Pro-tip: Don't say you're starting to feel distant. This will cause him to think you don't want to be with him anymore. That is my 2 cents. Take it for what it's worth.
My boyfriend is deploying for a year and this is my first deployment and I can't express how scared I am but this video actually helped a lot in trying to prepare for this! Thank you!
Regarding feelings: I totally needed confirmation about being able to talk about how I feel right now! I've been so fearful about opening up and thought telling him was showing him I couldn't be strong enough to endure this..so thanks for explaining that
There is a reason why OPSEC is so important. It may seem like harmless info, but little bits of info from numerous sources often will give enemy agents of foreign countries the name of the unit, the length of deployment, the strength of the unit, the destination of the unit, and the reason for deployment. Also, its considered a violation of the UCMJ to discuss anything regarding unit deployments.
All your videos are very helpful! I just found out about my boyfriends deployment and it really hit me hard! These videos gave me faith that everything will be okay!
These videos have been super helpful my boyfriend has just started his training for the military and it’s all really new to me and has caused a lot of emotional turmoil over the last two weeks trying to adjust, that you for sharing the part about feeling too because that’s always what I’m most worried about I’m really verbal about how I feel but I didn’t want to feel like I’m piling stuff on him. He will go on deployment next year and I want to make sure we’re ready.
My love is deployed for the next 3 years but I can't wait to see him 🖤 hopefully I will actually be able to go visit him before then but we will see 🥰 either way I pray that he stays safe and comfortable
This video helped put my mind at ease. My boyfriend is also in the Navy and is getting deployed and it’s going to be our first one as a couple so we don’t know what that’s going to be like. Thank you so much for the tips!
Wow idk if this is a coincidence or not but the way these kind of videos keep popping up on my recommendations is wild bc I kind of know this guy - my friends brother who is deployed and I love these tips💕
you absolutely need to talk about death if your husband is going to somewhere that death is an actual concern. He should have a will and maybe a list of things you need from him I.E my wife does not want my clothes washed after I die that is in my will. Because if your significant other dies they wash all of his stuff. And my wife wants something that “smells” like me. I don’t know why but I respect that. I stumbled upon this and I get the vibe this is your first deployment?
I think maybe this was misinterpreted. And I should have been more clear. Wills, etc. definitely need to be discussed before deployment. I was mainly talking about the death of family members, other bad news. The point was to go through the red cross/the chain of command for anything relating to death that isn't about you or him. Thanks for making this clear in the comments though for others who may have this question!
I'm seeing my boyfriend next weekend to see him graduate from navy basic training. What should I expect and prepare for when he leaves for advanced training?
Sam Thomas My soldier just got done with basic this past weekend. He is in the ARMY so I am unsure if things are necessarily the same. What I do know, however, is that they'll have access to their technology. This means phonecalls, video calls, and emails. Don't expect to get one every single day. They are studying, working out, etc. in order to prepare themselves to both graduate and deploy. It'll be super tough not being able to touch them or go on date nights but the communication you get is so much better than you got at basic. Keep your chin up and make sure you ask plenty of questions to engage a conversation talking about him and your feelings.
Oh, and don't text them all the time. I usually send him a cute good morning but leaving him 20 messages a day is a little much. Believe me, I want to send him everything so I understand. And, unlike basic, you can send them small packages. Make sure they meet the guidelines (look up dos and don'ts). In general, I send him my favorite books with little notes inside. He tells me when he's done and I'll send him another. We also send each other cool songs we found so the other person can listen. You can make it fun just keep in mind how busy and dedicated they are. :)
I’m getting couple red flags first he wants me to send him money I m trying so hard to avoid it and 2nd I ask him if I could send him a care package and he said oh I have everything I need like ok buddy I also meant him online... He also told me this will be his last deployment and he’s done... I already told him I will be waiting for him to come back to see if there’s anything there who knows with him... he also said his wife died and his mom is taking care of his kid I’m so confused 🤷🏼♀️
Charasmarie Plans do you know him in real life? It sounds like a scammer. They don't need money, at all. My husband is deploying soon and they get paid, their food there is free. Sometimes people from different countries will scam women for money claiming they're "deployed" and they're not, at all. Feel free to message me on Instagram if you have one. Mine is xo.AmySarah.xo
Brit, love your videos! Quick question, how does your husband tell you he is coming home? Is it through a phone conversation or do you use a code? Thanks
hi guys.. I'm just want to ask.. I meet only him on dating site..and he told if he want me to meet him. I should apply a form for his deployment,but said I need to pay for his form..someone can say if it is true or not..please guys thanks
ruclips.net/video/SjuSVfTNgRE/видео.html watch this video and read some of the comments. Bottom line. Service members will never ask for money if they are real. They are lying to get money.
