When I met my husband, the physical attraction was not there.He was not my kind of man.However, as time went on, l started liking him. We have been married for 36 years now and the marriage has been wonderful.Thank God for everything .
My case is different. Being physically attracted to my partner is very important (I won’t say sexual as that’s too soon when you first meet someone). I’ve tried the whole emotional and intellectual connection only. I dated some men who I had strong emotional and intellectual connections with, we got along really well, but I wasn’t physically attracted to them. I tried and tried, but it never grew. I ignored it and tried to suppress it, but deep down I was disgusted. Anyway, long story short it didn’t work out. Now I’m with someone who I’m physically attracted to and of course also emotional and intellectually attracted to and I’m glad!
Awesome! I don't support marrying someone you are not physically attracted to. I said date him and see if that aspect grows... Which you obviously did. Thanks so much for your comment 😊
@@VictoriaFash Genuine question. How do you start finding someone attractive one day that you once didn’t find attractive? So as you get to know them more and fall in love, they’re more physically appealing? I can’t wrap my head around it.
@@OnyiMary97 🤣. If you encounter someone you're physically attracted to who is nothing to write about in other aspects or who treats you as less of a person, you'd understand developing attraction for someone who has everything else that you need (with only the physical part missing) When age starts telling on a person or you are at a point in life where you need more than physical attraction, it's easier to realise that it's the person we fall for, not necessarily their face or physique (which is very important ooo). You can watch Cyrano to get my point.
It’s not physical attraction for me at first when I first met my hubby,the love grew and the inner attraction grew cos he was totally different from what I wanted but with his actions towards me in the course of our dating it started growing.
Beautiful question and beautiful content, this is just me, I was in this shoe during the early stage of my courtship, I was more attracted to his intellect, it seems to be a big burden for me, I started the relationship with Faith, I asked questions, I got clarity, then we moveee, but now I am super duper attracted 🤣🤣, The act of the man changes a whole lot, before she knows it, she will be sexually attracted and won't want him out of her sight. I think the first step is for her to be sure if he is the real man, after that everything will be sorted, it only takes time and commitment!
Thank you. I needed this. Same situation. 10years friendship turning into relationship but zero physical & emotional attraction but I'm cool with him in other areas. I'll see how it unfolds eventually.
@@miebivalentina6796 All the best sis💖, I would encourage you to be sure it is God leading you to be there, in as much that is settled, everything other thing will fall in place, I believe that at the moment, there must be other beautiful thing that you are attracted to about him aside the physical and emotional, it could be his way of life or the way he serves God, gradually you will come around , I am a testimony, Enjoy!!💖
Mrs Fash plz give Mr Fash a chance to make his point and finish🙈😅 I wanted to hear his full opinion about the sexual attraction question. I love you guys😂❤
Physical attraction is really a thing for me, I remember dating a guy who was so in love with me and he tried everything possible a man can do to make a woman happy, but it never worked out, d day I ended d relationship I was all teary cos I know the guy is too sweet and doesn’t deserve it, but I couldn’t help it cos I was not in any way attracted to him..
I agree with you on the issue of no sexual chemistry at the onset of dating, its a sort of protection that enable a lady maintain her chastity,gives one the courage to say no to premarital sex.But if highly attracted sexually that may be difficult. It helped me and thank God all has been well for almost 3decades now. As per asking a man out for a date,to me and scripturally, its not acceptable, but for civilization,the man has to be cautious not to be offensive, because it may turn out to be positive at last.
Find it a fair bit curious and intriguing that you've sought to rely on scripture in justification of your stance as to why you hold it unacceptable for a lady to ask a guy out on a date, mind throwing light here.
As a man if I was not attracted to a lady sexually, it's not possible for me to be romantic down the road. I can't never marry such a lady because it will never work
I have been in the situation where sexual attraction was the first thing and it didn't end well😕😕 because the main thing was physical. Thank you so much for answering and the question,, and I have indeed seen improvements in the sexual attraction as we go on. I am glad I am not the only one who has experienced this situation ❤❤❤❤❤❤
You guys are great! You seem to be sincere to each other having gone through some of your video. Please take good care of your marriage. Limit your internal affair on social media. The lady is amazing. I have heard you couple of time in your video saying sorry to your husband from a sincere heart, your smile is also quite charming for any man to do otherwise. I love both of you. You are okay. Take care.
