Fantastic idea/story I saw on a Reddit video: This woman and her husband were getting married, and after begrudgingly getting a white wedding dress (she hated dresses but decided to wear one for her wedding, and the entire thing was mainly to get it over with because she hated the idea of a wedding) she learned that her MIL and three SIL's had gone back and ordered the same dress as her, and she knew they were planning to wear it to her wedding. So instead of confronting them, she went back to the store, returned the dress, and got a different beautiful purple dress with black trim. After doing that, she sent out the invite (excluding the in-laws, they had special invitations asking them not to wear white) inviting anyone who had a wedding dress that were sad about only getting to wear it once to wear it at THEIR wedding. So when the MIL and SIL's showed up at the wedding in their white gowns and perfect makeup, instead of standing out and stealing the show, they got absorbed into the crowd of people wearing their old wedding dresses while the bride and her husband looked amazing and were in the spotlight the entire night. Funniest part is that they were mad at the bride in the first place for being an atheist, and the wedding included the bride showing up in the side car of a Harley Davidson, walking down the aisle to the Imperial March, jumping over a broomstick with her husband, and having all sorts of Pagan traditions. It was very much NOT a church wedding.
You forgot the bit where op befriended the priest who the MIL sent to schedule their "church" wedding and do premarital religious counseling. So he agreed to do a fake out of him being the officiant and was their DJ.
When you read the trans guy story, I thought the “just do it” from the sister was a “oh my god, just listen and do what you’re told”. Now, I’m realising it was more a “YES! This is going to be the funniest thing ever. Imagine the looks of their faces!”. 😂
I love this story, though I've heard it several times. I'm a trans woman, so I understand his situation. As long as he was comfortable doing it for a laugh... My parents don't exactly accept me being trans, though they won't disown me. They put up with me wearing my choice of clothes when I visited them last year, even a cocktail dress at a big family party. I do have friends who are in worse position. Some have been disowned (or threatened to) by their families, or thrown out (including a 19yo trans masculine non-binary).
my best friend got married in october, so naturally the wedding was halloween-themed. but she's also a fan of actually having fun, so it was ACTUALLY a halloween party. Everyone came dressed in costumes (including the whole wedding party), there was fun-size candy on all the tables, and we played a huge game of Werewolf after dinner. I mean *actual* costumes, too, not like "I wore a cape over my suit" but literally part of the wedding procession were in inflatable Patrick Star costumes. they went outside to film the Battle of the Patricks at some point, it was a highlight. best event ive ever been to.
So this is what my parents mean when they say "weddings are the most important day of your life" Inflatable Patrick's battling is most definitely the best day ever-
About the goldfish. My middle school prom did the exact same thing. They bought a bunch of small fish and put them in little jars on tables. When they died, they replaced them with more small fish they had in a bucket in the teacher's lounge. I'd estimate the death count totaled to 20-30. They were going to flush the survivors. I took the remaining live small fish, all eight of them, home with me that night. They lived 3 years, and that's 3 years longer than their lost comrades. The lives taken that day will not be forgotten.
I always feel so bad for fish. Most people make fun of them for being stupid but those idiots probably have a shorter attention span than the fish, what with tiktok, anyway
A similar thing happened when I was in middle school too, but on a much smaller scale, thankfully. We had a science fair, and I don't even remember what my own project was, but one of my classmates made one of those baking soda + vinegar volcanos, and he put a little plastic pond at the base of the volcano to make it into a scene. He also had two goldfish swimming around in it. He didn't win the science fair, and got so pissed off about it that he said he was going to flush the fish, so I asked him if I could have them instead.
Good on you for saving those poor fish, but now I'm just imagining your parent's reactions. Like you drop off your kid for a middle school prom and they come back with 8 fish in jars 😂
16:45 my sister literally made sure that the venue for her wedding had a separate room for me to go calm down if I got overwhelmed or panicky. That’s how you deal with someone coming to your wedding who might have big emotional issues. Not telling them to either get over it or not go
Exactly! Having a safe space is a good idea at any large event, and rejecting people and forcing them to be isolated in times of grief is just outright cruel.
Pretty good rule, except I would like to change it up a bit: it is fine to ask if they are ok with going further, but they are very much allowed to say no. Be clear about that second part so they don't feel forced. Granted, you are also allowed to say that it is a requirement for taking the role of whatever crazy marriage roles ppl have to play in marriages ("[...] of honor"?), because themes at parties are a thing... But expect it to be very hard to find someone who want to play that role then. And on the other side of such a situation, if someone does tell you it is a requirement, know that it is perfectly fine to decline the role then. If they are worthwhile friends you will obviously still be invited and no tough feelings will have been had - on either side. Their party/ceremony, so let them make it go however they wish (some ppl want certain relationships in specific roles, but others want aesthetics. Respect both sides!). The only thing they *can't do is **_who_** is involved with which part,* and if no friend is willing then they either need to give up on that idea or hire their own ceremonial staff (who also have to be ok with it). The main issue with interpersonal relationships (beside misunderstandings) are always expectations. Specifically mismatching expectations. Let ppl do what they wish. Don't expect them to offer and modify a role you otherwise wouldn't fit. Don't expect others to conform to a role you prepared for them. The piercing one was extra wild though, as clips can look anyway you want. Hell, she could have gotten the exact piercings she liked, handed them to a goldsmith to modify them into clips, and gotten clips that look exactly as she desires. TL;DR ppl can ask for whatever they wish, and even demand anything they want from ceremonial roles, that's fine. They just cant demand a specific person to then also *fill/accept* the ceremonial role in question. If they are worthwhile friends they will happily accept rejections when asking about someone's willingness, and said friend will happily accept that the role has a requirement they don't fit and reject the request on that basis. Also, clips can have any design, lol.
Good rule of thumb 👍 2 additions IMO: 1. If you pay for it. 2. Respect sincere personal boundaries and health issues. Allergies, requiring glasses, religious etc.
Personally, I'd say it depends on the person, the degree of the change, and whether the guests can also make demands from the couple. Like, if the bride agrees to green hair, I'm losing the ponytail.
The term "shotgun wedding" refers to a wedding where the bride is pregnant and her father threatens the groom with either a wedding or what comes out of his shotgun. TLDR: You go through with it or this will go through you
Omg I accidentally disliked the initial coment, don't know if you get notifications for dislikes but sorry for that anyway! Btw is the 'shotgun wedding' thing for real?? It's my first time seeing this and I just thought it was a bit oddly specific at first lol😆
@@ΚωνσταντίναΠετρίδου-μ1π It was more of a thing before DNA testing, child support and welfare for unwed mothers. Back when she would face social stigma and financial ruin if she didn't get married before the baby was born.
@@ΚωνσταντίναΠετρίδου-μ1π It's not necessarily a literal shotgun, I've heard threats of getting authorities involved. As to the segment of the video where the bride and groom had shotguns, they are mostly likely both hunters. 🤷
I read an article about a “professional bridesmaid” who would get hired by brides to basically make sure everything went well and occasionally break up fights or tell overly opinionated family members to shut the f up. It’s a thing and it’s my new dream job
important note on that dress code story at 24:56 - major part of the backlash was the dress code being based on guest's weight. women over 160lbs/men over 200lbs were expected to wear the black/camo to "represent the bad energies" iirc? not to mention, women under 160lbs were expected to wear loubotin red heels and a burberry scarf (both very expensive brands from several hundred to over a thousand each) she also stated in her original post they expected everyone to drop at LEAST $1,000 on their own outfits
"Tell (groom) I'll see him at the divorce party" was SUCH a good answer, I'm impressed she came up with that in such an emotional situation, after the bride was so horrible to her.
I cannot believe someone would ever say this… SHE HAD A F*CKING MISCARRIAGE? She was literally invalidating her trauma and sadness over the death of her child, f*cking hell…
Thank goodness she got back on that gaslighting narcissistic b*tch by sharing this conversation with everyone. She really saved the groom from making a terrible mistake. I feel so bad for OP. Having a miscarriage is one of the most traumatic things that could happen in life and some people never get over it. This so called friend is an absolute piece of trash and deserved getting the wedding canceled
@@MandaraminuI agree but ppl are acting like these are bad wants, it's normal and fine to exclude someone from your wedding when you know all that will be talked about/focused on will be a sad thing. But holy sh she was super rude about it, I appreciate the honesty but yikes
Honestly, how did the groom even want to marry her in the first place. I guess she doesn't normally act that way saying that they had a friendship (the two in the texts) and that was how it ended.
At this point Click is like a gen z dad -supports people no matter their orientation, identity, etc. -is really good with memes -makes dad jokes but also makes everything funny -is a furry
We went to a wedding once. They used fish bowls with goldfish as center pieces. At the end, we overheard the bride tell the people cleaning up to just throw the fish in the trash if no one took them home. Needless to say, we adopted about a hundred goldfish that day.
I'm not sure which I should be more shocked by, the fact they used freaking animals as wedding decorations, or the idea of just,, throwing them away. I mean that's a horrifyingly massive waste of life for a day long ceremony for some tack-ass aesthetic.
Goldfish live a long time if they are cared for properly. They are pretty, social and generally easy to look after. Oxygen, clean water, space and food. And relaxing to watch. I used to have Axolotl and they are also funny and easy to keep.
@@adelucas4824 yeah. These were just the inbred, feeder goldfish, so they had a lot of issues when they got bigger. Like bent backs, their swim bladders going bad, their tails twisting in bad ways. We had to euthanize most of them when they got older because there was just no way to fix what they had wrong. But we got a couple of huge 100 gallon tanks, stands, all the bits and bobbles. That was back when we worked 80+ hours at a grocery store and made good money. So we gave them everything we could. They were the best fish too. Super smart.
I lost my baby in June and still can't seem to not keep his little urn with me always. The bride telling her friend who lost their baby to announce the loss or not come deserves a high five to the face and lemon juice to the eyes. Grief is different for everyone, I hope Momma is doing alright 💜
So sorry for your loss ❤️ I miscarried in December ‘22. It took me like two weeks to even tell my own mother and I’m still not ok about it. I cannot believe the behavior of this vile woman treating her friend like that 😞
@@katcheers8886 I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the delayed reply. I understand, I had a weird mix of not wanting to speak about it and wanting everyone in the world to grieve the loss of my Robert. One minute not shutting up about it, the next not speaking at all. I hope your heart is finding a bit of peace, and I'm here if you ever need someone to listen.
*Wedding hack:* Have your own private wedding with just you and your partner BEFORE the ceremony. Then nothing could ruin that day for you, since it's already happened. Jim and Pam were smart.
Pretty what my husband and I did. We had a private handfasting ceremony in the forest we had our first date just the two of us and then went to the city hall to sign our papers. We didn't have the proper ceremony yet as my family lives spread across Russia and Germany and his across Norway and the US. Getting everyone in one spot will be rough so we're taking our time.
Ive been married for 50+ years. When my husband's family and mine got together we witnessed a major fubar. The first meeting was a nightmare and each following meeting got worse. So after a few months of watching our wedding becoming more about their demands than our wants, I called my husband at work and asked if he wanted to get married, he said yes, so I told him to meet me at city hall. We got married by a judge and went to our favorite restaurant and had drinks and great food WE liked and danced to jukebox music. The next day we told our families we were married and their wedding won't be needed now. Lol needless to say we were not liked for awhile. Don't let the wedding planning dominate the real thing thats most important, your love and start of a new life for you both. Stay healthy, happy and safe always. Blessed be
I did the same thing. My mother was insisting on a huge event, with tons of people we didn't know, because she went to their kids wedding and wanted a "return on her investment. " I wanted immediate family only, & very low key. When we eloped, she had a huge meltdown, & kept going on about how I would regret that for the rest of my life. Nope!
Two months? TWO MONTHS? I had two ectopic pregnancies in 2021, I still have a hard time thinking about it. That woman already knew she would have been having a girl, damnit. It was already horrible as it was, but when she mentionened the time passed I loudly went "Woooooh!". Can't believe this. What a monster.
God *two ectopic pregnancies..* I am so incredibly sorry for your losses, rest assured your children are with you in spirit. You are a very very strong person
My grand-mother still had tears in her eyes at 95 years old when remembering the 6 miscarriages she had (She also had 10 kids). She died last year at 96. I lost my 4th baby 11 years ago (ectopic pregnancy with emergency surgery to save my life). The pain never goes away completely. You learn to live with it.
@@TheInvisibleCanadia nobody asked + at the same time people may have said it correctly but there's this wonderfully frustrating thing called autocorrect that ruins it.
I literally said that she should experience it herself. It may seem cruel to say but saying that isnt right. I am still a minor and I dont know any family members who suffured miscarriage but my blood is boiling
I'm single, but if anyone ever proposed at my wedding, I would announce my pregnancy at their bridal shower. Unless its APPROVED and PLANNED by the bride and groom, it's extremely disrespectful.
Saw a story where someone did exactly this but on their wedding day. Swapped out their petals throwing down the aisle with blue ones to announce their pregnancy with a baby boy after the woman had annnounced their engagement at their wedding. 🤣
@@sillywombat I remember seeing that story too. I also saw one where a brother was told not to propose at his brothers wedding (he'd announced other stuff at inappropriate times just to get attention because he couldn't stand it being on anyone else) and because they knew he wouldn't listen they hired an actress to pretend to be a pregnant misstress therefore ruining his relationship which with the impression they gave of how he acted his whole life felt like it was deserved.
The best wedding I've ever been to was the weirdest one imaginable. It was at a metal bar, a lot of people wore gas masks, we threw beans at the newly weds and my favourite metal band played at the wedding. Honestly, it was better than any other event I have ever attended
Just wondering, the gas masks, were they a reference to specific band by any chance? One of my favourite bands (Palaye Royale) is kinda big on gas masks (though I'm sure they're not the only one😁)
i went to a wedding a few years ago that was ON halloween and the dress code was “casual or in costumes” because they didn’t want anything fancy. my stepmom and father and i showed up in halloween costumes. it was great. both grooms were drunk and the officiant was their (also drunk) friend. best wedding ever
We did. My parents respectfully declined; and we agreed to hold a second ceremony just for them. The wedding was THROWN for us at a club. 500 people showed up. Including a few random brave coworkers and family. His daughter; my new daughter in law, showed up and was a beautiful, happy cheerful presence. (She knew exactly what she was getting into) We had a lovely ceremony and a fantastic party. You can't really incorporate. Have two separate weddings! A week later we had a small normal ceremony with just parents and siblings.
Yes, exactly. I don't agree with Click here, why wouldn't your own wedding be the right time and place? If that's an important part of the couples life and they want to incorporate that in their wedding - why not? As you said, if they tell the guests beforehand about any things that might make someone uncomfortable, then there's no problem :D
"It's not like you knew her" about a baby misconception now tops my list most horrible things to say to a person you are even acting like you care about.
as someone who has had a miscarriage, that interaction made me cry. i cant believe that there are people so heartless. mine happened super early and i barely even knew i was pregnant, but the grief and guilt and emotions afterwards still affect me now. i can't imagine how someone who had been planning and excited must feel, just to be met with such cruel words!!!
That's... That's just a disgusting thing to say to someone who just lost a baby. Like my Disgust is working on overdrive, worse than any gore I've seen. How can someone be so unempathetic or selfish?
