Let's Have A Catch Up | Q&A, birth plan? moving house? being self employed, preparing for motherhood
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- Опубликовано: 29 июн 2024
- Let's Have A Catch Up | Q&A, birth plan? moving house? being self employed, preparing for motherhood
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0:00 intro
Misc Questions
0:54 How are you feeling?
1:32 How did you find your path to your current job, previous job, school etc
5:48 What made you want to start your YT channel?
6:48 What’s your Etsy business?
7:17 Is it worth selling on Etsy? 20p per listing
8:19 What is your daily routine, filming, editing, Etsy other responsibilities etc
11:29 If you could visit anywhere in the US where would you go?
12:26 Would you recommend getting two ragtops together or one at a time?
13:35 Do you have any summer plans?
14:03 Will you be going on a staycation/baby moon?
14:41 Have you overcome your CFS?
16:39 Do you prefer Halloween or Christmas? Summer or autumn?
18:00 What is your favourite flower?
Baby/pregnancy Questions
18:46 Do you have a birth plan?
19:54 Do you have a name for baby yet?
20:06 Baby names you love but won’t be using?
20:41 How is Dom feeling about becoming a daddy?
21:25 Where will Dom do his racing if you turn the spare room into a nursery?
22:48 Will you share the nursery decor? Do you have a theme?
23:36 Did you workout/continue to workout to prepare for pregnancy/labour
24:43 Do you believe slow living can still be achieved when you’re a busy parent?
26:11 What are you most looking forward to about becoming a mum?
27:03 Do you and Dom want a big family/ how many children do you want?
27:14 Will you be staying in your lovely cottage or moving into a bigger home once baby comes?
28:24 How will you introduce the cats to their new brother?
29:25 Do you think your YT content will change once your little one arrives?
30:44 Best sources to learn everything you need to know about having a baby?
31:55 Do you feel prepared for motherhood?
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Kay x
Mother of four and slow living advocate here 🙋🏼♀️ I’ve found there are 3 main areas I focus on to allow me to live more intentionally as a busy mum and have a slower paced life.
1. is our finances, we do our best to live within our means and try and stay debt free which allows for more freedom over our time.
2. is clutter, staying on top of decluttering really reduces my stress as a mother (especially in a small house) and allows more time to focus on the good stuff! 😊
3. Finally is our schedules, I try not to overload mine or the kid’s schedules with extra curricula stuff, as I’ve found when we’re all really busy we are less connected and we all then find it harder to see the beauty in the ordinary ❤
Thanks for another fab video Kay 😊xxx
Another pregnant mama-to-be here, really recommend watching Blake Livelys speech on child protection online together as a couple before discussing sharing baby online, this totally changed things for me and especially considering the statistcs from that video were before AI/deepfakes. It's uncomfortable and upsetting to learn about but really really important to inform yourself on as a parent! I'm baffled that YT/Insta/Tiktok etc don't have strict rules about sharing childrens faces online.
There's also a question of consent, children can't consent to us sharing their life/images online that will create a permanent digital footprint that will follow them into their adult life/careers and that should be a bigger conversation too!
Kalyn nicholson has talked about this journey as an influencer a lot and has nailed it imo!
It's difficult b/c they're so cute and we want to share them with the world and views may change post-birth but these are def things to consider - currently we're planning on using Family Album to securely share photos with people we trust!
I love the way you phrased it! Fall is your favourite season, but winter is your favourite time of year! Might have to borrow that! You do have summer plans! babymoon!! So excited for you guys!!
The best thing you can do is take it one day at a time. No day with kids is ever the same. Routine is helpful, but you still have to be flexible enough to face the changes. And no child is the same as the other. Our boys are very different from each other. What counts the most is time spent with them. You're going to be a great Mum!❤
Honestly the first few weeks to a month will be harder but that’s only cause you’re having to find your feet and reorganise your time but once you’ve got a routine that works for you I’m sure you’ll still be able to continue slow living. So happy for you boys are really the best and it’ll be beautiful for you and dom to see the relationship that develops between your human baby and your feline babies
Lovely vlog Kay. Go with the flow my dear xxx
Girl you got this. You will do what is loving and healthy for you Dom and baby. Your fur babies will be fine. I would love to see videos of your changing life. I’ve never had children so I live sometimes though other people for the moment. You look beautiful beautiful. You are good and you are on the right path ❤❤❤🐈
I 100% think that slow living is a mindset rather than a physical change to the activities and things. I have a 2 year old who is ALWAYS on the go, my time is always stretched and life can be chaotic at times. I just trying be mindful and bring myself back to being present. I try to imagine that I'm old and have come back to visit this moment and think "what would I soak up?" My son's smile, his eyelashes, the way he holds a pencil, how he checks to see if I'm laughing when he's being goofy... slow living is possible! You have to look for it.
