I recently found out that I have a very impulsive personality and ever since I have tried to rearrange my life and rethink my entire lifestyle and hoping to progress. I do have major depressive disorder, ocd and anxiety so I guess they also have had a role in my impulsiveness.
Just like you!! I 've recently succeeded to manage and reduce my impulsivity. My recipe is : 1.Running 2.being offline (especially off social media) 3. Short term Goal setting 4.Anything that has to do with facing pain voluntarily (like working out, having a cold shower). The more I embrace these habits the less impulsive I become
Sensation seeking impulsivity.. thats a very common theme in my life.. often ending up with negative consequences.. yet when the urges manifest once again its like i focus solely on the positives and dismiss the negative completely.. and the cycle continues.. 😞
When I was manic with my first bipolar episode I was incredibly impulsive. I chose to chase every train of thought that popped into my head. I walked around my apartment building naked, explored the city streets at night after sleeping three hours, saw a homeless man sleeping in the park and laid beside him to keep him warm. Eventually I ended up in the hospital and spent a week before being released to outpatient care. The meds have me stable now, but I often think I'm overly conscientious as a result of limiting my impulsivity.
That’s what they’re for. If you like ASMR then you can put on 1 of his looooong playlists & sleep to the sound of his voice & you might accidentally learn stuff too
Yep, I agree. It's amazing how well life can go until a person does something impulsive. It has at least been useful for me to realize that I never ever make a good decision if it's based on any sort of strong emotion. It reduced the number of such instances but it doesn't seem to have gotten rid of them yet.
This is the kind of mental health channel that we all should be watching! I struggle with impulsivity... this was informational and left me feeling like I gained knowledge about myself without feeling a negative way towards myself.
I have big5 conscientiousness around 75 and stability around 30. I believe these have opposing / counter-balancing affects on impulsivity. I develop visual reminders and rituals/habits to combat inattention. I have a small sculpture that I move to remind myself that my ancient oven without an on light or automatic off mechanism isn't left on. Perseverance is sometimes a struggle that I fight off with goal setting into smaller mini-goals. I wind up outperforming coworkers and fellow students even though I have to work at it. I am quite risk-adverse and very resistant to gambling, substance abuse, and casual sex even though I experience pressure from others in these areas. Stuff gets taken care of but there can be delays and struggles and it isn't smooth or easy.
❤ One of the few channels that cover the construct impulsivity with the four facets (personality traits). 1. Urgency positive / negative (type of emotions acted on) 2. Lack premeditation 3. Lack of perseverance 4. Sensation Seeking (excitement/ risky behavior) And how important the concept is in the mental health area ❤
I rarely comment, but I need to say thank you Dr Grande. Your insights are precisely what I need to bolster my empathic tendencies to align with the wounded warrior I strive to be. Your generosity is inspiring and I share your videos regularly!You obviously take considerable time out of your life to make such thoughtful, informative and empowering videos. I am humbled and hopeful as well as compelled to make maximum use of this information so that I can become part of the solution in my own time and way. Thank you most sincerely.
Thank you Dr! I find impulsivity one of the hardest things to deal with. How to turn off the fight and flight response! Consistent practice makes perfect. It's amazing how something as simple as deep breathing for a few minutes can help one calm down.
Thank you for your Video, I am a Disabled Veteran with PTSD and TBI with and my impulsiveness ruined my relationship (it was two contributing factors from both of us). I knew my behavior was rough and I just lost 70 lbs from 400 to 330 also my BFF who was a girlfriend the past 6 months was affected by my behavior. We did not know how to handle each other after realizing the issues at hand and it was a horrible experience. I know that I need help in my Serotonin levels. Thank you for your Video. USA NAVY Veteran 1985-1993.
Fascinating! I started wondering about impulsivity as it's something I've seen in everyone and wondered if it had a function or purpose separate from emotions. After all, why do we have impulsive urges? Doing some reading and listening to your lecture, I now see that impulses are a disconnect between the environment and the feeling. In particular I can experientially confirm that urgency is the underlying common denominator regardless of its external positive or negative presentation. Having grown up in a family with two members with bipolar disorder, two gambling addicts, and two suicides (and several other disorders on top of these), seeing normal emotional regulation -- and interacting with people capable of healthy emotional regulation -- is virtually completely foreign to my experience. My childhood was sudden moves, sudden financial losses, sudden financial gains, sudden losses of pets, and emotions that were off the charts or entirely absent. It's no wonder I find such solace in deeply cerebral occupations, such as philosophy, linguistics and logic, or in delightfully physical diversions, such as hiking or hockey. The former keeps me from confusing emotional situations and rewards curiosity and the latter celebrates healthy impulsivity through novelty and the pure pleasure of no two seconds being alike. For myself, the critical day in and day out challenge is dealing with food addiction. The impulse can literally hijack my feelings (some combination of the four triggers of disappointment, anger, boredom or loneliness) and rational regulation goes out the window. Fortunately, the many internal and external tools of 12 Step, talk therapy, and various medical quirks keep my impulsivity somewhat in check. While the pain and trauma of family abuse and abandonment during my childhood does make vulnerability to addictive disorders very likely, I can see impulsivity itself is a stand alone issue. The brain's wiring has gone amiss and can literally "overheat" in nanoseconds. Again and again I witnessed my family members make the most extreme of choices even when allegedly "sober." Perhaps the approach to treating the urgency of impulsivity is not to focus on stopping the intense desires alone but to also give the sufferer something to choose for. The energy may never go away but it can be better channeled. Thanks again for the excellent lecture. I am grateful for the insights for which I can most slowly ruminate over.
I think what I've been suffering with my whole life is the conscientiousness trait, where I have low deliberation.. which causes me to rush into things, which causes impulsivity. It's done a LOT of harm in my life.
I am 70 years old. From my experience, especially since I started playing competitive pool about 5 years ago, the brain is a biomacanical control freak organ. I will repeat the same mistake even with the intention of correcting the mistake. The pattern reaction is an impulse. Frankly I believe changing behavior takes too much energy for the brain to want to change the facilitated electrical pathways that cause our behavior. To change behavior would mean facilitating other electrical pathways. So I guess we are all impulsive, some more than others.
Comment 87: 8717 views. Comment 90 Dec 31, 9021 views.. Oswald Chambers says to hold back the impulse and you discipline it into character and it becomes something altogether different, viz., intuition. Thankyou Dr. Grande, these videos help a lot. 😃😃😃😃😀😀😃
Would you ever think of doing a video on the psychology & mental health of PROCRASTINATION? Since this is the New Years resolution time, it would be interesting to learn more about why some procrastinate more than others.
