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What 92 Years Taught Me: 10 Lessons I Wish I'd Learned in My 50s & 60s
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- Published on Mar 11, 2026
- A Submission by Lorraine. Lorraine spent thirty eight years as a high school guidance counselor in Pittsburgh. This video is about what she wishes someone had told her before she turned seventy. Recorded January 2026 at age ninety two, six years after losing her husband Anthony to a sudden stroke. Not inspiration. A warning from someone who knows what the next thirty years actually look like.
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This channel shares candid, no-fluff conversations shaped by people in their 60s, 70s, 80s, and beyond-stories about the choices they regret, the mistakes that cost them the most, and the lessons they wish they’d learned earlier. Each week brings a new perspective, but the same core themes keep showing up: life, love, time, and what matters when everything else falls away.
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Thank you! Listened twice on this snowy day!
Her message is frightening, but her voice is so soothing ❤
Thank you very much for sharing your story. ❤
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Yes, thank you for sharing.
Use it or lose it.
That's why a lot of guys retire after working in a factory for 30 years and they're 65 years old and they really do virtually nothing. I wouldn't five years they're dead get moving and get active watch what you eat stay healthythank you again for your words of wisdom.
Your children may not want your advice ma’am, but I do. I watched and listened to every word you just said.
Yes Kathryn has truly seen and experienced a lot in the 2 weeks since her Large Language Model gave birth to her.
@jennifercampbell8939 🤭
Me too! I will be 61 this year, walk three miles twice a week with two new friends, but feel my strength ebbing away. Timely advice! Many thanks!!
@jennifercampbell8939How can you tell? These are crazy days!!!
🤭shhhh. As a 65 yr old though, it is good advice.
I am 59 about to turn 60, male, and your video was extemely impactful upon me. Please let me make abundantly clear how helpful and important your advice is and how many people you have benefitted and will benefit by this extraordinarily cogent and sentient video. You are still a guidance counselor Mrs Costello.... and you always and forever will be!!
That, she is! Beautiful too!
yes, she is lovely
Agreed! I watched it twice, back to back, and called my son and started making plans with friends I haven’t seen in a while! Thank you!
I’m about to turn 60
You are like the nanna, my Gongy, I’ve lost 🕊️
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Well, this was depressing as hell at 2:30 a.m. but I’m glad I heard it. Thanks
Lol… I cried through it;)
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Isn't it crazy the stuff that pops up? But yeah, this is a good one
😂 true!! But great advice!!
I am a Christian and, I believe in reincarnation. Karma, this life is not al there is. Be aware of how you treat others in this life. You will meet souls in the next life that you had conflict in this life. ❤
This Lorraine is as sharp as a tack. Not once did she fumble a word, or say something with any hesitation, or change the pitch of her voice. She didn't even swallow between sentences. Amazing.
'Too sharp', you say? Too... technical? I hope not.
Editing is a wonderful thing
😂 scary
@gordonfamily179AI?
@jimparker2646Unfortunately yes. Says so at the very bottom of the description
This doesn’t feel like advice.
It feels like someone finally speaking honestly, without needing to impress anyone.
Absolutely. I could not have said it better. Thank you
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Brava!👏👏👏👏👏
Exactly ❤
Make younger friends, eat healthy, and stay HYDRATED. Hydration doesn't get emphasized enough. If you aren't getting 4x the potassium that you get of sodium, the sodium kicks out some of the potassium and you'll be dehydrated. When I cut way back on salt and started taking potassium powder, lines literally disappeared from my face almost overnight. Hydration's important for other things, too and Americans get way too much salt/sodium.
I'm always looking for a chance to talk about this : )
I'm sitting here crying because no one says these things. I'm 72, and I started working with a trainer. I'm divorced, and I finally said yes to a date with someone I never met. I had a career as a writer and editor. Now I avoid my computer because I'm afraid I'm not good anymore. After listening to you, I'm taking out that computer and telling my stories because my daughter has begged me to. My son wants to know. And my grandchildren will never know anything about who their parents were when they were little.
Thank you for every word, for all your wisdom, for giving us the gift of your years.
You are wise and beautiful, and I am blessed to have opened this message. ❤❤❤
Do it, girl! 👏 They will love it!
Do it, girl! They will love it! 👏
We all love you ❤
I'm doing graduate-level university classes. You are just as good as anyone else! 😊
❤ You do it. You are alive and you are capable and you are fabulous for watching the video and taking something positive away from it and deciding to live these days to your best ability 👍🏽🙏🏽♥️
Once a guidance counselor, always a guidance counselor.
What a terrific comment. It clearly applies to Lorraine, doesn't it.
I was also a counselor (college, for 17 yrs) now retired for 3 yrs. I’m 62 (egads you keep saying 62!) and have spent 3 years doing some cool trips & things with my husband & friends (he’s 71) but not at all the things I’d planned in a big way. I spend a lot of time with a cat on my lap. I love it so much, really envied the cats when I worked from home in the pandemic, now I’m one with our last, now elderly, cat. I can see her declining just ahead of me though… Helluva thought.
I’ve been thinking I need to get it together and accomplish a lot this year, and OMG here is my major nudge.
My plans include more travel with my husband, getting our finances organized, fixing up the house, doing some family history, and trying to build some crossword puzzles! Still taking care of my 86-yr old mom who is in a nursing home, but there are also her complicated finances, tons of belongings, etc. Not to mention exercise. Almost all my friends do it, I just don’t. And I can sure feel it.
