Too many black chicks really do have major attitude problems. I can see why so many men just avoid them. Dedan really explores this issue so thoroughly, too.
It's generally true for most AAW. It's rare to see bad attitudes in other races. I still treat people the way I want to be treated no matter race or gender.
Wow yes these are all opinions but I do not believe that one race specifically the black race is the worse when it comes to attitudes in women I have seen Chinese women fight white women fight Asian women fight white women fight Indian women fight Native American women fight African women fight every type of woman on this earth has an attitude the list goes on
I'm a BW and can apprciate what Dedan has to say. It just breaks my heart at times because I honestly am a good woman w/o the drama or attitude and humble,yet too many sistas out here make a bad name for us good ones out here. It seems like the bad ones outnumber us good girls. (sigh) I love my Black brothas.
although my wife is very attractive, it was her humble spirit that attracted me to her. she's one of those sbw, but at home she's my wife and mother of my children. 10 years strong. excellent video.
Foreign-born sistas tend to be much more mature, less materialistic, more worldly and more FEMININE than the average American sista. Sistas that get mad when brothas date outside of their race consistently think it's about looks. That brothas hate their dark skin, African features, etc. And I continually tell them, it's how you ACT that has brothas looking elsewhere. Men of all race fall all over themselves to get at sistas from Europe, Africa, the Caribbean, South America. They're just better people to be with on average.
2015 money.i no you didn't get married B.i don't care how nice she is bro.she going to turn on you at the end money.you done mess up money.listen man get a devoce quick.and your life back money.look man Women ain't no I'm sorry man.
The ones with attitudes usually end up lonely by their dam self, then annoy their son's for money, but your son has his own family. His wife is sick of your ass but she's trying to remain humble.
I love the smooth and mellow R&B music at the beginning of this video. It fits Dedan's show so incredibly well, too. Best of all, Dedan has great topics of discussion.
The funny thing is, alot of successful women are terribe in bed, and have dry personalities. All them degrees make them socially awkward. Dated a female once, and after she talked about work and education the convo went down the drain. I'd rather talk to a female, with an okay job who is down to earth with a sense of humor, who can throw down in the bedroom.
I like that quote; "you are no one without someone" that's deep (i left the special part out intentionally). I think the whole I'm a special catch mentality applies to both men and women but personally ive experienced the same thing where I've given a women a compliment and she turned her nose up like she just knew I wanted to be with her? She didn't even say thank you lol or anything, I was like "WOW???"
At 1:25, success is not a reason for black women's attitudes. Black women have attitudes at every age--from grade school to grad school--so success cannot be a reason.
I am white I dated a black woman for about a year she was originally from the Carribean,she was a Christian.....what an attitude!! she actually told me she was Jesus favorite.
Its refreshing to see a black man speak intelligently about controversial subjects of this type without cursing or saying over and over again ,"You know wat Im sayin" etc. I totally agree with every thing this intelligent and down to earth man said.
1.If we(women) are too nice , we get stepped on, and taken for granted. 2. If we (women) give money, pay the tab, Bill's etc. We get used. 3. If we (women) allow our men to converse or even flirt with other women, we get cheated on. Read my lips, there is no winning here. I've been the excellent girlfriend and I'm still not married with any kids. Men tend to disrespect and used me. (Outcome). Hold these trifling men accountable for there actions as well.
I thin its (unchecked) immaturity and/or (un-diagnosed) personality disorders. Isnt a person who's success goes to their head with arrogance and strutting usually considered immature? Isnt a hair trigger temper something expected from a diva teen, not a 30 plus woman? Either she's childish or crazy.
I like your knowledge of the subject, over the last 30 years BM separately have disenrolled themselves as the leaders of our race. But not all BM are like this, I am a father and i protect my daughter whether she likes it or not.She may not want to hear it, but its for the best. If we raise them right, teach them responsibility and self worth it would be a great start. But every man can't be the target of every angry BW, at some point she needs to overcome the anger and hatred! Forgiveness
This was a video I needed to see.I thought that I was the only guy who has had that experience.nowadays you can't be friendly to women,smile,or even look at them because they will assume that your trying to talk to them.what I really hate is when a women tries to get your attention just to reject you.I was at a store waiting on line to buy something and this women in front of me was staring in my face.she automatically assumed I was going to try to approach her.I find that annoying.