Another great video. Could you speak about PTSD and impulsivity and treatment specifically for impulsivity? I've seen a cycle of shame and impulsivity with survivors of childhood sexual abuse. In my practice, I've seen patients benefit from group work and mindfulness training. What are your recommendations for working with this population?
Thanks for the clarification! Quick question: I feel as though my impulsivity is a result of an abnormal childhood, I was pushed into academics and didn't really have a proper "childhood" - now that I'm away from my parents and school, I take risks and rush for results to "make up for lost time" - do you think this applies to people that have been released from confinement or jail in a larger way? Urgency to make up for lost opportunities or making up for lost experiences? Thanks!
Thanks for the video. I try to look at things from a spiritual perspective and as a spiritual problem but I also wanted to see the secular looks on it. I have a lot of impulsive temptations to buy stuff or move somewhere far away, etc and I wanted to see if something in the video applies better to me
i always found there to be two types of impulsivity (like not official or anything, just,,, what i’ve noticed)-immediate impulsivity and prolonged impulsivity. also imma preface this by saying that i have adhd and this is about my personal experience. immediate impulsivity is where i’ll say something i’ll usually regret a few seconds later or a few minutes later- it’s related to the urgency described in this video. with me, it’s usually when i say something but it can also be something like storming out of a situation or throwing something. it has to be a short action where i can’t think about what i’m doing in the process of doing it. prolonged impulsivity is a lot less common with me personally, but i see it in other people. it’s something that’ll take multiple steps to get to the impulse. like one time i snuck out to buy ice cream at 11:00 pm. i was like thirteen so it was dangerous- and also ik this is a pretty mild example but it’s the first one that came to my head. i had to get my shoes on, sneak out without my dad noticing, walk to the grocery store, etc. this comes a lot less often for me bc i tend to think about what i’m doing while in the process of getting to the thing i had the impulse to do. immediate impulsivity has really interferes with my life because i just say things or do small-ish things that get me in trouble or make people pissed at me. yesterday i impulsively splashed a decent amount of water on my friend because he was pissing me off. the other day i corrected one of my classmates in front of the class- it wasn’t harmful but what i corrected wasn’t super important and i regretted it later. prolonged impulsivity doesn’t affect me nearly as much. just some thoughts about impulsivity!’
REALLY GREAT video Dr.Grande, I still question if I have Bipolar except I don't have manic phases or they're really crap if I do.. I did something impulsive last year and was depressed at the time (and angry).. I didn't have anyone at home to solve what was going on in my head let alone how to deal with what was going on around me. Months after I came back ofc, not much has changed... tried to find solace and clarity with a psychologist through government funded mental health plan..I've no doubt she meant well but she focused too much on insisting I meditate and I understand her reasoning and ofc I should've tried more than I did but I strongly believe she doesn't understand how my brain works at all.. I verbalized to her that it's very difficult for me, maybe she thought I was trying to be difficult but what I wanted was for her to help me to get clarity right then and there and she didn't give me much.. Sometimes leaving me to talk too much when I'm in a certain state, can end up going around in circles or forgetting the agenda of why I'm there.. It's like she pulls this wool over my eyes and then after a few days at most I'm back to where I was before I started seeing her and I started postponing appointments with her because I wanted to make sure I'd meditated and enough before I saw her which I rarely did and ofc told her I didn't... The meditation had a lot of requirements like having to sit up, with your butt off the floor on a pillow or something etc which sounds easy but for me was a big ask because I was trying to form a habit according to how I've learned... To make it stick you start small and even better, link it in with another activity you already do if you can but for me this particular meditation doesn't allow me to start small.. On "To do" lists (love my lists)..I'll even write things I've already done sometimes as a form of motivation.
I have three boys adopted as older children from a Russian orphanage. I can see how this is the single big problem for one of my boys and just working on practical strategies to combat this is so terribly helpful. Also, for the average person. Impulsivity related to lack of perseverance would seem to be highly related to procrastination and sensation seeking might have something to do with it also. Even though procrastination does not typically get you involved in the criminal justice system it does have some serious consequences. Maybe you could leave some input on that topic. How do you work with ADHD and non-ADHD procrastinators? Also, what type of therapy works with cluster B personalities to help them regulate themselves? That would seem like that might be the focus in certain cases.
Thank you so much for adopting older children from a Russian orphanage and giving them a chance. The system here is so broken when it comes to misplaced children, orphanages are full of kids, but it's rare to be adopted, especially for older children, and the conditions/environment there are very bad. Unfortunately, many, if not most, Russian orphans who were raised in an orphanage grow up to be traumatized and involved into things like drug/alcohol abuse, criminal activities and so on. Just wanted to say that I'm happy to know at least your three boys got to have someone who cares for them and loves them. Wishing you all the best and hoping you will find ways to manage the problems you have.
I struggle silently with impulsivity and I am embarrassed by my behaviour, which makes me scared to open up about it. I have abused substances on and off for long periods and impulsively buy substances when I have very little money, but I don’t seem to care that I’m missing bills etc. but it’s not just substances that I’m impulsive about, I’m impulsive about food because I have a pretty restrictive diet aka fussy but fussy to the point of gagging if I try foods I don’t like. So I will buy take away and spend lots of money on take away as soon as I’m hungry, instead of making myself something even though I know it’s impacting me financially. That’s just a couple of examples but it impacts so much of my life and it is really embarrassing because I’m ashamed that I don’t control myself. Every day I tell myself “this is the last time I do this or that” but then it happens again, it’s like I have no willpower and the impulsive activities that I engage in feel like the only thing that give me some peace- until after I’ve fulfilled the urges and the guilt comes rushing in. And before anyone says it, I know I am really weak and just need to be strict with myself, but that’s the problem. Something just takes over and I don’t want to be like this anymore, I’m scared I’ll be like this forever
Thank you, Dr. Grande! Impulsivity in general seems to be a less than optimal response to a condition of a significant mental load due to uncertainty. I am just speculating here, but I wonder if one way of reducing maladaptive impulsivity might be something like this: 1. Acknowledge that (a hypothetical) you are in a condition of uncertainty, in which it is normal to be tempted to reduce mental load by acting out; 2. Realize - and say that to yourself, or write that statement down - that there are in fact several possible options with which to respond to most uncertain situations; 3. List some of the reasonable possible options that could be used to respond to the uncertainty and imagine what choosing each option would entail. It seems to me that simply going through this process might reduce the perceived uncertainty (and it would naturally slow things down while giving the person a specific simple task), to the extent that it would not even be that urgent to choose one of the options right away, which would thus counteract impulsive tendencies. This is just a common-sense idea, but I may be approaching a complicated problem with a cookie-cutter solution.
