In addition to the gender wars i actually think that “the internet” makes ppl more awkward. So some ppl may be eyeing you down but they dont know how to approach you in person because its way easier on the internet. But the internet is fake and i think its causing a disruption in our social society.
Always said social media has made us less social. We're more connected on the internet but way more disconnected in the real world because of it. People have literally lost the ability to "people"; humans have lost the ability to "human". The internet has been our crutch and dumbed down an extremely necessary survival skill in most of the population. This is what keeps me awake at night because it's one of the biggest problems facing our world and it's one of the least talked about. Everybody's talking about the loneliness epidemic but nobody's talking about the number one reason for it that's sitting right in our hands.
@@brittanyb5340 Thank you! I stay off social media because it's weird being eyed down when people don't even respond to my message or take a long time to.
The super attractive men don’t have rizz either. You talk to them long enough and realize they’re corny as hell & bad at communicating bc their face has always let them through the door with women.
Attractive women are routinely intellectually empty because ALL women use their beauty to get ahead and attractive women often have nothing else to offer... At all.
Well, hello there 👋🏾 the bookshelf and mirror are cute, the camera view was on point, the editing *chef's kiss* (I love how you added in the comments so its like you're thinking what you're saying) and the reminders were spot on and very needed. We all need to first work on and fall in love with ourselves so we can know what it is that we want...and then follow through by setting and keeping boundaries. Yes some riff raff might slip by BUT alot of them can be avoided. I'm happy for you! It warms my heart that you are at this point in your journey and can enjoy this part of your life 💓💞 sidenote: where's my boy Onyx?? Is he ok being solo again?
Ooooo this 🎯 I’m “working through” a break up with someone I wasn’t in a relationship with but we were “building” for a year. It’s ending because of everything you said in this video . And I kid you not, today he told me I never said I needed more so I did would anyone would do and searched it in the messages search bar. Realized I had been vocalizing my needs since JUNEEEE ! So half the time we’ve been not dating I’ve been accepting breadcrumbs. When I saw how many times I mentioned it paired with his defensive reaction my heart shattered for myself. How can I tell him i deserve to receive love and affection and respect when I am not respecting myself by continuing to accept less than what I need. Accepting less than what aligns with the experience id like to have with a man I would like to be with. Ooof
Why would a dating app be more of an organic experience than a man approaching you at a cigar lounge? Why do women who have "looking for a long term relationship" in their dating profile tend to sleep with men faster, usually on the first date, than women who have "looking for something casual" on their dating profile? I'm so confused 😂😂😂
Because everyone has “rules” and “boundaries” until they find someone who they really like or fall in love. THEN everything becomes discretionary. It’s all about how they feel in the moment. This applies to both men and women.
This is partly do to the internet creating people that are so shallow. Meanwhile people are 50% plastic and 90% filtered. If you want traditional values you may have to be open to crossing racial boundaries or moving out of the country. Their are good brothas and there is nothing in the world like one but where are they hiding. I’m so glad I’m married to one of the good ones.
Studies do show people who get on apps with the purpose of starting relationships if they find a partner they usually stay together. But studies also show if you have dating apps and keep them you're more likely to cheat.
Literally the message i NEEDED to hear right now_ i have this ex that keeps going and coming back into my life, I do my inner work to heal and he comes back in my life for 3seconds telling me sweets nothings with no ACTION and then my whole world is turned upside down but not this time boo. Im done for good
Why do people keep going to Atlanta? when Charlotte is better as far as the dating scene and not as much competition in the job market plenty of careers plenty of people from all over here, great food scene, many millionaires. I don’t understand why people keep flocking to Atlanta, it’s a questionable city as far as dating.
But I love that you looking for the organic experience Atlanta has mad weird energy from my experience, by the way I’m from Brooklyn I made the move from Atlanta to Charlotte.
The thing for online dating for me as a guy(and many others as well) is that there are less women on there than men. I usually do horrible on online dating like Tinder. Over the years I only met one girl from there. I think it might have to do with my height being 5'7 but in person I do much better.