It's actually sad that some women will render a quick negative comment, far more defensive than really paying attention to the point. I think we're sometimes just so far gone that we (people, men and women) refuse to really listen. He's right on point with the "real prize" and some of you ladies have missed and skipped right over that. It's frustrating that I look for a woman with a decent attitude/personality because that's (like he said) Thee Most Important issue to me. Man I can't stand those arrogant women and it's (again) sad that they proudly wear their attitudes like a badge.
conceit and arrogance is the number 1 turn off for me. i dont care how fine she is or who she is. a woman will get an automatic loserville bid from me if she thinks for one second she is better than anyone. this dude is on point with his analysis of both men and women. ladies and gentlemen...let's please learn.
thats true....i a very attractive women,and people cant believe that i am so humble for the way i look! they think that i would be stuck up,because of my exotic looks.
I hate to say it bro, but you are right. I love my sisters and won't turn my back on them but the truth hurts some time. Meeting an humble spirit woman is very rare. I have heard my mom and my aunts who are near 70 years old talk about our sisters attitude. My aunt said if she sees a black female at cash register she will go to another one because of the bad attitude. When elders of your own race and gender is talking about you know it's a problem. Humbleness is the key my sisters.
I see you talk about the Dominican girls, i think you forgot that america has Dominican girls too and their behavior is quite rude as well. The stereotype for black women can fit them just as well, its not the race people thats something is wrong with, its society. The AMERICAN society at that. The black community in America has been tricked and fooled and played with and the typical black man is blind to see that.
Wow , this so true i personally tried to date black women overtime but i was always told i was too white lol( side bar , im black ) and plus i couldnt deal with the attitude problems etc thanks for posting this
@sandinyourshoes indeed...we as black men want a women who will be intimate with us and just keep it real. I aint got time for no attitude. Im in search of a spiritual black woman and i think i might have found her. Yall pray for me and great job Dedan. Keep it up brother
That's why these elite men with the average Jane. Then people scream "gold digger." But it's because they are approachable, humble and supportive. I can actually agree with this one. I work two jobs and make good money but I always smile. Even when I look a mess I still get approached. (not being cocky) I always greet, laugh and give eye contact. I understand my future husband may not ever be a millionaire but I'll stand behind him and until he's spiritually and emotionally rich dammit!
Black women can carry feistiness like nobody's business however I think soft and sexy soft spoken demands attn. Man or woman no matter the race does not want someone mean and loud with no common sense. Ijs. Communication and truly listening to each other is how we break this barrier. This is not a figment of your imagination this is a problem. Let's keep talking about it❤️❤️❤️
it's best to forget them & don't even mention them. i'm trying to learn that myself, if we ignore them. they'll change their ways & learn how to appreciated the man or forever lonely on the real.
A lot of black women (even the educated one's) place a high value "swag". So essentially a smoothe operator is what they are attracted to. So when the smoothe operator plays them, they say that black men are the problem when 8 other men who were regular down to earth guys tried to talk to them. The "SWAG" brotha is a black woman's trophy to all the other women! A prime example would be Wayne Brady. Black women would dismiss the guy as "corny". White/asians would not view him this way
so i get this from a lot of women who are set like dry concrete,"i'm sassy and if u don't like my sarcasm then keep it movin,on to the next".them type gone stay single as long as a clock tick. none of them want to work on their personality but they want u to be custom fit for them.u have to live in thier la la land or ur a bum.they have nothing on humble submissive women who support and back a man up till death do em apart.these type will never be happy looking down on men and walking tall.
That introduction is absolutely BOSS!! Congratulations Brother on your awards! Here is a comment: I know you care about us (black community) and I think your point about unnecessary attitude is important and accurate, however, to compare American black women to a group of women who are not considered black (genetically mixed), disenfranchised, mentally abused (some), and poor is VERY inaccurate. I am sure the women are beautiful, however, this goes back to comparing our
yes sir...i feel you all the way..we complain about these hard headed women but we are just wasteing our time..their mind is too gone. at least 70% of them and the 30% that still have their mind is married or unattractive. there are plenty of good sistas but like you say, they are in other countries!!..you are right!!
I didn't say that money makes a black woman a good catch...nor does a man. I'm talking about a woman with self worth and respect, good character, and God fearing, are some qualities of a good woman. When a lot of men run across a woman with those good qualities they don't know how to apprieciate it. This I know from personal experience.
