Two Generations Talk About How Addiction Destroyed Their Lives | The Gap

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  • Опубликовано: 21 ноя 2024

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  • @mickaka
    @mickaka 5 лет назад +3854

    Brave men to sit in front of a camera and speak so candidly about all this.

    • @ras_krystafari3333
      @ras_krystafari3333 5 лет назад +5

      Courageous* and strong by the end of it..

    • @JAKWEES
      @JAKWEES 4 года назад +21

      Especially on those chairs

    • @Andrew-zf3mr
      @Andrew-zf3mr 4 года назад +5

      Especially with their names displayed.

    • @jaja69ja65
      @jaja69ja65 4 года назад +5

      Both selfish bastards

    • @jordannicol8864
      @jordannicol8864 4 года назад +14

      @@jaja69ja65 so why you hear are you allergic to courage bb

  • @MTMiPower
    @MTMiPower 5 лет назад +9114

    Goodness, give these people decent chairs to sit on.

    • @voodoochild3859
      @voodoochild3859 5 лет назад +66

      Miketastic I always think this

    • @kris2672
      @kris2672 5 лет назад +163

      Give them your face then

    • @georgiemartin6236
      @georgiemartin6236 5 лет назад +139

      They should have thought about that before they became addicts.

    • @MTMiPower
      @MTMiPower 5 лет назад +405

      @@georgiemartin6236 what a dickhead.

    • @brotherxela5085
      @brotherxela5085 5 лет назад +81

      @@georgiemartin6236 troll ass

  • @xersys
    @xersys 5 лет назад +3295

    As a former addict, addiction isn’t a disease, its a symptom. You can treat the symptom, but until the root cause is addressed, we’ll always go back.

    • @pb6839
      @pb6839 5 лет назад +34

      whenever the root crawls back in addiction comes back

    • @earlgrey2130
      @earlgrey2130 5 лет назад +191

      Fucking on point. Finally someone who knows what they're talking about.

    • @QuixoticCowboy
      @QuixoticCowboy 5 лет назад +89

      Oh so fucking true, the problem is that (at least in my case) the people around you don't get that, resulting in a "good you quit _____, now be a functioning member of society again" and if you fail there is no help.

    • @cracktr0
      @cracktr0 5 лет назад +14

      Addicted to what, fortnite?

    • @vinny5638
      @vinny5638 5 лет назад +38

      @Nima Elyasi thats just a new problem. The addiction was still a symptom of the original trauma. The physical dependency thereafter is a subsequent affliction.

  • @lh2593
    @lh2593 5 лет назад +5592

    You've spent about 3 grand on this camera, studio and lighting and then stolen the chairs from a pub garden

    • @sarahl3721
      @sarahl3721 4 года назад +19

      do pub gardens have chairs?

    • @AR-zq9hq
      @AR-zq9hq 4 года назад +68

      These are designer pub garden chairs. They're a grand each.

    • @l.v.6940
      @l.v.6940 4 года назад +53

      Psychological to make them lean forward and be truthful

    • @contemplating1015
      @contemplating1015 4 года назад +7

      This is your focal point of the video.

    • @dansdoves3650
      @dansdoves3650 4 года назад +1

      Old habits die hard !

  • @IBradyI
    @IBradyI 5 лет назад +2195

    Hooked on many drugs since 14. Now, at 21, I feel like I’ve lived a lifetime due to loss of friends, while losing & finding myself over and over. I always wonder, why did I do this to myself? I can see myself finding a way out and becoming successful, but at the same time I don’t see myself living past 30. I’m broken and trying to find the pieces. If you’re out there and relate, you’ve got a friend in me. Take care of yourselves y’all

    • @TheLeon1032
      @TheLeon1032 5 лет назад +131

      i know deep in my gut you'll find a way to make ur life right, you also know deep in your gut just how much potential you have, let go of the pain my friend, it aint your story anymore, new things now

    • @JDela10
      @JDela10 5 лет назад +53

      You are 21 pal, you are still a baby :-) i know it doesn't seem like it but it does when you hit your 30s. That's a good thing from your point of view. You are still so young. You have decades ahead of you yet. You can choose to let the drugs go and live. It is totally within your power!

    • @QuixoticCowboy
      @QuixoticCowboy 5 лет назад +29

      quick question: I have been struggeling with a similar thing for not as long though i am 22 now. after I lost a close friend i decided to get clean by myself stopped snorting lines (which was mainly my poison, though every other high would do in a pinch) and been clean for almost 2 years now. yet i still drink occasionally. mostly socially but in the last months more and more to numb pain. and i know that everyone says this but i do have my drinking somewhat under control. My question now is "Am i a fraud?"
      That all being said the " you have a friend in me" thing goes both ways no one ever should struggle like this.

    • @DillHurley7
      @DillHurley7 5 лет назад +14

      @@QuixoticCowboy you're not a fraud but drinking is really easy to become dependant on. It's not good to drink every night. It's one of the most damaging to your body.

