This is what I love about nursing - if you don’t like one direction you’re going in, you can stop and go in another! I’m glad you were able to recognize you were unhappy and had the courage to find something new. Best of luck on your new journey! 🍀
I quit my my job as a registered nurse last two years ago after almost 15 years in the field. It was not an easy decision, but life is too short to dread going to work everyday. No amount of money can buy real happiness Lol 😁but friends I'm not asking you to resign from your job or abandon your business but be wise!!
@@monicapep2474 I run my own business now and While I was still in service I planned towards early retirement, making about 2k weekly from my retirement investment portfolio trying so much to build more side hustles and extra income
@@yvonneerik2510 wow impressive! You're making quite a fortune speaking of investing I have heard about this but I don't really know how to start and make a good investment. Can you explain please
@@monicapep2474 there's a lot of investing options real estate, cr ypto, ETFS, stocks, but my best advice get a professional lead you into profitable one and make good financial decisions that's exactly what I did
I'm an L&D PA! I totally hear you. I work at two major hospitals in New York City and they operate SOOOO differently....its crazy how different each hospital can be. You definitely made the right decision
I job hopped as a new grad from one hospital department to another and every shift was what you described….just pure soul sucking. I finally found hospice and I haven’t looked elsewhere since. It was meant to be.
Thank you for this..this is exactly what I’m feeling as a floor nurse. I know something is wrong when I’m having irrational fears already before coming to work like I’m already expecting it. It just got to a point where I can’t physically force myself to go thru one more shift. This made me feel like I’m not alone and crazy for feeling this way
When I had my l and d rotation… I had this same exact feeling. So I knew …. No way I could do practicum there. As new nurses it’s ok to learn where our home is… it can be very difficult but I’m proud of you for doing what’s right for you! There are so many different things out there. No sense in feeling miserable!
I feel you completely ❤️❤️ I had a familiar situation recently. I started a new job and at first I was very optimistic. However as I went through the orientation I found the environment, hours, staff , and patient population was just ultimately not for me. I was gonna stick it out but I knew deep down this wasn’t it. Fortunately I did apply around and I found another opportunity with a better work life balance. TLDR there is hope and options out there and do what is best for YOU :)
I lived in SoCal for a few years and was in birth-work with the intention of becoming a midwife. There are definitely some hospitals in OC that are mother/baby focused and support mothers in what they want as well as ensuring patient education is a top priority. At the same time, there are many that are all about ease for the provider and staff over letting mom and her body do it’s thing as it physiologically occurs. Nurses like you are needed so if and when you’re ready to get back into L&D, speak with your local doulas/midwives and get their input on which hospitals support mom/baby/family as a whole. Stay strong and best of luck!
@@Tania-rg7jp maybe what I intended to say which was directly related to the climate of birth work in the hospital was lost in translation? I was speaking as a birthing person and birth worker, not as an advocate to stay in an environment that doesn’t financially compensate their nurses appropriately. Two different topics. I didn’t get that the pay or staffing issues was what drove her away from this specific campus so I responded to her about what I took as the issue, the quality of care (or lack there of) she was allowed to provide to her patients which included true informed consent on unnecessary interventions and patient education. I understand where your frustrations lie as we are on the same page with that COMPLETELY! I hope this clarifies that I’m by no means trying to push my opinion in a way that would suggest a “grin and bear it” approach while she subjects herself to poor pay and work conditions. I wanted to voice that as a doula and former health care employee in Southern California, there are hospitals that share her views in supporting and empowering birthing women if and whenever she is ready to go back.
Do you have tips on how to quit? I just started a new job too, and not sure if I want to stay or quit but I don’t wanna leave on the wrong foot or burn bridges
@@lunaandcoco4771hi .. as a person that burned a bridge take my advice and give that 2-4 week notice. If you’re in training/orienting it makes it much easier to quit/move to another department because you’re not on the schedule; you’re basically just a tag along with whatever nurse is precepting you. If you are off training, talk with your manager and see what you can do about changing the unit if that’s what you wish. If you want to quit bedside nursing altogether GIVE NOTICE. I’m begging you. In a few years or even a few months you may change your mind and if you didn’t give notice the chances of you being rehired at that facility are slim to none.
Been a nurse for over 10 excruciating years and have had nurses I knew personally commit suicide. The nursing profession is sick ! It feeds off the stress, anxiety, unrelenting pressure and depression !
You’re not alone. I work on L&D and I’ve seen so many new nurses end their shifts in tears cuz like you, it just wasn’t for them. And that’s ok! I hope you love your new position :)
Ok, been an RN for over ten years. Prior to that, 20+ years in Automotive and skilled trades. NEVER EVER had ANY coworker cry or commit suicide until I became a nurse !! This profession is seriously sick !!! A NATIONWIDE WALKOUT is beyond needed !!! The empathy for patients is used as a club to beat nurses into submission !!
I hear you ♥️ I’ve been a nurse for 7 years. I started off in medicine and was in tears on my way to work, and on my days off because I would dread going into work. Switched into a different nursing area and the same thing happened. After 5 years of this I finally took a step back and asked myself what the hell I was doing because I was NOT happy. With some soul searching I decided to give L&D a go. I actually came across your channel because of this. Your videos helped me when I was terrified of interviewing. Anyways, I’m so sorry to hear that the new job did not work out for you. There’s nothing worse than an unsupportive team in high risk situations. It’s a terrible feeling to be in that situation, and I’m glad that you were open enough to realize this was not a good fit early on and do something about it. I hope this new job is a better fit for you. Best of luck 💕
Yes girl! You trusted your gut- and when you know something’s not right- especially when it comes to interventions that aren’t “good”- you’re being a good nurse and making good judgement right there. I don’t understand why all these new grads are crying and leaving nursing because of a sucky bedside/hospital job?!?! Go to a clinic!!!!! Regular 8 hr shifts, 5 days a week- no weekends. Pay is good- if you find the right one. No burn out! I’m so happy that you found something like that! I’ve been an LPN for 6 years and just passed RN nursing school and I’ll be looking for an outpatient/ same day surgery/ clinic setting type place. Yes girl! Idk what they’re doing at hospitals now a days…Burning out new grads….now we have shortages…..they need to get their stuff right! Seriously. Not good! There’s new grads who want to change their profession altogether because of it! But anyways- sorry to rant- lol I’m glad you found something I KNOW you will LOVE!
Thank you for sharing your experience on RUclips and for being so open and vulnerable. Your story really touched on a lot of really important things that both healthcare consumers and healthcare workers aren't necessarily aware of: healthcare practice style varies drastically depending on what part of the country you're practicing in, and even from hospital to hospital within the same region. This is even more so in obstetrics, where we see a huge swings in rates of all different procedures or interventions (i.e. C-section rates of 50+ % in the Miami/Dade County region to some of the lowest rates in Alaska, the Northwest, Northeast, and Southwest). In OB, the general belief among consumers is that you're going to get the same, uniform, evidence based care no matter what hospital you go to, but the fact of the matter is that you don't. It's important that consumers watch your video and hear what you have to say as someone working on the inside. It's really important to understand too that the biggest impact on a healthcare worker's practice style is the practice style of the person who has trained them. Attending physicians who train residents and fellows to practice a certain way will yield cohorts of doctors who generally practice in the same manner, whether or not it's up to date with the evidence we have. The same with nurses. Nurses who are trained in a particular style under head nurses who have absorbed a specific practical style will "birth" trainees who practice a certain way. I think it's really amazing that you gave yourself the room to question what you were learning, listened to your intuition, and ultimately make the decision that was best for you and what you felt aligned with your values and morals. Best of luck to you in your new role!
