So you're idea is to give your annoying neighbor your number? That's not bad if they are decent people but if they are jerks then you're not going to enjoy the next few months.
Yes, the point is the decent people comment you made. in our heads we think out of 100 there are only 5 good people but it might be more like 90. That said, you have to use your judgement to make sure they are not a lost cause...and even more so that they are not a threat to make things worse. So please be careful as you think about what to do. The wording of any note should really be studied several times before you give it to think about how that specific person might read it, not simply what we want to say. or if you have the gift of gab no note is needed just a conversation or two. if you end up taking action please come back and comment how it goes.
Hear, hear, brother! I'm currently living next door to people who use their backyard as a car repair shop and blast loud music while drunk screaming on the weekends. Good times-- for them.
Actually, going to the wilderness is not a bad idea (esp for a person who does not like noise)...............Getting away from idiots and the noise caused by human activity.
It can be so tough to be nice, but it will take you a lot of good places if you build that skill. We just hate that anyone has to be uncomfortable where they live. Thanks for sharing your experience even if it's not a good one at the moment.
Problem with telling them they are annoying you is that, afterwards when they CONTINUE to do it...and even get worse, you now are aware that they are doing it ON PURPOSE, just to annoy you. That feels 100 times worse than just thinking they are unknowingly loud. Jerk neighbors get some sort of sadistic pleasure from being obnoxiously loud. I guarantee that in MOST cases, they will increase the noise after you talk to them. One way of knowing whether you can approach them is when you meet them, do they make eye contact or say hello as if they are totally unaware? If they do, they may well be worth approaching. But people who play music loud or shout all the time, likely ALREADY know they are loud but they just don't care.
Spot on. The nightmare neighbor is below me. Life is miserable with this vibe in my home. I'm walking on eggshells and they are as loud as they want. It is insane.
@@Dragonfly_vbz somehow below is abit betterr than upper ones but still some ppl whi has no consideration hopefully they get karma.. jst like my neighbors i mean not blaming all to then as mybe our building is old so the soundproof insulation”if there is” is now abit useless, i told my previous neighbor if u guys wna have olympic in ur house its fine do wat u wna do “just make sure u dont bother other ppl or live in a single detached house” fkng ppl
just reading all the comments in this section sometimes i try to think its not really my upstairs fault cos the management ses its thin walls floor n ceiling, but tbh some ppl are jst fkng no consideration they feel when they bought a condominium means they bought the whole building this fkng ppl deserves to get covid n no recovery u then we all see u next life, we dont need this fkng trash kind of ppl.
My neighbors summed up. For 1 whole year they blast music. My families beds rattle and we are mentally not good. We always ask them nicely to turn it down. They do that and the next day the music is blasting again. Another problem is that they are always drunk. I always see a big empty box of Corona beer for the trash from them. So they remember what we said and then they get drunk and forget about everything. We just have no way to connect with them.
After 2 years of my downstairs neighbors deciding to let their kids scream,run,bang , and slam things at all times of day and night I’m moving. I called the police and nothing was done. My landlord acts scared of them . For my mental health I’ve gotta go before I catch a case.
I am having the same situation and I feel like I am going to lose my mind. There are 4 people downstairs (2 adults and 2 kids) in a one bedroom and there kids are so noisy. I hope that you found a quieter place ,as I am looking for myself to move for my sanity
@@aprilb.7200did you move out? Im going through the same situation but I’m latinoamerica which is even worse (no bulding regulations or police to call)
All these comments saying: just move! move to an upstairs unit! Without bothering to consider that many of us are disabled & HAVE TO live on the ground floor.
Then you live downstairs and accept that there WILL be noise above you. You can't expect people not to walk in their apartment. That's the suffering of a downstairs resident. There is always another option with no 2nd story buildings.
See I've had issues with neighbors before, so that's why on my very first day moving in to my current apartment I made a point to introduce myself to the downstairs neighbor, strike up a friendly conversation, and made myself available and approachable in the future. This is the same neighbor that starts slamming their doors over and over and over again from 10pm until sometimes up until 2am. Sometimes people are just dicks by nature.
@djhdhdhdhd if your neighbors are anything like mine then go for it , you have my blessing ! I found bands like Megadeth, King Parrot and Job for a Cowboy had the best effect on them. Dimmu Borgir also had a positively negative neighborly effect when turned up f*cken loud !
HYPNOTIZE yourself to the slams. Associate slams with good feelings. You, like most people, associate slams as something bad and it can be, if you THINK it is. When you think it is bad, those slams will get on your last nerves.....so you have to REVERSE your thinking.
They're just trying to get back at you thinking they're keeping you awake. More than likely, it doesn't bother you as much as the noise you make bothers them. Shit rolls down hill.
This won't work w/parents that refuse to teach their kids to be considerate of others; refuse to teach their kids the difference between indoor & outdoor activities & why...💁♀️
@@sohamjoshi9527 When we were upstairs tenants, my kids heard and understood to be considerate. It’s not hard if the parents actually parent and not let their kids run rampant. If that’s the case, get a downstairs apartment or rent a house. It’s called parenting.
Those kids grow up to be bullies and assholes and become a detriment to society as they learn from their deplorable parents that treating people with respect isn't needed.
It's not about who lives upstairs, but what kind of downstairs neighbor you're going to be. The kind that lives downstairs & doesn't want ANY noise from the neighbors living in their attic...err I mean upstairs above them? Or the kind that KNOWS you're moving in downstairs of a 2 or 3 story apt building built years ago & you accept that there ARE people above that YOU WILL HEAR SIMPLY WALKING!?
Complaints won't work. Do you know how I taught the neighbors who listened to loud music at night? They usually sleep during the day, so I turned on the music loud and left for work. They couldn't sleep all day long. And it actually worked out well 😂 They no longer listen to music at night 😅
And then they call the landlord and complain about YOU. My neighbors dog rampages at night when I try to go to sleep. I banged on wall one night, at 9, and she reported me to landlord. I have complained to landlord 6 times and no change. I have 50 pages of notes front and back of this dog’s noise!
As a last resort we blasted the music on our ceiling. The mom wasn't impressed as she was snarly when we passed her in the hall. She feels entitled to make noise during the day; her daughter deserves to be able to stomp dance when she wants. Stomp, stomp, stomp. And it's her now too... it seems when she housecleans, she's decided to stomp more herself. Pretty sad excuse for a human being. I'm in the process of seeing if management could intervene. It's our last resort short of bringing the speakers into the bedroom ceiling, their floor.
@@donnadye4026call animal control or whoever deals with that where you live. Say she never walks it and you think its neglected and thats why its barking
@@aannddrryyaagood luck! You chose to live downstairs which means you signed up for the noise KNOWING there would be people living in your attic, err, floor above you. Deal with it or pick to live above someone with no 1 above you! It's great!
My neighbors chickens and roosters are so annoying.. Idk what the hell I should do, I told them 2 times and it's still annoying me and I can't live in peace and sleep because of these neighbors chickens and roosters...
I live under someone who takes t-rex steps so loud I can know exactly where they are in their apartment at all times. Then the apartment right next to my room has this young immature college couple renting a room together and they talk so loud all day up to 2 am every night. I already dislike people but I'm starting to hate them. They pay a fraction of what I have to pay since they only rent a room and I rented a whole apartment by myself specifically to get away from noise since I'm a student with adhd. I'm normally really quiet and think of others so I get so infuriated with how obnoxiously self centered people can be.
Ethan, buddy. We are wayy beyond this. What if they are trash degenerates who don’t know how to parent their children? At the point of desperation trying to get them out. The whole phone number thing is way back in the distance. Landlords and people in leasing offices need to do more for the good tenants of the world. Otherwise you have the good people moving out while the bad ones just stick around like cockroaches.
Lol I’ve been hearing loud ass fireworks every night for like a week due to 4th of July coming up. I’m nervous to talk to my neighbors but this encouraged me to do it
my neighbors play incredibly loud music at random times of the day. anywhere from 9:00 am to 2:00 am. you never when it will start. up to 6 carloads of their friends will show up with booze and pile into a small apartment. tried talking about it nicely. tried landlord. they toned it down a tiny bit, but not much. some people are just inconsiderate scumbags. period
So then what did you do? Get it recorded, audio, pictures, video, tell the landlord again, take notes, call the cops. If they're gonna encroach on your right to live in peace, they're giving you the right to encroach on theirs. When they get annoyed, they'll think about not annoying people.
Dealing with this right now...ugh. Neighbors' children literally jumping, pounding on walls/floor all day as if they're the only ones who live in the complex. Have sent complaints and videos to property management. They do the bare minimum bc they don't want to kick anyone out or let me leave. They just want the units rented - all they care about is the money and not having to spend time looking for more tenants. What I learned and suggest for others for the next rental: Negotiate/look for a 6 month lease or short term and ask for agreement to specify "nuisances". If a landlord wants you as a long term/reliable/no drama tenant, then sign a lease on your terms. If they don't want to, then they can deal with unreliable and inconsiderate tenants. I've done my best to find a peaceful resolution, but at this point I'd rather take my business elsewhere.
Update: I've made two confidential police check-up complaints. The first time they showed up to the neighbors home, they quieted down. But the next day, they started again with more noise. I guess they were upset and were just being vindictive. So another call was made, and the police showed up again. I think they were either given some type of warning or felt embarrassed because ever since then, it's gotten a lot quieter. There is still noise, but not like before; it doesn't last long and nights are quiet.
@@mauricioguzman.8809 another person who complains about kids living there lives if all u can afford is a shitty downstairs apartment that’s what u are gonna get
@@crxtyzz6872 agree, these people are insane... they should move to wilderness if they need quiet , not in a city apartment with people living nextdoor... and then they call cops .. there is a place in hell for these people.
I tried to have a nice face to face like this with my downstairs neighbor and she yelled at me, cursed at me, and told me I was being inconsiderate of her living her own life. Guess you can't win with people lol.
@@sachinnaidoo1559 Dude same here, there are 3 kids above me that always seem to be doing jump and jack. Tenants won't do anything about because they are kids and they're having fun.
lol I knocked on my noisy neighbors door and before I could say ANYTHING she yelled at me like crazy, things escalated and she attacked me. Court suite is in progress. AKA Be careful.
Won't work for me, I know better than to try talking to them, I called the landlord, to talk to them about it. not only did it not change but guy got me outside in the parking lot and yelled shit at me for a solid 15 minutes over it. Plus it won't work because the one making the noise is their idiot teenage delinquent son and there will not be any reasoning with that.
I've found certain people will just make even more noise if you tell them to tone it down. My neighbor had a habbit of stomping and tapping directly above my head. I asked him to stop, and he just did it even louder. I understand people don't like being told what to do, but you're part of a community where you have to be aware of how you impact others.
Nothing solves problems better than breaking a foot or an arm when they don’t listen after making numerous complaints. See people get things twisted and think that nobody will do that. Little do they know there are many that REFUSE to pay rent and deal with animals.😤 most I’ve done was two months in jail for it. Make sure you have three complaints before the foot “accident”
@funguy101986 true story man. Why can’t we all just have respect? I love loud music,but I wait till I’m in my car AND on the expressway before cranking it up. It’s not hard to not walk like you’re from the jungle. Just saying. I’d rather keep both my feet in working condition.🤷♂️
Are u serious ... I listened to your video for 4 minutes before u shared your 'amazing' suggestion (to send a note). 1. Why blab on for four pointless minutes, and 2. Dude, u got lucky, not everyone has reasonable people around them.
i wish my building manager had these interpersonal problem-solving skills!!!! brilliant caring energy and helpful input. love it! you make your tenants' lives better!
What's funny is my upstair neighbors wrote me a note asking about the beep of a fire alarm, if I can turn it off. It pissed me off cause they just moved in but I did it. But, they are the loudest, yelling, drama filled, walking, can hear when they go to restroom, get on bed, talking neighbors ever! Building sucks so I am screwed. So if we are loud they just gotta deal cause we deal with their crap all the time....sorry gotta vent lol
Thank you, this is good for venting if nothing else. Sometimes you get lucky with an apartment sometimes you don't. Earplugs to sleep are something that take getting used to but it is worth the sleep.
My issue is with my neighbors downstairs. I don't like being that cranky neighbor but there should be NO reason that you have a party at 2 in the morning with blasting music and shouting. Like I know it may be a Saturday but some of us work on weekends. Not only that but they smoke weed, I'm not even going to bring that up to my leasing office since I don't want to get them in trouble for that. I know that I have responsibilities in being an upstairs neighbor like no walking around loudly at night, no loud tv or music, etc. I'm honestly stumped on what to do. Our state is about to go on lockdown and I feel like this is going to challenge my sanity.