I've actually done SEVERAL videos about black men as well as countless radio shows on that topic...However, that doesnt take away the validity of the points made in this video.
For the Black Men who place Black Women in the same category In 2012 the US Census Bureau estimated 44,456,000 African Americans in the United States, and if there is a whole lot MORE black women than black men, well lets estimate that there is about 30,500,000 black females, minus 5,000,000 underage so black men you are saying, that you have dated over 25 million black females, because that is the only way, you will know that black females have bad attitudes.
where many BW mess up is; they confuse pointing out the truth as a bash or nasty put down and this is tragic because it means many of them become unreasonable and approachable. this video is for their benefit yet some are quick to run to the others do it too line which is silly. we trying to you BW be better not the others. if my boss pointed out I've been late to work all week, pointing to my costumes workers saying they come late too doesn't make the offence any less the boss still wants me to be on time. if you can't point out flaws to your partner. wife. friend.etc then you have nothing in regards to a relationship. yet BW expect to be on the top of a man's romance list with that approach. really? why would any man in their right mind would be with someone like that. we all have flaws be big enough to acknowledge them and seek to improve
Now unfortunately that does happen, i have a friend and her father molested her when she was 13! She still isn't right to this day, If castration and death was the penalty that would certainly cease to exist. You hit a very good point that people don't like to talk about. All babies are innocent and then grow into a product of their environment without protection and guidance!!! There are some vile people of just about every color!
Sooooooooo truueeee, Girls with a superiority complex approach players who feed off this and it always turns out the same way. Divorce, Abuse, ugly break up.
The question is are you a bitch? What is a bitch? A bitch is a individual who goes into a personal relationship with no intentions of building anything. If a bitch can't control you they destroy you, if they can't destroy you they make you miserable. You must be able to indentify this personality.
Cosign. American women have entitlement/bad attitudes because that is our culture. We baby and spoil women in this culture. Whereas in other cultures, like Latin America, women tend to be more realistic and grounded. I know, I've been there. Bottom line---it's all about culture!
Dear successful African American women, you are someone special, even without a special someone. Love yourself first, and consider maybe dating outside your race if this is what the men in your race are telling you. The message this guy is trying to tell you is "Diminish your self esteem, and you'll get a man. Submit, and be happy." Do not listen.
How many times does it have to be said when it comes to generalizing, IF IT DOESN'T APPLY TO YOU THEN KEEP IT MOVING. Now that we have that out of the way lets get on the topic of beauty, you can't and I mean can't try to force a men to not be visual its how our body works. Thats like me telling you not to be emotional, you see how rediculous that sounds? I understand and agree that we don't need to OVERemphasize physical beauty but if we aren't sexually attracted to you then we aren't moving.
Me being a black women, you should make a video about why some black men always think its acceptable to have their cake and eat it to. Why dont you make videos about the behavior of many black males in America today?
mixed feelings about this video, while keeping an open mind to the points that I think he was trying to make I couldn't ignore the negative commentary and feedback about women. This video would not convince me to improve my attitude! but maybe that wasnt the point
man i agree 100%. this is a topic i will be discussing in the book i'm writing on relationships in the black/hispanic community. you said it & i'll say it again. the above average women in America are below average to ugly in most other countries so for these women here in western culture to carry themselves like that explains why 70% of Black women are single. it also stems from most Black women constantly emasculating the Black man into a pile of rubbish. who wants to come home to that???
What I meant be the wrong ones is the ones that weren't meant to be/do any good rather black, white, middle eastern, asian, etc. Hey even men have bad attitudes. All this singling out is giving people the wrong, distorted message if you are goin to call one out call all of them out! That's what I'm saying.
If You're A Woman On Her High Horse Thinking You're The Grand Prize To The World, Then Guess What?!? You Should Be Payin Me. Awww, Now You're Mad Cause Im Doggin You. Good.. Think It - If You're Successful, Beautiful And Got It Goin On, Then Why Most Of Yall STILL Cant Find A Good Man..Cause U Cant Buy A New Attitude!! And You Cant Blame The Media, Cause They Will Tell Folks In A Minute Blk Men Wont Stay & Be A Father To His Kids, And We STILL Dont Have A Problem Finding Somebody, Hmmm.
I Agree with bbass044 you did hit it on the head when you said hello to a black woman a lot of the times they think you tryna to holler at them. Most black woman where I'm from think that's Corny to use verbal gestures. Can you do a video on shallow close minded woman.