+Brit+Con hi its me again..its means he was a fake USA army,coz he said I need to pay his form for deployment,so I don't need to believe him,but he really said he was not a fake
I will be a military wife in the next year or so. I just want to know how do you find out when they come back from deployment? Does your spouse tell you or?
if your man is overseas fighting in a combat zone the best thing you can do is bottle that shit up and keep it to yourself and not cause him to be stressed out about your shit cause a fucked up cluttered mind in a combat area will lead to him getting injured or killed due to you stressing him out and taking him off his focus. Ladies if you have a problem and are angry then get into a fight with you family or friends but due not put your loved one in harms way by making them mentally unstable and unfocused because they are worried about your problems
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Pro-tip: Don't say you're starting to feel distant. This will cause him to think you don't want to be with him anymore. That is my 2 cents. Take it for what it's worth.
Thank you for this advice..i needed this right nowm
True. It destroyed my last relationship.
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My boyfriend is deploying for a year and this is my first deployment and I can't express how scared I am but this video actually helped a lot in trying to prepare for this! Thank you!
Bri B Just dropped my boyfriend off this morning for a 400 day deployment. How are you doing?
Bri B when does he leave? I’m so glad this is a somewhat recent comment. My boyfriend just left this August and he’s leaving for 13 months...
@@helenagutierrez2306 My boyfriend is over seas right now. I'm doing okay I suppose. Everyone is still adjusting.
How are you?
Jesus I would die if he leaves longer than 6-8 month
@@brittany136 How did things end up going?
going on my 3rd deployment and I didn't even think about the geo-location on pictures! good tip!!!
This channel is exactly what iv been looking for
Yay! Glad you found it!💛
Regarding feelings: I totally needed confirmation about being able to talk about how I feel right now! I've been so fearful about opening up and thought telling him was showing him I couldn't be strong enough to endure this..so thanks for explaining that
This is my 2nd deployment with my husband. All the stuff you have said is so accurate. Thank you for making this video for everyone else ❤
There is a reason why OPSEC is so important. It may seem like harmless info, but little bits of info from numerous sources often will give enemy agents of foreign countries the name of the unit, the length of deployment, the strength of the unit, the destination of the unit, and the reason for deployment. Also, its considered a violation of the UCMJ to discuss anything regarding unit deployments.
Omg I had no idea that you had to be so private with the info . I’m happy I haven’t said anything but you affirming it saved me the possibilities!
All your videos are very helpful! I just found out about my boyfriends deployment and it really hit me hard! These videos gave me faith that everything will be okay!
Yay! Glad these are helping. Don't think about it until time gets closer. Enjoy your time together and you can do it!💕
These videos have been super helpful my boyfriend has just started his training for the military and it’s all really new to me and has caused a lot of emotional turmoil over the last two weeks trying to adjust, that you for sharing the part about feeling too because that’s always what I’m most worried about I’m really verbal about how I feel but I didn’t want to feel like I’m piling stuff on him. He will go on deployment next year and I want to make sure we’re ready.
corinne mast I feel mine just left for training a couple days ago. It’s super hard. Prayers/good wishes that all goes well for you guys!
thankyou for sharing your videos on commuications opsec rules and the recalation for being careful with leave messages on his phone
My love is deployed for the next 3 years but I can't wait to see him 🖤 hopefully I will actually be able to go visit him before then but we will see 🥰 either way I pray that he stays safe and comfortable
This video helped put my mind at ease. My boyfriend is also in the Navy and is getting deployed and it’s going to be our first one as a couple so we don’t know what that’s going to be like. Thank you so much for the tips!
