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@@positivity798 understanding and progressive both!!!agar partner ka mentality ko understand nehi kar payenge toh support kaise karenge?!!and progressive toh hain hi,that's why he will accept and respect her ambition
Ur mother told u that if u fight with your husband and came back, then she won't open the doors,but to adjust.. there was a girl in kerala who suicided a couple of months before knowing that her parents won't open the doors and she took all the pain and suffered and died... U r just lucky that ur husband is a good man... We can't expect everybody be the same..
I agree. Many innocent girls would have lost their lives to that thought, and many keep adjusting unhappily. The talk is relative because as she said, her husband is understanding. And that doesn’t come on one day. It is there or not there. Adjustment should only be if the path of dharma is followed. Else Mahabharat too wouldn’t have happened. Everyone must know when it time to fight their battles !
It's depends on the matter that y they are fighting.A parents should know the reason behind the fight.if they are fighting just for silly reasons her parents should stay away from that.
Lol too many open questions 😂 1. Aren't friends the family we choose? 2. What if you married your best friend 😜 3. What if as a friend you agree but as a family unit you disagree 😅
Getting money is an issue that everyone has needs in order to live a better and luxurious life. Life was difficult for me until i began trading,and I'm now earning a lot of money even with the current crash happening in the trading market. I still make gains using a better strategies....
This human is epitome of wisdom and generosity, far better than most of the comedian these days in terms of being funny , also wiser then many intellectuals
Aunty? Are you for real? Do you know even who she is? She is a stallwart in her industry...Her family members are mostly gold medallists from elite universities of the world!
So true....This exact thought changed my life. Life has become very easy, when I realized that my husband looks at things totally different from how I look at it. Allowing him to do that makes him feel strong and giving that strength to him, I become more stronger....❤️🤗
Accept a person as it is doesn’t mean you accept them however messed up they’re. There are boundaries. You need to be sensible enough. If they've issues mentally, they need to sort it out before getting into any commitment or relationship. It's not the other individuals duty to fix these issues or concerns that can potentially threaten the integrity of any relationship. Yes, in a very basic platonic relationship most tend to overlook a lot of things and go with it as it wouldn't bother you too much due to a very minimal connect on an emotional level. But when there's something known as vulnerability and emotional intimacy a lot of things cannot be let go as such as vulnerability and emotional intimacy is part and parcel of any romantic relationship as time goes. It all comes down to how much it means and what the relationship is to a person. The degree of intensity varies but never take BS from any person. Always know your self-worth. If the quote "Accept them for who they're." is literally taken? Yes, to a very certain extent it can be but never let anyone take you for granted, you will be for sure be messed up by that individual if you're not concerned. If they’re toxic? NO. You will need to put an end to it and let go. You cannot workaround such individuals, you’re stooping down to low standards. But if you consider yourself to be of low self-worth? You’re free to engage in such lacking adequacies which is otherwise considered a mandate in any relationship and “Accept them for who they’re.” But if you know your true self-worth as a person? You know what to do, do not settle for mediocre and do not allow yourself to get treated in a shitty manner. You always deserve the best.
Cannot agree with you more. What she says is the conventional view- sadly, unfortunately, it does not always work. Another addition to the “wisdom” women have been fed over centuries.
1:34 -The statement shows DISCIPLINE 5:00- Shows GENEROSITY 5:30- Husband is a wife's FRIEND too. 5:54- Good PHILOSOPHY Appreciation to the lady too from the audience to ask her this question perhaps knowing that she will receive some unique reply from Madam Sudha.
U are a lucky wife . That's what I can say Unlike my father who is abusive as a wife my mom tolerated everything but as a mother she can't so she left him one day. She raised her kids and educated them as a single parent. I am so proud I have got a great mom.
Only women, kids and dogs are accepted the way they are . Man is accepted if he provides something. Women on the other hand always tend to FIX MEN to achieve her dreams. Entire history asks the question WHAT WOMEN WANT. Have you ever thought about what WHAT MEN WANT? Also, as Sudha said that owner tend to want OWNERSHIP of man and they get jealous of them being close to sons being close to their moms. Stop your jealousy.
One should not contradict everything, she mentioned her views… if you cannot accept it then don’t contradict… there are many things that men cannot do but women can and they are many things that women cannot but men can… we are all born with a purpose don’t lose yourself in trivial matters like who is better and who is not.. you do you… if you cannot make a life better then not make it worse atleast.
So you will accept your husband the way he is even if he's completely lazy and irresponsible?? You will give him the freedom and liberty to go do what he wants, party and all, while you work professionally and come home and continue to do housework as well? Don't support a speech that is not applicable to everyone.
Genuinely epitome of novel thoughts as well as sophisticated personality with pure knowledge and distinguished intellectual yet simplicity at it best. Immense respect Ma'am for such insightful speech for youth at the right time.
It’s easy to say these things when you are married to a decent, hard working man who is successful and stable and when his mother and Sister don’t harass you and create a toxic environment for you. A man should meet the needs and wants of his wife and kids first (within reason) this is my opinion.
This is it !🙏 That's why we (me & my hubby) never realized that we've completed 10 years without any ill issues .... The words LIBERTY & FREEDOM were always there ... and we both accepted each other as "what we are"! Not what we want to be .... Thank you so much Sudha Ma'am...💞🙏
Completely agreed with each word said. I just want to add that never neglect some fundamental expectations like respect, love and care. Both shall give each other respect, love and care❤️
you cant give freedom to a husband who is an alcoholic or womaniser. You can give a freedom to a husband who does not do anything wrong to disharmonize the family.
Yes. But she said a valid point. Nowadays, there is no adjustments. My mother used to say that her parents always advice her that she should adjust to my father's family. Nowadays, girls when they enter into a house, try to separate her husband from his mom.
@@cubancafe7867 we Kannadigas respect Tamil people for fighting for Tamil language. My sincere request to my Tamil friends : please help Kannadigas in saving our Kannada language. We will always be grateful to you for your support.
So you will accept your husband the way he is even if he's completely lazy and irresponsible?? You will give him the freedom and liberty to go do what he wants, party and all, while you work professionally and come home and continue to do housework as well? Don't support a speech that is not applicable to everyone.