I feel for you but I have 2 neighbors that are ass holes for no reason at all. My up stairs neighbor doesn't have anything in her apartment and she doesn't have a job or a car she have a bad daughter that looks like she needs to be in school. She follows me around the house 27 like I have no privacy at all I could leave and go to work around 2pm and she will follow me around until I walk out the door and I dont come back home until 11pm or 12 she stands by the door that whole time waiting on me to come back. She waits up just so she can hear me take a shower and watch TV. And around 9am sometimes I will get sometimes not because im still sleepy I would hear her get on the floor and listen to me sleep and everytime she does it I wake up because I can feel her energy. If she doesn't hear me snoring anymore she gets up fast and runs off. Then comes back with something heavy and drop it over my head and if she doesn't hear my bed because it makes up a noise she would go and get a vacuum and leave it in one spot for 25min to try and wake me. Mind you I was already up because I felt her listening to me sleep then she turns that off and start stomping in place and she will have her daughter do the same. Then she will go get a hammer and start hitting the floor hard like by that I time I already got out of bed and was in the bathroom she didn't know it. Then she comes back in and starts dropping stuff then I flush the toilet they come running out the room into the bathroom hitting the walls and stomping. I walk out the bathroom and go to the kitchen they listen on all the walls to try and find me just to stomp over my head. So I turn on the TV they are quite and sit in the area where its at and listen to what im listening to so I turn it down so they can't hear. She gets angry and start stomping so I turn the TV off and watch it on my phone with headphones I get up to use the bathroom I hear her go behind the toilet to listen to me use the toilet. Then I had enough and leave i come back she does the same thing when its time for me to take a shower she either follows me to the bathroom or she goes to that laundry room and listen to the water heater because it makes a noise where if water is running it will make a noise. So now when I take a shower I have to turn out the lights because I feel like she is watching me. I turn on the bathroom fan I turn on my box fan and put it on the wall the in turn on the dishwasher then I turn on three washer and dryer just to take a shower so she can't hear me. Then I turn everything off she then waits for 30mins to come in the room stomping so it will be hard to go to sleep and she would sometimes have her daughter listen to me if she on the phone and her daughter do the same stuff she do. My 2 neighbor next door blast her music for hours one time she had her music on for a month straight and didn't turn it off I was sleep Sleep deprived to I called the cops this lady had a cop monitor in her house so she knew when the cops would come and she would turn it off. Until they came so my upstairs neighbors is dumb ass hell she calls the cops on us because she thinks we are playing loud music when its not us that because she listen on are walls way to much. So that neighbor moved out well my up stairs neighbor have and upstairs neighbors. They are sick of her also so they turn on music and again my neighbor thought it was us and started being real ugly she would take stuff and drop she would walk around in high heels stomping and she would take a hammer hitting stuff. I believe she know it wasn't us she just waited to be a bitch and do it. Im just sick and tired of this woman and I really wanna beat the shit out of her but I know she would call the cops and I would go to jail. I keep saying to anyone you might wanna becareful on what you do to people because you might get someone who's crazy and or had enough of life and would actually do something bad to you. I had neighbor before he had enough of life and shot and killed his neighbors his upstairs neighbors and the other upstairs neighbors then he killed his self. It was another couple in New York they have been going at it for years because music was to loud the couple had enough and killed the neighbors and who ever else was in that house. So my thing is if you have the money then move if not try and save or deal with it until your lease is up then move and find something that have concrete walls and floors.
@@Lovelyp33 I going through the exact same thing with my upstairs neighbor. I was reading your comments and thought I wrote it myself. My upstairs neighbor is a female 26 years older and is a schizophrenic. She has other family members in her apartment. I think she works part time but there’s always someone in her apartment. I work at night when I come home in the morning they waiting at her door in her apartment to hear my apartment door close to follow me around. I moved in my at first few months later she moved in and been bothering my apartment from the at she moved in until now. Like you said I get revenge on her somehow I found she sensitive to all sounds!! I have surround sound system in my living room and my bedroom. I make sure I play movies that makes her run scared. I auto tone shows to come on while I’m at work to scare her. I have a Halloween toy she scared of I chase her around with it. That’s what she get for listening to my apartment and following me around. I wait for her to follow in the bathroom than I hit the scary to she runs out!! I wait fir her to follow me to my bedroom than I play gunfire on the tv. She scared of the garbage truck when it comes and dump out dumpster. She afraid of thunder and lightning she afraid of fireworks. In order for them to hear our footsteps she has to make her apartment quiet. I say you wanna hear something I get her ass back all day every day. She also follows me around so I can hear her stomp but I don’t respond to anything she does. My daughter said let her follow you around she the one look stupid and bored!!
F that call the cops. I had a neighbor who had there dogs outside braking. Tenant A and I warn him about the noise. I get off work at 1am. He agreed He and he puts the dogs back in side the house. After a few days its right back to the same old B.S. The dogs were loud af. And went on for yrs. Told the landlord. Nothing got done. I finally got feed up when one of the dogs got really sick. And you literally hear the pain of kettle cough coming from the dog. During that time I had a major operation. I needed peace. And I was feed up. I called the cops anonymously. And because he doesn't work a 9 to 5. he didn't too blow up he's spot. If you know what I mean. Ever since then he's been taking better care of his dogs and no more barking. He's pissed, and assuming that it was either me or tenant A. Either way I don't care. If I have to loose a neighbor just for the sake of peace and quiet and better care of those dogs. Then so be it. Bottom line don't confront them my mistake. Just call the dam cops. That's your tax money at work.
I’m glad that work for you. I’m 67 work 12 hour days. Neighbors are young foreigners and don’t respect me. I tried being friendly. They play music before 9:30 am in morning. It’s a multitude of different kinds of noise.
As human beings it wouldn't hurt for us all to be considerate of one another. That takes time and effort. I also think that management should take responsibility. This is why I don't like when families argue and shout and not place mats on the floor for the kids to play. Dysfunctional households.
It worked with you, but usually it does not work. My neighbor said it would work out, and got worse. They only improved after countless police at their door. Manager calling them many times, until one day they got all quite for 2 years, from hell to heaven. So they know how to be quite. I believe the manager said to them: "it's the last straw, change or you are out". Manager has more power than the police. Because the police got tired coming here and also embarrassing, because one day the police told me, this problem is because of your manager. This problem is management issue. They improved, but they have relapses and I have to complain again, the continuous bang, bang, stomp for hours. I don't know how somebody can hit the floor every 2 minutes for 3 hours, don't you break your feet and legs, don't you brake your hand? don't you get tired of marching in circle in the floor. Can you sit down for a minute? or did they made, programme a device to hit the floor every 2 minutes for hours. pah, pah, pah, tum, tum, tum, tum.....I even thought, the guy is sitting and bouncing in his chair and hitting the feet of the chair. but don't you brake your feet, moron? it's crazy. I wish the worse to my evil neighbor. Why karma takes so long to act. Why do you think rich people leaves miles away from another neighbor.
I can't understand why some people are inconsiderate of others and it seems to be more prevalent nowdays I bought a house our the country so now I'm at peace .
@@HOAexposed well I used to live in an apt and I had real noisy neighbors and I bought a white noise machine and macks ear plugs. That did help a little bit. I hope you find peace.
Isn't it the responsibility of the management office to immediately act as the mediator and handle the situation and stop the noisy person's activities or evict them? The responsibility should never be put on the tenant to confront the noisy neighbor themselves. That's just asking for an even worse situation.
I have new tenants that moved in above me and they have a dog as well. For the past week they have been dropping things on the floor and it literally sounds like an earthquake and other times it sounds like their constantly moving furniture. To top it off their dog as well drops things on the floor and sometimes it last all night long. The management company really doesn’t care and all they do is send out emails that people don’t pay attention to and even the police don’t even do their job and be stern with the tenants when they front them, making them think as if it’s not a big deal then I’m left to just deal with it as if I don’t pay my rent and should have a right to quiet enjoyment. I understand that the floors are weak but excessively dropping things on the floor and pets can be controlled
You sound like a real pleasure to live next to. It's a multiple family dwelling, what do you expect? Want peace and quiet with no noise, move to the country. Stop being a curmudgeon.
The hell did you go being conversational to him? You should have gave him a note about the rules of curfew and if he still gave you issues bypass the landlord and just call the cops on them. My area doesn't have nice neighbors
Why don’t landlords require rugs with rug padding? Also please ask upstairs neighbors to not wear heavy shoes or heels while walking back and forth. My upstairs neighbor drops things on the hardwood floor over our bedroom after midnight and stomps back and forth. Every night. She’s a heavy walker. We tried to talk to her. But she can’t see that she’s doing anything wrong. I get it, I’ve been rude before and didn’t understand that I was in the wrong until much later when a similar thing happened to me. But I also think that landlords have some responsibility in the situation. Don’t put rude young people upstairs. Demand that upstairs tenants get 80% rugs with rug padding covering hardwood floors. Also make sure your buildings are maintained. If there is no insulation between floors, do something about that.
Yeah, well, my building has very plush, cushioned carpet and it still doesn’t stop ThunderThighs and her dog from pacing back and forth and dropping things as the pictures in my wall shake.
@@kattpurrson God it's been a nightmare for me too...I wake up early every morning the same time the neighbour does, since elephant foot tramples right above my bedroom. I was told nothing can be done...I can't afford to move either.
@@kay9156 Hi Kay- I was told the same. However, my apt management suddenly paid attention when I left very negative reviews online about my community and contacted corporate, detailing my whole nightmare. New management was brought in shortly afterwards and they asked what was going on. I had recorded what I was hearing daily using a fairly inexpensive microphone from Amazon and played HOURS for them. Wouldn’t leave the office until I was satisfied. Then I had them come over every time the Clydesdale paced for more than 1 hour. Every. Single. Time. Even if I had to say it was about something else. If I was going to have to live with it, so would they. Since she paced for 5 to 16 hours a day, it was easy to point out. I figured they would eventually get sick of it and cut me loose or boot them out…either way was a win. In the end, they tossed the neighbors by not giving them a choice to renew their lease. Place is decent to live in now.
@@kattpurrson Wow that is awesome! I'm really happy for you, you were so determined to show them that you documented and followed through with everything. Amazing work, thank you for sharing this! 😁
@@PlantNerdLady Maybe it's not only the floors....do the cabinets and drawers make noise too? Some of you don't realize if the floor is making noise so is everything else! Some of you bang your cabinets hard without a care. I feel more for the "bitches below".
You're the asshole for signing up to live downstairs, duh! Try living upstairs with no 1 above you. That's what I had to do to not hear anyone above me. Logic.
Aww that’s so sweet! I texted my neighbor and was as understanding as possible and talk in person made sure my tone was level headed. They don’t care. They noise is getting worse. I’m thinking of talking to them again. Just don’t want tension. They REALLY DONT CARE and that bothers me!
My neighbor is constantly slamming doors and in and out of his apartment 2-44 times every hour. This has taught me to NEVER rent an apartment that is a townhome style and to look at the space width/feet between front doors (because although my apartment is 720 sq/ft, in reality it is just 360 sq ft per floor, and also the front door is only 12 inches away from his front door. He made living in my apartment during COVID a bad experience, and sadly I am still dealing with him. Yes the apartment looks nice, but it is noisy and my neighbor is loud, which makes it worse!!!!!!! He stomps on the stairs and does not know how to shut a front door slowly so i'm always hearing door slams.
I don’t know where you’re from but in NYC, it’s a mixed bag. If your neighbor is a psychopath, giving your cellphone number to the wrong person can open you up to more trouble. It happened to me. I tried everything I possibly could with my neighbor and ended up having my life turn upside down.
Especially if you live in low income housing. Mental Illness and Drug Addiction can be commonplace and the Management will not get involved in situations in many cases whatsoever. You need to choose your battles wisely.
No , he is right and totally alright, you cannot imagine how things can get tricky in some flats and more in couple. Good after many times we tried to reach our neighbors in a gross way they came to us.. you can't expect the surprise. I felt awkward I needed to cry after that. Thank you for your video and bless you !
Rule number 1, never reveal your identity by confronting the assholes. They are already an assholes, confronting them wont make it stop. Find an authority, call the cops etc, call your marshalls, sheriffs, record everything... and the last case is sue them.
I put a boxing glove on top of broom and went to town! Can’t wait for Sunday morning! It’s 8:47 Saturday she’s been stomping since 5pm! Tonight at 3am it’s on!😅
Neighbors should be tested on compatibility before being paired with other neighbors. For example, if a neighbor has kids who they would say are hyperactive, then they shouldn't be placed on a higher floor. Especially neighbors with dogs. If they previously lived in a house, they should be placed on the bottom floor because people who migrate from houses to apartments are probably going to be some of the more noisy neighbors because they aren't used to living under anyone.
He wants you to become a chump, just go and knock like a beast and demand silence or else. And knock at all times, whenever you are bothered. If you can't live in peace, make sure they can't. And let them know why you're doing it and what will make you stop. If you let people play games with you, they will do this noise crap.
Your video assumes that 1. I haven’t already tried making a polite request for them to sop making noise and 2. They are the type of folks who react in a reasonable manner when approached with a reasonable request. My horrible neighbors told me that they can do whatever they want before 10:00 pm regardless of how much it disturbs my household. I understand that I have no legal recourse unless they are making noise past 10pm, but they are making my life miserable. I don deserve this. I’m not going to accept this as my reality. I don’t know what I’m going to do next. What I’m thinking of doing is buying a sound system that’s loud enough to damage ones hearing and aim it at them. If anyone has any suggestions which are more reasonable I’m open to hearing them.
Ethan love your optimism. But tried that. I went personally to welcome the neighbor and invited him in to show what the lease advises that all tenants must have 80% carpet. It took the tenant 3 months when he is suppose to have it in the first month. Granted I was understanding. Needless to say I was open, he neglected to let me know that its not just him but a family and with a toddler he let's loose to do whatever she pleases and stomp around running and dropping what sounds like dumb bells until midnight. I'm an accountant professional who deals with numbers I need sleep but ironically the last three families didn't get the hint even after your suggestion all three times. I've come to the point of not wanting kids after my experience bcuz I understand kids need place to play, go outside or better yet teach them a schedule and most kids I knew were asleep by 9pm. If this was the case it would out weight the stomping during the day. I'm happy for those this worked for. Ethan can u come to my apt and talk to my neighbors? 😁😂 maybe I will have better luck.
I did this with my next door neighbor back in Feb. Just lastnight, they played their music loud again, so if it continues tonight, I plan to go back over there and this time let then know that I will file a noise complaint next to the HOA! I don't have time to keep being nice, this crap is so annoying 😒 🙄 😤 😑
I wrote a note too! Put it on my knuckles and let my upstairs neighbor read it up close. Since then everything’s been copacetic. 👍🏼🇺🇸 Nice quaker advice dork.
I have been dealing with some passive aggressive upstairs neighbors who like to pound on the walls, do drilling and hammering at all times of the day and night. I have never retaliated in the same fashion. These people are ignorant and self absorbed as they do not realize there is a world outside their apartment they have to enter sometimes. I saw one of them today n front of the complex and he cowardly turned away and ran off. It is not wise to make enemies with strangers and feel like you have to watch your back not knowing what someone is capable of. If that is what you sign up for you have to deal with the consequences of your actions.
