I know it’s hard but you need to live in the moment for the foreseeable future because you can’t control all of this and it’s causing you stress and anxiety….when you have baby, everyone will have to step up and help and that includes your kids…they will all adjust and so will you….kids are resilient and they will all handle it….❤️ you will most likely be in NICU for a time and that is hard to plan for….make a bunch of freezer meals…every time you cook make two and freeze one…maybe purchase a small chest freezer
If you give him the chance, with the opportunity and practice he can do it. The learning curve for both of you will take some surrendering (control,expectations). Yes if you were home even like you said to take a step back from work to get through maternity leave everyone will benefit. It's not forever! You will work the rest of your life as you choose. We're all rooting for y'all! ♡
My heart just breaks for you Anna. I so understand your feelings of anxiety and maybe depression. Just know that you won't always feel like this. There are brighter days ahead for you...☀
This is such an important video. Thanks for sharing. I’ve followed you for years. I think you’re doing amazing, and I’ve never liked you more or related more to you than right now. You got this. Follow your heart/intuition, the rest will fall into place. 🩵
Don't feel bad about wanting to continue your career. I work afternoons so I only see my kids for an hour in the mornings and they're in bed when I get home. It sucks. And I hate it. But it's the only shift available for me in my line of work. I do have 4 days off in a 2 week period so I see then then . Sometimes it's just what needs to happen to pay the bills. It's life, and it's okay. Don't feel guilty. As for anxiety, I understand you 100%. I used to have anxiety so bad, I'd ignore phonecalls and even knocks at the door. I'd just in the same chair all day and just shiver and sweat with anxiety. The unknown IS scary, that's totally normal to feel that way. And maybe give Luke a chance at doing it himself. People take care of 5+ kids all the time, if he says he can do it, believe him. If he changes his mind, no harm done.
Anna you seem so sweet. Let your baby be born then take it from there. The unknown causes anxiety I know. Wishing you the very best. I’m sure everything will work out. It usually does ❤
Hugs and positive vibes! I know it doesn’t help!! Lol but If Luke says he’s got it! Let him handle it mama. It seems like he’s a great guy and dad. I’m sure he’ll let you know if he can’t handle something. ❤ it’s so hard to let go and put your trust in someone else with your kids. When you said you didn’t wanna go out bc it felt like a task… I felt that! Everything feels like a task anymore, it’s so hard!
I’d just line up extra help and if you don’t need it that’s great! But if you do that’s great too! That way while you’re at work you aren’t worried about him being overwhelmed! I’m sure he’s perfectly capable of handling it all but it’s never a bad thing to have extra help ❤ sending you hugs girl! It’s a big life change but just like you adjusted with one you’ll adjust to 5❤
I absolutely appreciate you speaking out about anxiety and how life can change so fast. I had to take a break from nursing school because I just had a baby during my first quarter and during second quarter he was diagnosed FTT. I had to make the choice to step back and focus on him. But don’t get me wrong it made me feel like I was giving up a little bit of my dream but I know life goes on and I can get back at it. It’s just the current season I’m in and I know there’s always a better future, it’s just how I perceive right now and the struggle. I know it sounds corney but I always refer to the song “it’s the climb” by Miley Cyrus. The climb is rough but at the top of the mountain the view is always great ❤ you’re doing amazing and you are a strong woman who create a beautiful life for yourself and family. Don’t you forget it.
Sending you the biggest hug! I also have anxiety so I can completely understand where you are coming from. You’ve got this mama 💜 maybe look into a pre natal/postpartum therapist? I had one after my daughter was born and it helped a lot. Thinking of you!
