I tell you I came from a long line of women esp my mother that assaulted cursed and belittle all the men in their life. I struggle with this as it’s a learned behavior. I really really have prayed my entire life in this area. God bless women who have this gift. My mother has never learned how to control her mind or mouth and it don’t want to be like this.
Women need LOVE from their HUSBAND like they need oxygen Men need RESPECT like they need oxygen. Speaking for myself, if my wife says one word in the wrong tone, I shut down. I can’t breathe. Went to therapy costing 100$ per hour over this. Praying for all you and the wisdom only God can give in this area.
I was involved to a woman once who (all along with all the other women on her mother's side of her family) lived to destroy the men they claimed to love: dads, uncles, brothers, husbands, nephews, sons......
I want to be that Godly woman. I want to draw out the righteousness and nobility in my husband. I want to speak to the prince in him. God help me to do this 🙏
When I heard you say this the first time… (in lioness arising I think?). I didn’t quite understand/believe it. But slowly I began to see this was a problem in my marriage. We were in shambles and I was praying for step by step directions and this advice came back to me. I began using it daily. That was 8 years ago. We have an incredibly happy marriage and now I talk to other wives about this. I like to say… Don’t call him out… Call him up. Speaking life into my husband and reminding him of his strength and identity has become such a sweet part of our marriage.
I love love this, call him up not out. BUT how? I am a woman who was abused and abandoned in the past and learned to do it all myself. I am repenting of these actions of "mothering" and disappointment in my second marriage, but I need to learn. Do you have an example of what it means to call him up? I welcome ANYONE to help me see how to do this.
@@karenbryan7100Hi Karen. Nancy DeMoss Walgamuth (sp?) has a radio program called, "Revive Our Hearts" mainly for women. She has a lot of resources. One thing she says to try is taking the 30 Day Challenge.. For 30 days, only say positive things to your husband. Encourage, compliment & smile. Also, Lisa Bevere (in this video) has resources. Let the Joy of the Lord, be your strength!!!! ❤ For Ever!!
And so it is according to your faith in Jesus name. Bless you sweetheart, Holy Spirit is faithful to walk this out with you. I pray sensitivity to His voice, His leading with the evidence of healthy fruit in both of your lives.
How beautiful and commendable it is when a woman says her words with gentleness, humility, patience, forbearance, and respect. When her words speak the truth in love it heals, encourages, refines, and builds a man. We men need your compassion. We need you and your kindness. When difficulty strikes a man down. The battle becomes even harder for a man when his beloved woman is fisting on him with tearing words. A man's trust in his opposite sex has come to blandness when that happens. Fear and doubt began to invade until it stings his manhood.
*1 Samuel **25:23**-24 NLT* *When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey and bowed low before him. [24] She fell at his feet and said, "I accept all blame in this matter, my lord. Please listen to what I have to say.* She had serious deescalation skills. 🇨🇦
in other translations it says she asked for pardon, but not accepting blame. She wasn't to blame, they obviously knew that. She was pleading on behalf of others. Of course, de-escalating skills.
God bless the wise woman! This is something my Grandmother taught me as a young girl. She said i would be his help mate and companion, never walking in front of him nor behind but by his side, do not tear him down but build him up and if there's an issue to discuss never ever do that in front of others but to always be supportive and meek in front of anyone else. Do not ever embarrass your husband in public or during family gatherings. I watched the love between my grandparents and that was always the kind of love and respect i wanted in my life, thankfully thats what i have with my teenage sweetheart who is now my second husband. Thank you Father for answered prayers.
Powerful I often consider the story of the lionesses that brought their king, that was being released into a refuge, but was too fearful to come out of the cage. The lionesses brought their king food until he was prepared to step out into the open.
If you are insulting and hostile towards another person, let alone someone you’re supposed to love, it says volumes about who YOU are as a person. Being intentional with your words while also respecting the other person displays good natured, loving and open to conversations that lead to repair. All that other stuff is just dysfunctional toxicity that rots your soul and traumatizes children.