As a clinician do you(/have you) done research into addiction as it relates to impulsivity... or does it become a nature vs. nurture debate? (or some synergistic combining of the two? )
Profoundly important to understand impulsivity when working to help those suffering from substance use disorder, and the cluster B personality disorders.
Hi Dr. Grande, thank you for sharing. I believe impulsivity can disrupt the workplace when healthcare providers are too quick to react without thinking.
Damn I think I got them all. Had a health thing and stuff got messed up, but I did really well for 4 years by having structure and flexibility. Like setting my life up where I worked out and worked, but also worked on exciting things and having a large social circle where I could make last minute plans almost everyday. Idk if you like freedom and stuff I think realistically your impulsivity won’t just “leave.” But you can build a life that lets you enjoy it enough and also the freedom of being together and with healthy structure impulsivity feels healthy and when it runs a muck it feels irresponsible. But people really can grow and work witunit
Thank you for this video! This is very interesting for me as I have some impulsivity myself - and as you rightly said it often has negative consequences.
Your video scared the crap out of me! I knew that I am somewhat impulsive, and that about a year ago I became 10times more impulsive... But I had no idea that I fit the profile for so many types of impulsivity and disorders. I really should be on medication for different disorders, both metal and behavioral. I would like to speak with you about where and how I could go about seeking help from a doctor or phycologist near me.
Great out look and view on impulsiveness. I recognized that I've been challenged with that. I'm glad I heard the words instead of a book. U made it clear and I do wish to view more or your work
I'm especially curious about, how the UPPS model reflects the positive/negative emotions and postive/negative urgency with regards to the selfdestructiveness in someone with borderline, not suicidal or self-mutilation aspects, but the selfdestructiveness with regards to the individuals situation - like how likely would the individual with BPD be to act on romantic feelings for an ex partner while the BPD individual were in a fairly solid romantic relationship that had lasted several years, and in particular if the BPD is not diagnosed and thus not treated, would it make the more or less likely to engage in the impulsive behaviour.
My impulsivity kicks in when I am stressed and most importantly when I am distracted by whatever is causing me to the point that I am unable to bring to bear my counter-impulsivity thinking processes because I am so focused on whatever is stressing me.
Thank you for this. I was blaming a lot of my problems on depression and being flawed as a person but I never knew they were all symptoms of ADHD. I will try to work on myself in the future.
Ya impulsivity ..its scary..its when one does something and they don't know they're gonna do it..I had that happen twice maybe 40 years ago!! but fortunately not since then..I guess it was when I was super overtired, overworked, and lacking sleep and for a period of time had been doing too much drinking alcohol plus etc..? what i did wasn't super severe but it was socially unacceptable and hurt my reputation at work and made me wonder why I was so out of control for a moment. I did not know I was going to do it..I was as surprised as anyone. Caused me lots of problems and although I never had to encounter the authorities someone did make a complaint. I no longer drink anything or any drugs of any kind and I get plenty of rest or try to..I still work too much..but I'm very mindful of my situation at all times and since that incident..(there were actually two in my life..its never happened again.).but I'm always on my guard about it and I'm more cautious because of it.
Does anyone know how to stop being impulsive when video games, friends, money, sex, drugs, sensation, and intense maladaptive daydreaming are the only things that feel good? I’ve basically been living for the sake of fulfilling impulses and maintaining appearances since I turned 18. I would like to have more of a reason to exist other than to consume and seek dopamine. I don’t know how. If you know how please let me know.
Can we say that procrastination is also associated with impulsiveness? I have this huge desire in studying and being productive and less than 2 seconds later i am not interested anymore. At that time i feel terrible for losing that desire to be productive. I become anxious and i feel sad for procrastinating and no matter how hard i fight back, i find myself here? My mental situation is such a complication. I already suffer from server anxiety and i can’t say if me sleeping instead of being productive is impulsiveness or is a response to a situation that makes me anxious?
I think it is important to consider intrinsic and extrinsic factors which increase or contain impulsivity. I wonder what research says about the inter-relationship between influencing factors across time and in response to interventions. What an important topic!
Dr. Grande - I wanted to try and shoot this question at you again if you get a chance to answer: is 'grandiosity' (such as implicated in Narcissistic Personality Disorder) the same as 'delusions of grandeur'?
Dr. Grande, do you believe there is any sort of relationship between ASPD and object permanence? Have you seen this in your clinical practice? I was diagnosed with ASPD a few months ago, and wonder if this idea of object permanence could explain some of my behaviors.
i often say bad things with good intentions and everyone gets really mad at me. after being diagnosed with adhd my doctor told me this was most likely my impulsivity. i wish i could think before i speak, no matter how hard i try i always end up making everyone extremely upset without knowing why
Amongst other things, I have ADHD, or so my psychiatrist believes (inattentive subtype). I never really recognised most of these forms of impulsivity in myself until recently, but there's no doubt that lack of perseverance is a feature of my life. I'd have chalked that up to laziness, but ADHD makes sense. More recently, the other types of impulsivity have been quite clear too. The worse my depression, the stronger these become.
"Lack of forethought, failing to plan, quick decision making, which lead to a poor decision." How can I acquire this? Under all conditions, tired, anxious, distracted? (ADHD, sleep disorder, anxiety.)
i cant stop impulsively hurting myself. i usually just use scissors but today i actually cut. panic rised in me but i wanted to keep going. sometimes i even starve myself or dig my nails into my skin because i just CANT control myself. i just want to know what the hell is wrong with me. im worried that ill go to far.
I experience a bizarre form of impulsitivy or perhaps irrationality as I enter the menopause. It is as if a form of temporary madness descends and it is too real. Most of the time I am fine, then one or two days a month it feels like I have lost the plot entirely, I run and hide until it twigs that's what is happening. I really feel like I'm falling off a cliff. Fortunately Mr Right sees it more clearly and knows how to handle it. I know this isn't a mental illness bit I feel like it manifests that way, and gives me some insight as to real MH disorders.
Thank you for more great information. Do you know of any supplements that can help with this issue? My partner has FASD and addiction issues so he has a huge problem with impulisiveness combined with not comprehending consequence. I think impulsivity is the key to understanding how to keep people from going back down the same rabbit hole of destruction. There has to be a way to treat this. Currently he is on lithium orotate which has helped more than anything else. Meditation also helps. Anyone have any other suggestions? Thanks!