As a 53yr old black man, it's so refreshing to hear someone expressing the dating world without being partially driven. Just subscribe and notification bell is lit. Thanks to you for this wonderful content young lady..
Yes men do that whole weird Back & Forth glancing is men trying to see if we should approach you. Believe it or not Men and Women both dont like rejection so most times those guys are shy and they are making eye contact to see the response they get from you, thats when they know whether to approach you or not !
Im in Atlanta honestly I’m so tired of internet talking points , if your attracted to a person why not approach . As a 30 year old black man most women want the man to give without reciprocating. If you really interested In a person you’ll do anything for them . Dating is played out when you can be average guy and still get sex . I hope you the best
Here is my take as a 28 year old man in the current market. I have no problem courting a woman like in the good ol days of our grand parents, The problem is a lot of women these days like you said have some kind of rotation of guys. I know guys do that to I wont deny it , but it changes the dynamic of dating. I am not gonna go all in and do nice things for a woman who gets railed by two other guys and demands something from me that others do not have to do for her. When you are to "nice" in the beginning as a guy you will straight up just get used for free food and attention or get friendzoned. There is a reason women are attracted to the bad boys😃
Women will date around and sleep with some guys, while continuing to date and find the man they are attracted to who also offers them everything else from an emotional and financial standpoint. This is why you keep your financial and time investment low initially. If she really wants you and no one else, she will make it known.
I'm someone who likes to have an intelligent conversation. Not every conversation needs to be intelligent but I'm tired of talking about sex, how many bedrooms I have and sending selfies.
The truth is many of the women dont like the men. This is way they always need the man to put in some form of unpaid work for them to get along. Romance is two way.
This video tells me you want a boyfriend/relationship, but you want it the old school way. If you see a guy you want learn him & go after him, yall waste so much time worrying about what other women will think. Get a man & get out the game.
It has nothing to do with what women think and everything to do with no woman wants to be with a man with no ability to be assertive and who settles for what he can get than goes for what he wants. 😒
So...when I use an app, I slide right on several women and it takes days for the matches to start bouncing back. I'm starting with the first one and going down the list. I may think she is cool but she is number 15 on the list. Saying something first literally causes her to jump the line. If she says hi and he doesn't take it from there, he may not really be in to her and that should be okay. Overall, the person on the other side SHOULD be out creating a life and may not send a message first. At least, not the ones that you really want. Also, does it not sound weird for a man to be going hard for a woman that doesn't want to do too much until she sees some random quality that she likes? As a masculine man, I personally am not attracted to women that need to see something before their femininity kicks in. It's a bit weird and tends to become a hamster wheel of trying to please a stranger. The ones that generally identify as feminine and are that way regardless of stimulus tend to be who I am attracted to because I'm going to be a man regardless. Just my perspective :)
Man that staring that women do is bs....its not rare for any person to stare at ppl in her/him surroundings its called, being aware. I usually take the stare with a grain of salt especially if im busy. Reason y men nowadays will seem to wait for the female is because red pill and handsome mens game is being pushed. It teaches the men that they are the prize instead of the women. Thats also y they dont chase anymore. Ur chasing a women for months, wasted time and if hes dating thats also a waste of resources. The problem is women want all this and do nothing in return or didnt deserve this treatment in the first place.
Red Pill message has taken off after Trump & Covid. Many of the women are not aware of it & it multiple branches. In a nutshell regular average women = loss of money/time for regular/average men. Its better to watch porn, play video games, watch sports than to date. Women used to use shaming tactics to make/force men to play their game, but Red Pill is making many men aware. Women will say the video game porn guys are BROKE, but then you have the Passport Bros who pay a lot of money to go else where. They say the Passport guys are seeking prostitutes like they dont have prostitutes where they already live. Its all a weird flex.
@@SammyDaGawd I don't know what the hell, you women want. I want a wife and kids. I have a solid blue collar job, my own place and I own two cars. I don't know what else black women want. Ya'll are crazy.
so what has the men who are pursuing you getting so far? what have they been rewarded with? or they just being used for dates and experiences continuously?
