Man Who Slammed Bridal Shop Over Fiancée’s Skin Tone Upcharge Joins the Show!
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- Опубликовано: 6 фев 2024
- “Bachelor in Paradise” couple Tessa Tookes and Joey Kirchner join the show to talk about their viral video exposing a bridal shop that had a skin tone upcharge. The series’ fan favorites get real about Tessa’s mishap on the road to their upcoming nuptials and share the shocking turn of events that reveal a true problem within the bridal industry. Plus, they give us the details on their fall wedding and more! Don’t miss it.
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I really want black women to take note. Your partner does not need to be the same color as you to "understand you". He needs to know you, love you, defend you and protect you. THATS way more important then looking the same, clearly.
Je suis d’accord!
This! 🩷
Absolutely, THIS IS WHAT PROTECTION LOOKS LIKE !!!
I agree
Facts!
This man is not playing about his queen.
At all🤣🤣
And I ❤it
No he ain’t! He’s a real King! 👑
He da man…..literally! 😁
No he ain’t! I love it!!
@@HeartBreakHighI’m not setting for anything less, because, I’m *WORTH IT,* and I’ll stay single until I get it. Singleness is not a burden or a life sentence. 🇨🇦
My bf is Chinese, he don’t play NO GAMES about racism. He’s more pissed about it than I do maybe because I’m desensitized
Same!!!
Isn’t Chinese an ethnicity not a race? I’m sure everyone born in China is Chinese. That’s like saying my race is American. I’m assuming he’s Asian.
@@geni412 It's an ethnicity and a nationality.. It's okay to classify a group by their ethnicity
I’m so glad she refused the dress!!! The shop needs to publicly acknowledge how problematic this is and then refund anybody that they discriminated against who allowed themselves to be scammed this way.
Not just the shop baby, the whole Dmd industry!
That’s how you stick up for your partner
If a black man did the same y’all would have a problem
if a BM did the same y’all would have a problem with it.
@@ArtTheSinger who is y’all, I’m happy for anyone who stick up for their partner
@@ArtTheSingerwhat a stupid comment. 😂
@@ArtTheSingerwhat a stupid comment. 😂
He looks like he’s still pissed! Good for him supporting her and understanding the struggle ✊🏾✊🏼
Yup haha
😅@@bwalto21
He sure did still look pissed...I hope nobody else disrespects his wife like that again, or they will be dealing with him lol! Now that's a husband 😁
That’s not a struggle
I definitely see that too.
My man is still pissed, I'm so happy for her!!!! He loves her, and hates injustice!
Finally someone of other ethnicity stands up & asked “THE QUESTION”
Yep cuz nobody gives a damn when a poc says it. They're just "angry"... But when a white person says it? It's gotta be truth! Ijs. It's been happening for centuries and I don't see it changing. 😂
She is gorgeous!!!!! I'm glad he stood up for her and told the truth!!!!!
she’s literally ethereal!
Totally❤
Blessings to Them🎉
@@Ucerrrzcb939I agree
That’s what I’m saying ❤️😇
'Why is it free to have my skin color?' [Deep moment]
Right
That's the question!
@Mpirefilms It’s not free. What if you’re a man that wears a size 18 shoe or a woman that wears a size 50 Q bra? Those cost more because they make less of them. Is that fair? Why should a store that has a majority white clientele keep a custom item just in case a black celebrity decides to shop there? She most likely went to an expensive white bridal store but she’s a reality TV star so she’s taken aback by an up charge ? Why do they want us to get upset about everything? They cost more because they were recently invented. 3:23
Exactly, to the original comment. It should not matter what clients any bridal shop gets, they should ALWAYS carry optional colors, for various skin tones of various ethnicities. Simple.
@@kwilson4125you are so weird 😅
Tessa is desensitized like the rest of us and then her Prince charming showed up!!! Love this... Good luck in your union... May God bless you with whatever you want, children, bliss, the whole nine yards!