I am going through the same situation where only two weeks were needed at my newest job to know it wasn’t a good fit. Nobody believes me and they’re telling me I would never be able to “know” this soon, but I trust my intuition more than anything, even when it’s hard to be the only person that actually trusts myself to know what I’m feeling. It’s a lonely realization, but knowing that something is not meshing with your mind, body, and spirit is such a personal experience and one that I wish more people could act on without feeling the weight of “obligation.” People at this new job keep commenting on me staying for as long as possible, and the kids are always saying how happy they are that I was hired and can help them, but I physically don’t want to get up in the morning, and it’s the worst mental battle of “stay for them” versus “live for you.” *sigh*
I wanted to be an L&D in my 20's as an LVN. But when I got a an opportunity after graduating with my BSN...after 10 months I threw in the towel. I couldn't put my finger on it...like you I LOVED the mama's and being with them through whatever the outcome, but watching those monitors etc stressed me the hell out
that’s okay :) thanks for sharing your experience, it’s good to share!! Good luck on your new journey❤️ two areas that i would LOVE to work in are L/D and Aesthetic Nursing :)
You are so smart, and very much self-aware which is extremely important in us nurses while we distinguish what’s best for us. Proud of u, and wishing u the best
Girl I left my Original job to work in CTICU and my coworkers weren't the greatest, I had a bad feeling, cried every day before my shift. Everything was very different, pumps, emr, iv kits. I finally gave my resgination letter in, and felt so much better. Unfortunately now I'm traumatized from trying to place myself in a new hospital and system. Good luck to you, and find what makes you happy. Starting in MICU on 2/7 wish me luck 😩
oh my gosh i’m so sorry about your experience! i really commend you for leaving somewhere you didn’t feel safe or comfortable at, that would’ve been a long road ahead. aligning with the staff and hospital’s morals is so important, but also they way they support you, and i’m sorry both were a miss. hopefully the new environment treats you well, and l&d will find you again!
I’m only doing nursing to have a larger scope of practice as an esthetician. I have no interest in bedside at all. I was in nursing school before. Hated it but I need to finish what I started. I’m going back with a way better understanding of where I belong. Same with me. I didn’t fit in. But I really fit in the spa industry and get joy out of making people feel better about themselves and having immediate results
I switched from one OR to another and I was also shocked how different everything was. It’s so hard to work somewhere that you don’t feel welcome. Been there. Good luck with your new job!
Thanks for sharing your story! I am almost going on year 3 as an L&D nurse and I love it, but it's a hard specialty and so much can change in seconds. I was NICU nurse before and as much as I liked it, I always knew I wanted to do labor and delivery. So sorry your experience left a bad taste in your mouth and ruined an experience that I'm sure you were hoping would be great. Best of luck in your new aesthetic nurse journey!
I switched to L&D after 8 years of being an RN. It was such an amazing experience but I can totally relate with the high-risk nature and being stressed the entire shift. I ended up switching to a day job with no shift work! Best decision I made for myself and my family. It has been almost three years and I never looked back. I’m so glad you’re doing what’s best for you. Nursing is a career that has so many opportunities, so take advantage of that. Good luck!
aww amy im so sorry to hear how you had this not so good experience with your new job your one of the best L&D nurses i no i think like you said your now on the west coast and a lot of things and people are not the same but im glad you found something else that will make you happier luckily nursing have many diffrent specialities to choose from i think everything will work out for you. Im pretty sure one day the right L&D job will be out there for you.
I quit my RN job after 11 years. My mind body and soul are burnout. I'm overwhelmed 😔 and disappointed of how the health industry has changed 😕 . At the moment I don't want to be a nurse. I just graduated from esthetician school. I want a happy, healthy environment. All nurses go through this. Some just are ok with it and other's are brave to put themselves first. Good for you!!
This is something I’m scared of! I’m in nursing school and want to do L&D so bad and head towards midwifery but I worry about hospital culture and unnecessary routine interventions, pushing moms to give birth in bed even when they don’t have an epidural, etc.
I really appreciate your honesty, I think your perspective on how you dont agree with how L&D does things is a great testament to why childbirth is very complication in US hospitals. I wish you well and will watch more.
I left a position for similar reasons. You have to be true to yourself and do what makes you feel good about your nursing- it’s your license. I admire your strength to honor your authentic self and remain true to your ethics.
Can you make a video about interview tips when switching specialties?! like how did you brand yourself? That would be super helpful! Thanks for the honest video! Brand new to your channel!
I woke up and came across this video. This video could have been me right now! I literally am living your video in L&D! Maybe I should try something else, but my area doesn't pay nurses well at all :(
I love this because I went through something similar. I moved to the other side of the country for a new job in the same specialty and everything was so different. Somehow I managed to stay for a year, hoping things would get better, but I was just miserable for that entire year. I quit without having a new job but 2 weeks later I was offered my first travel nursing contract. I’ve been sooo much happier these last 2 months. Best of luck with your new job!
School world and Work world are totally different didn’t any of your teacher tell you that? Yes you have to learn new equipment, adapt to knowing where supplies are in the rooms and yes working night shift is a bonus- mostly quiet and time to learn at a slower pace . Days weren’t working out for you so maybe the night was, don’t give up and grow a thicker skin👌
I have been a nurse 29.5 years and I still love nursing. The number of new nurses who have unrealistic expectations about what it takes (the strength and dedication) to be happy in nursing boggles me. So many expect no nights, no weekends, no holidays, low stress, etc. I have found that for many new nurses, everything is all about them, their personal comfort, their needs, etc. For me it has always been about the patients. Such a different generation of young folks with very thin skin. It really causes me to fear for the future of nursing.
If you are from the Midwest, and move to SoCal, there is going to be a MAJOR culture shock. Add to that a job and hours that are not a good fit, no bueno
I feel pretty okay with the culture change so far, but I expected it. The people were just straight up mean. I work in a med spa now and the people are all Southern California locals, and they’re amazingly nice.
I relate to you. I got into a NICU as a new grad. I was doing well on day shift but felt I had to relearn everything on nights and I feel like I’m not doing well and was already confronted. Can you please advice me on aesthetic? :)
Quick question! How long were you an L&D nurse before deciding to leave bedside? Just curious! New grad nurse here too, considering all the options as well!!
Watching this on my first day of L&D orientation :/ also how did you get a Aesthetic nurse job? They're not exactly advertised as such. Also timing wise how did you have the aesthetic nurse job lined up only after 3 days of L&D?
I loved nearly every day of labor and delivery at my last hospital. I would go back in a heartbeat there. I actually searched “aesthetic nurse” and that’s exactly what it was listed as, and I applied. It said experience preferred but will train the right candidate. I went home after my third shift and spent a full day applying to jobs, emailing every med spa in the area and got 6 call backs within 48 hours. Did 5 interviews and picked the best one. Resigned a few days later.
