Marriage is not a life-support system - Singleness is not life-threatening | Benjamin Zulu

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  • Опубликовано: 30 ноя 2024

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  • @SwitchTVKenya
    @SwitchTVKenya  4 года назад +6

    Do not forget to subscribe to our RUclips channel.. Click here to subscribe -- ruclips.net/user/switchtvkenya

  • @Miss_Greatness
    @Miss_Greatness 4 года назад +55

    I see Benjamin Zulu I click😀he should write a book. We learn a lot from him🇿🇦🇿🇦🇿🇦

    • @drfaithkilonzo
      @drfaithkilonzo 3 года назад +1

      Gotcha 😁 Click away 😂

    • @pm1647
      @pm1647 3 года назад +1

      AyiloBaba he must vist South Africa honestly

  • @collinsregeru8951
    @collinsregeru8951 4 года назад +98

    This guy is the King Solomon of our generation in terms of wisdom.

  • @perryovercommer1562
    @perryovercommer1562 4 года назад +54

    Finnaly... A man that speaks the truth and the reality life.

  • @reubenbokea5459
    @reubenbokea5459 4 года назад +48

    Benjamin. Fix the society. A fixed man is a fixed society.

  • @jenipherachieng9837
    @jenipherachieng9837 4 года назад +27

    I am a lady and I have this lazy syndrome,caused by prolonged struggles and a series of bad luck,any thing i try to do it never tuns out well .My parents n family have supported me but even them they feel theyve reached a dead end,Outside i always have this smiley face but within am fed up with this life.It has even gotten to an extent of me fearing to be in a relationship cause I feel i'll never be enough for any guy out there, and has even made me push away even the ones who have good intentions.But after listening to this i wont give up just yet.Let me keep the faith.

    • @chilyn5
      @chilyn5 4 года назад +1

      Please don’t give up. Keep on pushing on, challenges will come, don’t beat yourself up if things don’t go according to plan. Just persevere and keep on 🙏🏽

    • @jenipherachieng9837
      @jenipherachieng9837 4 года назад

      @@chilyn5 thanks for the encouraging words.

    • @Tinx.
      @Tinx. 4 года назад

      @ The bigger The Better, you are brave for sharing your struggle. Keep your head up & prosper. Best regards!

    • @dorothyanyango2197
      @dorothyanyango2197 4 года назад

      It is good that you know what the problem is. It is the first step to change. Just keep on fighting

    • @masharyah6897
      @masharyah6897 4 года назад +1

      First step to healing is the acknowledgement of the suffering. Be encouraged my sister

  • @serahm8207
    @serahm8207 4 года назад +4

    Benjamin has really helped to move out of love drama n the idea of love n relationship being a life supporting machine which is absolutely not!thank you @fullcircle for this

  • @joycemiracle1588
    @joycemiracle1588 4 года назад +31

    Don't marry with a compromise on serious things; marriage is not a life support system and singleness is not life threatening

  • @thedisciplinedtrader2024
    @thedisciplinedtrader2024 4 года назад +10

    I keep saying this. This man is wise beyond his years.

    • @claireg388
      @claireg388 3 года назад +1

      Hi gal. Claire here from UNHCR :-)

    • @thedisciplinedtrader2024
      @thedisciplinedtrader2024 3 года назад +1

      @@claireg388 omgosh such a small world lol. Hop u gud. I love Benja

  • @janetnairuba442
    @janetnairuba442 4 года назад +21

    I have see and continuing seeing that thing through my dad to make even worse my brothers are also just as like him. The efforts that my mum has to put it's sad and sickening at the same time

  • @zamashezi8497
    @zamashezi8497 4 года назад +3

    "Never say u are bored u need to check in and engage" 💯 thanks Benji

  • @keziahmwangi9920
    @keziahmwangi9920 4 года назад +23

    Aki Benjamin Zulu should come more than once a week..Tuanze petition if need be. #IfikieSwitchtv

