The response you both gave for the Q&A is so inspiring. Those are very powerful comments! I totally agree. Why should you worry about some random pass-byers when it should be you who need to shape your life and live your dream. Moreover staring is just out of curiousity or even admiration and envy. I wish you the best of best and continue to help, encourage, and inspire young people who feel trapped. You two are awesome.
***** What an amazing comment, thank you so much! I think almost all of us worry about this/have worried about it to some degree, but when you really think about it it's true--what's the point of worrying about what complete strangers think? I still have to tell myself this often, but I'm a lot better than I used to be, haha ^^
You guys despite being from different races, compliment so well to each other, which is only making me believe that the human beings are just beings no matter where they are from. I am glued to watch you guys videos since last night without a break.
Precious advice in the end :) I'm also very open-minded to international/interracial relationships and marriage and I come from a country which is relatively conservative.
안녕하세요 우연히 두분의 방송을 보았고 이렇게 알콩달콩 살아가시는 모습을 유튜브에 공유하고 계신것도 보게 되었네요 두분 모습 정말 하나의 그림처럼 아름답고 멋지세요 그리고 마지막에 너무 의식하고 살지 않고 자기자신다워지라는 코멘트 감동이에요 지금의 저에게 꼭 필요했던 말이에요 매일 행복하시고 늘 건강하세요 고맙습니다.😁😄😊😀🙌
김민수 저희의 코멘트가 도움이 되었다면 너무 기분이 좋습니다^^ 저희도 처음엔 많은 의식을 했는데 결국엔 우리를 둘을 위해 사는 인생이지 남을 위한게 아니란것을 더욱 더 느끼며 피해는 끼치지 말되 지나치게 의식도 하지 않도록 변해가는것 같아요^^ 응원해주셔서 너무 감사합니다!^^
I watched your documentary episode and it was so inspiring. What I could understand of it anyway. It seemed like Kyuho's mom was upset when he wanted you to go outside, and even though she told you to go, she seemed bothered. The part where you helped grandpa down the hill was so sweet.
Hi I watched the tv special via the links you provided. Your family seemed very nice. Your mother is very pretty! I think you did very good Sarah and that you will become part of the family. All families are awkward to fit into at first. I knew that my mother in law had finally accepted me when she yelled and bossed me around like all the other "children". Thank you for sharing.
규호s voice totally reminds me or Matthew Mcconaughey sometimes hahaha. I just came across your guys channel and I am absolutely hooked haha. My boyfriend is also Korean so it is nice to see another girl from North America going through the same things I go through. Like meeting the family and such, which (at least for me) gives me so much anxiety since my Korean is fluent yet. I have already met his parents and aunt more than once and have a good relationship with them, but this summer I will meet EVERYONE....ahhh...super scary. Would love to hear some tips about what I should do or be aware of haha. Also, the whole staring thing makes me self conscious too. My boyfriend just told me to think of it as they are looking at us the same way people look at a puppy XD
I already watched a lot of VBlog, but for me yours was the best!!! Maybe because I can feel the chemistry and love.. Your married for a year already and your relationship was 4 years In total and I can still feel that your both inlove ... I think your VBlog makes your relationship tight and interesting... Continue posting your VBlog :) it's so inspiring :D
Hi guys! I always have to comment on your videos. I just love them! I agree, if you love someone it shouldn't matter what others think. Love the cherry blossom. Sarah, can you please share your beauty secrets? What are the good products to use? I recently went to Koreatown New York city and I really wanted to buy beauty products, but I didn't know which one I should buy :'( ! Love you guys!
Thank you! ^^ I like Innisfree's green tea seed line, especially the serum :) I use a lot of different skincare products though, as I've kind of adopted the Korean method of a million steps of skincare, haha ^^
I guess if koeran people stared you guys, it's the reason why Sarah is so cute. Maybe I also stare to you If I found. And I will feel envy to Kyuho a little bit...~ya...haha actually too much... Cuz his wife is so pretty.
