The 5 Causes Of Dissociation
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- Опубликовано: 30 май 2024
- Let's talk about the 5 causes of dissociation because it’s more common than most people think. Research shows us that over 50% of people will have at least one dissociative episode in their lifetime, so we should all be a little more informed about what dissociation actually is, and what the root causes also the external causes of dissociation. So why do we dissociate, or why do we have dissociative identity disorder episodes? How do we stop dissociating? Or what causes dissociation or dissociative identity disorder? The truth is this is not a one size fits all formula. Let's dive into the 5 main causes of dissociation or dissociative identity disorder.
The 5 signs of dissociation: • 5 Signs of Dissociation
The 5 types of dissociation: • 5 Types Of Dissociation
The dissociation spectrum: • The Dissociation Spect...
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This is really good Kati! Agree on all of it and it’s a really good refresh for me as sometimes I only attribute my own dissociation to one thing. ❤
If you’re reading this right now, chances are life hasn’t been fair at all to you. You’ve faced a lot of trauma and disappointment, but you’ve also overcome so much. Keep taking it one day at a time, just breathe and know it will get better ❣
Yes.ive.been.in.the.trance.for.along.time.im.66.now..in.my.teens.when.my.heart.got.hurt.i.went.in.to.dissociation..its.like.i.dont..exist...thanks.though.im.off.some.addictions..more.to.go..im.lonley.but.im.in.the.fight.tom.
@@TomWard-sx2ip You’re in the fight. It’s hard, but you deserve a reality that's worth living. Keep going. ❤
Is life fair to anyone? What's fair?
@@Jamiey- Whether life is fair (which it isn’t) isn't the point.
@@SuzannaLiessaacknowledgement of widespread unfairness, trauma and disappointment is the intro to the statement though?
People are accountable for their words
I disassociate a lot. More so as a child than I do now but it’s still there getting better. Love all your videos. Thank you
Im 22. I was recently diagnosed with bipolar disorder and manic depressive at the beginning of this year and got ditched by my therapist right after. I'm black. It's so hard to find actual help without being randomly abandoned. I don't think talk therapy helps, but I'm in the lowest level of poverty, from flint so shit services. My dissociation has gotten worse in the past 4 years. I feel like my brain is constantly on fire, but I'm really trying to at least do my research.
I know you will get better, you want to get rid of your illnesess, you have hope, don't let the world dissapoint you. Just keep in mind that at first we're not "heal" the ill, but we deal with it and learn how to manage it, medication only helps stabilizing the effect of illness, not cure it.
I've tried journaling, not everyday but at least one page per month, writing down all things, feelings and everything. That help me understand my life pattern, how things come and go and how I overcome it, I put some positive words on it too as if I'm hyping myself to live another day.
Sometimes when frustrated, we need to voice it out, right? Maybe take a walk with your dog, and tell them your worried, dump all things that annoys your mind. Or maybe just talk to yourself, I tried it and it's not dumb at all cuz it works.
Remember, you're here right now, you're present, focus on it, listen and feel your surrounding, stop dazing off, feel your feet standing on the ground, look at something bright.
I hope some part of my words helps you, we're in the same age, let's get through this together, you're doing great!
I have found guided meditation with earphones helps me. At first I couldn't do it. My mind would flow to whatever intrusive thoughts but I kept doing it and I'm getting better.
Yoga Nidra meditation helps me too and I try to do mindfulness.
I watched some videos about somatic exercises and for dorsal vagal (I'm stuck in freeze response) and shaking which consist in allowing your body to shake. You can even do it in bed.
Check them out (polivagal theory and somatic theory). Take care ❤️
@rizkamaulita7182 Thank you. I really appreciate your kind words. I'll never fully get rid of my trauma, but I will try my best to handle it head-on and take the time to heal. This world lol..is a cruel place.
@Lyrielonwind thank you so much. I appreciate your helpful words, and I will be attempting this method within my journey. 💜
@@PuppyKore
Please, give it a try 🙂
We need to be kind and patient to ourselves. Sometimes I look a picture of myself (some people find it triggering) when I was a child. It's a picture no one else is with me and it helps me to try to give that girl within me what she needed and deserved since the day I was born. That way I shrink my inner critic which is only a record of nasty voices. So I shut it up and talk to myself with kinder words.