    • @Thoran666
      @Thoran666 5 лет назад +11

      @@QuixoticCowboy and 789 I recommend seeking professional help. The things you try to forget, the pain you try to push away ... they will come back and they will grow stronger. I had to learn that lesson the hard way before finally going into rehab and work on my mental health with a therapist.
      I pushed away my friends, lost my job, ruined my health, wasted years of my life and saw no escape from all the shit I covered myself in thanks to alcohol.
      I learned that it's possible to fail but it's never to late to try and change your life. During my therapy I got to know young people trying to recover to finish education, fathers and mothers wanting to be there for their children and even grand parents wanting to return to a normal life so they could enjoy their grand children growing up.

  • @hateclub
    @hateclub 3 года назад +229

    I just love that LADBible started out as a thing for trashy and sometimes quite disrespectful videos and memes of 'lad' stuff, yet now it has morphed into this. Fucking excellent.

    • @dannysmith3745
      @dannysmith3745 3 года назад +20

      It's like they morphed into what Vice used to be, and Vice has morphed into what LADBible used to be

    • @Monkeyatemysoul23
      @Monkeyatemysoul23 3 года назад +10

      Ladbible grew up with us. I was in my last year of college in 2011 late teens when I first come across Ladbible and it was reflecting our immaturity and now in our late 20s we’ve matured up as have the creators of ladbible. It started as a Facebook meme page now it’s giving Jubilee a run for its money.

    • @au5221
      @au5221 3 года назад +1

      @S JLA definitely not, they just saw a money maker in this

  • @TheStonedEvo
    @TheStonedEvo 5 лет назад +3043

    I was addicted to oxycodone, my low point was when I stopped eating and drinking regularly so I can savor the high. I weighed 110 Lbs at 5’11’’. I now weigh 165 and 4 years sober.
    Thanks for all the likes and positive comments!! For those still struggling, take these comments/likes as a small example of people’s support for your struggle and to do what it takes to finally be happy.

    • @mhfcka
      @mhfcka 5 лет назад +41

      congratz brother

    • @anthonywatts7696
      @anthonywatts7696 5 лет назад +15

      Stephan Beauvais and you have been an inspiration to many keep it goin

    • @fybcuhh
      @fybcuhh 5 лет назад +2

      Keepit up

    • @mack3744
      @mack3744 5 лет назад +2

      Congratulations my man stick with it💪🏻

    • @madmodder123
      @madmodder123 5 лет назад

      How did you end up getting clean?

  • @paullettepomar2431
    @paullettepomar2431 4 года назад +127

    "And horrible to say, but fortunately she died before she saw the actual mess I got into"
    Man, this is horribly powerful

  • @jhr_illustrations4159
    @jhr_illustrations4159 5 лет назад +337

    That line "why dont you deserve to be happy" hit the nail so damn well.
    Ive been in the deep end for a while now, with constant thoughts and reminders of why I feel I shouldnt be happy. While i dont drink constantly, when I do its been pretty bad; with only one blackout to date. It knocks away the insecurities and negative thoughts, and ultimately, numbs the pain of my existence for the night.

    • @MitchellfcNa32
      @MitchellfcNa32 5 лет назад +8

      Keep ur chin up mate

    • @BoneJangle
      @BoneJangle 5 лет назад +8

      Listen man you can get through this if other people don’t believe in you the three of us who commented sure do

    • @omarmahbub9704
      @omarmahbub9704 5 лет назад +7

      stay strong bruv, you deserve happiness. You can get through anything you set your mind to

    • @hydaryusoff7720
      @hydaryusoff7720 5 лет назад +4

      The only direction in life is to go up, stay strong.

    • @RoryStarr
      @RoryStarr 5 лет назад +4

      All I'll say is it's not really about the volume or the frequency you drink, it's all about why you drink. Because volume and frequency is just a matter of time, the reason is what matters--that's what makes it toxic.

  • @jameson5508
    @jameson5508 5 лет назад +266

    One of the most powerful "common ground" type videos I've seen. Your guests' honesty is refreshing and educational.

    • @pierrethetrex6106
      @pierrethetrex6106 5 лет назад +1

      honestly they always have great people on, it's just shocking it's coming from ladbible.

  • @Sprudlepuddel
    @Sprudlepuddel 4 года назад +112

    "Once you're happy for yourself, the rest will follow."
    Wise and powerful words.

  • @hdhil3137
    @hdhil3137 5 лет назад +1662

    A new teacher with a old teacher and how have the students and teaching ways changed

    • @Jackpot226
      @Jackpot226 5 лет назад +39

      Easy, it hasn't changed mate

    • @fiscer247
      @fiscer247 5 лет назад +17

      They took out wood and auto shop here in America. Something tells me the older teacher would want to kill younger teacher.

    • @AirKangLocker
      @AirKangLocker 5 лет назад +1

      @@fiscer247 why did they take it out? is it budget reasons or lack of interests?