@@AmyBales I know everyones experience is different. Im hopeful and excited! Wow so happy for you!! What did you look for in a med spa? I feel like its such an umbrella and last time I tried to search it was hard to find. For example the difference between a dermatology office vs a plastic surgeon vs places where its mostly estheticians. IDK if that makes sense. Is there specific criteria you looked for? Also they're offering you all the training i'm assuming? I live in NJ and work in NYC so its heavily populated with aesthetics (almost too populated) its hard to narrow it down. My goal is to slowly get into it part time after I'm a bit more comfortable on my L&D unit ( which I know is going to be a while). Also watching your videos gave me the courage to go for L&D as a new grad and is one of the reason I got my dream job. So thank you!
Do you think you'll ever go back to bedside nursing? I've been an ER nurse for 6 months, made the decision to leave "bedside" and doing more public/community health (vaccine clinics & covid recovery for homeless), scared I made the wrong decision and should have stuck it out.. Some shifts were so good, but some (most) were just so so so bad especially with the pandemic and sicker patients being held in the ED, unsafe patient loads, short staffing..
If this is the…..”K” system, I understand the shock. I traveled to one in Southern California and it sucked. The care was….interesting….but the staff/people were AWFUL lol. I think partially the difference in culture in general in California, but also I think that system just has a nasty culture overall. I’m glad you left. You will love aesthetics so much more. I did ICU for 4 years which I loved buuuuutttt aesthetics will be nice lol. We work too hard not to be happy. I’m an oncology NP now and I love it. There’s a good market for aesthetics NP btw. Good luck!
Never let a job tell you to ' relearn' without giving you extensive bibliography. Always , always do best evidence based care and document clearly objectively, immediately. In 39yrs have been made fun of for laboring in rocking chair with min pitocin,doing minimal vag checks and demanding MD attend birth of no INS mom instead of letting it be 'precip'. I also refuse to do vag exam on bleeding with fht 200... hospital provided life care when the other nurse stuck her finger through placenta. Maternal morbidity and mortality is horrendous in the US. It's up to you to turn it around. It's hard to say no,read like you are still in school, make reports to risk management and CNO and the state but if it is bad do something to change it. Quit after you do all the reports you can, don't let them spin you as a weak sister and keep messing people over.
32 years picu RN. I quit that job and tried hospice which was not a good fit due to one reason the horrible EMR. I’m starting a job in a medical daycare for kids-PPEC. Day shift, no weekends, no holidays, no hurricanes. Less money though so it’s a trade off.
Before i watch this... i aready know its not you... I was told starting " Sorry if i make you cry, nurses eat their young" and that's how I knew it just wasn't for me...
This video makes me cringe. Especially as a patient who has suffered due to bad practices. Why don't doctors and nurses speak out against such things? If any behavior or treatment in a hospital is unethical, it should be talked about and changed. Please to all medical professionals who witness such things, speak out. Don't just accept it or move on. Tomorrow you or your family will be in the position of the patients. Nothing personal against Amy. She seems kind and sweet.
I went to my charge nurse and management who didn’t care, and left anonymous reviews on Glassdoor/Indeed/other review sites. I’ve also talked to moms planning on delivering there. Unfortunately other than that I can’t do much more without a ton of proof. Everyone knows the reputation of that hospital though that I’ve talked to. It’s so hard.
@@AmyBales Thank you for doing that. I can imagine how difficult it must be. I really hope things will change for the better some day, for everyone. Best of luck in your career!
This girl overthinks everything. Def has a female therapist. A liberal for sure. You’re way into your feelings. This is a lot of analysis about something small.
I’m so proud of you for doing what you need for your own well-being, and I hope that if I find myself in a similar situation, I will do the same thing.
Omg! You just told my whole story! I left L&D for the same reason! Left and went to the NICU and it’s the best decision I ever made! Congratulations on listening to yourself and honoring yourself!
What are they doing wrong? Amy can’t tell us, but you can. I’m not in healthcare. The screen said two things along with forceps. Idk what these other things were or what’s going on. Please explain it to me.
This is so crazy that this is the first video on my feed when I popped onto RUclips today! I’ve been following you for a long time and I just left nursing school. I wanted to be a labor and delivery nurse but the further in I got the more I realized things weren’t aligning with what I think I would like in the job and in the healthcare field in general right now and I am starting aesthetic school in the summer! Everything you said just really confirmed that I did the right thing for myself because those were my whys too. it’s so scary to change and I didn’t want to let anyone down either I’ve spent so much time in nursing school but I know this is the right thing to do I can’t wait to work in a med spa!
Bravo!!!! I walked away from L&D on the exact same day! I absolutely love my laboring moms but the practices in healthcare send off sirens every shift. So I am going to start my own business. This is my 4th career change in Nursing since becoming a nurse almost 9 years ago. Do what is best for you!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Well at least you figured out pretty early it wasn't a good fit! I once quit a care aide job (I'm a student) after 2 shifts because it was a bad fit and the staff wasn't supportive, so I know how you feel. At the time I felt bad for "giving up" but the job I got right after that one was the best job I've ever had. I bet it will be the same for you and I can't wait to see your videos!
Thank you so much for your honesty... as a nurse going through this... not fitting in, not feeling like I can depend on the people around me... its nice to see that I'm not over reacting.... I'm leaving my job as well... for something that is better for my mental health...
RUN !! I have had nurses I know commit suicide! When you come into work and see nurses curled up in a corner having a meltdown because they are TOTALLY overwhelmed with over 30 patients and mandated 24 hr straight !! Nursing is a hellscape of stress, anxiety and depression !!
I also walked away from L&D on 12/5/21! I always said that L&D was my dream job, everything about it I enjoyed. Seeing new Life be born was such an enjoyment that could never get old, but being super busy got old quick. I always told myself that working needs to be your happy place so that it does not fell like work. I was not happy going into work so I made myself Happy by walking away........BEST DECISION EVER!!!! Left that job and started a new job the very next day! As a nurse you will always have options which I LOVE.
I am in the same boat. I recently switched to L&D from ER 6 months ago and have been horrified with the practices. Constantly inducing people or C-section (Which is a whole other topic about women's health as a whole). The team is not supportive. I never got a preceptor. I have no idea what I am doing for a cervical exam because it is so subjective. But this has put me at a difficult place when communicating with providers because I honestly have no idea how dilated / effaced/ station etc. these people are. In addition, the midwife I work with is hostile which makes communicating with her very scary and intimidating. I really want to like L&D as this was my dream but it has truly become a nightmare. I want to believe that maybe this is not the right L&D unit for me and that it is better elsewhere. I am debating on quitting and returning back to the ER of which I still work at PRN. I feel your crushed spirit right now but I am glad you found something that might actually be better for your life.
As a registered nurse (nicu) and new mom (c-section)… I feel you! I was so scared because so many of my nurses had no idea what they were doing! I had preeclampsia….and uncontrolled blood pressure after delivery .. I bottomed out and needed ephedrine 3 times (on a monitor)… get to mother baby and the nurse wants to give me twice the normal dose of procardia iv..without being connected to a monitor or blood pressure cuff for that matter … I said no! Thank god I was able to clear my magnesium filled brain to think… I would have ended up coding and no one would have checked on my.. until rounds.. 4 hours later! Horrible labor and delivery and mother baby practices now days! … bright side.. they caught my preeclampsia and saved my life! I would work at Walmart before I ever go to l and d! Thank his for the nurses that stay there!