I loved your answer! I study Asien economy and politics and learn chinese an korean so whenever people try to get to know me they already judge. Manga girl, kpop girl etc. I learned to not give a single thought about stuff like that and I reached a point where my passion gets acknowledged and it impresses people. Basically you can't see the whole picture just because you have a few pieces of the puzzle. So don't worry what other people who only know pieces might think. It's almost 100 percent not true anyway. Celebrate yourself as the person you really are and stay strong :) ( sorry long comment =D)
I have finally caught up with all the vlogs! I've yet to see the documentary but once it's subbed, I'll hopefully get to it. My question is what was a cultural shock to you when you either came back to Korea after an extended period of time (Kyuho) or like Sarah, who arrived having never been (before your first time)? Seriously enjoying the vlogs, they're really well done! :)
Wahhh where's the link to the documentary!? :( Anyway, it is always great to watch your videos. I am from the Caribbean and I am dating a korean guy. His family is SO accepting of me, and they were very welcoming because I have tried my best to learn how to respect and follow their cultures within their own boundaries and reunions. It is a whole other story when we walk in the street. We are a very cutesie couple, I guess you could say. We are always hand in hand and my boyfriend is always smiling and flirting with me so people over in my island look at us weirdly and some even disgusted... It is sad. But your words give us hope! Thank you!
how do you guys film the vlog? do you use a smartphone? i tried using an iPhone but i couldn't switch from the front camera to the rear camera when filming a video :(
Hi i'm from Mexico ! well i found your blog and i think is super interesting know how a internacional couple live everyday in a biggest country like South Korea (and obviously know more about korea). Korea have a lot of discrimination no? lol my dream is marry a Korean man or an Asian haha. I'M GONNA ENJOY ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS !!!!!.
I plan on coming back to korea early next year to live and work *fingers crossed*...I'm enjoying your video's lol I'm yet to post all my vlogs up I only have a couple up but the editing is so time consuming plus I just use the basic program to upload. In due time I guess. So where are you from sarah? where in Canada...I would guess toronto? I live in Ottawa~ also before you first went to japan, were you into manga and anime? How did you decide to go to japan. I came to korea because I was curious...I'm into kdrama's and etc so I wanted to see korea for myself. I enjoyed my trip and I can't wait to be back ^^
Aldehyde Hi! Thanks so much for the compliment--so glad you enjoy the videos :D You're so right, it's reeeeally time consuming, and even with the two of us doing our share of editing, the editing process can take about 6-7 hours on average. I'm actually from Halifax! ^^ I used to love anime/manga in middle school--I still like it of course, but I very rarely indulge in it like I used to when I was in my early teens. I went to Japan when I was 18. I met a lot of Japanese and Korean friends who were studying abroad at my university, so they were the ones who really influenced me to go. I was actually planning to teach in Korea for only 1 year and then go to Japan an teach after that, but I met Kyuho, haha. It all worked out for the best though--totally didn't expect that one :D
i enjoy your Video and i hope you guys make happy each other for ever.. I thought about korean you tubers answer what you guys answered on the video, just because i felt that question was so weird. usaually people think " i want to marry someone who i am falling in love. but that questioner said " i want to marry with western woman" What a~??
Yes, in Korea if you're in an international relationship as a Korean person, you're much more worried and aware of what other people think about your relationship.
Being in a WMAW relationship myself, but with a Japanese woman. We do get the stares, but thankfully like your experiences we rarely receive negative comments. But even if we did we wouldn't let it bother us because love conquers over everything is. haha
I really enjoyed your vids but just watched the documentary and got turned off... Although there were some hiccups here and there, I think that, as foreigner who's coming into a new culture, Sarah did a great job with, what seemed like, little preparation she received. The one thing I would suggest is to be more... culturally aware and sensitive. Like, even though it was awkward and everyone kept saying the air was awkward, you probably shouldn't have just left your grandfather-in-law in the back while y'all were walking through the market (your mother-in-law already told you that he'd probably like it if you were to call him grandfather etc) and realizing that your mother-in-law gave you water/mud-resistant shoes while wearing sneakers should have halted the comments about them being too big (seemed like she was a little offended when she mentions that there's nothing you can do about it). 4 years here is a long time and it can make a lot of native Koreans question why you've not learned more than the basics... so I'm glad you're studying Korean ^^ I thought it was funny when your father-in-law kept reassuring people that you're studying really hard haha. The problem I have is with Kyuho... and this is not a personal attack but you do realize that trying to shield Sarah from filial duties, inherent in all Eastern cultures, will not help her transition into your family, right? It didn't make sense to take Sarah out of the kitchen when she does need to learn all of what your mom and your aunties have to offer. You're mom would have probably felt more embarrassed and saddened if she were the "큰 어머님"... I mean, look at her face when you demanded them to let Sarah come out as quickly as possible... Sarah, it wasn't that they didn't want you to help, it was that your mother-in-law was already pissed off at what Kyuho did and the other sister-in-laws were only trying to ease the tension by telling you to leave. Of course anyone would feel bad if their partner were alone in a situation where he/she didn't fluently speak and or completely understand the language being used, but Sarah needs to learn for your whole family to accept her as part of the family... everyone may say that marrying a "foreigner" is fine but resentment will build if you don't allow Sarah to learn what's needed to be learned as a daughter-in-law AND if you don't teach Sarah what she needs to know going into culturally significant events like 설날 or 추석... just my two cents... My questions are: "What does it mean to be fully accepted into both of your families?" and "What things need to be fully realized to allow for a genuine incorporation of both partners into all familial parties?"