@@Goldlucky13 I lost mine literally the day it would have shown up on the pregnancy test and it messed me up for a while. It takes a truly broken person to easily get over something like that. I can't even imagine.
People like that do not DESERVE to get married! I can't even IMAGINE what sort of unholy H-E-double hockey sticks that husband would've wound up going through! Just plain AWFUL AWFUL AWFUL!!!! I get that no one gets an instruction manual on how to treat others but there's a *bleeping* FINE LINE between "oopsies, didn't realize how rude that was" and just DELIBERATELY being a selfish, mean, over-entitled *bleep* show of a person...SICK F-! 😡😡😡😡
Regarding the cat/flower thing. Your cats can straight up die if they catch even a little Lilly pollen from your clothes. That's the only reasonable requested flower exclusion in my opinion
Yeah, everything about true lilies is toxic to cats even the water that’s in the vase with the plants. I think it causes fatal kidney failure or something within a few days in cats but it’s not toxic to people or dogs.
@@Aghul Someone might not know that, or just be doing a dark theme. And they're beautiful flowers, so some might not care about the meaning. They're also associated with Easter, and in Pagan traditions are a symbol of motherhood.
My favorite wedding story I saw on tumblr is about a gay wedding where the theme was to "Upstage the Bride" and the couple send everyone invitations with a few dress code rules, to make shure so it won't be just black and white, and few inspirations for the outfits. So the whole wedding venue consisted of colorful happy people with dashing outfits and sparkly make up. Costumes with patterns were there too! I found this really heartwarming and fun. (Couple themselves looked extremely gorgeous (≧▽≦) )
My BFF got married shortly after my brother died. We no longer live in the same country and I didn't tell her when it happened (she knew my brother when we were teenagers) because she'd just had a baby and was a month away from her long-planned wedding. When i saw her ahead of the bachelorette party I was legitimately worried about telling her because I thought she'd be upset that she wasn't able to be there for me at the time (because ocean, baby, wedding, other understandable life stuff) but I knew it would come up at the wedding. So I told her, we cried, we drank industrial quantities of Aperol, and it was lovely to be with my friend for her wedding weekend, even though I was a bit withdrawn. I can't imagine a real friend being so "all about me" as to not want a friend to celebrate with them even though they're hurting.
It’s so beautiful that all of the things standing against your friendship didn’t ruin it. I’m so glad that she could be there for you when you were ready for her, and you could be there for her too. I hope for many happy memories for you together. I’m sorry for your loss.
@@antonioscendrategattico2302 Actually, I loved my mother's wedding when she married my step father. I barely remember it, but I remember bits. It's all about parents being proper parents and teaching their children not to be brats.
I always liked weddings, and my family is so big on both sides that I've been to a lot, both as a child and an adult, and there's always kids around. I've even been to weddings with a separate kids table, though I've hated those with a passion because I never knew anyone. Never had a problem with kids at weddings, when you actually care about the people you're inviting, the occasional cry during the ceremony doesn't have to be a big deal. (also most parents will take the screaming child out of the church)
Meanwhile, my cousin specifically asked her one year old twin nephews to be the ones bringing the rings (of course their mom and grandma were holding the children , the rings were attached to their wrists with a ribbon) Yes, at some point during the ceremony one of them pooped himself and cried a lot. The priest had offered the sacristy as a changing room for the mom and children in case this happened (their dad, my other cousin, was the bride's best man, so he couldn't have changed the diapers). They have also cried a lot during dinner. Do you know who almost ruined her wedding? Me, after getting drunk and heavily depressed.
I had some serious rules for my wedding. 1) show up 2) dress kinda nice 3) have fun (4. get home safe) I think brides forget that it is to be a celebration not a performance.
Holy fucking hell. "Tell your SO I'll see him at the divorce party" is such a fucking raw comeback to someone saying shit like that. I'd threaten to go and MAKE the day about me, but no, she went "Oh I know your marriage is gonna crash and burn, and I'll be there with marshmallows, bitch."
@@crystalgemgirl731 That trash human being doesn't and never deserved a wedding. She doesn't even deserve happiness. I mean how dare she! How can you be such a garbage human being!
My mom refuses to acknowledge me as her son. I've been on T for a little over a year and a half now. And I'm pretty hairy. So when she introduces me as her daughter, people look at me surprised. I tell them that I'm her son, and she has dementia. If she wants to act crazy, I'll make her look crazy. 🤷🏼♂️
Just last night I was on video call with my parents who were visiting my brother. My mum asked my niece to "wave to your uncle". Umm, it's auntie... I've only been on E for less than 3 months, but I've socially transitioned well over a year ago.
I have never wanted to punch anyone harder than that bride who uninvited her friend who miscarried because she didn't "get over" having a LITERAL DEAD CHILD in two months.
having a miscarriage isn't just losing a child either. its having them die inside of you before you even get to see their face. i can't imagine how traumatic that must be.
I would love it. Just my humor. I can only imagine they really just want to have fun and not have any people there who care more about the looks and the 'proper customs' than about having fun and celebrating a day in your life. And if you weed out all the people without humor, you are guaranteed a better life. If I ever were to marry, I would probably send something similar. Anyone too proper to attend, would also not be fun there ;)
Same. That would be what the invites would look like if I ever got married. Minus the cursing, because have you ever tried cursing in front black parents? But I know why mom & literally every female on my mom's side would try to make it more like a "traditional" wedding. My dad's side of the family would frickin love it though. They do BBQ for Thanksgiving, and gave my dad a drone & a 3ft summer sausage for one birthday!
@@lonelyronin2428 I'm German. We don't believe in such a thing as bad words. Just bad usage. And if you call a cake a fucking cake nobody is hurt. So... it's no bad usage. Americans are weird.
The "texts for context" one is hilarious because the receipts make her look even worse. The texts have clear undertones of gaslighting and manipulation and then the bridesmaid responds way too nicely about the ear piercing.
I think I've actually seen pictures of the guy. Either he or his sister found the post, and shared the pictures. It's gotta be somewhere on r/Tumblr or r/CuratedTumblr.
My son died in 1991 after being born with a severely complicated heart defect. He was one year old and basically died of heart failure. Which is painful and lingering. I still mourn him. That story of the bride who excluded her friend because she lost her baby makes me see red. Glad she found our her friend was that self centered before she bought the gift or hopefully is able to return it.
I'm so, so sorry you went through that. I do hope that life since that tragedy has been better for you. And yeah, that bridezilla has no business sounds like a horrid waste of otherwise useful organic compounds.
My mom went through 11 miscarriages, so I know well and good hearing from her that it will always hurt to lose a child. The hurt may become easier to manage, but it never goes away. But I hope, at least, that your grief has become easier to manage. I hope that you're okay day to day, and I'm sending you my sincerest condolences for your loss
18:02 "it's not like you knew her" this is the moment that I would've resigned to telling everyone about my miscarriage...by creating a group chat of EVERY SINGLE PERSON invited to the wedding that I know (maybe if I was feeling extra that day I would call around trying to get EVERYONE'S phone number) and sending them screenshots of this conversation, thus ruining this bride's wedding day when nobody wants to attend. And the bride should be able to quickly get over it. I mean she hasn't even had the day yet. She didn't even know what the day was gonna be like. She should be able to just cry it off in about 30min and be done with it. Yeah, her wedding day is supposed to be about her but TODAY is about the lady with the miscarriage and how she was told the most vile shit over text so the bride should just suck it up. A baby DIED and this bride is out here crying about her wedding, taking attention away from more important matters. It's not about her today and nobody cares. I feel so bad for the lady who lost her baby. I hope she's doing better now ❤ Edit: omfg the fiancé cancelled the wedding after hearing about it. Mad respect for the fiancé for being a decent freaking person and having standards. 10/10 for ruining the bride's day
Yep, I was already typing that I would have made the Facebook announcement as requested... of my friendship with the bride being over, alongside the screenshots. But the satisfying ending was *chef's kiss*
I would love to be friends with Lie Detector girl and the Corona Wedding people. Not bc I think their company is worthwhile, but bc they sound absolutely INSANE and I thrive off of chaos 😂
@@Latency345 I think, "scapegoat," is probably a better term than, "victim." Though someone hired to deal with troublesome wedding guests is probably better described as, "The Babysitter." 😆
Speaking of weddings my best friend had one about 10 years ago, and her then sister (now brother) came out as trans and was kicked out by her parents. When she got married both her and her husband decided to stand with her Brother in solidarity, the bride switched into a tux and the groom into a dress and both walked down the isle while her brother stood in as best man, and her parents couldn’t say shit cuz they were in there church omg it was awesome
I feel like if I ever decide to get married I'd want my dress code to be something along the lines of, "something you love but don't get to wear often". I have so many outfits I absolutely love that aren't considered appropriate, or at least socially expected, in a lot of situations (I often wear them anyway but that's just me lol). Come in your ballgowns! Your sparkly leotards! Your cosplays! Heck, come in your fursuit if you want (just don't blame me if you boil lol). The only rule is to wear something you love and not be boring!
That sounds incredible!! I don't own any fancy clothing now, but years ago I got a really pretty dress for a school play, and I only ever wore it for my birthdays (me and my mom were afraid it would get dirty and I liked it too much) I would have loved to have an excuse to wear it more often!! (still own it, it just doesn't fit anymore).
Oh fuck yeah, I’m going to implement that at my wedding if i ever get married. And i’ll be wearing a modified and fancier version of venti’s archon outfit because it’s really pretty
Down with the cosplays unless they're too risque. I would personally nix any potential fur suits because outdoor in FL. Will not have any ER visits due to self inflicted heatstroke putting a damper on the day
"Instead of throwing the bouquet to all the single girls, she took apart her bouquet and handed each girl a flower," oh well that's nice, "and prayed with each girl, to WAIT ON THE MAN THAT GOD HAS FOR THEM." Ohhh, 😬 I would have hated that. Like... that's worse.
Yeah that was a “first half” situation. It started and I was like “oh why is in the video, that’s actually sweet” and then we got to the second half. Don’t need you to act like someone died because I’m single, thanks.
That bride would hate me. I can be impatient when pressed and don't want a relationship. And I refuse to procreate. Not asexual or aromantic, I just hate people & I'm not fit to raise any. I'll babysit, because eventually I can give the kid back. But I charge a "your kid's an asshole" tax if they act up a bunch. I would have given back the flower & said "I'm good".
The worst wedding I’ve ever attended was in her parents cramped living room, no decorations, no food, on the brides birthday. She cheated on him literally the day before. They’re still married somehow.
A friend of mine had to invite some really uncomfortable family members to the wedding so she gave her cousin a water gun, filled it a mix of red wine and vinegar and told him to spray anyone who dares to wear white. Let's just say that some people left the ceremony with more than tears on their faces...
Ok i understand the dress that that person wore but why white in general? If someone wears like a plain short white dress i dont see why that's a problem. Of course it also depends on the dress the bride is wearing
@@snap.-_- at someone's wedding, you don't wear white dresses. at all. no matter if short, long, simple, flowy or whatever. it is reserved for the bride (unless she requests otherwise). it can still be seen as a way to upstage her as white stands out a lot. also societal norms
I couldn't remember the specifics for the Polygraph Party bride but I remember seeing it on Tumblr so I tried looking it up again and it was WILD The bride wanted her guests to spend over $1,000 on their outfits so they could all do synchronized dancing on the beach. Outfit colors were based on the person's weight (women under 160 pounds had to wear a green sweater, orange pants, and red Loubotin heels, men under 160 needed a soda hat and a fuzzy purple sweater with white shoes, women over 160 were required all black, men over 160 needed all camo and black shoes). Even children weren't free from this nightmare - they had to wear all red since they were gonna make a heart shape in this mess of a dance somehow?? In addition to all this they needed to bring another outfit along so they could change into formal attire for reception after. Like, no shit someone posted that to shame the dress code, it's ridiculous!
Fat people get to wear clothes that makes them less visible and skinny ones get the most awful of bright colors? This probably looks awful in the color combinations anyway. And the idea is ver terrible anyway
If I remember correctly, the Polygraph Party story is actually a trilogy- there’s a third image, also leaked from the Facebook group, where the bride claims that she found the culprit. Clearly she did not
Okay I was like that’s all ridiculous than saw that if I’d been part my color scheme would be all black and I would love that but everything else sounds hideous
My friend got engaged at my wedding, we arranged the whole thing with her now husband. We asked permission and even helped with organising and some of the cost of the reception. If you want to propose at a wedding get permission, if you're close to the people, it may be allowed.
At my cousins wedding she acted like she would throw the boque? But it was like a fake throw, then she turned around and just handed one of the girls the buqueueueu. It was really cute
Feel ABSOLUTELY free to incorporate D/s into your wedding as long as everyone knows that sort of thing will be part of it so there aren't any consent issues among the guests. It has been done before and can be done very tastefully if you put some thought into it. Another option is to have a collaring ceremony separate from the wedding. This is a very popular option. I've heard of people who had fully packed days that included a Christian wedding, a pagan handfasting, a D/s collaring, some furry stuff, and all in a polyam context. It doesn't matter, it is up to you. LOVE WINS.
My aunt had a halloween themed wedding and while the ceremony was happening she had an area for all the kids it sit and play during the ceremony. There were a few adults taking shifts watching us during the ceremony. there were cupcakes with red icing and glass bowls full of candy corn. I specifically remember sticking my arm into a torch quickly enough to not hurt, and amazed my little cousins after doing it a few times. we even played tag, where I covered myself in red frosting and played, “murder tag” us kids had so much fun. I miss those days sometimes…
I was at so many weddings as a kid and I have never attended a wedding without children in my adult life. I honestly do not understand the reasoning behind this? They are usually quiet during the times when it's needed and have their own fun during the reception. They just run around outside, play with balloons and confetti, take funny pics with props and stuff their faces with cake until they pass out on a chair. Meanwhile the adults get smashed and basically do the same things?! I would be freaked out at a wedding without kids and automatically think the hosts are heartless. Like, do you even know how hard it can be for people to organize kids away so you and your partner can both attend?!
That sounds like every one had a good time and having an area for kids during the ceremony is a really good idea for the children that could be bored during it.
I genuinely needed a break from this video after the miscarriage one, the audacity from the bride in that one dude- I couldn’t even pull of a nervous laughter it’s just so selfish- she had the audacity to tell that poor woman she’s was the selfish one, basically telling her to get over it. Glad the husband found out.
Also that "no offense" thing... 🥴 That brought me one memory from highschool, and boy I probably never roled my eyes so hard. Hope that lady is not contact with that bride anymore, and the husband found out abou it...
