I was saved into a Brethren church as a child, and while they did not know the spirit, boy did they get body life right. We didn’t even have a pastor- folks took turns teaching and everyone helped out. I saw something like this with the Spirit in the 90’s in my little Vineyard church. It lasted until TO was booted out & our DNA changed. Been fighting for this living model ever since. It’s time.
God just gave me the green light a couple of months ago to leave the toxic church I was in. Thank you for exposing this 👏 The Pastor is a type A personality that manipulates the leadership for his vision not the vision of God.
I’m currently attending a Baptist church and we are studying the structure of the church through a book called Biblical Eldership written by Alexander Strauch and also learning there are many places in the Bible that we can learn from how the church “government” should be. I never realized how important it was to learn about this. It’s also very interesting.
Such an important topic. The best church experience I ever had was a while back in another city, but what stood out was all the leaders truly knew each other and loved each other, and each welcomed new friends into their worlds - we weren't below their connection. Simple as that. Later, I saw how they had good governing structures and all, but the first thing I noticed was the genuine love and friendship in a place that worshiped beautifully and moved in the Spirit. The love stood out. Never saw that before. And still hard to find now ♥
@@laurenfromdownsouth the Vineyard on the west coast of Canada before they cut off Toronto. Once they did that, the life drained out. Good people with no HS = backsliding people/unsustainable church. We need structure AND Holy Spirit. Wineskin & wine.
41:30 My family was in a church where the assistant pastor actually controlled everything. All the various ministry leaders were puppets in positions only for show. Five men were on the board but they were all immature believers & that was done on purpose. They all "owed" the assistant pastor something, he made sure of it. Some of these debts were out and out fraud. This pastor ultimately destroyed many long term relationships and more than 75% of the people left the church, including the senior pastor. The senior pastor had been kept to preach because the assistant pastor had no anointing at all. We all wondered why but later learned he was more of a social club leader than a real man of God.
This reminds me of the Hall and Oates song: "You've Lost that Loving Feeling." This is hurting the church. I love how Michael Miller systematically addresses all the points in this interview. 🙏 ❤
Yes at the end when you said you were blamed for your own abuse. I was blamed for my own abuse! That’s been maybe the hardest. But I absolutely pray and pursue forgiveness. My heart breaks at times for the abusers.
This reminds me of the leadership of Chad Norris from Bridgeway church/Now the Garden. They had to change their name because of what this man and his leadership have done in our community. You guys are literally describing what kind of toxic leadership we were under. It’s evil! And totally shameful when leaders willing sin against their congregation
Love Michael Miller's description of church government. Totally agree and have had the same understanding for years. I've also seen the structure as a carryover from the old covenant. The picture is of elders in each city overseeing the church--not as controlling, but to maintain the health of the city in justice and righteousness.
Robby I am so thankful to God for your podcast! Thank you for your courage to speak the truth in so many subjects.... Donald Trump, wokeness, Lonne's powerful ministry to name a few, and now toxic leadership. I look to you as a true brother in the Lord and someone who understands the value of common sense. This podcast really blessed my heart. I have been very disheartened with "church" for many years. The church in America has truly missed the mark and its so so sad. Thank you again for your boldness to speak the truth when so many "christian" leaders are silent. God bless you!
Your story about how your pastor asked what your "vision" was for the youth group reminds me of a question a Sr. pastor asked my husband at one of their first meetings. The pastor said, "What is your 5 year plan?" (This church was a super small struggling church and my husband and I just left a large one as the Spirit miraculously led us to volunteer at this one. Also my husband gave up the opportunity for a well paid IT position at a mega church at this same time) My husband responded, "If I had a 5 year plan this church wouldn't have been on it!" 😅
Nice to see Michael and Robbie talking. I’ve followed Robbie for a long time and have been watching Remnant radio about a year now. All of you are wonderful God fearing men who Its guaranteed the P & P tremble when you are doing Gods work!! Love this content, learned a few things. 🙏🏼
Fifty or sixty years ago the "vision statement" was the doctrinal statement of the governing body of your church, ie Southern Baptist, Methodist, Pentecostal...
I think you're forgetting the fact that John said in his gospel that they didn't have space or paper or time to record all that Jesus did. So we don't know how many weddings He attended. We don't know how many eyes were healed with mud. But we DO know this: He did what His Father told Him to do. That's the most important part of EVERYTHING Jesus did.
So I was also told my pastor couldn’t be friends (or family) with anyone in the church. We are family and was offering to be friends but it clearly wasn’t wanted.
20:18 Multiple pastors behave this way. I knew one that would go to a meeting and have the board members talk and then tell them (no matter what they said) that God told him differently and so they all had to do what he wanted. It was a power trip and trump card he played. My friend who was a board member said there was no reason to have a board with pastors like that.
I was part of a network of churches in the UK in the early to mid eighties in the UK where heavy shepherding was rife and people got hurt. The thing is there was mixture of incredibly good and bad at play. In 2003 I joined a church that was connected to incredibly mature prophetic ministries and pastoral ministries and I grew and got free in ways I didn't realise I needed it and yet there were things that were not right and as a body that church does not exist as a body anymore. I am and will be forever grateful for the good things in the Lord in both churches and know that my Jesus is my healer in all things. However I came to the conclusion that, particularly in the first circle of churches I was in that there were many leaders at that time in that network that were not 'broken' before the Lord, they hadn't been in that place of being undone before the Lord and had been appointed largely because of natural gifting and maybe allegiance to the founders of the movement and teachings. I believe in God releasing revelation to His children and even that there are wondrous levels of 'seeing' and understanding what actually is in scripture that just explodes awe and wonder and just freedom on the inside of you but it will never bump up against scripture, just set it alive in your spirit.
Really good show tonight, so well said "Hats!" I have seen this kind of top-down leadership for most of my involvement in churches, in Elder positions, or should I say cling-on because I'm only a woman. I so appreciated the entire conversation! Thanks Robby, always good!