It has helped me a lot ☺️
I think I experienced dissociation during COVID lockdown times. When I would go outside it always felt like I was in a bubble. Everything was toned down, colors, sounds - everything felt very distant and it didn’t feel like I was in real life. More like a fluffy cloud. Super weird feeling, after several months these feelings went away more and more .
Thank you very much. Yes please. PART 2.
Of course!! And I will get right on it :) xoxo
Dissociation and derealization have been ongoing since I tapered off benzos (valium and xanax mainly). I've been totally off the meds for three years but am still experiencing these symptoms. It's horrible feeling disconnected from yourself and reality. I've tried CBT, DBT, ACT and AA (a lot of letters) and have been hitting the gym almost every day for the past 6 months. And it's maybe a little better. But I still feel like I'm floating around in some weird existential void. It's worse than any sadness or anxiety I've had. You can't really describe it to someone who hasn't experienced it - they're basically living in a different reality, one which I used to take for granted. Oh well, whatever, it is what it is.
Hi , I had a traumatic experience. I thought I retire because I was persuaded by coworkers... then, I realized NO WAY I WANT TO RETIRE!!, I panicked trying to stop the process, but was too late. I lost my job. I panicked, and had a breakdown. I've stressed do hard. I got horrible anxiety, insomnia, and severe depression. Now ... ?!? I have absolutely no interest in life, I don't like living. I tried activities o use to love!, like working out , or swimming , or working on my VW bug .... but feel no pleasure. I just don't want to do anything. I'm like a zombie. My friends and family trying to help me, even a psychologist. But nothing is working........ this is horrifying. I don't want to live like this anymore. 😧🙏
A new way of life and a new psychological adaptation are demanded. This could be a sign that your current self and way of life are already inconducive to your well-being. At least in my case, that was the approach I went through to make it out. I know that feeling, dissociation with existential obsessions/rumination, angst and dread
I had a similar experience going off benzoyl. Complete lack of emotion, total detachment. I'm only learning the words to describe dissociation so I didn't know that's what it was then. When I was around people it was like I didn't have a thought in my head or thing to say. I could see that they could see my behavior was weird but I couldn't act any differently. At home I just watched TV in one spot all day every day, or laid in bed. It took a couple years but it gets better. I hope you are through the worst of it by now. I got into therapy around year 3. I felt like I had to relearn how to communicate but then it got a lot better much faster than the first few years. I hope you feel better soon💚
I think another good one to add to the list is pain. When you are in severe pain it is very hard to stay present and keep from dissociating
True. Have you tried wild lettuce for a natural pain reliever? Many satnd by it. For strong pain even. Worth looking into perhaps.
I remember dissociating, well, when I regained my consciousness of the world around me, I was in a constant dissociation, I mean it lasted years, I was in another world, I was not myself at all, unaware of the reality. Then something happened, and I had to come back to reality, but the alcohol abuse, the stressful events at work, the fear of homelessness, did not help me, all I can recall is walking my way back to home during a night after my night shift, having auditive hallucinations, seeing myself from another person eyes, blackout, and I am on an abandoned railway having more auditive hallucinations, hearing metal knocking. But hey, who cares ?!
RTMS helped me a lot with dissociation. I was dissociated for decades
I do! Dissociating is f@#ked! ✌️🫶
God cares
I do this, too. Therapy helps, my dogs help. But mostly I fight through it.
Hang on, find someone or something (dogs) you can trust. If you can, find a therapist.
@@jantaljaard835 Satan too...
I’ve been in DBT helping me with dissociation. It’s been a life changer.
this has been such an issue for me lately. I'm so grateful for your video, Katie.
Thank you for this important video Kati! I used to dissociate a lot when SH'ing when I was younger. It was scary not knowing what was going on. I never did find out until much later in life what dissociation was and why it happens.