Character of a man can be seen in how he loves his lady ❤️
Misty Copeland has been sounding the alarm about the dance community (tights, shoes, etc.) for years. I'm glad this is being brought to light.
I saw TikTok on this too. It’s so crazy that they’re mad about black dancers, wanting their skin tone because it aesthetically looks better. It’s just dumb and they wanna complain that they’re trying to change things against tradition.
I wouldnt want white people color matching, or anyone color matching. What if someone wants nude who is deeper in complexion? so what? sheesh. Also, white people are palm colored, not white! no human is white. Unless youre albino, you are brown because of melanin.
Even calling the beige color nude or natural is problematic. My daughter needed "nude" pumps for a pageant. I purchased brown pumps and the pageant director told her she needed to change them for "nude!" Her brown shoes were nude ON HER! We were done with it.
@@Bklyn112what don’t they understand in the word “nude”? Nude is what matches one self’s skin… 🤷🏿♂️🤦🏿♂️
@@mokaLARE They "Don't see color"!
Last year, I asked an attendant at Victoria Secret if they had a nude bra and explained that nude meant a color matching my skin tone. She was speechless.
Good for you! I hope she regained her wits in time to assist you properly.
@@angelafrancis6183 She just said no. VS didn’t carry any brown (nude) bras at the time. Can you believe Target had the nude bras I was looking for tho? 😅
@lush4real Smh. It is unthinkable for these places to think people who are not represented in their stores should spend their money in their stores 🙄. Black America spends 98 cents out of every dollar in stores around the country, if their not accommodating our needs we shouldn't spend 1 cent of our dollar with them. I'm glad you spent yours with Target that had the stock to represent you 🙂
Right. I usually say “nude for me” to be clear.
Who would shop there anyway? They're all clueless.
Hey ladies! Take notes! This is what you deserve! Do not settle for less.
What a loving and gorgeous couple.
Say it again!!!!! This is what every single woman deserves. A man that will defend, protect and adore you !!! Enjoy your wedding day and many years of love!!
That's a man right there. Thank you! He is doing what most are too afraid to speak up!
When Black men do the same thing and defend us, they do not get the same praise, not even a thank you. No TV cameras are there to capture the moment; There are no livestreams or Tiktoks, so people can say, "Wow, he's a great man" and throw roses at his feet. Black men have literally died protecting us, and now we are trying to pretend like they dont do anything. Now I understand why so many Black men are dating out of their community.
When BM do the same thing and defend us, they dont get the praise, not even a thank you. No TV cameras are there to capture the moment; There are no livestreams or Tiktoks, so people can say, "Wow, he's a great man" and throw roses at his feet. BM have literally died protecting their families, and now we are trying to pretend like they dont do anything. Now I understand why so many BM are dating out of their community.
My husband is Black. He does the same thing and doesn't have to make videos about it like he deserves a cookie for doing what he's supposed to do.
@yolandagibson8154
Nobody asked because we don't care.
The point of them making a video about it is because they have a platform and they want to make others aware of this situation so that it can change.
What does your 'black' husband have to do with this...
@@loveis1628 False. This guy made a video, so he could be rewarded. 90%+ of men on this planet protect their wives and dont have a need to video it.
I am glad she didn't take the dress.
Me too.👍
I was just about to comment this! People are so critical if she had taken it, it would be like sending a message "you can treat me any type of way as long as you just throw some money/stuff at me." Or folks would say "it's not really a big deal to her, she only found a way to get a free dress..." etc.
I'm also glad she didn't insist on still paying for the dress after they made that free offer either, because it would have heinous to give more money to a shop that tried to sneak in an extra $200 charge just to replace something that barely cups her breasts. Unless it is labor intensive, requires a specialty technique/application/tailor, or is a rare fabric, I don't know how that shop can justify those charges with a clear conscience.
@@chantalalexander I agree, returning the dress was the best move.
I appreciate Tamron pointing this out. Unfortunately some retailers lose no sleep at all charging women of color extra. On top of the pink tax is the black tax. It's not just for clothing either. It's for all types of goods and services. And if you speak up or push back you are the "Angry Black Woman". This is why we need to invest in and support black businesses.