My neighbors across the street blast their car radios when they come home, they have those special people sound systems so everyone can hear them... I wrote a note and left it on their windshield saying "Some of us would like to ask you to not bump your beats at odd hours while some are sleeping, we understand some people come home odd hours but maybe turning it down before you enter the neighborhood would be cool, thanks" They started blasted it even longer and louder(slamming their car door and laughing also), so I bought a 10000 lumen spot light for my roof that is remote controlled and beamed their car as they did it, which didn't really stop them, they stopped after though I started blasting my new outdoor speakers directed at their home from 8am-9pm sun-thurs, and 8am-11pm fri/sat, local sound ordinances allowed this time frame. Gotta love Brittany and barbie girl to deal with my antics... which i assume they didn't as they didn't renew their lease and moved. All my other neighbors didnt complain about my music as they too were sick of the other people... Once they moved we threw a bbq and that was the last time i used those outdoor speakers.
The problem is, Ethan... these anecdotes you've shared are responses from normal people. In my case, I've already talked face-to-face to my neighbor and laid out exactly what the issue is and why I am complaining. At the time we have the conversation he seems like he's understanding and empathetic but in reality, he does NOT care and continues to be loud and is excessively noisy for 8 hours/day every weekend.This has gone on for almost 3 years. Any ideas on how I can resolve this type of issue with a narcissistic, alcoholic idiot? Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
Unfortunately, people who have no respect for their neighbors in apartments to begin with, most likely aren’t going to respond nicely to bringing issues to their attention. We just renewed our lease and of course the apt above us (that has been vacant the last several months) has new tenants. They are constantly stomping around all the time, making so much unnecessary noises & even vacuum after 10pm. It’s driving us nuts, but even more so our dog is barking when they are being extremely loud, which could disturb other neighbors. Part of the blame is on the way the apts were built, but a lot is on the people. They are on top floor, so maybe they just have no clue how loud they are being without neighbors above them?! What is a nice way of letting them know how much we here? I’ve tried to think of nice ways to mention it if we meet them, but most come across like I’m just being a b**** 😆 we did ask our leasing manager to send an email reminding 3rd floor tenants to be respectful of those in apt below them, but I doubt she will bother sending it.
crazylicious85 for all apartments it should be mandatory to put padding and carpet wall to wall because wood floors are annoying. Specially if there are kids and dogs
Your dog barks because your neighbors upstairs are loud? I mean maybe your neighbors are stomping because your dog is barking lol. My neighbors dog below me won’t stfu so I stomp on purpose.
@@Cjay819 lol um no when we lived in an apartment my dog never barked unless the upstairs neighbors were letting their kids stomp around, jump off beds, etc. even then my dog only barked when they were extra loud because he got used to the constant noise. I was always home with my dog, so I knew they weren’t stomping because of us/my dog. They were heavy footed & the building was poorly designed so that you could hear everything. We bought a house, so no more apartment 💩 to deal with!
This only works if the neighbour doesn't see niceness as weakness. I've had feral neighbours, it's best to make it quietly known that you aren't to be messed with. Maybe it's my ex teacher death stare , but I'm the only one in my block that the problem residents don't try it on with.
I have a noisy neighbor I want to kill...I never bothered to get a TV because I'd never be able to hear it anyway. Some animal species are protected by law because theres a shortage of them. They dont want them to become extinct.. Why are assholes protected by law..in fact they're protected all year round...is there a shortage of them?..are they about to be extinct?..whats so special about them?..why do we need more of them?..I dont understand that!! It's legal at animal shelters to murder dogs and cats if they dont get adopted, just because they dont have a home..but its illegal to shoot an asshole...the life of a dog and a cat is far more valuable than the life of an asshole.. At this very moment, my ceiling is going BOOM BOOM BOOM I hate the son of a bitch who lives above me.
I wrote a letter to a loud church beside me asking them not to be so loud in the night. I even ask them for a chance to sit and talk about the situation. They apologized, then the following friday night they held a concert from 8pm until 12:30 in the morning at full volume blast and called me a demon for asking them to turn it down.
I started to mow my lawn at night and it's right under the window where they sleep. It's a retirement community and grandma brought her daughter who doesn't work, to live in the garage with two wild kids and a Great Dane. We need our naps lol.😅🤣😂 Talking didn't work because I sold her the house and knew her for 20 years. Our friendship was destroyed over all the kids screaming and dog peeing and pooping all over. Absolutely no respect for our community. 😢 So I blame myself for thinking I did her a favor, never realizing she would take advantage of me and the other neighbors. 😠 😡
It is truly hard to correct those things after they've begun. But hopefully something good comes out of it. You're right, respect for the communities we all live in can be disrupted by just a small number of people neglecting it. Good luck with that difficult situation, and thank you for the comment.
I live upstairs and the downstairs neighbors are so insanely loud! Loud talking, yelling NOOOOOOOOOO constantly, these are studio apartments only 400 sq ft in size and there is an old lady, a lady in her 50s a younger girl in her 20's AND one screaming 2 year old and like a 5 year old girl. The lady and the 2 year old are beyond loud! i can even hear them WITH my headphones on! its just insane and at the moment, i cant move ive tried to tell the manager but nothing gets done.
Moonlight Knight hahahah I walk in socks the stupid b...ch upstairs can hair my steps and follows me and start throwing stuff on the floor so hard and then starts walking really hard and everything moves or shakes in my apartment!!!! She just to make her big dog run in the apartment and jumped I called management. They stop making the dog run but everything else remain the same. I hope she
Some neighbors r unhinged nitwits, I got one that I tried befriending for 2 years & she was 'eh!' So she gets a dog, her dog craps everywhere & I asked her nicely that it's messy & I offered her doggie doo bags. She takes it upon herself to allow the dog to shit more areas & blames other dogs. She dumps her dog shit into my trash bin, gets drunk & yells out random dumb crap directed at me across the alley, amongst other juvenile bs. I googled her, she has psyche issues & run ins with the law, along with her mother. I'm putting security cameras up, tired of her psycho bs.
That's awesome, Ethan. I'm glad that worked out for you. However, that being said, I have been awake all night because of a new tenant who moved in below me that snores so loud that he literally rumbles my floor. I've tried the civil way and that went nowhere. Going without sleep for so long, I'm now considering the nuclear option...like a makeshift bowling alley in my apartment.
That is true! And the neighbor of the resident at the other apartment building also didn’t lose their mind. Some people are slightly crazy or off their rocker..best to not involve them. The point is this, in reality people at a typical building may break down like this: 40% actually polite, will cooperate 20% no reply but slightly help, barely at all 15% be worse/hate/argue (careful language) 15% try to help but don’t change 10% crazy (leave alone) But in our MINDS, it feels like everyone is: 100% hate/argue/crazy If approached with mindfulness you have a chance of improving things, and it is worth a try. For the 25% that may be argue or crazy…. that’s up to you to identify from a distance before you intervene. Another valuable life skill. Note: surely very poor neighborhoods/government housing are surely much worse than those numbers above, which is sad and a different topic. This is more for apartments that are expensive enough to be decent but still accessible to working class folks. Thanks for watching enough to get the name of the guy. And good luck 🙏🏼
I bought a basketball 🏀 in hopes that would help. I call 311 and ask the concierge for help and nothing . I even wrote thank you notes when she’s quiet with nyfw invites and she’s back at her trash music bass rattling 😅
You people have no idea how it is during festivals in India its like 24/7 Loud crappy music through some crappy speakers it is unbearable. Hell of a place it is
My downstairs neighbor complains about me....I'm barely in my apartment and they had the audacity to change their wifi to please to don't stomp "room #".... I don't think I could walk more gingerly
Well this is my take on it. Apartments, unless those ceilings/floors are made of concrete you will hear foot traffic especially with wood floors. I am on the second floor of our complex and the neighbors have complained on me because apparently I walk too loud (I’m 170), they can hear the dogs footsteps (which is 30 pounds). I tried for many months to walk lightly after that complaint but what I’ve noticed is that everytime I vacuum the neighbors downstairs starts slamming their doors. So I stopped walking extra light and walked normal. If you don’t want to hear your neighbors - buy a single detached home.
I have a neighbour who actually turns a radio up full and leaves the house to anoy us after a noise complaint she keeps it on from 6am in the morning to 10 - 11 o'clock pm, because she owns her house the police say they can't act only ask her to turn it down, at the moment she also bangs pots and pans in her back yard shouting if you want noise I will give you noise slams her back door repeatedly and then what sounds like every colbert door in her kitchen, I'm starting to think the only way to stop this is to take drastic action
I moved to a new apartment back in June. Every since then, on Friday Saturday, my neighbor downstairs played the music so loud and it wakes me up at 2-3 am (happened 4 times already). The leasing office kept telling me that there is no proof that it is the unit downstairs making the noise and they would not contact him. With them not doing their jobs, I think I would give your recommendation a try and thank for telling ur story at a nice and relaxed way that also calm me down.
Thank you Christina, good luck! We want people to remember that you asking what YOU can do for them gives the other person an idea that at the very least you're hoping to find middle ground. Be human in your approach. Look for common ground. Even if they look and act different from you.. ask what they do for a living, how they've been with the virus shut down. If they're still mean, then later offer an apology if you offended them. Anything to be on the same team as your neighbor. If they're younger for example, ask what that music is and tell them what you used to listen to when you were that age. Also remember that I myself have been the scared guy before without knowing I could try to improve the situation...in that case.. I got used to those soft #earplugs usually hard to find, but at EVERY big grocery store and #Amazon. Look for the best dB rating. Good luck turning the negative into a positive!
I tried something like this yesterday, wrote a very friendly worded note, and I got a note back saying "we will absolutely not change anything to accommodate you" 😞 I don't know what to do now.
They need to give it back they way they are getting it if you bang every 15 minutes on your celling so they can't sleep they will stop that shit quickkkkkk it literally works nothing else worked nothing at all
We live in a townhouse, and it's a set of 4 that are interconnected. We have been here for 6 years and we rent from our friend who owns it. About a year and a half ago, new neighbors moved in next door. They were occasionally loud, but nothing too bad. Then his jail bird buddy moves in with the ladies who live on the end unit. Now, all kinds of strangers are outside, being loud, leaving trash outside and playing rap music with heavy bass that vibrates the unit, all hours of the day and into the night. They have zero consideration for anyone else in the neighborhood, who are also annoyed. At least the ones I spoke to about it. Moving is not an option for us, and I'm losing my patience.
One time, a new neighbor moved into the upstairs apartment and they LITERALLY moved in at 3 o'clock in the morning!! Dragging their luggage on laminate floor and walking with what sounded like Dutch wooden shoes!!! LITERALLY! Wwwwtf! If you move in at 3am not giving a shiat about the downstairs tenants well, you know the type of neighbors they'll be. Angry, annoyed and upset I said ok ill let it pass its their first day. But damn that a lot for me to just let it pass. Anyhoo, over the next couple of days their noises continued while they were rearranging their furniture etc. Angry, annoyed and upset I said well, I suppose its only fair(in a way) they're just settling in ill let it pass, soon they'll be conscious of their noise. NOPE! I may sound like a passive person but I am beyond that, however i do try and be fair. My gf called management to complain so management sent them a letter and in turn the neighbors gave my gf their cellphone number so that if they were being too noisy to text them, I said GREAT! Problem solved! NOPE! My gf texted them when they were being noisy and they would hush down for about 15 minutes and start again. All this shiat happened early in the morning like 5am+. We never make loud noises, I take my shoes off and use slippers, have music/tv at normal volumes, we are the perfect neighbors bitch! You'd want us as neighbors! I had never interacted with them, it was always my gf(for a reason). Aaanyhoo one day I had it! It was 5 o'clock in the morning and they had loud music and talking real loud like if there was no one living below them! I got up, went to my drawer, grabbed my knife, placed it on my waist, walked upstairs, knocked on the door they opened it and I said "HEY, I have to get up in 2 hours, can you lower your music" while exposing my knife. I walked upstairs with two options, 1- See my knife. 2- Feel my knife. The choice was theirs. I was half awake, half asleep, angry, annoyed and upset I didn't care what would happen. And that's why my gf was the one interacting with them. Afterwards they eventually kept it down till they moved out some 2 years later.
My upstair neighbor never freaking sits his ass down. He goes to bed super late and wakes up very early all the time. Often watching TV above my head in the middle of the night while pacing for some reason. I'm about to lose my shit. Always wearing headphones or earplugs isn't good for my ears.
That is a tough situation if it is constant and it doesn’t sound like some type of event based behavior like a party or anything. The point of this video is the first assess if you think someone might be totally defensive or become worse from you asking them, but if you phrase it such as: we as neighbors cannot reasonably ask each other to be silent after 10 PM, but if it is a possibility to move around more quietly between XYZ times, or walk less, put a rug down etc, that would be appreciated and let me know if there is anything I/we could do to be a more respectful neighbor as well. And you could apologize and say how the thing at fault is the design of the buildings etc. However, as you can see from the comments with some people, it makes matters worse to engage, and you should ask the manager to send out a general announcement. This is apartment living, and it is certainly not perfect. Good luck thank you for commenting.
Stomping or walking on heels neighbors find the excuse to not doing about the noise saying its their "natural way' of walking. What about carpet. they don't like it so it's their choice to ignore the complaints, because the solution requires efforts from their end. My current neighbor for example blames her cats making the noises, but I can hear walking stomping.
Being there done that. Left a very nice note and a $25 Starbucks gift card. She told the management that I was harassing her and they told me to never ever leave a note or knock at her door otherwise I would be getting vacant in ten days...
just blast this on 100% volume on your speakers, works like a charm ruclips.net/video/ZTBgaR_3pbI/видео.html you don't negotiate with the terrorists after all :P
So I wrote a letter… and it actually WORKED. My neighbor apologized and is being much more respectful about his noise level. Thank you for this advice… I was so angry before writing that letter and found a lot of peace after just putting my thoughts down, especially after it was received so well. Thank you thank you thank you SO much
My neighbor stomps all day if I play my music at all but he plays his however loud he wants. His sister is the landlord's wife and the landlord's literally told me he knows the guy is crazy but I'm the one that has to just accept it because his wife won't let him kick the freak out. He doesn't even pay rent either. Has attacked and threatened me before and even the cops won't do anything about it.
