INFJ Relationships and Friendships

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  • Опубликовано: 10 дек 2024

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  • @lahoma6464
    @lahoma6464 4 года назад +13

    "How not to feel guilty for existing..." YES

  • @pong5466
    @pong5466 4 года назад +18

    As an INFJ, I know I am easy to take advantage of. Sometime I knew I was being taken advantage of. I still let them do it away. I am glad I have a lot to give even though I know it will never get anything in return. I realize there are so many people in the world who can't even get their heads above water. They don't have much to give back to you anyway. I am ok with it within boundary.

  • @sonjawalkerreactionscommen3501
    @sonjawalkerreactionscommen3501 2 года назад +2

    I have a lot of INFJ traits, and do not like to make my friendships one-sided. I even empathize with that as well, having been there thanks to a narc friend I'd had for 12 years! I'm not slamming the door on her so much as just trying to hold the door closed and hope that eventually she will stop trying to push her way through, and then I can lock it behind me. I feel like I have an extra feeling of empathy where I don't like to shut people out if I sense something within them that screams for me. I have learned so much in my short life and try to make the most of life whenever possible, so whenever offered, I go to the family gatherings even if I may potentially become drained afterward. I love being introverted but at the same time love social interaction. Being rejected is the worst feeling so I don't like to turn anyone away.

  • @violetfionaduncan1481
    @violetfionaduncan1481 4 года назад +19

    One of my friends said to me once "You don't have to apologize for everything." The first response that came to my mind was "Sorry."

  • @michellem775
    @michellem775 4 года назад +35

    Treat your INFJ like a cat. lol luv it!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +5

      Just give them more than cat chow!

    • @anthill1510
      @anthill1510 4 года назад +6

      My best friend often says I am a cat. I feel so understood when she says that :)

  • @robinhenderson5202
    @robinhenderson5202 3 года назад +4

    "Don't shut your gift away. The world needs more of you." Thanks, David! I will try to give to those who will receive.

  • @lizevans6300
    @lizevans6300 4 года назад +18

    My almost 18yo son and 15 yo daughter are both INTJ’s. When I need brutal honesty, they’re the ones I ask! 😂

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +4

      Absolutely! I love INTJs in my life for that exact reason!

  • @babyizza
    @babyizza 4 года назад +64

    “You need interaction, you need other people and you need to feel” i don’t know why that hit me so hard but it did! I guess if you have a hard time just being who you are you don’t know how to interact or how to feel! You just isolate and think I don’t need anyone cause if I don’t understand me how can other people? I don’t know if this is an INFJ thing but I have some trigger words that always get me emotional like the word “alone”! Right now I’m going through a very hard time. Your video’s are a great help it makes me feel like I can just be me for a second without all the struggles going on inside my oh so alien mind! Thank you David 🙏🏼

    • @simovtransportmedia1137
      @simovtransportmedia1137 4 года назад +3

      Go around people not necessary so intence interraction with them is a perfect way for me to get out from the trap of my own thoughts. Actually if I have hard time I want to interract with someone, to view a different perspective and most times it mekes me relief. Just go out, do some walk, hide in the croud, meet a good friend, tell some jokes with him.
      I so much love this: ruclips.net/video/pU_abyFsglE/видео.html

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +5

      Sorry to hear you're going through some tough times, my sweet friend. I'm happy something I said can give you a break from that overthinking alien mind! I appreciate you!

    • @babyizza
      @babyizza 4 года назад +4

      Dan Mercer i’m sorry to hear about your struggles Dan! :( its not nice to feel this way i have fibromyalgia so i know the feeling of having a lot of physical pain too! Yeah learning about the INFJ thing really is opening up a lot of things for me. I’m still trying to understand who i am and right now i feel very lost but also safe in some way its a weird fase im going through right now! I wish you all the best and always feel free to share on here!

    • @skyhaven4131
      @skyhaven4131 4 года назад

      💚💚💚

    • @EvieW4321
      @EvieW4321 3 года назад +2

      David, Babyizza, and Dan, I am so so grateful for you all, openly sharing the most personal parts of yourselves with such clear honesty is truly inspiring and gives me strength, serenity, and hope. So thankful

  • @robinhenderson5202
    @robinhenderson5202 3 года назад +1

    Amen, Jaclynn and yes, David, I did raise my hand!✋🤝 Amen, R.M.!👏

  • @Lisa-ei5ic
    @Lisa-ei5ic 4 года назад +47

    Dont door slam everyone? Is that possible??😭🥺😂
    Cant wait for these videos to come out next week!!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +4

      HAha not EVERYONE! Jeez! ;)

    • @taru_3247
      @taru_3247 4 года назад +6

      I know right??? Like door slam is my bread and butter in life XD

    • @michellewei7349
      @michellewei7349 4 года назад

      @@DavidBadurina I door slammed everyone but my brother as I got older.. mostly growing up. My brother recently died. Only 50 years old. No one understands how close he was to me. Now I feel I have no family. Even though I have to see my father and sister at times... it's painful.

    • @marcushennings9513
      @marcushennings9513 4 года назад

      Lmao that expression and comment jus reminded me of a foot fight I had with my daughter's mom. She was pushing her foot in the door and I was pushing her foot out with mine so I could slam the door on her.

  • @UFOS4
    @UFOS4 4 года назад +2

    My friends are true treasures. Yes, I'm a cat. My friends understand. They also have sensitivities that aren't quite INFJ, but are still sensitives. You are doing good stuff here.

  • @yodab.at1746
    @yodab.at1746 4 года назад +2

    I fantasise about a time in the future where I liberate myself and scream 'I'm not fucking sorry, OK?', walking away probably muttering 'I'm sorry, I'm sorry'....

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Oh yeah I'd totally apologize afterward haha.

  • @lazyjapanese
    @lazyjapanese 4 года назад +2

    What your INTJ friend describes is so true! We suddenly change gears to something totally goofy and then back to serious haha - busy and playful mind.

  • @helene8854
    @helene8854 4 года назад +7

    I (an INFJ) also had an INTJ friend once (she moved away, sadly) but that description of the friendship INFJ/INTJ really hit the nail on the head

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Thanks Helene! Love my INTJ circle for that very reason!

  • @karenw5288
    @karenw5288 3 года назад +1

    I am a ISFJ and have a INFJ friend. I have recently discovered my personality type and searched RUclips for help understanding my INFJ friend. My friend is allowing me to stay with her until my new home is ready. I want to be respectful of her boundaries. Thank you for sharing

  • @deon5329
    @deon5329 4 года назад +16

    I did a similar excercise with two of my closest friends (ISTJ and INFP). Was described as empathic, nuanced, perceptive, and a good listener among other things. Learned from both of them to hold stronger emotional boundaries with people.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +2

      That's fantastic! And that's a great way to learn about yourself and what you can do to improve. Bravo!

