The tragic events of abuse that you had to continually face as a 13-14 year old is so heartbreaking and distressing. You have so much support here and hopefully getting professional support. God bless you, Jack .It is unimaginable what you went through. You’re on the other side now. Continue to focus on yourself and recovery. Doug
you're so brave for coming out and sharing your story with the world no matter how long ago it happened. if some states in the US and other countries around the world have a statute of limitations on how long a victim can wait before they report this grooming behavior they should get rid of it because different people will report whenever they're mentally ready. their way, their time. some victims will take their story to their grave. who are we to judge ????
I hear you Chandler, in my case the statute of limitations was 3 years at the time. By the time I spoke about it to anyone the time had expired. I appreciate you being here my friend I hope you stay!
I am so sorry that you went through this brother this breaks my heart a lot. Thank you for sharing this story with us Jack. These sick criminals need to be locked up LIFE IN PRISON. It makes me so sick to my stomach that these sick criminals are still out there.
@@jackunmaskedJust subscribedWish you the best of luck and love with your channel and your future. You need a channel name because I am now also subscribed to a kids channel also😂. One came to mind. “Wren into Phoenix”. The Wren is a tiny & timid bird preyed upon by predators like owls & Eagles and the Phoenix is the mythical bird who is strong and rises from the ashes…. A vision of strength and hope… which is what you are providing to so many!! God Bless and keep strong!
The role of a father figure to a young boy is so important. We are born needing that guidance, approval, acceptance, from a father figure. So this abuser was able to act in that role, but instead of showing genuine love, he just wanted to use you for his own lusts. Thank you for sharing your story, and I am so glad you are moving on with your adult life, not letting the abusive actions of Dace ruin you today. This talk shows how critical it is for parents to guard their kids. I’m really grateful for the friends you had, before Dace separated you from them. I imagine the ‘extra kids’ being around made Dace have to delay his agenda many times. Strength in numbers!
I agree Rob, it was a tough situation but here we are. I’m a better man for having lived through it and I am able to share myself with people genuinely. Thanks so much for being here.
You are so brave for sharing your story. Do not blame yourself for one second! As a child you did not have the skills or the mindset to know this was wrong or what to do. I wonder how many people have similar things happen to them and just never talk about it and then suffer in silence their whole lives? You are probably helping more people than you know by sharing painful parts of your past. Thank you again for your honesty and bravery. All the best to you for happier times ahead.
Your bravery knows no bounds. This is haunting and I feel the work you’re doing is incredibly imperative. My heart breaks for your 14 year old self. Thank you for your courage. You are helping so many. There are no words. Im sorry you had no one to turn to.
Jack, I saw your interview on the Underbelly, and I can't imagine the heartache you wen't through and the challenges that posed for years to come. I know it is important for you to share your testimony especially when you are trying to do some good in the world. I also want to say that you don't have to do this right now, in the future, or at all, ever. Trauma changes the way we view ourselves, the world, and others. Our brains do amazing things to help us navigate these stressors from "highway hypnosis" to dissociative-type behaviors where we check-out to different degrees. The symptoms you described from watching yourself up in the corner of the room to staring off into space are these dissociative events, parts of us were being created to help us disconnect to save us from the absolute terror of what was occurring. The breach of trust and the idea of safety to feeling absolutely alone with no way out to questioning yourself, and so on. Even now, it appears you are having a challenging time with some of the details and it makes complete sense especially as you become more aware of what it was like for you and how well he had orchestrated these events. Please be careful retelling these events because you are at risk of retraumatizing yourself as each layer unfolds over and over again for you. Be blessed, Jack.
You have my prayers and good intentions of the heart & soul. May The Most High bring peace upon you and healing of the soul. You still have light. He didn’t take all of it. You will get it all back.
@@jackunmasked you are the light to darkness. And because of that you are able to be and go in the dark as light. There are so many people lost in the darkness and only a few will see the light. The seeds were planted ages ago. Harvest time is upon existence. I spent my entire known life so far since birth trying to tare down the veils of evil=veil=vile=live etc since being birthed into this realm. Pulled from somewhere into nowhere= here now in the present moment of eternity. I understand brother. Your work is important. The gift 🎁 re-presented by Christ the Present 🎁 to be present is to be with GOD not in the past that no longer defines you, or a future that isn’t set in stone. But the moment of now. The speed of thought is the fastest known speed in all of existence.
Jack, your bravery continues to astound me. As someone who was both a student and educator in your town, your truth matters and you deserve to be heard. Your willingness to share, like other brave souls who do not ever need to share such horrors but do, has value for the world to better understand the insidious nature of predators and how they operate. Victims voices are the hardest but most accurate way to understand how this could happen and how adults can learn to prevent it. I personally feel it is our duty to listen to those willing to share the details of the layers and depths of abuse so as a society we can learn and do better by children who deserved to be protected. I’m grateful to all those who have helped you on your healing journey and so very humbled and impressed by your resilience.
Thanks so much Allison, I wish I had the courage to speak up when I was a student in your world. Incredibly grateful to have you here, you were always very kind and fair to me as a young person.
You have taken back the power by sharing your pain and trauma. It doesn’t make telling it any easier. You can see it in your face, it’s like it just happened again. I’m glad you mentioned the would have, could have should have…. You were 14, isolated, felt shame, and most of all powerless and with someone who took advantage of you in every way. It has taken so much from you over the last 20+ years. Yet here you are, stronger, sober and empowered. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope it helps you further towards healing. All the best from Melbourne Australia.
@@jackunmasked you’d love Australia. It’s about a 17 hour flight from the US. You’d need a good month to see a lot of it. As Australia is about the same size as continental USA minus Alaska. Culturally similar to the US, but vastly different in so many ways. Look at some reaction videos on RUclips about Australia. Some are hilarious, when it comes to spiders, snakes, crocodiles, kangaroos etc… and trying Vegemite or Ozzy foods.