Sorry about that! A true test. It seems like you’re trying to be reasonable but they can’t be expected to with that situation. Speaker placement could help if you play with the acoustics. Be safe and don’t engage if you think it might get to a threatening situation. If you must just accept, try soft earplugs like in the part 2 video, or a little fan to provide an additional hush that is YOUR hush that will be the prevailing sound. Sometimes that subtle change can give a little peace of mind
My neighbors seem to understand that they were being noisy. I had to call the cops though, since then they try to limit or change their child behavior. It works during the day. But at night, he gets up at least 6 times a night and start walking/running on his heels. I tried to adjust my sleep schedule to fit theirs, but it's impossible, it's all the time. They are well aware that I can't take it anymore, I often cry in the middle of the night when he bangs and they hear it for sure (very thin walls/floors). But yet it's been years, the kid didn't learn to walk and I still struggle to catch 4-5 hours of sleep at night. It makes me so sad because I use to be an easy sleeper. Not anymore, i'm traumatized. No money to move elsewhere, feel so trapped in my life right now.
You are not alone, I am in same situation. The idiots are loud on everything possible, teaching their silly kid to stomp as loud as he can, never walk him outside. Also fighting so everyone in whole neighborhood can hear their screams during night or early morning. Hopefully 40$ subwoofer facing down to their ceiling will be enough, they will listen to same sounds they do all night and low frequency ghost sound during day.
Come to Mankato Minnesota , I'm sure u will love it at Lloyd management properties, they will laugh anyone's comments or reports off and call u crazy , yeah it is abuse for a above neighbor to not be considerate of others. Why don't landlords do something about it instead of being lazy? Building code problem? Fix it! , Inconsiderate neighbors? Fix it ! Do ur job landlords and talk to the person who the noise complaint was given to , problem solved !
You know I thought about playing loud music for several hours but I think the mature me the new me will try this first thanks dude I honestly think this is a great start
I have a neighbour that has a 3 year old son and at like 7-8 he makes him run around to make him get tired and we can hear him encouraging him, so my parents got me to play my music to the child’s room to wake him up crying when he’s sleeping. Karmas a bitch
It’s worse when it’s a house you saved your whole life to buy, the dream home. And now you’re looking to sell and move again just to get away and probably lose $100K in the process.
That sounds awful, we are sorry, you've probably looked into every aspect of the situation at this point. The reason we offered this as a possible solution is that sometimes you can't move, or it would cost that much, and add to that the possibility of your next neighbor presenting even some worse problem. Sorry it won't help in your case and thank you for sharing your story.
@@NotJustNinjas I tried all that, in the end I was literally crying from a lack of sleep and begging them. Their response to that was to put a wind chime outside my bedroom...
My FARKKKING NEIGHBOURS have ppl over nearlly every saturday night play music loud they just dont care at all about rhe whole cultasac that we live in... making me crazy.. im now looking at moving at BEACUSE of them.. HOW DO PPL LIVE knowing they are causing other ppl this much heartache... ?? Fucking unbelievable 🤔😨😳🥺
You probably not living in New York City I did all that even put nice cards, speak several ocasión and my neighbors hates me now I call the cops on them all the time and about to sue my landlord for not taking care of the situation. 🙏
I live in a Apartment and I recently upgraded my piano to a yamaha ydp arius-144 its a great piano but it's really loud, my neighbors would get really mad when I played, they bang 3 times as a sing for me to shut up, one day I ignored them and this old lady came out and yelled at me.I got headphones and thought that that would sole a problem, as soon as I started playing with headphones they still got mad I didn't know why, then i realised that they can her the piano key's when I pressed then, now I cant play piano at all, idk what to do.
We have a constanly disturbing neighbor acting out . The management won't do anything about it. . We ALL are aware that this person is deeply disturbed, and a threat to the tenants here. HELP 🆘
nothin wrong with trying but what work best is going to war. Si vis pacem, para bellum, If you want peace, prepare for war. ether you lose or they lose and you get peace one way or another
It’s 1am and my neighbour is doing her Oscar winning love making shrieking performance. Sometimes i scream immediately after her to show how ridiculous she sounds. My kids are home tonight though and I don’t want to wake them
My neighbors are learning that my harley is louder than their music and since my bike is a form of transportation and their music isnt, the law is on my side on this, I don't feel bad at all. I just really need a bag of chips and a soda every hour on the hour 😁 until 7 a.m.....
Your bike causes permanent hearing damage to entire neighborhood in less than 2 mins. Just talk with them and solve it out before anyone goes deaf. This happened my neighborhood, you don't want 15 years of imprisonment & that guilt of deafening someone.
Just introduce them to Soundproofing. Tell them to use their SUBWOOFERS in cardroid configuration. (To focus energy in their studio only) Just closing the doors and windows do wonders. (In most of the cases) Btw, the road rage that you do got no cure. 1 kid from my apartment top liver go deaf, another kid from back too. They cry whenever such bikes pass now. I'm on the safer side cause of Soundproofing. Rip neighborhood here.
@@beautifuldreamer3991 what's better? Gaining unwanted attention from strangers by complaining? Or soundproofing (being safe from noise) ? I prefer option 2. It's far better to be safe in my own house. Rather than complaining against hooligans and getting my @$$ wreaked.. I prefer soundproofing + my peace + ignore those fools✋🥳.. and let them die..
10:39pm and my stinking ass neighbors outside playing loud music and games because they don't and have life ! I need sleep, I have work in the morning 😭😭😭
I recently had new neighbors move in downstairs in an apartment complex and they are really noisy. It is a 1 bedroom and The couple has 2 children living there with them. The kids run, jump, and make noise all day long. I am working from home and am unable to focus as the floor shakes and vibrates. I really can't stand it and feel that I have a right to some peace and quiet at times. I am in tears at times over it as I can't move right now, but can't take it anymore. I don't even understand why they don't try to control their kids. Is there any thing I can do about this other than talk to them as I don't know them and don't feel comfortable doing this. Do I have rights? I need a resolution and can't where ear plugs all day with my work.
That is a tough situation because if kids are under 8 years old or so, even if the parents want to it’s impossible to keep kids from running, jumping, falling, dropping toys etc. So if you do talk to them keep that in mind that you might be asking them to do something they don’t even know how to do. But there are certain activities I have made my kid not do inside, especially if I’m not on the bottom floor, and not after 9pm. Like the mini basketball hoop, or jumping from beds etc. Some people are just not open to cooperating because they feel attacked by being asked ANYTHING. It is best to ask that yourself if you feel you can, so you can gauge whether they are being respectful. Please use your best judgement. If you feel it’s better to ask the rental manager to talk to them then do that. Good luck hope it improves!🤞🏼
@@NotJustNinjas Thank you for your reply. I had to speak with the management because it got so bad I couldn't take it. I live in an area with all 1 bedrooms units and never expected a family of 4 to move in to a 1 bedroom underneath me. They do have 2 bedrooms here. If I had known I would have moved out when my lease renewal came up and now I am stuck. I like kids, but honestly 2 boys jumping, banging, running etc. every time they are home is too much. I don't ever hear the parents trying to stop them at all either. I grew up with brothers and my parents would never let them get away this type of behavior. This is the worst noise I have experienced in an apt to date. I am pretty sure that the management will do nothing, but I will keep complaining as I feel I have a right to some peace and quiet.
I've gone up to my new neighbor above me to ask if he could be mindful of his foot noise. I was as pleasant and all smiles as possible, and all he did was get angry at me and yell and slam the door. The stomping on the floor has been present day in day out for the past 8 months. Occasionally dropping heavy elephant sized objects over my head with a rumble that sends my heart racing in shock. I went up there once before and asked again in my best manners, for him to tone it down and i got the door slammed at my face again. Even now at 2:25am, I still hear him stomping around. He sleeps late and he works from home. As do I. I've hit the ceiling in the past and yes he called security on me, which i told security to go up to his room and tell him to quiet down. He did. Only to start up again the next day. All day. Every day. These 8 months have been hell. I really have no wish to make nice and go have a drink with this angry millennial dude above me. I hit the ceiling today at 11pm, he didn't care. I know he heard it. He's told me before. He kept on stomping about anyway. He's driven up my anxiety so much.
Can the manager of the property listen to your story? Then they may think of something else they can try. What type of construction are you in? There are some types of apartments where it is nearly hopeless to expect quiet. In these cases we say rugs, carpets, curtains.. these things stifle sound a lot..a fan, white noise machine, experiment with ambient music, use earplugs to sleep, etc. Keep hanging in there. Some people have no idea how loud it can be beneath them. The noise and vibration levels really depend on the type of construction of the place. That’s a well written comment, by the way.
@@NotJustNinjas Yes i have tried every single thing you mentioned. Telling the building manager, which all they could do was offer me another unit in the building, and trap me in another year contract---but im in santa monica and this apartment is super expensive. So trying to break a lease would cost $16+k (2 months + concessions /which is another 8 weeks that i got free when i moved in--so a total of almost 4 months of rent) but after talking to a neighbor on another floor, she said her upstairs neighbor also walks all over the place with her heels which drives her crazy. So I decided not to move to another unit and trap myself to another year of possible thumping above me. I was just gonna ride it out. The walls are great here though. I never hear the neighbors through the walls at all. Just the guy above me. Stomp Stomp. I sleep with noise cancelling earplugs. They only last 6 hours or 5.5. So i will wake up and transfer to another set of ear plugs fully charged. This is every day I am moving down the street next week. An occean view. Unfortunately, neighbor student above in that unit also walk all over the place. Plus her mom/parents are visiting so I'm hoping the noise is temporary. But It's not as heavy as this guy above me right now who is anxiety inducing, so here's hoping. xxx 🙏🙏
I lived on the second floor, and i introduced myself to my neighbor and gave her my number to let me know if my family and I are being loud. The floors were laminate so you could hear everything. Unfortunately she never called me once. She instead would leave her radio on all night long with the base on high, with the volume on low. The base carried upstairs pretty loud, and she called the cops at 3:30am when my family and I were dead asleep. The cops must have been her friends cause they pounded on my door like we were criminals and asked lots of questions and for ID. All for a slow water leak behind the wall of my kitchen sink. I was pissed cause since when do cops do that for a water leak?
I made the mistake of giving my neighbor my number the first day I met her. She harassed me for every move I made for years until I blocked her texts. She still is harassing me and accuses me of things I didn't do all the time.
So you're idea is to give your annoying neighbor your number? That's not bad if they are decent people but if they are jerks then you're not going to enjoy the next few months.
Yes, the point is the decent people comment you made. in our heads we think out of 100 there are only 5 good people but it might be more like 90. That said, you have to use your judgement to make sure they are not a lost cause...and even more so that they are not a threat to make things worse. So please be careful as you think about what to do. The wording of any note should really be studied several times before you give it to think about how that specific person might read it, not simply what we want to say. or if you have the gift of gab no note is needed just a conversation or two.
if you end up taking action please come back and comment how it goes.
Nothing like trash neighbors! People who don’t have any kind of home training should live in the wilderness and let decent people live peacefully
I agree I’m dealing with this now and I tried talking to them like 4 fucking times even cops been called
Hear, hear, brother! I'm currently living next door to people who use their backyard as a car repair shop and blast loud music while drunk screaming on the weekends. Good times-- for them.
Actually, going to the wilderness is not a bad idea (esp for a person who does not like noise)...............Getting away from idiots and the noise caused by human activity.
It can be so tough to be nice, but it will take you a lot of good places if you build that skill. We just hate that anyone has to be uncomfortable where they live. Thanks for sharing your experience even if it's not a good one at the moment.
lmaoo
Problem with telling them they are annoying you is that, afterwards when they CONTINUE to do it...and even get worse, you now are aware that they are doing it ON PURPOSE, just to annoy you. That feels 100 times worse than just thinking they are unknowingly loud.
Jerk neighbors get some sort of sadistic pleasure from being obnoxiously loud. I guarantee that in MOST cases, they will increase the noise after you talk to them.
One way of knowing whether you can approach them is when you meet them, do they make eye contact or say hello as if they are totally unaware? If they do, they may well be worth approaching. But people who play music loud or shout all the time, likely ALREADY know they are loud but they just don't care.
Spot on. The nightmare neighbor is below me. Life is miserable with this vibe in my home. I'm walking on eggshells and they are as loud as they want. It is insane.
@@Dragonfly_vbz somehow below is abit betterr than upper ones but still some ppl whi has no consideration hopefully they get karma.. jst like my neighbors i mean not blaming all to then as mybe our building is old so the soundproof insulation”if there is” is now abit useless, i told my previous neighbor if u guys wna have olympic in ur house its fine do wat u wna do “just make sure u dont bother other ppl or live in a single detached house” fkng ppl
just reading all the comments in this section sometimes i try to think its not really my upstairs fault cos the management ses its thin walls floor n ceiling, but tbh some ppl are jst fkng no consideration they feel when they bought a condominium means they bought the whole building this fkng ppl deserves to get covid n no recovery u then we all see u next life, we dont need this fkng trash kind of ppl.
My neighbors summed up. For 1 whole year they blast music. My families beds rattle and we are mentally not good. We always ask them nicely to turn it down. They do that and the next day the music is blasting again. Another problem is that they are always drunk. I always see a big empty box of Corona beer for the trash from them. So they remember what we said and then they get drunk and forget about everything. We just have no way to connect with them.
Fact
After 2 years of my downstairs neighbors deciding to let their kids scream,run,bang , and slam things at all times of day and night I’m moving. I called the police and nothing was done. My landlord acts scared of them . For my mental health I’ve gotta go before I catch a case.
