My mother has BPD, but has never sought treatment. Now she is in her 70's living in poverty virtually without any friends or family, besides myself, that will communicate with her due to her erratic behavior brought on by her mental illness. I had a horrible childhood filled with trauma by the choices and behavior of my mother, but she did the best she could. I tried my best trying to help my mother, so much so, it caused me to fall to anxiety and depression so bad I nearly lost everything in my life. Now I am putting the pieces together after treatment. It's heartbreaking because I know my mother was/is capable of being a wonderful highly intelligent person who's capable if amazing accomplishments, but her untreated mental illness ruined her life. I hope those who suffer from BPD seek treatment, for the sake of everybody who cares about them.
sorry to hear that. i have boarderline and my family hate me coz of my behavour. i pussed everyone away ,i cry every day so dont think we dont feel so bad after an epsoide that you would want to hurt yourself. im sorry jason im sure she loved you because its me and my son reading your story and dreading some stuff that has gone down as he got older. i was fine till he got over we were extremly close.still are hes in the room but i hate myself for things i say and do when im in the place were i feel i carnt cope. i work everyday to not blow it with my son like hes the only family member i have. i hope heraring this makes you think and heal coz you sound in pain .she loves you she dosent love herself its a mess sorry re my spelling i hope you read this i really do iv got a feeling we could help each other my son is 17 be hapy listen to music
I'm a 22 year old male, just got diagnosed with this like a week ago. The thing is, it's a disorder that develops as a result of such intense emotional trauma, that the brain takes the route that'll most easily make it bearable. Unfortunately, later on, it really does damage areas of the brain which can be proven with brain scans. As long as I'm trying to get better, I don't care what anyone thinks of me.
That you are aware of the origins and how you have been affected, and are actively working towards personal change for yourself is wonderful! I wish that more people who struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder would reach this level of insight and motivation.
I have it, my mom has it, my aunt has it, and I know a few people with it. You can't blame all bad behavior on the disorder, most people with BPD have the ability to hide their unacceptable/bad behavior when around non-family members. The unfortunate thing is people who have it AND have bad intentions, or what I call having a 'bad heart'(people who want to hurt others), are extremely abusive, manipulative and quite frankly are the best at it, because they make the person they're abusing believe they deserve it. The only ones with this disorder who can't be helped are the ones who refuse to accept they have a problem. Once I learned I had it, my attitude was, "I don't like it, I'm going to try as hard as I can to change." And after years, I have gotten much better because I catch myself before I slip back into the manipulation or attention seeking or desperate attempts to avoid abandonment or the clingy behavior. My point is, the ones I do not feel sorry for are the ones who refuse to accept they have a problem and blame everyone else as the cause of the problems THEY create, the ones who are abusive and control freaks. They cause a lot of damage to a lot of people.
I have BPD. I never lied about anything to get attention. I get very emotionally over things that are said or done that non suffers would brush off and carry on. I form co-dependant realtionships and can't walk away from them even when they make me ill. I rarely scream at anyone even if they are shouting at me. All my anger gets bottled up.
I have BPD- though with DBT therapy and medication I have almost 0 episode/symptoms.If I do it results in high levels of stress within my family and only occurs rarely opposed to daily. I went from a lunatic to a docile person at 32. I want people who have BPD to know that you don't have to suffer in your emotions. Your family, relationships, friendships do not have to suffer. Take the first step into treatment and WANT better for yourself. You are worthy, loved, valued, and capable of great things.
I have BPD and something that is often overlooked is the positive sides of it, such as the fact that BPD's feel positive emotions such as happiness and excitement much stronger than "ordinary" people. Also we tend to be much more empathic, caring and tolerant towards others.
ahahahaha positive side of being a BPD!!!!! Dude, you have NO positive sides but this is typical from a BPD sufferer to be always rigth, to be the only one that makes the right reasonement The only advice? Just stay away from people with BPD
Gianni Marino Personality disorders are fascinating, and while I haven't found a whole lot of informative videos on here, what I have found is you pitching a fit on every one I have looked at. Is BPD sexually transmitted? Because one way or another, that girl sure fucked you up good. You should probably try to take responsibility for your own actions at some point. You blame your issues on someone who you view as scum, but if they have that much control over you, what does that make you? At the least, you have to admit that you are a very weak person. If BPDs wear their emotions on their sleeve, you wear yours on a website.
Gianni Marino I don't pretend to be healthy. I don't pretend to be anything. I just can't stand to see you belittling a group of struggling people because one fucked you over. And man, I had a tragic run in with a BPD too. I don't know your story, and I don't have time to hear it all, but just imagine true pain when I tell you I SERIOUSLY DOUBT yours compares. She was my best friend, not a lover. Still, I don't hold animosity towards the BPD community, or any group with personality disorders. In fact, there is a clinical psychopath out there I would, and have, trusted my life with. You know why? Because he has saved it multiple times. To trust such a person, you need to see a whole lot of gritty reality. I also feel like you may be confusing BPD with other disorders. Regardless, Everyone can learn to deal with their problems, and nobody asks to be born with a mental ailment. I'm not trying to argue or humiliate you further. I'm just asking you to have a heart for people who are trying to cope with their illness, unlike your girl, who gave you the worst of it. I got my heart broken, and everything taken by a woman deemed completely sane(though no such condition exists); even so, I don't hate everyone with no blemishes on their psych history. If you want to express your opinion, fine, but don't attack someone like Oliver who seems to be trying remain positive, and better his life. He isn't the girl who hurt you....at least, I don't think so.
Gianni Marino One more thing: What if comments like these deter people with BPD from seeking help, because of the horrible stigma, and they instead try to hide their disorder, all the while falling deeper into it? Wouldn't that mean you were contributing to the problem, and more people could be hurt by personality disorders due to YOUR words? Why not instead try to convince these people to seek help, because the most dangerous disorders(physical, mental, whatever) are those that are undiagnosed. Instead of being bitter, try to be better. Come on bro.
People with BPD are sensitive souls who need lots of love and affection, IMO. They have a whole self, they just block it out to protect themselves from invalidation. To overcome the disconnection they can practice noticing their present experience, instead of being lost in thought or focusing on other people's experience. Tune in to your senses. The one who is tuning in is you. Your SELF.
I'm 17 years old and I got diagnosed with BPD at the age of 15, even though it can't be officially diagnosed yet. I have been doing DBT therapy since I got diagnosed and it helps so much! Having this isn't easy and it gets real hard at times, but with therapy, DBT, and communication it has gotten a lot easier. I went on a downward spiral from 13-16 years old, with suicide attempts, self harm, eating disorders, and impulsiveness. I would be in hospitals 2-3 times a year, and RTC at least once a year. I got out of a treatment center in Utah last year in July, and it helped so much. It's hard on certain days, but having the right tools and help from people it gets better!
I have been diagnosed with BPD and I relate to what is said in the video about people with BPD believing they are fundamentally evil. I'm not sure what parts of my life are distorted by my view of myself and what parts were me being truly evil. All I can say is that I know, and people that know me know, that just like there are really bad sides to me, there are also really good sides of me. With DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), medications, family and friend support and most importantly my constant hope and motivation to treat my disorder I have learned many ways to cope, correct behaviors, and be a better person.
Hi, someone with crippling BPD here. I really appreciate this video. Due to the name of the disorder, people believe its something mild. It's definitely misleading.
Kat Rose very misleading I have bdp but have also been labled with social pathic tendencies... im here to talk I mean no harm..this video is usefully its just a shame the guy narrating in the audio carnt propely relate to us because you have to be living with it in order to fully understand how draining it is with life patterens and constant loops feeling down angry psychosis suicidal and to worse impulsive mood character and desire changes I describe it as no mans live .... stuck in limbo with spontaneous thoughts and worries its even worse with anxiety
Kat Rose it's not permanent if you actually take responsibility for yourself! you are misleading with your measurements of suffering you are not having a bad day compared to other serious disorders, I don't like you
Why do people feel the need to kick people when they are down? People with BPD already don't feel great about themselves, why you feel the need to tell them that they are demons or soulless or inhuman or monsters? Getting a diagnoses like this can be frightening and disheartening, so we want information, and what do all of you do? Make us feel even worse about it.
It depends on how you treat others around you. I was abused for years, verbally, mentally and even physically by someone with BDP. Yes, I do blame the diagnosis. It was all I could do to keep from smashing her head through the wall at times. The worst thing is, is that most people with this will never admit that they are at fault about ANYTHING.
Kate Speaks That may be what is underlying things in her mind. The term "I hate you. Don't leave me" comes to mind. However, the way it manifests itself is that no matter what bad thing happens, I will surely get the blame. Even in normal everyday conversations, I have to be very careful to make eye contact and not make any facial expressions that she can interpret as not paying attention to her or being in any way dismissive of what she is saying (cocked eye brow or glancing at something). And even when she tells me something wrong, it's my fault for not paying proper attention and not listening.
63gstone No... sounds like she had some other issues outside of BPD or that was a characteristic of her own... Or perhaps... you were shitty, who knows I don't know your relationship with her... But no... Typically BPD people will take the fault for everything... words like Sorry, I didn't mean to etc etc is a big part of our vocab....
I wish I never have bpd coz its affecting my relationship. I'm scared coz I think im gonna lose my women and that of I do that will be the end of me doing something silly to my self. Hope to god it would leave me but it's a thing that will never leave me.
Oh my God, I´m so sorry. How old are you? I don´t know if you´re American, but I hear that Mental Illness is still surrounded by many stigmas and is still looked down upon in America, but if you have problems that gets in the way of your everyday life or if you feel like there is something you can´t cope with, you deserve to be heard and helped. I just can´t believe your parent´s reaction. I´m really sorry for you.
Its fine. I am sixteen, I will be 17 next month. I do live in America. My parents do know that I have other mental illnesses. I am trying to get them to help me but so far, nothing is working, my doctors keep telling them I need to go to a therapist immediately but they won't take me...
+Kristen Fussell ive been dignosed today with bpd by a pycoglist but i have known for while thAT i have this but i am getting help hope you get the help you wantxx
You shouldn't "speculate" if a person has a mental illness. It's not your place to make that sort of judgement, especially when you don't even personally know them.
What about those who do it to make a bridge of understanding between the gap of confusion that? Sorry, I know that's a weird question.. I've always wondered what's really acceptable to do if you're a victim of someone who may be ill, like on family level. Thanks for any answers.
Against Machines Taking Over no, psycologist try to be your friend and break down questions while retaining words you say, they do judge body language. but theyre bad at judgeing like doctors. unless you fully reley your priblems you get the right help.
Really? I guess if you're a victim of BPD person we shouldn't talk about it? Huh it's funny how family has to deal with bat shit crazy and have compassion and they don't even seek help and deny having a problem even tho they've been diagnosed. I say get your shit together BPD! I disowned my BPD family and so has my brother. Sure we have family gathering but we only stay a minute especially when they get drunk talk about they're nasty ass sex lives and and start picking on kids and siblings.
My ex had, PTSD, anxiety, depression and BPD. I didn't think I had to do any research on BPD because she explained it to me. She just said she spaces out from time to time so I didn't think much of it. She showered me with affection, insisted she pay for everything, wanted to buy me things knowing she couldn't afford it, supported anything and everything I wanted to do in life. Well, one day after a long date. (I took her out to breakfast then we went spent the whole day hanging out and at the end of the day I dropped her off at work) The next day, she stopped replying to all of my texts, blocked me on all social media sites and kept everything I gave her (iPhone, clothes, books) or let her borrow. No closure, no nothing. Within 2 weeks she was dating someone else. I'm sorry if this offends anyone but I will never again interact with anybody with BPD. I'm not equipped for that.
I'm already pretty sensitive and emotional (but not BPD) and dated a guy with PTSD who did the same thing. Had a lot of highs, a few lows, then randomly. Disappeared. Really hurt!
I also have BPD and find that its not as horrible or "demonic" as some of you think..all my friends, family and fiancee do not think im a bad person but just sensitive caring loving and a wonderful mom too. I just learned to lean on God when theres trouble and He always takes care of me and keeps me feeling loved and blessed!!!! So there is hope BPD sufferers!!!!!!
Tanya Rowbotham I must disagree. It is horrible and demonic, and if you've experienced BPD like I have then you'll know it rips your life apart and your self from the inside-out. For those who are reading this without BPD then imagine a ticking feeling in your brain, like a bug scratching the surface. You can feel it, but can't reach it, then you feel that little part of your brain that controls aggression spark and you spiral off into a state of aggression and frustration, then an hour later it de-pleats into a state of depression and before you even have time to reflect of what happened you've already created your own destructive path and you have to clean the shit up.
Oh please! Let's be real! Ppl try to claim that others should be sympathetic to those with mental illness but the TRUTH is that people are only sympathetic towards those with mental illness if they are still somewhat sweet and not attacking THEM or OTHER PEOPLE in society. only if a person with MI is a threat to themselves then ppl are "oh, poor thing, lets get him/her help.Feel so sorry for them." yet no one has patience for those with mental illness that harms others outside of themselves. thats why sometimes i think this 'awareness' some others claim we should have toward all MI is bs, because the reality is that ppl have selective sympathy and care for only certain illnesses
+Sunflower Completely agree. Some mental illnesses are sexier than others, as in those portrayed as completely not the sufferer's fault, like schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder and bipolar disorder. Though I have Borderline Personality Disorder with Bipolar Disorder, whenever someone says they have a "personality" disorder others react with "well, it's *just* a personality disorder, get over it". If others could see the torment of having BPD they might change their minds. Maybe it can be studied and treated more effectively if it's recognized as the medical condition it truly is, and not a personality flaw or moral failure. Okay, getting back on my rainbow-farting unicorn and heading to utopia.
I think if someone with a mental illness is highly abusive that they shouls be put in their place. However, I personally would still feel sorry for them knowing how little they can help their actions.
thanks for the video. my sister suffers from bpd. it is hard to get along with her but i love her very much and now seeing this video i understand her better.
AshtheDuke, If you'd like to live in a hell-on-earth, constantly questioning reality and your own sanity, then yes. Be prepared to be on a never ending roller coaster. You'll be the bee's knees one day and the embodiment of all evil the next day. And I'm not kidding or exaggerating.
i was dating this russian girl and she has bpd shes now in mental hospital havent got her reply yet, but instead am dating her frend but shes not hot as the Russian girl
AMEN! I don't feel the least bit sorry for them. I lived with one and the hell she put me through doesn't compare to the hell of the "poor person" getting diagnosed with borderline.
My husband and I have been rocking through my recovery for about 2 years now. Tons of fights, lots and LOTS of fights... but they have all become apart of this long journey to me no longer cutting, drinking, doing drugs, or other risky self harming behavior. My family has been a HUGE support system. DONT GIVE UP HOPE! DO THE WORK. RUN THE MARATHON TO RECOVERY! YOU CAN DO IT! (AND DON'T BELIEVE A DAMNED THING THE HATE MONGERS SAY! they have been hurt, and just like someone with BPD they are lashing out at anyone to feel they are heard and being validated)
Mary Trueman, I'm so happy to read your post!! Good for you and I wish you and your husband the absolute best because you deserve nothing less! I was married to a lady with BPD and was cursed, screamed at, she called me names, stayed out all night for nights in a row, cheated on me, etc. I understand she didn't do that because she hated me. I found out later from her ex husband that she did all those things to him, too. So her behavior had little to do with me. I would've stayed with her but toward the end of our marriage she started staying gone all night quite frequently. It has taken me 3 long years to get over the resulting heartbreak, so I've had to battle depression, anger, self pity, etc. I also understand my ex must really suffer...I mean, how can you dish out horrible behavior unless you feel horrible inside yourself?!?! She gave me the best she had for herself and it was emotionally painful. God bless her and I hope she will be at least ok. Maybe she'll find recovery and happiness...sure hope so. Thank you for sharing and keep up the good work!!
Philip Brideweser Im so sorry to hear that she didn't seek help with you. You seem like the type of man that wouldn't just cut and run (and the whole abandonment thing is a huge trigger) and that is a HUGE deal. Most people with BPD dont even know who they are, let alone know how to communicate the pain they feel EVERY DAY, so it comes out in bursts and guilt and anger and all the other upsetting things BPDers do and say. Im glad to hear that you arent blaming yourself as well. Her actions were never your fault and were only a reflection of the lack of love and respect she felt for herself. Thank you for sharing your story :)
Thank you Mary. Stories like yours help me heal!! I'll always love my ex wife and if love can survive what we went through, then we've not suffered a total loss! Did she love me? I don't think so...I don't really know. I do know there's a place in my heart that is forever hers. No one can have her place. Thank you and may you and your husband achieve much in the way of love and happiness!!