Wow, I think this is the longest comment we've ever gotten! Thanks for watching--you made a lot of great points! I do have to say though, the way some of these scenes were edited made things look much different than reality. "You probably shouldn't have just left your grandfather-in-law in the back while y'all were walking through the market". The film crew actually asked us to film it this way so they could get interviews from both parties separately. "4 years here is a long time and it can make a lot of native Koreans question why you've not learned more than the basics" Yes it is, and you're absolutely right about this. My Korean skills in particular are still very weak. Unfortunately I didn't have the opportunity to come here as a student to formally study the language, and my work schedule has kept me extremely busy for the last 4 years. Aside from that, I have no excuses. I could have done better. Actually, I didn't want to do this program at first for this very reason, because I didn't want to broadcast to the world how terrible my Korean skills are even after all of this time. Since I learn language best in a classroom environment, I'm hoping I can someday be lucky enough have enough money (and time) to attend Korean language classes in the near future. "It didn't make sense to take Sarah out of the kitchen when she does need to learn all of what your mom and your aunties have to offer." Actually, Kyuho's mother encouraged me weeks before this was filmed to also head outside and help cook the meat. She is actually very liberal, and even though it didn't show it in the documentary several our male relatives were also in the kitchen a lot of the time helping with the work, because she firmly believes everyone should pitch in. "I mean, look at her face when you demanded them to let Sarah come out as quickly as possible..." We all actually laughed sooo hard at this part when it aired, because it looked so incredibly dramatic when it really wasn't at all, it was all in the editing, lol ^^ "Sarah, it wasn't that they didn't want you to help, it was that your mother-in-law was already pissed off at what Kyuho did and the other sister-in-laws were only trying to ease the tension by telling you to leave." No one was pissed off at all. Our aunts were really camera shy and wanted a bit of a break. They told me to go and rest instead of helping in the kitchen because I wasn't feeling well and I had a fever at the time. I was really sick the morning after Chuseok and it took me a while to recover, so they were just looking out for me. You make a lot of excellent points here, and I agree with a lot of them. I'm probably going to continue making mistakes unintentionally, and I'll probably never be the perfect Korean wife because I'm not Korean. All I can do is try my best to embrace Korean culture without completely sacrificing my own identity in the process. I don't expect Kyuho's family to sacrifice all of their cultural values to accommodate me, and in turn they don't expect me to sacrifice all of mine. I am still Canadian after all. We are two individuals who come from completely different cultural backgrounds, so the best we can do as a family is to try to meet each other halfway and respect one another ^^
I think people also stare because you guys are so beautiful! You look like celebrities haha
I like 규호's hair style~
세라 is so beautiful!
You guys are just two beautiful people as 벚꽃!
The response you both gave for the Q&A is so inspiring. Those are very powerful comments! I totally agree. Why should you worry about some random pass-byers when it should be you who need to shape your life and live your dream. Moreover staring is just out of curiousity or even admiration and envy. I wish you the best of best and continue to help, encourage, and inspire young people who feel trapped. You two are awesome.
***** What an amazing comment, thank you so much!
I think almost all of us worry about this/have worried about it to some degree, but when you really think about it it's true--what's the point of worrying about what complete strangers think? I still have to tell myself this often, but I'm a lot better than I used to be, haha ^^
You guys despite being from different races, compliment so well to each other, which is only making me believe that the human beings are just beings no matter where they are from. I am glued to watch you guys videos since last night without a break.
I just found this canal, and love it!!!
I love to see things from other cultures and you two are so adorable together :3
Greetings from Colombia .
