Why does the Narcissist seem happier with the new supply? [EXPLAINED]
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- WHY DOES THE NARCISSIST SEEM HAPPIER WITH THE NEW SUPPLY? [EXPLAINED]//In this video I will explain if the narcissist is happier with the new supply. Why does the narcissist seem happier with the new supply? Is it because they are? Have they changed? Is the narcissist really happier with the new person? You’re wondering or know about the narcissists new supply. Is the narcissist happy with the new supply? The seem so. Why does the narcissist seem happier with the new supply? Is the narcissist really happier with the new supply? This video will explain this question you’ve been wondering. Like does the narcissist treat the new supply better? Do they love the new person more than they loved me?
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This is the most common question I get asked! I hope you find this video informative! In a short answer - NO- longer answer explained in the video. It's so common to feel this way though even though you "know" - that's because of the way your mind works. Imagination is so much more powerful than logic & will overrule every time! To move towards healing let's connect either through Wisio or through my website to talk more about working 1-1 together towards healing, growth, change, and a brand new life! www.re-write-your-life.com or www.wisio.com/Sarah_Pacaro_Toxic_Relationsh
@@kishu2706 we're programmed and wired for connection. It's critical and vital to our survival
Learn from your experience and don't let it happen again..the new supply has all this to look forward to.
Yes!! Learning can feel difficult as most people rinse and repeat, don't know why and see there's things within them that need fixing and changing as even when they get out of one bad relationship, they go into another. I love the phrase, take the learnings and leave the rest. Sometimes it goes deeper than just moving on.
Good Luck Your Gonna Need It.
Best believe their family is involved too. Best believe that!
Their family is all psycho!!
Absolutely! My ex was a narcissist but her mother was the orchestrator!
100% told me I was mentally ill. 😂
Daughter for me
X narc hated that I had needs in our relationship.
What I've learned is everyone has needs and I wasn't asking too much.
All I asked for was honesty and faithfulness. He wasn't capable of giving either. 😢
All I asked for was for peace and the chaos to stop…😵💫
I was never the problem how could a person be so cruel.?
hugs
My fear is the Narc and her Narc Mother will break up with the new supply and put their focus back on me. Thank God you got out and got away.
And when/if they do we get to choose not to.... Not to engage, not to involve ourselves in or go back to what we already got out of ✨ and get to back and support these choices with new internal beliefs to make it more easy 🙏
They are the worst relationship ever. Please get away 🏃♂️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♀️ 🏃♂️ 🏃♂️ all them lies and the baby behavior🤮.
I always come back to this video when I start thinking how is he still with the new supply two years later? He’s completely insane so how’s he done it, this video helps explain it. Great work, you should be up there in the big league, great advice 👏👏
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@laaaah4577....i was the new supply for 2 years ! Now am the old supply.....years mean nothing ! I remember i got rounded cheeks during the honeymoon phase...it was my level of cortisol.....now the new supply is having round cheeks too ! I tried yo advise her...Wrong Idea ! He already brainwashed her...and she helped him to badmouth me
Never advise anyone of them !
Silence ! Just watch 😊
Thanks 🙏 was convincing
People see who they are eventually.
The toxic exes neighbour told me the he sees straight through him. He said he (the toxic ex)lies and plays people up against each other.
I have absolutely nothing but pity-and even concern-for the new supply. My ex narc should come with a warning label. He is the worst partner anyone could ever have. Emotionally, he is not even human. When I think of all the BS and lies he told me, the supposed “love” he faked for 17 years, I am a million times sure he is incapable of love in any form. He will emotionally torture her and like everyone else he has ever come into contact with, they will be worse off for knowing him.
Too bad I didn't get a warning. Then cannot warn this next one.
Well the new supply went along with the narcissist to steal my savings. He triangualated me with her. She enabled the abuse.
He married his new supply after a month of the discard and by the way she was the side chick waiting for us to be over. Now I can’t really do no contact because of our kids. That’s the really hard part.
I completely understand that. The next best alternative if parallel parenting and only communication through email or a parenting app. And most importantly, healing yourself from within!
@Hesonmymind yea I wonder if being around their dad will affect them also. I’ll be glad when mine is less toxic and he just go and live his life with his wife and her kids and stop trying to make my life hell.
@Hesonmymind thanks blessings and peace to you also
My ex married a rebound 2 weeks after we broke up. We were together for 5 years. The rebound was a stranger he met in a bar.
Sorry you’re going though this it hurts like hell but It’s going to get better.
I am so hurt, I am dying inside over and over again. This is my third narcissistic relationship so I know deep down it is me.
My husband of 10 years and two children not only divorced me but annulled our wedding so he could marry our nanny in a catholic church even though they just had a baby to please her.