My Bad I Gave Your Comment A Thumbs Up, I Was Tryna Hit Reply. ANYWAYS.. A Swing And A Miss For You AND MOST.. I Dont Need The Media To Tell Me Shit Bout Black Woman When I Get LIVE Coverage EVERYDAY!! I Can Make Up My OWN Mind From What I Expirience And Learned From Other Folks Situation. But I Think You Missed My Point.. Another Reason Why We Seem Not To Make A Connection To Much Anymore....................
I see what your saying but you have to keep in mind what women go through. As black women, or black people in general we are very much sexualized no matter if we are truly that way or not. So when a women goes out in public they are use to having sexual comments said about them or even touched on. So women are very weary of the intentions of a man when they approach them. I don't think its really a women's fault initially. We should just pray as a people to overcome these issues.
I HAVE NEVER EVER IN MY WHOLE LIFE SEEN NOT EVEN 1... BLACK WOMAN WITH OUT AN ATTITUDE NOT... 1.... EVER . IT'S LIKE LOOKING FOR THE LOCK NEST MONSTER, YOU HEAR ABOUT IT, BUT YOU NEVER SEE IT .
Well does every else have to deal with BW's past history that develops into present day tirades? The wall that you carry around with you is luggage, let it go! Treat each person you meet a little better than the last one you met. A lot of BW, set out each day with an attitude and its not a positive one. Every brother has not done every sister wrong, we love you all, but damn check the attitudes. Stop wearing your feelings on your sleeves as well. We aren't concerned with other races attitudes.
fair enough.....the best i can come up with for that is that most BM aren't god fearing (myself included) so they might not see that as a worth while quality....however that's not an excuse for treating someone the wrong way....don't you just hate hit and miss
I'm a black man and damn you're reading my mind. And some arrogant women will put up negative replies. Just ignore them, they just don't want to hear the truth.
Yes I most definitely have an attitude. Because I know I deserve better!!!!!!!!! For real men need to treating women wrong its way to many diseases in the world. And time is of the essence and on top of that. Life is to short for all that.
i'm going to say most of whom you're mostly talking about African AMERICAN women and i say this because i'm a Caribbean girl and how most of these girl behave in america are basically disgraceful. Nowhere in my mind has any of my friends back home come close to being so rude and disrespectful and quite frankly i don't talk to these girls up here because of their attitudes, but also i just wanted to add this "problem" was created originally by the black man and supported by the black woman..
I have too many girlfriend from all over the world I talk to hang out with I know that isn't out of different cultures I can cook the food talk the language I know it. I have plenty of guy friends from every part of Africa Pakistani in East Africa the UK they know how their women are we will be are going to the end of time we believe the grass is always greener. do as you please if you want to be with a woman any place in the world go be with her enjoy it you have my blessing
Too many black chicks really do have major attitude problems. I can see why so many men just avoid them. Dedan really explores this issue so thoroughly, too.
I certainly avoid them, smh
Me to
Xavier James , good man.
Jason C , as you should.
Most Black women have too much attitude. These sistas need to lose the damn attitude.
they got some badddddddddddddd ass attitudes.
It's generally true for most AAW. It's rare to see bad attitudes in other races. I still treat people the way I want to be treated no matter race or gender.
Wow yes these are all opinions but I do not believe that one race specifically the black race is the worse when it comes to attitudes in women I have seen Chinese women fight white women fight Asian women fight white women fight Indian women fight Native American women fight African women fight every type of woman on this earth has an attitude
the list goes on
I'm a BW and can apprciate what Dedan has to say. It just breaks my heart at times because I honestly am a good woman w/o the drama or attitude and humble,yet too many sistas out here make a bad name for us good ones out here. It seems like the bad ones outnumber us good girls. (sigh) I love my Black brothas.
although my wife is very attractive, it was her humble spirit that attracted me to her. she's one of those sbw, but at home she's my wife and mother of my children. 10 years strong. excellent video.
Foreign-born sistas tend to be much more mature, less materialistic, more worldly and more FEMININE than the average American sista.
Sistas that get mad when brothas date outside of their race consistently think it's about looks. That brothas hate their dark skin, African features, etc. And I continually tell them, it's how you ACT that has brothas looking elsewhere. Men of all race fall all over themselves to get at sistas from Europe, Africa, the Caribbean, South America. They're just better people to be with on average.
