He is doing the most to get the mother to react during the call. I know that game well. Children are vehicles for the manipulation from the narc, no boundary is taboo. I am surprised he hasn't raged about how little the children are responding to him, tell them they are rude to him on the calls they have for not talking more and being happier to talk to him. The one thing that is similar between every recorded narc rant is the brain numbing effect of their manipulations and word salad.
He is in his own world, expecting everyone there to do things as he wants them done because only he knows what to do. Other people don't exist, he created characters he wants and imposes them on the family. You're in his world in his way.
Do you have more information on this?? Any good resources to share?? I know I’m a longtime victim of spiritual abuse, but when I realized I was living in “abuse” “domestic violence” and had Narc parents my whole life, and also endured a domestic violent relationship - - I had to learn about all types of abuse etc. Basically starting in the other arenas,…and didn’t get to that spectrum yet. I only know surface of spiritual abuse and would love more information ❤
My mother was a narcissist. I think the fact that I was adopted played a big part in her abuse of me. She ruined my life. Literally traumatised me to the point that I developed complex PTSD. It landed when I was 31 and I’ve been housebound ever since. She got dementia in her last years, but before that the abuse never stopped, not once, ever. My brother was idolised. He was also adopted, two years after me. He hasn’t spoken to me in 40 years. She really did a job on him, turned him against me completely. So sad..I love my brother and I miss him.
You just described my childhood, adopted and abused!!! My adopted sister wanted a playmate... then they all turned on me ! They were all mean , and cruel ! It was a nightmare ! !
My thoughts - eugh! What an obnoxious man. I loved the indifference of the children though - the way they allowed those yawning chasms of silence to happen without feeling the urge to fill them. One good thing about phones - they win a child's attention over a narcissist's embarrassing efforts😊
I thought the same, the children are able to leave those long silences with no desire to fill them. The young boy feels least comfortable with that but the girls have clearly had enough of their father and have heard his monologues plenty of times before. Totally switched off from him, a very sensible approach!
This doesn’t and will not stop until the kids are adults and are allowed to set their own boundaries. It does not get better. I had to stop communicating with my father. This will affect these poor children in ways they don’t deserve.
Wow. He literally doesn't realize they don't wanna talk to him. Mind-blowing.. Classically using religion and obedience to play the kids. God forbid he actually takes accountability to be a God fearing parent.
The narcissist parent (dad) sends out such creepy sensations with his 3rd degree type of banter and his "baby" this and "baby" that. Et cetera. Ugh! My sympathies extend toward the innocent children. Perhaps toward the mom as well since she is separated from him for obvious reasons.
Exactly, my kids are all adults in their 30's but if they need to talk to me about anything they know they can call 24/7/365 and this momma will answer the phone.
As the parent, it’s his responsibility to maintain his relationship with them. I don’t know what he does for work, but when he started listing what he had done, I couldn’t help but think that he had just as much time to contact them.
A key thing I've experienced, and can be very helpful to remember, is that narc parents tend to have pawns as friends. Sometimes these are referred to as flying monkeys. But the key aspect is they are Yes Men for the narc. So, occasionally when you as the adult child come into contact with the pawns they'll look at you in a way that sometimes doesn't make any sense to you (almost judgemental or what a lost cause type of look). But, when you share aspects of how well you are doing, sometimes it blows their mind because they have been fed such a different story from the narc. Particularly if you struggle with emotional issues, the narc parent won't accept any role in this and it becomes their mission to tell their friends things like "He's really struggling, or, we should pray for him/her." But nothing to the effect of "Do you think I did anything to cause this?" It's important to remind yourself that the narc parent is SICK. It will help you to realize the situation you came from and that the narc parent isn't well. It provides a moving on process from the emotional rollercoaster they handed you.
Speaking in 3rd person, so creepy. He’s rambling, what the hell is he talking about. Baby this, baby that, baby baby. Psycho. He sounds empty, there is no emotional connection.
Also, daddy has to blame someone else for the reason that his children are not keen to call him. The narc can never accept that he is unliked and that his children do not enjoy calling. It always has to be someone else.
