Well said. One issue is gender roles in the Western World can be more mixed between responsibilities between home and work. Also women who go overseas learn to be independent and when they return to get married in their homeland to a partner that underestimates the independence of their wife can cause resentment. Same when the inlaws visit or come to live and fail to adapt to Western Countries. Also some countries have only very small African communities and some people fail to adapt to being a minority. They do not realize the social cost of moving countries. No longer having national or religious holiday celebrations, access to traditional food, childcare and history.
Spot on. One more reason... The divorce processes in the Western world are such that the lower earning spouse is not cheated the way they are cheated back home. A lot of women who decide to leave their abusive marriages back home are compelled to leave with just the clothes on their backs plus responsibility of caring for children whose fathers abandoned them as a punishment to their mother. The divorce process in the Western world sees the women as equal to the men and recognizes the contributions that the non income earning spouses make to the household. The processes also put the children's welfare above that of the divorcing parents, e.g. child support whether you like it or not. So back home, a lot of lower income earning spouses, typically women, are even afraid to divorce because they fear they and their children won't survive without the abusive man.
And you are not aware that more women are abusive to men especially in the West than men are abusive to women. Only that men are not emotional and hence don't easily talk let alone call the police on the women. Also, far far more women cheat on their husbands/partners than a handful of men who do the same. Presently, at least 1 in every 3 DNA tests show women have cheated and brought children from outside to their husbands/partners. Far more women cheat, which is why one man with celebrity status, money, and position is able to sleep over 1000 women. Machine Gun Kelly is still under 35, yet is said to claim he has slept with over 2000 women so far in his life. It is Black women generally, including Black American women that are leaving their marriages and enjoy being single mom, not all Africans. How about North Africans? How about the Indians and Chinese who also have massive populations abroad. Do you think their men don't remain men in their families, that's why they have strong family values even in the West? The real truth that is not mentioned is that, Black sisters easily allow little achievements including something such as, travelling and arriving abroad under the sponsorship of a man boost their egos so much that many of them begin to undermine the very men who sponsored them. And this, no matter how good the man is in helping out with house chores and working hard to bring money to the family. Many couldn't and can't wait to take advantage of the laws in the West to take all that man has spent years to build from him. There are still far more righteous men on earth than there are righteous women (Ecc 28:7). Currently, there is crisis in the West of the massive un-married Black women when compared to women of other ethnicities as more Black men are beginning to look to women of other races to form families. And Black women prefer to share some men including married men they fantasize. It might be this is how Isaiah 4:1 is going to be fulfilled.
@@ubongambrose4066 woow I must say there is a lot to ponder on from your contribution to this topic and others on the channel. Again thank you for taking your time to give the feedback.. I will look more into it and see what am missing 🤔
and yet she is not. she did not earn his money that he earned in the west. This incentivizes female thieves to push marriage with a wealthy man or potentially wealthy man, and then ultimately divorce him to rob him. Such women do not care about the man nor the children not to mention the union of their two extended families. THAT is abusive but is not being tried by law as such. African law and customs are not even thought about in western nations.
Wow! The unspoken challenges of moving abroad! If only social media showed these challenges ... We just see the glam! Thanks for talking about this! I'm 24 and now well equipped of what to anticipate if I move abroad!
You are right, there are alot of hard truths that our people need to know before embarking on moving abroad.. Am here to say it as it is. Thank you for tuning in.
Strange because asians and arabs also have the same tradition of wives taking care of the home. They do not have any problems living in the west in their households. Some of their wives work and are proud to take care of the home as well. Others stay home. Others still work part time or temp jobs or in a community business that is flexible with the hours.
Sounds like the same thing that is wrong with most marriages. The western societies are very expensive to live in so both the wife and husband has to work so no one is there to take care of the family and kids
Same reasons I am filing for a divorce, shared responsibilities. It's overwhelming for women with kids. We both work and I have to be the one taking care of everything concerning kids, family stuff, and all the household chores. Its exhausting. Some African men want both a providing wife and a housewife. It's a shame
It is an unfair and unrealistic expectation on the wife, a balance has to be found. Sending you hugs regarding your divorce situation. May things work out well for you.
