Exes Share How They've Struggled with the Heartbreak 💔 w/ Mo Mdluli & Landa | DEFINING Breakups S1E3

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  • Опубликовано: 12 дек 2024

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  • @DEFINING
    @DEFINING  2 года назад +630

    Loved the transparency & vulnerability Mo & Landa shared 🥺 We're so happy that they've become friends since we filmed this episode! Please give this video a thumbs up and subscribe❤

  • @nolubabalocumbe
    @nolubabalocumbe 2 года назад +915

    I love Mo’s calmness. She also just listens to someone without wanting to say anything. She takes in whatever the person is saying. Such a beautiful person and she looks like when she loves she loves with her whole heart

  • @reneilwemndawe7423
    @reneilwemndawe7423 2 года назад +730

    For this episode, I've learnt that it's okay to love your ex, as long as you love yourself more🌻 That's where choosing yourself comes in.

  • @tendaimaria1537
    @tendaimaria1537 2 года назад +181

    Mo is the unpaid therapist that is trying to heal but still trying to help others heal

  • @bathob3625
    @bathob3625 2 года назад +75

    I feel like Mo was holding back to protect her ex

  • @thebemphahlele4773
    @thebemphahlele4773 2 года назад +421

    I love how when Mo answers her questions she asks the person she is with if she went through the same. She also listens attentively. Shows how empathetic she is and how she wants to connect with people. Such a beautiful soul ❤️❤️❤️🤌

  • @YolzChannel
    @YolzChannel 2 года назад +573

    This felt like such a safe space to share, learn and heal🤗❤️

    • @kiwigirl359
      @kiwigirl359 2 года назад +1

      That's what I said sis...

    • @tshepi4justice875
      @tshepi4justice875 2 года назад +13

      They should invite you to defining friendship breakups

    • @Yassmiinn.
      @Yassmiinn. 2 года назад +1

      @@tshepi4justice875 The other one won't come lol

    • @tshepi4justice875
      @tshepi4justice875 2 года назад

      @@Yassmiinn. lol Sibu also didn’t come but his ex came.

  • @AneleD
    @AneleD 2 года назад +309

    Landa's personality is great and she's very well spoken.

    • @tintswalochabalala4672
      @tintswalochabalala4672 2 года назад +2

      Yea. I could listen to her all day ❤️

    • @AneleD
      @AneleD 2 года назад +1

      @@tintswalochabalala4672 same here dolls.

  • @mimin6115
    @mimin6115 2 года назад +240

    You don't have to be friends with everyone you meet BUT I honestly think they could be very good friends. I don't know... They create such a warm, wholesome, calm, introspective and overall peaceful dynamic. They could create such a beautiful friendship together.

    • @sabamasaya2064
      @sabamasaya2064 2 года назад +26

      Mo just shared on IG that they’ve since been become friends and even suggested in a jokingly way,that they now do a Defining Friendship episode.😂🥺

    • @asiveangel4940
      @asiveangel4940 2 года назад +1

      @@sabamasaya2064 wow, that is beautiful🥺.

  • @laureatus_good
    @laureatus_good 2 года назад +281

    I’m such a fan of Mo. She’s grown on me and I’m really proud of her growth. ❤

  • @TheBWord
    @TheBWord 2 года назад +208

    "The slower you move, the quicker you return home." Wow that really resonated with me! Can't get enough of Defining Breakups 😭❤️👏🏾

    • @Ponchables
      @Ponchables 2 года назад +6

      @Palisa Key I believe it basically means small progress is still progress.

    • @iviweketshane8842
      @iviweketshane8842 2 года назад +39

      @Palisa Key ​ I think it means that if you try to quicken the journey of healing, there are parts you miss and you will later still need to return to those parts but if you go slow and take your time, you miss no parts.

    • @omontlemasina6861
      @omontlemasina6861 2 года назад +6

      It can also mean if you don't rush the healing process the quicker it is to return to yourself (Home).