I hope she got her deposit back
Me too because if she did, she’ll always remember that terrible experience of being up charged for being a black woman. She should just go with a black wedding dress designer - there’s so many of them and even in Toronto too! She just has to shop around and find one.
He will be getting outraged for a lifetime but thanks for being an ally.
Hopefully not too often, but yeah, he’s gonna have MANY moments like that.
Wait till they have children he's gonna be busy
Right, because let's be honest....if he wasn't married to this woman.....
@@optimalscoreExactly. That’s his WIFE!! And why are people being put in the spotlight for doing what they’re supposed to do?😂😂
Exactly! A whole new form of rage will surface if/when they have kids!
I'd expect no less from a man!!! A real man💯🥂❤️👏
I pray i get a man like this in my life. Good for them !
Me too.
Me too!😔
This young man got a wake up call...to what people of color face on the daily
They do this at tattoo shops too
I was literally thinking that as I listened. Not jaded just realistic. This is our reality. We need T-shirts that say #findabrownbra
Ok. But he said something. What's the problem 🙄
@@andreadavis5219but he defended her so what's the problem 🙄
We are not people of color we are black African people clown
Sis was charged a BLACK TAX NOT A PINK TAX!
Yep! You are so right. 😢 Sad
Yes that was what Tamron was insinuating. She wanted to let the people know that black women pay both. That black tax exists. Black hair products are the same.
@@Zers872 yep! So expensive!
In this case is double tax.
Funny she only dates and likes pink though and thinks that's better and not black. Opp
This couple is a GORGEOUS, okay?!?!
Wow! Brother defended more his Queen than anyone ever could.
His rage is so genuine… I feel like apologizing and I didn’t even do anything
😂
Why didn’t they name the bridal shop?? And honestly, I thought her response to the free dress offer was going to be “I don’t want your offer if you’re going to continue to upcharge other women of color for darker undergarments.”
THAT should be the follow up. The bridal shop - and all other shops - need to STOP this racist practice. Not just offer a free dress as an embarrassed apology and PR move.
@@calisongbird Honestly, there is no point naming the specific shop because its a problem in the industry not just that specific shop. As the interviewer mentioned, it happens with tights, vests, lipstick etc "Nude" is the default for white people, everyone else either doesn't have an equivalent or if there is we pay more. The day I found out (not to long ago) that even band-aids are supposed to be "nude" i was floored. So many things are catered specifically to white people and every else just has to make do
😂❤
@@calisongbird if most of their clients are white then why is it seen as racist? Maybe they just didn't have any in stock which is why there was an upcharge - why do people make these little things seem as if racism was at play
Let's talk about foundations that name all the light shades "natural, pure" and all the dark shades "caramel, espresso". If food is the naming convention, then keep it 💯. Name the light shades "mayo, rice"!
😂😂
Mayo 😂😂😂
😂😂
Lol smh
Mahogany... deep chocolate
That was a very appropriate response. Don't bring drama, or items that remind you of drama, into your wedding day. Good for them both. This shop should be ashamed.
This is why WE need to support OUR designers…designing, produce and sell OUR OWN EVERYTHING!
Who is we and our? Sounds pretty exclusive with an aroma of segregation.
@@buckfideniimd8546 BLACK PEOPLE....Don't want you to be all confused and how you feel is typical when it comes to us, but I couldn't care less, like you don't care, we will not beg or force our coins on you, we can make space for us with our own, since white designers have made it crystal clear who they make clothes for.....Play games with someone else, we live this!
EXACTLY!!
@@buckfideniimd8546 Yes correct… Who and Our are defined as the skin tones that are being uncharged by those who determined to segregate and be exclusive to them and their’s.
@@buckfideniimd8546 WE as in BLACK PEOPLE sir🙂 don’t try to be dense on purpose and flip this into something it’s not, God bless
Well aren’t they a good looking couple. She is STUNNING!