    • @nmefdappl
      @nmefdappl 4 года назад +1

      Emotional boundaries - like not letting people talk over you?

    • @deon5329
      @deon5329 4 года назад +3

      @@nmefdappl like not taking other peoples problems on as my own. Sometimes that looks like cutting conversations shorter with people that only want to contact me to share their problems. One sided relationships basically.

    • @nmefdappl
      @nmefdappl 4 года назад +1

      @@deon5329 ah, yes, been there, done that. Took too long, but it is done. Thanks Deon!

  • @sari012007
    @sari012007 4 года назад +27

    I agree with you regarding INFJ personality as a gift, but sometimes I feel like other people don't want what I have to give. I suspect they're intimidated by my spontaneous switch from small talk to deep topics. I usually get answers like "I don't know, I've never thought about this", this is then followed by awkward silence and they never talk to me again - oops, I'm sorry (of course I am sorry). Thankfully we have the internet now and we can avoid most awkward parts of physical interaction! 👽
    Thanks for yet again another great video that soothes my heart, we appreciate you!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +4

      Hey Steffy! Certainly, you can't fix someone that doesn't want to be fixed, and that's when it's important to know when to step back, regroup, and move on.
      You're welcome! Sorry! 🤪

    • @kalinadesseaux8011
      @kalinadesseaux8011 4 года назад +6

      Steffy, fellow sweet infj, I just want you to know I felt that; hard. I've been noticing that pattern in my own life now; I want to help people, be close,- I always feel like 'you have a gift, you could be a great friend'- but it all too often seems like they just don't want what I have to give. It's such a grief ; knowing you could help and being denied. Causes so much discord, between you and your friends, and leaves the lingering sense of: well. Then? What do I do with my life? Move on; ok yeah- To what-? To the next person? And find yet again they don't want _this_? INFJ; I can't help but see the pattern. It's really weird, awkward, unnerving: being an infj we've gotten used to being the world's 'comfort blanket' ; it's a shock to be tossed aside.

    • @sari012007
      @sari012007 4 года назад +3

      @@kalinadesseaux8011 Thank you for this! It's always comforting to hear another INFJ has been where I am haha. I hope we both come across people who accept us and want us the way we are! 👽

    • @kalinadesseaux8011
      @kalinadesseaux8011 4 года назад +3

      @@sari012007 thanks, for you too; I'll pray for that. I'll be joining David's Discord when he gets it up and running 😉

    • @JonasAnandaKristiansson
      @JonasAnandaKristiansson 4 года назад +1

      yeeees!

  • @catherinebranson1469
    @catherinebranson1469 4 года назад +1

    In the past, I have been accused of not taking criticism well. I have been told not to take things so personal. I feel everything, this is my nature. To not cause a problem with criticism, I have learned to agree peacefully but think internally with certain people. When my actions are corrected, even though they were to help I have taken this personal. I understand myself better with age. I am in my fourties. I have attracted toxic people, which I am very tired of. I am at the point in my life where I am more accepting of myself being an INFJ and would like to find a healthy relationship with someone that understands me. Wish me luck!

  • @robinhenderson5202
    @robinhenderson5202 3 года назад +1

    One more thing and I'll shut up for a little.😊 Thank you, David, for brightening my day while I'm going through a rough patch. I want you to know that you are needed, and I appreciate you!💐

  • @dailywisdomwordsshirleysat4005
    @dailywisdomwordsshirleysat4005 4 года назад +1

    I am an INFJ and my husband is an INFJ; we both have our own rooms, and we get along famously when we are together at various times of the day. But we have a tendency to absorb one another’s depressed mood on our respective bad days. When he is sad, I am sad and him likewise. I feel a lot like I am married to myself and feelings can get quite complicated between the pair of us. However, he and I are quite goofy together at most times,that is when we are together as the spirit moves us to be together.😂

  • @jade-sw3zp
    @jade-sw3zp 4 года назад +5

    I loved the descriptions! I feel like I'm that INFJ that avoids social interactions, but mostly because I so easily feel rejected and blame it on myself. I feel like I'm too boring for people. I wish I could meet other INFJs.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +2

      Jade, I can say with certainty that you are seeing yourself in a way that others don't see you. I get it, because I've totally been there. Let yourself out a little bit and forgive that internal feeling that you might be boring. I'm sure you shine! :-)

    • @jade-sw3zp
      @jade-sw3zp 4 года назад +1

      @@DavidBadurina that's so nice, thank you! :-)

  • @diederickkruse3821
    @diederickkruse3821 3 года назад +1

    That 15 year old comment you gave quite got me. Could only think: "And you're in your 40s. This is the way you talk." Nice

  • @veronicachristopher9321
    @veronicachristopher9321 4 года назад +2

    I asked a chick "what gives you goosebumps?" She looked at me like I was the weird one. If all you want to talk about is the weather, I'm not the gal for you. #INFJ

  • @FahadAyoub
    @FahadAyoub 3 года назад +2

    Starting my day with your video... Was the best decision I ever made 😊 thank you

  • @c.wander555
    @c.wander555 4 года назад +21

    -As soon as you said "Sorry is our favorite word" I pictured Mei from Overwatch Saying "Sorry, sorry , sorry, I'm sorry". Maybe she's an INFJ aswell? O:
    -What is the typical thing for people to notice about an INFJ? That we're weird but warm at the same time?
    - I raised my hand at home :D
    -Every time you say "You, my sweet sweet INFJ friend" I get this chilling sensation that's like... The most comforting and understanding thing ever.
    -Regarding knowing what type are the people that are close to you (As we'd say in Spanish... It'd be something like a "One way ticket")... It's a lot to process but so fulfilling to do!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +2

      Haha I don't do Overwatch (I'm a gamer, just not into that particular genre) - but that IS funny! Hmm. Typing video game characters! That's an interesting thought exercise, thank you for that rabbit hole! :-)
      So glad I can say something that brings you comfort!
      😊🙋‍♂️👽

    • @christinemccoy4471
      @christinemccoy4471 4 года назад +1

      C Wander
      I. Found the one thing I no longer do!

