Having close friends with persons the opposite sex is a double edge sword, especially if they get emotionally attached. No one should keep an EX as friends. Allowing that is a terrible mistake.
OH dear. It's like watching a train wreck in slow motion. MATE! If your girlfriend wants to meet her ex for "coffee and to catch up" after five years, then she still has a thing for him, and it's time to dump her and move on. W.T.F is wrong with you?
That's one of my main boundaries before agreeing to be exclusive, no contact with exes. Only one disagreed, and I had zero problem halting the relationship from going any further, before being gaslighted, and eventually cutting the person out entirely. I've been through enough drama with women's exes. Never again.
Sure she could meet him ..we go together i say nice to meet you amd don't ever come calling again . And tell her "Well you saw him. Time to go" as well leave And if she protests, tell her to pick up and go
So, she wanted 2 meet her ex, asked op & he agreed?! Because he "trusted her completely"?! Op dodged a bullet, ok, but, op was a SIMP that signed off on being cheated on. Clown.
No, no, no, no, and NO. That's one of my hardline boundaries before ever agreeing to be exclusive. No contact with exes, no just being "friends", no catching up, and NEVER ever meet up with them one on one. I see it as disrespect to our relationship. These dudes need to grow a backbone.
Big red flags. Don’t let her go. If she does she’s gone. Doesn’t matter. She still loves her ex. Well at least Brad tested your honesty. He found out you’re still a cheater. Thanks for letting Brad know who you really are. Brad dodged another bullet. Stay single men!!!
Good story, realistic consequences and the girl is open to him, at least at the start, and keeps her legs closed until AFTER the break up. Nicely done.
I think it should be required that they meet their ex's just to be sure. So many weddings fail because one of the partners doesn't know how to love someone.
@@YourHineyness Absolutely, my friend. Did your lover ask you if I could have coffee with my ex? Of course you will say it, but you will say don't come back. 😅
My reaction wouldn't be "no", it would just be "are you effing serious?" Because I already have the hardline boundary of absolute zero contact with exes. Before any woman wants to be exclusive, I let her know what what my boundaries are, and they're non-negotiable. Trying to renegotiate them later into our exclusive relationship is a slap to my face.
OP should've said "I don't want you to meet him, I'm not comfortable with that. Just let me know when you make your decision." Then, when she chooses her ex, cancel all the plans, take the ring back, and ghost.
All of this could have been avoided. All Brad had to do when Amy talked about "catching up" with Ethan is say 3 simple words: "Not without me." That's it. Just make it so she can't go see the ex on her own. It's just like that other story on this channel, where the girlfriend was still "platonic friends" with an ex who was telling her her current boyfriend was being toxic, where the current-then-ex bf tells her there's no such thing as a platonic ex, & she only realizes he's right about the ex keeping her as a backup as she's being driven away from the guy's apartment. When will women realize ex's are ex's for a reason!?
So, she didn't want to tell her fiance about meeting her ex behind his back. And then she started lying to him while stringing him along, then left him with no warning. And yet she cries, "How dare he," when he refused to speak to her after her affair fell apart. This was pure narcissism and her hypocrisy was off the charts. She's an immature and irresponsible person who will never again be fully trusted by a future spouse.
This is why you keep your girl on a short leash. So that you can ghost them at the first sign of disrespect. You already cut them from the herd, it's your job to keep them away from that outside influence.
Entire story boils down to her being emotionally and mentally immature and entitled. Maybe several Peace Corps missions or downrange deployments in the military would enlarge her view and sharpen her appreciation of what she had.
You doged a bullet I know it hurts but better now than after the wedding. I heard some words of wisdom in another story and i think it might help. "You have 3 days to mourn a loss. Just as God resurrected the dead in three days.You have three days to resurrect your life. Cry, scream, rage, vent your frustrations have I drink, maybe get into a good fight pray and allow yourself these actions and feelings. Then move forward. Honor the departed and what was lost While progressing. A man shouldn't live in the past that is lost, he should live in the present, all the while shaping the future he's moving towards." You learn that walking away isn't giving up, it's growing up. No second chances to this one shes proven herself unworthy of your time trust and love.