They will have beautiful children 💕
Not really🤷🏿♂️
@@sbsk2526 They’ll have beautiful minded and spiritual children, because they are these things.
@@garybullock7722 you sound salty. 🤷🏽♂️
@@garybullock7722there is always that one person to reveal their foolishness to everyone. It's just friggin weird.
Well any who, I think they are a beautiful couple. And kudos for him standing by and up for her. Would you do the same?
I love how he got mad with her, called that bridal shop out, and supported her. I respect and admire that.
Why didn’t they name the bridal shop?? And honestly, I thought her response to the free dress offer was going to be “I don’t want your offer if you’re going to continue to upcharge other women of color for darker undergarments.”
THAT should be the follow up. The bridal shop - and all other shops - need to STOP this racist practice. Not just offer a free dress as an embarrassed apology and PR move.
So happy Tessa said no to the dress!! Wishing them the best life ever. I love your passion Joey!!
This is definitely a statement that needed to be said and overlooked. I love how he stood up for her and did not dismiss her experience.
To have such a fiancé that is not only good looking but intelligent too. Wonderful.
I’ve dated a white man before and we would never stick up for me like this…hence the past tense. She picked a real one!! That’s true solidarity with your loved one! 👏🏽👏🏽
Same here.
Me too
That's what I was saying all them will not protect their blk partner. She found a good one. My thing is if they can't stand against racism with their blk partner don't go with some one blk.
And on national tv and RUclips internationally....That's some standing up! My family never would stand up for me, nevermind men, of Any color
Exactly, he's one in a million. Not all of them are vocal in this way. They look the other way!
Fellow Canadian here! Always loved Joey! So happy he stood up for Tessa!
I’m happy for her. She has a man that loves her and he shows it by protecting her.
I love she didn't even have to trip, she went home and told her man and he fixed the problem I'm here for it. and that's so crazy that they have the same wedding date as me this year in Vegas. For the same reason . I want you to remember the the 21st of September. J&J 🥰
This is the comment I was looking for, yes!!!!
congrats to you!! wishing you a blessed marriage & life with your person! I believe this segment shows how imperative it is to have a solid partner. a good partner will always come through & stand up for you when you can’t.💗
She shouldn’t have paid for that. She didn’t have to get ghetto, but she should have left!
@@TheSwidersummmm she did leave? She went home and told her husband what happened
Congrats on your pending nuptials! 🥰
If my future husband doesn’t defend me like this, I don’t want it.
😂😂😂
She said the quiet part out loud. "I'm used to it." WE'RE used to it. We usually said nothing. Just dyed it with tea bags & henna. Now when we speak out ...We're whining, complaining, troublesome about nothing." WE (meaning they) don't see the problem." It's frustrating as hell.
“You’re telling me that it’s free to be white” lololol
He Said What He Said 👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽 #IfStandingOnBusinessWasAPerson 👀
✊🏻✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿
If "Standing On Business Was A Person" it would be me!
🎯
Making it right would’ve looked like NOT upcharging anyone for black and brown skin tones!
That's exactly what I was thinking.
Agree, the undergarments should be free for all . If one upcharge all should pay extra. Amen !
Right, change the policy
I would’ve told them that…just don’t upcharge the next women or find a new vendor for the undergarments so that you don’t have to.
The company should’ve just add that fee to the dress for and not mention any up charge so no one feels left out..
There is nothing like dying your “nude” pantyhose with coffee to really understand the fashion injustice
This young man is standing up for human race❤
AMEN Period 😊.
How is he standing up for the "human race" when it's his people that he needs to stand up to? Has he led any racial marches, etc. Please enlighten us
@@b.u.dmusic9424 his voice has gone beyond oceans and mountains
@@b.u.dmusic9424did you even watch the video??? He DID stand up to “his” people.
@@calisongbird see my earlier inquiry and present a decent answer. Thanks in advance
I wish this couple the best. I'm glad to see Joey having Tessa's back and that she declined the dress. It's something how a company will try and bribe themselves out of discrimination backlash.