  • @winnienalwimba6202
    @winnienalwimba6202 4 года назад +19

    The truth in this mmmmm...I always enjoy how you address issues realistically, calling a spade a spade... Listening from Zambia

  • @tiffanycampbell9562
    @tiffanycampbell9562 4 года назад +9

    Hello from Jamaica!!!! I love your show and I absolutely LOVE Benjamin Zulu! Please hail him up for me and I love the work that you guys are doing! Nuff love! :)

  • @isaaclenzi2353
    @isaaclenzi2353 4 года назад +8

    Benjamin Zulu your really a blessing in africa. Kenya may God bless you ,you and Joice

  • @otienojush6415
    @otienojush6415 4 года назад +51

    Who is this guy... How come I have never tuned him to his shows... I just read about him on a face book group and Ooooh my Gawd.... I will never miss his interviews

    • @asakhecuntsulana8033
      @asakhecuntsulana8033 4 года назад +11

      Benjamin Zulu is God sent to unveil the misconception in relationships. The nation of Benjamin in the Bible exists and I believe he is a descendant of them.

    • @josephineakumu878
      @josephineakumu878 4 года назад +9

      Welcome to wisdom corner my brother. You're not so late. Just search for his videos both on his RUclips channel and switch TV. Benjamin has GREATLY Impacted my life and I can't wait for the upload always.

    • @caramel9244
      @caramel9244 4 года назад +5

      Indeed Benjamin is great & we r lucky that his sharing his wide wisdom with us. God bless u Benjamin & may God continue using u & taking u to greater heights 🙌🏾

    • @shiishiro9574
      @shiishiro9574 4 года назад +4

      He is the light sent to this generation..a gem💎

    • @dorcuskencey6816
      @dorcuskencey6816 4 года назад +3

      Betterer late than ever....most of us I've sunk deep in this channel. I've learnt alot about r/ships coz of him

  • @caramel9244
    @caramel9244 4 года назад +14

    My favorite show now! Thank u Benjamin & Joyce. Benjamin u should surely get your own show, u totally deserve it!👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾😍 May God continue using u & taking u to greater heights...🙌🏾

  • @sofi1672
    @sofi1672 4 года назад +2

    Anytime I come on this channel, I look for Mr.Zulu. He’s amazing, great mentor and very transparent. 🙂

  • @richauntie316
    @richauntie316 4 года назад +25

    Always representing UGANDA 🇺🇬💓💓💓

  • @faithombeva7801
    @faithombeva7801 4 года назад +46

    Dear Mr Benjamin if u kill us with the truth ,plz come for burial too🤣🤣🤣,am I alone dying for this truth??

    • @twoten2547
      @twoten2547 4 года назад +1

      We are many dying😂😂😂😂how can one even realign to the right path?

    • @faithombeva7801
      @faithombeva7801 4 года назад +2

      @@twoten2547 if u follow this man advice ,we can save many lives

    • @nyaucimuoria2787
      @nyaucimuoria2787 4 года назад +1

      😂😂😂humuorus hard truth.

    • @judith7964
      @judith7964 4 года назад +3

      His truth can send someone to ICU, He dissects everything we overlook

    • @nakamijunic5844
      @nakamijunic5844 4 года назад +1

      You are also doing same 😅😅😅

  • @ebbykerubo95
    @ebbykerubo95 4 года назад +2

    Salute to you guy's Joyce our host and our great guest Hon.Benjamin.nice topic

  • @yvetteebot302
    @yvetteebot302 3 года назад

    Thank you Mr Zulu for your wisdom. I have experience what you said about trusting our parents blindly. Am in Dubai . I did send money home to my mother for a business because I wanted to have a business running back home. Four months later there wasn't any business and there wasn't any money. And alot of people go through this because we want to honour our parents.

