Heartbreak Was the Best Thing That Could’ve Happened to Me

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  • Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025

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  • @Darkcarnival987
    @Darkcarnival987 3 дня назад

    Sometimes a break up can be exactly what you need in life to help push yourself forward and focus on what you can do to better yourself. It hurts like hell, but it doesn't always have to be a bad thing.. the fact you can see that shows how mature you are and it sounds like the guy was the exact opposite. btw love the sweatshirt!

  • @Trosdane
    @Trosdane 18 дней назад +14

    Breakups help us learn what we don't want for the future, they also help us appreciate what we have when we have it... although it really super sucks getting dumped. One of the worse feelings... just gotta pull ourselves out of the pit of despair and we can come back stronger :) Thank you for sharing this story!

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад +2

      Very true! And you’re welcome, I’m glad you liked the video, thank you!

  • @socrates2706
    @socrates2706 9 дней назад

    Wow! That’s some serious maturity for someone your age. Many people never learn those lessons. That guy had way too much baggage for you to carry. Be careful about any tendencies to become the caretaker in a relationship without reciprocity.

  • @SamuKingII
    @SamuKingII День назад +2

    I am new here .
    A Russian Girl Heart Broken me Yesterday and is a very difficult 💔 😢😢 process . But is the best 👌 situation that happens to me .
    I am eagerly waiting for an special Girl.

  • @cls880
    @cls880 18 дней назад +9

    Yea, this is the most opaque part of relationships. It's hard to find out if you are compatible long-term, and there is basically no way to find out unless you get into another one. You can befriend someone and get a good idea... but living together and stuff like intimacy are a completely different level that you can't really know beforehand.

  • @frenchfan3368
    @frenchfan3368 18 дней назад +4

    Del, thank you for sharing your story and enlightening us on how you have used this negative situation to form a positive spin on your life. I have dealt with the deaths of my parents, encountered health issues, job issues but none of them every compared to the pain of dealing with a breakup. Yes, they are extremely unpleasant but they can teach us much about ourselves. Keep up the good content on your channel!

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад

      Yeah breakups are really painful, but they really can be a good learning experience and also a good opportunity to grow as a person. Thank you, I'm glad you liked the video!

  • @troydudley5258
    @troydudley5258 18 дней назад +5

    Nice job, Self improvement can be difficult at times but it looks like you are finding out it has a way of changing surroundings in a meaningful way.

  • @mjsteward5508
    @mjsteward5508 18 дней назад +6

    Stay strong in this journey Del's Diary. My breakup just encouraged me to better myself and go to the gym even more and focusing on my mental health. Breakup does sucks but it would be fine. Menards is a Midwestern thing. I work at Whole Foods Market now and i love it because I do my side gig doing UberEats and DoorDash.

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад +1

      Yeah Menards is all over here in the Midwest haha. And I'm glad to hear that you like your job! Thanks for the kind words!

  • @stanleyparks
    @stanleyparks 16 дней назад +1

    I went through a horrible breakup in November 2023. I was basically depressed all of 2024. It took a lot of self reflection and work but now I am probably the most happy and peaceful I have ever been. I think the hardest part was accepting that it was over and learning to be alone. Now I really enjoy my time alone and I think its helped boost my self esteem too! I'll never accept someone that treats me the way *she* did again! Thanks for sharing your story :)

  • @Skugganx
    @Skugganx 18 дней назад +2

    i've been thinking something similar to this recently. more specifically: 'you grow through experiences'. but if you never have any experiences you'll never grow at all, which is where i find myself.
    i will be turning 28 this year but i havent evolved or grown since i was 21, even a year before the pandemic. i have just been living the same life of work, sometimes gym, gaming, sleep and repeat. no relationships, no dating, nothing new.
    ever since the pandemic got cleared up i've tried getting out there, doing more stuff, getting new experiences, traveling etc. but nothing is working and i just feel disconnected from existance and stuck, unable to grow.
    maybe i'm stupid or weird but i somehow feel jealous of people that have experienced heartbreak, because that means you experienced something good in the first place.

