As a mom of 5 kids (I became pregnant at a young age) and did not have a good relationship with my mother, there is a motto that I used to bring intention to my parenting: “I will not cut my children on the broken pieces of my life.” This reminded me to always make sure that I was parenting from a place of wholeness. And when I got stuck and didn’t know what to do because my mother had not been a good example, I used that motto to determine what I would do. My children are teenagers and we have such a close relationship. You are on the right path too 🖤
“I’m not lost anymore.” I felt that in my heart. I had to rewind and play it again. That’s my thought exactly on motherhood. ❤ you are a wonderful mother!
I teared up every time you did 🥹 I'm so happy for you & you should be proud 👑 You have a beautiful spirit and I know you're an incredible mom. My condolences to you & Ryan 🙏🏾 You both made it through the storm together & stronger. Thank you for sharing your experience. Wishing baby boy many many more birthdays. Happy birthday, Eston! 🥳
I think the comment "your in it, be in it" is my new mom mantra. I'm a first-time mom with a 6 week old and I want to take in every minute before I return to work. I love the reminder not only to take in the good but also the hard times because they are only this small once. ❤
I hear you on wishing people were more involved/reaching out more postpartum. I was not expecting certain people to drop out of my life because they decided they couldn't relate anymore. I was shown a lot of love and support, but not by the people I was anticipating it from. And while everyone in modern society needs (and often lacks) support as another comment suggests, I think we need to be comfortable addressing that lack of a "village" for new moms especially. As they literally create life, they're drained of their own. It's possible that having a baby is the only way to comprehend how much support is actually needed in the weeks that follow. It is such a complex, layered experience that results in physical and emotional transformation almost nothing can prepare you for. I think a lack of education about that experience (and a lack of sacred ritual around it in our society) means it becomes another to-do list item to get through so we can "get back to being productive". It's actually quite sad.
Appreciate this video so much! It's so comforting to know I'm not alone in this. Also, 100% agree on society. From a society standpoint, motherhood is very isolating. I have so much anxiety just taking my 1 year old out in public (not to adult only places), because people can be so mean the moment he acts like a baby. Instead of being understanding it becomes irritation. On the flip side, there have been so many older people that generally come up and smile and talk to him/me. Those interactions always make me smile. There is also a comradery in motherhood. When I go for walks and pass other mothers with strollers, there is always a genuine friendly smile as if to say "I see you, I understand what you're going through. We're in this together." I can't believe Easton is already one! Best wishes to you and your family!!
I absolutely know it’s not the same. But I have this anxiety when taking my dog outside. He’s very sweet but also quite big. And sometimes he does dog things and also he’s only 3 years old. People acted like he had to be fully trained when he was a puppy.. giving me major anxiety and actually not visiting spots with lots of other dogs anymore.
I cried so many times through this. My daughter is one month younger than Easton and so many things you said rang true for me. My identity is multi faceted and complex AND I am allowed to lose myself in being a mother. Thank you ❤️ happy anniversary of being a mom!
