I ventured into making a video on a topic that's a bit out of my comfort zone. What are your thoughts? Are there other topics you'd like to see covered in our podcasts or videos?
Great video. Supported by well rounded facts rather than ideology. I knew this video will be worth watching the moment you pointed out the matrimony survey done by the news channel is simply data and not a peer reviewed paper. Good job
Why this misleading title? If you respect women in Kerala. Change ur title to "women in kerala reject marriage " Educated women in kerala realized they are utilized and used via indian marriage system. So they are awake and bold to take this decision. Women who take this decision is beyond fear. So why are u saying afraid. There is no fear here. Typical men are raised to mistreat women. Women no longer want to consciously go through this.
ഞാനും കുട്ടിയെ പോലെ ആണ് വിവാഹം കഴിക്കാൻ താല്പര്യം ഇല്ലായിരുന്നു മെയിൻ കാരണം ഞാൻ നല്ല സ്വാതന്ത്ര്യതോടെ സ്വന്തം കാലിൽ നിന്നു ജീവിക്കുന്ന ആൾ ആരുന്നു. ..വിവാഹത്തോടെ പൊതുവെ സ്ത്രീകൾ ഒരു വേലക്കാരി റോൾ ഇൽ എത്തുന്നതാണ് കണ്ടിരുന്നത്. ..അത് എനിക്ക് പറ്റില്ലാരുന്നു. ..ഒരു ഭർത്താവിനെ അല്ല ജീവിതപങ്കാളിയെ ആയിരുന്നു. എനിക്ക് വേണ്ടത്. .36 വയസിൽ ആണ് ഒരാളെ കണ്ടെത്തി വിവാഹം കഴിച്ചത്. .മാട്രിമോണി യിൽ നിന്നു തന്നെ. .ഞാൻ ആണ് എന്റെ പ്രൊഫൈൽ set ചെയ്തത്. .പുള്ളി പുള്ളിടെയും. .എന്റെ terms നു അനുസരിച്ചു തന്നെ ആണ് ആളും എന്ന് മനസ്സിലായി 6 മാസം സംസാരിച്ചു വിവാഹം കഴിച്ച്. ..ഞങ്ങൾ US ഇൽ ആണ്. .6 വർഷം ആയി സുഖായി ഇരിക്കുന്നു 😊
@@Here_we_go..557 Even within minutes we can identify a person .I got a proposal from my uncles friend's relatives son. They came to see me within minutes i figured out he is narcissist .Family was good and my parents like them but I rejected the proposal. After that i got blank call from some numbers and then it changed to a abusive language i changed my number it stopped. I had doubts about him. Later i came to know he got married and divorced his wife remarried and have issue with second wife and his second wife filed domestic violence case against him.
വളരെ accidental ആയിട്ട് കണ്ട വീഡിയോ ആണ് ഇത്. ഒരുപാട് കാര്യങ്ങൾ മനസിലായി. Marriage നോട്‌ ഒരു fear ഇപ്പോൾ boys നും ഉണ്ട്. അല്ലേൽ താല്പര്യ കുറവ്. എനിക്ക് 32 ആയി. എന്തോ ആളുകൾ ചോദിക്കും എങ്കിലും ഓഹ് വേണ്ട എന്ന ഒരു mind ഇൽ ആണ് ഞാൻ.പിന്നെ ഭാവിയിൽ വരുന്നത് വരുന്നിടത്തു വെച്ച് കാണാം. പൊതുവെ ആളുകൾ പറയുന്നത് കുറെ age ആയി കഴിയുമ്പോൾ കൂട്ടിന് ആര് കാണും. നമ്മൾ ഇപ്പോൾ marriage ചെയ്യുന്ന ആൾ lifelong നമ്മുടെ കൂടെ കാണും എന്നതിന് എന്ത് ഉറപ്പാണ് ഉള്ളത്. Sigle life സുഖം ആണ് ഒരു പരിധിവരെ.... I love it... ❤️
Well, basically, women are afraid that marriage will take away their freedom and force them to be an unpaid maid at another house and men on the other hand are afraid of dealing with the biased laws that come into play with regards to marriage...
Yes the "becoming a maid" mentality happens in households of older generation men who treated his wife like a servant but treats his daughter like princess.
@@abhilashkrishnan1693 True... The fact that that mentality is still being promoted thru TV serials and shows is proof of the fact that most people still subscribe to that kind of thinking...
Even people with high profile job end up as a wife abuser thinking wife as a maid who need not be given money for her job but get all service without him being involved.just a tag is only needed as a wife for the other person to be with others.
@@confused_one_ I didn't say it was limited to serials... What I said is that such content is so widely used in serials and other tv shows because its so popular and accepted by most which is a reflection of their own mindset... Otherwise, they the creators of those shows wouldn't bother...
കൂടെ പഠിച്ചവരിൽ gents married ആയി. Women majority unmarried ആയിട്ട് തുടരുന്നു. താൽപര്യം ഉളളവർ കഴിക്കട്ടെ. NPD ഉള്ള family യിൽ ജീവിച്ച കൊണ്ട് marriage നോടു വിരക്തി ഉണ്ട്. പിന്നെ കരിയർ gap ഉൾകൊള്ളാൻ തോന്നുന്നില്ല
No Married women project herself as house maid it is not maid type lifestyle it is about house manager or house queen if you have better income or status.Single life may be traumatic due to selfish self centered & toxic society or may be soft target of Anti social & Anti feminist lobby...
പെൺകുട്ടികൾ മാത്രമല്ല, അൺകുട്ടികൾക്കും വല്യ താൽപര്യം ഇല്ല.ഞാൻ ഒരു അവിവാഹിതനാണ് , തരക്കേടില്ലാത്ത ജോലിയുണ്ട് ബാംഗ്ലൂരിൽ ആണ്. ഒറ്റക്ക് ജീവിക്കാൻ തുടങ്ങിയിട്ട് 15 വർഷം ആയി. എൻ്റെ ഫ്ലാറ്റിലെ എല്ലാ ജോലിയും ഞാൻ തന്നെ ചെയ്യുന്നു. അതു കൊണ്ട് തന്നെ ഒരു പെൺകുട്ടി എൻ്റെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ വന്നു ഇനി എന്തെങ്കിലും മാറ്റം ഉണ്ടാകുമെന്ന് എനിക്ക് തോന്നാറില്ല. കാരണം എൻ്റെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ ഞാൻ പൂർണ തൃപ്തനാണ്. അതു കൊണ്ട് പെൺകുട്ടികളോട് പറയാൻ ഉള്ളത് ആദ്യം ജോലി നോക്കുക. എന്നിട്ട് കല്യാണം വേണമെങ്കിൽ മാത്രം😂😂😂. സ്വന്തം കാലിൽ നിൽക്കാൻ പറ്റണം.അതിനു ഒരു ജോലി അത്യാവശ്യം ,അതാണ് നമ്മുടെ ലക്ഷ്യം.
അവനവനു കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ തോന്നുന്നില്ലെങ്കിൽ കഴിക്കരുത്.. വീട്ടുകാർ, കൂട്ടുകാർ, നാട്ടുകാർ എല്ലാരും കൂടി " കഴിക്കെടാ..മാര്യേജ് ഒന്നും ആയില്ലേ.. നിനക്ക് വേണ്ടി ഞാൻ പെണ്ണ് അന്വേഷിക്കണോ?, എന്താ നിന്റെ പ്രശ്നം, എപ്പോഴാ ചെലവ്, എന്നൊക്ക ചോദിച്ചോണ്ടേ ഇരിക്കും.. ഒരു കാരണവശാലും വീണു pokaruthu..
It's not interest ...it's fear of failure! എനിക് 27 yrs aayi and kurach നാൾ ആയി ഒരു companion venam എന്ന് from the depth I feel. And want to make it wonderful. Also try to communicate your problems to your partner before getting married and after the connection is made. Because if it is meant to end it will! So there is no need of going into marriage and then causing alot of problems .
Married at 26 to a man i knew for7+ years from school that too interfaith wedding..& now 27 and living separated..planning for mutual divorce! I saw a totally different man after marriage who was faking a progressive ideology towards life all years before marriage! I was fooled🥱 feels like there is no guarantee with dating maybe its all masked which will fall after marriage like once they win u!😊
@@keerthynair5961if basic character is flawed,then there is no use in dating and getting to know each other. 2 perum nalla genuine & civilized human beings aanengil mathre nalla bandham undakkan kazhiyu. Ethra years aayi ariyam ,familiar aan ennullathil karyamilla, because after marriage or relationship, people take things for granted and treat like nothing if they are not genuine. Civilized behaviour and genuine character ith 2 um onnich ulla oraaninem kanan kittilla keralathil. Naturally romantic feelings will fade ,but still character genuine aanel avar snehich loyal aayi munnot kond povum. Ingane ullavar malayali kalil kurav aan.
@@anu7982ഈ നഗ്ന സത്യം മനസിലാക്കി കെട്ടാതിരിക്കുന്ന ഞാൻ. പിന്നെം എലൈറ്റ് സെറ്റിങ്ങിസിൽ കൊർച്ചൂടെ പ്രോഗ്രസീവ് ബോധം റിയൽ ജീവിതത്തിൽ കൊണ്ടു പോകുന്നവരുണ്ടെന്ന് തോന്നിയിട്ടുണ്ട്. പക്ഷെ ഇക്കണോമിക്കലി അങ്ങനെയൊരു സെറ്റിങ്ങ്സിൽ അല്ലാത്തോണ്ട് ആ സ്കോപ്പില്ല.മരുന്നിന് പോലും നല്ലൊരു പുരുഷനെ കണ്ടിട്ടില്ല. എനിക്ക് കാണുമെന്ന് പ്രതീക്ഷയൊന്നും തോന്നുന്നില്ല. വിദേശിയെ വല്ലോം നോക്കണ്ടി വരുമെന്ന് ഞാൻ എപ്പളും പറയും.
Hi If marriage worked for some, it doesn't mean it will work for others. NPD is a major issue in most of the families. 3rd person entering between a couple especially parents or siblings and fear of losing their own son to their daughter in law
As if it won't happen other way.. what I seen is (esp with my cousins) most girls are keyed 'toys' .. and parents key them... interfere in couples and live off them... I personally don't pay my mother for her expense, she manages herself.. I seen my cousins paying monthly sum to their welloff parents..
@@SpringPetrichor-et8sq When said relative has lakhs laying in bank, and earning interest.. asking monthly amt to son in alw is bit odd.. boys parent is a pensioner , so same don't apply other side. I believe , if you have given all to your kids it's the responsibility of kids to take care, but if you hold on and enjoy the ancestral property, then you should take care of yourself..
@@rules436 1) not from son in law but from their daughter. Or do u mean married woman can't be financially independent or financially independent married woman's money will be considered as 'son in law's by default? 2) whether pensioner or crorepati, if a son can pay to his parents his wife can pay to her parents. If u have that much problem with she being from rich family ur son shouldnt hav married from rich family in the first place. 3) It's pathetic that Some parents ( parents of sons) act like they planted and grew some d1ck only to marry rich girls whom they expect to support their family but not her's bcz they are useless & couldn't earn as much as the girls' family. Inshort leeching off other's hardwork. Such ppl r no different from theives or prostitutes at least the latter give something from her side unlike such parents.
One other big problem is because dating and falling in love is generally discouraged by society , for a lot of people the first relationship they are in is probably going to be their marriage , that makes it extremely difficult to understand what exactly do you want from a partner and what are definite no's and what are negotiable . They have kids relatively quickly and by the time they realise themselves , their needs and their partners properly it might have become a decade . Then going for a divorce in that situation becomes difficult if the relationship isn't abusive or toxic and they just give up and accept this life . That becomes primary ground for affairs and extra marital relationships , especially since its more easy to live double lives these days.
@@reenujose4937it takes time to understand people , dating is a process where you can spend time trying to figure out if this is the right person for you. Marriage has a lot of legal and social implications and it becomes very difficult to divorce after marrying a wrong person. It's better to date people and breakup if it's not working out and then only marry the right person. There are lots of cases where people go for arranged marriage without much time or thought because everything else is okay and then later on in their life they meet someone they are really in love with when they move to a different country or different job , then they will go for a divorce which is right for them but their partner has spent a lot of time and investment into this relationship and the loss they feel is unbearable.
@@reenujose4937 it takes time to understand people and figure out if they are the right person for you. It may take 6 months or 1-2 years to fully understand a person. It takes a lot of trial and error to get better at finding the person who is the closest to being the perfect person for you. If you don't have any personal experience and knowledge about choosing people and getting into relationships , how would you be able to choose the right person when you have finally reached the point where you have to choose a partner for life.
@@reenujose4937 it takes time to understand people and figure out if they are the right person for you. It may take 6 months or 1-2 years to fully understand a person. It takes a lot of trial and error to get better at finding the person who is the closest to being the perfect person for you. If you don't have any personal experience and knowledge about choosing people and getting into relationships , how would you be able to choose the right person when you have finally reached the point where you have to choose a partner for life.
@@reenujose4937 it takes time to understand people and figure out if they are the right person for you. It may take 6 months or 1-2 years or more to fully understand a person. It takes a lot of trial and error and experience for a somebody to get better at finding the person who is the closest to being the perfect person for them.
Loved it, as a malayali girl who married from Tinder, having friends and family going through the troubles of matrimonial sites, I can resonate with the points you have wonderfully elaborated on. Love to see a Malayali woman confidently speak on these matters and critically analysing media, culture and discourse. Iniyum nalla nalla videos poratte. All the best!
@@ZestyBestie01 married with benefits, Is that's what you mean? Please don't normalize tinder and other hook up apps in india especially kerala. We have matrimony apps for marriages. Tinder is only for degenerates and to have pre martial sex
Throughout the video i was saying "exactly" whenever you mention a strong point. Hats off to you. You just shared a lot of valid undebatable points here. I have been observing all my friends and family in this regard, and as I advocate for the freedom/independence of girls in the marriage decision making and the marital life.
Living together for minimum a year is the best practical way to make sure about each other before marrying. Divorce is way more expensive and traumatizing .
Yes please do that and if she rejects you after that then only a low life woman will get married to you coz nobody likes to marry a man who is used and thrown away by another woman
I totally agree with your podcast content . Im married for 12 years now . If i had known to think this way about marriage commitment i would have taken better decision 😊
iam 39 male and iam very proud to be being un married single iam straight no smoking no liquor no drugs no relationship ( Iam never tried) and body builder and successful intraday nifty50 option buyer (trader) trading is my profession my bread&butter
Great brother I am also thinking about not to get married.. Indian laws are the main reasson for me only downside for me is i like kids.. I read about surrogacy in many countries that permits singel men to have child... Seriously thinking about it... Sex is overrated... Visted most of the brothels in amsterdam, germany and thailand..
@@anandu.s6886don't worry bro... We will create One Word One Government after 2030. After that things get back to normal. You will get rights to do surrogacy.