  • @davidchambers44
    @davidchambers44 18 дней назад +3

    You're right about adjusting to being alone first. Learning how to function by yourself and making improvements to your life takes the pressure off of future date/spouse since nobody can literally be someone's "everything." It also boosts your own confidence and belief in yourself. For some this comes easily, for others it takes a while. Congratulations on all the progress you've made!

  • @peppercornfury
    @peppercornfury 18 дней назад +3

    You speak well in these videos. Sorry about the break up. Dudes be crazy.

  • @LegendoftheParagon
    @LegendoftheParagon 18 дней назад +6

    This is helpful. Me and my girlfriend now ex girlfriend broke up like 2 days ago. I’ve been keeping in good spirits so far but I know in a week or two I will start to become depressed. There’s a few projects at home I’ve been neglecting because I’ve been “too busy” well now I have the time to do them :)

  • @Tylert29645
    @Tylert29645 18 дней назад +2

    Del you’re quickly becoming one of my favorite new RUclipsrs to watch! I love your authenticity and Im so glad I found your channel.

  • @dulr10
    @dulr10 18 дней назад +4

    Wow, the guy's attitude was just pretty bad. It was really great, however, how you understood the entire situation and turn it into a growth experience.
    I've been practicing solitude for the past 6 years and I really feel like it is a must have to really shield yourself to most situations, especially when Love is being involved. I would not recommend doing it to the degree that I did, but it seems to me that a great amount of it can go a long way. Your example, Del, is great!

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад +1

      Thank you so much! I think that solitude can be a good thing as long as it's not taken to too extreme of a degree, but I understand why people take it to the extreme though.

    • @dulr10
      @dulr10 18 дней назад +1

      @@diaryofdelilah
      Well, I think it depends on why someone is on solitude. It is one thing to do it because you found something so great that can be just as strong as Love like academic research or active intellectual life, helping strangers with charity or volunteer work (being a monk or priest sharing wisdom counts), protecting your family, making the world more prosper with Arts, such as dance, painting, and music. It is another thing because the previous experience with Love generated Fear and Hatred towards something so deep and beautiful.
      The former can actually make a loveless life purposeful, whilst the latter can't; it becomes an anxiety and depression generator.
      For anyone potentially feeling the latter alternative, I beg you to take the following chorus to the heart:
      "
      Dry my, dry my eyes
      Bleed what, bleed what lies
      Beneath my, 'neath my fragile skin
      And refine my design
      Dry my, dry my eyes
      And keep my mind aligned
      Beneath my, 'neath my fragile skin
      I'll refine my design.
      " - DesigN, Divide Music

  • @TheSweatyYeti
    @TheSweatyYeti 18 дней назад +1

    I would say my greatest stretch of self-improvement came from unexpected heartbreak. It was awful in the moment, but so much growth, self confidence and self discovery happened because of it. Making the best of a bad situation is the best thing you can do for yourself.

  • @عبدالفتاحالسّراج
    @عبدالفتاحالسّراج 17 дней назад

    Sorry for what happed to you. It’s really sad. Really, break ups and depression are real but I liked your way of telling the story and the details

  • @infamous6459
    @infamous6459 17 дней назад +2

    Off topic, the jacket is a HUGE win! I love Sleep Token 😄

  • @zerowolf137
    @zerowolf137 8 дней назад

    Keep moving forward ❤

  • @HeatherM-pf5mf
    @HeatherM-pf5mf 13 дней назад +1

    I was heartbroken by guys into i found the right husband in my life. Menards is my husband's Midwestern dream as well. I was born in 1979. We was basically the party generation coming up. I would be turning 46 this year in June.

  • @justinmorales9597
    @justinmorales9597 16 дней назад

    I went through a breakup last year April and had a very rough time. Summer wasn’t as happy as it could’ve been but I made the best of it and hung out with family and friends more. It gave me so much motivation to change though and I honestly love that. I’m still not 100% through with it or anything but I’m doing so much better now which is just a pretty cool feeling.