I find it hard to follow you. I need more layman terms and solutions please. How and in what ways can we be helped with this Impulsivity? What tools can you recommend so, that we can help ourselves from destroying out life?
I've realized over the past few to several months that for me personally and few others around me that impulsiveness is very self destructive to a degree and I myself have been attempting to manage it and actually think weather or not I actually either need to do that action (ex. Other day after work really wanted McDonald's seems trivial but I know that if I act upon my sudden urge for McDonald's that it will to an extent make me more impulse, so long story short I probably passed by 3 or 4 McDonald's each still thinking I wanted it but not acting on it ) little moments like this I believe are what for me personally lead to bigger and more self destructive impulsive urges . Also I'm not sure exactly how much of that came out how I wanted it to but I can elaborate more if needed.
I have been watching your videos since 2 years now especially during studying Psychiatry in Med school in which the were very helpful for me. Your videos on Personality are great! I wanted to ask if you can make a Video on ADHD in Adulthood with comorbid SUD vs SUD and what could differentiate between them as I think they may present very similar.
Again Dr Grande merci! I work in theatre related practice. So many performers exhibit these elements. Without impulsiveness within improvisation or risking embodying the psychopathy of Richard the 3rd we simply wouldnt be creatiing authentic stories. How dangerous are theatre practitioners in society?🙂Also would love to know your take on the nature of dark humour...rife in actors.
i have ADHD and a problem with impulsivity. mine is spending, creating debt that i shouldn't and obtaining items i don't really have room for. if i think about it, i won't do it. but many times i have somehow done it before i have given it any thought to the consequences. there are no adult ADHD coaches where i live. only for children.
Can you please give advice on ways to change/mitigate impulsive thought/behavior. 1. From the impulsive person's perspective. 2. From the person that is working with the impulsive person.
Long story short I had an accident that nearly took my head off but I somehow lived. I have severe brain damage and a video like this really has my attention.
My BF/Ex BF has the kind of impulsivity where he doesn't consider the potential consequences of his behaviour prior to acting. He's blocked me from all social media twice, then regretted it immediately and wanted to get back together. But then he doesn't understand why I can't just move on and feel happy right after we start talking again. I don't know how to relate because for me, I need time to regain that trust that he won't block me again whenever he's triggered. He knows he has a problem with being hot tempered like that but he can't seem to think ahead when he blocks me or says passive aggressive things. Is there a way that he can control being impulsive in that way? He also makes a lot of sexually jokes (even when I'm upset) and doesn't think about how inappropriate they are before he makes them. Then he gets upset with me for pointing out that there's a time and place for that. He knows I dont like them in general but I especially don't like them when I'm upset and I've just been unblocked. So he's all over the place with his moods. Could the fact that he used a lot of drugs when he was younger have anything to do with it? He's got a great heart, he's generous and loyal and I love him but it just hurts that he cuts me out of his life so easily when I hold him accountable for things.
I always picked fights with bigger guys than me when I was young. It was my knack. Now that I'm older, my problem is alcohol. I do worry. I study psycology. The DSM-5 tells me a whole lot of what is wrong with Substance Abuse. Doc. I am worried
So what can I do with my impulsivity? The older I get, the more I fear I'll end up in jail, I want my impulsiveness to stop, i dont know how to deal with it anymore. If anyone has overcame their impulsiveness pertaining their urges, i really need some advice.
I don't consider my self an impulsive person although I have engaged in impulsive behaviours such as drug taking and self harm several years ago. I was under a psychiatrist last year who tried to tell me that I was impulsive, and even though she was a lovely person, it made me lose respect for her professional opinion. I consider every action I take very carefully, think about the consequences and I am very good with money etc. Since I no longer engage in risky behaviours and haven't done for years, how can I be considered impulsive?
I may be intelligent but I have been acting impulsively since childhood and I am now 22 and still have extreme difficulty controlling my emotions especially sadness and anger. I did not start looking into it until my ex girlfriend advised me to seek help. I have always been anti social and am wondering if it's sociopathy. I was put in a mental hospital and they released me I am supposed to be on medication, however a correct diagnoses is required. Every time I tell someone they think I should be put back in the mental hospital and I say it will only make it worse. My ex girlfriend whom has schizoaffective disorder and is a rather intelligent woman suggested I get help and was my first real friend. What I need is the correct therapy and help not to be locked up in a mental hospital anyone know where I could find proper help.I already have cerebral palsy and I am not typing this for attention I just need someone's advice. Arigato. Stay safe and g-d bless.
My impulsivity ruins my life, I am currently on the verge of quitting artschool and going to another college to become a programmer, which will be my 5th college study! I am over 40k in student debt and I haven't got any diploma yet... But my impuls tells me this is going to be great! I should do it! And then I get bored....
Impulsively hits thumps up.
I recently found out that I have a very impulsive personality and ever since I have tried to rearrange my life and rethink my entire lifestyle and hoping to progress. I do have major depressive disorder, ocd and anxiety so I guess they also have had a role in my impulsiveness.
Good luck!!
I am same,,wt r ur coping strategies
Were you tested for ADHD?
Just like you!! I 've recently succeeded to manage and reduce my impulsivity. My recipe is :
1.Running 2.being offline (especially off social media) 3. Short term Goal setting 4.Anything that has to do with facing pain voluntarily (like working out, having a cold shower). The more I embrace these habits the less impulsive I become
Me too.. It arises a feeling of stress due to fear or insecurity
Sensation seeking impulsivity.. thats a very common theme in my life.. often ending up with negative consequences.. yet when the urges manifest once again its like i focus solely on the positives and dismiss the negative completely.. and the cycle continues.. 😞
Same here man
When I was manic with my first bipolar episode I was incredibly impulsive. I chose to chase every train of thought that popped into my head. I walked around my apartment building naked, explored the city streets at night after sleeping three hours, saw a homeless man sleeping in the park and laid beside him to keep him warm. Eventually I ended up in the hospital and spent a week before being released to outpatient care. The meds have me stable now, but I often think I'm overly conscientious as a result of limiting my impulsivity.
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I've read taking natural Gaba cures impulsiveness
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He's very watchable. ;-)
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That’s what they’re for. If you like ASMR then you can put on 1 of his looooong playlists & sleep to the sound of his voice & you might accidentally learn stuff too
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Yep, I agree. It's amazing how well life can go until a person does something impulsive. It has at least been useful for me to realize that I never ever make a good decision if it's based on any sort of strong emotion. It reduced the number of such instances but it doesn't seem to have gotten rid of them yet.
Impulsivity and ADHD here, life has been tough but I have a 3 yo daughter now and seeking for treatment and counseling.