    • @fiscer247
      @fiscer247 5 лет назад +14

      @@AirKangLocker I guess they think college is the only way to get a decent job. Working with your hands is frowned upon in the educational arena. I once read a sign that said "work smart, not hard". Which pretty much explains why there is now a surplus of blue collar jobs and not enough skilled workers. They even push college on kids who hate school
      I mean they hate free school already, what makes you think they will want to pay for it? The public school system is screwing the kids (mainly young boys) over.

    • @dankus.memeokus4192
      @dankus.memeokus4192 5 лет назад +4

      @@puckered6036 they took it out in areas that do not have as much money so most of the country especially in the south where i live and fiscer does have a good point there is a lack of workers in manual labor fields

  • @ErikCrowKrahe
    @ErikCrowKrahe 4 года назад +460

    I was 15 when I started using heroin. I’d always been a straight kid and I think back and I don’t know how I got to where I was. It was such a sudden change going from this happy teen to someone who couldn’t go 2 hours without heroin. My lowest point was when I kept pushing the limits just hoping I’d Od. The drug became the only thing important in my life, I didn’t care about anyone or anything. One night I snuck out (something I’d never done) and stole my parents car, my of all people drug dealer saw what I’d become and told me that I was a good kid who had a lot of life left a life without drugs. Luckily I had wonderful parents who moved us out of state for me, it was their relentless effort to save me that ultimately led me to give it all up. I quit in 2017 and still think about it a lot but at least I’m clean, and thankfully alive.

    • @nigelw7626
      @nigelw7626 4 года назад +16

      Well done my friend.

    • @joshisajedi2461
      @joshisajedi2461 4 года назад +6

      Ekrahizle That’s awesome! So glad to hear that you are doing good!

    • @rogermucroy750
      @rogermucroy750 4 года назад +11

      Liar.

    • @ErikCrowKrahe
      @ErikCrowKrahe 4 года назад +24

      Roger mucroy I wish it was.

    • @dansdoves3650
      @dansdoves3650 4 года назад +19

      You have wonderful parents. The easy thing and most common is to throw you out and write you off.But they stuck with you. Imagine the pain they experienced seeing you caught in grips of such a soul selling addiction. I tried moving away from all my friends to another county and a new job. It took me 15 minutes to hook up when I went looking for it. You did the hardest thing you ever will face in your life and succeeded. Congrats to you and your parents.Now go hug your mom !

  • @user-oo8wt3hr1t
    @user-oo8wt3hr1t 5 лет назад +330

    "the only true real reason is cause I didn't like myself"
    This one hit me hard it's fully the reason I fucked my own life up to

    • @MzSoulll
      @MzSoulll 4 года назад +5

      Same. Its what brings me back to those vices.

    • @Jon60531
      @Jon60531 4 года назад +3

      Kasey addicted to Maryj rn and I just turned 21. Regret smoking away my college years and grades and tryna go quit now during my last few months of college(shit gpa prob=minimum wage or shit job)because what hurts me the most is disappointing my parents bc ik how much they sacrificed to put me in college. It’s like a cycle where these thoughts wants me to smoke it away but it’s exactly the reason why I’m in this situation now.

    • @derekg4534
      @derekg4534 4 года назад +1

      @@Jon60531 best advice I have heard is lean into those thoughts. Don't run away from them, lean in.

    • @Ammotive28
      @Ammotive28 4 года назад +2

      This is the one, I was on the brink. Trams, coke & drink I had it “under control” just. I left my missus and became more self aware and started improving myself I kind of automatically stopped everything. I appreciate I was very lucky it could have gone the other way. Love yourself and life will love you. Good luck to anyone coming off anything.

    • @thomasdelaney4984
      @thomasdelaney4984 4 года назад

      Hope you have managed to turn your life around mate, it's so rewarding.. it's not easy but it's amazing! :) x

  • @skiguy170
    @skiguy170 4 года назад +43

    "Because when i was in addiction i just wanted to be heard." Wow I can say that hit me hard.

  • @tlotr25
    @tlotr25 5 лет назад +700

    "When was the first time you used drugs or drink?" It is interesting how our culture separate these two things when alcohol is definitely a drug, really addictive and harmful one.

    • @Letstalkaddiction1
      @Letstalkaddiction1 5 лет назад +6

      petras vizinis same thing! Anything that controls you has negative consequences or you have a compulsion to do. The 3 C’s of addiction 💯

    • @beezle1976
      @beezle1976 5 лет назад +88

      It's crazy. Not only is alcohol a drug, it's a freaking HARDCORE drug.
      I don't think many people who haven't experimented realize this. There's very few drugs that can completely remove yourself from reality the way alcohol can.

    • @abpenningtonmusic
      @abpenningtonmusic 5 лет назад +32

      @@beezle1976 and very few make you feel like shit immediately the next day like booze does

    • @J3RSEYondaBeat
      @J3RSEYondaBeat 5 лет назад +38

      I personally consider alcohol a gateway drug.

    • @rosscofox
      @rosscofox 5 лет назад +9

      Exactly. I can't stand "attractively packaged poison" ...it takes EVERYTHING from you. FUCK BOOZE

  • @Ryoufriggingserious
    @Ryoufriggingserious 4 года назад +1022

    My son died at the age of 30. He Decided to buy some cocaine that turned out to be full of fentanyl. He was a sweet soul. One mistake cost him his life.