Yes, my grown children do not need my advice! As a former wise and smart professional advisor II try my best not to give it. That is a hard ask but I’m working on it. My lovely dad never gave advice even when asked. Sometimes I could have used it, and he refused. Something I try to remember.
Thank god no major family rifts, at the moment, but my husband needs to face some things. I swear to be better at helping him handle that.
Thank you so so very much for this amazing wake up call. Now is the time, sooner is better than later, that’s all.
All the ❤, you are really making a difference for me, and I’m sure others too. As I imagine you long had done in your very important professional work.
I want to be like you when I turn 92 with a clear mind, a great communicator, and infinite beauty. ❤❤❤
Thank you, Lorraine! Know that people like me (59) hear you and appreciate you sharing this wisdom with us.
Absolutely agree❣️ I’m turning in 59 and just under a month and a half and I’m really glad I came across this video❣️
@margochapman6298
I am also turning 59....in a few days. Happy Birthday!🎉
@pattymcfarland3759 thank you so much❣️Happy Birthday to you 🎂
@margochapman6298Thank you!!😊
Thank you Lorraine. I am 63 and mourning the loss of my husband 13 months ago. I needed to hear your gracious video. It will help me to put things in a new perspective and try to live and appreciate every day that remains for me verses just getting by and reminiscing my days away Thank you so very much. You are beautiful inside and out and a great blessing to us lucky enough to hear your advice❤
I have a neighbor who is 97 and has many friends, still drives, goes shopping, has dinner parties and plays a mean game of ping-pong. You can see her out there pruning away the day before the gardeners arrive. Her conversations are stimulating and and she is still filled with curiosity. I love her enthusiasm and I have her as my example of how I want to be. Yes, her husbands are dead, some of her friends too! For her 97th she was surrounded by at least 15 of us of all ages, her tribe she calls us. I'm going to make a point of going to visit her tomorrow after seeing this. Damn, she still beats me at ping pong! I want her to live forever and I know she won't:(
THAT is a life WELL-LIVED!
This old lady seems to be The Prophet of Doom! 😮
How wonderful! 😊 enjoy your time and cherish every moment together
@cherrypichick6782 NO, only of reality. It' called Wisdom and not everyone is so fortunate as to be blessed with it.
I have the same type of neighbor, she's 92 and going strong even after her stroke last year! She never quits! I walk 6 to 8 miles a day, have recently cleaned up my diet and lost 45 pounds . I'm feeling better than I have in years!
There’s always one of you. One person who brings up the one outlier that smokes 3 packs or whatever. Guess what? This is so unusual that it will not be your reality nor probably all of ours. This woman in this video, she is telling the truth. Really, just stop with this crap.
Thank you for making this video. I am 74. I have outlived my parents. I have outlived 2 wives. I have no children; so, no grandchildren. My health is still good and I am much more careful with it than I was at 60. I have made my preparations for an estate (will, etc.) and have friends. I spent the last 8 years caring for my mother. She died recently at 95. I am ready for that trip I have been putting off. I wish you the best!
Bless you for looking after your mum
Take care of yourself. Reading books is making you happy.
God bless you Sir !!!!🍀💪🩵💐😇🙏🥀
God bless you Sir !!!❤❤❤💐🙏🥀🍀💪
I will go on that trip with you. Im.still a single woman wanting to travel, before it's too late
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I cleaned 20+ houses a month for seniors when I was in my late 50"s and witnessed firsthand that everything you've said is 100% true. Learning all this prior to my 60s was a God send. I'm glad you put this out for others to know so they can be prepared. 😊
I’m nearly 90. I talk about death all the time. I don’t fear it cause I know the best is yet to come.
Funeral is paid for & my children know all my wishes & most of my friends are in their 60’s. I am the most blessed person I know. And I know how much God loves me & I Him. 🙏🏼👍
Do you have Jesus?
Amen
There it is... love. All we ever really need, and of course, a little prosciutto is nice. But it's love or fear, pretty simple.
That's a great attitude!
Praise God!
I'm 65. Everybody says "You're Young". I'm preparing like you said! Thank you.... Thank you....❤️🙏
Me too, it was very inspiring!
Same here - I'm focused and working hard to take good care of my health. Serious about nutrition, exercise, mental stimulation, community. Find your joy & share the love! 🎉
thank you pay attention
Thank you for your advise. I just turned 60
Lovely ❤❤❤❤
I am 61 and I have heard every word you said. Thank you for the reminder to not take life for granted and to live life fully. Wishing you continued health.
I’m 60 and agree fully. Husband and I are traveling a lot now ‘cause later who knows. We hope to live as long ❤as
I turn 62 next month and this was very sobering but true. After struggling with chronic health issues the past few years I realize now more than ever how precious each and every day is to me.
Thank you for sharing such wisdom and may God bless you 🙏
62 year old here... I value this lovely woman's comments very, very much. I think I've been committed to "living my best" in the present and the years to come, but I take her lessons to heart. I can't wait to hear more of her wisdom.
You will never know how much I needed to hear this at this point in my life. Thank you.
Me too friend!
Me 3!!!!
So thankful I listened to this while I’m 55 & my husband is 62. We gotta live more. We are taking the trips. We just wish we would have sold it all a few years ago & bought a boat to travel the world & see all the Caribbean Islands.
ME TOO.