Women are moved by what they feel Men are moved by what they see. I believe Most women become sexually attracted to a man who pays attention to her(all her love languages) and this happens along the line when they've both become used to each other. If the first emotion a woman feels when she meets a guy is sexual attraction, and she decides to go ahead with the relationship, there is every 99.9% chance that the relationship won't last. Because it will be based on just sex.
I disagree. I think it's a deeper socialization that women have been taught to ooh look deeper first and you will learn to be attracted. It is possible to be physically attracted to him and he follows to be a great fit as you get to know him. It's not an either or situation. But again people are different.
People are different. It's may not necessarily be a women's thing, I need to be physically attracted first to even give audience romantically. Does not mean I will have sex, I will get to know you further and love myself to accept the truth about him. As I dig layers and find he has traits I am looking for, then alhadullilah!! It's a piece I will cling on to as I get to know you deeper.
The asking a guy on a date got me tho,I could remember then,when a guy asked me out and I accepted him quick than he expected, just because I was in to him before he asked me out.he sees it as cheap 😁 why play hard to get when u are already interested.some men needs to really man up (smh)
I agree with you that, in the beginning, it is not a big deal, for women. But over some time, it should be there or getting there, because marriage can be really hard if there’s no sexual attraction there(this is one of the most important things in the marriage). Faking, sexually, can eventually lead to getting tired of the marriage.
I’m 11:58 in, I will say this .. women are attracted to the physical as well but the diff is the intent…. That means that you have to get on her radar how do you do that by making your presence known and showing we that you are trying to take it their. Free game ppl that you are interested and she is open to it , you will have a chance to show her something that is important to her… I advise the lady and man to talk about what she really likes and not be politically correct,keep it real. If you can provide what she is looking for cool if not then it won’t work
I'm actually going through this attraction problem I've known the guy for some time now, I'm attracted to his intellect but no physical attraction yet, this is one of the reasons why I haven't given him a chance, but I like other things about him, he is like my hype man but the physical attraction is giving me a lot of problem
I think it’s different if you haven’t been friends and you don’t find someone attractive vs you have been friends and should have already built those feelings and your still not. #run
What your husband address at minute 25.. is not right he should turn it down women are emotional he should not say it's ok but not ok a woman asking a man out has intentions
Was friends with a guy and then he proposed dating, and I was like nah.... I couldn't just see us romantically together, like really? 😏. No single iota of sexual attraction
When I met my husband, the physical attraction was not there.He was not my kind of man.However, as time went on, l started liking him. We have been married for 36 years now and the marriage has been wonderful.Thank God for everything .
My case is different. Being physically attracted to my partner is very important (I won’t say sexual as that’s too soon when you first meet someone). I’ve tried the whole emotional and intellectual connection only. I dated some men who I had strong emotional and intellectual connections with, we got along really well, but I wasn’t physically attracted to them. I tried and tried, but it never grew. I ignored it and tried to suppress it, but deep down I was disgusted. Anyway, long story short it didn’t work out. Now I’m with someone who I’m physically attracted to and of course also emotional and intellectually attracted to and I’m glad!
Awesome! I don't support marrying someone you are not physically attracted to. I said date him and see if that aspect grows... Which you obviously did.
Thanks so much for your comment 😊
@@VictoriaFash Genuine question. How do you start finding someone attractive one day that you once didn’t find attractive? So as you get to know them more and fall in love, they’re more physically appealing? I can’t wrap my head around it.
@@OnyiMary97 🤣. If you encounter someone you're physically attracted to who is nothing to write about in other aspects or who treats you as less of a person, you'd understand developing attraction for someone who has everything else that you need (with only the physical part missing)
When age starts telling on a person or you are at a point in life where you need more than physical attraction, it's easier to realise that it's the person we fall for, not necessarily their face or physique (which is very important ooo). You can watch Cyrano to get my point.
It’s not physical attraction for me at first when I first met my hubby,the love grew and the inner attraction grew cos he was totally different from what I wanted but with his actions towards me in the course of our dating it started growing.
Me too!! Thank you so much for sharing ❤
My experience too!