Same I’m outta here
I am having the same situation and I feel like I am going to lose my mind. There are 4 people downstairs (2 adults and 2 kids) in a one bedroom and there kids are so noisy. I hope that you found a quieter place ,as I am looking for myself to move for my sanity
@@aprilb.7200did you move out? Im going through the same situation but I’m latinoamerica which is even worse (no bulding regulations or police to call)
I'm on your side, I'm in the same boat
Im in a residential,im about to catch me a case
All these comments saying: just move! move to an upstairs unit! Without bothering to consider that many of us are disabled & HAVE TO live on the ground floor.
Or can’t find a place or live on top floor and with neighbors underneath or next door are noisy
Then you live downstairs and accept that there WILL be noise above you. You can't expect people not to walk in their apartment. That's the suffering of a downstairs resident. There is always another option with no 2nd story buildings.
See I've had issues with neighbors before, so that's why on my very first day moving in to my current apartment I made a point to introduce myself to the downstairs neighbor, strike up a friendly conversation, and made myself available and approachable in the future. This is the same neighbor that starts slamming their doors over and over and over again from 10pm until sometimes up until 2am. Sometimes people are just dicks by nature.
buy a snare drum and drumsticks. every time his door slams do a drumroll or just smash the snare
@djhdhdhdhd if your neighbors are anything like mine then go for it , you have my blessing ! I found bands like Megadeth, King Parrot and Job for a Cowboy had the best effect on them. Dimmu Borgir also had a positively negative neighborly effect when turned up f*cken loud !
HYPNOTIZE yourself to the slams. Associate slams with good feelings. You, like most people, associate slams as something bad and it can be, if you THINK it is. When you think it is bad, those slams will get on your last nerves.....so you have to REVERSE your thinking.
They're just trying to get back at you thinking they're keeping you awake. More than likely, it doesn't bother you as much as the noise you make bothers them. Shit rolls down hill.
This won't work w/parents that refuse to teach their kids to be considerate of others; refuse to teach their kids the difference between indoor & outdoor activities & why...💁♀️
understandably you have never had kids... if only they would listen
@@sohamjoshi9527 When we were upstairs tenants, my kids heard and understood to be considerate. It’s not hard if the parents actually parent and not let their kids run rampant. If that’s the case, get a downstairs apartment or rent a house. It’s called parenting.
@@mzjuicywaters2158 i am sure your kids are older.. try that with a 18 month old who is learning to use their legs.. boy they want to jump.
Those kids grow up to be bullies and assholes and become a detriment to society as they learn from their deplorable parents that treating people with respect isn't needed.
It's not about who lives upstairs, but what kind of downstairs neighbor you're going to be. The kind that lives downstairs & doesn't want ANY noise from the neighbors living in their attic...err I mean upstairs above them? Or the kind that KNOWS you're moving in downstairs of a 2 or 3 story apt building built years ago & you accept that there ARE people above that YOU WILL HEAR SIMPLY WALKING!?
Complaints won't work. Do you know how I taught the neighbors who listened to loud music at night? They usually sleep during the day, so I turned on the music loud and left for work. They couldn't sleep all day long. And it actually worked out well 😂 They no longer listen to music at night 😅
And then they call the landlord and complain about YOU. My neighbors dog rampages at night when I try to go to sleep. I banged on wall one night, at 9, and she reported me to landlord. I have complained to landlord 6 times and no change. I have 50 pages of notes front and back of this dog’s noise!
As a last resort we blasted the music on our ceiling. The mom wasn't impressed as she was snarly when we passed her in the hall. She feels entitled to make noise during the day; her daughter deserves to be able to stomp dance when she wants. Stomp, stomp, stomp. And it's her now too... it seems when she housecleans, she's decided to stomp more herself. Pretty sad excuse for a human being. I'm in the process of seeing if management could intervene. It's our last resort short of bringing the speakers into the bedroom ceiling, their floor.
@@donnadye4026call animal control or whoever deals with that where you live. Say she never walks it and you think its neglected and thats why its barking
Much better if you play heavy metal music🤣🤣
@@aannddrryyaagood luck! You chose to live downstairs which means you signed up for the noise KNOWING there would be people living in your attic, err, floor above you. Deal with it or pick to live above someone with no 1 above you! It's great!
My neighbors are animals.This will never work!
Ikr my neighbors party every night!
My neighbours do road rage at deafening rate 24/7 even at night.
@Laura Brown What? Do you work on commission for this company? You’re on multiple videos about noise trying to sell them. 🙄
My neighbors chickens and roosters are so annoying.. Idk what the hell I should do, I told them 2 times and it's still annoying me and I can't live in peace and sleep because of these neighbors chickens and roosters...
I live under someone who takes t-rex steps so loud I can know exactly where they are in their apartment at all times. Then the apartment right next to my room has this young immature college couple renting a room together and they talk so loud all day up to 2 am every night. I already dislike people but I'm starting to hate them. They pay a fraction of what I have to pay since they only rent a room and I rented a whole apartment by myself specifically to get away from noise since I'm a student with adhd. I'm normally really quiet and think of others so I get so infuriated with how obnoxiously self centered people can be.
Ethan, buddy. We are wayy beyond this. What if they are trash degenerates who don’t know how to parent their children? At the point of desperation trying to get them out. The whole phone number thing is way back in the distance. Landlords and people in leasing offices need to do more for the good tenants of the world. Otherwise you have the good people moving out while the bad ones just stick around like cockroaches.
who else be watching this at 10:30 pm cause the neighbors next to you is strumming a loud guitar and singing and the house walls be thing :')
Me but not them playing music tho
Lol I’ve been hearing loud ass fireworks every night for like a week due to 4th of July coming up. I’m nervous to talk to my neighbors but this encouraged me to do it
1 am.... drunk neighbors having a party during a pandemic. I have the urge to kill
DOGE I wanna kill too
DOGE same
my neighbors play incredibly loud music at random times of the day. anywhere from 9:00 am to 2:00 am. you never when it will start. up to 6 carloads of their friends will show up with booze and pile into a small apartment. tried talking about it nicely. tried landlord. they toned it down a tiny bit, but not much. some people are just inconsiderate scumbags. period
tbh some ppl deserve to get covid n die this world dont need u fkng shitty ppl who aint got no fkng consideration
@@siacharles2315 fax
Scumbags of dog Shit
Dude you got on the internet again and are off you're meds.
So then what did you do? Get it recorded, audio, pictures, video, tell the landlord again, take notes, call the cops. If they're gonna encroach on your right to live in peace, they're giving you the right to encroach on theirs. When they get annoyed, they'll think about not annoying people.
Oh geez, this is going to work in like 1% of the cases.
It would also help with the law required apartments/condos to meet proper sound insulation standards.
Yes!!
This
Tenants shouldn’t deal with this and I feel bad for anyone who doesn’t live in a noise canceling apartment or household!
It really puts the onus on us rather than predatory landlords
Dealing with this right now...ugh. Neighbors' children literally jumping, pounding on walls/floor all day as if they're the only ones who live in the complex. Have sent complaints and videos to property management. They do the bare minimum bc they don't want to kick anyone out or let me leave. They just want the units rented - all they care about is the money and not having to spend time looking for more tenants. What I learned and suggest for others for the next rental: Negotiate/look for a 6 month lease or short term and ask for agreement to specify "nuisances". If a landlord wants you as a long term/reliable/no drama tenant, then sign a lease on your terms. If they don't want to, then they can deal with unreliable and inconsiderate tenants. I've done my best to find a peaceful resolution, but at this point I'd rather take my business elsewhere.
Update: I've made two confidential police check-up complaints. The first time they showed up to the neighbors home, they quieted down. But the next day, they started again with more noise. I guess they were upset and were just being vindictive. So another call was made, and the police showed up again. I think they were either given some type of warning or felt embarrassed because ever since then, it's gotten a lot quieter. There is still noise, but not like before; it doesn't last long and nights are quiet.
Well don’t think police can do much for you. Maybe moving to a complex that doesn’t allow families with kids?
@@carmenflores2042 doesn’t sending the police over seem a bit much
@@mauricioguzman.8809 another person who complains about kids living there lives if all u can afford is a shitty downstairs apartment that’s what u are gonna get
@@crxtyzz6872 agree, these people are insane... they should move to wilderness if they need quiet , not in a city apartment with people living nextdoor... and then they call cops .. there is a place in hell for these people.
I tried to have a nice face to face like this with my downstairs neighbor and she yelled at me, cursed at me, and told me I was being inconsiderate of her living her own life. Guess you can't win with people lol.
I have upstairs neighbors that stomp on the ground directly above were I sleep my entire ears gets clogged up and it's horrible
Sometimes it's like they are throwing uncooked rice on the floor 😂
@@sachinnaidoo1559 yep they always take it offensive no matter what
Here's what you do, stick glue gel in their door knobs where the keys go in.. That will surely ruin their day. lol
@@sachinnaidoo1559 Dude same here, there are 3 kids above me that always seem to be doing jump and jack. Tenants won't do anything about because they are kids and they're having fun.
lol I knocked on my noisy neighbors door and before I could say ANYTHING she yelled at me like crazy, things escalated and she attacked me. Court suite is in progress. AKA Be careful.
Your lucky
Any update? Good for the fucker!
You should've known better. No 1 wants anyone knocking on their door to tell them to quiet down. You share walls, that's what you signed up for.
They act like they own everything. Gotta teach them a lesson. Had the same happen to me the other day. I'm about to teach them a lesson.
Won't work for me, I know better than to try talking to them, I called the landlord, to talk to them about it. not only did it not change but guy got me outside in the parking lot and yelled shit at me for a solid 15 minutes over it. Plus it won't work because the one making the noise is their idiot teenage delinquent son and there will not be any reasoning with that.
I've found certain people will just make even more noise if you tell them to tone it down. My neighbor had a habbit of stomping and tapping directly above my head. I asked him to stop, and he just did it even louder. I understand people don't like being told what to do, but you're part of a community where you have to be aware of how you impact others.
Turtle Island LAC yup same and this overweight bitch just does it even more I can’t wait till they move
Exactly. Same here happened to me read my previous comment. this guy just go lucky. It's easier win the lottery than find a normal neighbor.
@Stela Melton that wont work, + not a millionaire..
@@shutit4024 nothing against heavy/ fat people, it's always a fat bih though!! Always!!
Nothing solves problems better than breaking a foot or an arm when they don’t listen after making numerous complaints. See people get things twisted and think that nobody will do that. Little do they know there are many that REFUSE to pay rent and deal with animals.😤 most I’ve done was two months in jail for it. Make sure you have three complaints before the foot “accident”
@funguy101986 true story man. Why can’t we all just have respect? I love loud music,but I wait till I’m in my car AND on the expressway before cranking it up. It’s not hard to not walk like you’re from the jungle. Just saying. I’d rather keep both my feet in working condition.🤷♂️
@@EliteScentsOnly Can you come by my neighbor's house and cause this accident? Thanks a million
@@mrchedda of course. You see my response time 😂
Are u serious ... I listened to your video for 4 minutes before u shared your 'amazing' suggestion (to send a note). 1. Why blab on for four pointless minutes, and 2. Dude, u got lucky, not everyone has reasonable people around them.
I just waited 4 mins of my life on this 😢
i wish my building manager had these interpersonal problem-solving skills!!!! brilliant caring energy and helpful input. love it! you make your tenants' lives better!
Thank you for sharing that. 2 years ago. Yes, it is not always possible, but when it is, it may be worth taking a shot.
What's funny is my upstair neighbors wrote me a note asking about the beep of a fire alarm, if I can turn it off. It pissed me off cause they just moved in but I did it. But, they are the loudest, yelling, drama filled, walking, can hear when they go to restroom, get on bed, talking neighbors ever! Building sucks so I am screwed. So if we are loud they just gotta deal cause we deal with their crap all the time....sorry gotta vent lol
Thank you, this is good for venting if nothing else. Sometimes you get lucky with an apartment sometimes you don't. Earplugs to sleep are something that take getting used to but it is worth the sleep.
My issue is with my neighbors downstairs. I don't like being that cranky neighbor but there should be NO reason that you have a party at 2 in the morning with blasting music and shouting. Like I know it may be a Saturday but some of us work on weekends. Not only that but they smoke weed, I'm not even going to bring that up to my leasing office since I don't want to get them in trouble for that. I know that I have responsibilities in being an upstairs neighbor like no walking around loudly at night, no loud tv or music, etc. I'm honestly stumped on what to do. Our state is about to go on lockdown and I feel like this is going to challenge my sanity.
