Parents Kicked Me Out at 16 to Make Room for My Sister's New Baby. Big Mistake.

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  • Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
  • Parents Kicked Me Out at 16 to Make Room for My Sister's New Baby. Big Mistake.
    family inheritance drama, stepfamily conflicts, eviction battle, family feud over inheritance, legal battles, stepmom problems, sibling rivalry, emotional inheritance stories, real estate inheritance issues, family legal disputes.
    Subreddits: r/relationships, r/AITA, r/LegalAdvice, r/family, r/entitledparents, r/personalfinance, r/familydrama, r/stepparents, r/TrueOffMyChest, r/inheritance.

Комментарии • 667

  • @1x1x1LegoPiece
    @1x1x1LegoPiece Месяц назад +2968

    imagine kicking out a KID, losing your other child because of that, losing your inheritance and getting your whole family to hate you💀

    • @ItzNeon._
      @ItzNeon._ Месяц назад +75

      FR LMAO, BRO GOT JUMPED

    • @nghiale2586
      @nghiale2586 Месяц назад +68

      OP LITERALLY GIVE THEM THE UNO REVERSE TREATMENT

    • @GamingwKai
      @GamingwKai Месяц назад +14

      Shut up guys

    • @martindominguez5324
      @martindominguez5324 Месяц назад

      ​@@GamingwKai bro stfu no one asked and don't gotta be so rude

    • @RobertHall-ve3qb
      @RobertHall-ve3qb Месяц назад +21

      Minute the kid says something it all spiraled

  • @Anne_5768
    @Anne_5768 Месяц назад +600

    The parents being hated from their family members, coworkers, friends and even strangers for kicking their son out of the house for their favorite child, then the favorite child hated them for that, thats wild 😭 well they deserve that

    • @E_master145
      @E_master145 Месяц назад +12

      This is another issue for a favorite child they will delete the second child in their brain because they only cared about their favorite child, It's a cruel way to care for their kids it's literally saying "we don't care about you we don't want you, you shouldn't be born."
      Every child deserves a parent.
      But not all parents deserve a child

    • @Videoswith_muffin
      @Videoswith_muffin Месяц назад +4

      Soviet

    • @LunaP1
      @LunaP1 24 дня назад +4

      Amanda wasn't truly a golden child, just didn't know how to avoid it.

    • @thatridgekid5165
      @thatridgekid5165 24 дня назад +2

      For even the Golden child to call their parents out for being the favourite takes some next level greed

    • @gam30ver23
      @gam30ver23 11 дней назад

      Fellow communist

  • @DraigYsbryd-jc7ez
    @DraigYsbryd-jc7ez Месяц назад +1206

    I hope the parents loose the inheritance. They only cared about there image. Disgusting people. Karma will come back on them hard one day

  • @boogiewoogie455
    @boogiewoogie455 Месяц назад +358

    So many people can’t have kids and would love to have them. But then you have people like this that treat their kids like trash.

    • @arwindaduka189
      @arwindaduka189 Месяц назад +4

      Were there for him

    • @faithyoung9218
      @faithyoung9218 Месяц назад +3

      I can't believe I am saying this but sakura better 100 times

    • @GracieSmith-06
      @GracieSmith-06 28 дней назад +2

      Exactly. If the parents didn’t want a second child, they could’ve put OP up for adoption as soon as they were born and never would’ve gotten themselves into this mess. 🤦🏼‍♀️

  • @jacobbissey9311
    @jacobbissey9311 24 дня назад +57

    Why TF did they need to give the guest room to the boyfriend? Like, he's clearly already sleeping with their daughter, and having him in a different room isn't going to change that. I guarantee most nights they'd wind up sleeping in the same bed anyway if they were already planning to move in together and raise the baby together. That's just such obvious BS that they needed his room for the baby.

  • @PetarSilje
    @PetarSilje Месяц назад +136

    WTF a newborn baby shouldn’t have its f*cking own room, it should be with its parents. And how tf can you be close enough to make a baby, but not close enough to share a room

    • @s4nr1osAlt
      @s4nr1osAlt 20 дней назад +3

      it was stated that they were to share a room (at the end they shared an apartment)

    • @dagan2000
      @dagan2000 18 дней назад +8

      @@s4nr1osAlt 4 bedroom house. 1 for the parents, 1 for the daughter and boyfriend, one for the boyfriend, one for the baby

  • @JaydenRoberts-ss4tm
    @JaydenRoberts-ss4tm Месяц назад +584

    You are not in the wrong . Is not your fault it’s your parents fault. Hope you’re OK.

