Getting your s**t together... What you're NOT being told!
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The good thing about nobody caring about you and your self-improvement, is that you don't have to care about anybody else and their self-improvement :3
You should care about others, but what you are saying is true as well
@@jacksonvalad8012I don’t care about other people. That’s a dumb thing to put on another stranger
@@changobeatz7648 Nah bro, the reality is if you go on long enough caring about nobody, then you will have no network of friends or people that you can rely on. People need each other, survival in humans was realizing that we are stronger together, not apart. It's taken me a long time to humble myself to this. You go on long enough with a pride thinking you can do it all on your own until you realize that everyone's succeeding together without you.
@@LostSoulAscension I didn’t say isolate yourself. That’s not even remotely close to what I said
@@changobeatz7648 So you surround yourself with people you don't care about? Sounds even worse 😂
Hey dude I just wanted to tell you that you were pivotal in helping me quit weed. Your vid eloquently phrased almost everything I was experiencing. I appreciate you man, thank you 👊
same .
yall both quit weed? got any left?
@@iLuvHardStyle LOL it’s in the trashcan in front of Pavillion’s Malibu but they prob emptied it by now since it’s been a couple weeks. You’re more than welcome to it if it’s still there tho ;) (3 eighths of diff sativas, vape pens, two pipes. Cold turkey. True story.) energy levels through the roof. I ain’t goin back.
Hey dude. I just wanted to tell you that YOU are pivotal in helping you quit weed.
@@skaylingop9673 🙏
I hit rock bottom a few years ago. I was married for about two years but my ex-wife (and her rich dad) dragged me through all sorts of cases in court for 5 years. Hookers and booze got me through it. Now, however, I’m single and happier than ever. I even retired early at 45. I hope this little story inspires other guys out there that it’s quite possible for things to turn around significantly given time.
🎉 thanks for sharing
Does everyone need to go through their hooker phase?
Glad your better now brother ✊🏿. Thanks for the inspiration. How did you retire at 45? I’m 26
Dam them piece of shyt rich dads don’t play
Hookers & Booze, thanks chief!
This talk is incredibly based, solid 9/10. Here’s why:
1. Honesty and Realism: The speaker doesn’t sugarcoat the truth about self-improvement. It’s tough, especially for those with significant challenges like addiction or a criminal past.
2. Individual Responsibility: Emphasizes that nobody cares about your self-improvement as much as you do. Personal accountability is key.
3. Avoiding Comparisons: Stresses the importance of not comparing yourself to others, which is crucial for mental resilience and focusing on personal growth.
4. Small Steps Towards Big Goals: Highlights breaking down big goals into manageable steps, a practical approach to achieving long-term objectives.
5. Persistence and Consistency: Self-improvement is a lifelong journey requiring continuous effort, not a one-time fix.
6. Addressing Demons and Old Habits: Acknowledges that old habits and negative influences will always be a challenge, showing a deep understanding of personal development struggles.
7. Self-Motivation: Talks about the importance of being self-motivated and finding personal reasons to stay on track, rather than relying on external validation.
8. Realistic Expectations: Makes it clear that self-improvement won’t happen overnight and requires long-term commitment, preparing individuals for the effort needed.
9. Encouragement and Hope: Despite the tough love, offers hope by sharing personal experiences and progress, motivating others to keep going.
This talk is a masterclass in authentic, no-nonsense, sustainable self-improvement. 💪
What GPT are you?
@@croissants1280 I made a ChatGPT agent to find the most based books on the internet, then made a brain essentially and created another ChatGPT agent and named it, Gigadad.
What in the AI?
Self help doesn't talk about taking care of your dying parents and grandparents because it's too hyper specific n hard to speak to each person's situation, but moreso because that reality has nothing to do with chasing our dreams. This is the insignia that self-help has been industrialized to sell you on an idea, not the truth or reality we all face.
Damn
Facts!!!!
Recent studies have shown the importance of getting proper nutrition and how it can even easily affect one's personality. Easily overlooked and a very common problem is simply having a vitamin D3 deficiency. For anyone having addiction issues take a look at your diet. It may help more than you know.