  • @chrisw443
    @chrisw443 18 дней назад +1

    I was devestaed and betrayed by my ex. Had me move in with her, had to leave my job cause I was moving cities. I also spent all my savings to move in with her, then she threw me out on the street, like garbage. Literally 2 weeks into living there. Right when I ran out of cash. Almost planned.....
    I was homeless alone and ruined.
    But now I have new friends and amazing people, and I have a stable living situation, and I've made a movie. None of that would have happened without her doing that to me.
    Hopefully I don't have to keep being alone, but her leaving me was in the end a good thing. People just don't stay loyal and want to work through things anymore Del. You deserve someone who really loves you, like you loved him.

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад +1

      I am really sorry to hear that happened to you! I truly do not understand how people do these things...I'm really glad that you were able to turn your life around though! And thank you so much!

  • @Electro096
    @Electro096 16 дней назад

    This is a cool channel, I don't know why but I've watched only a few videos and I feel like I zone out, it's pretty neat hearing about your life.

  • @casiliasma8311
    @casiliasma8311 18 дней назад

    I can understand the pain you felt at that time, especially if this is your first love. Because I am the "i" person hhh. Sometimes the other person is unwilling to communicate, which leads to us not understanding the whole situation. This will cause us to be anxious and make us look for reasons from ourselves, but in fact, we may have done nothing wrong. From my point of view, this boy loved you at the time, including not asking you to help him move for free before breaking up. He may be very clear about his psychological problems, but he just doesn't want to drag you down and wants you to live a better life in the future. He is actually not bad. These are my rational analysis. I don't mean to speak for him because he didn't actively communicate at the time (he had psychological problems at the time and couldn't communicate in fact). Because I don't understand the situation, please forgive me if I say something wrong. But let the past go. It's no help to linger on it or feel sad. This is my analysis. I hope it can help you. I am also very happy that you can grow from it. keep going and look forward and be a better self!

  • @MichaelInterthal
    @MichaelInterthal 18 дней назад

    You seem so sweet Del. I hope you find a great guy.

  • @clonecommando-cn6bo
    @clonecommando-cn6bo 18 дней назад

    to everyone younger than me. being 31 while having a healthy lifestyle...with a sweet tooth. i had to cut down caffeine and sugar because of how it was ending up making me feel. i have a tour de france cyclist body. the more fruits and vegetable and salad the better you feel. some vegetables take the pain away eating them as often. wish i was when i was a ramp agent loading and unloading airplanes. standing up sometimes was hard. you eat better and often, its so much better

  • @princevinny0073
    @princevinny0073 18 дней назад

    😊 yey u put out a new video you learned from that break up and u started improveing yourself you started going to the gym helps with your looks you feel better and you focused on your schooling thats amazing stay strong :D

  • @FinnoUgric
    @FinnoUgric 17 дней назад

    "Bring back my heart. You don't need it now
    I've gone so far. I am lost somehow
    I've been away so long, hard to find a place
    I try to look ahead, but I am lost without a trace
    Even when it's gone, hear what I have to say
    You can't ignore the past. No use to run away
    I clean all my wounds. My will is still of steel
    The years that I have lost can't change the way I feel"

  • @nathanpedroza1598
    @nathanpedroza1598 18 дней назад

    Another great video Del! look forward to more like this.

  • @eta9781
    @eta9781 16 дней назад +1

    don't worry you'll find someone else

  • @ollie511
    @ollie511 18 дней назад

    I think especially around 2020-2022, the pandemic had a big effect on people's relationships with each other (Not just romantic, but friendships and relations with family as well).

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад

      I completely agree

    • @ollie511
      @ollie511 17 дней назад

      @@diaryofdelilah Although I will admit, modern technology did make it easier to stay connected with others during the pandemic (Via social media, Zoom calls, FaceTime, etc...). If COVID had happened 30+ years ago, before the Internet and long before Smartphones and Apps, it probably would've been SO MUCH harder to stay connected with others and just deal with it all in general

  • @erichanson420
    @erichanson420 18 дней назад

    I had to re-affirm that type of mindset recently, to make it all actually for something. Even if those in your current sphere are seemingly blind to your potential. That is a them problem.