@@shawnparis3123 Yes! These are some of the practices that bother me. I have argued with the house nurse about brining up heart monitors for mom's that have cardiac/ blood pressure issues so we can watch them better. They mocked me and told me I should "go to ICU" if i want to look at a monitor. I can recall a young lady who's heart rate was in the 160's-170's post birth and them still arguing to not bring a monitor up to the floor. Even just a monitor on a stick. I am so sorry about your experience I wish it wasn't like that. I think the hospital systems have failed us with no education, preceptors etc.
For me I switched to a new hospital and im feeling so much happier. After I graduated I worked a few months at an old hospital in postpartum and the short staffing was horrible. Also i was so not used to paper charting because all my placements were at a new hospital. But I learned the charting system, the problem was days shifts with no break, running around with 5 pts when other hospitals in the area have 1:4 ratio in postpartum, and getting off service pts. Every day shift on the bus ride home I would search for jobs. Also everyone was leaving the place, making staffing worse but management never did anything that caused a change. Then I got my now job (L&d at the hospital I had all my placements at but I never had L&d placement). There are many new stuff to learn but I'm much happier because for the most part staffing is good, the hospital is clean and new (not getto), high tech, and most importantly managed good. So even in the same city, 2 hospitals can be run differently during the pandemic. My family also noticed a difference because I dont come home crying and complaining to them. I understand there will be hard days but as long as everyday isnt hard, I get my breaks, I'm good. My advise to everyone is if you're not happy where you are, switch. It's not worth living in misery. The beauty of nursing is there are many options. Dont quit nursing all together, but quit the bad place (or something that isnt the right fit for you)
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m also an L and D nurse and I’ve realized my time there is over and I need to move on. Change is so scary sometimes but hearing your words gives me hope.
Amy, you are great! Thank you for your candidness. Everything isn’t for everyone, and know that you are fully supported by your viewers/listeners. These are stressful times right now in our nursing field, but know that it’s all worth the sacrifice. Find your happiness which is most important. With love from Yale New Haven Hospital!
i’m so thankful that you were strong enough to do this and strong enough to make this video. This video is needed to normalize not liking a job as a nurse and not feeling like you belong. I currently work L&D and I’m so unhappy. I feel as though I don’t belong and none of my coworkers want to help me. I needed this video so thank you so much for posting this. It breaks my heart that I’m not happy in my position because I thought this was my dream job. 💔
So happy for you!!! I’ve noticed how with a lot of L&D hospitals we are going back to heavy interventions and away from more natural, and the maternal death rate has been showing how negative this is, it’s so sad!
Anything that is considered routine that shouldn’t be. Like for example, an FSE screws into a babies head and has been proven to cause them pain for up to two weeks after. Unless you absolutely cannot trace that baby, or the baby is at risk, then they shouldn’t be used just because it’s easier on the nurse. And when they’re used, they need to be fully explained to the patient, not told it’s “just a sticker” because that’s lying and obstetrical abuse. That’s just an example of course.
@@AmyBales Oh wow; I could not stand by either and watch things lije that. I’ve also seen a nurse tell ( male ) doctor she had the lidocaine and doctor ignored her and just stitched tear. Woman wincing and in pain. Dr ignoring her. Nurse just going along. And more. But I just could not do it. You’re a good person. Actually caring. Having a heart and conscience.
I really hope you see this! I’m going through the exact same thing you are! I’ve been a nurse for 6 years, moved to a new city in June. Took a job and on orientation I had similar feelings you did but I brushed it off as new job jitters. It’s different from my last hospital but I’ll adapt I told myself. Fast forward to now, my last two shifts are this week. If it’s not a good fit, you know!
Yes exactly! I never felt that way at my first hospital job and I was so upset when I started here and it felt so bad. It didn’t get any better and I just decided to cut my losses. I’m loving my new job so much and I’m so glad I did it!
So proud of you 👏🏾!! Do what feels right for you. You’ll find the right job/career. Don’t rush it. I hope you enjoy your new job. Keep us posted . I’ve been away from bedside and I love it. ❤️❤️❤️
I work as a pharmacist at a women's and children's hospital and I have been there for 6 years. L&D has changed so much, especially in the past year. We are seeing so many high risk and preterm births. I can only imagine how difficult that is at bedside. Good for you 👍
I haven't seen your channel before this vid but I just want to say I am so so proud of you for doing what is best for you! Nursing is insane right now and so many hospitals/units are not as supportive as they should be. Excited for you.
Thank for being brave to share your experience. It must had been tough for you and your family. I'm glad that you realize that the practice was unsafe and stepped up to say something. You made the best decision for myself and your family.
Hi Amy, glad to hear that you did what was best for you. I currently am going through this with my job and have been thinking about leaving for so long but need the money so I haven't.
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This is what I love about nursing - if you don’t like one direction you’re going in, you can stop and go in another! I’m glad you were able to recognize you were unhappy and had the courage to find something new. Best of luck on your new journey! 🍀
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I quit my my job as a registered nurse last two years ago after almost 15 years in the field. It was not an easy decision, but life is too short to dread going to work everyday. No amount of money can buy real happiness Lol 😁but friends I'm not asking you to resign from your job or abandon your business but be wise!!
I don't really like my job but I love what it provides for me and my family. This pandemic has people rethinking working
You're right ma'am what do you do now and how did you planned your self before quitting
@@monicapep2474 I run my own business now and While I was still in service I planned towards early retirement, making about 2k weekly from my retirement investment portfolio trying so much to build more side hustles and extra income
@@yvonneerik2510 wow impressive! You're making quite a fortune speaking of investing I have heard about this but I don't really know how to start and make a good investment. Can you explain please
@@monicapep2474 there's a lot of investing options real estate, cr ypto, ETFS, stocks, but my best advice get a professional lead you into profitable one and make good financial decisions that's exactly what I did
I'm an L&D PA! I totally hear you. I work at two major hospitals in New York City and they operate SOOOO differently....its crazy how different each hospital can be. You definitely made the right decision
I job hopped as a new grad from one hospital department to another and every shift was what you described….just pure soul sucking. I finally found hospice and I haven’t looked elsewhere since. It was meant to be.
Thank you for this..this is exactly what I’m feeling as a floor nurse. I know something is wrong when I’m having irrational fears already before coming to work like I’m already expecting it. It just got to a point where I can’t physically force myself to go thru one more shift. This made me feel like I’m not alone and crazy for feeling this way
When I had my l and d rotation… I had this same exact feeling. So I knew …. No way I could do practicum there. As new nurses it’s ok to learn where our home is… it can be very difficult but I’m proud of you for doing what’s right for you! There are so many different things out there. No sense in feeling miserable!
RN here for over 30 years. You are brave and smart, you were very close to having panic attacks. Only you could save yourself, and you did it!
I feel you completely ❤️❤️ I had a familiar situation recently. I started a new job and at first I was very optimistic. However as I went through the orientation I found the environment, hours, staff , and patient population was just ultimately not for me. I was gonna stick it out but I knew deep down this wasn’t it. Fortunately I did apply around and I found another opportunity with a better work life balance.