I may be BPD.... but I see no point in going to get diagnosed because I walk into a clinic and say "I think I may have ____ because I find I match these symptoms" and they just go "Yup, sounds right! Lemme write this in your file" and I don't feel like I really am. Now I feel like a liar. Maybe I'm wrong. Like, why aren't there tests. Helpful tests. I need real tests.
this is exactly what happened to me. the doctor ended up prescribing me meds without listening to me talk about what i've been going through and they ended up messing me up big time
Wow. Came to this video to see what healthguru had to say about my bdp. Found an angry mob of haters who compare people with my condition to Hitler and the Nazis. Great job, internet.
I know right! its messed I have several mental disorders including BPD and I'm one of the nicest caring people your meet lol just don't get on my bad side xD
Uh, no, wanting to hurt/kill other people isn't bpd. Being borderline doesn't make you more likely to hurt people :/. Actually, since we feel very strongly, we tend to be highly empathetic and care about others...
Claire Powers Yes, it does work both ways. I'm sorry, I thought you were one of those people who thought bpd people were horrible sociopaths. Honestly, you should try googling bpd to learn more if you think you have it. or go on tumblr. Tumblr has a lot of resources for borderlines that doesn't use so much fancy language and utter word vomit. :)
Finally a clear and informative answer as to what is Borderline Personality Disorder. Thank you so much. All my life i have been told i have it, but no one could tell me what it was exactly. All my life i kept on asking for help to be normal, and consistent, i hate myself so much at times, and now i finally understand why i cant seem to stay stable in my moods or actions. Now if only i can find help to change and cure this.
I know how you feel. I have done a lot of research on the subject and its not an easy illness to overcome. It takes cognitive therapy for the worthless stuff, medication to stable the moods- which in turn helps stabilize your relationships and life. Stability, structure, predictability and communication are a big part of recovery as well. A combination of all the above mentioned treatments can be effective treatment for BPD. I found reading books on identity crisis, taking responsibility for my actions and being mindful of my thoughts..and sometimes just walking away really fast before I blow my top- have all helped me tremendously. I still have a long way to go. I think the hardest symptom for me is the fear of abandonment. I experienced several traumatic separations, abuse and unhealthy boundaries as a child but with awareness and perseverance I know I will get well someday...Best wishes, keep you head up and stay positive!
Yes I completely understand. It is so hard to deal with the darkness of BPD. No one could really explain to me what it was. I feel I am more compassionate then most think. In general I feel I present my self differently than what others think. Well my point is I think I'm getting worst now that I'm an adult and I am now seeking help.
I believe anyone willing enough to change any behavior CAN do so, so long as YOU are changing because YOU truly want the change and NOT trying to just change for someone else. I'm a borderline, yes. However I like who I am, and how I conduct my life. I don't need anyone to like me nor do I really care if anyone does or doesn't. You CAN change, don't let anyone on here tell you that you can't...good luck.
CirisSplash 'typically' borderline symptoms decrease in intensity as one ages. I was diagnosed almost 18 years ago, and I can tell you that although the mood swings/impulsivity are still very much present...I've learned to recognize them and handle them differently, cutting and other NOT so pleasant coping mechanisms are a thing of the past. Also as a parent, I don't have time to feel "lonely/abandoned" and many times WISH I could HAVE time alone! Things DO eventually get better :)
I got diagnosed with BPD a few days ago after spending a week in a Mental Health Unit. I really appreciate this video, it makes so much more sense to me now.
My grandma fits most all the symptoms for this disorder, but at the same time she also displays behavior similar to Bipolar Disorder and Narcissism. She has terrible relationships with all her children, grandchildren, and rest of the family, but her whole life she has refused to admit that she has a problem and thus can not get any help. This makes life a living hell for all the close family members that are around her. Thus I urge anyone who has a mental illness to please admit it and get help! Don't be afraid, as trying to hide your problem just makes it worse for everyone, including you!
I was diagnosed with BPD 6 years ago. I think I have had it my entire life. I always feel like I don't matter, I have good days and some days its like my mind is going crazy and I don't know why.
+Nubian Breland Yes,but you need to make sure you have been properly diagnosed with BPD. When I was diagnosed, I was given about 4 medications to try. some worked better than others. I was given Prozac 40 and Abilify 20. It seemed to help.
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I am also a sufferer of BPD, depression, anxiety and OCD. I know the feeling of the good days and days feeling like your mind is going crazy. I am here if you ever want to chat, my story is on my channel too, so feel free to subscribe and join me in the fight to remove the stigma attached to mental health illnesses!
Thank you. was diagnosed at 19....I'm 50 now........lived a life....had a family.........but yes, my intense periods of freak have made things difficult..... for us all. And continue to do so for me....the Master Of Disguise..
This video could've been written about my son. I'm so afraid that he'll never really be able to be happy because every day is like a roller coaster & he just wants to get off.
The still image of a stitched wrist and, later, the shot of a razor blade being held to a wrist are EXTREMELY disturbing images and may be seen as 'triggers' by many BPD sufferers. May I POLITELY request that you alter this video or PERHAPS, you could PLACE A WARNING AT THE BEGINNING of the video that there are certain images contained within THAT MAY BE A TRIGGER to BPD sufferers? A 'trigger', since it is not mentioned, is the name given to something which can upset a sufferer of Borderline Personality Disorder and can literally 'trigger' a Borderline Episode or CAUSE Borderline Behaviour. For the sake and SAFETY of sufferers...PLEASE take note. Many thanks! =)
I have studied Psychology and worked in the field for 26 years.I have to say that you are showing very healthy choices and good emotional stability at this time. I think that you should consider a few years of treatment to become healed and emotionally stable.I think you would then be able to counsel and help other bpd people.You have ALOT of promise for better times ahead !
i haven't been professionally diagnosed as of yet as im starting therapy and medication currently but after reading up on LOADS of types of disorders i finally found this one that explains me to the MAX, i'm only 20 but have been suffering a very long time been on anti depressants over 4years and have never found the right help needed, i needed parents to support me and help me get help but now im 20 im trying to do it myself hate feeling crazy
They are crazy. There's a vacuum right where empathy should be in these individuals. They absolutely do not give a f#ck about anyone aside for themselves. Manipulative pathological liars who will stop at nothing to gain attention. Including causing harm (short term or long term) to others just to bring attention back to themselves. If you meet one walk away, right away. Everything you do or say is being recorded by them, so they can further lie and manipulate. It goes so deeply entrenched with them this behavior, that they don't even know they are doing it. and if you confront them at all about it, they will go ballistic, pull away from you and carry on lying and manipulating in a greater effort, then move on to someone else and do the same to them. Throwing themselves at you with their legs open, over the top smothering manipulation. The chances are that 100% of what they ever say to you is lies.
Y'know, as a Borderline, reading the comments (which Gods, I really need to stop doing. I already know people have negative views about the disorder--there's no reason for me to go into a self-hate spiral 'cause of it. Or, well, maybe there is. We do get our self-worth from others. Anyway) I think there are a number of people who are confusing BPD, NPD, and ASPD. Let me help you all out in my own special way as a psych and sociology major and a BPD sufferer. The Narcissist acts like they're big shit, talks like they're big shit, treats everyone like shit, and DEEP down inside, actually thinks they're shit. The major problem with Narcissists is that they need to use other people to make themselves feel loved and they have a complex that makes them ACT like they're great and wonderful and amazing when inside they view themselves incredibly negatively. But they act like they're awesome because they want to make sure everyone knows they're awesome, which they will then hear and feel better about themselves. This complex is rooted so deeply, but the underlying part of the treatment of a Narcissist is getting them to admit how vulnerable they are. If a therapist can open the shell and get into that "I feel like I'm shit" part, then the Narcissist can recover. The Antisocial acts like they're big shit, talks like they're big shit, thinks that they're big shit, and treats everyone like they're shit. Emphasis on the treating everyone like shit. I'm not as knowledgable on ASPD as I am on the others, mainly because I spent my high school years in alt. schools with other kids with similar issues and quickly developed a "sociopath/psychopath detector" so I stay AWAY from those people. But, ASPD people are the people you gotta watch out for. Strangely, they're also (along with Narcissists) very common in the business world. The difference is the Antisocial person isn't gonna hide their less wonderful side--there is a difference between being a sociopath and an ASPD sufferer. A Borderline acts like they're shit, talks like they're shit, believes that they're shit, and cares a SHITTON about other's believes and feelings. So, the difference between the Borderline and the other disorders is while the first two are APATHETIC, a Borderline is extremely EMPATHETIC to the point where it's actually harmful to them and sometimes others involved. But inside of a Borderline, they believe they are awful, they act like they're awful, and they truly truly hate themselves--which is why they need other people to constantly validate them. Most Borderlines were not "nurtured" properly as children and now as adults have no idea how to self-soothe or give themselves love or atttention or even breaks. Most Borderlines will actually hurt THEMSELVES if they think they've hurt someone else. If I ever get into a fight with someone (which I try not to do, as a pacifist) I will actually, when all is said and done, be more angry at MYSELF than the other person. I will be furious at myself for hurting someone else. I will think I am an awful burden to the human race who should be exteriminated. This immense self-hatred and the inability to see in shades of grey like normal humans, basically ruins life for us. But another difference between the first two disorders and BPD is that BPD has a high rate of recovery. It's estimated that with proper treatment, in six years a Borderline can go into a type of "remission" and become symptom-free. It's not that they get rid of their thought patterns and emotional issues--but rather that they learn tricks to help themselves. Mainly the idea of "Mindfulness" which basically means sitting through your intense pain/other emotion with the knowledge it won't last forever. Which, is actually pretty hard. But it can be done. We can definitely learn how to live with those around us and we can learn how to rein in our emotions. We will still feel super strong--but we'll learn how to control the reaction those emotions give us. Which is all we can do. So yeah.
I only found out that I am BPD. The only difference for me with most BPD's is though I love love, and being in love and love my family and friends, I like being alone. AND I don't hate myself. I've been through so much that I know was not my doing. So I can forgive myself and love who I am even though I act up sometimes. Don't get me wrong, I am not in remission. In fact im 48 and extremely suicidal. I'm not narcissistic, I love people, I care immensely about not hurting others intentionally, I have amazing friends and I am loved. BUT, I am loved at a distance, its safer that way. I am only suicidal because living hurts. I've tried the old "when tomorrow comes" cliche, that got me to this age, where tomorrow never came. Now I have been given a diagnosis that finally makes sense, that explains cyclone Natalie.... and now the real work begins, like grilling my psychiatrist who would write BPD on paper but not actually tell me what it is???? Wt? I thought he meant borderline Bi-polar.until I watched "Girl Interrupted" that's when I realised BPD was not Mild or Borderline Bi-polar, but a diagnosis all of its own, a diagnosis which I meet 3/4 of the criteria for. And here I am not giving a hoot about living, and struggling every day to not just end it, and I find out "MOST CASES CAN BE CURED" / or at least go into remission with treatment. WTF? Oh I'll be ever so kind but please Mr psychiatrist, why did we not discuss this in 2 years? He writes Anxiety, Depression, suicidal ideation and BPD on my paperwork...discusses and treats everything but BPD "seriously???" WTF.... Ok - im over it lol......had my dummy spit. :0)
Its pretty shitty that you can sit there and first talk about how people with BPD are stigmatized and hated, then go on to hold up the stigma against other PDs
AshIsAWolf How am I holding up the stigma to other PDs. The whole "shit" thing? Nah. I'm just trying to explain how the differences are between the disorders in a catchy way. It's true though, according to many psychologists: Narcissists act grandoise because they have very little self-worth and the self-worth they DO have, they need to get by another's approval. Anti-Social people lack empathy and actually tend to believe they are the best thing since sliced bread, so they differ from the Narcissists who also lack empathy (usually) but also inside, think they're worth nothing. Borderlines are the opposite of the two in that they are extremely empathetic and they have no sense of self-worth, but instead of acting grandiose to get self-worth, they tend to just be on a endless self-hate rollercoaster.
This is exactly how I feel. I feel I care TOO much. I am a very generous and kind-hearted person. I am always trying to get approval or get people to like me, to the point where when someone wrongs me I change into this dark evil person, a mere shadow of my former self, and want to wreck havoc on the world. The worst part is I see myself doing this, but I am powerless to control or stop it. The only thing I can compare it too is the Hulk... you won't like me when I'm mad. After my rage is over and I look back, I get this feeling of regret, disgust, self-loathing... so on. I hate myself for not being able to control my emotions. I have pushed my family and friends away, and now I have lost the love of my life. When will this pain stop? I don't want to be like this anymore. I don't know what to do to keep my cool. I truly feel like I have two people living inside me.
+Antonio Depetrello I feel like laughing because it is oh so perfect a description. Yes, the hulk. So do not purchase a weapon ever in your life. I have lost a list of loves in my life, I have never forgotten any of them, and the accumulated pain has made for some bed to lie on. On the other hand so many of my friends have gotten married then divorced and lost so much with it that today i ask should I thank borderline for small mercies? Some of those divorces were 5-year epic court battles. All have lifelong implications. I'm 45 and feel in some ways Mr. Borderline may have been a working defense mechanism that actually did its job well. To keep my cool and avoid rage the best for me is avoiding commercial mass media, which is full of triggers. Avoiding painful relationships with women by limiting myself to one bad breakup every few years. Avoiding my family became a necessity. And finally drugs... if you do drugs to party and feel relief then legal amphetamines have worked for me immensely. Adderral or Vyvanse or even small amounts of meth kick my two selves into one but i cannot get a prescription so i am left on the black market or using meth, which is effective but much too addicting and thus it is too easy to move from therapy into party mode. If only I had a girlfriend who could hold it back on me, the meth would be fine in tiny amounts every morning. i don't smoke or snort or inject.. i eat it like any pill. Sounds crazy but google adderall and adhd drugs... its better than ending up arrested 100+ times like I was before I discovered this... better than losing you girlfriend due to imagination. The only downside is you no longer feel like sleep is required, and it isn't. I sleep 2-3 times per week maximum. Personally I love it but if I had a wife she'd probably be wondering wtf...!!!
Wow. I may have this. Molested several times as a child and developed an anger management problem. Although, simply talking to a therapist after I hit the bottom seemed to clear most of it up. It's only occasionally now that I get abnormally angry. The difference now is, I catch it almost immediately. Before, I seemed to need to play it out not really understanding why I was so angry. I guess now knowing allows me to apply reason.
truth sir!!! i have been in therapy for a year and a half and it has helped tremendously! I'm now more aware and my relationships are improving. i hope one day i'll be healthy enough to have a romantic relationship. i dont want to be alone.
BPD is not something to take lightly. I have had it most of my life. I have gone from extreme lows to extreme highs in a matter of seconds. I have been in a mental health facility before and the only reason I was able to leave is because my husband is not (in the social workers words) "an a--." I went on my own accord because I knew the thoughts I was having were not normal. When I was younger my mom thought I was behaving erratically for attention, believe me wanting attention is the farthest thing from my mind. I tried to strangle one of my sisters for using my bath towel and I even threw a fork at my dad (and by dad I mean the man that raised me not the man who physically and emotionally abused me) because he asked me how my day was. I used to have indiscriminate, unprotected sexual encounters with several men and women, thankfully, I never got a disease. I feel horrible for the way I acted and the things I did. I took medication for it but that seemed to make it worse. I started doing breathing exercises and that has helped me out a lot. Just because this works for me doesn't mean it works for everyone. I still have emotional outbursts but not as many as before and my family and friends (the few I have left) have been really supportive and helpful. If you know anyone with this disorder you should try to help them. Don't push them away no matter if they try to push you away first. In truth, it's not what we want. We want acceptance and love just like everyone else. Peace and love to you all.
If you are in a relationship with a BPD sufferer think long and hard about sticking around, because this condition will destroy its partners. YOU will get the blame for absolutely everything. It will get projected on You, you will get run into the ground. You may get lucky and the person will get better, but in the meantime Baton Down the Hatches! Because you are in for a long rough ride. Good Luck to anyone that attempts to make sense and be there for a sufferer.
