StillBirth - Loss of Control [Part 1/3]

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  • Опубликовано: 21 дек 2024

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  • @albertanddani2024
    @albertanddani2024 8 месяцев назад +2

    I had a similar experience with you. Last December 28, 2023, I had a stillbirth. I lost my daughter. All is normal intil the 3rd trimester where the doctor noticed that she is growing slower than she should. Then during her 29th week, we were hospitalized because her water was very low. We recovered then was sent home. After 2 days, we have her vital signs checked and her last heartbeat was 90 then she died inside my belly. I delivered her after 2 days. I'm really disappointed with myself thinking that I should've done better during my pregnancy.. it's my first so I don't have any idea what to do and it also came as a surprise because we were just 9months married when we conceived her.
    I really miss her every day but I miss her so much today and I just started crying and search youtube videos on how to recover from this grief because it has been almost 4 months after this experience but I still hurt inside.
    This video helped me calm down and release the sadness I've been feeling... I want to be happier and have a child to hold and love
    I lost her at 32 weeks. I carried her for 7 months

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  8 месяцев назад

      I am so glad to connect with you! I would love to hear your story some more and chat. I am doing important research for moms who have gone through stillbirth and would highly appreciate your feedback. Book a call with me here at your convenience 💛🙏 calendly.com/lazarlegacymbs/30min

  • @kimcole-bartley
    @kimcole-bartley Год назад +4

    I experienced a still birth October 2022 at 8.5 months. It is the most difficult thing I have ever gone through. I was going to have a baby boy Seth was his name. There was no urgency either for delivery. I still cry daily and I am trusting God to take my family and I through our loss. I am sorry to hear about your loss and the loss any parent has to endure. Thank you so much for sharing. May God give us peace and grace. Blessings ❤

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  Год назад +1

      It was crazy they didn’t care my baby was dead inside of me! It made the whole experience THAT much worse. Through the grace of God, we are strong woman and will continue with this life on earth the best way possible. ❤️

  • @sj4796
    @sj4796 Год назад +1

    I lost my firstborn son Martin six months ago at 24weeks due presumably to the placental abruption. I remember myself in shock and complete refusal that day the doctor said “there is no heartbeat”. Thank you for sharing your story so openly, it helped me to feel that i’m not alone. ❤

  • @jamiedemore5319
    @jamiedemore5319 2 года назад +4

    I lost my daughter last month at 37 weeks. 💔 She was perfect through our whole pregnancy. Hearing your story is helping so much more than you realize. 🙏 Thank you for sharing.

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  2 года назад

      Thank you so much for connecting. ❤️🙏

    • @Heavyisthecrown
      @Heavyisthecrown Год назад

      Hope you are doing okay ❤❤❤

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  11 месяцев назад

      Hi Mama. I’m doing research for a really important project right now for woman who have lost a baby through stillbirth and I’d love to speak with you. Book a call with me here: calendly.com/lazarlegacymbs/30min

  • @shamalanaidoo6447
    @shamalanaidoo6447 Год назад +1

    Thank you for sharing your story. It's so validating. I lost a baby girl at 25 weeks , she was normal up until then but in the fifth month there was a serious abnormality in her brain. I had to terminate the pregnancy. I really resonated with your story and other women who have gone through baby loss, should know that they are not alone and it takes time to heal.

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  Год назад

      Thank you for sharing 🙏 we are strong women and God knows the reason why this happened, all we can do is move forward the best way possible. I shifted my life by focusing on my mindset. I share some videos on here about that, but also on my Instagram. So glad to connect ❤️

  • @jennicahill
    @jennicahill 3 года назад +3

    I went through a stillbirth very recently and lost my firstborn son, and I relate to so much of what you're talking about. When you were crying after finding out but were thinking it wasn't real, for example. I felt exactly like that. Like my body was responding, and I was screaming "no" and wailing, but my mind couldn't comprehend it, and I just felt like it was some sort of terrible mistake or prank or dream. Thank you for sharing and being brave. I have been thinking about one day sharing my story, and it is hard to know what's appropriate to share. Sending you love and a huge hug from a fellow mama who knows. I wish we didn't share this terrible pain.

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  2 года назад +1

      🙏❤️ completely surreal. Thank you for your words..I hope I brought you comfort as much as you have me.