  • @ArcticX_MC
    @ArcticX_MC Месяц назад +70

    A blessing in disguise. I hate hearing parents playing favorites and neglecting their child. I am grateful that you found a place where you feel free, not a lot of people have that, and I'm also grateful that you mend with your sister and your aunt and grandparents have your back.
    Stories like these shows me that humanity is broken, and leaders haven't done anything to improve it, I fear that one day, when judgement day comes, we will all be burning in ****, unless someone takes a stand and change how we run things.

    • @dekrus
      @dekrus 25 дней назад

      Dude the music in the background was freaking me out. I legit paused at one point and looked around my room cuz it was coming from my phone sounding like it waa far away

  • @TreasureFinderExvo
    @TreasureFinderExvo Месяц назад +513

    1:37 for short people

  • @DamirJohnson-lm9xk
    @DamirJohnson-lm9xk Месяц назад +46

    Kicking a son out for a boyfriend and a baby room that’s not even born is crazy tea clocked

  • @PepsiLover42069
    @PepsiLover42069 Месяц назад +124

    Just finished watching all of the video, and dang this story is so good. Very well made.
    And he didn't dodge a bullet, he dodge a whole atomic bomb.

    • @ianh3057
      @ianh3057 Месяц назад +5

      Nahhhh he dodged a whole supernova frfr

    • @floppaofbusiness
      @floppaofbusiness Месяц назад +3

      he dodged an entire meteor

  • @SabinaBano-r5j
    @SabinaBano-r5j Месяц назад +19

    W aunt and W grandparents like if you agree with me
    👇

    • @StarLightGem
      @StarLightGem 25 дней назад

      W sister and pretty much anyone besides the parents too lol

    • @Crida_ita
      @Crida_ita 9 дней назад +1

      Like beggar but ye W sister W aint and W Grandparents

  • @Xenoversebot
    @Xenoversebot Месяц назад +55

    Yeah ngl… if ur parents are sharing a room ur sister and boyfriend is sharing a room the baby took the 3rd room so why didn’t they they just give I the 4th?

    • @arnauteruel6031
      @arnauteruel6031 Месяц назад +12

      The boyfriend had his own room

    • @kite1039
      @kite1039 Месяц назад +4

      ​@@arnauteruel6031now that would make it more worse
      What were the parent thinking????

    • @LunaP1
      @LunaP1 24 дня назад +3

      They wanted an excuse to throw him out without putting him on the streets. Their plan still backfired.

    • @abcd1234-c3e
      @abcd1234-c3e 4 дня назад

      ikr

  • @J.Clemons
    @J.Clemons 26 дней назад +17

    KEEP THOSE FRIENDS FOREVER

  • @Allstar_edits
    @Allstar_edits Месяц назад +84

    You didnt dodge a bullet.... YOU DODGED A TACTICAL NUKE!

  • @krystenbradyn2010
    @krystenbradyn2010 Месяц назад +35

    Anyone else feel like it was so wholesome that him and his sister got on good terms😁😁😁👍

    • @alexischow8374
      @alexischow8374 23 дня назад +1

      Ikr i feel like in every post the sis or sil is as entitled as the parents. Good to see the sis has a heart but difficult to understand how great kids came from sinester parents.

    • @cat062
      @cat062 16 дней назад

      ​@@alexischow8374It's a good thing he has other family members and support systems not far.

  • @NyoomNyoomNuggit
    @NyoomNyoomNuggit Месяц назад +45

    NTA, you’re in the right for exposing your parents

  • @esmeralda7076
    @esmeralda7076 20 дней назад +7

    so they’re more upset that people know how shitty they’ve been treating their son rather than how shitty they’ve been treating their son…. okay.

  • @DailyRedditStories1208
    @DailyRedditStories1208 Месяц назад +5

    It's insane how your parents thought they could treat you like that and get away with it. I'm glad you're out of there and with people who actually care about you. Karma really did its job!