  • @humxnly
    @humxnly 2 года назад +175

    When Landa described that journey of falling in love with herself as being ' confusing, ugly and uncomfortable' i felt that in my soul😭

  • @sidumisemhatu8199
    @sidumisemhatu8199 2 года назад +155

    Someone once said " sometimes people have to be removed in your life, in order for you to get your blessings or prayers to be answered.. Because they might be holding energy that will affect you too to block your blessings.. Not because they are bad people...coz sometimes they might not even know they got that energy themselves ".. And that's life, it's things that happen here..

  • @LeboMekgwe
    @LeboMekgwe Год назад +11

    That “ planning your dreams together and seeing them come together when you’ve broken up” that part 😢😢😢😢…… I relate to that

  • @nomasontomthimkhulu5875
    @nomasontomthimkhulu5875 2 года назад +135

    One thing about Thato, he will regret letting Mo go 🤞

    • @thasondimande
      @thasondimande 2 года назад +3

      😂😂😂😂

    • @ketie_
      @ketie_ 2 года назад +9

      That’s his wife

    • @masefudimametja8042
      @masefudimametja8042 2 года назад +17

      I'm so mad at him for fumbling such a gem! 😂😭

    • @andiswasilikane4347
      @andiswasilikane4347 2 года назад

      😂❤️

    • @LeboMekgwe
      @LeboMekgwe Год назад +6

      He won’t regret it. Even if they get back together, they needed this break up to grow themselves away from each other. Where they are right now isn’t compatible to one another. We don’t live with regrets just lessons. She’s amazing though

  • @Naledi_Kibinyana
    @Naledi_Kibinyana 2 года назад +97

    I really love Mó’s demeanour.such a beautiful soul

  • @windsorL911
    @windsorL911 2 года назад +41

    Nah Mo wasn’t the problem, probably got gaslighted to hell during the breakup 💀

  • @sboqwabe
    @sboqwabe 2 года назад +110

    This is a great pairing. Love how calm Mo is and how warm Landa is

  • @Kcmatela
    @Kcmatela 2 года назад +47

    "the slower you move, the quicker you return home"

    • @Channyy956
      @Channyy956 2 года назад +6

      I really wanted to hear what she meant by that but she got cut😭

    • @justelsie283
      @justelsie283 2 года назад +2

      @@Channyy956 Eish. We will never know 🤣😭😭

  • @kattsomething
    @kattsomething 2 года назад +46

    10:56 Bathong Mo 😭 "Can my ex get this question?"

  • @nandii1969
    @nandii1969 2 года назад +145

    Mo is such a sweet soul😭 I'd run to her with all my problems😭

    • @reginahmwepwe5904
      @reginahmwepwe5904 2 года назад +1

      Yall would take so many shots😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @nandii1969
      @nandii1969 2 года назад +2

      @@reginahmwepwe5904 noo phela not on a show, just privately🤣

    • @reginahmwepwe5904
      @reginahmwepwe5904 2 года назад

      @@nandii1969 😂😂😂😂

  • @onesimogum4374
    @onesimogum4374 2 года назад +37

    Mo’s demeanour is so calming. She’s so serene 😍
    But this was the best episode, loved how they both were reflective without bashing their exes.

  • @Houstonkhh
    @Houstonkhh 2 года назад +168

    Landa gave me so much closure on her breakup. You made so much sense maam

    • @thokozandesi9478
      @thokozandesi9478 2 года назад +3

      Actually their breakup was so heavy on me.. seeing Landa on Instagram 😔alone nje was painful..I had a lot of emotions ...I also got closure too..thanks guys🤗

    • @teem4201
      @teem4201 2 года назад +2

      Me too,I loved them somuch,Their breakup really hurt me especially because I was going through a breakup myself.

  • @snowflake_vii
    @snowflake_vii 2 года назад +80

    “You can say no to spaces that you feel you aren’t comfortable occupying without feeling guilty ”- Mo Mdluli ❤️❤️❤️

  • @blinkym21
    @blinkym21 2 года назад +85

    These are definitely two women who are so comfortable in their skin , Landa articulates herself so well. ♥️… I really like this new chapter for Mo, I think her energy and her character started evolving away from her ex even before they announced their breakup.

  • @vuyontshangase5671
    @vuyontshangase5671 2 года назад +39

    I really didn't get anything from Mo for real...