You look so well and so happy Kay! Enjoying following your journey and this new chapter ❤😊
Aw thank you! I feel great at the moment, hope it continues! Thanks for being here x
Lovely video & thank you for answering my question on the kittens. Let them smell the baby clothes and cot and of course some small sessions on introducing bub. They will get on. Don’t worry Rory & Echo will love your bub. Very happy for you both! Really enjoying watching your journey. 🩵🩵🩵
I always get so excited to watch a new video from you, I just can't help it. You just always lift my mood, even if it was already good to begin with 😜
Thank you for sharing 😊 ☺ ❤ 🙏 Have a wonderful weekend
Recently came across your channel, really enjoying your videos ❤ Also, my nickname is Kay and my daughter is called Luana 🥰 Wishing you all the best and hope you are enjoying life as a new mum xx
Such a fun video!☕️
Glad your well and very wise decision regarding house .
I have 3 kids and I think slow living is completely possible. Even if it’s a cup of tea in the garden! I really think if you want to achieve it it’s very easy! Love your channel! Xx
Cats and new baby. You will know what’s best for you. Read all the suggestions and take what is best for you. My suggestion is if you are away from home for a couple of days have a blanket with the baby’s smell on it home before the baby comes home and let the cats start to know his smell. Talking about being prepared, you will be! If you find anything physical you need you can purchase it when you need it. As far as being prepared to be a mom take it day by day. You already love him and that’s the biggest thing. I’m a grandmother and I can still remember things my first born did that I was like “what do I do now”. And that was to follow my mothers instincts and ask a seasoned mom her opinion. I’m so excited for you and Don.
Aw 😊 Just finished catching up and was lovely to hear you answer all these questions with so much joy and happiness in your voice and rightly so! 😊 - I’d often felt that my husband was left out of so much when we were expecting and the congratulations seemed to always be directed it me. Which is lovely I guess but it takes two to make a baby 😂 - If I was to do anything differently it would be to have him noticed and heard more. Don’t get me wrong he was a very hands on Daddy but I feel I can’t remember much about how he really felt and so we had this discussion last night while going over his speech for our daughters wedding. How time has flown when we look back. And yes, you are so right, nothing prepares you for becoming a parent 😊 - But it’s the single and most amazing ‘job’ I have ever had. I never imagined I’d ever get to be so lucky as I always thought I’d inherit my mothers genetic disease which would have changed my thoughts on children forever. Every day I am truly thankful and I am so grateful that I got to bring them into the world and watch them grow. Don’t get me started on them beginning to fly the nest! That’s a whole long long away for you both. Advice? - Cherish every moment, take the photographs and make precious family memories. 😊
You and Dom are going to be amazing parents and he will be a lucky little boy. 💙
We would love to visit the national parks in America too! Also...nursery/mancave... 😂🤣 love it!! I think slow living is possible with children. Like you say, you can incorporate small intentional moments into each day. I have an 19 month old daughter, and I started making my own bread and growing veggies...things I love and my daughter can help with! Keep it simple, like bringing flowers into the home or lighting a candle. You don't need to bring everything back into your life straight away after having a baby. All those things you love doing will come back into your life again if you want them to. And how wonderful it will be for your child/ren to see you investing your time and energy into something you love. They'll learn so much from that!
The best advice is go with your own instincts and try to enjoy every second xx
Very true 💗
Nursery theme sounds spot on 🎈 🦒 xxx
You are so smart. I have followed your journey, and I think you will be an amazing mum. Much love yo you and Dom ❤
Totally agree, theyre so lovely x
You're so kind! Thank you so much x
I just discovered your channel and I wanted to say that you are so so kind and beautiful in and out! Sending warm cheers xx
The book "What to expect when expecting", is great and helped me a lot!