  • @GamersUniteForever
    @GamersUniteForever 16 дней назад +3

    Those kind of parents don’t even deserve to be parents in the first place

  • @mariaissifu9594
    @mariaissifu9594 День назад +2

    that's crazy how you are just 16 and got kicked out. That is what i call, ungrateful parents

  • @GrimReaper40345
    @GrimReaper40345 25 дней назад +6

    1:15 for people from shorts

  • @queenkaterose
    @queenkaterose 26 дней назад +3

    NTA, also your parents don't deserve the inherents edit: good on your sister for not being an entitled brat

  • @funi_channel
    @funi_channel Месяц назад +12

    1:37 for the people who came from the short

    • @riibuns
      @riibuns 11 дней назад

      thank you, you dropped this 👑

  • @Kcat666
    @Kcat666 Месяц назад +16

    100% not in the wrong, glad the auntie + grandparents & sister were on the kids side !!

  • @pjpj2999
    @pjpj2999 Месяц назад +9

    As a person who has seen the whole story, it goes like amanda didnt know about the decision made by the parents and then a few days later, she called and informed him that it was never discussed with her and then tbe aunt got full custody of the rights

  • @alonegaming78785
    @alonegaming78785 Месяц назад +8

    9:43 bro you were getting treated cruelly think again they got a room for a person they didn’t know from his childhood i am talking about your sis husband and they didn’t got any room for you this is worse than cruelty

  • @Kamryn-mn9vp
    @Kamryn-mn9vp Месяц назад +9

    All kids deserve to have a parent but not parents deserve a child

  • @ruthcharles8948
    @ruthcharles8948 Месяц назад +31

    I feel so bad for you but I hope you have a great life with your aunt and you feel loved forever you were not in the wrong they were ❤

    • @Paulsonkj
      @Paulsonkj Месяц назад

      i agree 🙏🙏🙏 Hope you are well

    • @utkarshthenoobgamer
      @utkarshthenoobgamer Месяц назад

      Is a story bro It's made up 😭🙏

    • @Paulsonkj
      @Paulsonkj Месяц назад

      @@utkarshthenoobgamer bro don't you have a channel and second IT'S MADE UP?????!?!?!!!!??

  • @bettylord605
    @bettylord605 Месяц назад +6

    Are u gonna treat the baby that kinda stole your life like a normal nephew or niece

    • @laughitoff904
      @laughitoff904 Месяц назад

      Uhm i would hope so? Why

    • @RubberduckStudios
      @RubberduckStudios 13 дней назад

      well they were happy living with their aunt and it’s not the baby or sisters fault

  • @sugawarasemotwin1374
    @sugawarasemotwin1374 Месяц назад +2

    This is why you shouldn't prioritize anything or anyone but your family. I'm happy the aunt is now their legal guardian and especially grateful that both kids have stood up for themselves and found away to help one another out

  • @nava2391
    @nava2391 Месяц назад +8

    I wish the person who lived the story read this, I really want you to know that you are so strong and I really mean it, you have no idea how much of a power this need just to accept everything that was going on with you and how nice you were with your parents even after what they did and after how they've been treating you all this years i really wish i could hug you a really long hug i would never forget this story and i will always keep you in my heart and i will always take power from you from far away thank you for being strong and never give❤ i wish i could talk with you once and i still have a lot of things to say but i know that this is not gonna reach to you

  • @ZyAsiaBrown-ud2bd
    @ZyAsiaBrown-ud2bd Месяц назад +2

    Bro thats sad i thought i had a bad life but you got kick out when you were 16 that's sad man i have respect for you man because that's ruff man

  • @baghdadmascara9032
    @baghdadmascara9032 Месяц назад +44

    Wow .such a story❤
    I hope no one suffer like the brave strong dude did😢

    • @melomel2777
      @melomel2777 Месяц назад

      Yeah, it would feel like torture to live this

  • @deepworldthoughts340
    @deepworldthoughts340 Месяц назад +3

    The dad sending that email was so disgusting.