I became a mum for the first time only a week before you. Even though we don’t “know each other” I feel like I’ve gone through things with you and I really related to this video. Cried my eyes out when you talked about Easton putting his hand on your face and touching your hair. My girl Alaska does things like this too and it’s so precious. 🥰 you’re doing an amazing job Kalyn
I need to share my experience. I have 16 months old son. The first 6 months were crazy. I barely remember anything. Then it got better yet it was still crazy. I was suffering with post partum rage and it took me 11 months to recover. Since he started walking (13 months) everything became normal again and I finaly felt like I had some control over myself and my body. I did not have to carry him anymore. I had my hands free and since then I feel happy again. He has his moments, he’s Taurus so he can be quite stubborn ( and I am Saggitarius so that is really hard for me to handle ), yet he is my best friend ❤❤ anyway Happy Birthday Easton 🎊🎉❤️ I love we can have the babies in the same time, as I am watching you for 9-10 years❤ sending love 😘
This video is so beautiful beyond words. Thank you for continuing to be so vulnerable in such a cold world, it takes a lot of courage, thank you for sharing this. I am so moved. ❤
I brought my only daughter up all by myself without a partner or his family nor my own. So i missed having someone to share those times with too. Your actually so blessed 😇
Hi Kalyn, my first pregnancy was the same time as yours, but unfortunately I faced an early loss. I was away from social media as I cope with the grief and I was blessed with a baby boy not too long after. It’s so amazing to see you and your journey of motherhood and have a glimpse of how my angel baby would have been. I’m cuddling my little rainbow and watching you right now as he sleeps❤️❤️
Happy one year anniversary to Easton, and to you and Ryan as parents! 💛 I cried a few times listening to you in this episode, mostly because I am genuinely happy for you 🥹 I wish you the best, keep going! And thank you for the love you bring into this world 💜🌿
I just had my first child on 9/5 this year, went into labor on Labor Day and I rewatched a bunch of your videos going through my pregnancy and preparing for childbirth. It’s so hard to put into words and to understand the incredible transformation that happens becoming a mother, its just so…immense. Your video was just exactly what I needed. I so appreciate your willingness to share on such vulnerable topics. I’m so grateful for you and your channel! I’ve watched your videos for many years and way back then I never would have imagined what a spiritual/intuitive powerhouse you would become one day and its just a beautiful thing 💕 ❤️ 💜
Bonjour Kalyn :) thank you for sharing your journey - My daughter is 15 month old and it is not easy everyday. Some days, I crawl to bed completely drained, but the love I receive and the smiles I get to see are the best thing I could ask for.
I’m crying my eyes out , I become a mom a few days after you and I feel everything you said . Having a village to raise our son would truly be wonderful but is being a hard but amazing year . You are doing your best as a mom ❤
As a mom of two, my pet peeve is when people tell you how fast it goes or “they’re only little once” and make it seem like you should be sad that your kids are growing older. Yes, it’s true that it’s a very special and limited time, however, there’s no better blessing than your child turning a day older because they alternative is unthinkable 😢 I refuse to be sad that my babies are growing up! I will cherish the current periods as much as I can and appreciate every new age and stage and the magic and challenges that they bring ❤
I love how open you are explaining what raw motherhood is, I agreed. I was 22 when I had my oldest son and almost 24 when I had my youngest son. They're a blessing in disguise for the better and knowing what kind of love you have for you're child ❤. I recently loss my mom from cancer back in May. I will always cherish all the memories I have with my mom and seeing her with her two grandsons 🫶. Easton is such a special boy having you as his mom ❤.
I’ve watched you for so long! We ended up having sons around the same time, just a few months apart. I relate to so much of your experience! Just wanted to say you’re doing great mama!!
Kalyn I feel like you have put all the feelings I have been wrestling with as a mother into words! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, triumphs, and trials! 🤍
there are so many great points you make here, and so many valuable perspectives you share. i just want to once again commend you on your choice to prioritize and protect your baby’s privacy. it’s such a relief to see people being conscientious of the effects that can have on the child in the long run and even in more immediate moments, and respecting your child on that level. i’m not trying to bash parents who make different choices but i definitely agree more with the way you approach the issue
My sweet boy turns one on September 19th and I have absolutely loved sharing this journey with you from afar. I feel all of the tears as we lost my father in law. He was my husbands best friend. Losing a parent, watching your partner grieve, and also going through the loss yourself while being so excited for this sweet blessing is the hardest thing. But. We are doing this thing. Some days not great, but we have so much more strength than we can fathom. All of the hugs and love to you and our little fam 🖤
With the void of not having a person to want to know how they are every day, I have this also, due to my mum having severe mental health, she doesn’t really have an interest in my children which is so hard. I don’t have the regular support with from their dads mum. I understand exactly where you are with this, although I haven’t lost my mum. My nan is vert close to us although she cannot physically help us, she is very poorly currently and she is more like a mum to me, so I cherish the time we do have with her at present ❤
It's sooo normalize to hate kids! It's definitely a western thing! I totally get wanting to be child free but many adults have hatred towards kids so I'm happy your brining light to how beautiful motherhood is. I feel like your audience definitely needs this❤
Bonjour Kalyn, be confident you said it well and the more you will talk the more you will fail and correct and grow your vocabulary and confidence. You go girl ! Être une maman est un défi, un défi merveilleux selon moi 😊.