How are you?
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This is the kind of mental health channel that we all should be watching! I struggle with impulsivity... this was informational and left me feeling like I gained knowledge about myself without feeling a negative way towards myself.
I have big5 conscientiousness around 75 and stability around 30. I believe these have opposing / counter-balancing affects on impulsivity.
I develop visual reminders and rituals/habits to combat inattention. I have a small sculpture that I move to remind myself that my ancient oven without an on light or automatic off mechanism isn't left on.
Perseverance is sometimes a struggle that I fight off with goal setting into smaller mini-goals. I wind up outperforming coworkers and fellow students even though I have to work at it.
I am quite risk-adverse and very resistant to gambling, substance abuse, and casual sex even though I experience pressure from others in these areas.
Stuff gets taken care of but there can be delays and struggles and it isn't smooth or easy.
❤ One of the few channels that cover the construct impulsivity with the four facets (personality traits).
1. Urgency positive / negative (type of emotions acted on)
2. Lack premeditation
3. Lack of perseverance
4. Sensation Seeking (excitement/ risky behavior)
And how important the concept is in the mental health area ❤
I rarely comment, but I need to say thank you Dr Grande. Your insights are precisely what I need to bolster my empathic tendencies to align with the wounded warrior I strive to be. Your generosity is inspiring and I share your videos regularly!You obviously take considerable time out of your life to make such thoughtful, informative and empowering videos. I am humbled and hopeful as well as compelled to make maximum use of this information so that I can become part of the solution in my own time and way. Thank you most sincerely.
You are far too kind - thank you so much for that :)
Kindness is circular Dr Grande. Thank you for starting this particular one.😉
Your content is superb Dr. Grande!
Very informative, and grounded. No fluff
Thank you Dr!
I find impulsivity one of the hardest things to deal with.
How to turn off the fight and flight response!
Consistent practice makes perfect.
It's amazing how something as simple as deep breathing for a few minutes can help one calm down.
Dealing with the same
Thank you for your Video, I am a Disabled Veteran with PTSD and TBI with and my impulsiveness ruined my relationship (it was two contributing factors from both of us). I knew my behavior was rough and I just lost 70 lbs from 400 to 330 also my BFF who was a girlfriend the past 6 months was affected by my behavior. We did not know how to handle each other after realizing the issues at hand and it was a horrible experience. I know that I need help in my Serotonin levels. Thank you for your Video. USA NAVY Veteran 1985-1993.
Fascinating! I started wondering about impulsivity as it's something I've seen in everyone and wondered if it had a function or purpose separate from emotions. After all, why do we have impulsive urges?
Doing some reading and listening to your lecture, I now see that impulses are a disconnect between the environment and the feeling. In particular I can experientially confirm that urgency is the underlying common denominator regardless of its external positive or negative presentation. Having grown up in a family with two members with bipolar disorder, two gambling addicts, and two suicides (and several other disorders on top of these), seeing normal emotional regulation -- and interacting with people capable of healthy emotional regulation -- is virtually completely foreign to my experience. My childhood was sudden moves, sudden financial losses, sudden financial gains, sudden losses of pets, and emotions that were off the charts or entirely absent.
It's no wonder I find such solace in deeply cerebral occupations, such as philosophy, linguistics and logic, or in delightfully physical diversions, such as hiking or hockey. The former keeps me from confusing emotional situations and rewards curiosity and the latter celebrates healthy impulsivity through novelty and the pure pleasure of no two seconds being alike.
For myself, the critical day in and day out challenge is dealing with food addiction. The impulse can literally hijack my feelings (some combination of the four triggers of disappointment, anger, boredom or loneliness) and rational regulation goes out the window. Fortunately, the many internal and external tools of 12 Step, talk therapy, and various medical quirks keep my impulsivity somewhat in check. While the pain and trauma of family abuse and abandonment during my childhood does make vulnerability to addictive disorders very likely, I can see impulsivity itself is a stand alone issue. The brain's wiring has gone amiss and can literally "overheat" in nanoseconds. Again and again I witnessed my family members make the most extreme of choices even when allegedly "sober."
Perhaps the approach to treating the urgency of impulsivity is not to focus on stopping the intense desires alone but to also give the sufferer something to choose for. The energy may never go away but it can be better channeled.
Thanks again for the excellent lecture. I am grateful for the insights for which I can most slowly ruminate over.
I think what I've been suffering with my whole life is the conscientiousness trait, where I have low deliberation.. which causes me to rush into things, which causes impulsivity. It's done a LOT of harm in my life.
I am 70 years old. From my experience, especially since I started playing competitive pool about 5 years ago, the brain is a biomacanical control freak organ. I will repeat the same mistake even with the intention of correcting the mistake. The pattern reaction is an impulse. Frankly I believe changing behavior takes too much energy for the brain to want to change the facilitated electrical pathways that cause our behavior. To change behavior would mean facilitating other electrical pathways. So I guess we are all impulsive, some more than others.
So how to bring change?
I have the urge to thank you for your video and might give in without deliberation .... 😁
That's spontaneous, not impulsive I guess😊
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Oswald Chambers says to hold back the impulse and you discipline it into character and it becomes something altogether different, viz., intuition.
Thankyou Dr. Grande, these videos help a lot. 😃😃😃😃😀😀😃
Would you ever think of doing a video on the psychology & mental health of PROCRASTINATION? Since this is the New Years resolution time, it would be interesting to learn more about why some procrastinate more than others.
Another great video. Could you speak about PTSD and impulsivity and treatment specifically for impulsivity? I've seen a cycle of shame and impulsivity with survivors of childhood sexual abuse. In my practice, I've seen patients benefit from group work and mindfulness training. What are your recommendations for working with this population?
That would be great to hear about PTSD and impulsivity combined
Thanks for the clarification! Quick question: I feel as though my impulsivity is a result of an abnormal childhood, I was pushed into academics and didn't really have a proper "childhood" - now that I'm away from my parents and school, I take risks and rush for results to "make up for lost time" - do you think this applies to people that have been released from confinement or jail in a larger way? Urgency to make up for lost opportunities or making up for lost experiences? Thanks!