That is it exactly, I've tried for one year to hope that this crazy bitch becomes normal, it will never happen, constant drama, all she wants to do is fight, I am the worst idiot in the world, nothing I have ever done is right, it goes on and on like that. Stay away from Borderlines at all costs, they will, wear you down to a nub of your former self. And when you leave, they will simply start looking for another victim.
Jim Smith You've tried. Now it's time to take care of yourself and get over this relationship it will have taken a huge toll on you, more than you realise. Be good to yourself move on, you will find someone that you deserve. Don't take this past experience to heart. And please again BE GOOD TO YOURSELF
Winona Ryder played a character with BPD in Girl, Interrupted while Angelina Jolie played a character with (what was thought to be) ASPD. People within the same cluster of personality disorder tend to have symptom overlap.
It really doesn't matter what you do, they will scream and yell. You can give them everything they claim that they want and they will still scream and yell, you can plead with them to stop, it is useless. It is like dealing with an abusive alcoholic that blames everyone and refuses to stop drinking. Walk away and make no contact, that is the only hope. They will wear you down to a nub, and instill in you some sick need to go back for more and hope that it will work. Leave and don't look back. My guess is that a large number of murder / suicides are caused by a guy who has just been beaten down again and again until he finally snaps. Life is meant to be happy, not constant chaos and discord.
BPD here. People have described me as compassionate, loving, and kind. I love humanitarian work and am a social worker because I believe the world needs more love and service. I yell sometimes and I have BPD symptoms but I used enormous amount of energy to control them. Not all of us are what you describe. I'm sorry for whatever experience brought you to this overarching assumption but please know many of us are good, kind people. Best wishes.
this is a very informative video that has a lot of useful information about BPD. I only wish it didn't use such graphic images such as stitches and a razor blade on someone's wrist. i understand the need for factual information, but these images can be very triggering for people with BPD. who may be watching this trying to learn more about themselves. i'm just saying consider your audience when making videos like this.
I have been diagnosed with bpd. I had a hard life and my behavior was mad. When I was 25 I realized I had completely lost control of myself and asked for help to a psychologist. I started a therapy that lasted 5 years with 2 meetings a week. It was very hard...now I have a good job (and I am keeping it)
It would appear that a number of people commenting are confused as to what BPD is... this video doesn't help either... A lot of people are diagnosing their exes with BPD so they can have an excuse as to why their relationship failed and making up misguided symptoms attempting horribly to associate it with BPD.
i read somewhere that the reason that more women are diagnosed with BPD than men is that it is overlooked when men act assertive aggressive as a normal part of being a boy or a man but when a woman is assertive or aggressive ahhhhh she is BPD ~thus, few men diagnosed BPD. is this one for the feminist books or what??? ;O)
No it's because most men do not choose to seek treatment for anything so most men have no idea that they have an illness and just think it's how they are. Most people don't know what this illness even is.
interesting ~today's doctor's especially tend to diagnose this on women if they act assertive. at the same time, female's will fit the criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder more often than men or boys due to the fact that the rate of males that abuse females over females that abuse males is astounding and to do with culture as well as a totally different nervous system and hormonal make up. i was astonished to see that a male's cardiovascular and nervous system is very simple and minimal compared to a female's which has 1000s more tributaries... including in the brain. some men do seek help, though but if they are aggressive and violent ~a doctor rarely considers BPD whereas if a female presents as such there is a relatively good chance the doctor will consider it quickly because females are expected to be submissive and at worst ~withdrawn/depressed/retentive; never ever manic/expulsive/expressive with a hint of sarcasm (only guys are allowed to do that don't you know? ;). and this is where venus and mars have evolved LOL with all our technology, intelligence, articulate thought and wisdom of so many cultures of so many ages now. Not to get off the subject too much but from time immortal humans that have made great civilizations have somehow come up with a great religion and then lots of bloody wars happen behind them. To top it off within those individual cultures the religions break apart, somewhat, and form slightly different versions and then even they violently defend their religions within their religion and it is as if we have a whole globe of people after 1000s of years of these ridiculously bombastic wars in the name of a loving creator God ~it begins to make anyone of average intelligence wonder when people are going to finally evolve as much as their technology and such has as to not think that religion is something that you can throw out there like Burger King (as in 'have it your way'). Respecting that to worship God is a personal and private event would be a big step for mankind now. The question is as long as history has shown again and again that man has learned nothing from these religious wars and cultural boundaries; will it ever happen at all at some point?
+Foggy Ozarks Robin Funny, it took me pissing off a female psychiatrist for her to look at me and say "hmmmm... i think you have borderline". That was twenty years after I first went to an emergency mental hospital on my own. I must have see as many 'professionals' before the biggest bitch I have ever met in my life called it right.
they can be clever. thankful, i am, for g@@gle to give me these AH HA! moments to stay ahead of the world's trickery and fraud. It may be revealing to you, somehow, to know also that ~did you know that a narcissist is the exact opposite of BPD? sometimes knowledge, as such, allows us to 'connect the dots' of our parent's parenting. i thank you for the testimony.
You are very brave Tholins Tvshow. That takes a strong person to make that choice. Ignore when people are saying that people diagnosed with BPD do not take responsibility for themselves. because by taking action to help yourself, people going through therapies, and removing themselves from damaging situations that will only make you worse if you stay - that IS taking responsibility. Responsibility is choosing your response to a situation, you have taken action to help yourself - very admirable
I think my ex girlfriend might have BPD. I was just having a normal conversation with her over text and the next thing I know she avoids my texts, and phone calls for a week. blocks me on Facebook and deletes me off Xbox. We never had any arguments and things were going really well. The only thing that may have upset her is that I didn't want her to get her belly button pierced because I don't like how they looked. Just my personal opinion so please respect it. Anyway, we talked about it and she said she respected my opinion and wouldn't get it done. After that we moved on and continued our relationship and then she was gone. After a week of not hearing from her I decided to go over to her house and check if she was okay. She was home but she didn't answer the door and called the cops on me... What sane person does that to someone who treated them like gold and was just being a caring boyfriend? Well after that I knew it was over and I sent her one last message to say my peace. She replied a day later saying "please stop. I want to be left alone please". I didn't say anything threatening or anything btw. I just told her how I felt and I just wanted to talk. Do you think I will hear from her again in the future? I wouldn't get back together, but I would like to salvage some sort of friendship because she's such a sweet girl. She has told me she has ADHD, PTSD, and also mentioned she has other health issues but she didn't want to tell me. She been abused in the past and neglected by her parents so she would turn to other guys for attention. She's been used by other guys and treated like shit in the past. She's had severe depression where she starved herself. I just feel really bad about this whole situation and just need some advice.
Just an FYI... if it is possible that your ex has BPD, just know that people who attract and are attracted to them often have mental health issues of their own. Be very careful about diagnosing someone based off of one action or inaction.
Collin forget the bitch. she will send you to jail. I dated guy like that who has lied to me about everything from being married twice to having kids with them, to not divorcing either woman still marrying the other, because he lied about his name. the guy has chocked me and hit me and lied and talks bad about everyone, smokes non stop, is obsessed with sex and alcohol and porn. he verbally abusive then soo sweet and sedcutive goes on crazy insane shopping sprees, is unhealthy in everyday, takes 2 hr showers cause he's OCD. and the lies and lies, he recently told me he sold his cell phone to his recent girlfriends uncle and that he no longer has a cellphone so he is texting me from his mothers phone, yet he has text my friend from HIS original phone that he says he sold and told her OH I lied to her about selling my phone, of course she showed me the message, he's cheated on me, and given me an STD. So stay away from this person. Those people are sick. Im not racist or prejudice, but TO SAY that you can LIVE a NORMAL AND PRODUCTIVE life with people with Borderline Personality is pure shit. they should all be exterminated these menacing kinda people. I hate them. This guy also ran me a debt of $10,000, and stole $200O dollars from me. I hate these kind of fckn people they are sick sick sick. Should all be Exterminated. -well ok that is Harsh, but they should be locked up in a dungeon where no one can see them and have rats and cockroaches eat them slowly and their genitals are rot away with venerial diseases.
Maybe it's Bpd you're right...but there could be traces of being Narcissistic too ....a psychiatrist told me that the two can be related quite a bit and that a lot of the times these kinds of personality traits overlap. But you have an excellent point. Thank You!
My soon-to-be ex-wife is severely borderline and refuses to get help. If there is anyone out there who is experiencing the same thing, if you have managed to get your BP spouse into therapy, please share any advice you may have for being able to do so. Thanks.
Oberon Pan Have you told her that you are going to divorce her? You need to make this clear and not just drop a bomb the day the papers need signed. It could lead to a suicide attempt.
Listen...if your at the i can't take this shit anymore and your well-being is being diminished as a result and within your relationship extreme violence and general paranormal activity in regards your possessions either being thrown around the room or at you over nothing then sir...you need to get the Fuck out pronto like I did....careful planning is required and you might want to google how do i get rid of a borderline disordered person.....it depends on her severity. ...my nutcase wife is in deep denial and Im still trying to divorce her even though its a no contest divorce......my own story would probably be similar to yours. .....get rid of the toxic bitch..its not your responsibility to get her help....focus on you. ....ffs don't look back and go no contact.....it really works.
Hi Kimmie. Divorce has been looming on the horizon for years now. She was the one who first broached the subject. I, in my infinite wisdom, hung in there since I guess that sacred vow was really something I took seriously. But I keep thinking about that pithy little quote one of my co-workers had hanging on the wall of her office: "It is better to have loved and lost than to have spent your life with a psycho." The universe is telling me that it's time for me to concentrate on myself. Our impending divorce is only months away. As soon as I have the cash to move, I'm gone gone gone.
Thank you, Jason. Your words truly validate my thoughts and actions. We're in the planning stages now. Twenty years is a long time to undo but it's happening. 2017 will be a year of cleansing and healing for me. We should co-write a book telling our tales. I truly believe the world needs to know the hell we've been through.
***** Please notice that the comments on this page are becoming abusive. I've never seen so much stigma surrounding a mental illness, besides sociopathy and schizophrenia. I have depression and anxiety, and while not everyone understands those disorders, these comments about BPD are unhelpful and downright cruel.
Hannah Diaz NO "biatch..THEY ARE RIGHT ON. Guess you've never dated any of these SICK BPD fcks. they are the abomination of this earth and destroying all the Goodness in people by showing us all the WORST that a human being can be and how much advantage and havoc they can cause in an innocent life and SHOW absolutely NO remose or care and laugh in your face while they are Fckn you in the ass and giving you a disease because they are promiscuous and dirty disgusting mental freaks of nature. They should all be locked up with rats and cockroaches and have their genitals infected with STD with no treatment. Lets see how they like having herpes all over their holes. LOL. I hate these people. So F-OFF Hannah Diaz
+Ella Marie I have some of these symptoms and have also been diagnosed but not everyone is the same! I never destroy people and I am married for 13 years now. I have abandonment issues and have idolized people but I never seek to destroy or hurt others.....maybe its because I'm a Christian. I am not perfect but I am not all these things described either! I have compassion and have been a preschool and kindergarten teacher. I also love and have worked with the elderly! I love animals and people! The picture of Borderline is not true of all who have been diagnosed! My therapist thinks I was misdiagnosed previously but I don't know. I have some straight but I don't hurt people!
+Ella Marie Just because you have had one bad experience with a person with the condition doesn't mean that every person with the condition is like that. Maybe the person you were seeing wasn't diagnosed maybe they didn't take their medications or go to therapy maybe they had Narcisstic Personality Disorder or some degree of psychopathy, or PTSD, remember a large portion of those who have BPD grew up abused or in abusive households. Also there are about 9 symptoms of BPD in the DSM and only 5 of the symptoms need to be present for a diagnosis of BPD that leaves a lot of room for variables of the condition so before you generalize please educate yourself thanks
My experience is that BPD's don't think there's anything broken to fix. I commend you on recognizing that you even have it. But the bottom line is if you're an adult and you decide to stop taking meds then there is nothing anyone else can do. Plus you are still raging and running over people who are trying to help and still love you. BPD can make a person really unlovable and there is a limit. I've been on a lot of forums and BPD's need to own up.
Yeah you are right and think you for this. I suffered with BDP since I was a child and I Never knew that people thought of us sufferers as evil or a sociopath but I always swore I was evil and since I suffer with depression as well I always felt extremely depressed because of this. this is something we cannot control. The urges to have risky sex, binge eating, and impulsive behavior to scream and yell at people for No reason and get angry with them, I have went through it all.
My sister has BPD - she tortured me growing up... She now has 3 different baby daddies, divorced, on drugs, largely in debt, and can't keep a job or a friend.. nothing has worked.
***** I am inclined to agree. And the worst part is that they actually do no have the mental awareness to realize how they are acting and the effect they have on others.
For the record, it's no picnic for the person suffering from the condition either. I know it's hard to have sympathy for someone who caused you so much pain, but you can take solace in knowing that the pain they inflict on you, they endure times 10 every day of their lives.
Toni Harrison Actually, from my experience, she does not suffer at all from her condition. She will not even admit she even has it even though she was committed for it.Maybe she is not the typical BPD person, but she can be the most self righteous hypocritical woman you have ever met. It got so bad several years ago I actually was seriously thinking about snuffing it. I even had it planned out exactly how I would do it to make it look like a boating accident. No body, no questions.
I'm sorry to hear she made your life so miserable, but I still believe she's suffering. BPD's hide their pain extremely well. I don't really expect sympathy from someone who was tortured by one though. I'd feel the same way as you in your place, I'm sure. Murder is not the answer though. Find a way to deal with your anger so you don't ruin your life and/or someone else's.
Just my two cents, please don't be that naive about mental illness, there are people who really suffer from disorders like these...are some of the traits he describes common, yes, are some of the traits more uncommon? YES. Self-harm, cutting, burning, etc is not common (although for awhile it became a fad), the truth is that it is very frightening to watch a person who you love live with this type of illness. It is also hard to be the person who loves them and who is the object of their hate and dislike (it tends to change from person to person), and it is the hardest of all on the person with the illness. Please do not reply to this statement if you just want to say ugly things...its not worth anyone's time.
It is my hope that simply having an alternative understanding will not be viewed or experienced as ugly. You may have people in your life that have experienced extreme states of mind or you may have had such experiences yourself. The thing to remember is that there is NO scientific evidence that supports the thinking that these experiences are a result of an illness or disease. However the experiences exist. In my experience it is not helpful for someone to be told that something is wrong with them for having these experiences. My question is, what happens to these experiences when we or people around us identify our shared human needs, helps us evaluate at what level these needs are being met then collaborate with us in meeting these needs at high levels.
PBrofaith Thank you for your reply, and no, I do not think your view is ugly. My comment was meant more for persons who believe that these behaviors do not exist or are a joke. I do have an adult child who has similar circumstance and I watched her develop these behaviors over years. About having something "wrong" with a person with this type of behavior: It was never my intent to label anyone or anything, except to have a definition to the actual occurrence of this behavior in a person's life and the impact that it has on this person and others around them. I, myself, have a Neurological condition in which the chemistry of my brain (an organ of the body) is altered (dopamine), I do not have a "label" to my disorder, but it is a disorder just the same. The brain is a chemical battery that operates the entire body, mental, emotional, physical....whatever your beliefs are, when the chemical process is altered, so are the behaviors associated with the chemicals, hormones, synapses, etc that rule the body. I see one of the best Neurologists in the country. It is her belief that mental and physical disorders are the same organ based disorders and should not be treated any differently. I have seen what these behaviors look like and they are painful and scary. I have lived with knowing that some day I may not be able to help my own child, and that the behaviors may take her. I only hope that never happens and that she somehow has relief of the struggle she has constantly in her life. It is clear that as a society we need to have a better understanding and common language to be able to discuss these situations and help those who seek help for any reason, this or any reason.... A person in need should be met with love and help and never made to feel that they are broken...I understand your comments.
HoneyBaby Mama Thank you for your reply and I am so sorry that you have had suffering in your life. I wish for you that you are released from your fight with this, and that you have the happiness you seek. Namaste.