Agreed
Dorian is one of the realist dudes on the internet 💯. I'm starting @48yo at a 1st time career in programming. I've screwed up a lot. I've definitely reached the point that I cannot get a job in something I enjoy doing. I have no other choice to start this or be miserable the remainder of my life. Getting ready for my BS job now. Not my career. Just a job. I am totally expendable and it's made clear at my job. They got me!! I must get out of this..
I wish my mom was more supportive but since my dad passed she totally switched up, you’ll be surprised how toxic and childish grown women can be, just have to grind and leave on good terms, at least it has helped me mature, but I wish I had support man. I can’t stop carrying the boats though.
Help people lift their burdens, but do not carry them.
Been there; Still there. It’s a challenge to your humanity and masculinity. In most cultures, Mothers are a seen as can’t do no wrong. Yet many do wrong and as you stated toxic af, childish, selfish, etc. So when you mention the challenges with her, most people will try to look down upon you because their dynamic is different. Do what you can. She is an adult. Decisions have consequences.
Love yourself first, then others. Parents are not immune to this rule.
Amazingly, I just scrolled a few comments down from your post and what do I see? People castigating a man who was married to an unsupportive wife. Wth
Self mastery is like earning a black belt and even then its still not automatic. Repetition is king in all areas. Great truth bombs you dropped!
I like to hear you talk about these things, with simplicity and honesty. It's like listening to my older brother, if he hadn't lost himself in alcohol and drugs.
Ive got my own flat and trying to grow my photography business and Ive stopped drinking for 2 years but yet I still feel lonely and empty inside..
Not sure when and/ or how long this channel has been going but I’ve just discovered your channel (Saturday July 27th 2024)
This is a very timely and poignant vid
Many thanks for posting this, Dorian! 🙏🏿
Man you really dropping gems, love your vids like this, been helping me pick up my life again at 29.
I've made so much progress in the last 5 years but recently got back into old addictions and bad habits trying so hard to get my self back on track , fighting my demons they don't give up
@@alleyesonmeino.c180 I keep doing drugs because I'm lonely and get bored. I really wish I could meet someone who cared.
Truth is a hard pill to swallow!
Extra important to surround oneself with people who are a good influence - that for me has been the most challenging part of any change I’ve ever attempted so far.
Also- what actually gives me a sense of fulfillment and purpose in life (aka “success”) might seem bizarre and unimportant to “others” whether they have their “s..t together “ or not.
People prefer being able to categorize something as good or bad, favorable or undesirable…
Even just stepping out of the norm will always inevitably provoke fear or jealousy in others and push their insecurities to the surface - unless they themselves have made such progress in the past and can relate to it …
We are social beings and we need each other, but sometimes you just have to be the black sheep and not fall off the cliff with the heard … in the end, that’s just what Leadership looks like …
Another reminder on keeping up the good habits!🧚♂
I want to extend my gratitude but saying thank you for your extension. Your words are felt and reaches to those who striving for a difference.... including myself. It is not only motivation but a reminder that though we are separate individuals but many of us as a whole - are carrying the same objective for better. Positivity is the encouraging tool that helps us to keep sight at the end of the goal. Thank you brother.
No political party is going to save you but yourself.
Thanks for the motivation. Thanks for having your channel.
This came at the absolute perfect time - feel exactly the same too - dealt with the whole jail part too - one day at a time and doing 1 thing everyday to get closer to the goalpost is the only way. All the best brothers
Your channel is so wholesome honestly. I want to see you succeed.
Been trying to get my life together for the past 2 years...
And still struggling :/
All the good habits in the world don't matter if your not constantly checking in with them. Very easy to start slipping into destructive behaviour.
There's just not enough time in the day to do everything you need to do to stay healthy and learn to programme at a decent rate.
Eventually your ganna have coffee in the first two hours of waking, skip that morning walk and get lost in reading the documentation while trying things out.
5 - 10 hours later, you realise you've not moved, not eaten, missed your workout...
