. Because I am not enjoying the manipulative environment so I went to study English then I moved to China from Canada when I was 29. I've been working on inner work for hours daily since 2017 to heal my wounds that I know there is something wrong. Thank you for the heads up to remind me who I really am. ❤
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In the age of 47, yesterday I asked myself “who am I actually, and what is my identety?” Because all my life I was called “strange” “weird” “oh its just her..” or “silly” but inside of me, from my early childhood I knew that i dont resonate with surroundings, and closest people around me. Inside, I was always curious, serious, deep thinker, wonderer, dreamer, visionery.. but outside I learned to keep my mouth shut, to don’t speek my mind and to people please. Yes, today I am realising that I growed up in toxic family and always been correlated with toxic people. With a grace of God I am healing.. Thank you for this video❤️
You are not alone. I recognise everything you write because of the toxic environment around me. The being curious, the thinking and wondering and the staying silent. Reading and expressing gratitude are helpful to me and gardening as well as sewing are wonderful things to concentrate on. Thank goodness you are healing, I’m over sixty years old my proces of healing has started a while ago but it’s never too late. Knowing there are more of us who have been there is a great support. You, and all of us healing individuals are actually a very strong and wise kind of people. We do belong after all to a very extended family!✨🌈🕊️🍀
Same here sister ,let's do this! Hugs💙
I know l'm the same way and yes toxic persons around including family 😢❤
I feel like you are my lost sister from a different mister. I will achieve level 47 here soon and still do not know who I am or my purpose, nor have I ever felt like I fit in and belonged, especially when around family. I have even moved 1000 miles from what I have known in an attempt to find myself in someway, and maybe people who I feel I belong with. I never knew this struggle would fill my whole life thus far. I will never give up on myself to find lasting true happiness and love, even if it is just myself on this journey, though I pray its not.
Autistic?
I loved being alone, and books saved me.
Books saved my life along with Journaling. My husband read my old journals and could not understand them which makes me sad.
I loved hiding in a closet with a pile of books during Summer break. Hello Sigma book lover♡.
Ever try Fent?
I just had to chew my parent out about this. They were gloating to friends that they never had to deal with kids sneaking out the house and would have beat us. I had to let them know that their mouth and them talking down on me to whomever would listen was the reason they never experienced me in my authentic entirety and why they still don't know me today. Imagine thinking you were a great parent because you did what you were supposed to do financially but never emotionally connected to your child to get to know them.
Sis!!! Maannnnn I wish there was a way for ALL of US to connect outside of social media to have that safe space to discuss these topics UGH
@@divathedivinegoddess8001 let's do it! Because some parents should have stayed alone instead of connecting to conceive and folks like us need to know we are worthy because we're here period. Not because our parents loved us or didn't love us.
That's my experience also. My parents played their stereotypical roles (dad was breadwinner and mum was housewife) but they had absolutely no interest in me as a person. I would often look at them and think they were robots.
I was either irrelevant or they were intensely angry at me for being a bad person - which, as a child, I never understood. In retrospect, I think they were angry at me because they had either made up some garbage in their own head about me or, more likely, they had been brainwashed with gossip by my narcissistic older brother.
@@heathergrahame9647 wow. It's crazy to me that some parents don't take the time to understand their own personal little creations but are so critical and in the same breath don't have the patience or desire to actually teach or raise up that creation in a way that they will be proud of. My mom used to always believe everyone's opinion of me and it used to hurt me so bad that she thought the worst of me and treated me like I wasn't hers.
@@earthtonosh That's really sad
I feel that a lot of the way a Sigma female is introverted and seeks no validation can be from growing up with a parent that is self-absorbed. A parent who always seeked validation from her children and everyone else. When a person grows up like that, they want to hide from the world because they realize that is not what life is all about. They realize at a young age that beauty stems from within, and they cultivate their inner beauty through deep solace and prayer. In doing this, they develop great humility because they realize beauty comes from within and not from outside validation.❤
Amen 🙏
Definitely 😉🇧🇷
Well said. Thank you!
Beautiful synopsis 🙏🦋
At my age 43 I discovered I was a sigma damaged but 3 years ago I went in a journey of discovering myself. I feel proud to be a sigma female I am not longer damaged
Your divorce to a guy named paul is not that deep
I would have been burnt at the stake, if I had lived in de 15 century. In this life, I’m often exhausted. Apparently I just don’t seem to understand how to be a normal human being, in the eye of other people. Don’t know how it is to be treated as one. Knowing there are more of my kind is a great comfort, thank you❤
You DID LIVE IN THE 15th century and MANY of us were burnt on the stake ... 😔
The corrupt Rom. Catholic Church couldn't allow the truth to be revealed by women (and men) who were visionaries and who were advocating that we DO NOT NEED an intermediary between ourselves and God.
We can fin God by looking INSIDE us.
That's a very uncomfortable truth (for the cursed church).
@@helgardhossain9038yeah most of the people burnt was for using nautral medicinal remedies and it had nothing to do with god or religion
Yep
Yeah. I would have been burnt at the stake or at minimum Joan of Arc type situations in the past. Badly damaged Sigma 💔 issues are why I decided to become a Psychologist at age 10.