@@CarolineNerima-bg1nh It's impossible to save your marriage all by yourself. People hardly divorce until they have tried to get their partner to be willing and to take steps to repair the marriage together as a unit. Nobody should give their partner endless chances. If they are not willing, leave. Otherwise you waste your life in misery and become a bad example to your children in the process. God doesn't like that and doesn't want that. Don't live in a "future-faked" marriage. It's not worth it. Praying must be supported with sensible actions. God didn't put anyone on this planet to be abused in their own home and abuse is not only physical.
@@Never-Settle In your small head of sences are you not aware of Satan who fights marriages like horror movies??? So if we all have issues and we all leave marriages what is it that will be of God!!
The background factor in this discussion is an understanding of what the term "African marriage" really means vis-a-vis western marriages. African marriages simply are marriages that are contracted to reflect African customs and in some cases religious models that are adopted into many African regions. Let's understand that we are talking about a continent that is heavily designed to reflect cultural provisions that mostly regard the male as head of the family and the woman as one who must be submissive to the man whom she is also not supposedly equals with. This is the fact in Africa generally, even amongst Christians and Muslims. For instance, although Christianity was brought into Africa by the West, it is evident today that the west does not hold Christian principles in high relevance with respect to governmental practices. Western nations are mostly non-religious. In order words there is a separation between religion and state, despite that majority of people still practice Christianity individually. The same can be said of the culture of the indegenous society in the west also. So in Christian homes in Africa, marriage is typically one where the man is head of the home and the main provider of both material and moral resources. The woman is seen as the manager of the home and keeper of children. She is required to be submissive to the husband and not to see herself as his equal. The woman bears his surname, accepts his religious beliefs and follows his directives. This is what even our churches teach. Children are believed to belong to the man and his family and should be raised under strict discipline which the man must see to. Children can be shouted at, caned, or punished in ways to make them become reverent and amenable to the models of their respective families. They don't have rights of their own. This is quite similar to the traditional family settings where nature religion is observed. In this sense, the man is the alpha male and lord. In our place, we call him "Nna anyi or Mazi" and we call the woman "nwunye anyi or our wife". The man determines what happens. Food, children, even what the wife does for a living and if she must work at all. He is in charge of all she has and can take as many wives as he wishes. The same can also be said of Islamic marriages too, which clearly shows a scenario where the thing called "gender rights",have little or no place. In Africa actually there are basically three kinds of marriages. Islamic, cultural and statotary marriage. So in Nigeria for example, that statotary marriage is the one majority of Christians go into. The statutory laws in Nigeria is designed such that it considers cultural processes too. So for you to even contract a statotary marriage, you must have actually conducted yiur traditional marriage rites. This is Africa and this is what marriage here looks like. So then when people with such marriage backgrounds cross over to the west where there is a strong egalotarian approach to marriage and family culture, there are bound to crisis. In the egalotarian system, nothing like gender superiority, head of the family or mandatory submission. Both persons are equal and infact are simply partners. The term husband and wife is not really enforced literally. The African wife who while she was in Africa had been under the dominance of culture and religion, now sees that she is actually free to live as she wants to and is infact equals with the man. She begins to question lots of things and refuses to be put in her former African wife place. The man now becomes reduced to a mere partner instead of Lord. He has to be careful not to cross the line. He begins to do virtually every thing his culture and religion told him are strictly feminine roles. He cannot make decisions for her about job, money, what to wear, children, sex, etc. This will then lead to strife and divorce now becomes the case. Back in Africa, the woman is expected to stay put and obey marriage laws as they are. In the west, for the slightest provocation, she can walk away. Even kids are not left out in the transition. They can't be shouted at, spanked, named as the man wishes and raised under strict discipline. They too have rights that are taken seriously. Isn't this why we now have kids who are joining the LGBTQ despite what their parents think? In conclusion, men of African decent must take note that if they must move to the west, there are serious changes they have to adopt, otherwise their marriage will definitely crash. Marriage laws are synonymous with gender equality proceedings and this favours women the more.