Texas_Raised_ Texas _Made I tried but it ain’t work but thank god the one is moving but I still gotta wait like 2/3 months 🙄
I feel for you but I have 2 neighbors that are ass holes for no reason at all. My up stairs neighbor doesn't have anything in her apartment and she doesn't have a job or a car she have a bad daughter that looks like she needs to be in school. She follows me around the house 27 like I have no privacy at all I could leave and go to work around 2pm and she will follow me around until I walk out the door and I dont come back home until 11pm or 12 she stands by the door that whole time waiting on me to come back. She waits up just so she can hear me take a shower and watch TV. And around 9am sometimes I will get sometimes not because im still sleepy I would hear her get on the floor and listen to me sleep and everytime she does it I wake up because I can feel her energy. If she doesn't hear me snoring anymore she gets up fast and runs off. Then comes back with something heavy and drop it over my head and if she doesn't hear my bed because it makes up a noise she would go and get a vacuum and leave it in one spot for 25min to try and wake me. Mind you I was already up because I felt her listening to me sleep then she turns that off and start stomping in place and she will have her daughter do the same. Then she will go get a hammer and start hitting the floor hard like by that I time I already got out of bed and was in the bathroom she didn't know it. Then she comes back in and starts dropping stuff then I flush the toilet they come running out the room into the bathroom hitting the walls and stomping. I walk out the bathroom and go to the kitchen they listen on all the walls to try and find me just to stomp over my head. So I turn on the TV they are quite and sit in the area where its at and listen to what im listening to so I turn it down so they can't hear. She gets angry and start stomping so I turn the TV off and watch it on my phone with headphones I get up to use the bathroom I hear her go behind the toilet to listen to me use the toilet. Then I had enough and leave i come back she does the same thing when its time for me to take a shower she either follows me to the bathroom or she goes to that laundry room and listen to the water heater because it makes a noise where if water is running it will make a noise. So now when I take a shower I have to turn out the lights because I feel like she is watching me. I turn on the bathroom fan I turn on my box fan and put it on the wall the in turn on the dishwasher then I turn on three washer and dryer just to take a shower so she can't hear me. Then I turn everything off she then waits for 30mins to come in the room stomping so it will be hard to go to sleep and she would sometimes have her daughter listen to me if she on the phone and her daughter do the same stuff she do. My 2 neighbor next door blast her music for hours one time she had her music on for a month straight and didn't turn it off I was sleep Sleep deprived to I called the cops this lady had a cop monitor in her house so she knew when the cops would come and she would turn it off. Until they came so my upstairs neighbors is dumb ass hell she calls the cops on us because she thinks we are playing loud music when its not us that because she listen on are walls way to much. So that neighbor moved out well my up stairs neighbor have and upstairs neighbors. They are sick of her also so they turn on music and again my neighbor thought it was us and started being real ugly she would take stuff and drop she would walk around in high heels stomping and she would take a hammer hitting stuff. I believe she know it wasn't us she just waited to be a bitch and do it. Im just sick and tired of this woman and I really wanna beat the shit out of her but I know she would call the cops and I would go to jail. I keep saying to anyone you might wanna becareful on what you do to people because you might get someone who's crazy and or had enough of life and would actually do something bad to you. I had neighbor before he had enough of life and shot and killed his neighbors his upstairs neighbors and the other upstairs neighbors then he killed his self. It was another couple in New York they have been going at it for years because music was to loud the couple had enough and killed the neighbors and who ever else was in that house. So my thing is if you have the money then move if not try and save or deal with it until your lease is up then move and find something that have concrete walls and floors.
@@Lovelyp33 I going through the exact same thing with my upstairs neighbor. I was reading your comments and thought I wrote it myself. My upstairs neighbor is a female 26 years older and is a schizophrenic. She has other family members in her apartment. I think she works part time but there’s always someone in her apartment. I work at night when I come home in the morning they waiting at her door in her apartment to hear my apartment door close to follow me around. I moved in my at first few months later she moved in and been bothering my apartment from the at she moved in until now. Like you said I get revenge on her somehow I found she sensitive to all sounds!! I have surround sound system in my living room and my bedroom. I make sure I play movies that makes her run scared. I auto tone shows to come on while I’m at work to scare her. I have a Halloween toy she scared of I chase her around with it. That’s what she get for listening to my apartment and following me around. I wait for her to follow in the bathroom than I hit the scary to she runs out!! I wait fir her to follow me to my bedroom than I play gunfire on the tv. She scared of the garbage truck when it comes and dump out dumpster. She afraid of thunder and lightning she afraid of fireworks. In order for them to hear our footsteps she has to make her apartment quiet. I say you wanna hear something I get her ass back all day every day. She also follows me around so I can hear her stomp but I don’t respond to anything she does. My daughter said let her follow you around she the one look stupid and bored!!
F that call the cops. I had a neighbor who had there dogs outside braking. Tenant A and I warn him about the noise. I get off work at 1am. He agreed He and he puts the dogs back in side the house. After a few days its right back to the same old B.S.
The dogs were loud af. And went on for yrs. Told the landlord. Nothing got done.
I finally got feed up when one of the dogs got really sick. And you literally hear the pain of kettle cough coming from the dog.
During that time I had a major operation. I needed peace. And I was feed up.
I called the cops anonymously.
And because he doesn't work a 9 to 5. he didn't too blow up he's spot. If you know what I mean.
Ever since then he's been taking better care of his dogs and no more barking.
He's pissed, and assuming that it was either me or tenant A. Either way I don't care. If I have to loose a neighbor just for the sake of peace and quiet and better care of those dogs. Then so be it.
Bottom line don't confront them my mistake. Just call the dam cops. That's your tax money at work.
Couldn’t finish watching. Clearly the zen man has not lived below loud neighbors who don’t care.
I’m glad that work for you. I’m 67 work 12 hour days. Neighbors are young foreigners and don’t respect me. I tried being friendly. They play music before 9:30 am in morning. It’s a multitude of different kinds of noise.
The foreigners part is completely unnecessary
As human beings it wouldn't hurt for us all to be considerate of one another. That takes time and effort. I also think that management should take responsibility. This is why I don't like when families argue and shout and not place mats on the floor for the kids to play. Dysfunctional households.
It worked with you, but usually it does not work. My neighbor said it would work out, and got worse. They only improved after countless police at their door. Manager calling them many times, until one day they got all quite for 2 years, from hell to heaven. So they know how to be quite. I believe the manager said to them: "it's the last straw, change or you are out". Manager has more power than the police. Because the police got tired coming here and also embarrassing, because one day the police told me, this problem is because of your manager. This problem is management issue. They improved, but they have relapses and I have to complain again, the continuous bang, bang, stomp for hours. I don't know how somebody can hit the floor every 2 minutes for 3 hours, don't you break your feet and legs, don't you brake your hand? don't you get tired of marching in circle in the floor. Can you sit down for a minute? or did they made, programme a device to hit the floor every 2 minutes for hours. pah, pah, pah, tum, tum, tum, tum.....I even thought, the guy is sitting and bouncing in his chair and hitting the feet of the chair. but don't you brake your feet, moron? it's crazy. I wish the worse to my evil neighbor. Why karma takes so long to act. Why do you think rich people leaves miles away from another neighbor.
I can't understand why some people are inconsiderate of others and it seems to be more prevalent nowdays I bought a house our the country so now I'm at peace .
You’re very lucky. I’m living in hell. My upstairs neighbors are Neanderthals who have no consideration for their neighbors.
@@HOAexposed well I used to live in an apt and I had real noisy neighbors and I bought a white noise machine and macks ear plugs. That did help a little bit. I hope you find peace.
Isn't it the responsibility of the management office to immediately act as the mediator and handle the situation and stop the noisy person's activities or evict them? The responsibility should never be put on the tenant to confront the noisy neighbor themselves. That's just asking for an even worse situation.
I have new tenants that moved in above me and they have a dog as well. For the past week they have been dropping things on the floor and it literally sounds like an earthquake and other times it sounds like their constantly moving furniture. To top it off their dog as well drops things on the floor and sometimes it last all night long. The management company really doesn’t care and all they do is send out emails that people don’t pay attention to and even the police don’t even do their job and be stern with the tenants when they front them, making them think as if it’s not a big deal then I’m left to just deal with it as if I don’t pay my rent and should have a right to quiet enjoyment. I understand that the floors are weak but excessively dropping things on the floor and pets can be controlled
You sound like a real pleasure to live next to. It's a multiple family dwelling, what do you expect? Want peace and quiet with no noise, move to the country. Stop being a curmudgeon.
The hell did you go being conversational to him? You should have gave him a note about the rules of curfew and if he still gave you issues bypass the landlord and just call the cops on them.
My area doesn't have nice neighbors
Why don’t landlords require rugs with rug padding? Also please ask upstairs neighbors to not wear heavy shoes or heels while walking back and forth. My upstairs neighbor drops things on the hardwood floor over our bedroom after midnight and stomps back and forth. Every night. She’s a heavy walker. We tried to talk to her. But she can’t see that she’s doing anything wrong. I get it, I’ve been rude before and didn’t understand that I was in the wrong until much later when a similar thing happened to me. But I also think that landlords have some responsibility in the situation. Don’t put rude young people upstairs. Demand that upstairs tenants get 80% rugs with rug padding covering hardwood floors. Also make sure your buildings are maintained. If there is no insulation between floors, do something about that.
Yeah, well, my building has very plush, cushioned carpet and it still doesn’t stop ThunderThighs and her dog from pacing back and forth and dropping things as the pictures in my wall shake.
@@kattpurrson God it's been a nightmare for me too...I wake up early every morning the same time the neighbour does, since elephant foot tramples right above my bedroom. I was told nothing can be done...I can't afford to move either.
@@kay9156 Hi Kay- I was told the same. However, my apt management suddenly paid attention when I left very negative reviews online about my community and contacted corporate, detailing my whole nightmare. New management was brought in shortly afterwards and they asked what was going on. I had recorded what I was hearing daily using a fairly inexpensive microphone from Amazon and played HOURS for them. Wouldn’t leave the office until I was satisfied. Then I had them come over every time the Clydesdale paced for more than 1 hour. Every. Single. Time. Even if I had to say it was about something else. If I was going to have to live with it, so would they. Since she paced for 5 to 16 hours a day, it was easy to point out. I figured they would eventually get sick of it and cut me loose or boot them out…either way was a win. In the end, they tossed the neighbors by not giving them a choice to renew their lease. Place is decent to live in now.
@@kattpurrson Wow that is awesome! I'm really happy for you, you were so determined to show them that you documented and followed through with everything. Amazing work, thank you for sharing this! 😁
@@PlantNerdLady Maybe it's not only the floors....do the cabinets and drawers make noise too? Some of you don't realize if the floor is making noise so is everything else! Some of you bang your cabinets hard without a care. I feel more for the "bitches below".
Nop, my upstairs neighbor don’t care. Nice talk only applies to neighbors who are nice people. My upstairs neighbors are assh***
And if they where decent people you wouldn't be having this problem to begin with
You're the asshole for signing up to live downstairs, duh! Try living upstairs with no 1 above you. That's what I had to do to not hear anyone above me. Logic.
Aww that’s so sweet! I texted my neighbor and was as understanding as possible and talk in person made sure my tone was level headed. They don’t care. They noise is getting worse. I’m thinking of talking to them again. Just don’t want tension. They REALLY DONT CARE and that bothers me!
My neighbor is constantly slamming doors and in and out of his apartment 2-44 times every hour. This has taught me to NEVER rent an apartment that is a townhome style and to look at the space width/feet between front doors (because although my apartment is 720 sq/ft, in reality it is just 360 sq ft per floor, and also the front door is only 12 inches away from his front door. He made living in my apartment during COVID a bad experience, and sadly I am still dealing with him. Yes the apartment looks nice, but it is noisy and my neighbor is loud, which makes it worse!!!!!!! He stomps on the stairs and does not know how to shut a front door slowly so i'm always hearing door slams.
I don’t know where you’re from but in NYC, it’s a mixed bag. If your neighbor is a psychopath, giving your cellphone number to the wrong person can open you up to more trouble. It happened to me. I tried everything I possibly could with my neighbor and ended up having my life turn upside down.
Yup. 100 percent agree.
FACTS!!!!!!!!
Especially if you live in low income housing. Mental Illness and Drug Addiction can be commonplace and the Management will not get involved in situations in many cases whatsoever. You need to choose your battles wisely.
No , he is right and totally alright, you cannot imagine how things can get tricky in some flats and more in couple. Good after many times we tried to reach our neighbors in a gross way they came to us.. you can't expect the surprise. I felt awkward I needed to cry after that. Thank you for your video and bless you !
Man up dude
Rule number 1, never reveal your identity by confronting the assholes. They are already an assholes, confronting them wont make it stop. Find an authority, call the cops etc, call your marshalls, sheriffs, record everything... and the last case is sue them.
Well technically they see your car with your tags. They probably already know your identity.
@Crethehardway really? Which website u can see that reveals the owner info by just their tags? U usually have to pay for those.
Fuck that Only note I’m writing is a death threat my neighbors obnoxious don’t they know there floor is my ceiling
I put a boxing glove on top of broom and went to town! Can’t wait for Sunday morning! It’s 8:47 Saturday she’s been stomping since 5pm! Tonight at 3am it’s on!😅
Neighbors should be tested on compatibility before being paired with other neighbors. For example, if a neighbor has kids who they would say are hyperactive, then they shouldn't be placed on a higher floor. Especially neighbors with dogs. If they previously lived in a house, they should be placed on the bottom floor because people who migrate from houses to apartments are probably going to be some of the more noisy neighbors because they aren't used to living under anyone.
He wants you to become a chump, just go and knock like a beast and demand silence or else. And knock at all times, whenever you are bothered. If you can't live in peace, make sure they can't. And let them know why you're doing it and what will make you stop. If you let people play games with you, they will do this noise crap.
Your video assumes that 1. I haven’t already tried making a polite request for them to sop making noise and 2. They are the type of folks who react in a reasonable manner when approached with a reasonable request.
My horrible neighbors told me that they can do whatever they want before 10:00 pm regardless of how much it disturbs my household. I understand that I have no legal recourse unless they are making noise past 10pm, but they are making my life miserable. I don deserve this. I’m not going to accept this as my reality. I don’t know what I’m going to do next.
What I’m thinking of doing is buying a sound system that’s loud enough to damage ones hearing and aim it at them.
If anyone has any suggestions which are more reasonable I’m open to hearing them.
You gotta move. Buy a cheap home or rent another apartment
Ethan love your optimism. But tried that. I went personally to welcome the neighbor and invited him in to show what the lease advises that all tenants must have 80% carpet. It took the tenant 3 months when he is suppose to have it in the first month. Granted I was understanding. Needless to say I was open, he neglected to let me know that its not just him but a family and with a toddler he let's loose to do whatever she pleases and stomp around running and dropping what sounds like dumb bells until midnight. I'm an accountant professional who deals with numbers I need sleep but ironically the last three families didn't get the hint even after your suggestion all three times. I've come to the point of not wanting kids after my experience bcuz I understand kids need place to play, go outside or better yet teach them a schedule and most kids I knew were asleep by 9pm. If this was the case it would out weight the stomping during the day. I'm happy for those this worked for. Ethan can u come to my apt and talk to my neighbors? 😁😂 maybe I will have better luck.
I did this with my next door neighbor back in Feb. Just lastnight, they played their music loud again, so if it continues tonight, I plan to go back over there and this time let then know that I will file a noise complaint next to the HOA! I don't have time to keep being nice, this crap is so annoying 😒 🙄 😤 😑
I wrote a note too! Put it on my knuckles and let my upstairs neighbor read it up close. Since then everything’s been copacetic. 👍🏼🇺🇸 Nice quaker advice dork.