Witches and black cats kind of former Sigma females
“People always form an impression of them” - how many times have you heard ‘when we first met I thought you were a b!tch’ ?
❤💯😑 This!
Literally said to me every friendship...
😅😂😂😂😂 who cares? We are outspoken and we damn well know who we are. Men chose us.
@@debrakoski7410Love your attitude!
These Sigma female videos make me wonder how someone can talk about my life with such accuracy without having ever known me 😅
"Find serenity in embracing what is within your control."
"Fart on my face"
-StoicValuesyt1
I really needed this thank you. 20 years and it's not gotten easier, I'm tired
Wow. You hit the nail on the head about everything. 50 years, and im just now thinking that i was forced to change my identity. Everything you said except for the vengeful part is spot on. I was just thinking this yesterday morning when i was journaling. It was an A Ha moment.
As a 53 year old Sigma female, this video sent me into orbit. It pisses me off that I am just now recognizing all of the (basically) abuse I endured as a child. I've been unpacking and breaking the proverbial 'generational curses' over the last 4 years. Ironically, as someone with ADHD, my parents would never have even thought of taking me to see someone about it. They punished me for 'acting out'. Which I clearly was not doing, they just tried to stifle me. This is some heavy stuff here. I was held back from GATE because they felt I would 'get a bigger head' if I was put in those classes. I was already 'too smart for my own good.' I prided myself on being smart, why was that so bad? They held me back from sports for the same reason. I am just shaking my head here. Thankfully I have stepped into my own light now and fully embrace what it means to be a 'Sigma Female'. Thank you for making this. I hope it enlightens women like myself who need to know that what they've endured wasn't their fault. Stay the course, sisters! Love and light. xoxo
same story here! sending you the prayers for freedom of expression , that you always deserved
I'm proud of you, you've been through a lot of shit and you're strong!
Right here with you. Healing and growing more into my truest self for a better life. 🎉
@@sarahfrasher3513 Thank you! 🙏
@@storiedtbh Abso fricken lutely! :) thank you!
I was around 6 when I had a dream that EVERYONE I knew were monsters in people suits. I thought my mom might be a person, but I couldn't be sure. I knew that I couldn't let anyone know that I was actually a little girl and not a monster, or they would eat me. I didn't realize just how insightful that dream really was until about 7 years ago. I've pretty much decided that my mom isn't a monster, and that she actually protected me from a monsterous world for as long as I would let her.
My mother was a narcissist. From an early age I was beaten into submission but by my teen years, I morphed into defiance and repeatedly put into psychiatric facilities and I became the scapegoat and was deemed responsible for every bad thing that my mother experienced. I left home at age sixteen followed by years of abusive personal relationships and more than a couple marriages. I was reeled back in by a controlling mother but with a clear goal in mind. I still held my ground to some extent which meant having to endured the backlash but I knew that if I could outlive her, I would be in a free and secure position in my later years. The gamble paid off and today I live a wonderful solitary life, where I'm truly free to pursue my own interests and be my authentic self. It did not come without a cost but I now have a wonderful life and a little heaven-on-earth into my golden years and much truer to myself than I could ever have been before. It wasn't easy but I am now where I always longed to be
This made me cry. There is healing in tears.
I am too tired to cry but I am glad you feel the strength and ability to do so freely.
I am told being tired is a sign of great internal change. I've cried a river of hot tears, there are none left. Different is ok. We know this
I farted violently to this comment
@@KieranDude-lv7bf lay off the broccoli
In my case, being the scapegoat of my narcissistic mother, my first bully, it's not that I wanted to be unattached, I was rejected by everyone but if someone was nice to me, the cook, a girlfriend, she got rid of them. I learned not to bring friends to their home.
It seems I fit into this category and the INFJ but I'm not so introverted, my real self is extroverted and outgoing but I have learned I get pick on by narcissists and nowadays, I'm trying to unlearn all of my coping mechanism and my mother's indoctrination. I'm in no contact and relief 😮💨
Yes INFJ females can crave a social life. We are the most extroverted of all of the Myers Briggs introvert types. We are not introverts OR extroverts.
@@solutions4tenants141
Thanks for your answer. I always wonder if I'm introvert or extrovert. I enjoy good company and crave it but I don't find people to whom I can be myself without them making me feel like an 👽.
Right! @@Lyrielonwind
"trying to be different"
Who was ever trying?
I know really 😂😂
I am trying to be different to myself just to be a people pleaser to everybody. And now I can't remember WHO I AM.
@@betula-pendula i learned a while ago that if i make it my job to avoid giving others anxiety by just being myself, i only end up giving myself anxiety.
If i'm doing it to avoid feeling their anxiety and it causes me to have my own, why not just let them feel theirs, instead?
If you speak truth and you know it is truth but just speaking it gives you anxiety, remember it isn't your anxiety: it's that of the people who were benefitting from you holding your tongue.
