Are Platonic Friendships Between Genders Possible? | TEA TALKS EP 8

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

Комментарии • 51

  • @scrubpcbpsg
    @scrubpcbpsg 2 года назад +334

    Wow learnt a lot from the 2 kakaks. Their little speech touched my soul.

    • @OGS.Official
      @OGS.Official  2 года назад +22

      us too...they were so sweet. we saw them giving each other a hug as they left the filming 🥺🥺🥺 -Jialing

  • @indeacia
    @indeacia 2 года назад +96

    i love ernie and oni!! the experiences they had together and the close-bonded friendship they have. really wanna thank them for joining the session.

  • @OGS.Official
    @OGS.Official  2 года назад +65

    Hands up if you've ever lost a friend 😢

    • @rachelwyen
      @rachelwyen 2 года назад

      ✊😔 wrote a couple of songs about it too

    • @CXHo-sy1xz
      @CXHo-sy1xz 2 года назад

      I've lost almost all lmao

  • @bananawomanD
    @bananawomanD 2 года назад +55

    I always enjoy your episodes. the hosts are such good, caring, compassionate listeners they always manage to get the interviewees to open up.

    • @OGS.Official
      @OGS.Official  2 года назад +3

      thank u for your support 🥺 we are lucky to get nice profiles who are willing to share!! -Jialing

  • @selinaong
    @selinaong 2 года назад +20

    MDM ERNIE! You taught me Geography in MJR!!♥️ (Your class was my favourite hehe🥳) If you're seeing this, I hope you're well and still adorable and lovely as you are now!!♥️♥️ Miss you so much!

  • @jopearlycpt
    @jopearlycpt 2 года назад +16

    Thank you for this video, adult friendships are really hard to keep

  • @CapDingo1975
    @CapDingo1975 2 года назад +3

    One way to keep old friends as current friends is to have new shared common experiences. So do new things together, don't just rely on reminiscing about years ago over and over again.

  • @myeongwol
    @myeongwol 2 года назад +15

    Very nice sharing especially the two beautiful ladies.
    I too wanted to maintain friendships that I treasured but i don't know why the 'friends' just didn't respond or eager as much as I do.
    Eventually many friendships just die off.
    Was very sad but what can I do.

    • @OGS.Official
      @OGS.Official  2 года назад +12

      sorry to hear that!! this topic has always been weighing on my mind, which was why i wanted to do an episode on it. but i've also come to realise sometimes you're not responsible for the other person's response and it's much better you at least tried to keep those friendships going! now, i've just learnt to focus on the important ones who stayed, and be more open-minded to new connections :) wishing you luck!! ❤️ -Jialing

  • @jayeq9974
    @jayeq9974 2 года назад +59

    This is amazingly made. A very unique and special idea, especially in Singapore. Thank you for making this video!

    • @OGS.Official
      @OGS.Official  2 года назад +1

      thank you for the support!! tell us if there are other topics you want us to cover, or better, join us at our next filming! 😝 -Jialing

  • @aymangee1280
    @aymangee1280 2 года назад +18

    Definitely the best episodes by far 🙌 Making an effort to be there for one another is important in maintaining friendships

  • @jamie68560
    @jamie68560 2 года назад +4

    My BFF and I have been friends since Poly, and we have been going strong for over 15 yrs now. I currently reside in Malaysia, I'm unmarried, while she has a husband and kid. Even though we live like, over 300km away, we still keep ourselves updated and some years there were long periods of silence but you know, it's amazing how we can just snap back to the way we always were before? We are so close, we say we have a "Bluetooth" connection, cos what happens to one of us often was also happening to the other, and we've bonded so much over our shared experiences. Even tho I'm bisexual, our friendship is purely platonic and never once have I had different feelings for her. She's my buddy, my BFF, and so yeah, I do believe platonic friendships exist. I also have a lot of close male friends too, whom I could share intimate things with, as I do with my BFF, but we all are capable of strictly platonic friendships too, we aren't attracted to each other. I'm now in a monogamous relationship with my other BFF, who happens to be a guy, and it did start off as a platonic friendship. But that's another story for another day. I think that, for all these lovely, wonderful people in my life, our friendships come first. Even with my ex, or with my partner, we're all friends first, and this love we have as friends will always triumph over anything else. My ex of 8 years? We split up over irreconcilable differences, but he's still one of my BFFs. Just no longer a romantic love, but back to our pure platonic friend love. Even if I end up alone in the end (choy) I still will love all my close friends and BFFs and these will remain fundamental in our relationships with each other. The love we have for a friend transcends boundaries, even an 8 Yr relationship! That is truly remarkable. Love is beautiful, love is kind.