Ok,this freaks me out.The references of “Baby” and the fact he goes on and on about himself, “Daddy” is disturbing. Over and over. He is talking to and about his children like they are his pets instead of his children.
As well as incapable of perceiving their children as anything other than incredibly gullible and stupid. Everyone is inferior and at fault. The lack of empathy or self awareness combined with extreme self absorption is always chilling to me IRL, but Comedy Gold when accurately depicted in tv shows or comedies. 😂
Very chilling, and very recognisable, especially if you have been in the position of the children. You are aware you are being mined for information that can be used against your mother. The long silence while he waits for you to break. Such an uncomfortable watch.
They say they don't know because anything they say he will have something negative to say and everything is about him. He's that father that will beat you within an inch of your life and say he's doing it because he loves you.
That guy at the end is my ex. He won’t pay his $150 a month if they don’t talk to him. So we don’t get $150 a month except right at the end of the child support deadline. He hasn’t bothered to see them for 16 years. He helps out every once in a while just to keep relevant.
@@riz984So a woman (or Man!, btw) who's married to someone who is abusive to them + their children should just never leave then? Ok cool, thanks for Outing yourself.
I hope these children are seeing a therapist who specializes in narcissism. This can help them learn how to assert some boundaries with their father in a polite and assertive manner about his abusive behavior (the guilt, shame and assault on the children's self-worth is incredible in this one conversation). And, of course, being able to handle the narcissistic rage by disconnecting if that is what happens. Having therapy can help the children build back their self-worth and help them for when they become adults on how to see narcissism and how to deal with it because it is everywhere. If they don't learn how to deal with it they will most likely pick partners and bosses who exhibit those traits so they can learn how later (part of my own life lesson). I have nothing but sympathy and compassion for them and their mother in navigating this terrible circumstance - I am so glad she left him. I am sending them much love and support - thanks for allowing me to share my 2 cents.
Giving me ptsd my daughter father just like this. Makes me terribly sad. I’m glad my daughter doesn’t get sucked into his shit much anymore. We don’t bother him besides it’s not like he don’t drop off the face of the earth for months and years at a time anyways.
This YT algorithm has got mad skill!! Minus the religion this parallels my experience with my dad growing up. No way we would do Bible study, we had to worship him!
Fantastic HG and so relatable. Gee, I wonder why they aren't so thrilled to talk to Dad? Lots of questioning, guilting, rules... nothing useful, meaningful, or loving. This, combined with walking on eggshells, makes for a dull brain... my brain. Even narcissists that don't seem dangerous have effects. Hypervigilance can make life exhausting and hard to learn and thrive in survival or existence state.
It’s so wrong for the parent make your child your partner or companion because the parent cannot sustain a relationship on their own as completely inadequate.
Your so right. My father died when I was 15, my mother mentally exited the building and I had to become the adult. It affected my physical health. We have a bit of a rocky relationship, however I married a man who is 10 years old than myself who is the love of my life and this saved me. When our son was 15 it hit me that what she had done was so not right. Whilst having lots of auto immune issues, I am mentally very strong as a consequence.
The way it’s all about his needs fitting his schedule, he has no regard for his children. It’s so wrong to expect a call with a time deadline , you let your kids call you when they want to not forced to. Ugh the pity play “ too busy to call your Daddy” maybe they have more in their life than calling this dirtbag preacher
I remember when my eldest was getting married at her wedding reception… Narc stood up and gave a huge speech from the book of Isaiah …. l wanted to strike him dead on the spot … luckily everyone had a few drinks by then … and politely moved on to the merry making… 🎉🎉🎉
Oldest daughter was smart. Cap the length of the call, shelter the mom and siblings from hearing his voice. Structures the call in her day to get it over with. This might be a leap but given she's the oldest daughter, I'd assume she likely stepped up as a shield. The undercurrent of rage against her leads me to respect her very much.
how awful. i can relate to that utter resistance to speaking to him. bare minimum just to be polite/keep the peace/avoid a flare up. the parent in my life wasn't this gross but still that underlying threatening feeling.
Letting the dad go at them though. If she stood back silent for the purpose of catching the narc on film, that’s one thing, but if she routinely offers her children up to take the narc treatment then she’s awful.