Namaste 💜🙏🏽🕊️
@@crptnite those are wise words.
Yes it's true, being people pleaser is to avoid making them angry or feeling anxious. (being angry is just the next step if someone wants to hide that he is anxious, in my opinion.)
Exactly!
Thanks a lot❤ It feels amazing when somebody u haven't even seen knows u better than people around u🙂
😅😂😂😂 idiots
I cannot explain how relieving it is to watch and understand a video that describes me perfectly. I have begun to peel back the layers of myself in the discovery of the real me, confront others, speak up more, and find self-satisfaction as to why I love being "smart but different." Thank you for introducing me to me. Lots of work to do, but I love me more than ever b4. It's OK to be different and weird, to think differently from everyone around you, and be alone but loving your silence ❤
You are helping to free others that are ready to understand the "why's" of life no one could explain. Keep it up and THANK YOU.
SAMEEE!! Good luck to you on your self-discovery journey fellow sigma sista 😘❤🔥❣
100% ❤
Yep.
'Breaking the cycle takes long' it resonates so much!
Oh my gosh if only i could have heard this message when i was young... so many wasted years believing there was something wrong with me and doing everything to just survive. Because thriving was just always going to be out of the question. 😢
I hope there are many young sigma women watching this.
I am 48, it has taken me literally half a century of copying with all described in this video and more. Tough lessons that just now are serving me to open my eyes and finally put all those limits I should have used decades ago. One thing I am noticing is that suddenly even my mother like me less and many seem surprised to see the real me. it can turn into a lonely journey, but I am grateful that my freedom has come and I have the voice today to stand up and stop pleasing everybody as the good girl that puts her last in her priority list. Thank you for a great video ❤
I'm 74yrs old. Took me this long. So happy you are young!
I was docile as a kid and I always ignored my intuition till I was 30 y.o
Oh This is so true that i am at the verge of crying 😭 i am having a depressing about this almost 4 years and NOW all pieces came together ...
I CAN'T BELİEVE
Whew Lord the accuracy of this is impeccable💯
All I can say is WOW! I just found out recently that not only am I ‘highly sensitive’, and empathic, and an INFJ, but I’m also a Sigma female. It’s been freeing to find this out. I was raised by a
Narcissistic mother who is still in my life today and fakes her ‘sweetness’. Anyway. I’m so grateful for this stunningly well done video. Thank you so much ❤ I would also love to chat with other Sigma females (I don’t know any) so if you’d like to chat and are a sigma, please post a comment.
I am a SIGMA female, and there are certain things about this video I agree with, but I am going to speak up and be honest, lots of it is either just poorly worded, or just plain wrong. We do not just submit and do what we are told, we go against the grain of society's ridiculous expectations and stereotypes, and we remain true to ourselves because we realize that no matter what we do, the majority are not going to approve... and that right there is incredibly liberating! We do go through all the challenges you mentioned, and then some, but we are the strongest of all personality types and we love ourselves regardless of what other people think about us, and we only grow even stronger because of the challenges. We have a mind of our own and we put it to good use by thinking for ourselves even though we think differently than others... It's one of the things about ourselves that we love and a quality we value most...I am proud to be a SIGMA female.🎉
Absolutely
Its referring to DAMAGED sigma females
@@jenster29 even damaged sigmas (either male or female) can't help but to go against the grain. They're natural non-conformists, and whatever happens doesn't change that. They may grow quieter and more observant, and even isolate, but not more compliant. Even at an early age, they may not know exactly who they are, but they have a strong sense of self, and an inner compass that no, doesn't allow them to conform as the video narrates. What the video narrates about being born a sigma then fully turning into a beta is truly inaccurate. Being a sigma (or alpha, gamma, etc.) isn't a life phase. You don't lose your main traits (or instincts). Either you have them or you don't.
Badass 🌹🔥
@@manuandrade2484i early childhood traumatized sigmas lost themselfes.
There are different results by different treatments.
And eyery sigma is different.
There are no identic sigmas.
I've turned my people pleasing into getting people to like me and wanting to make me happy instead. Everything can be a weapon if you're skilled enough. Uno reverse that shit!
It’s been a long journey. I have grown so much in the past 5 years! My relationship to Christ has lead to my redemption! I am so blessed to have found the light and not let the devil get his way and have me take my own life feeling so alone! It’s my superpower! This helped me a lot! I’m glad it was placed on my feed! I used to be a people pleaser! Never again!!
Get it, sis!!! God is so good, I am right with you! Stay strong and keep your head high ❤️
Yep. No more people pleasing because the time we get here is short.
God is sooooo good! I love you Sigma sister in Yeshua Christ. You are a rare unicorn 🦄.
I akways stood up.for myself . Cant change me!
100%
❤ I also always stood up for others like me, as well as myself. Still do
As a result, they are emotionally detached frm their parents frm the early age.😊
You have it the other way around
Your parents emotional detachment caused the damage and made you a 'sigma'. Its a survival thing and it's not always beneficial
@@jenster29 Indeed, in one way it turn out in a good way, actually I should be thankful to my parents for their detachment that made me strong and brought little Lioness inside me in the early age. Thanks for sharing your thoughts 😊👍
This explains so much and really helps me to understand why I am who I am.
