Life's Biggest Mystery - Alan Watts On Falling In Love

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  • Опубликовано: 27 ноя 2024

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  • @azloii9781
    @azloii9781 11 месяцев назад +66

    Wow I was really sad over things not working out with a girl but now I realize that when we were in love it happened spontaneously and I remember being so present throughout the experience. I'm very grateful to have experienced that kind of pure love. I believe love of this kind is a window into enlightenment

    • @YariKEK
      @YariKEK 11 месяцев назад

      I hope this is pleasant sadness and longing. whole life ahead

    • @azloii9781
      @azloii9781 11 месяцев назад +6

      @@YariKEK Absolutely it is pleasant. Looking back our relationship was a lot deeper than what I thought it was whether through romantic eyes or not and I've found many answers to life in the memories

  • @martynrawlins8050
    @martynrawlins8050 Год назад +33

    Thank you for bringing back a happy memory. When I was young I blossomed in love with a beautiful lady. As the relationship developed we found ourselves in bed undergoing horizontal refreshment. During the procedure she started shaking uncontrollably and her eyes rolled. My ego 'told' me I must be a superstud. Next morning I whispered lovingly in her ear, "you enjoyed yourself last night." Her reply was, "I don't remember much about it. "I should have told you I have epilepsy but I was afraid I would lose you." As I stifled my laughter, I realised I now loved her even more." If you can't laugh when you're in love, you're not really in love!!!! Thanks again.

  • @Trasea
    @Trasea Год назад +76

    Young people say "catch feelings" and what I find remarkable is how difficult it seems to be today for love to be mutual. I see a lot of unrequited, lopsided love. Quite the mystery.

    • @geneh460
      @geneh460 3 месяца назад +1

      Unrequited love. I had a biology teacher in high school. He had some level of PTSD from being held in a Japanese POW camp for two years. He once said, in a moment of dark reverie, that one of the truths he learned in the camp was that the two worst things in the world are boredom and unrequited love.
      At 17, one doesn't appreciate the depth and breadth of damage unrequited love can cause. After much observation, it is truly staggering.

  • @christina2466w
    @christina2466w Год назад +38

    Finally someone has love all figured out. Freedom to be who you are ❤

  • @dylancrompton1181
    @dylancrompton1181 2 месяца назад +4

    Everyone is so fixated of there past memories to be able to comprehend the going on of now. Life is so hard to understand but in the end the goal of life is to live. So find peace in your mind with what ever fixes you right and be happy for the things you don’t admire for as those are someone else’s likings and not yours.

  • @zenarcher_awats
    @zenarcher_awats 2 месяца назад +2

    I love the way he says “it’s crazy”

  • @atayzerner5317
    @atayzerner5317 Год назад +212

    A lot of times, marriage is an act of fear. Fear of losing something which fills a certain need. Real love is based on freedom; you shouldn't want to bind it.

    • @Swati_1112
      @Swati_1112 Год назад +21

      Wait till you fall in love with someone and that someone falls in love with someone else. ✌️
      These things are good to listen to but none of us are really capable of doing what we are saying.

    • @josebarragan1197
      @josebarragan1197 Год назад

      Wow so real

    • @josebarragan1197
      @josebarragan1197 Год назад +1

      @@Swati_1112 ouch

    • @reidsimonson
      @reidsimonson Год назад +11

      If you marry out of fear of losing that person you have already lost them. Marriage is no needed to commit to someone and if that person needs it that is no person to commit to.

    • @reidsimonson
      @reidsimonson Год назад

      Honestly marriage is the great lie. The only ones who have ever benefited from marriage are large controlling organizations like the government and or the church.

