The sad part about it is that he is trying to smile the pain away. His body language is also really showing how anxious he is and how sad it is to talk about this.
You’re really brave and authentic. There’s nothing to feel embarrassed about. I hope the perpetrator gets his punishment and praying for you to receive healing and new beginnings.
"because of how society portrays men." this phrase really angers me as we all know how judgmental the asian, more specifically the singaporean society is. no one should be forced to behave according to certain stereotype, it's unhealthy and sickening... so glad you made it through those tough times and i hope the future will be brighter for you
U r right Our society is toxic Making people believe masculinity is strong My cousin brother was raped but my uncle did not do anything because he thought it was a shame And instead beat his wife,enduring anger upon her"
It's not easy to come forward and share your story with everyone (practically strangers). Thank you for being so strong and brave. I sincerely hope you heal over time. This is also a reminder that everyone is a human being with emotions and feelings regardless of your gender.
Thank you for your courage in sharing your story, you didn’t deserve what happened to you. I truly hope that you're able to find a path to healing because you're worthy of love!
As a victim of such myself, I honestly nearly cried hearing about your story and all the struggles you've been through for the past 6 years. I understand how much pain and trauma this kind of incident would bring to you and I wish that you never had to go through such. I'm so proud that you were able to come out and share about what happened to you. I'm so so sorry that all this had happened to you, that your kindness was taken advantage of and got hurt so badly. I hope you're recovering from this trauma well and do take care. Much love and sending hugs to you and to anyone who has been a victim of the same situation as well. Stay strong guys!
Thanks for the courage to share your story. It would inspire other male victims of sexual violence to talk abt theirs n hopefully get help. :) I’m a female victim of prolonged sexual violence too n while it is not the same, u inspire me to tell my story too to help other victims.
That is called sexual grooming and manipulation. The manipulator will cut off all social contact of his victim so that he will not be exposed and the victim doesn't know how to seek help and escape from his clutch. Poor guy.
You’re extremely brave and thank you for sharing your story. And to show your face in a very public video takes many folds more. It is so important to share cases and stories like this to raise awareness and empathy towards victims of sexual and emotional assault, you’re doing something really important.
Sam if you are reading this ,thanks for sharing. I sure your sharing will encourage a lot of youth out there. Stay strong & keep singing. You got a nice voice. Take care & God Bless.
The part where he said that the relationship was brotherly/ teacher-student relationship really tugged at my heartstring.. That was the case with me and what truly hurt me was he tried to blame me for all that happened. The way he trapped me knowing I had full belief in him as the only person who is willing to listen and empathise with me is truly sinister. I lived with hatred for myself and feeling invaluable. I blamed myself for a long time. I am grateful that I am freed from my pain now.
You are not alone Sam, Thank you for sharing your story, you just made thousands of people believe it's not their fault & feel confident enough to talk about their own story and experience.❤️
Evil lurks and prowls and many fell prey. Few dare to come forward. Your sharing is no easy endeavour. Your boldness is contagious. It brings hope and a way out for the many who are still in hiding, tormenting themselves, reliving the agony, anguish, deception, abuse, manipulation, humiliation. Few made it out. You did very well and you also save others when you reported on the perpetrator. Your late grandma would be very proud of you. Not only have you come out of a death sentence but saved others from the same fate. This wickedness that almost killed and dehumanized you has lost. Now you rise and live again. May you always remember it was never your fault, may the past not be allowed to limit your dreams. Should challenges overwhelmed, reach out and grow stronger. Thank you Sam. 🥇Wishing you a good life before you.
I want to be friends with him. I want to tell him that everything will be okay. I want to advice him is 1. Don't make too much friends around you 2. Make friends wisely Not everyone is the same like you want to share the story or problems with others.