  • @erikam7044
    @erikam7044 4 года назад +19

    Awesome talk David. Really wish I could meet real INFJ people where I stay and work however don’t going to hold my breath. We’re always at home or get there as fast as possible 🙃

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +4

      Absolutely Erika! I'm always happy to get home! :-)

    • @erikam7044
      @erikam7044 4 года назад +1

      David Badurina dear David thank you for introducing your awesome friend Jaclynn. I love her channel and the manner in which she talks to her audience through her plants. She’s just amazing

    • @sonjawalkerreactionscommen3501
      @sonjawalkerreactionscommen3501 2 года назад +1

      I feel so bad for you, was the first thought that came to me while reading your comment. Not sure where I fall in terms of types but sware I have plenty of INFJ traits.

  • @CaseyBrinleeMusic
    @CaseyBrinleeMusic 4 года назад +22

    I cannot wait for the 5 video series. I will definitely need it.

  • @phattiemelt
    @phattiemelt 4 года назад

    YES! Gratitude is my biggest tool in combatting all the negatives that come along with INFJing... Also, a previous partner told me I don't have to be sorry for everything. I respect him tremendously and I took that to my core. It was life-changing. So simple but shaking regardless.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Absolutely right! You definitely do not have to be sorry for everything! It can be difficult sometimes (compassion and all) but so, so true!

  • @miriamendres7415
    @miriamendres7415 4 года назад +2

    David, loved the cat comment. On criticism, I own what I done wrong and try to see the reason behind why the person is saying it. I use to be able to handle talking in a large group--out of practice at the moment, one to one okay, a small group firing different comments way too disorganised. Love structure/rules. Been taken advantage of--yes. Glad that I am with who I am with--we are both home bodies. Enjoy that we may not have the same days off. Have let go of some of the control--he is allowed to cook on his days off. Moments of closing my eyes and letting what you say sink in. Thank you, David. From Australia

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Hi Miriam! Glad you liked it! Thank you so much! All the gratitude back to Australia!

  • @GunGryphon
    @GunGryphon 4 года назад +12

    The scolding reaffirms one of the guilts I've always had. Whenever I'm feeling really down or uncertain, I usually call a few close people to talk about it, exposing those poor souls to my repetitive plights. I fear, and sometimes sense that I'm causing them to get tired of my baggage, even if some won't admit it. I just don't know how to assist them nearly as much as I receive.
    Edit: I, just took the quizzes, I got Owl and Fluttershy.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +5

      Owl and Fluttershy! That's a good combo. :-)
      Nothing wrong with reaching out and getting your thoughts out if you're not feeling like you're in a good place. Also, just letting them know you'd be happy to listen and reciprocate. You don't need to dish out advice, sometimes people just need an ear!

    • @jamesmbugu6488
      @jamesmbugu6488 4 года назад +3

      This hit me because I've been in the same exact scenario where while being down I text them or call and go to them and at times I feel like I'm being a bother and stubborn and it's like I'm not doing enough for them. What I've come to learn over time is that we are actually not baggage and talking to them gives them the chance to be equally deep and emotional and eventually they do open up and share and even though at times I never have the right words to say, they appreciate that they could share with someone something they never have before. I consider that a silver lining and eventually and ultimately our need to help others always makes us go out of our way to help them. That being said, I'd encourage you to be deep and dont be afraid to be vulnerable. It's so rewarding from both sides.

  • @simovtransportmedia1137
    @simovtransportmedia1137 4 года назад +3

    I have a fresh experience on this topic. In 2018 I've met a 13 year old boy as a friend in occupation, I'm 25 now. As our relations flourish he shown a lot of interest about me and I take it for genuine feeling so as an introvert extraverted feeler I respond with all the super empathy I can give but as the summer 2019 passed we began to quarrel every few weeks which was very harmfull to me and left me feel betrayed. Yesterday that boy wrote me that we don't have enything to say between us anymore. That sounds brutal but I discuss this with other friend and realize that theres no reason to feel betrayed for anything. If I was betrayed then what about him who much more betrayed his own self like making me his idol and when he saw what am I trully - I'm out of here and without warning. As i watch more and more INFJ videos I see that self acceptance is a problem for an INFJs. We have a tend to minimize our influence and not realizing that someone can think that we are "big fish" and that makes us an easy victims of that kind of ungenuine relations. When we are ready to give all for someone we have to ask ourselfs is it really necessary to. On the other hand we are so convinced in our values that idolmaking is something we will never understand but no one can say that we will never meet that kind of people in our life. To be INFJ alien is not an easy thing. :D

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Great great thoughts on this as usual! And you're right that it's not an easy thing! I think I could have an entire channel related to INFJ and self-acceptance!

  • @kristinadayperea3041
    @kristinadayperea3041 4 года назад +1

    Thank you ..u helped me out so much at discovering who I am ..it all comes together now. Perfectly thanks again..

  • @marilynrenaud1892
    @marilynrenaud1892 4 года назад +2

    This is excellent!! I am the only INFJ that I know. My youngest son (34) is an INTJ...we pretty much "get" each other pretty well, and he is very easy to get along with (thank God I have someone who gets me). My other two kids (40 and 36) are huge extraverts and can be brutal to me and my INTJ son. All of my sisters (3) and all of my relatives are extraverts...it makes things very difficult and I am always explaining myself. They all think that I am strange and that I am the difficult one because they try to control me which makes me withdraw...they do not respect my boundaries. I am so glad that you are out there making these videos and that you are so much like me. You get me and I get you. Thank you so so much David! Fantastic video! Keep 'em coming. Have a fantastic day! 😁👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻👍🏻💖 PS... I spend almost all of my time alone with my pet...and that's just fine with me... I'm happy in my own world. 👽

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      I'm happy in my own world too, but every once in awhile branching out feels kinda nice! So glad you enjoyed this one Marilyn! Thanks!

  • @oliviah488
    @oliviah488 4 года назад +2

    I realised that with certain friends I am always wanting to spend time with them. I'm not sure if I am being clingy or if this is just my inner extrovert shining through. But with other friends, I can only hang out about once a month because they are so outgoing that it can drain energy from me leaving me feeling exhausted.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      It's truth! Some people tend to drain energy faster because of that extroverted manner!

  • @skyhaven4131
    @skyhaven4131 4 года назад

    💚💚💚💚 I need this, thank you! Just recently what I thought was my best friend really don't me dirty, seen red flags before but always just ignored em and was like she's only human and tried to understand her. Anyways I've been going thru this deal where thinking about shutting down again and not open up cause to be honest it really hasn't gotten me any where good only hurt heart and soul!!!! But your words especially at the end are right and my daughter keeps telling me to not give up, not to close myself off again. Just wanted to say thank you and I'm really glad I've found you!!!