  • @speedy5005
    @speedy5005 18 дней назад +2

    I use to work at Menards for a couple years I bet we could share some pretty outrageous stories. Important question though any concerts lined up this year yet?

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад

      What department did you work in? And I actually just got tickets the other night for a festival near me this summer. A lot of bands that I love are going to be there. Bad Omens, Knocked Loose, Poppy, Slaughter to Prevail, The Plot In You and a bunch of others! I'm super excited! I'm keeping my eye open for more as well.

    • @speedy5005
      @speedy5005 17 дней назад

      @@diaryofdelilah As a Wisconsinite I'm very familiar with that festival. Hopefully you are going with a group and maybe you will meet a cute guy there lol. As for Menards I was mostly hardware then they moved some managers around and I got stuck as 1st assistant manager in flooring. I lasted 6 months after that and I wanted out...

    • @speedy5005
      @speedy5005 17 дней назад

      @diaryofdelilah Ice nine kills is in Milwaukee in May

  • @joeyn36
    @joeyn36 17 дней назад

    I enjoy your 😊 videos and your soothing voice.

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад

      I’m really happy to hear that. Thank you!

  • @Zeezeezscarf
    @Zeezeezscarf 18 дней назад

    I bet once this guy got sane again he regretted his decision. 😂 Another great vid! Keep it up!

  • @clonecommando-cn6bo
    @clonecommando-cn6bo 18 дней назад

    @del 31 year old man from a village north of chicago, moved to las vegas. thought people are different-ish here, i quit attempting dating after someone i fell in love from when we were in high school together, she ended up having similar personality problems like others. its been years since. anyway i have most things i wanted since i was a kid and saw things i wanted to my entire life. after working on myself i understood that the limits are your own. so i kept pushing them

  • @ghazikutbi3206
    @ghazikutbi3206 18 дней назад

    Del; shift from software development into society development i.e. leadership. You do better and it suits your relaxed effort and your personality. Good luck to you Del.

  • @luisdeluna4960
    @luisdeluna4960 18 дней назад

    I practice my English with your videos. Nice topics :)

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад

      That is really cool to hear! Thank you!

  • @SaucyDave-94
    @SaucyDave-94 18 дней назад

    Same. Break ups always gets me in the best shape hahaha i need it broken again. So close reaching single digit bodyfat

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад +1

      Good for you! And lol break ups are a motivation like no other!

    • @SaucyDave-94
      @SaucyDave-94 17 дней назад

      @diaryofdelilah absolutely!

  • @trinelarson6655
    @trinelarson6655 18 дней назад

    Life is a journey
    God bless you

  • @MarkMonolithOfficial
    @MarkMonolithOfficial 18 дней назад

    Great outlook and nice hoodie

  • @JohnLopez-t5o
    @JohnLopez-t5o 18 дней назад

    Del heartbreaks are never enjoyable I've experienced More heart break than anyone my high school sweetheart died during our senior year raped by her friends dad and died a month later my hometown sweetheart cheated on me dumped me on my birthday my last girlfriend cheated on me during our relationship I'm an expert in heart break , but in life u have 2 choices u can either rise above be better or u can take the path of darkness a path many women always take blame all men based on what a certain few men put them through and villianize all men my motto is ," move forward not backwards never let your past dictate your future"

  • @carlosguzman173
    @carlosguzman173 18 дней назад

    greetings Del! good video fan here✌

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад

      Greetings! I'm glad you liked the video, thank you!

  • @krzysztofw3484
    @krzysztofw3484 18 дней назад

    My breakup with my girlfriend was two years ago, she left me... I can't handle it. It's getting worse, I miss her. I don't have the strength to live anymore. I'm asking everyone for help and advice

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад

      Hi, I'm so sorry to hear how bad off you're doing, and that it has been getting worse for you. If you need someone to talk to you can always reach out to me on instagram. Things can get better, and since you're really struggling I would recommend reaching out to a friend, family member, or anyone that you trust. You should get help, you're never alone and there are many others out there like you who are struggling too. Breakups are really difficult but it can get better.