I was diagnosed in my late teens along with a small list of other "problems" and was never fully explained the what's and whys of it all. I never followed through with any type of treatment even though it was greatly needed. My folks didn't really take an interest in me that way until it came to punishment anyway. Now I'm in my early 30's and am desperate for help but can't seem to start. Anyway, don't know why I really even left a comment lol
My life is ruined by this disorder. I can't believe it. I'm so smart and so aware but I can't control it. It is so infinitely horrifying to live with this disorder on a daily basis. If I were never this way, I would be happy with a spouse. Mental illness along these lines are the worst thing that could happen to a person. May God help me.
Am 19 and have bpd :( I grew up with my mom and dad verbally sexually emotionally physically abusing me every single day I wasn't allowed outside wasn't allowed friends I was always told I was ugly fat no guy would love me truly or care I'd never have a baby and now am 19 found out about me have bpd anixety really bad and ptsd :( I struggle badly with it but the bright side of it all is I have a beautiful baby and a fiance :)
+Capital Steez You have just explained why BPD is the opposite of narcissism. They will marry three people at the same time knowing it will kill all three of them and not think twice. i do. I do. i do.
I like how the doctor was explaining the symptoms calmly and with confidence it look like he knew his stuff he might be alright on the doctor phil show
My mother was diagnosed with this, but I believe that she was misdiagnosed. I thing she dissociated, and probably had the same dx I have: DID (dissociative identity disorder) d/t childhood abuse from a narcissistic mother. Mother did show many of these symptoms. Treatment never worked for her. She was in patient several times. Eventually she was unable to work, and got disability. She finally starved to death at the age of 72. I was her primary care giver and also her victim of much child abuse. She was narcissistic too. I must add that we were very close, co-dependent and I was her caregiver until I became too ill to care for her. At which time she gave up and died soon after. Mental illness is a nightmare to live with. And I just am waiting for life to be over. I've had enough, and I am so tired and want to go home to Heaven. I want release.
What they aren't telling you is that there is a BIG difference between people who have BPD and bipolar. BPD is considered an access 2 diagnosis, and bipolar is only an access 1 diagnosis. The difference is that people who have an access 2 diagnosis can have little to no empathy for other human beings so they can be quite dangerous people. I've met 2 people in my life who have BPD and fortunately 1 one them is in prison for her behavior and is unable to harm more people. The other one is a neighbor of mine who finally had her children placed into foster care for the second time that I know of because of the horrific abuse they suffered at her hands. She murdered another neighbors 2 cats recently on one of her many revenge quests. If you ever meet somebody with BPD run the hell away from them because they are destructive tornadoes that destroy everything that is in their path
Nika Krapež People with BPD can't learn to control themselves because it's a brain disorder, and something is wrong their their brain that can't be fixed. Part of the disorder is the a normal person feels guilt or pain that comes from their brain when they do something wrong that prevents them from harming other people. For example if somebody is annoying and you don't have BPD your brain lets you know that it's wrong to murder somebody's cat so you feel that pinch or sense of guilt that makes you feel bad about harming somebody else. It also lets you know that torturing, or murdering an innocent animal is not OK. A person who has BPD doesn't have that happen because that part of the brain does not work because it does not exist. Instead what happens is the brain malfunctions because it's damaged and that sector of the brain is not working. While that part of the brain malfunctions the brain causes the person who has BPD how to mimic certain emotions (basically acting the way actors mimic emotions for making movies) to better manipulate other people so they can harm them and cause other people pain. When they are harming people they get pleasure from it in a very sick and twisted way. Expecting a person with BPD to to be able to learn self control is like expecting a pedophile to be able to learn self control with children.
Luke Raven After seeing the crap that I've seen the only advice I would give is if there is a chance that a person with BPD has an ounce of any kind of human compassion is to please not ever have children. I would hate to see anybody have to go through whatever hell my neighbor's innocent 2 small children had to endure. I don't know everything they had to endure because most of it was behind closed doors, but the little I did witness was horrific. I think it's one of the worst things about the situation is that the woman is so sick that she actually believes that she is OK because she says that she sees a therapist. When somebody is not only that far gone, or has the potential of being that far gone, because they can't control themselves they shouldn't have innocent children that could be put in harms way. That is assuming that a person with BPD cares enough to actually care for another human being enough to do that. In all honesty I think giving a person with BPD advice is like trying to shed some light on a black hole. I don't hate them I just don't see the point in trying to help somebody who does not care about other people and has no compassion for others
I have BPD and I can tell you I have never harmed another person. I love animals and people and I feel really ashamed when my anger gets out of control. I have manipulative thoughts but haven't acted on them since I was a teenager, because I now understand myself. You seem to be basing your whole view on BPD on your experience with just 2 people.
Robocloud75 I've had the pleasure of knowing 4 of these crazy people. read all my wonderful comments above to know who i feel about these abominations of our human race
Injuring FOR ATTENTION isn't a symptom of BPD...perhaps you should look more into the causes of self-harm behaviour..alot of people who do it will hide it as not to draw attention.
Um that has nothing to do with seeking "attention"; people do it because when they're in so much psychological pain, it distracts them from it by creating physical pain to replace it instead (only temporary and not a real solution, of course).
Thank you :) I admit, before I got help I felt like I wasn't in control of any outburst.. its like I gave up on holding myself back, but when I got the strength to stop, the personality disorder had already sent me begging for forgiveness.. It was an empty routine that never changed.. I admitted to my problem, that was the first step everything else got easier after that but I hate when people say we do it almost as if its planned.. Why would anyone want to purposely hurt their loved ones?
I'd rather deal with a psychopath and narcissist than BPD anyday. The things I've seen still boggles the mind. If a borderline has narcissism as well good luck in trying to get them to seek help. They won't ever admit any faults.
Good, deal with them instead! Oh wait... we have a psychopathic narcissist running the country. We're all forced to deal with him. At least with us, you know what you're dealing with.
Joe Cummings I should apologize to you. It is not an easy mental issue to deal with. I should know better since I have OCD and I know fully what it means to be at the mercy of your mind. But a narcissist who also has BPD is something frightening and cruel. You can't imagine the pain they cause on their children.
I have BPD and I can assure you that people with BPD are some of the most empathic and caring people on earth, even more than people without the disorder. Cut off your biases please.
oliverl89 Ditto...what you said. Would be why most others end up seeking out the companionship of a borderline. The ones that find a borderline, NOT all though, are typically a mess to begin..at least the ones I've ever met and been with. I try to help them out, and they get all attached and sometimes downright possessive. MOST borderlines can hold their own pretty good, it's when other people join their world that leaves a borderline an absolute car wreck.
oliverl89 What bias? I am speaking from experience. What I saw was the single most unbelievable experience of my life. The unbridled rage, hatred violence... The entire family from father to youngest were in tears because of this person. They never hold back, they attack physically,, mentally and emotionally. Saying the most hateful vile things trying to damage a child's psyche. I am aware that borderline alone doesn't make people evil but some people use evil and sadism to deal with their disorder ESPECIALLY if narcissism is involved. There comes a point when hurting people is the only joy and relief they get out of life.
I was diagnosed with it during my numerous trips to the mental health ward. I think a lot of my family members also have it. Instead of showing emotions we stuff and during times of sorrow we are telling jokes. People who know us, say all of us are hard reads. I try not to show my temper especially. Since I blow up, look like a goof and am so exhausted the next day.
Bipolar is something very different than borderline personality disorder. Although 75% of people that have bpd are female, it could be that mental health professionals are more likely to diagnose bipolar than bpd. Men can have bpd as well :)
Matthew Wilding I agree, I was first diagnosed with bipolar disorder by one psychiatrist, then it was later discovered by another that I actually have BPD.
More women tend to have the BPD diagnosis probably because they're more apt to seek professional help vs men who are apparently too 'macho' and DON'T want to admit to having issues...therefore not stepping foot into a psychiatrists office.
i have spent years in counciling. It treated symptoms, ie discussion of problems and some direction in thinking...my real impactful help came from seeking personal help and making a conscious choice to have faith in a guiding higher power....a choice. I have taken responsibilty in self betterment with trust that a guiding entity is assisting me...it has made all the difference. It was hard to believe church philosophy, or people in general. I listen to some people for encouragement and friendship. My "God" is the best guide in my life.
+Andrea Giamporcaro I have border line personality disorder FYI! You need to see the bright side of life. Btw I'm a Scorpio as well. so tell me how is it a insult? No I will not apologize and no I am not sorry. It's called a "comment"
I don't think you should stay away from them because it will make things worse for the other person, but rather seek professional help to get treatment.
kelly2ne1 You don't understand. Borderline Personality Disorder is horrible. These people can't control their personalities, they're one person one day, and a completely another the next day. These people tend to switch jobs often, switch friends often. They don't know when they're lying or when they hurt someone.
kelly2ne1 This is why BPD is in the same category as Bipolar Disorder. Bipolar means you can't control your emotions. Borderline means you can't control your personalities. They're insane people, and should be avoided at all costs.
ottocornish I do understand what it is like to be around someone with borderline personality disorder, a close family member has it..Also, Borderline is a personality disorder whereas Bipolar Disorder falls in the Mood Disorders category so they are not the same! lol
I have endured horrible days due to BPD, otherwise tons of drugs through various multi-year cycles have kept the condition at bay while keeping me alive and emotionally stable. Its been a trade-off, God help those who have BPD and don't do drugs... I honestly don't know how you do it. Stimulants and psychedelics... saved my life and I've never cut myself. Few years LSD, few coke, few MDMA, few meth, and a whole bunch more. I don't need any sleep whatsoever anymore also. Life has not been full of joy however it has been crazy and insane enough to make up for that. I consider borderline the big roller-coaster all day as opposed to walking around trying different rides. You'll end up sick but it will be a day you'll remember, not for the ride so much as the relief you felt throwing up intermittently between the rides. See? It has an element of fun if only you give in to its power and succumb to its vices. I imagine I will complete the circle by one day marrying another borderline.... and what a ride that will be. I am sure she will make all my narcissists and hysterionics seem boring by comparison. I can't wait! Where's the next damned coaster before I f#^$(@8 kill someone!!!? :)
That's why it's best to try to get the person the help that they need. It's possible for a person with bpd to realize and acknowledge that something is not right. and it's possible that someone suffering from the disorder can have a good prognosis. Showing empathy as well as using "I" statements to get the point across in an assertive, non-accusatory, way may help also. Never use "you" statements, for they will only put the person on the defensive. Bpd doesn't have to ruin anybody's life.
The 2013 movie, The Conjuring shows us how to deal with people with BPD. I think we should look into the realm of demonic possession when dealing with these types.
There is biological evidence supporting the theory that BPD sufferers have an abnormally underactive anterior cingulate cortex (in the frontal lobe of the brain) leading to a reduced ability to dissipate emotional arousal. In conjunction with an overactive amygdala (as demonstrated through exposure to emotional stimuli), we experience emotions on a level of higher intensity and duration than the average human. So before you mindlessly use pre-medieval demonic possessions as an explanation for the behaviour of the mentally ill, I'd suggest researching it thoroughly. Thank you and good day.
thnx for this video. My mom had narcissistic BPD and was extremely abusisive...i wish more of this info was out there. i wish it was more commonly known.
My husband has BPD, it's a struggle getting them to seek counsel and stay on meds! It's even more of a struggle maintaining any kind of stability. You are constantly on a roller coaster of emotions with that person, going up and down! It literally sucks all the energy of you!
My mom had been diagnosed with BPD. I didn't know what it was so I googled and found this. And yes omg this is exactly her. I'm glad she has finally been diagnosed and is starting treatment.
I feel like someone from my life close to me was as well. And yea...it was hell at times. But I forgive them and try to live my life even though I am now dealing with my own emotional issues from the damage. I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you are doing ok now :)
my wife has BPD, we have been married for 9 years. She as left three times before and now plans to leave again. I'm in the military and it's hard going through this every time. I love my wife and I'm begging for help.
I have been diagnosed with having BPD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and severe depression. While this video does touch on some of the factors of BPD, I feel that it is missing the serious emotional turmoil; the dark side. I am relieved that I have a diagnosis for why I can love a certain member of my family in one moment and then utterly loath them in the next to the point of fantasizing their death; I have a better understanding now of why I have romanticized suicide; I have knowledge of why the smallest things can make me uncontrollably angry and I am able to see myself outside of myself in those moments and recognize that I am not behaving normally, but I don't know how to stop it. I just want to know what I have to do to get better. Perhaps I just need to come to grips with the idea that I will never get better. It is an awful battle inside my mind every day.
Christine, it is good that you are admitting your illness and are working on bettering yourself. Don't pay attention to him; he is blaming others for his problems or maybe he has BPD and is having trouble admitting it.
My mother has BPD, but has never sought treatment. Now she is in her 70's living in poverty virtually without any friends or family, besides myself, that will communicate with her due to her erratic behavior brought on by her mental illness. I had a horrible childhood filled with trauma by the choices and behavior of my mother, but she did the best she could. I tried my best trying to help my mother, so much so, it caused me to fall to anxiety and depression so bad I nearly lost everything in my life. Now I am putting the pieces together after treatment. It's heartbreaking because I know my mother was/is capable of being a wonderful highly intelligent person who's capable if amazing accomplishments, but her untreated mental illness ruined her life. I hope those who suffer from BPD seek treatment, for the sake of everybody who cares about them.
It is heartwarming to read your story; recognizing that your mother has a mental illness and you understand that and love her her as you do.
sorry to hear that. i have boarderline and my family hate me coz of my behavour. i pussed everyone away ,i cry every day so dont think we dont feel so bad after an epsoide that you would want to hurt yourself. im sorry jason im sure she loved you because its me and my son reading your story and dreading some stuff that has gone down as he got older. i was fine till he got over we were extremly close.still are hes in the room but i hate myself for things i say and do when im in the place were i feel i carnt cope. i work everyday to not blow it with my son like hes the only family member i have. i hope heraring this makes you think and heal coz you sound in pain .she loves you she dosent love herself its a mess sorry re my spelling i hope you read this i really do iv got a feeling we could help each other my son is 17 be hapy listen to music
who do u turn to? Psychiatrist ?
+Peg Cordova My mother also suffered with a mental illness and I had to constantly remind myself of that in order to continue to help her.
Jason Downs Introduce her to twitter, that's where all the other BPDs seem to congregate.
I'm a 22 year old male, just got diagnosed with this like a week ago. The thing is, it's a disorder that develops as a result of such intense emotional trauma, that the brain takes the route that'll most easily make it bearable. Unfortunately, later on, it really does damage areas of the brain which can be proven with brain scans. As long as I'm trying to get better, I don't care what anyone thinks of me.
I just saw your latest video on BPD, and decided to see this one. Like the other lady said, fancy seeing you here:)
That you are aware of the origins and how you have been affected, and are actively working towards personal change for yourself is wonderful! I wish that more people who struggle with Borderline Personality Disorder would reach this level of insight and motivation.
You are to be praised for your efforts to get better.
I think you rock!
BPD is an order that one can recover from. I trust you are in therapy and on your road to recovery.
I have it, my mom has it, my aunt has it, and I know a few people with it. You can't blame all bad behavior on the disorder, most people with BPD have the ability to hide their unacceptable/bad behavior when around non-family members. The unfortunate thing is people who have it AND have bad intentions, or what I call having a 'bad heart'(people who want to hurt others), are extremely abusive, manipulative and quite frankly are the best at it, because they make the person they're abusing believe they deserve it. The only ones with this disorder who can't be helped are the ones who refuse to accept they have a problem. Once I learned I had it, my attitude was, "I don't like it, I'm going to try as hard as I can to change." And after years, I have gotten much better because I catch myself before I slip back into the manipulation or attention seeking or desperate attempts to avoid abandonment or the clingy behavior.
My point is, the ones I do not feel sorry for are the ones who refuse to accept they have a problem and blame everyone else as the cause of the problems THEY create, the ones who are abusive and control freaks. They cause a lot of damage to a lot of people.
I have BPD. I never lied about anything to get attention. I get very emotionally over things that are said or done that non suffers would brush off and carry on. I form co-dependant realtionships and can't walk away from them even when they make me ill. I rarely scream at anyone even if they are shouting at me. All my anger gets bottled up.
I have BPD- though with DBT therapy and medication I have almost 0 episode/symptoms.If I do it results in high levels of stress within my family and only occurs rarely opposed to daily. I went from a lunatic to a docile person at 32. I want people who have BPD to know that you don't have to suffer in your emotions. Your family, relationships, friendships do not have to suffer. Take the first step into treatment and WANT better for yourself. You are worthy, loved, valued, and capable of great things.