As moms it’s incredibly hard not to worry and want to know the answers to everything and be in control. I would say if Luke thinks he can handle it I would atleast give him the chance. If he does it a few times and decides he needs/wants help then you bring someone in to help him. I think you’ve found a great partner in him and I would just remind yourself to trust him to be honest with you if he feels like he can’t handle something or it’s too much. I have loved following you all these years! As cliche as it sounds it really will all work out❤
Oh, bless your heart, Anna and thanks for sharing your feelings and emotions. Of course, you are worried about Story and all of your children. My niece had a baby with gastroschisis and it was so stressful. (by the way, he is now 3 yrs old and perfectly normal and a happy child). I think you might consider taking time off from your job and try to enjoy just being a pregnant MOM, wife and chilling out a bit. Wish I could help......................take care, dear one. You are not alone. xo...grams from Ohio. Thanks for sharing your journey..xo
It really makes sense that you'd be feeling this way. I have anxiety too and you're embarking on a new chapter with a lot of unknowns and what ifs. Maybe just do a little research and find potential helpers in case Luke needs them after baby. When my son was in the nicu I was able to plan and put things in place so that will give you a little time as well. Thinking of you ❤
Been in similiar shoes before, getting a diagnosis in pregnancy (heart defect). Living in limbo is absolutely terrible. It's honeatly more mentally draining than the NICU part. Once baby is here it's hard but you also feel like you're doing things if that makes sense. Like you are making tangible plans and monitoring and taking steps once baby is here. During pregnancy it's just so many unknowns compounded on each other that it was mental torture. Big hugs. You are not alone.
Hi Anna I am a mom of 3 my kids are a lot older my 2 boys are 31 and 17 and my daughter is 14 my kids were not planned I got surprised 3 times and I am a single mom I have anxiety every one told me every thing will fall into place and it did Don’t worry your a great mom love you all ❤️sending my love and my prays 🙏
She’s not a nurse.. well a she is a RN but, her job is a death investigator. A PRN nursing job would be perfect for a new mom that way she can build her own schedule.
You will be ok a lot going on including pregnancy hormones. Try not to worry about everything if Luke said he can handle it let him try it. I’m sure if he needs help he will let you know. I wish you the best.
I feel like mine wouldn’t count because really we can sleep between cases coming in so it’s not a true night shift 😬 I feel like that would be cheating lol
It depends, I technically can take 12 weeks but I’ll be splitting it and going back to work while she is in the NICU so I don’t waste time without her home!
Are ya’ll in a good church? You might find a good counselor there. I’ll be praying for you to have peace in all of the circumstances you mentioned at the end of the video. 🙏🏼🥰
I hope you’ll be able to take time off after you have the baby. Think of the bottom lines that are bothering you, maybe you can work part time? Just a thought. Allow Luke to help I wouldn’t want a stranger in my home either. Especially with a newborn at night.
5 kids and a job is a LOT. It would be weird if you weren’t worried. Try to take it day by day. Your sleep schedule and hormones don’t help! You’ll look back on this time and know that it all worked out ❤️
I think you're used to a partner where that working situation would not be acceptable. Let him do it lol big families are chaos and he knows that and it's totally fine for things to be hard. He's your support even though they are not ALL his kids they are ALL family. I think the only thing here is to try to prepare for a longer maternity leave given her health situation. Your brain is going a mile a minute but it's okay just keep on chugging you can do it! #nestingbrain is like your trying to organize your life not just your physical stuff haha
Could both you and Luke drop one day at work each a week to help with the logistics? Hope you can find thr best thing to work for you all. My 2 cents would be try everything possible to stay in work, drop hours or days. Life will be hard with Story for a while but not forever you will get normality back and you still need 'your' life to continue. So hard 🤷🏻♀️
You explained the working mom anxiety’s so well.
I know it’s hard but you need to live in the moment for the foreseeable future because you can’t control all of this and it’s causing you stress and anxiety….when you have baby, everyone will have to step up and help and that includes your kids…they will all adjust and so will you….kids are resilient and they will all handle it….❤️ you will most likely be in NICU for a time and that is hard to plan for….make a bunch of freezer meals…every time you cook make two and freeze one…maybe purchase a small chest freezer
I do need to start working on freezer meals next month!!
If you give him the chance, with the opportunity and practice he can do it. The learning curve for both of you will take some surrendering (control,expectations). Yes if you were home even like you said to take a step back from work to get through maternity leave everyone will benefit. It's not forever! You will work the rest of your life as you choose. We're all rooting for y'all! ♡
My heart just breaks for you Anna. I so understand your feelings of anxiety and maybe depression. Just know that you won't always feel like this. There are brighter days ahead for you...☀
This is such an important video. Thanks for sharing. I’ve followed you for years. I think you’re doing amazing, and I’ve never liked you more or related more to you than right now. You got this. Follow your heart/intuition, the rest will fall into place. 🩵
Thanks for listening to me vent!!
It’s okay to just exist. As someone who has extreme anxiety it’s okay to not be okay. ❤ You are not alone!