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The fact that you said that while I was actually coloring to soothe myself from feeling sick, made me emotional. 💛
Just came across your video, what a wonderful gift to hear you explain this so simple that my husband and I can understand!!
He is the 7th of 9 children and I’m 10 of 10 children. We both experienced trauma and this is so informative!!
Thank you for this. I've been extremely dissociated the past few weeks, especially because of moving and leaving a toxic relationship. I'm finally basically all settled into the new place. Yet I am CONSTANTLY in this intense daze. Like my eyes are just glazed over, and I find it too easy to just sit and stare at the wall. I talked to my therapist about this literally today. So I feel like you've been reading my mind! ^^ I've moved so many times in my life I've lost count, many times after a break-up. One break-up was due to a partner becoming violent. So it definitely makes sense that I'm dissociating so much. Plus not getting enough sleep, chronic illness, and pushing myself way past my limits trying to get everything in order, it just all makes sense. It's annoying at best, and alarming at worst when I suddenly realize literally HOURS have gone by, and I've lost track of time doing absolutely nothing. My therapist said that it's totally ok this is happening. That it's completely normal with all the stress I've been dealing with. He even said he'd be surprised if I WASN'T experiencing any of that lol. Thanks for confirming this Kati, it meant a lot.
This has been far more helpful in explaining some of my students than many hours in Continuing Ed sessions. Thank you.
Thank you Katie, I enjoy your videos. It's good to keep hearing and learning about mental health.
So I have been diagnosed with C-PTSD and DP/DR. I just got back a couple weeks ago from a study abroad trip in Australia and New Zealand where I was able to finally get away from chronic trauma at home, and by the end I felt like my dissociation had slipped away, and my first week or two back in America I felt great. But I've been kind of thrown back into the fire so to speak, and also, because of a noisy environment in my house at night, I can't sleep very well, and so that's kind of bringing my dissociation back a little bit. Today, both my aunts, my cousin, and I are all visiting Oregon (we're from Washington) and it's just mostly been a fun relaxing day, but I found myself spacing out quite a bit and looking around at a too-bright world that felt a little surreal. And now, at the end of the day, I found myself having trouble recalling the day, and I was thinking to myself, "today has been a fun day, why am I dissociating?" because I already knew I was dissociating because of past and current trauma, and because of exhaustion which I was happy you pointed out, but then the last one quite possibly describes what I'm feeling- safety which is new to me an therefore my brain is distancing me from it.
Know you are not alone in feeling like this and there is hope for the future ❤
This video was so helpful and insightful for me Kati. Thank you so much. Also, from the perspective of someone who analyzes RUclips KPI’s and strategy for work, i am noticing certain tactics you’re implementing that are awesome! Anyway always appreciate your videos and what you do. Take care.
Thank you so much for these videos I can’t get my husband to go to therapy so I share these and he will watch them and it helps.
Excellent information! Thank you!
Excellent video. Thanks for this.
Thank you ❤ Could you please make a video about the manifestions of all stress responses (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) in the "functional" chronic mode? What I mean is something like hypervigilance for fight response, feeling overwhelmed for freeze etc 🙂. Your new video is super useful, I thought dissociation is with flight, but it being connected to freeze makes so much more sense 🤭. I am trying to classify so that I know what technique to use depending on situation (such as breathing/meditation for fight, somatic exercises for freeze). It would be awesome, if you think more people would benefit from such information ❤.
Of course!! Anything to help!! xoxo
@@Katimorton ❤️❤️❤️
Same here, I have a ton of childhood trauma from my early childhood years up to my mid twenties. Only after I had a work related burnout 15 months ago did I come to realise how much I am ruled and influenced in my daily life by my past and have found the courage to start therapy…gradually transitioning from the work around my burnout to trauma. Work in progress but glad I was able to make a start. I too dissociate a lot and have entire years from my pst missing with tiny fragment stitched together to a somewhat foggy childhood image. Now 47 years old, I still get overwhelmed easily and out of nowhere at times, freeze, dissociate to the point were I watch myself from some place out of my body (not sure that makes any sense but it is the best I can describe it).