I have BPD and something that is often overlooked is the positive sides of it, such as the fact that BPD's feel positive emotions such as happiness and excitement much stronger than "ordinary" people. Also we tend to be much more empathic, caring and tolerant towards others.
ahahahaha positive side of being a BPD!!!!!
Dude, you have NO positive sides
but this is typical from a BPD sufferer to be always rigth, to be the only one that makes the right reasonement
The only advice? Just stay away from people with BPD
Haha, good trolling guys. You just backed up my statement.
Gianni Marino Personality disorders are fascinating, and while I haven't found a whole lot of informative videos on here, what I have found is you pitching a fit on every one I have looked at. Is BPD sexually transmitted? Because one way or another, that girl sure fucked you up good. You should probably try to take responsibility for your own actions at some point. You blame your issues on someone who you view as scum, but if they have that much control over you, what does that make you? At the least, you have to admit that you are a very weak person. If BPDs wear their emotions on their sleeve, you wear yours on a website.
Gianni Marino I don't pretend to be healthy. I don't pretend to be anything. I just can't stand to see you belittling a group of struggling people because one fucked you over. And man, I had a tragic run in with a BPD too. I don't know your story, and I don't have time to hear it all, but just imagine true pain when I tell you I SERIOUSLY DOUBT yours compares. She was my best friend, not a lover. Still, I don't hold animosity towards the BPD community, or any group with personality disorders. In fact, there is a clinical psychopath out there I would, and have, trusted my life with. You know why? Because he has saved it multiple times. To trust such a person, you need to see a whole lot of gritty reality. I also feel like you may be confusing BPD with other disorders. Regardless, Everyone can learn to deal with their problems, and nobody asks to be born with a mental ailment. I'm not trying to argue or humiliate you further. I'm just asking you to have a heart for people who are trying to cope with their illness, unlike your girl, who gave you the worst of it. I got my heart broken, and everything taken by a woman deemed completely sane(though no such condition exists); even so, I don't hate everyone with no blemishes on their psych history. If you want to express your opinion, fine, but don't attack someone like Oliver who seems to be trying remain positive, and better his life. He isn't the girl who hurt you....at least, I don't think so.
Gianni Marino One more thing: What if comments like these deter people with BPD from seeking help, because of the horrible stigma, and they instead try to hide their disorder, all the while falling deeper into it? Wouldn't that mean you were contributing to the problem, and more people could be hurt by personality disorders due to YOUR words? Why not instead try to convince these people to seek help, because the most dangerous disorders(physical, mental, whatever) are those that are undiagnosed. Instead of being bitter, try to be better. Come on bro.
People with BPD are sensitive souls who need lots of love and affection, IMO. They have a whole self, they just block it out to protect themselves from invalidation. To overcome the disconnection they can practice noticing their present experience, instead of being lost in thought or focusing on other people's experience. Tune in to your senses. The one who is tuning in is you. Your SELF.
Sadly, while this may be true, they also self sabotage, so they are very unlikely to get the love and affection they crave on a consistent basis.
yeah they would probably see themselves as unworthy and reject the help
Hendricana Exactly! We’re normal people, we just have intense mood swings really
Bpd women may need love and affection but it is not possible to give them what they need because it will never be enough
I'm 17 years old and I got diagnosed with BPD at the age of 15, even though it can't be officially diagnosed yet. I have been doing DBT therapy since I got diagnosed and it helps so much! Having this isn't easy and it gets real hard at times, but with therapy, DBT, and communication it has gotten a lot easier. I went on a downward spiral from 13-16 years old, with suicide attempts, self harm, eating disorders, and impulsiveness. I would be in hospitals 2-3 times a year, and RTC at least once a year. I got out of a treatment center in Utah last year in July, and it helped so much. It's hard on certain days, but having the right tools and help from people it gets better!
I have been diagnosed with BPD and I relate to what is said in the video about people with BPD believing they are fundamentally evil. I'm not sure what parts of my life are distorted by my view of myself and what parts were me being truly evil. All I can say is that I know, and people that know me know, that just like there are really bad sides to me, there are also really good sides of me. With DBT (Dialectical Behavior Therapy), medications, family and friend support and most importantly my constant hope and motivation to treat my disorder I have learned many ways to cope, correct behaviors, and be a better person.
John Pimentel thank you for the motivation, I'm still chugging along.
Hi, someone with crippling BPD here. I really appreciate this video. Due to the name of the disorder, people believe its something mild. It's definitely misleading.
Kat Rose very misleading I have bdp but have also been labled with social pathic tendencies... im here to talk I mean no harm..this video is usefully its just a shame the guy narrating in the audio carnt propely relate to us because you have to be living with it in order to fully understand how draining it is with life patterens and constant loops feeling down angry psychosis suicidal and to worse impulsive mood character and desire changes I describe it as no mans live .... stuck in limbo with spontaneous thoughts and worries its even worse with anxiety
Kat Rose it's not permanent if you actually take responsibility for yourself! you are misleading with your measurements of suffering you are not having a bad day compared to other serious disorders, I don't like you
Not to mention they are mostly liars
Why do people feel the need to kick people when they are down? People with BPD already don't feel great about themselves, why you feel the need to tell them that they are demons or soulless or inhuman or monsters? Getting a diagnoses like this can be frightening and disheartening, so we want information, and what do all of you do? Make us feel even worse about it.
It depends on how you treat others around you. I was abused for years, verbally, mentally and even physically by someone with BDP. Yes, I do blame the diagnosis. It was all I could do to keep from smashing her head through the wall at times. The worst thing is, is that most people with this will never admit that they are at fault about ANYTHING.
63gstone Really? Because one of the main characteristics is self blame and fear of loosing those close to you because you messed up somehow.
Kate Speaks That may be what is underlying things in her mind. The term "I hate you. Don't leave me" comes to mind. However, the way it manifests itself is that no matter what bad thing happens, I will surely get the blame. Even in normal everyday conversations, I have to be very careful to make eye contact and not make any facial expressions that she can interpret as not paying attention to her or being in any way dismissive of what she is saying (cocked eye brow or glancing at something). And even when she tells me something wrong, it's my fault for not paying proper attention and not listening.
63gstone No... sounds like she had some other issues outside of BPD or that was a characteristic of her own... Or perhaps... you were shitty, who knows I don't know your relationship with her... But no... Typically BPD people will take the fault for everything... words like Sorry, I didn't mean to etc etc is a big part of our vocab....
I wish I never have bpd coz its affecting my relationship. I'm scared coz I think im gonna lose my women and that of I do that will be the end of me doing something silly to my self. Hope to god it would leave me but it's a thing that will never leave me.
I am so glad that I found this. I have never seen anything that has described me as much as this does.
+Kristen Fussell Have you been tested for BPD?
blueoceanparadox no I haven't. My parents laughed at me when I said I think I have it. So I don't think I will be tested any time soon.
Oh my God, I´m so sorry. How old are you? I don´t know if you´re American, but I hear that Mental Illness is still surrounded by many stigmas and is still looked down upon in America, but if you have problems that gets in the way of your everyday life or if you feel like there is something you can´t cope with, you deserve to be heard and helped. I just can´t believe your parent´s reaction. I´m really sorry for you.
Its fine. I am sixteen, I will be 17 next month. I do live in America. My parents do know that I have other mental illnesses. I am trying to get them to help me but so far, nothing is working, my doctors keep telling them I need to go to a therapist immediately but they won't take me...
+Kristen Fussell ive been dignosed today with bpd by a pycoglist but i have known for while thAT i have this but i am getting help hope you get the help you wantxx
You shouldn't "speculate" if a person has a mental illness. It's not your place to make that sort of judgement, especially when you don't even personally know them.
What possible reasoning could you have for putting speculate in quotes???? I mean, do you even understand what quotes are for???
What about those who do it to make a bridge of understanding between the gap of confusion that? Sorry, I know that's a weird question.. I've always wondered what's really acceptable to do if you're a victim of someone who may be ill, like on family level. Thanks for any answers.
Against Machines Taking Over no, psycologist try to be your friend and break down questions while retaining words you say, they do judge body language. but theyre bad at judgeing like doctors. unless you fully reley your priblems you get the right help.
"You shouldn't show concern for someones mental health because the fact that they might be mentally ill might offend them."
Dunno. Doesn't seem right.
Really? I guess if you're a victim of BPD person we shouldn't talk about it? Huh it's funny how family has to deal with bat shit crazy and have compassion and they don't even seek help and deny having a problem even tho they've been diagnosed. I say get your shit together BPD! I disowned my BPD family and so has my brother. Sure we have family gathering but we only stay a minute especially when they get drunk talk about they're nasty ass sex lives and and start picking on kids and siblings.
My ex had, PTSD, anxiety, depression and BPD. I didn't think I had to do any research on BPD because she explained it to me. She just said she spaces out from time to time so I didn't think much of it. She showered me with affection, insisted she pay for everything, wanted to buy me things knowing she couldn't afford it, supported anything and everything I wanted to do in life. Well, one day after a long date. (I took her out to breakfast then we went spent the whole day hanging out and at the end of the day I dropped her off at work) The next day, she stopped replying to all of my texts, blocked me on all social media sites and kept everything I gave her (iPhone, clothes, books) or let her borrow. No closure, no nothing. Within 2 weeks she was dating someone else. I'm sorry if this offends anyone but I will never again interact with anybody with BPD. I'm not equipped for that.
I'm already pretty sensitive and emotional (but not BPD) and dated a guy with PTSD who did the same thing. Had a lot of highs, a few lows, then randomly. Disappeared. Really hurt!
I also have BPD and find that its not as horrible or "demonic" as some of you think..all my friends, family and fiancee do not think im a bad person but just sensitive caring loving and a wonderful mom too. I just learned to lean on God when theres trouble and He always takes care of me and keeps me feeling loved and blessed!!!! So there is hope BPD sufferers!!!!!!
Yes!!! Same here!! Psalms 91 makes me feel so good.
God is our answer, yet we sin alot. Anger, substance abuse. But God does heal emotions!! It happened to me!!
Tanya Rowbotham I must disagree. It is horrible and demonic, and if you've experienced BPD like I have then you'll know it rips your life apart and your self from the inside-out.
For those who are reading this without BPD then imagine a ticking feeling in your brain, like a bug scratching the surface. You can feel it, but can't reach it, then you feel that little part of your brain that controls aggression spark and you spiral off into a state of aggression and frustration, then an hour later it de-pleats into a state of depression and before you even have time to reflect of what happened you've already created your own destructive path and you have to clean the shit up.
Tanya Rowbotham Brilliant! Developed mental illness, but it's okay coz my imaginary friend fixes it. Ha!
Oh please! Let's be real! Ppl try to claim that others should be sympathetic to those with mental illness but the TRUTH is that people are only sympathetic towards those with mental illness if they are still somewhat sweet and not attacking THEM or OTHER PEOPLE in society. only if a person with MI is a threat to themselves then ppl are "oh, poor thing, lets get him/her help.Feel so sorry for them." yet no one has patience for those with mental illness that harms others outside of themselves. thats why sometimes i think this 'awareness' some others claim we should have toward all MI is bs, because the reality is that ppl have selective sympathy and care for only certain illnesses
+Sunflower Completely agree. Some mental illnesses are sexier than others, as in those portrayed as completely not the sufferer's fault, like schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorder and bipolar disorder.
Though I have Borderline Personality Disorder with Bipolar Disorder, whenever someone says they have a "personality" disorder others react with "well, it's *just* a personality disorder, get over it". If others could see the torment of having BPD they might change their minds. Maybe it can be studied and treated more effectively if it's recognized as the medical condition it truly is, and not a personality flaw or moral failure.
Okay, getting back on my rainbow-farting unicorn and heading to utopia.
I think if someone with a mental illness is highly abusive that they shouls be put in their place. However, I personally would still feel sorry for them knowing how little they can help their actions.
thanks for the video. my sister suffers from bpd. it is hard to get along with her but i love her very much and now seeing this video i understand her better.
Why is this video describing my life please stop
Jennely P. DBT and God can help all of us big-time. don't give up hope!!!
same here... but iv been diagnosed with this... this did not help.. made me feel like shit
is it ok to date someone who has BPD
AshtheDuke, If you'd like to live in a hell-on-earth, constantly questioning reality and your own sanity, then yes. Be prepared to be on a never ending roller coaster. You'll be the bee's knees one day and the embodiment of all evil the next day. And I'm not kidding or exaggerating.
i was dating this russian girl and she has bpd shes now in mental hospital havent got her reply yet, but instead am dating her frend but shes not hot as the Russian girl
AMEN! I don't feel the least bit sorry for them. I lived with one and the hell she put me through doesn't compare to the hell of the "poor person" getting diagnosed with borderline.
My husband and I have been rocking through my recovery for about 2 years now. Tons of fights, lots and LOTS of fights... but they have all become apart of this long journey to me no longer cutting, drinking, doing drugs, or other risky self harming behavior. My family has been a HUGE support system. DONT GIVE UP HOPE! DO THE WORK. RUN THE MARATHON TO RECOVERY! YOU CAN DO IT!
(AND DON'T BELIEVE A DAMNED THING THE HATE MONGERS SAY! they have been hurt, and just like someone with BPD they are lashing out at anyone to feel they are heard and being validated)
Mary Trueman, I'm so happy to read your post!! Good for you and I wish you and your husband the absolute best because you deserve nothing less! I was married to a lady with BPD and was cursed, screamed at, she called me names, stayed out all night for nights in a row, cheated on me, etc. I understand she didn't do that because she hated me. I found out later from her ex husband that she did all those things to him, too. So her behavior had little to do with me. I would've stayed with her but toward the end of our marriage she started staying gone all night quite frequently. It has taken me 3 long years to get over the resulting heartbreak, so I've had to battle depression, anger, self pity, etc. I also understand my ex must really suffer...I mean, how can you dish out horrible behavior unless you feel horrible inside yourself?!?! She gave me the best she had for herself and it was emotionally painful. God bless her and I hope she will be at least ok. Maybe she'll find recovery and happiness...sure hope so. Thank you for sharing and keep up the good work!!
Philip Brideweser Im so sorry to hear that she didn't seek help with you. You seem like the type of man that wouldn't just cut and run (and the whole abandonment thing is a huge trigger) and that is a HUGE deal. Most people with BPD dont even know who they are, let alone know how to communicate the pain they feel EVERY DAY, so it comes out in bursts and guilt and anger and all the other upsetting things BPDers do and say. Im glad to hear that you arent blaming yourself as well. Her actions were never your fault and were only a reflection of the lack of love and respect she felt for herself.
Thank you for sharing your story :)
Thank you Mary. Stories like yours help me heal!! I'll always love my ex wife and if love can survive what we went through, then we've not suffered a total loss! Did she love me? I don't think so...I don't really know. I do know there's a place in my heart that is forever hers. No one can have her place. Thank you and may you and your husband achieve much in the way of love and happiness!!
I may be BPD.... but I see no point in going to get diagnosed because I walk into a clinic and say "I think I may have ____ because I find I match these symptoms" and they just go "Yup, sounds right! Lemme write this in your file" and I don't feel like I really am. Now I feel like a liar. Maybe I'm wrong. Like, why aren't there tests. Helpful tests. I need real tests.
Go get diagnosed.
+Noodle Doodle I'm too scared to but i match all this and have knows something is up for ages
Actually an accurate diagnose can help you getting treatment. And you don't have to take meds sometimes just therapy is enough.
we all go through these emotions ,read about other disorders and you'll see
this is exactly what happened to me. the doctor ended up prescribing me meds without listening to me talk about what i've been going through and they ended up messing me up big time
Wow. Came to this video to see what healthguru had to say about my bdp. Found an angry mob of haters who compare people with my condition to Hitler and the Nazis.
Great job, internet.
I know right! its messed I have several mental disorders including BPD and I'm one of the nicest caring people your meet lol just don't get on my bad side xD
Uh, no, wanting to hurt/kill other people isn't bpd. Being borderline doesn't make you more likely to hurt people :/. Actually, since we feel very strongly, we tend to be highly empathetic and care about others...
I know! We are sick and compassion less ppl make us sicker! Bugger off!
Claire Powers Yes, it does work both ways. I'm sorry, I thought you were one of those people who thought bpd people were horrible sociopaths. Honestly, you should try googling bpd to learn more if you think you have it. or go on tumblr. Tumblr has a lot of resources for borderlines that doesn't use so much fancy language and utter word vomit. :)
You need to get your facts straight snarkysoren about bpd. This manipulation you do is very cliché and tiresome.