Thank You Jack for having the courage to share your experiences.🙏💕As an Adult now telling your story, I hope you see you were an Innocent child, and he preyed on that. The sad part is there are ALOT more out there just like him. I hope this reaches out to someone else and helps them, or maybe they see these signs ya know? The crazy part to all this is he pretty much groomed EVERYONE that was a part of your life! I pray you and your family stay Happy and Blessed Jack 🙏💕
Yes Laurie he did fool the whole city for the most part. Times were strange for me back then, I was a child who didn’t know how to handle these situations. Thanks so much for being here.
That was tough Jack. Completely not your fault. Everything happens for a reason and this may be so that you can be strong and help others like your doing. Much respect bro.👊🏻
Jack! My friend! This video hit hard. I relate to so many things. I feel blessed and grateful for your friendship, emails, and your content. I know it's hard to talk about this stuff, and I can feel your anguish my brother. Keep doing what you're doing. You're healing and it may take a lifetime. You're also helping others to deal with their struggles as well. Let's continue to move forward in gratitude one day at a time! Love ya, brother! 🙏
Hi Jack. I am so thankful that you are able to talk about the atrocities that were inflicted upon you. It goes so far beyond the physical aspects. In addition to the trauma this man caused you, I can only imagine the anguish your mother has endured. Thankfully, this monster is no longer able to harm young boys. I am just so sorry that you, and the rest of his victims, had to go through these things. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. See you next time!
Hey Jack! Thanks for all your strength in telling us your truth. And you were a kid. You did all you could to stay safe. Glad you’ve reached a happy healthy place today for yourself. ❤
Jack, this is so hard to watch and listen to, I can't imagine how hard it must be to talk about this let alone having gone through all of it ... the more I hope you may always find softness in deep self-compassion knowing that you have always done the best to your ability in all of these moments, there was no other choice, you did what you could and that was right and enough, you were right and enough always - and look at you now, making it through all of this, going the path of healing, of forgiveness and being an inspiration to us all, a guiding light, thank you so much for inviting us in 🙏🏼❤
You are my hero!!!! I am so sorry to hear this truth that is helping and hitting home and healing others with similar stories 😢. You have always been so brave. I have a hard time even finding the words to express my feelings. Great job in life! By your videos it seems like you can be hard on yourself. I just want to remind you that you’re amazing and keep working hard!! You are inspiring so many of us! ❤ Love you friend!!
I am so so sorry Jack!! You shouldn’t have had to endure this by an adult you trusted. You are so strong to share your story to hopefully help others. So glad he is in jail!!
Hey Jack. It's amazing that in your mind you gave Dace every benefit of the doubt even though you really knew this was all him. That's got to bring up issues of trust. I know that I have had problems with trust ever since my abuse took place 55+ years ago! It really messes with my mind more than I ever gave credit to it. I appreciate the strength it takes for you to talk about this stuff. It's a real benefit to your audience. Thank you friend.
Jack, I was captured completely with ur story...and I feel ur strength and vulnerability converging at the same momment...thank you from the bottom of my heart...hearing ur story is life changing..in a positive way.❤
Marco this more than a little something! You’ve gone above and beyond, this type of support is remarkable. I never thought my words could have such a positive impact so seeing acts of generosity like this truly humble me. Blessed to have you here my friend, thank you so much.
@@jackunmasked- always remember that this world (which is under Satan’s rule until Jesus Christ returns) absolutely hates good-hearted, straight masculine men such as yourself. The fact that you’ve risen above it all despite your harrowing experiences is such a testament.
A strong and compelling report. The feeling of anguish and loneliness that You must have felt is very strong for an adult, imagine to a child. My Jesus😢
WOW! WHAT A MONSTER! Thank you for being open about what happened to you. very courageous and I'm sure this will help someone somewhere out there. Bless you!.
Happy friday Jack. I can appreciate so much you talking openly about your traumas. But, i do agree, some of these experiences could be for you and maybe some professionals. And friends and family if you chose to do so. If sharing your experience with us on this platform is freeing and helping, absolutely, continue. Im sure you are helping someone out there by sharing. You are number one though!
Thanks Nora, I have shared with many therapists over the years. Sometimes digging it up and describing it takes a lot of emotional energy, but I’m golden. No worries! Thank you for being here.
Your courage to not only process this all, but to share your experiences and your pain is so brave. Not sure I could share my similar experiences and pain so openly. Thank you. In hearing your words I realize that I was not the cause of what happened to me.
You could never be the cause of that, took me a long time to realize it myself. Blessed to have you here. Thanks so much for participating so honestly.
Oh Jack I am so sorry you went thru that. I know what to say but I will not at this time I can see how much courage and pain you have sharing this, I hope it helps you to tell it now. I will tell you I had a similar experience at 16 when I was sick and mom took me to the army Hospital a medic did some very inappropriate things with me that I never could talk with anyone about. Bless you. 🙏🙏❤❤
Damn Jack. Yes I was upset watching this but I was upset for your 14 year old self. If your story is devastating to listen to I can't even fathom what it must have been for that young boy that you were and that young boy who is still inside. I could tell this was difficult for you today as you had a haunted look in your eyes. Made me want to cry but I watched the whole video because you were brave enough to tell it. From your other videos (I've not been able to catch the past two...yet) it's apparent you've done some very hard work and that you've come across to the other side but it's also obvious that it's still difficult to relive those moments. Kudos for speaking out cause this will help so many others. Much love!