  • @dorcuskencey6816
    @dorcuskencey6816 4 года назад +11

    Talking about people working abroad and sending money home....🤔 I get you loud and clear..... My first contract in middle East was awesome I saved money and bought plot for myself but this 2nd round....mm..... *wachatu!* It's been like every month I've to send money till I regret coming over here but *last month* was the end of me sending them MONEY I just want to cater for my kids needs and school fees and focus on how to development on that plot that I bought.
    My brother is also among the men you are talking about... *he is just there,confused like ever,he doesn't know which way to go,the worst part he has kids and wife and he can't handle his responsibilities until my mum has to step in. Our parents divorced and my dad remarried... Since then life changed. I learnt I need to be a strong woman and work until things work my way and not to stop at anything.

  • @patriciaarach9374
    @patriciaarach9374 4 года назад +2

    Thanks Joyce And Bejamin. I can see u are mostly using English for those of us who can't understand Swahili. We appreciate.

  • @anne-mariekosh5010
    @anne-mariekosh5010 4 года назад +3

    This Benjamin dude is brilliant and wise. I like the things he says.

  • @tecklersmith2304
    @tecklersmith2304 4 года назад +10

    I truly treasure my Grandpa n grandma..the most hard-working people I know

  • @Ndaps1
    @Ndaps1 4 года назад +2

    Benjamin Zulu telling it like it is, his conversations are always authentic 👌🏾

  • @bamidiamond
    @bamidiamond 4 года назад +2

    So much sense spoken here! Much admiration!

  • @sarahsmrdal7094
    @sarahsmrdal7094 4 года назад +24

    Poverty mentality. Say it again. One day I also went to a group of disabled street beggers to help them by lending them soft loans to do business. They all had excuses of how they are unable to work. But they were busy producing children left & right. I was puzzled. But now I know its the poverty mindset.

  • @Zaharawakasa-cz6vy
    @Zaharawakasa-cz6vy 6 месяцев назад

    Thank you benji i think this is what i needed to hear

  • @philipwaita5946
    @philipwaita5946 4 года назад +2

    True everything changed when my dad passed on....still healing

  • @Bee-wd4mh
    @Bee-wd4mh 4 года назад +6

    Clicked on it immediately I saw Zulu’s name😊

  • @julietmahlangu8775
    @julietmahlangu8775 4 года назад +4

    My heart always sobs for father and son relationship, I hope one day things will turn. I'm raising two boys without a father figure I'm always asking God to intervene in raising them.

    • @huldahgideon7250
      @huldahgideon7250 4 года назад +1

      Invite your brothers (their uncles) to occasionally visit and straighten things out

    • @isabelomolo8853
      @isabelomolo8853 4 года назад +1

      Please find positive male figures to mentor them

  • @itsneshonly
    @itsneshonly 4 года назад +5

    Hello Benjamin, I come from that kind of family and I see sense in what you're saying. I'm a lady in my 30s and that has affected my life in alot of ways. I've tried to shape my life but I end up in conflict with myself. I've reached a point where I feel I may need help

  • @minkrasi
    @minkrasi 4 года назад +5

    Modelling value of hard work is so crucial...

  • @harrietacquah2545
    @harrietacquah2545 3 года назад

    I'm a woman who is very driven. A go getter and constantly improving myself. Life is an adventure for me so there's no way I can be with a man who lacks life. That will dampen my energy...in other words putting my life in coma and I will not allow it. If you are not a man who is not committed to your growth, don't come knocking on my door.

  • @mercymimi4022
    @mercymimi4022 4 года назад +1

    I totally relate with this topic. I wish Full Circle could last longer. The conversations gets interesting only to realize that you have 2 min

  • @charitypawandiwa8429
    @charitypawandiwa8429 4 года назад +1

    Retraining my mind to abundance - its a mindset. Thanks

  • @DianahKepha
    @DianahKepha 4 года назад +6

    Ofcourse I couldn't miss this,,my all time show

  • @kinamogaka
    @kinamogaka 4 года назад +2

    Great advice, that's why we keep it real on our channel.