People like you are always looking for the next best option. Even when the one that would've given you the world, you threw it away. You thought the grass was greener not knowning it was just dead grass that got painted over.
Yeah, this channel almost always has a "the light dawns" at the end where they realize all THEIR mistakes and that everything was actually THEIR fault. Much like the absolutely don't in reality.
First marriage is an antiquated concept😂 second I don’t get why these gals want to were a white dress when it symbolizes purity let’s be honest ain’t no such thing third if a gal is entertaining any guy she’s a waste of time 😂
Having close friends with persons the opposite sex is a double edge sword, especially if they get emotionally attached.
No one should keep an EX as friends. Allowing that is a terrible mistake.
This is a perfect example of someone who had a great thing in life and threw it away over nothing only realize it until it was too late
OH dear. It's like watching a train wreck in slow motion. MATE! If your girlfriend wants to meet her ex for "coffee and to catch up" after five years, then she still has a thing for him, and it's time to dump her and move on. W.T.F is wrong with you?
If your fianceé ask you tò meet her ex, Is alteady an enormous Red flag
That's one of my main boundaries before agreeing to be exclusive, no contact with exes. Only one disagreed, and I had zero problem halting the relationship from going any further, before being gaslighted, and eventually cutting the person out entirely. I've been through enough drama with women's exes. Never again.
That's why they don't ask. @@blacksunday4231
Sure she could meet him ..we go together i say nice to meet you amd don't ever come calling again . And tell her "Well you saw him. Time to go" as well leave
And if she protests, tell her to pick up and go
So, she wanted 2 meet her ex, asked op & he agreed?! Because he "trusted her completely"?! Op dodged a bullet, ok, but, op was a SIMP that signed off on being cheated on. Clown.
No, no, no, no, and NO. That's one of my hardline boundaries before ever agreeing to be exclusive. No contact with exes, no just being "friends", no catching up, and NEVER ever meet up with them one on one. I see it as disrespect to our relationship. These dudes need to grow a backbone.
Big red flags. Don’t let her go. If she does she’s gone. Doesn’t matter. She still loves her ex. Well at least Brad tested your honesty. He found out you’re still a cheater. Thanks for letting Brad know who you really are. Brad dodged another bullet. Stay single men!!!
"I trust you completely" Sad last words!
He dodged a nuke.
Imagine not saying anything, but after the wedding 😬😬😬
@@GeorgeGiann imagine her not cheating at all......and what she did was/is definitely cheating......
Good story, realistic consequences and the girl is open to him, at least at the start, and keeps her legs closed until AFTER the break up. Nicely done.
Did you grow up watching Disney stuff? Woman lie, remember Eve???? 😂😂😂😂Stupid
Keeping Contact with previous EXs is like a Minefield.
Ex is ex for reason
@@nenadprebeg2253 now she has 2
I think it should be required that they meet their ex's just to be sure. So many weddings fail because one of the partners doesn't know how to love someone.
I love that you get the two sides of this sordid tale
THe only thing good about this story is she showed her rotted soul before the wedding instead aof after.
Your choise , your accountability
She threw him away like he is garbage and he wants her to take her back. Screw that. He dodged a huge bullet.
This is why you get through whatever trauma or feelings you have for someone
"I only emotionally cheated on you and left you to sleep with my ex for a month. Why won't you take me back.!" - clueless self centered ex fiance.
Amy: Brad, my ex- Ethan is back and wants to get together for coffee to catch up.
Brad: No. HELL NO.
No. "Sure,when are WE going."
Even if you say "no" she'll do it anyway on the sly. You can't control a woman. Stay single and none of this is a problem.
She'll just bang him behind hubby's back. That's just what women do.
@@YourHineyness Absolutely, my friend. Did your lover ask you if I could have coffee with my ex? Of course you will say it, but you will say don't come back. 😅
My reaction wouldn't be "no", it would just be "are you effing serious?" Because I already have the hardline boundary of absolute zero contact with exes. Before any woman wants to be exclusive, I let her know what what my boundaries are, and they're non-negotiable. Trying to renegotiate them later into our exclusive relationship is a slap to my face.