What a gracious woman! I am so glad to see this video as I am about to get married. Although it is an arranged marriage, I love my husband-to-be so much. ❤️
No wonders Infosys grew so big No wonders Nayayana Murthy is so rich No wonders Sudha Murthy is so rich Rich not only of money but of values Stay Blessed Sudha India needs Millions and Millions of Sudha(s)... infact the World too needs Sudha(s) like you... May God Bless you...
This is one of the best advise to any women which equally applies to all men. Her advise to both the entity.....has the cure for all matrimonial disputes... seperate if you just can't adjust......
So you will accept your wife the way she is even if she's completely lazy and irresponsible?? Don't support a speech that is not applicable to everyone.
Cant get seperated there is emotional blackmail of children...indian society says what ever hapns u hv to stay with husband and die...whetheru like or not..parents to dont support women once she is married...
Simple and Straight..Don’t expect or force or do a showoff of any kind just to seek validation. PDA and all other stuffs like not giving space, being jugedmental with the friend circle etc. are the criterias one follows to make people around ‘em BELIEVE that their marriage is successful one. RATHER than making people BELIEVE one should focus on keeping their own BELIEF in a marriage.
Charming and so innocent. Why would her husband fight with her? What she says here is gold guys. But the truth is the other side never accepts. No matter how understanding you get, you still get misinterpreted and discarded.
I always agree what you say Ma'am....the way you speak difficult topics in such a simple way is always commendable. This is a great advice to all the women
I love her lines "Accept the person what he is" Makes my life wonderful. She is my role model. She is always positive, cheerful, understanding, responsible and a lot a lot more.
If there is love, there will be understanding naturally. Without even knowing that each other is understood well. If there is no love, why should someone understand or be understood? My husband used to say that we are parallel lines and we will never meet. However, we are never out of track. We have never agreed on anything so far. Yet we are happy with a good family. We have agreed to disagree. Mutual respect for each other. I have not lost my freedom and individuality. I think that's the best gift any spouse could give.
the problem is not about a wife accepting her husband as he is, the problem arises when husbands demand their wives to "change" for their convenience !! their wives should be the only one to compromise as per himself, his mother his father his siblings. the wife should fulfil all her duties of the home and hearth even is she too wants to be dedicated to her career, the wife should take care of the kids, the wife this and the wife that. after marriage the woman completely loses her own personality, character adn desires. That is what brings the clashes. if she too is thriving in the marriage there would be no clashes.
@@nagasankarrao1270 agreed but unfortunately in Indian societies, patience is expected only from the wife. if husband wants a promotion and has to put in more hours, the wife has to have the Patience and handle "her" responsibilities. unless the realization that marriage is a "Partnership " where both partners have Equal responsibilities sets in there will never be a Happy marriage. the husband will just sire a child but the responsibility of bringing it up is of the woman. the husband will bring the wife to his family and the responsibility of managing the family is of the new wife who has no clue about the nature of people in his house.. Typical words from the husbands mother or sister " now that he is your husband you have to take the responsibility of "Improving his life" nobody ever says to the woman that now that you are married to our family, you are our responsibility. We will take care and look after you thru all thick and thin.
Absolutely right..after marriage there no individual career for her.All the time she have to compromise herself and accepting their wishes at maximum level she try to fulfill that.Marriage completely changing a women physically and mentally but end of the day she is loosing herself her happiness,wishes, confidence, carreer sometimes getting complementary words from in law's your mother not teached you well.
@@darlakrishnan5697 true this is when the same mother tells the new wife of her son that she has to take care of him !! so what did she do as a mother for her own son ? what did she teach her son ? be a burden on the wife ? Marriage in Indian societies is a Joke. its not a partnership between 2 individuals, its basically hiring a manager for a dysfunctional family.
I've lost both my maternal & paternal grand mother's and it's been over 6 years now. Sudhammagaru it's my fortune living time to have come across someone speak and in a way preach the younger generation that Life is not mere worthful but far away valuable to experience. I could ignore a single statement from so many of your interviews. I'll be more fortunate to not just read myself but share thoughts of your ideologies from your books with my children, if at all there's one to share my Life. I bet on my entire life, Narayan sir, is a fortunate and wise Man to have chosen you. My honest Regards to you Sudhamma. 🤝
Sudha Murty is an institution, for me, I respect her for her teaching to all woman like me. Hat's off to her for her immense knowledge in every aspect of life, she is an outstanding woman for me.
Of course most of the women would be ready to follow her advice if the husbands are determined towards a successful life as her husband. Towards husbands who are self destructive this advice will not apply.
With all due respect to Sudha Ma'am, I must add my view point;just as women need to give freedom to their spouse so should men do to theirs.The understanding of circumstances, events and emotions should always be mutual.Most men would take it as a birthright to have the freedom to live the life that they enjoy whereas expect women to be submissive and supportive of the choices made by them.Marriage should be strengthened by the mutual reciprocation of the love and care .Last but the most important aspect is having 'Gratitude'of the smallest act that your spouse may do for you to make your life easy.Give a few chances to one's spouse for any wrong doings and see if there is realization and determination from the respective other side to salvage the relationship.An act of genuine repentance ,can always mend a relationship and keep it forever.I hope today's generation will resonate with my thoughts and I sincerely wish that marriages remain blissful for all generations despite the ups and downs.The absolute truth remains, that at a time in life when children fly the nest, when ones parents have crossed over; the only emotional anchor one has is one's spouse.So respect, concern and gratitude should always be the governing factor to a man and woman alike.
Either marriage or any relationship accepting each other’s shortcomings is the greatest task.. and that’s also the toughest thing to do as that requires oneself to drop ego, selfishness and the list goes on..
Hats off to Mrs Sudha Murthy. Her talk is worth listening by the younger generation who do not have the patience and are not ready to adjust and compromise. Even for petty issues they go to the extent of divorce.