    • @ganserliesel
      @ganserliesel 4 года назад +68

      I cannot even imagine the pain , I've seen the tragedy of losing a child to a lot of friend, I truly hope you keep strong .
      sending you my love and deepest condolences

    • @Ryoufriggingserious
      @Ryoufriggingserious 4 года назад +27

      @@ganserliesel thank you

    • @candidlyopinionated19
      @candidlyopinionated19 4 года назад +15

      I am so sorry for your loss ❤️

    • @shiva_hardly_sarcastic
      @shiva_hardly_sarcastic 4 года назад +15

      That actually made me tear up out of all the comments i read here tonight...
      Thinking what my mom must have gone through, i dont want anyone to feel like this...

    • @caseybald8982
      @caseybald8982 4 года назад +16

      The same thing happened to my best friend from childhood this past year, December 24th. It wrecked me considering he hated opiates because he knew what they can do to people who get addicted, namely myself. I am still addicted, it's not as easy as some say to stop. I wish it was. I'm so sorry about your son. I hope he's in a place where he feels nothing but complete peace.

  • @vh788
    @vh788 5 лет назад +1211

    There’s no way to describe what it’s like to look at yourself in the mirror realising that your the one they told us about, after all these years the cautionary tale of a life embedded with wrong decisions and the perpetuating sorrow that follows only to finally end up recognising your self in a rarely honest glimpse toward hindsight .. you see now, the story was always yours just now twisted in a way that you only realise it when its to late. #addiction

    • @mxtttv923
      @mxtttv923 5 лет назад +39

      This was gorgeous

    • @Bamboras
      @Bamboras 5 лет назад +23

      Mate.

    • @biffmuncher23
      @biffmuncher23 5 лет назад +42

      This spoke to me. The day I admitted that I had a problem was the first real day of my adult life.

    • @ApexATL
      @ApexATL 5 лет назад +4

      It’s never too late.

    • @andrewkear5639
      @andrewkear5639 5 лет назад +6

      Hey bro do you have an gmail I can contact you at? It'd be really dope to talk.

  • @MrBungle900
    @MrBungle900 4 года назад +58

    I’ve been an addict for 22 years and now had 18 months of sobriety. Opiates and coke were my favourites but I would take anything. Survived 4 suicide attempts too.
    I got clean within 1 week with ayahuasca in the jungle in Costa Rica.
    Now I’m in treatment for porn and sex addiction.
    Good luck to anyone out there suffering with. There is hope.
    Getting sober is the easy part. Dealing with your trauma is where the real courage is needed.
    🙌❤️💫

    • @thomasdelaney4984
      @thomasdelaney4984 4 года назад +4

      Well done mate, stay strong 💪🏼

    • @TheFos88
      @TheFos88 4 года назад +2

      How do you go about this adventure in Costa Rica?
      Good on your I'm glad I'm you have gotten some things worked out!

    • @MrBungle900
      @MrBungle900 4 года назад +2

      Tony Bradley Google “ayahuasca” or “medicine retreats, Costa Rica.” You will find them.

    • @georgiakidd7818
      @georgiakidd7818 3 года назад

      Yes Russell brand lad

  • @inbloom4083
    @inbloom4083 4 года назад +24

    "you enjoying it so you dont wanna stop, but when you realize you need to stop, you just cant stop"
    This is one of the bad side of drugs and i already experienced it myself. I have sober 1 year, i hope it will goes on.

  • @DavidThomas-ck2gn
    @DavidThomas-ck2gn 5 лет назад +98

    "Why don't you deserve to be happy?"
    Damn. That one hit. Dunno if I can answer that myself.

    • @jms4406
      @jms4406 4 года назад

      Why dont you deserve to forgive yourself?

    • @DavidThomas-ck2gn
      @DavidThomas-ck2gn 4 года назад

      @@jms4406 also hard to answer. I want to, but I don't know how honestly.

    • @TheDoctornaut
      @TheDoctornaut 4 года назад +2

      Deserve and happiness are loaded words though...
      "What are some ways you can bring purpose into your life?"
      "What is one small safe thing you can do that makes you feel better?"

  • @astridbirgittevern7902
    @astridbirgittevern7902 3 года назад +7

    It is evident from this how much drug addiction is related to depression. It is a downward spiral, and the hardest job in the world to get out of. Kudos to these men for sharing their experiences so openly!

  • @Joghurt2499
    @Joghurt2499 4 года назад +25

    So many people sharing their stories. To all of you, sober or not, I wish you all the best. You all matter. You all have people who love you. Even if you feel you don't, they are out there.

  • @TheOzcar17
    @TheOzcar17 5 лет назад +1442

    Nice content. From someone that isnt into alcohol or drugs, is good to remember the ones that do are still humans

    • @jules5012
      @jules5012 5 лет назад +159

      Of course we are still humans how the hell could you even forget that? The people with addiction need support not to be forgotten. Didn't know people were so judgemental.