  • @tutu3909
    @tutu3909 4 года назад +9

    I always tell people I'm an emotional sponge
    It didn't make sense why I am the way I am when I was growing up.
    But finding your channel and knowing my type had made me realize that I'm not alone.
    I feel safe knowing there are people who understand me out there.
    ( Sorry English is not my first language, I don't know how to use full stops and punctuations well )

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      I'm glad you've found like minds here!

    • @nmefdappl
      @nmefdappl 4 года назад

      Your English is perfectly fine, Tovana! 😘

    • @erwin5051
      @erwin5051 4 года назад

      personality changes moments by moments. its depends , people grow up and it depends of your diet. because foods affects the brain function. we are developing and everybody evolves. there is no introvert and extrovert.. everybody is ambivert depends on situation..

    • @sonjawalkerreactionscommen3501
      @sonjawalkerreactionscommen3501 2 года назад

      @@erwin5051 I do agree with diet a little, as I feel like I'm improving on the negative traits within myself a lot more slowly since having treated the deficiencies years of a poor diet has caused me. But I'm still quite introverted and until the pandemic passes I will choose to be.

  • @catherinesmith362
    @catherinesmith362 3 года назад +2

    You just helped me realize I need to communicate with a friend I door slammed. She has no idea why I walked away from our relationship.

  • @kristinadayperea3041
    @kristinadayperea3041 4 года назад +1

    It's so nice to know there are others like me I'm not alone ..it's a comfort to know my kind of Alien s walk among me..I'm not one but a family.

  • @Sunny-yl4rm
    @Sunny-yl4rm 4 года назад +2

    I love how you/he call us sweet. I always worry im an evil manipulative person under all the characters i make for different settings 😅

  • @Littlehaunteddoll
    @Littlehaunteddoll 4 года назад

    I am an INFJ I am more bubbly and excited naturally I have learnt to have boundaries with being overwhelming sadness, one of my closest friends is also an INFJ she really struggles with the overwhelming sadness and locks herself away, it's amazing to see the differences between us. Thank you for this video I've shared it with her in hopes it will help you see how beautiful she is 💜

  • @witchysav3464
    @witchysav3464 4 года назад

    Where to begin!! This is probably about the 10th video of yours I have watched & this one sticks out to me because you had me genuinely laughing the entire time. The energy you give out is so authentic, neutral, captivating & comforting. I had a hard time paying attention to the video after my brain told me to leave a comment because then I was stuck in the loop of thinking about what to say 😂 I CONSTANTLY wonder how I am perceived by others, especially upon first impressions because I like to think that I stand out from other people they interact with. I always hope that what I am putting out is congruent to how I think & feel inside. I was just thinking the other day about who “my people” are and it occurred to me that my people are the ones who are similar to me. The visual of me looking into me came to mind & a few tears welled up because for an instant I realized what I give out positively to the world. Thank you so much for making this content and helping me to understand myself on a deeper level. These videos are able to effectively communicate what goes on in my head in a simplified manner which I appreciate greatly. Thank you for being you.
    A fellow INFJ ☺️

  • @shelbysongy2666
    @shelbysongy2666 4 года назад +2

    don't go it alone...yeah that's not going to happen. I wish I wasn't all alone all my life but hey these videos have made me feel like I am actually not a bad person and that there are others that think like me! I've never met anyone that understood what my brain does. I've always thought I was crazy but now I realize its normal for people with my brain type its just not a common thing. Thank you you have helped me a lot just watching your videos!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      So glad to hear that Shelby! Thank you!

  • @shaneneromero1318
    @shaneneromero1318 4 года назад +7

    This was a timely video for me in that O was just boo hooing last night about feeling alone, no not alone in this world but literally different. In the odd man out, the third wheel etc... Oh, I have been working really hard on not saying I’m sorry, but it is hard when it is your second language LOL. Keep up the stupendous job you’re doing with these videos they’re awesome. We love you David, fellow alien.

  • @barbaram7495
    @barbaram7495 4 года назад +3

    I feel so guilty for being alive! I feel like people hate me because I typically get the "you're thin and beautiful. You have nothing to complain about!" **Slinks off to cry and berate myself **

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Oh no Barbara! I mean if you need cry space, this channel is probably perfect for it, but beyond that be good with being you, right?

  • @purpleiris1114
    @purpleiris1114 4 года назад +4

    Well first, I got piglet and twilight sparkle. Second, I AM the living embodiment of all that was described. Empath, fixer....taken advantage of. Yep. I often feel like I don't actually have real friends. People find me, think I'm the bees knees...until they have gotten whatever it was they needed from me and then they are gone. I'm tossed aside feeling used and empty. Until the next time, and there always is.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +2

      Hi Sue!
      So glad to see you on this one! Plus, Twilight Sparkle is a pretty epic result. I mean it sucks that you feel all those bad things are going on, and from getting to know you I'm pretty sure you're always awesome, maybe it's just a matter of those boundaries, right?
      Talk soon!

  • @samanthacotty5431
    @samanthacotty5431 4 года назад +1

    I've been learning more and more about primarily INFJs being I'm an INFJ. Ibhave started trying to learn about others. This has been by far the most relatable video I've seen to date! Thank you for doing what you do!

  • @stephanwagenaar9318
    @stephanwagenaar9318 4 года назад +2

    So true about being taken advantage of... But a sure fire way to get the door slammed on you when I realise that this street doesn't go both ways. Not that I am needy, but it does happen that sometimes I might reach out for help as well.

  • @gailbrule1744
    @gailbrule1744 4 года назад

    New sub here. Enjoying your take on our type. Had to LOL when you said rip the bandaid off...I’m married to an INTJ, we’ve survived almost 40 years now...and we have some truly amazing deep conversations to this day! An engineer - he is a “thing” person...we actually balance each other out quite well. Thanks for your insight!

  • @ToMyLegacy
    @ToMyLegacy 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for this

  • @petercomrie4014
    @petercomrie4014 4 года назад +1

    Hi. Infp here. :) I'm in a relationship with an Infj. Heaven on earth. :) Started off as fist bump buddies and progressed. She is truuuuuly adorable. Delicate natured which brings out my nurturing thing. I love checking in on her. Reading her body language. From my perspective she is my soulmate. She structures me and I help her with assertiveness. I have a thing for women waggling fingers at me :P as long as I haven't genuinely hurt them. Playful cheek is my forte. :P

  • @stephenbarnes9096
    @stephenbarnes9096 4 года назад +5

    Too funny. My biz partner of 25 years is an INTJ and your mate's description of you with him rang so loudly I had to pause the vid and type this comment!