The things he did to get and maintain control over you are so vile. When you mentioned seeing it was him with the 3rd massage and choosing to let it happen... as hard as that choice was it was the better one. Being tied down and just you and him, if you let it be known that you saw him, he could have panicked and done something that would have made a different outcome. The look in your eyes and on your face as you told this part... I could feel it in my heart. I read the comments also and to see how many you are touching with this story is amazing. Seen many that were also abused saying how you are empowering them to face the trauma and know it was not their fault. Your story should be shown in schools. Not with voice overs and re-enactments and blah blah... just as it is. You telling the story raw and to the point. I'm not a religious man by any means but I do feel something (or someone) knew there were good things to come for you. Even though it's been a bumpy road, you're still becoming the better version of yourself each day. Hope you have an amazing weekend my friend. Read you were possibly doing a live Sunday. If so I'm gonna do what it takes to be there. Much love Jack!
Good Sunday Jack. Whoa, suspenseful. It's natural to reproach yourself for saying/doing nothing. And yet, victims are not believed. Victims R not believed. You were protecting yourself as well. From the trauma of being blamed. In survivors' recovery, it is repeatedly stated that children cannot be responsible for the adults' actions. I pay lip service to that. But in my gut, I believe I brought it on myself, that I provoked my mother & sis. They were retaliating. I live with and accept that duality. I once heard that in recovery we develop the capacity to tolerate conflicting emotional states. It truly is a sign of fluidity. What in program we refer to as black/white thinking is the opposite of that. Stay fluid. Therapists use the term "integrate" for the process of developing acceptance of painful memory. I'm not sure how that happens. Memory becomes less raw. It's still painful, but no longer front page news. Watching you It's clear you're not there yet. Be patient!!! Disclosure is part of the process, but it's not overnight resolution. Your description of feeling dazed as a 13/14 year old is poignant. Trauma does place us in an altered state. No wonder we needed to get drunk & high. Peace & lots o love back
I’ve heard you tell this story before, but the emotional pain is so apparent in your demeanor today. It is obvious the toll this event has taken on you and continues to take on your emotional wellbeing. I am sorry for your pain.
It seems his well being is fine now. His demeanor has done a 360. (Glad for that). No child/teen should ever have to experience sexual abuse I'm sure he won't have to reflect or talk about his past on this platform after this. He seems to have a few good friends and a caring gf to help him if he regresses? Hopefully he won't fall back into using drugs to mask past issues. Therapy helps with that. ✌️
Jack, Same time period for me, eight and ninth grades. Two different teachers and a neighbor. It was like each way I turned I was right back there again. One teacher was getting to me through my interests in cars & motorcycles, the other teacher aiding me in skipping class and getting out of schoolwork and the neighbor introducing me to marijuana and alcohol. Each manipulating me through my weaknesses and lack of a strong male presence in my life, plus isolating me from friends. Talking this through is hard, sometimes harder than others. The emotions are overwhelming. These abusers, at least for me, have a way of instilling a bit of guilt as well, thus aiding in the isolation. Sexuality is so confusing for 13 & 14 years olds, at least for me, and these abusers know how to manipulate it to their advantage. It took me years to realize and accept that I wasn’t at least in part at fault since I allowed it to happen, went back and allowed it to continue. We were both manipulated and we were not at fault. Thank you for sharing your truth. Big hug to you brother.
How sad!! It is not cause you were incapable Jack (you were still young) he manipulated you :-( How egoistic a person can be just for his gain, thank God you got out of this and here Jack cause this could have screwed you big time! My heart aches for such situations at such a young age! May God heal !! Love from Malta x
Events you aren’t aware of, let alone understand, that happen to children shape their life from that point forward. It’s really difficult to wonder what you’d be like if this type thing didn’t happen to you. I wasn’t groomed but had life changing experience one time at 6 y.o. This person at this point seems like a sociopath. Jack, you were in a very scary situation. There wasn’t a “right way to respond”, life is unscripted, you did the best you could for yourself at that time. You are extremely handsome with beautiful eyes so attracting attention you were too young to handle & no way anyone can handle sexual situation you never heard about. I wonder at times what my life would have been like if I didn’t have sex at six. It threw my mindset off not exactly understanding what I participated in… so in grade school very different things were going on in my mind different from the other kids. But I love & accept myself & live my life as I am. Maybe I would be different (straight) if that didn’t happen. But it did and I have lived a life to be proud of myself. Lots of love & long relationships. This Dace person was no run of the mill gay man, he seems like a sociopath. Best wishes to you Jack! Don’t be hard on yourself. Love yourself cause you’re a kind man.
Hey Jack I felt something different in you right from the beginning was going to be different and this episode sure is. Obviously much more trauma revealed so a big congrats to you for sharing your story. Didn't see that ending coming yet your pauses sure set it up perfectly. All of this explains so much and, as before, I am so glad that you are sharing your story for others. big hug. Awaiting the next chapter... whenever you are ready. BTW, was it at least a high quality wig? Or from Party Time LOL
@@jackunmasked , I hope that silly image all these years later can help you heal. Some time waaaaay into the future you will spray out your iced tea laughing at that silly image of that awful wig.
Any kid in that situation, i believe would have done the same, u cannot beat yourself up about that. Even alot of adults would not of been able to get out of that situation. Well done for talking about it I hope it hasn't put a downer on your day 😞
I am so sorry that this happened to you. I have a story that is opposite of yours. About an older gay man who taught me the whats and lingo, etc. of how to protect myself. I wish you could have had him in your life as a guardian angel/friend. I was wondering if you have a feeling or resentment of distrust of gay men? I hope not, but if so, it would be completely understandable. Dace was not gay, he was an animal and mentally ill. Your honesty is astounding and so brave -- you are a hero to possibly many young men and women in the world. I am so glad that you have found love and self-love. You deserve it. Thank you for the candor. I can feel your pain through the screen. You are brave and must know that you were/are 100% the victim. But what you are doing is a great step towards healing and finding peace. God bless.