Holy shit _same._ This video was randomly recommended to me right now and I noticed that I had started watching it at some point, but stopped at that exact post :')
My in-laws checked with me before our wedding to see if I would be okay with my husband's college mascot showing up as a surprise (he had no clue and they never told me if they managed to book him until he showed up at the reception so we were both surprised in the end) That created some of the most hilarious pictures in our wedding album! 😆
My first wedding was traditional, planned and executed by our families. It was beautiful and a pretty relaxed vibe. There was minimal drama and the reception was pretty short (and tbh boring). Because of our family religions, our ceremony and reception were in the church...so that meant no dancing, drinking, or outside music. I didn't have a bachelorette party, and spent what would have been a party making centerpieces for the reception the next day. My current husband had a similar first wedding. So, when our wedding came around we didn't want the super serious wedding full of stress and everyone else calling the shots. We had a 5 minute riverside service of "Do you?"...Yes... "Do you?"... Yes. "You may kiss the bride." Then we all stripped down to our bathing suits and had a floating reception. We had coolers of alcohol/food on tubes and we all just relaxed and partied on the river, while the kids swam/played around us. It was honestly one of the chillest weddings and receptions we've ever been to. A few of our friends and relatives decided to copy the theme and instead of doing a courthouse wedding, they chose to do the same. 😊 It just shows that the most important thing isn't how expensive or big your wedding is, it is about celebrating your love with your partner and the people you love the most. 🥰❤️
Love this!! This is one I will remember, in case one day I'm gonna get married. Never felt much for having a super serious, stressful, "everything needs to be perfect" kinda wedding. I wanna have a great day with people I love
@@chibigirl8545 so would I tbh lol. But, when you are young and not paying for it... it's much harder to stand up for things you want. 😅 Today I would never tolerate not being able to get toasty at my own wedding and dance till I drop. 😂❤️🫰🏻
Cliccy is right that men need more fashion options; there aren't many. But I also think men should take some of that confidence or even that stoicism they so proud of, and simply try... Oh, also, confidence goes a long way. It's how some guys get away with their stunts (like wearing a dress to a wedding.)
@@innocentbystander3317i sooo agree with more fashion options like even just other colors of suits and ties other than blue, gray, navy and black? like it kinda gets staleeeeeee
I very much appreciate men who can rock dresses, it's about the confidence. A man who can pull off that kind of look without hesitation is happy and secure in himself, and that's what we love to see
I've only attended to 1 wedding in my adult life and it was a bad timing, I was a single parent of a 4 months old on maternity leave so I had no money, was still breastfeeding ect... My friend was fine with the baby, told me to pay what I was able to, she just wanted me to come and honestly, that was one of the best day I had as a new mom! Baby in the baby carrier loved the attention we left the room for the few minutes she cried, ppl at my table who I didn't know gave me a hand for the buffet and the party was so fun even if I couldn't stay long. It's not hard to be a decent human being ffs (on both sides, I would've left if my kid was fussy and disturbing the ceremony)
I know that it's an inside joke but I know there are people who are gonna fantasize about it for real and make really creepy cringe fanfics. The internet is such a wonderful place.
My mom had a miscarriage in her first pregnancy, which could be my big sister and she still didn't get over it completely even though it happened 26 years ago and she has a child. So yeah, 6 months is not enough to get over such a tragedy.
5:34 hit me in the soul. So, 2009, my best friend died in a skiing accident. It was really traumatic for a lot of us, and as these kind of things do, makes people reflect on the people they have gotten out of touch with. My fiancé got back in touch with his former best friend, who was a girl. I asked just once, if he had had deeper feelings for her. He insisted they saw each other as siblings, and I decided to trust that as she became a part of his life again. (Kinda funny foreshadowing: her first dinner with us, I made lasagna but was out of casserole dishes so I had used my heart-shaped silicone cake mold. She used a sharp knife to get the lasagna out of the mold and cut up the silicone) A few years later, (we were still only engaged, not married, he wanted to wait until we could afford one) he started to get withdrawn and depressed and I tried to support him as much as I reasonably could, and encouraged him to go away for a few days, visiting her since she had moved to another city. I came over the weekend, and at one point had a heart-to-heart with her about how I was afraid that this depressive episode and hiw withdrawal attitude was the buildup to him breaking up. She insisted to me that we were soulmates and that was not gonna happen. Once he came back, he was still withdrawn. And a few days later broke up with me. I asked, again, if he had caught feelings for her, because statistically, men tend to break off relationships only when they have found someone new to latch on to and very rarely break up to remain single. He said this was for him, he wasn't interested in pursuiting a relationship with her. Two weeks after he had kicked me out of the apartment, he came over to my dad's house to pick up some stuff he had mislabeled as mine when we packed my stuff, and tried to coax out of me if I had made it official with this guy I was close to, whom he had encouraged me pre-breakup to have as a hallpass. I had not, because my focus then was at school, once I finished game dev, we would discuss it, but I was contemplating how I am as a person in relationships. That had been his attempt at softening the guilt over telling me he and that girl did get together, and at least letting me know through him instead of social media where they made it official later said evening. They got engaged about two months later, and had a wedding the next year, I dunno who of their parents paid but they had the reception in a castle. My sister was invited and she told me that the wedding speeches were so awkward for her and her hubby, sitting and listening to all these "they were always meant to be" and "they found each other again after having gotten out of touch", knowing the full story.
I've never really understood why people find weddings so important, and why I as a woman was supposed to consider it the peak of my life. I especially hate the obligation to pay thousands of dollars for a dress I'd never wear again. If I ever get married (which is a big if, since I kind of find marriage as a whole an outdated concept) I'm just gonna sign the papers in jeans lol
Imagine the people getting married with their favorite youtuber's merch! I can see it now, the bride walks down the aisle carrying the Emotional Support Demon as the groom holds a Septiceye Sam; the pastor hands them two VIP tickets to Hell where they shall rave and love in an all consuming fire. The pyres alight as Satan weeps for he's never been invited to a wedding and the lord of darkness is touched at this generosity, then comes Jesus with the wine trick b/c why not? Or something like that, I don't know, honestly surprised that hasn't become a trend yet; I heard of people doing the vows in their favorite band shirts (sweet in its own way and cost effective.)
The one where the bride didn't let her friend who had a mis-carriage come to her wedding since she is afraid that her friend would steal her spotlight just p-sses me off
I've seen the polygraph one before in it's entirety, she'd separated the guests into weight categories for different outfits, hence the explanation of 'the black represents bad' or whatever. They were also ridiculously expensive and specific outfits they had to wear and pay for themselves, grand easily. Some people are on another planet
I see the couple's point about how they have different customs in India, so people buy different outfits, but those outfits are more normal in India, so people wear them multiple times. Nobody wants to buy bizarre outfits to wear once unless it's high school prom or their own wedding.
Yea, the outfits specified designer brands like Burberry and Louis Vuitton. I remember specifically a scarf from Burberry and the famous red heels from Louis Vuitton. I'm glad that the bride got shamed because that has nothing to do with their spirituality and everything to do with making their guests feel awful.
@@sortal Yes! And besides that, there's no "culture" that demands fat people wear black and camouflage to weddings. In their bid for "you're being culturally offensive" they were culturally offensive for even comparing the two
41:25 My cousin did something really funny to prevent this. She got married in a winery cuz she knew nobody in my family would bring their little kids to a winery lol
I got married last year and it was the first wedding my brother had attended since his own. His wife died 10 days later and he took it really hard. At my wedding, he had a really hard time all day and during my first dance he started crying. One of my favorite aunts comforted him and missed the whole dance. Did I throw a fit about them missing it? No! Of course not! I went to check on him when it was done and made sure he was doing ok and let him have his moment. I even offered him some space if he wanted to be alone. I can't understand a bride wanting someone not to come after a traumatic event happened. I would only be there for that person more than before since I know things would be more difficult for them.
The "Pulled apart the bouquet and gave a flower to each single woman" part is great. I could honestly see myself doing that (if I ever marry). But the prayer portion? Ew. That is a huge "Yikes!" moment and a major red flag. So glad none of the weddings I have been to were like that.
My matron of honor's grandma was in a nursing home, so I let my matron take my flowers to the grandma to enjoy. We were moving across the country a few days after the wedding anyway, so might as well let someone enjoy them 😄
@@buchstaben-suppe I don't personally see it as sexist, if I know my guests would like to get married and aren't against prayers I see no wrong. From what I understand the bouquet toss is to say who'll get married next, for a Christian prayer is more intentional.
What if somebody just broke up? What if somebody (for whatever reason!) doesn’t want to broadcast their relationship status but also doesn’t want to lie/lie by omission? It’s sweet in theory. But it NEEDS to be talked about in advance.
If I had chosen Uber pool for my wedding transport, I would totally have taken wedding pics if our fellow travellers consented. It all adds to the beautiful chaos of life x
Yeah. Choose Uber pool, take pics with whoever else joins (if they consent), and hand out small gift bags to everyone, even if you didn't get a pic of them. Make your best day even better, by making strangers' days better.
I have a small wedding shame abt my mom's wedding. Her ex mother-in-law wore a silver dress that was so close to white it would be hard to tell. Truly a classic wedding shame
I say we, as the guests, start either booing these people outright or collectively pretending they don't exist, depending on the personality of the loser doing this. I'm so tired of people like this & their attention seeking entitlement.
@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 Red wine, a glass, an accidental bump into said people. Profusely apologize, while smearing it around more acting like you are trying to clean it up. There are people who will come to weddings with the sole purpose of doing this to anyone who is not being respectful at the wedding. Some you can pay, and some will come for a meal. It is nice to have a stranger do this as when it is all over, there is no family drama.
I saw this a kinda felt bad because I wore a silver dress to a wedding. granted, it was the first wedding I've been to and it was more of a sparkly peach than silver- so I think it was alright? no one mentioned it or looked at me strangely and my mom said it was fine- so- new fear unlocked lmao
I've seen videos of brides handing their bouquet to a bridesmaid instead of throwing it to all the non married women, while the bridesmaid's boyfriend approached to propose. It can actually be really sweet because it celebrates the bride's friendship with the other woman too. BUT it only works under specific circumstances. The bride would need to be really good friends with the other woman and her boyfriend, the guy should really be the one asking the bride if he can do that (I believe in the example in this video it was his mother asking? that's ridiculous) and there should be no hard feelings if she says no because it's not the sort of thing that would be special in all weddings. It really only works if it's a small wedding and most of the guests are friends with all four people (bride, groom, man proposing and his woman) because there's nothing quite so awkward as making strangers who are there to specifically celebrate a different couple cheer for a couple they don't know.
If I were getting married today, I would absolutely allow a child to wear a lion costume at my wedding, and would want at least one photo with the little tyke.
I would absolutely request all little kids to be dressed with ANY COSTUME that is their favorite, let the adults be all serious in their dresses and suits and let us beoverloaded with the absolute cuteness of the kids dressed in silly costumes they love
@@areswalker5647 yes!! I've gone around a church hosting weddings many times and I see kids bored out of their minds or trying really hard to stay still to not dirty their formal clothes, like 3 year olds, I kinda feel bad sometimes, they clearly don't understand what's going on (or simply don't wanna be there).
@@areswalker5647 This is such a good idea omg. It would have to include every kid tho, unlike the original post about how only one child would be dressed up. If you're going to include children, why torture them with frilly dresses and stiff tuxedos? It's such a fun way to involve the littlelens.
idk i wouldn't. i'd want a classy affair where the kids wear little traditional tuxedos and dresses. that said i won't go the binary route, if a boy child wants to wear a dress, i wouldn't question it i'd let him without an issue. if a little girl wanted to wear a brightly colored tuxedo i'd be more than down to find her one. however, animal circus costumes and other costumes at an event where everybody else including some other children that are wearing traditional wedding clothes is going to be a bit much and i'd put my foot down. but a lion costume at a classy event such as a wedding that will be memorable for the rest of my life i'd want a dress code with no funky costumes. the kid could wear a lion costume at my birthday party. not my wedding though, hell no. 😬ill allow it at any event but a wedding. even a funeral, yes even a funeral because it could spark joy on a horribly sad day. but not a wedding with a dress code for everyone and every child to follow, traditional dresses and tuxedos, men could even wear dresses and makeup and wigs but it has to be dresses and tuxedos, not animal costumes or halloween costumes or anything besides the simple theme. especially for wedding photos. 😒 especialllyyyyy wedding photos that could be used for some other big event like heck a divorce party, a kid could even wear a costume at the divorce party. still not the wedding photos thats just where i gotta draw the line. there has to be a line somewhere and im drawing it at wedding photos, because its an event where you're happy, you're in love, you're married, you want to look your best, dress your best, have your friends and family dress their best. take fabulous classy high standard wedding photos, without circus bombers. its the day to shine not the day to be a clown. have some class or any point in standards. 😶🌫
The bridezilla being braindead is worrying, but them also being x2 braindead is what gets me. Like... does she GENUINELY believe that making a MASSIVE public statement, right before the wedding. Would cause less drama than... not making it? Like, that makes a pipeline of "I'm sorry for your loss!" while the bride stands there, pikachu face.
That's so true! I also wonder about the future of a marriage where the wedding is All About the Bride. If she needs everything - absolutely everything - to focus on her and no one else, is the fiance just a prop for her Barbie moment? That's a load of unreasonable expectations. Will the everyday life that follows be a huge disappointment compared to the headful of Happily Ever After that's in there?
That's literally what I was thinking, by making it such a public statement she is forcing the attention on her. Everyone who knows her and who couldn't approach her privately before will be asking her (and her partner if she has one) if she's okay.
31:47 traditionally you have up to a full year after the wedding to give a gift. My mother almost always opts for a customized (engraved with names and wedding date) sterling silver ornament for the couple’s first Christmas tree to be sent the November following the wedding. She figures it is more meaningful than more dish towels. That said most people who do purchase from the registry don’t want to store that stuff for too long and will purchase maybe a month or so ahead, or go with a gift card for the place you were registered so you can grab what wasn’t purchased later. Or there’s my personal favorite, a nice fat giftcard to the local spice specialty store. Spices are expensive but having a rack of quality spices and seasonings makes meal prep easier and home cooked food so much tastier.
The plum dress was actually kinda spicy. I don't remember all the details but it started out as a r/AITA post. The marriage was between OP's brother(or maybe cousin? I dont quite recall). From the start, OP was being left out of the loop for all the wedding plans. She was out of state, attending college, and her only method to communicate about the wedding was via text. She had reached out to the bride dozens of times, trying to figure out what the right shade of purple was for the bridesmaid dresses. She never got a proper response and just had to wing it. Then when it turns out she actually got the wrong shade, the bride blows up and tells OP to fix it or she's not welcome at the wedding. But she had to wait until the last minute to get that dress and there wasn't time to get a new one. Poor OP was so stressed out of her mind that she was considering just not going(the wedding was also on the same day as her last final exam) and that's what she posted about to aita(iirc anyway. I couldn't find the op or the Charlotte Dobre vid that I heard about it from). She later learned that the bride was scheming to keep op out of the wedding from the start. When op told groom about it, he called off the wedding. There are probably details I'm forgetting but that's the gist of it.
Those poor goldfish. They are intelligent, social, and charming animals. They need large aquariums or ponds. I hate how abuse is so normalized when it comes to fish. Please excuse me as I tell Petie and Piper how much I love them.
Yeah goldfish are so misunderstood and I was already going to be mad at that post because of how often this happens with poor abused betta fish, which are also very sweet, personable critters when properly cared for, then I realized they somehow did something even worse. The ONLY saving grace with using betta fish instead is they're smaller, have a significantly smaller bioload and are labyrinth fish- which means they won't suffocate in five minutes in such cramped conditions or in stagnant water. That doesn't, however, excuse the fact that these people are animal abusers no matter which fish species they choose. Those poor baby giants probably didn't even survive until the end of the event, now imma go give my mostly white baby comet goldy some duckweed because dang, posts like that are just saddening so I think a great response is go love your own pets, counter this negativity with genuine care
So, and this may have been the case for the person/people who arranged that wedding, I don't really understand what's wrong with that one (I only had fish when I was little, so I don't really know that much about caring for them). The fish were clearly in water; how come they couldn't breathe?