Beautiful question and beautiful content, this is just me, I was in this shoe during the early stage of my courtship, I was more attracted to his intellect, it seems to be a big burden for me, I started the relationship with Faith, I asked questions, I got clarity, then we moveee, but now I am super duper attracted 🤣🤣, The act of the man changes a whole lot, before she knows it, she will be sexually attracted and won't want him out of her sight. I think the first step is for her to be sure if he is the real man, after that everything will be sorted, it only takes time and commitment!
This is my story!!! 😄😄😄
Thank you so much ❤
Thank you. I needed this. Same situation. 10years friendship turning into relationship but zero physical & emotional attraction but I'm cool with him in other areas. I'll see how it unfolds eventually.
@@miebivalentina6796 All the best sis💖, I would encourage you to be sure it is God leading you to be there, in as much that is settled, everything other thing will fall in place, I believe that at the moment, there must be other beautiful thing that you are attracted to about him aside the physical and emotional, it could be his way of life or the way he serves God, gradually you will come around , I am a testimony, Enjoy!!💖
I do agree with you Victoria. I was not sexually attracted to my man from the beginning but it grew over time.
A celebrity spouse is a big challenge. There will always be miscommunication, misconception and misunderstanding.
Trust respect Love Being open with each other ,,your right a man should ask a women to marry
Mrs Fash plz give Mr Fash a chance to make his point and finish🙈😅 I wanted to hear his full opinion about the sexual attraction question. I love you guys😂❤
Yes sir, I'll try my best 🥰
I agree.
Wow 😳!! When is Allowed to SPEAK? Calm down and share the 🎤.😂 ❤️
Physical attraction is really a thing for me, I remember dating a guy who was so in love with me and he tried everything possible a man can do to make a woman happy, but it never worked out, d day I ended d relationship I was all teary cos I know the guy is too sweet and doesn’t deserve it, but I couldn’t help it cos I was not in any way attracted to him..
Yeah, this has happened torment too.
Thank so much for sharing ❤
Wow that was me sometime ago too
I have experience this before two
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You were not attracted to him but you lead him on. I hope karma rips you apart too
I'm attracted to my person in every way you can think of. Glory to Jesus christ, Halleluyah.
Hallelujah 💃
I agree with you on the issue of no sexual chemistry at the onset of dating, its a sort of protection that enable a lady maintain her chastity,gives one the courage to say no to premarital sex.But if highly attracted sexually that may be difficult. It helped me and thank God all has been well for almost 3decades now.
As per asking a man out for a date,to me and scripturally, its not acceptable, but for civilization,the man has to be cautious not to be offensive, because it may turn out to be positive at last.
Find it a fair bit curious and intriguing that you've sought to rely on scripture in justification of your stance as to why you hold it unacceptable for a lady to ask a guy out on a date, mind throwing light here.
I love this! Thanks so much for this perspective ❤
@mastermind Well, marriage is God's idea, it's sweetestcwhen it's done HIS way
As a man if I was not attracted to a lady sexually, it's not possible for me to be romantic down the road. I can't never marry such a lady because it will never work
I have been in the situation where sexual attraction was the first thing and it didn't end well😕😕 because the main thing was physical.
Thank you so much for answering and the question,, and I have indeed seen improvements in the sexual attraction as we go on. I am glad I am not the only one who has experienced this situation ❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm so glad to hear this! Thanks for sharing ❤
You guys are great! You seem to be sincere to each other having gone through some of your video. Please take good care of your marriage. Limit your internal affair on social media. The lady is amazing. I have heard you couple of time in your video saying sorry to your husband from a sincere heart, your smile is also quite charming for any man to do otherwise. I love both of you. You are okay. Take care.
Thank you so much ❤
Women are moved by what they feel
Men are moved by what they see.
I believe Most women become sexually attracted to a man who pays attention to her(all her love languages) and this happens along the line when they've both become used to each other. If the first emotion a woman feels when she meets a guy is sexual attraction, and she decides to go ahead with the relationship, there is every 99.9% chance that the relationship won't last. Because it will be based on just sex.
I agree 💯
I agree.
I disagree. I think it's a deeper socialization that women have been taught to ooh look deeper first and you will learn to be attracted. It is possible to be physically attracted to him and he follows to be a great fit as you get to know him. It's not an either or situation. But again people are different.