Beautiful man, I can tell there are times he is hesitating to continue talking, I can tell through his voice and eyes the pain he is having. Hope he continue to remain strong and live a good and meaningful life ahead. My boyfriend was molested by an older woman at work, he came over to tell me and my heart broke into a million pieces even tho he told me he is okay. He didn't report it and even tho I encouraged him to do so, I also respect his choice to let it go, it was not up to me to make the choice. He's gonna quit soon but yeh, victims tend to let it slide, esp men who dun wanna blow things out of proportion. If it happens and ur uncomfortable, screw whoever shames you for what 'not being a man' or ''dramatic' there are moments u gotta protect urself
Sam, you are one of the most courageous & bravest men I have now known and that you have a rare quality - an empath. Thank you very much for sharing your story though it must have been challenging to take this step. I can only understand & feel some of the grief & pain of what you went through but overall, it is a horrible experience and is not something anyone, especially children/teenagers, should ever experience. Thank you for speaking out and to show that abuse is not just physical but also mental, and that not only women suffer the abuse, men also do suffer from it. I wish your healing continue from this, and I want to let you know you have my support in this journey (sending hugs)!
You've been very strong to endure everything all this time. And you're just very brave to speak it up and let people hear your story, Sam. You're a survivor. 💜💜
Thank you for sharing your story to us,and I really appreciate the honesty and courage.I really hope you can find healing from this and know that you're not alone in this. sending virtual hugs to anyone who is going through the same situation as him!I am thankful you are still alive today :)
Thank you Sam for sharing. It is very courageous of you to share this and it definitely going to help the victims to call for help and not to keep in silence. I’m happy that you have start afresh and nothing is too late! All the best to you! Take care
stumbled upon this video and cant even get through a quarter without tearing up. I hope Sam is doing what makes him happy and is secured from this disgusting part of life and earth. love for you Sam 💛
Thanks for sharing your story, Sam. I'm still disappointed with the penalties for sex offenders in Singapore. It's a traumatic experience one has to go through for his/her entire life. What can you gain from fining them? A few strokes of canning does not help either? Up to 20 years, drop that bullshit! A second chance should NOT be given to such mfkers. How about life imprisonment in a single tiny cell with chains over their limbs and neck? That sound like a much better way for them to learn from their mistakes, except that there's no chance for them to prove themselves. (sucks to be you) If you have sexually assaulted someone and you are reading this, good luck.
Thanks for sharing your story Sam. It was v brave of you. Hold your head high as it was not your fault or something to be ashamed. You have reclaimed your life and power by sharing this.
I am so so so sorry that this happened to you.. Thank you for being this strong, this courageous & this amazing for having survived through all that & now sharing your story. I pray that one day, you’ll be able to live a little more carefree & happily, without worrying & looking over your shoulders constantly.
Hi Sam, you are really brave for speaking up and sharing this part of your life. Don't be embarrassed, you have empowered many young lives here. Stay strong and live your life without regrets.
It's because of the social stigma that Sam mentioned in the video regarding men and society that enables sexual predators like the guy mentioned to target vulnerable and impressionable boys like Sam. This is because they know that majority of people would laugh at him for being 'weak' or just tell him to brush it off like some common occurrence. We need a change in the way we see ALL sexual victims, whatever their gender, so that sexual predators will not thrive by targeting young boys.
Stay strong Sam. You are very brave because you did not let fear get the best of you. And you did good by building trust in people again. Well done. Keep moving forward. Very inspiring, thanks.👍
I am so sorry for what you had to go through. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. It’s 2022. Even men can actually get sexually assaulted because if people are normalising the stereotype saying that men should be like strong or being able to defend themselves that’s just toxic masculinity really. I don’t believe that it’s right either for people to dismiss that even men can face sexual assault as well and they can also be victims of that situation too so don’t give up! You are strong and your emotions are 100% valid 💯
You and I share very similar life. You are a real man because you are able to do this. You should be proud. I only wish I had someone to tell my story to. I am not as brave as you. I wish you the best in life!
I just want to give u a big hug, its okay now, u are very brave and inspiring, i hope life goes well for u now and its gonna be much better in the future~ Take care!