Aaron Starks, yes, sisters from other countries tend to be so much easier to date.
2015 money.i no you didn't get married B.i don't care how nice she is bro.she going to turn on you at the end money.you done mess up money.listen man get a devoce quick.and your life back money.look man Women ain't no I'm sorry man.
Aaron Starks amen amen amen brother real talk
The ones with attitudes usually end up lonely by their dam self, then annoy their son's for money, but your son has his own family. His wife is sick of your ass but she's trying to remain humble.
I love the smooth and mellow R&B music at the beginning of this video. It fits Dedan's show so incredibly well, too. Best of all, Dedan has great topics of discussion.
The funny thing is, alot of successful women are terribe in bed, and have dry personalities. All them degrees make them socially awkward.
Dated a female once, and after she talked about work and education the convo went down the drain. I'd rather talk to a female, with an okay job who is down to earth with a sense of humor, who can throw down in the bedroom.
I like that quote; "you are no one without someone" that's deep (i left the special part out intentionally). I think the whole I'm a special catch mentality applies to both men and women but personally ive experienced the same thing where I've given a women a compliment and she turned her nose up like she just knew I wanted to be with her? She didn't even say thank you lol or anything, I was like "WOW???"
At 1:25, success is not a reason for black women's attitudes. Black women have attitudes at every age--from grade school to grad school--so success cannot be a reason.
EXACTLY. They learn it from their mothers
ALL WOMEN HAVE ATTITUDES!
But why are the videos on the topic mostly about black females more than those of any other race?
I am white I dated a black woman for about a year she was originally from the Carribean,she was a Christian.....what an attitude!! she actually told me she was Jesus favorite.
I love this guy already; you're saying something that I've been embedding in my psyche from the youth.
Its refreshing to see a black man speak intelligently about controversial subjects of this type without cursing or saying over and over again ,"You know wat Im sayin" etc. I totally agree with every thing this intelligent and down to earth man said.
This is good Mr. Tolbert. I love your relationship columns. There is somebody out here listening to you and taking notes.
He's an excellent columnist.
1.If we(women) are too nice , we get stepped on, and taken for granted.
2. If we (women) give money, pay the tab, Bill's etc. We get used.
3. If we (women) allow our men to converse or even flirt with other women, we get cheated on. Read my lips, there is no winning here. I've been the excellent girlfriend and I'm still not married with any kids. Men tend to disrespect and used me. (Outcome). Hold these trifling men accountable for there actions as well.
Trust me if your to nice, your a pushover, and doormat. If your too fussy, mad , loud spoken your crazy.
Love this!!! You are dead on it, my brother!!!
A bad attitude is not a sign of strength it's a sign of weakness.
they are hard to deal with even rich men leave them no man is perfect they expect that they bring on pressure and timid behavior in men
"Beauty is skin deep but ugly is to the bone!"
I thin its (unchecked) immaturity and/or (un-diagnosed) personality disorders. Isnt a person who's success goes to their head with arrogance and strutting usually considered immature? Isnt a hair trigger temper something expected from a diva teen, not a 30 plus woman? Either she's childish or crazy.
You speak the truth brother!!
Yes, he does.
Dedan is 100% right about this!
Women are the prize. And we are queens ❤️💖💖 forever💔🌺💖❤️.
I like your knowledge of the subject, over the last 30 years BM separately have disenrolled themselves as the leaders of our race. But not all BM are like this, I am a father and i protect my daughter whether she likes it or not.She may not want to hear it, but its for the best. If we raise them right, teach them responsibility and self worth it would be a great start. But every man can't be the target of every angry BW, at some point she needs to overcome the anger and hatred! Forgiveness
A great attitude goes a very long way
This was a video I needed to see.I thought that I was the only guy who has had that experience.nowadays you can't be friendly to women,smile,or even look at them because they will assume that your trying to talk to them.what I really hate is when a women tries to get your attention just to reject you.I was at a store waiting on line to buy something and this women in front of me was staring in my face.she automatically assumed I was going to try to approach her.I find that annoying.
I encourage you and your viewers to consider the video called "What Women Want is Worship".
Beauty attracts us. You don't have to be vain to be beautiful. Integrity, and all around good personality keeps us around.
thumbs up!
i know this factor since i was young.
no sister would even mess with me, unless i was thugged out.