    • @jennicahill
      @jennicahill 2 года назад

      @@lazarlegacy2753 sending you so much love

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  9 месяцев назад +1

      @jennicahill I’m doing research for a really important project right now for woman who have lost a baby through stillbirth and I’d love to speak with you. I will simply ask questions to gather feedback for research. You can book a call with me here, I’d greatly appreciate it: calendly.com/lazarlegacymbs/30min

    • @jennicahill
      @jennicahill 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@lazarlegacy2753 hey lady. would you mind sharing a little more about what the research is? happy to book time to connect though so i will do that. sending you love 💜

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  9 месяцев назад

      Thanks Jennica! I saw you booked and I am looking forward to speaking to you today. It’ll simply be me asking some specific questions on your experience with your stillbirth. I am looking at the commonalities and differences amongst us moms who have gone through this trauma. Talk soon ❤️

  • @mollybrown3792
    @mollybrown3792 2 года назад +1

    Last month when I was 27 weeks pregnant, I went in for an ultrasound. After being in the room for 2 minutes the tech said they would be right back and left me alone for a long time (no visitors allowed because of covid). Then I was taken to a small room to wait for a doctor. After a few minutes a doctor I had never met told me that there wasn't a heartbeat and my son had died. I drove home to my husband and then I was admitted to the hospital. I gave birth to my son the next day. I didn't want to hold him or look at him. He was so small. This was my first pregnancy. Thank you for sharing this.

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  2 года назад

      Sending a prayer your way for healing ❤️

    • @rimaclark5229
      @rimaclark5229 Месяц назад

      I keep hearing how everyone wanted to hold and see their baby but me and my husband couldn’t do it. I was 39 weeks when he died and gave birth the next day. I love my son dearly and wished he was with us bc this pain is so overwhelming. We lost him 6 weeks ago. 💔

    • @mollybrown3792
      @mollybrown3792 Месяц назад

      ⁠​⁠​⁠@@rimaclark5229I’m sorry for your loss. Nothing I say is going to make it better or make the pain of losing your baby go away. But I felt a little peace knowing that all my baby felt was my love for him. He never felt any pain. Yet we are left to feel the worst pain imaginable.

  • @ortallevitan1
    @ortallevitan1 4 года назад +3

    Thank you for being so open and honest and sharing your story

  • @schazza6380
    @schazza6380 Год назад

    Worse pain ive ever had knowing my baby wasnt going to make it. I feel your pain. GOD is with you abd with your baby looking after him 🙏🏼

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  11 месяцев назад

      hey mama..I know exactly what you mean! If you feel you're still struggling and want to move forward with a renewed mindset for a future pregnancy, I’m doing research for a really important project right now and I’d love to speak with you. Comment back and let me know

  • @Diamondbeach
    @Diamondbeach Год назад

    I’m so sorry for your lost. You are very brave to speak about this and bring awareness.
    My sister is currently going through same things w twins. One of them has fluid built up in her stomach and liver. My sister was forced to make a decision rather to save one twin and let the other go or be induced and delivery them early. She didn’t have a chance decide yet and it was already too late. Our whole family is 💔 so I understand your pain.

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  Год назад

      😢 I feel so heavy for your sister. May God surround her with love. Glad we connected.

  • @Tailz297
    @Tailz297 10 месяцев назад +2

    How do you work through not getting answers of why it happened? The doctors can’t tell me anything! Nothing wrong with the placenta, umbilical cord and no infection 😢 I am terrified of getting pregnant again

  • @YesToTech
    @YesToTech 4 года назад +3

    Loved learning about your stillbirth experience! Thanks so much for your honesty and transparency!

  • @monica11907
    @monica11907 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing. It’s powerful to hear your story.

  • @stephanielizardo90
    @stephanielizardo90 2 года назад

    I lost my sweet boy 2 months ago on Jan 19th, 2022 at 30wks. Nothing can ever prepare us for this type of pain. I admire you for sharing your story. Thank you ❤

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  2 года назад

      Thank you so much for listening and connecting. ❤️🙏 sending you some love

  • @LauraCameronChristine
    @LauraCameronChristine 4 года назад +2

    You will help so many people with this video!

  • @lifewithlacy7190
    @lifewithlacy7190 3 года назад +2

    This rings so true with me. I lost my twin girls in 1995. There was no urgency from the Dr in getting them out of me. It was just like blah blah your body will know when it’s time. A week and a half later, (mind you they had already been dead inside of me before I convinced him to do an ultrasound to prove was I was saying was correct. I had gone days with feeling no movement with hearing the excuse of we just did an ultrasound last week and they were both fine, movement starts to slow down as they run out of room especially since there are two of them) I woke up with the most terrible headache that I had ever felt in my life. Even my teeth were aching. I had a high fever. I was shaking uncontrollably. My husband called the Dr and once again we were brushed off. After many days of me running a fever of 104+ my husband rushed me to the hospital. By this time I didn’t even know what was going on around me. I remember getting to the hospital and leaving the hospital. That’s it. I had to have emergency surgery to remove my babies. Since my fever was so high I was very ill and my babies had to be removed from me in pieces. Because of my body temperature and the length that they had been inside of me deceased their little bodies had just started deteriorating inside of me. I was so angry. I didn’t get to hold them. I didn’t get to bathe them. I didn’t get their little foot prints. I left with nothing. Later on in life I became a Funeral Director/ Mortician and realized how everything was done so wrong. Fast forward to 5 children later I have an early miscarriage the week of Christmas 2017. I just wanted to have a normal Christmas for my one year old. But my Dr insisted no that I come to the hospital the morning of Christmas Eve to have surgery to remove the baby. I’m not sure if this is just the way times have changed and Dr’s are more educated but I was happy that he insisted that I come because he explained how sick I could become by just waiting 2 days until Christmas was over. I was very grateful for him. You and your family are in my prayers.