@HG did we see a glitch in the facade when the son replies and says that he’s been busy and then tells him what he’s done. The father says oh wow like he’s caught off guard but doesn’t then proceed to offer any commendation and moves onto one of the other family members
Whew. They don’t want to talk to him. He does nothing but shame them. Obviously they wouldn’t want to call him during the day; it’s a burden to talk to someone who constantly drains and points fingers. Poor kiddos 😢
This was an infuriating listen. But I appreciate my non narcissist ex much more now 😅. Being passive and unimaginative and not asking our daughter enough questions about her stuff and those sort of irritating things seems pretty minor right now… A drama free upbringing is such a blessing! Thank god for the normal men in our childrens lives 😂🙏!! (My narc dad btw would have been more like: “I think you should KNOW that you RUINED my WHOLE night now. I was worried SICK and the worst thing is how little you CARE for people how you are so CARELESS and SELFABSORBED I will not be able to sleep thanks to YOU”… Is that the victim cadre or is it just that even my father, special and unique as he is, actually is just like any old narcissist, in that he has a victim mentality😂?)
@@jdoveyk9422 a friend managed to stay with his mom after the divorce. daddy: 1st class ahole, abuser. i never felt at ease around him or liked his yap. condescending family judge telling mark oh yes he was going to call daddykins and oh yes he was going to be at daddy's hellhole one weekend a month. things got ugly. my friend was 15 yrs old and understood kerosene and a bic lighter. the court had to do a rethink. dad of course insisting the ungrateful backstabbing bitch (she wasn't - she was absolutely drained, tho) was committing parental alienation yadayadayada. till mark played old audio cassette tapes of what went on in the home with daddy kins. a month later the father had restraining orders (son and ex-wife) against him. these narcs are evil beyond human effin belief. i knew mark had a $hitt* home but even i didn't know how bad. no one did.
I didn’t understand what was going on with this video at first. I thought the girl on the phone was his ex wife. Looks like he rounds up his kids for a nightly call which you can see they clearly dread. What a terrible thing watching the minutes count down to the dreaded nightly phone call.
Listening to the Dad made me cringe. I know a Dad who was similar to this one. It was better when he was ignoring the kids. Less drama for sure. I can't watch movies about abuse of any kind. I always turn it off.
blaming this owe kids just because the relationship didn’t work out for him smh 🤦♂️ leave the kids out of your problems and kids just need support from their parents and loving from their parents
This is my ex line by line like a textbook. And im realizing someone else too. Someone i have long ago slammed a door on. Hmmm...wow. The ex was unfortunately not as easy to shake. I wish i could say i was tactful and effectively reacted to my situation. But the moment i realized something was wrong i may as well have woken up in hell without a map. A years time feels like a split second of adrenaline and panic because you've found yourself alone in a dead end alley way with a gun in your face. Funny how in the alleyway time would slow down. But the entire remainder of our relationship was a fleeting encounter with a gun in my face.
Omg its all about calling daddy...its all me me me, actually saying nothing, long awkward pauses. He actually has no interest in his children, no communication, talking to his children about people playing games, where the children are not playing games at all...its daddy who plays the games. The atmosphere is so tense its awkward. Daddy is sarcastic and deflective.
My narc father is a nightmare , after living under constant fear ,manipulation my whole life I tried to make no contact with him and he ended up going to my mothers house and screaming to her about me because he knows is the only way I would go back in contact with him ,he is so aggressive I don’t know what else to do to get away from him
@@kathrine266 Yes, it important to be emotionally indifferent to a narcissistic parent until you’re legally able to go no contact, you will be emotionally destroyed if you respond emotionally. You will have ultimately better emotional connections with other people if you don’t respond logically, better than engaging which is a slow painful death.
@@CplArvinBethe the one thing is not better than the other. starting coping mechanisms will be destroying future relationships one way or the other if you don't realize what happened to you.