Sorry to hear your encounter and hope you are getting better now. Thanks for sharing but do be careful since your face has been exposed. As some predators out there will still try, so got to learn to follow our heart and say a Big No! whoever is trying. You shouldn't be ashamed, it should be that predator and hope he gets his deserved punishment trying on a 16 yr old boy.
I've been sexually assaulted 3 times. First time was at 14 while in the bathroom at school by 2 other students. And when I reported it to the school, I essentially got told boys will be boys and asked why I didn't fight them off. Then at 20, I got drugged and raped by a friend while we were drinking. A few minutes after 1 sip, I was on my back struggling to stay awake watching him pace back and forth repeating, "I'm not going to take advantage of you" until he changed his mind,, and started undressing me while I tried saying no or just trying to move, but I was paralyzed. That one really screwed me up. Someone I trusted took advantage of me and could've killed me, knowing full well that 6 years prior, 2 fellow students violated me in a bathroom. The third time I was 23, and I got held hostage and raped in provo, utah at what I thought was going to be a party. I really went crazy after that. I was in and out of psychewards over suicide attempts, was getting blackout drunk all the time, and would blow up over the simplist things. It took me a long time to get to the point I'm at now of just learning to live with it. But I've found an outlet for rage and anger by lifting weights... and weed.
Being kindhearted is admirable but being too soft can be your downfall. I don't do 2nd chances and I've never changed my mind because of a partners tears or panicked promises, I'd rather let something potentially good go than risk staying with something bad.
I was in an abusive relationship before. Being a lgbt gay person, it was physically and mentally challenging when I go out with him. He’s a bad tempered person and his personality will change from good to bad. It was many years ago. Such toxic relationships aren’t good for the mind and soul.
You are so brave to share your story. My only concern is that the face and name of this protagonist is revealed. Would there be any consequences from it? Can the perpetrator file a legal lawsuit against people who speak out against them? Why was the face not hidden? I'm sincerely worried about the victim.
No the rap3ist wont because he would just tell the world he did rap3/sexual assault Sam. He could try to file a lawsuit but the court will dismiss it and have him arrested for technically admitting to his crimes
I know of some young girls who try to dump their manipulative older boyfriends and also suffer a lot. Homosexual or heterosexual relationships are alike.
I wish Sam nothing but the best in healing. A lot of assault and abuse survivors come forth to share their experiences only years after the experience because it was too traumatizing, and they dissociate from the events to cope with the pain. Add to that, society gaslights survivors of abuse to ask why they couldn't just leave. It's largely like the man or woman who freezes in front of an oncoming truck. As a race, we are still largely trapped in freeze responses despite the options of fight and flight being available too.
This is so painful to watch. My god, the individuals who do this are so sick, so evil. they steal and destroy innocence and youth. Dear young man, you are such a brave and beautiful soul. You say you often give second chances and more, and I see this is true, and it means you are a beautiful soul, kind, compassionate. May God bless you abundantly your entire life. May you know true love and peace. We care for you and wish you well. Be brave, it will be OK. Hugs.
I had an experience many years ago. Rented a room to someone I knew from Manjam. Very nice person until one night he put his hands in my pants when I slept in the living room. I stopped him few times but he didn't care. Until the door knob clicked from inside my room, dad came out. He threatened me to not report to police or else he would do nasty things to my cousins who lived with me. He moved out next day and didn't even pay me rent.
It happed to me as well, I dated a dude for a few weeks , he graped me , I said NO 50 times , I was shocked and didn’t know what to do, afterwards I know this was wrong but didn’t really understood till a few years later, I’m afraid of men since then and always worry that it will happen again, I saw a therapist & It didn’t help , I live in my bubble and isolated and I don’t trust anyone, I hope someday I move on and live freely
My parents never taught me anything about sex. Here's wishing the next generation is well educated on sex and able to behave and protect themselves accordingly. MOE schools should really include sex education as one of the subject.