@@thespectacular9826 wow this has dissected the issue very well.. Indeed we ought to understand the background and how someone was brought up to then get how they behave in marriages in the west. Thank you for taking time to expound on it, am sure many of us will learn alot.
In African societies the man is the sole provider and when the woman does not do anything or help in anyway, the marriage still move on. Why is it that when the man does not meet up living abroad there is need for break up. Is the problem Africans or the western societies in which they live?
Good question.. In my opinion it would be practical for the man or woman to adjust but not the society because we can't change what's the norm in a new place. we can only change how we behave or react towards this society. Don't you think?
I’m black American and one of my coworkers is Sierra Leonean American. She was born here but sent back for school and to learn the culture while her parents worked until high school. She returned in time for college. Her parents insisted that she marry a man from her tribe which she did. She was the breadwinner and he resented her. He sent for his daughter from Africa so she could get papers. His daughter and husband began tag teaming her and became abusive. My friend would complain to her parents and they would always take his side. She ended up staying with him for ten years and had two kids, thinking he would change. But he became worse, so she finally moved out with the kids into a small apartment, while he remained in the large house that she purchased. She filed for divorce and he asked for the house and for her to continue to pay the mortgage. He was asked how would the kids eat, if all of her money is going to his and her bills. He responded it’s not my problem. Ultimately, the settlement was they needed to sell the house and he would get half the proceeds. When he saw the value of the house minus debt balance would be a lot of money plus he could keep one of their cars, he agreed to it. Now she’s free and wishes she wouldn’t have allowed family and community pressure to keep her in that emotionally abusive marriage.
@@Afrovazi I think the men end up resenting us when we are successful in our career. Instead of taking the opportunity to improve their career opportunities, they focus on asserting their dominance in the home and become a bully or begin cheating. He was an electrician that never pursued his journeyman or masters license which would have doubled his pay. Now all of his money is gone because he spent it all trying to impress the Sierra Leone community at home and the states. While my friend took her proceeds to move into a smaller house for her and her kids and is thriving in her career.
The average african man making is not cannot sustain a happy marriage in the west especially when children are involved bc of the lack cultural and emotional intelligence to know when he needs to step in and act like a team in everything with his spouse. If ur abroad and u want to marry and an african spouse choose in the ones who hv lived and really experienced life abroad and who hv adapted to the culture of the new country or marry locals who are open enough to ur culture
IT SEEMS THE AUTHOR OF THE VIDEO IS MIXING WESTERN CULTURE AND AFRICAN CULTURE AS SHE HAS BEEN SPENDING LIFE IN EUROPE. THEIR MARRIAGES ARE IN A FOREIGN ENVIROMENT AND ECONOMY AND WAYS OF DOING THINGS. How do you expect your African man to behave like a europian man? ITS EVEN MUCH BETTER TO STAY SINGLE OR TO GET MARRIADE TO A EUROPEAN WHEN IN EUROPE.
Then why do you come to Europe. Stay back home where you can practice your Machohood with the same macho friends or colleagues plus culture that support Machohood. In that case, Africa is a heaven for you...STAY THERE.
My immediate reaction to this is why not stay in Africa? Moving for money, will never make you happy, you lose your support system, you lose your family, you lose your happiness, just because you think you’re going to be rich. Is it really worth all the trouble? At least when you were in Africa you knew the dynamics.
Thank you for sharing your point of view.. A video is coming up tomorrow to explain why we are moving abroad. Maybe then you could give us your thoughts on this given the context.
People don’t move abroad just to become rich financially. The wealth of knowledge including experiences / exposures to various circumstances / perspectives and personalities richly groomed us for the realities of life. Sitting in Africa being cared for & not knowing where to turn, not being able to think outside of family or taking initiatives independently to solve problems is a poverty mindset. There are risks that comes with learning & getting out of our comfort zones; that we must pay for. Sacrifices are painful but worth it!!! This type of knowledge is not gained from textbooks but human interactions through cultural competence outside of our own.
@@olivettewesseh3953on the other hand, it's also a scarcity mindset to not stay in your own country and help build it. Why not stay home and find solutions to problems there. The Western countries were not built in one day. They are what they are coz people build their countries. If so many people run away from Africa , who will build it?