Listening to this while my 3 month old naps and I’m getting some chores done… babies are a blessing. Are they easy? Sometimes, but definitely not always. Is motherhood tough? Yeah, and it’s also beautiful. Is it all worth it? 1000% ❤
Currently watching this while my 4 month old naps on me. 100% agree that it's so worth it, even when your baby doesn't sleep in her crib during the day and only wants to nap on you 😅
I also feel the lack of village and the loneliness. I didn't expect it to matter that much, knowing how much I wanted a baby my whole life. I am trying to be honest when someone asks me, it isn't easy. But it is definitely worth it! The only thing I find very hard to do is to silence all the surrounding voices. How do you manage that? I am a people pleaser as well and I struggle with it.
beautiful. I have a poor relationship with my mom and so this especially meant a lot to hear. and my long term boyfriend's mom has been like a mom to me so, yeah, this was really sweet and meaningful to hear. It sounds like motherhood will be an exciting deep fulfilling adventure
It sounds so weird to me, as a person who does not want to have kids, to just drop your friends because they became parents. On the flip side, my siblings and I have gone through our mom having a cancer that made her unable to live in autonomy until she eventually passed. My sister was the main caretaker (I live abroad, I went back a few times of course but there's only so much I can do from afar). My sister was there for her best friends when they became moms but her best friends just pulled away from her when taking care of our mom began to take up most of her time. Some of her friends she saw quite often beforehand started criticizing her because she was not spending as much time with them anymore. Thankfully my mom had a big family we are close to and could rely on but most of the mentally draining stuff was done by my sister, it led her to depression and I'm also wondering, where is the village in this situation ? Why are friends giving up on you when you're going through a life changing time ? One of my closest friends wants to form a family eventually and you can bet I'll be there to support her in whatever way I can when it comes.
This is really interesting insight into motherhood. I’m pregnant with my first baby, due in March. I’m just a few weeks older than you, I 💯 planned this pregnancy 😊 I went through fertility treatments to get pregnant and I am so blessed to know I’m going to become a mom in 5ish months! I’m so excited and cannot wait! ❤ being a mom is truly a blessing!
Definitely agree that Cities and current modern day society has not taken into account helping new mums/new families and facilitating for babies and toddlers. I'm sure it was worse in the past, but mums clearly just got on with it and took on EVERYTHING themselves, which is so unfair.
I do think kids are seen as more of a burden and mothers are less respected in society now and people have this wrong mentality where they “feel bad” for moms in a way. Like “oh poor her she can’t have fun anymore” as if you died because you had a kid. Meanwhile the moms feel the biggest sense of purpose and meaning ever
As a mom of a four months old, this gets me soooo emotional. Debating to have an other child later in life, each moments with this one is even more precious, thinking that it might be the only one I live all this amazing experience of being a parent to. 🥹💕
To answer your question, here in Quebec, I feel like people are very understanding of parents with kids (my experience) BUT! The stroller accessibility is lacking… trying to go out as a independent mama is a struggle 😵💫😅
As a mom of 5 kids (I became pregnant at a young age) and did not have a good relationship with my mother, there is a motto that I used to bring intention to my parenting: “I will not cut my children on the broken pieces of my life.” This reminded me to always make sure that I was parenting from a place of wholeness. And when I got stuck and didn’t know what to do because my mother had not been a good example, I used that motto to determine what I would do. My children are teenagers and we have such a close relationship. You are on the right path too 🖤
“I’m not lost anymore.” I felt that in my heart. I had to rewind and play it again. That’s my thought exactly on motherhood. ❤ you are a wonderful mother!