@@hippienerd166 well the issue is that just being in water isn't the issue, fish release ammonia in their droppings and I believe it's also been said that they "sweat" it through their skin as well, which is why they need to be in a larger volume of water then their body mass because ammonia burns their skin and gills, basically like suddenly developing asthma and a bad sunburn at the same time. Also water may be chemically bonded H2O but as the oxygen is bonded to the hydrogen... They can't breath it. Bettas being labyrinth fish actually have a basic lung or lung-like organ that allows them to breath air, though they still can't live on land since their skin cannot retain moisture like ours can. Goldfish though, are not labyrinth fish and rely solely on their gills to filter unbonded, or dissolved oxygen from the water. This... Doesn't really work well in a very small space and some fish require a lot more oxygen then others, which means needing live plants and/or surface agitation from a powered device (usually a filter but bubblers do the same thing as well, just without the benefit of cleaning anything) and goldfish having one of the highest bioloads of any "tank" fish means they're really in trouble. Higher bioload means more ammonia put off by the fish, lower available oxygen and after hours of this, they'll be forced to gasping at the surface for air and their skin and scales will be agitated, I just really hope it's a few hours max because after longer then that, assuming they survive, they can start losing scales, their fins can start to melt and overall, it's painful. People really wanna put something alive and aquatic in such a small space, small shrimp species or smaller (often considered pest) snail species are far more forgiving as they don't produce as much waste or need as much space when you're not breeding them. That or, use small succulent plants, or better yet, stick to fake plants for decor, anything else but using a 1-3 month old fish fry when comet goldfish get well over 1ft and can live up to 30+yrs
@@discordiacreates6669 dang! Thanks for the explanation; I didn't know that! I guess they should have gone with some nice air plants or fake flowers and maybe a fake fish or two!
Gosh, my parents had goldfish in decent sized decorative bowls to decorate their wedding reception, but they like, actually made sure the fish were cared for, and set them up in a massive aquarium afterwards. They were my pets for the first like, 10 years of my life. Very cool fish.
Seeing Molly(Vampireapologist) appear in the wild was an absolute jumpscare, shes breached containment (Btw she and her broter have an LP channel called Gingersnaps!)
Oh, the wedding I just went to, the groom made a joke about weddings being expensive in his speech, so he was like "I'm starting an OnlyFans for the mrs", then had to clarify, "for non-family obviously, otherwise that would be a bit weird". The bride was simultaneously trying not to laugh and mega mad at him haha
18:20 If I was this person, I would ABSOLUTELY GO TO THE WEDDING just to PROJECT THE SCREENSHOTS ON A BIG SCREEN so that EVERYONE would see how HORRIBLE the bride really is. And I'm not usually the "revenge" type. That's how far this woman went.
Asking for the free catering is absolutely insane to me. I made my best friends wedding cake but they still paid for the ingredients which was around $130. The cake took me 30+ hours and turned out amazing. It was my gift to them and it saved them over $700. Had they bought the exact cake I made from a cake shop. But this was the thing I offered.
I've been to a couple--both of them were relatively calm and normalish. One took place outside in a flower garden with fancy little finger-food snacks, and everyone lined up to congratulate the groom and such. The other one took place in a planetarium during a show, so they could have a lovely starfield background, and they were both dressed as Klingons. 10/10, Trekkie weddings are the best. :)
been to one when i was 5. was pretty normal, even rehearsed it before (i was flower boy). of course, i was really young though so i dont remember too much about it.
If I had a trans brother and if I would care at all about having a wedding party (already married, at the magistrate and no party, loved it), I would so ABSOLUTELY love for him to wear a pink frilly dress just to say eff U to some people 🥰🥰🥰
Honestly, it probably gave him great gender euphoria to have a whole crowd wondering "Why is this beefy, bearded manly man in drag?". I would pay to see the look on the parents face when he walked in.
@@hugrunj It is! It more or less is the opposite of gender dysphoria, so when you get an overwhelming feeling of joy, confidence and security in regards to your gender identity and presentation. It is a very beautiful thing.
lmao the "no babies at the wedding" hits close to home, my uncle (mom's brother) and aunt got married when i was a few months old and apparently i just wouldn't stop crying during the ceremony to the point both my aunt and her mother got pissed off and my mom ended up having to leave and stay with me outside the church so they could continue without me annoying everyone, that led my dad to hold a grudge against my uncle for several years after that. lol tbh i get it, i wouldn't want a crying baby at my wedding ceremony either, that would certainly be annoying af
12:03 I was expecting it to be really serious about someone stealing the show. Instead I am treated to an adorable doggo doing her best to steal the show. You go girl!
I wanted a black/grey wedding dress. After months of searching every store with zero luck, my fiance convinced me it would be okay for me to spend 1/5 of our wedding budget on hiring a seamstress/designer to make my dream dress. I found a designer who was featuring a blue ombre wedding dress that matched the style I was hoping for (I just wanted back/grey instead of blue). Contacted her and things went well, worked with my budget (we still went OVER what I was hoping to spend), and designed a dress I was super excited about. A mix of black, tan, and white tulle going from dark at the bottom to white at the bust. I was so happy with the design, better than I'd hoped to ever get... Then the end times hit, so I only got a fitting with the initial mock up all in scrap fabric (typical for first mock up). I only got to see my dress about 1 week before the wedding. It was then that I found a FULLY WHITE dress. The designer had decided I "didn't look like a goth" so she changed the plans and only added a bit of black lace around the waistline. I paid 5x the price for a slightly nicer version of the dresses I'd been unsatisfied with at all the wedding stores and had no possibility to fix it.
@Rebypox it was a pay up front for materials and labor. I also didn't really have another choice, if I wanted ANY dress that would fit for my wedding, I had to take it because I had less than a week between when I got the white dress and my wedding date. Even if I wanted to, there wasn't enough time to find a replacement and get it altered to fit me properly.
If I ever got married, I'd want my wedding photos to be pure chaos. Literally I don't care if people show up in fursuits or dressed like Batman. I'm also a weird introvert and don't like being the center of attention, so if a bunch of my friends who happen to be furries just show up dressed like wolves so I have something to deflect attention off of me so I don't get overwhelmed, I think that would be great. 😅 I can't understand how people want so much attention on themselves to the point they see friends' tragedies or having a certain natural hair color as competition.
I couldn't afford a photographer so my dad handed 12 disposable cameras to the children in attendance. There's a hilarious sequence of pictures of a dead squirrel and me walking up on them to investigate/ yell at them to leave it alone. They also took some nice pictures, lol.
My wedding was tiny. Took place in a small office, where all 8 or so guests crammed in, sitting in folding chairs. I wore a $90 white dress meant for a prom. My niece, who was my only bridesmaid, wore a blue semi-formal dress I picked out. My husband wore jeans, a button down dress shirt, and his well-used work boots. My husband's only groomsman, his best friend since middle school, waved his truck keys at my husband as the ceremony was about to start and said "there's still time to run". All told, a grand total of $200 was spent, mostly on mine and niece's dresses. The rest was the payment for minister. I wouldn't change a thing.😊
Fantastic idea/story I saw on a Reddit video: This woman and her husband were getting married, and after begrudgingly getting a white wedding dress (she hated dresses but decided to wear one for her wedding, and the entire thing was mainly to get it over with because she hated the idea of a wedding) she learned that her MIL and three SIL's had gone back and ordered the same dress as her, and she knew they were planning to wear it to her wedding. So instead of confronting them, she went back to the store, returned the dress, and got a different beautiful purple dress with black trim. After doing that, she sent out the invite (excluding the in-laws, they had special invitations asking them not to wear white) inviting anyone who had a wedding dress that were sad about only getting to wear it once to wear it at THEIR wedding. So when the MIL and SIL's showed up at the wedding in their white gowns and perfect makeup, instead of standing out and stealing the show, they got absorbed into the crowd of people wearing their old wedding dresses while the bride and her husband looked amazing and were in the spotlight the entire night.
Funniest part is that they were mad at the bride in the first place for being an atheist, and the wedding included the bride showing up in the side car of a Harley Davidson, walking down the aisle to the Imperial March, jumping over a broomstick with her husband, and having all sorts of Pagan traditions. It was very much NOT a church wedding.
You forgot the bit where op befriended the priest who the MIL sent to schedule their "church" wedding and do premarital religious counseling. So he agreed to do a fake out of him being the officiant and was their DJ.
That's a 4d chess move right there ahahaha
Damn I wanna be that woman’s friend 😂
AAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!
@@WiseWordsbyWiki Oh yeah that too!
When you read the trans guy story, I thought the “just do it” from the sister was a “oh my god, just listen and do what you’re told”. Now, I’m realising it was more a “YES! This is going to be the funniest thing ever. Imagine the looks of their faces!”. 😂
It was a GLORIOUS example of Malicious Compliance. Nice that he got his sister's blessing to troll their parents.
Best sister!
Do you have a timestamp?
I love this story, though I've heard it several times.
I'm a trans woman, so I understand his situation. As long as he was comfortable doing it for a laugh...
My parents don't exactly accept me being trans, though they won't disown me. They put up with me wearing my choice of clothes when I visited them last year, even a cocktail dress at a big family party.
I do have friends who are in worse position. Some have been disowned (or threatened to) by their families, or thrown out (including a 19yo trans masculine non-binary).
@@dancingwiththedead6764this is late, so you might have seen it already, but for anyone else who wants it: @10:00
"it's not like you knew her" BRO THAT WAS HER LITERAL BABY?? HER CHILD???
my best friend got married in october, so naturally the wedding was halloween-themed. but she's also a fan of actually having fun, so it was ACTUALLY a halloween party. Everyone came dressed in costumes (including the whole wedding party), there was fun-size candy on all the tables, and we played a huge game of Werewolf after dinner. I mean *actual* costumes, too, not like "I wore a cape over my suit" but literally part of the wedding procession were in inflatable Patrick Star costumes. they went outside to film the Battle of the Patricks at some point, it was a highlight. best event ive ever been to.
Bro that’s awesome 😭
Well I know what I’m doing when I get married
So this is what my parents mean when they say "weddings are the most important day of your life"
Inflatable Patrick's battling is most definitely the best day ever-
The kids can "Trick or Treat" at all the tables!!! 🥺😱🥰
@@chibigirl8545 even better, there were no kids allowed. youngest present was I think in their preteens/teens, and they were the Patricks XD
In an age of Bridezillas, the girl who actively encouraged using her own wedding as an avenue to troll her parents deserves an award.
Waiting for someone to misread Bridezillas as Brazillians
@@angryliz i already did-
@@angryliz I did and as an Brazilian I got triggered
Not sure which one you’re speaking of. Was it the “everyone wear your wedding dress” one?
@@angryliz And here I misread Brazilians as Bratzillas, which was a witch themed doll line. I am maybe too tired right now.
About the goldfish.
My middle school prom did the exact same thing. They bought a bunch of small fish and put them in little jars on tables. When they died, they replaced them with more small fish they had in a bucket in the teacher's lounge. I'd estimate the death count totaled to 20-30. They were going to flush the survivors.
I took the remaining live small fish, all eight of them, home with me that night. They lived 3 years, and that's 3 years longer than their lost comrades. The lives taken that day will not be forgotten.
Respect for you dude
I always feel so bad for fish. Most people make fun of them for being stupid but those idiots probably have a shorter attention span than the fish, what with tiktok, anyway
A similar thing happened when I was in middle school too, but on a much smaller scale, thankfully. We had a science fair, and I don't even remember what my own project was, but one of my classmates made one of those baking soda + vinegar volcanos, and he put a little plastic pond at the base of the volcano to make it into a scene. He also had two goldfish swimming around in it. He didn't win the science fair, and got so pissed off about it that he said he was going to flush the fish, so I asked him if I could have them instead.
No no no just no. That's SO bad... Poor fishes. Thank you for saving those poor lives 🙏🥺
Good on you for saving those poor fish, but now I'm just imagining your parent's reactions. Like you drop off your kid for a middle school prom and they come back with 8 fish in jars 😂
16:45 my sister literally made sure that the venue for her wedding had a separate room for me to go calm down if I got overwhelmed or panicky. That’s how you deal with someone coming to your wedding who might have big emotional issues. Not telling them to either get over it or not go
That's actually amazing
That's so amazing! Your sister is an amazing person!
That's so sweet,you have a great sister
Exactly! Having a safe space is a good idea at any large event, and rejecting people and forcing them to be isolated in times of grief is just outright cruel.
That’s beautiful to hear, more sisters should be this lovely ❤
Wedding party rules: You do not get to ask them to do anything to their appearance that cannot be undone by the next day.
Pretty good rule, except I would like to change it up a bit: it is fine to ask if they are ok with going further, but they are very much allowed to say no. Be clear about that second part so they don't feel forced.
Granted, you are also allowed to say that it is a requirement for taking the role of whatever crazy marriage roles ppl have to play in marriages ("[...] of honor"?), because themes at parties are a thing... But expect it to be very hard to find someone who want to play that role then.
And on the other side of such a situation, if someone does tell you it is a requirement, know that it is perfectly fine to decline the role then. If they are worthwhile friends you will obviously still be invited and no tough feelings will have been had - on either side. Their party/ceremony, so let them make it go however they wish (some ppl want certain relationships in specific roles, but others want aesthetics. Respect both sides!). The only thing they *can't do is **_who_** is involved with which part,* and if no friend is willing then they either need to give up on that idea or hire their own ceremonial staff (who also have to be ok with it).
The main issue with interpersonal relationships (beside misunderstandings) are always expectations. Specifically mismatching expectations. Let ppl do what they wish. Don't expect them to offer and modify a role you otherwise wouldn't fit. Don't expect others to conform to a role you prepared for them.
The piercing one was extra wild though, as clips can look anyway you want. Hell, she could have gotten the exact piercings she liked, handed them to a goldsmith to modify them into clips, and gotten clips that look exactly as she desires.
TL;DR
ppl can ask for whatever they wish, and even demand anything they want from ceremonial roles, that's fine. They just cant demand a specific person to then also *fill/accept* the ceremonial role in question. If they are worthwhile friends they will happily accept rejections when asking about someone's willingness, and said friend will happily accept that the role has a requirement they don't fit and reject the request on that basis.
Also, clips can have any design, lol.
Good rule of thumb 👍
2 additions IMO:
1. If you pay for it.
2. Respect sincere personal boundaries and health issues. Allergies, requiring glasses, religious etc.
Personally, I'd say it depends on the person, the degree of the change, and whether the guests can also make demands from the couple.
Like, if the bride agrees to green hair, I'm losing the ponytail.
So you can't ask men to be clean shaven. 😂
@@taliabutton1593 Definitely not! I can't imagine that crossing my mind, actually.
The term "shotgun wedding" refers to a wedding where the bride is pregnant and her father threatens the groom with either a wedding or what comes out of his shotgun.
TLDR: You go through with it or this will go through you
TL:DR Christian southern americans in a shotgun-shell
@@paulglandorf4858 its a seriously messed up concept but i have to applaud the pun
Omg I accidentally disliked the initial coment, don't know if you get notifications for dislikes but sorry for that anyway!