Opposite here….. I grew up hearing my dad belittle my mom in front of people and watched my mom always build my dad up and show him respect, waited on him like a maid and still does..I always said I would never be married to a man like that or let a man verbally abuse me… but guess what? I’ve lived in this same kinda mess for 19 years but I don’t always cower down like I’ve watched my mom do for 61 years.. although I do pray over him try calling out the best in him I’ve seen small changes in him over these years but I’ve also suffered from anxiety from the verbal attacks and tried counseling for myself for a while he won’t go… so it’s like what do you do??? I pray, I speak life sometimes I do let my flesh rise up to defend myself, then I repent and keep trying.. please pray for me….
Thank you so much for talking about this. This video just popped up in my feed and it’s something I needed to hear. Thank you sister! May God continue blessing you. ❤
Wow. It is amazing how things work together in God... I am currently reading a book coauthored by Elizabeth Adams and Diana Wallis Taylor "PURSUED BY A KING ABIGAILS STORY" a Guideposts publication, and I just finished reading that particular chapter...and the book follows the biblical account. 😊
Thank you for this reminder. Sometimes we get off track in life but I’m back on track and thankfully I’ve never spoke to my partner in a foolish way in front of people, but I needed to be reminded of the power of wisdom and the power I have inside of me. Sweet hugs and thank you
Lisa, you’re so beautiful. But it’s an inward beauty that just seems to be expressed outwardly. You look like your life experiences have made you perfect. I just enjoy looking at you❤️
She always brings a powerful word. Not easy to do. We want to feel loved and secure and when we think our husbands may do something unwise we may want to gain control and do things in what ends up to be a detrimental way. I know from experience. BUT God wants us to believe in our husbands and call forth by faith what we may not see yet. Many times they rise to the occasion because they do want what's right. Andnus wives can be a catalyst for bringing out the best in them.
There is a Difference in Bringing Ideas to the Surface for Consideration, HONESTLY! Or, Dishonestly trying to Manipulate to Do Your Will! This is what you call UNITY -A GOOD PARTNER! Like the Line in the Movie: “The Big, Fat Greek Wedding… “The WIFE Turns the Husband’s Head,” to Notice Certain Things!💕
I really hope this becomes a book!! PLEASE Lisa write on this subject! I desperately need this help and guidance I mess up CONSTANTLY in this area 😢❤❤❤
Sounds respectful, in the middle of resolving. Be not deceived whatsoever a man sows that shall he also reap. If we sow contempt, control, anger, bitterness. Good chance our lives will be miserable reviewing contempt, bitterness, anger not being controlled?
Thank you Lord for your wisdom! I always hated to see how men were treated so disrespectfully by women so when I got married I decided I wasn't going to be one of those. 20 years later my husband and I have a very loving and respectful relationship. Thank you Jesus!
Amen. Treat with honor and respect, you receive honor and respect. This is how it has been in my home . You have the King Yeshua in your heart, Yeshua spills out into your man’s heart. Great words Lisa.😊
@@liveve9499 The biggest thing we do is make concessions. Each person brings their own baggage to the relationship. No one person is always right, always perfect. We know each other well and play to one another’s strengths. My husband is wonderful at anything hands on. I am better at the budget and bills. I’m a neatnic and he’s a slob. If it’s not in its place I’m lost, he can find anything in a mess and knows where it is. That used to make me a bit nuts and it caused many an argument. Now, he is neater for me and I’m more patient with him. Believe me, he has the patience of Job and it is easier to allow his mess in small doses than an argument that does neither any good. He knows how to get under my skin, and I know how to get under his, but that would be disastrous so we make sure to be our better selves when the other isn’t. It seems like it’s not that big a deal, but I get annoyed at the little thing, he doesn’t. He gets frustrated at the things that are mechanical or something else he’s trying to work out, so I give him the leeway to get it out of his system and if too frustrated, I tell him to walk away and get a drink or eat a snack or do some thing else. In the time it takes him to do that, he’s figured it out and is fine. Then there’s the quirks we have that can irritate the other. (Baggage) and that we walk away from as often as possible. Don’t get me wrong, we still have disagreements, but we know the other is going to be there when it’s important, so we try not to go to bed angry. It’s work, but it’s worth it. Sometimes I think society just gives up too easily. If you argue and still love him/her, it’s worth fixing.