സത്യം പറയാല്ലോ, marriage കഴിഞ്ഞുള്ള എന്റെ ലൈഫ് കണ്ടും കേട്ടും അറിഞ്ഞും എന്റെ അനിയത്തി തൊട്ട്, എന്റെ frnds, നാട്ടിലെ പെൺകുട്ടികൾ എല്ലാവർക്കും കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ പേടിയായി, ചിലർ വേണ്ടാന്നു പറയുന്നു ചിലർ പിന്നെയാവട്ടെ എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞ് ഒഴിഞ്ഞുമാറുന്നു😔😔
Girls are getting wiser They are not ready to jump into well that parents show They are more socially mentally and economically independent most of them have atleast college love relationship or during that time hence they are experienced and have basic idea of boys mentality Most of the girls are committed hence less number of girls present for arranged marriage or have past traumatic experience or heard about others experience They have more autonomy over their life than before which is good
We can't help much. We have to admit there has been some violent masculine men in history who have exploited women. In fact in many families, one can find older men treating their wives like servants but loving their daughters like princesess. In a healthy family, a husband should treat his wife like a queen, and a wife should treat her husband like a king. However this doesn't happen in reality in many families. And then some moviemakers took the initiative to make gory movies (Great Indian Kitchen) on this topic. The problem has been blown out of proportion and is ruining lives. However only time will account for the devastated lives.
You are absolutely right. You are not like other men who blame women for this issue. Same thing happened his western countries First men oppressed women which made women become educated, independent, and self sufficient then there was a major incease in divorce cases. Like Indian men they didn't learn from mistakes they blame women for being self sufficient, they complaint about responsibility(don't want to pay alimony or child support when they don't want to raise the kids themself). After some point they thought laws were favoring women so they started new idea to get rid of alimony ,living together .When a child is involved mother's would take care of children they can move on only paying child support. Then women started realizing they are being used and started not having kids because they don't want to take responsibility alone which will affect their career and finance. Now western world is full of old women complaining about their son's being alone after they leave this world. Middle age alone in the world because their kids were with their girl friends. low birth rate since young woman don't want children. Man are really suffering from loneliness, depression. Women are happier compare to men. This is going to happen in India also.
@@sram5308 Oh dear you have not grasped the essence of my comment. You seem to be taking sides in a feminist versus masculinity fight. I don't see such a fight. I view it as some opportunistic people fighting others. When humanity lived in jungle among ferocious animals, the women needed the security of men. Now with advancement of technology we have a civilized and secured world. Now some women want to assert themselves over men. Please try to understand my perspective through the way nature has created the masculine and feminine nature in humans. When women who are supposed to enhance their feminine qualities by nature tend to do the opposite, that is to enhance her masculine qualities by imitating male activities and occupations, she is no more a woman but a man. The world wars not only killed people but they killed tradition and cultures too. When Americans had shortage of workers in their munitions factory they employed women. That's the birth of feminism in the world. The competition between sexes was born that time. Very rapidly women got opportunities in various jobs and they along with media have been celebrating it as breaking "male bastions". I certainly see it as a breakage of a peaceful family life. The family system earlier consisted of a provider (the man) and the nurturer or career (the woman). The task was divided as per the natural physical traits of masculine dominance (in men) and feminine qualities (in women). However, today it's all confusing. And nobody is doing a good job. We have invited more problems than solutions with this pro - feminist society. Has anyone noticed the number of girls who committed suicide for failing in exams or jobs? Does anyone care about those men who supported their wives' career getting betrayed later in various parts of India? There are some fake women toppers in many competitive exams too. But our media is ever ready to motivate a woman just because they were born a "woman". Not because they had any genuine talent for a specific job. Again men are being harassed for no fault with fake rape charges, fake dowry charges. Thanks to our defunct parliament and courts, such rape accusing women have their identities well protected. Among all of this, we also have a wonderful example of a feminine woman, like Sudha Murthy, who despite being highly qualified, chose to focus on her roles of a wife and mother, and let her husband Mr. Narayana Murthy become the provider for her family. They did not have any ego clashes like many couples.
@@abhilashkrishnan1693what you wrote is toxic masculinity. History was written by men so of course they will portray women as needing men for security. If men didn’t fight amongst themselves maybe women didn’t need to be protected. Men went to hunt and provide because women were home looking after and raising their offspring. Men ould have sat at home and did it. Who is to say they didn’t? We don’t know what happened in history. When you say media uplifting and encouraging a person just because of their gender you need to analyze why. It the patriarchy that led to this. As far as I am concerned, as a woman myself I don’t need anyone to tell me what I can or I can’t do and that all I need. But men want to decide what I want or not want. Want to marry or not, bear a child or not, to work or not. If a man can decide these things why can’t a woman?
@@usaif2761nothing will happen. people who choose to live a bachelor life think better of their old age and plan well for it too. He will be okay with his share of assets and a retirement plan. It is not necessary to marry to overcome your old age fear. That’s not the aim of marriage and he can change his mind ,if he meet someone who him finds cool.
@@anandupsasi7660 avarde vijaaram anpiller ellam mrg cheyyan mitti nadakkenn ennann... Chila kaat kozhikalum oru slef respect um illathavatighalum ind pinne mrg cheyyaan vendi mtrm jeevikkunne jeevithathil vere oru lakshyaghalumillathe oru achievements um vendathe fools... Avatighal mtrm ann mutti nadakunnath... Baki illa ella men and women um right person ne kittiyal mtramme mrg cheyyallo... Both genders num ith oru velye vishayam thanne ann
I thinks gays or bisexuals arre increasing kerala too...pinne 27 kazhinja ellarum kettune....so youth aayirikumbo sex control cheyyan pattunnathu kondu aarkum angane sexual life venam ennum illa!porn undalli enna minnd aa!
@@Itsme-s7qtrue 💯 ആണായാലും പെണ്ണായാലും സ്വന്തം ആഗ്രഹങ്ങൾക്ക് നമ്മൾ അറിഞ്ഞുകൊണ്ട് ഇടുന്ന വിലങ്ങുതടിയാണ് വിവാഹം എന്നാണ് എനിക്ക് തോന്നിയിട്ടുള്ളത്. നമ്മൾക്ക് അറിയാത്ത ഒരാൾ പെട്ടെന്ന് ജീവിതത്തിലേക്ക് കേറി വന്ന് നമ്മുടെ എല്ലാ കാര്യങ്ങളിലും ഇടപെടുന്നതും അഭിപ്രായം പറയുന്നതും ഒന്നും ചിന്തിക്കാൻ പോലും വയ്യ.
Atleast in Western nations many dint marry but still have casual relationships and partners. India doesn't even have that, so most are sexless, loveless @@Itsme-s7q
I didnt expect this video to be this good. Lovely video! i liked the way you explained , i like how clear your thoughts are. You said it so calmly. I'm looking forward to watch your other videos :)
I m an asexual or ace. Inspite of utmost pressure, I didn't marry.I treat males as friendly brothers. My best friends are all males only. They too ope up & give me max support. Hail my msle friends 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
Gentsനിടയിലും വിവാഹത്തിന് താൽപര്യക്കുറവുണ്ട്. അത് സ്ത്രീകളിൽ മാത്രം കാണുന്ന ഒന്നല്ല. എല്ലാ കാര്യങ്ങളിലും ഇന്നത്തെ ജനറേഷൻ വ്യത്യസ്തമാണ്. Even politically. സ്കൂളിൽ പഠിക്കുന്ന കാലത്ത് sfi എന്നൊക്കെ കേൾക്കുമ്പോ തന്നെ ഒരു ആവേശം കുട്ടികൾക്കിടയിൽ ഉണ്ടാകുമായിരുന്നു. Today's generation dont care about any of these. ഈ രാഷ്ട്രീയ സംഘടനകൾ ഒക്കെ തന്നെ ഒരു Existential crisis വൈകാതെ അനുഭവിക്കും. പല കോഴ്‌സുകളിലും സീറ്റുകൾ ഒഴിഞ്ഞുകിടക്കുന്നു, പല ഡിഗ്രി കോഴ്സുകളും പഠിക്കാൻ ഭാവിയിൽ ആളില്ലാതെയാകും. Whether we notice or not A big shift is happening right now in front of us.
Oru kanakkinu nalllath alle. Rashtreeyathinte peril pillerude vettum kuthum kurayille. But yes, political sense venam.. Not so much as to kill or injure others.
Hey very sensible monologue. Much appreciated.... As a person, your genuine concern to your listeners oozes out. High quality person and content. Keep doing it. Thank you.
ഒരു ആൺകുട്ടി എന്ന നിലയിൽ എനിക്കും ഭയമാണ്. കേരളത്തിലെ കുടുംബങ്ങളിൽ ഭൂരിപക്ഷവും DYSFUNCTIONAL ആണ്. പരമ്പരാഗത ആശയങ്ങൾ മുഴുവൻ ആണിൻ്റെ മണ്ടയിൽ "ആൺകുട്ടി" അല്ലേ എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞു കെട്ടി വെക്കാൻ എല്ലാവർക്കും അറിയാം. കുടുംബങ്ങൾ മരുമകൻ അല്ലെങ്കിൽ ആൺകുട്ടി എന്ന നിലയിൽ എൻ്റെ മകൾക്കും ഞങ്ങൾക്കും സമൂഹത്തിൻ്റെ മുമ്പിൽ പൊങ്ങച്ചം കാണിക്കാൻ എന്തൊക്കെയാണ് കൊണ്ടുവരുന്നത് എന്ന് പ്രതീക്ഷിച്ചു തന്നെയാണ് മകളെ വിവാഹം ആലോചിക്കുമ്പോൾ ആഗ്രഹിക്കാറ്. മറിച്ച് അവര് ഒരു കുടുംബം തുടങ്ങി ജീവിക്കട്ടെ എന്നൊന്നും ഭൂരിഭാഗം മാതാപിതാക്കളും ആഗ്രഹിക്കില്ല. വിവാഹം കഴിഞ്ഞാൽ കുടുംബത്തിൻ്റെ ഒരു ഏജൻ്റ് ആയി ഭർത്താവിനെ കൺട്രോൾ ചെയ്യാൻ മാത്രമാണ് ശേഷം ഭാര്യയാകുന്ന പെൺകുട്ടികൾ ശ്രമിക്കുക. മാതാപിതാക്കൾ കൺട്രോൾ ചെയ്തു വളർത്തിയ പെൺകുട്ടി ആണെങ്കിൽ ആ കുട്ടിക്ക് ഭാവിയിൽ ഉണ്ടായേക്കാവുന്ന എല്ലാ മാനസ്സിക പ്രശനങ്ങളുടെയും ഉത്തരവാദി psychology എന്താണ് എന്ന് അറിയാത്ത ഭർത്താവ് ആയി മാറാനും സാധ്യത ഉണ്ട് .
True. Most, if not all families are dysfunctional. The Malayalee culture and ideologies are dysfunctional to start with. Patriarchal, suppression of women, shaming, egoism, comparison, interference and plenty more. How can anyone be functional in such a culture?
Satyam as a girl njanum experienced aan.pedi karanam njan proposal ellam reject cheyum. But npd aaya boys boundaries break cheythu kond eppozhum varum.enthenkilum athya vasa gattathil avare help sweekarichal pinne athinte peril pidichu thoongi varum.pine mattullavarude aduth ninn control cheyth isolate aakum.njan evide poyaalum avid npd men undakum avare reject cheythal full rumours enikkethire.girls friends aanenkilum same npd aya girl over possessive ayi control cheyyum .avarum same ee npd men nte same character. Anganathe girlsumsexualy abuse cheyyum valuthakumbol npd boys um sexually harassment cheyyum.but kamabranthiyaya girl ne alla peru dosham undavuka victim ne ane.ee nalla boys vare bad girlsne eppozhum support. Fake maskinte maravil avar bad boynte koode ayirikum.but bad guys only want their body and they want to live with good girls😢
എനിക്ക് ഒന്നേ പറയാൻ ഉള്ളു.... ഒരു ജീവിതമേ ഉള്ളു അത് ആസ്വദിച്ചു ജീവിക്കുക.... വിവേക പുർവ്വം തീരുമാനങ്ങൾ എടുക്കുക... അത്രേയുള്ളൂ..... മനുഷ്യൻഒന്നും ഒന്നും അല്ല.. എന്ന് മനസിലാക്കുക.... Ok bye...
മനുഷ്യൻ ഒന്നും അല്ലാതെ ആവുന്നത് ഏത് അളവ്കോൽ വച്ച് അളക്കുമ്പോഴാണ്. അതോ #ദൈവം എന്ന #മിത്ത് മായാവി ആണോ വലുത്🙊 മനുഷ്യർ ഉണ്ടാക്കിയെടുത്ത പ്രകടമായ പുരോഗമനമാണ് ഇ ലോകത്തെ തന്നെ കാര്യക്ഷമമായി മുന്നോട്ട് നയിക്കുന്നത് അല്ലാതെ ദൈവത്തിന്റെ #തള്ള് കഥകളാൽ സമ്പുഷ്ട്ടമായ #ഔധാര്യങ്ങളിലൂടേയല്ല🥥
കൂടെ പഠിച്ചതും ജൂനിയർ ആയിട്ട് പഠിച്ച പല പെൺപിള്ളേരും 18 - 24 വയസ് ഒക്കെ ആയപ്പോഴേക്കും കല്യാണം കഴിച്ചു. ഇപ്പോൾ അതിൽ കുറച്ചു പേര് ഡിവോഴ്സ്ഡ് ആയിനിക്കുന്നു, കുറച്ച് പേര് ഡിവോഴ്സ് ആവാൻ നിൽക്കുന്നു, വേറെ കുറെ പേര് അഡ്ജസ്റ്റ് ചയ്തു ജീവിക്കുന്നു ഇവരിൽ പലരും financially stable ആണ്. Am 25 yrs old unmarried women കല്യാണം കഴിഞ്ഞ ആൾക്കാർ പറയുന്നത് ഒരിക്കലും കല്യാണം കഴിക്കരുത് അല്ലെങ്കിൽ ജോലി ആയിട്ട് കല്യാണം കഴിച്ചാൽ മതി എന്നതാണ്. I think marriage nn പറയുന്നത് adjust ചയ്തു ജീവിക്കേണ്ട്ത് അല്ലല്ലോ, നമ്മുടെ വീട്ടിലെ പ്രായം ആയവർ പറയുന്നത് എല്ലാം തികഞ്ഞ ആരേം കിട്ടിയില്ല അഡ്ജസ്റ്റ് ചയ്തു പോണം എന്നതാണ് ന്ത്‌ nonsense aanu ഇവർ പറയുന്നത് എന്ന് പലപ്പോളും തോന്നിയിട്ടുണ്ട്. കല്യാണം കഴിക്കുന്നത് ഡിവോഴ്സ് ആവാൻ വേണ്ടി അല്ലല്ലോ ഇപ്പോൾ ഇതൊക്കെ നോർമിലിസ് ചെയ്ത് തുടങ്ങി ങ്കിലും ഇത് വലിയ ഒരു പേടി തന്നെയാണ്.
As a man aged 27, marriage is definitely not something I want either. Even if I were to be so desirous, I'll definitely won't be marrying from India. The courts and laws are so absurdly against men in the name of women's protection that it's frankly a risky business. The issues women faces are very much real but the solutions introduced for them by our system is ridiculous and frankly unhelpful for women themselves. If the partner isn't who you thought they were and the relationship goes south, woman can ,atleast on paper, rely on a powerful system to fall back on to act in their best interest. But, for men, it's not only the person they get involved with they have to be worried about. It's the awful system too. Thankfully, there is more to life than marriage and raising a family as unpopular that may sound for many.
@@hummingleaves3120 This is not true. It's changing fast in US in favor of men. Alimony is being awarded equally and proportionally based on income. Child custody is, by default now considered for shared custody. Women are paying child support almost as much as men if they're not the primary custodian of children. This was different a decade back. I'm in the US and this is the experience of my friends and colleagues.