That's so bizarre Kay, I always thought you'd be an amazing midwife!! You just seem to have such a warm and calming way about you - I'd love that job myself, so precious to be there for women in their hour of need! Praying for you and your little one xx
Nice Q&A Kay. ❤
We’ve got 3 bedrooms but one is Will’s office, so technically only two used as bedrooms. D is 19 months & still cosleeping with me 😂 Her nursery was a waste haha BUT it’s beautiful & meant she had a place for all her stuff. It’s only now that we’re expecting #2 that we’re reassessing our space & considering moving the office up to the loft & utilising having a 3rd bedroom. You’ll be just fine in the space you have 😊
❤❤❤ you will be a great mum kay x
❤Loved this video sweet Kay!! Thanks so much for sharing your heart lovely lady!!! 🥰🙏🏻❤️❌⭕️🤗🤰🏻
You’re looking so wonderful and well Kay. I’m so happy for you and Dom .. you will both be fabulous parents. With the cats, I think getting them used to smells etc is much better than separating them from the baby .. if they’re used to sleeping with you and have full run of the house .. if that were to suddenly change, they will resent the baby.
In terms of extra space, I agree .. you don’t need a bigger house .. your home and garden is just beautiful .. I’m sure you and Dom have already considered this .. but you could convert the loft into a parents retreat with your own bathroom etc and for Dom to keep on racing .. you could turn that open part of the shed into a man cave for him 😊. Loving your journey and so happy that everything you’ve always wanted is coming to fruition. xxx
Aw you look so glowing! I have a dog who was literally out baby and the first night we got home with our daughter I came in the door first as he hadn’t seen me in a few days then my partner brought our daughter in, we also took a muslin home while I was still in, so he could smell it and get her smell from it xx
I live with my 1 year old son in a tiny house on wheels. You live in a big enough house! Especially in the beginning he will be with you all the time so no worries.😊
I work as a childminder which allows me to be a stay at home mummy as well as have a job. It's a tough career but I love it xxx
are you planning on filming a labour vlog? or talking about your birth story? I love these videos and find them very informative as a mom-to-be!
I agree with you totally about appreciating each day before you have your baby boy as things will change. If you want want some light hearted humour around having children, then watch mickey flannagan, so hilarious xxx By the way, you're looking the picture of health. Sending love to you both xxx
Yep! Good to flexible with a birth plan - both of mine went out of the window! First one overridden by the midwife; second overridden by the baby who decided he was cooked five weeks early - so I had no choice but the Maternity Unit
I expect your cats know you’re pregnant - mine used to rest her head on my bump and purr at it. I put the baby on the floor when we got home, she skirted round it for a few moments, then got bold and had a good sniff - then the purring started. She put up with a lot of man-handling once he was mobile too .... very good-naturedly
Sounds like you’re coming along nicely
Thank you for sharing! To prepare for birth, I really like Bridget Taylor, she has a great channel and a course that's really comprehensive. There is actually some useful knowledge to have before giving birth and cope in the moment (for you and for how your spouse can support you), especially around breathing, knowing about your perineum, positions etc. Imo, especially of you're leaning towards an unmedicated birth, it can be super useful to have a sense of what could happen and what tools you and Dom could use to cope and get through. Even if you never know what will happen (for sure!), it can go a long way to gather some knowledge ❤ I loved the Mama natural book, Ina may guide to childbirth, and to learn about 4th trimester and pp as well. Can't wait to keep on following your journey 😊
PS: we live in Paris and when we had our 1st baby boy last year, we were living in a 1bd apartment! It was enough at first, and then we moved to a 2 bd when he was 6mo, so he could have his own room and we love it. From my perspective, having 2 bedrooms and a big downstairs and garden is heavenly 😉❤️😘
Thank you for providing such informative insight about everything! We're all super excited for you. You'll be an Amazing Mother. And similarly, I'm a Grateful Homemaker (w/o children at this stage in my life) who earns her own means of income externally from the home w/ my small housekeeping and baked good businesses. I love earning compensation for tasks that I already love to do. I choose to pursue my businesses w/o any obligation from my partner. He supports this but says to do what makes me happy. We're in a grateful good financial standing w/ his income w/ our home and vehicles paid-off. Thus, I'd like for us to develop a family someday once he's been promoted w/ his employer.... this way he'll have more flexibility.
Congratulations! We love your content. Thank you fellow sister and fellow homemaker! Woohoo!