@@liveve9499, Just As You Would, Any Other Bad Habits! #1) Exchange Such Bad Habits, Like You Would A Bad Pair Of Ugly Painful Shoes! Exchange Them For The New Good Positive Behaviors, And Habits! #2) Renew Yourself, Taking Time, Like Prayer Quiet Time! Journaling Of Positivity And Reciting Your Renewed And Invigorating Scripts Of: Strength, Love, Joy, Peace, Etc! #3) Put On The Whole Armor Of GOD As In: Ephesians 6 (KJV)! For When The Evil One, Or His Minions, Come To Hinder Your Progress Via Thoughts Of: Hate, Rage, Mayhem, Etc! Cast Them Out, Rebuke Them, Bind Them In Holy Chains, Sending Them To Hell To Be Locked In Their Cells, In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen! GOD Bless, Pa-Pow, Amen! 😎 🙉🙈🙊 🇺🇸
We are not called to put anyone on shame! The Bible tells us not to judge anybody and then wisdom needs! That is right but you also must understand that there are women who meet abusive men! A woman who meet an abusive men cannot "draw" a prince out of him! You need to understand that women has it different from each other not all the same! If you tell women who have abusive husbands as some have you cannot speak like that! Otherwise if not an abusive husband you are right in what you say!
Only a man who was shamed by a mother who lived under the law of condemnation and death would be with some lady who shames them. The man who was abused, traumatized, from dysfunction needs to heal so he can take his place as the leader.
Amen
Lisa Bevere is spot on. Women need to be respectful to the man in their lives. A man needs to feel affirmation from the woman in his life.
Not any man, not fools. What is communicated is subtle, not a generic message applicable to all men and women.
I tell you I came from a long line of women esp my mother that assaulted cursed and belittle all the men in their life. I struggle with this as it’s a learned behavior. I really really have prayed my entire life in this area. God bless women who have this gift. My mother has never learned how to control her mind or mouth and it don’t want to be like this.
May the Lord bless you and I both in this regard, sister. Amen 🙏
Same 🫂
I identify with this so much 🙏
Women need LOVE from their HUSBAND like they need oxygen
Men need RESPECT like they need oxygen. Speaking for myself, if my wife says one word in the wrong tone, I shut down. I can’t breathe. Went to therapy costing 100$ per hour over this.
Praying for all you and the wisdom only God can give in this area.
I was involved to a woman once who (all along with all the other women on her mother's side of her family) lived to destroy the men they claimed to love: dads, uncles, brothers, husbands, nephews, sons......
I want to be that Godly woman. I want to draw out the righteousness and nobility in my husband. I want to speak to the prince in him. God help me to do this 🙏
When I heard you say this the first time… (in lioness arising I think?). I didn’t quite understand/believe it. But slowly I began to see this was a problem in my marriage. We were in shambles and I was praying for step by step directions and this advice came back to me. I began using it daily. That was 8 years ago. We have an incredibly happy marriage and now I talk to other wives about this. I like to say… Don’t call him out… Call him up. Speaking life into my husband and reminding him of his strength and identity has become such a sweet part of our marriage.
I love love this, call him up not out. BUT how? I am a woman who was abused and abandoned in the past and learned to do it all myself. I am repenting of these actions of "mothering" and disappointment in my second marriage, but I need to learn. Do you have an example of what it means to call him up? I welcome ANYONE to help me see how to do this.
@@karenbryan7100Hi Karen.
Nancy DeMoss Walgamuth (sp?) has a radio program called, "Revive Our Hearts" mainly for women. She has a lot of resources. One thing she says to try is taking the 30 Day Challenge.. For 30 days, only say positive things to your husband. Encourage, compliment & smile. Also, Lisa Bevere (in this video) has resources. Let the Joy of the Lord, be your strength!!!! ❤ For Ever!!
Being tactful and using your words wisely can de-esculate situations
Lord give me wisdom
Same, same. Amen❤
Lord help me speak wisely with love and kindness.
Wise Godly woman are a blessing to men❤❤❤🙏🙏
Please pray for me that I would have wisdom to know how to speak to my husband.
And so it is according to your faith in Jesus name. Bless you sweetheart, Holy Spirit is faithful to walk this out with you. I pray sensitivity to His voice, His leading with the evidence of healthy fruit in both of your lives.