I would love to hear more about the “cyclical” nature of the acts of the Holy Spirit. Great stuff guys ❤ Thanks for letting us in on the convo 🐑👀❤️🔥🙏🏻
The reason churches have vision statements is because of Proverbs 29:18 where there is no vision the people perish. But that scripture has NOTHING to do with having a plan. 😂
Only your way Yahweh Help Us to be flexible to change as we stand in Awe of you 🔥You show up HolySpirit 🕊So Creative and Strategic 💎God 💟love it in my weakness 😌You are Strong 🔥
Glad I heard this, been there and went through same things. My first dream/vision had a dead toxic church in it! I believe the label you’re looking for but never said was Narcissists in leadership. And there’s way too many, they destroy and hurt and drive out people, it’s sickening and borders demonic. I just call it what it is. It’s falling in love with the gifts and becoming a god to yourself and out of love with God the giver of gifts. It’s sad how a mess churches are and people have to get out and travel to “higher ground” often alone to find the true Kingdom of God.
Such a cool discussion! In reference to the corporate culture of church leadership, it's ok to take skills and things we know from secular life and leverage them for the kingdom. The problem though is that people nearly always overestimate the utility of worldly wisdom and the sense of expertise and sophistication boosts egos and gives leaders another place (besides God) to put their trust. And we wind up with leaders who think that because they went to a conference and learned something about vision statements etc they can say, "step aside, let me show you how its done." Like Robby & Michael said, in the age we are currently living in, the Great Commission is God's mission statement for the church. What all of us need to learn and discover, in fellowship with one another, is how our efforts, our gifts, our callings and our relationships and allegiances fit in to that mission. And it's appropriate that we do that with humility, appreciation for what others bring to the table, and a hesitancy to cast judgment on others. I am sympathetic to the "visionary" leader. God may give a vision to someone that others do not see or understand, that causes the person to face mockery and rejection. We see it throughout scripture, almost as the norm. Growth and fruit happen around people: people who are loyal to Jesus, full of the Spirit and full of faith. The best leaders are the ones who understand that every child of God is to be fruitful as a "priest" in the vein of 1 cor 14:26. But too many shepherds ask themselves what the sheep can do for their ministry, rather than what they can do for their sheep's ministries.
The church I left (after 12 years of service & 2 years as an elder) had adopted what they called a "Bethel mindset" that even if the pastor said something wrong that since he was "God's man on earth" that God would make it right and no one should bring up nor confront the pastor regarding his unbiblical teachings or personal shots at people in the congregation.
I went to this church in 2020, and January 2021 a friend of mine told me some inappropriate behavior that this leader did toward her. God spoke to me one evening and said regarding this head leader, “He needs to humble himself or I will humble him.” And the fear of the Lord came upon me. I chickened out on telling him and I wasn’t sure if it was my place… I couldn’t go back much, so from soon after until June I didn’t go there except to serve during children’s service. I lived with a family during that time and one day heard the Lord say “Come out from among them…” but I was new to hearing Him and wasn’t sure. I ended up going back around July and attended until about November ‘21, until someone Hats knows well told me his podcast (referred to in this video) was about this church. I was appalled, and quickly left. 🙏🏼 A couple months ago I felt compelled to go there during an evening service. When I arrived they were closed for the holiday season. I was so confused, but I believe God released something for my obedience and all bitterness left.
I see an astounding connection between Jesus healing with the mud/Pool of Siloam & Nehemiah 3:15. The pool is found on the other side of the "Fountain Gate" which can also be translated as "Eye Gate."
That is for ministry, building others up to serve, but it's not the actual leadership though has to work in the area, though probably not an Elder or Bishop, or even a Decon.
I think a Word and Spirit filled church will work in any form, and the converse is true as well. But even in a Word and Sprit filled church, well meaning people can make mistakes, and man is it helpful to have others giving you advice when you're about to really step in it!
I think that the vision is more about how individual churches are going to achieve the Acts vision in the parameters of their locations, relevant needs and qualifications of their members. I don’t see it as changing the vision of Christ. Every church is as much of an individual entity in the church as a whole as is every church member in their own church bodies. Every joint supplieth, and in a different way. Vision is just about owning how your church is going to achieve its part of the calling as a whole.
I do believe the Bible instructs on church structure and I was in a five fold ministry church, which did serve the body well by edifying the members with all the gifts of the spirit, and initially they were going back to book of Acts Christianity, it was awesome! But then there was a pyramid type structure and the Leader was and is worshipped almost as much as the pope is, he doesn’t control the churches economically, but pastors may not feel like they have a voice to disagree theologically and lately they started telling us the pastor is supposed to be like our father and they took it so far as to have people asking for permission for like every life decision or even to visit another church. It really upsets me how much it changed from something good to something controlling and that requires members to basically spend all their time in the 4 walls and in that community instead of reaching the world for the gospel. I left and I sometimes visit because I miss the worship and fellowship and move of the Spirit that still is in that church, but I see all churches having faults, look at the letters Paul wrote to the churches and Jesus in the book of revelation. We need to keep re-examining where have we gone wrong and be humble enough to change. A church should never be a business, that’s a big no no, Jesus would come turn a lot of tables at churches today if he were here physically.
Back on the eighty’s, I was involved in a church that became involved in the shepherding movement. After several years of gradual changes, I as well as about thirty other people quietly left without causing problems. I had become so frustrated and even scared that my relationship with my at that time girlfriend would be called on the counter for not getting the relationship approved by leadership. Things had slowly become toxic. It had become a higher ups dictates what everyone was to do. If we disagreed with anything of importance there was fear of being excommunicated. It did happen to one particular leader in this organization. It took a while, but I finally started to become free.
Another church I went to had a hand picked elder board, what I called a group of yes men that seemed to rubber stamp everything the pastor wanted. My wife and I were preparing to exit, and had visited other churches when suddenly everything dried up financially and we moved 500 miles away near my parents. It was the best thing we ever did. His church came apart. With these two Church experiences, I could write a book.