In addition to the gender wars i actually think that “the internet” makes ppl more awkward. So some ppl may be eyeing you down but they dont know how to approach you in person because its way easier on the internet. But the internet is fake and i think its causing a disruption in our social society.
Very fair point, you’re right about that. 💯
Always said social media has made us less social. We're more connected on the internet but way more disconnected in the real world because of it. People have literally lost the ability to "people"; humans have lost the ability to "human".
The internet has been our crutch and dumbed down an extremely necessary survival skill in most of the population. This is what keeps me awake at night because it's one of the biggest problems facing our world and it's one of the least talked about. Everybody's talking about the loneliness epidemic but nobody's talking about the number one reason for it that's sitting right in our hands.
@@chenanigans well said. Some ppl will literally ask for your ig before they ask for your number lol
@@SammyDaGawdare you single?
@@brittanyb5340 Thank you! I stay off social media because it's weird being eyed down when people don't even respond to my message or take a long time to.
This is very levelheaded commentary. It’s refreshing to hear a perspective on dating that isn’t inundated with negativity.
I love how you articulate !!
The super attractive men don’t have rizz either. You talk to them long enough and realize they’re corny as hell & bad at communicating bc their face has always let them through the door with women.
This!
Women Have no Rizz at all why do yall got nerve to talk about rizz😂😂😂😂😂
Just like every other woman. They can’t hold a conversation and let their gender let them through the doors
Attractive people dont have rizz bc they are attractive
Attractive women are routinely intellectually empty because ALL women use their beauty to get ahead and attractive women often have nothing else to offer...
At all.
You’re absolutely spot on Sammy
Well, hello there 👋🏾 the bookshelf and mirror are cute, the camera view was on point, the editing *chef's kiss* (I love how you added in the comments so its like you're thinking what you're saying) and the reminders were spot on and very needed. We all need to first work on and fall in love with ourselves so we can know what it is that we want...and then follow through by setting and keeping boundaries. Yes some riff raff might slip by BUT alot of them can be avoided. I'm happy for you! It warms my heart that you are at this point in your journey and can enjoy this part of your life 💓💞 sidenote: where's my boy Onyx?? Is he ok being solo again?
Thank you! Onyx is doing well Thank God🙌🏽
@@SammyDaGawd very good, that makes me happy too
Ooooo this 🎯
I’m “working through” a break up with someone I wasn’t in a relationship with but we were “building” for a year. It’s ending because of everything you said in this video . And I kid you not, today he told me I never said I needed more so I did would anyone would do and searched it in the messages search bar. Realized I had been vocalizing my needs since JUNEEEE ! So half the time we’ve been not dating I’ve been accepting breadcrumbs. When I saw how many times I mentioned it paired with his defensive reaction my heart shattered for myself. How can I tell him i deserve to receive love and affection and respect when I am not respecting myself by continuing to accept less than what I need. Accepting less than what aligns with the experience id like to have with a man I would like to be with. Ooof
Why would a dating app be more of an organic experience than a man approaching you at a cigar lounge? Why do women who have "looking for a long term relationship" in their dating profile tend to sleep with men faster, usually on the first date, than women who have "looking for something casual" on their dating profile?
I'm so confused 😂😂😂
Because everyone has “rules” and “boundaries” until they find someone who they really like or fall in love.
THEN everything becomes discretionary. It’s all about how they feel in the moment.
This applies to both men and women.
This is partly do to the internet creating people that are so shallow. Meanwhile people are 50% plastic and 90% filtered. If you want traditional values you may have to be open to crossing racial boundaries or moving out of the country. Their are good brothas and there is nothing in the world like one but where are they hiding. I’m so glad I’m married to one of the good ones.
Studies do show people who get on apps with the purpose of starting relationships if they find a partner they usually stay together. But studies also show if you have dating apps and keep them you're more likely to cheat.
This is on point.
Literally the message i NEEDED to hear right now_ i have this ex that keeps going and coming back into my life, I do my inner work to heal and he comes back in my life for 3seconds telling me sweets nothings with no ACTION and then my whole world is turned upside down but not this time boo. Im done for good
he's bipolar, it took you a while to figure that out.
