Second! That probably doesn’t count. I’m trying to deal with feeling rejected, but I should not feel rejected. I spent 7 years with a guy who has traits of an intimacy avoidant. He was good with words, gaslighting, lawyering up and I wish I’d left early on and not internalized any of his ideas about me, him or us. Eventually I’ll date again, after I heal. I’m 57 so we’ll see how it goes.
Truth! A man I dated (and I use that word loosely) for 4 months whom I thought I was in a relationship with broke it off with me once I started to question where I stood. Then 3 months post breakup, he asked me to come over to his place so he can cook me a birthday dinner. Sounded thoughtful and romantic right?? After dinner, he pulled the “would you like to stay over tonight?” HAHAHHAA…nope gotta run! But thanks for the dinner! I’m not “staying over” if we are clearly not a couple but he was being slick by attempting to get me into his bed.
@@Sugarlips321 it’s not the compliment you think it is. He’s inviting you because he has an agenda. And if he’s not inviting you, then he either lives with his wife or has roommates, still lives with parents etc. those would be the only reasons. If I haven’t seen his home, he’s certainly not going to get invited into mine
@@Sugarlips321 not really true. Plenty of guys invite you to their home. Why? Easy access to a bedroom. If they don’t want you there, they’re likely hiding something or they plan on dumping you. The only way you know what a guy is up to is watching how he expects to treat you. In this instance, a guy who didn’t want anything serious, did want easy sex. If you look at the whole picture, he was a sleaze.
your content is very helpful, and i've noticed the quality has made a massive upgrade, including your content, I like how everything is organized. your website is very user friendly. I also like how you have different affordable options. you're awesome, keep it up!
My favorite most valuable piece of advice Elliot❤ “if a man wants to be with you he won’t put himself in a position to loose you. Best dating coach ever (sexiest head of hair too).
Hey elliot, thank you for this. I have a question, is a dating timeline of one year too long? To set context, we had been in a situationship before for 2 years and I walked away and to cut the story short, he pursued me and told me that he would want the same meaningful connection as me.
I lived in the same situation for almost a year and a half, and no matter how many expensive/fancy places he took me to and all the "promises", I never got the relationship. Since there are men who have a lot of money, they use it to impress you, so then you feel like you have to give them sex in return. Don't waste your time girl, as Eliot says..... TIME, ENERGY, EFFORT, and he mentions the money at the end, maybe for that reason but not all men with money are like that, that's a fact. Do NOT let yourself be manipulated, PLEASE!
@@karentrevino6904 you are right I ended it two months ago …he never could give me a straight answer where this was going all he said he wants to have a good time and us enjoying ourselves…I am too old and exhausted for letting anyone waste my time ..tbh i was hurting cause I felt I liked the potential I saw in him …the princess treatment I received. But I know it he wanted something honest and real he would have said so from the get go.
That's why you act single until he explicitly asks for exclusivity and has met your standards. Until then, show him you are still single, on the market and have options. I wouldn't even kiss any of them because they they'll know you are emotionally attached before a serious commitment.
Dating men is too hard. I don’t want to live my life with someone I can’t trust to have my best interest at heart. Men only care about themselves, ladies just do your own thing and if you want kids, try to save up for a couple years and have them on your own. Be safe, you don’t have to settle w/ a predator to have a family… you can do it by yourself.
Wow. Thats a terrible thing to state something about half the population. They’re all awful? I hope no one listens to this. I dated terrible men because i didn’t know better. I didn’t know how to properly vet a man and speak my mind. When i learned those skills, i met an amazing man. Self improvement is a good thing. It’s very pessimistic to say that there’s no way it gets better. It gets better, when you get better at it and require more before you get to drawn in to the wrong person. It is possible and if a person wants love, it is out there. No need to be alone.
Value yourself and what you want from your life more then sex and hooking up.
So happy I took your advice. I saved myself heartbreak
Yup!! I blocked them
Second! That probably doesn’t count.
I’m trying to deal with feeling rejected, but I should not feel rejected. I spent 7 years with a guy who has traits of an intimacy avoidant. He was good with words, gaslighting, lawyering up and I wish I’d left early on and not internalized any of his ideas about me, him or us.
Eventually I’ll date again, after I heal. I’m 57 so we’ll see how it goes.