Hi @Robby Dawkins and crew. My friend, Taffy recommended this show and I've been enjoying the conversations that you're having. As it happens, I do know something about Toxic Church. I trust that this video and Part 2 will be of help to any who listens. Now, it's time to pop over the second reason for watching. I am in the process of learning how to do my own podcast and I'd love to know what format you're using? It's the very thing that I want to do and why I'll probably spend some extra time, here. What's the talk show format you're using? It's definitely not a traditional interview. I'm trying to find out so I can communicate it more clearly at the training school I'm at.
John Wimber and early Vineyard had a model that tried to emphasize the priesthood of all believers, encouraged prayer for one another and for each person to walk in their anointing .When someone brought to the leaders attention specific needs being unmet in the community, they encouraged the individual to seek the Lord in how they can meet the need, with the Church's support. jjj
Possibly the ⭐️ Most Important ⭐️ video anyone has ever made on Ministry Issues, and just might be revealing the primary reason, God is holding back a Real Supernatural REVIVAL for the United States, which, in the past, have lasted for YEARS, or over a DECADE. I think the microphones amplifying pastors’s voices, reverberating in the sanctuary over many weeks and years, but must simultaneously amplify their EGOS, as well.
The Bible does speak to the plurality of elders. ...AND--they should be chosen according to 1 Timothy 3 guidelines-NOT by how long they've attended, whether they're good at making money, whether they show enthusiasm in ministry, how charismatic they are with people, etc.
I think it's dangerous to write off bitterness as fine and justifiable. You can want justice and not be bitter. Bitterness is not just talking about false teaching, although I'm sure there can be a lot of overlap between them. Bitterness is what happens when you let the sun go down on your anger and give the enemy a foothold in your soul. Bitterness is very toxic and highly contagious, and it should not be defended. Again, though, it can be fine to want justice - just don't do it from a place of bitterness, or it will eat you and those around you alive.
I'm sort of in agreement with you. The term "bitter root" is a specific term applied to false teachers throughout the scriptures. Bitterness in and of itself is not sin, it's an emotion or feeling. Acting out of bitterness in a way that is spiteful or vengeful is sin. When we demonize the emotion of "bitterness" then you end up shaming people who already feel horrible. It's a form of gaslighting. Letting the sun go down on your anger is dangerous because of the behaviors we are prone to commit when in that state. It's the sin that gives the devil a foothold, not the emotion. Hope that helps bring some clarity to my statements.
@Michael Miller - thank you for taking the time to reply. I'm familiar with the Deuteronomy 29:18 passage that refers to a root producing something which is sometimes translated as bitterness, bitter fruit or gall. Are there other passages that you are thinking of? I'm thinking of Ephesians 4:31 where Paul tells us to get rid of all bitterness (Strong's 4088), which is the same word used in Hebrews 12:15. I'm also thinking of the passage where Jesus mentions that someone who hates another has committed murder in their heart. I only mention that because some might say that hate is an emotion rather than a sin, but Jesus clearly identifies it as a sin. I'm not trying to put words in your mouth when saying that, though.
@@dagman85 Sorry I don't have too much time to respond on here but I think there is a difference between bitterness where the intention is to harm a person who has betrayed you and the feeling itself of being betrayed, deeply grieving from prolonged suffering. The israelites are actually instructed to eat bitter root to remind them of the bitter feelings of being slaves in Egypt. The psalms are filled with feelings of bitterness without condemnation. My primary concern on the podcast is to ensure that those who feel those feelings aren't on top of that being shamed/condemned for having appropriate emotions in proportion to the betrayal and or spiritual abuse that they experience. Your comment in the other podcast demonstrates exactly what I'm referring to. You presume to know my motivation (albeit with little certainty) and seem more concerned with motives of victims rather than the spiritual abuse of those in power. The tendency to presume and comment on the motives of abuse victims further serves to keep abusive leaders in power and discredit/gaslight those who are victims. I do understand the concern with a desire for vengeance and the harm that desire has on the person wanting it or attempting to get it. As they say, the desire for vengeance is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. While I get that I wish your primary concerns/comments were more about those in power rather than the response of abuse victims.
@@michaelmiller5024 - I can understand how you construed my comment to be directed at your motives, and I apologize for conveying that impression, as that was not my intent. It may stem from us having a slightly different understanding of the word "bitterness". I think of it as an emotional state that happens under certain conditions, but I don't presume to know what thoughts are tied to the emotional state. I think of motives as being more in the thought realm than the emotion realm, and I wasn't intending to comment on motives. In my opinion, emotions can sometimes have certain tones of voice associated with them, whereas thoughts can be completely divorced from tone of voice. I try not to presume to know people's thoughts, because scripture is clear that we cannot directly know someone else's thought's unless Holy Spirit shares that with us. I didn't mean in my comment to in any way convey the idea that your concerns about a leader were not valid. But just as parents are sometimes advised not to punish or discipline their children while they are angry, or people are advised not to go grocery shopping while they are hungry, I think it is dangerous to pursue justice while in an emotional state of bitterness. I hope that helps to clarify what I was trying to say.
100% agree. Yes you were hurt shame on anyone who did the hurting but once the bitterness takes hold and you don’t repent & allow the enemy to speak more lies and burn more anger then you’re going against God at that point and the people he’s annointed even if you believe they are in the wrong. We need to humble ourselvessss, David refused to kill Saul
Makes me liking the Society of Friends even more. Of course not saying there’s no conflict. But I don’t like the structure of most churches. Not that their might be some conflict. Such a good thing. Those aren’t your kids. They are God’s. Oh my word.blamed for your hurt. I have been so blessed. I have not been injured by the church.