When I was secondary school that's is the 90s , there was one chapter of sexual reproduction , that was our sex Ed , but our teacher kinda added in a lot of real life advise for us
I'm a molest victim myself. In 2007, a teammate touched my chest without consent in my poly changing room. I froze there stunned by his actions. Like you, I felt a lot of things. Angry, confused and even violated. I only told one classmate about it but we both also don't know what else to do. I had school to think about and doubt any adults would believe me. I was also too considerate to think that he also needed to complete poly. So i 'air dropped' the memory of it (aka mental block) such that I didn't remember the incident at all. Until 14 yrs later in late 2021. When i recalled it, i realised it was so messed up. This was on top of the various trauma i faced in 2006 - 2007 too. I've chosen not to pursue the case and hope to spread awareness of male SA victims.
Hi Sam....Stay Strong...ok..You know your GRANDMA is VERY CLOSE n Know you better.. Pray for her...(As an Ex-S'porean...i Also face the Same...issue...but i DID NOT ENTERTAINED ANY OF IT..)..Active..Extreme Sport.. Like TRIATHALON..n MOUNTAINCLIMBING...is my PASSION...YOU KNOW WHAT I BIKE AROUND S'PORE at LEAST ONCE a WEEK....Back in 80's bro...(Get POSITIVE VIBES..n ALWAYS..ALWAYS...ALWAYS DO YOUR 5X PRAYERS Bro..💪)..
My heart goes to you. You are a brave man and I know you can get it through you. Throw all past away and be that man that you are suppose to be. You are handsome and you are strong and I am sure you can find a good lady who would be a good wife to you. Have faith and remember Allah is but with you.
God bless Sam’s grandmother for being there for him always, and God bless Sam for having the courage and willpower to persevere till now. I do hope that, if possible, maybe we can hear about what sort of experiences the perpetrator had while growing up. People who to do these sort of things tend to have experienced similar problems when they were young and never found closure. No doubt the perpetrator must still be held accountable for his wrongdoings, but it certainly helps in stopping sexual assault cases to investigate the cycle of the “hunted” becoming the “hunter”.
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The sad part about it is that he is trying to smile the pain away. His body language is also really showing how anxious he is and how sad it is to talk about this.
You’re really brave and authentic. There’s nothing to feel embarrassed about. I hope the perpetrator gets his punishment and praying for you to receive healing and new beginnings.
i just want to give him a hug. it will be okay.
Your grandmother would be so proud of how far you’ve come 💕
"because of how society portrays men." this phrase really angers me as we all know how judgmental the asian, more specifically the singaporean society is. no one should be forced to behave according to certain stereotype, it's unhealthy and sickening... so glad you made it through those tough times and i hope the future will be brighter for you
U r right
Our society is toxic
Making people believe masculinity is strong
My cousin brother was raped but my uncle did not do anything because he thought it was a shame
And instead beat his wife,enduring anger upon her"
It's not easy to come forward and share your story with everyone (practically strangers). Thank you for being so strong and brave. I sincerely hope you heal over time. This is also a reminder that everyone is a human being with emotions and feelings regardless of your gender.
Thank you for your courage in sharing your story, you didn’t deserve what happened to you. I truly hope that you're able to find a path to healing because you're worthy of love!
As a victim of such myself, I honestly nearly cried hearing about your story and all the struggles you've been through for the past 6 years. I understand how much pain and trauma this kind of incident would bring to you and I wish that you never had to go through such. I'm so proud that you were able to come out and share about what happened to you. I'm so so sorry that all this had happened to you, that your kindness was taken advantage of and got hurt so badly. I hope you're recovering from this trauma well and do take care. Much love and sending hugs to you and to anyone who has been a victim of the same situation as well. Stay strong guys!
Thanks for the courage to share your story. It would inspire other male victims of sexual violence to talk abt theirs n hopefully get help. :) I’m a female victim of prolonged sexual violence too n while it is not the same, u inspire me to tell my story too to help other victims.