Btw is the 'shotgun wedding' thing for real?? It's my first time seeing this and I just thought it was a bit oddly specific at first lol😆
@@ΚωνσταντίναΠετρίδου-μ1π It was more of a thing before DNA testing, child support and welfare for unwed mothers. Back when she would face social stigma and financial ruin if she didn't get married before the baby was born.
@@ΚωνσταντίναΠετρίδου-μ1π It's not necessarily a literal shotgun, I've heard threats of getting authorities involved.
As to the segment of the video where the bride and groom had shotguns, they are mostly likely both hunters. 🤷
I read an article about a “professional bridesmaid” who would get hired by brides to basically make sure everything went well and occasionally break up fights or tell overly opinionated family members to shut the f up. It’s a thing and it’s my new dream job
…and it sounds like a reason to not even have weddings anymore, if they've become that horrible.
ill deadass hire you /hj
ill deadass hire you (remind me in 10 years)
@@chestio3488 remind me to remind you
@@strawberrymilkshake9993 I will remind you to remind me in a bit!
important note on that dress code story at 24:56 - major part of the backlash was the dress code being based on guest's weight. women over 160lbs/men over 200lbs were expected to wear the black/camo to "represent the bad energies" iirc? not to mention, women under 160lbs were expected to wear loubotin red heels and a burberry scarf (both very expensive brands from several hundred to over a thousand each) she also stated in her original post they expected everyone to drop at LEAST $1,000 on their own outfits
"Tell (groom) I'll see him at the divorce party" was SUCH a good answer, I'm impressed she came up with that in such an emotional situation, after the bride was so horrible to her.
I cannot believe someone would ever say this… SHE HAD A F*CKING MISCARRIAGE?
She was literally invalidating her trauma and sadness over the death of her child, f*cking hell…
@@MandaraminuI'm relieved that they didn't get married in the end.
Thank goodness she got back on that gaslighting narcissistic b*tch by sharing this conversation with everyone. She really saved the groom from making a terrible mistake. I feel so bad for OP. Having a miscarriage is one of the most traumatic things that could happen in life and some people never get over it. This so called friend is an absolute piece of trash and deserved getting the wedding canceled
@@MandaraminuI agree but ppl are acting like these are bad wants, it's normal and fine to exclude someone from your wedding when you know all that will be talked about/focused on will be a sad thing. But holy sh she was super rude about it, I appreciate the honesty but yikes
Honestly, how did the groom even want to marry her in the first place. I guess she doesn't normally act that way saying that they had a friendship (the two in the texts) and that was how it ended.
At this point Click is like a gen z dad
-supports people no matter their orientation, identity, etc.
-is really good with memes
-makes dad jokes but also makes everything funny
-is a furry
That last point is very important
I love how the last one was behind "show more" for even more dramatic effect.
Especially the last one.
What do you all mean? He is DEFFINETLY not a furry. He didnt even make a single furryIRL vid :)
He’s not a furry? He’s not made any furry content
We went to a wedding once. They used fish bowls with goldfish as center pieces. At the end, we overheard the bride tell the people cleaning up to just throw the fish in the trash if no one took them home. Needless to say, we adopted about a hundred goldfish that day.
I'm not sure which I should be more shocked by, the fact they used freaking animals as wedding decorations, or the idea of just,, throwing them away. I mean that's a horrifyingly massive waste of life for a day long ceremony for some tack-ass aesthetic.
Thank you. Dead serious - you made the world a little better. Tiny souls count too.
Goldfish live a long time if they are cared for properly. They are pretty, social and generally easy to look after. Oxygen, clean water, space and food. And relaxing to watch. I used to have Axolotl and they are also funny and easy to keep.
@@adelucas4824 yeah. These were just the inbred, feeder goldfish, so they had a lot of issues when they got bigger. Like bent backs, their swim bladders going bad, their tails twisting in bad ways. We had to euthanize most of them when they got older because there was just no way to fix what they had wrong. But we got a couple of huge 100 gallon tanks, stands, all the bits and bobbles. That was back when we worked 80+ hours at a grocery store and made good money. So we gave them everything we could. They were the best fish too. Super smart.
@@ameliasellers6396 both. Just both
I lost my baby in June and still can't seem to not keep his little urn with me always. The bride telling her friend who lost their baby to announce the loss or not come deserves a high five to the face and lemon juice to the eyes. Grief is different for everyone, I hope Momma is doing alright 💜
So sorry for your loss ❤️ I miscarried in December ‘22. It took me like two weeks to even tell my own mother and I’m still not ok about it. I cannot believe the behavior of this vile woman treating her friend like that 😞
❤
@@katcheers8886 I'm so sorry for your loss, and for the delayed reply. I understand, I had a weird mix of not wanting to speak about it and wanting everyone in the world to grieve the loss of my Robert. One minute not shutting up about it, the next not speaking at all. I hope your heart is finding a bit of peace, and I'm here if you ever need someone to listen.
♥️🫂
I'm sorry for your loss 💔😔
*Wedding hack:*
Have your own private wedding with just you and your partner BEFORE the ceremony. Then nothing could ruin that day for you, since it's already happened. Jim and Pam were smart.
Pretty what my husband and I did. We had a private handfasting ceremony in the forest we had our first date just the two of us and then went to the city hall to sign our papers. We didn't have the proper ceremony yet as my family lives spread across Russia and Germany and his across Norway and the US. Getting everyone in one spot will be rough so we're taking our time.
@@DM-nw5lu Woah that’s actually cool, congrats to you both!
My friend did this with her husband. Genuinely solid advice.
They were! It sucks people have to do it that way though. So many guests see weddings as for them and not the people getting married
10000% doing that already with my fiance. Getting a quick city hall wedding then an informal party at a later date.
My dad hates those boring suits so all he owns have bright colours, fun patterns, and fun details. Im so proud of him
he's got it all figured out
That sounds awesome
Nice. Being normal is overrated.^^
My boyfriend genuinely doesn't care but I feel like putting him into brocades
I want a black suit with a long jacket with blood red lining
Ive been married for 50+ years. When my husband's family and mine got together we witnessed a major fubar. The first meeting was a nightmare and each following meeting got worse. So after a few months of watching our wedding becoming more about their demands than our wants, I called my husband at work and asked if he wanted to get married, he said yes, so I told him to meet me at city hall. We got married by a judge and went to our favorite restaurant and had drinks and great food WE liked and danced to jukebox music. The next day we told our families we were married and their wedding won't be needed now. Lol needless to say we were not liked for awhile. Don't let the wedding planning dominate the real thing thats most important, your love and start of a new life for you both. Stay healthy, happy and safe always. Blessed be
I did the same thing. My mother was insisting on a huge event, with tons of people we didn't know, because she went to their kids wedding and wanted a "return on her investment. " I wanted immediate family only, & very low key.
When we eloped, she had a huge meltdown, & kept going on about how I would regret that for the rest of my life.
Nope!
Kudos, you both are absolute legends
That sounds wonderful! Glad you stood up for yourselves :) All the best to you two!
Good for you two 👏🏻👏🏻
Blessed be you dear hearts!
Two months?
TWO MONTHS?
I had two ectopic pregnancies in 2021, I still have a hard time thinking about it.
That woman already knew she would have been having a girl, damnit.
It was already horrible as it was, but when she mentionened the time passed I loudly went "Woooooh!". Can't believe this. What a monster.
2 ectopic pregnancies? Damn, stay alive my girl
God *two ectopic pregnancies..*
I am so incredibly sorry for your losses, rest assured your children are with you in spirit. You are a very very strong person
@@immagical7036 Thank you, that's very kind of you to say.
@@adchoalulle387 No problem. I hope you enjoy life
That's a perfectly normal time to greive. (3 years, not 2 months). I'm so sorry for your loss and I hope things get better in the future.
I lost a baby 15 years ago and I can tell you the pain never goes away that bride is completely heartless.
I'm sorry for your loss, I hope you had someone to be here for you... and yes, she is an horrible person...
Lost my firstborn back in 2016. Yeah. it will never go away and now I am terrified for the incoming rage
And I feel the rage. Wow that bride. Yeah I'm glad she's being blasted cause wow the lack of human decency...
I feel for you. lost a baby in 2004… 6th November…. I shall never forget that day. The pain takes time to ease.
Whata vile person 😢
My grand-mother still had tears in her eyes at 95 years old when remembering the 6 miscarriages she had (She also had 10 kids). She died last year at 96. I lost my 4th baby 11 years ago (ectopic pregnancy with emergency surgery to save my life). The pain never goes away completely. You learn to live with it.
I like how the click gives one topic a really deep voice. Like it’s any deeper than the click irl lol
What does this mean?
and one topics voice is actually quite high pitched irl lmao or at least the way he talks is in the higher range
“You didn’t even know her” I’m gonna be sick.
Thank god the fiancée found out and called the wedding off
The feeling is mutual. Karma is sweet. I noticed that you have an Animal Crossing profile picture, you play?
fiancée is female, fiancé is male.
@@TheInvisibleCanadia nobody asked + at the same time people may have said it correctly but there's this wonderfully frustrating thing called autocorrect that ruins it.
I literally said that she should experience it herself. It may seem cruel to say but saying that isnt right. I am still a minor and I dont know any family members who suffured miscarriage but my blood is boiling
@@TheInvisibleCanadia thank you, i didn't know there was a spelling difference till now
I'm single, but if anyone ever proposed at my wedding, I would announce my pregnancy at their bridal shower. Unless its APPROVED and PLANNED by the bride and groom, it's extremely disrespectful.
THANK YOU! It wasn't even about love or timing, they just wanted to upstage the bride and groom.
Saw a story where someone did exactly this but on their wedding day. Swapped out their petals throwing down the aisle with blue ones to announce their pregnancy with a baby boy after the woman had annnounced their engagement at their wedding. 🤣
@@sillywombat I remember seeing that story too. I also saw one where a brother was told not to propose at his brothers wedding (he'd announced other stuff at inappropriate times just to get attention because he couldn't stand it being on anyone else) and because they knew he wouldn't listen they hired an actress to pretend to be a pregnant misstress therefore ruining his relationship which with the impression they gave of how he acted his whole life felt like it was deserved.
I genuinely do not get this. Like fr... why is any of this important...?
@@antonioscendrategattico2302 what do you mean by that?
The best wedding I've ever been to was the weirdest one imaginable. It was at a metal bar, a lot of people wore gas masks, we threw beans at the newly weds and my favourite metal band played at the wedding. Honestly, it was better than any other event I have ever attended
That sounds awesome.
That’s fucking cool
Love this. Dunno why people are so, ahem, _married_ to traditional weddings.
Pachelbel's Canon in D is tired, y'all, let it sit down for a minute.
Just wondering, the gas masks, were they a reference to specific band by any chance?
One of my favourite bands (Palaye Royale) is kinda big on gas masks (though I'm sure they're not the only one😁)
@@SpaghettyLuvsU The pun, it hurts, but it's so good :D
Fun fact about geese: Goose is actually the term for female geese, male geese are called ganders
Ooh that's actually really cool I didn't know that!
are you saying a goose can be gander fluid?
@@craving7007 I hate you
But that’s amazing
@@The-one-and-only-Fruitcake No one hates me as much as I hate myself, fool
No the correct term is Gooses. Do you even English?
i went to a wedding a few years ago that was ON halloween and the dress code was “casual or in costumes” because they didn’t want anything fancy. my stepmom and father and i showed up in halloween costumes. it was great. both grooms were drunk and the officiant was their (also drunk) friend. best wedding ever
If you have a BDSM wedding, just be sure to warn everyone so they are clear about what they’ve consented to 😅
also to not bring their children :"]
that'd be one fun conversation in the car ride home-
The safe word is hopscotch
@@joeribaars5481 like this Rick and Morty episode with evil Rick lmaooo
We did. My parents respectfully declined; and we agreed to hold a second ceremony just for them. The wedding was THROWN for us at a club. 500 people showed up. Including a few random brave coworkers and family. His daughter; my new daughter in law, showed up and was a beautiful, happy cheerful presence. (She knew exactly what she was getting into) We had a lovely ceremony and a fantastic party. You can't really incorporate. Have two separate weddings! A week later we had a small normal ceremony with just parents and siblings.
Yes, exactly. I don't agree with Click here, why wouldn't your own wedding be the right time and place? If that's an important part of the couples life and they want to incorporate that in their wedding - why not? As you said, if they tell the guests beforehand about any things that might make someone uncomfortable, then there's no problem :D
"It's not like you knew her" about a baby misconception now tops my list most horrible things to say to a person you are even acting like you care about.
as someone who has had a miscarriage, that interaction made me cry. i cant believe that there are people so heartless. mine happened super early and i barely even knew i was pregnant, but the grief and guilt and emotions afterwards still affect me now. i can't imagine how someone who had been planning and excited must feel, just to be met with such cruel words!!!
That's... That's just a disgusting thing to say to someone who just lost a baby. Like my Disgust is working on overdrive, worse than any gore I've seen. How can someone be so unempathetic or selfish?
I fucking gasped
@@Goldlucky13 I lost mine literally the day it would have shown up on the pregnancy test and it messed me up for a while.
It takes a truly broken person to easily get over something like that. I can't even imagine.
People like that do not DESERVE to get married! I can't even IMAGINE what sort of unholy H-E-double hockey sticks that husband would've wound up going through!
Just plain AWFUL AWFUL AWFUL!!!! I get that no one gets an instruction manual on how to treat others but there's a *bleeping* FINE LINE between "oopsies, didn't realize how rude that was" and just DELIBERATELY being a selfish, mean, over-entitled *bleep* show of a person...SICK F-! 😡😡😡😡
I attended a wedding at a furry convention once. The convention's chairman officiated it, the couple were in fursuits. It was cute.
That sounds amazing! And talk about expensive wedding outfits! 😂
Wtf.
Not really a furry myself, but I'd absolutely attend that wedding if invited. Sounds like a blast!
I would love to see that
@@samanthaf4851 No one asked you-
Regarding the cat/flower thing. Your cats can straight up die if they catch even a little Lilly pollen from your clothes. That's the only reasonable requested flower exclusion in my opinion
I wil remember this... if I ever get married, or a cat😭
Yeah, everything about true lilies is toxic to cats even the water that’s in the vase with the plants. I think it causes fatal kidney failure or something within a few days in cats but it’s not toxic to people or dogs.
Tbf .... why would anyone put lilies at a wedding? Those are considered flowers for the dead.
@@Aghul Someone might not know that, or just be doing a dark theme. And they're beautiful flowers, so some might not care about the meaning. They're also associated with Easter, and in Pagan traditions are a symbol of motherhood.
@@Aghul lilies have several associations. It also varies by culture.
My favorite wedding story I saw on tumblr is about a gay wedding where the theme was to "Upstage the Bride" and the couple send everyone invitations with a few dress code rules, to make shure so it won't be just black and white, and few inspirations for the outfits. So the whole wedding venue consisted of colorful happy people with dashing outfits and sparkly make up. Costumes with patterns were there too! I found this really heartwarming and fun. (Couple themselves looked extremely gorgeous (≧▽≦) )
im DESPERATE to know how they all looked 🥹🥹🥹
@@Laced_With_Acid Oh yes! I’d love to know what everyone looked like as well.
I’d love to see how everyone looked! That sounds awesome!
That sounds like it was fun.