And you've only got 5 lines of new code.... BUT... it Works !!!
Feels GREAT...
Maybe you'll do this again tomorrow... You know you shouldn't.... Its hard not to :/
Once is fine... twice not great... 2 months, maybe there's a reason your overly emotional
You feel like a "proper" older brother that I've never had, thanks.
This is the most powerful video I’ve watched in months
You know what, I follow you long time ago but in the last year, you have been making really great stuff that make people think, that's better than programming stuff! Amazing your video you got me! :)
Absolutely, why most people never do leave their comfort zone. It's risky, scary, you have to keep a open mind, willingness to roll with the few punches along the way, have to have a lot of self confidence, sense of adventure, willingness to learn basic languages, cultures, to fit in, minimum of $1000usd for rent, food, utilities, etc.
I know fellow Americans, their life is do miserable, but because, they are so hooked on booze, drugs, mental/physical health is so bad they will never move forward, even when someone promises to hold their hand the entire way.
Smart straight talk. Just landed on your channel right on, subbed.
Wow stellar job, breaking it down being realistic, inspiring, thank you !
I enjoy your tough talk and truth coming straight from your heart. I relate well. "Nobody cares." is something I would tell myself and give myself permission to ease my suffering with beer and pot. No more though.Thanks, Coach Dorian. God bless you and yours, my brother.
Great video man! Really good message
life's hard
thanks for this video, I needed it
Wow this is really good advice thank you ☺️
Whew! You are amazing! God sent this video to me and it's confirmation, thank you.
Appreciating the clarity, thanks 🍻
Thank you for this.
27 year old guy here. Self taught dev, and been trying to get my first job for a while now. No luck, so I'm applying to minimum wage jobs in the meantime. Sucks thinking how it's come to this at my age. Most people at least have a good number of years in a chosen career path. My last min wage job, they were all like 18-20 and I was 26. It's so embarrassing
You got to do what you have to do to survive, there's no shame in that! Just keep your head up and put food on the table by any means necessary but don't settle! We all have set backs but we have to keep moving forward to get to where we want to be!
@@DorianDevelops No doubt, man. I plan to, for sure. I've just had a shift in perspective these last few years. I used to believe success was possible for anyone that was willing to put in the work, but now I'm confident that it's mostly down to luck. 100 people could work just as hard to get into tech, and only a handful make it. So my expectations aren't as high anymore. I'll still keep going though
Why is it embarrassing people switch careers all the time.
@@BeepBoop2221 Because I'm still in a position typically held by high school/college kids
@@keifer7813It’s only temporary!
Hell yea man, this is very helpful
great video man❤
It's never been fair 😂
Good video man! Keep up the hard work on the sobriety.
Just found your channel. Good perspective
Very interesting, thanks
thank you
Fitness ones leave out so much stuff particularly about diet. All those fitness diets made me constipated and raises my cholesterol
Love This Video
Awesome video.
Finally someone said it. I never searched for excuses but always struggled to explain to privileged friends that we do not have the same advantages and possibilities in life. By privileged I do not mean extreme financial wealth but the most basic things like having both parents.
What country you in now? This one looks different from the last video I saw you in. Good insights.
i love these types of videos,, more brother.
one of my favorite new vids from you. Thanks Dorian!
Thank,s bro 👊🇳🇱👍
Creating new “you” is hard as f.
....or just relocate where it's cheaper for easier adjustment.
You say you are not religious but you quoted the bible at least 4 times without knowing
real good video
Weed doesn't kill you, but it may kill your pockets, which will kill your character
Desperate people do desperate things
Self Improvement is easy, what is hard is to become rich.
Wanna life advice from a good man?
Health, Fitness, Money.
Anything else, Useless.
Become hearthless.
Thanks a lot , for all your hardwork, I learned a lot , but I have a question, but when apply for jobs what kind of projects do I need for my resume ? do I need a project like a amazon or ebay I mean big project to get a job?
Thats exactly how I feel rn 🤦🏾♂️
I just want to get a nice girlfriend before the world ends. Ugh.