Ofcourse.. I'm afraid to get married because of news , what if he demands for dowry , or he become jealous and kill me🤢. . so why risk my life when I can live it fullest by myself 😇I'm 33 yr and i don't think being single is that bad..
സത്യം പറഞ്ഞാൽ ഭയമാണ്.. The way women of my place is treated.. Horrible.. എന്റെ ഒരു പത്തു വയസ്സുവരെ ഉണ്ടാപ്ലേറ്റിൽ കൈകഴുകിപ്പോവുന്ന ആണുങ്ങളെയാണ് കണ്ടിരിക്കുന്നത്..ഇന്നും കഴിച്ച പ്ലേറ്റ് അടുക്കളയിൽ കൊണ്ടുവയ്ക്കുന്നത് കണ്ടിട്ടില്ല..പിരിയഡ്‌സ് സമയത്ത് അസ്സഹനീയമായ വയർവേദനയിലും അയാൽ പോലും ആണുങ്ങൾക്ക് മുന്നിൽ കൊണ്ടുവയ്ക്കുന്ന ചോറ് ലേശം കരിഞ്ഞുപോയാൽ മുഖംചുള്ക്കി എഴുന്നേറ്റുപോവുന്ന എത്രപേർ.. കുടുംബത്തിലെ ആണുങ്ങൾ സ്ത്രീകളെ മനസ്സുതുറന്നു സ്നേഹിച്ചിട്ടുണ്ടോ എന്ന് സംശയമാണ്.. പറഞ്ഞാൽ ഇവിടെ തീരില്ല...... Everyday i realize those women deserved much better.. Oru mathiri narssissic mentaluity ulla oru koottam purushanmar.... Aanayath kond mathram sthree-bharyayum makalum adakki nirthanamennu agrahikkunnavar.. Narssissic personality aanathennullath pinnedanu manasilayath.. Kanduvalarnnathil mikkavarum anganethanne....jeevitham aa sthreekalepole ayalo ennu bhayannu oru pranayathinupolum muthirnnittilla.. Ini athin kazhiyukayum illa.. Nale orupakshe veetilnnu vivahathinu nirbhandhichalum "NO" ennu shakthamayi thanne parayum..(this is not against men nor i am a toxic feminist but how the happenings of childhood shape us our future)
As a male എനിക്കും same opinion ആണ്. Most of them ഈ പറഞ്ഞ narcissistic ആണ്. എനിക്ക് girls നെയാണ് boys നെ ക്കാൾ trust ഉള്ളത്. Enjoy enjoy ഇത് മാത്രമാണ് മജോറിറ്റി പുരുഷൻമാരുടെയും motto
One reason I think girls average age for marriage is move up and men's still the old (a littile bit up). Average guys think 4-5 years gap and they didn't have enough choices due to this
Njn oru 26 year old men ann.. Enikk mrg cheyyuka ennath velye thalpparym onnum illa but old aavumbo thanichavolo ennoorkumbol mrg cheyunnathann nallath ennum thonnum but oru chaaya kudi bendhathil ninno metromonie polulla online vazhyo enikk ottum thalparymilla entr lifel ath valare natural aay sambhavikkatte ennan... Pinne orupaad aduth ariyunna oraal aavanam kurach athikam naalathe parijayam indaavanam... Ente oru frnd ind avan 8th class muthal snehicha orale ann mrg chythath avar thammil nalle bond ann... Enik aa samayath oru relationship start aakiya mathiyaarnnu enn thonni ith vare lifel aarem love chyyane thonniitilla enikk patiya orale kandilla atha pinne crush okke 3,4 ennam indayind ath onnum krymilla athin onnum long life illa divassaghal mthramme indayittallo pinne sobhaavam arinjappo impression poyi... Ente concept enn paranjaal baghi alla.... Emotional connection ann athaan njn nokkunnath bcs ente life il physically and mentally oru women mtrm indavallo ath njn thirumanicha krym alla maanasikamaay padachon enne aghane set aaki vechekunne... Athkond thanne njn arelem snehikunnundenkil avare mrg cheyyan patum avar lifelong kude ente partner aay indaavum enunekille pranayikkallo athond ann ithvare pranayamillayrnnath...eni prayich nadakkan onnum illa mood illa athinte time okke kaznju eni ente lifel oru mrg indenkil ippozhum same ann.. Lifelong kude indavumm enn urapundenkile cheyyallo bcs vaapa nem umma nem replace chyyan patulla ennath pole thanne ente life le women um ath oraal thanne aayirikkum athum enikk same irreplaceable relation ann... ente vaapa umma family, life partner thudaghiya ella relation lum emotionally connected ann so enikk ithil arelem nashttapeda enn paranjaal chindikkane patilla.... Pinne ippo enikk life orupaad achievements nedaanulla hardwork il ann athinte idayil mrg cheyythaal ente goals ellam break aavum so athelaam neditte athine pati aloykallo... Appozhekkum naattukaarum kodumbakkarum okke parayum kandille avan mrg cheyynnilla avan entho problem ind... Dr kanikkanam ... Avan oru guy ann..... Ee vivaram kettavatighalkk ariyilallo ... Manushyarkk shareerika thalllapryaghal mtrm alla maanasika thalpparyghalum indennullath. ... Sontham krym nokkaathe aarante krym nokunne Ee chori jandukkal okke ennelum vamshanaasham sambhavikkum enna pratheekashayil nirthunnu...
Aiyyo brother 26 is such a young age, no worries at all... Ishtam pole samayam ille.. Pinne premicha aale mrg cheyyanam nirbandham onnum illa. Example, you start a relationship with a woman, pinne ningal thammil cherunnilla enn manasilakkiyal break up aavunnathil oru thettum illa. Rand perum ok aanel mrg chyam. Good things take time. Insha Allah you'll get good partner 👍
Nmmde naatil ninn okke kettunnath ee kaalath risk..aa pne ee kaalath oru aan marriage cheyyanel pala kaaryangalum sacrifice cheyyendi varum including self respect. Ee kaalath ividunn okke kettanel chelapo penninte Bestie ku vare chelavinu kodukkendi varum.😂 Also nmml virgin aanel ath pole ulla pennine kittaanum pattulla avrde past okke accept cheyyendi varum at the end of the day alimony de peril 🏡🚗💵 ellam adichond povanum chance ond. So ippo thanne thante peril ulla assets okke valla trust funds inte peril ezhthi vecho. Ellel ittekunna 🩳 vare vallavalummarum kond povum. Also oraale select cheyyumbo avrde past anveshichirikkanam. Nmml preference vekkaan thodangiya palarkum kuru pottum nere thirich pennungalk ethr venelum demand vekkam😂
Just a request bro. Bro parangu old avumbo thanich ayalon orthapo kalyanam cheythalo enn thonnunnu en. It doesn't work like that. Don't marry anyone cause you are scared to be lonely. Get married only if you want to be a good partner
To your thumbnail.....not only in Kerala.....it is happening all over the 🌍 globe...so Kerala the old life of forced marriage is no more ....girls are free forever....in security of modern machine
Belive me. That is not the reason at all😂 Every women who are not asecual wants to be married, but it is the society they see around them that put them in fear.
I grew up in Bangalore and my way of thinking is very different from people who grew up in Kerala. I made a mistake of marrying a girl from Kerala with whom i was not compatible. It ended in a divorce. My advice to anyone who grew up outside Kerala is not to marry anyone who was born and brought up in Kerala. It applies to both genders. Girls from Kerala can marry boys from Kerala. If possible, don't marry at all. 😉
From my personal experience, men are at greater risk in marriage than women in Kerala. In cases of disputes, it often seems that the woman and her family manipulate the situation, causing significant difficulties for the man and his family. Therefore, I advise Kerala men to consider marrying outside of Kerala, as marrying a Kerala woman can be a very serious decision. With all due respect, this does not apply to all women, but it appears to be true for many in Kerala.
24yr girl എനിക്ക് ഇഷ്ടം ഉള്ള ആരെ വേണേലും കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ ഉള്ള അനുമതി തന്നിട്ടുണ്ട് parents(but as soon as) എന്നാൽ എനിക്കിപ്പോ കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ യാതൊരു planum ഇല്ല എന്നുള്ളതാണ്(I have many dreams athan ഇപ്പൊ എനിക്ക് ചെയ്യാനുള്ളത്) അതുകൊണ്ട് തന്നെ ആളെ കണ്ടു പിടിക്കാനും എനിക്ക് vayya 🤣 So ഇപ്പൊ വീട്ടുകാർ എനിക്ക് കല്യാണം നോക്കുന്നു 10 minute സംസാരം കൊണ്ട് എങ്ങനെ ഒരാളെ മനസിലാക്കും എന്ന് യാതൊരു ഐഡിയയും ഇല്ല NB::ഞാൻ കല്യാണത്തിനോ family life നോ ethironnuum അല്ല but കല്യാണത്തിന് ഒരാളുടെ ലൈഫിൽ എത്ര സ്വാധീനം ഉണ്ടെന്ന് നല്ല ബോദ്യം എനിക്ക് ഉണ്ട് അത് കൊണ്ട് തന്നെ lyf ഇലെ അത്ര important ആയ കാര്യം ചെയ്യുമ്പോ അത്രയും ishtaappett, ഇഷ്ടമുള്ള ആളെ കല്യാണ കഴിക്കാണം എന്നുണ്ട് എനിക്ക് (ലൈഫിൽ അങ്ങനെ ഒരാളെ കണ്ടു മുട്ടുമ്പോ മാത്രം no rush)അല്ലാണ്ട് ബാക്കി ഉള്ളവരുടെ pressure കാരണം കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ എനിക്ക് താല്പര്യം ílla
njan kalyanm kazhichitt 2 years kazhinju. ipo 32 vayas aayi. kalyanm kazhikunathinu munp ee paranja pala pediyum enikkum undaayirunnu athukond kurach planning oke chaith aanu kalyanm kazhichath. I am happy with my married life 🙂. Engagement kazhinj atleast oru 6 months time gap itt kalyanam kazhikuka, initial days il samsarikumpo thanne maximum ningalude thoughts and expectations share cheyaan sramikuka. athupole partner enthaanu aagrahikunath ennum manasilaakuka. oru impression undaakan false promise veruthe kodukaathirikuka
@@sudheeshs8694 bro enne samnathichadatholam arranged marriage okke risk aa nengl nengle patti thurann prnjenn vech opposite nikkunna aal ath pole aavanam ennillallo like arranged marriage il pennungal kooduthalum backup plan aaitt aan kettunnath Eg: already ulla relationship ne kaal Better aaitulla aalinte alochana vannapo kettum allel BF breakup cheytha aduth alochanakk ninn koduthum
@@Here_we_go..557 mann! You are a spoiled kid! Grow up ttoo. Your comments in this videos is bit horrible at this era. If you are a 80’s born, then its ok- bcoz that gen cant be changed. But you are born after 90’ then its so hopeless! You are also one of the reasons for those girls to get afraid of .
The truth is that all matured persons will comes this point of view as she said after an rejection in his/her life....truely said chechi ....❤❤.true love never exist in long life.....😢😢😢 Eni njn ente oru life story parayam...njn ente college il koode ore class il padikkunna oru penn kuttiye propose cheythu...and i got rejection..annu njn arrum kanthe ente kootukarupolum kanathe ente roomil ethiyathinu shesham njn kore karanju obviously like the all boy true lovers....even though still i loves her in my dreams and i accepted that...njn pakshe aa rejection enna traumayil ninnu thirrichu verran korrachu padupettu...now iam okay...sambavichathum nalathinu sambavikkan pokkunnathum nalathinu...pakshe avale enikku class il kanumbol pediyanu karanam njn avale propose cheythathukonde avalkk ennodulla njngal athiyam kanda samaythulla friends enna attittude il ninnum avalkk enne kanumbol veruppane athukonde njn avale athra disturb cheyarrila...pinne njn avalode enthukaryavum samadanathonde samsarikkan poyal (pandathe propose cheytha karangal alla tto class il assignment works ne pati...)avalkk ennode puchavum oru dheshyam pidicha attitudum ane pinne enikku cheriya thonda idarrchalum verum.idk y🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️....but even though still i loves her njn pandatha karyangalonnum samarikkan pokkarumila..because ethoru true lover um vicharikkum avanavan premikkun kamukki samdhanathodeyum santhoshathodeyum jeevikanam ennu...🥰🥰🥰🥰..karanam njn aval athra athikkam snehikkunnu.....pakshe enne oru friend enna nilayilangilum ennengilum kanum ennu prathikshikkunnu.....karanam athinu shesham njangal thammil ippol pandathe pole friends circle talks onnum ila...🥺🥺🥺🥺 Pakshe Ithinu shesham ane njn humanity enthanennum avanavante vyakthithuvam enthananum...pinne ente kuravukkal enthokkeyennum jeevitham eniyum jeevichu theerkkanundennum engane nammude samayam productive aakkamennum okke njn padichath.......athinu lots of thanks to her...😇😇🥰🥰enikku avalode ippozhum ishttam mathrame ullu...pinne ente look kandal oru penu polum premikkan verula ennulathu njn vyikiyanu manassilakkiyath karanm njn oru skelet ayyittula person ane soundariyavum ila... Pinne njn athiyavisyam kannunna chilarudeyokke human psychology sredhikkunayall ane....enikku urrappane aval mikkavarum ella nalla jeevitham agrahikkunna penkuttikale pole a well financially settled ayyittulla chechi paranja pole a well educated alle mathrame premikkan chance ullu....😔😔😔
Bro, almost all men are like you… I am in my late 40s now but you explained what I went through in my college days too. To be honest, most of us went through this. Keep these 2 things close to your heart at all times and you will be fine.. “This too shall pass” “What didn’t kill you made you stronger”
In all marriages you don't get a companian. In some marriages you get a rival and in some you get a typical enemy and in some you get adoubting Thomas, especially when its a so called late marriages
I want to adopt 2 children and give them a beautiful family. Athente cheruppam muthalulla oru dream aanu. But ee karyam agree cheyyunna oru aaleyum njn kanditt illa Ithvare .Somewhere enna pole chindikkunna oralundavum ennu karuthunnu.
You are me. Enikku marriage chindhikkan polum vayya. But oru mother aakanam. I decided not to go for a marriage after 3 relationships I had. I am not good with maintaining those relationships. Ente familyil achanum ammayum thammilulla toxic aaya marriage kandu valarnnathu enne vallandu affect cheythittund. But I realised enikku kittikale valya ishtamaanu. Pattumengil njan oru kuttiye eduthu valarthum. Nalloru ammayaayum. Infact a good parent.
Your views are comprehensive from all angles & from both partners' sides. Good Talk. You seem to be well educated. By the way, (after viewing ur next video), your friend's comment abt ur hairstyle is wrong... your hair looks good in this video... 😅
Pinne...... goals polum, muslims girls nu avarude career um quality of life um ennu parayunna karyam undh ennu manasilakitte 10-15 yrs ayittullu. Ennittum athu achieve cheyyan avarkku kazhinjilla. Avar anu innathe ammamaar. Ippo ullu girls avarude rights manasilakki careerum avar achieve cheyyan thudangiyapol anu ithe presnam muslim Community um address cheyya thudangiyathu. So muslim Community il mattam kondhu vannathu muslim pennungal thanne. Avar iniyum suffer cheyy thayyaralla ennu mathamelaalanmaar manasilakki kazhinju. So thangal Whatsapp University irunnu parivaarathinthe narratives kelkkathe purathirangi manushyarodu samsarikku.
