we're parents! with Cody!
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- Опубликовано: 10 май 2024
- Gather 'round everyone! This week Cody and I sat down to discuss how we've been doing since giving birth, my birth story, and being new parents! I love you all so much! Enjoy!
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As someone who is familiar with birth work, for them to be able to use the vacuum to help with the delivery of the baby, the baby has to be very low/almost out for the vacuum to work. I just wanted to reaffirm for you that you were pushing your baby and you got him down far enough for them to be able to use the vacuum, all on your own. I'm not trying to invalidate your guilt at all because it is very real and understandable thing to be feeling but I just wanted to pass along the information because you absolutely deserve credit for all of the hard work you did 💕
Yes and she actively pushed for 4 hours!! She did so much work and I’m glad she feels better about it now bc I’m parasocially so proud of her 🥲
@@zoes9226 Absolutely!
@@zoes9226 Absolutely!
1000%. I’m a nicu nurse and they’re not going to reach for that vacuum unless they just need a tiny bit of assistance at the end. Otherwise they’re going for an e section
This is exactly what happened with my birth! I pushed for 4 hours got him down there he was so big, his heart rate started dropped and they used "forceps" to pull him out the rest of the way! He just got a Lil stuck right at the end. I did feel like a failure but the staff and my OB all said you did it all momma, you didn't fail. Which I appreciated. My boy was 9lb 13oz. Was my first. Next one I'm debating on the same as Kelsey... maybe a midwifery or doula to help. But he was so big I don't know how much they could have done with that lol
NOT ME GOING INTO LABOR WATCHING THIS. i shit you guys not i am 40 weeks tomorrow and i went into labor about halfway through. i love you both dearly! :-)
CONGRATULATIONS!!
Best of luck and congrats!
I HOPE IT WENT WELL !
Congrats!
Happy Baby Day :)
Cody calling Kelsey sexy when she was describing how she didn’t feel sexy was… chefs kiss so adorable oh my goodness
Rizz god doing his thing
Yes! Keep the girl blushing
she definitely needed to hear it and he was so smooth with it. So cute
Timestamp? 🥺
@@hhabdella 1:01:34
It broke my heart when Kelsey said she felt like she hadn’t done a good job after telling the most scary birth story i’ve ever heard! I was just thinking about how strong you have to be to go through that the whole podcast.
I think that might've been baby blues hitting her. I felt that way too a day or two after.
Absolutely, I cried the first few days after no matter how happy I was. Hormones suck!
I feel so bad. I wish she felt more empowered to not be laying on her back in a hospital bed 😢 no wonder she had such a hard time! Girl needed gravity on her side and it sounds like that wasn’t an option
Same! I’m glad that she can look back now and know that she did a good job because that is a harrowing story. My utmost respect and admiration.
This is the hardest try not to cry challenge for me
saying “let’s hope he clears this one” to Otis being born on January 6th made me actually LOL
Cody talking about seeing Otis for the first time is so so beautiful. Otis is one lucky kid
STARTED SOBBING AT 38:40
cody listening intently while she talks about how she felt guilt over not being able to push otis out by herself, and then reassuring that she did amazing, is so precious. what a beautiful couple :’)
He's such a great husband and daddy ❤
I've been following Cody and Kelsy since she was "taco Tuesday girl. "Now they're married and parents! That's sooo crazy.
Yes!!!! I remember how shy he was to tell us about having a crush!
While I am undoubtedly curious to see this little munchkin I sooooo respect Kelsey and her husband for keeping him offline. Not only are there a bunch of weirdos out there, but also who knows how he'll feel about potentially hundreds of thousands of people seeing him as a baby when he grows up. I also noticed they didn't share his exact birth date which is just smart, I can't count how many influencers I've watched that put that stuff out there. I wish them both so many sweet baby snuggles and I hope Kelsey is healing up well!
I know, but with the most respect I can't lie hearing him, and seeing the back of his precious little head kills me lol. I neeeeeeeed to see hims wittle face 😅❤
I knowwww it's killing me lol seeing hims precious perfect head and hearing his babbling makes me NEED to see Wittle Otis's face 😍 ❤ but also absolutely respect their choices as parents.
yessss love this comment!
Listening to Kelsey talk about her guilt for not thinking she did a good job on the drive home made me cry.