Just saw your documentary. Grandfather was so cute when he put your picture in his phone.
Both of you 화이팅!:)
Thank you!! ☺️
Precious advice in the end :) I'm also very open-minded to international/interracial relationships and marriage and I come from a country which is relatively conservative.
His hair is so nice looking! Looks healthy
Wow. You two are a very gorgeous looking couple, and from the sound of things you're nice to boot!
Thanks for this vlog. I'm excited to see the cherry blossoms in 3 days! ^^
Been meaning to binge watch all your videos for about a year now, but I'm finally doing it. You guys rock, keep it up!
안녕하세요 우연히 두분의 방송을 보았고 이렇게 알콩달콩 살아가시는 모습을 유튜브에 공유하고 계신것도 보게 되었네요 두분 모습 정말 하나의 그림처럼 아름답고 멋지세요 그리고 마지막에 너무 의식하고 살지 않고 자기자신다워지라는 코멘트 감동이에요 지금의 저에게 꼭 필요했던 말이에요 매일 행복하시고 늘 건강하세요 고맙습니다.😁😄😊😀🙌
김민수 저희의 코멘트가 도움이 되었다면 너무 기분이 좋습니다^^ 저희도 처음엔 많은 의식을 했는데 결국엔 우리를 둘을 위해 사는 인생이지 남을 위한게 아니란것을 더욱 더 느끼며 피해는 끼치지 말되 지나치게 의식도 하지 않도록 변해가는것 같아요^^ 응원해주셔서 너무 감사합니다!^^
I watched your documentary episode and it was so inspiring. What I could understand of it anyway. It seemed like Kyuho's mom was upset when he wanted you to go outside, and even though she told you to go, she seemed bothered. The part where you helped grandpa down the hill was so sweet.
**UPDATE --> PORTUGUESE SUBS are UP! Thank you so much for your help :)
Finally! I've been waiting for this new video 😀
완연한 봄이네요ㅋㅋ
봄비도 촉촉히 오고 기분이 따뜻해집니다
Beautiful Couple!
the documentary was very interesting! i loved watching your video too! :)
I really like the format to your videos. It's like we are getting to see how you guys are as well as getting to know you guys in every video :)
Sarah I hope I grow up to live similarly to you 😘😊
Wow, what a lovely compliment! 😳Thank you so much! ☺️
What an amazing & relaxing place. Thank you for sharing!!!
I watched the documentary, it's really good~ I love your video too ^^
Hi I watched the tv special via the links you provided. Your family seemed very nice. Your mother is very pretty! I think you did very good Sarah and that you will become part of the family. All families are awkward to fit into at first. I knew that my mother in law had finally accepted me when she yelled and bossed me around like all the other "children". Thank you for sharing.
규호s voice totally reminds me or Matthew Mcconaughey sometimes hahaha. I just came across your guys channel and I am absolutely hooked haha. My boyfriend is also Korean so it is nice to see another girl from North America going through the same things I go through. Like meeting the family and such, which (at least for me) gives me so much anxiety since my Korean is fluent yet. I have already met his parents and aunt more than once and have a good relationship with them, but this summer I will meet EVERYONE....ahhh...super scary. Would love to hear some tips about what I should do or be aware of haha.
Also, the whole staring thing makes me self conscious too. My boyfriend just told me to think of it as they are looking at us the same way people look at a puppy XD
TOTALLY agree with Matthew Mcconaughhey!
Love your videos!!! Can't wait to see more :)!
good looking couple. enjoy watching both of you. thanks for trip to jeju, n Busan . we are try to go there soon. thanks
I already watched a lot of VBlog, but for me yours was the best!!! Maybe because I can feel the chemistry and love.. Your married for a year already and your relationship was 4 years In total and I can still feel that your both inlove ... I think your VBlog makes your relationship tight and interesting... Continue posting your VBlog :) it's so inspiring :D
재미있게 보고 갑니다..!!
정말멋진 코멘트였어요~
Hi guys! I always have to comment on your videos. I just love them! I agree, if you love someone it shouldn't matter what others think. Love the cherry blossom. Sarah, can you please share your beauty secrets? What are the good products to use? I recently went to Koreatown New York city and I really wanted to buy beauty products, but I didn't know which one I should buy :'( ! Love you guys!
Thank you! ^^
I like Innisfree's green tea seed line, especially the serum :) I use a lot of different skincare products though, as I've kind of adopted the Korean method of a million steps of skincare, haha ^^
Positive talking ! Thumbs up .