  • @rukamwi
    @rukamwi 2 года назад +52

    Break ups hurt, hurt. But “love is never wasted.” ❤️

  • @zinathibusika5463
    @zinathibusika5463 2 года назад +24

    You can see that Landa will go far with this attitude. She’s honest towards herself & her boundaries. She confident about her space & bringing others into it knowing she only radiates pure love. She’s amazing❤️Also she’s so soft spoken. Everything she says sounds perfectly rehearsed.

  • @tsireledzopertunia4850
    @tsireledzopertunia4850 2 года назад +34

    Mo is so soft spoken 😭❤

  • @knowledgekhoza8618
    @knowledgekhoza8618 2 года назад +45

    Mo is beautiful man .
    Thato lost a good woman here ahh 🥹

    • @Leeeiggh
      @Leeeiggh 2 года назад +13

      Maybe it wasn't meant to be. She lost him too. It's lessons and losses both ways

    • @Yassmiinn.
      @Yassmiinn. 2 года назад

      Damn, she's bloody gorg

    • @SabriyaYo
      @SabriyaYo 10 месяцев назад

      @@Leeeigghnah that fool lost a great woman

  • @ayandamkhwebane2612
    @ayandamkhwebane2612 2 года назад +33

    this is literally the best episode ever, they flowed through the conversations. So transparent. Oh my gosh i love this, it was too short. They literally communicated and comprehended so well.

  • @ntlantlakumalo8246
    @ntlantlakumalo8246 2 года назад +33

    Not defining creating a whole wholesome friendship🥺 i love this🥺❤️

  • @keabetswemmoke3129
    @keabetswemmoke3129 2 года назад +153

    Landa I love your honesty and transparency, Mo was holding a lot back.

    • @QueenZsWorld
      @QueenZsWorld 2 года назад +63

      as is her right. 😊♥️ you don't owe anyone answers about your personal life but yourself

    • @sinekamvatelem4434
      @sinekamvatelem4434 2 года назад +34

      I don't think she did that deliberately. You could see that she wanted to say more but because she's a great listener she decided to give Landa space to talk more.

    • @LeboMekgwe
      @LeboMekgwe Год назад +3

      Sometimes being a good listener means giving other people space to express themselves.. without trying to speak too much yourself. That’s her aura and her personality.

  • @ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297
    @ntombi-yensimbinarrates7297 2 года назад +25

    That relationship grief is NO JOKE!😵 It's like a fire you have to go through so that you can come out shiny and gold on the other side. Slow and steady wins the race🏁 . Shoutout to the Black Label girls and this beautiful episode🥰🥰🥰

  • @Conversations_w.ntsako
    @Conversations_w.ntsako 2 года назад +25

    Can't get over Mo's beauty 😍

  • @Thatompotseng
    @Thatompotseng 2 года назад +18

    Oh my word! ... What a beautiful episode. The conversation was flowing ... took accountability, no anger , no regrets. Both ladies appreciated what what was and none of them were bashing the ex.

  • @dilahloanemokheseng6614
    @dilahloanemokheseng6614 2 года назад +82

    I'm here for Mo❤️

  • @queenmusapitso5406
    @queenmusapitso5406 2 года назад +18

    God bless Dennis, Noma and the rest of the team for this channel. I don't think they know or understand the amount of healing and closure and hope they bring to some of us. We learn alot from these individuals who had to experience love and breakups publicly...Landa is still going through the heartache, you can tell by the expressions but at the same time I love how she embraces the relationship she had. Mo just made me cry. It's unbelievable that they broke up. Mo looks like the type of person that will go through the most but be there 100% for someone else, it takes alot to do that. Somehow you heal yourself while being there for others. I loved those two people. I wish them all the best in their back-to-self journeys these ladies and may they love themselves more and so hard, so that when they ready to date again their cups are full and overflowing with love.