My then boyfriend of 3 years who I loved and thought loved and cared about me married a woman after 1 year of knowing her after stringing me along for 3 years. He told me that his life wasn’t stable, he didn’t know where he was going. He used to tell me that because he was in the military that he couldn’t settle down. He would pretend that he wanted children knowing how desperately I wanted to get pregnant and then told me he was freezing his sperm until the ‘right’ time in his life.
The final insult is I stumbled across his wedding picture he had conveniently left on his WhatsApp for me. And she was married in a dress identical to one he had sent to me years ago that he had said I would look amazing in. I was so flattered at the time, I thought I had hope that’s how he saw me.
Now I just feel empty, hurt and numb. Was i that easy to manipulate?
I hate everything about myself. I can’t eat I can’t function the hurt is so completely overwhelming.
Why am I so pointless, and unlovable?
You aren’t unlovable. These people are just very sick and know only patterns. You deserve a real person to love who will love you back correctly. Please go to therapy to work out the issues you have that made you attracted to these men (yes we all have those issues, not letting us off the hook with this one) and the pain will subside in time, God willing and also the patters will prevail. What they did to you they will also do to the next.
@@samia6888 Thank you. I appreciate your care. It feels hard though. And I know the therapy is overdue. I have to work on me. God bless x
The narc is happy at the moments of the reaction in other words the attention he or she is receiving from their family and friends . They don’t love it’s all smoke and mirrors. They’ll love bomb harder than they did you too make up from the last relationship. But it will come with a price . The greater the love bombing the greater the devaluing will be . Don’t waste your life focused on them if your out of the relationship I know it’s hard but don’t look back focus on you ,
100 % Correct James
Thank you Sarah! Needed this video today. 😀
So happy to hear it was helpful!
Yes he is. I was a placeholder until he found someone worth treating like a human. I am second or 50th best is everything.
I can’t shake the thoughts that she has found the “one” now! Her ideal man! Even though that I was told I was! He seems like the complete opposite of me, so it feels like I was the problem!! And playing happy families with his two kids, she hated mine after a while, they weren’t even allowed to come to the house in the end!! Yet they seem to be there every weekend!! It’s so hard to not be jealous and bitter over all this!!
All the pain has to do with internal beliefs you hold to be true about yourself in combination with comparison to the perception of their reality. But it's really all an internal conflict. That's where you need to go to heal, transform, and transcend. That's exactly what our course guides you through.
@@sarahpacaro thank you Sarah! I know the mistakes I made in the relationship, but I tried my hardest to put them right, and I loved her regardless of how she was treating me, at times yes I didn’t like her, but love was there, I never wanted our marriage to fail
@@wattsymusicandfilm most don't get into a marriage wanting it to fail. Remember the most successful relationships are the ones with two people doing what it takes to make it work. The person that's the hardest on us is often us. Healing those inner wounds lightens our own load. Allows us to carry freedom, forgiveness, and acceptance rather than guilt, shame, and burdens.
It "SEEMS " happy with their new supply, but the truth, they are not happy deep inside their being. Their new supply is just a facade of their emptiness and loneliness.
Some people I suspect are narcissists who broke with me or others, I noticed they were more likely to post photos on social media trying to show off how much happier they are with the new boyfriend/girlfriend. They didn't have an interest in photographing us or whoever else they used to date, even when the last person they dated they claimed were madly in love with, or bragging with friends and family how amazing I or another person was to them. Sometimes it looks like that supposed narcissist is purposely trying to make their ex jealous.
What baffles me is how many narcissists will put up with someone far longer than others, even if this new supply is likely more flawed than the last ex. Or how the relationship lasts much longer than it really should.
you are awesome. thank you
Thank you for this video, you are a godsend for real. I've been thinking these thoughts to be exact... I wish you wellbeing and healing in your own life, as you sure have brought about very important healing pieces into my life simply for this video- thank you!! God bless you-^^
Thank you! Your kind words are accepted and appreciated!
20 years of my life..... God help me.
Loved this video.. it really resonated with me. Thankyou so much ❤
I love your hair too ☺️
💖🙏 thank you 😊
They're trying to prove to everyone that they are not the problem. Stop giving it attention when you know the truth😂
Very Good Sarah,
Great video. Thank you
Thank you from the bottom of my heart. I was spiraling last night. Coming back to reality. He is a charlatan, and I'm glad he's taken his show to another town.
YES!! It's a dog & pony show - that rodeo and circus leaving is just the first step - the next step is removing all of that damaging inner programming!