Why do people keep going to Atlanta? when Charlotte is better as far as the dating scene and not as much competition in the job market plenty of careers plenty of people from all over here, great food scene, many millionaires. I don’t understand why people keep flocking to Atlanta, it’s a questionable city as far as dating.
Agree, I’m considering moving from Atl to Charlotte soon
If you have no game you won't get women anywhere.
@@amayab.794 you a dime piece 😍😍 yeah come on
@@amayab.794 you got IG?
But I love that you looking for the organic experience Atlanta has mad weird energy from my experience, by the way I’m from Brooklyn I made the move from Atlanta to Charlotte.
Topic + editing bravooo darling❤
The thing for online dating for me as a guy(and many others as well) is that there are less women on there than men. I usually do horrible on online dating like Tinder. Over the years I only met one girl from there. I think it might have to do with my height being 5'7 but in person I do much better.
As a 53yr old black man, it's so refreshing to hear someone expressing the dating world without being partially driven. Just subscribe and notification bell is lit. Thanks to you for this wonderful content young lady..
Atlanta dating scene is basically, over the hill BW looking for you to pick up their tabs. Don’t make eye contact.
Yes men do that whole weird Back & Forth glancing is men trying to see if we should approach you. Believe it or not Men and Women both dont like rejection so most times those guys are shy and they are making eye contact to see the response they get from you, thats when they know whether to approach you or not !
Im in Atlanta honestly I’m so tired of internet talking points , if your attracted to a person why not approach . As a 30 year old black man most women want the man to give without reciprocating. If you really interested In a person you’ll do anything for them . Dating is played out when you can be average guy and still get sex . I hope you the best
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Felt! I related to all of this girl, thank you for sharing ❤️
Omg you gotta do some vlogs though in the ATL and get some sponsors now ! Thats where those dollars are at! lol
Here is my take as a 28 year old man in the current market. I have no problem courting a woman like in the good ol days of our grand parents, The problem is a lot of women these days like you said have some kind of rotation of guys. I know guys do that to I wont deny it , but it changes the dynamic of dating. I am not gonna go all in and do nice things for a woman who gets railed by two other guys and demands something from me that others do not have to do for her. When you are to "nice" in the beginning as a guy you will straight up just get used for free food and attention or get friendzoned. There is a reason women are attracted to the bad boys😃
Women will date around and sleep with some guys, while continuing to date and find the man they are attracted to who also offers them everything else from an emotional and financial standpoint.
This is why you keep your financial and time investment low initially. If she really wants you and no one else, she will make it known.
@7:17 had me weak 😂😂
They all gay in ATL 🤣
That comment proves you've never been to Atlanta. If you did you probably went to gay clubs.
4:18.. that's literally what you're doing using an app girl. Dating apps aren't organic
Listen to the full sentence.
Woman u are gorgeous😍
I'm someone who likes to have an intelligent conversation. Not every conversation needs to be intelligent but I'm tired of talking about sex, how many bedrooms I have and sending selfies.
Where can I get a book shelf like that?
Got mine on Wayfair
@@SammyDaGawd Thanks!
What dating app is this ? Not searching for you seems like a fairly easy app your using
That book shelf 😍😍
In the ATL you got to shot your shot. I cannot live in that city. 😂 I was be on my full blown egoistic mode
The truth is many of the women dont like the men. This is way they always need the man to put in some form of unpaid work for them to get along. Romance is two way.
Brothers don't read we just tend to click and see what the woman's actions are lol
This video tells me you want a boyfriend/relationship, but you want it the old school way. If you see a guy you want learn him & go after him, yall waste so much time worrying about what other women will think. Get a man & get out the game.
It has nothing to do with what women think and everything to do with no woman wants to be with a man with no ability to be assertive and who settles for what he can get than goes for what he wants. 😒
Hey Sammy, Anbu here. How’s the dating app? I been here 4 years now and I thought about it. We should get boba tea one day!