My husband and I have accepted each other as we are . Most of the times we both are on same page. He respects and loves me a lot. He has given me alllll the freedom to do whatever I wish for. Misunderstandings happen but in my experience the only way out is to talk it through and try to understand each other , if not let each other decide for themselves , give them their freedom and let them take the total control and responsibility of their decisions . That's all. 😊
@Shruti Sinha I know some feminist people take it otherwise and say who is he to give you freedom, so a correction , he let's me be and has never tried to change the way I am. Hope you understand and feel better now. 😃
Really real Inspiration that without your support Mr Myrthy can't get founder's Infosys . the balance you maintained between offices and travelling and absences were excellent salute you and Mr Murthy also from San Francisco
Actually when we accept everyone in our lives as they're, life never gets stressful or complicated.. we even stay healthy. But very well said by the Lady. She has always been my inspiration and still does. 🙏
@@nnshiek5244 I do understand what you mean dear. Ofcourse accepting people as they are is not letting them abuse you. Any form of abuse must not be tolerated. Abusers could be husband, wife, parents or children. No one must be spared.
@@anitak1176 then your case is exceptional just like there might plenty of men who are successful without needing a woman except birth ofcourse..so that way behind a successful man too can be just his hardwork and his and only his efforts.so your statement that behind every successful woman is wrong .. in fact behind most of the successful people there are multiple people who support them in case of women their father who makes sure that his daughter gets to study just like his son which our society does not take that well in some parts even till this date .. her brother in case she has one , who motivates her friends for that matter which can be any gender her mother and ofcourse an understanding partner as well in case u get that success after marriage.. same goes for men too .. success can hardly ever be just yours only .. and if it is then u are truly an exception.. so I feel your choice of words wasn't correct..
@@hemasingh2819 You're right. That's why the choice of words that behind "every succesful woman" there is a man is equally wrong!! One should say behind few or some succesful woman there is a man. I have also seen many woman who are talented but due to lack of support they fail to accomplish their goals in life. So men generally don't support. But yes there are many woman who are succesful because of their family support and especially their father's support! Husbands rarely support and that also within the limits and social obligations!
Thank you madam...Very lightly explained but clarified nicely the reason that makes a man type of sandwich when he is between mother and wife...and still looks forward for a mind that understands him better...
Today I'm successful in my life because I worked hard . My father is a toxic person. He spoiled my childhood. He made my mother's life miserable. My mother was a teacher. She lived for me. She raised me supported me admist of her difficult life with my father. During my childhood i saw my father hitting my mother everyday for no reason. She was helpless. She feared the society. So she didn't go with divorce. Still she raised her kid (me) with best education, facilities as she was financially independent. Then i got married. It was a Love marriage. I loved my husband with all my heart. I spent all my income for their house. But my husband cheated me. Today I'm still strong because of the support of thewomen in my family. So please don't generalise things. It's not like I'm against men or anything. But I don't have any privileges like you. This is my life experience
Very beautifully explained Ma'am. If there is love & understanding between husband and wife , life becomes easy & many problems can be resolved mutually.
Understanding each other ,accepting each other is the ultimate theme of her words ..in between understanding the relation between mother and son is the best thing she said ..
I was once reading an article ... where I came across a joke: 'What is the secret behind your 40 years marriage ' asked a friend to the couple at their anniversary. The husband replied 'My wife loves me and I love me, that is the only secret'.
with all respect to Sudha mam, It's easy to accept a man who is passionate and driven for a constructive aspect in life. I see many men in this generations hooked up in front of laptops, virtual games, TV and social media. They disregard the family life and love ones in that process. Then a wife or a wellwisher has to point it out to them.
What is wrong is pointing it out to them , everybody is running a rat race of money ,fame , addictions , responsibilities. Some people may have get lost in these Other realities . Balance of both family and work is important. Its a good sign that u r thinking of pointing it out to him , some people won't even do that .
So true! Also, if Mrs. Murthy herself had the freedom to devote at least 3 weeks of a month to NGO activities that speaks a lot of her privilege. Seems she had the luxury to delegate household responsibilities to domestic help.
Mam, working women these days don't want their husband to take them out for a movie, or to take them out for shopping. They want them to share household chores and do their share of parenting. Women don't care how much money the husband is giving to mother inlaw. They want the liberty to help their own parents in the same way as husband helps his parents Also every husband is not a tapas like Murthy who lives and breathes Infosys. Husband might be spending the day playing video games while the wife is doing all the chores like an adult after working in an office.
@99 may be her husband has made her that miserable. I have seen so many happy bubly girls changing into miserable women thanks to their husband and in-laws.
@99 I pity your wife. While she may be working u are here comenting on stranger ladies that too under the guise of anonymity. You have proved the point of so many ladies here thanks☺️
Wife and husband must have to respect eachother equally. And understand their hearts and to take and share responsibilities equally. Marriage is not about adjustments comprising. It's all about love understanding and not doubting others but supporting and encouraging eachother. We need to accept our husband what ever he is, so does he need to accept his women as well in all aspects.
Madam You are an icon in so many aspects in this present time and society. You are an absolute example of women of the best family in our society. God bless you for long life with good health. 💐🙏🙏🙏
That's exceptional case. She is definitely not suggesting to stay in a toxic or abusive relationship. Infact, no one should stay in such relationship. Sometimes it's better to move out.
What u say is for people who think I do what I like and u do what u like. I am sorry I feel husband and wife should do what both like to raise a family only than there will be a happy marriage and good families. Even if u are coming together from different families love will prevail and happiness will be seen.
@@sabrinamerchant1964 that is failure of that arrogant lady. How many days he will polish her shoes and live like a slave. She also had a extra marital affair with another man. so do you expect him to stay if he were your brother? I dont
How to accept a drunkard and abusive husband? No need to accept wat he s if he s making our life a mess then have to come out of such abusive relation women are not slaves to suffer
That's why she said that she belong to the previous generation and the women of previous generation believe that it is better to adjust and tolerate a drunkard or an abusive husband than to live alone. It is still valid too. But of course feminists won't agree.
@@rajamohan8464 okay so it's better to live with a lunatic than to be by yourself besides one can find love again .. so leaving a toxic partner is anyday better n it's valid for both genders.. if ur wife is toxic leave her if ur husband is toxic leave him.. simple.. mental peace is more important than companionship anyday..
@@shahnas7606 he is a man ...he will say that..women r meant to obey, adjust in all things, get beaten and treated like jail acquist according to him...he wil not say if he is born as girl..