When one morning you open your YT page after a lifetime of thinking no one understands you only to discover some one DOES.
I'm not damaged enough to be vengeful, but I definitely don't indulge in remorse if I've been pushed to stand up for myself.
This must be why I heard more "shut the f*ck up"s than "I love you"s to date 😂
It’s because we have lost our memories from being scapegoated in childhood. I’m so badly damaged and had no clue. Now that I remember everything my entire life makes sense why I never fit in. Why I drank. The extreme sorrow in my blood and bones that hung on to me like a rocks and chains. I was the fool to magician. Alchemized all the trauma brutal beaten by the entire family. No one cared. No one stopped them. Behind closed doors anything was allowed. And I was the punching bag. Sigma is the split. You ar e beautiful and strong despite the trauma. I didn’t see the abuse nor did I show the world. I am an enigma too myself even. But I brought the Split to a close. And reconciling the entire life of the character I was playing. Reactive programmed and desperately trying ti get back to the truth. To Self.
I am the one self. Now the narcs should be afraid of me. I have control of both hemispheres of my brain. I see them I see right through them.
Its not about ‘sigma’ female, its about anyone who suffered childhood narcissistic abuse.
Well Sigma females would terrify female narcissistic women especially. The narcissist female can't get a read on us because we don't fit into any molds.
Thank you…. This is so true… best wishes to you…😊
At my age 41 I discovered I was a sigma damaged but 7 years ago I went in a journey of discovering myself, but it took my mothers passing to remove the vail and leaving a toxic person I feel proud to be a sigma female even though I am still a little damaged but healing takes time and I know you can not rush things in life but to work on them and I am a mother to a young sigma and I am trying not to do what has been done to me
I never knew anything about sigma females until I watched your videos.
Thanks for helping me know who I really am .
Me too. I’m resistant to this kind of stuff usually but there’s a lot I identify with here so…….maybe I’m sigma like. Damn shame about the bot narrator
I can relate..I too only knew that I was a lone wolf didn't fit in with my family of origin..had to survive alone and grew to love it as I thrived as I broke away from other people's expectations of me. I validate me and my higher power does this as well, which is all the validation I require 🎉
I am obviously one after all my research i now know im not stupid and could never figure out why i "wasn't normal " per my families inability to understand me. I must say that i always felt the parents seemed very jealous of me and tried to put me "in my place" my whole life. They knew i was smart but were embarrassed because of it. Its so infuriating to look back at how and why i was verbally and emotionally abused. I was the only child in the whole family of adults who didnt understand me and too self absorbed to try. They never saw my worth and made it clear early on that was how it would be to be seen and not heard. Such a shame they never knew who i would become or did anything to encourage me along my life.
Thanks again for understanding us, Sigma Female, I resonate with you 💯. I was raised by my malignant narcissistic mother, the same as my father than came my sister a grandious narcissist, my childhood was hell back and forth with out love and comprehension of any kind I was the scapegoat of the family and friends and the idiot, my father called me dogmeet and I loser like everyone else, my son's father has a narcissist, many years after a married a narcissist who lied to me mirroring me the whole two years so I could marry him, after that he took off his mask and showed me his real self and wow!!!!!!! He was like a demon, my son is a psychopath narcissist who hates me with all his guts. I left everyone of them and moved to another continent and never looked back, today I am happy, have new friends and a met a man who is an empath and we are happy together, of course when I left I was very sick mentally and fisicaly, I have been in treatments for 8 years now and I am getting there, doing very well.
My mother has my gratitude. Even though my father passed away only a month ago, I am grateful for all the struggles you underwent to raise me and my siblings to provide for all of our needs. I miss you, papa. ❤❤🌹🌹❤❤
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Sure, I do not know the face behind these videos but all that I've watched on sigma females seem to be describing me😢.
Sure, I do not know the face behind these videos but all that I've watched on sigma females seem to be describing me😢.
It wasn’t my Mother, it was my Dad!!! Until he died at 99 I still had to lie & act as if I loved him to suit his ego! Now I am free of that but the trail of emotional destruction he left behind still remains! I fear it’s too late now.
I can relate to this so well, my parents weren't that challenging but every other individual around me tried their best to subdue intellectually and mentally. We are easily misunderstood for what we are not.... We r calm, we are not gullible as society needs us to be hence we are considered witches of the time a stubborn, bad ass.
I have never felt as seen as this video made me feel. Thank you ❤
Speechless to the Truth of Life unveiled here, so amazingly.
Thank u!!! Before u talked a lot about a feeled developed kind but this one resonates too!!
…so so true!!! Thank you for this video!
I feel pretty powerful right now.