Well I wouldn't go for a modern western woman...
You'll never keep up with their unrealistic delusional expectations.
Get ya passport go overseas and explore what the world has to offer because the west is trash
that's pretty sad
What if i dont wanna accomplish anything and i see thru the veil of achievement and ego?
Youve got to look inward to resolve issues with the self, nature can help more than any shrink. Take it slow, nature rewards courage
Terence McKenna used to always say nature loves courage. Fortune favors the bold.
Also be very suspect of anyone trying to sell you self help based on "self reliance".
Its a pathway that isolates you from other people , self help comes from community.
Hey Dorian! Don't forget racism as a major stumbling block to gettin' your sh_t together.
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Yep.
Johnny Sinns looking well
good video
Good video. I been focused on this as well. The thing that's been taking the most time is addiction recovery. I been attempting to get sober from porn addiction I've had a lot of setbacks but recently have made some good stride I've also been trying to lose weight but that's been tough at times.
There's no such thing as "porn addiction".
@@BeepBoop2221 oh really? Google search,online study, science and statistics say otherwise. That's objectively wrong.
@JackalGoldKick I've read a fair amount of the literature it's not "objectively wrong" that's not how science works.
The closest you can get is sexual compulsive disorders, which isn't "porn addiction"
@@BeepBoop2221 there is a such thing as porn addiction. Plenty of people have shared testimony of it and there experience and the negatives. I've experienced it myself it's given me depression,guilt,shame, anxiety,low self esteem ect. Its something that isn't possible to give up on willpower alone. It's done these same things to other people I know of too. If that isn't porn addiction then idk what it is but all I know is what the truth is and that's what matters. Some people just don't get it. It's very foolish to say this isnt a thing. Why would Kanye West or Lamar Odon talk about this being a addiction they deal with? Or thousands of others? Why does porn give me and many others who are addicted to all these problems? Cause let me tell you something. Ever since I gave up porn I've had less negative mental health issues,less depression, anxiety, guilt,shame, I'm more clear headed and I have more motivation and focus on things.
@@BeepBoop2221 the addiction is real to say its not makes zero sense. It's gave me anxiety, depression,guilt,shame,low energy and low self esteem. It's done these same things to so many other people I know with the same addiction. If it's not a real thing then how come me and others couldn't just quit it off of willpower? Explain that. Explain why Kanye West and Lamar Odon would both come out and talk against it and admit having this issue. Or Terry crews. Ever since quiting this addiction I've had more focus and more clear headed and I'm not lazy or unmotivated anymore and I have less guilt shame and anxiety and I'm not in a bad place mentally.
помните пацаны, что изменять себя одновременно легче и сложнее, чем вы себе это представляли
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What if you still fail or never make any progress at all?
Would you still try in defiance?
What other option do we have?
Try to helping people
Long enough you will get help too
"They life , people life better when you better youself in it "
That way , some time life make we forcus on one direction too much
1 magic trick
Find a way to recharge youself that work
If you can Quick charge youself everytime you down
Then everyone else is not matter to you ,you can bring youself up alone
Find that way that hobbies or action that work for you
Boxing , swimming , drawing , etc whatever
Me rn 🤦🏾♂️
The first step to improving yourself is being honest with yourself. At least respect yourself enough to tell yourself the truth. The truth is you might try to improve yourself but you're still going to suck. Now at least with my advice you still suck but you're honest and you respect yourself. Thank me later🤝🏼
Yo!
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Bro you look like eminem
Doesn’t matter what age you are. IF U DO NOT HAVE FAMILY. MOM DAD GF BF FRIENDS. YOU ARE SCREWED
I would love to pay to have a phone conversation with you.
I think its wrong to tell people that noone cares for them. Thats total BS.
You should elaborate, otherwise it just looks as you got your feelings hurt and you're just retaliating
@@bbenny350 cant answer... everything is deleted
@@zugdsbtngizudsgbnudsdsoiu I'm sorry, what?
early !
More empty words. Lots of talking and nothing practical and actionable.