What about girls, who use boyfriends for long time for her and for her family purposes.....and will try to avoid saying I'm not liking you.....this is just bullshit you ladies are speaking...
With my experience I can only tell one thing... Family, relationships and happiness are of utmost importance...after that only success and career comes. Yes we need success but we also need family and happiness. It's not worthy to lose everything to just get a success in ur career. I had seen many people even after getting enough success they want it more for that they will destroy their relationship, peace n happiness all for just getting more name , fame and money What u all think losing everything of utmost importance and getting a secondry things like success n money in ur career is worthy?
@@shaaam6654 how can anyone consider sati as an Indian Culture... It was practised only amoung some groups in Bengal ......that social evil was not even an Bengali culture then how indian????
@@Boldz-fit Madam being women you are using bad words. You can take out your frustrations in other ways on other platforms as well. Your comments have shown what your thoughts are. I follow simple rule ignore idiots. 👍
I hope God will give me a wife as same like Sudha Murthy garu..in terms of her thoughts,bravery and her approach to life....what a wonderful human being she is..🙏
Whoever feels how lucky Sudha ma'am is on getting an understanding husband, they all should see this video to witness her sacrifices.
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A Women can do many sacrifices if she get a good and understanding husband.
Behind an every successful woman there is an understanding husband. ❤️
That's such a beautiful line.
It's better to say like this
Behind every successful women there is a progressive man😊
@@positivity798 understanding and progressive both!!!agar partner ka mentality ko understand nehi kar payenge toh support kaise karenge?!!and progressive toh hain hi,that's why he will accept and respect her ambition
Yes if husband cant understand her wife
The wife life will be in kitchen and nothing
@@positivity798 Perfectly said.
"Behind every successful women there should be understanding husband"... True words mam.... Now I unstd my husband understanding nature too..
Proud Kannadiga. Kannada pride.
@@rtms9092 What Kannada? Say Indian....we all are one.....don't cry for glorifying a state only.
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Ur mother told u that if u fight with your husband and came back, then she won't open the doors,but to adjust.. there was a girl in kerala who suicided a couple of months before knowing that her parents won't open the doors and she took all the pain and suffered and died...
U r just lucky that ur husband is a good man... We can't expect everybody be the same..
I agree. Many innocent girls would have lost their lives to that thought, and many keep adjusting unhappily.
The talk is relative because as she said, her husband is understanding. And that doesn’t come on one day. It is there or not there.
Adjustment should only be if the path of dharma is followed. Else Mahabharat too wouldn’t have happened. Everyone must know when it time to fight their battles !
Narayan murthy can be accepted as ge is. But all men can not be accepted as they are. So this theory does not work for all.
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It's depends on the matter that y they are fighting.A parents should know the reason behind the fight.if they are fighting just for silly reasons her parents should stay away from that.
What will we do mam if husband is an abusive nature with weird nature. Do you help that type of girl. How can we accept such type of person
Amazing lines : As a friend.. I don't feel this is right.. as a family unit, I accept it..
This is what is needed today..
You pick excellent lines from her answer
Lol too many open questions 😂
1. Aren't friends the family we choose?
2. What if you married your best friend 😜
3. What if as a friend you agree but as a family unit you disagree 😅
👍Nice topic👌
#shrisha
#shrishafoundation
@@jiaan_op9052 So true
@@jiaan_op9052 Good reply 👍
I have not seen such a humble person...she is inspiration for all men and women.
*Every family has a person who breaks the chain of poverty. I hope you will be that person!!*
Getting money is an issue that everyone has needs in order to live a better and luxurious life. Life was difficult for me until i began trading,and I'm now earning a lot of money even with the current crash happening in the trading market. I still make gains using a better strategies....
Being earning $2,900 on every $200 lnvested in the space of 7trading days
@@dianebuzz1346 Not only that.
The reason people fail to succeed is discouragement from family and friends, how do you know if something is working or not with out a trial.
@@dianebuzz1346 what is required to get that kinda gain.
Humble, Knowledgeable, above all… Great human being….
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👏Nice topic👌
#shrisha
#shrishafoundation
This human is epitome of wisdom and generosity, far better than most of the comedian these days in terms of being funny , also wiser then many intellectuals
Dude she is not an ordinary aunty... Search
Aunty? Are you for real? Do you know even who she is? She is a stallwart in her industry...Her family members are mostly gold medallists from elite universities of the world!
Do you even know who she is..
Aunty ? She is the The Sudha Murthy Maam ! What aunty?
Aunty? Are you serious.. Funny Indian youth,
So true....This exact thought changed my life. Life has become very easy, when I realized that my husband looks at things totally different from how I look at it. Allowing him to do that makes him feel strong and giving that strength to him, I become more stronger....❤️🤗
Accept a person as it is doesn’t mean you accept them however messed up they’re. There are boundaries. You need to be sensible enough. If they've issues mentally, they need to sort it out before getting into any commitment or relationship. It's not the other individuals duty to fix these issues or concerns that can potentially threaten the integrity of any relationship. Yes, in a very basic platonic relationship most tend to overlook a lot of things and go with it as it wouldn't bother you too much due to a very minimal connect on an emotional level. But when there's something known as vulnerability and emotional intimacy a lot of things cannot be let go as such as vulnerability and emotional intimacy is part and parcel of any romantic relationship as time goes. It all comes down to how much it means and what the relationship is to a person. The degree of intensity varies but never take BS from any person. Always know your self-worth. If the quote "Accept them for who they're." is literally taken? Yes, to a very certain extent it can be but never let anyone take you for granted, you will be for sure be messed up by that individual if you're not concerned. If they’re toxic? NO. You will need to put an end to it and let go. You cannot workaround such individuals, you’re stooping down to low standards. But if you consider yourself to be of low self-worth? You’re free to engage in such lacking adequacies which is otherwise considered a mandate in any relationship and “Accept them for who they’re.” But if you know your true self-worth as a person? You know what to do, do not settle for mediocre and do not allow yourself to get treated in a shitty manner. You always deserve the best.
Very well said...100 percent fact
@@sunilnair5373 Thanks!
Very well said.👍👍👍
@@umaannita1493Thank you!