That is called sexual grooming and manipulation. The manipulator will cut off all social contact of his victim so that he will not be exposed and the victim doesn't know how to seek help and escape from his clutch. Poor guy.
You’re extremely brave and thank you for sharing your story. And to show your face in a very public video takes many folds more. It is so important to share cases and stories like this to raise awareness and empathy towards victims of sexual and emotional assault, you’re doing something really important.
Sam if you are reading this ,thanks for sharing. I sure your sharing will encourage a lot of youth out there. Stay strong & keep singing. You got a nice voice. Take care & God Bless.
The part where he said that the relationship was brotherly/ teacher-student relationship really tugged at my heartstring.. That was the case with me and what truly hurt me was he tried to blame me for all that happened. The way he trapped me knowing I had full belief in him as the only person who is willing to listen and empathise with me is truly sinister. I lived with hatred for myself and feeling invaluable. I blamed myself for a long time. I am grateful that I am freed from my pain now.
Rooting for you !!! 加油！
this guy is very courageous. respect
This guy deserves my respect! Not everyone can be as brave as you to share the story!
You are not alone Sam, Thank you for sharing your story, you just made thousands of people believe it's not their fault & feel confident enough to talk about their own story and experience.❤️
As an abuse survivor, there is so much shame about all of this. So much shame.
I want to be friends with him, and tell him that it will be okay
Evil lurks and prowls and many fell prey. Few dare to come forward. Your sharing is no easy endeavour. Your boldness is contagious. It brings hope and a way out for the many who are still in hiding, tormenting themselves, reliving the agony, anguish, deception, abuse, manipulation, humiliation. Few made it out. You did very well and you also save others when you reported on the perpetrator. Your late grandma would be very proud of you. Not only have you come out of a death sentence but saved others from the same fate. This wickedness that almost killed and dehumanized you has lost. Now you rise and live again. May you always remember it was never your fault, may the past not be allowed to limit your dreams. Should challenges overwhelmed, reach out and grow stronger. Thank you Sam. 🥇Wishing you a good life before you.
I want to be friends with him. I want to tell him that everything will be okay.
I want to advice him is
1. Don't make too much friends around you
2. Make friends wisely
Not everyone is the same like you want to share the story or problems with others.
Beautiful man, I can tell there are times he is hesitating to continue talking, I can tell through his voice and eyes the pain he is having. Hope he continue to remain strong and live a good and meaningful life ahead. My boyfriend was molested by an older woman at work, he came over to tell me and my heart broke into a million pieces even tho he told me he is okay. He didn't report it and even tho I encouraged him to do so, I also respect his choice to let it go, it was not up to me to make the choice. He's gonna quit soon but yeh, victims tend to let it slide, esp men who dun wanna blow things out of proportion. If it happens and ur uncomfortable, screw whoever shames you for what 'not being a man' or ''dramatic' there are moments u gotta protect urself
Sam, you are one of the most courageous & bravest men I have now known and that you have a rare quality - an empath.
Thank you very much for sharing your story though it must have been challenging to take this step. I can only understand & feel some of the grief & pain of what you went through but overall, it is a horrible experience and is not something anyone, especially children/teenagers, should ever experience.
Thank you for speaking out and to show that abuse is not just physical but also mental, and that not only women suffer the abuse, men also do suffer from it.
I wish your healing continue from this, and I want to let you know you have my support in this journey (sending hugs)!
You've been very strong to endure everything all this time. And you're just very brave to speak it up and let people hear your story, Sam.
You're a survivor. 💜💜
Thank you for sharing your story to us,and I really appreciate the honesty and courage.I really hope you can find healing from this and know that you're not alone in this. sending virtual hugs to anyone who is going through the same situation as him!I am thankful you are still alive today :)
Thank you Sam for sharing. It is very courageous of you to share this and it definitely going to help the victims to call for help and not to keep in silence. I’m happy that you have start afresh and nothing is too late! All the best to you! Take care
Thank you for being so brave - to endure the hardship and to share your story❤
We are all human and deserve to have feelings and emotions, female or male.