Hey Esther, can’t wait to see ya’lls new place. Yes, they do. Michael is talking about having like a new one every year. Many churches are doing that. Blessing! 😊
I was talking about the "novel" one that allows a church to not fulfill Jesus' vision for the church. Not against having a vision statement in general so long as it fits within what Jesus has already envisioned for the church in its totality.
Oh, I think your point is quite valid for all the reasons! - whether it’s marketing or a business requirement. Michael, your comment on churches trying to differentiate themselves from other churches I think plays into how creating a mission statement is handled, and I would love to see more of the church willing to be “normal” and un- noteworthy, instead of well-marketed. To show my cards / share the motive behind my comment - I think the pressures / requirements of 501c3 would be worthy of considering whether or not that produces a healthy, biblical organizational approach, down to having mission statements and statements of belief on websites 👌🏻.
I wrote a book on house churches. It isn't order so much as heart of JESUS building HIS church and a servant heart with a heart for winning the lost and allowing the wineskin to not be structures the same all the time. Different types of meetings.
Scriptures are crystal clear about alcohol. Drinking in moderation is not a sin. Wine in the Bible is always fermented drink. The wine of the first miracle of Jesus was fermented as is all wine referenced in the Bible. Being drunk however is a sin. There is no ambiguity or confusion or interpretation of this subject. It's very clear.
@christinac5391 Absolute rubbish. It was fermented wine. The Bible clearly states juice of the grape as distinct from alcoholic wine in the OT. Wine is alcoholic drink for goodness sakes, the same word for the drink that Noah got drunk from, the same word for the drink proverbs says do not get drunk from. 🤪🤪🤪 Jesus spoke of pouring new wine into new wine skins so that it will not burst. That means a fermented drink. Please stop the nonsense claiming wine means grape juice.
@@tomy8339 Isa 8] Thus saith the LORD, As the new wine is found in the cluster, and one saith, Destroy it not; for a blessing is in it: so will I do for my servants' sakes, that I may not destroy them all.
@tomy8339 Proverbs 23:31-33 (KJV) Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, When it giveth his colour in the cup, When it moveth itself aright. At the last it biteth like a serpent, And stingeth like an adder. Grape juice is also called wine. Also, fermented wine was watered down back then.
So where in church history, did a Pastor become the head of a congregation? Is there anything recorded on this topic. The early church, after all of the apostles are killed was run by a Bishop and elders, from what I've read.
OMGosh, could someone please tell me which church Michael Miller was fired from in 2020? I've even watched his documentary, "I Was Fired From a NAR Church," and he never mentions any names.
Very interesting conversation. But some of my observations do not match. For instance, in the Reformed tradition, pastors are never members of congregations, but only of presbyteries. Similarly, I was taught in a pentecostal denomination that pastors could never be friends with congregants -- and that was not a toxic situation. That was advice to a woman, in how women debrief; they need peers. Men probably need peers for slightly different reasons. Aahh -- so importance of ministerial fellowships or protege relationships. ... Okay, and I've never seen "plurality of eldership" not be toxic -- maybe because I've seen them in a group centered on revelation -- -- but maybe because leadership by committee just doesn't make sense. Committees make sense, and checks and balances make sense, but leadership also is needed. I would like more conversation on all these points. And wow, if someone thinks there is a clear pattern in the NT, I would like to see it, because I have seen lots of various views, none of which include all of the pertinent Scriptures. For sure, I agree on situations where men substitute themselves for Jesus or Holy Spirit.
Excellent conversation. Just a little put off by the intro that bills Robbie as this famous international speaker (not using the word famous, but certainly communicating that concept). If he is, I don't need to be told--I already know his name. If he isn't, I likewise don't know why I should be told that 😜
The mud and spit of Jesus placed on the blind man's eyes... The word of God created the earth aka mud the spit was the DNA of Jesus ( part of the triune God who created all) blended togeather and placed on blind eyes to bring creative miracle... sight to the blind. God is Absolutely Good.
I was saved into a Brethren church as a child, and while they did not know the spirit, boy did they get body life right. We didn’t even have a pastor- folks took turns teaching and everyone helped out.
I saw something like this with the Spirit in the 90’s in my little Vineyard church. It lasted until TO was booted out & our DNA changed.
Been fighting for this living model ever since. It’s time.
This is such a massive problem in churches. May the Lord comfort and heal those who have been subject to these abuses.
Corporate mentality makes it difficult for people to feel Gods love.
I was told for years any vision besides the Pastor’s was DI-vision.
God just gave me the green light a couple of months ago to leave the toxic church I was in. Thank you for exposing this 👏 The Pastor is a type A personality that manipulates the leadership for his vision not the vision of God.
They seem to be the rule with little exceptions
I’m currently attending a Baptist church and we are studying the structure of the church through a book called Biblical Eldership written by Alexander Strauch and also learning there are many places in the Bible that we can learn from how the church “government” should be. I never realized how important it was to learn about this. It’s also very interesting.
Such an important topic. The best church experience I ever had was a while back in another city, but what stood out was all the leaders truly knew each other and loved each other, and each welcomed new friends into their worlds - we weren't below their connection. Simple as that. Later, I saw how they had good governing structures and all, but the first thing I noticed was the genuine love and friendship in a place that worshiped beautifully and moved in the Spirit. The love stood out. Never saw that before. And still hard to find now ♥
What church was that?
@@laurenfromdownsouth the Vineyard on the west coast of Canada before they cut off Toronto. Once they did that, the life drained out. Good people with no HS = backsliding people/unsustainable church. We need structure AND Holy Spirit. Wineskin & wine.
Iron sharpens Iron. Loved to hear two brothers keeping each other sharp.
41:30 My family was in a church where the assistant pastor actually controlled everything. All the various ministry leaders were puppets in positions only for show. Five men were on the board but they were all immature believers & that was done on purpose. They all "owed" the assistant pastor something, he made sure of it. Some of these debts were out and out fraud. This pastor ultimately destroyed many long term relationships and more than 75% of the people left the church, including the senior pastor. The senior pastor had been kept to preach because the assistant pastor had no anointing at all. We all wondered why but later learned he was more of a social club leader than a real man of God.