Cannot agree with you more. What she says is the conventional view- sadly, unfortunately, it does not always work. Another addition to the “wisdom” women have been fed over centuries.
1:34 -The statement shows DISCIPLINE
5:00- Shows GENEROSITY
5:30- Husband is a wife's FRIEND too.
5:54- Good PHILOSOPHY
Appreciation to the lady too from the audience to ask her this question perhaps knowing that she will receive some unique reply from Madam Sudha.
U are a lucky wife . That's what I can say Unlike my father who is abusive as a wife my mom tolerated everything but as a mother she can't so she left him one day. She raised her kids and educated them as a single parent. I am so proud I have got a great mom.
This is true... in many families. Mams views r not suitable for ladies🥲 who r married to beast like men
Thats exception pla dont bring that herw maybe ur dad has issues too
@@Sharma10910 sorry pls women have more support thn men
I think u have commom sense right
Both partners should accept each other as they are. Not just the wife!😊👍
Exactly! I cant comprehend how a woman can give such a statement
Only women, kids and dogs are accepted the way they are . Man is accepted if he provides something.
Women on the other hand always tend to FIX MEN to achieve her dreams.
Entire history asks the question WHAT WOMEN WANT. Have you ever thought about what WHAT MEN WANT?
Also, as Sudha said that owner tend to want OWNERSHIP of man and they get jealous of them being close to sons being close to their moms. Stop your jealousy.
One should not contradict everything, she mentioned her views… if you cannot accept it then don’t contradict… there are many things that men cannot do but women can and they are many things that women cannot but men can… we are all born with a purpose don’t lose yourself in trivial matters like who is better and who is not.. you do you… if you cannot make a life better then not make it worse atleast.
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modern women may not understand your values madam, but they were gems ! humility at its best is the way of life. Thanks !
I am to much impressed by her simplicity and explaining the things through the best way possible.......
Thank-you mam, I'm living in a confusion last 3,4 days and you have just wash my mind thank-you once again mam
Sudha Ma'am speaks the truth so bluntly yet beautifully. Absolutely love her speeches and books
Natki bai compy mdhe lKsha de thoda
So you will accept your husband the way he is even if he's completely lazy and irresponsible?? You will give him the freedom and liberty to go do what he wants, party and all, while you work professionally and come home and continue to do housework as well? Don't support a speech that is not applicable to everyone.
Ma'am her son had a failed first marriage with Lakshmi from the TVS Group, so what is she preaching about.
@@asht7899 Wait a min. Did she say that??
@@asht7899 She never said that the speech is applicable to everyone
Genuinely epitome of novel thoughts as well as sophisticated personality with pure knowledge and distinguished intellectual yet simplicity at it best. Immense respect Ma'am for such insightful speech for youth at the right time.
She has such positive and sweet vibes. I wish I had a grandma like her.
It’s easy to say these things when you are married to a decent, hard working man who is successful and stable and when his mother and Sister don’t harass you and create a toxic environment for you. A man should meet the needs and wants of his wife and kids first (within reason) this is my opinion.
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I'm blessed to be watching her video, she's isn't just humble but an impeccable speaker and motivator also. Thank you madam.
Proud Kannadiga
Kannadiga pride. Kannada pride.
This is it !🙏
That's why we (me & my hubby) never realized that we've completed 10 years without any ill issues .... The words LIBERTY & FREEDOM were always there ... and we both accepted each other as "what we are"! Not what we want to be ....
Thank you so much Sudha Ma'am...💞🙏
Kannadiga pride. Kannada pride
Proud Kannadiga
Proud Kannadiga. Kannada pride.
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Purity of mind, thinking higher, love, affection, compassion in abundance keeps one happy and successful in life. Nice video, great talk
Completely agreed with each word said. I just want to add that never neglect some fundamental expectations like respect, love and care. Both shall give each other respect, love and care❤️
Very true
this speech is speechless. should be on the top and trended forever
you cant give freedom to a husband who is an alcoholic or womaniser. You can give a freedom to a husband who does not do anything wrong to disharmonize the family.
True
You are right
True
Yes. But she said a valid point. Nowadays, there is no adjustments. My mother used to say that her parents always advice her that she should adjust to my father's family. Nowadays, girls when they enter into a house, try to separate her husband from his mom.
V true
She is a GEM. Brilliant way of explaining.
Because she is a Kannadiga. Kannada pride.
@@rtms9092 I m tamilian .. I really admire her simplicity and kindness … such a sweet woman ..
@@cubancafe7867 we Kannadigas respect Tamil people for fighting for Tamil language. My sincere request to my Tamil friends : please help Kannadigas in saving our Kannada language. We will always be grateful to you for your support.
So you will accept your husband the way he is even if he's completely lazy and irresponsible?? You will give him the freedom and liberty to go do what he wants, party and all, while you work professionally and come home and continue to do housework as well? Don't support a speech that is not applicable to everyone.
Sorry she couldn't save her sons first marriage with Lakshmi from the TVS group.
What a gracious woman! I am so glad to see this video as I am about to get married. Although it is an arranged marriage, I love my husband-to-be so much. ❤️
The man should also accept a wife as she is.. basically both should understand the importance of eachother ... Simple 👍
Correct...both should listen eachother and respect and support ...every men nd women are different...so this Funda will not work for everyone
@@chinmayeepriyadarshinidash4426 simply failure funda .just dont get married 😑
100% correct
True
Wow 😮😯😳😮😱 LoL 😆
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But some people always do bullshit between two
No wonders Infosys grew so big
No wonders Nayayana Murthy is so rich
No wonders Sudha Murthy is so rich
Rich not only of money but of values
Stay Blessed Sudha
India needs Millions and Millions of Sudha(s)... infact the World too needs Sudha(s) like you...
May God Bless you...
This is one of the best advise to any women which equally applies to all men. Her advise to both the entity.....has the cure for all matrimonial disputes... seperate if you just can't adjust......
So you will accept your wife the way she is even if she's completely lazy and irresponsible?? Don't support a speech that is not applicable to everyone.
Cant get seperated there is emotional blackmail of children...indian society says what ever hapns u hv to stay with husband and die...whetheru like or not..parents to dont support women once she is married...