Thanks for the video. I try to look at things from a spiritual perspective and as a spiritual problem but I also wanted to see the secular looks on it. I have a lot of impulsive temptations to buy stuff or move somewhere far away, etc and I wanted to see if something in the video applies better to me
i always found there to be two types of impulsivity (like not official or anything, just,,, what i’ve noticed)-immediate impulsivity and prolonged impulsivity. also imma preface this by saying that i have adhd and this is about my personal experience.
immediate impulsivity is where i’ll say something i’ll usually regret a few seconds later or a few minutes later- it’s related to the urgency described in this video. with me, it’s usually when i say something but it can also be something like storming out of a situation or throwing something. it has to be a short action where i can’t think about what i’m doing in the process of doing it.
prolonged impulsivity is a lot less common with me personally, but i see it in other people. it’s something that’ll take multiple steps to get to the impulse. like one time i snuck out to buy ice cream at 11:00 pm. i was like thirteen so it was dangerous- and also ik this is a pretty mild example but it’s the first one that came to my head. i had to get my shoes on, sneak out without my dad noticing, walk to the grocery store, etc. this comes a lot less often for me bc i tend to think about what i’m doing while in the process of getting to the thing i had the impulse to do.
immediate impulsivity has really interferes with my life because i just say things or do small-ish things that get me in trouble or make people pissed at me. yesterday i impulsively splashed a decent amount of water on my friend because he was pissing me off. the other day i corrected one of my classmates in front of the class- it wasn’t harmful but what i corrected wasn’t super important and i regretted it later. prolonged impulsivity doesn’t affect me nearly as much.
just some thoughts about impulsivity!’
REALLY GREAT video Dr.Grande, I still question if I have Bipolar except I don't have manic phases or they're really crap if I do.. I did something impulsive last year and was depressed at the time (and angry).. I didn't have anyone at home to solve what was going on in my head let alone how to deal with what was going on around me. Months after I came back ofc, not much has changed... tried to find solace and clarity with a psychologist through government funded mental health plan..I've no doubt she meant well but she focused too much on insisting I meditate and I understand her reasoning and ofc I should've tried more than I did but I strongly believe she doesn't understand how my brain works at all.. I verbalized to her that it's very difficult for me, maybe she thought I was trying to be difficult but what I wanted was for her to help me to get clarity right then and there and she didn't give me much.. Sometimes leaving me to talk too much when I'm in a certain state, can end up going around in circles or forgetting the agenda of why I'm there.. It's like she pulls this wool over my eyes and then after a few days at most I'm back to where I was before I started seeing her and I started postponing appointments with her because I wanted to make sure I'd meditated and enough before I saw her which I rarely did and ofc told her I didn't... The meditation had a lot of requirements like having to sit up, with your butt off the floor on a pillow or something etc which sounds easy but for me was a big ask because I was trying to form a habit according to how I've learned... To make it stick you start small and even better, link it in with another activity you already do if you can but for me this particular meditation doesn't allow me to start small.. On "To do" lists (love my lists)..I'll even write things I've already done sometimes as a form of motivation.
Relavatory! Thank you!
I feel both over exposed AND relieved of a burden, all at the same time!
you're welcome
I have three boys adopted as older children from a Russian orphanage. I can see how this is the single big problem for one of my boys and just working on practical strategies to combat this is so terribly helpful. Also, for the average person. Impulsivity related to lack of perseverance would seem to be highly related to procrastination and sensation seeking might have something to do with it also. Even though procrastination does not typically get you involved in the criminal justice system it does have some serious consequences. Maybe you could leave some input on that topic. How do you work with ADHD and non-ADHD procrastinators? Also, what type of therapy works with cluster B personalities to help them regulate themselves? That would seem like that might be the focus in certain cases.
Thank you so much for adopting older children from a Russian orphanage and giving them a chance. The system here is so broken when it comes to misplaced children, orphanages are full of kids, but it's rare to be adopted, especially for older children, and the conditions/environment there are very bad. Unfortunately, many, if not most, Russian orphans who were raised in an orphanage grow up to be traumatized and involved into things like drug/alcohol abuse, criminal activities and so on. Just wanted to say that I'm happy to know at least your three boys got to have someone who cares for them and loves them. Wishing you all the best and hoping you will find ways to manage the problems you have.
@@valeriavagapova Thank you, they have been with me now 11 years. The oldest is almost 24.
@@lorimav oh, seems like I'm same age as your oldest, about to turn 24 too. Best wishes from Russia, всего доброго!
God bless you for helpig them ... I like maca powder to naturally improve dopamine
This makes me want to go to school for what you do! I keep binge watching these videos.
I struggle silently with impulsivity and I am embarrassed by my behaviour, which makes me scared to open up about it. I have abused substances on and off for long periods and impulsively buy substances when I have very little money, but I don’t seem to care that I’m missing bills etc. but it’s not just substances that I’m impulsive about, I’m impulsive about food because I have a pretty restrictive diet aka fussy but fussy to the point of gagging if I try foods I don’t like. So I will buy take away and spend lots of money on take away as soon as I’m hungry, instead of making myself something even though I know it’s impacting me financially. That’s just a couple of examples but it impacts so much of my life and it is really embarrassing because I’m ashamed that I don’t control myself. Every day I tell myself “this is the last time I do this or that” but then it happens again, it’s like I have no willpower and the impulsive activities that I engage in feel like the only thing that give me some peace- until after I’ve fulfilled the urges and the guilt comes rushing in. And before anyone says it, I know I am really weak and just need to be strict with myself, but that’s the problem. Something just takes over and I don’t want to be like this anymore, I’m scared I’ll be like this forever
Thank you, Dr. Grande! Impulsivity in general seems to be a less than optimal response to a condition of a significant mental load due to uncertainty. I am just speculating here, but I wonder if one way of reducing maladaptive impulsivity might be something like this:
1. Acknowledge that (a hypothetical) you are in a condition of uncertainty, in which it is normal to be tempted to reduce mental load by acting out;
2. Realize - and say that to yourself, or write that statement down - that there are in fact several possible options with which to respond to most uncertain situations;
3. List some of the reasonable possible options that could be used to respond to the uncertainty and imagine what choosing each option would entail.
It seems to me that simply going through this process might reduce the perceived uncertainty (and it would naturally slow things down while giving the person a specific simple task), to the extent that it would not even be that urgent to choose one of the options right away, which would thus counteract impulsive tendencies. This is just a common-sense idea, but I may be approaching a complicated problem with a cookie-cutter solution.
Insightful commentary
As a clinician do you(/have you) done research into addiction as it relates to impulsivity... or does it become a nature vs. nurture debate? (or some synergistic combining of the two? )
Profoundly important to understand impulsivity when working to help those suffering from substance use disorder, and the cluster B personality disorders.
Hi Dr. Grande, thank you for sharing. I believe impulsivity can disrupt the workplace when healthcare providers are too quick to react without thinking.
Gordon Freeman dishes out yet another ace vid, yes!
hopefully he'll make a video about HL3
"Is Gabe Newell a pathological liar?"