The prayer at the end ... 🤯🤯🤯🤯 my very prayer daily. Thank you all for this! Much much needed!
Yes
Almost every Christian needs to hear these truths in this podcast and in Part 2 podcast. It’s a must for identifying and healing. ❤❤❤
This reminds me of the Hall and Oates song: "You've Lost that Loving Feeling." This is hurting the church. I love how Michael Miller systematically addresses all the points in this interview. 🙏 ❤
It’s actually the Everly brothers but I get your point…😎
Thanks for the clarity and comfort this discussion brought. ❤
Yes at the end when you said you were blamed for your own abuse. I was blamed for my own abuse! That’s been maybe the hardest. But I absolutely pray and pursue forgiveness. My heart breaks at times for the abusers.
My heart breaks for the abused…
This is so good! We are going through this 😮
"Does Jesus already have a vision for his church? .....You don't get to make one that's different from that." AHHHHHH I love it love it love it
Yes our former leader was met with constant praise and agreement. People were scared and worshipped him and his wife. They were afraid not to.
Wisdom!❤ I do!
This reminds me of the leadership of Chad Norris from Bridgeway church/Now the Garden. They had to change their name because of what this man and his leadership have done in our community. You guys are literally describing what kind of toxic leadership we were under. It’s evil! And totally shameful when leaders willing sin against their congregation
Love Michael Miller's description of church government. Totally agree and have had the same understanding for years. I've also seen the structure as a carryover from the old covenant. The picture is of elders in each city overseeing the church--not as controlling, but to maintain the health of the city in justice and righteousness.
I felt the Holy Spirit when you explained about the Revelation to Peter of Jesus being the Rock and when you said about apostles being missionaries.
Robby I am so thankful to God for your podcast! Thank you for your courage to speak the truth in so many subjects.... Donald Trump, wokeness, Lonne's powerful ministry to name a few, and now toxic leadership. I look to you as a true brother in the Lord and someone who understands the value of common sense. This podcast really blessed my heart. I have been very disheartened with "church" for many years. The church in America has truly missed the mark and its so so sad. Thank you again for your boldness to speak the truth when so many "christian" leaders are silent. God bless you!
Your story about how your pastor asked what your "vision" was for the youth group reminds me of a question a Sr. pastor asked my husband at one of their first meetings. The pastor said, "What is your 5 year plan?" (This church was a super small struggling church and my husband and I just left a large one as the Spirit miraculously led us to volunteer at this one. Also my husband gave up the opportunity for a well paid IT position at a mega church at this same time) My husband responded, "If I had a 5 year plan this church wouldn't have been on it!" 😅
Can you do an episode on TOXIC PODCASTERS???
Amen! We are asking for justice!! Thank you Michael
I learned more by seeing what I would NEVER DO!
Nice to see Michael and Robbie talking. I’ve followed Robbie for a long time and have been watching Remnant radio about a year now. All of you are wonderful God fearing men who Its guaranteed the P & P tremble when you are doing Gods work!! Love this content, learned a few things. 🙏🏼
I would add this. I was affected by the church because I grew up in a hell fire environment, but not personally injured by anyone in the church.
Fifty or sixty years ago the "vision statement" was the doctrinal statement of the governing body of your church, ie Southern Baptist, Methodist, Pentecostal...
I think you're forgetting the fact that John said in his gospel that they didn't have space or paper or time to record all that Jesus did. So we don't know how many weddings He attended. We don't know how many eyes were healed with mud. But we DO know this: He did what His Father told Him to do. That's the most important part of EVERYTHING Jesus did.
So I was also told my pastor couldn’t be friends (or family) with anyone in the church. We are family and was offering to be friends but it clearly wasn’t wanted.
What is the mission statement is honor God and make disciples
Bishops, Decons and Elders are spoken of as the leadership.
Yeah Michael Miller and Robby Dawkins Thanks LORD GLORY Hallelujah Thanks for sharing this Robby Dawkins team
20:18 Multiple pastors behave this way. I knew one that would go to a meeting and have the board members talk and then tell them (no matter what they said) that God told him differently and so they all had to do what he wanted. It was a power trip and trump card he played. My friend who was a board member said there was no reason to have a board with pastors like that.
It would mean a lot to me to hear these two talk on the subject of spousal abuse. I think there is very little clarity on the topic in the Church.
Great show really answered some questions I’ve had and made me think
I was part of a network of churches in the UK in the early to mid eighties in the UK where heavy shepherding was rife and people got hurt. The thing is there was mixture of incredibly good and bad at play. In 2003 I joined a church that was connected to incredibly mature prophetic ministries and pastoral ministries and I grew and got free in ways I didn't realise I needed it and yet there were things that were not right and as a body that church does not exist as a body anymore. I am and will be forever grateful for the good things in the Lord in both churches and know that my Jesus is my healer in all things. However I came to the conclusion that, particularly in the first circle of churches I was in that there were many leaders at that time in that network that were not 'broken' before the Lord, they hadn't been in that place of being undone before the Lord and had been appointed largely because of natural gifting and maybe allegiance to the founders of the movement and teachings. I believe in God releasing revelation to His children and even that there are wondrous levels of 'seeing' and understanding what actually is in scripture that just explodes awe and wonder and just freedom on the inside of you but it will never bump up against scripture, just set it alive in your spirit.
I love the honesty of this discussion ❤
This was so goood!! Thank you!
Really good show tonight, so well said "Hats!" I have seen this kind of top-down leadership for most of my involvement in churches, in Elder positions, or should I say cling-on because I'm only a woman. I so appreciated the entire conversation! Thanks Robby, always good!