Finding strategies to manage these situations is difficult and at times I am aware that something is going on, is out of sync, at other times I only realise it afterwards that time is missing and not having any memory of hours past. Life gets complicated this way, it makes me anxious and doubting my capacities, hard to focus and concentrate or stay focused.
I too would appreciate more information around these topics…and my apology if this is a bit of a winded and long text. Thank you for all you do to make information available.
@@alexandraschreck7824 Keep learning and keep healing, at some point it will become manageable, I am convinced 🤗🤍✨️I am in a similar situation, I have days when I realise it's time for bed and I have next to no idea of what happened during the day.. It works better when keep track of my every action in a calendar (such as Google Calendar on my phone). I do have a general schedule noted there, but what I feel is important is to "declare" what I'm about to do, for how long, and start a visual timer app also, so that I am aware of when the 30 min or hour has passed. It keeps me in the now, in reality. Even if the action is watch a YT video, without this method I realise 3h later that I am still on YT and haven't eaten or done anything for work lol. I also discovered somatic exercises and they seem to be helpful ❤.
Hi Kati. Great video, really infornative. Nice shirt.❤
Love this Katie, take care
Great video!!
Thank you, Kati
Thank you as always. Interesting.
Thank you so much
The last one really let me thinking way I never felt save always looking around for danger or something...even if I knew it is a save environment❤
Great video! Very informative.
On a side note, I like the blouse.
Not sure if you end up reading this. But can you talk about chronic dissociation?
Back when I was a teen, I had a particularly severe episode of OCD. I spent a few months in a constant, morning to night, state of high mental and emotional distress. That level of intensity can only go on for so long, and eventually it calmed down a bit. And that's about when I realized that things felt very strange to me, and had been for a while. Since then, I've been experiencing DPDR.
My OCD eventually got recognized (about 4 years ago, at 30y.o.) and treatment has been really helpful. But still. My body feels distant. The world looks hazy, dark, less saturated. My episodic and autobiographic memories have faded a lot and new ones often don't form or are very "patchy". And so on. The intensity of the DPDR fluctuates, but never leaves. Except for on rare occasions, I may have a minute or so when I am a bit more "present"... would be nice if that lasted longer, you know?
None of my mental health professionals have known much about dealing with chronic DPDR. And it is very hard to find much info about it. If you have any thoughts on it, I'd love to hear them! Or if anyone else has some thoughts! ❤ 🖖
That was really interesting. I'd also say that pain can be another cause of dissociation. I had uncontrolled severe long term pain which was more than I could physically or mentally bear at the time. I experienced dissociation and believe my mind and body was trying to remove me from an unbearable situation. I didn't have memory lapse, instead, it was like I didn't belong to myself. I could see my hands moving, but it was like they didn't belong to me and I was just an observer.
You are the best ❤
That top is amazing!
Dissociation is tricky, my thoughts can cause dissociation for me. Talking about certain subjects or even talking about emotions and feelings can cause a dissociative episode. It's sometimes not so cut and dry.
Even though I have DPDR and am generally educated on this, I find videos like these helpful for a story I wanna write depicting dissociation.
The last one was a real eye opener. Wow.
Thank you!
My psychiatrist years ago said "The mind is kind, it blocks out what you can't bear to remember".
I have found my mind is actually substantially kinder than that, as the greatest impediment to my remembering and processing was the people I was around. It wasn't that they were blocking me, I just knew, deep down, that no one should have to go through what I did, so empathy is unkind to ask for, from people who can't already imagine my traumas. I often can't remember in order to spare others my pain, because I can sense they don't understand. My own need for empathy blinds me sometimes, so I can't even remember why I forget, but if I remember to show others compassion, regardless, then it all comes back to me.
@@willcool713 Blocking and DID is the mind's last ditch effort to keep from going insane
@@PhantomQueenOne No, not the last effort, not by a long stretch. You give up on consensus reality and personal identity before your mind totally cracks. Death, time, logic, object permanence, etc, are all entitlements we can let go of to save ourselves. There's a ton of coping room between dissociation and actual loss of sanity, but it does make recovery and reintegration into consensus reality much more difficult.