@celine, it is possible, I agree, but it's not often the case with most women 😉
I totally agree Thanks! Thanks so much @ogochukwu
Uncle wole is looking fresh, welldone sis
Thank you jare
Yes I agree sexual part will come after if you find qualities and attributes you admire in a guy. I feel the same.
Thank you 🥰
What a lovely couple you 2 are. So impressive. Even how you narrate together we could see its meant by God
Awww... thanks so much!
People are different. It's may not necessarily be a women's thing, I need to be physically attracted first to even give audience romantically. Does not mean I will have sex, I will get to know you further and love myself to accept the truth about him. As I dig layers and find he has traits I am looking for, then alhadullilah!! It's a piece I will cling on to as I get to know you deeper.
Awesome! Love that you know what works for you 🥰
The asking a guy on a date got me tho,I could remember then,when a guy asked me out and I accepted him quick than he expected, just because I was in to him before he asked me out.he sees it as cheap 😁 why play hard to get when u are already interested.some men needs to really man up (smh)
Imagine! He doesn't know what he wants 😄
I agree with you that, in the beginning, it is not a big deal, for women. But over some time, it should be there or getting there, because marriage can be really hard if there’s no sexual attraction there(this is one of the most important things in the marriage). Faking, sexually, can eventually lead to getting tired of the marriage.
Absolutely!
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I agree, ma'am Victoria 💖
I’m 11:58 in, I will say this .. women are attracted to the physical as well but the diff is the intent…. That means that you have to get on her radar how do you do that by making your presence known and showing we that you are trying to take it their.
Free game ppl that you are interested and she is open to it , you will have a chance to show her something that is important to her… I advise the lady and man to talk about what she really likes and not be politically correct,keep it real. If you can provide what she is looking for cool if not then it won’t work
Pure affection nothing sexual at all I support you Vic
Thank you 🥰
I'm actually going through this attraction problem
I've known the guy for some time now, I'm attracted to his intellect but no physical attraction yet, this is one of the reasons why I haven't given him a chance, but I like other things about him, he is like my hype man but the physical attraction is giving me a lot of problem
Hmmn... if you date and still feel that way, don't get into marriage with him.
Sis Victoria I can totally relate
I agree with you Victoria regarding the s3xual aspect
Thank you 🥰
@11.59, ok then! Men love peace, if you really insist your point they let go to have peace.
I agree with you Victoria
Women world are totally different from a man
Thank you ❤
Not to spread hate but ma'am, I believe you started off this channel better. May God help you ehn.
I don't understand your point
A woman will come up with her no foundation ideas and act on them. No matter what.
No matter how you explain it to a woman she'll never be satisfied
Good afternoon Ma'am
I have missed a lot on your channel🥺
I would like to ask you a personal question
Hello, please send a DM on Instagram @ Victoria.a.fash
I think it’s different if you haven’t been friends and you don’t find someone attractive vs you have been friends and should have already built those feelings and your still not. #run
I agree. Thanks for watching ❤
if you relay Love a women you wont touch her be for marriage ,,you will make a date for the covenant
My favorite girl I love u Victoria fash . am missing u too much
How would that work no chemistry. One person would enjoy more. 😉
A lady can ask a guy out for a date. I love it. But she must be attracted to me otherwise I will not accept the invitation
What your husband address at minute 25.. is not right he should turn it down women are emotional he should not say it's ok but not ok a woman asking a man out has intentions
your husband is so cute
Was friends with a guy and then he proposed dating, and I was like nah.... I couldn't just see us romantically together, like really? 😏. No single iota of sexual attraction
Awesome! Glad you know what works for you 🥰
Let us hear the man, you are not allowing him speak madam 😩
Ah this comment section...God is watching 👀
Madam talks too much! We want to learn from oga too, but madam keeps on interrupting 😰😰😰
😃😃
Try not talk simultaneously.
Is this husband of yours wearing earrings as a Christian man?
This husband of mine? 😄
Traditions, culture and religion will pull you back in 2022...lols😂🤣😅
Leave others to exercise their WILL - you Jesus Christ!!!
Is it earrings or just flappy earlobe 🙈
Please what is the universal dress code for christain men?