  • @Jewcantseemi
    @Jewcantseemi 2 года назад +14

    I really love the range of age/lifepaths presented because we get to see from a spectrum of perspectives. It really shows how friendship is for different life stages and duration :')

  • @farihamohamedhilmy4700
    @farihamohamedhilmy4700 Год назад +1

    Friendships especially people whom you want to reconnect or reconcile are very difficult to find as you grow older.
    In my situation, I don’t think I would regret cutting ties with a guy who chose to reconnect with me back in June 13th 2022.
    I was surprised at first because I completely forgot about him and just moved on with my life as I had better things to do.
    My biggest regret was talking to him knowing that he hurt me before back in 2019 at UUM.
    But I guess what made me talk to him again after being ghosted for 2 and a half years was that I never knew a person whom I met in one of my higher education years would eventually reach out to me. Isn’t it funny?
    My emotions got the best of me since I used to like him before. I just had to cut ties because not only I said nasty things about him hurting me online but I just don’t even think we can stay platonic friends.
    Being emotionally manipulated by him into sexting was a trauma I suffered a lot. The fact he had an S.O. and never told me was also disgusting he would do such a thing to me!
    Which is another reason why I chose to cut ties.
    It was a bittersweet ending I would say.
    Now, I am just trying to value the friendships I have now which are mostly people whom I have got along since my high school years. NOW THOSE ARE MY REAL FRIENDS ✌🏻

  • @j4n531
    @j4n531 2 года назад +3

    loved this video… sometimes I try to reach out to friends but they don’t reciprocate, it takes two hands to clap I guess

  • @pndmmm1126
    @pndmmm1126 2 года назад +3

    i love this episode. finally something more pure and not about kinky topics. brings back memories!

  • @zulkamuradin3918
    @zulkamuradin3918 2 года назад +7

    Great content as always!!! Such a lovely episode, friendships (or any kind of relationships) take a lot of hard work and like what Adel said takes 2 hands to clap 👏🏼

  • @okaydoubleu
    @okaydoubleu 2 года назад +8

    IMHO, one of the best OGS's episodes. ✌🏼

  • @christinewong8701
    @christinewong8701 2 года назад +6

    A lot of females who have families , kids, jobs, etc to take care may find it hard to sustain friendships. Some spent a lot of time and energy taking care of their families till no time for themselves and friends

  • @zoneinfinite
    @zoneinfinite 2 года назад +8

    Aqil and Zahid are bromance goals. Where's mine that's missing in my life all these years? 😢

  • @flyhigh0905
    @flyhigh0905 2 года назад

    it was nice watching this video in the bus…you guys should consider uploading this series as podcasts!

  • @donspecz
    @donspecz 2 года назад +2

    Watching all the way from london, loving the series 👍👍👍

  • @oldbutbold
    @oldbutbold 2 года назад

    Ms Oni used to be the host of Disney Club Singapore on TV. This was decades ago...

  • @EhyWisdom
    @EhyWisdom 2 года назад +6

    Loved this one 💛

  • @azu4385
    @azu4385 2 года назад +1

    Eiyooo Mdm Ernieeee, my form teacherrrr

  • @Liu-wj9ig
    @Liu-wj9ig 2 года назад +1

    Thank you for making this video, it made my day a lil better :’)

  • @paganiniwannabe
    @paganiniwannabe 2 года назад +2

    Loved this, but it would be nice to further explore more opinions on whether cross-gender friendships can truly be platonic. Thanks!!

    • @yenchu1237
      @yenchu1237 2 года назад

      It definitely can. I am 50 and I have experienced quite a few platonic relationships with the opposite gender.

  • @embershen364
    @embershen364 2 года назад +3

    I’m an asexual and I don’t plan to ever get married as I’m very ugly, so I want to be friends with a lot of people, but it’s frustrating when guys think that I like them. Luckily, there are still some guys who didn’t think so and we could still remain friends.

  • @fyuyufyn5661
    @fyuyufyn5661 2 года назад

    this is a call for me to get in contact with my primary school friend, i’ve to make the effort!!

  • @Jing0470
    @Jing0470 2 года назад +1

    OMG MDM ERNIE !! LUV U CHER 🙆🏻‍♀️🫶🏻

  • @bagdaddyg6288
    @bagdaddyg6288 2 года назад

    i rmb mdm ernie during sec school… such a kind soul

  • @AK8901
    @AK8901 2 года назад

    People are lovely.

  • @mohammadfarhanbinabdulrahm2280
    @mohammadfarhanbinabdulrahm2280 2 года назад +1

    Mdm Ernie !! ❤️

  • @EnduranceTrainingVlogs
    @EnduranceTrainingVlogs 2 года назад

    why its ended quickly

  • @didi2cool
    @didi2cool 2 года назад

    Ernie & Oni ❤️

  • @shieldren
    @shieldren 2 года назад

    Are platonic friendships between genders possible? Absolutely. I'm a guy, BFF is a girl. In fact I'll be moving in with her and her husband soon. We trust each other with our lives.

  • @Nerubiru
    @Nerubiru 2 года назад

    I love the energy of the hosts but I realise sometimes the phrasing of their questions are a little confusing, just a little feedback

  • @pyschannel30
    @pyschannel30 2 года назад +1

    Eh, friendship fade. Everything will be bygones. Just have to accept the harsh reality that nobody will be ultimately be there for you(if you're single & has no siblings) and have to be there by yourself eventually.

  • @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS
    @HumdrumSingaporeanREACTS 2 года назад

    Adults have a lot of responsibilities in life, in comparison to when they are younger... ...
    And when (not if) ... ... when mistakes are made~
    Children will get a harsh punishment, and they can be educated and forgiven... ...
    Adults will severed a harsher punishment!, but they might never be able to be educated and forgiven

  • @alexandralynn186
    @alexandralynn186 2 года назад

  • @Patriciadas
    @Patriciadas 2 года назад

    🥺🥺🥺