Absolutely zero resentment towards gay men, he was a pedophile. Gay men are not predators they are people who deserve love just like everyone else. Thanks for being here Arthur.
Alexander!! The level of support you’ve given me is unmatched, thank you from the bottom of my heart. So blessed to have you here on this journey with me.
@@jackunmasked - thank you for your kind words, but trust me when I tell you that I’m ridiculous. I don’t have a family, but so want to help people out. I’m very fortunate as I make a decent salary and have quite a bit saved. I don’t like spending on myself, but I so want to help others.
Oh Jack. That was hard to listen to, not just for the obvious reason that the content of the story is not exactly rainbows and butterflies. I’ve heard you tell this story before, but this time didn’t seem as easy for you. Please take care of yourself and remember you don’t have to tell us everything if you don’t want to. I know how much you want to do this, to help others but please take your time. I appreciate everything you’re doing. As a person on the other side of your videos I just want you to be ok in all this ❤
Love this. Thanks so much for caring, I am definitely good sometimes it’s just a little heavier some days than others. Grateful to have you here with me.
Jack, Others have said it, so it's not new coming from me: You were a young kid. You were not in any position mentally, emotionally, or physically to oppose that man who took advantage of your innocence. It doesn't affect your sexuality that he did those things to you and you felt powerless or afraid to stop him or escape. He manipulated you, and he was obviously an expert at manipulation. Never think that it was your fault. And never think that it makes you less of a man. You are loveable for the right reasons, and we all love you, brother. Take care & God bless.
Wow, I just googled your story. Sounds like this guy did it to many. Good thing he's not around to keep hurting others as he did you. I'm sorry for what he stole from you.
Jack, as you unpack your inner life to strangers on RUclips what are you gaining from the process ? To what extent are you discovering previously unacknowledged insights about what you experienced as a young teenager under thecontrolling influence of a disturbed significant male adult in your young life ? What good are you thinking may develop as a result of your current honest revelations of your deep memories to a mostly unknown audience ?
You were a child horribly abused by a monster. You should not retroactively agonize and apply adult logic to your reactions as a teenager to such awful things. I think I would have behaved just a you did at that age . In fact I think you showed maturity in not going public when you were dealing with a cunning thug who had the public fooled. It’s somewhat like a woman having been raped and violated who goes public with it seeking justice and she becomes the tramp through distortions and slander. You deserve much credit as a survivor though you paid a huge price to get where you are now. Hope you realize, Jack, you are getting thousands of pats on the back. Lane.
May God wish I could give you a Hug! i've never heard anyone's story of grooming. This guy was a virus. He controlled entire life your entire life. I wonder how many nights you got high over thoughts him. How you got totally fucked up over the memories of what that bastard did to you I am so sorry. I wish you could've sued his estate. You know you are not the first boy he did this too. I wonder how many others children are off-limits.
I hope you have been able to come to terms with the fact that what he did to you was technically "rape". No matter how much you may talk yourself into believing that you were a willing participant. It is the age difference and the power dynamic which make it "rape." I don't judge you. I was in the same type of spot.
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I can see your inner turmoil as you are describing these events! This will be very healing for you!
Always good to see you here Philip.
The tragic events of abuse that you had to continually face as a 13-14 year old is so heartbreaking and distressing. You have so much support here and hopefully getting professional support.
God bless you, Jack .It is unimaginable what you went through. You’re on the other side now. Continue to focus on yourself and recovery.
Doug
I have a similar past but I don’t have the guts to share it . I’m so respectful of your bravery, you’re doing good work 🙏🏻
Thanks so much for being here, I hope you stay.
you're so brave for coming out and sharing your story with the world no matter how long ago it happened. if some states in the US and other countries around the world have a statute of limitations on how long a victim can wait before they report this grooming behavior they should get rid of it because different people will report whenever they're mentally ready. their way, their time. some victims will take their story to their grave. who are we to judge ????
I hear you Chandler, in my case the statute of limitations was 3 years at the time. By the time I spoke about it to anyone the time had expired. I appreciate you being here my friend I hope you stay!
I am so sorry that you went through this brother this breaks my heart a lot. Thank you for sharing this story with us Jack.
These sick criminals need to be locked up LIFE IN PRISON. It makes me so sick to my stomach that these sick criminals are still out there.
I know brother, thank you for the kind words.
@@jackunmaskedJust subscribedWish you the best of luck and love with your channel and your future. You need a channel name because I am now also subscribed to a kids channel also😂. One came to mind. “Wren into Phoenix”. The Wren is a tiny & timid bird preyed upon by predators like owls & Eagles and the Phoenix is the mythical bird who is strong and rises from the ashes…. A vision of strength and hope… which is what you are providing to so many!! God Bless and keep strong!
You are a very brave man. Thank you for what youre doing to help others, very impressive man!
Thank you for being here!
The role of a father figure to a young boy is so important. We are born needing that guidance, approval, acceptance, from a father figure. So this abuser was able to act in that role, but instead of showing genuine love, he just wanted to use you for his own lusts. Thank you for sharing your story, and I am so glad you are moving on with your adult life, not letting the abusive actions of Dace ruin you today. This talk shows how critical it is for parents to guard their kids. I’m really grateful for the friends you had, before Dace separated you from them. I imagine the ‘extra kids’ being around made Dace have to delay his agenda many times. Strength in numbers!
I agree Rob, it was a tough situation but here we are. I’m a better man for having lived through it and I am able to share myself with people genuinely. Thanks so much for being here.
Want a part 4 as soon as you are up to it. It's helping so many men.