  • @ruthlessfairy
    @ruthlessfairy 4 года назад +5

    It happened that both me and my father are INFJ's, so we don't need to explain anything and stay on the same vibe without even saying a word. It's crazy that since I've got to know MBTI, I see my father's traits in myself. I always feel comfortable to share and discuss stuff with him. I also want to mention that two of my closest people (best friend and partner) are INFP's, also making a great "match" to the INFJ's alien nature. ISFJ (my mom and many of my lady-friends) are also wonderful people. Also, me and my ENFJ friend have great time together, but her E consumes my energy lol.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +2

      Haha this is fantastic! I haven't typed my family (yeah I'm not going down that road with Mom haha), but it's so cool to use MBTI as a tool to better understand others. Awesome! And hilarious comment about your ENFJ friend haha!

  • @erinspohr1097
    @erinspohr1097 4 года назад +6

    I love your videos a ton! I really hope you get more subscribers; you deserve them!!! Have an amazing day!
    - Your Fellow INFJ

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Thanks so much Erin, I appreciate you!

    • @erinspohr1097
      @erinspohr1097 4 года назад +1

      Thanks so much! Your videos are way too relatable! I can't wait to finish watching this video!

  • @kalinadesseaux8011
    @kalinadesseaux8011 4 года назад +5

    Hi David, I really loved and enjoyed that you did INTJ first and followed by INTP! please let those friends of yours (all them) that we here are some greatful for their perspectives! Please tell Eric for me, that I really resonated with his assessment especially. His metaphors of a calm port in a storm and a comfort blanket are concepts/symbols I have always held close to my own heart. Light houses, blankets, hoodies. Yes, that is me. It's palpable, how well Eric/INTJ is able to *see* us. \\Thankyou.//
    Also, it's delightful to see both the INTJ and the intp right there. So fitting. Their response to your question certainly *echos their types. It's satisfying/funny to see, as I am also a writer, and have chosen those two types to be 'close friends' with the infj in my own writing

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      I will absolutely let them know! Thank you! Eric is usually floating around these comments, maybe he'll say hello as well. :-)
      So glad you watched and enjoyed, I appreciate you!

    • @dysmas1
      @dysmas1 4 года назад

      Kalina Desseaux thank you for the kind words :)
      When David asked, in jest, if I was REALLY an INTJ I told him I was damaged otherwise we agreed my response would’ve just been something along the lines of, “LoL”

  • @ShesPhenom
    @ShesPhenom 3 года назад +1

    "Don't go it alone." Whew! That's a tough one because it just seems easier to do so being that we're so misunderstood. It's exhausting to deal with others, which is why I stay in my shell. 🙄 But you're right, we need to be social as well.

  • @johnjb1966
    @johnjb1966 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for this I really appreciate it. Well done video. I like you as you are.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Thank you, I appreciate that very much!

  • @psychicdevelopmentexercise
    @psychicdevelopmentexercise 4 года назад

    lol love the cat analogy...so true.

  • @jessicazimmer8910
    @jessicazimmer8910 4 года назад +39

    I swear, I'm putting "congratulations and I'm sorry" in my future wedding vows. 😄 (I'm Piglet and Twilight Sparkle ...)

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +5

      I may have to get a "Congratulations and I'm Sorry" tattoo one of these days!
      Twilight Sparkle! I can see that! Piglet though? Are you sure you aren't mistyped? lol.

    • @taru_3247
      @taru_3247 4 года назад +1

      omg can i borrow that idea?

    • @robinhenderson5202
      @robinhenderson5202 3 года назад

      Made me smile!😊

  • @susanthompson2988
    @susanthompson2988 4 года назад +2

    Great video!! So...all these years I’ve been giving my Irish ancestry credit for my saying “sorry!” ☘️ Didn’t know it was part of the INFJ dialogue. I was blessed to visit Ireland not so long ago and I felt at home! People were saying “sorry” left and right!!! I fit right in! Cheers to us! ☘️🍻

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Hi Susan! Haha I didn't know that was an Irish thing too! I know it's a common British stereotype, or at least so I've heard. Cheers to you! Slainte!

    • @sonjawalkerreactionscommen3501
      @sonjawalkerreactionscommen3501 2 года назад

      I'm guess I'm more Irish than Scottish then, huh? Haha wow! That seems to be a thing where I live too, I live on Prince Edward Island in Canada and you always hear people left right and centre saying those very words!

  • @laurashakesby9554
    @laurashakesby9554 4 года назад

    I've just come across your video and it really resonates. I still dont feel like I fit in. My boyfriend is an enfp-best relationship I've ever had as we get each other more than I have with anyone. My best friend hasnt taken the test but I feel hes intj and I really connect with him too. I've struggled to make deep connections with many other ppl tbh. Also I feel like I have a core group of friends and then everyone else comes and goes and it just fizzled out... when I put myself out there to others they eventually seem to get fed up of my baggage even though I'm definately there for them. I do get into a cycle though of being upset about the same things so suppose ppl do get fed up! I've definately found that gratitude, grounding and journaling helps. I'm going to watch the rest of your videos now 😀☺💜

  • @candimycrazyzoolife9813
    @candimycrazyzoolife9813 4 года назад +2

    HI David!!! I am really excited for your boundaries video (Well I am excited for all your videos......) I have foregone boundaries so much in my life.. I am currently that INFJ thats "going it alone" I have been hurt so much by making bad choices in friends. That I struggle with a fear right now of developing human friendships.. I am that INFJ that has pretty much door slammed 97.5% of the people in my life right now. My people currently consist of my husband, my mom, my therapist and that .5% of my dad because he is a huge Narc... Again.. Thank you for being you and doing this channel! Sending you much love!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Boundaries will be coming inside of a couple weeks for certain! Thank you so much, and best to you!

  • @coffeerevival7812
    @coffeerevival7812 4 года назад

    I’m crying b/c this video makes me feel so understood. I’m from a pretty extroverted culture so being and INFJ always made me feel out of place and misunderstood.

  • @elizabethannoswald
    @elizabethannoswald 4 года назад +2

    LOVE Bailey's review!

  • @amenyeeagel7936
    @amenyeeagel7936 4 года назад +1

    Thank you David, it is really cool hanging out with my species in your channel😁. Looking forward for the 5 video series. God bless you and all yours❤!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Awesome! So glad you found a home here!

  • @lorraine8962
    @lorraine8962 4 года назад

    You are hilarious but accurate. Thanks from another INFJ who knows what bunny blanket depression means!!!