ചേച്ചി current scenarioയിൽ Girls look important കൊടുക്കുമോ 🥺ഞാൻ below avg look ആണ് പല തരത്തിൽ ഉള്ള bullieng and shamming കിട്ടിയത് കൊണ്ട് ഗേൾസിനോട് മിണ്ടാൻ തന്നെ പേടിയാണ്, അത്പോലെ ഒരുപാട് inferiority complex ക്സും 😕
late to the party.but as two people who need to share the same bed for years, to check on bedroom habits is a must. A friend of mine in love marriage had so much trouble because of this. The husband wants AC at 17 degree celcius, she cant sleep at that temperature, she needs to use toilet many times in the night due to this. She wakes up easily when there is noise or movements but he is a heavy sleeper and he moves around all the time and she is disturbed. Both of them are miserable. They cant sleep in the same room. You may think what a silly excuse. But when this happens every day,it is not a small problem. Other than this not much of a problem compatibility wise but they are divorced now.
ഈ ആണുങ്ങൾ മാത്രം social media യിൽ കിടന്നു പെണ്ണ് കിട്ടുന്നില്ല എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞു കരയുന്നത് എന്തിനാ എന്ന് എനിക്ക് മനസ്സിലാകുന്നില്ല 😂. വെറുതെ എന്നെ പോലുള്ള വരെ യും കൂടി നാണം കെടുത്താൻ 🤣. ഇവമ്മർക്കു ഇങ്ങനെ കരഞ്ഞാൽ പെണ്ണ് കിട്ടുവോ. കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാതെ ഇരുന്നാൽ എന്ത് വരാൻ ആണ്. ആ ക്യാഷ് ഇന് അടിച്ച് പൊളിക്ക്
@@braveheart_1027 bro ഇവമ്മാർ ഇങ്ങനെ കിടന്നു കരയുന്നത് കൊണ്ടാണ് ഒഎണ്ണുങ്ങൾ ഇത്ര ഡിമാൻഡ് കാണിക്കുന്നത്. നമ്മൾ mind ചെയ്യാതെ ഇരുന്നാൽ ഇവരുടെ ഡിമാൻഡ് അങ്ങ് ഇടിയും. പറ്റുന്നവർ കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാതെ ഇരിക്കുക. ഇപ്പോഴത്തെ നിയമം എക്കെ അറിയാല്ലോ. ഒരു കള്ള case മതി നമ്മൾ ജീവിതത്തിൽ ഉണ്ടാക്കിയത് എല്ലാം എഴുതികൊടുക്കാൻ
@@braveheart_1027 ഉടായിപ്പു കൾക് പെണ്ണ് കിട്ടും കാരണം അവന്മാർക്ക് അറിയാം വളക്കാൻ. പെണ്ണുങ്ങൾ വേഗം അവമ്മാരുടെ അടുത്ത് വീഴുകയും ചെയ്യും. ഞാൻ പറഞ്ഞത് പെണ്ണ് ഇല്ലാ എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞു ആൺ വർഗ്ഗത്തിനെ നാട്ടിക്കുന്നവമ്മാരെ ആണ്
ഏതു കാര്യവും നല്ല ബോധത്തോടെ വേണം എന്നത് നല്ലത് തന്നെ. പ്രധാനം സ്വന്തം തീരുമാനങ്ങൾ നന്നായാലും മോശമായാലും അതിന്റെ കുറ്റവും കുറവും സ്വയം ഏറ്റെടുക്കുക അതാണ് പ്രധാനം. അങ്ങിനെയാകുമ്പോൾ മാതാപിതാക്കളുടെ ആകുലത നന്നായി കുറയും. 😄
Every aspect of life has good and bad, now-a-days due to social/media explosion it has become difficult to identify. Hence the following would be ideal, especially for marriage 1) keep it simple. 2) analyse oneself and find clarity in what is required by you because you know the truth of your circumstances and ground realities to be understood. 3) do not fall for 'trending' & phobias etc ( created by elitist/feminists etc.) They get engaged in higher goals - single/married. Incidentally these feminists cannot suggest a solution for fighting (mother/daughter-in-laws) 4) Have patience to tackle the problems. Adjustments/compromises are inevitable in any relationship, especially marriage, only one has to decide on the level. Whether one is single or married there will be problems. Also after dating etc., too problems can arise after marriage. Hence no solutions are foolproof, destiny too matters. Live in present, now-a-days girls are dominating and have freedom not lesser than boys. Hence maturity is not the problem. Divorces are done impulsively for trivial matters. This is also due to misconception of liberalism and families (bride/groom) competition for superiority. The families (parents & siblings) exist till marriage ceremony thereafter it is individuals. Opinions of feminists, progressive and celebrities - the trendsetters. Preconditioning and extreme expectations without knowing the ground realities of life. The decision of children not to marry or having children has severly affected average middle-class. They are suffering silently.
Liivng with NPD spouse for years, helpless as children are at a vulnerable age, also no job alone in a foreign country, adjustment how long?? Why this suffering?
@@neetu4444 once the children grows up, the situation will change then there are options . Meanwhile take some time every day for our own happiness,like hearing music ,hearing some motivational speeches etc.
Marriage no longer make sense actually. Marriage is for raising family. If you don't have time or situation to raise a family it is better to not get married. Marriage becoming more and more of a legal trap. It will become hard to escape for both partners. Women stay married just because they don't wanna go through the legal hassle. On the the other side men are worried by about alimony and maintenance.
What this woman says is not entirely true. She says of parents meeting boys for matches without the knowledge of the daughter is false. Parents always sounds out their daughters about a prospective groom.
@SetofTwo Pretty good talk lady . I had Heard in full . Well presented. What's your opinion about people emphasis on enjoy life and self love ? I know these qualities are essential but I wonder where it's limit lies ? Is it unlimited? Can be happy always? Isn't life a mix of emotions and accepting each moments ? Isnt it life finding what truly us are ? What's your opinion?
I ventured into making a video on a topic that's a bit out of my comfort zone. What are your thoughts? Are there other topics you'd like to see covered in our podcasts or videos?
Great video. Supported by well rounded facts rather than ideology. I knew this video will be worth watching the moment you pointed out the matrimony survey done by the news channel is simply data and not a peer reviewed paper. Good job
Why this misleading title?
If you respect women in Kerala. Change ur title to "women in kerala reject marriage "
Educated women in kerala realized they are utilized and used via indian marriage system. So they are awake and bold to take this decision.
Women who take this decision is beyond fear. So why are u saying afraid. There is no fear here. Typical men are raised to mistreat women. Women no longer want to consciously go through this.
@eagles Bulls eye. You women are doing great job for us(MEN & MGTOW). Kudos.
Very nice video. Adyavayitanu real concerns from both sides kelkkunnath. Great job.
@@SetofTwo loved it. High time we see Malayali women cover such relevant social commentary topics. I have subscribed to see more of this.
ഞാനും കുട്ടിയെ പോലെ ആണ് വിവാഹം കഴിക്കാൻ താല്പര്യം ഇല്ലായിരുന്നു മെയിൻ കാരണം ഞാൻ നല്ല സ്വാതന്ത്ര്യതോടെ സ്വന്തം കാലിൽ നിന്നു ജീവിക്കുന്ന ആൾ ആരുന്നു. ..വിവാഹത്തോടെ പൊതുവെ സ്ത്രീകൾ ഒരു വേലക്കാരി റോൾ ഇൽ എത്തുന്നതാണ് കണ്ടിരുന്നത്. ..അത് എനിക്ക് പറ്റില്ലാരുന്നു. ..ഒരു ഭർത്താവിനെ അല്ല ജീവിതപങ്കാളിയെ ആയിരുന്നു. എനിക്ക് വേണ്ടത്. .36 വയസിൽ ആണ് ഒരാളെ കണ്ടെത്തി വിവാഹം കഴിച്ചത്. .മാട്രിമോണി യിൽ നിന്നു തന്നെ. .ഞാൻ ആണ് എന്റെ പ്രൊഫൈൽ set ചെയ്തത്. .പുള്ളി പുള്ളിടെയും. .എന്റെ terms നു അനുസരിച്ചു തന്നെ ആണ് ആളും എന്ന് മനസ്സിലായി 6 മാസം സംസാരിച്ചു വിവാഹം കഴിച്ച്. ..ഞങ്ങൾ US ഇൽ ആണ്. .6 വർഷം ആയി സുഖായി ഇരിക്കുന്നു 😊
Verum 6 months oo...?😂
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@@Here_we_go..557 Even within minutes we can identify a person .I got a proposal from my uncles friend's relatives son. They came to see me within minutes i figured out he is narcissist .Family was good and my parents like them but I rejected the proposal. After that i got blank call from some numbers and then it changed to a abusive language i changed my number it stopped. I had doubts about him. Later i came to know he got married and divorced his wife remarried and have issue with second wife and his second wife filed domestic violence case against him.
@@Here_we_go..557 randuper thammil understanding undavan 6 months thanne mathi.. baaki ellam aa relationship inodulla avarde dedication anusarich irikum.. avar thammil understanding undayirunnu athanne🤷🏻♀️
@@aavi. Enikk thonunnilla athum pennungale mnslakaan nalla paada. Pala kaaryangalum hide cheythavum palarum kettunnath. Nthokke nokiyalum arranged marriage il oru transparency kaanilla rand side il ninnum risk kaanum.
No marriage No tension No responsibility . Peace full life
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MGTOW 💫
@@ExploringAngel ?
വളരെ accidental ആയിട്ട് കണ്ട വീഡിയോ ആണ് ഇത്. ഒരുപാട് കാര്യങ്ങൾ മനസിലായി. Marriage നോട്‌ ഒരു fear ഇപ്പോൾ boys നും ഉണ്ട്. അല്ലേൽ താല്പര്യ കുറവ്. എനിക്ക് 32 ആയി. എന്തോ ആളുകൾ ചോദിക്കും എങ്കിലും ഓഹ് വേണ്ട എന്ന ഒരു mind ഇൽ ആണ് ഞാൻ.പിന്നെ ഭാവിയിൽ വരുന്നത് വരുന്നിടത്തു വെച്ച് കാണാം. പൊതുവെ ആളുകൾ പറയുന്നത് കുറെ age ആയി കഴിയുമ്പോൾ കൂട്ടിന് ആര് കാണും. നമ്മൾ ഇപ്പോൾ marriage ചെയ്യുന്ന ആൾ lifelong നമ്മുടെ കൂടെ കാണും എന്നതിന് എന്ത് ഉറപ്പാണ് ഉള്ളത്. Sigle life സുഖം ആണ് ഒരു പരിധിവരെ.... I love it... ❤️
I am 35 still solo
Well, basically, women are afraid that marriage will take away their freedom and force them to be an unpaid maid at another house and men on the other hand are afraid of dealing with the biased laws that come into play with regards to marriage...
Yes the "becoming a maid" mentality happens in households of older generation men who treated his wife like a servant but treats his daughter like princess.
@@abhilashkrishnan1693 True... The fact that that mentality is still being promoted thru TV serials and shows is proof of the fact that most people still subscribe to that kind of thinking...
Even people with high profile job end up as a wife abuser thinking wife as a maid who need not be given money for her job but get all service without him being involved.just a tag is only needed as a wife for the other person to be with others.
@@AnoopKammaranits not limited to serials brother.. Its still a reality in many households...
@@confused_one_ I didn't say it was limited to serials... What I said is that such content is so widely used in serials and other tv shows because its so popular and accepted by most which is a reflection of their own mindset... Otherwise, they the creators of those shows wouldn't bother...
Good Effort. Thanks ❤
Thank you 😇
കണ്ട് പഠിക്ക്, ഇങ്ങനെ ആണ് unbiased ആയി video ചെയ്യേണ്ടത്, അല്ലാതെ നിങ്ങൾ ചേച്ചിപെണ്ണിനെ views കിട്ടാൻ ചെയ്യുന്നപോലെ അല്ല
ഇത്രേം sensible ആയി ഈ topic ൽ വേറെ video കണ്ടിട്ടില്ല, good content 👍👍
Thank you 😇
കൂടെ പഠിച്ചവരിൽ gents married ആയി. Women majority unmarried ആയിട്ട് തുടരുന്നു. താൽപര്യം ഉളളവർ കഴിക്കട്ടെ. NPD ഉള്ള family യിൽ ജീവിച്ച കൊണ്ട് marriage നോടു വിരക്തി ഉണ്ട്. പിന്നെ കരിയർ gap ഉൾകൊള്ളാൻ തോന്നുന്നില്ല
Same...
What do you mean by NPD?
@@sandeepks777 narcissistic personality disorder.
NPD - Narcissistic personality Disorder @@sandeepks777
അതെന്താ അവർ ആണുങ്ങളെ ആണോ കെട്ടിയത്?
Yes , women are treated as house maids after marriage , telling from my experience.
No Married women project herself as house maid it is not maid type lifestyle it is about house manager or house queen if you have better income or status.Single life may be traumatic due to selfish self centered & toxic society or may be soft target of Anti social & Anti feminist lobby...
May be thinking as queens in the house without any job, but those ladies are saying that they treated as home maid, joking team
@@augustintravelguide4484പുറത്ത് ജോലിക്ക് പോകുന്ന സ്ത്രീകൾക്ക് വീട്ടിൽ വന്നാലും പട്ടി പണി എടുത്ത് നടു ഒടിയും😂😂😂
പെൺകുട്ടികൾ മാത്രമല്ല, അൺകുട്ടികൾക്കും വല്യ താൽപര്യം ഇല്ല.ഞാൻ ഒരു അവിവാഹിതനാണ് , തരക്കേടില്ലാത്ത ജോലിയുണ്ട് ബാംഗ്ലൂരിൽ ആണ്. ഒറ്റക്ക് ജീവിക്കാൻ തുടങ്ങിയിട്ട് 15 വർഷം ആയി. എൻ്റെ ഫ്ലാറ്റിലെ എല്ലാ ജോലിയും ഞാൻ തന്നെ ചെയ്യുന്നു.
അതു കൊണ്ട് തന്നെ ഒരു പെൺകുട്ടി എൻ്റെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ വന്നു ഇനി എന്തെങ്കിലും മാറ്റം ഉണ്ടാകുമെന്ന് എനിക്ക് തോന്നാറില്ല.
കാരണം എൻ്റെ ജീവിതത്തിൽ ഞാൻ പൂർണ തൃപ്തനാണ്.
അതു കൊണ്ട് പെൺകുട്ടികളോട് പറയാൻ ഉള്ളത് ആദ്യം ജോലി നോക്കുക. എന്നിട്ട് കല്യാണം വേണമെങ്കിൽ മാത്രം😂😂😂.
സ്വന്തം കാലിൽ നിൽക്കാൻ പറ്റണം.അതിനു ഒരു ജോലി അത്യാവശ്യം ,അതാണ് നമ്മുടെ ലക്ഷ്യം.