I'm so glad you said not sharing your son. It's nice to see hands helping, but not him, actually, as 1 is not safe, and fair to breeeh his privacy 2 people look into things too much and judge others harshly, etc. Side note: You're glowing, lovely.
You have plenty of room in your house.❤ We live in a one bedroom flat with our 6 month old and we don't need anymore space at the moment. 😊
I worked in childcare for years before I got sick and it’s a very rewarding job however… the “system” ruins everything, it becomes very stressful because you find yourself doing constant paperwork and spending barely any time with the children because of it 😩 I found myself having to do paperwork from home some times too because I’d get so behind with it all. It’s a shame because really… we should be there to focus on the children but unfortunately it’s just not like that 😭
I think it’s amazing you’ve done so much in your life so far. I find adulthood so hard with trying to decide what we actually want to do in life haha
I’d love to reopen an Etsy shop. I had one whilst I was working selling crocheted items (film and tv stuff) nerdy stuff basically. I’m going to be making children’s stuff (educational and such) when I finally get the time to sit and make things again.
Enjoy it, Kay. Embrace the ups and downs, but you seem to be like that anyway. I have a nearly 14 year old and a 6 year old and you know everyone says it goes quick so enjoy it - well it's a cliche but it's so true. I remember my first pregnancy like it was a couple of years ago. Now my eldest leaves school in 3 years!! All the very best, Kay & Dom. Treasure every magical moment. ✨️
Thanks lovely! I will do my best 🥰 It really does all go by so fast!
Yosemite National Park is huge.... 1/3 the size of Wales here in UK 🙏 I loved it there too. Just beware of Grizzlies and mountain lions, snakes etc and never trek alone
Hiya, make sure that you start putting training in place before the baby comes with the cats - I’m sure you will! So if you’re going to have them shut out of the bedroom at night etc, practice before they come! Ours get really annoyed when a door is shut and can rip the carpet up, and that’s not something you want when you’ve got a baby! X
Babies do not need a bigger house, neither do older children. It’s been proven we only live in very limited parts of our homes and the rest is waste. I don’t know why it’s assumed we have to upgrade our space just because we are having kids. And not to mention, more to clean and less time… I have kids and cats so I would advice bring something to them after the baby is born that has his scent. Also, I strongly recommend keeping them out of the bedding or crib, it’s cute when there’s no baby in there but not so much when you are trying to keep them out all of a sudden once baby is there. The best birth plan is flexibility!!!! You will do great!
I agree my house is very small but we managed with our 2 girls and 2 cats 😂
I agree with this! I see that in other countries 2 people live in a 60sqm home and they move to veeery big houses when they have kids, while where I live it's normal to have 4 people and sometimes more comfortably living in 60sqm. 2 rooms, a living room, a kitchen + dining room, a bathroom, and that's all you need, and a garden if possible.
For us it totally increased our quality of life to move to a bigger place. We use every room and square meter and the kids have space for dancing and running and exploring. It's great.😊
@@lourlopezskWow I cannot imagine living like that. I'm glad to have different floors and rooms, we all need our space in my family.😊
I never get tired of watching your videos it's honestly addictive 💕💒🌟⚜️👑🥝🥰💖🌷🤭🌸✨😊🍓📌🎂🎉
Thank you so much 😀
Being self employed make sure you put your mab form in early as it takes awhile to get paid after x
Kay, do you follow Youpenga ….She must be the same amount of months as you and she has just done her baby reveal
It’s so nice watching the both of you on your journeys 😊
Ooh maternity is soooo à beautiful things .
I do actually chimiotherapy and my two boys are so sweet for me and help me a lot.
Kisses❤❤❤❤
Aw bless you, hope you're doing ok 💗
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Can you do a loft conversion to add an extra bedrrom? If you love the house that may be an option. I have two boys now in their 40's!! But they are still my babies.
If and when you decide to move, get 3-4 bedroom home, with room to have more kids with a nice back yard..I think your baby is going to be beautiful ❤️..I hope you share some pictures of him, since we support your channel.. Christmas this year will be awesome for you this year..
I pray one day that mine will get better, I’m better than I was but still no where near well 😢 cfs sucks.