Thanks for sharing, Sam. We are all here for you.
I couldn't believe this is happened only to me (in my friend group) when I Asked them "did this ever happened to u?" they said "no".
stumbled upon this video and cant even get through a quarter without tearing up. I hope Sam is doing what makes him happy and is secured from this disgusting part of life and earth. love for you Sam 💛
Thanks for sharing your story, Sam.
I'm still disappointed with the penalties for sex offenders in Singapore.
It's a traumatic experience one has to go through for his/her entire life. What can you gain from fining them? A few strokes of canning does not help either? Up to 20 years, drop that bullshit!
A second chance should NOT be given to such mfkers. How about life imprisonment in a single tiny cell with chains over their limbs and neck? That sound like a much better way for them to learn from their mistakes, except that there's no chance for them to prove themselves. (sucks to be you)
If you have sexually assaulted someone and you are reading this, good luck.
Chill.
yup exactly what i think
Thanks for sharing your story Sam. It was v brave of you. Hold your head high as it was not your fault or something to be ashamed. You have reclaimed your life and power by sharing this.
I am so so so sorry that this happened to you.. Thank you for being this strong, this courageous & this amazing for having survived through all that & now sharing your story. I pray that one day, you’ll be able to live a little more carefree & happily, without worrying & looking over your shoulders constantly.
Thanks for sharing your story Sam. You’re one brave soul and hope the perpetrator gets the rightful punishment
Hi Sam, you are really brave for speaking up and sharing this part of your life. Don't be embarrassed, you have empowered many young lives here. Stay strong and live your life without regrets.
I admire you for your courage. May you be healed soon.
It's because of the social stigma that Sam mentioned in the video regarding men and society that enables sexual predators like the guy mentioned to target vulnerable and impressionable boys like Sam. This is because they know that majority of people would laugh at him for being 'weak' or just tell him to brush it off like some common occurrence. We need a change in the way we see ALL sexual victims, whatever their gender, so that sexual predators will not thrive by targeting young boys.
you will heal from this Sam. sending all the love to you 🤍
Yes, you are re-born! I wish Sam all the best in life from now onwards! You portrayed great courage and strength! 🌈🌈🌈🍀🍀🍀
Thank you for sharing what you been through. Look forward and be in charge of your own life.
Wishing you and your family all the best.
and people still say males cant be sexually assaulted. we truly live in a society
It takes lot of balls to do this,I hope you are able move on.The person who did this you should be severally punished...peace
Stay strong Sam. You are very brave because you did not let fear get the best of you. And you did good by building trust in people again. Well done. Keep moving forward. Very inspiring, thanks.👍
i wish i can feel comfortable enough to talk about it and speak my truth like this
I am so sorry for what happened to you. I can really hear and feel the pain from you. Things get better, and I hope you'll find friends again ♥️
I am so sorry for what you had to go through. You don’t deserve to be treated like that. There is nothing to be embarrassed about. It’s 2022. Even men can actually get sexually assaulted because if people are normalising the stereotype saying that men should be like strong or being able to defend themselves that’s just toxic masculinity really.
I don’t believe that it’s right either for people to dismiss that even men can face sexual assault as well and they can also be victims of that situation too so don’t give up!
You are strong and your emotions are 100% valid 💯
You and I share very similar life. You are a real man because you are able to do this. You should be proud. I only wish I had someone to tell my story to. I am not as brave as you. I wish you the best in life!
I just want to give u a big hug, its okay now, u are very brave and inspiring, i hope life goes well for u now and its gonna be much better in the future~ Take care!
Sorry to hear your encounter and hope you are getting better now. Thanks for sharing but do be careful since your face has been exposed. As some predators out there will still try, so got to learn to follow our heart and say a Big No! whoever is trying. You shouldn't be ashamed, it should be that predator and hope he gets his deserved punishment trying on a 16 yr old boy.
early and timely parental guidance and care for teenagers are essential.