Man, you are so right, brother! Black women really need to b real and quit playing!
It's actually sad that some women will render a quick negative comment, far more defensive than really paying attention to the point. I think we're sometimes just so far gone that we (people, men and women) refuse to really listen. He's right on point with the "real prize" and some of you ladies have missed and skipped right over that. It's frustrating that I look for a woman with a decent attitude/personality because that's (like he said) Thee Most Important issue to me. Man I can't stand those arrogant women and it's (again) sad that they proudly wear their attitudes like a badge.
conceit and arrogance is the number 1 turn off for me. i dont care how fine she is or who she is. a woman will get an automatic loserville bid from me if she thinks for one second she is better than anyone. this dude is on point with his analysis of both men and women. ladies and gentlemen...let's please learn.
thats true....i a very attractive women,and people cant believe that i am so humble for the way i look! they think that i would be stuck up,because of my exotic looks.
Preach! So right in everything you said. And you on point about the Dominican women, they look mad good
I hate to say it bro, but you are right. I love my sisters and won't turn my back on them but the truth hurts some time. Meeting an humble spirit woman is very rare. I have heard my mom and my aunts who are near 70 years old talk about our sisters attitude. My aunt said if she sees a black female at cash register she will go to another one because of the bad attitude. When elders of your own race and gender is talking about you know it's a problem. Humbleness is the key my sisters.
This video shouldn't have any dislikes! If you dislike this you can't handle the truth.
I see you talk about the Dominican girls, i think you forgot that america has Dominican girls too and their behavior is quite rude as well. The stereotype for black women can fit them just as well, its not the race people thats something is wrong with, its society. The AMERICAN society at that. The black community in America has been tricked and fooled and played with and the typical black man is blind to see that.
I like your video.
Wow , this so true i personally tried to date black women overtime but i was always told i was too white lol( side bar , im black ) and plus i couldnt deal with the attitude problems etc thanks for posting this
@sandinyourshoes indeed...we as black men want a women who will be intimate with us and just keep it real. I aint got time for no attitude. Im in search of a spiritual black woman and i think i might have found her. Yall pray for me and great job Dedan. Keep it up brother
That's why these elite men with the average Jane. Then people scream "gold digger." But it's because they are approachable, humble and supportive. I can actually agree with this one. I work two jobs and make good money but I always smile. Even when I look a mess I still get approached. (not being cocky) I always greet, laugh and give eye contact. I understand my future husband may not ever be a millionaire but I'll stand behind him and until he's spiritually and emotionally rich dammit!
Black women can carry feistiness like nobody's business however I think soft and sexy soft spoken demands attn. Man or woman no matter the race does not want someone mean and loud with no common sense. Ijs.
Communication and truly listening to each other is how we break this barrier. This is not a figment of your imagination this is a problem. Let's keep talking about it❤️❤️❤️
it's best to forget them & don't even mention them.
i'm trying to learn that myself, if we ignore them.
they'll change their ways & learn how to appreciated the man or forever lonely on the real.
i see plenty of videos regarding this topic. obviously its a very serious problem that black women in the US need to address. it isnt a coincidence!!!
A lot of black women (even the educated one's) place a high value "swag". So essentially a smoothe operator is what they are attracted to. So when the smoothe operator plays them, they say that black men are the problem when 8 other men who were regular down to earth guys tried to talk to them. The "SWAG" brotha is a black woman's trophy to all the other women! A prime example would be Wayne Brady. Black women would dismiss the guy as "corny". White/asians would not view him this way
so i get this from a lot of women who are set like dry concrete,"i'm sassy and if u don't like my sarcasm then keep it movin,on to the next".them type gone stay single as long as a clock tick. none of them want to work on their personality but they want u to be custom fit for them.u have to live in thier la la land or ur a bum.they have nothing on humble submissive women who support and back a man up till death do em apart.these type will never be happy looking down on men and walking tall.
I have came across plenty of black women like that in D.C.
That introduction is absolutely BOSS!! Congratulations Brother on your awards! Here is a comment: I know you care about us (black community) and I think your point about unnecessary attitude is important and accurate, however, to compare American black women to a group of women who are not considered black (genetically mixed), disenfranchised, mentally abused (some), and poor is VERY inaccurate. I am sure the women are beautiful, however, this goes back to comparing our
yes sir...i feel you all the way..we complain about these hard headed women but we are just wasteing our time..their mind is too gone. at least 70% of them and the 30% that still have their mind is married or unattractive. there are plenty of good sistas but like you say, they are in other countries!!..you are right!!