If I had a daughter, I wouldn't want her any other way 💪🔥
Yes!🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
We have self love. We don’t need people and that is power. 🙏 thankful to God 🇺🇸
I think I am a Sigma female.I has a lot of hurts especially from father, supress my identity
This feels like it was written about me. I imagine many of us feel this way. My Mom was never mean to me, but she was also a damaged Sigma raising me, so she was emotionally exhausted. Her ex-husband was the one who was abusive. I'd essentially get made fun of at school, then go deal with getting put down by her ex. It shapes you into becoming uncomfortably aloof. I hope to break the generational trauma as much as I can and be vulnerable with my kids, and, above all, apologize for mistakes so they know adults make them too. No perfect person ever has existed.
Just a parentified daughter growing up
Thanku for this video. It's helping what a whole lifetime has been searching for. I'm working on being a big positive impact for others who have unanswered questions
Thank YOU.... Thank YOU.... Thank YOU.... Thank YOU!!!!
im at this stage now at 51......im badly damaged by others mental emotional abuse from my own sisters narc abuse and gossip and partners
Same here, and I'm 74. I always thought the 50's were a powerful age, the body is still obedient, much can be achieved. I celebrate you. We've been through so much to gain what we have now.
This is me to a "T". I was raised to do as I was told, please everyone around me, never say "no" to any request or demand. I was made to fear anything outside of my parents way of thinking or believing. I was never asked what I was feeling or thinking. I was isolated and lonely. My marriage wasn't much better. I am free of all that now and I have spent the last 13 years trying to figure out who I am and what I want from life. I've been on a spiritual journey which has helped great deal. Learning about the Stoic principles has been life changing thanks for these teachings
Our parents were wrong. So we moved out. Everyone loved my rebel ways. So fun to be free.
I'm definitely a sigma but none of this has ever happened to me because I am who I am and if no one likes it, well that's just too bad for them! I suspect my mother is a sigma too and fully understood how to raise me to be myself. Thank Jesus!
I was reading my father's science fiction books aged 7..... my headmaster phoned my mother and told her that I couldn't read and was stupid..... hahahahahaha she went to my bedroom and brought the book that I was was reading.... his response was: we'll see.... he called me into his classroom and gave me king James bible to read a paragraph and another book.... I read and explained the meaning of words he asked.... thee, thou I do remember.... he told my mother: yes, your daughter can most definitely read..... from that day on.... the library was open to me during Peter and Jane boring reading time.....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I totally can relate and agree to everything that is said in this video.
Sigma Females have to fight for everything, their entire life- even for love and always have to defend their place beside a partner and even inside their own family & home. Tossed away and getting replaced isn’t something rare but something getting used to like any other daily routine to keep up with your life.
Me personally can’t remember a time other than find myself being pushed into a permanent state of fight & flight mode- getting betrayed, taken advantage of me, wrongly blamed & get taken into custody as a scapegoat for other people’s actions- mainly of course of people who were close to me or gotten supported by me.
Justice and getting the basic human & decency of fairly treatment when it comes to medical care, official procedures, government documents- not to mention when it comes to the whole financial sector, even my inherited wealth or compensation by law doesn’t get handed out to me.
BUT… I’m still standing my ground and being thankful for what I have achieved so far, especially for these things money can’t buy.
Bless all of you who are actually reading this now ❤
This is not sigma, it is trauma
I love this video and definitely resonate. Much love and gratitude 🙏
I agree with many of the challenges sigmas (either male or female) go through, such as how parents/family/guardians and society keep trying to control us, label us and beat us down, and how there can be severe wounds as a result, but the coping mechanisms described are not compatible with the profile. They may become quieter and more observant, isolate (as they feel like outcasts and are often led to believe that they may not have a place in the world) and even develop self-destructive tendencies. But never people pleasing and conforming. What's narrated about being born a sigma then fully turning into a beta is truly inaccurate.
Being a sigma (or alpha, gamma, etc.) isn't a life phase. You don't lose your main traits, or instincts. Either you have them or you don't. And a sigma's inherent and most defining INSTINCT is to go against the grain, to rebel, to find it unbearable to conform. Even at an early age, they may not know exactly who they are, but they DO have a strong sense of self, and an inner compass that no, doesn't allow them to conform as the video narrates, even when it gets them into trouble; that is why they are rare. If they act against their nature, it's not because they believe they were wrong to do otherwise, but because they found themselves without an option; they'll do so consciously, yet will go back to their ways as soon as they have the slightest chance.
You can do the inner work and adopt sigma traits (and good for you), but when you're truly one, you're first and foremost a natural non-conformist and that's a non-negotiable early on.
thank you for this!!!!
This video resonated with me so much, for a while, i believed i might be autistic or have adhd. I use to be a huge people pleaser, but my husband helped me out of it. I'm starting to realize why, God made me different and that's ok. I love people, but I also need personal space. I love learning about the human mind and trying to understand people. I grew up in an unhealthy home life, but I still love my parents and i know that they did their best to raise me. I am so thankful God has put me on this path of healing and helping me understand myself. I still wonder if i might be neurodivergent, but at the same time some of my "autistic" -like quirks might be purely from trauma. I hope to better understand my own brain and know what I need to be a better human and help myself become who God has meant me to be. God bless you, you are made the way you are for a reason, and its beautiful! Don't let anybody tell you otherwise!