Hell yeah! Now I wanna read it
My BFF got married shortly after my brother died. We no longer live in the same country and I didn't tell her when it happened (she knew my brother when we were teenagers) because she'd just had a baby and was a month away from her long-planned wedding. When i saw her ahead of the bachelorette party I was legitimately worried about telling her because I thought she'd be upset that she wasn't able to be there for me at the time (because ocean, baby, wedding, other understandable life stuff) but I knew it would come up at the wedding. So I told her, we cried, we drank industrial quantities of Aperol, and it was lovely to be with my friend for her wedding weekend, even though I was a bit withdrawn. I can't imagine a real friend being so "all about me" as to not want a friend to celebrate with them even though they're hurting.
I'm glad to hear that you and your friend got to mourn your brother. I'm sorry for your loss.
It’s so beautiful that all of the things standing against your friendship didn’t ruin it. I’m so glad that she could be there for you when you were ready for her, and you could be there for her too. I hope for many happy memories for you together. I’m sorry for your loss.
There's so many issues with bad parenting at weddings that "no kids" is just becoming the norms for wedding attending rules.
The kids will be very grateful.
@@antonioscendrategattico2302 Actually, I loved my mother's wedding when she married my step father. I barely remember it, but I remember bits. It's all about parents being proper parents and teaching their children not to be brats.
@@BrokensoulRider I'm glad that was the case, me, I was always bored out of my skull at that kind of events.
I always liked weddings, and my family is so big on both sides that I've been to a lot, both as a child and an adult, and there's always kids around. I've even been to weddings with a separate kids table, though I've hated those with a passion because I never knew anyone. Never had a problem with kids at weddings, when you actually care about the people you're inviting, the occasional cry during the ceremony doesn't have to be a big deal. (also most parents will take the screaming child out of the church)
Meanwhile, my cousin specifically asked her one year old twin nephews to be the ones bringing the rings (of course their mom and grandma were holding the children , the rings were attached to their wrists with a ribbon)
Yes, at some point during the ceremony one of them pooped himself and cried a lot. The priest had offered the sacristy as a changing room for the mom and children in case this happened (their dad, my other cousin, was the bride's best man, so he couldn't have changed the diapers). They have also cried a lot during dinner.
Do you know who almost ruined her wedding?
Me, after getting drunk and heavily depressed.
I had some serious rules for my wedding. 1) show up 2) dress kinda nice 3) have fun (4. get home safe) I think brides forget that it is to be a celebration not a performance.
I love how Get home safe is in brackets as if it's optional xD
Alternatively you CAN crash and burn, I wouldn't reccomend it but it is an option
@@toolatetothestoryyep,like Icarus before, it’s an option,not a pleasant option, but certainly an option,lmao! Have a nice time zone!
Holy fucking hell. "Tell your SO I'll see him at the divorce party" is such a fucking raw comeback to someone saying shit like that. I'd threaten to go and MAKE the day about me, but no, she went "Oh I know your marriage is gonna crash and burn, and I'll be there with marshmallows, bitch."
From what I heard, the groom found out about what she did and broke it off, no wedding.
@@crystalgemgirl731 That trash human being doesn't and never deserved a wedding.
She doesn't even deserve happiness. I mean how dare she! How can you be such a garbage human being!
@@ambersimon9659 Ikr?
@@crystalgemgirl731 I'd certainly hope that any partner would react that way
@@solsystem1342 Indeed.
My mom refuses to acknowledge me as her son. I've been on T for a little over a year and a half now. And I'm pretty hairy. So when she introduces me as her daughter, people look at me surprised. I tell them that I'm her son, and she has dementia. If she wants to act crazy, I'll make her look crazy. 🤷🏼♂️
Works for me. I had a friend who also went through this. 😂 It did make his mom look crazy. Congratulations on your journey. ❤🏳️⚧️❤
Just last night I was on video call with my parents who were visiting my brother. My mum asked my niece to "wave to your uncle". Umm, it's auntie...
I've only been on E for less than 3 months, but I've socially transitioned well over a year ago.
OMG that's amazing I love that
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Edit: to all the people I made mad I was trolling chill 😂
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I have never wanted to punch anyone harder than that bride who uninvited her friend who miscarried because she didn't "get over" having a LITERAL DEAD CHILD in two months.
having a miscarriage isn't just losing a child either. its having them die inside of you before you even get to see their face. i can't imagine how traumatic that must be.
Bro when I read "You didn't even know her" I just stopped. How do you say that to someone who last their baby?
Yeah, samesies. She's an attention seeking human trashbag.
Yeah, she really could've phrased it differently...
Yeah, I'm a Grade-A asshole and even I'm over here going 'Holy Shit, dude!'
I would absolutley go to the “classy” abusive wedding invite, just to watch the chaos
I would love it. Just my humor. I can only imagine they really just want to have fun and not have any people there who care more about the looks and the 'proper customs' than about having fun and celebrating a day in your life. And if you weed out all the people without humor, you are guaranteed a better life. If I ever were to marry, I would probably send something similar. Anyone too proper to attend, would also not be fun there ;)
Same. That would be what the invites would look like if I ever got married. Minus the cursing, because have you ever tried cursing in front black parents? But I know why mom & literally every female on my mom's side would try to make it more like a "traditional" wedding. My dad's side of the family would frickin love it though. They do BBQ for Thanksgiving, and gave my dad a drone & a 3ft summer sausage for one birthday!
I would do the same if I wasn't anxiety ridden, but it does sound like a good show for popcorn!
@@lonelyronin2428 I'm German. We don't believe in such a thing as bad words. Just bad usage. And if you call a cake a fucking cake nobody is hurt. So... it's no bad usage. Americans are weird.
The "texts for context" one is hilarious because the receipts make her look even worse. The texts have clear undertones of gaslighting and manipulation and then the bridesmaid responds way too nicely about the ear piercing.
9:15 okay, this "trans man has to wear a dress at my wedding" story is fucking hilarious to me, it's definitely the best one I've heard so far.
Yeah, same. A glorious example of Malicious Compliance.😂
I think I've actually seen pictures of the guy.
Either he or his sister found the post, and shared the pictures.
It's gotta be somewhere on r/Tumblr or r/CuratedTumblr.
Holy shit he's hot Jesus christ
Edit: just realized the thumbnail was NOT of the guy in question 😭
If my parents make me go to a wedding and wear a dress once I'm an adult (and hopefully on T) so I can do this cause this'll be fucking funny
@@TransGamerFemboyforce all men to wear dresses at weddings
My son died in 1991 after being born with a severely complicated heart defect. He was one year old and basically died of heart failure. Which is painful and lingering. I still mourn him. That story of the bride who excluded her friend because she lost her baby makes me see red. Glad she found our her friend was that self centered before she bought the gift or hopefully is able to return it.
I'm so very sorry for your loss. That has got to be the worst kind of pain. Sending hugs :( 🫂
I'm so, so sorry you went through that.
I do hope that life since that tragedy has been better for you.
And yeah, that bridezilla has no business sounds like a horrid waste of otherwise useful organic compounds.
My mom went through 11 miscarriages, so I know well and good hearing from her that it will always hurt to lose a child. The hurt may become easier to manage, but it never goes away. But I hope, at least, that your grief has become easier to manage. I hope that you're okay day to day, and I'm sending you my sincerest condolences for your loss
The fiance of the wedding found out about it and cancelled the wedding after learning what that bride said
That's awful, so sorry for your poor baby.
18:02 "it's not like you knew her" this is the moment that I would've resigned to telling everyone about my miscarriage...by creating a group chat of EVERY SINGLE PERSON invited to the wedding that I know (maybe if I was feeling extra that day I would call around trying to get EVERYONE'S phone number) and sending them screenshots of this conversation, thus ruining this bride's wedding day when nobody wants to attend. And the bride should be able to quickly get over it. I mean she hasn't even had the day yet. She didn't even know what the day was gonna be like. She should be able to just cry it off in about 30min and be done with it. Yeah, her wedding day is supposed to be about her but TODAY is about the lady with the miscarriage and how she was told the most vile shit over text so the bride should just suck it up. A baby DIED and this bride is out here crying about her wedding, taking attention away from more important matters. It's not about her today and nobody cares.
I feel so bad for the lady who lost her baby. I hope she's doing better now ❤
Edit: omfg the fiancé cancelled the wedding after hearing about it. Mad respect for the fiancé for being a decent freaking person and having standards. 10/10 for ruining the bride's day
He probably saw her for who she really was and realized what a huge mistake he was about to make.
you belong to r/foundsatan (not in a bad way the plan is genious)
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Yep, I was already typing that I would have made the Facebook announcement as requested... of my friendship with the bride being over, alongside the screenshots. But the satisfying ending was *chef's kiss*
I'd let her wedding happen..
However,I would be sure to find out where the bride's address is and smear dog s**t on it.
I would love to be friends with Lie Detector girl and the Corona Wedding people.
Not bc I think their company is worthwhile, but bc they sound absolutely INSANE and I thrive off of chaos 😂
Fun fact: the idea of a person who's entire job is to deal with troublesome guests has become an actual role in weddings in the last couple years.
Wow.
Like … wow.
WTF is even the point of having a wedding reception then, if that's what you have to deal with?
Otherwise, known as "The Victims"
@@Latency345 I think, "scapegoat," is probably a better term than, "victim."
Though someone hired to deal with troublesome wedding guests is probably better described as, "The Babysitter." 😆
I'm not surprised. While Click was reading it, I kept thinking "holy shit that's GENIUS"
How do you get this job?! You can tell people to calm the f down AND get paid for this?!?
Speaking of weddings my best friend had one about 10 years ago, and her then sister (now brother) came out as trans and was kicked out by her parents. When she got married both her and her husband decided to stand with her Brother in solidarity, the bride switched into a tux and the groom into a dress and both walked down the isle while her brother stood in as best man, and her parents couldn’t say shit cuz they were in there church omg it was awesome
Now that's support
I crii
I feel like if I ever decide to get married I'd want my dress code to be something along the lines of, "something you love but don't get to wear often". I have so many outfits I absolutely love that aren't considered appropriate, or at least socially expected, in a lot of situations (I often wear them anyway but that's just me lol).
Come in your ballgowns! Your sparkly leotards! Your cosplays! Heck, come in your fursuit if you want (just don't blame me if you boil lol). The only rule is to wear something you love and not be boring!
That sounds incredible!! I don't own any fancy clothing now, but years ago I got a really pretty dress for a school play, and I only ever wore it for my birthdays (me and my mom were afraid it would get dirty and I liked it too much) I would have loved to have an excuse to wear it more often!! (still own it, it just doesn't fit anymore).
Stealing this in case I ever get married, that's such a fun idea!
@@tezzanoia haha, go ahead!
Oh fuck yeah, I’m going to implement that at my wedding if i ever get married. And i’ll be wearing a modified and fancier version of venti’s archon outfit because it’s really pretty
Down with the cosplays unless they're too risque. I would personally nix any potential fur suits because outdoor in FL. Will not have any ER visits due to self inflicted heatstroke putting a damper on the day
I went to a cousin's wedding where they did those fish-centerpieces at the reception. Funnily enough, most of the fish outlived the marriage.
my jaw literally dropped to the floor.
@@rivereexomy jaw dropped THROUGH the floor
"Instead of throwing the bouquet to all the single girls, she took apart her bouquet and handed each girl a flower," oh well that's nice, "and prayed with each girl, to WAIT ON THE MAN THAT GOD HAS FOR THEM." Ohhh, 😬 I would have hated that. Like... that's worse.
I immidietly though "Wow imagine if one of them is a lesbian"
I'm trying to work out what my response would be, but "girl, I'm a pansexual atheist" is defo up there.
Yeah that was a “first half” situation. It started and I was like “oh why is in the video, that’s actually sweet” and then we got to the second half. Don’t need you to act like someone died because I’m single, thanks.
That bride would hate me. I can be impatient when pressed and don't want a relationship. And I refuse to procreate. Not asexual or aromantic, I just hate people & I'm not fit to raise any. I'll babysit, because eventually I can give the kid back. But I charge a "your kid's an asshole" tax if they act up a bunch. I would have given back the flower & said "I'm good".
Yeah I thought it was cute at first but the praying thing? Yikes...
The worst wedding I’ve ever attended was in her parents cramped living room, no decorations, no food, on the brides birthday. She cheated on him literally the day before. They’re still married somehow.
HOW!?
*What.* 😀
PARDON ??!
I would leave, no food? Cramped? I’m a goner
Girl bye 💀
A friend of mine had to invite some really uncomfortable family members to the wedding so she gave her cousin a water gun, filled it a mix of red wine and vinegar and told him to spray anyone who dares to wear white.
Let's just say that some people left the ceremony with more than tears on their faces...
Ok i understand the dress that that person wore but why white in general? If someone wears like a plain short white dress i dont see why that's a problem. Of course it also depends on the dress the bride is wearing
@@snap.-_- at someone's wedding, you don't wear white dresses. at all. no matter if short, long, simple, flowy or whatever. it is reserved for the bride (unless she requests otherwise). it can still be seen as a way to upstage her as white stands out a lot. also societal norms
@@ainal762 i still dont fully get it but thats probably the autism. Its a good thing I dont wear dresses. Its all so confusing
@@snap.-_- think of it as just an unwritten rule. white at weddings = big no-no. and when in doubt, you can always ask those around
Now that's awesome
The miscarriage lady is so awful
"Who cares if your lost your child, it's me day"
I couldn't remember the specifics for the Polygraph Party bride but I remember seeing it on Tumblr so I tried looking it up again and it was WILD
The bride wanted her guests to spend over $1,000 on their outfits so they could all do synchronized dancing on the beach. Outfit colors were based on the person's weight (women under 160 pounds had to wear a green sweater, orange pants, and red Loubotin heels, men under 160 needed a soda hat and a fuzzy purple sweater with white shoes, women over 160 were required all black, men over 160 needed all camo and black shoes). Even children weren't free from this nightmare - they had to wear all red since they were gonna make a heart shape in this mess of a dance somehow??
In addition to all this they needed to bring another outfit along so they could change into formal attire for reception after. Like, no shit someone posted that to shame the dress code, it's ridiculous!
Fat people get to wear clothes that makes them less visible and skinny ones get the most awful of bright colors? This probably looks awful in the color combinations anyway. And the idea is ver terrible anyway
I would dearly like to know what spiritual tradition that that lady was part of where all of that is "traditional dress"
@@whiteraven562 Holy Order of Con Artists.
If I remember correctly, the Polygraph Party story is actually a trilogy- there’s a third image, also leaked from the Facebook group, where the bride claims that she found the culprit. Clearly she did not
Okay I was like that’s all ridiculous than saw that if I’d been part my color scheme would be all black and I would love that but everything else sounds hideous
The dog bridesmaid was my absolute favorite. They even gave her a dress!!!!
Which one, the video or the picture? JK. Both are the best
My friend got engaged at my wedding, we arranged the whole thing with her now husband. We asked permission and even helped with organising and some of the cost of the reception. If you want to propose at a wedding get permission, if you're close to the people, it may be allowed.
At my cousins wedding she acted like she would throw the boque? But it was like a fake throw, then she turned around and just handed one of the girls the buqueueueu. It was really cute
@@liessibrand2383 that's what we did, I think it's very sweet
I find it sweet as well and would've loved it at our wedding 😊 With permission
Feel ABSOLUTELY free to incorporate D/s into your wedding as long as everyone knows that sort of thing will be part of it so there aren't any consent issues among the guests. It has been done before and can be done very tastefully if you put some thought into it. Another option is to have a collaring ceremony separate from the wedding. This is a very popular option. I've heard of people who had fully packed days that included a Christian wedding, a pagan handfasting, a D/s collaring, some furry stuff, and all in a polyam context. It doesn't matter, it is up to you. LOVE WINS.