Baby Easton is so lucky to have a mama bear like you! I'm so happy for you and all the healing that you are going through ❤
Thank you ♥️
I teared up every time you did 🥹 I'm so happy for you & you should be proud 👑 You have a beautiful spirit and I know you're an incredible mom. My condolences to you & Ryan 🙏🏾 You both made it through the storm together & stronger. Thank you for sharing your experience. Wishing baby boy many many more birthdays. Happy birthday, Eston! 🥳
I think the comment "your in it, be in it" is my new mom mantra. I'm a first-time mom with a 6 week old and I want to take in every minute before I return to work. I love the reminder not only to take in the good but also the hard times because they are only this small once. ❤
I hear you on wishing people were more involved/reaching out more postpartum. I was not expecting certain people to drop out of my life because they decided they couldn't relate anymore. I was shown a lot of love and support, but not by the people I was anticipating it from. And while everyone in modern society needs (and often lacks) support as another comment suggests, I think we need to be comfortable addressing that lack of a "village" for new moms especially. As they literally create life, they're drained of their own. It's possible that having a baby is the only way to comprehend how much support is actually needed in the weeks that follow. It is such a complex, layered experience that results in physical and emotional transformation almost nothing can prepare you for. I think a lack of education about that experience (and a lack of sacred ritual around it in our society) means it becomes another to-do list item to get through so we can "get back to being productive". It's actually quite sad.
Appreciate this video so much! It's so comforting to know I'm not alone in this. Also, 100% agree on society. From a society standpoint, motherhood is very isolating. I have so much anxiety just taking my 1 year old out in public (not to adult only places), because people can be so mean the moment he acts like a baby. Instead of being understanding it becomes irritation. On the flip side, there have been so many older people that generally come up and smile and talk to him/me. Those interactions always make me smile. There is also a comradery in motherhood. When I go for walks and pass other mothers with strollers, there is always a genuine friendly smile as if to say "I see you, I understand what you're going through. We're in this together."
I can't believe Easton is already one! Best wishes to you and your family!!
I absolutely know it’s not the same. But I have this anxiety when taking my dog outside. He’s very sweet but also quite big. And sometimes he does dog things and also he’s only 3 years old. People acted like he had to be fully trained when he was a puppy.. giving me major anxiety and actually not visiting spots with lots of other dogs anymore.
I cried so many times through this. My daughter is one month younger than Easton and so many things you said rang true for me. My identity is multi faceted and complex AND I am allowed to lose myself in being a mother. Thank you ❤️ happy anniversary of being a mom!
I became a mum for the first time only a week before you. Even though we don’t “know each other” I feel like I’ve gone through things with you and I really related to this video. Cried my eyes out when you talked about Easton putting his hand on your face and touching your hair. My girl Alaska does things like this too and it’s so precious. 🥰 you’re doing an amazing job Kalyn
I need to share my experience. I have 16 months old son. The first 6 months were crazy. I barely remember anything. Then it got better yet it was still crazy. I was suffering with post partum rage and it took me 11 months to recover. Since he started walking (13 months) everything became normal again and I finaly felt like I had some control over myself and my body. I did not have to carry him anymore. I had my hands free and since then I feel happy again. He has his moments, he’s Taurus so he can be quite stubborn ( and I am Saggitarius so that is really hard for me to handle ), yet he is my best friend ❤❤ anyway Happy Birthday Easton 🎊🎉❤️ I love we can have the babies in the same time, as I am watching you for 9-10 years❤ sending love 😘
Thank you for sharing ♥️ I’m so glad you’re feeling better!! It’s so many intense emotions and overwhelming energy at times.
This video is so beautiful beyond words. Thank you for continuing to be so vulnerable in such a cold world, it takes a lot of courage, thank you for sharing this. I am so moved. ❤
Thank you so much! ♥️
I brought my only daughter up all by myself without a partner or his family nor my own. So i missed having someone to share those times with too. Your actually so blessed 😇
Hi Kalyn, my first pregnancy was the same time as yours, but unfortunately I faced an early loss. I was away from social media as I cope with the grief and I was blessed with a baby boy not too long after. It’s so amazing to see you and your journey of motherhood and have a glimpse of how my angel baby would have been. I’m cuddling my little rainbow and watching you right now as he sleeps❤️❤️
the exact same thing happened to me. i feel like i keep hearing it happen more and more. im glad your baby boy came to you too 💜
Happy one year anniversary to Easton, and to you and Ryan as parents! 💛 I cried a few times listening to you in this episode, mostly because I am genuinely happy for you 🥹 I wish you the best, keep going! And thank you for the love you bring into this world 💜🌿
Watching this a week before my due date. I got teary eyed right along with you. 🥲 Thank you, Kalyn, for sharing your thoughts.