Mothers are AMAZING and bringing another human into this world is an incredible feat, no matter what your labor and delivery looks like. Keep it up, Kelsey - you are an amazing mama!!
Cody canonically scrolling thru reddit during the birth of their first child is so fkn hilarious
The way Cody talks about Kelsey and how strong she is and how much he admires her is so beautiful
Kelsey crying just under 5 minutes into the podcast is so postpartum coded and I adore her vulnerability ❤️
45:20 “I’m just wondering who Billy Reuben was” is CRAZY lmaooo
I’ve never heard of bilirubin before today 🫣
this took me out
Omg I snort laughed 😂
Otis having WW2 flashbacks about leaving the womb when he begins to cry right when they started talking about Kelsey beginning to push
He said noooooo not again woman
the CURLSSSSSS
Kelsey crying happily shows how amazing of a mom she is. God Bless you, Cody, and Otis, Kelsey! You deserved that maternity leave. Take it one day at a time, mama.
I don't have any interest in being a parent, but having access to this perspective so I can better support and understand the journey of women and their birth story is always so appreciated. I honestly wish it was longer, I loved the honesty.
I love Kelsey's honesty that not everyone should have kids. And that was coming from a millionaire who's in a great relationship and doesn't seem to have any serious health problems. Having kids is so much harder for the average woman in the US.
yes! i think it’s so good to normalize the hard parts of pregnancy and birth. so many parents have talked about how they were lied to or parts of the truth were hidden because other parents didn’t wanna scare em but that just isn’t productive. like kelsey said, pregnancy and birth is hard and that’s okay! it’s worth it for a lot of parents😊
I’m a labor and delivery nurse, and you should be so proud of yourself for pushing for 4 hours. You are so strong for that. You don’t know how your birth is going to go until you get there. There’s no predictions for that pushing time that you could’ve known. You did amazing! Look into pelvic floor therapy if you feel like you need some help there. Love y’all!
5:31 kelsey saying my son and my husband made me lose it
cody starting the pod by sayng “it’s me espresso” is so iconic omg i love you guys so much
1:06:30 When you said 'luckily I have' my brain was screaming PURSE
Same! Kelsey being completely offline while she was actively such a big meme is so funny and weird to think about 😂
I went into labour on Tues 17th of Jan 2023, and spent 33 hours in labour, which ended in an emergency c-section. The feeling of guilt and disappointment is so real, even though you’re right that we all did/do an amazing job. Thank you for sharing your experience. I never really comment on RUclips videos but this one got me💕
you're amazing!! incredible! thank u for sharing this. all birth experiences are valid
Almost the same exact story. You’re so strong love!
Crazy that you’d feel guilty for going through a necessary and traumatic process that you couldn’t control. Like what?? Why do we make moms feel this way?? Get therapy!!!
@@maddieb.4282 I think post-partum anxiety and a literal trauma response accounted for a lot, but that can only be recognised with hindsight!
you're an absolute queen !!!
watching them both cry over Otis made me start crying oml. so happy that Kels and the baby are healthy and happy and can't wait to see ur family grow!!!
NOT mega tmi! So happy you uploaded this, I watched the chill podcast & yall said you made a vid on circle time & i IMMEDIATELY! Ran over here!
Would love to hear about your postpartum care & how you’ve been healing, if not, that’s ok too!! Love you guys soooo much!
I’m almost 18 weeks & I feel like it’s taking forever 😭 I JUST started showing finally!
congratulations! i wish you the best with your pregnancy
People Lowkey complaining in the comments about how the first one got deleted like brah if they wanted to delete it there was probably something they realized compromised their privacy and they have every right. Thanks for reuploading this one I’m so excited to listen on my drive home from work 💖
I love how vulnerable you were with us this episode it’s truly so beautiful we love you so much Kelsey
future L&D nurse & current doula here - 4 hours of pushing is fucking GNARLY. I'm so proud of you Kelsey and you did an amazing job. (anyone who has ever given birth did an amazing job!!! there's no other way to complete the task 💗)
Absolutely mom of 4 and the longest I have pushed is 15 mins and that was with one with the cord wrapped around his neck. 4 hours is seriously scary as hell and I cannot imagine her exhaustion. She's a Rockstar ❤
Yall are so deserving of being parents… the kindness and love in your voices while talking about the birth experience is unlike anything I’ve ever heard 🥹 so happy for yall
Otis sitting in on these podcast recordings must be so soothing and enriching for him to have mummy and daddies voices vibrate in his ears while he’s having some floor time 🥹🫶
I fully watched the previous upload, will I watch this entire video again? ABSOLUTELY
What’s the difference? Did they delete something?