Loved this vlog. The realness is just refreshing to watch. Thank you for taking the time to do it.
One day at a time! 🥰 You are going through a lot and have been through a lot. You are a good Mom and will figure it all out! 🙏🙏
Don't feel bad about wanting to continue your career. I work afternoons so I only see my kids for an hour in the mornings and they're in bed when I get home. It sucks. And I hate it. But it's the only shift available for me in my line of work. I do have 4 days off in a 2 week period so I see then then . Sometimes it's just what needs to happen to pay the bills. It's life, and it's okay. Don't feel guilty. As for anxiety, I understand you 100%. I used to have anxiety so bad, I'd ignore phonecalls and even knocks at the door. I'd just in the same chair all day and just shiver and sweat with anxiety. The unknown IS scary, that's totally normal to feel that way. And maybe give Luke a chance at doing it himself. People take care of 5+ kids all the time, if he says he can do it, believe him. If he changes his mind, no harm done.
Anna you seem so sweet. Let your baby be born then take it from there. The unknown causes anxiety I know. Wishing you the very best. I’m sure everything will work out. It usually does ❤
Anna I totally agree with you! I suffer from severe anxiety but you got this! Keeping you in prayer
Hugs and positive vibes! I know it doesn’t help!! Lol but If Luke says he’s got it! Let him handle it mama. It seems like he’s a great guy and dad. I’m sure he’ll let you know if he can’t handle something. ❤ it’s so hard to let go and put your trust in someone else with your kids. When you said you didn’t wanna go out bc it felt like a task… I felt that! Everything feels like a task anymore, it’s so hard!
He will. He does so much already and I’m so thankful!
@@MidwestMom a nice change for sure. 😉 so happy for you.
You look stunning lady! Also anxiety is so common and a lot of us struggle with it. Your doing great!!!
Your bump is the cutest. I had my daughter at 24 weeks so I was around this size, but didn't get this far. Congratulations and I love your vlogs 🙂
I’d just line up extra help and if you don’t need it that’s great! But if you do that’s great too!
That way while you’re at work you aren’t worried about him being overwhelmed!
I’m sure he’s perfectly capable of handling it all but it’s never a bad thing to have extra help ❤ sending you hugs girl! It’s a big life change but just like you adjusted with one you’ll adjust to 5❤
Thank you for sharing your heart.❤ I know what anxiety is like. You are appreciated.
I absolutely appreciate you speaking out about anxiety and how life can change so fast. I had to take a break from nursing school because I just had a baby during my first quarter and during second quarter he was diagnosed FTT. I had to make the choice to step back and focus on him. But don’t get me wrong it made me feel like I was giving up a little bit of my dream but I know life goes on and I can get back at it. It’s just the current season I’m in and I know there’s always a better future, it’s just how I perceive right now and the struggle. I know it sounds corney but I always refer to the song “it’s the climb” by Miley Cyrus. The climb is rough but at the top of the mountain the view is always great ❤ you’re doing amazing and you are a strong woman who create a beautiful life for yourself and family. Don’t you forget it.
Sending you the biggest hug! I also have anxiety so I can completely understand where you are coming from. You’ve got this mama 💜 maybe look into a pre natal/postpartum therapist? I had one after my daughter was born and it helped a lot. Thinking of you!
As moms it’s incredibly hard not to worry and want to know the answers to everything and be in control. I would say if Luke thinks he can handle it I would atleast give him the chance. If he does it a few times and decides he needs/wants help then you bring someone in to help him. I think you’ve found a great partner in him and I would just remind yourself to trust him to be honest with you if he feels like he can’t handle something or it’s too much. I have loved following you all these years! As cliche as it sounds it really will all work out❤
I am praying for you and your family. I loved the grocery haul!
I'm glad you and baby girl are doing well.
Oh, bless your heart, Anna and thanks for sharing your feelings and emotions. Of course, you are worried about Story and all of your children. My niece had a baby with gastroschisis and it was so stressful. (by the way, he is now 3 yrs old and perfectly normal and a happy child). I think you might consider taking time off from your job and try to enjoy just being a pregnant MOM, wife and chilling out a bit. Wish I could help......................take care, dear one. You are not alone. xo...grams from Ohio. Thanks for sharing your journey..xo
What kind of camera are you using 😍. I get it! Anxiety can keep you going in so many directions. Sending positive vibes
Sending hug, it will all work out!! You are stronger than you think!