Glad I could help. You've got this💕
This really helped especially the part about lack of communication and arguments! Thanks for the tips 😊
No problem! Glad it helped(:
Wow idk if this is a coincidence or not but the way these kind of videos keep popping up on my recommendations is wild bc I kind of know this guy - my friends brother who is deployed and I love these tips💕
I very much needed this one about the feelings... thanks..
This helped so much! My husband is deployed & the communication has been awful & we still got 6ish more months to go 😥
Oh no! Hope things get better! Glad I could help!
😔 aww how long do you usually wait in order to communicate with him again?
What if I screenshot the photo would that change the location to where I screenshot it?
We’re you ever nervous or scared that one or both of you would be different when they came back?
I needed an answer to this..help..😭
Did you ever find out through personal experience (since it’s a year later after this comment was made)?
No my brother just went overseas and I’m really nervous that we will be completely different when he comes home
@@braedenfaust8779 did he change after boot camp?
I found through personal experience since this comment! He got back and dumped me for his step sister!
Thank you so much for making this. I’m so nervous for my boyfriend’s first deployment 😬
I ask if the Deployment duty can't video call him?thnks
I ask same question cant video call?
Yay she did my request 😊
Thank you it has been so helpful i have been with my boyfriend for a month
This was so helpful! My bf is currently away for work and I’ve never had this conversation with him yet. Thank you!
It sucks im pregnant every time my husband deploys it’s so hard 😭.
I had our 3rd baby by myself this deployment. So hard. Praying for you!
Great info. My bae is scheduled to come back until October 2017. Which is forever to me.
missing my husband a little extra today :( thank you for your tips! 🤍
What's the song in the intro called? It's catchy
I believe it’s Higher by Unspoken!
you absolutely need to talk about death if your husband is going to somewhere that death is an actual concern. He should have a will and maybe a list of things you need from him I.E my wife does not want my clothes washed after I die that is in my will. Because if your significant other dies they wash all of his stuff. And my wife wants something that “smells” like me. I don’t know why but I respect that. I stumbled upon this and I get the vibe this is your first deployment?
I think maybe this was misinterpreted. And I should have been more clear. Wills, etc. definitely need to be discussed before deployment. I was mainly talking about the death of family members, other bad news. The point was to go through the red cross/the chain of command for anything relating to death that isn't about you or him. Thanks for making this clear in the comments though for others who may have this question!
Ok I gotcha sorry if I came off a little overzealous. Keep having fun blogging away!
No problem! Thanks!
What kind of code? We had an idea but I think it’s kinda basic so any suggestions would be very helpful!
I'm seeing my boyfriend next weekend to see him graduate from navy basic training. What should I expect and prepare for when he leaves for advanced training?
Sam Thomas My soldier just got done with basic this past weekend. He is in the ARMY so I am unsure if things are necessarily the same. What I do know, however, is that they'll have access to their technology. This means phonecalls, video calls, and emails. Don't expect to get one every single day. They are studying, working out, etc. in order to prepare themselves to both graduate and deploy. It'll be super tough not being able to touch them or go on date nights but the communication you get is so much better than you got at basic. Keep your chin up and make sure you ask plenty of questions to engage a conversation talking about him and your feelings.
Oh, and don't text them all the time. I usually send him a cute good morning but leaving him 20 messages a day is a little much. Believe me, I want to send him everything so I understand. And, unlike basic, you can send them small packages. Make sure they meet the guidelines (look up dos and don'ts). In general, I send him my favorite books with little notes inside. He tells me when he's done and I'll send him another. We also send each other cool songs we found so the other person can listen. You can make it fun just keep in mind how busy and dedicated they are. :)
Thank you so much this was incredibly helpful!!! :)
I'm so glad I could help!! It'll be tough but so worth it for the one you love!
Yeah it's hard but then I remind myself that it'll be worth it!!
Britt! Thank you for making these videos.
I Think you're Awesome 💞💝
Thank you! 😊Glad you like my videos!