  • @altrooper4235
    @altrooper4235 4 года назад +1

    Recently discovered your channel, and it feels good to hear from someone that just *gets* me. Incredibly grateful for your videos. ❤️

  • @kimdreyer9513
    @kimdreyer9513 3 года назад

    Thank you for this video!

  • @edwardwright886
    @edwardwright886 4 года назад +1

    Wanted to say thank you for all your videos. I've been watching them this week. Just found them. It been very helpful since I've been struggling in the dating world. You get me to laugh with you at a time when I really need it.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Great to hear! I'm so glad they resonate with you! Hope they continue to do so. I appreciate you!

  • @jaroslaval9159
    @jaroslaval9159 4 года назад +1

    Ay karambah! I just had an experience like never before- where I encountered someone SO not on the same wavelength! I was actually left in tears. Ten minutes with this person and all self confidence- shot! Thank goodness my husband was around and gave me perspective. Then I found this clip and viola!- some validation that it can HAPPEN! Mamma Mia!!!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Ay Karambah indeed! Glad you liked the video!

    • @jaroslaval9159
      @jaroslaval9159 4 года назад

      @@DavidBadurina It was just SO surreal.

    • @jaroslaval9159
      @jaroslaval9159 4 года назад

      I THINK I ran into an ESTJ

  • @JonasAnandaKristiansson
    @JonasAnandaKristiansson 4 года назад +2

    Blessed is David!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Jonas! Miss you my sweet friend! I hope all is wonderful for you!

  • @susanjacquier5358
    @susanjacquier5358 4 года назад +3

    Lol....I waved back ..hehe...and the pink blankky ..Love it :). I do wonder sometimes tho, if when people 'take' the 'test', if they kind of know what they are 'wanting' from the test and answer accordingly.? I think as you get older, you hopefully learn 'boundries'.,but it can be quite difficult and can be very painful. I do think tho, that after a while, you set aside those that don't nurture your soul and in return those that do. You can't help everyone..." Pick your Battles" and love yourself

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      That is definitely a thing. A lot of people take the test projecting what they WANT to be instead of what they are. It's always helpful to have someone nearby that knows you well so on those questions where you are unsure you can say, "Hey, am I like this?"
      Also, taking the same one or taking them too often can lead to a false result in many cases. The best way to make sure you are typed correctly is to talk to people that know typing!

    • @susanjacquier5358
      @susanjacquier5358 4 года назад

      @@DavidBadurina I say that because when I was doing the pre-entry for Psych Nursing, we had to sit a test ( determine if we qualify to be the patient I guess)...and the questions were So predicable. Many of my fellow nurses would laugh about it later.

  • @susangabriel5579
    @susangabriel5579 4 года назад

    David, I love your comment that being an INFJ is a gift. It's really true, but it can take years to absorb that fact into one's reality. In my case it took decades. I am glad that the MBTI has become so well-known now that INFJs can begin to learn this at a much earlier age. Thank you for saying it! :-)

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      That's absolutely true! Thank you so much!

    • @susangabriel5579
      @susangabriel5579 4 года назад

      @@DavidBadurina I also want to say that I really admire you for "putting yourself out there." You mentioned how difficult it can be to handle criticism, and I know exactly what you mean. I recently published an autobiography, and reading some of the reviews is hard, even though most of the reviews are good. So congratulations. You are doing a great job explaining the INFJ personality type, and I plan to watch more of your videos. It's nice not to be alone!

  • @jeremysutton4030
    @jeremysutton4030 4 года назад +1

    Aggregated is a good word.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      It's kind of satisfying to say, I think!

  • @ninam2164
    @ninam2164 4 года назад +3

    I can't tell you how happy I am to have discovered your channel! You've helped me so much with understanding myself more and why I am the way I am. Thank you

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      I'm so glad to hear that Nina! You're welcome!

  • @samboiioyen6311
    @samboiioyen6311 4 года назад +6

    I love your channel it's resonates me everything you're trying to convey is so relatable! I would recommend this video to some My fellow Aliens INFJ

  • @sunnyy4997
    @sunnyy4997 4 года назад +1

    I just want to say, I did those personality tests, and I got Winnie the Pooh and Rainbow Dash as well.. I feel complete

  • @CharlespaulDowell
    @CharlespaulDowell 4 года назад +1

    Yeah, I am INFJ and I don't really need anyone. At 53 I've worked so hard at trying to find some nice happy fun friendship, but it has never worked out for me so I have 0 friends. And it's a very lonely life, but at least I my dogs and they kind of understand me and love me for me. Almost Everyone just wants to use me then leave me, so yes I can walk down the road of all by myself it's lonely but I've learned to be okay with my loneliness .

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      It's okay to know who you are, hope the dogs keep you great company!

  • @taru_3247
    @taru_3247 4 года назад +1

    YAAAAAAAAASSS!!! TOTALLY GOING TO LEAVE A COMMENT BEFORE WATCHING THIS VIDEO!!! Im so happy to be here again

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      YYAAAAAAAASSS! Nailed it!

    • @taru_3247
      @taru_3247 4 года назад

      ok. Now i've watched your video and i also took notes with good ol' pen and paper. Sooo, here goes my toughts.
      essay written by me.
      *raises hand* No doorslam??? Are you crazy? Thats like my bread and butter in life. Without doorslam... wha--- what am i suppost to do? Actually talk with my enemies and try to make peace? Pha-liees. Im here for the chaos.
      (Btw i love your intro please lets be best friends but not really cause that would be weird and i see you as a mentor/senpai/someone i can look up to but still actually approach you know?)
      So, as a wild INFJ myself i havent met anyother my kind in person, so i cant really give my take on other INFJs. BUT i can relate and add things to the never ending list of what is an INFJ. I think we tend to mirror other people unintentionally while being empathic -->das making ourself a doormat again unintentionally. Because we absorb other peoples emotions and toughts its really easy to temporarely lose yourself.
      I like to end my essay with this tought. Im diagnosed with depression and ''uneven emotions'' as in I feel everything more intensly than lets say normal people --> das making me volunarable to depression and HC moodswings. Yesterday i tried to explain this to my husband and i told him that ''normal'' people might fell that they have a rock in their shoe, but i feel that my shoe is filled with rocs not just one.
      *lowers my hand* so im sorry and thank you. When im watching your videos it really feels like a friend who understands is talking to me.
      Das concluding my essay.

  • @liliyalapik7434
    @liliyalapik7434 4 года назад +1

    Your eyes are soo blue. Holy moly.

  • @kimharrison4263
    @kimharrison4263 4 года назад +1

    Ha! infj here married to an esfj too! As always, thank you for the insight and looking forward to the series.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      That's an adventurous relationship haha! Thanks so much!