    • @biffmuncher23
      @biffmuncher23 5 лет назад +26

      Drugs destroyed my youth and if it wasn't for people with this attitude I wouldn't be here. We are all human

    • @TheOzcar17
      @TheOzcar17 5 лет назад +25

      @@jules5012 idk how to put it, but I'll try.
      For example the homeless people we see, we dont try it like another human being we are scare of them or we ignore them you know. There's was a really common used saying that "he used drugs and see how he end up"
      It's not always this way, there's charity but yeah, its more common be indiferent to them sadly.
      Or when is known someone consumes something other than marihuana is like he becomes a criminal or isnt on the "right path" and we tend to stay away because it might be contagious or something.
      Not to be disrepectful, just noted that how sometimes we are cruel to others.

    • @fuccingdye
      @fuccingdye 5 лет назад +6

      May others who need it reach your same level of enlightenment. It's easy to forget others are going through hardships as well, sometimes.

    • @CrispyBreadcrust
      @CrispyBreadcrust 5 лет назад +8

      @@fuccingdye i agree, alot of "straight edge" people need to see this.

  • @andrewhazley3425
    @andrewhazley3425 4 года назад +10

    Addiction is so hard to defeat, even when you see rock bottom coming your way, only by losing everything was I able to conquer it!
    Kudos to these two men, hopefully helping others who struggle and reminding me of a dark road that I no longer walk.

  • @ER-kf4to
    @ER-kf4to 4 года назад +21

    Addiction turns you inside out til you’re empty. Strips you of your good qualities, turns you to a husk, til you’re crying in a room on your own, none of your ‘’friends’’ to be seen.

  • @loganknox7
    @loganknox7 5 лет назад +65

    I’m glad the message of addiction can start at any age is being spread.

  • @thomasdelaney4984
    @thomasdelaney4984 5 лет назад +515

    Thank you for everyone's positive comments.. Hopefully a powerful message was shared :) x

    • @lilfelee6677
      @lilfelee6677 5 лет назад +4

      Thomas Delaney ok bOOmer

    • @petterw2332
      @petterw2332 5 лет назад +88

      Eversion he’s the guy in the vid...

    • @Dad......
      @Dad...... 5 лет назад +13

      There'll always be those who miss the message, but the ones that take it to the heart are the ones that needed to hear it.

    • @ambitionsskyyyy
      @ambitionsskyyyy 5 лет назад +8

      Thomas Delaney keep at it man, you’re a great human. Keep clean bro.

    • @PraisedLink
      @PraisedLink 5 лет назад +10

      Thank YOU for sharing, mate. Stay strong, and thanks again for sharing🤘

  • @CMinusGaming
    @CMinusGaming 5 лет назад +21

    I'm 5 years sober as of august and watching this brought alot of repressed memories back. Most of which I felt I needed to experience again to remind me of the journey I took to get away from it all and how everyday should be savored.

    • @Windowhopper
      @Windowhopper 5 лет назад

      FancyLadWastelander proud of you! You got this!

  • @djalladream89
    @djalladream89 4 года назад +31

    I drank a 15 pack of beer along with a liter of vodka every night for years.. I would have a few months break every now and then.. but one night I drank way too much and ended up in a ditch with a few broken ribs and cuts going up one side.. fractured wrist and a massive concussion.. and several hours in the rain and mud.. I decided to sober up.. it's been 2 years and 2 month since I've had a drink.. the thing is no one tells you that the addiction is still there... you always wish for it.. you need to find worth in it and keep the cycle going

    • @jigggro
      @jigggro 3 года назад

      All the best.

  • @geesegoose6174
    @geesegoose6174 5 лет назад +34

    3:56- "at a point.. they kinda give up on ya as well..." How hard this hit home I can not describe.....

  • @d.j.casanova960
    @d.j.casanova960 5 лет назад +209

    I’m a recovering addict, was addicted to opiates, among other drugs for over a decade. I’ve been clean from opiates, meth, heroin, psychedelics, ketamine, and other for over 2 years. Haven’t had a sip of booze in 17 months.

    • @cracktr0
      @cracktr0 5 лет назад +5

      but he still smokes that KUSH

    • @wvcjshdsocjsj4477
      @wvcjshdsocjsj4477 5 лет назад +3

      Geeerrupp son.💪🏼

    • @Windowhopper
      @Windowhopper 5 лет назад

      D.J. Casanova you got this! Keep going!

    • @boofert.washington2499
      @boofert.washington2499 4 года назад +17

      You obviously weren't taking the psychedelics for the right reasons. LSD is a savior in small doses. I won't get into that here, but I have personal healing experiences that would blow your mind. They are all positive and LSD induced. Anyways, more power to you and your quest for personal peace. I hope you succeed, sir.

    • @Badinjava
      @Badinjava 4 года назад +15

      Psychedelics aren't addictive.

  • @julianm8260
    @julianm8260 4 года назад +5

    This is the therapy I need. Thank you all. Wishing everyone in the comment section the best.