@@januanniebesant9560 agree
Simple and Straight..Don’t expect or force or do a showoff of any kind just to seek validation. PDA and all other stuffs like not giving space, being jugedmental with the friend circle etc. are the criterias one follows to make people around ‘em BELIEVE that their marriage is successful one. RATHER than making people BELIEVE one should focus on keeping their own BELIEF in a marriage.
She is a Kannadiga. Proud Kannadiga. Kannada pride.
👏👏Nice topic👌
#shrisha
#shrishafoundation
Charming and so innocent. Why would her husband fight with her? What she says here is gold guys. But the truth is the other side never accepts. No matter how understanding you get, you still get misinterpreted and discarded.
I always agree what you say Ma'am....the way you speak difficult topics in such a simple way is always commendable. This is a great advice to all the women
Hats off to you Madam, for such a wonderful and amazing speech. For the current generation, most of the problems get solved if we can learn from this.
👍Nice topic👌
#shrisha
#shrishafoundation
I love her lines "Accept the person what he is" Makes my life wonderful.
She is my role model. She is always positive, cheerful, understanding, responsible and a lot a lot more.
Yes, that's reality n truth of life.
If there is love, there will be understanding naturally. Without even knowing that each other is understood well. If there is no love, why should someone understand or be understood? My husband used to say that we are parallel lines and we will never meet. However, we are never out of track. We have never agreed on anything so far. Yet we are happy with a good family. We have agreed to disagree. Mutual respect for each other. I have not lost my freedom and individuality. I think that's the best gift any spouse could give.
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Parallel line always meet in infinty!!
Shutup 👎
@@a-knowingengineer5273 infinity never comes...nd life is tooo short.. it would take more than seven hundered lives to meet then
Exactly
the problem is not about a wife accepting her husband as he is, the problem arises when husbands demand their wives to "change" for their convenience !! their wives should be the only one to compromise as per himself, his mother his father his siblings. the wife should fulfil all her duties of the home and hearth even is she too wants to be dedicated to her career, the wife should take care of the kids, the wife this and the wife that. after marriage the woman completely loses her own personality, character adn desires. That is what brings the clashes. if she too is thriving in the marriage there would be no clashes.
Patience is required to be happy in any field not only in married life irrespective of gender
@@nagasankarrao1270 agreed but unfortunately in Indian societies, patience is expected only from the wife. if husband wants a promotion and has to put in more hours, the wife has to have the Patience and handle "her" responsibilities. unless the realization that marriage is a "Partnership " where both partners have Equal responsibilities sets in there will never be a Happy marriage. the husband will just sire a child but the responsibility of bringing it up is of the woman. the husband will bring the wife to his family and the responsibility of managing the family is of the new wife who has no clue about the nature of people in his house.. Typical words from the husbands mother or sister " now that he is your husband you have to take the responsibility of "Improving his life" nobody ever says to the woman that now that you are married to our family, you are our responsibility. We will take care and look after you thru all thick and thin.
Absolutely right..after marriage there no individual career for her.All the time she have to compromise herself and accepting their wishes at maximum level she try to fulfill that.Marriage completely changing a women physically and mentally but end of the day she is loosing herself her happiness,wishes, confidence, carreer sometimes getting complementary words from in law's your mother not teached you well.
@@buddhapiyao1315 yo.. That's true..
@@darlakrishnan5697 true this is when the same mother tells the new wife of her son that she has to take care of him !! so what did she do as a mother for her own son ? what did she teach her son ? be a burden on the wife ? Marriage in Indian societies is a Joke. its not a partnership between 2 individuals, its basically hiring a manager for a dysfunctional family.
I've lost both my maternal & paternal grand mother's and it's been over 6 years now. Sudhammagaru it's my fortune living time to have come across someone speak and in a way preach the younger generation that Life is not mere worthful but far away valuable to experience. I could ignore a single statement from so many of your interviews. I'll be more fortunate to not just read myself but share thoughts of your ideologies from your books with my children, if at all there's one to share my Life. I bet on my entire life, Narayan sir, is a fortunate and wise Man to have chosen you. My honest Regards to you Sudhamma. 🤝
Sudha Murty is an institution, for me, I respect her for her teaching to all woman like me. Hat's off to her for her immense knowledge in every aspect of life, she is an outstanding woman for me.
Simplicity is the best policy 🙏
The intellectual yet humble women of this era 👏
🙏Nice topic👌
#shrisha
#shrishafoundation
Of course most of the women would be ready to follow her advice if the husbands are determined towards a successful life as her husband.
Towards husbands who are self destructive this advice will not apply.
Exactly
Patience is required to be happy in any field not only in married life irrespective of gender
Forget about it.. These advice do not suit today's women... And no one is going to follow them...
I think this is the first time i am seeing a woman saying something good about men! Respect! :)
Best vedio watched till now.... Very happy😁..... Sudha murty mam ur just amazing
With all due respect to Sudha Ma'am, I must add my view point;just as women need to give freedom to their spouse so should men do to theirs.The understanding of circumstances, events and emotions should always be mutual.Most men would take it as a birthright to have the freedom to live the life that they enjoy whereas expect women to be submissive and supportive of the choices made by them.Marriage should be strengthened by the mutual reciprocation of the love and care .Last but the most important aspect is having 'Gratitude'of the smallest act that your spouse may do for you to make your life easy.Give a few chances to one's spouse for any wrong doings and see if there is realization and determination from the respective other side to salvage the relationship.An act of genuine repentance ,can always mend a relationship and keep it forever.I hope today's generation will resonate with my thoughts and I sincerely wish that marriages remain blissful for all generations despite the ups and downs.The absolute truth remains, that at a time in life when children fly the nest, when ones parents have crossed over; the only emotional anchor one has is one's spouse.So respect, concern and gratitude should always be the governing factor to a man and woman alike.
Either marriage or any relationship accepting each other’s shortcomings is the greatest task.. and that’s also the toughest thing to do as that requires oneself to drop ego, selfishness and the list goes on..
well said
If there is pure love then only its become easy
Mm yes...but most of the time it won't happens...
Hats off to Mrs Sudha Murthy. Her talk is worth listening by the younger generation who do not have the patience and are not ready to adjust and compromise. Even for petty issues they go to the extent of divorce.