  • @Rubiastraify
    @Rubiastraify 4 года назад +3

    I enjoyed this video, and am looking forward to your planned videos! In terms of boundaries: I think of it as a "semi-permeable membrane" (hey - I like science, what can I say?) - or like a "gatekeeper" - I'm proactive about who gets let in and who doesn't ("Please take this test and then we'll get back to you"). Re: criticism...I used to take this like an arrow through my heart! Now, I take a step back ("Breathe!") and consider: "Is this person saying this to improve me, or to try to make me feel bad?" In both cases, I ask myself, "Is what they're saying TRUE?" In the latter case, even if it's true, I'll discount it by telling myself, "Who are they to judge me? This is only their opinion. Either of us could die tomorrow, so why should I worry what they think?" In the former case, I reflect on it, and put it in the framework of: "This is someone who knows me and cares about me, and is trying to HELP me!" Then, the criticism doesn't hurt so much, because the intent, the place where it's coming from, is a place of love.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Never apologize for SCIENCE! :-)
      Haha "please take this test and we'll get back to you" might be my new way to make friends!
      I LOVE your thoughts on criticism! That's excellent!

  • @michaelcypher2617
    @michaelcypher2617 3 года назад

    ahhhhhhhh thank you for this!

  • @ld4311
    @ld4311 4 года назад +1

    I'm a tad discombobulated by the new set-up but it looks comfy. Congrats on 10k 🎉

    • @mysterical-
      @mysterical- 4 года назад

      'discombobulated' nice! I too feel discombobulated especially when I've never even heard of this word before.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Haha Lisa - sorry to discombobulate. Feel like switching things up from time to time! :-)

  • @divergence_tiffanyramos4337
    @divergence_tiffanyramos4337 4 года назад +2

    This is a really great video David! It's always a positive aspect to learn from others so that we ar
    e able to gain a greater understanding of who we are as INFJ'S and how other's view us.
    I have two INFJ friends in my life that I commented about in your last video. Yes it's wonderful that we speak our own language and completely understand each other. It's also a benefit to be able to be in the same space for hours without uttering a single word with no uncomfortable silence. I'm truly grateful to be blessed with having them in my life.
    My husband and good girl friend are both ENFJ'S. Sweet Baby Jesus, Lord Have Mercy! Lol. As extroverts they both crave conversation and exciting social environments. Just the thought of both of these experiences makes me want to throw my fingers up in the sign of the cross and hiss. Exciting social events?!?! I might melt! 😉
    Where my husband is concerned I do my best to accommodate his requests to " Babe do you want to go for a drive and maybe visit so and so?" Uh...no? " Oh come on!" "It'll be fun!" "????" "That may be your idea of fun buddy, but I'm cool right where I am." I then proceed to convince him to go out, run, be free, get your groove on, frolic! Lol. I seriously do this. He always asks a second time just to make sure he's including me in his plan's. I adore him for being so considerate towards me and always asking that second time. This is my biggest obstacle at this time. I've only left our property once since this last May. That one day was Christmas and it took me hours to do so even though I had week's, and day's to prepare.
    I'm not quite sure why I chose to isolate for this long of a time period. Nothing triggered me. There were no upset issues of any kind. One day in I just decided to go in my room and took it upon myself to listen to music up to 8 to 10 hours a day for the first 3 months of isolation and only come out to eat or use the restroom. Then back in I'd go.
    I started venturing out in July of this summer and my loving husband welcomed me back with open arms and excitement. "Hey Honey I'm so glad your hanging out with me again!" 🤐 Yea I felt really bad. He's been so understanding and encouraging throughout this strange phase of my life. I make sure I thank him everyday for being the beautiful person he is in one way or the other. I never miss a day of telling him and many day's it's multiple compliments anytime he goes out of his way for me.
    I now get up when he does and spend every waking moment I have with him. I've left my room, but not our property. Did I mention we live in the Seqoiua National Forest In The Sierra Nevada Mountains, Ca? Complete with forrest and creek in our backyard. I'm trying to gain an understanding why I isolated so long. I'm taking baby steps, but at least theyre some sort of steps in the right direction.
    I'm grateful for the wonderful people I have in my life and their unconditional loving support. I would be lost without them. I'm also grateful for finding your channel and the insightful information you've shared. We've had some humorous commentary back and forth in past comments. I really appreciate the smiles and laughter those comments have given me. Thank you! Much Respect Sent Your Way!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Hi Tiffany! Maybe throwing up a cross and hissing is a little extreme hahaha. BUT ... I totally get it because I've done that when someone said, "We're having a work party!"
      SSSSSS!!!
      And totally agree - I'm fine being asked with the understanding that I may not want to go. It makes me more inclined to step out than if someone is trying to drag me to a social event of some kind.
      So glad to hear you're stepping out and being a little less isolated, too! You are a gift!
      Appreciate you!

  • @Arlegria
    @Arlegria 4 года назад +1

    Thank you David, There's a lot to take away from this post. ... Looking forward to 5 video marathon .. 🤗

  • @MK-zq9yl
    @MK-zq9yl 4 года назад +1

    Thank you so much for these vids. Makes me feel less alone. You rock!

  • @jamesmbugu6488
    @jamesmbugu6488 4 года назад +6

    First of all, I'd like to answer your question, "what's it like to have an INFJ friend." In my opinion, I'd say: ni Baraka and probably a God sent. So I have this Rafiki Mpendwa called David Badurina. He is one of the most caring people I've known in this world. He goes out of his way to help completely random strangers (like James) and then goes to make some deep and personal connections with those strangers.
    David is the kind of friend who wears his heart on his sleeves and shares his most personal and intimate experiences in the hopes of impacting one life (which ends up having a domino kind of effect and saving very many).
    David is super wierd and had very ironical sort of humour. Myself I've been termed as wierd most of my life so I guess that is one of the many traits we share.
    Just like David, I have another INFJ friend. He was 2 years behind me in high school and after like 6 years we just started talking online and he is one of the few people who really get me so I'd say he too is super deep.
    In conclusion, I've been also at that point in my life where I used to hate being me (an INFJ) that is and viewed the gift as a curse and was totally miserable! It wasnt until I started understanding how 'powerful' my gift is that life started being fulfilling. Fun fact: years ago I'd spend all my weekends on the couch and nowadays I'm rarely ever at home (I'll admit it gets exhausting at times and often need to recharge) but I can promise you it is TOTALLY worthwhile (especially if you can find balance). So to whoever views being INFJ as a curse, I promise you it GETS BETTER especially once you join this town, 'aliensville' and get a guide from our mayor and exceptional guide - David (he is an awesome guy and listening to him will help you realize your true power!)
    Finally: which test is this you mentioned about your results were of a unicorn. I'd very much like to know my own result.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +3

      James, you're the best. Thank you for such kind words. If I ever think of what it would be like to have a kindred spirit in a far off place, it would be you, my sweet friend. Truly.
      I'm so glad you see yourself for the shining gift you are (because you are!) - if you're ever down I hope you know that you've enriched MY life over here by being someone I can interact with. So thank you!
      And the test! It's from a television show here in the states called "My Little Pony" - it's silly and sweet (and funny). Here's a link: www.buzzfeed.com/johngol/which-my-little-pony-character-are-you-2dtqm

  • @loraloraloraaaaa
    @loraloraloraaaaa 4 года назад +1

    Did R.M just map out my brain and heart? hahaha.