How many of these men who are healthy have you actually had dates with and feel like moving forward while dating here in Atlanta?
My recent vid has an update on this
I agree
So...when I use an app, I slide right on several women and it takes days for the matches to start bouncing back. I'm starting with the first one and going down the list. I may think she is cool but she is number 15 on the list. Saying something first literally causes her to jump the line. If she says hi and he doesn't take it from there, he may not really be in to her and that should be okay. Overall, the person on the other side SHOULD be out creating a life and may not send a message first. At least, not the ones that you really want. Also, does it not sound weird for a man to be going hard for a woman that doesn't want to do too much until she sees some random quality that she likes? As a masculine man, I personally am not attracted to women that need to see something before their femininity kicks in. It's a bit weird and tends to become a hamster wheel of trying to please a stranger. The ones that generally identify as feminine and are that way regardless of stimulus tend to be who I am attracted to because I'm going to be a man regardless. Just my perspective :)
Lol you want to be chased sound like
Man that staring that women do is bs....its not rare for any person to stare at ppl in her/him surroundings its called, being aware. I usually take the stare with a grain of salt especially if im busy. Reason y men nowadays will seem to wait for the female is because red pill and handsome mens game is being pushed. It teaches the men that they are the prize instead of the women. Thats also y they dont chase anymore. Ur chasing a women for months, wasted time and if hes dating thats also a waste of resources. The problem is women want all this and do nothing in return or didnt deserve this treatment in the first place.
Red Pill message has taken off after Trump & Covid. Many of the women are not aware of it & it multiple branches. In a nutshell regular average women = loss of money/time for regular/average men. Its better to watch porn, play video games, watch sports than to date. Women used to use shaming tactics to make/force men to play their game, but Red Pill is making many men aware. Women will say the video game porn guys are BROKE, but then you have the Passport Bros who pay a lot of money to go else where. They say the Passport guys are seeking prostitutes like they dont have prostitutes where they already live. Its all a weird flex.
You also need to be open to dating outside your race
I know this is completely off topic but are you supposed to wash black caster oil out of your hair after a few hours
No
Damn, I'm 6'5 and that's me in the avatar yet I never get attention from women. I'm I in the wrong city? What am I doing wrong??😂😂😂
Relying on your height and abs as your personality.
@@SammyDaGawd I don't know what the hell, you women want. I want a wife and kids. I have a solid blue collar job, my own place and I own two cars. I don't know what else black women want. Ya'll are crazy.
@@GnosticCushite you don’t have to be with a black woman if we’re such a mystery to you. Good luck!
@@SammyDaGawd I don't care! Your opinion doesn't matter, my dear!
I don't want what you have and I would hate to be you!
@@GnosticCushite lies🤣
Yes. 100%.
Girllllll why’d u pick atl should’ve came to Dallas lol dating is a lil better here .. well for me
So taller, richer, stronger.... Ain't the prize?
Do the math, miss. Guys making that kind of $ aren't slow. Supply and demand. Compete, +2.5m sistah surplus.
Thank you for teaching me oh wise one.
@@SammyDaGawd you're welcome, good luck.
The women in ATL probably come dime a dozen men just playing the field
so what has the men who are pursuing you getting so far? what have they been rewarded with? or they just being used for dates and experiences continuously?
What A Beautiful Gorgeous Lady , Cute Beauty Mark🎉🎉🎉
dayring in the atl
I share your insight…..
Shawty done moved or found a relationship??? No updates???...
Look when you date,what's the purpose?Are we getting to know each other or it's sex ?Get straight to the point I'm from the old school
💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
HENNEKING . Going from NY to Atlanta 😂😂😂😂 and dating wow
👏🏽 👏🏽 👏🏽
Come to the A 🤣
Yall wanted all of this equality but want men to be traditional still make it make sense 😂😂😂😂
You So Beautiful
the funny thing is you women accept it from dusty white boys dow🤔🤔🤔
That was said nowhere in this video. Keep your incorrect projections in your miserable brain.
The women has to like you lil more than the man does for a relationship to work 😂😂😂
I met my person on eharmony this year