  • @thecoulee1121
    @thecoulee1121 4 года назад +7

    I seriously wish these weren’t edited. This series is worth all of the time on the cutting room floor.

  • @FlightOfTheCondoors
    @FlightOfTheCondoors 4 года назад +7

    One of my best friends from high school recently lost his life to an overdose at 25. It was one of the worst things I went through. I'd give anything to have done something more for him. Stay strong in your battle. You are loved

    • @MrJamieFRESH
      @MrJamieFRESH 3 года назад

      So sorry to hear this, did he show signs he was struggling

  • @thomasszekszardi3073
    @thomasszekszardi3073 4 года назад +55

    In my lowest point of my life I've drank 30 liters of gin in a month. I'm so blessed to get over it and feel good and happy again. Thank you Lord

    • @thomasszekszardi3073
      @thomasszekszardi3073 3 года назад

      @@davelewis6256 I've ended up in a hospital for a week, it was bad. The hardest part was to fall a sleep sober

  • @jacksonp4163
    @jacksonp4163 4 года назад +31

    Another addiction I haven’t seen mentioned here is self harm. It’s really similar to some other addictions. To all my people struggling with SH you can do this and make it though.

    • @EfeFlet
      @EfeFlet 4 года назад +1

      I used to self harm and you're 100% correct, it's an addiction, but until I read your comment I didn't realise it. I hope everyone is safe out there :)

    • @lesliesteele3926
      @lesliesteele3926 3 года назад +1

      The young woman with turrets touched on this subject in her first video. Also very well spoken and honest.

  • @petercruz1993
    @petercruz1993 4 года назад +90

    I was an alcoholic for 3 years.
    I’d definitely be dead if I continued.
    I’m one year sober. 29yo Guy

    • @Jacob_the_Dabbler
      @Jacob_the_Dabbler 4 года назад

      You're still an alcoholic. Don't ecer forget what you can go back to if you drink again. You were born an alcoholic and you'll die an alcoholic but you can manage it so long as you stay sober 💪

    • @jaspreetb1547
      @jaspreetb1547 4 года назад +1

      Wow👏💙 great job! A healthy lifestyle will be appreciated by the 40, 50 and 60 year old happy you 😊 it impacts our bodies, mind, and health in ways we don't consider! So appreciative of the positive comment section 🙌

    • @RoLo276
      @RoLo276 4 года назад +3

      I feel the same way I’m 28, today is day 1 for me

    • @Jacob_the_Dabbler
      @Jacob_the_Dabbler 3 года назад +1

      @Axiom Steel I'm serious. You can't just stop being an alcoholic, it's either something you are or something you're not haha

    • @GiaNNhSRocKaSsS
      @GiaNNhSRocKaSsS 3 года назад

      Hope you doing well mate !!!

  • @kellymears2550
    @kellymears2550 5 лет назад +5

    "I am not controlled by addiction anymore." What a very powerful statement and for me, very much understood.

  • @marcschelz
    @marcschelz 5 лет назад +714

    Probably made the same comment under the other videos. But this format and idea is great.

    • @jmsolano0516
      @jmsolano0516 5 лет назад

      I feel like I've seen you somewhere else

    • @marcschelz
      @marcschelz 5 лет назад

      @@jmsolano0516 possible :D

    • @MetalGearSosa
      @MetalGearSosa 5 лет назад +1

      Honestly these r all so powerful and important

  • @ruthalfaro6919
    @ruthalfaro6919 5 лет назад +21

    i've been an alcoholic for about 6 years now... still trying to overcome my addiction. I do want to get better but because of a lot childhood trauma its been a very hard thing to overcome. My fiance is also an alcoholic which i think makes the process so much harder for us we encourage our bad habits and while i've tried to seek treatment in a rehab i don't wish to do so without them doing so as well because i would have that temptation constantly once i'd get back. Life's a journey and while we have to figure things out on our own i hope that you guys would take a second to pray for us to overcome this because i'm tired of living this life.

    • @madisonbeaubier455
      @madisonbeaubier455 4 года назад +2

      ruth alfaro if your fiancé doesn’t want to go to treatment and you do, there may be a problem in that.. not everyone can grow together, unfortunately it is very easy to self destruct together, try going to Alcoholics Anonymous and Al-anon

    • @thecanadiangirl
      @thecanadiangirl 4 года назад

      Prayed for you ❤️ I wish you health and peace on your journey 🌷

    • @vengefulavenger6411
      @vengefulavenger6411 4 года назад

      Revert to Islam, you will never go back to alcohol

    • @user-zi3ee8oj1i
      @user-zi3ee8oj1i 4 года назад +3

      @@vengefulavenger6411 that's not going to solve it.

    • @vengefulavenger6411
      @vengefulavenger6411 4 года назад

      Scott B how many alcoholic muslims do you know?