Me too. I’m working my life away. It’s gotta stop
I can’t thank you enough perfect timing. Lying in my bed scrolling RUclips. I’ve been in bed for the last two days partly because I wasn’t well mainly because of depression.. watching your video I got up had a shower, listened and dance to music I will continue to go on and fight
I’m 65 years old I have MS but I still have life
Taht makes me so happy to read! keep it up!
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Selenium , vitamin C, vitamin D (sunlight on the skin) , magnesium.
Love, community.
Great message. Thank you.
God bless you, May our precious Saviour minister to your heart and remind you of His love for you with His eternal promise. I hope everything positive and beautiful for you and I pray in Jesus name for a FULL healing. ❤
Hey, I’m 77 and this is ABSOLUTELY true….Thank you precious lady🙏
How are you doing heatlh wise now that you are 77? And are you arranging your wills etc. If your heatlh at some point deteriorates??
I just turned 61 and I”m still figure skating competitively to ensure I am fit and healthy as long as possible. THANK YOU Lorraine for sharing your wisdom.
Just turned 62, I'm making those calls, asking for forgiveness, will take the trip, will visit friends and family.
Thank you for the push and realization!
While you're at it, keep your blood thin. If you don't have a prescription for a blood thinner, low dose aspirin should work.
A stroke is a life-changing thing so do your best to not have one.
Good luck! 🍀
@Surface-n9kvinegar works too. Also, eating healthy.
Do it!!! 🎉
I’m 66. Thank you for the wake up call. I appreciate your wisdom. Some things I already do, some I need to do.
61 here and youre so right...its def a wake up call even ifi felt depressed afterwards
64 here. Have already had Bell’s Palsy, intensely bleeding ulcers causing anemia and an eye stroke. Partially blind in one eye working on recovering my eyesight before they limit my drivers license. Work 3 jobs. Lost everything I had worked for my whole life through tragedy after tragedy. I already know it doesn’t get better or easier. It’s not about my life anymore. It’s about what I can do to help others while taking the best care ever of myself. It will unfold the way it is meant to. God bless u for making it to 92. Our wisdom can help others. That’s our legacy. Stay positive everyone. There is a reason we live, and we aren’t meant to last forever here. ❤
I'll be turning 65 this summer. I do many of your suggestions now. I've printed off the list so I can do all 10! Thank you. You're an amazing lady
I'm a 67 year old Mom and Grandma. You brought me to tears when you talked about learning to not give advice to your kids. To show up, and just hold their children and eat at their table. 💖 Thank you for that. 🙏
Me too, #7 hit me hard
@mrc2165 ditto
Great advice thank you!❤
Yes, I'm so glad I heard that, too. I'll remember it 💯.
Yeah, something I am learning at 64. However, they don't mind saying we visit, pay for food, etc!
At 64 I ran my 25th half marathon… I exercise every day. I train as much as possible.. my best friends do nothing and have gained lots of weight in the past few years. Thanks for reminding me to keep up my running.
Bravo - I'm impressed. As they say, "If you don't use it, you lose it".
I'm not 92 but nearly so. There's lots of good advice here. Do forgive everyone. Do make lots of friends. But it's not true that if you're in your '60s then it's almost impossible to regain muscle. Please don't give up. It's never too late to gain strength. I live in a two-story home. Stairs are easy because I work out regularly. She makes getting older sound so depressing. There is good and bad. Lots of good.
Thanks for the encouragement! I'm 61 and found this video incredibly depressing.
@DanaKuznarI thank you too 😊
I’m thankful for your comment. I just turned 60 and have a wonderful life. Age is a gift denied to many, I’m thankful for everyday I get to love my family. Life is what you make it at any age. Choose happiness no matter your circumstances. ❤
Thank you so much for your encouraging words. I agree that it’s possible to gain muscle in your sixties but the wake-up call was great.
“Do forgive everyone” is sage advice. Luckily, I can never stay mad at anything, which used to bug me, but now I see what a blessing that was!❤
I'm 57 and did not have a parent who told me any of this!! It's so lovely! I'm going to show this to everyone I know!! God Bless you Lorraine!! And Thank you!!!
I’m turning 58 this month. I’m not prepared for any of this. I can just pray to get control over my chronic, debilitating pain. I can barely walk most days. I do what exercises I can. I don’t have many friends by choice. I just don’t have the energy. I’ll probably regret it, but I know my limits. It’s sad. My husband is amazing and thank God he is healthy at 77 (yes, 20 years my senior). We’ve been together 30 years, married 24 years. I could die tomorrow knowing how blessed I’ve been. Love one another and be kind.
At this age, I feel i have wasted my life so far on other ppl and it was futile. Plan to live for myself now onwards, enjoy life while I can7
Bloody hell. Never been so depressed in all my life listening to this.
I'm feeling this is true. I'm 66 and still working full time...pushing myself... I needed to hear this
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Wow! I am still crying. I retired at 62, left my alcoholic husband, fell in love again and we are traveling the world. I will take every word you said to heart and put it in to action. I waited so long to live my life and I could not wait a minute longer. Time really is precious!
Lucky you.
@BPDBRETT❤
welcome to your second life! May you collect on all the happiness you did not have prior. I hope it comes easy and often for you now🙂
1. Exercise!
2. Make Friends
3. Conversations on important issues
4. Retirement (Be prepared!)
5. Spouse
6. Forgive!
7. Children do not need advice!
8. Write things down, not to forget.
9. Have courage; don’t be terrified!
10. The last 30 years go faster than the first 60.
Thanks!