  • @leratoserwalo9494
    @leratoserwalo9494 2 года назад +10

    Also guys it is possible to break up, learn to pay more attention to yourself and be comfortable in your own skin and meet your ex and date other people and at first you appreciate what they have that your ex didn't have. But over time u realise ur ex had 80% of the things you wanted in a person and the new guy has only 20% and you start missing your person. And because now they are humbled and remember that they also went through a stage of growth while u were away. You tell them I am this person now and you find that you guys work better now that you have changed. Ain't no shame in getting back together coz it's rough out there guys and you realize that also you can't love the same anymore. U no longer have love, you have acceptance.

  • @sbut4095
    @sbut4095 2 года назад +11

    even in one of the episodes on her [Mo] podcast, Mo’s friend did say that the one key trait that made her so important to their [Mo’s friend] life was her ability to listen attentively and be there for others. she does just that over here, too.
    and Landa is such a beam of sunshine!
    what a great duo.

  • @Siphokazi_H
    @Siphokazi_H 2 года назад +75

    We are all crying right?🥺🥺🥺. This was so beautiful to watch, beautiful beautiful women🫶🏾🤍. I wish you two nothing but the absolute best in love and in life.

    • @nataschalosper1760
      @nataschalosper1760 2 года назад +1

      We're crying alright

    • @thabangprudence5483
      @thabangprudence5483 2 года назад +2

      We definitely cried it was such a beautiful episode 😢

    • @JabulileMathenjwa
      @JabulileMathenjwa 2 года назад

      I definitely cried at the end when they said their wishes for each other. I felt that 😢

  • @tshidi9884
    @tshidi9884 2 года назад +20

    This looks like the start of a beautiful friendship🥺🤍

  • @kletha.m
    @kletha.m 2 года назад +10

    Love you enough to remove yourself from situations that no longer serve you

  • @memeetunashileka
    @memeetunashileka 2 года назад +39

    i love Mo so much, she's so calm and welcoming and an amazing listener. 😔

  • @Mands_Mo
    @Mands_Mo 2 года назад +7

    When Landa said I'm scared of letting go of the idea of us 🥺💔ma'am it hit home.

  • @sanelisiwenofuya8131
    @sanelisiwenofuya8131 2 года назад +12

    Currently going though a breakup,its so sad but I just love how everyone is trying to love, heal and pick themselves up cause we pour too much into empty cups when we fall inlove that we even forget to love and take a good care of ourselves too. Love and light to everyone ❤

  • @mmakgotsomaphoto6722
    @mmakgotsomaphoto6722 2 года назад +26

    The ONLY terrible thing about this episode is that it ends. Hate that!😭😭😭

  • @ursulamasinga274
    @ursulamasinga274 2 года назад +41

    I love Mo’s Aura🥺🤍

  • @lifewithntokozo
    @lifewithntokozo 2 года назад +96

    Mo definitely deserves everything good the Earth has to offer. I do wish she was paired with someone else because it feels like she wanted to share more but Landa kept interrupting her 🫠.

    • @SinoM123
      @SinoM123 2 года назад +8

      Yes!!! And usually she seems like she doesn't mind being on the listening end BC she's so calm. But this time sis wanted to speak bethuna😭😭

    • @RatoMamaLehumo
      @RatoMamaLehumo 2 года назад +1

      I agree

  • @ivilemnyamana2119
    @ivilemnyamana2119 2 года назад +11

    I love how Landa answers the questions I love her so much !!

  • @siphoxipu
    @siphoxipu 2 года назад +58

    what a beautiful episode. the ladies truly spoke from the heart and that is so difficult to do but it looked so effortless for them. they really are amazing individuals and i hope they find the energy that they radiate.

  • @marym1476
    @marym1476 2 года назад +4

    Landa's energy is beautiful... she is lovable
    Mo is so warm.

  • @tigelechaboneka5777
    @tigelechaboneka5777 2 года назад +17

    Defining is such a wholesome space... I see healthy friendships growing from here ❤️

  • @lusandatsilana8890
    @lusandatsilana8890 2 года назад +21

    What a beautiful episode!🥹🥹✨ their personalities compliment eachother so well. Their episode had so much depth. They are so matured and self aware!

  • @neotsotetsi6598
    @neotsotetsi6598 2 года назад +69

    please bring back Mo with someone who'll wait for her to get her point across.