  • @clintstiemke3788
    @clintstiemke3788 11 месяцев назад +16

    The problem is with this wonderful new age, that the feelings of love,trust, and honor are desperately smeared by the new feelings of justification, social presence, monetary value, and convenience

    • @kelcyarmand
      @kelcyarmand 4 месяца назад +2

      Very true! Making love conditional

  • @MOAON_AABE
    @MOAON_AABE 24 дня назад +1

    I am married to such an amazing soul and I love her so dearly, HOWEVER as you know the heart wants what it wants and you have no control. I'm not talking about lust, I'm talking about truly seeing someone and for absolutely no reason fall so deeply and madly in love with them.
    I am I falling madly in love with a dear friend, and even though I'm married, for the first time in my life, I think for the first time with another woman I am truly falling in love.
    I feel so lost, as in I feel my feelings are betraying my wife, however love is all that matters so I feel pulled 2 different ways and it's breaking my heart and I don't know what to do.
    I'm trusting in myself to make the best decision for myself, even if it feels like it will kill me.

    • @MS-br3ir
      @MS-br3ir 8 дней назад +1

      I'm in the same situation.
      But he has a girlfriend and a child. Are you going to leave your wife? Or do you not know yet?

    • @MOAON_AABE
      @MOAON_AABE 8 дней назад

      @MS-br3ir if she loved me back the same, yes I would have, but she told me she only loves me as a friend lol hey that's life, at least we had the courage to share our feelings right 👍

  • @joshua16789
    @joshua16789 11 месяцев назад +9

    Thank you so much for this video, im crying buckets at the moment, thank you!!!!!!!!

  • @Itz_R41N
    @Itz_R41N Год назад +7

    This was well needed Thankyou.❤

  • @Zainab-jb7lr
    @Zainab-jb7lr 6 месяцев назад +1

    The change in vision occurs in deep dark dungeons where you are disappointed with people but primarily yourself... and after encountering it is a journey....whenever you fall back into your old self...you are brought back to it ... for a deeper look....there is simply no turning back to your previous self... your perceptions of people your value system changes... from being materialistic to starting abhoring materialistic and superficial, you will gladly sit in the feet of a parent or grandparent who gives you shade and emanate energy that shows that they too figured it out...long time ago

  • @chesterchoinski2736
    @chesterchoinski2736 Год назад +4

    Thank you. More than u will ever understand

  • @JonMo94
    @JonMo94 Год назад +6

    very insightful

  • @StrongBodymindandspirit
    @StrongBodymindandspirit 10 месяцев назад +8

    Just imagine if every marriage was based off this philosophy. Sure it would be a bit “chaotic”, but at least there wouldn’t be any lies

    • @J_Caban
      @J_Caban 8 месяцев назад +1

      Chaotic in what way?

    • @StrongBodymindandspirit
      @StrongBodymindandspirit 8 месяцев назад +1

      @@J_Caban I only say Chaotic because many people would believe that’s the case. The reason marriage was created was for “stability” and control ofcourse

  • @Sourpusscandy
    @Sourpusscandy Год назад +19

    My favorite philospher!

  • @simonnomis5302
    @simonnomis5302 Год назад +2

    when i was in love i was awake...i learned alot...i was lucky cause i found love...koyneli

  • @Zainab-jb7lr
    @Zainab-jb7lr 6 месяцев назад +1

    Arranged marriage is less disappointing because expectations are low in the first place, in old times it was a very practical arrangement which is now mired with Hollywood Bollywood fantasy... if you are a good team to bring up kids.. its all good

  • @iisneonism9089
    @iisneonism9089 7 месяцев назад

    Beautiful song, can't wait for what you're cooking on with Guts and Griffith.

  • @Feeling_My_Soul
    @Feeling_My_Soul Год назад +9

    Sweetness I needed today💖💛💖Thank you kindly and profoundly💛💛💛

  • @CptEtgar
    @CptEtgar Год назад +7

    i fell in love with a girl from high school her last name was Ben Sira. when i took mushrooms i felt whole like my heart was open. I've told my mom i am the Messiah.(i live in israel. it was back in 2012) she put me in a mental hospital . when i got out I've looked online and there was a Jesus named Ben Sira who lived in Jerusalem .

    • @Sydneymax-f6c
      @Sydneymax-f6c 2 месяца назад

      everybody who lives in israel is mental don't worry it is normal

    • @NeLeeSawn
      @NeLeeSawn 12 дней назад

      Well?