Of course the last 30 goes by faster than the first 60, its half the time.
Thank you for the cliff notes!
@zedwpd She was referring to the pace of it, of course. I'm 63 and I agree with her from how the past 10 years have seemed to whiz by.
@aliceking5823yes me too ! One minute 16 and then suddenly 60 and then heading for 63
I retired at 50 rested for one year.the next 10 years, ball room and tap dancing, took up my time. I learned all about decorating my last two homes. now I walk at least three days a week. I have a three wheel bike that I love to ride and 79 started to book more concerts and dances. Yes at 78. I felt my body wanted to slow down, but I kept pushing myself doing gardening in the front yard and the backyard of my home. God willing I’ll have at least another 20 years of life.
Keep up the good work. I have a border collie so I walk a lot. I still do my own home repairs, yard work, snow shoveling, and even built a 100ft long 6ft privacy fence last year, digging the post holes by hand.
Each hole took me a week a little at a time, but i did it. My neighbors just stood and watched me. They're all in their forties and don't do half the work I do to keep my place looking nice. It's kind of fun. I love to dance but the only place they have dances for seniors, with music I like, is 2 towns over. I don't like to drive over there in the winter on snowy roads, but go as often as I'm able.
I know if I quit moving I'll go down hill like many friends have.
Glad you posted! If it were not for my border collie I would be inside lot more. I am out side a lot also! Currently when the bitter cold isn't visiting, i am working on a fence to keep my border collie safe. What a handful she is as a young pup. My 4th one since 1975! Her demanding activities keep ME going! And as I reply she has her nose on the chair and eyes gazing toward me and this phone. She wants out to go play again! Those eyes keeps me moving! 😊@user-jb4xv4im9o
Let you have long active happy life, 20+
Awesome - at 50 I got serious about fitness, lost weight and am now in a career change that is less stress and all about quality of life.
I miss read and thought you started lap dancing. 😅🫣
Pretty much spot-on.
I am 64. I watched my mother die from Alzheimer's at 81. I watched my wife die in 2012 at age 41 from a stroke. I watched my grandfather die at 72, my biological father at 49, and numerous friends are already gone.
My step-father for my entire adult life died one month before he turned 97 and I saw a lot of this with him. EVERYONE he knew was gone. His kids, 2 wives, and every friend he had in his life. He was a Pearl Harbor survivor. Every guy he served with in WW2 was dead. He had plenty of money. He travelled extensively. He had a fairly large circle of friends with church and his involvement with charities and local organizations like Woodworkers. He helped build animal shelters, built churches in Central America, mad wooden toys for foreign Missions, and lived a good life with good health right up to the end. I do all I can to emulate what I saw in how he lived and approached things.
Your stepfather sounded like a wonderful man and great footsteps to follow.I like you, at 65,have already had many close to me pass.Its hard .I found her words , although confronting and a bit depressing so spot on.💚
This is one of the best videos I have ever listened to. Nothing has inspired me as this video has, with its vulnerability, wisdom, and authentic truth, and therein lies its power and gift to us all. I will listen to it every day until I fully live its wisdom. With heartfelt gratitude, I thank you and salute you. Much love and respect. XXX
Yes. A gift to ALL.
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I totally agree. I'm blown away with what I just heard, even though I knew it all, I had to hear it, to really get it...
3:51 ! You can gain muscle no problem you just need to do resistance training, I’m stronger than I was in my 20’s and 30’s🎉
Not true fir everyone
Exactly! It's never too late to start. I knew a senior in his 70:s that could barely walk - on several prescriptions. He started swimming first, then walking and weight training and pretty much changed his lifestyle. He's 97 now and off most his medications and says he feels better now than he did in his fifties when things started going downhill lol!
Yes keep going to gym
Yes this has been proven over and over. However most people don’t do it
You have no idea what you are talking about
This hit me hard. I'm 55. She spoke so articulately. Thank you for this wake-up call ❤
At 55, hearing wisdom like this can truly change how you see the years ahead - a powerful wake-up call indeed.
Same, I’m 53
Im 55 and feel old now! Omg!!!! This makes me feel sick.
I'm going to be 56 in two days. I am appreciating the provenance in finding this video today
Im 61 and I think I stumbled across you to make me wake up. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I will take your advice to heart
My grandma lived to be just shy of 104. My grandparents met in kindergarten and were together their entire lives. He died at 82. They retired at 62 and were extremely active. After my grandfather passed away my grandmother remained active. I always say she was the busiest retired person I’ve ever met. She lived independently until she had a heart attack at 98. She ended moving into a nursing home. She still remained active there. Participated in all their activities, had visitors often. Her visitors became less frequent because her friends started becoming ill themselves or dying. She was an awesome roll model on what to do with your life! Have your finances in order, have many friends, play games, read, stay active, eat good, do not drink or smoke, love! Love life and love big! I miss her! It would’ve been her 107th birthday yesterday.😢
She sounds truly awesome ❤
I am especially impressed by how active she stayed in the nursing home. Continuing to be social is so important to having a good life in your later years (esp. 80+, I think).
I had a stroke at 63. I am now about to turn 66. I am doing lots of trips and some days I walk 16,000 steps. Im trying to suck the marrow out of life.
What a lovely person you are! Your honesty is inspiring, and for 92 you are beautiful outside and inside. I think it is amazing that you are sitting in your living room, talking to a camera, because you care so deeply about others. And what an articulate lady you are! Just amazing!! Thank you, Lorraine!