  • @AppaTalks
    @AppaTalks 18 дней назад

    Thank you for sharing!

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад +1

      You're welcome! I'm glad you liked the video, thank you!

  • @whocares-v9t
    @whocares-v9t 14 дней назад

    Life is often a heart breaker . The good the bad the inbetween . That store is not my thing . Well you need someone at home with you at least a dog or cat or a fish tank or a boyfriend.

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  14 дней назад

      Lol Menards is not my thing either I never go there anymore and I did not enjoy working there. And very true, I do have an adorable dog to cuddle with.

  • @sonicmaths8285
    @sonicmaths8285 18 дней назад

    well mostly that’s a cope but we can derive value from experiences since they’re still xp points

  • @josh_uz1520
    @josh_uz1520 18 дней назад

    Your eyes!! 🥹

  • @kingbrooklyn4220
    @kingbrooklyn4220 18 дней назад +1

    Del back at it again with the upload \(^-^)/

  • @yunosaseru
    @yunosaseru 18 дней назад

    0:20 "Flip the script". Cobra Kai fan? Anyways great video!

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад +1

      Yes I LOVE Cobra Kai lol I'm glad someone noticed what I did there. Thank you, I'm glad you liked the video!

    • @yunosaseru
      @yunosaseru 18 дней назад

      @ I’m a Cobra Kai fan myself :) you’re always honest and open about your experiences. I can relate to most of the stuff. Keep up the great work

  • @Sodacan-fg5gc
    @Sodacan-fg5gc 17 дней назад

    Getting your heart broken is normal. Its the best sign that you just need to accept what god has planned for you instead and move on.

  • @dextercube1822
    @dextercube1822 18 дней назад

    What camera are you using? The picture is so clear

  • @88kingofhearts88
    @88kingofhearts88 18 дней назад +3

    Here's a face I always like seeing 😊

  • @djchazzimmerman
    @djchazzimmerman 18 дней назад +1

    U go girl ur very cute ‘tis his last

  • @rafaborowczyk5744
    @rafaborowczyk5744 18 дней назад

    Del, naively sitting in school thinking she can just chill as an introvert at an IT job.
    *Laughs in agile, meetings and how's the progress*

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад

      Lol I've heard a lot about agile and meetings. We use agile at school and we do lots of meetings for "practice" lol. Def isn't the most fun thing, but I'll still take it over retail and being screamed at in the face by random people for the most crazy things that have nothing to do with me. One of my coworkers at Menards was actually punched in the face by a customer which is crazy. The question is will I be able to actually pull a job in software development with the current job market...

    • @rafaborowczyk5744
      @rafaborowczyk5744 16 дней назад

      @@diaryofdelilah holy shit, ya IT is much better than that lol. As a C# dev you should be fine for the most part. Most jobs are Java, C# or some niche technology SAS, SAP, Salesforce. With a Bachelor's in CS + internship you should be able to find a job in 3 - 6 months. I live in EU, it took about that long for me and my friends to find our IT jobs. US has more opportunities and bigger tech companies, I think you'll do just fine.

  • @TriX77oVeR
    @TriX77oVeR 18 дней назад

    I like your videos, i watched not all of you but i am heard of hearing (cochlea Implantat) and i am not perfect at understanding und writing with english, but i like your voice because it‘s so calming. My experiences were not good with dates and have never got an relationship at 32 with girl or woman. Do you think a guy with cochlea Implantat is a problem? What do you think? I dont know if you know about that but you can google it. It would cool if u answer my comment. Sorry for english i come from Germany and i am a bit shy. 😅

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад +2

      I'm glad that my voice is calming to you, thank you for watching my videos! And yes I know what that is and I don't think that is a problem at all.

    • @TriX77oVeR
      @TriX77oVeR 15 дней назад

      @@diaryofdelilah thanks for your comment. Okay, i think i should keep trying with online dating, i know it‘s hard and to adress outsides i don‘t want to be creepy oder something 😄

  • @micah1944
    @micah1944 18 дней назад

    DEL!!!!