My name is Rosie! I Will be writing to you soon. Ty 💞
When they are deployed, do they use GMAIL emails when sending business email to their family or loved ones?
They can, but usually it’s a military email!
Brit+Con Thank you! :)
Hi Brit I love your video cause it has educational for me
Thanks for the vid! Going on our first deployment with my fiancé
This is really helpful thank you for posting this and the other videos they are so helpful
No problem! Glad they help(:
So does it depend on where they go if they can have phones right? First time deployment and dating a military guy. I'm nervous.
Same
I’m getting couple red flags first he wants me to send him money I m trying so hard to avoid it and 2nd I ask him if I could send him a care package and he said oh I have everything I need like ok buddy I also meant him online...
He also told me this will be his last deployment and he’s done...
I already told him I will be waiting for him to come back to see if there’s anything there who knows with him... he also said his wife died and his mom is taking care of his kid I’m so confused 🤷🏼♀️
Charasmarie Plans do you know him in real life? It sounds like a scammer. They don't need money, at all. My husband is deploying soon and they get paid, their food there is free. Sometimes people from different countries will scam women for money claiming they're "deployed" and they're not, at all. Feel free to message me on Instagram if you have one. Mine is xo.AmySarah.xo
Also these men are not in the military or American. It's just a scam for money. Don't ever send money please!
@@Amy-fg6in help!!
I met one online. Never asked me for money but I can’t call her only messages.
@@shortnik11 Yes me too what does that mean? It's a scam help lol.
Do you have a business or “fan email” we can reach you at for advice?
This helps a lot thank you
Thank you
It hasn’t been a week yet and it’s crazy bcs I’m not clingy but omg this is hard😭😭😭
Amoré Baskin same here 😭😭been a month without hearing and seeing my partner
Brit, love your videos! Quick question, how does your husband tell you he is coming home? Is it through a phone conversation or do you use a code? Thanks
Devorah Friedlander Yes! He tells me in code! It can be phone or email but it always has to be in code.
Brit+Con So interesting! I never knew that.
Thanks so much
you are so right
hi guys.. I'm just want to ask.. I meet only him on dating site..and he told if he want me to meet him. I should apply a form for his deployment,but said I need to pay for his form..someone can say if it is true or not..please guys thanks
ruclips.net/video/SjuSVfTNgRE/видео.html watch this video and read some of the comments. Bottom line. Service members will never ask for money if they are real. They are lying to get money.
+Brit+Con hi its me again..its means he was a fake USA army,coz he said I need to pay his form for deployment,so I don't need to believe him,but he really said he was not a fake
Roche Bingco I would just end communication with him. He's not a good guy.
+Brit+Con OK thanks
can i ask bout transit form girl needed pay wroth of 200 dollars for deployment
I will be a military wife in the next year or so.
I just want to know how do you find out when they come back from deployment? Does your spouse tell you or?
Yes, my husband told me. Usually, within a month he will know and also the FRG will have a meeting to tell everyone when they come home.
Brit+Con awesome! Your videos are really helping me with what to expect and how to prepare for my loved one being away!
Good! Glad I can help 😃
Her intro pumps me up and makes me laugh so much lmao
Thanks for the info
I just watch it I grow up in the Military from my dad in the Air Force and now my husband in the Army
i love ur vedios helped me a lot
As a newbie, this does jack for me. No location... GOT IT! NEXT
I just dropped my boyfriend off this morning for a 400 day deployment. This is our first deployment 🙁
You got this! Really encourage you to go through my deployment series. You are not alone ❤️
Our 400 days is finally on down slope. It's hard but you're amazing. Grace on grace with grace sauce for yourself, every day, every minute!
Who thumbed down this video!?
Right! 😒
if your man is overseas fighting in a combat zone the best thing you can do is bottle that shit up and keep it to yourself and not cause him to be stressed out about your shit cause a fucked up cluttered mind in a combat area will lead to him getting injured or killed due to you stressing him out and taking him off his focus. Ladies if you have a problem and are angry then get into a fight with you family or friends but due not put your loved one in harms way by making them mentally unstable and unfocused because they are worried about your problems
Thanks
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Wish I'd of watched this video before. Lmao.