I agree. She doesn't have to pass on her wisdom. But for those who will take it to heart, we thank her.💓
A wise person once told me " You don't have to learn all your lessons through personal experience. You can learn from others"
Mark Twain Says,The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why
Thank you, Ms. Lorraine! You are still a wonderful counselor! I am 61 years old and I REALLY needed to hear what you had to say tonight. Please continue to make videos.
My Mom is now 93 and I am starting to write down our conversations so that none of her history is lost. I guess I need to do this for myself, too, by journaling.
I'm 67 thankyou for this important message ❤
I'm 67. Thank you for the reality check.
Everything this woman says is absolutely true. Listen up ladies and gentlemen.
oh my yes, indeed. I'm 76, a widow and living alone. She's absolutely correct. Time...isn't even time anymore...it's like a breeze that never stops and the days go by, but my gosh...the years go by faster than I ever thought possible. Depressing...heck yeah...but kids (that's all of us) enjoy right now. Her suggestion of journaling is absolutely brilliant...just do it. You sit and do your bills...Take ten more minutes and write a couple of paragraphs. Those people you leave behind will love it. Put humor into your memories, when you can. Life with all its stuff, is actually great...enjoy it!!! cheers.
I am 63. I THANK YOU for posting this. I honor your journey. I thank you for your courage and your wisdom.
Thank you for your advice. I turned 65 yesterday and retire the end of this month. You are still an excellent guidance Counselor. I appreciate your wisdom.
Lorraine's comments were so poignant. She is still an awesome "guidance counselor" but now it's not high school but rather, the school of life. She has learned a lot (especially from her admitted mistakes) which she is gracious to share. I'm 63 and as per her advice, I took notes from her video. It was timely for me to hear her words at this stage of my life. Thank you Lorraine!
If you on the verge of depression….this video will push you over the edge.
Growing old is not for sissies.
Quite the opposite for me.
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Thanks. I'm closing it.
I am 60 and well aware of this. I shared a home with my parents, watched all of these stages, what she is saying is absolutely true. Living is beautiful and heartbreaking.
62-year-old here. I needed to hear this. Bless you!
I am 78 and walk 3 to 5 or even 8 miles every day . Thank you for confirming. I just have always had ants in my pants! Blessings
Thanks for sharing. You inspire me!
WoW…!
That's amazing, good for you!
You go girl.
Being disabled since childhood with severe Crohnes disease and malnutrition, my body started declining rapidly by age 45, so when I was diagnosed with Metastatic Breast Cancer at the beginning of 2020 (covid time) I chose no Chemo and no radiation. God will take me in His Good Time. Thank you for this valuable info!!!
Enjoy your life survivor9898.❤
@Jessielovescoins.Thank you!!! I'm trying as hard as I can. The malnutrition caused my spine to collapse rapidly. It's difficult to walk. I hope you have a wonderful rest of yours!!!
@survivor9898 Please read about blushwood berry. You'll also need sunshine and lutein tablets, they block the harsh rays of the sun. So sunshine for vit D and calcium to build up bone strength. Schisandra berry for antioxidants and energy. Benfotiamine and vit B12. And rosehip capsules. 💪🫶
I respect your choices. I would do the same. I'm 68, and I used to say I wanted to live to be 100. Now im not sure i want to even make it to 85.. lesson #2 is why. I've been snowed in for 4 days (north Texas) and the isolation is driving me crazy.
🙏🙏🙏🙏❤ I think youre right, chemo kills more than cancer
Thank you ma’am for speaking to me. It was an eye opener. I realise I need to strat doing the 10 precious things right now before it too late. God bless you .
She’s right. Don’t sit down. Don’t eat junk. Don’t carry negativity.
No Junkfood? What kind of life is that?
That's it, in a nutshell ❤
Don’t sit, while she is sitting? Not sitting is the dumbest thing people say, what, you gonna poop standing up, you gonna watch a movie while standing, you gonna stand all day? Why not say, don’t sit too long, or without moments of some movement? Easy to just say “don’t sit”, harder to be specific. Funny, we were ,for 12 years, made to sit in a class room, and told to be quiet.
I'm 66. I strarted strength training a year ago. I'm reversing muscle, bone and brain loss that has slowly emerged over the past decade. It requires these things in addition to strength training: 100 grams of protein daily, 5 grams of creatine daily, and stop adding toxins to your body (alcohol, smoke, processed "foods").
That was the most powerful video I've ever watched on RUclips and I've watched a LOT of videos on RUclips. Thanks for sharing.
Same here. A gift .
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I’m 65 and this was insanely depressing however wise the message.
She retired at age 70 and has lived 21 years beyond that. What a financial nest egg needed to live comfortably well after govt stipend (social security) age. Thats my takeaway. My mother is 90. I see the future.
Thank you. I'm 63 and this is the best advice I've ever heard. ❤
Thank you Lorraine. Thank you for the wakeup call. Your video mattered and it is important that you recorded your wisdom. I'm 63 now and you have helped me know what I need to do. Bless you.
this video rly hit home... my dad and his brother didnt talk for 10 years over some dumb money thing. then my uncle passed away last year suddenly and my dad never got to say sorry. now he just looks at old photos and cries every day. time really doesnt wait for nobody. thank u for the warning.
Thank you. I am 60 and this hits home in a way no other words have. Blessings to you!
I needed this today, I am 60. You made me want to take action Mrs. Costello, you are wonderful and very special to share your wisdom with those who needed to receive it! ❤️🙏
When I was 40 I tought I had the all life ahead. Now , with 69 i can tell that it has passed very very fast.