Finally a clear and informative answer as to what is Borderline Personality Disorder. Thank you so much. All my life i have been told i have it, but no one could tell me what it was exactly. All my life i kept on asking for help to be normal, and consistent, i hate myself so much at times, and now i finally understand why i cant seem to stay stable in my moods or actions. Now if only i can find help to change and cure this.
I know how you feel. I have done a lot of research on the subject and its not an easy illness to overcome. It takes cognitive therapy for the worthless stuff, medication to stable the moods- which in turn helps stabilize your relationships and life. Stability, structure, predictability and communication are a big part of recovery as well. A combination of all the above mentioned treatments can be effective treatment for BPD. I found reading books on identity crisis, taking responsibility for my actions and being mindful of my thoughts..and sometimes just walking away really fast before I blow my top- have all helped me tremendously. I still have a long way to go. I think the hardest symptom for me is the fear of abandonment. I experienced several traumatic separations, abuse and unhealthy boundaries as a child but with awareness and perseverance I know I will get well someday...Best wishes, keep you head up and stay positive!
Yes I completely understand. It is so hard to deal with the darkness of BPD. No one could really explain to me what it was. I feel I am more compassionate then most think. In general I feel I present my self differently than what others think. Well my point is I think I'm getting worst now that I'm an adult and I am now seeking help.
I believe anyone willing enough to change any behavior CAN do so, so long as YOU are changing because YOU truly want the change and NOT trying to just change for someone else. I'm a borderline, yes. However I like who I am, and how I conduct my life. I don't need anyone to like me nor do I really care if anyone does or doesn't. You CAN change, don't let anyone on here tell you that you can't...good luck.
CirisSplash 'typically' borderline symptoms decrease in intensity as one ages. I was diagnosed almost 18 years ago, and I can tell you that although the mood swings/impulsivity are still very much present...I've learned to recognize them and handle them differently, cutting and other NOT so pleasant coping mechanisms are a thing of the past. Also as a parent, I don't have time to feel "lonely/abandoned" and many times WISH I could HAVE time alone! Things DO eventually get better :)
I got diagnosed with BPD a few days ago after spending a week in a Mental Health Unit.
I really appreciate this video, it makes so much more sense to me now.
My grandma fits most all the symptoms for this disorder, but at the same time she also displays behavior similar to Bipolar Disorder and Narcissism.
She has terrible relationships with all her children, grandchildren, and rest of the family, but her whole life she has refused to admit that she has a problem and thus can not get any help. This makes life a living hell for all the close family members that are around her.
Thus I urge anyone who has a mental illness to please admit it and get help! Don't be afraid, as trying to hide your problem just makes it worse for everyone, including you!
love the video but hated that they made speculations about movie stars. they need actual proof of that then the video would be spot on.
There is proof, at least for Lindsay Lohan.
www.anythingtostopthepain.com/lindsay-lohan-possible-bpd-detail/
I was diagnosed with BPD 6 years ago. I think I have had it my entire life. I always feel like I don't matter, I have good days and some days its like my mind is going crazy and I don't know why.
I'm the same. Horrible isn't it?
Is there meds for it?
+Nubian Breland Yes,but you need to make sure you have been properly diagnosed with BPD. When I was diagnosed, I was given about 4 medications to try.
some worked better than others. I was given Prozac 40 and Abilify 20.
It seemed to help.
Sorry to hear about your diagnosis. I am also a sufferer of BPD, depression, anxiety and OCD. I know the feeling of the good days and days feeling like your mind is going crazy.
I am here if you ever want to chat, my story is on my channel too, so feel free to subscribe and join me in the fight to remove the stigma attached to mental health illnesses!
i believe i suffer from this...and bipolar....starting treatment soon...it sucks especially the fact that i have graves disease as well
Possibly learning more about myself is triggering my anxiety.
Thank you. was diagnosed at 19....I'm 50 now........lived a life....had a family.........but yes, my intense periods of freak have made things difficult..... for us all. And continue to do so for me....the Master Of Disguise..
I have borderline personality disorder and I can tell you just how much of a struggle it is day in and day out
I wish I was normal. I sit back most days trying to understand why I am the way I am. How did I become this? Why did this happen to me?
This video could've been written about my son. I'm so afraid that he'll never really be able to be happy because every day is like a roller coaster & he just wants to get off.
The still image of a stitched wrist and, later, the shot of a razor blade being held to a wrist are EXTREMELY disturbing images and may be seen as 'triggers' by many BPD sufferers.
May I POLITELY request that you alter this video or PERHAPS, you could PLACE A WARNING AT THE BEGINNING of the video that there are certain images contained within THAT MAY BE A TRIGGER to BPD sufferers?
A 'trigger', since it is not mentioned, is the name given to something which can upset a sufferer of Borderline Personality Disorder and can literally 'trigger' a Borderline Episode or CAUSE Borderline Behaviour.
For the sake and SAFETY of sufferers...PLEASE take note.
Many thanks!
=)
I agree on this made me want to go and do it because it remind me how good the putter pain felt . Not good trigger
I have studied Psychology and worked in the field for 26 years.I have to say that you are showing very healthy choices and good emotional stability at this time.
I think that you should consider a few years of treatment to become healed and emotionally stable.I think you would then be able to counsel and help other bpd people.You have ALOT of promise for better times ahead !
i haven't been professionally diagnosed as of yet as im starting therapy and medication currently but after reading up on LOADS of types of disorders i finally found this one that explains me to the MAX, i'm only 20 but have been suffering a very long time been on anti depressants over 4years and have never found the right help needed, i needed parents to support me and help me get help but now im 20 im trying to do it myself
hate feeling crazy
Nice video - informative and respectful -- but the "crazy woman" picture has got to go lol. There's too much stigma surrounding this illness as it is.
Dolores Hazard that’s what I came here to say
They are crazy. There's a vacuum right where empathy should be in these individuals. They absolutely do not give a f#ck about anyone aside for themselves. Manipulative pathological liars who will stop at nothing to gain attention. Including causing harm (short term or long term) to others just to bring attention back to themselves. If you meet one walk away, right away. Everything you do or say is being recorded by them, so they can further lie and manipulate. It goes so deeply entrenched with them this behavior, that they don't even know they are doing it. and if you confront them at all about it, they will go ballistic, pull away from you and carry on lying and manipulating in a greater effort, then move on to someone else and do the same to them. Throwing themselves at you with their legs open, over the top smothering manipulation. The chances are that 100% of what they ever say to you is lies.
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Yeah, get involved with a BPD woman and see how it destroys your life. They are crazy. Batshit crazy.
im borderline happy then im borderline sad
lol i heard that song and thought about bpd x,D
Borderline good then I'm borderline bad
TheKawaii Koala In the Borderline Hood with my Borderline Dad
I’m borderline confident then I’m borderline low self steem
Y'know, as a Borderline, reading the comments (which Gods, I really need to stop doing. I already know people have negative views about the disorder--there's no reason for me to go into a self-hate spiral 'cause of it. Or, well, maybe there is. We do get our self-worth from others. Anyway) I think there are a number of people who are confusing BPD, NPD, and ASPD.
Let me help you all out in my own special way as a psych and sociology major and a BPD sufferer.
The Narcissist acts like they're big shit, talks like they're big shit, treats everyone like shit, and DEEP down inside, actually thinks they're shit. The major problem with Narcissists is that they need to use other people to make themselves feel loved and they have a complex that makes them ACT like they're great and wonderful and amazing when inside they view themselves incredibly negatively. But they act like they're awesome because they want to make sure everyone knows they're awesome, which they will then hear and feel better about themselves. This complex is rooted so deeply, but the underlying part of the treatment of a Narcissist is getting them to admit how vulnerable they are. If a therapist can open the shell and get into that "I feel like I'm shit" part, then the Narcissist can recover.
The Antisocial acts like they're big shit, talks like they're big shit, thinks that they're big shit, and treats everyone like they're shit. Emphasis on the treating everyone like shit. I'm not as knowledgable on ASPD as I am on the others, mainly because I spent my high school years in alt. schools with other kids with similar issues and quickly developed a "sociopath/psychopath detector" so I stay AWAY from those people. But, ASPD people are the people you gotta watch out for. Strangely, they're also (along with Narcissists) very common in the business world. The difference is the Antisocial person isn't gonna hide their less wonderful side--there is a difference between being a sociopath and an ASPD sufferer.
A Borderline acts like they're shit, talks like they're shit, believes that they're shit, and cares a SHITTON about other's believes and feelings. So, the difference between the Borderline and the other disorders is while the first two are APATHETIC, a Borderline is extremely EMPATHETIC to the point where it's actually harmful to them and sometimes others involved. But inside of a Borderline, they believe they are awful, they act like they're awful, and they truly truly hate themselves--which is why they need other people to constantly validate them. Most Borderlines were not "nurtured" properly as children and now as adults have no idea how to self-soothe or give themselves love or atttention or even breaks. Most Borderlines will actually hurt THEMSELVES if they think they've hurt someone else. If I ever get into a fight with someone (which I try not to do, as a pacifist) I will actually, when all is said and done, be more angry at MYSELF than the other person. I will be furious at myself for hurting someone else. I will think I am an awful burden to the human race who should be exteriminated. This immense self-hatred and the inability to see in shades of grey like normal humans, basically ruins life for us.
But another difference between the first two disorders and BPD is that BPD has a high rate of recovery. It's estimated that with proper treatment, in six years a Borderline can go into a type of "remission" and become symptom-free. It's not that they get rid of their thought patterns and emotional issues--but rather that they learn tricks to help themselves. Mainly the idea of "Mindfulness" which basically means sitting through your intense pain/other emotion with the knowledge it won't last forever. Which, is actually pretty hard. But it can be done. We can definitely learn how to live with those around us and we can learn how to rein in our emotions. We will still feel super strong--but we'll learn how to control the reaction those emotions give us. Which is all we can do.
So yeah.
I only found out that I am BPD. The only difference for me with most BPD's is though I love love, and being in love and love my family and friends, I like being alone. AND I don't hate myself. I've been through so much that I know was not my doing. So I can forgive myself and love who I am even though I act up sometimes. Don't get me wrong, I am not in remission. In fact im 48 and extremely suicidal. I'm not narcissistic, I love people, I care immensely about not hurting others intentionally, I have amazing friends and I am loved. BUT, I am loved at a distance, its safer that way. I am only suicidal because living hurts. I've tried the old "when tomorrow comes" cliche, that got me to this age, where tomorrow never came.
Now I have been given a diagnosis that finally makes sense, that explains cyclone Natalie.... and now the real work begins, like grilling my psychiatrist who would write BPD on paper but not actually tell me what it is???? Wt? I thought he meant borderline Bi-polar.until I watched "Girl Interrupted" that's when I realised BPD was not Mild or Borderline Bi-polar, but a diagnosis all of its own, a diagnosis which I meet 3/4 of the criteria for. And here I am not giving a hoot about living, and struggling every day to not just end it, and I find out "MOST CASES CAN BE CURED" / or at least go into remission with treatment. WTF? Oh I'll be ever so kind but please Mr psychiatrist, why did we not discuss this in 2 years? He writes Anxiety, Depression, suicidal ideation and BPD on my paperwork...discusses and treats everything but BPD "seriously???" WTF....
Ok - im over it lol......had my dummy spit. :0)
Its pretty shitty that you can sit there and first talk about how people with BPD are stigmatized and hated, then go on to hold up the stigma against other PDs
AshIsAWolf How am I holding up the stigma to other PDs. The whole "shit" thing? Nah. I'm just trying to explain how the differences are between the disorders in a catchy way. It's true though, according to many psychologists: Narcissists act grandoise because they have very little self-worth and the self-worth they DO have, they need to get by another's approval. Anti-Social people lack empathy and actually tend to believe they are the best thing since sliced bread, so they differ from the Narcissists who also lack empathy (usually) but also inside, think they're worth nothing. Borderlines are the opposite of the two in that they are extremely empathetic and they have no sense of self-worth, but instead of acting grandiose to get self-worth, they tend to just be on a endless self-hate rollercoaster.
***** I know exactly how you feel Jeremiah. Having BPD really sucks. It makes our lives all the harder--especially since very few understand.
Kara Barbieri You can definitely have BPD and be a narcissist.
This is exactly how I feel. I feel I care TOO much. I am a very generous and kind-hearted person. I am always trying to get approval or get people to like me, to the point where when someone wrongs me I change into this dark evil person, a mere shadow of my former self, and want to wreck havoc on the world. The worst part is I see myself doing this, but I am powerless to control or stop it. The only thing I can compare it too is the Hulk... you won't like me when I'm mad. After my rage is over and I look back, I get this feeling of regret, disgust, self-loathing... so on. I hate myself for not being able to control my emotions. I have pushed my family and friends away, and now I have lost the love of my life. When will this pain stop? I don't want to be like this anymore. I don't know what to do to keep my cool. I truly feel like I have two people living inside me.
+Antonio Depetrello I feel like laughing because it is oh so perfect a description. Yes, the hulk. So do not purchase a weapon ever in your life. I have lost a list of loves in my life, I have never forgotten any of them, and the accumulated pain has made for some bed to lie on. On the other hand so many of my friends have gotten married then divorced and lost so much with it that today i ask should I thank borderline for small mercies? Some of those divorces were 5-year epic court battles. All have lifelong implications. I'm 45 and feel in some ways Mr. Borderline may have been a working defense mechanism that actually did its job well. To keep my cool and avoid rage the best for me is avoiding commercial mass media, which is full of triggers. Avoiding painful relationships with women by limiting myself to one bad breakup every few years. Avoiding my family became a necessity. And finally drugs... if you do drugs to party and feel relief then legal amphetamines have worked for me immensely. Adderral or Vyvanse or even small amounts of meth kick my two selves into one but i cannot get a prescription so i am left on the black market or using meth, which is effective but much too addicting and thus it is too easy to move from therapy into party mode. If only I had a girlfriend who could hold it back on me, the meth would be fine in tiny amounts every morning. i don't smoke or snort or inject.. i eat it like any pill. Sounds crazy but google adderall and adhd drugs... its better than ending up arrested 100+ times like I was before I discovered this... better than losing you girlfriend due to imagination. The only downside is you no longer feel like sleep is required, and it isn't. I sleep 2-3 times per week maximum. Personally I love it but if I had a wife she'd probably be wondering wtf...!!!
Jill, you are a very kind & observant person - I wish there were more people with your type of thinking & caring. God Bless, Snowy
Wow. I may have this. Molested several times as a child and developed an anger management problem. Although, simply talking to a therapist after I hit the bottom seemed to clear most of it up. It's only occasionally now that I get abnormally angry. The difference now is, I catch it almost immediately. Before, I seemed to need to play it out not really understanding why I was so angry. I guess now knowing allows me to apply reason.
truth sir!!! i have been in therapy for a year and a half and it has helped tremendously! I'm now more aware and my relationships are improving. i hope one day i'll be healthy enough to have a romantic relationship. i dont want to be alone.
BPD is not something to take lightly. I have had it most of my life. I have gone from extreme lows to extreme highs in a matter of seconds. I have been in a mental health facility before and the only reason I was able to leave is because my husband is not (in the social workers words) "an a--." I went on my own accord because I knew the thoughts I was having were not normal. When I was younger my mom thought I was behaving erratically for attention, believe me wanting attention is the farthest thing from my mind. I tried to strangle one of my sisters for using my bath towel and I even threw a fork at my dad (and by dad I mean the man that raised me not the man who physically and emotionally abused me) because he asked me how my day was. I used to have indiscriminate, unprotected sexual encounters with several men and women, thankfully, I never got a disease. I feel horrible for the way I acted and the things I did. I took medication for it but that seemed to make it worse. I started doing breathing exercises and that has helped me out a lot. Just because this works for me doesn't mean it works for everyone. I still have emotional outbursts but not as many as before and my family and friends (the few I have left) have been really supportive and helpful. If you know anyone with this disorder you should try to help them. Don't push them away no matter if they try to push you away first. In truth, it's not what we want. We want acceptance and love just like everyone else. Peace and love to you all.
My mom has this. Its awful...