@Hummmingalong I ask and and pray that for myself also
Help me Lord
How beautiful and commendable it is when a woman says her words with gentleness, humility, patience, forbearance, and respect. When her words speak the truth in love it heals, encourages, refines, and builds a man.
We men need your compassion. We need you and your kindness. When difficulty strikes a man down. The battle becomes even harder for a man when his beloved woman is fisting on him with tearing words. A man's trust in his opposite sex has come to blandness when that happens. Fear and doubt began to invade until it stings his manhood.
*1 Samuel **25:23**-24 NLT*
*When Abigail saw David, she quickly got off her donkey and bowed low before him. [24] She fell at his feet and said, "I accept all blame in this matter, my lord. Please listen to what I have to say.*
She had serious deescalation skills.
🇨🇦
in other translations it says she asked for pardon, but not accepting blame. She wasn't to blame, they obviously knew that. She was pleading on behalf of others. Of course, de-escalating skills.
You start doing that now a days and you’ll be used as a door mat
She was playing the games men like, stroking his ego, nothing Christian or Godly about that
@@joyc9323 that's interesting. She acknowledged the arrogance men can have and it's not a good thing, something she didn't want to put up with
@@monilove1174 no, not really. A lot of people can't see ahead and are impulsive today
God bless the wise woman! This is something my Grandmother taught me as a young girl. She said i would be his help mate and companion, never walking in front of him nor behind but by his side, do not tear him down but build him up and if there's an issue to discuss never ever do that in front of others but to always be supportive and meek in front of anyone else. Do not ever embarrass your husband in public or during family gatherings. I watched the love between my grandparents and that was always the kind of love and respect i wanted in my life, thankfully thats what i have with my teenage sweetheart who is now my second husband. Thank you Father for answered prayers.
Wisdom ❤
OHH SO GOOD!! SO TRUE!! THANK YOU
I needed this
The Holy Spirit one day while I was angry told me about Ephesians 4:29
I was immediately humbled ❤
Thank you for confirming ❤
Praising your man (rather than just critisizing him) 👨 makes him want to do more for you
❤❤❤🙏 Wisdom is the best way to go.
I need to hear more of this. Wow. God is faithful and true. He knows what we need and when. Amazing.
I love Abigail. She's so underrated.❤
Powerful
I often consider the story of the lionesses that brought their king, that was being released into a refuge, but was too fearful to come out of the cage. The lionesses brought their king food until he was prepared to step out into the open.
❤Lord grant me wisdom to build up my house, family and marriage…wisdom in all things and daily life. 🙏🏻 amen.
Amen! Make me that woman
If you are insulting and hostile towards another person, let alone someone you’re supposed to love, it says volumes about who YOU are as a person.
Being intentional with your words while also respecting the other person displays good natured, loving and open to conversations that lead to repair.
All that other stuff is just dysfunctional toxicity that rots your soul and traumatizes children.
Very true but everyone doesn't have the same upbringing. Once you know better now make sure those coming behind you don't have to be subject to it.
Amen help me to be a wise women with my words especially when speaking to men in Jesus name amen
Opposite here….. I grew up hearing my dad belittle my mom in front of people and watched my mom always build my dad up and show him respect, waited on him like a maid and still does..I always said I would never be married to a man like that or let a man verbally abuse me… but guess what? I’ve lived in this same kinda mess for 19 years but I don’t always cower down like I’ve watched my mom do for 61 years.. although I do pray over him try calling out the best in him I’ve seen small changes in him over these years but I’ve also suffered from anxiety from the verbal attacks and tried counseling for myself for a while he won’t go… so it’s like what do you do??? I pray, I speak life sometimes I do let my flesh rise up to defend myself, then I repent and keep trying.. please pray for me….
Very sound wisdom and counsel from God always comes from You woman of God ❤
Wow, Thank you, Lisa!
Wise women fesr the Lord. Thats what i hear the Lord saying. The beginning of God's wisdom is to fear the Lord.
Thank you 😊 preparing the next generation ❤
I want to be a wise woman. ❤️
Me too
I learned this with my ex bf. My husband now (not the ex bf) knows i respect him because I never try correct him in front of others.