  • @catherinenjoroge703
    @catherinenjoroge703 4 года назад +2

    Oh i truly love this!!!!! thanks Benjamin and Joyce

  • @margaretmuguru9651
    @margaretmuguru9651 4 года назад +2

    I like this. No hiding our heads in the sand!

  • @dianahvuyanzi1600
    @dianahvuyanzi1600 4 года назад +17

    Waw that's true benjamin I have seen my dad ,he is there all efforts comes from my mum since I was born until now am almost 22yrs I respect my mum totally bt that's sad i hope I will not meet guy with that habbity🙏🙏🙏

  • @MrZim263
    @MrZim263 4 года назад +4

    A real man should rise to the occasion, to be a role model to his son.... Thank you Benjamin. Joyce you are great too!

  • @prosperlilian1371
    @prosperlilian1371 4 года назад +3

    Wisdom on double lanes. Please Joyce let him address poverty mentality next time please

  • @franciscakanini1859
    @franciscakanini1859 4 года назад +1

    Wow what a rich conversation, I love it there are people who don't care about Tomorrow, they want to feel good today tomorrow will take care of itself, others it's because of copy pasting other peoples life

  • @anastaciambelete4048
    @anastaciambelete4048 4 года назад +3

    It happens actually very common in most homes men when they are dissapointed quickly and give up

  • @MJ-uj4dr
    @MJ-uj4dr 4 года назад +13

    Joyce, what was wrong today? You seemed down and particilarly critical of Benjamin this episode.
    Benjamin, always the star of the show! You had some real gems on submission going both ways...conditioning for survival, not success....and singleness not being life threatening!

    • @Ubepati
      @Ubepati 4 года назад

      She is allowed to have a bad day you know, when she is not always bubbly and laughing!!!

    • @nakirembekabrenda4977
      @nakirembekabrenda4977 4 года назад

      She's not well today.

  • @reubenbokea5459
    @reubenbokea5459 4 года назад +8

    The modern man is actively pursuing Passivity. The slow but sure road to destruction

  • @MrMosesomondi
    @MrMosesomondi 4 года назад +1

    Wow, I love this. Thank you Benjamin

  • @MrZim263
    @MrZim263 4 года назад +3

    I will never be bored again!

  • @AbaitheyBeauty
    @AbaitheyBeauty 4 года назад +1

    First time hearing him and I’m already a fan

  • @africanloveletter1988
    @africanloveletter1988 4 года назад +1

    Wow Zulu... Good one my brother.. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

  • @judykiondo
    @judykiondo 4 года назад +4

    Thanks Zulu and joy learning alot

  • @famelitech
    @famelitech 4 года назад +5

    Being born in the coastal region can also make one very lazy; I'm just thinking loud.

  • @justusmwesiga6723
    @justusmwesiga6723 4 года назад +1

    I will always apologise whenever I miss out to be live on ur programs.

  • @Herhealingtouch6683
    @Herhealingtouch6683 4 года назад +9

    Joyce you not your jolly self today ....pray all is well with you

  • @wambuijage7693
    @wambuijage7693 4 года назад +5

    I see most people who have commented are ladies.....how I wish this somehow got to the man. We really need to mentor the man in society!!!! The women hear this and run with it, but my worry is??......how many men watch this? Are we reaching the man??

    • @melmel7011
      @melmel7011 4 года назад

      The lazy man won't care much about gathering information to better their livelihoods. You won't find them in such channels. They only watch stuff for entertainment.