Stay strong live one day at a time you've got this
I love the pop tart creamer! Drinking it right now ❤ now I want to try the crème brûlée!!
It’s still in my fridge unopened because I love the pop tart so much! Luke has been using it too!
It really makes sense that you'd be feeling this way. I have anxiety too and you're embarking on a new chapter with a lot of unknowns and what ifs. Maybe just do a little research and find potential helpers in case Luke needs them after baby. When my son was in the nicu I was able to plan and put things in place so that will give you a little time as well. Thinking of you ❤
Luckily we have someone in mind just in case! ❤
Been in similiar shoes before, getting a diagnosis in pregnancy (heart defect). Living in limbo is absolutely terrible. It's honeatly more mentally draining than the NICU part. Once baby is here it's hard but you also feel like you're doing things if that makes sense. Like you are making tangible plans and monitoring and taking steps once baby is here. During pregnancy it's just so many unknowns compounded on each other that it was mental torture. Big hugs. You are not alone.
Yes, I thought I was crazy but the unknown is dreadful!
Hi Anna I am a mom of 3 my kids are a lot older my 2 boys are 31 and 17 and my daughter is 14 my kids were not planned I got surprised 3 times and I am a single mom I have anxiety every one told me every thing will fall into place and it did Don’t worry your a great mom love you all ❤️sending my love and my prays 🙏
Don’t give up your job/career choice for at least a year of trying with the new baby. I’m a nurse as well and you can do it.
She’s not a nurse.. well a she is a RN but, her job is a death investigator. A PRN nursing job would be perfect for a new mom that way she can build her own schedule.
@@shellysmom7002 That is the beauty of nursing. That being said, this is her “dream job”.
You will be ok a lot going on including pregnancy hormones. Try not to worry about everything if Luke said he can handle it let him try it. I’m sure if he needs help he will let you know. I wish you the best.
Your grocery prices are insanely good!! So cheap! Where do you live??
Iowa! Girl I shop the deals!!!
Sending you a big hug
I get it
It’s gonna be okay
Are you able to do a video on how to adjust to working nightshift?
I feel like mine wouldn’t count because really we can sleep between cases coming in so it’s not a true night shift 😬 I feel like that would be cheating lol
I definitely think you need to find a different therapist. It could be very beneficial for you.
Hang in there girly!
How long is your maternity leave?
It depends, I technically can take 12 weeks but I’ll be splitting it and going back to work while she is in the NICU so I don’t waste time without her home!
Had to get the pop tarts ! :)
hang in there, hugs I think you need a break from life the stress you are under is real!
Did you get engaged? 💍
Let him see how it goes first and then if yall feel the need to hire, it’s available!
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Are ya’ll in a good church? You might find a good counselor there. I’ll be praying for you to have peace in all of the circumstances you mentioned at the end of the video. 🙏🏼🥰
I hope you’ll be able to take time off after you have the baby. Think of the bottom lines that are bothering you, maybe you can work part time? Just a thought. Allow Luke to help I wouldn’t want a stranger in my home either. Especially with a newborn at night.
5 kids and a job is a LOT. It would be weird if you weren’t worried. Try to take it day by day. Your sleep schedule and hormones don’t help! You’ll look back on this time and know that it all worked out ❤️
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I think you're used to a partner where that working situation would not be acceptable. Let him do it lol big families are chaos and he knows that and it's totally fine for things to be hard. He's your support even though they are not ALL his kids they are ALL family. I think the only thing here is to try to prepare for a longer maternity leave given her health situation. Your brain is going a mile a minute but it's okay just keep on chugging you can do it! #nestingbrain is like your trying to organize your life not just your physical stuff haha
Where are the fruits and vegetables ?
We get those weekly, usually they aren’t in the bigger orders we make every other week.
Thank you for sharing this emotional and inspiring day-in-the-life video, Momma! 💖. We sent you an email, please check it out.
Could both you and Luke drop one day at work each a week to help with the logistics?
Hope you can find thr best thing to work for you all. My 2 cents would be try everything possible to stay in work, drop hours or days. Life will be hard with Story for a while but not forever you will get normality back and you still need 'your' life to continue. So hard 🤷🏻♀️
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It a lot of work for a pregnant mom do worry you are going to make a good mom with a new baby
He needs a Grandma type help