TLDR there is hope and options out there and do what is best for YOU :)
I lived in SoCal for a few years and was in birth-work with the intention of becoming a midwife. There are definitely some hospitals in OC that are mother/baby focused and support mothers in what they want as well as ensuring patient education is a top priority. At the same time, there are many that are all about ease for the provider and staff over letting mom and her body do it’s thing as it physiologically occurs. Nurses like you are needed so if and when you’re ready to get back into L&D, speak with your local doulas/midwives and get their input on which hospitals support mom/baby/family as a whole. Stay strong and best of luck!
@@Tania-rg7jp maybe what I intended to say which was directly related to the climate of birth work in the hospital was lost in translation? I was speaking as a birthing person and birth worker, not as an advocate to stay in an environment that doesn’t financially compensate their nurses appropriately. Two different topics. I didn’t get that the pay or staffing issues was what drove her away from this specific campus so I responded to her about what I took as the issue, the quality of care (or lack there of) she was allowed to provide to her patients which included true informed consent on unnecessary interventions and patient education. I understand where your frustrations lie as we are on the same page with that COMPLETELY! I hope this clarifies that I’m by no means trying to push my opinion in a way that would suggest a “grin and bear it” approach while she subjects herself to poor pay and work conditions. I wanted to voice that as a doula and former health care employee in Southern California, there are hospitals that share her views in supporting and empowering birthing women if and whenever she is ready to go back.
I was so excited to start my new ICU job 3 weeks ago….3 weeks later I quit 😬 that feeling you’re explaining was me…it sucks …praying God guide us all
Do you have tips on how to quit? I just started a new job too, and not sure if I want to stay or quit but I don’t wanna leave on the wrong foot or burn bridges
@@lunaandcoco4771hi .. as a person that burned a bridge take my advice and give that 2-4 week notice. If you’re in training/orienting it makes it much easier to quit/move to another department because you’re not on the schedule; you’re basically just a tag along with whatever nurse is precepting you. If you are off training, talk with your manager and see what you can do about changing the unit if that’s what you wish. If you want to quit bedside nursing altogether GIVE NOTICE. I’m begging you. In a few years or even a few months you may change your mind and if you didn’t give notice the chances of you being rehired at that facility are slim to none.
Been a nurse for over 10 excruciating years and have had nurses I knew personally commit suicide. The nursing profession is sick ! It feeds off the stress, anxiety, unrelenting pressure and depression !
You’re not alone. I work on L&D and I’ve seen so many new nurses end their shifts in tears cuz like you, it just wasn’t for them. And that’s ok! I hope you love your new position :)
Ok, been an RN for over ten years. Prior to that, 20+ years in Automotive and skilled trades. NEVER EVER had ANY coworker cry or commit suicide until I became a nurse !! This profession is seriously sick !!! A NATIONWIDE WALKOUT is beyond needed !!! The empathy for patients is used as a club to beat nurses into submission !!
I hear you ♥️ I’ve been a nurse for 7 years. I started off in medicine and was in tears on my way to work, and on my days off because I would dread going into work. Switched into a different nursing area and the same thing happened. After 5 years of this I finally took a step back and asked myself what the hell I was doing because I was NOT happy. With some soul searching I decided to give L&D a go. I actually came across your channel because of this. Your videos helped me when I was terrified of interviewing. Anyways, I’m so sorry to hear that the new job did not work out for you. There’s nothing worse than an unsupportive team in high risk situations. It’s a terrible feeling to be in that situation, and I’m glad that you were open enough to realize this was not a good fit early on and do something about it. I hope this new job is a better fit for you. Best of luck 💕
Yes girl! You trusted your gut- and when you know something’s not right- especially when it comes to interventions that aren’t “good”- you’re being a good nurse and making good judgement right there.
I don’t understand why all these new grads are crying and leaving nursing because of a sucky bedside/hospital job?!?! Go to a clinic!!!!! Regular 8 hr shifts, 5 days a week- no weekends. Pay is good- if you find the right one. No burn out! I’m so happy that you found something like that!
I’ve been an LPN for 6 years and just passed RN nursing school and I’ll be looking for an outpatient/ same day surgery/ clinic setting type place. Yes girl! Idk what they’re doing at hospitals now a days…Burning out new grads….now we have shortages…..they need to get their stuff right! Seriously. Not good! There’s new grads who want to change their profession altogether because of it!
But anyways- sorry to rant- lol
I’m glad you found something I KNOW you will LOVE!
Or u marriad ??
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Thank you for sharing your experience on RUclips and for being so open and vulnerable. Your story really touched on a lot of really important things that both healthcare consumers and healthcare workers aren't necessarily aware of: healthcare practice style varies drastically depending on what part of the country you're practicing in, and even from hospital to hospital within the same region. This is even more so in obstetrics, where we see a huge swings in rates of all different procedures or interventions (i.e. C-section rates of 50+ % in the Miami/Dade County region to some of the lowest rates in Alaska, the Northwest, Northeast, and Southwest). In OB, the general belief among consumers is that you're going to get the same, uniform, evidence based care no matter what hospital you go to, but the fact of the matter is that you don't. It's important that consumers watch your video and hear what you have to say as someone working on the inside. It's really important to understand too that the biggest impact on a healthcare worker's practice style is the practice style of the person who has trained them. Attending physicians who train residents and fellows to practice a certain way will yield cohorts of doctors who generally practice in the same manner, whether or not it's up to date with the evidence we have. The same with nurses. Nurses who are trained in a particular style under head nurses who have absorbed a specific practical style will "birth" trainees who practice a certain way. I think it's really amazing that you gave yourself the room to question what you were learning, listened to your intuition, and ultimately make the decision that was best for you and what you felt aligned with your values and morals. Best of luck to you in your new role!
I am going through the same situation where only two weeks were needed at my newest job to know it wasn’t a good fit. Nobody believes me and they’re telling me I would never be able to “know” this soon, but I trust my intuition more than anything, even when it’s hard to be the only person that actually trusts myself to know what I’m feeling. It’s a lonely realization, but knowing that something is not meshing with your mind, body, and spirit is such a personal experience and one that I wish more people could act on without feeling the weight of “obligation.” People at this new job keep commenting on me staying for as long as possible, and the kids are always saying how happy they are that I was hired and can help them, but I physically don’t want to get up in the morning, and it’s the worst mental battle of “stay for them” versus “live for you.” *sigh*
I wanted to be an L&D in my 20's as an LVN. But when I got a an opportunity after graduating with my BSN...after 10 months I threw in the towel. I couldn't put my finger on it...like you I LOVED the mama's and being with them through whatever the outcome, but watching those monitors etc stressed me the hell out
Well done for being brave enough to make a change when things didn’t suit! Lots of people stick it out and it’s not productive for anyone!
L&D is clickish and crazy I would do postpartum. Your new position seems really cool and interesting I hope you like it!!
that’s okay :) thanks for sharing your experience, it’s good to share!! Good luck on your new journey❤️ two areas that i would LOVE to work in are L/D and Aesthetic Nursing :)
You are so smart, and very much self-aware which is extremely important in us nurses while we distinguish what’s best for us. Proud of u, and wishing u the best
Girl I left my
Original job to work in CTICU and my coworkers weren't the greatest, I had a bad feeling, cried every day before my shift. Everything was very different, pumps, emr, iv kits. I finally gave my resgination letter in, and felt so much better. Unfortunately now I'm traumatized from trying to place myself in a new hospital and system. Good luck to you, and find what makes you happy. Starting in MICU on 2/7 wish me luck 😩
You go, girly! You are truly inspiring. Always put your happiness first.