I have always suspected I had a touch of Aspergers. I was born into a family of narcissists. I escaped, returned home to be a caregiver then started getting abused as a woman in my 50s. So a few months ago, I chose self preservation and left again.
I can NEVER take the word sigma seriously 😂
Yeah, I would prefer something like Tiger Queen or Burnt Black Diamond princess. Lol
I am a sigma female, and I only have one critique to give on this, and it is the misconception/stigma/misunderstanding of ADHD and Autism or Asperger's. The bad things in the symptoms of those disorders are actually only half of the kind of Neurodivergent they are. Especially when it comes to people with both like me and a friend of mine. There are many neutrals and positives that it gives the people with them, and those positives (& POTENTIAL positives) pretty much DESCRIBE a sigma.
- deep thoughts, MANY thoughts, many deep thoughts
- loyalty & compassion
- high capacity for understanding & empathy
- B$ detector (especially autisics. Narcissists are secretly afraid of y'all)
- high perception
- high intelligence
- self-sufficiency
- march to the beat of their own drum/free spirit
- extremely creative
Like I swear, almost everyone with ADHD, Autism or Asperger's, or a mix that I've met has the most sigma potential out of anyone else in the world. Some neurodivergence needs to start getting some recognition & praise.
Divergence is a fancy word for being different. And EVERYONE READING THIS agrees that "different" doesn't actually mean "bad". So NEUROdivergence is just your brain being different than what is considered TYPICAL. NEUROtypical. "Normal".
Sigmas CANNOT be neurotypical because they DO NOT THINK neurotypically!
I was first just diagnosed with ADHD. My symptoms (negative signs) are:
- Hyperactivity that gets REALLY BAD sometimes, and that includes a restless mind.
- struggling to pay & keep attention
- easily distracted
- learning disability
- caffeine and sugar are not very nice friends beyond their safe doses even as an adult
- I forget a lot of things easily.
I recently found out (after much skepticism and self-discovery) I also have either Autism or Asperger's. I just never showed much of the symptoms. I do definitely have social difficulties, and use to be very aggressive towards any BS I sensed in any place that didn't have authority over me. I was always weird, I repeated things I found fun, I was always a logical thinker, very creative, no one understands me except God right now (a few people are coming close), and the ways I properly express happiness, contentment, or get excitement out is childlike and animal-like.
I also love to hyperfocus and gush on my special interests (anything that helps learn about & improve myself & others), it's hard for me to change routine, I keep inside more than I should, I've always preferred to walk on the front of my feet, and several others I know I'm forgetting.
💯💯💯
That's a kind of ridiculous take. Saying all Sigmas must be neurodivergent has no basis in reality.
I know many women who I would consider Sigmas and they aren't autistic or have adhd etc.
It's not special to be neuro typical nor neurodivergent and has no correlation to personality types.
@@jenster29, my dear own brethren, I just GAVE a basis that is WELL within reality. I'm not sure you read my elaboration correctly.
Many people (including yourself) would be surprised to learn just how many people are on the spectrum and don't seem like they are, nor are ever diagnosed. And even those that are diagnosed get treated so poorly and looked down upon so harshly, they never get to shine their wonderful potential.
As I analyze your comment, You seem like one of MANY individuals who do not actually understand sigmas all that well or how to spot them, nor do you understand the autism spectrum or how to spot people who are definitely or possibly on it.
So therefore, I challenge you to study EXTENSIVELY on both Sigmas, and the autism spectrum. Find any contrasts to them other than simply: "One is labeled as "a personality type" and the other being labeled as "a mental disorder".
While you're doing this, also be looking for similarities. And it is very possible that the women you CONSIDER sigmas, either aren't actually sigmas, or they ARE, there are just things about them you never knew or can fathom from them.
If you refuse this challenge to prove me wrong, don't worry, I won't be hurt much, that'll just tell me more about you as one of the many individuals who thinks they got me in the bag like they actually really read & properly analyzed what I said without cognitive dissonance.
Not to mention I've already been in the process of writing my own study project on this, so you'll be delaying the inevitable anyway. It presents such a ground-breaking idea, (yet also mind-breaking concept,) that you'd have to be TRULY open & aware of yourself, others, and open to see & accept the B$ 99.9% of people are secretly full of.
I apologize for this being a bit long and rant-like, but I hope you come to understand. Until then (if then happens), I will not waste my time in responding to you a second time.
Sigma or not..
You described EVERY CHILD HOOD in humanity!!
Thankyou. @Wisdom Ways!
So Attractive!