@@willcool713 I went into DID to avoid going nuts. How can a small child cope with trauma? Now this was told to me by a psychiatrist. What's your level of training?
@@PhantomQueenOne Torture survivor and masters degree. I know what you're saying. It felt like you were losing your sanity, and who knows, you might have been close as a toddler. Children are actually far more resilient than adults, though, so your dissociation may have been easily navigated at the time, but set up poor habits of mind as an adult. Idk. The dissociative phase lasts until you're pushed further. Given the choice, most people don't willingly survive, but once dissociation and suicide are denied to you, either you give in to renegotiating how reality functions, or you let your mind break and never come back. I still go into fugues when I'm stressed sometimes, but I consider that an entitlement, and a luxury, compared to the darker places beyond. The universe isn't rational, we only tell ourselves that it is.
The final cause was one I hadn’t heard before but it resonates so much because after i went through dissociation due to trauma, randomly about a year later I dissociated again, and it would make sense if that was the case because my body didn’t feel ready to be living a life that wasn’t damaging my mind and body, and since then I haven’t had a dissociative episode because the response I got was completely different to when I was dealing with abuse, so it was like my body was checking if I was actually safe or just thought that i was
Thx Katie you rock! Yes Please for second video!! ✌️❤️
Hi Kati!
I've been admitted to hospital several times the past two years (C-PTSD diagnosis) and they say they have observed signs of structural dissociation.. I don't quite grasp what it means, is this something you could elaborate on?
Kati Morton.i can definitely understand and relate to this video on discosiasion i go though this sometimes when i had therapy or in conversations with my parents i be present in my thoughts and mind 1 minute then spaced out and discociate the next 😢
So ? I had a few moments but one in particular driving i stopped at a red light i all a sudden felt lighter and everything felt like it was going in slow motion. Would that follow under dissociating? As well as when waking up sometimes very similar. Just curious. Tend to forget these things to ask my therapist. Ill ask again Sundays if u dont get to this. Thanks for better xplaining things.
Oh! One thing I wanted to add that I had also discussed with my therapist that I found intrigueing. Dissociation is a survival mechanism right? Could it make sense that dissociation also made it possible for me to have the strength to move? I feel like as soon as I starting taking the major steps (searching for an apartment, going out and looking at a few places in a chaotic city, interacting way more with people that I'm comfortable with or used to), that's when the dissociation started really kicking in. It's like part of me just completely checked out, and another part of me took over the hard work of taking care of the move. It's so strange, but I'm weirdly grateful for my dissociating. Even if it is making me feel like I'm in a perpetual daze.
I need a part 2!!! All that you said was me 100%
I did not understand why ironing sheets made me feel good. It is not just the satisfying result---a reward, it is dissociating from all the chores I am not tackling. It makes my life simple for a time, especially if I can find something interesting to view/listen to on my computer.
Sounds like you've found a therapeutic activity in ironing ^^
thank you
I dissociate often. I’m curious if my presentation of dissociation is average. Something stressful will happen or be said, then I’ll stare into the distance and be unable to speak. It almost looks like an absence seizure. If I’m able to get any words out, it’s only a few words and I’ll speak extremely slowly.
I tell mental health professionals and my fiancé knows that I can sometimes come out of it by them asking me about my favorite things, fun facts I know, grounding techniques like the 54321 method or meditation. If that doesn’t work, I literally just have to go to sleep. I’m on disability, so I’m often able to nap whenever I need to.
I’m interested to know if this is an average (normal, trying to not use that word so much) presentation of dissociation. Lmk!
P.S. Not so fun fact: when I can’t speak, my fiancé and I have come up with our own kind of sign language lol. I’ll touch my mouth or neck and motion “no” to tell him I can’t talk, for instance. It sucks that this happens, but it’s nice to have someone who knows me so well, that even if I can’t speak, he knows what I’m trying to say (most of the time lol).
I doubt Katie will see this, but I was wondering:
If a person lives in their body but never truly feels present, can that be a mild expression of dissociation?
Basically, what does mild DPDR look like? And at what point is it so mild that it is no longer diagnosable as such? (I'll be asking my MSSA/LISW the same.)