  • @franciscofelixdasilva7657
    @franciscofelixdasilva7657 Месяц назад

    I agree with this vision, the thing is: if you expect to have children you need to do your parent role. Children need stability and some routine. Also, I think this vision of falling in love or love is based on thought-emotion, so its desire operating. True Love is something that goes beyond thought. Am i wrong?

  • @caramason56
    @caramason56 10 месяцев назад

    Insightful and beautiful ❤️

  • @Joh30gee
    @Joh30gee 7 месяцев назад +5

    I have a big big call to make.

  • @wyattbakken
    @wyattbakken 2 месяца назад

    Me and my girlfriend split up and the love was lopsided and I felt it and I'm hurt by it, but I'm glad about it because she's working on herself, something she's never really done for herself, I wish we stayed together, but that wouldn't have been right for either of us, it would stay lopsided, but I need to work on myself and figure out my life goals as well, I want us to love each other again and I accept I can't control it, i just want to stay friends

    • @nawxfreak7
      @nawxfreak7 2 месяца назад

      Going through the same thing , you gotta really let go of wanting to be friends, it shows that you are still attached, you need to let go and trust the universe.

  • @rinkudas2723
    @rinkudas2723 Год назад +2

    YES falling in LOVE with my husband GOD. Shiv mani .AMEN

  • @guitarsoundsaround
    @guitarsoundsaround 7 месяцев назад

    It’s crazy, falling in love with you ❤

  • @runzoni
    @runzoni 11 месяцев назад +5

    💚💚💚 Thank you Alan Watts
    I love your messege
    I adore your voice
    Thank you
    💚💚💚

  • @maximelagace
    @maximelagace Год назад +14

    Thinking is fine.
    But our purpose is to love.
    "A person who thinks all the time has nothing to think about except thoughts. So he loses touch with reality, and lives in a world of illusion." -Alan Watts

  • @sheled1
    @sheled1 Год назад +18

    Why on earth is the backing music needed?

  • @spiritualstudion
    @spiritualstudion Год назад +1

    hello! thank you for your creativity, I'm starting to make my videos ........

  • @Peanuts76
    @Peanuts76 Год назад +10

    I fall in love with someone in my head, i never meet her, i never know her, but don't know why everytime i think of her, i feel warm and happy, yet sometimes sad, and lonely, because i hide my feeling and never tell her, how i feel...
    It's hard when you have deep feeling over someone while you fighting your own battle with depression.....
    She's one of the reason i'm still living yet i knew, she's definitely reject me and hate me for why i hid myself and my feelings
    Maybe it was destiny, loving someone that have a boyfriend....
    Sometimes those feeling keep coming back, and i try so hard to deny my heart, but I can't, I'm too scared to tell her, too depressed and hating myself so much, that i knew i only gave her hard time and only hurt her

    • @Shockace
      @Shockace Год назад +8

      Best thing to do: learn to respect yourself. Because then it all comes to plan. When you respect yourself, you fight off depression, even co-exist it to be your friend. And when you fully respect yourself, you can easily love yourself. You can’t just “learn to love yourself” without learning to respect yourself first. At the end, what you set yourself and how you present yourself will be the result of what others will give you, and when you have gained that for you, then the right people come into your life. But don’t forget that life is precious as it’s a rarity of being human in this vast and endless universe. It’s beautiful, live it beautifully and live in your own terms and not others! Much love to all❤️

    • @Itz_R41N
      @Itz_R41N Год назад +1

      @@Shockace 💯

    • @Itz_R41N
      @Itz_R41N Год назад +1

      if you take that time to reflect and figure YOU out you will probably grow so much as a person mentally by the time you find that someone that ticks all those boxes

    • @pontoilet
      @pontoilet Год назад

      @ A pray that you are in a committed relationship with your significant other

    • @okeyekemezie
      @okeyekemezie Год назад

      Dobt worry or be distressed..
      It only shows that girl is coming to you as you are inching closer to meet her

  • @sicklecellwithdr.o
    @sicklecellwithdr.o Год назад +13

    I needed this today. Thank you!

  • @kentborges5114
    @kentborges5114 Год назад +6

    THANK YOU ALAN WATTS AND TRUE MEANING ! R.I.P. MR. WATTS !