You are so brave for sharing your story. Do not blame yourself for one second! As a child you did not have the skills or the mindset to know this was wrong or what to do. I wonder how many people have similar things happen to them and just never talk about it and then suffer in silence their whole lives? You are probably helping more people than you know by sharing painful parts of your past. Thank you again for your honesty and bravery. All the best to you for happier times ahead.
Thank you Douglas, I appreciate you being here and your kind words.
Your bravery knows no bounds. This is haunting and I feel the work you’re doing is incredibly imperative. My heart breaks for your 14 year old self. Thank you for your courage. You are helping so many. There are no words. Im sorry you had no one to turn to.
Jack, I saw your interview on the Underbelly, and I can't imagine the heartache you wen't through and the challenges that posed for years to come. I know it is important for you to share your testimony especially when you are trying to do some good in the world. I also want to say that you don't have to do this right now, in the future, or at all, ever. Trauma changes the way we view ourselves, the world, and others. Our brains do amazing things to help us navigate these stressors from "highway hypnosis" to dissociative-type behaviors where we check-out to different degrees. The symptoms you described from watching yourself up in the corner of the room to staring off into space are these dissociative events, parts of us were being created to help us disconnect to save us from the absolute terror of what was occurring. The breach of trust and the idea of safety to feeling absolutely alone with no way out to questioning yourself, and so on. Even now, it appears you are having a challenging time with some of the details and it makes complete sense especially as you become more aware of what it was like for you and how well he had orchestrated these events. Please be careful retelling these events because you are at risk of retraumatizing yourself as each layer unfolds over and over again for you. Be blessed, Jack.
You have my prayers and good intentions of the heart & soul. May The Most High bring peace upon you and healing of the soul. You still have light. He didn’t take all of it. You will get it all back.
All I’m trying to do is shed light on the darkness.
@@jackunmasked you are the light to darkness. And because of that you are able to be and go in the dark as light. There are so many people lost in the darkness and only a few will see the light. The seeds were planted ages ago. Harvest time is upon existence. I spent my entire known life so far since birth trying to tare down the veils of evil=veil=vile=live etc since being birthed into this realm. Pulled from somewhere into nowhere= here now in the present moment of eternity. I understand brother. Your work is important. The gift 🎁 re-presented by Christ the Present 🎁 to be present is to be with GOD not in the past that no longer defines you, or a future that isn’t set in stone. But the moment of now. The speed of thought is the fastest known speed in all of existence.
Jack, your bravery continues to astound me. As someone who was both a student and educator in your town, your truth matters and you deserve to be heard. Your willingness to share, like other brave souls who do not ever need to share such horrors but do, has value for the world to better understand the insidious nature of predators and how they operate. Victims voices are the hardest but most accurate way to understand how this could happen and how adults can learn to prevent it. I personally feel it is our duty to listen to those willing to share the details of the layers and depths of abuse so as a society we can learn and do better by children who deserved to be protected. I’m grateful to all those who have helped you on your healing journey and so very humbled and impressed by your resilience.
Thanks so much Allison, I wish I had the courage to speak up when I was a student in your world. Incredibly grateful to have you here, you were always very kind and fair to me as a young person.
You have taken back the power by sharing your pain and trauma. It doesn’t make telling it any easier. You can see it in your face, it’s like it just happened again. I’m glad you mentioned the would have, could have should have…. You were 14, isolated, felt shame, and most of all powerless and with someone who took advantage of you in every way. It has taken so much from you over the last 20+ years. Yet here you are, stronger, sober and empowered. Thank you for sharing your story. I hope it helps you further towards healing. All the best from Melbourne Australia.
I really need to visit Australia… thank you so much for the kind, uplifting words. Means a lot to me that you are here!
@@jackunmasked you’d love Australia. It’s about a 17 hour flight from the US. You’d need a good month to see a lot of it. As Australia is about the same size as continental USA minus Alaska. Culturally similar to the US, but vastly different in so many ways. Look at some reaction videos on RUclips about Australia. Some are hilarious, when it comes to spiders, snakes, crocodiles, kangaroos etc… and trying Vegemite or Ozzy foods.
Thank You Jack for having the courage to share your experiences.🙏💕As an Adult now telling your story, I hope you see you were an Innocent child, and he preyed on that. The sad part is there are ALOT more out there just like him. I hope this reaches out to someone else and helps them, or maybe they see these signs ya know? The crazy part to all this is he pretty much groomed EVERYONE that was a part of your life! I pray you and your family stay Happy and Blessed Jack 🙏💕
Yes Laurie he did fool the whole city for the most part. Times were strange for me back then, I was a child who didn’t know how to handle these situations. Thanks so much for being here.
That was tough Jack. Completely not your fault. Everything happens for a reason and this may be so that you can be strong and help others like your doing. Much respect bro.👊🏻
The Ks so much brother, I appreciate you being here and supporting me.
Jack! My friend! This video hit hard. I relate to so many things. I feel blessed and grateful for your friendship, emails, and your content. I know it's hard to talk about this stuff, and I can feel your anguish my brother. Keep doing what you're doing. You're healing and it may take a lifetime. You're also helping others to deal with their struggles as well. Let's continue to move forward in gratitude one day at a time! Love ya, brother! 🙏
Love this Brian, thanks so much for keeping in contact. Blessed to have you here.
I applaud you. It's difficult to hear also, but it's because it's so real.
Thank you so much.
Hi Jack. I am so thankful that you are able to talk about the atrocities that were inflicted upon you. It goes so far beyond the physical aspects. In addition to the trauma this man caused you, I can only imagine the anguish your mother has endured. Thankfully, this monster is no longer able to harm young boys. I am just so sorry that you, and the rest of his victims, had to go through these things. Thank you for sharing yourself with us. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. See you next time!
Sunday morning Live if you’re around! Thanks so much for being here and for the heartfelt words. Grateful to have you here.