  • @sizakhambule7886
    @sizakhambule7886 2 года назад +14

    Bathong Thato o hurdile Mo watseba? Mxm😞

  • @mamizafrancis
    @mamizafrancis 2 года назад +11

    can we get the exes to sit together with each other ? the ex-couple ke. loved this !

  • @zakithidlamini7539
    @zakithidlamini7539 2 года назад +7

    Mo's aura is so soothing yho!😭😭

  • @Theecaliforniaqueen
    @Theecaliforniaqueen 2 года назад +19

    Mo's voice❤️😭

  • @merculamongonyama506
    @merculamongonyama506 2 года назад +4

    This video literally opened my eyes on ,breaking up with someone is more like grieving them because they are just no longer there and grieving is just a really tough journey hey

  • @candyvore10
    @candyvore10 2 года назад +27

    Mo needing to putting her glasses first 😂😂

  • @Nkosie007
    @Nkosie007 2 года назад +36

    From their defining love episode i always thought Thato was not mature enough for Mo

    • @bathob3625
      @bathob3625 2 года назад +28

      I wouldn't say he wasn't mature. They are just two different people from two different worlds but they complimented each other so well

  • @zoemdluli4494
    @zoemdluli4494 2 года назад +12

    I love Mo man yoh.. She is calm herself!!

  • @kokim2237
    @kokim2237 2 года назад +7

    The warmth and strength in this conversation…

  • @sharonthemba8764
    @sharonthemba8764 2 года назад +1

    The conversation is so raw. Healing isn't straight lines. When we dig within our souls we get dirty and messy , but the beauty about it we discover the brilliance that lies deep in us.

  • @noncebajezile7754
    @noncebajezile7754 2 года назад +21

    Mo is so calm🥰👌

  • @jennifermpanza3430
    @jennifermpanza3430 2 года назад +29

    Landa and Mo are such a beautiful pairing. Genuinely LOVED this episode🥺🥺

  • @theonlyntoi_
    @theonlyntoi_ 2 года назад +24

    I just smiled throughout their conversation. 🥺😊

  • @imphotant
    @imphotant 2 года назад +18

    My favourite thus far ❤ | They were super warm

  • @ntlantlakumalo8246
    @ntlantlakumalo8246 2 года назад +49

    I love how engaging Mo is. I love them so much❤️

  • @musondakangwa1757
    @musondakangwa1757 2 года назад +25

    Lool if you follow Mo on her socials you'd know she really is a Black Label gyal! In fact their marketing team is sleeping on her.

  • @z.y.n.h.l.e9291
    @z.y.n.h.l.e9291 2 года назад +12

    Here for Mo ❤

  • @didintlepotelo1484
    @didintlepotelo1484 2 года назад +8

    Mo has such a beautiful aura😩🥺

  • @misstaybw
    @misstaybw 2 года назад +4

    Bathong 😭 😭 😭 ke rata MO gore. I love how calm and still she is🥺❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

  • @otsilephalwane7247
    @otsilephalwane7247 2 года назад +4

    “I hope you find someone who is a safe landing for you ❤”

  • @siyabusiswam2489
    @siyabusiswam2489 2 года назад +4

    I love how safe and vulnerable they were, this was in some way very comforting and well you just relate with some if not most things said if you're going through a breakup. shoutout to the Defining team and Mo and Landa❤

  • @motselisisekonyela8587
    @motselisisekonyela8587 2 года назад +3

    For me it's always the snippets of their defining love episodes in the beginning... It's crazy how something so beautiful can end 😫😪

  • @paballokeitumetse9549
    @paballokeitumetse9549 2 года назад +16

    As I wait for Mo😘❤

  • @nonkululekondamase6270
    @nonkululekondamase6270 2 года назад +4

    Mo is so calm🥺❤️ Landa also radiates love as Mo said.

  • @sunshiine1212
    @sunshiine1212 2 года назад +5

    I wish only the best in life for Mo. 😭❤️Argh man, this woman deserves heaven and all it has to offer. 😭❤️❤️

  • @Kcmatela
    @Kcmatela 2 года назад +7

    They just hit it off, its so beautiful to watch, they definately needed more time.😍😍

  • @honeyb-NP
    @honeyb-NP 2 года назад +3

    Landa's so bubbly yet calm! I wish her well man!
    Mo's holding back. We love her long time 💝💝 Beautiful young ladies.

