Thanks for your support. There are many sectors of "mental health" that we hope to address in this project. The more common perception is that of the individual in distress (intrapsychic). But as with misogyny, mental illness also applies to social issues (interpersonal, psychosocial). Please share and let us know if there are topics you would like us to address through our contact form on the website.
@@janiceegolf8202 you are right about Diana. Bulimia shares characteristics with the analysis here (essentially about being controlled and so needing to gain control via food-feeding) but the behaviour (symptomatology) is different so would need an explanation for that.....
I was avoiding this video like the PLAGUE. I am 19 yr/o in my program in college (surg tech), stuck in a cult, a DL homosexual, I’m on antidepressants, and constantly worrying about money thanks to my parents. I dropped 6lbs in a week, I’m now 123 lbs. I woke up throwing up, it’s my menstrual and there’s BARELY any blood and it’s kind of black. It took me 20 mins to eat a piece of bread. I’m working on my anxiety and I think I’ll start going to the gym, to weight lift. I feel so frail and fatigued constantly, this has been going on and off for 2 years now and I’m sick of it. I will take more control of my life and my health. I’m sick of ppl expecting me to be perfect and me holding my self to deter mental standard whether academic or otherwise. Thank you sm for this vid doc and interviewer. You’ve helped me take my control back 💜
Ignore the need to be perfect. You have to question whose perfect? Yours , mine, the teachers, our partners, the world's? ...which perfect are we trying to meet. The need to be so thin that we become walking coat hangers is good for clothing manufacturers and insecure men or partners that need to feel soo strong because they can crush us in an embrace. This is absurd. Perfection is an illusion..it doesn't exist. Just think, what type of body would you wish to embrace. What I think is key here is getting comfortable in our own skin. There are many body types and each of us is genetically predisposed....women have more fat cells then men(we make babies). Men lose weight quicker.They have faster metabolisms. I used to teach dance and needed to look like a professional ballet dancer.Or so I thought..until my students told me to eat more. Follow your own individual body type. Listen to what your body dictates.Don't risk you health to fill someone elses idea of perfection.
This man is spot on. I understood everything Previn said about anorexia. I was anorexic in my early twenties when I was in a bad marriage and in another country.
I suffered anorexia, and my parents denied me psychological treatment. In my house there was a constant bullying of women, of female bodies. There was astronomical pressure for performing perfectly (excelent grades at school, appearance) but no rewards, congratulations or support. We were objects to my parents who hated us and used us as social trophies. I am diagnosed at 42 years old with CPTSD, major depression disorder and on the autistic spectrum.
thank you so much for sharing. I'm sorry to hear about the very intense trauma of control in your childhood, but hope you can compassionately give yourself time to recover from it all - hopefully with the help of one of the talking therapies? Good luck.
Anorexia is an extreme form of OCD. Anxiety is the trigger and food control is the compulsion. Usually happens to perfectionists who can not meet their own or their parents expectations. Its a form of self harm, punishment for not being good enough. This is my biggest fear for my two daughters.
@@wingnut71 thanks for sharing that. Have you come across Attachment Theory? The modelling is about attunement to infants that goes on into young and adult life/development? You may find their four models a way of navigating where you are with your daughters and moderating your way of being with them? Karl Heinz-Brisch has also documented some work on reparative bonding which can also be applied in youth and young adult development....
@@inthesetimesspeakingforthemind I've heard of it. Been trying to improve bond with both daughters since divorce. Hug them and tell them I love them, though the younger one has some level of autism and can be a real pain at times. My folks were good parents in many ways but never would hug or show affection. I hope to do better than that, even though their mum and I are not together anymore.
@@wingnut71 sorry to hear that. I hope you can internally adjust to what sounds like an agonising time for you and your daughters. Another shorter and more 'popular' read would be Sue Gerhardt's 'Why Love Matters' - again, focussed on infants but applicable to young children, adolescents and young adult life. I also hope you get the personal support you need at this time. Take care.
Great topic and not unrelated to the subject of misogyny.
I really hope this channel takes off. Thank you.