Absolutely! Wise women pray and build up their families.
Thank you sister for teaching us
Very good teaching
Thank you so much for talking about this. This video just popped up in my feed and it’s something I needed to hear. Thank you sister! May God continue blessing you. ❤
You are a treasure to the body of Christ!❤ Such a good word!
Husbands need to speak kindly to their wives too
Amen!❤
Wow. It is amazing how things work together in God... I am currently reading a book coauthored by Elizabeth Adams and Diana Wallis Taylor "PURSUED BY A KING ABIGAILS STORY" a Guideposts publication, and I just finished reading that particular chapter...and the book follows the biblical account. 😊
A full teaching on this would be great. I struggle with communication on a good day. On a bad day.... let just say I could do better.
Amen. I am a wise woman who speaks to and draws out the nobility of my husband and the men in my life. 🙏🏾
Teach me❤
That's a good word right there!
I needed this so thank you.
Amen 🙏
Praise may help create ✨️ the man/partner you want as EVERYONE needs praise encouragement
Thank you 🙏
Thankyou for bringing this to everyone's attention, especially younger women & girls.
This is discussed too infrequently ,my mother hinted ar this.
Lisa your hair looks lovely
Teach me lord i wanna build my man up
AMEN
❤ Amen!
First time for me to hear of this Christian sister and watch her video.🙏🙏🙏✝️❤️❤️❤️
❤❤
Thank you
Build up our men, don't tear them down!
How do you build a man who is always gate keeping you and tearing you down?
Who is happy when you give into whatever he wants even when it hurts you but won't step up when you need him to pour into you?
Thank you for this reminder. Sometimes we get off track in life but I’m back on track and thankfully I’ve never spoke to my partner in a foolish way in front of people, but I needed to be reminded of the power of wisdom and the power I have inside of me. Sweet hugs and thank you
Love this ❤
❤
Thank You.❤
Lisa, you’re so beautiful. But it’s an inward beauty that just seems to be expressed outwardly. You look like your life experiences have made you perfect. I just enjoy looking at you❤️
love it-:)
So good!! Amen. I needed this. ❤🙏🏻
Sooooo good
key word "Wise".
4sure❤
Off topic but you are beautiful sister! God bless you 🙏🏼🙌🏽🤍
Ok goosebumps
Amen Father give me wisdom to know when to speak and when to be silent and talk from a quiet heart and Spirit of Christ in me 🙇🏻♀️⭐️❤️🙏🇮🇱🕊
Yes. Amen!! I prayed this same prayer today. Amen
That's good. ❤
Amen so good 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥
This is so good ! Thank you for speaking truth over us.
❤🎉
She always brings a powerful word. Not easy to do. We want to feel loved and secure and when we think our husbands may do something unwise we may want to gain control and do things in what ends up to be a detrimental way. I know from experience. BUT God wants us to believe in our husbands and call forth by faith what we may not see yet. Many times they rise to the occasion because they do want what's right. Andnus wives can be a catalyst for bringing out the best in them.
Can you add the Related Video so we can watch the long version. Love it!
There is a Difference in Bringing Ideas to the Surface for Consideration, HONESTLY! Or, Dishonestly trying to Manipulate to Do Your Will! This is what you call UNITY -A GOOD PARTNER!
Like the Line in the Movie: “The Big, Fat Greek Wedding… “The WIFE Turns the Husband’s Head,” to Notice Certain Things!💕
So good!
Wisdom is what speaks best not just intelligence
Thank you for changing me Lord❤
This is so powerful! Thank you for the reminder. I needed this today!
I really hope this becomes a book!! PLEASE Lisa write on this subject! I desperately need this help and guidance I mess up CONSTANTLY in this area 😢❤❤❤
@@carriemartin6444 hey! Thanks so much for this!! I’ll have a look for that now! God bless you 😘💗💗💗
Ask The Holy Spirit to teach you. HE'S the best teacher💖
@@jemimamanuel I agree 🤗😊, thank you for this xxx
@@carriemartin6444hi there may I please ask who is the author
Me too I've always turned my words into weapons when I've been hurt and offended
Sounds respectful, in the middle of resolving.
Be not deceived whatsoever a man sows that shall he also reap.