Thank you 🥰 Definitely trying to do that now in 2022
oh my gosh i’m so sorry about your experience! i really commend you for leaving somewhere you didn’t feel safe or comfortable at, that would’ve been a long road ahead. aligning with the staff and hospital’s morals is so important, but also they way they support you, and i’m sorry both were a miss. hopefully the new environment treats you well, and l&d will find you again!
Thank you for sharing your experience! I wish you the best of luck on your new journey and I hope you love it!
I hope so too! 🥰
I’m only doing nursing to have a larger scope of practice as an esthetician. I have no interest in bedside at all. I was in nursing school before. Hated it but I need to finish what I started. I’m going back with a way better understanding of where I belong. Same with me. I didn’t fit in. But I really fit in the spa industry and get joy out of making people feel better about themselves and having immediate results
I switched from one OR to another and I was also shocked how different everything was. It’s so hard to work somewhere that you don’t feel welcome. Been there. Good luck with your new job!
Appreciate you.
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Thanks for sharing your story! I am almost going on year 3 as an L&D nurse and I love it, but it's a hard specialty and so much can change in seconds. I was NICU nurse before and as much as I liked it, I always knew I wanted to do labor and delivery. So sorry your experience left a bad taste in your mouth and ruined an experience that I'm sure you were hoping would be great. Best of luck in your new aesthetic nurse journey!
I switched to L&D after 8 years of being an RN. It was such an amazing experience but I can totally relate with the high-risk nature and being stressed the entire shift. I ended up switching to a day job with no shift work! Best decision I made for myself and my family. It has been almost three years and I never looked back. I’m so glad you’re doing what’s best for you. Nursing is a career that has so many opportunities, so take advantage of that. Good luck!
L&D is staffed by Rns! How did u quit 😳
Good for you! And yikes this is the best place 😳. Do what’s best for you!!!! ❤️❤️❤️
aww amy im so sorry to hear how you had this not so good experience with your new job your one of the best L&D nurses i no i think like you said your now on the west coast and a lot of things and people are not the same but im glad you found something else that will make you happier luckily nursing have many diffrent specialities to choose from i think everything will work out for you. Im pretty sure one day the right L&D job will be out there for you.
Amazing how many of my coworkers hate their job in nursing..98% of them
Good for you! Sometimes, we know something is not working and we still hang on to it. Aesthetic nurse sounds so exciting!!
I quit my RN job after 11 years. My mind body and soul are burnout. I'm overwhelmed 😔 and disappointed of how the health industry has changed 😕 . At the moment I don't want to be a nurse.
I just graduated from esthetician school.
I want a happy, healthy environment.
All nurses go through this. Some just are ok with it and other's are brave to put themselves first.
Good for you!!
This is something I’m scared of! I’m in nursing school and want to do L&D so bad and head towards midwifery but I worry about hospital culture and unnecessary routine interventions, pushing moms to give birth in bed even when they don’t have an epidural, etc.
It’s really hard. Make sure to follow your moral compass!
I’m happy for you! You did right thing for u and your family
I feel like I did too, I’m loving it so far 🥰
I really appreciate your honesty, I think your perspective on how you dont agree with how L&D does things is a great testament to why childbirth is very complication in US hospitals. I wish you well and will watch more.
I left a position for similar reasons. You have to be true to yourself and do what makes you feel good about your nursing- it’s your license. I admire your strength to honor your authentic self and remain true to your ethics.
Best of luck!! You got this!!
Thank you! 🥰🥰
I feel so awful for all of the people in nursing school or about to go to nursing school it was the worst decision I ever made in my life.
I felt this way too for a long time. I finally found where I’m happy, I had to look outside of traditional nursing. Good luck 🤍
@@AmyBales can I ask what you found that you liked..??
I moved from the Midwest to the PNW and yeah, it was literally a culture shock. It’s taken me years to adjust and I’m still acclimating to this day.
I’m definitely experiencing that, but the neighborhood I live in is super friendly thankfully!
Thanks for being realistic in your video! :)
I really try to keep it real!
Can you make a video about interview tips when switching specialties?! like how did you brand yourself? That would be super helpful! Thanks for the honest video! Brand new to your channel!
Yay I work in Aesthetics and am obsessed (just don’t work for LaserAway) the most nightmare experience of my life!
I actually work for one of their rivals! 😅
@eva Why was it a nightmare?
Kudos to you amy!! All the best!
Thank you! I appreciate the support 🥰
I woke up and came across this video. This video could have been me right now! I literally am living your video in L&D! Maybe I should try something else, but my area doesn't pay nurses well at all :(
Many times we don't know how things are until you're actually there. Good for you for getting out early.
I love this because I went through something similar. I moved to the other side of the country for a new job in the same specialty and everything was so different. Somehow I managed to stay for a year, hoping things would get better, but I was just miserable for that entire year. I quit without having a new job but 2 weeks later I was offered my first travel nursing contract. I’ve been sooo much happier these last 2 months. Best of luck with your new job!
School world and Work world are totally different didn’t any of your teacher tell you that? Yes you have to learn new equipment, adapt to knowing where supplies are in the rooms and yes working night shift is a bonus- mostly quiet and time to learn at a slower pace . Days weren’t working out for you so maybe the night was, don’t give up and grow a thicker skin👌
I have been a nurse 29.5 years and I still love nursing. The number of new nurses who have unrealistic expectations about what it takes (the strength and dedication) to be happy in nursing boggles me. So many expect no nights, no weekends, no holidays, low stress, etc. I have found that for many new nurses, everything is all about them, their personal comfort, their needs, etc. For me it has always been about the patients. Such a different generation of young folks with very thin skin. It really causes me to fear for the future of nursing.
Bless you for your self awareness
If you are from the Midwest, and move to SoCal, there is going to be a MAJOR culture shock. Add to that a job and hours that are not a good fit, no bueno
I feel pretty okay with the culture change so far, but I expected it. The people were just straight up mean. I work in a med spa now and the people are all Southern California locals, and they’re amazingly nice.
I’m proud of you!!
Always follow your gut!! Good job
im glad you choose happiness
I am too 🤍
I relate to you. I got into a NICU as a new grad. I was doing well on day shift but felt I had to relearn everything on nights and I feel like I’m not doing well and was already confronted. Can you please advice me on aesthetic? :)
Good for you Amy follow your heart babe.
Thank you for sharing your story. Would you be able to share what you believe set you apart to be hired as an aesthetic nurse?
Do what makes you happy this is your life!
Quick question! How long were you an L&D nurse before deciding to leave bedside? Just curious! New grad nurse here too, considering all the options as well!!
Watching this on my first day of L&D orientation :/ also how did you get a Aesthetic nurse job? They're not exactly advertised as such. Also timing wise how did you have the aesthetic nurse job lined up only after 3 days of L&D?
I loved nearly every day of labor and delivery at my last hospital. I would go back in a heartbeat there. I actually searched “aesthetic nurse” and that’s exactly what it was listed as, and I applied. It said experience preferred but will train the right candidate. I went home after my third shift and spent a full day applying to jobs, emailing every med spa in the area and got 6 call backs within 48 hours. Did 5 interviews and picked the best one. Resigned a few days later.