  • @lashandalewis3110
    @lashandalewis3110 4 года назад +1

    Lol! Im an infj married to an esfj as well.

  • @jedbrown1209
    @jedbrown1209 4 года назад +3

    They all have their own cognitive soup hahaha
    Congrats and I'm sorry is wayyy too funny
    Also so endearing that you are Winnie the pooh

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      HAha Hey Jed! Perhaps not the best way to describe it but ... hey that's what popped into my head. :-)

  • @lorie_g
    @lorie_g 4 года назад +1

    Thank you David. This is a wonderful video. It helps me reflect and think about things that I may not have been aware of before.

  • @wgu4983
    @wgu4983 4 года назад +1

    Thank you for sharing.

  • @Jeff_The_Weatherman
    @Jeff_The_Weatherman 4 года назад +2

    Hello David! So looking forward to the video series!
    Being that your wife is an ESFJ must be interesting. I have always wondered how an introvert, especially INFJs deal with Extroverted spouses when the introvert needs space and solitude- and the extrovert needs the introvert’s company. Let’s put this to imagination: I picture a scene in Disney land’s Pirates of the Caribbean - which you see a lady chasing a pirate around and around again. 😀. As you mentioned, there is balance.
    You brought up something that had got me thinking. When you mentioned that we INFJs need to take our focus off us and onto the others in our life, I felt guilty. Then I thought, “Why do I do that?” Then a thought came to mind: Maybe because when we are around others, we use the fight or flight approach when confronted with their emotions. We choose to go in and help them ”Fight” their foes in our way where we can, but if we can’t help them in anyway, we Flight away. Maybe it is part of the all or nothing approach we INFJs have with things? Example, my BFF ISFJ tells me things negative in her life (frustrations, conflicts, etc) that cause me to empathize as normal. I want to go and “fix it” because it is overwhelming to me to see her dealing with these things, and I want her to be released from those feelings. But we both can’t fix them all, so there are times when I need to vacate and head “home” to process it alone. That is where I felt guilty in this video as I mentioned earlier.
    Could it be that male INFJs are prone to just want to “fix it” vs just listening, I wonder? You know us INFJs got to get out our interpersonal tool kit and look down and grab out the trusty tools and say, “Ok, let’s do this”.
    Cheers, Jeff.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Hey Jeff! That's an interesting though - difference between male/female INFJ vs. urge to fix. I don't know if there's anything to that, I think we always want to work toward harmony but personality determines how more than anything else perhaps.
      As always, thank you!

  • @serpentine_fire_dancer427
    @serpentine_fire_dancer427 4 года назад +1

    I'm really looking forward to the series. Thank you for all the work you've been putting into these videos. 🖤

  • @mld0527
    @mld0527 4 года назад +1

    I just want to say that I relate to your videos more so than any other infj. I am not sure why but I just feel understood through the words you speak. I appreciate and thank you!
    That being said my friend is an esfj and he is ALWAYS trying to get me to go to clubs and parties. Ummm, NO THANKS to being a wallflower around a bunch of loud drunk people 👀

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Haha darn ESFJs! It's good when you have that understanding though, and you can do some of the things they need to feel connected! And, I'm so glad they resonate! I appreciate you!

  • @nmefdappl
    @nmefdappl 4 года назад +1

    David, LOVE your videos - you are so cool & weird & sweet. Yeah, the listening thing...
    haha, "af". I just got it. Finally!

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Thanks so much! I'm so glad you liked this one!

  • @fhud2800
    @fhud2800 4 года назад +1

    Thank you friend! Really good content, and I look forward to the upcoming series.

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      So glad to hear it! Thank you for being here!

  • @Karen-ff4os
    @Karen-ff4os 4 года назад +2

    Hi David, congratulations on the success and future plans of your channel...you are adorable and intelligent! As a fellow "alien" and generation Xer (a little older than you 😀) my journey of healing/balance resembled more of an "aborigine walk about" which started in the late 1980's, a lot of reading and journaling...happy to have come through the thick of it. Mostly I feel blessed with this unique personality type now. With youtube and all these different forums its a delight to see and hear from so many Infj's - men and women of all ages and backgrounds. My sister is an Intj and our relationship has only gotten better with more life experience. You mentioned your lovely wife is an extravert. What is her MBTI type? 🌻

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад

      Hi Karen! She's the ESFJ I referenced in the video! And it does make for some interesting interactions! :-)

    • @Karen-ff4os
      @Karen-ff4os 4 года назад

      @@DavidBadurina Oh, sorry missed that - must be my age and all...Lol 😜 Thank you. I find the Esfj's close to me to be such a wonderful source for comfort and practical support, they are also great cheerleaders!!

  • @hxope
    @hxope 4 года назад +1

    I enjoy watching your videos! Love your sense of humor.

  • @nhtm1228k
    @nhtm1228k 4 года назад +1

    It’s even overwhelming to see and listen who INFJ really is as INFJ. It’s like to admit that It’s hard to be an INFJ but of course I don’t show my weakness to anybody I rather pretend like nothing hard just normal for me to be an INFJ( it is normal tho ). Does that make sense? Basically I don’t wanna say that loud😅 It that too INFJ? Lol . Anyway I found myself AsINFJ recently and it came to make a lot of sense to everything. Also found your channel. Really Wish you the very best on your healthy life mentality and emotionally 😊 from Japan

    • @DavidBadurina
      @DavidBadurina  4 года назад +1

      Hello Naomi and greetings to beautiful Japan! Thank you so much for watching, I'm so grateful the videos resonate with you! I'm glad things are starting to make sense for you. Just be who you are, learn a little about yourself, and you'll be just fine! Wish you the best!