Kyuho's hair is ON POINT.
Just join your blog and like it very much keep up the good work ...
Kyuho your nephew is such a cutie 😍😍😊
5:57 he is so adorable 🤗
지금처럼 서로 사랑하고 이해하고 재밌게 사세요~
I guess if koeran people stared you guys, it's the reason why Sarah is so cute. Maybe I also stare to you If I found. And I will feel envy to Kyuho a little bit...~ya...haha actually too much... Cuz his wife is so pretty.
Oh my gosh--thank you~! 😳☺️
+Global Oppa Kyuho is very cute too. I am sure that girls envy Sarah! So, they're even ;)...
cuz koreans are more close minded toward interacial relationships.
I loved your answer! I study Asien economy and politics and learn chinese an korean so whenever people try to get to know me they already judge. Manga girl, kpop girl etc. I learned to not give a single thought about stuff like that and I reached a point where my passion gets acknowledged and it impresses people. Basically you can't see the whole picture just because you have a few pieces of the puzzle. So don't worry what other people who only know pieces might think. It's almost 100 percent not true anyway. Celebrate yourself as the person you really are and stay strong :) ( sorry long comment =D)
I have finally caught up with all the vlogs! I've yet to see the documentary but once it's subbed, I'll hopefully get to it. My question is what was a cultural shock to you when you either came back to Korea after an extended period of time (Kyuho) or like Sarah, who arrived having never been (before your first time)?
Seriously enjoying the vlogs, they're really well done! :)
내년엔 조금 멀지만 진해 군항제 가보시는것도 좋을거 같아요~
You Guys are so cute!
하...부럽다...
너무 잘 어울리는 커플이네요!
명쾌한 qna시간이었네요 ㅎㅎ 사실 저도 외국인 여성과 만난적이 있는데 주위에서 호기심 가득한 눈으로 많이 보더라구요 ㅋㅋ
How do you handle cultural differences as a couple? 💑
Wonderful....thanks!
부러워요 ㅠㅠ i really envy you guys :)
Wahhh where's the link to the documentary!? :(
Anyway, it is always great to watch your videos.
I am from the Caribbean and I am dating a korean guy. His family is SO accepting of me, and they were very welcoming because I have tried my best to learn how to respect and follow their cultures within their own boundaries and reunions.
It is a whole other story when we walk in the street. We are a very cutesie couple, I guess you could say. We are always hand in hand and my boyfriend is always smiling and flirting with me so people over in my island look at us weirdly and some even disgusted... It is sad. But your words give us hope! Thank you!
Also, I too am older than my husband by four years! 🎎
Wow that's so beautiful :)
Can you discuss spoon system in Korea and do you feel if it exists. Thanks
how do you guys film the vlog? do you use a smartphone? i tried using an iPhone but i couldn't switch from the front camera to the rear camera when filming a video :(
Hi i'm from Mexico ! well i found your blog and i think is super interesting know how a internacional couple live everyday in a biggest country like South Korea (and obviously know more about korea).
Korea have a lot of discrimination no?
lol my dream is marry a Korean man or an Asian haha.
I'M GONNA ENJOY ALL OF YOUR VIDEOS !!!!!.
Awesome Bro123 Why? How do you judge her? So rude.
Great Video :)
Does anyone know the title of the documentary? I'm dying to see it!♡♡♡
I thought it would be in the description box but it's not there.
I plan on coming back to korea early next year to live and work *fingers crossed*...I'm enjoying your video's lol I'm yet to post all my vlogs up I only have a couple up but the editing is so time consuming plus I just use the basic program to upload. In due time I guess. So where are you from sarah? where in Canada...I would guess toronto? I live in Ottawa~ also before you first went to japan, were you into manga and anime? How did you decide to go to japan. I came to korea because I was curious...I'm into kdrama's and etc so I wanted to see korea for myself. I enjoyed my trip and I can't wait to be back ^^
Aldehyde Hi! Thanks so much for the compliment--so glad you enjoy the videos :D You're so right, it's reeeeally time consuming, and even with the two of us doing our share of editing, the editing process can take about 6-7 hours on average. I'm actually from Halifax! ^^ I used to love anime/manga in middle school--I still like it of course, but I very rarely indulge in it like I used to when I was in my early teens. I went to Japan when I was 18. I met a lot of Japanese and Korean friends who were studying abroad at my university, so they were the ones who really influenced me to go. I was actually planning to teach in Korea for only 1 year and then go to Japan an teach after that, but I met Kyuho, haha. It all worked out for the best though--totally didn't expect that one :D
you two are just so lovely ^^~ Thankies for responding x
Hi! can someone tell me where they went to see the cherry blossom? thanks :)
Where's the link
I cant see it either :(
i enjoy your Video and i hope you guys make happy each other for ever..