Wish I could do the same to the jerks next door to me!
I have been dealing with some passive aggressive upstairs neighbors who like to pound on the walls, do drilling and hammering at all times of the day and night. I have never retaliated in the same fashion. These people are ignorant and self absorbed as they do not realize there is a world outside their apartment they have to enter sometimes. I saw one of them today n front of the complex and he cowardly turned away and ran off. It is not wise to make enemies with strangers and feel like you have to watch your back not knowing what someone is capable of. If that is what you sign up for you have to deal with the consequences of your actions.
My neighbors across the street blast their car radios when they come home, they have those special people sound systems so everyone can hear them... I wrote a note and left it on their windshield saying "Some of us would like to ask you to not bump your beats at odd hours while some are sleeping, we understand some people come home odd hours but maybe turning it down before you enter the neighborhood would be cool, thanks" They started blasted it even longer and louder(slamming their car door and laughing also), so I bought a 10000 lumen spot light for my roof that is remote controlled and beamed their car as they did it, which didn't really stop them, they stopped after though I started blasting my new outdoor speakers directed at their home from 8am-9pm sun-thurs, and 8am-11pm fri/sat, local sound ordinances allowed this time frame. Gotta love Brittany and barbie girl to deal with my antics... which i assume they didn't as they didn't renew their lease and moved. All my other neighbors didnt complain about my music as they too were sick of the other people... Once they moved we threw a bbq and that was the last time i used those outdoor speakers.
The problem is, Ethan... these anecdotes you've shared are responses from normal people. In my case, I've already talked face-to-face to my neighbor and laid out exactly what the issue is and why I am complaining. At the time we have the conversation he seems like he's understanding and empathetic but in reality, he does NOT care and continues to be loud and is excessively noisy for 8 hours/day every weekend.This has gone on for almost 3 years. Any ideas on how I can resolve this type of issue with a narcissistic, alcoholic idiot? Thanks in advance for any suggestions.
Unfortunately, people who have no respect for their neighbors in apartments to begin with, most likely aren’t going to respond nicely to bringing issues to their attention.
We just renewed our lease and of course the apt above us (that has been vacant the last several months) has new tenants. They are constantly stomping around all the time, making so much unnecessary noises & even vacuum after 10pm. It’s driving us nuts, but even more so our dog is barking when they are being extremely loud, which could disturb other neighbors. Part of the blame is on the way the apts were built, but a lot is on the people. They are on top floor, so maybe they just have no clue how loud they are being without neighbors above them?!
What is a nice way of letting them know how much we here? I’ve tried to think of nice ways to mention it if we meet them, but most come across like I’m just being a b**** 😆 we did ask our leasing manager to send an email reminding 3rd floor tenants to be respectful of those in apt below them, but I doubt she will bother sending it.
crazylicious85 for all apartments it should be mandatory to put padding and carpet wall to wall because wood floors are annoying. Specially if there are kids and dogs
Your dog barks because your neighbors upstairs are loud? I mean maybe your neighbors are stomping because your dog is barking lol. My neighbors dog below me won’t stfu so I stomp on purpose.
@@Cjay819 lol um no when we lived in an apartment my dog never barked unless the upstairs neighbors were letting their kids stomp around, jump off beds, etc. even then my dog only barked when they were extra loud because he got used to the constant noise. I was always home with my dog, so I knew they weren’t stomping because of us/my dog. They were heavy footed & the building was poorly designed so that you could hear everything. We bought a house, so no more apartment 💩 to deal with!
Call the cop let them deal with it. Period
What do you do when your loud neighbor is also your property manager? 😒
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You gotta move
This only works if the neighbour doesn't see niceness as weakness. I've had feral neighbours, it's best to make it quietly known that you aren't to be messed with. Maybe it's my ex teacher death stare , but I'm the only one in my block that the problem residents don't try it on with.
I have a noisy neighbor I want to kill...I never bothered to get a TV because I'd never be able to hear it anyway.
Some animal species are protected by law because theres a shortage of them. They dont want them to become extinct..
Why are assholes protected by law..in fact they're protected all year round...is there a shortage of them?..are they about to be extinct?..whats so special about them?..why do we need more of them?..I dont understand that!!
It's legal at animal shelters to murder dogs and cats if they dont get adopted, just because they dont have a home..but its illegal to shoot an asshole...the life of a dog and a cat is far more valuable than the life of an asshole..
At this very moment, my ceiling is going BOOM BOOM BOOM
I hate the son of a bitch who lives above me.
hey, if you have a subwoofer or speakers put them as close to the ceiling as possible and blast this at 100% ruclips.net/video/ZTBgaR_3pbI/видео.html
I wrote a letter to a loud church beside me asking them not to be so loud in the night. I even ask them for a chance to sit and talk about the situation. They apologized, then the following friday night they held a concert from 8pm until 12:30 in the morning at full volume blast and called me a demon for asking them to turn it down.
We are sorry to hear that, but thank you for sharing! Good luck finding a more comfortable situation. 🙏🏻
I'm sorry sweetie but this is funny af🤣🤣🤣
Hahaha! I haTe faKe ApoLogy.
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@@turtleislandlac1490 ok Karen don't pop the strings on you face mask, I'm sorry😔.......NOT!!😝... its FUNNY bahahahahah🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.
That's not good advice for single female living alone.
I started to mow my lawn at night and it's right under the window where they sleep. It's a retirement community and grandma brought her daughter who doesn't work, to live in the garage with two wild kids and a Great Dane. We need our naps lol.😅🤣😂 Talking didn't work because I sold her the house and knew her for 20 years. Our friendship was destroyed over all the kids screaming and dog peeing and pooping all over. Absolutely no respect for our community. 😢 So I blame myself for thinking I did her a favor, never realizing she would take advantage of me and the other neighbors. 😠 😡
It is truly hard to correct those things after they've begun. But hopefully something good comes out of it. You're right, respect for the communities we all live in can be disrupted by just a small number of people neglecting it. Good luck with that difficult situation, and thank you for the comment.
I live upstairs and the downstairs neighbors are so insanely loud! Loud talking, yelling NOOOOOOOOOO constantly, these are studio apartments only 400 sq ft in size and there is an old lady, a lady in her 50s a younger girl in her 20's AND one screaming 2 year old and like a 5 year old girl. The lady and the 2 year old are beyond loud! i can even hear them WITH my headphones on! its just insane and at the moment, i cant move ive tried to tell the manager but nothing gets done.
Moonlight Knight hahahah I walk in socks the stupid b...ch upstairs can hair my steps and follows me and start throwing stuff on the floor so hard and then starts walking really hard and everything moves or shakes in my apartment!!!! She just to make her big dog run in the apartment and jumped I called management. They stop making the dog run but everything else remain the same. I hope she
Some neighbors r unhinged nitwits, I got one that I tried befriending for 2 years & she was 'eh!' So she gets a dog, her dog craps everywhere & I asked her nicely that it's messy & I offered her doggie doo bags. She takes it upon herself to allow the dog to shit more areas & blames other dogs. She dumps her dog shit into my trash bin, gets drunk & yells out random dumb crap directed at me across the alley, amongst other juvenile bs. I googled her, she has psyche issues & run ins with the law, along with her mother. I'm putting security cameras up, tired of her psycho bs.
Good tips, but what about a situation where the owner of the appartment above you rents out the place to people on holiday at least every weekend?
That's awesome, Ethan. I'm glad that worked out for you. However, that being said, I have been awake all night because of a new tenant who moved in below me that snores so loud that he literally rumbles my floor. I've tried the civil way and that went nowhere. Going without sleep for so long, I'm now considering the nuclear option...like a makeshift bowling alley in my apartment.
Dude, you totally lucked out with your neighbor 'John'. Unfortunately there are a LOT of people in this world that won't work with you like he did.
That is true! And the neighbor of the resident at the other apartment building also didn’t lose their mind. Some people are slightly crazy or off their rocker..best to not involve them.
The point is this, in reality people at a typical building may break down like this:
40% actually polite, will cooperate
20% no reply but slightly help, barely at all
15% be worse/hate/argue (careful language)
15% try to help but don’t change
10% crazy (leave alone)
But in our MINDS, it feels like everyone is:
100% hate/argue/crazy
If approached with mindfulness you have a chance of improving things, and it is worth a try.
For the 25% that may be argue or crazy…. that’s up to you to identify from a distance before you intervene. Another valuable life skill.
Note: surely very poor neighborhoods/government housing are surely much worse than those numbers above, which is sad and a different topic. This is more for apartments that are expensive enough to be decent but still accessible to working class folks.
Thanks for watching enough to get the name of the guy. And good luck 🙏🏼
I bought a basketball 🏀 in hopes that would help. I call 311 and ask the concierge for help and nothing . I even wrote thank you notes when she’s quiet with nyfw invites and she’s back at her trash music bass rattling 😅
You did your part by reaching out and trying. That is tough. If you find a solution that truly helped the situation please share. Thank you!
You people have no idea how it is during festivals in India its like 24/7 Loud crappy music through some crappy speakers it is unbearable. Hell of a place it is
My downstairs neighbor complains about me....I'm barely in my apartment and they had the audacity to change their wifi to please to don't stomp "room #".... I don't think I could walk more gingerly
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Omg this is me too. I'm like if I pulled my rugs and walked normal you'd be really pissed!
I'm downstairs from somebody and they couldn't give a shit ..it's very upsetting..they have wooden floors !
Well this is my take on it. Apartments, unless those ceilings/floors are made of concrete you will hear foot traffic especially with wood floors.
I am on the second floor of our complex and the neighbors have complained on me because apparently I walk too loud (I’m 170), they can hear the dogs footsteps (which is 30 pounds). I tried for many months to walk lightly after that complaint but what I’ve noticed is that everytime I vacuum the neighbors downstairs starts slamming their doors.
So I stopped walking extra light and walked normal.
If you don’t want to hear your neighbors - buy a single detached home.
That’s fucking genius imma change my WiFi to “it’s 10pm on wednesday tf is your music that loud for do you not have a job?”
My ghetto neighbor and leasing manager does nothing.
I have a neighbour who actually turns a radio up full and leaves the house to anoy us after a noise complaint she keeps it on from 6am in the morning to 10 - 11 o'clock pm, because she owns her house the police say they can't act only ask her to turn it down, at the moment she also bangs pots and pans in her back yard shouting if you want noise I will give you noise slams her back door repeatedly and then what sounds like every colbert door in her kitchen, I'm starting to think the only way to stop this is to take drastic action
I moved to a new apartment back in June. Every since then, on Friday Saturday, my neighbor downstairs played the music so loud and it wakes me up at 2-3 am (happened 4 times already). The leasing office kept telling me that there is no proof that it is the unit downstairs making the noise and they would not contact him. With them not doing their jobs, I think I would give your recommendation a try and thank for telling ur story at a nice and relaxed way that also calm me down.
Thank you Christina, good luck! We want people to remember that you asking what YOU can do for them gives the other person an idea that at the very least you're hoping to find middle ground. Be human in your approach. Look for common ground. Even if they look and act different from you.. ask what they do for a living, how they've been with the virus shut down. If they're still mean, then later offer an apology if you offended them. Anything to be on the same team as your neighbor. If they're younger for example, ask what that music is and tell them what you used to listen to when you were that age. Also remember that I myself have been the scared guy before without knowing I could try to improve the situation...in that case.. I got used to those soft #earplugs usually hard to find, but at EVERY big grocery store and #Amazon. Look for the best dB rating. Good luck turning the negative into a positive!
Record it. Only way honestly do it without faces shown
I tried something like this yesterday, wrote a very friendly worded note, and I got a note back saying "we will absolutely not change anything to accommodate you" 😞 I don't know what to do now.
Oh no :( have you found anything else to have worked? I am in a situation with people knowingly making noise at all hours
@@TheNails3 I tried blown in insulation, it didn't work. I ended up selling my condo. 😳 I'm renting a townhouse now and it's so much better
They need to give it back they way they are getting it if you bang every 15 minutes on your celling so they can't sleep they will stop that shit quickkkkkk it literally works nothing else worked nothing at all
We live in a townhouse, and it's a set of 4 that are interconnected. We have been here for 6 years and we rent from our friend who owns it. About a year and a half ago, new neighbors moved in next door. They were occasionally loud, but nothing too bad. Then his jail bird buddy moves in with the ladies who live on the end unit. Now, all kinds of strangers are outside, being loud, leaving trash outside and playing rap music with heavy bass that vibrates the unit, all hours of the day and into the night. They have zero consideration for anyone else in the neighborhood, who are also annoyed. At least the ones I spoke to about it. Moving is not an option for us, and I'm losing my patience.
One time, a new neighbor moved into the upstairs apartment and they LITERALLY moved in at 3 o'clock in the morning!! Dragging their luggage on laminate floor and walking with what sounded like Dutch wooden shoes!!! LITERALLY! Wwwwtf! If you move in at 3am not giving a shiat about the downstairs tenants well, you know the type of neighbors they'll be. Angry, annoyed and upset I said ok ill let it pass its their first day. But damn that a lot for me to just let it pass. Anyhoo, over the next couple of days their noises continued while they were rearranging their furniture etc. Angry, annoyed and upset I said well, I suppose its only fair(in a way) they're just settling in ill let it pass, soon they'll be conscious of their noise. NOPE! I may sound like a passive person but I am beyond that, however i do try and be fair. My gf called management to complain so management sent them a letter and in turn the neighbors gave my gf their cellphone number so that if they were being too noisy to text them, I said GREAT! Problem solved! NOPE! My gf texted them when they were being noisy and they would hush down for about 15 minutes and start again. All this shiat happened early in the morning like 5am+. We never make loud noises, I take my shoes off and use slippers, have music/tv at normal volumes, we are the perfect neighbors bitch! You'd want us as neighbors! I had never interacted with them, it was always my gf(for a reason). Aaanyhoo one day I had it! It was 5 o'clock in the morning and they had loud music and talking real loud like if there was no one living below them! I got up, went to my drawer, grabbed my knife, placed it on my waist, walked upstairs, knocked on the door they opened it and I said "HEY, I have to get up in 2 hours, can you lower your music" while exposing my knife. I walked upstairs with two options, 1- See my knife. 2- Feel my knife. The choice was theirs. I was half awake, half asleep, angry, annoyed and upset I didn't care what would happen. And that's why my gf was the one interacting with them. Afterwards they eventually kept it down till they moved out some 2 years later.