Oh this looks soooo familiar. Some of my kids do not want to come home anymore because they have more peace when not at home. It is just sad!!!!! They just suckks the energy right out of you🙄
Been there....🙄 nothing worse than a narcassist parent or behaviour.....having a golden child too is just wrong....and putting that child on a pedestal when he's the worst child they claimed to have had😂😂😂🙈🙈
Pretty sad. He’s condecending and a bully. I’m sorry that the courts mandate that the children are required to call him. I also don’t think the kids like to be filmed while talking to their dad so I question the mom’s motive unless it’s to take the video to court. Audio would have been enough.
Theres just zero awareness or respect from him in regard to the children clearly not wanting to relate. And all his little pointed digs. Ewwww. Sad. Those kids should have the right to refuse his calls.
Sick shit I'm going through this now and my daughter is 4smh I'm not sure what to do but allow short calls I just want help with the problem I wonder where to start
So, the DADDY can be busy, cant talk after 9....but the kids can't be busy doing what kids do. 😂😂 Hell, I'm not even in the know of this guy, but I already discern he definitely isn't someone I'd continue speaking with, let alone want him pastoring me about God. Maybe those kids feel the same. With his busy busy day with ole Tabby......😂
In short he is a total tool …. they are better off without him … infact l would priscibe it … mom keeps well out of it … good for her … let’s hope at least he pays the bills … 💵
They say “I don’t know” because what they really want to say is, “I don’t call you because I don’t want anything to do with you.”
He is doing the most to get the mother to react during the call. I know that game well. Children are vehicles for the manipulation from the narc, no boundary is taboo.
I am surprised he hasn't raged about how little the children are responding to him, tell them they are rude to him on the calls they have for not talking more and being happier to talk to him.
The one thing that is similar between every recorded narc rant is the brain numbing effect of their manipulations and word salad.
He is in his own world, expecting everyone there to do things as he wants them done because only he knows what to do. Other people don't exist, he created characters he wants and imposes them on the family. You're in his world in his way.
It’s obvious that they didn’t call “Daddy” because they didn’t want to. Listen to him. I wouldn’t want to talk to the arrogant pissant either.
Former longtime Victim Advocate here-the WORST type of abuse was ALWAYS Spiritual Abuse, yes! 😮💨🙏
Do you have more information on this??
Any good resources to share??
I know I’m a longtime victim of spiritual abuse, but when I realized I was living in “abuse” “domestic violence” and had Narc parents my whole life, and also endured a domestic violent relationship - - I had to learn about all types of abuse etc. Basically starting in the other arenas,…and didn’t get to that spectrum yet.
I only know surface of spiritual abuse and would love more information ❤
My mother was a narcissist. I think the fact that I was adopted played a big part in her abuse of me. She ruined my life. Literally traumatised me to the point that I developed complex PTSD. It landed when I was 31 and I’ve been housebound ever since. She got dementia in her last years, but before that the abuse never stopped, not once, ever. My brother was idolised. He was also adopted, two years after me. He hasn’t spoken to me in 40 years. She really did a job on him, turned him against me completely. So sad..I love my brother and I miss him.
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You just described my childhood, adopted and abused!!! My adopted sister wanted a playmate... then they all turned on me ! They were all mean , and cruel ! It was a nightmare ! !
@@joannhopkins1396 …well I guess I found a sister! Both used as the family scapegoat! I’m sorry you went through that too and I’m sending you love xxx
Very sorry for your treatment by your so called family. I hope listening to videos such as this helps you understand and heal.
My thoughts - eugh! What an obnoxious man. I loved the indifference of the children though - the way they allowed those yawning chasms of silence to happen without feeling the urge to fill them. One good thing about phones - they win a child's attention over a narcissist's embarrassing efforts😊
I thought the same, the children are able to leave those long silences with no desire to fill them. The young boy feels least comfortable with that but the girls have clearly had enough of their father and have heard his monologues plenty of times before. Totally switched off from him, a very sensible approach!
This doesn’t and will not stop until the kids are adults and are allowed to set their own boundaries. It does not get better. I had to stop communicating with my father. This will affect these poor children in ways they don’t deserve.
I’m so glad the father doesn’t live there anymore. He is absolutely bonkers. Those poor kids.
