I agree… a lot of us hate our hair! I am in the corporate world and when I went into the office with my microlocs. It was the black folks that had issues! All my other colleagues loved it. Everyday for that month I remember the white/asian folks gave me compliments! I love wearing my locs! I don’t care what people think…. In this day and age! We as black people are the ones policing our hair
Thank you for watching and commenting 💗, and honestly it is so sad. Thats why i had to share that it is our own community that does it as well. They usually are the ones to ask “what are you going to do with your hair?” when it is in it’s natural state. I really dislike that but about our community. However, it’s understandable because this European society has taught us to hate ourselves. Literally our skin, hair, noses, EVERYTHING😭! So we all as a collective must keep having these convos and be able to be honest to undue all this programming that started back with our ancestors! Also, continue to shut down and not listen to the media that continues to tell us in subtle ways that we aren’t beautiful naturally how God made us! 👏🏽👏🏽
@@SimplyMrsB Yes those who hide cover it are desiring mimicking Asian European hair texture looks ridiculous not in the DNA and gives a vibe of self and hate race
I said this to a friend and she almost unfriended me 😢. It's hard for some people to face the truth. I used to hate my hair, I knew I hated my hair, and I admitted I hated my hair. Now that I've learned to take care of my hair, I love it, and no one can ever make me feel insecure about my hair ever again.
All praises 🙏🏽💗 that is a blessing and yess it’s a tough pill to swallow honestly. That’s why it’s hard to even talk about it. But in order for all of us to begin the process of loving it, we must admit we may have a bit of dislike for it. And, honestly that’s normal because of all the programming that happened historically and still through the media today! But, when we are honest we can begin to embrace our hair and change that relationship we have with our hair! 💗
Free ppl of color typically referred to ppl who were of mixed race, not Blk. Many ppl use this term synonymously with a modern view of the ppl of color phrase to describe Blk ppl.. When reading historical literature have to check the context of how that term is used. But, tignon was for mixed race.
Never hated my natural hair. Stopped perms at 14 Had my hair out most of the time. Did braids very little because I hate the take down. Got locs at 20, works as a data analyst making pretty decent money. Sucks that some people don't like their hair
This. Many mixed women, like Mariah Carey and Rashida Jones, naturally could pass for white. Their hair is no different than many white women’s so a differentiation had to be made.
I was thinking about this the other day. When viola Davis took off her wig on htgawm I was in awe and shocked she did that. It changed my whole perspective and other the years I’ve slowly learned how to take care of my hair enough to have it out naturally. I am obsessed with my curls. I was not taught to take care of my hair. My mother did protective styles and nothing more. I was taught to hide my hair.
Thank you for your comment and adding to the conversation 🩷. I relate as well! I was not taught as well to take care of my hair either! It was simply a perm or relaxer and then added hair to make it appear thicker because how flat the “just for me” made my hair. It is truly something :(. However, I am happy we can have these convos today to not continue this behavior with our children in the future!! We can teach them to love their hair because we are finally knowing and understanding how to love ours. 🩷🌸🫶🏽 I bet your hair is beautiful
It's CRAZY to destroy your own hair, then buy hair to replace it.. Thats like a person cutting off their own then buying a prosthetic leg to replace it.
That’s very interesting! Thank you for watching :) and adding to the conversation. I feel like our people have assimilated in alot of various ways to this culture since we’ve all been here.
@InAllHerGlory_ Thank you for sharing, and that is absolutely so crazy and just sad that your mom experienced that. Also, that is so true, why should we have to change ourselves just to receive certain benefits from society. Honestly, that is why I said it feels like the matrix honestly 😭
I truly enjoyed this conversation. I have definitely hated my hair at times usually when it's dry and feels brittle. When I first had my big chop I had bought a wig for the first time to hold me until I had my hair in another protective style "kinky twists". I felt liberated but also uncomfortable at the same time. Your features and everything is on display when you do the big chop. I felt more confident and accepted with a relaxer or more european styles than I did melanated styles. I love the editing and I enjoy these commentary videos.
Thank you for watching and sharing that. Also, I am glad, these convos can help the community heal and change!! The more we all have them, the better we can become 🙏🏽🫶🏽💗
Oh my god, Chris Rock did thst hair documentary. My mind glitched and I thought it was Martin Lawrence. Why in hell did he make fun of someone else's hair then?
I don’t think we hate our hair , it’s just the maintenance on top of everyday life !!!! Every black women knows hair care day takes a whole day to just to prepare for.
That is true, but I feel like we could make it easier! The more we learn about our hair I feel, the easier it could get for us to do it! And it may not take a whole day. I understand and feel this comment but I do also feel like it still could be a hatred that some of us have for our hair. :( I am just sharing this because the need to always hide it and not wear it out.
Hating my hair is just like hating my skin, I love every part of me. I don't look to no one else for standard of beauty other than other melanated biological women.
I agree… a lot of us hate our hair! I am in the corporate world and when I went into the office with my microlocs. It was the black folks that had issues! All my other colleagues loved it. Everyday for that month I remember the white/asian folks gave me compliments! I love wearing my locs! I don’t care what people think…. In this day and age! We as black people are the ones policing our hair
Thank you for watching and commenting 💗, and honestly it is so sad. Thats why i had to share that it is our own community that does it as well. They usually are the ones to ask “what are you going to do with your hair?” when it is in it’s natural state. I really dislike that but about our community. However, it’s understandable because this European society has taught us to hate ourselves. Literally our skin, hair, noses, EVERYTHING😭!