There are so many obstacles for people of color to always overcome, it can be overwhelming.
Her man realized, he needed to step up, and sound the alarm for his lady.
This man Rocks!
And, what a beautiful couple you are!!
Good thing he spoke up on her behalf so she doesn't have to suffer the good old "angry black woman" label and dismissal. Marry that man!!!
Sis is Unbought and Unbothered! She rejected the offer of a free dress🎉
I love that she rejected the free dress as well. You go girl.
Good for her for rejecting the dress offer
I'm glad she rejected the free dress too because they probably was trying to "prove" that she just wanted something for free...when all she wanted in reality was to be treated fairly!
Looool he's been introduced to a new world and its problems he never knew existed or thought about and he is flabbergasted 😂😂😂
Color shouldn't matter when buying undergarments or anything else. My daughter will only wear black underwear (teenager). But to get the 6 pack of all black underwear, opposed to the the white, or the multicolored packs (that comes with 1 pair of black) I have to pay more. They are the same damn underwear. It's ridiculous! Black, brown, or what's popular, should not cost more!!!!! I am an ONLY parent and i work my a%# off, 70+ hours every week, (some of my hard earned $ goes toward overpriced BLACK underwear)! I shouldn't have to pay more for everything, for my daughter or for myself, as a women. I'm just so sick of women being overcharged as well!
Thank you so much for spouting out about this. Sending Love & Light to the beautiful couple 💗
Thats what I love..when a man sticks up for his women. 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿 Good on you.. hubby to be.
“woman”. Hopefully he only has one. 😁
👏🏾@@littlejoe9381
@@littlejoe9381, lol
Tessa is truly blessed to find someone who loves and protects her. They're not even married as of that taping and he's already keeping the vow to honor and keep her. So beautiful! The other thing...TAMRON IS 53 YEARS OLD?! She is gorgeous!
She wasn’t shocked at all lol I don’t blame him for his outage. If she was outraged just as her white fiance, she would’ve been labeled “angry black woman.” But because her white male fiance spoke up, then they wanted to offer a free dress - not that they won’t do this same discrimination again. I’m happy a black woman is openly loved and supported.
Good she has her man standing up for her❤
This is how EVERYONE should stand up for injustice; because injustice to one is a threat to justice for all
squeak on it! love this, great reminder.
Why didn’t they name the bridal shop?? And honestly, I thought her response to the free dress offer was going to be “I don’t want your offer if you’re going to continue to upcharge other women of color for darker undergarments.”
THAT should be the follow up. The bridal shop - and all other shops - need to STOP this racist practice. Not just offer a free dress as an embarrassed apology and PR move.
I just wish this couple a happy life together❤.
That’s a beautiful man who can stick up for his woman!👏👏 🎉🎉He’s a keeper! Hope they will have many years of laughter and happiness! 💯🌹💃🏼🎉🎉💕💖
Good man, for standing up for your beautiful bride❤❤
He’s pissed! God bless that man
Just the kind of man every woman needs in her corner!!❤❤👍👍💪💪👏👏👏. Good job Joey, you are a hero!
Loved them an Tamron who almost fell out her chair 😂
Every women should have a Joey. I need a Joey in my life! 🙏
Did anyone else peep the little handshake they did a few times? Like, "I got your back forever" That is too cute!
Yes! Too adorable
Yes! I loved watching them do it so comfortably in front of the crowd like it’s their “thing”. You can tell, they are proud to show the world how they show each other affection publicly, even if it is a cute little handshake 🤝🥰❤️
Yesssss
Yes. I came to the comments to see if anyone else noticed. You can tell this is their thing. They did it so naturally without even looking down at their hands. It was so sweet.
Thank you for raising awareness. On the stockings point, Haines/ Leggs discontinued silken mist and most durable/ quality pantyhose for darker skinned people in the past couple years. Reliable customers ask for parity and options, and their response is radio silence, or the higher priced, lower quality stockings in darker colors that run after single uses. Across the industry, darker stockings are higher priced.