I would love to hear more about the “cyclical” nature of the acts of the Holy Spirit. Great stuff guys ❤ Thanks for letting us in on the convo 🐑👀❤️🔥🙏🏻
Pray for the church in Orlando ❤
The reason churches have vision statements is because of Proverbs 29:18 where there is no vision the people perish. But that scripture has NOTHING to do with having a plan. 😂
Only your way Yahweh Help Us to be flexible to change as we stand in Awe of you 🔥You show up HolySpirit 🕊So Creative and Strategic 💎God 💟love it in my weakness 😌You are Strong 🔥
Awesome conversation. Great teaching and analysis. I’m sure the truth you shared set many souls free …❤
Felt so understood listening to this podcast & the ending prayer just WRECKED ME!💯💯💯 thankful for this
Wow going through something right now this has helped so much thank you guy's!
🙌🏻 Praise The Lord
So good! Thanks for this talk!
Glad I heard this, been there and went through same things. My first dream/vision had a dead toxic church in it! I believe the label you’re looking for but never said was Narcissists in leadership. And there’s way too many, they destroy and hurt and drive out people, it’s sickening and borders demonic. I just call it what it is. It’s falling in love with the gifts and becoming a god to yourself and out of love with God the giver of gifts. It’s sad how a mess churches are and people have to get out and travel to “higher ground” often alone to find the true Kingdom of God.
This was helpful, brought back many memories.
Such a cool discussion!
In reference to the corporate culture of church leadership, it's ok to take skills and things we know from secular life and leverage them for the kingdom. The problem though is that people nearly always overestimate the utility of worldly wisdom and the sense of expertise and sophistication boosts egos and gives leaders another place (besides God) to put their trust. And we wind up with leaders who think that because they went to a conference and learned something about vision statements etc they can say, "step aside, let me show you how its done."
Like Robby & Michael said, in the age we are currently living in, the Great Commission is God's mission statement for the church. What all of us need to learn and discover, in fellowship with one another, is how our efforts, our gifts, our callings and our relationships and allegiances fit in to that mission. And it's appropriate that we do that with humility, appreciation for what others bring to the table, and a hesitancy to cast judgment on others.
I am sympathetic to the "visionary" leader. God may give a vision to someone that others do not see or understand, that causes the person to face mockery and rejection. We see it throughout scripture, almost as the norm.
Growth and fruit happen around people: people who are loyal to Jesus, full of the Spirit and full of faith. The best leaders are the ones who understand that every child of God is to be fruitful as a "priest" in the vein of 1 cor 14:26. But too many shepherds ask themselves what the sheep can do for their ministry, rather than what they can do for their sheep's ministries.
I agree with you guys. Thank you for speaking.
Good healing discussion!
The church I left (after 12 years of service & 2 years as an elder) had adopted what they called a "Bethel mindset" that even if the pastor said something wrong that since he was "God's man on earth" that God would make it right and no one should bring up nor confront the pastor regarding his unbiblical teachings or personal shots at people in the congregation.
I went to this church in 2020, and January 2021 a friend of mine told me some inappropriate behavior that this leader did toward her. God spoke to me one evening and said regarding this head leader, “He needs to humble himself or I will humble him.” And the fear of the Lord came upon me. I chickened out on telling him and I wasn’t sure if it was my place…
I couldn’t go back much, so from soon after until June I didn’t go there except to serve during children’s service. I lived with a family during that time and one day heard the Lord say “Come out from among them…” but I was new to hearing Him and wasn’t sure. I ended up going back around July and attended until about November ‘21, until someone Hats knows well told me his podcast (referred to in this video) was about this church. I was appalled, and quickly left. 🙏🏼
A couple months ago I felt compelled to go there during an evening service. When I arrived they were closed for the holiday season. I was so confused, but I believe God released something for my obedience and all bitterness left.
Great video podcast!!!!! Thank you
I see an astounding connection between Jesus healing with the mud/Pool of Siloam & Nehemiah 3:15. The pool is found on the other side of the "Fountain Gate" which can also be translated as "Eye Gate."
Vision statement are commerce business terms
Five Fold Ministry is Jesus's design.
Would have loved to hear this discussed in this conversation. Maybe in the future discussions....hopefully.
That is for ministry, building others up to serve, but it's not the actual leadership though has to work in the area, though probably not an Elder or Bishop, or even a Decon.
I think a Word and Spirit filled church will work in any form, and the converse is true as well. But even in a Word and Sprit filled church, well meaning people can make mistakes, and man is it helpful to have others giving you advice when you're about to really step in it!
I think that the vision is more about how individual churches are going to achieve the Acts vision in the parameters of their locations, relevant needs and qualifications of their members. I don’t see it as changing the vision of Christ. Every church is as much of an individual entity in the church as a whole as is every church member in their own church bodies. Every joint supplieth, and in a different way. Vision is just about owning how your church is going to achieve its part of the calling as a whole.
I do believe the Bible instructs on church structure and I was in a five fold ministry church, which did serve the body well by edifying the members with all the gifts of the spirit, and initially they were going back to book of Acts Christianity, it was awesome! But then there was a pyramid type structure and the Leader was and is worshipped almost as much as the pope is, he doesn’t control the churches economically, but pastors may not feel like they have a voice to disagree theologically and lately they started telling us the pastor is supposed to be like our father and they took it so far as to have people asking for permission for like every life decision or even to visit another church. It really upsets me how much it changed from something good to something controlling and that requires members to basically spend all their time in the 4 walls and in that community instead of reaching the world for the gospel. I left and I sometimes visit because I miss the worship and fellowship and move of the Spirit that still is in that church, but I see all churches having faults, look at the letters Paul wrote to the churches and Jesus in the book of revelation. We need to keep re-examining where have we gone wrong and be humble enough to change. A church should never be a business, that’s a big no no, Jesus would come turn a lot of tables at churches today if he were here physically.