exactly
@@btafbmi think she accidentally showed Otis’ face
@@keepmeinurorbit I’m confused why is showing a baby’s face an issue? Like I’m actually curious lol
@@btafbm creeps on the internet. and also hes a baby they want to wait until he older and can decide if he wants to be online
broke my heart when kelsey said she thought she didn't do a good job. over 20 hours of labor is insane and you are amazing!
kelsey!! i am so proud of you! as a nurse, i wanted to comment to let you know that every emotion you felt is NORMAL and a part of the birthing process!! feeling guilty is a very common emotion after going through a birth that didn’t go as you planned. the hardest part of a traumatic birth is mourning the birth you thought you were going to have. my mom went through a similar situation, and my oldest brother was a forceps baby. he’s now 25 and healthy as ever. birth is a subject that is not talked about enough, and definitely not all roses! so please know that you are the strongest woman and the best mama because you’re doing it your way!! love you guys!! ❤
labour & delivery nurse here!! to me i feel like your nurse should have informed u more on information on the labour process/possibilities! hope you are doing pelvic floor therapy bc pushing for 4 hours is bad for the pelvic floor!!! congrats u guysssss
I had a traumatic birth experience myself and I’m in pelvic floor pt 6 years later. It is helpful!
Absolutely this!!!!
Cried listen to the audio ep, cried watching this. I’m so glad that Kelsey is proud of herself. We love you so much!!! ❤️🥰 *re-commenting from the first version*
Thank you so much for opening up about the hard and scary parts of giving birth. Your experience is absolutely going to give comfort to others who went through a similar experience.
Congrats mama Kelsey, and happy first mother’s day! You are honestly so hardcore, 4 hours of pushing is no small feat, I don’t think I ever encountered that in my time working in a maternity unit. I’m so happy and relieved to hear you and Otis are healthy.
I can already see you and Cody are such wonderful parents who love their child so much, your little one so lucky to have you two. I hope you’ve had a lovely day
Also Kelsey its very understandable how you felt straight after! With my first I didnt even first look at her, the first thing was just closing my eyes being so relieved it was over. And they were like: look at her shes here! And then I looked. But the bond took a while to grow. With my second it was instantly. But the first I found such a shock aswell, and such a drastic change to your life, sleep....
My sister nearly died giving birth to her first child. We were all secretly freaking out because she didn't know and we didn't want her to know since it would just add more stress to the situation, but she's right back to popping children out like it didn't happen lmao
so excited for episode 85 finallll!!
So good to see that you’re feeling better, Kels. I’m so sorry your birth was so traumatic. You need to know how much of a superhero you are!! And it sounds like Cody was great support. Give yourself love and grace ❤ Little O is so lucky to have you both as parents xx
kelsey is honestly so strong, so many women pass during childbirth or after (my mom included, luckily she was saved after !!!) and that experience sounds so so hard but also beautiful. so happy
Pretty much only in states tho, other first world countries dont have that problem as much at all
@@lauramaria99999 i never though about that but why is that?
@@lauramaria99999pretty naive/ignorant if you think the only developed country where childbirth is risky is the US.
@@wawaicedcoffeethe US is 2x higher than the next developed countries rate so ya not great
@@lauramaria99999 UK has high rates too after 14 years of the conservative government crippling our NHS
that look at 16:34 like “look what we did!” so so cute how proud you guys are 😢
1:06:35 “I have you guys and you have me. No one’s alone.” I love you Kelsey and the circlers so much. Thank you for creating such a a sweet corner of the world for us 🩷🫶🏻
still crying throughout the whole episode, otis has the most amazing parents ever
when you fix the title please make it “that’s that me espresso, kelsey” 😭😭
its crazy reading all these birth stories and hearing Kelseys too! You two are making me cry, so freakin sweet! Every story is so different, I had my baby girl in December and it was awesome! I got induced overnight and they gave me ambien but i was too excited to sleep so it just made me high AF. Also we left the TV on during the delivery and she came out during an episode of Diners, Drive-ins and Dives. Classic Sagittarius move.