Oh and great video.
I didn't say that money makes a black woman a good catch...nor does a man. I'm talking about a woman with self worth and respect, good character, and God fearing, are some qualities of a good woman. When a lot of men run across a woman with those good qualities they don't know how to apprieciate it. This I know from personal experience.
I've actually done SEVERAL videos about black men as well as countless radio shows on that topic...However, that doesnt take away the validity of the points made in this video.
I understand your point. We just see it differently though.
That's right brother you show me some LIGHT
Wow...deep!!! Well spoken!
For the Black Men who place Black Women in the same category
In 2012 the US Census Bureau estimated 44,456,000 African Americans in the United States, and if there is a whole lot MORE black women than black men, well lets estimate that there is about 30,500,000 black females, minus 5,000,000 underage so black men you are saying, that you have dated over 25 million black females, because that is the only way, you will know that black females have bad attitudes.
where many BW mess up is; they confuse pointing out the truth as a bash or nasty put down and this is tragic because it means many of them become unreasonable and approachable. this video is for their benefit yet some are quick to run to the others do it too line which is silly. we trying to you BW be better not the others. if my boss pointed out I've been late to work all week, pointing to my costumes workers saying they come late too doesn't make the offence any less the boss still wants me to be on time. if you can't point out flaws to your partner. wife. friend.etc then you have nothing in regards to a relationship. yet BW expect to be on the top of a man's romance list with that approach. really? why would any man in their right mind would be with someone like that. we all have flaws be big enough to acknowledge them and seek to improve
Now unfortunately that does happen, i have a friend and her father molested her when she was 13! She still isn't right to this day, If castration and death was the penalty that would certainly cease to exist. You hit a very good point that people don't like to talk about. All babies are innocent and then grow into a product of their environment without protection and guidance!!! There are some vile people of just about every color!
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Sooooooooo truueeee, Girls with a superiority complex approach players who feed off this and it always turns out the same way. Divorce, Abuse, ugly break up.
The question is are you a bitch? What is a bitch? A bitch is a individual who goes into a personal relationship with no intentions of building anything. If a bitch can't control you they destroy you, if they can't destroy you they make you miserable. You must be able to indentify this personality.
1:55 is so right!!!
black women are intimidating to talk to.sometimes i be to timid to talk to them.
Cosign.
American women have entitlement/bad attitudes because that is our culture. We baby and spoil women in this culture. Whereas in other cultures, like Latin America, women tend to be more realistic and grounded. I know, I've been there.
Bottom line---it's all about culture!
Dear successful African American women, you are someone special, even without a special someone. Love yourself first, and consider maybe dating outside your race if this is what the men in your race are telling you. The message this guy is trying to tell you is "Diminish your self esteem, and you'll get a man. Submit, and be happy." Do not listen.
How many times does it have to be said when it comes to generalizing, IF IT DOESN'T APPLY TO YOU THEN KEEP IT MOVING. Now that we have that out of the way lets get on the topic of beauty, you can't and I mean can't try to force a men to not be visual its how our body works. Thats like me telling you not to be emotional, you see how rediculous that sounds? I understand and agree that we don't need to OVERemphasize physical beauty but if we aren't sexually attracted to you then we aren't moving.
Me being a black women, you should make a video about why some black men always think its acceptable to have their cake and eat it to. Why dont you make videos about the behavior of many black males in America today?
yea this is very true....
mixed feelings about this video, while keeping an open mind to the points that I think he was trying to make I couldn't ignore the negative commentary and feedback about women. This video would not convince me to improve my attitude! but maybe that wasnt the point
man i agree 100%. this is a topic i will be discussing in the book i'm writing on relationships in the black/hispanic community. you said it & i'll say it again. the above average women in America are below average to ugly in most other countries so for these women here in western culture to carry themselves like that explains why 70% of Black women are single. it also stems from most Black women constantly emasculating the Black man into a pile of rubbish. who wants to come home to that???
What I meant be the wrong ones is the ones that weren't meant to be/do any good rather black, white, middle eastern, asian, etc. Hey even men have bad attitudes. All this singling out is giving people the wrong, distorted message if you are goin to call one out call all of them out! That's what I'm saying.
