OP’s mother in the Story 1 never actually wanted to reconcile with him, she just wanted closure and to feel better about herself, the fact that she retracted the opportunity to ever see her again from OP rather than let him decide shows she never considered his feelings at all, and she apparently never bothered to correct any of the lies she spread about OP
Story 3 - Can someone please explain to me why family members believe that they can dictate what happens at a soon-to-be in-law's wedding? That is not only entitled, it reeks of a dangerously-controlling family dynamic.
Imagine that they got to pick out their wedding dresses, but OP has to cow to their demands! As soon as he called her those nasty names, I would have called off everything. 😡
Story #1: OP's father may have struggled with addiction, but, it's pretty clear that the mother is no angel, herself. No contact means no contact. OP's mom cut him out of her life purely out of spite, so she doesn't get to walk it back just because he turned out to NOT be a loser junkie.
At the end of the day, eventually the kids will know. Telling them at 6 however is not productive at all, just an excuses to justify forcing a relationship on the family's timeline and not the mother.
It wasn't really resolved. OP's mom spread lies about her son to the entire family. Then the Mom never bothered to correct the lies to the extended family. Mom never told the truth that the Son didn't "abandon" her. That the truth is her son visited 4 to 5 times a week. She never told the family the truth.
@@TheBigExclusive It was still resolved quickly. Sure the issue of all the lies told were never resolved but the mother and said made their peace and left on good terms and that’s good enough for me
24:45 the minecraft guy should replace the trap doors with a block and then put the trap doors on that block to give it depth, as he was trying to do with the fences
Story 3, it's really kind of gross that sis wants her brothers gf to wear her wedding dress, and even more disgusting that the brother is so upset gf doesnt want to wear it that he starts screaming and insulting his gf. Like dude if you want to marry your sister just say so and quit dragging innocent girls into it
Story 1: Mother’s new husband might not have been as great as the son thought. “Mother said she was having relationship problems with John.” HUH…maybe the “relationship problems” started up again when the mother tried to contact her son again…wonder WHY!!
No its stupid to hold on to those memories when your parents genuinely tell you you're going to fail. You can tell when they mean it. OPs mom has a lot of nerve reaching out and changing her mind and goes it show shes the same selfish person she was all those years ago
1) she choose to cut you off, as she insulted you without any valid reasoning, so she only cares about how they can have grandkids, she doesn't need you, only because she would be lonely afterwards 2)NTA she is dumb because she was basically traumatising 6 years old, and possible negatively effect them, your mother was dumb when she invited a rude narcissist, all of your family was horrible 3)NTA your finace was self and rude if he loved you then he would let you be yourself and not insult you for have a choice on your special day,
I agree. At bare minimum, she needs to be on probation. This is a problem that happened way before OP even met his wife. So on this situation, she needs to stay in her lane unless she's asked for advice.
OP’s mother in the Story 1 never actually wanted to reconcile with him, she just wanted closure and to feel better about herself, the fact that she retracted the opportunity to ever see her again from OP rather than let him decide shows she never considered his feelings at all, and she apparently never bothered to correct any of the lies she spread about OP
And the most hating thing is she did all what she wanted and got away with It, of i was OP i wold yell at her for her selfish behavior
Story 3 - Can someone please explain to me why family members believe that they can dictate what happens at a soon-to-be in-law's wedding? That is not only entitled, it reeks of a dangerously-controlling family dynamic.
Because they care only about themselves
Imagine that they got to pick out their wedding dresses, but OP has to cow to their demands! As soon as he called her those nasty names, I would have called off everything. 😡
Story #1: OP's father may have struggled with addiction, but, it's pretty clear that the mother is no angel, herself. No contact means no contact. OP's mom cut him out of her life purely out of spite, so she doesn't get to walk it back just because he turned out to NOT be a loser junkie.
Story 2 I heard this one before. They are only six years old. They're to young to know about that kind of stuff.
At the end of the day, eventually the kids will know. Telling them at 6 however is not productive at all, just an excuses to justify forcing a relationship on the family's timeline and not the mother.
Story 1: A story like this where everything gets resolved quickly?! Impossible!
It wasn't really resolved. OP's mom spread lies about her son to the entire family. Then the Mom never bothered to correct the lies to the extended family. Mom never told the truth that the Son didn't "abandon" her. That the truth is her son visited 4 to 5 times a week. She never told the family the truth.
@@TheBigExclusive It was still resolved quickly. Sure the issue of all the lies told were never resolved but the mother and said made their peace and left on good terms and that’s good enough for me
Story 2: OP letting her mother have any time around her kids after her mother let her SA’d is disgraceful.
Huh story one ended better then I thought it would ngl
24:45 the minecraft guy should replace the trap doors with a block and then put the trap doors on that block to give it depth, as he was trying to do with the fences
Story 2 :
OP = NTA
to OP’s Egg Donor and bio-sibling = FAFO ; 👌🎻👌🎻👌
Story #3 "Ever since the wedding plans, he changed."
He thinks OP is committed enough now that he can let the mask slip.
Story 3, it's really kind of gross that sis wants her brothers gf to wear her wedding dress, and even more disgusting that the brother is so upset gf doesnt want to wear it that he starts screaming and insulting his gf.
Like dude if you want to marry your sister just say so and quit dragging innocent girls into it
Story 3 RUN
Story 1: Mother’s new husband might not have been as great as the son thought. “Mother said she was having relationship problems with John.” HUH…maybe the “relationship problems” started up again when the mother tried to contact her son again…wonder WHY!!
Wife was in the wrong to push op to see his nc mom
No its stupid to hold on to those memories when your parents genuinely tell you you're going to fail. You can tell when they mean it. OPs mom has a lot of nerve reaching out and changing her mind and goes it show shes the same selfish person she was all those years ago
What kind of family sides with a mother because he chose to stay with the father?
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1) she choose to cut you off, as she insulted you without any valid reasoning, so she only cares about how they can have grandkids, she doesn't need you, only because she would be lonely afterwards
2)NTA she is dumb because she was basically traumatising 6 years old, and possible negatively effect them, your mother was dumb when she invited a rude narcissist, all of your family was horrible
3)NTA your finace was self and rude if he loved you then he would let you be yourself and not insult you for have a choice on your special day,
Story one OPS is stupid
story 1: i would have made wife into ex wife
I agree. At bare minimum, she needs to be on probation. This is a problem that happened way before OP even met his wife. So on this situation, she needs to stay in her lane unless she's asked for advice.
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