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താത്പര്യം ഇല്ലാതെ വിവാഹം കഴിച്ച് കുട്ടികൾ ഉണ്ടാക്കി അവരുടെ ജീവിതവും കുട്ടിച്ചോറാക്കണ്ട
Poocha sir stole the show, needs to have a seperate podcast with poocha sir😅🎉
അവനവനു കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ തോന്നുന്നില്ലെങ്കിൽ കഴിക്കരുത്.. വീട്ടുകാർ, കൂട്ടുകാർ, നാട്ടുകാർ എല്ലാരും കൂടി " കഴിക്കെടാ..മാര്യേജ് ഒന്നും ആയില്ലേ.. നിനക്ക് വേണ്ടി ഞാൻ പെണ്ണ് അന്വേഷിക്കണോ?, എന്താ നിന്റെ പ്രശ്നം, എപ്പോഴാ ചെലവ്, എന്നൊക്ക ചോദിച്ചോണ്ടേ ഇരിക്കും.. ഒരു കാരണവശാലും വീണു pokaruthu..
It's not interest ...it's fear of failure!
എനിക് 27 yrs aayi and kurach നാൾ ആയി ഒരു companion venam എന്ന് from the depth I feel. And want to make it wonderful. Also try to communicate your problems to your partner before getting married and after the connection is made. Because if it is meant to end it will! So there is no need of going into marriage and then causing alot of problems .
Chelavarod communicate cheyumbo “its ok” ennoke parayum pinneed adh paranja aalthanne thrinj kuthum. 😢apo thonum onum parayandayirnnu enn. Aarem vishwasikan patilla. Parayunna pole alla pravarthi. Nalonam thallunna alkar ind.but thalalum pongachom mathrm ollu avr nere opposite ayirkum pravarthikka. Enit soyam nalla manushyanum nammalokke bad ayi chithreegarikum
@@Reveus_e yeh that's true ..but in my case I think like I shoudnt be a burden for some others life 😊
@@Reveus_e are you married?
Pedikkenda mone ketti nokk nee regret cheyym
Married at 26 to a man i knew for7+ years from school that too interfaith wedding..& now 27 and living separated..planning for mutual divorce! I saw a totally different man after marriage who was faking a progressive ideology towards life all years before marriage! I was fooled🥱 feels like there is no guarantee with dating maybe its all masked which will fall after marriage like once they win u!😊
Your comment scares me 😢 how can someone be pretentious for 7 long years?
@@keerthynair5961if basic character is flawed,then there is no use in dating and getting to know each other. 2 perum nalla genuine & civilized human beings aanengil mathre nalla bandham undakkan kazhiyu. Ethra years aayi ariyam ,familiar aan ennullathil karyamilla, because after marriage or relationship, people take things for granted and treat like nothing if they are not genuine. Civilized behaviour and genuine character ith 2 um onnich ulla oraaninem kanan kittilla keralathil. Naturally romantic feelings will fade ,but still character genuine aanel avar snehich loyal aayi munnot kond povum. Ingane ullavar malayali kalil kurav aan.
@@anu7982ഈ നഗ്ന സത്യം മനസിലാക്കി കെട്ടാതിരിക്കുന്ന ഞാൻ. പിന്നെം എലൈറ്റ് സെറ്റിങ്ങിസിൽ കൊർച്ചൂടെ പ്രോഗ്രസീവ് ബോധം റിയൽ ജീവിതത്തിൽ കൊണ്ടു പോകുന്നവരുണ്ടെന്ന് തോന്നിയിട്ടുണ്ട്. പക്ഷെ ഇക്കണോമിക്കലി അങ്ങനെയൊരു സെറ്റിങ്ങ്സിൽ അല്ലാത്തോണ്ട് ആ സ്കോപ്പില്ല.മരുന്നിന് പോലും നല്ലൊരു പുരുഷനെ കണ്ടിട്ടില്ല. എനിക്ക് കാണുമെന്ന് പ്രതീക്ഷയൊന്നും തോന്നുന്നില്ല. വിദേശിയെ വല്ലോം നോക്കണ്ടി വരുമെന്ന് ഞാൻ എപ്പളും പറയും.
You were staying with him only or with his parents too after marriage?
Whenever i hear about marriage something clumps in my neck……i don’t know why iam feeling so terrified…but i know THIS frightens me to the core🥴
Seek help from a Psychologist 😊
Because you are very realistic. You don't want a deadlock and you know that. Keep away from marriage especially to Kerala men!
@@xpulse_machan6581 Thanthaykku pirakkathavante thantha vili kettappozhe manassilaayi, theere violent alla ennu.🤣
Athu kondanu ----monee, Kerala pennungal odi raksha pedunnathu! 🏃🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️
Not all marriages are fearful. It all depends upon the readiness to accept
Same
Hi
If marriage worked for some, it doesn't mean it will work for others.
NPD is a major issue in most of the families.
3rd person entering between a couple especially parents or siblings and fear of losing their own son to their daughter in law
As if it won't happen other way.. what I seen is (esp with my cousins) most girls are keyed 'toys' .. and parents key them... interfere in couples and live off them...
I personally don't pay my mother for her expense, she manages herself.. I seen my cousins paying monthly sum to their welloff parents..
@@rules436 that too can happen.
@@rules436y can't daughters pay to their parents when the sons can do the same to his parents?
@@SpringPetrichor-et8sq When said relative has lakhs laying in bank, and earning interest.. asking monthly amt to son in alw is bit odd.. boys parent is a pensioner , so same don't apply other side.
I believe , if you have given all to your kids it's the responsibility of kids to take care, but if you hold on and enjoy the ancestral property, then you should take care of yourself..
@@rules436 1) not from son in law but from their daughter. Or do u mean married woman can't be financially independent or financially independent married woman's money will be considered as 'son in law's by default?
2) whether pensioner or crorepati, if a son can pay to his parents his wife can pay to her parents. If u have that much problem with she being from rich family ur son shouldnt hav married from rich family in the first place.
3) It's pathetic that Some parents ( parents of sons) act like they planted and grew some d1ck only to marry rich girls whom they expect to support their family but not her's bcz they are useless & couldn't earn as much as the girls' family. Inshort leeching off other's hardwork. Such ppl r no different from theives or prostitutes at least the latter give something from her side unlike such parents.
One other big problem is because dating and falling in love is generally discouraged by society , for a lot of people the first relationship they are in is probably going to be their marriage , that makes it extremely difficult to understand what exactly do you want from a partner and what are definite no's and what are negotiable . They have kids relatively quickly and by the time they realise themselves , their needs and their partners properly it might have become a decade . Then going for a divorce in that situation becomes difficult if the relationship isn't abusive or toxic and they just give up and accept this life . That becomes primary ground for affairs and extra marital relationships , especially since its more easy to live double lives these days.
To be fair, dating is a dirty waste of time too.
@@reenujose4937it takes time to understand people , dating is a process where you can spend time trying to figure out if this is the right person for you. Marriage has a lot of legal and social implications and it becomes very difficult to divorce after marrying a wrong person. It's better to date people and breakup if it's not working out and then only marry the right person. There are lots of cases where people go for arranged marriage without much time or thought because everything else is okay and then later on in their life they meet someone they are really in love with when they move to a different country or different job , then they will go for a divorce which is right for them but their partner has spent a lot of time and investment into this relationship and the loss they feel is unbearable.
@@reenujose4937 it takes time to understand people and figure out if they are the right person for you. It may take 6 months or 1-2 years to fully understand a person. It takes a lot of trial and error to get better at finding the person who is the closest to being the perfect person for you. If you don't have any personal experience and knowledge about choosing people and getting into relationships , how would you be able to choose the right person when you have finally reached the point where you have to choose a partner for life.
@@reenujose4937 it takes time to understand people and figure out if they are the right person for you. It may take 6 months or 1-2 years to fully understand a person. It takes a lot of trial and error to get better at finding the person who is the closest to being the perfect person for you. If you don't have any personal experience and knowledge about choosing people and getting into relationships , how would you be able to choose the right person when you have finally reached the point where you have to choose a partner for life.
@@reenujose4937 it takes time to understand people and figure out if they are the right person for you. It may take 6 months or 1-2 years or more to fully understand a person. It takes a lot of trial and error and experience for a somebody to get better at finding the person who is the closest to being the perfect person for them.
Finally. Someone really did talk about actual reasons.
Loved it, as a malayali girl who married from Tinder, having friends and family going through the troubles of matrimonial sites, I can resonate with the points you have wonderfully elaborated on. Love to see a Malayali woman confidently speak on these matters and critically analysing media, culture and discourse. Iniyum nalla nalla videos poratte. All the best!
@@ZestyBestie01 ruclips.net/video/ChDcuF8FjPk/видео.htmlsi=Rv7SUQuxrYZP4aa6
Tinder😂 the hookup site?
@@XwwXr there’s all kinds of people there. If up to you how you use it. We have many friends also who are happily married through tinder.
@@ZestyBestie01 married with benefits, Is that's what you mean? Please don't normalize tinder and other hook up apps in india especially kerala. We have matrimony apps for marriages. Tinder is only for degenerates and to have pre martial sex
@@ZestyBestie01 i know it's a personal question and i shouldn't ask but how many ex boyfriend have you got?
ഈ ഒരു issue ൻ്റെ different aspects clear ആയി explain ചെയ്തു. Loved it.
Throughout the video i was saying "exactly" whenever you mention a strong point. Hats off to you. You just shared a lot of valid undebatable points here. I have been observing all my friends and family in this regard, and as I advocate for the freedom/independence of girls in the marriage decision making and the marital life.
Living together for minimum a year is the best practical way to make sure about each other before marrying. Divorce is way more expensive and traumatizing .
Yes please do that and if she rejects you after that then only a low life woman will get married to you coz nobody likes to marry a man who is used and thrown away by another woman
True
I totally agree with your podcast content . Im married for 12 years now . If i had known to think this way about marriage commitment i would have taken better decision 😊
iam 39 male and iam very proud to be being un married single
iam straight
no smoking
no liquor
no drugs
no relationship ( Iam never tried)
and body builder
and successful intraday nifty50 option buyer (trader) trading is my profession my bread&butter
Trading is not a Job. 😂
@@BabaV2000
Maybe its not a cup of tea to you
For me its my profession
@@BabaV2000maybe his profit will be double of your salary .😏
Great brother
I am also thinking about not to get married.. Indian laws are the main reasson for me
only downside for me is i like kids.. I read about surrogacy in many countries that permits singel men to have child...
Seriously thinking about it...
Sex is overrated... Visted most of the brothels in amsterdam, germany and thailand..
@@anandu.s6886don't worry bro... We will create One Word One Government after 2030. After that things get back to normal. You will get rights to do surrogacy.
സത്യം പറയാല്ലോ, marriage കഴിഞ്ഞുള്ള എന്റെ ലൈഫ് കണ്ടും കേട്ടും അറിഞ്ഞും എന്റെ അനിയത്തി തൊട്ട്, എന്റെ frnds, നാട്ടിലെ പെൺകുട്ടികൾ എല്ലാവർക്കും കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ പേടിയായി, ചിലർ വേണ്ടാന്നു പറയുന്നു ചിലർ പിന്നെയാവട്ടെ എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞ് ഒഴിഞ്ഞുമാറുന്നു😔😔
Well said 🎉🎉🎉. actually പേടി എന്നതിനേക്കാൾ എന്തു കൊണ്ട് പെൺകുട്ടികൾക്ക് interest ഇല്ല എന്നത് correct...❤❤❤❤
Girls are getting wiser
They are not ready to jump into well that parents show
They are more socially mentally and economically independent
most of them have atleast college love relationship or during that time hence they are experienced and have basic idea of boys mentality
Most of the girls are committed hence less number of girls present for arranged marriage or have past traumatic experience or heard about others experience
They have more autonomy over their life than before which is good
We can't help much. We have to admit there has been some violent masculine men in history who have exploited women. In fact in many families, one can find older men treating their wives like servants but loving their daughters like princesess. In a healthy family, a husband should treat his wife like a queen, and a wife should treat her husband like a king. However this doesn't happen in reality in many families. And then some moviemakers took the initiative to make gory movies (Great Indian Kitchen) on this topic. The problem has been blown out of proportion and is ruining lives. However only time will account for the devastated lives.
You are absolutely right. You are not like other men who blame women for this issue. Same thing happened his western countries First men oppressed women which made women become educated, independent, and self sufficient then there was a major incease in divorce cases. Like Indian men they didn't learn from mistakes they blame women for being self sufficient, they complaint about responsibility(don't want to pay alimony or child support when they don't want to raise the kids themself). After some point they thought laws were favoring women so they started new idea to get rid of alimony ,living together .When a child is involved mother's would take care of children they can move on only paying child support. Then women started realizing they are being used and started not having kids because they don't want to take responsibility alone which will affect their career and finance. Now western world is full of old women complaining about their son's being alone after they leave this world. Middle age alone in the world because their kids were with their girl friends. low birth rate since young woman don't want children. Man are really suffering from loneliness, depression. Women are happier compare to men. This is going to happen in India also.
@@sram5308 Oh dear you have not grasped the essence of my comment.
You seem to be taking sides in a feminist versus masculinity fight. I don't see such a fight. I view it as some opportunistic people fighting others. When humanity lived in jungle among ferocious animals, the women needed the security of men. Now with advancement of technology we have a civilized and secured world. Now some women want to assert themselves over men.
Please try to understand my perspective through the way nature has created the masculine and feminine nature in humans. When women who are supposed to enhance their feminine qualities by nature tend to do the opposite, that is to enhance her masculine qualities by imitating male activities and occupations, she is no more a woman but a man.
The world wars not only killed people but they killed tradition and cultures too. When Americans had shortage of workers in their munitions factory they employed women. That's the birth of feminism in the world. The competition between sexes was born that time.
Very rapidly women got opportunities in various jobs and they along with media have been celebrating it as breaking "male bastions".
I certainly see it as a breakage of a peaceful family life. The family system earlier consisted of a provider (the man) and the nurturer or career (the woman). The task was divided as per the natural physical traits of masculine dominance (in men) and feminine qualities (in women).
However, today it's all confusing. And nobody is doing a good job. We have invited more problems than solutions with this pro - feminist society. Has anyone noticed the number of girls who committed suicide for failing in exams or jobs? Does anyone care about those men who supported their wives' career getting betrayed later in various parts of India? There are some fake women toppers in many competitive exams too. But our media is ever ready to motivate a woman just because they were born a "woman". Not because they had any genuine talent for a specific job. Again men are being harassed for no fault with fake rape charges, fake dowry charges. Thanks to our defunct parliament and courts, such rape accusing women have their identities well protected.
Among all of this, we also have a wonderful example of a feminine woman, like Sudha Murthy, who despite being highly qualified, chose to focus on her roles of a wife and mother, and let her husband Mr. Narayana Murthy become the provider for her family. They did not have any ego clashes like many couples.
@@abhilashkrishnan1693what you wrote is toxic masculinity. History was written by men so of course they will portray women as needing men for security. If men didn’t fight amongst themselves maybe women didn’t need to be protected. Men went to hunt and provide because women were home looking after and raising their offspring. Men ould have sat at home and did it. Who is to say they didn’t? We don’t know what happened in history.
When you say media uplifting and encouraging a person just because of their gender you need to analyze why. It the patriarchy that led to this. As far as I am concerned, as a woman myself I don’t need anyone to tell me what I can or I can’t do and that all I need. But men want to decide what I want or not want. Want to marry or not, bear a child or not, to work or not. If a man can decide these things why can’t a woman?
For middle class men and lower class men this age of time will be tough.