@@AmyBales I know everyones experience is different. Im hopeful and excited! Wow so happy for you!! What did you look for in a med spa? I feel like its such an umbrella and last time I tried to search it was hard to find. For example the difference between a dermatology office vs a plastic surgeon vs places where its mostly estheticians. IDK if that makes sense. Is there specific criteria you looked for? Also they're offering you all the training i'm assuming? I live in NJ and work in NYC so its heavily populated with aesthetics (almost too populated) its hard to narrow it down. My goal is to slowly get into it part time after I'm a bit more comfortable on my L&D unit ( which I know is going to be a while). Also watching your videos gave me the courage to go for L&D as a new grad and is one of the reason I got my dream job. So thank you!
Do you think you'll ever go back to bedside nursing? I've been an ER nurse for 6 months, made the decision to leave "bedside" and doing more public/community health (vaccine clinics & covid recovery for homeless), scared I made the wrong decision and should have stuck it out..
Some shifts were so good, but some (most) were just so so so bad especially with the pandemic and sicker patients being held in the ED, unsafe patient loads, short staffing..
I’m a new grad, please tell me about the public/community health job that you have. I’ve heard of vaccine clinic, do you get benefits?
If this is the…..”K” system, I understand the shock. I traveled to one in Southern California and it sucked. The care was….interesting….but the staff/people were AWFUL lol. I think partially the difference in culture in general in California, but also I think that system just has a nasty culture overall. I’m glad you left. You will love aesthetics so much more. I did ICU for 4 years which I loved buuuuutttt aesthetics will be nice lol. We work too hard not to be happy. I’m an oncology NP now and I love it. There’s a good market for aesthetics NP btw. Good luck!
I’m a traveler too, every time a recruiter recommends me jobs in California I always give a warning, “NO “K” facilities, thank you”
@@AA-yc9dq The rates are so good but then you get there and see exactly why 😩
Never let a job tell you to ' relearn' without giving you extensive bibliography. Always , always do best evidence based care and document clearly objectively, immediately. In 39yrs have been made fun of for laboring in rocking chair with min pitocin,doing minimal vag checks and demanding MD attend birth of no INS mom instead of letting it be 'precip'. I also refuse to do vag exam on bleeding with fht 200... hospital provided life care when the other nurse stuck her finger through placenta. Maternal morbidity and mortality is horrendous in the US. It's up to you to turn it around. It's hard to say no,read like you are still in school, make reports to risk management and CNO and the state but if it is bad do something to change it. Quit after you do all the reports you can, don't let them spin you as a weak sister and keep messing people over.
Outpatient clinic style! Yes! Pediatric primary care?
32 years picu RN. I quit that job and tried hospice which was not a good fit due to one reason the horrible EMR. I’m starting a job in a medical daycare for kids-PPEC. Day shift, no weekends, no holidays, no hurricanes. Less money though so it’s a trade off.
Before i watch this... i aready know its not you... I was told starting " Sorry if i make you cry, nurses eat their young" and that's how I knew it just wasn't for me...
How did you word your resignation?
Full time nights after being hired for days..they did that on purpose. Good for you for leaving.
Pls tell me non bedside nursing jobs for freshers ❤
What state was this in?
Good for you...always listen to that still small voice. Those red flags...always pay attention to those.
This video makes me cringe. Especially as a patient who has suffered due to bad practices. Why don't doctors and nurses speak out against such things? If any behavior or treatment in a hospital is unethical, it should be talked about and changed. Please to all medical professionals who witness such things, speak out. Don't just accept it or move on. Tomorrow you or your family will be in the position of the patients.
Nothing personal against Amy. She seems kind and sweet.
I went to my charge nurse and management who didn’t care, and left anonymous reviews on Glassdoor/Indeed/other review sites. I’ve also talked to moms planning on delivering there. Unfortunately other than that I can’t do much more without a ton of proof. Everyone knows the reputation of that hospital though that I’ve talked to. It’s so hard.
@@AmyBales Thank you for doing that. I can imagine how difficult it must be. I really hope things will change for the better some day, for everyone. Best of luck in your career!
A lot of people quit there job
But do you think that maybe L and D is not for you ?
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Jesus saves 😊
This girl overthinks everything. Def has a female therapist.
A liberal for sure.
You’re way into your feelings. This is a lot of analysis about something small.
Shut the hell up
A competent nurse knows his/her limits. You're very wise Amy. Best of luck in your future endeavors
I’m so proud of you for doing what you need for your own well-being, and I hope that if I find myself in a similar situation, I will do the same thing.
I hope so too! Life is too short to spend it unhappy.
@@AmyBales preach
Omg! You just told my whole story! I left L&D for the same reason! Left and went to the NICU and it’s the best decision I ever made! Congratulations on listening to yourself and honoring yourself!
What are they doing wrong? Amy can’t tell us, but you can. I’m not in healthcare. The screen said two things along with forceps. Idk what these other things were or what’s going on. Please explain it to me.
Don't worry I quit 16 nursing jobs in 2021 and it was hard. I was soooo miserable in ally jobs. 11 years at bedside and sick of it!
This is so crazy that this is the first video on my feed when I popped onto RUclips today! I’ve been following you for a long time and I just left nursing school. I wanted to be a labor and delivery nurse but the further in I got the more I realized things weren’t aligning with what I think I would like in the job and in the healthcare field in general right now and I am starting aesthetic school in the summer! Everything you said just really confirmed that I did the right thing for myself because those were my whys too. it’s so scary to change and I didn’t want to let anyone down either I’ve spent so much time in nursing school but I know this is the right thing to do I can’t wait to work in a med spa!
I’m so glad you are following your heart, I wish I had done it sooner! 🥰
I m intrested with u
I like u 😍😍❤🌷🌷🌷
Bravo!!!! I walked away from L&D on the exact same day! I absolutely love my laboring moms but the practices in healthcare send off sirens every shift. So I am going to start my own business. This is my 4th career change in Nursing since becoming a nurse almost 9 years ago. Do what is best for you!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Well at least you figured out pretty early it wasn't a good fit! I once quit a care aide job (I'm a student) after 2 shifts because it was a bad fit and the staff wasn't supportive, so I know how you feel. At the time I felt bad for "giving up" but the job I got right after that one was the best job I've ever had. I bet it will be the same for you and I can't wait to see your videos!
Thank you so much for your honesty... as a nurse going through this... not fitting in, not feeling like I can depend on the people around me... its nice to see that I'm not over reacting.... I'm leaving my job as well... for something that is better for my mental health...
RUN !! I have had nurses I know commit suicide! When you come into work and see nurses curled up in a corner having a meltdown because they are TOTALLY overwhelmed with over 30 patients and mandated 24 hr straight !! Nursing is a hellscape of stress, anxiety and depression !!
I also walked away from L&D on 12/5/21! I always said that L&D was my dream job, everything about it I enjoyed. Seeing new Life be born was such an enjoyment that could never get old, but being super busy got old quick. I always told myself that working needs to be your happy place so that it does not fell like work. I was not happy going into work so I made myself Happy by walking away........BEST DECISION EVER!!!! Left that job and started a new job the very next day!
As a nurse you will always have options which I LOVE.
Yes you said it so well! I love my new job so much and it doesn’t feel like work. That’s so important to me! So glad you moved on.