:( I'm so sorry....I have a 17 yr old son I have bpd
If you are in a relationship with a BPD sufferer think long and hard about sticking around, because this condition will destroy its partners. YOU will get the blame for absolutely everything. It will get projected on You, you will get run into the ground. You may get lucky and the person will get better, but in the meantime Baton Down the Hatches! Because you are in for a long rough ride. Good Luck to anyone that attempts to make sense and be there for a sufferer.
That is it exactly, I've tried for one year to hope that this crazy bitch becomes normal, it will never happen, constant drama, all she wants to do is fight, I am the worst idiot in the world, nothing I have ever done is right, it goes on and on like that. Stay away from Borderlines at all costs, they will, wear you down to a nub of your former self. And when you leave, they will simply start looking for another victim.
Jim Smith You've tried. Now it's time to take care of yourself and get over this relationship it will have taken a huge toll on you, more than you realise. Be good to yourself move on, you will find someone that you deserve. Don't take this past experience to heart. And please again BE GOOD TO YOURSELF
Winona Ryder played a character with BPD in Girl, Interrupted while Angelina Jolie played a character with (what was thought to be) ASPD.
People within the same cluster of personality disorder tend to have symptom overlap.
It really doesn't matter what you do, they will scream and yell. You can give them everything they claim that they want and they will still scream and yell, you can plead with them to stop, it is useless. It is like dealing with an abusive alcoholic that blames everyone and refuses to stop drinking. Walk away and make no contact, that is the only hope. They will wear you down to a nub, and instill in you some sick need to go back for more and hope that it will work. Leave and don't look back. My guess is that a large number of murder / suicides are caused by a guy who has just been beaten down again and again until he finally snaps. Life is meant to be happy, not constant chaos and discord.
Dan Roberts 🤔i almost never yell and i am pretty reasonable
Life isn't always pretty so do human...
BPD here. People have described me as compassionate, loving, and kind. I love humanitarian work and am a social worker because I believe the world needs more love and service. I yell sometimes and I have BPD symptoms but I used enormous amount of energy to control them. Not all of us are what you describe. I'm sorry for whatever experience brought you to this overarching assumption but please know many of us are good, kind people. Best wishes.
this is a very informative video that has a lot of useful information about BPD. I only wish it didn't use such graphic images such as stitches and a razor blade on someone's wrist. i understand the need for factual information, but these images can be very triggering for people with BPD. who may be watching this trying to learn more about themselves. i'm just saying consider your audience when making videos like this.
It is essentially being emotionally unstable.
oh my.......glad I found this... I get really angry at my family, I got pit on medication, now dealing with anxiety and depression
I have been diagnosed with bpd. I had a hard life and my behavior was mad. When I was 25 I realized I had completely lost control of myself and asked for help to a psychologist. I started a therapy that lasted 5 years with 2 meetings a week. It was very hard...now I have a good job (and I am keeping it)
It would appear that a number of people commenting are confused as to what BPD is... this video doesn't help either... A lot of people are diagnosing their exes with BPD so they can have an excuse as to why their relationship failed and making up misguided symptoms attempting horribly to associate it with BPD.
+Frank Cain It's like they all think intimate/interpersonal relationships are to blame but it's a little more deep and complex than that.
Why are they using European countries as borderline traits?
+Swag Nation HAHAHAHHA hilarious!!!!!!!!!
Didnt notice!!
i think germany had the first psychiatric ward which doesnt surprise me...
i read somewhere that the reason that more women are diagnosed with BPD than men is that it is overlooked when men act assertive aggressive as a normal part of being a boy or a man but when a woman is assertive or aggressive ahhhhh she is BPD ~thus, few men diagnosed BPD. is this one for the feminist books or what??? ;O)
No it's because most men do not choose to seek treatment for anything so most men have no idea that they have an illness and just think it's how they are. Most people don't know what this illness even is.
interesting ~today's doctor's especially tend to diagnose this on women if they act assertive. at the same time, female's will fit the criteria for Borderline Personality Disorder more often than men or boys due to the fact that the rate of males that abuse females over females that abuse males is astounding and to do with culture as well as a totally different nervous system and hormonal make up. i was astonished to see that a male's cardiovascular and nervous system is very simple and minimal compared to a female's which has 1000s more tributaries... including in the brain. some men do seek help, though but if they are aggressive and violent ~a doctor rarely considers BPD whereas if a female presents as such there is a relatively good chance the doctor will consider it quickly because females are expected to be submissive and at worst ~withdrawn/depressed/retentive; never ever manic/expulsive/expressive with a hint of sarcasm (only guys are allowed to do that don't you know? ;). and this is where venus and mars have evolved LOL with all our technology, intelligence, articulate thought and wisdom of so many cultures of so many ages now. Not to get off the subject too much but from time immortal humans that have made great civilizations have somehow come up with a great religion and then lots of bloody wars happen behind them. To top it off within those individual cultures the religions break apart, somewhat, and form slightly different versions and then even they violently defend their religions within their religion and it is as if we have a whole globe of people after 1000s of years of these ridiculously bombastic wars in the name of a loving creator God ~it begins to make anyone of average intelligence wonder when people are going to finally evolve as much as their technology and such has as to not think that religion is something that you can throw out there like Burger King (as in 'have it your way'). Respecting that to worship God is a personal and private event would be a big step for mankind now. The question is as long as history has shown again and again that man has learned nothing from these religious wars and cultural boundaries; will it ever happen at all at some point?
+Foggy Ozarks Robin Funny, it took me pissing off a female psychiatrist for her to look at me and say "hmmmm... i think you have borderline". That was twenty years after I first went to an emergency mental hospital on my own. I must have see as many 'professionals' before the biggest bitch I have ever met in my life called it right.
they can be clever. thankful, i am, for g@@gle to give me these AH HA! moments to stay ahead of the world's trickery and fraud. It may be revealing to you, somehow, to know also that ~did you know that a narcissist is the exact opposite of BPD? sometimes knowledge, as such, allows us to 'connect the dots' of our parent's parenting. i thank you for the testimony.
You are very brave Tholins Tvshow. That takes a strong person to make that choice. Ignore when people are saying that people diagnosed with BPD do not take responsibility for themselves. because by taking action to help yourself, people going through therapies, and removing themselves from damaging situations that will only make you worse if you stay - that IS taking responsibility. Responsibility is choosing your response to a situation, you have taken action to help yourself - very admirable
Diagnosed BPD here but whoa it's 2016 - so much has been done, this is so archaic
I think my ex girlfriend might have BPD. I was just having a normal conversation with her over text and the next thing I know she avoids my texts, and phone calls for a week. blocks me on Facebook and deletes me off Xbox. We never had any arguments and things were going really well. The only thing that may have upset her is that I didn't want her to get her belly button pierced because I don't like how they looked. Just my personal opinion so please respect it. Anyway, we talked about it and she said she respected my opinion and wouldn't get it done. After that we moved on and continued our relationship and then she was gone. After a week of not hearing from her I decided to go over to her house and check if she was okay. She was home but she didn't answer the door and called the cops on me... What sane person does that to someone who treated them like gold and was just being a caring boyfriend? Well after that I knew it was over and I sent her one last message to say my peace. She replied a day later saying "please stop. I want to be left alone please". I didn't say anything threatening or anything btw. I just told her how I felt and I just wanted to talk. Do you think I will hear from her again in the future? I wouldn't get back together, but I would like to salvage some sort of friendship because she's such a sweet girl. She has told me she has ADHD, PTSD, and also mentioned she has other health issues but she didn't want to tell me. She been abused in the past and neglected by her parents so she would turn to other guys for attention. She's been used by other guys and treated like shit in the past. She's had severe depression where she starved herself. I just feel really bad about this whole situation and just need some advice.
Just an FYI... if it is possible that your ex has BPD, just know that people who attract and are attracted to them often have mental health issues of their own. Be very careful about diagnosing someone based off of one action or inaction.
Collin forget the bitch. she will send you to jail. I dated guy like that who has lied to me about everything from being married twice to having kids with them, to not divorcing either woman still marrying the other, because he lied about his name. the guy has chocked me and hit me and lied and talks bad about everyone, smokes non stop, is obsessed with sex and alcohol and porn. he verbally abusive then soo sweet and sedcutive goes on crazy insane shopping sprees, is unhealthy in everyday, takes 2 hr showers cause he's OCD. and the lies and lies, he recently told me he sold his cell phone to his recent girlfriends uncle and that he no longer has a cellphone so he is texting me from his mothers phone, yet he has text my friend from HIS original phone that he says he sold and told her OH I lied to her about selling my phone, of course she showed me the message, he's cheated on me, and given me an STD. So stay away from this person. Those people are sick. Im not racist or prejudice, but TO SAY that you can LIVE a NORMAL AND PRODUCTIVE life with people with Borderline Personality is pure shit. they should all be exterminated these menacing kinda people. I hate them. This guy also ran me a debt of $10,000, and stole $200O dollars from me. I hate these kind of fckn people they are sick sick sick. Should all be Exterminated. -well ok that is Harsh, but they should be locked up in a dungeon where no one can see them and have rats and cockroaches eat them slowly and their genitals are rot away with venerial diseases.
+Ella Marie Thats not BPD that sounds more like narcissistic personality disorder.
she's bpd
Maybe it's Bpd you're right...but there could be traces of being Narcissistic too ....a psychiatrist told me that the two can be related quite a bit and that a lot of the times these kinds of personality traits overlap. But you have an excellent point. Thank You!
My soon-to-be ex-wife is severely borderline and refuses to get help. If there is anyone out there who is experiencing the same thing, if you have managed to get your BP spouse into therapy, please share any advice you may have for being able to do so. Thanks.
Oberon Pan Have you told her that you are going to divorce her? You need to make this clear and not just drop a bomb the day the papers need signed. It could lead to a suicide attempt.
Listen...if your at the i can't take this shit anymore and your well-being is being diminished as a result and within your relationship extreme violence and general paranormal activity in regards your possessions either being thrown around the room or at you over nothing then sir...you need to get the Fuck out pronto like I did....careful planning is required and you might want to google how do i get rid of a borderline disordered person.....it depends on her severity. ...my nutcase wife is in deep denial and Im still trying to divorce her even though its a no contest divorce......my own story would probably be similar to yours. .....get rid of the toxic bitch..its not your responsibility to get her help....focus on you. ....ffs don't look back and go no contact.....it really works.
Hi Kimmie. Divorce has been looming on the horizon for years now. She was the one who first broached the subject. I, in my infinite wisdom, hung in there since I guess that sacred vow was really something I took seriously. But I keep thinking about that pithy little quote one of my co-workers had hanging on the wall of her office: "It is better to have loved and lost than to have spent your life with a psycho." The universe is telling me that it's time for me to concentrate on myself. Our impending divorce is only months away. As soon as I have the cash to move, I'm gone gone gone.
Thank you, Jason. Your words truly validate my thoughts and actions. We're in the planning stages now. Twenty years is a long time to undo but it's happening. 2017 will be a year of cleansing and healing for me. We should co-write a book telling our tales. I truly believe the world needs to know the hell we've been through.
We should do a video.....I've been thinking about sharing my story for a while :)
***** Please notice that the comments on this page are becoming abusive. I've never seen so much stigma surrounding a mental illness, besides sociopathy and schizophrenia. I have depression and anxiety, and while not everyone understands those disorders, these comments about BPD are unhelpful and downright cruel.
Hannah Diaz NO "biatch..THEY ARE RIGHT ON. Guess you've never dated any of these SICK BPD fcks. they are the abomination of this earth and destroying all the Goodness in people by showing us all the WORST that a human being can be and how much advantage and havoc they can cause in an innocent life and SHOW absolutely NO remose or care and laugh in your face while they are Fckn you in the ass and giving you a disease because they are promiscuous and dirty disgusting mental freaks of nature. They should all be locked up with rats and cockroaches and have their genitals infected with STD with no treatment. Lets see how they like having herpes all over their holes. LOL. I hate these people. So F-OFF Hannah Diaz
+Ella Marie I have some of these symptoms and have also been diagnosed but not everyone is the same! I never destroy people and I am married for 13 years now. I have abandonment issues and have idolized people but I never seek to destroy or hurt others.....maybe its because I'm a Christian. I am not perfect but I am not all these things described either! I have compassion and have been a preschool and kindergarten teacher. I also love and have worked with the elderly! I love animals and people! The picture of Borderline is not true of all who have been diagnosed! My therapist thinks I was misdiagnosed previously but I don't know. I have some straight but I don't hurt people!
+Bonnie Lee typo on my tablet autocorrect.......I meant to say, I have some aspects of Borderline but I don't hurt people!
I know you are right... that is too bad !
+Ella Marie Just because you have had one bad experience with a person with the condition doesn't mean that every person with the condition is like that. Maybe the person you were seeing wasn't diagnosed maybe they didn't take their medications or go to therapy maybe they had Narcisstic Personality Disorder or some degree of psychopathy, or PTSD, remember a large portion of those who have BPD grew up abused or in abusive households. Also there are about 9 symptoms of BPD in the DSM and only 5 of the symptoms need to be present for a diagnosis of BPD that leaves a lot of room for variables of the condition so before you generalize please educate yourself thanks
My experience is that BPD's don't think there's anything broken to fix. I commend you on recognizing that you even have it. But the bottom line is if you're an adult and you decide to stop taking meds then there is nothing anyone else can do. Plus you are still raging and running over people who are trying to help and still love you. BPD can make a person really unlovable and there is a limit. I've been on a lot of forums and BPD's need to own up.
Yeah you are right and think you for this. I suffered with BDP since I was a child and I Never knew that people thought of us sufferers as evil or a sociopath but I always swore I was evil and since I suffer with depression as well I always felt extremely depressed because of this. this is something we cannot control. The urges to have risky sex, binge eating, and impulsive behavior to scream and yell at people for No reason and get angry with them, I have went through it all.
My sister has BPD - she tortured me growing up...
She now has 3 different baby daddies, divorced, on drugs, largely in debt, and can't keep a job or a friend.. nothing has worked.
Nadia Naqvi Completely wrong and naive opinion.
***** I am inclined to agree. And the worst part is that they actually do no have the mental awareness to realize how they are acting and the effect they have on others.
For the record, it's no picnic for the person suffering from the condition either. I know it's hard to have sympathy for someone who caused you so much pain, but you can take solace in knowing that the pain they inflict on you, they endure times 10 every day of their lives.
Toni Harrison Actually, from my experience, she does not suffer at all from her condition. She will not even admit she even has it even though she was committed for it.Maybe she is not the typical BPD person, but she can be the most self righteous hypocritical woman you have ever met. It got so bad several years ago I actually was seriously thinking about snuffing it. I even had it planned out exactly how I would do it to make it look like a boating accident. No body, no questions.
I'm sorry to hear she made your life so miserable, but I still believe she's suffering. BPD's hide their pain extremely well. I don't really expect sympathy from someone who was tortured by one though. I'd feel the same way as you in your place, I'm sure. Murder is not the answer though. Find a way to deal with your anger so you don't ruin your life and/or someone else's.
Just my two cents, please don't be that naive about mental illness, there are people who really suffer from disorders like these...are some of the traits he describes common, yes, are some of the traits more uncommon? YES. Self-harm, cutting, burning, etc is not common (although for awhile it became a fad), the truth is that it is very frightening to watch a person who you love live with this type of illness. It is also hard to be the person who loves them and who is the object of their hate and dislike (it tends to change from person to person), and it is the hardest of all on the person with the illness. Please do not reply to this statement if you just want to say ugly things...its not worth anyone's time.
It is my hope that simply having an alternative understanding will not be viewed or experienced as ugly. You may have people in your life that have experienced extreme states of mind or you may have had such experiences yourself. The thing to remember is that there is NO scientific evidence that supports the thinking that these experiences are a result of an illness or disease. However the experiences exist. In my experience it is not helpful for someone to be told that something is wrong with them for having these experiences.
My question is, what happens to these experiences when we or people around us identify our shared human needs, helps us evaluate at what level these needs are being met then collaborate with us in meeting these needs at high levels.