Great way to explain this term Dr. Grande. Love your videos and the great things they cover. 🤕🤒🤕
Thank you Dr Grande for explaining impulsivity .
Damn I think I got them all. Had a health thing and stuff got messed up, but I did really well for 4 years by having structure and flexibility. Like setting my life up where I worked out and worked, but also worked on exciting things and having a large social circle where I could make last minute plans almost everyday.
Idk if you like freedom and stuff I think realistically your impulsivity won’t just “leave.” But you can build a life that lets you enjoy it enough and also the freedom of being together and with healthy structure impulsivity feels healthy and when it runs a muck it feels irresponsible. But people really can grow and work witunit
Extremely interesting topic. Thank you Dr. Grande!❤️
Thank you for this video! This is very interesting for me as I have some impulsivity myself - and as you rightly said it often has negative consequences.
Your video scared the crap out of me! I knew that I am somewhat impulsive, and that about a year ago I became 10times more impulsive... But I had no idea that I fit the profile for so many types of impulsivity and disorders. I really should be on medication for different disorders, both metal and behavioral. I would like to speak with you about where and how I could go about seeking help from a doctor or phycologist near me.
Great out look and view on impulsiveness. I recognized that I've been challenged with that. I'm glad I heard the words instead of a book. U made it clear and I do wish to view more or your work
I'm especially curious about, how the UPPS model reflects the positive/negative emotions and postive/negative urgency with regards to the selfdestructiveness in someone with borderline, not suicidal or self-mutilation aspects, but the selfdestructiveness with regards to the individuals situation - like how likely would the individual with BPD be to act on romantic feelings for an ex partner while the BPD individual were in a fairly solid romantic relationship that had lasted several years, and in particular if the BPD is not diagnosed and thus not treated, would it make the more or less likely to engage in the impulsive behaviour.
My impulsivity kicks in when I am stressed and most importantly when I am distracted by whatever is causing me to the point that I am unable to bring to bear my counter-impulsivity thinking processes because I am so focused on whatever is stressing me.
I impulsively binge watch Dr. Grande videos, knowing full well, that I have work in the morning 😂
I was diagnosed with ADHD and Bipolar II last year and so much of it makes sense with how I am.
Thank you for this. I was blaming a lot of my problems on depression and being flawed as a person but I never knew they were all symptoms of ADHD. I will try to work on myself in the future.
End-card timing on this video was spot on!🙂
great video.Impulsiveness can be very dangerous at times to understand i'm trying to make sense of the stuff going on inside my head..
Ya impulsivity ..its scary..its when one does something and they don't know they're gonna do it..I had that happen twice maybe 40 years ago!! but fortunately not since then..I guess it was when I was super overtired, overworked, and lacking sleep and for a period of time had been doing too much drinking alcohol plus etc..? what i did wasn't super severe but it was socially unacceptable and hurt my reputation at work and made me wonder why I was so out of control for a moment. I did not know I was going to do it..I was as surprised as anyone. Caused me lots of problems and although I never had to encounter the authorities someone did make a complaint. I no longer drink anything or any drugs of any kind and I get plenty of rest or try to..I still work too much..but I'm very mindful of my situation at all times and since that incident..(there were actually two in my life..its never happened again.).but I'm always on my guard about it and I'm more cautious because of it.
Does anyone know how to stop being impulsive when video games, friends, money, sex, drugs, sensation, and intense maladaptive daydreaming are the only things that feel good?
I’ve basically been living for the sake of fulfilling impulses and maintaining appearances since I turned 18. I would like to have more of a reason to exist other than to consume and seek dopamine. I don’t know how. If you know how please let me know.
Once again. Another informative video. Thanks Dr. G. Have a wonderful day.
Can we say that procrastination is also associated with impulsiveness? I have this huge desire in studying and being productive and less than 2 seconds later i am not interested anymore. At that time i feel terrible for losing that desire to be productive. I become anxious and i feel sad for procrastinating and no matter how hard i fight back, i find myself here? My mental situation is such a complication. I already suffer from server anxiety and i can’t say if me sleeping instead of being productive is impulsiveness or is a response to a situation that makes me anxious?
I think it is important to consider intrinsic and extrinsic factors which increase or contain impulsivity. I wonder what research says about the inter-relationship between influencing factors across time and in response to interventions. What an important topic!
There is so much information in here. I love the depth of information in this video. However, I wish there were some visuals.
Make more videos about this topic. It’s really hard to find videos about impulsivity.
Thanks for this
I am dating someone like this and I could not comprehend what was going on clearly until this video
Dr. Grande - I wanted to try and shoot this question at you again if you get a chance to answer: is 'grandiosity' (such as implicated in Narcissistic Personality Disorder) the same as 'delusions of grandeur'?
Dr. Grande, do you believe there is any sort of relationship between ASPD and object permanence? Have you seen this in your clinical practice?
I was diagnosed with ASPD a few months ago, and wonder if this idea of object permanence could explain some of my behaviors.
Very interesting video Dr Grande. I didn’t know there was so much to impulsivity! Thank you ☺️
OCEAN ... somehow I never heard anybody say that before. Useful - thanks!
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i often say bad things with good intentions and everyone gets really mad at me. after being diagnosed with adhd my doctor told me this was most likely my impulsivity. i wish i could think before i speak, no matter how hard i try i always end up making everyone extremely upset without knowing why
Amongst other things, I have ADHD, or so my psychiatrist believes (inattentive subtype). I never really recognised most of these forms of impulsivity in myself until recently, but there's no doubt that lack of perseverance is a feature of my life. I'd have chalked that up to laziness, but ADHD makes sense. More recently, the other types of impulsivity have been quite clear too. The worse my depression, the stronger these become.
Fascinating and very helpful!
Thank you for this video. Helps me understanding certain behavior.
Do you have any resources to help stop the patterns of impulsive?
Impulsivity is also quite common in certain types of developmental disabilities and in some TBIs. Very difficult to treat.
How do you overcome this in relation to trading stocks?
Thank you for your work and contribution Dr. Grande!! This video helped me tremendously in self diagnosing myself to better by habits.
How to control impulsivity ? Thanks Dr. Grande.
Hello Dr. Grande. Thank you for the very enlightening video!
"Lack of forethought, failing to plan, quick decision making, which lead to a poor decision." How can I acquire this? Under all conditions, tired, anxious, distracted? (ADHD, sleep disorder, anxiety.)
i cant stop impulsively hurting myself. i usually just use scissors but today i actually cut. panic rised in me but i wanted to keep going. sometimes i even starve myself or dig my nails into my skin because i just CANT control myself. i just want to know what the hell is wrong with me. im worried that ill go to far.