Hey Jack! Thanks for all your strength in telling us your truth. And you were a kid. You did all you could to stay safe. Glad you’ve reached a happy healthy place today for yourself. ❤
Thanks for being here Kevin, I appreciate you.
@@jackunmaskedGotta support a fellow Boston boy!
You survived. You are a survivor.
We all are in some way.
Happy Friday Jack!! My mom always says this, she grew up in Cambridge! I have patiently waited for this part! Thanks for being here❤
Thank YOU for being here! Love Cambridge.
Jack, this is so hard to watch and listen to, I can't imagine how hard it must be to talk about this let alone having gone through all of it ... the more I hope you may always find softness in deep self-compassion knowing that you have always done the best to your ability in all of these moments, there was no other choice, you did what you could and that was right and enough, you were right and enough always - and look at you now, making it through all of this, going the path of healing, of forgiveness and being an inspiration to us all, a guiding light, thank you so much for inviting us in 🙏🏼❤
Love having you here, thank you for showing up and sticking through the tough stuff. I appreciate you.
You are my hero!!!! I am so sorry to hear this truth that is helping and hitting home and healing others with similar stories 😢. You have always been so brave. I have a hard time even finding the words to express my feelings. Great job in life! By your videos it seems like you can be hard on yourself. I just want to remind you that you’re amazing and keep working hard!! You are inspiring so many of us! ❤ Love you friend!!
Thank you Jessie, sending love right back at ya.
I am so so sorry Jack!! You shouldn’t have had to endure this by an adult you trusted. You are so strong to share your story to hopefully help others. So glad he is in jail!!
Glad to see you in here again Marie.
Hey Jack. It's amazing that in your mind you gave Dace every benefit of the doubt even though you really knew this was all him. That's got to bring up issues of trust. I know that I have had problems with trust ever since my abuse took place 55+ years ago! It really messes with my mind more than I ever gave credit to it. I appreciate the strength it takes for you to talk about this stuff. It's a real benefit to your audience. Thank you friend.
Thank you for being here.
Jack, I was captured completely with ur story...and I feel ur strength and vulnerability converging at the same momment...thank you from the bottom of my heart...hearing ur story is life changing..in a positive way.❤
This means everything to me. Thank you so much.
A little something. I have been going through challenging times, but watching your videos has provided motivation.
Marco this more than a little something! You’ve gone above and beyond, this type of support is remarkable. I never thought my words could have such a positive impact so seeing acts of generosity like this truly humble me. Blessed to have you here my friend, thank you so much.
The best part of the week is seeing your handsome face and hearing your stories! Great video again as always!
Thanks so much Alexander.
@@jackunmasked- always remember that this world (which is under Satan’s rule until Jesus Christ returns) absolutely hates good-hearted, straight masculine men such as yourself. The fact that you’ve risen above it all despite your harrowing experiences is such a testament.
A strong and compelling report. The feeling of anguish and loneliness that You must have felt is very strong for an adult, imagine to a child. My Jesus😢
Thank you for being here to share with, grateful to have you Antonio.
WOW! WHAT A MONSTER! Thank you for being open about what happened to you. very courageous and I'm sure this will help someone somewhere out there. Bless you!.
Bless you too LuMar, thanks for being here and participating.
Thank you for sharing, you’re helping people 🙏
Thank you for being here to share with.
Happy friday Jack. I can appreciate so much you talking openly about your traumas. But, i do agree, some of these experiences could be for you and maybe some professionals. And friends and family if you chose to do so.
If sharing your experience with us on this platform is freeing and helping, absolutely, continue. Im sure you are helping someone out there by sharing. You are number one though!
Thanks Nora, I have shared with many therapists over the years. Sometimes digging it up and describing it takes a lot of emotional energy, but I’m golden. No worries! Thank you for being here.
I'm so sorry that you as a kid, or even anyone, had to deal with a psycho/weirdo like that.
I appreciate that my friend, thank you for being here.
Jack your story is so sad but I can't turn away. Best of luck to you in all things,
It’s the past, I’m great today. Just a part of my story. Glad to see you here again!
Your courage to not only process this all, but to share your experiences and your pain is so brave. Not sure I could share my similar experiences and pain so openly. Thank you. In hearing your words I realize that I was not the cause of what happened to me.
You could never be the cause of that, took me a long time to realize it myself. Blessed to have you here. Thanks so much for participating so honestly.
Oh Jack I am so sorry you went thru that. I know what to say but I will not at this time I can see how much courage and pain you have sharing this, I hope it helps you to tell it now. I will tell you I had a similar experience at 16 when I was sick and mom took me to the army Hospital a medic did some very inappropriate things with me that I never could talk with anyone about. Bless you. 🙏🙏❤❤
You can always email me Frank, thank you for being here and opening up.
Damn Jack. Yes I was upset watching this but I was upset for your 14 year old self. If your story is devastating to listen to I can't even fathom what it must have been for that young boy that you were and that young boy who is still inside. I could tell this was difficult for you today as you had a haunted look in your eyes. Made me want to cry but I watched the whole video because you were brave enough to tell it. From your other videos (I've not been able to catch the past two...yet) it's apparent you've done some very hard work and that you've come across to the other side but it's also obvious that it's still difficult to relive those moments. Kudos for speaking out cause this will help so many others. Much love!
Thanks for being here Lamar, check out the other episodes if you find the time. Blessed to have you here.
The things he did to get and maintain control over you are so vile. When you mentioned seeing it was him with the 3rd massage and choosing to let it happen... as hard as that choice was it was the better one. Being tied down and just you and him, if you let it be known that you saw him, he could have panicked and done something that would have made a different outcome. The look in your eyes and on your face as you told this part... I could feel it in my heart.