She finally let her guest speak without cutting them off
As a Black Bridal store owner, I completely feel her pain and frustration. Unfortunately, we store owners are at the mercy of Bridal designers who have these ridiculous policies, many whom are European designers that don’t care about accommodating people of color.
Things are getting better in the industry though. One of our designers Maggie Sottero is so so awesome and they give you the Bridal cups for free when you need a darker color. They also use many black and brown models to showcase their designs.
Another issue we as Bridal store owners deal with is plus-size up charges. Many designers charge extra after a size 16 which pisses me off. It such a terrible thing to have to tell someone that they have to pay more because they are larger size.
The designers usually don’t pay that much extra for the fabric because they have purchased it in bulk ahead of time. It doesn’t require that much more in terms of fabric.
Us curvy women deal with this Everywhere we buy clothing! Not harrowing enough to shop when you're big, then to feel punished on top of that! Thanks for the mention.
Although to a point I can understand over a certain size (I’m a size 20 ) as they will have to use more material as for a colour difference tho that’s ridiculous
I can't understand paying extra to match your skin tone yet when some bridal fabrics are so very expensive and then there's hand beading etc... when extra metres of fabric are needed to fit a bride it seems obvious that the gown will cost more.
I mean extra product should equal more money. ..
You pay more for an 8 count of dinner rolls than you do a 4 count. What are you on about
First of all congratulations to you both. To the husband to be, thanks for standing up for your soon wife to be, and calling this nonsense out. We are all in support of you both.
Looking forward to your big day🎉🎉🎉🎺🎺🎺💯💯💯♥️♥️♥️
I’m so glad she refused to accept the dress & kudos to her fiancé for speaking up out loud 👏🏾 I ❤love!
We shouldn’t have to pay more for different colors in anything. Why can’t everything be the same price?
She is absolutely beautiful and he is a real man.❤
He's a real man because he stood up to a racist white woman? Lol
Absolutely ❤
The blackest guy just killed me lol… they are so lovely ❤
I love Gackt
Exactly!!!
Please explain it to me; I didn't get the reference. (From a different country/culture.)
@@s.susanmarandi9080 The band is black. They're getting married with music from a classic black band. Look up Earth, Wind, & Fire.
@@s.susanmarandi9080probably too late but Tamron was referring to the choice of music. Earth Wind and Fire are a black band and since the guy is white Tamron was just poking fun at him
AND HE IS ABSOLUTLEY RIGHT
Bless you
I am from the beautiful island of Jamaica and I am TOTALLY loving this couple. And already this gentleman is AMAZING husband material. NUFF RESPECT to them both. He reminds me of my significant other. We also have and AMAZING love story, that I would LOVE to share. Our story made BIG headlines in Jamaica and it is going to get BIGGER! I felt so encouraged by this couple. ALL God's blessings on their union as man and wife, and to their family in the future❣😀
He touches and caresses her with such affection.
Give me a break! We don’t know them personally, ok
@@kisha1682 Did someone hurt you, causing you to come on social media to rant? Comments are being made on what is expressed on the show, not their private lives. Seek therapy.
Oh gosh listen I'm Puerto Rican and damn really we in 2024 and we still dealing this nonsense...
This sht will NEVAH end!!
@@Auntkekebaby Right I can't for real.
Yep unfortunately
Exactly
Did you think racism is gone? It has not gone.
Wow, i love how protective of her...shame on anyone who does things like that
This is the level of support I need 💯
What a beautiful couple. May they have a long and love filled marriage.