I've been sexually assaulted 3 times. First time was at 14 while in the bathroom at school by 2 other students. And when I reported it to the school, I essentially got told boys will be boys and asked why I didn't fight them off. Then at 20, I got drugged and raped by a friend while we were drinking. A few minutes after 1 sip, I was on my back struggling to stay awake watching him pace back and forth repeating, "I'm not going to take advantage of you" until he changed his mind,, and started undressing me while I tried saying no or just trying to move, but I was paralyzed. That one really screwed me up. Someone I trusted took advantage of me and could've killed me, knowing full well that 6 years prior, 2 fellow students violated me in a bathroom. The third time I was 23, and I got held hostage and raped in provo, utah at what I thought was going to be a party. I really went crazy after that. I was in and out of psychewards over suicide attempts, was getting blackout drunk all the time, and would blow up over the simplist things. It took me a long time to get to the point I'm at now of just learning to live with it. But I've found an outlet for rage and anger by lifting weights... and weed.
I'm so sorry that happened to you I hope that you are doing okay today
Being kindhearted is admirable but being too soft can be your downfall. I don't do 2nd chances and I've never changed my mind because of a partners tears or panicked promises, I'd rather let something potentially good go than risk staying with something bad.
I was in an abusive relationship before. Being a lgbt gay person, it was physically and mentally challenging when I go out with him. He’s a bad tempered person and his personality will change from good to bad. It was many years ago. Such toxic relationships aren’t good for the mind and soul.
You are so brave to share your story. My only concern is that the face and name of this protagonist is revealed. Would there be any consequences from it? Can the perpetrator file a legal lawsuit against people who speak out against them?
Why was the face not hidden? I'm sincerely worried about the victim.
No the rap3ist wont because he would just tell the world he did rap3/sexual assault Sam. He could try to file a lawsuit but the court will dismiss it and have him arrested for technically admitting to his crimes
Sam’s story is extremely similar to mine. 3.5 years of sexual, emotional and physical abuse from my ex.
Erm.. sorry to hear bout that
It's really horrible situation.
You have nothing to be ashamed of.
Hugs 😭 Stay strong
I know of some young girls who try to dump their manipulative older boyfriends and also suffer a lot.
Homosexual or heterosexual relationships are alike.
Thanks for sharing. Feel sorry for you Sam but we are all here for you. Sending big hugs!!
I wish Sam nothing but the best in healing. A lot of assault and abuse survivors come forth to share their experiences only years after the experience because it was too traumatizing, and they dissociate from the events to cope with the pain. Add to that, society gaslights survivors of abuse to ask why they couldn't just leave. It's largely like the man or woman who freezes in front of an oncoming truck. As a race, we are still largely trapped in freeze responses despite the options of fight and flight being available too.
In young age we don't understand and knew how to tell, talk and describe until we knew and told to be
Sending so much love and prayers for strength to rebuild your spirit and Guidance ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Stay strong Sam! You are a strong young man and will emerge better!
Thank you for sharing! Stay Strong!
Good courage to confess , thumbs up buddy !
You are so brave 🥺
This is so painful to watch. My god, the individuals who do this are so sick, so evil. they steal and destroy innocence and youth. Dear young man, you are such a brave and beautiful soul. You say you often give second chances and more, and I see this is true, and it means you are a beautiful soul, kind, compassionate. May God bless you abundantly your entire life. May you know true love and peace. We care for you and wish you well. Be brave, it will be OK. Hugs.
I'm so sorry. Please know that IT WASN'T YOUR FAULT.
thank you for sharing your story sam ❤️
I wish you security, peace and love
Thanks for sharing your story Sam. Hugs...
Stay strong, guy. This is not your fault , but the selfish fault of the other person. Stay strong .