Wishing you a beautiful and strong delivery experience ♥️🥲 congratulations in advance
I just had my first child on 9/5 this year, went into labor on Labor Day and I rewatched a bunch of your videos going through my pregnancy and preparing for childbirth. It’s so hard to put into words and to understand the incredible transformation that happens becoming a mother, its just so…immense. Your video was just exactly what I needed. I so appreciate your willingness to share on such vulnerable topics. I’m so grateful for you and your channel! I’ve watched your videos for many years and way back then I never would have imagined what a spiritual/intuitive powerhouse you would become one day and its just a beautiful thing 💕 ❤️ 💜
Bonjour Kalyn :) thank you for sharing your journey - My daughter is 15 month old and it is not easy everyday. Some days, I crawl to bed completely drained, but the love I receive and the smiles I get to see are the best thing I could ask for.
I’m crying my eyes out , I become a mom a few days after you and I feel everything you said . Having a village to raise our son would truly be wonderful but is being a hard but amazing year . You are doing your best as a mom ❤
Thank you for this❤️
As a mom of two, my pet peeve is when people tell you how fast it goes or “they’re only little once” and make it seem like you should be sad that your kids are growing older. Yes, it’s true that it’s a very special and limited time, however, there’s no better blessing than your child turning a day older because they alternative is unthinkable 😢
I refuse to be sad that my babies are growing up! I will cherish the current periods as much as I can and appreciate every new age and stage and the magic and challenges that they bring ❤
I love how open you are explaining what raw motherhood is, I agreed. I was 22 when I had my oldest son and almost 24 when I had my youngest son.
They're a blessing in disguise for the better and knowing what kind of love you have for you're child ❤. I recently loss my mom from cancer back in May. I will always cherish all the memories I have with my mom and seeing her with her two grandsons 🫶.
Easton is such a special boy having you as his mom ❤.
I’ve watched you for so long! We ended up having sons around the same time, just a few months apart. I relate to so much of your experience! Just wanted to say you’re doing great mama!!
Also happy birthday Easton and happy one year mama!❤
Thank you so much!! ♥️
Kalyn I feel like you have put all the feelings I have been wrestling with as a mother into words! Thank you for sharing your thoughts, triumphs, and trials! 🤍
there are so many great points you make here, and so many valuable perspectives you share. i just want to once again commend you on your choice to prioritize and protect your baby’s privacy. it’s such a relief to see people being conscientious of the effects that can have on the child in the long run and even in more immediate moments, and respecting your child on that level. i’m not trying to bash parents who make different choices but i definitely agree more with the way you approach the issue
My sweet boy turns one on September 19th and I have absolutely loved sharing this journey with you from afar. I feel all of the tears as we lost my father in law. He was my husbands best friend. Losing a parent, watching your partner grieve, and also going through the loss yourself while being so excited for this sweet blessing is the hardest thing. But. We are doing this thing. Some days not great, but we have so much more strength than we can fathom. All of the hugs and love to you and our little fam 🖤
With the void of not having a person to want to know how they are every day, I have this also, due to my mum having severe mental health, she doesn’t really have an interest in my children which is so hard. I don’t have the regular support with from their dads mum. I understand exactly where you are with this, although I haven’t lost my mum. My nan is vert close to us although she cannot physically help us, she is very poorly currently and she is more like a mum to me, so I cherish the time we do have with her at present ❤
And yet sharing this about my mum and my daughters dads mum (we are separated) I feel shame! It sucks to feel that way
One hundred percent agree with you about the village thing
Thank you so much for this! My baby is 7 weeks old now so it came at the perfect time.
It's sooo normalize to hate kids! It's definitely a western thing! I totally get wanting to be child free but many adults have hatred towards kids so I'm happy your brining light to how beautiful motherhood is. I feel like your audience definitely needs this❤
Bonjour Kalyn, be confident you said it well and the more you will talk the more you will fail and correct and grow your vocabulary and confidence. You go girl ! Être une maman est un défi, un défi merveilleux selon moi 😊.