Truth! A man I dated (and I use that word loosely) for 4 months whom I thought I was in a relationship with broke it off with me once I started to question where I stood. Then 3 months post breakup, he asked me to come over to his place so he can cook me a birthday dinner. Sounded thoughtful and romantic right?? After dinner, he pulled the “would you like to stay over tonight?” HAHAHHAA…nope gotta run! But thanks for the dinner! I’m not “staying over” if we are clearly not a couple but he was being slick by attempting to get me into his bed.
honestly it shows something if you were over his apartment. lots guys won’t ever invite you to their home.
@@Sugarlips321 it’s not the compliment you think it is. He’s inviting you because he has an agenda. And if he’s not inviting you, then he either lives with his wife or has roommates, still lives with parents etc. those would be the only reasons. If I haven’t seen his home, he’s certainly not going to get invited into mine
@@Sugarlips321 not really true. Plenty of guys invite you to their home. Why? Easy access to a bedroom. If they don’t want you there, they’re likely hiding something or they plan on dumping you. The only way you know what a guy is up to is watching how he expects to treat you. In this instance, a guy who didn’t want anything serious, did want easy sex. If you look at the whole picture, he was a sleaze.
I wish I had known all this before. Thanks "favourite dating coach"!
I am so glad you are back doing more videos
What if you just met it's going to be sporadic because you don't know each other
Painful but true 😢 i think i gave him too much too soon
your content is very helpful, and i've noticed the quality has made a massive upgrade, including your content, I like how everything is organized. your website is very user friendly. I also like how you have different affordable options. you're awesome, keep it up!
My favorite most valuable piece of advice Elliot❤ “if a man wants to be with you he won’t put himself in a position to loose you. Best dating coach ever (sexiest head of hair too).
love your videos! you always humble me 😭
Love your videos! You explain men so well. They’re such simple, lazy, indirect creatures a lot of the time. Uggh
1 of your best videos 🔥🔥 thank you
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This is great info, thank you
Hey elliot, thank you for this. I have a question, is a dating timeline of one year too long?
To set context, we had been in a situationship before for 2 years and I walked away and to cut the story short, he pursued me and told me that he would want the same meaningful connection as me.
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He is doing all this dating and paying for fancy dinners but still no progression
I lived in the same situation for almost a year and a half, and no matter how many expensive/fancy places he took me to and all the "promises", I never got the relationship. Since there are men who have a lot of money, they use it to impress you, so then you feel like you have to give them sex in return. Don't waste your time girl, as Eliot says..... TIME, ENERGY, EFFORT, and he mentions the money at the end, maybe for that reason but not all men with money are like that, that's a fact. Do NOT let yourself be manipulated, PLEASE!
@@karentrevino6904 you are right I ended it two months ago …he never could give me a straight answer where this was going all he said he wants to have a good time and us enjoying ourselves…I am too old and exhausted for letting anyone waste my time ..tbh i was hurting cause I felt I liked the potential I saw in him …the princess treatment I received. But I know it he wanted something honest and real he would have said so from the get go.
That's why you act single until he explicitly asks for exclusivity and has met your standards. Until then, show him you are still single, on the market and have options. I wouldn't even kiss any of them because they they'll know you are emotionally attached before a serious commitment.
Thanks Elliot
Question what if a guy asks for my number then does not call or reach out or he reaches out a couple days later
It is bcs he already has a gf or an otherwise significant other. If he wasn’t already involved he would’ve called you.
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What if he paid for fancy dinners and all that but still no Progression
Sounds like he just wanted attention…paying for dinners is nothing for him. Investing his time and energy IS. LET HIM GO IF YOU HAVENT ALREADY
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Dating men is too hard. I don’t want to live my life with someone I can’t trust to have my best interest at heart. Men only care about themselves, ladies just do your own thing and if you want kids, try to save up for a couple years and have them on your own. Be safe, you don’t have to settle w/ a predator to have a family… you can do it by yourself.
Wow. Thats a terrible thing to state something about half the population. They’re all awful? I hope no one listens to this. I dated terrible men because i didn’t know better. I didn’t know how to properly vet a man and speak my mind. When i learned those skills, i met an amazing man. Self improvement is a good thing. It’s very pessimistic to say that there’s no way it gets better. It gets better, when you get better at it and require more before you get to drawn in to the wrong person. It is possible and if a person wants love, it is out there. No need to be alone.