I’m 66, thank you for the wake up call. I appreciate you wisdom.
I'm 62 I needed to hear this! Thank you,
I’m 66 and working on building up my strength especially lower body. I want to be strong into my 80s. I want to be able to walk wherever I want to go.
I’m 65 and doing the same thing. I salute you. 🫡
@Aguas2017me too! I am 66 and can lat pull-down 115 pounds and hip thrust 400! I go to the gym twice a week for 90 minutes and that’s it ! And I walk a few miles 3~ 4 days a week! And I a, so strong and plan on being a strong old lady🎉
@PaulsapartmentMa’am, I have nothing but admiration for you. We may be older, but we will age feeling great. Only the BEST to you!
Thank you! I am 66 yrs old. I feel great….now. This was a wake up call for me. Going out for a walk now!!!
Good advice on many things. I see other things differently - let the past go, forgive and move on, look to the future with hope and realize the material world isn’t worth a cup of salt. And always remember you are never alone with God. It’s time to prepare for the other side and bring some of that side to the here and now.
Your purple sweater is beautiful on you, it brings out your pretty blue eyes. This is hard to hear, but you are speaking the truth in love. Thank you for sharing.
She has brown eyes. 🤭
Thank you Mrs. C. This 62 year old hears you loud and clear. God bless you ❤
I hear you! I’m 63 and blinked at 50, terrified that’s how fast 70 will come. I’m alone in a big city and know change’s are happening now. Not sure how to handle this, you did an extraordinary job with this video! -Thank you💐
I hope to have your grace and awareness as time passes, bless you for sharing your story.❤
I know how you feel. I’m same age and moving to a big city to move into my new townhome. That is exciting but will need to make a whole new set of friends
The days are long and the years are short!
Thank you. I turned 60 last month. I’m lucky to teach fitness classes to seniors. The ones who come to class are thriving and teach me things every time I see them. They are also so genuine. Even short conversations are full and heartfelt. I appreciate this so much. Please know how we appreciate how much you’ve contributed throughout your life and that you’re not alone in your daughter’s living room. We hear you!!! 🙏🏽💕💪🏽
Love this very much. Im going to say my sister and I are estranged from 1 other sister and our brother. My husband is estranged from his brother. None of us regret not talking to them. They are toxic users and offer nothing good to our spirits or lives. We happily burned those bridges without regret. We dont wish them harm or ill will but just because someone is blood family doesnt mean you need them in your life. Its ok to feel free from crummy people and we all do. Life is easier without their drama.
Im 59 and my husband is 72. We think about this subject matter all the time. We do have conversations with our adult children. We embrace time with our grandkids and are currently focusing on healthy diets and strength training for longevity physically and mentally. Thank you!! This is a powerful reminder!
OMG I'm depressed now at 64. On reflection I can tick off all Lorraine's advice. Speaking for myself I still think and behave like I'm 24 which is the key for me. I've lost a few close friends but still have loads left. I walk, play football and go the gym regularly. I blinked and 5 years of retirement has just flown by. Travel, see your family particularly grand children and dance regularly!
I'm 60 this year, went to a friends 40th party over the week-end and they had a band playing latin american music - we danced the night away. Not everyone's cup of tea, but I love that kind of music. Even my husband danced. I guess he also realised life is short, gotta enjoy it while you can.
This might sound crazy but I asked my mom for a sign and today I went looking for songs to sing and came across this video!
This woman looks exactly what mom looked like. She touched every thought and fear I have now. She said things that have already happened to me. I’m 71! I’m gonna get living the best life I can!
I'm 63 and already notice life is more challenging.
I'm glad I listened to you Lorraine. My takeaways:
Don't put off to tomorrow what I can do today; stay fit and active; make new friends; forgive past mistakes. Thank you for sharing dear lady ❤
This is the greatest advice i need now in my life.
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I am 67. I was married for 19 yrs ended in divorce. The next guy I loved was killed. My daughter dies at 37. I look back on this and wonder how and why. I look ahead and sometimes get scared not knowing what will come next. I still work but have to work. I am happy and am making the best of things. Deep breath....keep going.
64 and already can tick off some of your list 🥺that's scary. So so true.. .
Deep Breath…Keep Going. I like that;)
I just turned 68. I've been a widow 20 years old. My only child died at 47 in 2022. I have been in mourning for years, trying to stay strong. I have become so focused on my physical health. I do the treadmill 5 times a week. I have improved my diet. I live alone. I have no relationship with 3 surviving siblings of 6. I have been a Christian 45 yrs. I have close relationships with a few in my congregation. Some come to help me with home repairs. Some are trying to play cupid with gentlemen who are very strong spiritually, but I am afraid at this age. I don't want to remarry just to not be alone, but as I get older, I am starting to be afraid of aging living alone. I pray for the right decision to make.
Thank you for sharing!! You are incredibly strong, prayers for your road ahead and you find peace & happiness along the way!!
I am sorry for your losses, I am 72, single & still working because I have to. Getting old is scary but the alternative is worse so yes we must take a deep breath and keep going. I wish you all the best on the road ahead.
Everything that I was afraid of happened. This hit home. I was so afraid of losing my business of 23 years. I lost it anyway. I was so afraid that my directionless son wouldn't make it in life without my pearls of wisdom, he is doing alright and i cut off the umbilical cord. I was afraid my best friend would die. She did. But i am still here.......