PBrofaith
Thank you for your reply, and no, I do not think your view is ugly. My comment was meant more for persons who believe that these behaviors do not exist or are a joke. I do have an adult child who has similar circumstance and I watched her develop these behaviors over years. About having something "wrong" with a person with this type of behavior: It was never my intent to label anyone or anything, except to have a definition to the actual occurrence of this behavior in a person's life and the impact that it has on this person and others around them. I, myself, have a Neurological condition in which the chemistry of my brain (an organ of the body) is altered (dopamine), I do not have a "label" to my disorder, but it is a disorder just the same. The brain is a chemical battery that operates the entire body, mental, emotional, physical....whatever your beliefs are, when the chemical process is altered, so are the behaviors associated with the chemicals, hormones, synapses, etc that rule the body. I see one of the best Neurologists in the country. It is her belief that mental and physical disorders are the same organ based disorders and should not be treated any differently. I have seen what these behaviors look like and they are painful and scary. I have lived with knowing that some day I may not be able to help my own child, and that the behaviors may take her. I only hope that never happens and that she somehow has relief of the struggle she has constantly in her life. It is clear that as a society we need to have a better understanding and common language to be able to discuss these situations and help those who seek help for any reason, this or any reason.... A person in need should be met with love and help and never made to feel that they are broken...I understand your comments.
HoneyBaby Mama
Thank you for your reply and I am so sorry that you have had suffering in your life. I wish for you that you are released from your fight with this, and that you have the happiness you seek. Namaste.
Sounds like my mother inlaw
I was diagnosed in my late teens along with a small list of other "problems" and was never fully explained the what's and whys of it all. I never followed through with any type of treatment even though it was greatly needed. My folks didn't really take an interest in me that way until it came to punishment anyway. Now I'm in my early 30's and am desperate for help but can't seem to start. Anyway, don't know why I really even left a comment lol
My life is ruined by this disorder. I can't believe it. I'm so smart and so aware but I can't control it. It is so infinitely horrifying to live with this disorder on a daily basis. If I were never this way, I would be happy with a spouse. Mental illness along these lines are the worst thing that could happen to a person. May God help me.
HONEY I'M HOME
Yes everybody has that no worries
you two clearly have no actual understanding or experience with the disorder
Am 19 and have bpd :( I grew up with my mom and dad verbally sexually emotionally physically abusing me every single day I wasn't allowed outside wasn't allowed friends I was always told I was ugly fat no guy would love me truly or care I'd never have a baby and now am 19 found out about me have bpd anixety really bad and ptsd :( I struggle badly with it but the bright side of it all is I have a beautiful baby and a fiance :)
That's good. Most bpds have chaotic relationships. I can't see myself having a wife or children, because of my bpd. Congratulations!.
+Capital Steez You have just explained why BPD is the opposite of narcissism. They will marry three people at the same time knowing it will kill all three of them and not think twice. i do. I do. i do.
I like how the doctor was explaining the symptoms calmly and with confidence it look like he knew his stuff he might be alright on the doctor phil show
My mother was diagnosed with this, but I believe that she was misdiagnosed. I thing she dissociated, and probably had the same dx I have: DID (dissociative identity disorder) d/t childhood abuse from a narcissistic mother. Mother did show many of these symptoms. Treatment never worked for her. She was in patient several times. Eventually she was unable to work, and got disability. She finally starved to death at the age of 72. I was her primary care giver and also her victim of much child abuse. She was narcissistic too. I must add that we were very close, co-dependent and I was her caregiver until I became too ill to care for her. At which time she gave up and died soon after. Mental illness is a nightmare to live with. And I just am waiting for life to be over. I've had enough, and I am so tired and want to go home to Heaven. I want release.
What they aren't telling you is that there is a BIG difference between people who have BPD and bipolar. BPD is considered an access 2 diagnosis, and bipolar is only an access 1 diagnosis. The difference is that people who have an access 2 diagnosis can have little to no empathy for other human beings so they can be quite dangerous people. I've met 2 people in my life who have BPD and fortunately 1 one them is in prison for her behavior and is unable to harm more people. The other one is a neighbor of mine who finally had her children placed into foster care for the second time that I know of because of the horrific abuse they suffered at her hands. She murdered another neighbors 2 cats recently on one of her many revenge quests. If you ever meet somebody with BPD run the hell away from them because they are destructive tornadoes that destroy everything that is in their path
You r not dangerous to anyone if u learn to control yourself
Nika Krapež
People with BPD can't learn to control themselves because it's a brain disorder, and something is wrong their their brain that can't be fixed. Part of the disorder is the a normal person feels guilt or pain that comes from their brain when they do something wrong that prevents them from harming other people. For example if somebody is annoying and you don't have BPD your brain lets you know that it's wrong to murder somebody's cat so you feel that pinch or sense of guilt that makes you feel bad about harming somebody else. It also lets you know that torturing, or murdering an innocent animal is not OK. A person who has BPD doesn't have that happen because that part of the brain does not work because it does not exist. Instead what happens is the brain malfunctions because it's damaged and that sector of the brain is not working. While that part of the brain malfunctions the brain causes the person who has BPD how to mimic certain emotions (basically acting the way actors mimic emotions for making movies) to better manipulate other people so they can harm them and cause other people pain. When they are harming people they get pleasure from it in a very sick and twisted way. Expecting a person with BPD to to be able to learn self control is like expecting a pedophile to be able to learn self control with children.
AnonymousBelle562 So, what would your advice to someone with BPD be?
Luke Raven
After seeing the crap that I've seen the only advice I would give is if there is a chance that a person with BPD has an ounce of any kind of human compassion is to please not ever have children. I would hate to see anybody have to go through whatever hell my neighbor's innocent 2 small children had to endure. I don't know everything they had to endure because most of it was behind closed doors, but the little I did witness was horrific. I think it's one of the worst things about the situation is that the woman is so sick that she actually believes that she is OK because she says that she sees a therapist. When somebody is not only that far gone, or has the potential of being that far gone, because they can't control themselves they shouldn't have innocent children that could be put in harms way. That is assuming that a person with BPD cares enough to actually care for another human being enough to do that. In all honesty I think giving a person with BPD advice is like trying to shed some light on a black hole. I don't hate them I just don't see the point in trying to help somebody who does not care about other people and has no compassion for others
I have BPD and I can tell you I have never harmed another person. I love animals and people and I feel really ashamed when my anger gets out of control. I have manipulative thoughts but haven't acted on them since I was a teenager, because I now understand myself. You seem to be basing your whole view on BPD on your experience with just 2 people.
Why are all the photos showing women? There are just as many MEN with mental health problems.
More women are diagnosed with BPD.
Robocloud75 I've had the pleasure of knowing 4 of these crazy people. read all my wonderful comments above to know who i feel about these abominations of our human race
Ella Marie The thing is that you think that I care about you at all :^) You are pathetic.
+Debbie F. BPD is mostly women, like 1 guy to every 50 women who have it.
Amber cutshaw not true!!!
I never could stand these people. Constantly injuring themselves for attention and faking seizures.
Injuring FOR ATTENTION isn't a symptom of BPD...perhaps you should look more into the causes of self-harm behaviour..alot of people who do it will hide it as not to draw attention.
Um that has nothing to do with seeking "attention"; people do it because when they're in so much psychological pain, it distracts them from it by creating physical pain to replace it instead (only temporary and not a real solution, of course).
Thank you :)
I admit, before I got help I felt like I wasn't in control of any outburst.. its like I gave up on holding myself back, but when I got the strength to stop, the personality disorder had already sent me begging for forgiveness.. It was an empty routine that never changed..
I admitted to my problem, that was the first step everything else got easier after that but I hate when people say we do it almost as if its planned.. Why would anyone want to purposely hurt their loved ones?
The photo that was the thumbnail to this video perfectly captures the last 5 months of my life.
Terrible picture for the vid. I'm just sayin'.
I'd rather deal with a psychopath and narcissist than BPD anyday. The things I've seen still boggles the mind. If a borderline has narcissism as well good luck in trying to get them to seek help. They won't ever admit any faults.
Good, deal with them instead! Oh wait... we have a psychopathic narcissist running the country. We're all forced to deal with him. At least with us, you know what you're dealing with.
Joe Cummings I should apologize to you. It is not an easy mental issue to deal with. I should know better since I have OCD and I know fully what it means to be at the mercy of your mind. But a narcissist who also has BPD is something frightening and cruel. You can't imagine the pain they cause on their children.
I have BPD and I can assure you that people with BPD are some of the most empathic and caring people on earth, even more than people without the disorder. Cut off your biases please.
oliverl89 Ditto...what you said. Would be why most others end up seeking out the companionship of a borderline. The ones that find a borderline, NOT all though, are typically a mess to begin..at least the ones I've ever met and been with. I try to help them out, and they get all attached and sometimes downright possessive. MOST borderlines can hold their own pretty good, it's when other people join their world that leaves a borderline an absolute car wreck.
oliverl89 What bias? I am speaking from experience. What I saw was the single most unbelievable experience of my life. The unbridled rage, hatred violence... The entire family from father to youngest were in tears because of this person. They never hold back, they attack physically,, mentally and emotionally. Saying the most hateful vile things trying to damage a child's psyche. I am aware that borderline alone doesn't make people evil but some people use evil and sadism to deal with their disorder ESPECIALLY if narcissism is involved. There comes a point when hurting people is the only joy and relief they get out of life.
that is just normal women that is.
I was diagnosed with it during my numerous trips to the mental health ward. I think a lot of my family members also have it. Instead of showing emotions we stuff and during times of sorrow we are telling jokes. People who know us, say all of us are hard reads. I try not to show my temper especially. Since I blow up, look like a goof and am so exhausted the next day.
Well presented. You touched on a number of key points quickly and concisely. Good summary.
maybe you could make this video applicable to men as well? Just a fucking thought.
Mostly women? I don't think that's true. I think we are just less likely to put up with BPD behavior in women. We let that stuff slide in men.
Bipolar is something very different than borderline personality disorder. Although 75% of people that have bpd are female, it could be that mental health professionals are more likely to diagnose bipolar than bpd. Men can have bpd as well :)
Matthew Wilding I agree, I was first diagnosed with bipolar disorder by one psychiatrist, then it was later discovered by another that I actually have BPD.
Studies show men with BPD are less likely to be discovered and/or seek help. Thus you have to take this with a grain of salt.
More women tend to have the BPD diagnosis probably because they're more apt to seek professional help vs
men who are apparently too 'macho' and DON'T want to admit to having issues...therefore not stepping foot into a psychiatrists office.
Omfg. This video pisses me off.. or is it my bpd?
nope.... pisses me the fuck off too...
Uhhh.. you both have...BPD..
"Are you making a professional diagnosis? " - What are you stupid? This RUclips.
Discipline of psychology... Hmmm... I'll just leave that one alone. You're obviously on a good one.
Yes, thank you for addressing one of the points I had in mind.
i have spent years in counciling. It treated symptoms, ie discussion of problems and some direction in thinking...my real impactful help came from seeking personal help and making a conscious choice to have faith in a guiding higher power....a choice. I have taken responsibilty in self betterment with trust that a guiding entity is assisting me...it has made all the difference. It was hard to believe church philosophy, or people in general. I listen to some people for encouragement and friendship. My "God" is the best guide in my life.
I have BPD and Jesus helps .
You mean it's a Scorpio ????
+star4rmhtx Please don't make jokes. There are people numerous people suffering from this illness and it's very rude to take this lightly as a joke.
+Andrea Giamporcaro I have border line personality disorder FYI! You need to see the bright side of life. Btw I'm a Scorpio as well. so tell me how is it a insult? No I will not apologize and no I am not sorry. It's called a "comment"
+star4rmhtx Yea. same I'm a scorpio with bpd and I still cracked a smile at this joke
+Andrea Giamporcaro shutup
+Andrea Giamporcaro Ive had 2 relationships with Bpd women both scorpios, a perfect match to my cancer apparently.
I dated a girl like this for 2 years......STAY AWAY FROM THESE PEOPLE.
I don't think you should stay away from them because it will make things worse for the other person, but rather seek professional help to get treatment.
kelly2ne1 You don't understand. Borderline Personality Disorder is horrible. These people can't control their personalities, they're one person one day, and a completely another the next day.
These people tend to switch jobs often, switch friends often. They don't know when they're lying or when they hurt someone.
kelly2ne1 This is why BPD is in the same category as Bipolar Disorder.
Bipolar means you can't control your emotions.
Borderline means you can't control your personalities. They're insane people, and should be avoided at all costs.
ottocornish I do understand what it is like to be around someone with borderline personality disorder, a close family member has it..Also, Borderline is a personality disorder whereas Bipolar Disorder falls in the Mood Disorders category so they are not the same! lol
Shannen K Nope.
I have endured horrible days due to BPD, otherwise tons of drugs through various multi-year cycles have kept the condition at bay while keeping me alive and emotionally stable. Its been a trade-off, God help those who have BPD and don't do drugs... I honestly don't know how you do it. Stimulants and psychedelics... saved my life and I've never cut myself. Few years LSD, few coke, few MDMA, few meth, and a whole bunch more. I don't need any sleep whatsoever anymore also. Life has not been full of joy however it has been crazy and insane enough to make up for that. I consider borderline the big roller-coaster all day as opposed to walking around trying different rides. You'll end up sick but it will be a day you'll remember, not for the ride so much as the relief you felt throwing up intermittently between the rides. See? It has an element of fun if only you give in to its power and succumb to its vices. I imagine I will complete the circle by one day marrying another borderline.... and what a ride that will be. I am sure she will make all my narcissists and hysterionics seem boring by comparison. I can't wait! Where's the next damned coaster before I f#^$(@8 kill someone!!!? :)
That's why it's best to try to get the person the help that they need. It's possible for a person with bpd to realize and acknowledge that something is not right. and it's possible that someone suffering from the disorder can have a good prognosis. Showing empathy as well as using "I" statements to get the point across in an assertive, non-accusatory, way may help also. Never use "you" statements, for they will only put the person on the defensive. Bpd doesn't have to ruin anybody's life.
The 2013 movie, The Conjuring shows us how to deal with people with BPD. I think we should look into the realm of demonic possession when dealing with these types.
Don't be ridiculous.
I'm VERY real. No excuses for evil behavior...
There is biological evidence supporting the theory that BPD sufferers have an abnormally underactive anterior cingulate cortex (in the frontal lobe of the brain) leading to a reduced ability to dissipate emotional arousal. In conjunction with an overactive amygdala (as demonstrated through exposure to emotional stimuli), we experience emotions on a level of higher intensity and duration than the average human. So before you mindlessly use pre-medieval demonic possessions as an explanation for the behaviour of the mentally ill, I'd suggest researching it thoroughly. Thank you and good day.
Wow, demonic possession is a man-made concept; a.k.a fiction.
NightwingBMV1 Lol
Watching this for school, but i once knew a guy in high school who i think had this, we don't talk anymore, but it all makes sense to me know.
thnx for this video. My mom had narcissistic BPD and was extremely abusisive...i wish more of this info was out there. i wish it was more commonly known.
My husband has BPD, it's a struggle getting them to seek counsel and stay on meds! It's even more of a struggle maintaining any kind of stability. You are constantly on a roller coaster of emotions with that person, going up and down! It literally sucks all the energy of you!
My mom had been diagnosed with BPD. I didn't know what it was so I googled and found this. And yes omg this is exactly her. I'm glad she has finally been diagnosed and is starting treatment.
I feel like someone from my life close to me was as well. And yea...it was hell at times. But I forgive them and try to live my life even though I am now dealing with my own emotional issues from the damage. I'm sorry you went through that and I hope you are doing ok now :)
my wife has BPD, we have been married for 9 years. She as left three times before and now plans to leave again. I'm in the military and it's hard going through this every time. I love my wife and I'm begging for help.
I have been diagnosed with having BPD, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, and severe depression. While this video does touch on some of the factors of BPD, I feel that it is missing the serious emotional turmoil; the dark side. I am relieved that I have a diagnosis for why I can love a certain member of my family in one moment and then utterly loath them in the next to the point of fantasizing their death; I have a better understanding now of why I have romanticized suicide; I have knowledge of why the smallest things can make me uncontrollably angry and I am able to see myself outside of myself in those moments and recognize that I am not behaving normally, but I don't know how to stop it. I just want to know what I have to do to get better. Perhaps I just need to come to grips with the idea that I will never get better. It is an awful battle inside my mind every day.
I got diagnosed with this today :(. After years of being treated for depression it's sad to know I actually have a chronic condition.
Christine, it is good that you are admitting your illness and are working on bettering yourself. Don't pay attention to him; he is blaming others for his problems or maybe he has BPD and is having trouble admitting it.