The narc parent speaks to their children like they are married and trying to catch them cheating
This
THIS
I got the exact message from this video. I thought it was just my interpretation. Yes.
It was gross, indeed.
Baby, Baby, Baby . . . .Daddy, Daddy, Daddy! What a controlling jerk!!
Poor kid. She looks tense. He is so condescending. Better for them to never call him.
Wow. He literally doesn't realize they don't wanna talk to him. Mind-blowing.. Classically using religion and obedience to play the kids. God forbid he actually takes accountability to be a God fearing parent.
He probably has a lot of Bible quotes except Ephesians 6:4.
I don't think he would care if he knew
Badmouthing one child to another, unbelievable! He'll be alone one of these days. None of his children will call him.
5 minutes before work because she doesn't want to speak longer than she already feels obligated to!
The narcissist parent (dad) sends out such creepy sensations with his 3rd degree type of banter and his "baby" this and "baby" that. Et cetera. Ugh! My sympathies extend toward the innocent children. Perhaps toward the mom as well since she is separated from him for obvious reasons.
The way he keeps calling her baby 🤢
I wouldn't mind if my children called me at 3:00 am, if they need to talk, lets go.
Exactly, my kids are all adults in their 30's but if they need to talk to me about anything they know they can call 24/7/365 and this momma will answer the phone.
Agreed! My son can call me whenever the hell he wants
I'm sure the children are just dying to call their daddy early in the morning ....
As the parent, it’s his responsibility to maintain his relationship with them. I don’t know what he does for work, but when he started listing what he had done, I couldn’t help but think that he had just as much time to contact them.
A key thing I've experienced, and can be very helpful to remember, is that narc parents tend to have pawns as friends. Sometimes these are referred to as flying monkeys. But the key aspect is they are Yes Men for the narc. So, occasionally when you as the adult child come into contact with the pawns they'll look at you in a way that sometimes doesn't make any sense to you (almost judgemental or what a lost cause type of look). But, when you share aspects of how well you are doing, sometimes it blows their mind because they have been fed such a different story from the narc. Particularly if you struggle with emotional issues, the narc parent won't accept any role in this and it becomes their mission to tell their friends things like "He's really struggling, or, we should pray for him/her." But nothing to the effect of "Do you think I did anything to cause this?" It's important to remind yourself that the narc parent is SICK. It will help you to realize the situation you came from and that the narc parent isn't well. It provides a moving on process from the emotional rollercoaster they handed you.
Speaking in 3rd person, so creepy. He’s rambling, what the hell is he talking about. Baby this, baby that, baby baby. Psycho. He sounds empty, there is no emotional connection.
That’s what I was thinking. Annoying and creepy.
Insane guilt trip and super annoying!
Also, daddy has to blame someone else for the reason that his children are not keen to call him. The narc can never accept that he is unliked and that his children do not enjoy calling. It always has to be someone else.
Ok,this freaks me out.The references of “Baby” and the fact he goes on and on about himself, “Daddy” is disturbing.
Over and over. He is talking to and about his children like they are his pets instead of his children.
Narc fathers are often inappropriate with their daughters.
As well as incapable of perceiving their children as anything other than incredibly gullible and stupid. Everyone is inferior and at fault. The lack of empathy or self awareness combined with extreme self absorption is always chilling to me IRL, but Comedy Gold when accurately depicted in tv shows or comedies. 😂
Everytime their father talks I can hear my eyes roll.
Very chilling, and very recognisable, especially if you have been in the position of the children. You are aware you are being mined for information that can be used against your mother. The long silence while he waits for you to break. Such an uncomfortable watch.
They say they don't know because anything they say he will have something negative to say and everything is about him. He's that father that will beat you within an inch of your life and say he's doing it because he loves you.
Parental alienation......thank god these kids are with the mom
All I can say is. I hope this video series is sent to him! 😅
That guy at the end is my ex. He won’t pay his $150 a month if they don’t talk to him. So we don’t get $150 a month except right at the end of the child support deadline. He hasn’t bothered to see them for 16 years. He helps out every once in a while just to keep relevant.
single mother lmao, this is on you.
@@riz984 It's different when it happens to you.