I don't know if this applies to a situation where the ex-narc found himself another narc. She is keeping him on his toes and best behavior. The guy who couldn't discuss a book with me for literally 1 minute-(and I'm a literature teacher!) has now become an avid reader in their online book club of 2. Yes, she lives in Europe. Covid kept them apart for a year and a half but he continued with the face timing relationship daily and just returned home from four months in her country living with her. LOL makes me wonder how the hell he pulled that off and best part, she is a psychiatrist. She must be pretty horrible at what she does that she can't sniff out a narcissist in her bed
Being with a narcissist truly reveals what needs healing within ourselves. So long as the attention is still on them, and/or the ones their with and the feelings that arise and surface from that shine light on what within us needs healing. Narcissists will always be whoever they need to be to get and keep supply. Healing is a journey of brining that awareness inward and cutting the cord from them and returning to ourselves.
Such a beautiful lady is bringing valuable advice and content. Thank you for your time. We appreciate it. VR
Wow, your spot on...
He is happier with the new wife that he found on internet because she ticked all the boxes and had money - this was after he financially devastated me and I had no more to take.
And there's getting to the root of that within you & healing the hurt places inside yourself from those experience(s). When it crossed that point where a boundary should have been and needs to be so it doesn't happen again.
Thank you.
After 10 years and 2 months np contact I come back and yep he is in love and a man I do not even recognize and yes he is getting married..I spent 10 years with this man and I see my hard work he gives to her and her children wr are in our 60 now and he has his family and I'm discarded as trash....I lost it to week ago and watched him run from me ..he is terrified I will ruin it for him haha ..after I lost my shit and went crazy I feel much better!! The new women gets his middle aged I'm tired and I am alone how is this possibly love? It's isn't..she can have his coward ass
Time to let go.
@@davidcoppotelli3957 done
@@michellehicks2321 Michelle, I knew that when I read your post. It there loss. We stay in the light of the Holy Spirit.
Let it go Michelle. You will be fine! ❤️
@@jannlewandowski5540 oh thank you ! This comment reminds me of how far I have come haha...that life seems so long ago 😅...I am so not there anymore..that was priceless for me to be reminded..I am so above all of that man ! I wish him absolute happiness and joy..sometimes we must walk the wrong path to get to the highest level of the right path! Lessons or blessin" ha he was a wonderful lesson 😀 I'm happier now than I ever thought I could be . Healing is the key ,allowing yourself to grieve.and rising above others opinions and finding the truth of your own...thank you ✨️ 😊 💛 ♥️
Is very true
I knew that shit was not going to work. I let him have all of it because he thought he was getting something good. Eighteen months later when I went to visit my kid she did not have her wedding ring on because there was a tan line on her finger. She was trying to sleep with me. I told her no and reminded her that she was married to that guy.
10 months with the new supply. They already broke twice, were seeing other people in parallel (including hoovering me twice), etc. Quite a shit show so far. For better or for worst I cannot go no contact and I have too many details about them. In case this serves as a reference for anyone.
My ex and wife of 25 years has obviously met a new supply and is recovering from the narc injury I inflicted by outing her to my replacement. That was 2 years ago, when she changed from my wife and love to a Craigslist roommate.
Great Video! Very accurate and great job explaining and giving examples. We need to get this information out so people dont stay in these toxic cycles like I did for 15 years. Finally Narc Free for a full year now! Never looking back.
Yea! Don't, there's no reason - you're not going that direction. Unless it's of course to celebrate after seeing how far you've come & take the lessons with you & leave the rest.
This is so insightful! Thanks for the video! Happy Holidays! :)
Thank you. You too!
@@sarahpacaro You're welcome! Have a great day! ❤
Then why does the next victim STAY??
For the same reasons we did for so long! They are getting the false, nice beautiful loving persona that they put on in the beginning! You know they are being told all the sweet things that we were at the start! Like I know that my ex’s new supply is being told he’s the soulmate, one true love! He loves her like she’s never been loved! So amazing etc etc! All the things I was told!
@@wattsymusicandfilm update....She left! I left after less than 3 months marriage to him...she was a little slow on the uptake and left after less than 2 years marriage. She thought she was better than the other victims in his wake. GUESS NOT!
@@floridagirl5250 the cycle just keeps repeating doesn’t it?! No doubt he’ll be on to the next one, maybe already is?! It’s taken me a long time to accept this, but I am lucky I’m out of it now
@@wattsymusicandfilm the cycle does repeat, doesn't it? I am a bit SNARKY when it comes to my replacement...won't bore you with details, but...she's about to get a taste of her own medicine!
@@floridagirl5250 I don’t mind! Always happy to listen!
Thanks
My X left me for a rebound guy after a few years together. It has been 4 months. She hasn't hovered me yet. From what I was told. It hasn't been real fun with her new supply. Since her new supply works odd schedules including weekends. My X thought that the grass was greener on the other side. Her Diva day's are over. 😆 lol. As for me. I adjusted. I'm living the best day's ahead without walking on eggshells. Going to the gym 🏋️♀️. Looking and feeling great. She will be siging the country blues. Neon Moon.