When I reach neutral i feel bored and I almost get into a angry mood, getting quiet, and very sensitive hearing, just observing everything around me without feeling in some way. Like nothing matters.
Yes please to a part 2👌
it does explain whywhen I was struggling in early adulthood why factory work was so relaxing
That was very good! I’ve experienced dissociation a few times. Now I understand the reasons. Some may relate to this: my triggers are at church. I’ve tried several times to go back and finally quit. I’m supposed to find peace at church, not dissociation and a meltdown.
What religion?
@@timlewis7218 Christian. It sucks because I used to enjoy church.
@@billking3923 I know a few people who experienced csa in the Mormon church. The one I still stay in touch with has overcome, and processed the trauma and is now a Southern Baptist that is relatively well adjusted and healing more day by day. Neuroplasticity is our only salvation... Oh and Jesus of course. We can become and do anything anybody else can within reason. I hope you find peace and are able to master this part of being human, as relationships are life. Good relationships = good life. The most important one being our relationship to God. Be blessed and thank you.
Is it possible for the trauma to be unnoticed by the individual? I dissociate when in crowds of people or when facing perceived conflict with someone in power. But I cant think of any trauma when I think back. I've had "traumatic events" like being bombed (military deployment) but I don't feel negatively toward the incidents. They were no bigger than anything else.
Kati I have question gives that phenomenon that a human feels the body to much if give the phenomenon that a human doesn’t feel him self that I think that it give it also in the other way road. By the way I learn the American English. In case if I made mistake don’t be shy say it.
When I’m by myself, I just think of technical things or just trying to collate/ ASSOCIATE Ideas Together.
People in data analytics do the opposite of disassociate :-/
Hi Katie,
If dissociation is a trauma response then why would it happen when my patient's mother gave me compliments?
Thank you for this. I am a home health nurse.
Has anyone in your past given you compliments and praises, only to hurt you or tear you down? Past manager, exes, relatives, or "friend?" I may be reaching...
I guess I’ve experienced this and didn’t realize what it was. I survived about 5 years of this. I lived in a fog. Yes completely exhausted.
Yay a new video
You are one if the best!
I love how articulate you are. Thanks!
xoxox
Not sure if you read these but I messed up on something I need your help with. My question on Sunday got picked and I didnt realize if I edit it the heart goes away.. Does that mean my question wont be answered now?
i have a question. so my mom passed away, and if you dissociate you forget some of the details. my moms death wasn't violent, or life threating to me, but i dont remember big chunks of details for months afterwards. was i having a really long bout of dissociation, or is it something else?
Thank you for making this videos. I have one comment, well question actually cause like a week ago I had what apparently seem to be a severe stress migraine. That lasted like 5 hours and in between moments I kind of had disassociate moments.it was really weird. My therapist and I tried to find out why but not answer. I have bpd and bipolar type 2 I've had disassociate moments before, but not with migraines. Don't know if someone could maybe tell me if this had Happened to anyone else. Idk sorry long comment
Hi Kati. I lost my career job, i made the worst mistake. Im so upset with myself, and want my job, position, seniority back.!! But it's over. I became afraid, insecure... and realized my job was my everything. No structure now, purpose , identity, social interactions, coworkers and friends...!! I now have ABSOLUTELY no interest in anything!, no interest in going anywhere.! I tried to go to gym, swim, etc. , but had no pleasure in doing the activity.
I hate living now , i don't like life , and i don't like myself for letting my job go. I just want my life back as before. But., but that's impossible. Did i die? Im like a zombie , and a prisoner, paralyzed... with no desire. 🙏
Maybe you are actually looking for something with deeper meaning. I also left my career as a senior RN. It was very difficult and felt like I lost my identity. But some really amazing things have happened to me. I opened myself completely to God and Jesus. I have found peace.
I guess it's because I have known too many narcissists that if I meet someone and they start telling me how many things they have or their accomplishments (like they are giving me their resume without asking) I either get bored, tired, start to look for a scape (literally; the door, the bathroom) dissociate or get a creepy feeling.