My aunt had a halloween themed wedding and while the ceremony was happening she had an area for all the kids it sit and play during the ceremony. There were a few adults taking shifts watching us during the ceremony. there were cupcakes with red icing and glass bowls full of candy corn. I specifically remember sticking my arm into a torch quickly enough to not hurt, and amazed my little cousins after doing it a few times. we even played tag, where I covered myself in red frosting and played, “murder tag” us kids had so much fun. I miss those days sometimes…
I was at so many weddings as a kid and I have never attended a wedding without children in my adult life. I honestly do not understand the reasoning behind this? They are usually quiet during the times when it's needed and have their own fun during the reception. They just run around outside, play with balloons and confetti, take funny pics with props and stuff their faces with cake until they pass out on a chair. Meanwhile the adults get smashed and basically do the same things?! I would be freaked out at a wedding without kids and automatically think the hosts are heartless. Like, do you even know how hard it can be for people to organize kids away so you and your partner can both attend?!
That sounds like every one had a good time and having an area for kids during the ceremony is a really good idea for the children that could be bored during it.
That sounds sooo awesome!
it was so fun, still a fond memory…
@@elenawiens4942Exactly! Family milestones are for the whole family! I'd absolutely want kids at my wedding, if I ever get married.
I genuinely needed a break from this video after the miscarriage one, the audacity from the bride in that one dude- I couldn’t even pull of a nervous laughter it’s just so selfish- she had the audacity to tell that poor woman she’s was the selfish one, basically telling her to get over it. Glad the husband found out.
Also that "no offense" thing... 🥴 That brought me one memory from highschool, and boy I probably never roled my eyes so hard. Hope that lady is not contact with that bride anymore, and the husband found out abou it...
She got what she deserved, a broken friendship and still single
Holy shit _same._ This video was randomly recommended to me right now and I noticed that I had started watching it at some point, but stopped at that exact post :')
Riiiight there with you, and I think most everyone is. I haven't felt hatred this powerful for a human since Game of Thrones.
My in-laws checked with me before our wedding to see if I would be okay with my husband's college mascot showing up as a surprise (he had no clue and they never told me if they managed to book him until he showed up at the reception so we were both surprised in the end) That created some of the most hilarious pictures in our wedding album! 😆
Lol, nice.^^
See, at least they checked to see if it would be okay!
Lol at lest you guys had a sense of humor about it.
i love how click somehow rises up from an unorthodox position on the floor doing weird things with plushies and HIS SUIT REMAINS UNRUMPLED
Very convincing Canadian accent, Click, definitely couldn't tell a difference at all 💯
As a Canadian I just wanna say that accent...
Totally nailed it. That's exactly what we sound like.
OT is Canadian? He sounds like he could be from the same area as me... (SW US)
My first wedding was traditional, planned and executed by our families. It was beautiful and a pretty relaxed vibe. There was minimal drama and the reception was pretty short (and tbh boring). Because of our family religions, our ceremony and reception were in the church...so that meant no dancing, drinking, or outside music. I didn't have a bachelorette party, and spent what would have been a party making centerpieces for the reception the next day.
My current husband had a similar first wedding. So, when our wedding came around we didn't want the super serious wedding full of stress and everyone else calling the shots. We had a 5 minute riverside service of "Do you?"...Yes... "Do you?"... Yes. "You may kiss the bride." Then we all stripped down to our bathing suits and had a floating reception. We had coolers of alcohol/food on tubes and we all just relaxed and partied on the river, while the kids swam/played around us. It was honestly one of the chillest weddings and receptions we've ever been to. A few of our friends and relatives decided to copy the theme and instead of doing a courthouse wedding, they chose to do the same. 😊 It just shows that the most important thing isn't how expensive or big your wedding is, it is about celebrating your love with your partner and the people you love the most. 🥰❤️
Love this!! This is one I will remember, in case one day I'm gonna get married. Never felt much for having a super serious, stressful, "everything needs to be perfect" kinda wedding. I wanna have a great day with people I love
Um, my Mexican Aunt would like a word with your families from the first marriage about the dancing, drinking, and music.
@@chibigirl8545 so would I tbh lol. But, when you are young and not paying for it... it's much harder to stand up for things you want. 😅 Today I would never tolerate not being able to get toasty at my own wedding and dance till I drop. 😂❤️🫰🏻
When you're sexy, you can look good in anything. Which is why there are so many men out there who look better in a dress than I do. *crying laughing*
Now I wanna see Click in a dress 😂
Cliccy is right that men need more fashion options; there aren't many. But I also think men should take some of that confidence or even that stoicism they so proud of, and simply try...
Oh, also, confidence goes a long way. It's how some guys get away with their stunts (like wearing a dress to a wedding.)
my husband 😂
@@innocentbystander3317i sooo agree with more fashion options like even just other colors of suits and ties other than blue, gray, navy and black? like it kinda gets staleeeeeee
I very much appreciate men who can rock dresses, it's about the confidence. A man who can pull off that kind of look without hesitation is happy and secure in himself, and that's what we love to see
Click's voice getting progressively higher as he reads the polygraph party bit filled me with joy.
I've only attended to 1 wedding in my adult life and it was a bad timing, I was a single parent of a 4 months old on maternity leave so I had no money, was still breastfeeding ect... My friend was fine with the baby, told me to pay what I was able to, she just wanted me to come and honestly, that was one of the best day I had as a new mom! Baby in the baby carrier loved the attention we left the room for the few minutes she cried, ppl at my table who I didn't know gave me a hand for the buffet and the party was so fun even if I couldn't stay long. It's not hard to be a decent human being ffs (on both sides, I would've left if my kid was fussy and disturbing the ceremony)
Click and OT are finally getting married?!
Must watch
I ship it...
I know that it's an inside joke but I know there are people who are gonna fantasize about it for real and make really creepy cringe fanfics. The internet is such a wonderful place.
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla *inhales in gacha mha fandom glad am not in it*
@@brothersandsistersofvalhalla Thats gonna be even worse because both Click and OT have girlfriends
@@LuciusLucius idk about Click's gf but I've seen Human1 egging it on, I think she ships them too. 😉🤣
My mom had a miscarriage in her first pregnancy, which could be my big sister and she still didn't get over it completely even though it happened 26 years ago and she has a child.
So yeah, 6 months is not enough to get over such a tragedy.
It was actually two months which makes it even sadder
@@panta9232 reminds me of the time when my dad died altough those are 2 diffrent things
@@ludovitbradovka5208 holy shit I am so sorry.
@@panta9232 Thanks m8
@@ludovitbradovka5208 mhm. Ik I’m just some random dude on the internet but I’ll listen if you need to vent about it or anything
5:34 hit me in the soul. So, 2009, my best friend died in a skiing accident. It was really traumatic for a lot of us, and as these kind of things do, makes people reflect on the people they have gotten out of touch with. My fiancé got back in touch with his former best friend, who was a girl. I asked just once, if he had had deeper feelings for her. He insisted they saw each other as siblings, and I decided to trust that as she became a part of his life again.
(Kinda funny foreshadowing: her first dinner with us, I made lasagna but was out of casserole dishes so I had used my heart-shaped silicone cake mold. She used a sharp knife to get the lasagna out of the mold and cut up the silicone)
A few years later, (we were still only engaged, not married, he wanted to wait until we could afford one) he started to get withdrawn and depressed and I tried to support him as much as I reasonably could, and encouraged him to go away for a few days, visiting her since she had moved to another city. I came over the weekend, and at one point had a heart-to-heart with her about how I was afraid that this depressive episode and hiw withdrawal attitude was the buildup to him breaking up. She insisted to me that we were soulmates and that was not gonna happen.
Once he came back, he was still withdrawn. And a few days later broke up with me. I asked, again, if he had caught feelings for her, because statistically, men tend to break off relationships only when they have found someone new to latch on to and very rarely break up to remain single. He said this was for him, he wasn't interested in pursuiting a relationship with her.
Two weeks after he had kicked me out of the apartment, he came over to my dad's house to pick up some stuff he had mislabeled as mine when we packed my stuff, and tried to coax out of me if I had made it official with this guy I was close to, whom he had encouraged me pre-breakup to have as a hallpass. I had not, because my focus then was at school, once I finished game dev, we would discuss it, but I was contemplating how I am as a person in relationships. That had been his attempt at softening the guilt over telling me he and that girl did get together, and at least letting me know through him instead of social media where they made it official later said evening. They got engaged about two months later, and had a wedding the next year, I dunno who of their parents paid but they had the reception in a castle.
My sister was invited and she told me that the wedding speeches were so awkward for her and her hubby, sitting and listening to all these "they were always meant to be" and "they found each other again after having gotten out of touch", knowing the full story.
I've never really understood why people find weddings so important, and why I as a woman was supposed to consider it the peak of my life. I especially hate the obligation to pay thousands of dollars for a dress I'd never wear again. If I ever get married (which is a big if, since I kind of find marriage as a whole an outdated concept) I'm just gonna sign the papers in jeans lol
Same. I'll just look normal fancy. Not "haha these were my life savings and people still had to lend me money" fancy.
Thats what my aunt and uncle did, but my aunt wore her favorite Harry Potter themed mini dress.
...Are there actually any tangible benefits to marriage?
@@justafurrywithinternet317 in the UK you can claim some of your tax back for being married. Both people need to be in full time employment though.
Imagine the people getting married with their favorite youtuber's merch! I can see it now, the bride walks down the aisle carrying the Emotional Support Demon as the groom holds a Septiceye Sam; the pastor hands them two VIP tickets to Hell where they shall rave and love in an all consuming fire. The pyres alight as Satan weeps for he's never been invited to a wedding and the lord of darkness is touched at this generosity, then comes Jesus with the wine trick b/c why not?
Or something like that, I don't know, honestly surprised that hasn't become a trend yet; I heard of people doing the vows in their favorite band shirts (sweet in its own way and cost effective.)
The one where the bride didn't let her friend who had a mis-carriage come to her wedding since she is afraid that her friend would steal her spotlight just p-sses me off
Same. I'm angry and disgusted.
The groom called it off :)
@@genericname2747 Sometimes, the universe just gives you a freebie.😈
I've seen the polygraph one before in it's entirety, she'd separated the guests into weight categories for different outfits, hence the explanation of 'the black represents bad' or whatever. They were also ridiculously expensive and specific outfits they had to wear and pay for themselves, grand easily. Some people are on another planet
I see the couple's point about how they have different customs in India, so people buy different outfits, but those outfits are more normal in India, so people wear them multiple times. Nobody wants to buy bizarre outfits to wear once unless it's high school prom or their own wedding.
Yea, the outfits specified designer brands like Burberry and Louis Vuitton. I remember specifically a scarf from Burberry and the famous red heels from Louis Vuitton.
I'm glad that the bride got shamed because that has nothing to do with their spirituality and everything to do with making their guests feel awful.
And they wanted women to wear high heels and dance. On a a BEACH
@@sortal Yes! And besides that, there's no "culture" that demands fat people wear black and camouflage to weddings. In their bid for "you're being culturally offensive" they were culturally offensive for even comparing the two
Lol that's just a way to keep your budget small
41:25 My cousin did something really funny to prevent this. She got married in a winery cuz she knew nobody in my family would bring their little kids to a winery lol
I got married last year and it was the first wedding my brother had attended since his own. His wife died 10 days later and he took it really hard. At my wedding, he had a really hard time all day and during my first dance he started crying. One of my favorite aunts comforted him and missed the whole dance. Did I throw a fit about them missing it? No! Of course not! I went to check on him when it was done and made sure he was doing ok and let him have his moment. I even offered him some space if he wanted to be alone. I can't understand a bride wanting someone not to come after a traumatic event happened. I would only be there for that person more than before since I know things would be more difficult for them.
The "Pulled apart the bouquet and gave a flower to each single woman" part is great. I could honestly see myself doing that (if I ever marry). But the prayer portion? Ew. That is a huge "Yikes!" moment and a major red flag. So glad none of the weddings I have been to were like that.
I’m torn because she did that out of kindness but obviously not everyone is religious and not everyone wants to marry
My matron of honor's grandma was in a nursing home, so I let my matron take my flowers to the grandma to enjoy. We were moving across the country a few days after the wedding anyway, so might as well let someone enjoy them 😄
right?? i started at „aw this is cute! i kinda wanna do that“ and ended with „ew the unnecessary sexism at the end just spoiled the whole post“
@@buchstaben-suppe I don't personally see it as sexist, if I know my guests would like to get married and aren't against prayers I see no wrong. From what I understand the bouquet toss is to say who'll get married next, for a Christian prayer is more intentional.
What if somebody just broke up? What if somebody (for whatever reason!) doesn’t want to broadcast their relationship status but also doesn’t want to lie/lie by omission?
It’s sweet in theory. But it NEEDS to be talked about in advance.
If I had chosen Uber pool for my wedding transport, I would totally have taken wedding pics if our fellow travellers consented. It all adds to the beautiful chaos of life x
Yeah. Choose Uber pool, take pics with whoever else joins (if they consent), and hand out small gift bags to everyone, even if you didn't get a pic of them.
Make your best day even better, by making strangers' days better.
You two. @tessaclark1535 and @Kartoffelkamm (idek if tags like this work on here tbh but better than nothing), I like you two.
"You climbed this hill just to die on it, then you're also digging your own grave in the same hill."
~The Click, 2023.
"you climbed this hill just to die on it while digging your own grave" is such a powerful line wtf
The handcuff engagement ring would be really appropriate if the bride and groom were both police officers.
Could be into BDSM or its an inside joke
My mom and dad who are cops: WRITE THAT DOWN
Or if one of them arrested the other and that's how they met XD
Or both criminals lol
Or, it could be a gag ring.🤷🏼♀️
I have a small wedding shame abt my mom's wedding. Her ex mother-in-law wore a silver dress that was so close to white it would be hard to tell. Truly a classic wedding shame
I say we, as the guests, start either booing these people outright or collectively pretending they don't exist, depending on the personality of the loser doing this. I'm so tired of people like this & their attention seeking entitlement.
Take red wine, accidentally spill on the dress, profit
@@tazhienunurbusinezz1703 Red wine, a glass, an accidental bump into said people. Profusely apologize, while smearing it around more acting like you are trying to clean it up. There are people who will come to weddings with the sole purpose of doing this to anyone who is not being respectful at the wedding. Some you can pay, and some will come for a meal. It is nice to have a stranger do this as when it is all over, there is no family drama.
I saw this a kinda felt bad because I wore a silver dress to a wedding. granted, it was the first wedding I've been to and it was more of a sparkly peach than silver- so I think it was alright? no one mentioned it or looked at me strangely and my mom said it was fine- so- new fear unlocked lmao
@@Nyxatroid sparkly peach sounds like it would be more pink-ish, so I'd say you're good! And at least you know now that it might not be appreciated
The brother in the dress is SO awesome xD I'm thankful to have a family who thinks this is hilarious.