I read the comments also and to see how many you are touching with this story is amazing. Seen many that were also abused saying how you are empowering them to face the trauma and know it was not their fault. Your story should be shown in schools. Not with voice overs and re-enactments and blah blah... just as it is. You telling the story raw and to the point.
I'm not a religious man by any means but I do feel something (or someone) knew there were good things to come for you. Even though it's been a bumpy road, you're still becoming the better version of yourself each day.
Hope you have an amazing weekend my friend. Read you were possibly doing a live Sunday. If so I'm gonna do what it takes to be there. Much love Jack!
Always nice to see you in here supporting me Brad, thank you brother.
Good Sunday Jack. Whoa, suspenseful. It's natural to reproach yourself for saying/doing nothing. And yet, victims are not believed. Victims R not believed. You were protecting yourself as well. From the trauma of being blamed.
In survivors' recovery, it is repeatedly stated that children cannot be responsible for the adults' actions. I pay lip service to that. But in my gut, I believe I brought it on myself, that I provoked my mother & sis. They were retaliating. I live with and accept that duality. I once heard that in recovery we develop the capacity to tolerate conflicting emotional states. It truly is a sign of fluidity. What in program we refer to as black/white thinking is the opposite of that. Stay fluid.
Therapists use the term "integrate" for the process of developing acceptance of painful memory. I'm not sure how that happens. Memory becomes less raw. It's still painful, but no longer front page news. Watching you It's clear you're not there yet. Be patient!!! Disclosure is part of the process, but it's not overnight resolution.
Your description of feeling dazed as a 13/14 year old is poignant. Trauma does place us in an altered state. No wonder we needed to get drunk & high.
Peace & lots o love back
Well put Carlo, love seeing you in here participating!
I’ve heard you tell this story before, but the emotional pain is so apparent in your demeanor today. It is obvious the toll this event has taken on you and continues to take on your emotional wellbeing. I am sorry for your pain.
It was just a heavy day Barry, thank you for being here and allowing me to share with you honestly.
It seems his well being is fine now. His demeanor has done a 360. (Glad for that). No child/teen should ever have to experience sexual abuse
I'm sure he won't have to reflect or talk about his past on this platform after this.
He seems to have a few good friends and a caring gf to help him if he regresses? Hopefully he won't fall back into using drugs to mask past issues.
Therapy helps with that. ✌️
Jack,
Same time period for me, eight and ninth grades. Two different teachers and a neighbor. It was like each way I turned I was right back there again. One teacher was getting to me through my interests in cars & motorcycles, the other teacher aiding me in skipping class and getting out of schoolwork and the neighbor introducing me to marijuana and alcohol. Each manipulating me through my weaknesses and lack of a strong male presence in my life, plus isolating me from friends. Talking this through is hard, sometimes harder than others. The emotions are overwhelming. These abusers, at least for me, have a way of instilling a bit of guilt as well, thus aiding in the isolation. Sexuality is so confusing for 13 & 14 years olds, at least for me, and these abusers know how to manipulate it to their advantage. It took me years to realize and accept that I wasn’t at least in part at fault since I allowed it to happen, went back and allowed it to continue. We were both manipulated and we were not at fault. Thank you for sharing your truth. Big hug to you brother.
Big hug right back brother, thanks so much for continuing to show up and participate.
Brave Soul , Keep Moving Forward 🙌
That’s all we can do!
Love you, Jack
Love you Shawn.
I'm so sorry. No kid should ever have to endure this tragedy.
Unfortunately it happens all the time. 1 in 4 boys.
Thank you for sharing your story. I know this was hard for you .
Thank you for being here to share with.
As a fellow survivor..your posts throw up so many questions..
How sad!! It is not cause you were incapable Jack (you were still young) he manipulated you :-( How egoistic a person can be just for his gain, thank God you got out of this and here Jack cause this could have screwed you big time! My heart aches for such situations at such a young age! May God heal !! Love from Malta x
Thanks for being here.
Thank you! You have helped me.
Thank you for being here!
Events you aren’t aware of, let alone understand, that happen to children shape their life from that point forward. It’s really difficult to wonder what you’d be like if this type thing didn’t happen to you. I wasn’t groomed but had life changing experience one time at 6 y.o.
This person at this point seems like a sociopath. Jack, you were in a very scary situation. There wasn’t a “right way to respond”, life is unscripted, you did the best you could for yourself at that time. You are extremely handsome with beautiful eyes so attracting attention you were too young to handle & no way anyone can handle sexual situation you never heard about.
I wonder at times what my life would have been like if I didn’t have sex at six. It threw my mindset off not exactly understanding what I participated in… so in grade school very different things were going on in my mind different from the other kids.
But I love & accept myself & live my life as I am. Maybe I would be different (straight) if that didn’t happen. But it did and I have lived a life to be proud of myself. Lots of love & long relationships. This Dace person was no run of the mill gay man, he seems like a sociopath.
Best wishes to you Jack! Don’t be hard on yourself. Love yourself cause you’re a kind man.
Thank you my friend, I appreciate you being here and all the kind words.
I'm so so so sorry you went through that.
I appreciate that. Thank you for being here.
Yoire amazing and show great strength by doing this!
Thanks so much Tiffany
Hey Jack
I felt something different in you right from the beginning was going to be different
and this episode sure is.
Obviously much more trauma revealed so a big congrats to you for sharing your story.
Didn't see that ending coming yet your pauses sure set it up perfectly.
All of this explains so much and, as before, I am so glad that you are sharing your story for others.
big hug.
Awaiting the next chapter... whenever you are ready.
BTW, was it at least a high quality wig? Or from Party Time
LOL
Thanks for being here Ken, it was an awful wig.