I grew up as a shy girl...introvert.... seemed such a bad thing
Wish I could form a local sigma lady club and have brunch and mimosas once a month. We could make it even weirder and wear historically accurate attire (Victorian era tea party, 1950s pool party, 19th century Egyptologist, those sleek WW2 lady uniforms, classy 90s babes) -That may not be sigma female specific, might just be me 😅
I've just been crying watching this video, it's just like watching someone describe my life, I'm deeply hurt to my soul, I've spent over 30 years wondering who I really am because I've spent the better part of my life PLEASING PEOPLE! What did I gain? Betrayals, pain from same people, they just kept using me and tossing me when they were done, they hate my guts and hate my intelligence, they mock me with the slogan "Ms. Know It All!" This happens mostly when they know that I am right and can't be countered. But all this is in the past now, because from now on, I'll be the monster humanity dread, I will use and manipulate whoever makes the mistake of thinking they can come close to me, I will own myself and love myself above anyone, I come first and I don't care what damages I create in my wake.
Do yourself a favour and familiarize yourself with the 7 stages of grief. Allow yourself to go through all of the stages and you will heal.
Unfortunately my Father was a narcissist - I'm only learning and coming into my own by shaking off every label and experience forced on to me in my childhood. No more.
im wrongly diagnosed with bpd
Wow. I made it to middle age without anyone seeing who I am, yet this video nailed every point in 10 min. I feel so exposed but in a good way.
Very very true concepts, I even never thought about but experienced thoroughly
Spot on ....each word describes d truth.
I'm good with me myself and I. All i need is peace, rest and nature. That are the things i need in life.
Thank you so much... The little girl 4 years old thinking about the big one thank you! Thinking about quantum physical thinks at 4, crying alone in the yard and hiding why from my mother asking me about my tears... Feeling so alone and misunderstood... Thank you ❤
I cannot believe i found myself and became me again. I love the way i was growing up and was bullied and called weird. I am working on myself now and stopped people pleasing as i was tought to do for people and respect which resulted in people taking advantage of me and abusing me especially in both friendships and relationships. Now i changed and people are angry bc i no longer please. I LI
My journey of healing, from an abusive upbringing, as a sigma female, started 33 years ago. After being raped for the 3rd time , I began the road of healing! I knew at age 10, that I was very different from my siblings and other children! Long before social media came up with the "Label " Sigma! So, watching this video is just part of the journey of self improvement! Thank you!
I was so quiet in kindergarten they held me back for not being socially ready. I didn’t like people my age as much as adults but I even became shy of my teachers as I have more trauma from school and peers than I ever got at home. In fact home life was pretty normal. I have always been more fascinated by my own mind than anything outside of me. Later in life I was diagnosed with ADD… without hyperactivity.
Also I am not broken nor do I need to be fixed. Nothing outside of me can bother me unless I choose. All we need to do is be our authentic self’s. Nothing is broken or you wouldn’t still be here.
2:08 I have found that people who want to control you, do so because you make them feel insecure. I have noticed this from working with many low value women.
I am blessed to overcome all those thing healing myself ,, freeing myself .💃
Thanks for this video seriously. I'm sigma with an ASPD w NPD traits and sadistic PD Mother that surely even today hates me and wants me destroyed and has gone about making that so but so far has not killed me but close to it a few times. I have spent seven solid years in therapy and two more years of short check ups or visits to help current life situtions. I doubt I'd still be up and living without the workdone in therapy. It's true we don't look anything at all like what we have been through. There are times when time allows me to be alone long enough to do some inner work resolving some buried past pain, I know there will be tears and anger and hate and feelings of being held out over a cliff. In gettig through the excrutiating emotions impact on my body, can and does make me look more like what I've been through. It takes me a day or two and a night of sleep to be able to relax into the internal orginization of these known and unknown deals that cause the chronic emotional pain that I do deal with everyday. I wake up eveyday not upset but where I am internlly. This is more or less automatic now but in the early days when my eyes opened I consciously checked the internal emotional status to locate where on the spectrum/scale "in the abuse" on the low end to "balanced with full self love born worthy".