  • @thandiwekelendriaheadman1658
    @thandiwekelendriaheadman1658 2 года назад +6

    Awww they're so graceful and sweet🥺🥺 black label girlies 🥺🫂❤️❤️

  • @nokwazimafusini
    @nokwazimafusini 2 года назад +10

    Love this eppisode, so educational and I love how Mo teaches one about the Healing process and also getting to know herself❤ I love how Landa shares her ways of affection❤️

  • @chantelletshwenyo627
    @chantelletshwenyo627 2 года назад +4

    They're both so warm and radiate love and kindness. This was so heart warming to watch. 🥺❤️

  • @khanyisamaluleka1882
    @khanyisamaluleka1882 2 года назад +16

    This was so beautiful to watch, I always love seeing Mo, and I'm so glad to have found out about Landa too❤ Now waiting on Thato to answer that last question😂

  • @wandilewawa
    @wandilewawa 2 года назад +1

    These ladies are so well spoken. It would have taken an hour I’d still enjoy.

  • @asiphediza5145
    @asiphediza5145 2 года назад +6

    Mo looks so gorgeous, semhle mahn. Beautiful episode ❤️

  • @ziyandancube6588
    @ziyandancube6588 2 года назад +6

    This has to be my favorite episode

  • @nthabby_M
    @nthabby_M 2 года назад +8

    Felt like two besties that haven't seen each other in forever 🥰🥰

  • @sabsshort_base
    @sabsshort_base 2 года назад +5

    I couldn't wait for Mo OR Thato to be invited 🥺🥺 I'm one of those that still hurting💔

  • @mandles
    @mandles 2 года назад +3

    Yoh sana kunini ndilindile for this one, I almost dragged bc why did this wholesomeness take so long to get to us😭😭😭

  • @lungahm7399
    @lungahm7399 2 года назад +121

    This was lovely, I must say though when the other lady interjected when Mo was still sharing about her healing journey, about loving herself.. I didn’t like that. It’s so important sometimes to allow people have their moment, it’s so important to bite our tongue. Interjecting just makes me feel like you’re not listening to me, you’re just anticipating your turn to talk.

    • @skyy9851
      @skyy9851 2 года назад

      Yes!

    • @gracious2869
      @gracious2869 2 года назад +28

      It looked like it was cut or is it just me?🤷🏿‍♀️

    • @kattsomething
      @kattsomething 2 года назад +4

      @@gracious2869 to me as well. @Lungah M, that's a cut /edit.

    • @nandii1969
      @nandii1969 2 года назад +4

      Looks edited to me

    • @agnesaggy1571
      @agnesaggy1571 2 года назад +1

      @@gracious2869 It's what I thought aswell

  • @tariromolife6027
    @tariromolife6027 2 года назад +7

    It’s mo for me omg bless her soul ❤❤

  • @dimpho_seanego
    @dimpho_seanego 2 года назад +9

    Mo you something else,you so beautiful inside and out🥺❤️❤️🔥

  • @leletipama6297
    @leletipama6297 2 года назад +1

    Yohh, short and sweet, love how they went into detail and still kept it short, got a bit emotional at the end

  • @kamoskave
    @kamoskave 2 года назад +4

    This is the one episode that made me smile

  • @siphesihlemazibuko1200
    @siphesihlemazibuko1200 2 года назад +51

    "Can my ex get this question" has me dusted😅 all the best to both the ladies❤️

    • @dhlamini1279
      @dhlamini1279 2 года назад +24

      Me thinking Thato was the problem in the relationship and caused the breakup 😭

  • @NyeziNkanyi
    @NyeziNkanyi 2 года назад +6

    Beautiful women.♥️🥺 May they continue to heal and enjoy life to the fullest.

  • @siviweziqula4787
    @siviweziqula4787 2 года назад +2

    moving on is a journey my angeee kuyanyiwa.