I felt that exact feeling of empowerment after my first daughter, the fact that if I lived through that, I can do anything. Like I had finally unlocked some secret weapon that women have. I always knew women were powerful, mother or not, but it personally showed me that we have all the cards.
happy mother’s day kelsey!!! 😭
fucking sobbing this is so sweet I love seeing kelsey and cody talk about being parents and just how much joy its brought them.
I’m in nursing school right now and just finished my Labor and Delivery class. I hope to be a delivery nurse after graduation. I loved hearing your story and I am so happy for you guys! Congratulations!
Thank you Kelsey for thinking of single parents too! My mom is a single parent and it’s she raised us with enough love for both parents. Although seeing your family makes me want to have a family just as beautiful as yours
literally teared up when y’all started crying, been watching you and cody for the longest since you first got together (i was in middle school, i’m 19 now) and seeing this journey is so beautiful!!
i hope this one stays up!!
What happened to the other ones?
@@apheliotropicI noticed how she lifted up her phone and otis’ face was her background so i believe it was for privacy for him. :)
That was the first one, the second one didn’t show Otis at all but was still deleted and now here’s the third lol
@@Ruby_Holland that makes so much sense that’s good I’m glad she did that
@@graceekalinowski wait theres been 3?
that’s that me espresso, kelsey lmfaoo 😭
This is my professional recommendation that Kelsey should have Allison kuch on the pod, two new moms who I feel like would have so much good insight and I would love to see collab😭
omg you pushed for 4 hrs!! I feel for you Kelsey You're a warrior❤
31:54 I cannot recommend having a doula enough!! I’ve had one for both of my births and it seriously is amazing. They inform you, help you feel safe, advocate for you, and just make the experience overwhelmingly positive. I was so anxious before giving birth to my first and after I got my doula she seriously made me feel so safe and excited!
You guys are doing an amazing job, congratulations!!
Totally, western medicine is not the whole story. Whenever I hear about a woman being induced the labor is less than ideal. The body knows.
this is actually my first circle time :,) congrats kelsey
The title LMFAO
Kelsey, thank you for sharing. I am with you in solidarity of your birth story. I had a similar story. You’re so strong, an amazing mother and Cody I can tell how much this all means to you too. We are here for you!
You two are so wonderful together 🤍 Otis is a lucky little man to have such amazing parents. Kelsey, thank you for sharing such an intimate and hard experience. We love you so much too!!
“Well I couldn’t of done it without you” Cody
“Well no literally duh, no that’s for sure”
Kelsey
(I love u sm)
lol I don't even know what the title means, I just wanna be supportive YAAAAY episode85 final!!!!!!!!
haha she had to reupload a few times
Thanks for sharing Kels! I love hearing people’s experiences. I’m debating if I want children and I love hearing all the things. Even your feelings of when you went home because I feel like people only talk about the positive.
same!! i’d rather know all the possibilities instead of being blindsided
Not the stanky leg!!😂😂 Kelsey and Cody so happy for you guys!!! What a little blessing Otis is!!!!❤❤
I’m crying with y’all😭you’re so strong Kelsey❤️happy Mother’s Day!!!
i love how honestly you told your birth story. i gave birth on january 2nd through an emergency c section due to preeclampsia. i really relate to the feeling of guilt you described around the way your birth went. i remember thinking for weeks that i didn’t do a good job giving birth because it didn’t go the way i planned at all and was so traumatic and painful. i fully felt like my body failed. looking back i’m so proud of myself. i’m so proud of US! you’re so strong and i hope you had a smooth recovery. motherhood looks so amazing on you!❤
i’m so happy for u kelsey! u are doing such amazing things! i’m so happy u got to take time off and live in the moment! we missed u! made me cry!💗💗💗💗
cried listening to this, i gave birth to my baby girl this January and it was just me and my mom. I completely understand what you have been going through and it is so nice to see someone talking about it, definitely makes me feel not alone. i pushed for 20 mins and that was so unbelievably hard, mama you pushed for FOUR hours?? you are so strong
I was also due in January like Kesley and ended up having our baby 2 months early, but listening to this really helped me not feel alone in feeling that your birth experience wasn't what you expected. That just makes mothers all the more badass. If you're a mom reading this, keep rocking it!!
we're so back
Kelsey and Cody are the cutest, healthiest couple ever. Their relationship is one that I strive to have one day
Thank you so so much for sharing your story and being so kind and supportive to other mothers! I have been a fan of you both for a long time now but seeing you flourish as parents, partnering together and just the sheer appreciation and awe you both are expressing for one another in this video, makes me so happy! You guys are truly the best, so kind and genuine and I am just so happy for your family!!