@@cymbolichuman433 nah, it's usually always the fault of the woman for this outcome
@@riz984So a woman (or Man!, btw) who's married to someone who is abusive to them + their children should just never leave then? Ok cool, thanks for Outing yourself.
@@TimesUp8888why marry an abusive man sweetie?
These passive aggressive types are the pits….
" she spends all day not calling her daddy" what a strange way to say that! They really do love the sound of their own voice don't they
I hope these children are seeing a therapist who specializes in narcissism. This can help them learn how to assert some boundaries with their father in a polite and assertive manner about his abusive behavior (the guilt, shame and assault on the children's self-worth is incredible in this one conversation). And, of course, being able to handle the narcissistic rage by disconnecting if that is what happens. Having therapy can help the children build back their self-worth and help them for when they become adults on how to see narcissism and how to deal with it because it is everywhere. If they don't learn how to deal with it they will most likely pick partners and bosses who exhibit those traits so they can learn how later (part of my own life lesson). I have nothing but sympathy and compassion for them and their mother in navigating this terrible circumstance - I am so glad she left him. I am sending them much love and support - thanks for allowing me to share my 2 cents.
"just see a therapist that will help you act like a soulless robot and treat someone that loves you like a patient"
Giving me ptsd my daughter father just like this. Makes me terribly sad. I’m glad my daughter doesn’t get sucked into his shit much anymore. We don’t bother him besides it’s not like he don’t drop off the face of the earth for months and years at a time anyways.
This YT algorithm has got mad skill!! Minus the religion this parallels my experience with my dad growing up. No way we would do Bible study, we had to worship him!
How did she stay with him long enough to have 5 children?
Fantastic HG and so relatable. Gee, I wonder why they aren't so thrilled to talk to Dad? Lots of questioning, guilting, rules... nothing useful, meaningful, or loving. This, combined with walking on eggshells, makes for a dull brain... my brain. Even narcissists that don't seem dangerous have effects. Hypervigilance can make life exhausting and hard to learn and thrive in survival or existence state.
"Baby" : Belittlement by diminutive pet name.
It’s so wrong for the parent make your child your partner or companion because the parent cannot sustain a relationship on their own as completely inadequate.
Your so right. My father died when I was 15, my mother mentally exited the building and I had to become the adult. It affected my physical health. We have a bit of a rocky relationship, however I married a man who is 10 years old than myself who is the love of my life and this saved me. When our son was 15 it hit me that what she had done was so not right. Whilst having lots of auto immune issues, I am mentally very strong as a consequence.
Lol. I didn't watch all of the video but the kids couldn't have given less of a f©k.
There is no pleasing a narcissist.
The way it’s all about his needs fitting his schedule, he has no regard for his children. It’s so wrong to expect a call with a time deadline , you let your kids call you when they want to not forced to. Ugh the pity play “ too busy to call your Daddy” maybe they have more in their life than calling this dirtbag preacher
Your parable joke caught me off guard. Gave me a good giggle.
I remember when my eldest was getting married at her wedding reception… Narc stood up and gave a huge speech from the book of Isaiah …. l wanted to strike him dead on the spot … luckily everyone had a few drinks by then … and politely moved on to the merry making… 🎉🎉🎉
How funny. Religious narcissists are ridiculous (albeit scary).
Thank you for the premieres today HG 💕
He speaks to them in a manner to make then feel guilty,or responsible for his feelings.
Oldest daughter was smart. Cap the length of the call, shelter the mom and siblings from hearing his voice. Structures the call in her day to get it over with. This might be a leap but given she's the oldest daughter, I'd assume she likely stepped up as a shield. The undercurrent of rage against her leads me to respect her very much.
how awful. i can relate to that utter resistance to speaking to him. bare minimum just to be polite/keep the peace/avoid a flare up. the parent in my life wasn't this gross but still that underlying threatening feeling.
Hope mom is getting some support… l guess she loves her children.. as she is with them … good for her …
Letting the dad go at them though. If she stood back silent for the purpose of catching the narc on film, that’s one thing, but if she routinely offers her children up to take the narc treatment then she’s awful.