You're lucky he was understandable. My neighbor is a complete garbage bag
So are mine…
My upstair neighbor never freaking sits his ass down. He goes to bed super late and wakes up very early all the time. Often watching TV above my head in the middle of the night while pacing for some reason. I'm about to lose my shit. Always wearing headphones or earplugs isn't good for my ears.
That is a tough situation if it is constant and it doesn’t sound like some type of event based behavior like a party or anything.
The point of this video is the first assess if you think someone might be totally defensive or become worse from you asking them, but if you phrase it such as: we as neighbors cannot reasonably ask each other to be silent after 10 PM, but if it is a possibility to move around more quietly between XYZ times, or walk less, put a rug down etc, that would be appreciated and let me know if there is anything I/we could do to be a more respectful neighbor as well.
And you could apologize and say how the thing at fault is the design of the buildings etc.
However, as you can see from the comments with some people, it makes matters worse to engage, and you should ask the manager to send out a general announcement.
This is apartment living, and it is certainly not perfect. Good luck thank you for commenting.
he could be a tweaker
Stomping or walking on heels neighbors find the excuse to not doing about the noise saying its their "natural way' of walking. What about carpet. they don't like it so it's their choice to ignore the complaints, because the solution requires efforts from their end.
My current neighbor for example blames her cats making the noises, but I can hear walking stomping.
Being there done that. Left a very nice note and a $25 Starbucks gift card. She told the management that I was harassing her and they told me to never ever leave a note or knock at her door otherwise I would be getting vacant in ten days...
just blast this on 100% volume on your speakers, works like a charm ruclips.net/video/ZTBgaR_3pbI/видео.html
you don't negotiate with the terrorists after all :P
So I wrote a letter… and it actually WORKED. My neighbor apologized and is being much more respectful about his noise level. Thank you for this advice… I was so angry before writing that letter and found a lot of peace after just putting my thoughts down, especially after it was received so well. Thank you thank you thank you SO much
My neighbor stomps all day if I play my music at all but he plays his however loud he wants. His sister is the landlord's wife and the landlord's literally told me he knows the guy is crazy but I'm the one that has to just accept it because his wife won't let him kick the freak out. He doesn't even pay rent either. Has attacked and threatened me before and even the cops won't do anything about it.
Sorry about that! A true test. It seems like you’re trying to be reasonable but they can’t be expected to with that situation. Speaker placement could help if you play with the acoustics.
Be safe and don’t engage if you think it might get to a threatening situation. If you must just accept, try soft earplugs like in the part 2 video, or a little fan to provide an additional hush that is YOUR hush that will be the prevailing sound. Sometimes that subtle change can give a little peace of mind
My neighbors seem to understand that they were being noisy. I had to call the cops though, since then they try to limit or change their child behavior. It works during the day. But at night, he gets up at least 6 times a night and start walking/running on his heels. I tried to adjust my sleep schedule to fit theirs, but it's impossible, it's all the time. They are well aware that I can't take it anymore, I often cry in the middle of the night when he bangs and they hear it for sure (very thin walls/floors). But yet it's been years, the kid didn't learn to walk and I still struggle to catch 4-5 hours of sleep at night. It makes me so sad because I use to be an easy sleeper. Not anymore, i'm traumatized. No money to move elsewhere, feel so trapped in my life right now.
You are not alone, I am in same situation. The idiots are loud on everything possible, teaching their silly kid to stomp as loud as he can, never walk him outside. Also fighting so everyone in whole neighborhood can hear their screams during night or early morning.
Hopefully 40$ subwoofer facing down to their ceiling will be enough, they will listen to same sounds they do all night and low frequency ghost sound during day.
Come to Mankato Minnesota , I'm sure u will love it at Lloyd management properties, they will laugh anyone's comments or reports off and call u crazy , yeah it is abuse for a above neighbor to not be considerate of others. Why don't landlords do something about it instead of being lazy? Building code problem? Fix it! , Inconsiderate neighbors? Fix it ! Do ur job landlords and talk to the person who the noise complaint was given to , problem solved !
meanwhile I got 7 people above me in a 2 bedroom. they are drug dealers building always smell like weed.
Perfect
I had to duct tape my vents
You know I thought about playing loud music for several hours but I think the mature me the new me will try this first thanks dude I honestly think this is a great start
Same but I have like 4 or 5 people next to me that live in a 2 bedroom apartment
I've been there and now am in a totally different, messed up situation with thr neighbors that replaced them. Humans are truly an awful species.
I have a neighbour that has a 3 year old son and at like 7-8 he makes him run around to make him get tired and we can hear him encouraging him, so my parents got me to play my music to the child’s room to wake him up crying when he’s sleeping. Karmas a bitch
I bet it is. How did karma come back to you for being mean to that kid?
It’s worse when it’s a house you saved your whole life to buy, the dream home. And now you’re looking to sell and move again just to get away and probably lose $100K in the process.
That sounds awful, we are sorry, you've probably looked into every aspect of the situation at this point. The reason we offered this as a possible solution is that sometimes you can't move, or it would cost that much, and add to that the possibility of your next neighbor presenting even some worse problem. Sorry it won't help in your case and thank you for sharing your story.
@@NotJustNinjas I tried all that, in the end I was literally crying from a lack of sleep and begging them. Their response to that was to put a wind chime outside my bedroom...
My FARKKKING NEIGHBOURS have ppl over nearlly every saturday night play music loud they just dont care at all about rhe whole cultasac that we live in... making me crazy.. im now looking at moving at BEACUSE of them.. HOW DO PPL LIVE knowing they are causing other ppl this much heartache... ?? Fucking unbelievable 🤔😨😳🥺
You probably not living in New York City I did all that even put nice cards, speak several ocasión and my neighbors hates me now I call the cops on them all the time and about to sue my landlord for not taking care of the situation. 🙏
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I live in a Apartment and I recently upgraded my piano to a yamaha ydp arius-144 its a great piano but it's really loud, my neighbors would get really mad when I played, they bang 3 times as a sing for me to shut up, one day I ignored them and this old lady came out and yelled at me.I got headphones and thought that that would sole a problem, as soon as I started playing with headphones they still got mad I didn't know why, then i realised that they can her the piano key's when I pressed then, now I cant play piano at all, idk what to do.
We have a constanly disturbing neighbor acting out .
The management won't do anything about it. .
We ALL are aware that this person is deeply disturbed, and a threat to the tenants here.
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Hi
Good idea!
But your video sound is horrible
YOu add background music, and it is nice and silence.
But it hard to hear you.
Thank you, we know that now. For this video the editor went nuts with the background music
nothin wrong with trying but what work best is going to war. Si vis pacem, para bellum, If you want peace, prepare for war. ether you lose or they lose and you get peace one way or another
It’s 1am and my neighbour is doing her Oscar winning love making shrieking performance. Sometimes i scream immediately after her to show how ridiculous she sounds. My kids are home tonight though and I don’t want to wake them
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Lol
My neighbors are learning that my harley is louder than their music and since my bike is a form of transportation and their music isnt, the law is on my side on this, I don't feel bad at all. I just really need a bag of chips and a soda every hour on the hour 😁 until 7 a.m.....
Your bike causes permanent hearing damage to entire neighborhood in less than 2 mins.
Just talk with them and solve it out before anyone goes deaf.
This happened my neighborhood, you don't want 15 years of imprisonment & that guilt of deafening someone.
Just introduce them to Soundproofing. Tell them to use their SUBWOOFERS in cardroid configuration. (To focus energy in their studio only)
Just closing the doors and windows do wonders. (In most of the cases)
Btw, the road rage that you do got no cure. 1 kid from my apartment top liver go deaf, another kid from back too. They cry whenever such bikes pass now.
I'm on the safer side cause of Soundproofing. Rip neighborhood here.
@@josealfredfernandes there are noise ordinances for loud bikes just in case you didn't know.
@@beautifuldreamer3991 what's better? Gaining unwanted attention from strangers by complaining? Or soundproofing (being safe from noise) ?
I prefer option 2. It's far better to be safe in my own house. Rather than complaining against hooligans and getting my @$$ wreaked.. I prefer soundproofing + my peace + ignore those fools✋🥳.. and let them die..
Lol. I hate those things so much, but in this case... I love it! Good for you.
10:39pm and my stinking ass neighbors outside playing loud music and games because they don't and have life ! I need sleep, I have work in the morning 😭😭😭
This works only with decent people
I recently had new neighbors move in downstairs in an apartment complex and they are really noisy. It is a 1 bedroom and The couple has 2 children living there with them. The kids run, jump, and make noise all day long. I am working from home and am unable to focus as the floor shakes and vibrates. I really can't stand it and feel that I have a right to some peace and quiet at times. I am in tears at times over it as I can't move right now, but can't take it anymore. I don't even understand why they don't try to control their kids. Is there any thing I can do about this other than talk to them as I don't know them and don't feel comfortable doing this. Do I have rights? I need a resolution and can't where ear plugs all day with my work.
That is a tough situation because if kids are under 8 years old or so, even if the parents want to it’s impossible to keep kids from running, jumping, falling, dropping toys etc. So if you do talk to them keep that in mind that you might be asking them to do something they don’t even know how to do. But there are certain activities I have made my kid not do inside, especially if I’m not on the bottom floor, and not after 9pm. Like the mini basketball hoop, or jumping from beds etc. Some people are just not open to cooperating because they feel attacked by being asked ANYTHING. It is best to ask that yourself if you feel you can, so you can gauge whether they are being respectful. Please use your best judgement. If you feel it’s better to ask the rental manager to talk to them then do that. Good luck hope it improves!🤞🏼
@@NotJustNinjas Thank you for your reply. I had to speak with the management because it got so bad I couldn't take it. I live in an area with all 1 bedrooms units and never expected a family of 4 to move in to a 1 bedroom underneath me. They do have 2 bedrooms here. If I had known I would have moved out when my lease renewal came up and now I am stuck. I like kids, but honestly 2 boys jumping, banging, running etc. every time they are home is too much. I don't ever hear the parents trying to stop them at all either. I grew up with brothers and my parents would never let them get away this type of behavior. This is the worst noise I have experienced in an apt to date. I am pretty sure that the management will do nothing, but I will keep complaining as I feel I have a right to some peace and quiet.
My neighbors have a live band. I have not slept all week. Kill me. I am now physically ill from this.
I've gone up to my new neighbor above me to ask if he could be mindful of his foot noise. I was as pleasant and all smiles as possible, and all he did was get angry at me and yell and slam the door. The stomping on the floor has been present day in day out for the past 8 months. Occasionally dropping heavy elephant sized objects over my head with a rumble that sends my heart racing in shock. I went up there once before and asked again in my best manners, for him to tone it down and i got the door slammed at my face again. Even now at 2:25am, I still hear him stomping around. He sleeps late and he works from home. As do I. I've hit the ceiling in the past and yes he called security on me, which i told security to go up to his room and tell him to quiet down. He did. Only to start up again the next day. All day. Every day. These 8 months have been hell. I really have no wish to make nice and go have a drink with this angry millennial dude above me. I hit the ceiling today at 11pm, he didn't care. I know he heard it. He's told me before. He kept on stomping about anyway. He's driven up my anxiety so much.
Can the manager of the property listen to your story? Then they may think of something else they can try.
What type of construction are you in? There are some types of apartments where it is nearly hopeless to expect quiet. In these cases we say rugs, carpets, curtains.. these things stifle sound a lot..a fan, white noise machine, experiment with ambient music, use earplugs to sleep, etc.
Keep hanging in there. Some people have no idea how loud it can be beneath them. The noise and vibration levels really depend on the type of construction of the place.
That’s a well written comment, by the way.
@@NotJustNinjas Yes i have tried every single thing you mentioned. Telling the building manager, which all they could do was offer me another unit in the building, and trap me in another year contract---but im in santa monica and this apartment is super expensive. So trying to break a lease would cost $16+k (2 months + concessions /which is another 8 weeks that i got free when i moved in--so a total of almost 4 months of rent) but after talking to a neighbor on another floor, she said her upstairs neighbor also walks all over the place with her heels which drives her crazy. So I decided not to move to another unit and trap myself to another year of possible thumping above me. I was just gonna ride it out.
The walls are great here though. I never hear the neighbors through the walls at all. Just the guy above me. Stomp Stomp.
I sleep with noise cancelling earplugs. They only last 6 hours or 5.5. So i will wake up and transfer to another set of ear plugs fully charged. This is every day
I am moving down the street next week. An occean view. Unfortunately, neighbor student above in that unit also walk all over the place. Plus her mom/parents are visiting so I'm hoping the noise is temporary. But It's not as heavy as this guy above me right now who is anxiety inducing, so here's hoping. xxx 🙏🙏
I lived on the second floor, and i introduced myself to my neighbor and gave her my number to let me know if my family and I are being loud. The floors were laminate so you could hear everything. Unfortunately she never called me once. She instead would leave her radio on all night long with the base on high, with the volume on low. The base carried upstairs pretty loud, and she called the cops at 3:30am when my family and I were dead asleep. The cops must have been her friends cause they pounded on my door like we were criminals and asked lots of questions and for ID. All for a slow water leak behind the wall of my kitchen sink. I was pissed cause since when do cops do that for a water leak?
Cops do not normally ask about a water leak. You got screwed
And she more than likely was laughing
I made the mistake of giving my neighbor my number the first day I met her. She harassed me for every move I made for years until I blocked her texts. She still is harassing me and accuses me of things I didn't do all the time.