@@Aquagirl-in6wr there are millions of Chinese,Americans,British etc all over the world I remember reading recently that America was planning to evacuate thousands of people from Lebanon and some middle Eastern countries and I was wondering what they are doing there when their economy is the biggest but then the world is now a global village and people see opportunity in different places and circumstances
Woman abroad plz don't think that devorces is the solution, God the creator of marriages is able to certain all marriages, pray for your husband, get them out of the bondage Satan got them into, to break their own marriages,
@Afrovazi Human evolution has not yet adequately optimised us for the realities of contemporary society. We're forced to live away from "our" people with whom we share culture and more, only to end up isolated in worlds we know not how to mingle with. Gender roles are now convoluted, children are burdensome, and all that on top of a feral capitalist system
Well said. One issue is gender roles in the Western World can be more mixed between responsibilities between home and work.
Also women who go overseas learn to be independent and when they return to get married in their homeland to a partner that underestimates the independence of their wife can cause resentment. Same when the inlaws visit or come to live and fail to adapt to Western Countries. Also some countries have only very small African communities and some people fail to adapt to being a minority. They do not realize the social cost of moving countries.
No longer having national or religious holiday celebrations, access to traditional food, childcare and history.
@@PamelaAttwood very well summarised 💯💯 thank you.
Spot on. One more reason... The divorce processes in the Western world are such that the lower earning spouse is not cheated the way they are cheated back home. A lot of women who decide to leave their abusive marriages back home are compelled to leave with just the clothes on their backs plus responsibility of caring for children whose fathers abandoned them as a punishment to their mother. The divorce process in the Western world sees the women as equal to the men and recognizes the contributions that the non income earning spouses make to the household. The processes also put the children's welfare above that of the divorcing parents, e.g. child support whether you like it or not. So back home, a lot of lower income earning spouses, typically women, are even afraid to divorce because they fear they and their children won't survive without the abusive man.
This right here 💯💯. Thank you for adding such an important point.
And you are not aware that more women are abusive to men especially in the West than men are abusive to women. Only that men are not emotional and hence don't easily talk let alone call the police on the women. Also, far far more women cheat on their husbands/partners than a handful of men who do the same. Presently, at least 1 in every 3 DNA tests show women have cheated and brought children from outside to their husbands/partners. Far more women cheat, which is why one man with celebrity status, money, and position is able to sleep over 1000 women. Machine Gun Kelly is still under 35, yet is said to claim he has slept with over 2000 women so far in his life.
It is Black women generally, including Black American women that are leaving their marriages and enjoy being single mom, not all Africans. How about North Africans? How about the Indians and Chinese who also have massive populations abroad. Do you think their men don't remain men in their families, that's why they have strong family values even in the West? The real truth that is not mentioned is that, Black sisters easily allow little achievements including something such as, travelling and arriving abroad under the sponsorship of a man boost their egos so much that many of them begin to undermine the very men who sponsored them. And this, no matter how good the man is in helping out with house chores and working hard to bring money to the family. Many couldn't and can't wait to take advantage of the laws in the West to take all that man has spent years to build from him. There are still far more righteous men on earth than there are righteous women (Ecc 28:7).
Currently, there is crisis in the West of the massive un-married Black women when compared to women of other ethnicities as more Black men are beginning to look to women of other races to form families. And Black women prefer to share some men including married men they fantasize. It might be this is how Isaiah 4:1 is going to be fulfilled.
@@ubongambrose4066 woow I must say there is a lot to ponder on from your contribution to this topic and others on the channel. Again thank you for taking your time to give the feedback.. I will look more into it and see what am missing 🤔
and yet she is not. she did not earn his money that he earned in the west. This incentivizes female thieves to push marriage with a wealthy man or potentially wealthy man, and then ultimately divorce him to rob him. Such women do not care about the man nor the children not to mention the union of their two extended families. THAT is abusive but is not being tried by law as such.
African law and customs are not even thought about in western nations.
The Western court system doesn’t see both parties as being equal in divorce. The women are at a 80/20 advantage in front of a judge.
Superb and beautifully presented analysis. Asante sana sister. My fellow Kenyan, am following you from 🇬🇧 UK.
