Hi Alex, I am a Muslim Arab woman who knew nothing about this subject and had so many questions about it.. thank you for sharing this . Respect and love ✊ 💚🌈
Haha, it's a self-portrait of Daniel Anton, maybe he is watching you. He was an artist, art dealer, and art restorer from Denver, PA, if you want to look him up. He was a really nice person who loved food, gardening, art, and dance, and I am grateful to have known him when he was still alive. His spirit will bless you with the ability to grow lots of good fruit if you decide to do so in your garden!
+Trey Joseph Haha, I love Tumblr, but yeah, I don't think it's at all a coincidence. It was on Tumblr that I first encountered people identifying with nonbinary genders, only later in person!
I can respect your position, I just wish people would stop confusing the medical fact of gender with the social construct of gender roles. I'm a straight, "cisgendered" male, my favorite color (or as close as I get to having a favorite with so many good options) is purple, I squee at cute little animals, etc. and I don't see any of this as at odds with my gender. I have no problem with people who have a non-standard identity. Just don't expect people to get your pronouns right when they first meet you. Remember that for 99% of the population, asking what their preferred pronouns are would be a waste of time. The real reason I'm commenting here is to find out what a person of non-binary gender would think of my best friend's little sister, and you seem like you'd be pretty reasonable. The person in question acts like a teenage girl, dresses like a teenage girl, is biologically female and is happy that way (i.e. doesn't feel like she should have a penis), engages in sexual activity with her boyfriend, is not attracted to women, and is not into pegging, yet she claims that she is a gay man trapped in a female body. To me, she's quite clearly a teenage girl seeking attention, and the therapist she saw once agreed. However, she talked to her school councilor about it, and the school staff support this and chstised her parents for taking her for therapy. It's worth mentioning that when she was about 10, she was showing a lot of the classical signs of NPD, showing a very low level of sympathy for others combined with a talent for manipulating people. I think what she's doing is an affront to people with actual gender issues and that the school is wrong for supporting her. What are your thoughts?
I really disagree with the judgments that a person is "seeking attention". In general I don't believe in reading negative intentions into a person's actions, ever, and I think that regardless of what the person's intentions are, the outcomes are usually best if you treat people as having good intentions. I also don't really see what's at stake. If a person wants to be addressed with male pronouns, or wants to change their name, or whatever else they're asking for, I don't see how it hurts anyone. I actually think it could help a lot of people, indirectly, because it could throw a wrench in people's gender stereotypes and could help challenge people to get them to think more flexibly about gender. Also all the things you gave, like a person's sexual preferences, gender presentation, those things are all pretty independent of a person's gender identity. We don't generally question the gender identity of cis women who want to have short hair and wear men's clothing, so I don't see why that's really relevant. Also, if someone is a teenager, I think it's even crazier to dismiss their gender identity just because they are doing "teenage girl things". Like, when I was young I pretty much always dressed and acted like a boy, because I was utterly terrified to do otherwise. And I was happy and functional as-is, at least outwardly. This doesn't mean though that I didn't have a lot of tension with gender, I just didn't become able to express / articulate it until much later. So this teenager could also be in a similar boat. Or they/he/she might just like girly things but still feel male internally, which is totally fine. I also feel more than a little uncomfortable with people publicly discussing the sexual behavior of another human, without that person's consent. ESPECIALLY a teenager. Like, I don't really see it as particularly relevant or necessary and I feel exceptionally uncomfortable with you sharing that here in public, in your comments. So like, all the public stuff that I am seeing in your comment provides me evidence that perhaps this teenager isn't being treated fully respectfully. Like if you and others close to them are going around talking about their sexual behavior and using it to judge or dismiss their gender identity, that creeps me out a lot. I believe in unconditionally respecting people's gender identities. I don't personally expect people to get mine right and I don't get mad if people don't use the pronouns that I want. But arguing with a person about their own identity, or outright refusing...I think that's a pretty disgusting and troubling behavior. And I would not be at all surprised if that person ends up exhibiting mental illness or characteristics of a personality disorder, if that person's family or friends treats them in such a way. I'd probably be pretty troubled if my family and friends were doing that sort of thing.
Hi I just watch your video and I would ike to know why you feel comfortable having people talk about you in the third person? Great video very informative.
I'm not sure exactly what you're referring to here. It's common though for people to reference people in the third person in social environments with a lot of people, i.e. say there are 3 or more people and at one point 2 of the people want to reference a third person but they're talking to each other in front of the third person, not addressing it to the third person. That's usually when it comes up...it's not like someone referring to me in the third person when they're talking directly to me. Most often I think it happens when people are not even in the conversation, but may be within earshot.