  • @joshuabanks6140
    @joshuabanks6140 Месяц назад +2

    Nah cuz you ain’t the asshole for that they’re the assholes for putting you out and making you live with your aunt. I have respect for you.❤

  • @MemeSir-joy
    @MemeSir-joy Месяц назад +10

    9:24 Honestly I don’t blame you and it’s not ur fault

  • @emanuel585
    @emanuel585 Месяц назад +36

    Bro really said nuh uh to the not making it public and now 10000 people know

  • @Plushiedouma
    @Plushiedouma 14 дней назад +1

    Got kicked out the house at 16 I WAS STILL THUGGIN

  • @robloxitycontent
    @robloxitycontent Месяц назад +55

    parents kicked me out at age 1, what happens next is shocking

    • @Chris-jc6hr
      @Chris-jc6hr Месяц назад +12

      Dhar Mann ahh comment

    • @Oscargillbert
      @Oscargillbert Месяц назад +5

      Parents kick my ass at one what happens next is shockint

    • @robloxitycontent
      @robloxitycontent Месяц назад +2

      @@Oscargillbert Parents kick DCS in the ass after the child abuse case, what happens next is shocking!

    • @carloshercules9623
      @carloshercules9623 Месяц назад +1

      What dah heckkkkkkk

    • @Duckbærd
      @Duckbærd Месяц назад

      @4h45ty78 I kicked my ass at my parents, what happens next is 1

  • @MeatTube56
    @MeatTube56 Месяц назад +3

    You know I once saw something that said don’t feel scared to tell people to f**k off

  • @alyssaterry6062
    @alyssaterry6062 Месяц назад +4

    That's so brutal😭 if I had a lawyer I would be suing them right now 🙂👍

  • @AlastorsFluffyTail
    @AlastorsFluffyTail 17 дней назад

    Oh, honey. Oh. I’m so sorry! I’m glad you’re out of this situation and are living a happy life with your aunt (who sounds amazing, not gonna lie). Praying for you

  • @rg1whiteywins598
    @rg1whiteywins598 18 дней назад +1

    To the parents... If you can't do the time, don't do the crime.

  • @Player42069
    @Player42069 Месяц назад +3

    You have the best aunt in the whole world bro

  • @aliahsan245
    @aliahsan245 Месяц назад +6

    Some people really don't deserve kids😓

  • @kikiwe
    @kikiwe 23 дня назад

    What’s most insane is that the parents thought it would be a great present for your 16th birthday to be kicked out of the house. Jeeez. I guess it’s a blessing in disguise and it turned out to be the best thing to happen to the OP

  • @shaliljay1076
    @shaliljay1076 День назад +2

    How do kick YOUR CHILD out for the daughter BOYFRIEND

  • @newkid1987
    @newkid1987 19 дней назад +1

    Finally, a reddit story short that links to the full story.

  • @Rosaleigh-hq8do
    @Rosaleigh-hq8do Месяц назад +9

    Couldn't the boyfriend just stayed with the sister, the baby gotten the guest room, and her keep her own room?

    • @LunaP1
      @LunaP1 24 дня назад

      Yes. But the parents wanted an excuse to throw OP away while lying to everyone to protect the false image they've built for years.

    • @LDinoise
      @LDinoise 19 дней назад +2

      Bro did u even listen to the story?

  • @blehpp7192
    @blehpp7192 17 дней назад +2

    So wait Amanda and her boyfriend have separate rooms? And what newborn baby needs its own room? It’s better for new parents to sleep near their babies

    • @numa2k147
      @numa2k147 7 дней назад

      This is what you choose to remember out of this whole story Jesus Christ

    • @blehpp7192
      @blehpp7192 5 дней назад +1

      @@numa2k147 okay fair, but it was just a little detail that was bothering me the whole story and no one else seemed to have commented on it lol

  • @just_3egg
    @just_3egg 16 дней назад

    For the OP
    Go message them to meet up and meet up soon. And once you get there record the conversation and once your done and left send it to your grandparents and make sure they talk with your parents

  • @Tatsu_Senpai
    @Tatsu_Senpai Месяц назад +1

    This real story is the definition of karma

  • @sisi7304
    @sisi7304 29 дней назад +1

    the 16 year old couldn't just share a room with the baby or have the baby's crib in the same room as parents for a while?? jeez, I feel bad for the kid, and the parents don't deserve any inheritance

    • @LDinoise
      @LDinoise 19 дней назад

      You listened to the story but are still asking about that? The parents clearly just wanted a reason to kick the kid out

    • @sisi7304
      @sisi7304 19 дней назад

      @@LDinoise I made the comment about halfway through the story, but still, if the parents weren't so awful, the guest room or room sharing could've happened

  • @cookie_gamer7740
    @cookie_gamer7740 Месяц назад +6

    The parents tore apart the entirely just so they could pick favorites even when the kids didnt want them to. Thats wild.