I thought about korean you tubers answer what you guys answered on the video,
just because i felt that question was so weird.
usaually people think " i want to marry someone who i am falling in love.
but that questioner said " i want to marry with western woman" What a~??
Yes, in Korea if you're in an international relationship as a Korean person, you're much more worried and aware of what other people think about your relationship.
I see that he looks like choi siwon ! Only one ?
4분 53초부터 나오는 배경음악 뭔지 알수있을까요?
항상 잘보고있습니다 행복하세요^^
I don't see the link! :(
Where do I find the link for your documentary?
I Really like your Vlogs ! IT Is so simple made But really interessting! How old are you Guys? :)
cant see the documentary, its marked "private" :( is there anywhere else I can see it?
Hmm, it's the property of EBS, so unfortunately I don't think there is anywhere else you can watch it :(
2hearts1seoul pity, was really looking forward seeing it
다큐 잘 봤어요.. 두분다 너무 멋지시네요...그런데 규호씨는 아직 학생인가요?
다음 영상 기다릴께요...
허현 감사합니다~^^ 저는 올해 2월에 졸업했습니다!! 드디어 학생 신분에서 탈출했네요 ㅋㅋㅋ....ㅠㅠ 한편으로는 벌써 그립네요;;
what is the name of the wax and hairspray he uses?
The wax is from the Shiseido UNO line--it's the light and dark blue one. For the spray, the brand doesn't matter, as long as it has a strong hold ^^
아 이형 투블럭머리 짜르는 법 영상에서 봤는데
Sehoon kim ㅋㅋㅋㅋ앞으로 규호컷이라 불러줘요 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
이형 그리고 턱걸이하는 영상도 봤는데 몸도 좋아요 ㅋㅋ
규호씨, 저번에 무슨 편집? 하시던데 직업이 무엇인가요?
can i know yout job kyuho?
헐...되게 편하게 다니시는 것 같았는데
보기보다 쉬운 머리가 아니네요ㅋㅋㅋ
How long does it take Kyuho to do his hair?! haha
Maybe around 7 minutes or so, haha~
You guys are an only child?
Thank you for the great video (:
Hi~
I have a younger brother and Kyuho has an older sister ^^
just don't care about people staring, I live in london and people stare all the time... because I'm beautiful ..just accept it ! dont judge
Why did you start making videos ?
To show my family in Canada what our life is like here ^^
he did the batboy haircut hahaahaah
you are like glenn rhee and maggie greene
구독해주세용ㅋㅋ
Do you guys get haters sometimes on your channel?
세라's long legs like a fashion model
#sungkang
Kyuho did a better job than the stylist. I want to know if your husband parent did not accept you would you both have gotten married anyway.
Being in a WMAW relationship myself, but with a Japanese woman. We do get the stares, but thankfully like your experiences we rarely receive negative comments. But even if we did we wouldn't let it bother us because love conquers over everything is. haha
능력되고 인연이 되면 외국인과 혼인하는거지 쓸데없는 질문을 올렸네.
그나저나 전생에 나라를 구했다는 생각이 자꾸 드네요 ㅋㅋㅋ
really really.envy u..^^
전생에 나라를 구한게 아니라 남자분이 매력이 있는겁니다
+김김의찬 누가 그걸 모르나??빗대어 표현한거지 국어시간에 잤나??