I wore a suit at my sister's wedding
I've seen videos of brides handing their bouquet to a bridesmaid instead of throwing it to all the non married women, while the bridesmaid's boyfriend approached to propose. It can actually be really sweet because it celebrates the bride's friendship with the other woman too. BUT it only works under specific circumstances. The bride would need to be really good friends with the other woman and her boyfriend, the guy should really be the one asking the bride if he can do that (I believe in the example in this video it was his mother asking? that's ridiculous) and there should be no hard feelings if she says no because it's not the sort of thing that would be special in all weddings. It really only works if it's a small wedding and most of the guests are friends with all four people (bride, groom, man proposing and his woman) because there's nothing quite so awkward as making strangers who are there to specifically celebrate a different couple cheer for a couple they don't know.
If I were getting married today, I would absolutely allow a child to wear a lion costume at my wedding, and would want at least one photo with the little tyke.
I would absolutely request all little kids to be dressed with ANY COSTUME that is their favorite, let the adults be all serious in their dresses and suits and let us beoverloaded with the absolute cuteness of the kids dressed in silly costumes they love
@@areswalker5647 yes!! I've gone around a church hosting weddings many times and I see kids bored out of their minds or trying really hard to stay still to not dirty their formal clothes, like 3 year olds, I kinda feel bad sometimes, they clearly don't understand what's going on (or simply don't wanna be there).
@@areswalker5647 This is such a good idea omg. It would have to include every kid tho, unlike the original post about how only one child would be dressed up. If you're going to include children, why torture them with frilly dresses and stiff tuxedos? It's such a fun way to involve the littlelens.
idk i wouldn't. i'd want a classy affair where the kids wear little traditional tuxedos and dresses. that said i won't go the binary route, if a boy child wants to wear a dress, i wouldn't question it i'd let him without an issue. if a little girl wanted to wear a brightly colored tuxedo i'd be more than down to find her one. however, animal circus costumes and other costumes at an event where everybody else including some other children that are wearing traditional wedding clothes is going to be a bit much and i'd put my foot down. but a lion costume at a classy event such as a wedding that will be memorable for the rest of my life i'd want a dress code with no funky costumes. the kid could wear a lion costume at my birthday party. not my wedding though, hell no. 😬ill allow it at any event but a wedding. even a funeral, yes even a funeral because it could spark joy on a horribly sad day. but not a wedding with a dress code for everyone and every child to follow, traditional dresses and tuxedos, men could even wear dresses and makeup and wigs but it has to be dresses and tuxedos, not animal costumes or halloween costumes or anything besides the simple theme. especially for wedding photos. 😒 especialllyyyyy wedding photos that could be used for some other big event like heck a divorce party, a kid could even wear a costume at the divorce party. still not the wedding photos thats just where i gotta draw the line. there has to be a line somewhere and im drawing it at wedding photos, because its an event where you're happy, you're in love, you're married, you want to look your best, dress your best, have your friends and family dress their best. take fabulous classy high standard wedding photos, without circus bombers. its the day to shine not the day to be a clown. have some class or any point in standards. 😶🌫
I want my nieces to be happy and have a good time at my wedding
The bridezilla being braindead is worrying, but them also being x2 braindead is what gets me.
Like... does she GENUINELY believe that making a MASSIVE public statement, right before the wedding. Would cause less drama than... not making it?
Like, that makes a pipeline of "I'm sorry for your loss!" while the bride stands there, pikachu face.
That's so true! I also wonder about the future of a marriage where the wedding is All About the Bride. If she needs everything - absolutely everything - to focus on her and no one else, is the fiance just a prop for her Barbie moment? That's a load of unreasonable expectations. Will the everyday life that follows be a huge disappointment compared to the headful of Happily Ever After that's in there?
That would have been some beautiful malicious compliance though.
It wasn't a massive public statement - it was another leak from her private group, if I recall!
That's literally what I was thinking, by making it such a public statement she is forcing the attention on her. Everyone who knows her and who couldn't approach her privately before will be asking her (and her partner if she has one) if she's okay.
This is a fight where, no matter what, she can't win.
31:47 traditionally you have up to a full year after the wedding to give a gift. My mother almost always opts for a customized (engraved with names and wedding date) sterling silver ornament for the couple’s first Christmas tree to be sent the November following the wedding. She figures it is more meaningful than more dish towels. That said most people who do purchase from the registry don’t want to store that stuff for too long and will purchase maybe a month or so ahead, or go with a gift card for the place you were registered so you can grab what wasn’t purchased later. Or there’s my personal favorite, a nice fat giftcard to the local spice specialty store. Spices are expensive but having a rack of quality spices and seasonings makes meal prep easier and home cooked food so much tastier.
The spice specialty store is genius! Definitely gonna have to steal that
Pease do! I feel like it’s meaningful and I’m always looking for an excuse to go to that store anyway.
The plum dress was actually kinda spicy. I don't remember all the details but it started out as a r/AITA post. The marriage was between OP's brother(or maybe cousin? I dont quite recall). From the start, OP was being left out of the loop for all the wedding plans. She was out of state, attending college, and her only method to communicate about the wedding was via text. She had reached out to the bride dozens of times, trying to figure out what the right shade of purple was for the bridesmaid dresses. She never got a proper response and just had to wing it. Then when it turns out she actually got the wrong shade, the bride blows up and tells OP to fix it or she's not welcome at the wedding. But she had to wait until the last minute to get that dress and there wasn't time to get a new one. Poor OP was so stressed out of her mind that she was considering just not going(the wedding was also on the same day as her last final exam) and that's what she posted about to aita(iirc anyway. I couldn't find the op or the Charlotte Dobre vid that I heard about it from). She later learned that the bride was scheming to keep op out of the wedding from the start. When op told groom about it, he called off the wedding. There are probably details I'm forgetting but that's the gist of it.
That's absolutely wild, thank you for sharing that context. Holy shit.
Those poor goldfish. They are intelligent, social, and charming animals. They need large aquariums or ponds. I hate how abuse is so normalized when it comes to fish.
Please excuse me as I tell Petie and Piper how much I love them.
Yeah goldfish are so misunderstood and I was already going to be mad at that post because of how often this happens with poor abused betta fish, which are also very sweet, personable critters when properly cared for, then I realized they somehow did something even worse. The ONLY saving grace with using betta fish instead is they're smaller, have a significantly smaller bioload and are labyrinth fish- which means they won't suffocate in five minutes in such cramped conditions or in stagnant water. That doesn't, however, excuse the fact that these people are animal abusers no matter which fish species they choose. Those poor baby giants probably didn't even survive until the end of the event, now imma go give my mostly white baby comet goldy some duckweed because dang, posts like that are just saddening so I think a great response is go love your own pets, counter this negativity with genuine care
Tell Petie and Piper I love them too
So, and this may have been the case for the person/people who arranged that wedding, I don't really understand what's wrong with that one (I only had fish when I was little, so I don't really know that much about caring for them). The fish were clearly in water; how come they couldn't breathe?
@@hippienerd166 well the issue is that just being in water isn't the issue, fish release ammonia in their droppings and I believe it's also been said that they "sweat" it through their skin as well, which is why they need to be in a larger volume of water then their body mass because ammonia burns their skin and gills, basically like suddenly developing asthma and a bad sunburn at the same time. Also water may be chemically bonded H2O but as the oxygen is bonded to the hydrogen... They can't breath it. Bettas being labyrinth fish actually have a basic lung or lung-like organ that allows them to breath air, though they still can't live on land since their skin cannot retain moisture like ours can. Goldfish though, are not labyrinth fish and rely solely on their gills to filter unbonded, or dissolved oxygen from the water. This... Doesn't really work well in a very small space and some fish require a lot more oxygen then others, which means needing live plants and/or surface agitation from a powered device (usually a filter but bubblers do the same thing as well, just without the benefit of cleaning anything) and goldfish having one of the highest bioloads of any "tank" fish means they're really in trouble. Higher bioload means more ammonia put off by the fish, lower available oxygen and after hours of this, they'll be forced to gasping at the surface for air and their skin and scales will be agitated, I just really hope it's a few hours max because after longer then that, assuming they survive, they can start losing scales, their fins can start to melt and overall, it's painful. People really wanna put something alive and aquatic in such a small space, small shrimp species or smaller (often considered pest) snail species are far more forgiving as they don't produce as much waste or need as much space when you're not breeding them. That or, use small succulent plants, or better yet, stick to fake plants for decor, anything else but using a 1-3 month old fish fry when comet goldfish get well over 1ft and can live up to 30+yrs
@@discordiacreates6669 dang! Thanks for the explanation; I didn't know that! I guess they should have gone with some nice air plants or fake flowers and maybe a fake fish or two!
Gosh, my parents had goldfish in decent sized decorative bowls to decorate their wedding reception, but they like, actually made sure the fish were cared for, and set them up in a massive aquarium afterwards. They were my pets for the first like, 10 years of my life. Very cool fish.
my jaw hit the floor when i heard "its not like you knew her!" GIRL WHAT
Seeing Molly(Vampireapologist) appear in the wild was an absolute jumpscare, shes breached containment (Btw she and her broter have an LP channel called Gingersnaps!)
For the handcuff ring, I'm personally gonna go for benefit of the doubt and say maybe they were going for a "partners in crime" kinda theme?
Or one or both of them were in the police force? That was my first thought (my father was a police officer).
@@lokicooper4690 also a valid explaination.
Sadly.... we all know that ain't the reason. I like your idea way better
@@annnee6818 I know... I like my explanation better reality though in this instance
If it's a gay couple the "be gay do crime" angle is quite strong.
Oh, the wedding I just went to, the groom made a joke about weddings being expensive in his speech, so he was like "I'm starting an OnlyFans for the mrs", then had to clarify, "for non-family obviously, otherwise that would be a bit weird". The bride was simultaneously trying not to laugh and mega mad at him haha
Oh my goddd 😭
18:20 If I was this person, I would ABSOLUTELY GO TO THE WEDDING just to PROJECT THE SCREENSHOTS ON A BIG SCREEN so that EVERYONE would see how HORRIBLE the bride really is. And I'm not usually the "revenge" type. That's how far this woman went.
Asking for the free catering is absolutely insane to me. I made my best friends wedding cake but they still paid for the ingredients which was around $130. The cake took me 30+ hours and turned out amazing. It was my gift to them and it saved them over $700. Had they bought the exact cake I made from a cake shop. But this was the thing I offered.
You're a hero.
as someone who's never been to a wedding before, videos like these are a real rollercoaster to watch
I've been to a couple--both of them were relatively calm and normalish. One took place outside in a flower garden with fancy little finger-food snacks, and everyone lined up to congratulate the groom and such. The other one took place in a planetarium during a show, so they could have a lovely starfield background, and they were both dressed as Klingons.
10/10, Trekkie weddings are the best. :)
been to one when i was 5. was pretty normal, even rehearsed it before (i was flower boy). of course, i was really young though so i dont remember too much about it.
If I had a trans brother and if I would care at all about having a wedding party (already married, at the magistrate and no party, loved it), I would so ABSOLUTELY love for him to wear a pink frilly dress just to say eff U to some people 🥰🥰🥰
I'm also glad that it said he was estranged for a long time but this brough him and his sister back together too! That just makes it so extra sweet!
@@Insertia_Nameia I know!!! 🥰
Honestly, it probably gave him great gender euphoria to have a whole crowd wondering "Why is this beefy, bearded manly man in drag?". I would pay to see the look on the parents face when he walked in.
@@RiveroftheWither gender euphoria is such a beautifully sounding phrase ❤️
@@hugrunj It is! It more or less is the opposite of gender dysphoria, so when you get an overwhelming feeling of joy, confidence and security in regards to your gender identity and presentation. It is a very beautiful thing.
I love how click uses the sassy voice to read all the messages. Regardless of wether or not the person writhing them is the one that gets shamed😂
lmao the "no babies at the wedding" hits close to home, my uncle (mom's brother) and aunt got married when i was a few months old and apparently i just wouldn't stop crying during the ceremony to the point both my aunt and her mother got pissed off and my mom ended up having to leave and stay with me outside the church so they could continue without me annoying everyone, that led my dad to hold a grudge against my uncle for several years after that. lol tbh i get it, i wouldn't want a crying baby at my wedding ceremony either, that would certainly be annoying af
12:03 I was expecting it to be really serious about someone stealing the show. Instead I am treated to an adorable doggo doing her best to steal the show. You go girl!
She wanted a tummy rub.^^
I wanted a black/grey wedding dress. After months of searching every store with zero luck, my fiance convinced me it would be okay for me to spend 1/5 of our wedding budget on hiring a seamstress/designer to make my dream dress. I found a designer who was featuring a blue ombre wedding dress that matched the style I was hoping for (I just wanted back/grey instead of blue). Contacted her and things went well, worked with my budget (we still went OVER what I was hoping to spend), and designed a dress I was super excited about. A mix of black, tan, and white tulle going from dark at the bottom to white at the bust. I was so happy with the design, better than I'd hoped to ever get... Then the end times hit, so I only got a fitting with the initial mock up all in scrap fabric (typical for first mock up). I only got to see my dress about 1 week before the wedding. It was then that I found a FULLY WHITE dress. The designer had decided I "didn't look like a goth" so she changed the plans and only added a bit of black lace around the waistline. I paid 5x the price for a slightly nicer version of the dresses I'd been unsatisfied with at all the wedding stores and had no possibility to fix it.
WHAT?! I'd be demanding a refund, that would make me so livid.
Umm, you paid for the wrong dress? They straight up broke the agreememt, you dont gotta pay for that
@Rebypox it was a pay up front for materials and labor. I also didn't really have another choice, if I wanted ANY dress that would fit for my wedding, I had to take it because I had less than a week between when I got the white dress and my wedding date. Even if I wanted to, there wasn't enough time to find a replacement and get it altered to fit me properly.
She did you dirty sorry for her bad thought process
Wtf, what a garbage person. I'm sorry you had to pay for that!
If I ever got married, I'd want my wedding photos to be pure chaos. Literally I don't care if people show up in fursuits or dressed like Batman. I'm also a weird introvert and don't like being the center of attention, so if a bunch of my friends who happen to be furries just show up dressed like wolves so I have something to deflect attention off of me so I don't get overwhelmed, I think that would be great. 😅 I can't understand how people want so much attention on themselves to the point they see friends' tragedies or having a certain natural hair color as competition.
I couldn't afford a photographer so my dad handed 12 disposable cameras to the children in attendance. There's a hilarious sequence of pictures of a dead squirrel and me walking up on them to investigate/ yell at them to leave it alone. They also took some nice pictures, lol.
Yes if i ever get married i want it to be fun and chaotic
If you need a chaotic furry to take some attention away, this ADHD gremlin can help out!
If I get married, I'll let everyone wear what makes them feel comfortable.
@@klaytonalexandermatthews2047this one too, sign me up!
My wedding was tiny. Took place in a small office, where all 8 or so guests crammed in, sitting in folding chairs. I wore a $90 white dress meant for a prom. My niece, who was my only bridesmaid, wore a blue semi-formal dress I picked out. My husband wore jeans, a button down dress shirt, and his well-used work boots. My husband's only groomsman, his best friend since middle school, waved his truck keys at my husband as the ceremony was about to start and said "there's still time to run". All told, a grand total of $200 was spent, mostly on mine and niece's dresses. The rest was the payment for minister.
I wouldn't change a thing.😊