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  3 года назад

      wow, momma! I am so sorry about this. It is incredible how some doctors just dismiss us for their convenience at times. You are so strong! Thank you for sharing. My gratitude and I am sending you so much love right now ❤❤

  • @JanelleFraser
    @JanelleFraser 4 года назад

    Thank you for sharing & turning your pain into wisdom for others! I can not even imagine the pain of this.

  • @juanitaperez9188
    @juanitaperez9188 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for being brave and trusting in sharing your story. ❤️

  • @mimranb
    @mimranb Год назад +1

    Lost my baby boy at 38+4 weeks on January 6th 2023. It’s very tough for me and I don’t know how to move on. Everything went numb after they told me there is no heartbeat.

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  Год назад

      I hope my videos provide some sort of comfort ❤️🙏 sending you loving energy

  • @a.r.5446
    @a.r.5446 Год назад

    How do you get through when there is so much sadness…? I lost my son at 22 weeks at the end of June. He was fine, but didn’t survived the birth. My body just started the delivery process, way before its time… there isn’t anything that comforts me. He was the most perfect anything I have seen in my life. I couldn’t hold him as I didn’t believe this was happening. Some days it still feels that this is not true, but he’s no longer with me. I still have a hard time understanding what happened.

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  11 месяцев назад

      Thank you for connecting mama. Those were the exact questions I had when I was wanting to move on but had no idea how. Moving from a place of fear to a place of faith can be extremely challenging. I’m doing research for a really important project right now and I’d love to speak with you. Comment back and let me know if you would like to be part of it

  • @fatimanasir5119
    @fatimanasir5119 3 года назад +2

    I lost my baby at 37 week am still cry I no how pain full it is I really miss my son

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  3 года назад

      I am so sorry momma 😔 I hope you feel comfort and connected knowing other woman have gone through the same. You are strong and your son wants you to move forward in strength. I’m rootin for you and here for you! I’m sending you love and a prayer of strength.❤️

    • @richiebarcoma2888
      @richiebarcoma2888 3 года назад

      Me too i lost my daughter at 37 weeks last july 2021..it really hurts..my baby born sleeping😭💔...what is the cause of your stillbirth mommy?

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  11 месяцев назад

      @richiebarcoma2888 Hi Mama. First I want to let you know, although we have had our different versions, you are not alone. I am sending you so much love. If you are struggling after losing your baby through stillbirth, I would love to help! It can be hard moving from a place of fear to a place of faith. I’m doing research for a really important project right now for woman who have lost a baby through stillbirth and I’d love to speak with you. Book a call with me here: calendly.com/lazarlegacymbs/30min

  • @AlaaAli-wx4ft
    @AlaaAli-wx4ft 6 месяцев назад

    I lost my daughter right after delivery a month ago . The pain i feel inside is not descripble

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  6 месяцев назад

      @alaai-wx4t and unfortunately only other stillbirth moms can understand your pain. I’d love to chat and hear your story 💛 I’m working on a transformational program for stillbirth moms and hearing your story would provide crucial feedback. You can book a call with me here and we can talk more about our experiences. I’m here for you 💛 calendly.com/lazarlegacymbs/30min

  • @enaahmed5081
    @enaahmed5081 11 месяцев назад

    The guilty emotions still get me,I lost my baby at 35weeks Jan 2024

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  11 месяцев назад

      Even though we had our different versions. I know exactly how you feel! If you are struggling after losing your baby through stillbirth, I would love to help! It can be hard moving from a place of fear to a place of faith. I’m doing research for a really important project right now for woman who have lost a baby through stillbirth and I’d love to speak with you. Book a call with me here: calendly.com/lazarlegacymbs/30min

  • @angelm795
    @angelm795 2 года назад

    Sending my love. I too had to carry my baby after he passed for almost a week 🥺♥️

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  2 года назад

      I am sorry ❤️🙏 I’m glad to connect.

  • @jadeasante4992
    @jadeasante4992 2 года назад

    I lost my son at 21 1 and he died inside of me too. After a few days my cervix opened after my ester broke and his foot was hanging out. They had no urgency to take my baby out. It’s only been 3 weeks and I still feel like I died that day.

    • @lazarlegacy2753
      @lazarlegacy2753  2 года назад +1

      @jadeasante4992 I am so sorry 😞 ❤️🙏 i am sending you some love now. Glad to connect.

  • @sqseq1237
    @sqseq1237 Год назад

    0:49 Actually it's a 1% chance or less.