If we sow contempt, control, anger, bitterness.
Good chance our lives will be miserable reviewing contempt, bitterness, anger not being controlled?
I’d rather speak to a prince!!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🔥🔥 this is a awesome word! I receive!
There are so few older women teaching young women thank you im gonna be looking for you
Thank you Lord for your wisdom! I always hated to see how men were treated so disrespectfully by women so when I got married I decided I wasn't going to be one of those. 20 years later my husband and I have a very loving and respectful relationship. Thank you Jesus!
There's a prince in every man❤
Amen. Treat with honor and respect, you receive honor and respect. This is how it has been in my home . You have the King Yeshua in your heart, Yeshua spills out into your man’s heart. Great words Lisa.😊
“Speak to the nobility of a man…” 🤔 powerful stuff.
Saying please & thankyou, sometimes we take our partners for granted
Actually it sounds good to be respectful and appeal to the good in him.
It’s very hard to do, but 40 years on, it’s worth the effort.
Do you have any advice for younger women trying to learn this?
@@liveve9499 The biggest thing we do is make concessions. Each person brings their own baggage to the relationship. No one person is always right, always perfect. We know each other well and play to one another’s strengths. My husband is wonderful at anything hands on. I am better at the budget and bills. I’m a neatnic and he’s a slob. If it’s not in its place I’m lost, he can find anything in a mess and knows where it is. That used to make me a bit nuts and it caused many an argument. Now, he is neater for me and I’m more patient with him. Believe me, he has the patience of Job and it is easier to allow his mess in small doses than an argument that does neither any good. He knows how to get under my skin, and I know how to get under his, but that would be disastrous so we make sure to be our better selves when the other isn’t. It seems like it’s not that big a deal, but I get annoyed at the little thing, he doesn’t. He gets frustrated at the things that are mechanical or something else he’s trying to work out, so I give him the leeway to get it out of his system and if too frustrated, I tell him to walk away and get a drink or eat a snack or do some thing else. In the time it takes him to do that, he’s figured it out and is fine.
Then there’s the quirks we have that can irritate the other. (Baggage) and that we walk away from as often as possible. Don’t get me wrong, we still have disagreements, but we know the other is going to be there when it’s important, so we try not to go to bed angry. It’s work, but it’s worth it. Sometimes I think society just gives up too easily. If you argue and still love him/her, it’s worth fixing.
@@liveve9499, Just As You Would, Any Other Bad Habits!
#1) Exchange Such Bad Habits, Like You Would A Bad Pair Of Ugly Painful Shoes! Exchange Them For The New Good Positive Behaviors, And Habits!
#2) Renew Yourself, Taking Time, Like Prayer Quiet Time! Journaling Of Positivity And Reciting Your Renewed And Invigorating Scripts Of: Strength, Love, Joy, Peace, Etc!
#3) Put On The Whole Armor Of GOD As In: Ephesians 6 (KJV)! For When The Evil One, Or His Minions, Come To Hinder Your Progress Via Thoughts Of: Hate, Rage, Mayhem, Etc! Cast Them Out, Rebuke Them, Bind Them In Holy Chains, Sending Them To Hell To Be Locked In Their Cells, In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen!
GOD Bless,
Pa-Pow, Amen!
😎 🙉🙈🙊 🇺🇸
Book called, Created to be His Help Meet was given to me when I was young. Saved my marriage learning this early.
I would love examples! ❤
Lord Jesus I need to know how to be a wise woman
Beautifully said Sister and I absolutely agree 🙌🏼🔥❤️
We are not called to put anyone on shame! The Bible tells us not to judge anybody and then wisdom needs! That is right but you also must understand that there are women who meet abusive men! A woman who meet an abusive men cannot "draw" a prince out of him! You need to understand that women has it different from each other not all the same! If you tell women who have abusive husbands as some have you cannot speak like that! Otherwise if not an abusive husband you are right in what you say!
Only a man who was shamed by a mother who lived under the law of condemnation and death would be with some lady who shames them. The man who was abused, traumatized, from dysfunction needs to heal so he can take his place as the leader.
So so true!
This is so incredible, honestly wish more ppl talked about this
Powerful!🔥