Nice... Male here... 33.... Govt Banker... Enjoying n loving single life ❤
Wait for old age🌝
@@usaif2761 yup... Waiting💋
@@usaif2761 yup.. Waiting 💋
@@usaif2761 Waiting happily🤭
@@usaif2761nothing will happen. people who choose to live a bachelor life think better of their old age and plan well for it too. He will be okay with his share of assets and a retirement plan. It is not necessary to marry to overcome your old age fear. That’s not the aim of marriage and he can change his mind ,if he meet someone who him finds cool.
പെണ്ണുങ്ങൾക്ക് മാത്രം അല്ല
ആണ്പിള്ളേര്ക്കും intrst കുറഞ്ഞു വരുന്നുണ്ടേ ✌🏻😅
@@anandupsasi7660 avarde vijaaram anpiller ellam mrg cheyyan mitti nadakkenn ennann... Chila kaat kozhikalum oru slef respect um illathavatighalum ind pinne mrg cheyyaan vendi mtrm jeevikkunne jeevithathil vere oru lakshyaghalumillathe oru achievements um vendathe fools... Avatighal mtrm ann mutti nadakunnath... Baki illa ella men and women um right person ne kittiyal mtramme mrg cheyyallo... Both genders num ith oru velye vishayam thanne ann
@@Itsme-s7qyeah... But financially independant aaya purushanmarudeym sthreekaldem mathram list eduthal athil marriage nod thalparya kurav kanikkunnath kudutalum sthreekal aayirikkum... Purushanu main aayitt kudumba bharam ( financial )mathram nokkiyal mathiyallo ennoru target manasil kand vivaham kazhkkan thayar aakum palarum..task ulla karayngal may be purushanmar aakum kuduthal cheyunnath..ath kazhinj restum edukkam.... But pennugalk purushanmarekkal hard work kurnja karayngal aanu cheyunnath engil polum restless aayittulla multi tasking aannu palapozhum cheyndi varunnath.( athippo mikka veedukalilum joli illatha sthreekalde avastha athu thanne.. Appo joli kudi undengilo?).. Athoke kondum aanu kuduthalum pennugalk aanu epol marriage nod kuduthalum thalparya kurav ennu parayunnath
I thinks gays or bisexuals arre increasing kerala too...pinne 27 kazhinja ellarum kettune....so youth aayirikumbo sex control cheyyan pattunnathu kondu aarkum angane sexual life venam ennum illa!porn undalli enna minnd aa!
@@Itsme-s7qtrue 💯 ആണായാലും പെണ്ണായാലും സ്വന്തം ആഗ്രഹങ്ങൾക്ക് നമ്മൾ അറിഞ്ഞുകൊണ്ട് ഇടുന്ന വിലങ്ങുതടിയാണ് വിവാഹം എന്നാണ് എനിക്ക് തോന്നിയിട്ടുള്ളത്.
നമ്മൾക്ക് അറിയാത്ത ഒരാൾ പെട്ടെന്ന് ജീവിതത്തിലേക്ക് കേറി വന്ന് നമ്മുടെ എല്ലാ കാര്യങ്ങളിലും ഇടപെടുന്നതും അഭിപ്രായം പറയുന്നതും ഒന്നും ചിന്തിക്കാൻ പോലും വയ്യ.
Atleast in Western nations many dint marry but still have casual relationships and partners. India doesn't even have that, so most are sexless, loveless @@Itsme-s7q
I didnt expect this video to be this good. Lovely video! i liked the way you explained , i like how clear your thoughts are. You said it so calmly. I'm looking forward to watch your other videos :)
Nte oru tr kku 2 chechimar ind.. tr kku ippo 34+ age ind.. she's still a bachelor. Tr njngalde aduth paranjath chechimarde kalyanam kazhinj avrde life kandappo kalyanam vendann vechathann.. tr de sisters okke highly qualified aan.. athil oralkk after marriage career sacrifice cheyyendi vann.. tr ippozhum free bird aayitt ishtam ollath okke cheyth lyf njoy cheyyunnu..
I m an asexual or ace. Inspite of utmost pressure, I didn't marry.I treat males as friendly brothers. My best friends are all males only. They too ope up & give me max support. Hail my msle friends 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉
How beautifully u talked about these thingss ❤️❤️great job
Gentsനിടയിലും വിവാഹത്തിന് താൽപര്യക്കുറവുണ്ട്. അത് സ്ത്രീകളിൽ മാത്രം കാണുന്ന ഒന്നല്ല.
എല്ലാ കാര്യങ്ങളിലും ഇന്നത്തെ ജനറേഷൻ വ്യത്യസ്തമാണ്. Even politically. സ്കൂളിൽ പഠിക്കുന്ന കാലത്ത് sfi എന്നൊക്കെ കേൾക്കുമ്പോ തന്നെ ഒരു ആവേശം കുട്ടികൾക്കിടയിൽ ഉണ്ടാകുമായിരുന്നു. Today's generation dont care about any of these. ഈ രാഷ്ട്രീയ സംഘടനകൾ ഒക്കെ തന്നെ ഒരു Existential crisis വൈകാതെ അനുഭവിക്കും. പല കോഴ്‌സുകളിലും സീറ്റുകൾ ഒഴിഞ്ഞുകിടക്കുന്നു, പല ഡിഗ്രി കോഴ്സുകളും പഠിക്കാൻ ഭാവിയിൽ ആളില്ലാതെയാകും. Whether we notice or not A big shift is happening right now in front of us.
Oru kanakkinu nalllath alle. Rashtreeyathinte peril pillerude vettum kuthum kurayille. But yes, political sense venam.. Not so much as to kill or injure others.
Hey very sensible monologue. Much appreciated.... As a person, your genuine concern to your listeners oozes out. High quality person and content. Keep doing it. Thank you.
ഒരു ആൺകുട്ടി എന്ന നിലയിൽ എനിക്കും ഭയമാണ്. കേരളത്തിലെ കുടുംബങ്ങളിൽ ഭൂരിപക്ഷവും DYSFUNCTIONAL ആണ്. പരമ്പരാഗത ആശയങ്ങൾ മുഴുവൻ ആണിൻ്റെ മണ്ടയിൽ "ആൺകുട്ടി" അല്ലേ എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞു കെട്ടി വെക്കാൻ എല്ലാവർക്കും അറിയാം. കുടുംബങ്ങൾ മരുമകൻ അല്ലെങ്കിൽ ആൺകുട്ടി എന്ന നിലയിൽ എൻ്റെ മകൾക്കും ഞങ്ങൾക്കും സമൂഹത്തിൻ്റെ മുമ്പിൽ പൊങ്ങച്ചം കാണിക്കാൻ എന്തൊക്കെയാണ് കൊണ്ടുവരുന്നത് എന്ന് പ്രതീക്ഷിച്ചു തന്നെയാണ് മകളെ വിവാഹം ആലോചിക്കുമ്പോൾ ആഗ്രഹിക്കാറ്. മറിച്ച് അവര് ഒരു കുടുംബം തുടങ്ങി ജീവിക്കട്ടെ എന്നൊന്നും ഭൂരിഭാഗം മാതാപിതാക്കളും ആഗ്രഹിക്കില്ല. വിവാഹം കഴിഞ്ഞാൽ കുടുംബത്തിൻ്റെ ഒരു ഏജൻ്റ് ആയി ഭർത്താവിനെ കൺട്രോൾ ചെയ്യാൻ മാത്രമാണ് ശേഷം ഭാര്യയാകുന്ന പെൺകുട്ടികൾ ശ്രമിക്കുക. മാതാപിതാക്കൾ കൺട്രോൾ ചെയ്തു വളർത്തിയ പെൺകുട്ടി ആണെങ്കിൽ ആ കുട്ടിക്ക് ഭാവിയിൽ ഉണ്ടായേക്കാവുന്ന എല്ലാ മാനസ്സിക പ്രശനങ്ങളുടെയും ഉത്തരവാദി psychology എന്താണ് എന്ന് അറിയാത്ത ഭർത്താവ് ആയി മാറാനും സാധ്യത ഉണ്ട് .
True. Most, if not all families are dysfunctional. The Malayalee culture and ideologies are dysfunctional to start with. Patriarchal, suppression of women, shaming, egoism, comparison, interference and plenty more. How can anyone be functional in such a culture?
Athe kalyana shesham sadarana penninte veetil aaello thamasam, ath kond bharthavinte veetukar onnum couplesinte edayil interfere cheyyare ella,paavam chekkan,😢
Exactly!!!
@@mythoughts238 😬. ഇതിനെ പറ്റി ഒരു ബോധവുമില്ലാത്ത മനുഷ്യരെ ബഹുഭൂരിപക്ഷം ചുറ്റിനും കാണുമ്പോ തോന്നുന്ന ഒരു നിരാശ ഉണ്ട്
Satyam as a girl njanum experienced aan.pedi karanam njan proposal ellam reject cheyum. But npd aaya boys boundaries break cheythu kond eppozhum varum.enthenkilum athya vasa gattathil avare help sweekarichal pinne athinte peril pidichu thoongi varum.pine mattullavarude aduth ninn control cheyth isolate aakum.njan evide poyaalum avid npd men undakum avare reject cheythal full rumours enikkethire.girls friends aanenkilum same npd aya girl over possessive ayi control cheyyum .avarum same ee npd men nte same character. Anganathe girlsumsexualy abuse cheyyum valuthakumbol npd boys um sexually harassment cheyyum.but kamabranthiyaya girl ne alla peru dosham undavuka victim ne ane.ee nalla boys vare bad girlsne eppozhum support. Fake maskinte maravil avar bad boynte koode ayirikum.but bad guys only want their body and they want to live with good girls😢
എനിക്ക് ഒന്നേ പറയാൻ ഉള്ളു.... ഒരു ജീവിതമേ ഉള്ളു അത് ആസ്വദിച്ചു ജീവിക്കുക.... വിവേക പുർവ്വം തീരുമാനങ്ങൾ എടുക്കുക... അത്രേയുള്ളൂ..... മനുഷ്യൻഒന്നും ഒന്നും അല്ല.. എന്ന് മനസിലാക്കുക.... Ok bye...
മനുഷ്യൻ ഒന്നും അല്ലാതെ ആവുന്നത് ഏത് അളവ്കോൽ വച്ച് അളക്കുമ്പോഴാണ്.
അതോ #ദൈവം എന്ന #മിത്ത് മായാവി ആണോ വലുത്🙊
മനുഷ്യർ ഉണ്ടാക്കിയെടുത്ത പ്രകടമായ പുരോഗമനമാണ് ഇ ലോകത്തെ തന്നെ കാര്യക്ഷമമായി മുന്നോട്ട് നയിക്കുന്നത്
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ദൈവത്തിന്റെ #തള്ള് കഥകളാൽ സമ്പുഷ്ട്ടമായ #ഔധാര്യങ്ങളിലൂടേയല്ല🥥
@@advsuhailpa4443യുക്തിവാദം മൂത്ത് പ്രാന്തായാ
Valare mature aaya conversation piece inde compilation. Subscribed.
കൂടെ പഠിച്ചതും ജൂനിയർ ആയിട്ട് പഠിച്ച പല പെൺപിള്ളേരും 18 - 24 വയസ് ഒക്കെ ആയപ്പോഴേക്കും കല്യാണം കഴിച്ചു. ഇപ്പോൾ അതിൽ കുറച്ചു പേര് ഡിവോഴ്സ്ഡ് ആയിനിക്കുന്നു, കുറച്ച് പേര് ഡിവോഴ്സ് ആവാൻ നിൽക്കുന്നു, വേറെ കുറെ പേര് അഡ്ജസ്റ്റ് ചയ്തു ജീവിക്കുന്നു ഇവരിൽ പലരും financially stable ആണ്. Am 25 yrs old unmarried women കല്യാണം കഴിഞ്ഞ ആൾക്കാർ പറയുന്നത് ഒരിക്കലും കല്യാണം കഴിക്കരുത് അല്ലെങ്കിൽ ജോലി ആയിട്ട് കല്യാണം കഴിച്ചാൽ മതി എന്നതാണ്. I think marriage nn പറയുന്നത് adjust ചയ്തു ജീവിക്കേണ്ട്ത് അല്ലല്ലോ, നമ്മുടെ വീട്ടിലെ പ്രായം ആയവർ പറയുന്നത് എല്ലാം തികഞ്ഞ ആരേം കിട്ടിയില്ല അഡ്ജസ്റ്റ് ചയ്തു പോണം എന്നതാണ് ന്ത്‌ nonsense aanu ഇവർ പറയുന്നത് എന്ന് പലപ്പോളും തോന്നിയിട്ടുണ്ട്. കല്യാണം കഴിക്കുന്നത് ഡിവോഴ്സ് ആവാൻ വേണ്ടി അല്ലല്ലോ ഇപ്പോൾ ഇതൊക്കെ നോർമിലിസ് ചെയ്ത് തുടങ്ങി ങ്കിലും ഇത് വലിയ ഒരു പേടി തന്നെയാണ്.
Adjust ennu uddeshikkunnath slave avuka ennalla sisterey.... . improve ennanu manassilaakkendath😊 aarum onnum thikanjavar alla. Poraymakal ellarilum Und.. thiruthalukal vendidath ath cheyyanam. Iniyangottu maaraa rogangaludem apakadangaludem kaalam anu.. cherthu pidikkan aarum undaayal nallath. Illel rejshappedaan chance and hope undayittum athinu pattaathe aayi pogum. YOLO "you only lives once"
@@braveheart_1027ivde adjust chyaa enn vacha thallum vangich cheethayum kett nikkaa ennulathan. Agane narakich jeevikkano?
@@Dhyaam5989 2 aalum improve cheyyanam ennanu uddeshichath 🙄
@@braveheart_1027 adjust chyyuka enna theoretically um practically nadakunath randum randaan mister.
workplace il adjust cheyar ille?. bossinod opinion polum parayan pattatha alukal und.jobum um adjustment annu. behaviour oke adjustment annu.
Chechi വീണ്ടും തിരിച്ചു വന്നു 🎉🎉🎉 മൂവി, series recomendations എല്ലാം വേണം കട്ട വെയ്റ്റിംഗ് ആയിരുന്നു ❤
Your talk regarding the topic is very well.. keep going on..
I appreciate your attitude towards the view of your life.
Expect more such topics…
As a man aged 27, marriage is definitely not something I want either. Even if I were to be so desirous, I'll definitely won't be marrying from India. The courts and laws are so absurdly against men in the name of women's protection that it's frankly a risky business. The issues women faces are very much real but the solutions introduced for them by our system is ridiculous and frankly unhelpful for women themselves.
If the partner isn't who you thought they were and the relationship goes south, woman can ,atleast on paper, rely on a powerful system to fall back on to act in their best interest. But, for men, it's not only the person they get involved with they have to be worried about. It's the awful system too.
Thankfully, there is more to life than marriage and raising a family as unpopular that may sound for many.
You said it right!
All developed countries law favours women and there is a reason for it. But some people misuse the law.
@@hummingleaves3120 yeah 42 % some people 😂😂😂
@@hummingleaves3120 This is not true. It's changing fast in US in favor of men. Alimony is being awarded equally and proportionally based on income. Child custody is, by default now considered for shared custody. Women are paying child support almost as much as men if they're not the primary custodian of children. This was different a decade back. I'm in the US and this is the experience of my friends and colleagues.
@@eldojoseph8718 Single moms have certain benefits in the US and definitely women are free and more independent in those countries.