Karibu sana to the community 👍🏾
Wow! The unspoken challenges of moving abroad! If only social media showed these challenges ... We just see the glam! Thanks for talking about this! I'm 24 and now well equipped of what to anticipate if I move abroad!
You are right, there are alot of hard truths that our people need to know before embarking on moving abroad.. Am here to say it as it is. Thank you for tuning in.
This girl is just so eloquent you are a great presenter
Thank you for your compliment.
Spot on! Great analysis, sis!
You are spot on; thanks a bunch!
I’m an African American and I find your videos very interesting.
Thank you for the feedback and welcome to the community 🎉
This is really well said. Well done. God help our marriages
Amen 🙏🏾
Profound and informative!
Thank you.
Your observations are very correct.
Thank you for your feedback.
I never thought I would miss my Girl's night out, wow!
Very nicely put points ❤
Thank you for your feedback.
Combined efforts is the bedrock of a strong marriage despite your ethnic background. This cuts across spiritual, economic, financial and family life
Great feedback, thank you for sharing.
Very well said. God bless you
Very well said. Great discussion
Thank you for the feedback.
Strange because asians and arabs also have the same tradition of wives taking care of the home. They do not have any problems living in the west in their households. Some of their wives work and are proud to take care of the home as well. Others stay home. Others still work part time or temp jobs or in a community business that is flexible with the hours.
This topic ehee! On point. Take notes people. This is wisdom and very good advice
Thank you for tuning in and sharing with us your feedback.
Sounds like the same thing that is wrong with most marriages. The western societies are very expensive to live in so both the wife and husband has to work so no one is there to take care of the family and kids
Correct. A lot of this is sadly happening in many homes.
Same reasons I am filing for a divorce, shared responsibilities. It's overwhelming for women with kids. We both work and I have to be the one taking care of everything concerning kids, family stuff, and all the household chores. Its exhausting. Some African men want both a providing wife and a housewife. It's a shame
It is an unfair and unrealistic expectation on the wife, a balance has to be found. Sending you hugs regarding your divorce situation. May things work out well for you.
Don't divorce him, it will pain God, get saved you fast, pray for his deliverance, he is in a bondage, save your marriage!!!?
as long as you won't wish you had not, in the near future - Proverbs 14:1
@@CarolineNerima-bg1nh It's impossible to save your marriage all by yourself. People hardly divorce until they have tried to get their partner to be willing and to take steps to repair the marriage together as a unit. Nobody should give their partner endless chances. If they are not willing, leave. Otherwise you waste your life in misery and become a bad example to your children in the process. God doesn't like that and doesn't want that. Don't live in a "future-faked" marriage. It's not worth it. Praying must be supported with sensible actions. God didn't put anyone on this planet to be abused in their own home and abuse is not only physical.
@@Never-Settle In your small head of sences are you not aware of Satan who fights marriages like horror movies??? So if we all have issues and we all leave marriages what is it that will be of God!!
Very well said and all points are so true and valid.
very informative
Thank you.
Wow love this soo true ❤gained a friend
The background factor in this discussion is an understanding of what the term "African marriage" really means vis-a-vis western marriages.
African marriages simply are marriages that are contracted to reflect African customs and in some cases religious models that are adopted into many African regions. Let's understand that we are talking about a continent that is heavily designed to reflect cultural provisions that mostly regard the male as head of the family and the woman as one who must be submissive to the man whom she is also not supposedly equals with. This is the fact in Africa generally, even amongst Christians and Muslims.
For instance, although Christianity was brought into Africa by the West, it is evident today that the west does not hold Christian principles in high relevance with respect to governmental practices. Western nations are mostly non-religious. In order words there is a separation between religion and state, despite that majority of people still practice Christianity individually. The same can be said of the culture of the indegenous society in the west also.
So in Christian homes in Africa, marriage is typically one where the man is head of the home and the main provider of both material and moral resources. The woman is seen as the manager of the home and keeper of children. She is required to be submissive to the husband and not to see herself as his equal. The woman bears his surname, accepts his religious beliefs and follows his directives. This is what even our churches teach. Children are believed to belong to the man and his family and should be raised under strict discipline which the man must see to. Children can be shouted at, caned, or punished in ways to make them become reverent and amenable to the models of their respective families. They don't have rights of their own.