  • @Crida_ita
    @Crida_ita 9 дней назад

    Imagine kicking you least favorite child and then you lose your favorite child + everyone hates you + your son saying yuor sister is better at parenting 😭 + losing your inheritance and your parents hate you too
    LIKE WTF 😭💀🙏

  • @尺ロ凡几几モ
    @尺ロ凡几几モ 4 дня назад

    How to mess up your whole family speedrun be like:

  • @brunosilva5652
    @brunosilva5652 23 дня назад

    If the parents acept money (inheritance) over the guardianship of the child, they never deserved to have a kid

  • @beaver1221
    @beaver1221 20 дней назад

    when the op's parents say they want him back because they don't want to lose the inherentince i would laugh in their face

  • @Bubbaisagoatfr
    @Bubbaisagoatfr Месяц назад +4

    If I was the grandparents I would say that but give no inheritance

  • @CarolinaHowe-Piper
    @CarolinaHowe-Piper Месяц назад

    I’m so happy for the kid! I hope they get him the therapy and support he needs ❤

  • @Angel_dust_h.h
    @Angel_dust_h.h Месяц назад +4

    Nta, your parents only wanted you back when inheritance was on the line, I would straight up cut off contact with them, don't ever allow your kids to see them please otherwise they might do that with their grandchildren.

  • @PrestonG14-nd8bg
    @PrestonG14-nd8bg Месяц назад

    Your entire subconscious said “ I’m about to do what’s called a pro gamer move” and kicked their butts while hardly lifting a finger

  • @SaraBreak
    @SaraBreak 6 дней назад +1

    No one should go through that l glad it all got worked out

  • @CarterBaumlin
    @CarterBaumlin Месяц назад +1

    Thats really tough 😢

  • @Jeremy_Cabrera
    @Jeremy_Cabrera Месяц назад +1

    I have many issues with my family but your issues just takes the price seriously its so messed up💔

  • @N3rd_on_F1re
    @N3rd_on_F1re 24 дня назад

    Damn, this is a good telltale. OP should become a TikTok author

  • @Zani_city
    @Zani_city 16 дней назад

    if i went back with them i wouldve posted: "I'm back in this hell hold 🍺🥴👊🤰"

  • @Justachilluser
    @Justachilluser Месяц назад

    Give my man the award of bravery man you're not the asshole bro you're a legend for us❤ and lets give some credits to the homies who protected him from his parents❤

  • @StarryPT-Shorts
    @StarryPT-Shorts 7 дней назад +1

    Same thing happened to me now I'm a millionaire my family begs me to give them money because they raised me id always say no I have all of their passwords so when they try to expose me I delete the post

  • @Demond-l4e
    @Demond-l4e Месяц назад +3

    You’re never in the wrong You should have treated you correctly

  • @swapnilmondkar1228
    @swapnilmondkar1228 16 дней назад

    Narrator: am I the a**hole
    Me:no you are not

  • @lukejackson2354
    @lukejackson2354 3 дня назад

    Why do they always say “whatever” instead of “everything”? It’s weird…

  • @gipsyundead
    @gipsyundead Месяц назад

    Parents will always be loyal to the child that makes them grandparents

  • @elenatheartistandgamer2001
    @elenatheartistandgamer2001 10 дней назад +1

    everyone but the parents are good people. At least OP is with people he loves and not with people who never given a rats behind about him. The mom and dad are terrible.

  • @LucasMartin-wn2qe
    @LucasMartin-wn2qe Месяц назад

    Hey dude I just wanna say I'm proud of you for telling everyone this and your aunt is awesome.
    Edit: good job my man of dealing with this

  • @Rosie-mm7dl
    @Rosie-mm7dl 22 дня назад

    Those parents disgust me, they didn’t want him back because they realized their mistake and wanted to try and be better parents to him, they only wanted him back so their family didn’t hate them anymore and so they wouldn’t lose their inheritance, what awful parents

  • @AveryDoyle-xc5ll
    @AveryDoyle-xc5ll Месяц назад +2

    That is shitty

  • @Goldenroses930
    @Goldenroses930 Месяц назад +2

    You and your sister and aunt are in the right in my opinion

  • @tsuda4116
    @tsuda4116 13 дней назад

    I don't understand what people have to go through to hate their own offsprings either by favouring or ignoring. Your children are the part of yourself, why would anyone incline to such degree. Bruh