Ofcourse.. I'm afraid to get married because of news , what if he demands for dowry , or he become jealous and kill me🤢. . so why risk my life when I can live it fullest by myself 😇I'm 33 yr and i don't think being single is that bad..
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This was a wonderful pod cast. Enjoyed it thoroughly. The speaker knows what she is speaking. Hats off to you.
സത്യം പറഞ്ഞാൽ ഭയമാണ്.. The way women of my place is treated.. Horrible.. എന്റെ ഒരു പത്തു വയസ്സുവരെ ഉണ്ടാപ്ലേറ്റിൽ കൈകഴുകിപ്പോവുന്ന ആണുങ്ങളെയാണ് കണ്ടിരിക്കുന്നത്..ഇന്നും കഴിച്ച പ്ലേറ്റ് അടുക്കളയിൽ കൊണ്ടുവയ്ക്കുന്നത് കണ്ടിട്ടില്ല..പിരിയഡ്‌സ് സമയത്ത് അസ്സഹനീയമായ വയർവേദനയിലും അയാൽ പോലും ആണുങ്ങൾക്ക് മുന്നിൽ കൊണ്ടുവയ്ക്കുന്ന ചോറ് ലേശം കരിഞ്ഞുപോയാൽ മുഖംചുള്ക്കി എഴുന്നേറ്റുപോവുന്ന എത്രപേർ.. കുടുംബത്തിലെ ആണുങ്ങൾ സ്ത്രീകളെ മനസ്സുതുറന്നു സ്നേഹിച്ചിട്ടുണ്ടോ എന്ന് സംശയമാണ്.. പറഞ്ഞാൽ ഇവിടെ തീരില്ല...... Everyday i realize those women deserved much better.. Oru mathiri narssissic mentaluity ulla oru koottam purushanmar.... Aanayath kond mathram sthree-bharyayum makalum adakki nirthanamennu agrahikkunnavar.. Narssissic personality aanathennullath pinnedanu manasilayath.. Kanduvalarnnathil mikkavarum anganethanne....jeevitham aa sthreekalepole ayalo ennu bhayannu oru pranayathinupolum muthirnnittilla.. Ini athin kazhiyukayum illa.. Nale orupakshe veetilnnu vivahathinu nirbhandhichalum "NO" ennu shakthamayi thanne parayum..(this is not against men nor i am a toxic feminist but how the happenings of childhood shape us our future)
As a male എനിക്കും same opinion ആണ്. Most of them ഈ പറഞ്ഞ narcissistic ആണ്. എനിക്ക് girls നെയാണ് boys നെ ക്കാൾ trust ഉള്ളത്. Enjoy enjoy ഇത് മാത്രമാണ് മജോറിറ്റി പുരുഷൻമാരുടെയും motto
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Yes, you are right... Especially kuttikal, career, financial karyangal ellam discuss cheythitte pattumengil mathrame kalyanam kazhikkavu... 5 kuttikale valarthuka it's not easy... Entire life thanne matti vekkendi verum... Porathathin avark nalla education onnum kodukkan pattiyillengil ingane pillare unsakki avare bhudhimuttikkaruth... Pand 10 makkal ulla kadha velya ithil parayum... But avar poverty anubhavicharunnu jeeviche... Angane dharidryathil kond vann enthina naragippikkunnee... Mathravumalla Engane parayunna boys orikkalum kuttikale nokkanum pokunilla responsibility eettedumkarumilla wife athinte practical side paranjal angeekarich tharanum pokunilla.... Pinne enth paranjalum ente amma angane cheythu engane cheythu pandathe aalukal anganarunnu enn parayunna aalukale kalyanam kazhikkathathan better.... Bhakki karyangal oke valare advanced aan... Car, bike, phone, fridge, tv ellam use cheyyum... But sthreeyumayi bhendhapettoru karyam verumbo "pandathe kalam" enn paranj thudangum... Pandathe purushanmar innathe purushanmarepole aayirunno karyangal cheythirunnath... Allallo pinne enthin sthreekal mathram angane jeevikkanam enn evar vashi pidikkunnu... Pinne nalla orupad boysum und... Avark karyangal ariyam... Angane ullavar orikkalum ithupole samsarikkilla... They know their responsibility and they know how to resoect their wife and her opinion... Angane ullavare kalyanam kazhikkan shremikkukka... Illengil single aayi jeevikkunnatha nallath... Wrong partner will destroy you life😊
One reason I think girls average age for marriage is move up and men's still the old (a littile bit up). Average guys think 4-5 years gap and they didn't have enough choices due to this
Most guys are unmarried too mostly christian upper caste hindus😮😮😮
Not just an upper cast hindus, it's a problem in obc hindus too.
The communities in which the girls 'enjoy most freedom and are highly educated '.
OBC and Muslims usually athu thendi aaninum nalla padhipulla pennine kettichu kodukkan Oru medium illa penpiller familikku. @@baduya947
ആരും ഉയർന്നവനും thaaznnavanum അല്ല. ഓരോ മണ്ടന്മാർ
General category aanel india yil marry cheyyathirikkanu nallathu
Njn oru 26 year old men ann.. Enikk mrg cheyyuka ennath velye thalpparym onnum illa but old aavumbo thanichavolo ennoorkumbol mrg cheyunnathann nallath ennum thonnum but oru chaaya kudi bendhathil ninno metromonie polulla online vazhyo enikk ottum thalparymilla entr lifel ath valare natural aay sambhavikkatte ennan... Pinne orupaad aduth ariyunna oraal aavanam kurach athikam naalathe parijayam indaavanam... Ente oru frnd ind avan 8th class muthal snehicha orale ann mrg chythath avar thammil nalle bond ann... Enik aa samayath oru relationship start aakiya mathiyaarnnu enn thonni ith vare lifel aarem love chyyane thonniitilla enikk patiya orale kandilla atha pinne crush okke 3,4 ennam indayind ath onnum krymilla athin onnum long life illa divassaghal mthramme indayittallo pinne sobhaavam arinjappo impression poyi... Ente concept enn paranjaal baghi alla.... Emotional connection ann athaan njn nokkunnath bcs ente life il physically and mentally oru women mtrm indavallo ath njn thirumanicha krym alla maanasikamaay padachon enne aghane set aaki vechekunne... Athkond thanne njn arelem snehikunnundenkil avare mrg cheyyan patum avar lifelong kude ente partner aay indaavum enunekille pranayikkallo athond ann ithvare pranayamillayrnnath...eni prayich nadakkan onnum illa mood illa athinte time okke kaznju eni ente lifel oru mrg indenkil ippozhum same ann.. Lifelong kude indavumm enn urapundenkile cheyyallo bcs vaapa nem umma nem replace chyyan patulla ennath pole thanne ente life le women um ath oraal thanne aayirikkum athum enikk same irreplaceable relation ann... ente vaapa umma family, life partner thudaghiya ella relation lum emotionally connected ann so enikk ithil arelem nashttapeda enn paranjaal chindikkane patilla.... Pinne ippo enikk life orupaad achievements nedaanulla hardwork il ann athinte idayil mrg cheyythaal ente goals ellam break aavum so athelaam neditte athine pati aloykallo... Appozhekkum naattukaarum kodumbakkarum okke parayum kandille avan mrg cheyynnilla avan entho problem ind... Dr kanikkanam ...
Avan oru guy ann..... Ee vivaram kettavatighalkk ariyilallo ... Manushyarkk shareerika thalllapryaghal mtrm alla maanasika thalpparyghalum indennullath. ... Sontham krym nokkaathe aarante krym nokunne Ee chori jandukkal okke ennelum vamshanaasham sambhavikkum enna pratheekashayil nirthunnu...
Aiyyo brother 26 is such a young age, no worries at all... Ishtam pole samayam ille..
Pinne premicha aale mrg cheyyanam nirbandham onnum illa. Example, you start a relationship with a woman, pinne ningal thammil cherunnilla enn manasilakkiyal break up aavunnathil oru thettum illa. Rand perum ok aanel mrg chyam. Good things take time. Insha Allah you'll get good partner 👍
@@hridyawilson330 njn paranjath sherikkum vaayichille sister? 😊...anyway thank you for you care
@@Itsme-s7qwhat's your goal? Just curious to know.
Nmmde naatil ninn okke kettunnath ee kaalath risk..aa pne ee kaalath oru aan marriage cheyyanel pala kaaryangalum sacrifice cheyyendi varum including self respect. Ee kaalath ividunn okke kettanel chelapo penninte Bestie ku vare chelavinu kodukkendi varum.😂
Also nmml virgin aanel ath pole ulla pennine kittaanum pattulla avrde past okke accept cheyyendi varum at the end of the day alimony de peril 🏡🚗💵 ellam adichond povanum chance ond. So ippo thanne thante peril ulla assets okke valla trust funds inte peril ezhthi vecho. Ellel ittekunna 🩳 vare vallavalummarum kond povum.
Also oraale select cheyyumbo avrde past anveshichirikkanam.
Nmml preference vekkaan thodangiya palarkum kuru pottum nere thirich pennungalk ethr venelum demand vekkam😂
Just a request bro. Bro parangu old avumbo thanich ayalon orthapo kalyanam cheythalo enn thonnunnu en. It doesn't work like that. Don't marry anyone cause you are scared to be lonely. Get married only if you want to be a good partner
Love your thoughts ❤
A nice analysis on this topic..a very sensible talk and good presentation
Need more podcasts like this 🥰
Yes...girls are happy with mobile 📱 life.....bcz they literally have a world 🌎 in their hands.....
To your thumbnail.....not only in Kerala.....it is happening all over the 🌍 globe...so Kerala the old life of forced marriage is no more ....girls are free forever....in security of modern machine
Belive me. That is not the reason at all😂 Every women who are not asecual wants to be married, but it is the society they see around them that put them in fear.
Very well put and well presented. Mature way of thinking. All the Best for your success.
I grew up in Bangalore and my way of thinking is very different from people who grew up in Kerala. I made a mistake of marrying a girl from Kerala with whom i was not compatible. It ended in a divorce. My advice to anyone who grew up outside Kerala is not to marry anyone who was born and brought up in Kerala. It applies to both genders. Girls from Kerala can marry boys from Kerala.
If possible, don't marry at all. 😉
Deena - Very well articulated..a must see for those who plan to step their lives
Excellent points and very well presented!❤
Perfect analysis ❤
Just subscribed
Thank you for making this video. We need people like you to talk like this and educate our people. Please keep going.
People like me is not interesting to marry anyone so i think that unmarried life is very beautiful
Such an excellent video on this topic. Loved it ❤
Woow,it was a really wonderful content.Get to imbibe a lot of knowledge and wisdoms.Thank you
From my personal experience, men are at greater risk in marriage than women in Kerala. In cases of disputes, it often seems that the woman and her family manipulate the situation, causing significant difficulties for the man and his family. Therefore, I advise Kerala men to consider marrying outside of Kerala, as marrying a Kerala woman can be a very serious decision. With all due respect, this does not apply to all women, but it appears to be true for many in Kerala.
Yes really afraid of marriage..even though we'll educated and financially independent
Great thumnail! 👍🏽
Caught my attention!
Great topic in simple way of explanation 👍
Really sensible talk..
Very wise talk.👏👍
24yr girl എനിക്ക് ഇഷ്ടം ഉള്ള ആരെ വേണേലും കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ ഉള്ള അനുമതി തന്നിട്ടുണ്ട് parents(but as soon as)
എന്നാൽ എനിക്കിപ്പോ കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ യാതൊരു planum ഇല്ല എന്നുള്ളതാണ്(I have many dreams athan ഇപ്പൊ എനിക്ക് ചെയ്യാനുള്ളത്) അതുകൊണ്ട് തന്നെ ആളെ കണ്ടു പിടിക്കാനും എനിക്ക് vayya 🤣
So ഇപ്പൊ വീട്ടുകാർ എനിക്ക് കല്യാണം നോക്കുന്നു 10 minute സംസാരം കൊണ്ട് എങ്ങനെ ഒരാളെ മനസിലാക്കും എന്ന് യാതൊരു ഐഡിയയും ഇല്ല
NB::ഞാൻ കല്യാണത്തിനോ family life നോ ethironnuum അല്ല but കല്യാണത്തിന് ഒരാളുടെ ലൈഫിൽ എത്ര സ്വാധീനം ഉണ്ടെന്ന് നല്ല ബോദ്യം എനിക്ക് ഉണ്ട് അത് കൊണ്ട് തന്നെ lyf ഇലെ അത്ര important ആയ കാര്യം ചെയ്യുമ്പോ അത്രയും ishtaappett, ഇഷ്ടമുള്ള ആളെ കല്യാണ കഴിക്കാണം എന്നുണ്ട് എനിക്ക് (ലൈഫിൽ അങ്ങനെ ഒരാളെ കണ്ടു മുട്ടുമ്പോ മാത്രം no rush)അല്ലാണ്ട് ബാക്കി ഉള്ളവരുടെ pressure കാരണം കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാൻ എനിക്ക് താല്പര്യം ílla
Good massage
If you don't mind, may I ask you...
What is your age? At what age you got married?
njan kalyanm kazhichitt 2 years kazhinju. ipo 32 vayas aayi. kalyanm kazhikunathinu munp ee paranja pala pediyum enikkum undaayirunnu athukond kurach planning oke chaith aanu kalyanm kazhichath. I am happy with my married life 🙂. Engagement kazhinj atleast oru 6 months time gap itt kalyanam kazhikuka, initial days il samsarikumpo thanne maximum ningalude thoughts and expectations share cheyaan sramikuka. athupole partner enthaanu aagrahikunath ennum manasilaakuka. oru impression undaakan false promise veruthe kodukaathirikuka
Verum 6 months kond okke engne oraale manasilaakunne?
Athum arranged marriage il okke kooduthalum viswasikkan pattilla even nmml genuine aanelum opposite nilkunna aal engna aanenn ariyilalo
@@Here_we_go..557 atleast 6 months ennanu paranjath. Njan 1 year gap ittanu kalyanm kazhichath. Samsarich thudangiya first 2-3 days il thanne ente expectation enthanennum ennil ninn enthoke expect cheyaam ennum njan wife nod paranjirunnu. Aadhyathe msgs oke essay aayirunnu. Kalyanam oke kazhinj ee adutha time il wife ennod paranju ann angane paranjapo iyal entha first day thanne inganoke parayunnathoke thoni but ath nannai enn. Valare cheriya kaaryangal vare njan ann paranjirunnu, eg: msg chilapo kanditundaavum pakshe ipo reply tharunnathupole epozhum pettenn reply tharaan patilla chilapo job il aayirikum delay varum ennoke. Athukond njan ipo reply ayachillenkilum wife nu prashnm onnm illa. Athupole financially ulla kaaryangal future plans oke parayaan sramikuka.
@@sudheeshs8694 bro enne samnathichadatholam arranged marriage okke risk aa nengl nengle patti thurann prnjenn vech opposite nikkunna aal ath pole aavanam ennillallo like arranged marriage il pennungal kooduthalum backup plan aaitt aan kettunnath
Eg: already ulla relationship ne kaal Better aaitulla aalinte alochana vannapo kettum allel BF breakup cheytha aduth alochanakk ninn koduthum
@@Here_we_go..557 mann! You are a spoiled kid! Grow up ttoo. Your comments in this videos is bit horrible at this era.
If you are a 80’s born, then its ok- bcoz that gen cant be changed. But you are born after 90’ then its so hopeless! You are also one of the reasons for those girls to get afraid of .
