I am the type to withhold my feelings for fear of their reaction or rejection. Then I sit in discomfort for days before I finally speak up! Ive been working on changing this behavior pattern.
A simple phrase is, “Hey Babe, there’s something that I’m needing to talk with you about, when would be a good time?” This creates a buffer between acknowledging your need and the requirement of when your partner should be ready to hold space. The challenge can be when your partner then puts your need before their own and quickly responds, “We can talk now”, dismissing that this may not be the ideal time for them, in transition, tired, hungry, already stressed, etc. If they insist that the present moment is when they would like to hold space: 1. Check in with yourself if the present moment is good for you. Maybe you two don’t have a good history of conversations after they get off from work etc. 2. When would be the best time for yourself to share. 3. Can you share but ask your partner “just to listen”, this removes the need for resolution or problem solving in the moment. A follow up time should then be agreed upon afterword for follow up and finding resolution. 4. Lastly, learning to be open and vulnerable in partnership is a dance that two individuals must figure out the steps to.The rhythm change based on the context but the-value-is-in0the-process. The more you normalize dancing as you share the more you become aware of the specific rhythm to place the steps to.
Greetings to the Beloved. I recently shared with my loctician that I'm not honest when asked how am I. I need to find a response which encompasses all that I am.
I am the type to withhold my feelings for fear of their reaction or rejection. Then I sit in discomfort for days before I finally speak up! Ive been working on changing this behavior pattern.
There are so many layers to this conversarion
I like this format. I definitely think that this should be a dialog. The shorts can be rapid-fire questions. It's nice to talk it out.
Ian neva subscribed to a channel so fast in my life
A simple phrase is, “Hey Babe, there’s something that I’m needing to talk with you about, when would be a good time?” This creates a buffer between acknowledging your need and the requirement of when your partner should be ready to hold space.
The challenge can be when your partner then puts your need before their own and quickly responds, “We can talk now”, dismissing that this may not be the ideal time for them, in transition, tired, hungry, already stressed, etc.
If they insist that the present moment is when they would like to hold space:
1. Check in with yourself if the present moment is good for you. Maybe you two don’t have a good history of conversations after they get off from work etc.
2. When would be the best time for yourself to share.
3. Can you share but ask your partner “just to listen”, this removes the need for resolution or problem solving in the moment. A follow up time should then be agreed upon afterword for follow up and finding resolution.
4. Lastly, learning to be open and vulnerable in partnership is a dance that two individuals must figure out the steps to.The rhythm change based on the context but the-value-is-in0the-process. The more you normalize dancing as you share the more you become aware of the specific rhythm to place the steps to.
Tripp soooo cool, laid back, and intelligent. Very attractive.!!!! Love his knowledge. Happy to join the podcast.
She feeling Tripp.
Don't they all 😂
That needed to be said and seen bc?
Greetings to the Beloved. I recently shared with my loctician that I'm not honest when asked how am I. I need to find a response which encompasses all that I am.