🤩 Yes our best days are former, not latter.
To be honest. I'm done with my X. She had her time to make-up and level up with me. She made her bed. So be it.
My ex dumped me for another woman in March without finishing with me first and then getting with her. I am heartbroken and angry. We still talked for a bit and in July we ended up having sex. I was hoping we could get back together and was angry he would just discard me like that to be with someone else. Now he has been completely ignoring me like I’m not a human being. Yeah he’s with someone else but that doesn’t mean I deserve to be treated like shit. It’s hard because I’m dealing with the pain of the breakup and she’s being treated like a princess. I’m sure they don’t really have problems because they look so happy on social media. You think they’re going to last? Should I block him or safely assume I won’t have to hear from him again?
If you believe you don't deserve to be treated like that and he did, why would you question blocking him? He's the same person with her as he was with you. They don't change. Being stuck on someone who treats you that way is very revealing of what needs healing within yourself. Heal those inner wounds and those types of people will no longer interest you.
@@sarahpacaro Thank you love. I know deep down he doesn’t care about anyone but himself but it’s the codependency that’s causing me to feel attached to him so I’m trying to work on that. It is hard to remember he’s treating her the same way because he calls her his beauty and says he loves her, you know?
@@diamond53919 Yes I absolutely know!! I've been through it several times! He said those same things to you. And it's not the codependency that's hurting you, we're all dependent. It's the negative, limiting, and very damaging inner unconscious beliefs you have about yourself that are hurting you. When those are changed, you don't look at abusers the same.
Thank you for pointing this out. I am trying to work on thinking with my head and not with my emotions. Thinking with our emotions causes us to think irrationally, thinking with our head helps us remember the reality. Is this a good way to look at it?@@sarahpacaro
its been a year. how are u doing? xo
It was very hard to hear you in this particular video.....
What if new supply is old supply? Why take him back? Does the old supply think that the change will last?
My narks had me meet the fam immediately, they were all just as narcissistic as him. They knew he was married, clamied they loved his wife and were bffs with her now but then told me she was a child ausing drunk and they were separated for a long time already when in reality he moved out of their house where they lived as a family with 2 children and into my much nicer home on lake front property that he invited all his loser friends and family to right away to impress them. He told everyone he paid for all my shit and his wifes shit. He thought we'd eventually all live together in my house, they were all fucking nuts!
When they complain at you for not taking them places, then they take the new supply to the same place you took them.. wtf?! They are trying to make you look like a fool, while really making the new supply look like the fool. Why would a guy be proud to take his gf to a place some other guy already took her? Of course she was the one to suggest it, so she could use that guy just to make her ex jealous. This is known as dog whistling. When someone sends a blatant stab at you in public, while nobody else notices.
I feel sorry for her. He’s not going to change, and after the newness wears off he’s gonna do the same thing to her. It’s ok, I’m very happy to be marrying someone that I have known for 10 years. We fell in love and we’re very happy together, so it doesn’t matter what he’s doing. Lol, I know I’m acting like I care, but only because after what he put me through he has the audacity to marry someone else, when I was running around homeless after he left. But like I said, he did me a favor because I found someone who is way better for me. I think she probably makes more money than me and he needed a new cook and maid, because that’s all he cares about.
voce quality is bad!
They never keep their promises. Instead they are hooks.
His Messy coworker came forth, in her feelings! Lol, been done, took over home, etc, he told her his family was Living Off Him!@@ now, 2 1/2yrs later..covid..his ass is paying rent..still here????@@
She knew, it was going on, so I have No sympathy, let God deal with both! I've blocked him on everything! No messages thru children/grown, either..just transfer your job...bounce!
I have experienced situations over and over again where one narcists engages me in a conversation (about work, etc.) and a flying monkey standing in the group says things in almost a whisper that seems like they are trying subliminal tactics, including insults and suggestions because later I seem to remember some of the things the flying monkey said. It is very confusing and you think What the Frak is going on here? Subliminal tactics have been around for a long time. How can you combat this?
I imagine because you've experienced it so much now that you know the feeling within you when something is off. That feeling never lies and is there to protect you! Always listen to it. Use it as your sign to politely excuse yourself and not give up to much information and get too involved.
@@sarahpacaro It's hard when it's your supervisor and his buddy. I am looking for another job starting next year.
@@royporterjr.2764 Yes absolutely! When there's more than one party involved, one sticks up for the other or becomes triangulated. I'm glad to hear you're taking action to get out of that situation soon!
@@sarahpacaro That fully explains "Triangulated" ! I had an idea but that describes it clearly.
Youneed to sort the audio out ? Its terrible..
Sound needs work-
30 years of this crap 😢
You need a more professional microphone. Your sound is terrible muffled and garbled. Just trying to help you.
I watched this with the sound off..ur very animated
Please talk slower!