  • @xJackkHD
    @xJackkHD 4 года назад +3

    As someone who's struggling with opioid and alcohol addiction, all I can say is talking it out this way is probably the best way to understand the situation fully. Explaining and discussing your troubles will only help you get the better of yourself to improve your life.
    Also, congrats Russ. Nice to see a local on here.

  • @Zakoid1
    @Zakoid1 4 года назад +5

    I'm sure I remember meeting Thomas in Glasgow rehab. He'd turned himself round by that point and was there to help others and I remember looking at him and thinking he's a cracking guy and well done to him. So friendly and an inspiration.

  • @jimmygallegos8384
    @jimmygallegos8384 4 года назад +2

    Just got out the hospital yesterday from drinking. I’m watching this video and seeing that I’m not the only one. It really helps when you know your not alone. It’s great help. I’m changing my life one day at a time.

  • @Monopoly55
    @Monopoly55 3 года назад +2

    This made me cry. I am fighting addiction right now

  • @easybakeoven3624
    @easybakeoven3624 4 года назад +13

    When I was 14 I started comfort drinking, I remember going to school drunk affected me alot, I could barely remember my second year of school until a friend intervened, luckily things have got better.x

  • @zacshave5949
    @zacshave5949 5 лет назад +16

    This is amazing. As an addict in recovery for drugs it is uplifting to hear others stories. You realize that you aren’t alone in your struggle

  • @thomass181
    @thomass181 5 лет назад +26

    “Finding your self again” that’s what I needed to here

  • @Aiidannnn
    @Aiidannnn 3 года назад +2

    "once you're happy everything follows" so true man

  • @justinmorales2442
    @justinmorales2442 5 лет назад +61

    my heart goes out to these fellas, its hard for some to remember that these people are human just like us.

  • @stevesalt9005
    @stevesalt9005 4 года назад +3

    The best thing about this video is watching two strangers bound so quickly. The whole presentation was beautiful. Thank you.

  • @lukejohnson4456
    @lukejohnson4456 4 года назад +4

    This makes me glad to say I’ve found I enjoy being sober more than anything. I’m sorry for everyone that struggled with something like this

  • @Hybzy
    @Hybzy 4 года назад +3

    "Why don't you think you deserve to be happy?" Powerful question

  • @frannoriginal
    @frannoriginal 3 года назад +2

    I’m 22 years old and an addict. I’ve been in recovery since I was 18 when i got rehabbed. This july I’ll complete 4 years clean but is just for today 💙

  • @parkerhunt4862
    @parkerhunt4862 4 года назад +2

    “We’ve both got choices now, where before, in addiction we had no choice.” That hits home man. Been off pain meds 2 years now, and it does get better.

  • @josht2454
    @josht2454 4 года назад +15

    I can assure you that cocaine and alcohol addiction is going to become a massive issue with my generation 1990s+, almost everybody I know loves it, worried for the future I know first hand how consuming the lemo can be.

    • @josht2454
      @josht2454 4 года назад +3

      @Sung Lau-Chi absolutely, the UK is hooked on it, its just not openly discussed, kind of like a secret everybody keeps secret from each other when each other does the same secret!

  • @Erin-ho8qu
    @Erin-ho8qu 4 года назад +4

    "Once you're happy for yourself, the rest will follow" 😭😭😭😭😭

  • @dxghitman7023
    @dxghitman7023 4 года назад +8

    "Thinking life without an addiction, it is scary, finding myself again"
    It is difficult

  • @ItsDark-YT
    @ItsDark-YT 4 года назад +2

    Its very rare that you find someone who hasnt been addicted to something who can TRULY understand what its like, because when you speak to someone else who has been through it you immediately get it and have a connection with that person

  • @oodell160
    @oodell160 4 года назад

    Is there anything more brave than hitting rock bottom and saying 'this is me and I'm done'?! - such strength and pure power!

  • @chattingbout
    @chattingbout 5 лет назад +108

    After recovering from addiction, my problem now is I have a hard time with anyone drinking or taking any substances and I can recognise that I’ve developed a thing we’re I look down on people who still go out or take stuff. Just need to remind myself that I should be a supportive helping hand and not someone to make others feel like shit

    • @Celtic_Iron
      @Celtic_Iron 5 лет назад +3

      Cant really relate to that pal. Try recognise they're the exact same as you. Your just as likely to end up same if you pick up again. Maybe try help people instead of looking down on them.

    • @ryanfitzpatrickart
      @ryanfitzpatrickart 5 лет назад +17

      You just need to remember that its not the substances that brought you down, it was yourself. Plenty of people can flirt with drugs and alcohol their entire life, and never let it truly take hold. We're all different and some people are more prone to becoming an addict than others. Its why gambling can be just as destructive as heroin, its the person, not the substance.

    • @anthonywatts7696
      @anthonywatts7696 5 лет назад +4

      CHATTINGBOUT it takes time trust me I know I stopped cigarettes and sometimes I catch myself doin the same it’s a working progress thing ya know

    • @dansdoves3650
      @dansdoves3650 4 года назад

      Just remember this every time you see somebody else, But for the grace of God there go I.