I experience a bizarre form of impulsitivy or perhaps irrationality as I enter the menopause. It is as if a form of temporary madness descends and it is too real. Most of the time I am fine, then one or two days a month it feels like I have lost the plot entirely, I run and hide until it twigs that's what is happening. I really feel like I'm falling off a cliff. Fortunately Mr Right sees it more clearly and knows how to handle it. I know this isn't a mental illness bit I feel like it manifests that way, and gives me some insight as to real MH disorders.
Thank you for more great information. Do you know of any supplements that can help with this issue? My partner has FASD and addiction issues so he has a huge problem with impulisiveness combined with not comprehending consequence. I think impulsivity is the key to understanding how to keep people from going back down the same rabbit hole of destruction. There has to be a way to treat this. Currently he is on lithium orotate which has helped more than anything else. Meditation also helps. Anyone have any other suggestions? Thanks!
You can try alanon
Brilliant
I find it hard to follow you. I need more layman terms and solutions please. How and in what ways can we be helped with this Impulsivity? What tools can you recommend so, that we can help ourselves from destroying out life?
I've realized over the past few to several months that for me personally and few others around me that impulsiveness is very self destructive to a degree and I myself have been attempting to manage it and actually think weather or not I actually either need to do that action (ex. Other day after work really wanted McDonald's seems trivial but I know that if I act upon my sudden urge for McDonald's that it will to an extent make me more impulse, so long story short I probably passed by 3 or 4 McDonald's each still thinking I wanted it but not acting on it ) little moments like this I believe are what for me personally lead to bigger and more self destructive impulsive urges . Also I'm not sure exactly how much of that came out how I wanted it to but I can elaborate more if needed.
So whats the most simple solution to help reduce this impulsivity?
You are an amazing doctor.Do you do private counseling? If yes how can I have you as my counselor ?
Could you analyze Tom Brady the quarterback for Tampa Bay. That is after he Super Bowl this Sunday.
I have been watching your videos since 2 years now especially during studying Psychiatry in Med school in which the were very helpful for me. Your videos on Personality are great! I wanted to ask if you can make a Video on ADHD in Adulthood with comorbid SUD vs SUD and what could differentiate between them as I think they may present very similar.
What if the relationship gets out of hand and how to make things work?
Again Dr Grande merci! I work in theatre related practice. So many performers exhibit these elements. Without impulsiveness within improvisation or risking embodying the psychopathy of Richard the 3rd we simply wouldnt be creatiing authentic stories. How dangerous are theatre practitioners in society?🙂Also would love to know your take on the nature of dark humour...rife in actors.
Well said amigo Todd the big thanks
i have ADHD and a problem with impulsivity. mine is spending, creating debt that i shouldn't and obtaining items i don't really have room for. if i think about it, i won't do it. but many times i have somehow done it before i have given it any thought to the consequences. there are no adult ADHD coaches where i live. only for children.
Can you please give advice on ways to change/mitigate impulsive thought/behavior. 1. From the impulsive person's perspective. 2. From the person that is working with the impulsive person.
Long story short I had an accident that nearly took my head off but I somehow lived. I have severe brain damage and a video like this really has my attention.
My BF/Ex BF has the kind of impulsivity where he doesn't consider the potential consequences of his behaviour prior to acting. He's blocked me from all social media twice, then regretted it immediately and wanted to get back together. But then he doesn't understand why I can't just move on and feel happy right after we start talking again. I don't know how to relate because for me, I need time to regain that trust that he won't block me again whenever he's triggered. He knows he has a problem with being hot tempered like that but he can't seem to think ahead when he blocks me or says passive aggressive things. Is there a way that he can control being impulsive in that way? He also makes a lot of sexually jokes (even when I'm upset) and doesn't think about how inappropriate they are before he makes them. Then he gets upset with me for pointing out that there's a time and place for that. He knows I dont like them in general but I especially don't like them when I'm upset and I've just been unblocked. So he's all over the place with his moods. Could the fact that he used a lot of drugs when he was younger have anything to do with it? He's got a great heart, he's generous and loyal and I love him but it just hurts that he cuts me out of his life so easily when I hold him accountable for things.
I always picked fights with bigger guys than me when I was young. It was my knack. Now that I'm older, my problem is alcohol. I do worry. I study psycology. The DSM-5 tells me a whole lot of what is wrong with Substance Abuse. Doc. I am worried
Dr. grande can you speak about the relationship between impulsiveness and drug use?
Thank you Dr Grande for another good video Claifying more about impulsivity. 🍀😊
So what can I do with my impulsivity? The older I get, the more I fear I'll end up in jail, I want my impulsiveness to stop, i dont know how to deal with it anymore. If anyone has overcame their impulsiveness pertaining their urges, i really need some advice.
I have... read classics like Oswald Chambers..
I don't consider my self an impulsive person although I have engaged in impulsive behaviours such as drug taking and self harm several years ago. I was under a psychiatrist last year who tried to tell me that I was impulsive, and even though she was a lovely person, it made me lose respect for her professional opinion. I consider every action I take very carefully, think about the consequences and I am very good with money etc. Since I no longer engage in risky behaviours and haven't done for years, how can I be considered impulsive?
What about ADHD in combination with personality disorders and what is the difference?
Amazing video!
Please do the difference of impulsivity and compulsivity
I may be intelligent but I have been acting impulsively since childhood and I am now 22 and still have extreme difficulty controlling my emotions especially sadness and anger. I did not start looking into it until my ex girlfriend advised me to seek help. I have always been anti social and am wondering if it's sociopathy. I was put in a mental hospital and they released me I am supposed to be on medication, however a correct diagnoses is required. Every time I tell someone they think I should be put back in the mental hospital and I say it will only make it worse. My ex girlfriend whom has schizoaffective disorder and is a rather intelligent woman suggested I get help and was my first real friend. What I need is the correct therapy and help not to be locked up in a mental hospital anyone know where I could find proper help.I already have cerebral palsy and I am not typing this for attention I just need someone's advice. Arigato. Stay safe and g-d bless.
My impulsivity ruins my life, I am currently on the verge of quitting artschool and going to another college to become a programmer, which will be my 5th college study! I am over 40k in student debt and I haven't got any diploma yet... But my impuls tells me this is going to be great! I should do it! And then I get bored....
i am proud how i almost killed my mom
"I do not nullify the grace of God, for if righteousness comes through the Law, then Christ died needlessly.” - Galatians 2:21