Listening to this while my 3 month old naps and I’m getting some chores done… babies are a blessing. Are they easy? Sometimes, but definitely not always. Is motherhood tough? Yeah, and it’s also beautiful. Is it all worth it? 1000% ❤
Yes, absolutely ♥️
Currently watching this while my 4 month old naps on me. 100% agree that it's so worth it, even when your baby doesn't sleep in her crib during the day and only wants to nap on you 😅
I also feel the lack of village and the loneliness. I didn't expect it to matter that much, knowing how much I wanted a baby my whole life. I am trying to be honest when someone asks me, it isn't easy. But it is definitely worth it!
The only thing I find very hard to do is to silence all the surrounding voices. How do you manage that? I am a people pleaser as well and I struggle with it.
beautiful. I have a poor relationship with my mom and so this especially meant a lot to hear. and my long term boyfriend's mom has been like a mom to me so, yeah, this was really sweet and meaningful to hear. It sounds like motherhood will be an exciting deep fulfilling adventure
The tears are flowing. As is the baby fever 🥹
It sounds so weird to me, as a person who does not want to have kids, to just drop your friends because they became parents. On the flip side, my siblings and I have gone through our mom having a cancer that made her unable to live in autonomy until she eventually passed. My sister was the main caretaker (I live abroad, I went back a few times of course but there's only so much I can do from afar). My sister was there for her best friends when they became moms but her best friends just pulled away from her when taking care of our mom began to take up most of her time. Some of her friends she saw quite often beforehand started criticizing her because she was not spending as much time with them anymore. Thankfully my mom had a big family we are close to and could rely on but most of the mentally draining stuff was done by my sister, it led her to depression and I'm also wondering, where is the village in this situation ? Why are friends giving up on you when you're going through a life changing time ? One of my closest friends wants to form a family eventually and you can bet I'll be there to support her in whatever way I can when it comes.
This is really interesting insight into motherhood. I’m pregnant with my first baby, due in March. I’m just a few weeks older than you, I 💯 planned this pregnancy 😊 I went through fertility treatments to get pregnant and I am so blessed to know I’m going to become a mom in 5ish months! I’m so excited and cannot wait! ❤ being a mom is truly a blessing!
Congratulations ♥️♥️♥️
Thank you 😊❤
Congratulation! My due date is at the end of March. How’re you feeling?
Definitely agree that Cities and current modern day society has not taken into account helping new mums/new families and facilitating for babies and toddlers. I'm sure it was worse in the past, but mums clearly just got on with it and took on EVERYTHING themselves, which is so unfair.
What a great gift motherhood is ❤ Thank you so much for sharing . 🫶
Watching this with my ten day old baby at my breast. Appreciate you, Kalyn xx
🥹 soak it up!!!
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✨Reality of real life is totally different than Fantasy & Fairytale
Wait... did they move? Can anyone update me here 😮
Can you believe it. Already one year gone. Unbelievable. Time is running so fast.
So so fast!!
I do think kids are seen as more of a burden and mothers are less respected in society now and people have this wrong mentality where they “feel bad” for moms in a way. Like “oh poor her she can’t have fun anymore” as if you died because you had a kid.
Meanwhile the moms feel the biggest sense of purpose and meaning ever
How is he a year already? I thought you found out last Christmas… am I missing something ? 🤔😂
Two Christmases ago 🤯
She has a baby? lol I didn’t know 😂
All the ads on this video make it unbearable to watch!
There are time stamps, it’s super easy to hop over them if you want to 😊
Remember that these youtube ads are what allow us to support her and encourage her content
I got emotional watching your video 🩷🩷 it was really beautiful
As a mom of a four months old, this gets me soooo emotional. Debating to have an other child later in life, each moments with this one is even more precious, thinking that it might be the only one I live all this amazing experience of being a parent to. 🥹💕
To answer your question, here in Quebec, I feel like people are very understanding of parents with kids (my experience) BUT! The stroller accessibility is lacking… trying to go out as a independent mama is a struggle 😵💫😅