Recently I discovered a grocery shop which I like and the cashier (I'm divorced and childless) has already told me twice and kind of out of context that she is married, has a son, a husband and a beautiful house which I really don't care. She says it with her eyes wide open and a fake smile.
I don't want to go there any longer and I like the store.
I guess she thinks she's going to make me feel jealous but she gives me the creeps. Lately I have been feeling dizzy or get another kind of gut feeling when I meet a narcissist but I don't know how to stop it. I go away and breathe slow and deep but after that I just want to go home.
@Lyrielonwind These people sound like they have something to *_prove_* by bragging about their lives. Have you tried acting very disinterested or changing the subject? Wonder why this type of personality keeps being drawn to you? 🤔
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My past. Narcissists smell me as if I was bleeding she's acting believing I must be bitter because I don't have a couple or I'm childless, quite typical of these kind of people (my mother says "you are what you have" which I think is so shallow and poor) but I had these kind of women asking me why I don't have a couple to find out later, because they had a minute of honestly telling me that if they could start all over again, they wouldn't get marry or have children; they envy I don't have those responsabilities.
What I have done is ignore them and look emotionless because I don't want to deal with them, I feel like I want to get a shower after interacting with them 🤣 so I keep interaction to the minimal expression and they notice it; they hate it but it's not my job to explain them they are wrong and my wishes are far away of what they think. They are just projecting on me and I try to give them the feeling I couldn't care less because I don't care. If they have things I don't it's fine; I have been married and I am divorce and I don't miss it. I don't even know her husband, how could I feel jealous? Assuming other people wants and desires is pointless.
What I know is that having a longer talk with her it would be extremely boring to me. That's what she doesn't know 🤣
That's way more make sense, I mostly does'nt remember that I did write long paper, article and journal at college, I dissociate when writing all of it, months later I find the file and was like "when did I write this all?"
What about pain as a cause of dissociation? I’ve noticed myself just “going away” to deal with really excruciating pain, such as being thrown from a horse and breaking my collarbone. It’s been many years ago now but I still remember escaping that horrible pain by floating away.
Can’t dissociation also be Flop/Collapse instead of freeze? I can end up limb, even faint. My pulse drops and I loose the muscle tension that is typical for freeze.
In this context, is ‘freeze’ similar to ‘checking out’ from one’s self and loved ones?
DP & DR are literally the most terrifying panic attack symptoms. I didn't even have this happen til I watched my gramma die. Now when I get a panic attack...its always DP and DR. I hate it!! It makes me feel out of body so intensely that I feel I may have a stroke. It's so scary. Will it ever go away? How can I make it stop?
disturbingly relatable.
ok so i have all of these five causes and i know people would say go talk with a therapist but then i am thinking why tho? Because if i am doing this to cope or "survive" life and that works for me then why should i change that? I know it is not healthy to live my life on surviving mode all the time but i feel like i like living like that. And yes i know this is not right but if feels right to me..i survive but is life great? am i happy? No, but i survive. It's ok, i do not have a high standard for living life
On #5, I remember when an abuse situation finally ended, and I expected to now finally get on with my life, I had a nightmare that I had moved to Disneyland. Everything about me seemed bright and cheery, but the artificiality terrified me so much that I woke up screaming. I wasn't yet ready to believe in safety.
It's the inability to accept your perceived choices. You dissociate because you have nowhere else to go. At extreme moments, such turns of mind can actually affect the flow of reality, I fervently believe. But at less desperate emotional states it's a particularly unhelpful habit of mind. With closely involved cooperation, such mutual turns of mind can also navigate reality effectively, at very manageable, even peaceful, emotional levels. But as a lone habit it speaks to hypervigilance or an acclimation to intense effort centered on a need to avoid or achieve particular outcomes or behaviors, in which the percieved failure of doing so is unacceotable.
I disassociate often. I cant look at people. I can't talk and am physically frozen for hours sometimes days. When i come to i am extremely exhausted
I used to struggle with really extreme dissociation as part of my major depressive disorder. I would blink and sometimes literally hours would have gone by. Luckily I don’t experience dissociation like that anymore. It was a really bad time.