If You're A Woman On Her High Horse Thinking You're The Grand Prize To The World, Then Guess What?!? You Should Be Payin Me. Awww, Now You're Mad Cause Im Doggin You. Good.. Think It - If You're Successful, Beautiful And Got It Goin On, Then Why Most Of Yall STILL Cant Find A Good Man..Cause U Cant Buy A New Attitude!! And You Cant Blame The Media, Cause They Will Tell Folks In A Minute Blk Men Wont Stay & Be A Father To His Kids, And We STILL Dont Have A Problem Finding Somebody, Hmmm.
Good point...hey...SOMEBODYS gotta do it right?.. God Bless..
i agree 100%
I Agree with bbass044 you did hit it on the head when you said hello to a black woman a lot of the times they think you tryna to holler at them. Most black woman where I'm from think that's Corny to use verbal gestures. Can you do a video on shallow close minded woman.
My Bad I Gave Your Comment A Thumbs Up, I Was Tryna Hit Reply. ANYWAYS.. A Swing And A Miss For You AND MOST.. I Dont Need The Media To Tell Me Shit Bout Black Woman When I Get LIVE Coverage EVERYDAY!! I Can Make Up My OWN Mind From What I Expirience And Learned From Other Folks Situation. But I Think You Missed My Point.. Another Reason Why We Seem Not To Make A Connection To Much Anymore....................
I see what your saying but you have to keep in mind what women go through. As black women, or black people in general we are very much sexualized no matter if we are truly that way or not. So when a women goes out in public they are use to having sexual comments said about them or even touched on. So women are very weary of the intentions of a man when they approach them. I don't think its really a women's fault initially. We should just pray as a people to overcome these issues.
*claps hands* Congrats
I HAVE NEVER EVER IN MY WHOLE LIFE SEEN NOT EVEN 1... BLACK WOMAN WITH OUT AN ATTITUDE NOT... 1.... EVER . IT'S LIKE LOOKING FOR THE LOCK NEST MONSTER, YOU HEAR ABOUT IT, BUT YOU NEVER SEE IT .
Hey Dedan went are you going to make some more you tube video's.
Brothas speaking the truth. All average looking women in American think they to fine to be spoken to.
True that. That will never happen my sister.
Well does every else have to deal with BW's past history that develops into present day tirades? The wall that you carry around with you is luggage, let it go! Treat each person you meet a little better than the last one you met. A lot of BW, set out each day with an attitude and its not a positive one. Every brother has not done every sister wrong, we love you all, but damn check the attitudes. Stop wearing your feelings on your sleeves as well. We aren't concerned with other races attitudes.
fair enough.....the best i can come up with for that is that most BM aren't god fearing (myself included) so they might not see that as a worth while quality....however that's not an excuse for treating someone the wrong way....don't you just hate hit and miss
@noiretbeau He's not bashing them, he's just touching basis on problems within the black female gender.
@sandinyourshoes Girls with attitudes of all races is bad, but it just seems more prominent in the black community.
good video
This is True
I'm a black man and damn you're reading my mind. And some arrogant women will put up negative replies. Just ignore them, they just don't want to hear the truth.
Yes I most definitely have an attitude. Because I know I deserve better!!!!!!!!! For real men need to treating women wrong its way to many diseases in the world. And time is of the essence and on top of that. Life is to short for all that.
Stop picking drug dealers
too humble can be seen as weak too
i'm going to say most of whom you're mostly talking about African AMERICAN women and i say this because i'm a Caribbean girl and how most of these girl behave in america are basically disgraceful. Nowhere in my mind has any of my friends back home come close to being so rude and disrespectful and quite frankly i don't talk to these girls up here because of their attitudes, but also i just wanted to add this "problem" was created originally by the black man and supported by the black woman..
Definitely embarrassing additude problems and embarrassing in public. Take them to Burger King not a five star restaurant.
If u don't have good intentions for a women then u need to leave her along!!!!!!??? Forever.
Preach brother😄
I have too many girlfriend from all over the world I talk to hang out with I know that isn't out of different cultures I can cook the food talk the language I know it. I have plenty of guy friends from every part of Africa Pakistani in East Africa the UK they know how their women are we will be are going to the end of time we believe the grass is always greener. do as you please if you want to be with a woman any place in the world go be with her enjoy it you have my blessing