He is the purest example of what it looks like to be an ally & stick up for your partner - especially if they’re from a different race
I am glad to see she stood up for the principle and not the dress. May their love and vows stand the test of time.❤
A gentleman and a scholar 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Way to go Joey. Realistically, most White people will never understand how and what Black people have to navigate through on a regular basis. I shop a lot at a particular department store. A couple of years ago during the winter, I had to take off my down coat and scarf in the store in order to be comfortable. When I got to the counter to pay for my items, the cashier questioned me about my coat, etc. She was implying that I had either stolen them or was hiding merchandise. There were customers behind me and I'll bet she didn't do that to them. I told her she could smell the perfume on my scarf if she didn't believe me. Before I left the store, I called to speak with a manager. The manager apologized and said she would speak to that cashier. I had a coworker who told me he faced discrimination bc of his last name (Polish). I told him that his wife and I could walk into a store in the exact same outfit, but I would be the one Security would follow. They wouldn't know her last name, but they'd certainly know she was White and I am not. Yes, it is 2024, but prejudice still exists. Just like heirlooms, it's still being passed down from generation to generation.
I agree. I’m Hispanic, U.S.-born, but my white latino dad doesn’t get judged until he speaks with a thick scent. My darker Latina mom has been followed in the stores when I was growing up. My brother who is darker than me (we’re all different shades) has been told he’s not American (we’re literally Cali-born). Even then, despite the different levels of discrimination we’ve experienced I’ve noticed my Black friends and husband get it worse. It’s so stupid that discrimination exists, it’s never made sense to me. I do say something when I hear anything negative said to anyone because imho it slows progress for humanity.
If everyone was able to uplift and help each other we’d progress sooo much further.
I'm Asian so I definitely don't get the same level of discrimination as black and brown people. Just enough to know my place in the skin tone hierarchy of the US. I had to remind my white Jewish friend that while antisemitism is still a very real problem, her problem isn't visible to anyone who doesn't already know she's Jewish or unless the government makes her wear a Star of David like WWII. Although I've had people stare at me, make comments, or watch me from time to time, it's not a daily occurrence and most of the time I can walk around without being constantly reminded of my race or ethnicity. It wasn't until Covid when anti-Asian hate became a thing that I finally understood in a small way what it must be like to walk down the street afraid of being targeted for being born into the skin that you live in. I reminded my friend that she as a white Jewish woman and that I as an Asian woman we should take our own experiences of discrimination as reminders of the hate in this country and to strengthen our resolve to be allies to those who face worse forms of discrimination. It's completely ridiculous that 60 years after the Civil Rights movement began we are still having these discussions. Honestly, all of us have a reason to fight against bigotry and discrimination and inequality. It serves no one to let this continue on.
I have had many problems in shops with people and I am white. I have also been treated badly in shops by assistants, this one worker claimed I was lying about a discount card and held it back from me making a scene in front of everyone and saying what was I doing with it. No apology and the Manager was not interested. Another time I was swatching lipsticks and this white woman, I am white also!! was so rude and made like out was stealing them!! she said "what are you doing?" so rudely and aggressively. I have also been treated badly by every variant of skin colour including black. I am here to say that because it is not nice for people to think it is tied to a skin colour, it is human nature, a lot of people are not nice. The most recent time I had somebody shout something at me was a black man alongside his friends he did it on 3 occasions, every time I rode my bike past him even when I asked him to stop when I couldn't take it anymore he made fun of me and then went out of his way to shout at me. He did not know me from Adam, I was just cycling and minding my own business. Rememeber it is HUMAN NATURE, a lot of humans are just not nice people.
It's not their reality, so they don't see it. To them, it's something made up. Your last statement was powerful and true!
@@sosoo000It's a shame you were harassed. But this goes back to what I said. Because it's not your reality, to you it doesn't exist. Something that you may have experienced on occasion versus experiences people of color experience every single day without merit is not the same and it dismisses our experiences as "It's not that bad. It happens to everyone." When that is most definitely not the case. Racial discrimination and systemic racism is a real thing. Unless you experience it, you won't see what other people see. I'm glad this young man at least acknowledged it and is getting an eye opener to his fiance's reality instead of dismissing or excusing it. Hopefully more people like him will start to see and speak out to hold people accountable.