    • @sylviawangila9438
      @sylviawangila9438 4 года назад

      The problem with they don't usually watch such talk they will get to youtube and go watch footable while they are the one to fix the society bcz they carrying the generation

  • @NJOKIYULEMMOJA
    @NJOKIYULEMMOJA 4 года назад +3

    Thank you Benjamin 💝

  • @susanwangui4181
    @susanwangui4181 4 года назад +2

    That's the worst man to be lack of ambition and self drive

  • @liliankamara4208
    @liliankamara4208 4 года назад

    You're such a wise man please write a book

  • @phillsnafuna5962
    @phillsnafuna5962 4 года назад

    l love this show good job Benja and joyce.

  • @esthermumbi3598
    @esthermumbi3598 4 года назад +4

    This man is so wise..

  • @lillzlillz7132
    @lillzlillz7132 4 года назад +1

    Thank you what an eye opener.....

  • @tandiesthandy7528
    @tandiesthandy7528 4 года назад +2

    Morning team..Grace Wololo!!😂💞 I like it

  • @sharonnasambu6753
    @sharonnasambu6753 4 года назад +2

    You always hit it zulu

  • @leelashammy
    @leelashammy 4 года назад

    Heeh for once Joyce amesongwa 😁😁 still look stunning 🤗🤗❤️

  • @elizabethwangui8592
    @elizabethwangui8592 4 года назад +2

    Loving the show

  • @rachealkibaiya7593
    @rachealkibaiya7593 4 года назад +6

    Yes,submission is both ways

  • @rentspaceke5309
    @rentspaceke5309 4 года назад +3

    Wow impressive topic

  • @charitypawandiwa8429
    @charitypawandiwa8429 4 года назад

    Conditioned to survival and not to success.

  • @SylviahandRichard
    @SylviahandRichard 4 года назад +3

    I totally agree

  • @rachelwanjiru4106
    @rachelwanjiru4106 4 года назад +1

    This is great wisdom.

  • @sharonkathini9419
    @sharonkathini9419 4 года назад +8

    Sure some men's are harmless and useless .I agree

  • @magdalenewanjala6957
    @magdalenewanjala6957 4 года назад +2

    Awesome show.

  • @emilyadhiambo5707
    @emilyadhiambo5707 4 года назад +1

    I cant miss any episode

  • @numbernon6779
    @numbernon6779 4 года назад +1

    Very true Benjamin, some men are lazy

  • @margretwangari2066
    @margretwangari2066 4 года назад

    He's talking the truth,my husband was that sleeping human ,am seeing them stupid behaviors to my son GOD forbid

  • @Candydelight1
    @Candydelight1 4 года назад +1

    Very interesting and with less publicity it would be better.

  • @alicemueni3745
    @alicemueni3745 4 года назад +2

    Truth truth, and it has become a trend nowadays, lazy lazy men , comfortably depending on a woman, how now?? What's the solution to this pandemic?

  • @sarahsmrdal7094
    @sarahsmrdal7094 4 года назад +3

    The problem alot of these lazy men , can be passive aggressive. Its heavy for a woman to tolerate. Its better if they can support the woman.

  • @jacklineokiya9030
    @jacklineokiya9030 4 года назад

    Lazy men is real. We had them as our fathers, brothers and maybe unfortunately our spouses.

  • @bridgetkerubo622
    @bridgetkerubo622 4 года назад +3

    I love the show and it's my favorite

  • @bemoheltraveller
    @bemoheltraveller 4 года назад

    Lesson learned sir .

  • @lizzyshayo209
    @lizzyshayo209 4 года назад

    Lets watch pastor Chris Oyakhilome too...for revealing of christ Jesus!!

    • @pepsdvj24
      @pepsdvj24 4 года назад +4

      This is true. But these things are happening in the church also and no one is addressing it. 80% of divorce is in the church. God speaks through different vessels not just pastor Chris.

    • @harrietacquah2545
      @harrietacquah2545 3 года назад

      But this site is not for Pastor Chris. If you want to listen to him, why not go to his videos?