  • @gauranshbansal
    @gauranshbansal 17 дней назад

    ngl this seems straight out of a movie (I don't mean that this is a fake story or whatever, I mean that it's insane enough to have a whole movie about it)

  • @emilyjohn2034
    @emilyjohn2034 13 дней назад

    It’s not being a bad person to as another child of the parents not be able to speak out against them. There is absolutely zero blame on the sister for the parents behavior as long as she didn’t personally do something her self, which she didn’t

  • @JacksonNewland
    @JacksonNewland Месяц назад +1

    I hope ur doing all right and that ur parents saw how badly they were treating you because kicking your kid out on his 16th birthday to make room for a baby is just wrong

  • @Cyrenaicia2099
    @Cyrenaicia2099 Месяц назад

    Good for him he fought long and hard but emerged victorious from it

  • @demonhansen-dp9vw
    @demonhansen-dp9vw 16 дней назад

    Its very common my aunt cares more about her youngest then her oldest son

  • @MemeSir-joy
    @MemeSir-joy Месяц назад +1

    Guys why do we listen to other people’s stories online.. 😭 Are we that bored?

  • @Lightmonkey123
    @Lightmonkey123 Месяц назад +10

    Rip to this person

  • @SamChamas
    @SamChamas Месяц назад +1

    This is somehow not considered child abuse because if i was him id tell him to wpeak to me when you mean something good genuinely

  • @PuppyLuvU2
    @PuppyLuvU2 28 дней назад

    Gotta love an ending where the horrible parents make all their kids hate them and they realize they screwed up royally.

  • @EllaBrown-w3b
    @EllaBrown-w3b Месяц назад

    Who the hell does that!? I have so many questions 😮! One,Why didn’t they go to jail? Two,why couldn’t the baby stay in the same room as the parents? Three, How viral did the post go? Four,How come they ended up going to their boyfriend’s house and why did they treat u like that? And lastly I DIDNT KNOW PPL COULD BE THAT EVIL!? LIKE THEY ONLY WANTED MONEY 🫤😡

  • @AprilCarnegieFoster
    @AprilCarnegieFoster Месяц назад +1

    No

  • @Avl420
    @Avl420 19 дней назад

    If your parents kick you out and ask you to come back for money your in the right

  • @firstviewok9270
    @firstviewok9270 Месяц назад +8

    Bro we r with u.
    I hope no one has to deal with this but I know some people have to😢

    • @Idumbledthedoor
      @Idumbledthedoor Месяц назад +1

      Dude. This is a fictional story

    • @LDinoise
      @LDinoise 19 дней назад

      ​@@IdumbledthedoorBut still reality for a lot of people

  • @heuhen
    @heuhen 19 дней назад

    just from listening to the story I have an idea of which region of the world he lives in

  • @BDGamers3
    @BDGamers3 Месяц назад

    Crying Watching This 😔😔 I pray that you be able to successfully recover

  • @tamalahale6160
    @tamalahale6160 Месяц назад

    So the parents thought that because of the new baby, the boyfriend was going to give up his own place, move in with her parents, get his own room, she keeps her room, and the newborn child will get her siblings room and the grandparents kick out their minor aged child for the grandchild who needs to be nearby the mother, wow, toxic family. I would go no contact if any of the sisters side is actually true, but also, if the sister is grown enough to get pregnant why wasn’t she grown enough to move in with boyfriend?

  • @sabinasharmin8026
    @sabinasharmin8026 Месяц назад

    BRUH THEY SHOULDN'T BE YOUR PARENTS 😡😡🤬🤬😡

  • @HeppyGiraffe
    @HeppyGiraffe Месяц назад

    Wait 16 or 18? They can’t kick you out at 16 legally

  • @DeonVanDerWalt-f3o
    @DeonVanDerWalt-f3o Месяц назад +6

    This kind of things just rong and Im sorry you had to go throw all that sh*t at 16

  • @JLuther
    @JLuther Месяц назад +6

    It is so stupid and dumb that he has been deprived with so much love. He has to ask if he’s the asshole in the situation that it’s actually like messing with my morals.