@@hiddenhand6973 did you not watch the video… the calls are court ordered
😢 This Father is so Boring, I do not Blame........ the kids. They Dread his calls, lord and this is everyday???😢
cold,gaslighting,guiltripping…just awful
"You were making your daddy mad" -- Ah, yes. Controlling your own parent's emotions is totally within a child's power.
@HG did we see a glitch in the facade when the son replies and says that he’s been busy and then tells him what he’s done.
The father says oh wow like he’s caught off guard but doesn’t then proceed to offer any commendation and moves onto one of the other family members
HGs commentary extremely satisfying, though 😅!!
Yes I like these types of videos because he can analyse real world examples of this behaviour - the nuances and subtleties
He goes off at the for not calling him them expects them to have a fun convo 😅 The thing I recognised is he just starts talking about what he has done
She can fulfill her assignment by not calling him 🤷
Whew. They don’t want to talk to him. He does nothing but shame them. Obviously they wouldn’t want to call him during the day; it’s a burden to talk to someone who constantly drains and points fingers. Poor kiddos 😢
common!! playing the victim to his young children,they are better of wihoit him!!
This was an infuriating listen. But I appreciate my non narcissist ex much more now 😅. Being passive and unimaginative and not asking our daughter enough questions about her stuff and those sort of irritating things seems pretty minor right now… A drama free upbringing is such a blessing! Thank god for the normal men in our childrens lives 😂🙏!! (My narc dad btw would have been more like: “I think you should KNOW that you RUINED my WHOLE night now. I was worried SICK and the worst thing is how little you CARE for people how you are so CARELESS and SELFABSORBED I will not be able to sleep thanks to YOU”… Is that the victim cadre or is it just that even my father, special and unique as he is, actually is just like any old narcissist, in that he has a victim mentality😂?)
He expects them to call every day?!
Apparently there’s a court order to do so.
Oh thank you, I didn’t catch that.@@jdoveyk9422
@@jdoveyk9422 a friend managed to stay with his mom after the divorce. daddy: 1st class ahole, abuser. i never felt at ease around him or liked his yap. condescending family judge telling mark oh yes he was going to call daddykins and oh yes he was going to be at daddy's hellhole one weekend a month. things got ugly. my friend was 15 yrs old and understood kerosene and a bic lighter. the court had to do a rethink. dad of course insisting the ungrateful backstabbing bitch (she wasn't - she was absolutely drained, tho) was committing parental alienation yadayadayada. till mark played old audio cassette tapes of what went on in the home with daddy kins.
a month later the father had restraining orders (son and ex-wife) against him.
these narcs are evil beyond human effin belief. i knew mark had a $hitt* home but even i didn't know how bad. no one did.
I didn’t understand what was going on with this video at first. I thought the girl on the phone was his ex wife. Looks like he rounds up his kids for a nightly call which you can see they clearly dread. What a terrible thing watching the minutes count down to the dreaded nightly phone call.
And every. Single. Day.?
Poor kids, he should be listening to them about their day and their problems, not the other way around.
Good afternoon from Ontario Canada!🇨🇦
A “Holy Narcissist” 😂😂😂
So glad I am and have always been an atheist.
Oh my goodness so familiar 1😥😥😥 I always thought it's my fault he said......
Thank you for making this ❤
My religious narcissist father would never have even asked us
“What did you do
today ?“ but listening to this makes me glad.
I recognize those patterns
Listening to the Dad made me cringe. I know a Dad who was similar to this one. It was better when he was ignoring the kids. Less drama for sure. I can't watch movies about abuse of any kind. I always turn it off.
Is this a talk or an interrogation?
blaming this owe kids just because the relationship didn’t work out for him smh 🤦♂️ leave the kids out of your problems and kids just need support from their parents and loving from their parents
Ewwww this man is vile … poor kids deserve much better
This is my ex line by line like a textbook. And im realizing someone else too. Someone i have long ago slammed a door on. Hmmm...wow. The ex was unfortunately not as easy to shake. I wish i could say i was tactful and effectively reacted to my situation. But the moment i realized something was wrong i may as well have woken up in hell without a map. A years time feels like a split second of adrenaline and panic because you've found yourself alone in a dead end alley way with a gun in your face. Funny how in the alleyway time would slow down. But the entire remainder of our relationship was a fleeting encounter with a gun in my face.