  • @SB-yl1ng
    @SB-yl1ng Год назад +3

    ONE Alan Watts Trying to say one of my favorite sayings by Alan and somehow spell check correct universe can't say favorite F.U. Love I am going to G.

  • @liz2296
    @liz2296 Месяц назад

  • @kelcyarmand
    @kelcyarmand 4 месяца назад

    Damn now idek if I wanna get married or get into a committed relationship. They both strain the spark that love brings. I will say in the event that one has an arranged marriage or open relationship, what if the person you’re in love with is married? Just bc you and your partner are open to that type of thing doesn’t mean that others are. Let’s face it the majority of society is religious and married for that reason alone. And then there’s the lust that comes with open relationships. The world is too distorted for this type of thing. In addition to that being a human is so confusing. Then when you bring children into it becomes even more confusing. When we’re sexually affectionate towards those we love the possibility of children is always on the rise. Our species is cooked. So is procreation really our problem? Bc I remember as a child you can be in love and not have to worry about these types of things. N I don’t want to confuse lust w love, but most times humans are aroused by those they’re in love with. This reality is INSANE

  • @cosmicbalancer5084
    @cosmicbalancer5084 Год назад +5

    Biggest trust fall ever. Hang on and have fun!!

  • @Shemrsperfect
    @Shemrsperfect Год назад +1

    💫✨💛

  • @SheliaClough
    @SheliaClough 9 дней назад

    Whatever put I nto it we get out of it

  • @therippleeffect1983
    @therippleeffect1983 Год назад +1

    ❤🙏🏾🌱❤️💯

  • @AppalachianPatriot
    @AppalachianPatriot Год назад +5

    If she only knew……..

    • @azloii9781
      @azloii9781 11 месяцев назад +4

      Tell her

    • @IMJamby
      @IMJamby 2 месяца назад

      She does...(?) Do I?

  • @coryprovost2277
    @coryprovost2277 Год назад +2

    I must be corrupted then, can't keep it, don't want to find it.
    I think love is delusional.

    • @calderarecords
      @calderarecords 10 месяцев назад

      It's not for everyone. My Dad wants to be loved, but cannot love another.

  • @muhammaddzikryr1964
    @muhammaddzikryr1964 5 месяцев назад

    2024 program 👀

  • @damienkendrick1457
    @damienkendrick1457 4 дня назад

    Fkingvmusic....

  • @RUIN-ingYourFavoriteSongs
    @RUIN-ingYourFavoriteSongs 2 месяца назад

    The background music takes away from it immensely

  • @victorysoul8408
    @victorysoul8408 Год назад +1

    Anyone know background song?jw

  • @davechristian7543
    @davechristian7543 Год назад +10

    Sorry but wat a load of crud my child. Love in this day n age is a joke not to mention think about why is a man so very interested in being wit a women, one word 'Sex n if it wasn't for sex he wouldn't go near her 'like why would he do all theses things like for wat? lets face it 'your so called love is just sex n nothing more my child. if it wasn't for sex there wouldn't be an interest in the other sex.

    • @Aceofspades737
      @Aceofspades737 Год назад +3

      We gotta find a best friend In a partner (still looking)

    • @Feeling_My_Soul
      @Feeling_My_Soul Год назад +9

      Love is healing energy between souls....let go, breath and feel💛

    • @davechristian7543
      @davechristian7543 Год назад +2

      @@Feeling_My_Soul and how often in this day n age do u find that, ppl r to into them selves to be able to truly care for another in todays society n yes it does still happen but not often as it normally revolves around money n looks theses days u u cant call that love...

    • @pontoilet
      @pontoilet Год назад +1

      @@davechristian7543 don’t explain your view of dating. most grown people want a partner who they talk to & listen to their partner talk

    • @azloii9781
      @azloii9781 11 месяцев назад +2

      Lol you've never been in love

  • @JessicaPerry-888
    @JessicaPerry-888 Месяц назад

    🪬♉️ I'm truly blessed, I have had both mystical experiences 🙏 ✌️♥️✨️