Back on the eighty’s, I was involved in a church that became involved in the shepherding movement. After several years of gradual changes, I as well as about thirty other people quietly left without causing problems. I had become so frustrated and even scared that my relationship with my at that time girlfriend would be called on the counter for not getting the relationship approved by leadership. Things had slowly become toxic. It had become a higher ups dictates what everyone was to do. If we disagreed with anything of importance there was fear of being excommunicated. It did happen to one particular leader in this organization. It took a while, but I finally started to become free.
Another church I went to had a hand picked elder board, what I called a group of yes men that seemed to rubber stamp everything the pastor wanted. My wife and I were preparing to exit, and had visited other churches when suddenly everything dried up financially and we moved 500 miles away near my parents. It was the best thing we ever did. His church came apart. With these two Church experiences, I could write a book.
Sounds just like what happened with the maranatha movement
Hi @Robby Dawkins and crew. My friend, Taffy recommended this show and I've been enjoying the conversations that you're having. As it happens, I do know something about Toxic Church. I trust that this video and Part 2 will be of help to any who listens. Now, it's time to pop over the second reason for watching.
I am in the process of learning how to do my own podcast and I'd love to know what format you're using? It's the very thing that I want to do and why I'll probably spend some extra time, here. What's the talk show format you're using? It's definitely not a traditional interview. I'm trying to find out so I can communicate it more clearly at the training school I'm at.
Would love to hear more on this..
So then study the book “Think Like an Advanced Christian - BURKE.” Excellent maturity. In 2023, maturity wins? (Yes. It does.)
Phenomenal episode
Seek and save the lost, and destroy the works of the devil!
John Wimber and early Vineyard had a model that tried to emphasize the priesthood of all believers, encouraged prayer for one another and for each person to walk in their anointing .When someone brought to the leaders attention specific needs being unmet in the community, they encouraged the individual to seek the Lord in how they can meet the need, with the Church's support. jjj
Possibly the ⭐️ Most Important ⭐️ video anyone has ever made on Ministry Issues, and just might be revealing the primary reason, God is holding back a Real Supernatural REVIVAL for the United States, which, in the past, have lasted for YEARS, or over a DECADE. I think the microphones amplifying pastors’s voices, reverberating in the sanctuary over many weeks and years, but must simultaneously amplify their EGOS, as well.
I pray for honest and love to return or come
Something people don’t talk about good stuff
The Bible does speak to the plurality of elders. ...AND--they should be chosen according to 1 Timothy 3 guidelines-NOT by how long they've attended, whether they're good at making money, whether they show enthusiasm in ministry, how charismatic they are with people, etc.
The foursquare church always had a vision statement
I think it's dangerous to write off bitterness as fine and justifiable. You can want justice and not be bitter. Bitterness is not just talking about false teaching, although I'm sure there can be a lot of overlap between them. Bitterness is what happens when you let the sun go down on your anger and give the enemy a foothold in your soul. Bitterness is very toxic and highly contagious, and it should not be defended. Again, though, it can be fine to want justice - just don't do it from a place of bitterness, or it will eat you and those around you alive.
I'm sort of in agreement with you. The term "bitter root" is a specific term applied to false teachers throughout the scriptures. Bitterness in and of itself is not sin, it's an emotion or feeling. Acting out of bitterness in a way that is spiteful or vengeful is sin. When we demonize the emotion of "bitterness" then you end up shaming people who already feel horrible. It's a form of gaslighting. Letting the sun go down on your anger is dangerous because of the behaviors we are prone to commit when in that state. It's the sin that gives the devil a foothold, not the emotion. Hope that helps bring some clarity to my statements.
@Michael Miller - thank you for taking the time to reply. I'm familiar with the Deuteronomy 29:18 passage that refers to a root producing something which is sometimes translated as bitterness, bitter fruit or gall. Are there other passages that you are thinking of?
I'm thinking of Ephesians 4:31 where Paul tells us to get rid of all bitterness (Strong's 4088), which is the same word used in Hebrews 12:15.
I'm also thinking of the passage where Jesus mentions that someone who hates another has committed murder in their heart. I only mention that because some might say that hate is an emotion rather than a sin, but Jesus clearly identifies it as a sin. I'm not trying to put words in your mouth when saying that, though.
@@dagman85 Sorry I don't have too much time to respond on here but I think there is a difference between bitterness where the intention is to harm a person who has betrayed you and the feeling itself of being betrayed, deeply grieving from prolonged suffering. The israelites are actually instructed to eat bitter root to remind them of the bitter feelings of being slaves in Egypt. The psalms are filled with feelings of bitterness without condemnation. My primary concern on the podcast is to ensure that those who feel those feelings aren't on top of that being shamed/condemned for having appropriate emotions in proportion to the betrayal and or spiritual abuse that they experience. Your comment in the other podcast demonstrates exactly what I'm referring to. You presume to know my motivation (albeit with little certainty) and seem more concerned with motives of victims rather than the spiritual abuse of those in power. The tendency to presume and comment on the motives of abuse victims further serves to keep abusive leaders in power and discredit/gaslight those who are victims. I do understand the concern with a desire for vengeance and the harm that desire has on the person wanting it or attempting to get it. As they say, the desire for vengeance is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die. While I get that I wish your primary concerns/comments were more about those in power rather than the response of abuse victims.
@@michaelmiller5024 - I can understand how you construed my comment to be directed at your motives, and I apologize for conveying that impression, as that was not my intent. It may stem from us having a slightly different understanding of the word "bitterness". I think of it as an emotional state that happens under certain conditions, but I don't presume to know what thoughts are tied to the emotional state. I think of motives as being more in the thought realm than the emotion realm, and I wasn't intending to comment on motives. In my opinion, emotions can sometimes have certain tones of voice associated with them, whereas thoughts can be completely divorced from tone of voice. I try not to presume to know people's thoughts, because scripture is clear that we cannot directly know someone else's thought's unless Holy Spirit shares that with us. I didn't mean in my comment to in any way convey the idea that your concerns about a leader were not valid. But just as parents are sometimes advised not to punish or discipline their children while they are angry, or people are advised not to go grocery shopping while they are hungry, I think it is dangerous to pursue justice while in an emotional state of bitterness. I hope that helps to clarify what I was trying to say.