I actually also have a similar story when I was around 10yrs old. But no police report was made.
Got molested by a guy.
I had an experience many years ago. Rented a room to someone I knew from Manjam. Very nice person until one night he put his hands in my pants when I slept in the living room. I stopped him few times but he didn't care. Until the door knob clicked from inside my room, dad came out.
He threatened me to not report to police or else he would do nasty things to my cousins who lived with me. He moved out next day and didn't even pay me rent.
It happed to me as well, I dated a dude for a few weeks , he graped me , I said NO 50 times , I was shocked and didn’t know what to do, afterwards I know this was wrong but didn’t really understood till a few years later, I’m afraid of men since then and always worry that it will happen again, I saw a therapist & It didn’t help , I live in my bubble and isolated and I don’t trust anyone, I hope someday I move on and live freely
I just want to hug him...
I wanna give Sam a great big hug :(
Sam , you are really brave . Thank you for sharing your story and i am sorry .
My parents never taught me anything about sex. Here's wishing the next generation is well educated on sex and able to behave and protect themselves accordingly.
MOE schools should really include sex education as one of the subject.
When I was secondary school that's is the 90s , there was one chapter of sexual reproduction , that was our sex Ed , but our teacher kinda added in a lot of real life advise for us
Thanks for sharing. You’re brave and great. Sending hugs !
Respect to you for telling your story 👍
Bless you. Now, how does RUclips pick n choose which victims(or survivors) to silence?
Thanks for sharing sam ❤
You are so brave 👍🏻❤️
Take care Sam💓
Congratulations on your courage
Hugs for u. This is so sad.
I feel bad for him
Big hug
I hope that other guy gets caught and locked up in changi prison n 24x cane
I'm a molest victim myself. In 2007, a teammate touched my chest without consent in my poly changing room. I froze there stunned by his actions. Like you, I felt a lot of things. Angry, confused and even violated. I only told one classmate about it but we both also don't know what else to do. I had school to think about and doubt any adults would believe me. I was also too considerate to think that he also needed to complete poly. So i 'air dropped' the memory of it (aka mental block) such that I didn't remember the incident at all. Until 14 yrs later in late 2021. When i recalled it, i realised it was so messed up. This was on top of the various trauma i faced in 2006 - 2007 too. I've chosen not to pursue the case and hope to spread awareness of male SA victims.
Hi Sam....Stay Strong...ok..You know your GRANDMA is VERY CLOSE n Know you better.. Pray for her...(As an Ex-S'porean...i Also face the Same...issue...but i DID NOT ENTERTAINED ANY OF IT..)..Active..Extreme Sport.. Like TRIATHALON..n MOUNTAINCLIMBING...is my PASSION...YOU KNOW WHAT I BIKE AROUND S'PORE at LEAST ONCE a WEEK....Back in 80's bro...(Get POSITIVE VIBES..n ALWAYS..ALWAYS...ALWAYS DO YOUR 5X PRAYERS Bro..💪)..
My heart goes to you. You are a brave man and I know you can get it through you. Throw all past away and be that man that you are suppose to be. You are handsome and you are strong and I am sure you can find a good lady who would be a good wife to you. Have faith and remember Allah is but with you.
God bless Sam’s grandmother for being there for him always, and God bless Sam for having the courage and willpower to persevere till now.
I do hope that, if possible, maybe we can hear about what sort of experiences the perpetrator had while growing up. People who to do these sort of things tend to have experienced similar problems when they were young and never found closure. No doubt the perpetrator must still be held accountable for his wrongdoings, but it certainly helps in stopping sexual assault cases to investigate the cycle of the “hunted” becoming the “hunter”.
Sending love to you❤.
I was Sexual Assault 1 and half year ago 💔
so happy for u
So stress living in Singapore.
Stay strong 💪 and do not give up and God by your side and your family love ❤️ u.😊
Hope that bastard gets sue punishment
Good luck to you Sam,you are empath ,your will care by God.