My husband and I have accepted each other as we are . Most of the times we both are on same page. He respects and loves me a lot. He has given me alllll the freedom to do whatever I wish for. Misunderstandings happen but in my experience the only way out is to talk it through and try to understand each other , if not let each other decide for themselves , give them their freedom and let them take the total control and responsibility of their decisions . That's all. 😊
@Shruti Sinha I know some feminist people take it otherwise and say who is he to give you freedom, so a correction , he let's me be and has never tried to change the way I am. Hope you understand and feel better now. 😃
Really real Inspiration that without your support Mr Myrthy can't get founder's Infosys . the balance you maintained between offices and travelling and absences were excellent salute you and Mr Murthy also from San Francisco
The respect I have for this woman is immense......
Actually when we accept everyone in our lives as they're, life never gets stressful or complicated.. we even stay healthy.
But very well said by the Lady. She has always been my inspiration and still does. 🙏
Proud Kannadiga. Kannada pride
@@nnshiek5244 It's definitely tough initially, but it's possible...by consciously practicing it.. don't expect from people. Be independent. It's easy.
@@nnshiek5244 I do understand what you mean dear.
Ofcourse accepting people as they are is not letting them abuse you. Any form of abuse must not be tolerated. Abusers could be husband, wife, parents or children. No one must be spared.
It's a two way
Not true.you may accept people the way they are but they won't accept your the same way and that's what creates conflicts.
Behind every succesful woman there is only herself, her consistent hardwork, her talents and her knowledge and wisdom!
@Arun Mathew i never had all this except a birth!
@@anitak1176 then your case is exceptional just like there might plenty of men who are successful without needing a woman except birth ofcourse..so that way behind a successful man too can be just his hardwork and his and only his efforts.so your statement that behind every successful woman is wrong .. in fact behind most of the successful people there are multiple people who support them in case of women their father who makes sure that his daughter gets to study just like his son which our society does not take that well in some parts even till this date .. her brother in case she has one , who motivates her friends for that matter which can be any gender her mother and ofcourse an understanding partner as well in case u get that success after marriage.. same goes for men too .. success can hardly ever be just yours only .. and if it is then u are truly an exception.. so I feel your choice of words wasn't correct..
@@hemasingh2819 You're right. That's why the choice of words that behind "every succesful woman" there is a man is equally wrong!! One should say behind few or some succesful woman there is a man. I have also seen many woman who are talented but due to lack of support they fail to accomplish their goals in life. So men generally don't support. But yes there are many woman who are succesful because of their family support and especially their father's support! Husbands rarely support and that also within the limits and social obligations!
Thank you madam...Very lightly explained but clarified nicely the reason that makes a man type of sandwich when he is between mother and wife...and still looks forward for a mind that understands him better...
Kannadiga pride. Kannada pride
Today's generation, jumping from one thing to another is flawless. We should check each other's wisdom and emotional crisis before marriage.
So true.
I wish Sudha Murthy Mam will become President of India 💯🌲
Today I'm successful in my life because I worked hard . My father is a toxic person. He spoiled my childhood. He made my mother's life miserable. My mother was a teacher. She lived for me. She raised me supported me admist of her difficult life with my father. During my childhood i saw my father hitting my mother everyday for no reason. She was helpless. She feared the society. So she didn't go with divorce. Still she raised her kid (me) with best education, facilities as she was financially independent. Then i got married. It was a Love marriage. I loved my husband with all my heart. I spent all my income for their house. But my husband cheated me. Today I'm still strong because of the support of thewomen in my family. So please don't generalise things. It's not like I'm against men or anything. But I don't have any privileges like you. This is my life experience
i really wish every girl's marriage should be blissful. There should be a tonnes of love and trust in the marriage
Very beautifully explained Ma'am. If there is love & understanding between husband and wife , life becomes easy & many problems can be resolved mutually.
How wonderful, well said, all the tension vanished. THANKS
Understanding each other ,accepting each other is the ultimate theme of her words ..in between understanding the relation between mother and son is the best thing she said ..
I was once reading an article ... where I came across a joke:
'What is the secret behind your 40 years marriage ' asked a friend to the couple at their anniversary.
The husband replied 'My wife loves me and I love me, that is the only secret'.
This only a couple want,respect her ,love her,appreciate her,discuss with her
Very true
Mam your thoughts are so much important for us to do the best sansar 👏
with all respect to Sudha mam, It's easy to accept a man who is passionate and driven for a constructive aspect in life. I see many men in this generations hooked up in front of laptops, virtual games, TV and social media. They disregard the family life and love ones in that process. Then a wife or a wellwisher has to point it out to them.
What is wrong is pointing it out to them , everybody is running a rat race of money ,fame , addictions , responsibilities. Some people may have get lost in these Other realities . Balance of both family and work is important. Its a good sign that u r thinking of pointing it out to him , some people won't even do that .
Very good advice for a couple-hope it will help youngsters who are recently married
Exactly true madam .they are forgetting that just earning money is not enough they should give love to their family then only they will be happy
So true! Also, if Mrs. Murthy herself had the freedom to devote at least 3 weeks of a month to NGO activities that speaks a lot of her privilege. Seems she had the luxury to delegate household responsibilities to domestic help.
Problem arises when wife start behaving like a mother and start lecturing on every other small things ....
Yes This is big and powerful msg for women's that she accept as his husband I would like to say that every woman also must show this vidio thanks ma'm
Simplicity is all she all about... Really hats off and impressed by the way she has spoken.. 🙏🙏
It is such a great speech - can be used for counselling sessions of distraught couples.
Great as ever 👏
👍Nice topic👌
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#shrishafoundation
Mam, working women these days don't want their husband to take them out for a movie, or to take them out for shopping. They want them to share household chores and do their share of parenting.
Women don't care how much money the husband is giving to mother inlaw. They want the liberty to help their own parents in the same way as husband helps his parents
Also every husband is not a tapas like Murthy who lives and breathes Infosys. Husband might be spending the day playing video games while the wife is doing all the chores like an adult after working in an office.