In the past when I have been asked what is it that makes me so different, I know exactly what it is. From life long experiences with this question, when I tell them the God's truth, I can watch their emotional and logical minds turning over and over and I can see their expressions that are reflecting the internal changes happening inside the persons listening to my truth. In the harshest portions it's so weird how every single persons physical responses to the thought processes they are experiencing hearing truths of a macabre nature are the same. The ones who hear the more complete accounts become distant from me, they are so badly affected they have no way to cope with the intensity and seeing me brings all that ish back to them and they are traumatied just trying to live with knowing someone healed as much as possiblle from a sociopathis saddistic egoist mother with intelligence above MOST people, they avoid me because out of a primordial low grade terror that evil exists and I lived with it and they knowing my mother who made me live it how both our persona's hide the fact. Both our appearances hide the facts, both our daily lives hide the fact, both of us know perfectly what to do to comply with the mothers baseline servitude necessary to have a chance for a day to go by without new harms. People just have a hard time with that. I mde a choie one day to avoid telling the answers to even persistent questions. I deided to spare people who don't really know what they are asking of me. They don't see that it is very painful to tell and it drains my energy it puts me back into the memory and my poor brain only knows reality so it exhibits the internal sympathetic responses to cope with the physicl memories of trauma storage is gone through again. Since then where I on't answer with what I know those people wak off mad or feeling manipulated they can see I'm withholding and think a variety of negative ways about me for not telling. It makes people sometimes retaliate hate compete insult and gossip about me. Those are the ones I found out the hard way that if I go ahead bc they insist knowing bc "it couldn't be all that bad" do find out it is all that bad an they are so traumtied that they believe I am a liar on all counts and go to great lengths to prove me a liar even going to my mother and confronting her. When they leave they are under her spell and I am trash to the both of them. So I myself am damned if I do and damned if I dont' There are people right now who asked or just listened to another sociopath in my life telll them whatever they can imagine and make up about me being the sociopath ego sadistic mean low life addict. He has convinced these people I am their worst enemy aand I need to be taken out i am so unfit for life and these people believe them and set about what they believe they can do to bring me to my knees suffering. Ya;; what joke y'all don't understand what it's like giving aa sadist sociopath a baby to have all alone to herself everyday for eight hours. She intended to have a baby that would worship her and love her even sacrifice her life for the love of mother. Tht didn't happen and it fueled her even more. So peope doing spells or gossiping with lies and insults will never be something over my head, mom had voo doo and very old wives tales to draw from. Also I'm not an infant now. When I was a neworn just like when you were a newborn pure and innocent and our soul/mind just came to Earth from being in the higher dimension and lived near to Creator it's genera consus that Angels nd God are communicating with the soul/mind of the baby. When near death experiences in infancty and todderhood, I choose to see this as what keeps baabys' mind/soul in direct communication with the Creator. The abuses pains have us calling out for internal help and we don't have as much trust in the Matrix and reject some of the key points that seprate us from the infant like communicating with God Angel's ancestor's guides. It keeps our minds open to the reality of the dimensions other than the third. I have seen strength proiferate in my interna steadfastness to not be defeated while not adding to the turmoil that they do attempt to spread to all my family friends co-workers to prevent a backwards path. I have my profession my children now grown and healthy educated employed completed in a way I am proud of considering what I could have been, ie just like her. I am proud that the collateral drama she wanted with very limited bc I wouldn't play. But now with being just me alone (divorced) and she is still coming at me every chance and she searches for chances IWANT MY PEACEI am tired fed completely up that I have taken the brunt of all her damaging intentions minimized the impacts, jumpped some hoops for my kids benefits. I've been patient with her and this b...h pulls out her trump card of the dog whistle theory. She programmiing me to specific words to be a trigger for reactive nearly psychosis. It's like post hypnotic suggestion. She did this last time with a text and I went nuts teting back saying shes a troll, her flying monkeys how low down and f'd she is. She sent back one text LOL gotcha now. She nay as well have published it in the news. I'm seeking a legal relief, actively.
Read me to filth. I feel so exposed.
I’m a complete enigma sigma:) Some ppl think I’m very outgoing & crazy & some think I’m a loner! lol! I’m both, as it is necessary. Loud, chaotic places actually drain me, I feel panic. When I used to drink, I actually loved it. Not now, big cities, places of so much noise & commotion, I can’t do it. As I’ve aged, raised family, I’m now a grandmother. I no longer ever entertain trying to socialize outside w most. I stay to myself & do as I wish in my own privacy. I don’t feel the need to do so any longer. The world, ppl have lost their minds. If I can be of assistance, I help. I don’t go out into this fallen world any longer w out a strong reason. Love yourself, be kind to you… no one else is going to on this earth. Self care, patience & doing for yourself is actually a beautiful thing.
I wonder how many sigmas are or were dumped in the care system.
The injustice suffered in the past was wrong. However it was not because you were strong, it was because you were strong, they can use you to advocate bad things! They support the worst feelings inside you.
Consider all perspectives, know that learning and having empathy is great. Sure, maybe not now with probably a feeling of frustration at failure, but you learned from it 🎉🎉🎉
Whoa ... so so good. Sooo accurate.
Thank you so much I ❤❤❤❤❤ this video and cannot thank you enough. This is my breakthrough and descreibes me to a T
I am a true sigma female. I was not aware until a friend let me know what he saw in me. I find this intriguing and love to learn more about it, since I am on a path of self discovery and knowledge.
Relatable. I found true love. You can rise above this!
People who don't understand who we are, will never understand us. I was severely abused all my life, I was also labeled mentally ill and had ADHD WITH DISLEXIA. I WAS NEVER treated with respect or love. ❤going through hell on earth only damages our souls 💔 and hearts
I've dropped school 15 because the teacher called me out at a girl meeting and did not make friends with me. Then I partied until 19 getting on a continuing education and got a high pay job. Because I am not enjoying the manipulative environment so I went to study English then I moved to China from Canada when I was 29.
I've been working on inner work for hours daily since 2017 to heal my wounds that I know there is something wrong.
Thank you for the heads up to remind me who I really am. ❤
I see. Thank you.
My spiritual gifts sometimes put me in danger. I am on the path of healing and licking my tiger wounds. Thank you for this valuable information. 🐅
I felt TRIGGERED because a lot of this was my childhood. I was put on Ritalin as a child for example.