She kept at him until he would understand... but he already understood. She rejected him for another man. That is a singular irredeemable act.
OP should've said "I don't want you to meet him, I'm not comfortable with that. Just let me know when you make your decision."
Then, when she chooses her ex, cancel all the plans, take the ring back, and ghost.
This guy was too weak and stupid to do what he should have when she asked….
All of this could have been avoided. All Brad had to do when Amy talked about "catching up" with Ethan is say 3 simple words: "Not without me." That's it. Just make it so she can't go see the ex on her own. It's just like that other story on this channel, where the girlfriend was still "platonic friends" with an ex who was telling her her current boyfriend was being toxic, where the current-then-ex bf tells her there's no such thing as a platonic ex, & she only realizes he's right about the ex keeping her as a backup as she's being driven away from the guy's apartment. When will women realize ex's are ex's for a reason!?
The grass is not greener on the other side.
Yep it's greener where you tend to and nurture it. She choose poorly.
The grass is always greener when it growing over shit
Well at least he didn't get married to her, because that would have ended in divorce.
So, she didn't want to tell her fiance about meeting her ex behind his back. And then she started lying to him while stringing him along, then left him with no warning. And yet she cries, "How dare he," when he refused to speak to her after her affair fell apart. This was pure narcissism and her hypocrisy was off the charts. She's an immature and irresponsible person who will never again be fully trusted by a future spouse.
Both dudes dodged a bullet, tbh
Another dummy, betrayed by her "feelings"
They all want to get married but don’t want to be faithful wives
She lost her plan B. Now she has no idea what to do
This is why you keep your girl on a short leash. So that you can ghost them at the first sign of disrespect.
You already cut them from the herd, it's your job to keep them away from that outside influence.
This chick don't know what she want. She don't need a man, she need a therapist
She would cheat on therapist with another therapist 😂😂😂
02:03. Absolutely Not!!!
Entire story boils down to her being emotionally and mentally immature and entitled. Maybe several Peace Corps missions or downrange deployments in the military would enlarge her view and sharpen her appreciation of what she had.
Dude was naive too. He green lighted his finance meeting her ex n lead 2 him being a cuckhold.
Yikes what a flake, the poor lad dodged a nuke.
He got burnt by an alpha widow.
03:00 Ethan intends to use a unique coffee stirrer on Amy.
Matrix like move, dodged losing half of his stuff to a "Im so sorry" 304
Way to go Brad, I admire a real man! Amy doesn't deserve youu in no way at all!👍
You doged a bullet I know it hurts but better now than after the wedding. I heard some words of wisdom in another story and i think it might help.
"You have 3 days to mourn a loss. Just as God resurrected the dead in three days.You have three days to resurrect your life.
Cry, scream, rage, vent your frustrations have I drink, maybe get into a good fight pray and allow yourself these actions and feelings.
Then move forward. Honor the departed and what was lost While progressing.
A man shouldn't live in the past that is lost, he should live in the present, all the while shaping the future he's moving towards."
You learn that walking away isn't giving up, it's growing up. No second chances to this one shes proven herself unworthy of your time trust and love.
Why would she except that he would want to take her back?
People like you are always looking for the next best option. Even when the one that would've given you the world, you threw it away. You thought the grass was greener not knowning it was just dead grass that got painted over.
amicable splits are a red flag
well what did you expect? you dropped a bomb on the relationship did you expect him to really just come back to you?
Obviously fiction, as women generally avoid accountability. At least there was no "grass is greener . . ." statement used. Still, I enjoyed the story.
Yeah, this channel almost always has a "the light dawns" at the end where they realize all THEIR mistakes and that everything was actually THEIR fault. Much like the absolutely don't in reality.
Does anyone believe these stores are true? 😮 Fiction, pure fiction
First marriage is an antiquated concept😂 second I don’t get why these gals want to were a white dress when it symbolizes purity let’s be honest ain’t no such thing third if a gal is entertaining any guy she’s a waste of time 😂
I would say the white now symbolises the purity of the marriage rather than of the bride. Any marriage should start as pure.
to late to turn back now ....
You should never get into contact with ur EX..not even for a coffee..nothing good comes out of it..