Hi Alex,
I am a Muslim Arab woman who knew nothing about this subject and had so many questions about it.. thank you for sharing this . Respect and love ✊ 💚🌈
Thank you!
great video. Only thing is I swear that persons eyes are following me in the painting lol
Haha, it's a self-portrait of Daniel Anton, maybe he is watching you. He was an artist, art dealer, and art restorer from Denver, PA, if you want to look him up. He was a really nice person who loved food, gardening, art, and dance, and I am grateful to have known him when he was still alive. His spirit will bless you with the ability to grow lots of good fruit if you decide to do so in your garden!
I'm not even remotely surprised to see that there's a tumblr link in the description.
+Trey Joseph Haha, I love Tumblr, but yeah, I don't think it's at all a coincidence. It was on Tumblr that I first encountered people identifying with nonbinary genders, only later in person!
I can respect your position, I just wish people would stop confusing the medical fact of gender with the social construct of gender roles. I'm a straight, "cisgendered" male, my favorite color (or as close as I get to having a favorite with so many good options) is purple, I squee at cute little animals, etc. and I don't see any of this as at odds with my gender. I have no problem with people who have a non-standard identity. Just don't expect people to get your pronouns right when they first meet you. Remember that for 99% of the population, asking what their preferred pronouns are would be a waste of time.
The real reason I'm commenting here is to find out what a person of non-binary gender would think of my best friend's little sister, and you seem like you'd be pretty reasonable. The person in question acts like a teenage girl, dresses like a teenage girl, is biologically female and is happy that way (i.e. doesn't feel like she should have a penis), engages in sexual activity with her boyfriend, is not attracted to women, and is not into pegging, yet she claims that she is a gay man trapped in a female body. To me, she's quite clearly a teenage girl seeking attention, and the therapist she saw once agreed. However, she talked to her school councilor about it, and the school staff support this and chstised her parents for taking her for therapy. It's worth mentioning that when she was about 10, she was showing a lot of the classical signs of NPD, showing a very low level of sympathy for others combined with a talent for manipulating people. I think what she's doing is an affront to people with actual gender issues and that the school is wrong for supporting her. What are your thoughts?
I really disagree with the judgments that a person is "seeking attention". In general I don't believe in reading negative intentions into a person's actions, ever, and I think that regardless of what the person's intentions are, the outcomes are usually best if you treat people as having good intentions.
I also don't really see what's at stake. If a person wants to be addressed with male pronouns, or wants to change their name, or whatever else they're asking for, I don't see how it hurts anyone. I actually think it could help a lot of people, indirectly, because it could throw a wrench in people's gender stereotypes and could help challenge people to get them to think more flexibly about gender.
Also all the things you gave, like a person's sexual preferences, gender presentation, those things are all pretty independent of a person's gender identity. We don't generally question the gender identity of cis women who want to have short hair and wear men's clothing, so I don't see why that's really relevant. Also, if someone is a teenager, I think it's even crazier to dismiss their gender identity just because they are doing "teenage girl things". Like, when I was young I pretty much always dressed and acted like a boy, because I was utterly terrified to do otherwise. And I was happy and functional as-is, at least outwardly. This doesn't mean though that I didn't have a lot of tension with gender, I just didn't become able to express / articulate it until much later. So this teenager could also be in a similar boat. Or they/he/she might just like girly things but still feel male internally, which is totally fine.
I also feel more than a little uncomfortable with people publicly discussing the sexual behavior of another human, without that person's consent. ESPECIALLY a teenager. Like, I don't really see it as particularly relevant or necessary and I feel exceptionally uncomfortable with you sharing that here in public, in your comments.
So like, all the public stuff that I am seeing in your comment provides me evidence that perhaps this teenager isn't being treated fully respectfully. Like if you and others close to them are going around talking about their sexual behavior and using it to judge or dismiss their gender identity, that creeps me out a lot.
I believe in unconditionally respecting people's gender identities. I don't personally expect people to get mine right and I don't get mad if people don't use the pronouns that I want. But arguing with a person about their own identity, or outright refusing...I think that's a pretty disgusting and troubling behavior. And I would not be at all surprised if that person ends up exhibiting mental illness or characteristics of a personality disorder, if that person's family or friends treats them in such a way. I'd probably be pretty troubled if my family and friends were doing that sort of thing.
You are amazing
Hi I just watch your video and I would ike to know why you feel comfortable having people talk about you in the third person? Great video very informative.
I'm not sure exactly what you're referring to here. It's common though for people to reference people in the third person in social environments with a lot of people, i.e. say there are 3 or more people and at one point 2 of the people want to reference a third person but they're talking to each other in front of the third person, not addressing it to the third person. That's usually when it comes up...it's not like someone referring to me in the third person when they're talking directly to me.
Most often I think it happens when people are not even in the conversation, but may be within earshot.