다른사람들 시선이 왜 걱정되시지..나는 동양남자가 백인여성에게 어필이 될 가능성에 대해서 걱정인데ㅋㅋㅋㅋ ㅠㅠ
I really enjoyed your vids but just watched the documentary and got turned off... Although there were some hiccups here and there, I think that, as foreigner who's coming into a new culture, Sarah did a great job with, what seemed like, little preparation she received. The one thing I would suggest is to be more... culturally aware and sensitive. Like, even though it was awkward and everyone kept saying the air was awkward, you probably shouldn't have just left your grandfather-in-law in the back while y'all were walking through the market (your mother-in-law already told you that he'd probably like it if you were to call him grandfather etc) and realizing that your mother-in-law gave you water/mud-resistant shoes while wearing sneakers should have halted the comments about them being too big (seemed like she was a little offended when she mentions that there's nothing you can do about it). 4 years here is a long time and it can make a lot of native Koreans question why you've not learned more than the basics... so I'm glad you're studying Korean ^^ I thought it was funny when your father-in-law kept reassuring people that you're studying really hard haha. The problem I have is with Kyuho... and this is not a personal attack but you do realize that trying to shield Sarah from filial duties, inherent in all Eastern cultures, will not help her transition into your family, right? It didn't make sense to take Sarah out of the kitchen when she does need to learn all of what your mom and your aunties have to offer. You're mom would have probably felt more embarrassed and saddened if she were the "큰 어머님"... I mean, look at her face when you demanded them to let Sarah come out as quickly as possible... Sarah, it wasn't that they didn't want you to help, it was that your mother-in-law was already pissed off at what Kyuho did and the other sister-in-laws were only trying to ease the tension by telling you to leave. Of course anyone would feel bad if their partner were alone in a situation where he/she didn't fluently speak and or completely understand the language being used, but Sarah needs to learn for your whole family to accept her as part of the family... everyone may say that marrying a "foreigner" is fine but resentment will build if you don't allow Sarah to learn what's needed to be learned as a daughter-in-law AND if you don't teach Sarah what she needs to know going into culturally significant events like 설날 or 추석... just my two cents... My questions are: "What does it mean to be fully accepted into both of your families?" and "What things need to be fully realized to allow for a genuine incorporation of both partners into all familial parties?"
Wow, I think this is the longest comment we've ever gotten! Thanks for watching--you made a lot of great points! I do have to say though, the way some of these scenes were edited made things look much different than reality.
"You probably shouldn't have just left your grandfather-in-law in the back while y'all were walking through the market".
The film crew actually asked us to film it this way so they could get interviews from both parties separately.
"4 years here is a long time and it can make a lot of native Koreans question why you've not learned more than the basics"
Yes it is, and you're absolutely right about this. My Korean skills in particular are still very weak. Unfortunately I didn't have the opportunity to come here as a student to formally study the language, and my work schedule has kept me extremely busy for the last 4 years. Aside from that, I have no excuses. I could have done better. Actually, I didn't want to do this program at first for this very reason, because I didn't want to broadcast to the world how terrible my Korean skills are even after all of this time. Since I learn language best in a classroom environment, I'm hoping I can someday be lucky enough have enough money (and time) to attend Korean language classes in the near future.
"It didn't make sense to take Sarah out of the kitchen when she does need to learn all of what your mom and your aunties have to offer."
Actually, Kyuho's mother encouraged me weeks before this was filmed to also head outside and help cook the meat. She is actually very liberal, and even though it didn't show it in the documentary several our male relatives were also in the kitchen a lot of the time helping with the work, because she firmly believes everyone should pitch in.
"I mean, look at her face when you demanded them to let Sarah come out as quickly as possible..."
We all actually laughed sooo hard at this part when it aired, because it looked so incredibly dramatic when it really wasn't at all, it was all in the editing, lol ^^
"Sarah, it wasn't that they didn't want you to help, it was that your mother-in-law was already pissed off at what Kyuho did and the other sister-in-laws were only trying to ease the tension by telling you to leave."
No one was pissed off at all. Our aunts were really camera shy and wanted a bit of a break. They told me to go and rest instead of helping in the kitchen because I wasn't feeling well and I had a fever at the time. I was really sick the morning after Chuseok and it took me a while to recover, so they were just looking out for me.
You make a lot of excellent points here, and I agree with a lot of them. I'm probably going to continue making mistakes unintentionally, and I'll probably never be the perfect Korean wife because I'm not Korean. All I can do is try my best to embrace Korean culture without completely sacrificing my own identity in the process. I don't expect Kyuho's family to sacrifice all of their cultural values to accommodate me, and in turn they don't expect me to sacrifice all of mine. I am still Canadian after all. We are two individuals who come from completely different cultural backgrounds, so the best we can do as a family is to try to meet each other halfway and respect one another ^^
+MyMsRamos They do, but you pretty much have to be unemployed to be available for the class time slots, and since I work full time, it's not doable.