I must've hit the Dissociation jackpot,as I've certainly had all of the above.
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I told my therapist at the end of March that I am taking a vacation in mid-May and that I have booked the flight tickets and hotels so he knows I will be away during this period. He responded very aggressively and said : we don’t do control mania around here!! - I don’t know what he meant, is it not recommended that you inform your therapist months in advance about your vacation days? I am seeing this therapist to heal my trauma and disorganized attachment style..
That was courteous of you. I would reply and be very direct by telling him you don’t know what he means by that and that you were being helpful and proactive. The last thing you need to worry about is walking on eggshells with your therapist on something as benign as your schedule.❤
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Sometimes closeness will trigger and for others it could be distance.
What about dissociating daily? Every couple days?
How do I tell someone, a counselor, all the trauma I endured? Unfortunately, it wss alot. That is the question I am finally asking myself.
When too many pillars of your realty collapsed or maybe just one if that’s all you had
frequently - psshh - anyone and everyone are throwing their hands up claiming to be dealing with the issue of dissociation now, just cuz they heard what it was and that it's ok to have to deal with it -- leds me to wonder about the issues that could come from being misdiagnosed - ugh not a great situation
I feel traumatized by my recent overnight hospital stay after surgery. It was a nightmare, and now I don't want to see anyone.
My resilience is high because I dissociate.😂
I am in so much pain about this topic. My mother, who I'm estranged from, chronically dissociates, seemingly whenever anyone in a five-mile radius is upset or might be mad at her. I honestly don't know how she functions or even how good or bad her non-dissociated memory is. I alternate between wishing I could fix her pain, and being so angry that I have such an incapable and cowardly mother, who had kids she KNEW she wouldn't be able to emotionally handle.
Sure, my dad's chronically hypercritical and derogatory - it's easy to see the issues with that. But the person who really made me HATE myself and not want to be alive anymore, since literally before I can remember, is her.
Sounds like you should absolutely HATE your father, not your mother. What you described sounds like she is a victim of his profound psychological abuse. Her shut downs and dissociations sound like they stem from fear of him and all that relates to him.
Mine has happened several times and it’s always very random. Like nothing is going on. I’m playing a board game with my husband and there I am dissociating.
Dissociation is a God-given, self-protective mechanism which enables us to deal with traumatic situations in a way that does not overwhelm us and allows us to continue to cope with life.
There is no proof of God. This is not a place for you to preach.
@@andrewharper1609 Dissociation is a self-developed, evolved, self-protective mechanism......
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whoa i just dissociated today in therapy and then this video came out!
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Somebody answer me here, if dissociating from reality is the essence of dissociation, then why is psychosis not considered a dissociative disorder? Isn't psychosis just breaking from reality in order to institute a better version?
Could you just clarify what your association with better help is please
As a child I stopped talking for several months. I was shut down.
Do we go into alternate universe when we disassociate.?
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I want to see a therapist talk about sickle cell and how it effect the person I'm a person who was born with sickle cell
My mom used to get upset when I brought home boyfriends that wore cologne. I was always so annoyed by it and couldn't understand why it was such a big deal to her. now I understand. it was because the cologne smelled like my dad and it reminded her of him.
I have never experienced any sort of disassociation.
I would’ve thought it’s because people do too much drugs, and they damaged their brains.
Isn’t this a problem with people who do shrooms or acid?
I remember reading somewhere that people who were long-term acid users, ketamine, PCP or did shrooms had problems with disassociation later in life
I have never taken drugs and i have it for 10 months now after emotional trauma and a health scare.
I am sure people who do a lot of drugs can also experience some form of dissociation, but it really occurs when we are pushed into our stress response because what's going on in our life is too much for us to process in the moment. We don't think we can run away or fight back against what is going on, and so our brain pulls us away from reality a bit to save us from it. I hope that helps!! xoo
@@KatimortonAre you referring to the freeze response ( I.E., flight, fight freeze) ?
If you have ever daydreamed, you have.
No, I never did any drugs except caffeine and occasionally alcohol. I’ve been dissociating a lot even as a child.