I’m so happy for you three! Is crazy how this conversar brings so much joy, also fear and happiness. Congrats Kelsey for being such a strong mom!
so glad its back up, and it better stay up!!
recommending from the original but when u we’re crying in the beginning i was 100000% crying with u kels!! we love u so much!!
kelsey is AMAZING and cody sounds so so supportive i’ve never been happier for two people!! Otis is blessed 🫶🏻
Aww so fun to watch this as a labor and delivery nurse and as a circler 🥹 also pushing for 4 hours maybe just means you did an even better job Kels, so so proud of you!!!! That shit is SO HARD! (the good news is that your next babies definitely won’t take that long to push out 🥳)
Awwe! When you cried!! 🥹🥹
WE LOVE YOU! ❤❤
We love you Kelsey, and it’s such a privilege to be joining you again after MOTHERHOOD!💖🥰
thank u for being so vulnerable with your birth story
So proud of you Kelsey! Thank you for sharing this story with us!
the love these two have for each other is BEAUTIFUL!! I am so incredibly happy for them.
The most honest conversation about birth I think I’ve ever heard. Thank you for being so brave Kelsey and for educating and validating so many
that sounds like such a traumatic experience. you were so brave ♡ we’re so proud of you and so excited to have you back !!!
kelsey!!! i have been listening to your podcast and watching your video since the beginning and i just want to say thank you for being so open with us about giving birth. i know you've said you would like to keep a lot of aspects of your baby's life private (understandably) and i just feel grateful you felt comfortable to tell us your experience. please take your time with getting back into this, we all understand how intense this new chapter is for you and all we want is for you to be happy🫶🫶
Thank you for sharing your story. I am currently pregnant and. Chronically ill, and have been so afraid of birth. But being able to see a couple who looks back at the birth in awe, even after lots of pain and hurdles, gives me so much confidence. No matter what happens my husband and I will get to meet our baby, and it'll be amazing, and all the pain and hurdles will be worth it 💕
This was honestly like my odler siblings talking about some major life event, same as the podcast post your wedding. I always love these updates. Kelsey you're such a powerhouse! You have done something I can't even imagine, and Cody being so supportive and loving is everything! Its happy to see
happy mother's day kelsey!!!!!
This is so beautiful! Them crying together is precious. Also yay! For Otis having Kelsey’s gorgeous eyes
Kelsey this was so emotional and beautiful to listen to, it made me tear up hearing the beauty and the trauma you went through. Thank you for being so real with us and sharing your story, I know it’s helped me as the thought of having a baby is really anxiety inducing and this helped ease my anxiety about my future.
I’m currently 6 months pregnant with all sorts of complications, and I love hearing of better pregnancies and births going well. Gives me lots of hope that things will be ok in the end.
I had my son at the end of February - also had to be induced and had the same epidural issues as you 😭 the pain from my back labor was one of the wildest things I’ve ever experienced. It was so amazing getting to hear your birth story! I’m so proud of you and your little boy ❤️
Welcome back Kelsey!!! Being a mother is such a beautiful thing, im so so happy for you!!!
hi kelsey!! so good to see you back, tysm for the episode, its definitely not TMI, and im so happy for your family 💗💗💗 so so proud of you for doing the coolest thing ever
I love how vulnerable this pod was. Thanks for sharing snippets of your lives with us!!!! ❤ so happy for youbguys
I’m always a huge supporter of people bringing their own doulas/midwife to be there to advocate for you. You’re going through a huge amount of physical labor and often times people don’t know a lot about the process of birth and what is normal or not. Having someone you’ve created a close relationship over the course of pregnancy with that also has a great amount of knowledge of the birthing process.
Thank you, Kelsey and Cody! So glad you're all doing well! ❤