I am in the same boat. I recently switched to L&D from ER 6 months ago and have been horrified with the practices. Constantly inducing people or C-section (Which is a whole other topic about women's health as a whole). The team is not supportive. I never got a preceptor. I have no idea what I am doing for a cervical exam because it is so subjective. But this has put me at a difficult place when communicating with providers because I honestly have no idea how dilated / effaced/ station etc. these people are. In addition, the midwife I work with is hostile which makes communicating with her very scary and intimidating. I really want to like L&D as this was my dream but it has truly become a nightmare. I want to believe that maybe this is not the right L&D unit for me and that it is better elsewhere. I am debating on quitting and returning back to the ER of which I still work at PRN. I feel your crushed spirit right now but I am glad you found something that might actually be better for your life.
As a registered nurse (nicu) and new mom (c-section)… I feel you! I was so scared because so many of my nurses had no idea what they were doing! I had preeclampsia….and uncontrolled blood pressure after delivery .. I bottomed out and needed ephedrine 3 times (on a monitor)… get to mother baby and the nurse wants to give me twice the normal dose of procardia iv..without being connected to a monitor or blood pressure cuff for that matter … I said no! Thank god I was able to clear my magnesium filled brain to think… I would have ended up coding and no one would have checked on my.. until rounds.. 4 hours later! Horrible labor and delivery and mother baby practices now days! … bright side.. they caught my preeclampsia and saved my life! I would work at Walmart before I ever go to l and d! Thank his for the nurses that stay there!
@@shawnparis3123 Yes! These are some of the practices that bother me. I have argued with the house nurse about brining up heart monitors for mom's that have cardiac/ blood pressure issues so we can watch them better. They mocked me and told me I should "go to ICU" if i want to look at a monitor. I can recall a young lady who's heart rate was in the 160's-170's post birth and them still arguing to not bring a monitor up to the floor. Even just a monitor on a stick. I am so sorry about your experience I wish it wasn't like that. I think the hospital systems have failed us with no education, preceptors etc.
Not even a nurse but I can totally relate to needing to quit. When you gotta go then you gotta go.
Yes exactly! When you know, you know.
For me I switched to a new hospital and im feeling so much happier. After I graduated I worked a few months at an old hospital in postpartum and the short staffing was horrible. Also i was so not used to paper charting because all my placements were at a new hospital. But I learned the charting system, the problem was days shifts with no break, running around with 5 pts when other hospitals in the area have 1:4 ratio in postpartum, and getting off service pts. Every day shift on the bus ride home I would search for jobs. Also everyone was leaving the place, making staffing worse but management never did anything that caused a change.
Then I got my now job (L&d at the hospital I had all my placements at but I never had L&d placement). There are many new stuff to learn but I'm much happier because for the most part staffing is good, the hospital is clean and new (not getto), high tech, and most importantly managed good.
So even in the same city, 2 hospitals can be run differently during the pandemic. My family also noticed a difference because I dont come home crying and complaining to them. I understand there will be hard days but as long as everyday isnt hard, I get my breaks, I'm good.
My advise to everyone is if you're not happy where you are, switch. It's not worth living in misery. The beauty of nursing is there are many options. Dont quit nursing all together, but quit the bad place (or something that isnt the right fit for you)
Yes this is such a great comment! Very true
Now ghetto? What's that supposed to mean?
@@pysduckfanforever ghetto is used to describe run down old place. Idk if this is just Canada or Toronto slang
Thank you for sharing your story. I’m also an L and D nurse and I’ve realized my time there is over and I need to move on. Change is so scary sometimes but hearing your words gives me hope.
You can do amazing things. I love my new job so much and I’m so glad I didn’t talk myself out of the change!
Amy, you are great! Thank you for your candidness. Everything isn’t for everyone, and know that you are fully supported by your viewers/listeners. These are stressful times right now in our nursing field, but know that it’s all worth the sacrifice. Find your happiness which is most important. With love from Yale New Haven Hospital!
Outpatient is where it's at!! I have a feeling you're going to really like it and be treated a lot better than hospital nurses are👍
I am loving it so far!
@@AmyBales Good☺️ and hospitals, and people having babies will always be there in the future. I'm happy for you, life balance is priority!
@@AmyBales where do you work now? please respond
i’m so thankful that you were strong enough to do this and strong enough to make this video. This video is needed to normalize not liking a job as a nurse and not feeling like you belong. I currently work L&D and I’m so unhappy. I feel as though I don’t belong and none of my coworkers want to help me. I needed this video so thank you so much for posting this. It breaks my heart that I’m not happy in my position because I thought this was my dream job. 💔
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So happy for you!!! I’ve noticed how with a lot of L&D hospitals we are going back to heavy interventions and away from more natural, and the maternal death rate has been showing how negative this is, it’s so sad!
Anything that is considered routine that shouldn’t be. Like for example, an FSE screws into a babies head and has been proven to cause them pain for up to two weeks after. Unless you absolutely cannot trace that baby, or the baby is at risk, then they shouldn’t be used just because it’s easier on the nurse. And when they’re used, they need to be fully explained to the patient, not told it’s “just a sticker” because that’s lying and obstetrical abuse. That’s just an example of course.
@@AmyBales Oh wow; I could not stand by either and watch things lije that. I’ve also seen a nurse tell ( male ) doctor she had the lidocaine and doctor ignored her and just stitched tear. Woman wincing and in pain. Dr ignoring her. Nurse just going along. And more. But I just could not do it.
You’re a good person. Actually caring. Having a heart and conscience.
That happened to me in my delivery! Stitched with no lidocaine. 0/10 experience.
@@AmyBales Omg! If it happens to an educated, experienced labor and delivery nurse…. Wow! May I ask why?
@@AmyBales Wow! How is that even possible? I do not get it.
I really hope you see this! I’m going through the exact same thing you are! I’ve been a nurse for 6 years, moved to a new city in June. Took a job and on orientation I had similar feelings you did but I brushed it off as new job jitters. It’s different from my last hospital but I’ll adapt I told myself. Fast forward to now, my last two shifts are this week. If it’s not a good fit, you know!
Yes exactly! I never felt that way at my first hospital job and I was so upset when I started here and it felt so bad. It didn’t get any better and I just decided to cut my losses. I’m loving my new job so much and I’m so glad I did it!
So proud of you 👏🏾!! Do what feels right for you. You’ll find the right job/career. Don’t rush it. I hope you enjoy your new job. Keep us posted . I’ve been away from bedside and I love it. ❤️❤️❤️
I work as a pharmacist at a women's and children's hospital and I have been there for 6 years. L&D has changed so much, especially in the past year. We are seeing so many high risk and preterm births. I can only imagine how difficult that is at bedside. Good for you 👍
I haven't seen your channel before this vid but I just want to say I am so so proud of you for doing what is best for you! Nursing is insane right now and so many hospitals/units are not as supportive as they should be. Excited for you.
Labor and delivery is SO toxic
Nothing drained me more like nursing. I wish I had never went to nursing field in my life.
Thank for being brave to share your experience. It must had been tough for you and your family. I'm glad that you realize that the practice was unsafe and stepped up to say something. You made the best decision for myself and your family.
Hi Amy, glad to hear that you did what was best for you. I currently am going through this with my job and have been thinking about leaving for so long but need the money so I haven't.
I’m so sorry you’re stuck. I hope you find the freedom to leave soon!