@@jackunmasked , I hope that silly image all these years later can help you heal. Some time waaaaay into the future you will spray out your iced tea laughing at that silly image of that awful wig.
Any kid in that situation, i believe would have done the same, u cannot beat yourself up about that. Even alot of adults would not of been able to get out of that situation.
Well done for talking about it I hope it hasn't put a downer on your day 😞
No I’m ok Rachel, thank you for caring about my feelings. I appreciate that.
I am so sorry that this happened to you. I have a story that is opposite of yours. About an older gay man who taught me the whats and lingo, etc. of how to protect myself. I wish you could have had him in your life as a guardian angel/friend. I was wondering if you have a feeling or resentment of distrust of gay men? I hope not, but if so, it would be completely understandable. Dace was not gay, he was an animal and mentally ill. Your honesty is astounding and so brave -- you are a hero to possibly many young men and women in the world. I am so glad that you have found love and self-love. You deserve it. Thank you for the candor. I can feel your pain through the screen. You are brave and must know that you were/are 100% the victim. But what you are doing is a great step towards healing and finding peace. God bless.
Absolutely zero resentment towards gay men, he was a pedophile. Gay men are not predators they are people who deserve love just like everyone else. Thanks for being here Arthur.
Thanks!
Alexander!! The level of support you’ve given me is unmatched, thank you from the bottom of my heart. So blessed to have you here on this journey with me.
@@jackunmasked - thank you for your kind words, but trust me when I tell you that I’m ridiculous. I don’t have a family, but so want to help people out. I’m very fortunate as I make a decent salary and have quite a bit saved. I don’t like spending on myself, but I so want to help others.
💙 Some things don’t need a comment , I listened.
Grateful for you.
hope talking to the world about your story is like therapy to you.
Everything helps.
It could have been a Brian De Palma film. I appreciate your candor.
Troy! Thank you so much for the support, your generosity is outstanding. So grateful to have you here on this journey with me.
Oh Jack. That was hard to listen to, not just for the obvious reason that the content of the story is not exactly rainbows and butterflies. I’ve heard you tell this story before, but this time didn’t seem as easy for you. Please take care of yourself and remember you don’t have to tell us everything if you don’t want to. I know how much you want to do this, to help others but please take your time. I appreciate everything you’re doing. As a person on the other side of your videos I just want you to be ok in all this ❤
Love this. Thanks so much for caring, I am definitely good sometimes it’s just a little heavier some days than others. Grateful to have you here with me.
Jack, Others have said it, so it's not new coming from me: You were a young kid. You were not in any position mentally, emotionally, or physically to oppose that man who took advantage of your innocence. It doesn't affect your sexuality that he did those things to you and you felt powerless or afraid to stop him or escape. He manipulated you, and he was obviously an expert at manipulation. Never think that it was your fault. And never think that it makes you less of a man. You are loveable for the right reasons, and we all love you, brother. Take care & God bless.
Always great to see you here brother. Blessed to have you.
Wow, I just googled your story. Sounds like this guy did it to many. Good thing he's not around to keep hurting others as he did you. I'm sorry for what he stole from you.
Thank you for taking the time to watch my interview, hope you decide to stick around.
You process things like me from the past! 😔
Good to see you here my friend.
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Hey Monica.
Jack, as you unpack your inner life to strangers on RUclips what are you gaining from the process ? To what extent are you discovering previously unacknowledged insights about what you experienced as a young teenager under thecontrolling influence of a disturbed significant male adult in your young life ?
What good are you thinking may develop as a result of your current honest revelations of your deep memories to a mostly unknown audience ?
Previous videos explain what my hope is in doing this. Thanks for being here Eric.
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Hey Summer
👍to the video
Thanks Simon
You were a child horribly abused by a monster. You should not retroactively agonize and apply adult logic to your reactions as a teenager to such awful things. I think I would have behaved just a you did at that age . In fact I think you showed maturity in not going public when you were dealing with a cunning thug who had the public fooled. It’s somewhat like a woman having been raped and violated who goes public with it seeking justice and she becomes the tramp through distortions and slander. You deserve much credit as a survivor though you paid a huge price to get where you are now. Hope you realize, Jack, you are getting thousands of pats on the back. Lane.
Always love to hear from you Lane, wise words. Thank you so much for the continued support it truly means the world to me.
Hi Jack ❤
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May God wish I could give you a Hug! i've never heard anyone's story of grooming. This guy was a virus. He controlled entire life your entire life. I wonder how many nights you got high over thoughts him. How you got totally fucked up over the memories of what that bastard did to you I am so sorry. I wish you could've sued his estate. You know you are not the first boy he did this too. I wonder how many others children are off-limits.
Hugs always help Torrey, thanks for the kind words. Blessed to have you here.
I wish i had the power to explain my SA story. I'm over it, but not enough to tell the story. Kudos to you for being so vulnerable
Thank you for being here, always nice to see you.
Hi Jack
You are incredibly quick! Wow.
Why didn't you report him? Your a very traumatized man. I wish you nothing but the best.. ❤
I talk about that in the video. Thanks for being here.
@@jackunmasked I didn't mean anything bad by that. I think you are doing great. Sorry, ..
Hey Jack, You're really cool! I just subscribed to your channel.
Thank you for the kind words, blessed to have you here.
This horsing around sounds so awful. 😢
It was not much fun at all.
Once you knew what was going on with this guy, didn't you confronted him?, or you felt defeated?
I’ve explained all of that in many of my videos
@@jackunmasked Sorry.
I hope you have been able to come to terms with the fact that what he did to you was technically "rape". No matter how much you may talk yourself into believing that you were a willing participant. It is the age difference and the power dynamic which make it "rape." I don't judge you. I was in the same type of spot.
Today I see it all for what it was and I’ve healed. I appreciate you being here.