Very well said indeed 👍👍👍👍
24 kettan immature girls should only marry after the age of 32...❤🙏🏾
@@xpulse_machan6581 Malayali annine thane kalyanam kazhikanam ennu nirbandam onnum ila
Huge fan Chaechi and what a beautiful cat tho. Can you share what mic you use?
The truth is that all matured persons will comes this point of view as she said after an rejection in his/her life....truely said chechi ....❤❤.true love never exist in long life.....😢😢😢
Eni njn ente oru life story parayam...njn ente college il koode ore class il padikkunna oru penn kuttiye propose cheythu...and i got rejection..annu njn arrum kanthe ente kootukarupolum kanathe ente roomil ethiyathinu shesham njn kore karanju obviously like the all boy true lovers....even though still i loves her in my dreams and i accepted that...njn pakshe aa rejection enna traumayil ninnu thirrichu verran korrachu padupettu...now iam okay...sambavichathum nalathinu sambavikkan pokkunnathum nalathinu...pakshe avale enikku class il kanumbol pediyanu karanam njn avale propose cheythathukonde avalkk ennodulla njngal athiyam kanda samaythulla friends enna attittude il ninnum avalkk enne kanumbol veruppane athukonde njn avale athra disturb cheyarrila...pinne njn avalode enthukaryavum samadanathonde samsarikkan poyal (pandathe propose cheytha karangal alla tto class il assignment works ne pati...)avalkk ennode puchavum oru dheshyam pidicha attitudum ane pinne enikku cheriya thonda idarrchalum verum.idk y🤷♂️🤷♂️🤷♂️....but even though still i loves her njn pandatha karyangalonnum samarikkan pokkarumila..because ethoru true lover um vicharikkum avanavan premikkun kamukki samdhanathodeyum santhoshathodeyum jeevikanam ennu...🥰🥰🥰🥰..karanam njn aval athra athikkam snehikkunnu.....pakshe enne oru friend enna nilayilangilum ennengilum kanum ennu prathikshikkunnu.....karanam athinu shesham njangal thammil ippol pandathe pole friends circle talks onnum ila...🥺🥺🥺🥺
Pakshe Ithinu shesham ane njn humanity enthanennum avanavante vyakthithuvam enthananum...pinne ente kuravukkal enthokkeyennum jeevitham eniyum jeevichu theerkkanundennum engane nammude samayam productive aakkamennum okke njn padichath.......athinu lots of thanks to her...😇😇🥰🥰enikku avalode ippozhum ishttam mathrame ullu...pinne ente look kandal oru penu polum premikkan verula ennulathu njn vyikiyanu manassilakkiyath karanm njn oru skelet ayyittula person ane soundariyavum ila...
Pinne njn athiyavisyam kannunna chilarudeyokke human psychology sredhikkunayall ane....enikku urrappane aval mikkavarum ella nalla jeevitham agrahikkunna penkuttikale pole a well financially settled ayyittulla chechi paranja pole a well educated alle mathrame premikkan chance ullu....😔😔😔
Bro, almost all men are like you…
I am in my late 40s now but you explained what I went through in my college days too. To be honest, most of us went through this.
Keep these 2 things close to your heart at all times and you will be fine..
“This too shall pass”
“What didn’t kill you made you stronger”
@@WranglerDude 💯💯❤
@@WranglerDude that's a great encouragement quote brother❤
@@azad738 Thanks bro… Just trying to help one of our kind out…
@@WranglerDude Bro is in his 40s but his words are 100 out of 100
In all marriages you don't get a companian. In some marriages you get a rival and in some you get a typical enemy and in some you get adoubting Thomas, especially when its a so called late marriages
I want to adopt 2 children and give them a beautiful family. Athente cheruppam muthalulla oru dream aanu. But ee karyam agree cheyyunna oru aaleyum njn kanditt illa Ithvare .Somewhere enna pole chindikkunna oralundavum ennu karuthunnu.
You are me. Enikku marriage chindhikkan polum vayya. But oru mother aakanam. I decided not to go for a marriage after 3 relationships I had. I am not good with maintaining those relationships. Ente familyil achanum ammayum thammilulla toxic aaya marriage kandu valarnnathu enne vallandu affect cheythittund. But I realised enikku kittikale valya ishtamaanu. Pattumengil njan oru kuttiye eduthu valarthum. Nalloru ammayaayum. Infact a good parent.
@@veenasudheer8532 you will indeed be a great parent. much love dear❤️
Your views are comprehensive from all angles & from both partners' sides. Good Talk.
You seem to be well educated.
By the way, (after viewing ur next video), your friend's comment abt ur hairstyle is wrong... your hair looks good in this video... 😅
Muslim girls are getting married really young and having multiple kids as well. They have a goal and they are galloping towards it fast
Pinne...... goals polum, muslims girls nu avarude career um quality of life um ennu parayunna karyam undh ennu manasilakitte 10-15 yrs ayittullu. Ennittum athu achieve cheyyan avarkku kazhinjilla. Avar anu innathe ammamaar.
Ippo ullu girls avarude rights manasilakki careerum avar achieve cheyyan thudangiyapol anu ithe presnam muslim Community um address cheyya thudangiyathu.
So muslim Community il mattam kondhu vannathu muslim pennungal thanne. Avar iniyum suffer cheyy thayyaralla ennu mathamelaalanmaar manasilakki kazhinju.
So thangal Whatsapp University irunnu parivaarathinthe narratives kelkkathe purathirangi manushyarodu samsarikku.
Girls nn mathrm alla
Boys num venda
Tension free life❤
ചേച്ചി current scenarioയിൽ Girls look important കൊടുക്കുമോ 🥺ഞാൻ below avg look ആണ് പല തരത്തിൽ ഉള്ള bullieng and shamming കിട്ടിയത് കൊണ്ട് ഗേൾസിനോട് മിണ്ടാൻ തന്നെ പേടിയാണ്, അത്പോലെ ഒരുപാട് inferiority complex ക്സും 😕
ആരേലും ചുമ്മാ ഇരിക്കുന്ന കണ്ടാൽ ഇടിച്ചു കേറി മിണ്ടണം. അപ്പോൾ പേടി, നാണം ഒക്കെ മാറിക്കോളും. look നോക്കി അല്ല എല്ലാരും മിണ്ടുന്നതൊക്കെ
@@amrithams710Idich keri mindua ennoke parayan eluppa...ullil nallath undo enonnum aarum nokanilla e kaaalath..bookinde cover maatram nokunnu
Same bro..
ഞാൻ മനസിലാക്കിയിടത്തോളം good social status, Financial background ഒക്കെ ഉണ്ടെങ്കിൽ ഇതൊന്നും പ്രശ്നം അല്ല..
@@amrithams710 aa best social anxiety extreme level aan enik
@@Neerajakv2 yes ippozhum people will judge cheyyunath physical appearance vechu thanneyaan
Thanks❤
late to the party.but as two people who need to share the same bed for years, to check on bedroom habits is a must. A friend of mine in love marriage had so much trouble because of this. The husband wants AC at 17 degree celcius, she cant sleep at that temperature, she needs to use toilet many times in the night due to this. She wakes up easily when there is noise or movements but he is a heavy sleeper and he moves around all the time and she is disturbed. Both of them are miserable. They cant sleep in the same room. You may think what a silly excuse. But when this happens every day,it is not a small problem. Other than this not much of a problem compatibility wise but they are divorced now.
ഈ ആണുങ്ങൾ മാത്രം social media യിൽ കിടന്നു പെണ്ണ് കിട്ടുന്നില്ല എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞു കരയുന്നത് എന്തിനാ എന്ന് എനിക്ക് മനസ്സിലാകുന്നില്ല 😂. വെറുതെ എന്നെ പോലുള്ള വരെ യും കൂടി നാണം കെടുത്താൻ 🤣. ഇവമ്മർക്കു ഇങ്ങനെ കരഞ്ഞാൽ പെണ്ണ് കിട്ടുവോ. കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാതെ ഇരുന്നാൽ എന്ത് വരാൻ ആണ്. ആ ക്യാഷ് ഇന് അടിച്ച് പൊളിക്ക്
Athondalla bro🙄 naattil family life venam ennullavanmaarkk pennun kittunnilla.. nnna sakala fraudukal drug, vettu kuthu teamsinte pinnale penpillerde behalam.. avarde udaayippinu suite aaya penninem kittunnu... avanmaarkkum pennu kittunnillennu arinjaale oru manassugam ullu🙄😂
@@braveheart_1027 bro ഇവമ്മാർ ഇങ്ങനെ കിടന്നു കരയുന്നത് കൊണ്ടാണ് ഒഎണ്ണുങ്ങൾ ഇത്ര ഡിമാൻഡ് കാണിക്കുന്നത്. നമ്മൾ mind ചെയ്യാതെ ഇരുന്നാൽ ഇവരുടെ ഡിമാൻഡ് അങ്ങ് ഇടിയും. പറ്റുന്നവർ കല്യാണം കഴിക്കാതെ ഇരിക്കുക. ഇപ്പോഴത്തെ നിയമം എക്കെ അറിയാല്ലോ. ഒരു കള്ള case മതി നമ്മൾ ജീവിതത്തിൽ ഉണ്ടാക്കിയത് എല്ലാം എഴുതികൊടുക്കാൻ
@@braveheart_1027 ഉടായിപ്പു കൾക് പെണ്ണ് കിട്ടും കാരണം അവന്മാർക്ക് അറിയാം വളക്കാൻ. പെണ്ണുങ്ങൾ വേഗം അവമ്മാരുടെ അടുത്ത് വീഴുകയും ചെയ്യും. ഞാൻ പറഞ്ഞത് പെണ്ണ് ഇല്ലാ എന്ന് പറഞ്ഞു ആൺ വർഗ്ഗത്തിനെ നാട്ടിക്കുന്നവമ്മാരെ ആണ്
@@vhcjcv5760 kalynam vendenn paryunne annugalodu puchamvum athupole kaliakkalum ann pinne gay akkum
ഡേയ് കുടുമ്പ ജീവിതത്തിൻ്റെ വില എന്താണെന്ന് നിനക്ക് അറിയുമോ😂. നല്ല ഒരു കുടുമ്പ ജീവിതം വേണം എന്ന് ആഗ്രഹിക്കുന്ന ഒരുപാട് പേരുണ്ട് അവരാ വന്ന് കരയുന്നത്
This exactly what I'm facing
Ofcourse, domestic violence aan ella veetilum ,pinne keralathile aanungalkum avarde parents inum wife inod nalla snehamaayi behave cheyan arinjooda. Pinne ente bharthaavu phayangara snehaa enn parayunna pala penningalkum healthy relationship enthann ariyilla. Pinne comment box ile pala single aanungaldem attitude ithinulla proof aan,sthreekalod ulla vyragyam, and too much of ego ,ingane ullore ketti anubavikyanda avishyam innathe penkuttikalku illa .
Correct ..anungal parayunna ketta thonnum ee nattil avare anu ketti vere veetilku kondupone nnu ..avaranu victims ennanu Avarde vicharam ..ethra valya aneethi anu pennungal anubavikkanadu ennu mansilakkan avarku ariyilla..allel Avarde parents Adu padipikkilla..njan anaaanu ennulla adu pennungalde aduthu katti matre avarku theliyikkan ariyu ..karanam avarku swayam ananennu viswasam ella ..avarde parents also pinniloode avare adanu paranju emotionally blackmail cheyyane..swantham bharya ye consistently oru wife ayi westilokke kanunna pole above their own family ayi kanan evarku kazhiyum engilum adu sammadichu kodukkan boomers (Avarde veetile ) sammadikkilla
💯💯️@@varsha37651
ഏതു കാര്യവും നല്ല ബോധത്തോടെ വേണം എന്നത് നല്ലത് തന്നെ. പ്രധാനം സ്വന്തം തീരുമാനങ്ങൾ നന്നായാലും മോശമായാലും അതിന്റെ കുറ്റവും കുറവും സ്വയം ഏറ്റെടുക്കുക അതാണ് പ്രധാനം. അങ്ങിനെയാകുമ്പോൾ മാതാപിതാക്കളുടെ ആകുലത നന്നായി കുറയും. 😄
Every aspect of life has good and bad, now-a-days due to social/media explosion it has become difficult to identify. Hence the following would be ideal, especially for marriage
1) keep it simple.
2) analyse oneself and find clarity in what is required by you because you know the truth of your circumstances and ground realities to be understood.
3) do not fall for 'trending' & phobias etc ( created by elitist/feminists etc.) They get engaged in higher goals - single/married. Incidentally these feminists cannot suggest a solution for fighting (mother/daughter-in-laws)
4) Have patience to tackle the problems. Adjustments/compromises are inevitable in any relationship, especially marriage, only one has to decide on the level.
Whether one is single or married there will be problems. Also after dating etc., too problems can arise after marriage. Hence no solutions are foolproof, destiny too matters.
Live in present, now-a-days girls are dominating and have freedom not lesser than boys. Hence maturity is not the problem. Divorces are done impulsively for trivial matters. This is also due to misconception of liberalism and families (bride/groom) competition for superiority. The families (parents & siblings) exist till marriage ceremony thereafter it is individuals. Opinions of feminists, progressive and celebrities - the trendsetters. Preconditioning and extreme expectations without knowing the ground realities of life.
The decision of children not to marry or having children has severly affected average middle-class. They are suffering silently.
Yep... average middle class families suffer
Daemon Targaryen ൻറെ ക്യാരക്റ്ററിനെ കുറിച്ച് ഒരു വീഡിയോ ചെയ്യാമോ ??????
കൊടുങ്കാറ്റിൽ ആന പാറിയ കാര്യം പറയുമ്പോ ആണ്...അവൻ്റെ അമ്മൂമ്മൻ്റെ കൊണാം പാറിയ കഥ പറയുന്നത്....😂
😂😂😂
Daemon alla bro, Aemon…
@@WranglerDude Aemon alla bro Daemon Targaryen aanu enik vendade 🔥🔥🔥
@@Yoozzef_ShaaAngane oru Targeryan ondo bro?
Liivng with NPD spouse for years, helpless as children are at a vulnerable age, also no job alone in a foreign country, adjustment how long?? Why this suffering?
@@neetu4444 once the children grows up, the situation will change then there are options . Meanwhile take some time every day for our own happiness,like hearing music ,hearing some motivational speeches etc.
Marriage no longer make sense actually. Marriage is for raising family. If you don't have time or situation to raise a family it is better to not get married. Marriage becoming more and more of a legal trap. It will become hard to escape for both partners. Women stay married just because they don't wanna go through the legal hassle. On the the other side men are worried by about alimony and maintenance.
What this woman says is not entirely true. She says of parents meeting boys for matches without the knowledge of the daughter is false. Parents always sounds out their daughters about a prospective groom.
Well done
A very through podcast
@SetofTwo
Pretty good talk lady . I had Heard in full . Well presented. What's your opinion about people emphasis on enjoy life and self love ? I know these qualities are essential but I wonder where it's limit lies ? Is it unlimited? Can be happy always? Isn't life a mix of emotions and accepting each moments ? Isnt it life finding what truly us are ? What's your opinion?
8:53 ആരാടാ ഈ കാലത്ത് അഞ്ചു കുട്ടികളെ വേണമെന്നു പറഞ്ഞു വാശിപിടിച്ചവൻ??!!🤔
Avanga bhayakaramaana aalu🙄