As a Gen-X Black woman, I remember buying stockings (pantyhose) back in the day, and there were all sorts of colors, but the color of “nude” - which meant skin color - was always a very light kinda beige-ish color…basically “nude” only for White women (or the very light-skinned). There was no nude color for darker-toned Black women. That has changed somewhat over the years, as companies have learned to incorporate other nude colors.
So, the fact that this bridal dress shop was charging extra for any other nude color than for white, as if that’s “the standard,” is wild and so biased! 🤦🏾♀️
I'm genX also I remember there was a coffee color but that wasn't in all brands
@@shaniharris4343 Yeah, I wore the coffee
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Yup, we had to go with coffee color if they had it.
yes, I can relate it's sad that nude hasn't changed
Taupe was a color I would buy when I found them in Hechts.
What a beautiful couple ❤ Good for him for saying something !!
Oh I absolutely Love this couple!!
They are the most wholesome individuals and I hope they have nothing but positivity and happiness for the rest of their days 💜💜💜
"The only thing necessary for evil to triumph in the world is that good men do nothing". E. B.
I am glad he stood up for what is right!
So proud of him for standing up for his bride and so proud of her for choosing principle over a free dress. Wishing you a beautiful long life together.🩷🥂🎉
He’s a keeper… love how he advocated for his bride! 🙌🏽
Now that's how you stick up for someone you love! Bless them both!
❤ Lucky woman, he is standing up for her already. Congratulations, guys!❤
Continue to be a protector as God created men to be 😊
It’s nice to see men who are steadfast enough to be aware of these biases and not fall into the gaslighting that so often comes with it. I’ve seen many interracial relationships fail because a person bought into the idea that their partner deserves to be treated differently, just because some relative or store owner or coworker or whoever decides it is so.
I think it times people don’t like dealing with the drama or admitting prejudices exist, and I get that. I think that some men at times like humbling women by not letting them get to egotistically big headed. Letting them get knocked down a peg & not doing, saying, acknowledging it, or even feeding into it with gasoline or two or knocking them down their confidence a peg or two them selves. Because of their own insecurities. And feeling that the person that they’re with might get too bigheaded and act up or go for better. So knock their confidence, than lift her up and keep her locked up. But wow! Thats one principled, brave and secure stand up man. Lucky her. Salute! 🫡
@@jashuasmith9361I’ve found that people want to date people of different races while also not wanting to deal with the prejudices, and I’ve also found that it’s rooted in their own insecurities as well as their attachments to certain ideologies that are both generational and toxic. Those people really have no business being in relationships with people who will be forced to endure the drama single-handedly that their partners have opted out of assisting with
Then you should know it when it happens with other types of prejudices. I’m a Black woman named Karen. What do you think my life has been like the last 4 years? I had to walk off my job because my Black supervisor harassed me about my name. Oh, and did you catch MSNBC using xenophobia (foreigner prejudice) against Russians? I am an English tutor who’s been selected by many Russians to be their tutor.
Funny because even when you date a black man they don’t protect most of us against colorism, or texturism, or featurism. We’re on our own
This is what we need in this world! Thanks sir!!
Gorgeous couple!!! He stood up for his woman!!! Oh yeah!!!
A good man will always stick up for his woman ,just like that , He's a keeper ❤
Indeed! I love this for her!
To have your partner get as mad as you and fight for your honor, on an important occasion like this is refreshing. They are a beautiful couple by the way ❤💯🥳🎇🎉💕👍
They are terrific and he's wonderful for standing up for her. Wishing you both much happiness!
Bravo - love that he spoke up!!!
He is a leader a protector of his future wife congratulations 👏🎉
No he isn't
@@b.u.dmusic9424The hell he don't! Let them be, you don't even know them.
@@chrissimpson6701 And neither do you for that matter...Look, you already have your...trained person...so be happy with that
What a weird thing to say. If the man was black you wouldn't be so butt hurt. Stop being miserable. @@b.u.dmusic9424
@@b.u.dmusic9424And why isn't h? Please enlighten us.
He played no games about his bride! Way to go y'all!