100% agree. Yes you were hurt shame on anyone who did the hurting but once the bitterness takes hold and you don’t repent & allow the enemy to speak more lies and burn more anger then you’re going against God at that point and the people he’s annointed even if you believe they are in the wrong. We need to humble ourselvessss, David refused to kill Saul
Makes me liking the Society of Friends even more. Of course not saying there’s no conflict. But I don’t like the structure of most churches. Not that their might be some conflict. Such a good thing. Those aren’t your kids. They are God’s.
Oh my word.blamed for your hurt.
I have been so blessed. I have not been injured by the church.
Have you ever read poisonous power by Joseph Matera? Great book on this topic. Enjoyed the video.
What about narcissist pastors? There’s a ton of those
Boards are from coperate structure. Easy for them to fail.
Whoa. This is good. So then what is the best model. Eldership. But how does that work. Self correction along the way…?
501c3 requires a mission statement / statement of beliefs!
Hey Esther, can’t wait to see ya’lls new place. Yes, they do. Michael is talking about having like a new one every year. Many churches are doing that.
Blessing! 😊
I was talking about the "novel" one that allows a church to not fulfill Jesus' vision for the church. Not against having a vision statement in general so long as it fits within what Jesus has already envisioned for the church in its totality.
Oh, I think your point is quite valid for all the reasons! - whether it’s marketing or a business requirement.
Michael, your comment on churches trying to differentiate themselves from other churches I think plays into how creating a mission statement is handled, and I would love to see more of the church willing to be “normal” and un- noteworthy, instead of well-marketed.
To show my cards / share the motive behind my comment - I think the pressures / requirements of 501c3 would be worthy of considering whether or not that produces a healthy, biblical organizational approach, down to having mission statements and statements of belief on websites 👌🏻.
I wrote a book on house churches. It isn't order so much as heart of JESUS building HIS church and a servant heart with a heart for winning the lost and allowing the wineskin to not be structures the same all the time. Different types of meetings.
I believe drinking alcohol is a sin. It's sad that the church is being deceived about it.
Scriptures are crystal clear about alcohol. Drinking in moderation is not a sin. Wine in the Bible is always fermented drink. The wine of the first miracle of Jesus was fermented as is all wine referenced in the Bible. Being drunk however is a sin.
There is no ambiguity or confusion or interpretation of this subject. It's very clear.
@@tomy8339 It was grape juice. Just pray and seek the Lord about the matter.
@christinac5391 Absolute rubbish. It was fermented wine. The Bible clearly states juice of the grape as distinct from alcoholic wine in the OT. Wine is alcoholic drink for goodness sakes, the same word for the drink that Noah got drunk from, the same word for the drink proverbs says do not get drunk from. 🤪🤪🤪
Jesus spoke of pouring new wine into new wine skins so that it will not burst. That means a fermented drink. Please stop the nonsense claiming wine means grape juice.
@@tomy8339 Isa 8] Thus saith the LORD, As the new wine is found in the cluster, and one saith, Destroy it not; for a blessing is in it: so will I do for my servants' sakes, that I may not destroy them all.
@tomy8339 Proverbs 23:31-33 (KJV)
Look not thou upon the wine when it is red, When it giveth his colour in the cup, When it moveth itself aright. At the last it biteth like a serpent, And stingeth like an adder. Grape juice is also called wine. Also, fermented wine was watered down back then.
So where in church history, did a Pastor become the head of a congregation? Is there anything recorded on this topic. The early church, after all of the apostles are killed was run by a Bishop and elders, from what I've read.
We in a time of revival and none thing is impossible with God. So understanding that was lost or trust can be restored this is my pray and more
OMGosh, could someone please tell me which church Michael Miller was fired from in 2020? I've even watched his documentary, "I Was Fired From a NAR Church," and he never mentions any names.
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@@roxanamoraga6302 why was Michael fired?
I no longer go to church. I wanted God and not the man made setup.
Very interesting conversation. But some of my observations do not match. For instance, in the Reformed tradition, pastors are never members of congregations, but only of presbyteries. Similarly, I was taught in a pentecostal denomination that pastors could never be friends with congregants -- and that was not a toxic situation. That was advice to a woman, in how women debrief; they need peers. Men probably need peers for slightly different reasons. Aahh -- so importance of ministerial fellowships or protege relationships. ... Okay, and I've never seen "plurality of eldership" not be toxic -- maybe because I've seen them in a group centered on revelation -- -- but maybe because leadership by committee just doesn't make sense. Committees make sense, and checks and balances make sense, but leadership also is needed. I would like more conversation on all these points. And wow, if someone thinks there is a clear pattern in the NT, I would like to see it, because I have seen lots of various views, none of which include all of the pertinent Scriptures. For sure, I agree on situations where men substitute themselves for Jesus or Holy Spirit.
Love and miss y’all! My 3 years at UpperRoom were life changing!
Excellent conversation. Just a little put off by the intro that bills Robbie as this famous international speaker (not using the word famous, but certainly communicating that concept). If he is, I don't need to be told--I already know his name. If he isn't, I likewise don't know why I should be told that 😜
Jesus’ first sermon Luke 4: 14 - 31.
49:45
Where does it say in scripture that we carried over the Jewish system? Because it sounds like an assumption to me.
1 Corinthians 14:26
The mud and spit of Jesus placed on the blind man's eyes... The word of God created the earth aka mud the spit was the DNA of Jesus ( part of the triune God who created all) blended togeather and placed on blind eyes to bring creative miracle... sight to the blind. God is Absolutely Good.
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The Apostle of Flat Feet finally getting the proper recognition. 😉
Chronological snobbery :)