  • @jostinajuma6036
    @jostinajuma6036 4 года назад

    Benjamin am looking for connection in counseling psychology

  • @charleswachira7386
    @charleswachira7386 11 месяцев назад

    Hapa kumeharibika ❤😢😮

  • @winnersneeddiscipline4926
    @winnersneeddiscipline4926 4 года назад +2

    Leave boredom to the children, ❤

  • @assmanhadi3907
    @assmanhadi3907 4 года назад

    Thanks a lot Benjamin and Joyce for the wonderful message. Be blessed always 😘😘😘😘😘✍️✍️✍️✍️👌👌👌👌

  • @wanyanateddy2090
    @wanyanateddy2090 4 года назад

    That's why we separated with my ex

  • @zoe1870
    @zoe1870 3 года назад

    Drive slowly in fog but don’t stop or else you stay in the fog forever😳

  • @alphyzqrw7222
    @alphyzqrw7222 4 года назад +1

    Vijana wa kupaka cutex muache tabia mbaya kuangalia mapaja ya wanawake

  • @balancedviewpoint7418
    @balancedviewpoint7418 4 года назад +3

    Benjamin you are a great mentor no doubt. You stir and impact many hearts positively. You also need superior mentorship from those coaches that have experience in marriage front. I like you so much as a coach but fear that at later stages of life you may be caught up in the usual challenges of marriage.
    Coaching and reality especially in marriage are not always the same. In marriage you must experience it to understand it. Even the most acclaimed pastors, Archbishops or priests have failed. Be taking time to seek guidance and counselling from superior experienced men like us. Remember, a traffic police officer knows all the laws and traffic acts but many never own cars. The best teachers in school often have the academic failures in their children;The rich also cry; To be born in riches doesn't translate to riches in their journey. A great man like you should live your talk and practice what you speak. Its known that many teach water and drink wine.
    Benjamin, that gift and wisdom of knowledge you have, nurture it and always listen to wise counsel like what I have told you above. I care about you sir and wish you the very best in your life a head. You touch many hearts daily. Kudos man.

    • @nothandovilakazi5496
      @nothandovilakazi5496 4 года назад +5

      First few sentences and negative energy>>red flags.. No to negativity ⛔️🚩🚩
      Him being a coach has nothing to do with his marriage.. You need to heal!

    • @twoten2547
      @twoten2547 4 года назад +2

      What do you think he has dealt with the wrong way??

    • @Ubepati
      @Ubepati 4 года назад +6

      What makes you think he isnt living what he is preaching? You obviously havent watched most of his videos otherwise you would know better than to speak that way!

    • @nothandovilakazi5496
      @nothandovilakazi5496 4 года назад +3

      @@Ubepati exactly bbe, this marriage is sweet person has unresolved issues with themselves... we don’t need such negativity here, Benjamin is great at what he’s doing.

    • @tommylove7
      @tommylove7 4 года назад +7

      I think you're a low key pessimist and using assumptions to justify your thoughts. BZ always provides the Psychological perspective of situations which very few people are able to do.

  • @KADEMTHEFOURTH
    @KADEMTHEFOURTH 4 года назад +3

    ❤❤

  • @janenyambura966
    @janenyambura966 4 года назад

    benjamin, please school these men...

  • @Tshepiso.
    @Tshepiso. 4 года назад

    Also Mr Benjamin, a hormonal imbalance in men. Too much estrogen.

  • @princesskinuthia8788
    @princesskinuthia8788 4 года назад +1

    👏👏

  • @hellenwanjiku167
    @hellenwanjiku167 4 года назад

    Comfort zone

  • @jemimadiananjenga.1076
    @jemimadiananjenga.1076 4 года назад +2

    The adverts...

  • @ciomarongoKarwirwa
    @ciomarongoKarwirwa 10 месяцев назад

    Dear Joyce, you interrupted Zulu when he was addressing a very important issue...addition to remaining married.... addiction to staying in dysfunctional relationship. You should have left him to address the issue. You are still young and an advocate of status quo.