Hey Kay hope all is well for you xx
Thanks lovely, I hope the same for you too 💗
@@Livingthelifeyoulove I'm fine Kay hunni how long will it be until little one arrives xx
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I absolutely hate summer. I have a floor air conditioner so that is the only thing that makes summer tolerable.
Stay in your beautiful cottage until you need extra space. Extension? X
Take something tgat you can put his scent on so Dom can come home and introduce the kitties to your son. Differant cats respond differantly.
We had two cats when our daughter was born and I was terrified they would get into the cot with her and I also thought it was cruel to lock them out of our bedroom when they were used to sleeping with us so we put her in her own bedroom with the door closed from day one and I think it was the best think we did. We never had any transition issues getting her to sleep in her own room and she was never scared of the dark xx
This surely is a joke? You put your cats before your newborn and closed a newborn in on their own from day one?
@@clairec7555 no not a joke, we did it to protect her from the cats and I would do the same again as she has turned out brilliantly and is a fully rounded well adjusted adult. We had no sleep issues with her as a baby and she slept for 12 hours every night from being 3 days old x
Could you build a tiny hut in garden for Dominic to escape to
Can I ask what county you live in? It looks so beautiful x
Ragdolls are beautiful cats. Is Dom taking over litter box duty while you are expecting? I love kitties and I volunteer at a cat shelter in my city in New York State. I also feal with fibromyalgia and a knee injury caused Comllex Regional Pain Syndrome. I am a senior so these are challenging. My church and my cat are a great for me. I depend a lot on the LORD.
Margaret matheny does slow living with young children on RUclips!
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Do you do coaching for people in how to set up Etsy and how to edit videos?
I don't but there are lots of videos on YT about this topic 🤗
@@Livingthelifeyoulove thank you 😊
My daughter is nearly 21i read the mirmium Stoppard book it was amazing I had a dvd called nine magic mounts was interesting and I got a book from my midwife with was good to as for your cats I would I toduce slowly and also just a little bit at a time
I read that too. She really was full of great advice and The Baby Whisperer xxx
Hi Kay, since my last comment was deleted… not quite sure why as I was questioning the safety of another comment? please don’t put a new baby alone in their own room from birth. It is dangerous from a SIDs perspective and the poster writing that their baby slept through the night at day 3 gave dangerous thoughts and advice x
There is a fab UTube about a lovely lady in Italy called Kylie who has had a baby. She talks about him and experiences and only shows his hair on feet or back of the baby never the face
When I brought my second boy home from the hospital I let my kitty smell his hospital blanket then left baby in the car seat and let him smell him and tbh he really didn’t care. Had a sniff and left him alone even a month later he didn’t really go too close to him but would sit next to him but never climbed on him or anything which was something lots of people had warned me about but my kitty was very well behaved with my baby
Dear Kay, I don't want to judge and it's completely your choice, but if I were your son I wouldn't want my life to be shown on social media, without me being able to make that choice for myself. I understand that many parents have the urge to show the whole world how sweet and wonderful their children are, but I really worry about the childrens safty and privacy. I think while he is a tiny baby it would be safe to show pictures of him if you wanted to. But once he gets a bit older maybe find ways to include your mum-life in your videos and other social media without showing his face? What's on the internet stays on the internet...forever - and not only can kids at school be very cruel but there are also very bad adults out there 😞 I love you attitude towards the size of your house! It is so lovely and cosy and there really isn't any need for you to move to a bigger place just because you have a baby - there is plenty of room for the three - sorry, five!! - of you while he is still little. I'm sure you will know when it's time to move and that your're going to find a wonderful new home for that season of life. Lots of love
PS: I know exactly how you feel about your dad. I'm in a very similar situation with my mum - I love her very, very much, but it's a lot of weight being the only family a parent has left. Especially when they have health issues. ❤
I get what you mean. My 9 year old is grateful to me that I never even posted a baby pic of her online. She will decide later on if she wants an internet presence.
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Kay one thing don't do.. Don't be a hovering mom .That's annoying to Others...Meaning don't be hovering over your mom or grandma, or friends that are holding him, like standing there, acting like they don't know how to hold a baby, or take care of him .
That happened to me..And never held that baby again.. And the mom knew it, it said right to her face .So I don't have a great relationship with that person because of that hovering .Now the kids are teenagers and I still don't have that with her anymore..
Don't be an overbearing relarive who wants to snatch the baby away from the mom either.