He speaks about himself in third person ...
Chilling!
Proverbs 8:13 God hates pride. This guy is oozing it in every word.
Hey..Deborah here in Adelaide Australia...goodmorning?😁
Omg its all about calling daddy...its all me me me, actually saying nothing, long awkward pauses. He actually has no interest in his children, no communication, talking to his children about people playing games, where the children are not playing games at all...its daddy who plays the games. The atmosphere is so tense its awkward. Daddy is sarcastic and deflective.
My narc father is a nightmare , after living under constant fear ,manipulation my whole life I tried to make no contact with him and he ended up going to my mothers house and screaming to her about me because he knows is the only way I would go back in contact with him ,he is so aggressive I don’t know what else to do to get away from him
I wish I had known to just be indifferent when I was their age,I’d be a better person today.
if a child is indifferent it is already traumatized and have probably destroyed important ability to emotional connection.
@@kathrine266 Yes, it important to be emotionally indifferent to a narcissistic parent until you’re legally able to go no contact, you will be emotionally destroyed if you respond emotionally. You will have ultimately better emotional connections with other people if you don’t respond logically, better than engaging which is a slow painful death.
@@CplArvinBethe the one thing is not better than the other. starting coping mechanisms will be destroying future relationships one way or the other if you don't realize what happened to you.
That daddy has to much free time
These are the reasons my kids stopped bothering. But of course he blames me, we don’t care, we know the truth.
Upper mid range is my guess @ 8:52 of video
Haughty, too haughty
The narcissist pretends not to be satisfied in order to create a new threshold for control
Oh this looks soooo familiar. Some of my kids do not want to come home anymore because they have more peace when not at home. It is just sad!!!!! They just suckks the energy right out of you🙄
Omg leave those children alone!!! 😡😡😡😡 horrible man. Yuk.
Been there....🙄 nothing worse than a narcassist parent or behaviour.....having a golden child too is just wrong....and putting that child on a pedestal when he's the worst child they claimed to have had😂😂😂🙈🙈
That's what happened in my family and appalling behaviour one i will not have in my space now....🙄
Pretty sad. He’s condecending and a bully. I’m sorry that the courts mandate that the children are required to call him. I also don’t think the kids like to be filmed while talking to their dad so I question the mom’s motive unless it’s to take the video to court. Audio would have been enough.
Theres just zero awareness or respect from him in regard to the children clearly not wanting to relate. And all his little pointed digs. Ewwww. Sad. Those kids should have the right to refuse his calls.
Even the dogs had enough!!! 😂
This father never had a father
Sick shit I'm going through this now and my daughter is 4smh I'm not sure what to do but allow short calls I just want help with the problem I wonder where to start
Insufferable! Poor kids to have to deal with this guy.
She's not taking any of it
Kangaroo court in session: You are guilty of existing. The judge abuses you via cell phone.
So, the DADDY can be busy, cant talk after 9....but the kids can't be busy doing what kids do. 😂😂
Hell, I'm not even in the know of this guy, but I already discern he definitely isn't someone I'd continue speaking with, let alone want him pastoring me about God. Maybe those kids feel the same. With his busy busy day with ole Tabby......😂
I couldn't stand the little names... especially Cowboy.
My narcissistic brother used to call his son Monkey in the same flat tone.
Eww.
In short he is a total tool …. they are better off without him … infact l would priscibe it … mom keeps well out of it … good for her … let’s hope at least he pays the bills … 💵
I'm a Sigma Empath. I see this video very clearly ! ! He just thinks he's a covert narcissist 😂 wrooooooong ! !
Sounds like he's too busy during the day, maybe he wants to say he's too busy if they call or just feel important if they call!
What are these kids doing up at 11pm-12am at night?
Also glued to a "screen"? Geez.
Could be different time zones
@@skachor the narc dad said it was that late hour, unless their on opposite coasts which is not the impression given.
@@srsly5570 could