So we all as a collective must keep having these convos and be able to be honest to undue all this programming that started back with our ancestors! Also, continue to shut down and not listen to the media that continues to tell us in subtle ways that we aren’t beautiful naturally how God made us! 👏🏽👏🏽
@@inarijmWell said💕 Thank you for posting this.✨
@@SimplyMrsB Yes those who hide cover it are desiring mimicking Asian European hair texture looks ridiculous not in the DNA and gives a vibe of self and hate race
I said this to a friend and she almost unfriended me 😢. It's hard for some people to face the truth. I used to hate my hair, I knew I hated my hair, and I admitted I hated my hair. Now that I've learned to take care of my hair, I love it, and no one can ever make me feel insecure about my hair ever again.
All praises 🙏🏽💗 that is a blessing and yess it’s a tough pill to swallow honestly. That’s why it’s hard to even talk about it. But in order for all of us to begin the process of loving it, we must admit we may have a bit of dislike for it. And, honestly that’s normal because of all the programming that happened historically and still through the media today! But, when we are honest we can begin to embrace our hair and change that relationship we have with our hair! 💗
I like how u mentioned acknowledging self hate and insecurities allows us to heal!🔥 very informative and definitely important, awesome video:)🙌🏾
Thank you☺️!
Free ppl of color typically referred to ppl who were of mixed race, not Blk. Many ppl use this term synonymously with a modern view of the ppl of color phrase to describe Blk ppl.. When reading historical literature have to check the context of how that term is used. But, tignon was for mixed race.
Never hated my natural hair.
Stopped perms at 14
Had my hair out most of the time.
Did braids very little because I hate the take down.
Got locs at 20, works as a data analyst making pretty decent money.
Sucks that some people don't like their hair
I feel like loose naturals and loc natural have a totally different type of experience and self love
Your real hair is Gorgeous wear it proudly! Tignon=tee on, the law was primarily mixed women...so they wouldn't be confused with white women.
This. Many mixed women, like Mariah Carey and Rashida Jones, naturally could pass for white. Their hair is no different than many white women’s so a differentiation had to be made.
I was thinking about this the other day. When viola Davis took off her wig on htgawm I was in awe and shocked she did that. It changed my whole perspective and other the years I’ve slowly learned how to take care of my hair enough to have it out naturally. I am obsessed with my curls. I was not taught to take care of my hair. My mother did protective styles and nothing more. I was taught to hide my hair.
Thank you for your comment and adding to the conversation 🩷. I relate as well! I was not taught as well to take care of my hair either! It was simply a perm or relaxer and then added hair to make it appear thicker because how flat the “just for me” made my hair. It is truly something :(. However, I am happy we can have these convos today to not continue this behavior with our children in the future!! We can teach them to love their hair because we are finally knowing and understanding how to love ours. 🩷🌸🫶🏽 I bet your hair is beautiful
It's CRAZY to destroy your own hair, then buy hair to replace it.. Thats like a person cutting off their own then buying a prosthetic leg to replace it.
@@tinalove8197 this is a great take & so true!
Blame their mothers! After the 70s they continued to follow decade trends with everyone else .
That’s very interesting! Thank you for watching :) and adding to the conversation. I feel like our people have assimilated in alot of various ways to this culture since we’ve all been here.
@InAllHerGlory_ Thank you for sharing, and that is absolutely so crazy and just sad that your mom experienced that. Also, that is so true, why should we have to change ourselves just to receive certain benefits from society. Honestly, that is why I said it feels like the matrix honestly 😭
I truly enjoyed this conversation. I have definitely hated my hair at times usually when it's dry and feels brittle. When I first had my big chop I had bought a wig for the first time to hold me until I had my hair in another protective style "kinky twists". I felt liberated but also uncomfortable at the same time. Your features and everything is on display when you do the big chop. I felt more confident and accepted with a relaxer or more european styles than I did melanated styles. I love the editing and I enjoy these commentary videos.
Thank you for watching and sharing that. Also, I am glad, these convos can help the community heal and change!! The more we all have them, the better we can become 🙏🏽🫶🏽💗
Chris Rocks Good Hair was the reason I stopped using relaxer, Thank God. I watched it about 1 year after it was released and it was an eye opener.
Did you paint the picture in the background? I love it! Thanks for making this content.
Oh my god, Chris Rock did thst hair documentary. My mind glitched and I thought it was Martin Lawrence. Why in hell did he make fun of someone else's hair then?
I don’t think we hate our hair , it’s just the maintenance on top of everyday life !!!! Every black women knows hair care day takes a whole day to just to prepare for.
That is true, but I feel like we could make it easier! The more we learn about our hair I feel, the easier it could get for us to do it! And it may not take a whole day. I understand and feel this comment but I do also feel like it still could be a hatred that some of us have for our hair. :( I am just sharing this because the need to always hide it and not wear it out.
It’s both but mainly some BW hate their hair because they don’t know how to take care of it.
But black women have to maintain the weave... So that's an excuse
Hating my hair is just like hating my skin, I love every part of me. I don't look to no one else for standard of beauty other than other melanated biological women.
I love this outlook 👏🏽👏🏽 and thank you for adding to the convo 💗☺️
@6:57 being black is political