If one person is having PATIENCE out of the two family will be happy
@@nagasankarrao1270 I hope life gives you ample opportunity to be that patient person
@99 may be her husband has made her that miserable. I have seen so many happy bubly girls changing into miserable women thanks to their husband and in-laws.
@99 I pity your wife. While she may be working u are here comenting on stranger ladies that too under the guise of anonymity. You have proved the point of so many ladies here thanks☺️
@99 ohh shutup u unemployed troll
Wife and husband must have to respect eachother equally. And understand their hearts and to take and share responsibilities equally. Marriage is not about adjustments comprising. It's all about love understanding and not doubting others but supporting and encouraging eachother. We need to accept our husband what ever he is, so does he need to accept his women as well in all aspects.
Well said 🙏
Right
Yea respect is the key to the lock, very important one
He need to make 3-4 times the money wife makes, no equality there I suppose for you.
Simplicity +propkarita +forgiveness 🎉🎉bhart ki sanskrity hai🎉🎉
Accept you husband as he is only when he accepts all pros and cons in you.
Yes
Agreed!!
Yup
👏Nice topic👌
#shrisha
#shrishafoundation
True...marriage is an agreement after all
Great personality and great thoughts. Very true experience you share. People learn and think twice present generation 👍👍
Hats off to you ma'am....... practical way of life explained in a lucid manner
👏Nice topic👌
#shrisha
#shrishafoundation
Beautiful ""Behind every successful Women is Understanding Men"" But what to do I m not fortunate like you Mam 🙏
Yes we r not that fortunate
Exactly not everyone is that lucky.
yes not that lucky either. Suffering with OCD personality !
Mam sach me apne life me bahut khush aur successful hain.
I know you are CEO but every speech very use full new generation Mam
Let every wife understand this and all husband don’t abuse this understanding.
Excellent message 👏 for good life. Thank you ma'am 😊
Kannadiga pride. Kannada power.
Wow
Great magical speech in a capsule form for the formation of great relationships.
Right
Excellent speech, motivated to young modern wives of today's generation. I admire your thoughts.
Madam You are an icon in so many aspects in this present time and society. You are an absolute example of women of the best family in our society. God bless you for long life with good health. 💐🙏🙏🙏
Please ladies(or men)If you are in an ABUSIVE relationship NEVER accept it.Fight for change or LEAVE.BUT NEVER SETTLE OR ACCEPT IT
You're literally taking her speech out of context!!!!!
That's exceptional case. She is definitely not suggesting to stay in a toxic or abusive relationship. Infact, no one should stay in such relationship. Sometimes it's better to move out.
Its toooo late for me😭😭😭😭
What u say is for people who think I do what I like and u do what u like. I am sorry I feel husband and wife should do what both like to raise a family only than there will be a happy marriage and good families. Even if u are coming together from different families love will prevail and happiness will be seen.
Very very wise women. She know how to build and sustain. Now a days breaking down and self importance has become a style for both husband and wife
Very true
Who told you her son has a first failed marriage tell her to preach to her children.
@@sabrinamerchant1964 that is failure of that arrogant lady. How many days he will polish her shoes and live like a slave. She also had a extra marital affair with another man. so do you expect him to stay if he were your brother? I dont
What a Words Ma’am, huge respect. People like you can only bring the change and stop the society damage in relationships nowadays
Exactly when we share mutual respect in any relationship that will be beautiful..,😇
No words for u Sudha Ma'am..this is the first time I listened u ...u r amazing ❤️❤️❤️
Ma'am Sudha has always been my role model.
Kannadiga power. Kannada pride.
She is a gem ❤️
Blessed are those who have met sudha Murthy ma'am,God should bless me for this and even all my well wishers too...nishasauparnika
Ma'am, I did this years ago & today he is so much a changed human being...
"Leave it" when I praise my mom and her presence in my life 🥰
Thorns do not stop some of us appreciating roses...🌹
X. Pll
How to accept a drunkard and abusive husband? No need to accept wat he s if he s making our life a mess then have to come out of such abusive relation women are not slaves to suffer
That's why she said that she belong to the previous generation and the women of previous generation believe that it is better to adjust and tolerate a drunkard or an abusive husband than to live alone. It is still valid too. But of course feminists won't agree.
@@rajamohan8464 okay so it's better to live with a lunatic than to be by yourself besides one can find love again .. so leaving a toxic partner is anyday better n it's valid for both genders.. if ur wife is toxic leave her if ur husband is toxic leave him.. simple.. mental peace is more important than companionship anyday..
@@rajamohan8464 it’s nt feminism it’s called self respect will u be with some one whom beat u nd use abusive words..it’s easy to pass comments..
@@shahnas7606 he is a man ...he will say that..women r meant to obey, adjust in all things, get beaten and treated like jail acquist according to him...he wil not say if he is born as girl..
What about girls, who use boyfriends for long time for her and for her family purposes.....and will try to avoid saying I'm not liking you.....this is just bullshit you ladies are speaking...
She started taking questions saying Yes Beta...what a strong character she has. Respekt
Very nicely explained Sudha ji
Lots of respect..
All younger generation & entire indians are proud of u mam.
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With my experience I can only tell one thing... Family, relationships and happiness are of utmost importance...after that only success and career comes. Yes we need success but we also need family and happiness. It's not worthy to lose everything to just get a success in ur career. I had seen many people even after getting enough success they want it more for that they will destroy their relationship, peace n happiness all for just getting more name , fame and money
What u all think losing everything of utmost importance and getting a secondry things like success n money in ur career is worthy?
Trueeeee
I see thousand of years of real indian culture in this women. She is a goddess 🙏🙏🙏
@@shaaam6654 why sati here.... 🙄
@@shaaam6654 how can anyone consider sati as an Indian Culture... It was practised only amoung some groups in Bengal ......that social evil was not even an Bengali culture then how indian????
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What a chutiyapa yaar, which goddess 🙄
@@Boldz-fit Madam being women you are using bad words. You can take out your frustrations in other ways on other platforms as well. Your comments have shown what your thoughts are. I follow simple rule ignore idiots. 👍
I hope God will give me a wife as same like Sudha Murthy garu..in terms of her thoughts,bravery and her approach to life....what a wonderful human being she is..🙏