  • @evgeniytsarkov5679
    @evgeniytsarkov5679 18 дней назад

    Every girl after a breakup goes to a gym. That's an instinct.

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад

      The gym is truly a therapy unlike none other

  • @ZachieJames
    @ZachieJames 18 дней назад +4

    Skibidi Rizz

    • @umbrellaOS
      @umbrellaOS 18 дней назад

      Ohio Sigma

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад +1

      Skibidi

    • @jb31842
      @jb31842 18 дней назад

      ​@@diaryofdelilahI love how the RUclips app put the "Translate to English" link right beneath that 🤣

  • @Hoffmanpack
    @Hoffmanpack 17 дней назад +1

    Ffs

  • @edmlws
    @edmlws 18 дней назад

    🔥

  • @dodolizpunjaboi
    @dodolizpunjaboi 18 дней назад

    Great

  • @MrRicardonz15
    @MrRicardonz15 18 дней назад

    You’re not exactly private, sharing all this information to the public. If you’re looking for another guy, you only have hundreds of thirsty guys in the “struggles dating as an introvert” video

  • @a1gamez262
    @a1gamez262 17 дней назад

    Come to the ancient churches ✝️

  • @JeriahRosario
    @JeriahRosario 15 дней назад

    SLEEP TOKEN!

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  13 дней назад +1

      They're my favorite band! I love them so much!

    • @JeriahRosario
      @JeriahRosario 13 дней назад

      @diaryofdelilah Right on 👊! My favorite song is "Take me back to Eden".

  • @MarcoYeager1
    @MarcoYeager1 18 дней назад

    This channel has ads now! 🤔🤔🤔

  • @Rose-kj7cr
    @Rose-kj7cr 18 дней назад

    New video🎉

  • @jimmorrison9656
    @jimmorrison9656 18 дней назад

    I would never break up with you.😍

  • @drewdevon2009
    @drewdevon2009 14 дней назад

    with that rbf its no wonder

  • @WinstonCodesOn
    @WinstonCodesOn 17 дней назад

    I avoid Menard's because of that horrible theme song! Sheeeeeesh!!

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  17 дней назад

      It’s so bad! And I had to listen to it constantly 😭 I hated it, now I NEVER go there anymore lol.

    • @WinstonCodesOn
      @WinstonCodesOn 17 дней назад

      @@diaryofdelilah If I worked there I'd get PTSD from every few minutes hearing how you save big money. You SAVE BIG MONEY!

  • @warriormessiah3134
    @warriormessiah3134 18 дней назад

    Hi

  • @fingers__
    @fingers__ 18 дней назад

    👍🏽

    • @diaryofdelilah
      @diaryofdelilah  18 дней назад +1

      You were the first commenter yet again. Appreciate you!

  • @semirecumbentoneYT
    @semirecumbentoneYT 14 дней назад

    Cute girl. Cars though I hate.

  • @topgoytopgoy
    @topgoytopgoy 18 дней назад +5

    Unlike s1mpś in your comment section Ill have to disappoint you, your take on this is classic NPC self improvement bs. Heartbreaks and trauma can build men, but they destroy women especially if the guy had an imprint on her. More and more breakups for women means emotional baggage for every new relationship and losing the ability to pair bond. Women with high bödy counts become soulless and are likely to divorce their husbands, and they are disgusting to every sane guy. For alphas, (for the men you truly desire), a woman is also a conquest. If they are not your first, if someone has already conquered you in the past, they wont feel special / like they have something to fight for.
    Stop sleeping around with every guy you find cute, let your father have a say in choosing a good man and never break up again, otherwise you are going to be another victim of feminism.

    • @jimdarhower4945
      @jimdarhower4945 18 дней назад +5

      You seem fun.

    • @mjsteward5508
      @mjsteward5508 15 дней назад

      simp
      nouninformal•North American
      plural noun: simps
      a silly or foolish person.
      No simps in the comments, keep the gender war propaganda off this platform.