This is quite similar to the traditional family settings where nature religion is observed. In this sense, the man is the alpha male and lord. In our place, we call him "Nna anyi or Mazi" and we call the woman "nwunye anyi or our wife". The man determines what happens. Food, children, even what the wife does for a living and if she must work at all. He is in charge of all she has and can take as many wives as he wishes.
The same can also be said of Islamic marriages too, which clearly shows a scenario where the thing called "gender rights",have little or no place.
In Africa actually there are basically three kinds of marriages. Islamic, cultural and statotary marriage. So in Nigeria for example, that statotary marriage is the one majority of Christians go into. The statutory laws in Nigeria is designed such that it considers cultural processes too. So for you to even contract a statotary marriage, you must have actually conducted yiur traditional marriage rites.
This is Africa and this is what marriage here looks like.
So then when people with such marriage backgrounds cross over to the west where there is a strong egalotarian approach to marriage and family culture, there are bound to crisis. In the egalotarian system, nothing like gender superiority, head of the family or mandatory submission. Both persons are equal and infact are simply partners. The term husband and wife is not really enforced literally. The African wife who while she was in Africa had been under the dominance of culture and religion, now sees that she is actually free to live as she wants to and is infact equals with the man. She begins to question lots of things and refuses to be put in her former African wife place. The man now becomes reduced to a mere partner instead of Lord. He has to be careful not to cross the line. He begins to do virtually every thing his culture and religion told him are strictly feminine roles. He cannot make decisions for her about job, money, what to wear, children, sex, etc. This will then lead to strife and divorce now becomes the case.
Back in Africa, the woman is expected to stay put and obey marriage laws as they are. In the west, for the slightest provocation, she can walk away. Even kids are not left out in the transition. They can't be shouted at, spanked, named as the man wishes and raised under strict discipline. They too have rights that are taken seriously. Isn't this why we now have kids who are joining the LGBTQ despite what their parents think?
In conclusion, men of African decent must take note that if they must move to the west, there are serious changes they have to adopt, otherwise their marriage will definitely crash. Marriage laws are synonymous with gender equality proceedings and this favours women the more.
@@thespectacular9826 wow this has dissected the issue very well.. Indeed we ought to understand the background and how someone was brought up to then get how they behave in marriages in the west. Thank you for taking time to expound on it, am sure many of us will learn alot.
How come Asians and Indians seem to keep it together nomatter where they go?
True facts sister
In African societies the man is the sole provider and when the woman does not do anything or help in anyway, the marriage still move on. Why is it that when the man does not meet up living abroad there is need for break up. Is the problem Africans or the western societies in which they live?
Good question.. In my opinion it would be practical for the man or woman to adjust but not the society because we can't change what's the norm in a new place. we can only change how we behave or react towards this society. Don't you think?
Yep 💯 correct !
well said
I’m black American and one of my coworkers is Sierra Leonean American. She was born here but sent back for school and to learn the culture while her parents worked until high school. She returned in time for college. Her parents insisted that she marry a man from her tribe which she did. She was the breadwinner and he resented her. He sent for his daughter from Africa so she could get papers. His daughter and husband began tag teaming her and became abusive. My friend would complain to her parents and they would always take his side. She ended up staying with him for ten years and had two kids, thinking he would change. But he became worse, so she finally moved out with the kids into a small apartment, while he remained in the large house that she purchased.
She filed for divorce and he asked for the house and for her to continue to pay the mortgage. He was asked how would the kids eat, if all of her money is going to his and her bills. He responded it’s not my problem. Ultimately, the settlement was they needed to sell the house and he would get half the proceeds. When he saw the value of the house minus debt balance would be a lot of money plus he could keep one of their cars, he agreed to it. Now she’s free and wishes she wouldn’t have allowed family and community pressure to keep her in that emotionally abusive marriage.
What a story! Lots of lessons to take home. Thank you for sharing with us.