I'm 63 now...thank you so much for this! Everyone, young and old, needs to hear it. I'm going outside to take a walk now...while I still can.
Thank you for sharing this . At 61 myself , I didn't realize this is what I needed to hear ....I took every word to heart ......
Friends dying faster than you can process. Resonates with me very much. I went through the loss of 5 people last year including my Dad and it didn’t hit me until I rescued a cat and it died last week. And everything flooded through the cracks of my broken heart, because I didn’t process the grief when it happened.
Why? Because I had to go to work.
I just turned 50. I started taking creatine last year and working out a couple times a week for the exact reason you stated. That muscle that you lose after 60 is almost impossible to regain. Thank you for this!
This brought tears to my eyes and I'm going to be 62 this year. And I can see how life is really moving really fast. I'm going to take your advice. 100%. Thank you so much. For telling us your story
Hi there. This spoke to me too. I’m 62 from Ontario Canada. Wanna be friends?
She is amazing. She is so right and so sharp. What a wonderful example of common sense and courage. God bless.
Great video. I’m 62 and have already outlive a sister brother and 4 of my great friends. The biggest lost was my only child at an age 22. I was 52 at the time and had a complicated, traumatic grief in front of me. At 55 the doc talked of the many fathers who die in my situation and my vitals abd signs showed me on that course. In a strange way, that put me in a position to choose life and to be proactive. My daughter gave me an unwanted gift of getting my priorities straight. I have been hiking and eating clean for 7 years. While never knowing what tomorrow will bring, for today I am doing exactly what this lovely human is saying. Gratitude. John
So sorry for your loss 😢 I worry about my son who is in his late 20s, I will remember your words and just enjoy life together no matter what’s happening ❤
Sorry to hear of your loss. Losing one of my children is my worst fears. Lorraine also said we dont have to give our grown children advice, but just love them while they figure it out. Im gonna try to remember this.
I am 67 and needed to hear this. Unfortunately, almost single person I have loved most in the world has already passed. My honey passed nearly a year ago and I have let my health go. Your warning is what I have needed. I have saved a link to your video. So I can continue to review your lessons…thank you.
Love, hugs and a big thank you. I am 58 and this resonates. God bless you. ❤
I'm almost 69 years old. I raised 14 children. I am astounded how accurate this video is! My lucky fortune is that every get-together we have, everyone's stories jog my memory, and I'm reminded of something I forgot. It's so surprising and fun! This video is a KEEPER!!
I hear you. At 63, I am strength training, I lost 33 pds., we travel and spend time with friends and family. We need to make more friends and younger friends.
Hello Beth,
What kind of strength training are you doing?
Congratulations on losing 33 pounds! Don’t forget to get a bone density test, as we tend to lose more muscle in our 70s and 80s. They say it’s important to lift weights and eat more protein.
I also know that sodas can deteriorate bones, joints, and muscles. I stopped eating processed foods and junk food and stopped drinking soda in 2008, and I've maintained that change since then. I've completely transformed my diet.
For both of you, I recommend CDornerFitness and Lifting with Lars. Don’t watch one video and say, oh this is too hard. Start slowly and build up. Don’t be afraid of weights. I bought a bar and weights from Les Mills because others were just too heavy for me. Don’t be afraid just because Lars is young and a man. His energy is infectious. Chris is the best. Here motto is “don’t cry, modify”! She gives alternate moves for almost everything. Speaking of bone density. Lifting weights builds bone density. I hope this helps. ❤
YES! Younger friends help keep me young.
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Thank you for this sage advice from someone who just turned 61. I can't wait to learn more from you
This should go viral. This woman is sharing the truth of aging. I know all this from watching my mother’s decline and taking care of her until she went into assisted living. We often talk about her decline; how quickly it happened and she reminds me to prepare my life for what is to come.
wow! i turn 60 next month in excellent health - what an honest video. thank u
Dear Lorraine Costello, a wonderful 92 old woman, I (57 year old woman)listened very carefully to your authentic testimonial and it touched me deeply. I than gave it to my husband (67 year old) and he also listened to them with attention and found your honest words very inspiring. I will share to friends and relatives I love. We wish you and your daughter all the best ❤Lavinia & Carlos from Spain and Germany
This was profound. She is remarkable!
Wow...I am in my early 60s & these things are good advice!
Thank you, Lorraine Costello!
I wanted to read so many books after I retired. Then I became a retiree and realized I’m no longer interested in the books I was so passionate about when I was young. We change too much by the time we grow old. Great video!”
Yes iv changed ..hard to be interested in anything..still looking for purpose..
Thank you for being a mother to me. No one tells me what it’s like to get older. Being young I never understood. I had to cry during your speech. Thank you because most people who get older keep a big secret about the troubles they experience and so we never know. Thank you so very much
It's true. She's very motherly and caring in her advice. It feels warm and good. She wants the best for us.