Thanks for your support. There are many sectors of "mental health" that we hope to address in this project. The more common perception is that of the individual in distress (intrapsychic). But as with misogyny, mental illness also applies to social issues (interpersonal, psychosocial). Please share and let us know if there are topics you would like us to address through our contact form on the website.
I believe Diana had bulimia. Is this discussion applicable to both anorexia and bulimia?
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@@janiceegolf8202 you are right about Diana. Bulimia shares characteristics with the analysis here (essentially about being controlled and so needing to gain control via food-feeding) but the behaviour (symptomatology) is different so would need an explanation for that.....
I was avoiding this video like the PLAGUE. I am 19 yr/o in my program in college (surg tech), stuck in a cult, a DL homosexual, I’m on antidepressants, and constantly worrying about money thanks to my parents. I dropped 6lbs in a week, I’m now 123 lbs. I woke up throwing up, it’s my menstrual and there’s BARELY any blood and it’s kind of black. It took me 20 mins to eat a piece of bread. I’m working on my anxiety and I think I’ll start going to the gym, to weight lift. I feel so frail and fatigued constantly, this has been going on and off for 2 years now and I’m sick of it. I will take more control of my life and my health. I’m sick of ppl expecting me to be perfect and me holding my self to deter mental standard whether academic or otherwise. Thank you sm for this vid doc and interviewer. You’ve helped me take my control back 💜
Ignore the need to be perfect. You have to question whose perfect? Yours , mine, the teachers, our partners, the world's? ...which perfect are we trying to meet. The need to be so thin that we become walking coat hangers is good for clothing manufacturers and insecure men or partners that need to feel soo strong because they can crush us in an embrace. This is absurd. Perfection is an illusion..it doesn't exist. Just think, what type of body would you wish to embrace. What I think is key here is getting comfortable in our own skin. There are many body types and each of us is genetically predisposed....women have more fat cells then men(we make babies). Men lose weight quicker.They have faster metabolisms. I used to teach dance and needed to look like a professional ballet dancer.Or so I thought..until my students told me to eat more. Follow your own individual body type. Listen to what your body dictates.Don't risk you health to fill someone elses idea of perfection.
This man is spot on. I understood everything Previn said about anorexia.
I was anorexic in my early twenties when I was in a bad marriage and in another country.
I suffered anorexia, and my parents denied me psychological treatment. In my house there was a constant bullying of women, of female bodies. There was astronomical pressure for performing perfectly (excelent grades at school, appearance) but no rewards, congratulations or support. We were objects to my parents who hated us and used us as social trophies. I am diagnosed at 42 years old with CPTSD, major depression disorder and on the autistic spectrum.
thank you so much for sharing. I'm sorry to hear about the very intense trauma of control in your childhood, but hope you can compassionately give yourself time to recover from it all - hopefully with the help of one of the talking therapies? Good luck.
Anorexia is an extreme form of OCD. Anxiety is the trigger and food control is the compulsion. Usually happens to perfectionists who can not meet their own or their parents expectations. Its a form of self harm, punishment for not being good enough. This is my biggest fear for my two daughters.
@@wingnut71 thanks for sharing that. Have you come across Attachment Theory? The modelling is about attunement to infants that goes on into young and adult life/development? You may find their four models a way of navigating where you are with your daughters and moderating your way of being with them? Karl Heinz-Brisch has also documented some work on reparative bonding which can also be applied in youth and young adult development....
@@inthesetimesspeakingforthemind I've heard of it. Been trying to improve bond with both daughters since divorce. Hug them and tell them I love them, though the younger one has some level of autism and can be a real pain at times. My folks were good parents in many ways but never would hug or show affection. I hope to do better than that, even though their mum and I are not together anymore.
@@wingnut71 sorry to hear that. I hope you can internally adjust to what sounds like an agonising time for you and your daughters. Another shorter and more 'popular' read would be Sue Gerhardt's 'Why Love Matters' - again, focussed on infants but applicable to young children, adolescents and young adult life.
I also hope you get the personal support you need at this time. Take care.
Some young boys develop anorexia, too.