@@Afrovazi I think the men end up resenting us when we are successful in our career. Instead of taking the opportunity to improve their career opportunities, they focus on asserting their dominance in the home and become a bully or begin cheating.
He was an electrician that never pursued his journeyman or masters license which would have doubled his pay. Now all of his money is gone because he spent it all trying to impress the Sierra Leone community at home and the states. While my friend took her proceeds to move into a smaller house for her and her kids and is thriving in her career.
SHARE OPPORTUNITIES IN EUROPE FOR ONE TO MOVE THERE FOR WORK. PLEASE. 🤝
Well noted, check through my channel for a video I made on opportunities. Otherwise switch on notifications for future opportunities.
Also, do your own search under CARITAS Europe Job Opportunities, they have VISA-sponsored, paying scholarships.
@@nomxhosapekani7966 thank you for sharing. It's kind of you.
@@nomxhosapekani7966 thank you❤ for this information. I will resource on it more. ✍️
Yep
You are very elaborate.Thank you dia.
Yhat is so true
The average african man making is not cannot sustain a happy marriage in the west especially when children are involved bc of the lack cultural and emotional intelligence to know when he needs to step in and act like a team in everything with his spouse. If ur abroad and u want to marry and an african spouse choose in the ones who hv lived and really experienced life abroad and who hv adapted to the culture of the new country or marry locals who are open enough to ur culture
Thank you for sharing your insights, much appreciated.
Very well said I have that African man though in Africa who will never do house chores, I mean never
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IT SEEMS THE AUTHOR OF THE VIDEO IS MIXING WESTERN CULTURE AND AFRICAN CULTURE AS SHE HAS BEEN SPENDING LIFE IN EUROPE. THEIR MARRIAGES ARE IN A FOREIGN ENVIROMENT AND ECONOMY AND WAYS OF DOING THINGS. How do you expect your African man to behave like a europian man?
ITS EVEN MUCH BETTER TO STAY SINGLE OR TO GET MARRIADE TO A EUROPEAN WHEN IN EUROPE.
Thank you for your feedback.
Then why do you come to Europe. Stay back home where you can practice your Machohood with the same macho friends or colleagues plus culture that support Machohood. In that case, Africa is a heaven for you...STAY THERE.
My immediate reaction to this is why not stay in Africa? Moving for money, will never make you happy, you lose your support system, you lose your family, you lose your happiness, just because you think you’re going to be rich. Is it really worth all the trouble? At least when you were in Africa you knew the dynamics.
Thank you for sharing your point of view.. A video is coming up tomorrow to explain why we are moving abroad. Maybe then you could give us your thoughts on this given the context.
People don’t move abroad just to become rich financially. The wealth of knowledge including experiences / exposures to various circumstances / perspectives and personalities richly groomed us for the realities of life. Sitting in Africa being cared for & not knowing where to turn, not being able to think outside of family or taking initiatives independently to solve problems is a poverty mindset. There are risks that comes with learning & getting out of our comfort zones; that we must pay for. Sacrifices are painful but worth it!!! This type of knowledge is not gained from textbooks but human interactions through cultural competence outside of our own.
@@olivettewesseh3953on the other hand, it's also a scarcity mindset to not stay in your own country and help build it. Why not stay home and find solutions to problems there. The Western countries were not built in one day. They are what they are coz people build their countries. If so many people run away from Africa , who will build it?
@@Aquagirl-in6wr there are millions of Chinese,Americans,British etc all over the world I remember reading recently that America was planning to evacuate thousands of people from Lebanon and some middle Eastern countries and I was wondering what they are doing there when their economy is the biggest but then the world is now a global village and people see opportunity in different places and circumstances
Woman abroad plz don't think that devorces is the solution, God the creator of marriages is able to certain all marriages, pray for your husband, get them out of the bondage Satan got them into, to break their own marriages,
I urge people not to get married. It's not worth it
It would be interesting to hear your thoughts.. Would you like to share with us why?
@Afrovazi Human evolution has not yet adequately optimised us for the realities of contemporary society. We're forced to live away from "our" people with whom we share culture and more, only to end up isolated in worlds we know not how to mingle with. Gender roles are now convoluted, children are burdensome, and all that on top of a feral capitalist system
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