I’m 64 and life has handed me many challenges already. The one I didn’t understand was how my health could slip before my eyes, and that is due to menopause. I look back to my late 40’s where my body was starting to change, the beginning or already in motion perimenopause. I was fit and healthy, and thought I had years of good health ahead of me. I had done a great amount of caring for others and was looking to create new chapters. I changed careers, partnered, moved to a new city and in my 50’s began to have health issues I did not understand. I also fell into care taking to the detriment of my own health. Women’s health has been so misunderstood and is finally being discussed and researched more readily, though there is a long way to go. Perimenopause into menopause wiped me out in many ways that now at 64 I feel I could be behind the camera saying much of what this woman shared. I know I will not live to my 90’s and will be lucky to make it to 70. It’s not mind over matter, it’s reality of my circumstances and decisions made. At one time I had a great life, many friends an intense career, health, savings, and in a blink of an eye it is gone. Always listen to your body, have family, friends and community, though take care of yourself first. Healthy boundaries are necessary and trusting your intuition is key, those two things will help you create a healthier more fulfilling life. I see the times I didn’t listen to my own internal knowing and where it is landed me. Life is a journey. I wish you the best.
I totally agree with you about what you said & menopause. Nobody could have prepared me for the nightmare I went through. Nobody spoke about menopause & people still don't.
I was in my late 30's when early menopause started.
My mother had a hysterectomy so she didn't go through it to warn me.
Menopause is like a hush hush thing. Jokes are made about it.
People get divorced over it.
I started feeling sick asif my brain filled up with fog. My joints ached, my feet ached, everything swelled up. I put on weight. I couldn't remember things. I got these horrific hot flushes. A heat would rise up from my thighs up to my head. Normally I felt cold easily. But with menopause I suffered & still do from insomnia. I had a fan blowing on me all night. My moods became irritable. I was very sensitive & still am to loud noise & bright light. I also got angry. Or sad. I felt so confused.
Before menopause I was a clear as a bell & could do 10 things at once. Nothing was an issue, I just got on with things.
I had a career, was at the top of my game, was a Sakes Director, Managed a Sales Team, had a small import business at home. I travelled alone to Thailand, China, and Hong Kong to buy ladies fashion.
I had good eyesight, a good memory, could cost very complicated projects, put together 15 tenders, complicated contracts, negotiate with clients, etc.
My mother & her sister, my aunt said to me that if I could have gone to the moon I would have.
So to be totally ruined by menopsuse was my hell. And nobody understood me or what I was goung through. I went to Doctors, tge gynaecologist, holistic healers, I took all sorts of tablets. I was suddenly suffering from depression. I eventually gave up all the pills.
Not one Doctor sat down & explained everything to me that I was suffering with. My eyesight started deteriorating, I felt sick but not like flu sick. If you get fku, you feel sick and horrible for a week or so, then you get better, & forget that you were ever sick.
Menopause is all the hormones in a womans body going haywire. Off the rails haywire.
We are NOT hypercondriacs.
Imagine a persons body going haywire with cancer.
Menopause rolls out over 10 years or more. It doesn't just happen in a week like flu.
And sorry to say but if woman don't start to talk about this, it is still being brushed under the carpet. If all the Doctors I saw from Cape to Cairo couldn't sit down and explain what I was going tgrough and give me medicine, just imagine how clueless the men in our lives are? How would they know what it is or feels like. That is why so many men divorce their wives. They don't have empathy or understanding. They just think their once young sexy, thin wife has lost it. And they look for a younger model.
So I am here to validate the truth. Menopause is no joke.
It takes a long time to roll out. Years. Decades.
The hormonal system is shutting down. It is scary. My gynaecologist did not explain to me what I was going through and why. I wanted a detailed list of everything a woman goes through, going through menopause and why.
And you never return to the person you were before menopause. My gynaecologist looked me over and prescrubed HRT. Great. And what about the dangerous side effects like breast cancer. Yes, it is a risk. But people want to pretend that science has come abit further so it's safe. Really? Look around. Cancer is a pandemic.
It is all the garbage going into our bodies. Mother nature didn't invent a chemical magic pill for menopause. My gynae was a man. He just said here, take these pills they will help you. They didn't so I stopped taking them.
And in my country you have to pay a fortune for a box of HRT tablets with only 28 pills in a pack. I had to spend a fortune every 28 days for these pills. Why don't they put 31 tablets in a pack? The whoke pharmaceutical industry is rigfed fir prifit not wellness at it's source.
After years of Dr's, pills, holistic medicines, I gave up. I went through menopause very misunderstood. The hot flushes stopped. But I am not the same as I was before it started.
And I am furious there was zero education about it. So we need to tell people the truth & educate people.
I felt sick, in a fog, my joints ached, I was tired, etc.
I felt sick but nobody could see it so they fobbed me off. When you have a terrible flu, you can SEE it. But menopause is the silent killer. Like stress & depression.
The chemics in the body are off tge rails & are shitting down so of course you can't think straight. If you have had brain fog then you will know what I mean. I was as sharp as a razor. So thank you for bringing this up. There is alot to unpack about ALL the other parts of the body that get affected.
I wish you all the best & know that you are not alone. Maybe now with RUclips having grown exponentially this will be a subject discussed to educate everyone men and woman alike. A man needs to know what his partner will go through at some stage. I want people to be prepared and have an enormous amount of compassion for a woman going through this hell. Take care brave soul. ❤️
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@janinedevilliers510thanks and bless you.
You said it!! Menopause can wreck our bodies. Everything changed 10 years post menopause in my mid 60s. Muscle mass, bone density, blood pressure, pre diabetic, cholesterol levels all changed drastically. I remember my mom's blood pressure went up post menopause. Forget worrying about night sweats. That's all I heard 20 years ago at age 50. I'm glad people talk about the other issues now.
@janinedevilliers510You are 1000 %correct. I suffered the same and no one was talking about this 20 years ago.
I’m 61, and in tears. Thank you. Best wishes 👋🏻