    • @sevenrue4754
      @sevenrue4754 4 года назад

      This is just your brains defense mechanism and that’s okay! If u feel like everyone who does this is icky and it’s such a terrible thing to do you’ll be less inclined to do it. Deep down inside you don’t really feel this way u feel for these people

  • @TommyBahama84
    @TommyBahama84 4 года назад +92

    Alcohol is such a destructive drug, it’s just not recognised by society

    • @dagnut
      @dagnut 4 года назад +4

      Dont be fucking stupid..AA was the first..GIN destroyed london in the early 18th century..there were laws passed every few years to try and contain it...the basic tenants of a religion of a billion people outlaws its use?? Alcohol was made completely illegal in the US in the 30s. Society knows how dangerous it is but it's too late, prohibition doesn't work with any drug but alcohol generates to much revenue to be banned again

    • @frbird51
      @frbird51 4 года назад +8

      It's strange to me that most of society is just fine with people drinking in social settings like parties or having a couple of drinks along with dinner at a restaurant but when someone drinks "too much" they're suddenly a pariah. In most circles it's not acceptable to take other addictive drugs openly at every social event you attend yet drinking alcohol at these events is just considered part of the routine. I understand that a normal, healthy individual is expected to have enough self control to not overindulge in alcohol but a person's tolerance and propensity to become addicted to any substance varies significantly from one person to the next.

    • @baileymiller2284
      @baileymiller2284 3 года назад

      Depends who's drinking it.

    • @varrjames186
      @varrjames186 3 года назад

      @@dagnut Alcohol was not made completely illegal...under federal law it was still legal for private ownership and consumption.

    • @dagnut
      @dagnut 3 года назад

      @@varrjames186 a lot of states banned possession as well, the point is still valid , prohibition doesn't work

  • @rafaajene6781
    @rafaajene6781 4 года назад +10

    doing drugs for 2 1/2 years now
    tried opiates, felt amazing
    did it again the day after, that was about a year ago, i tried quitting twice now but i get crazy physical withdrawal and i don’t feel like i wanna do anything
    i’m happy that i know that’s its bad
    sometimes i tend to forget if i’m high all day for weeks but every now and then i break down and know that i’m hooked
    i’m working on it
    i wish u guys the best of luck with kicking it and staying sober

  • @shane-oshaunason7590
    @shane-oshaunason7590 3 года назад +1

    Proper men here!!! Talking about everything, openly, no filter, raw emotion and feelings!!! Cl👏🏻 well done men!!! Don’t think I could do this!!!!

  • @stevesheldrake6189
    @stevesheldrake6189 2 года назад

    i been sober 16 years now, not a day goes by thinking about a drink. sometimes i manage to look back at the damage that was caused, i lost everything but im back stronger than ever. thankyou to these men for sharing your story. stay strong together we can all suceed

  • @erjavec10
    @erjavec10 4 года назад +24

    This video is just beautiful... I'm so happy for these two that got sober.

  • @dirtbikeman496
    @dirtbikeman496 4 года назад +5

    Insane how the young man says the family and friends did nothing to stop him but Immediately said they were the reason for him getting clean

  • @BENJIMANE
    @BENJIMANE 5 лет назад +3

    @7:32 this man is speaking something we all should listen to, either be an addiction, or depression or anything you are going through what he said is completely true. That hit me like a ton of bricks

  • @davemackinder6518
    @davemackinder6518 4 года назад +1

    Great video. I had 23yrs on drugs .leading to a 19yr long heroin addiction. Have been clean now for nearly 7yrs and life is good . For the first time ever I actually have a bit of money in the bank and am pretty happy. Its just a shame its took me till I'm 48yrs old for this to happen . Good luck guys and stay safe.....

  • @Howiesgirl
    @Howiesgirl 3 года назад

    I've been in recovery from my addiction to opiates for almost 20 years (Sept. 11, 2001 is my "anniversary"). It's really nice to see these guys talking & sharing their stories with each other, & the rest of us. Even if just one addict goes for help after hearing their stories, it's such a blessing. Many addicts will talk about their addiction, but sometimes they're just trading "war stories" rather than really sharing their stories. Rehashing the times you got so wasted or high on whatever substance isn't the idea. Really talking about the reasons behind your substance abuse, what it did to your relationships, & what you've done to fix it, is what needs to be shared. These guys really did a nice job of sharing with each other. I wish them all the best.

  • @kenrosenberg9274
    @kenrosenberg9274 5 лет назад +11

    Such a powerful conversation it was awesome how they hugged at the end.

  • @thriving_onplants8686
    @thriving_onplants8686 4 года назад +19

    On Saturday august 1st 2020, I celebrated 8 years sober from mdma, magic mushrooms and acid. I will be 24 in a few weeks. I'm also 10 days sober from alcohol. Baby steps, but slowly getting there.

    • @leonghchan
      @leonghchan 4 года назад +1

      Were you addicted to mushrooms and LSD?

    • @markot563
      @markot563 4 года назад +1

      Congratulations. Seriously. Baby steps are the only way to win. Keep talking to people. You can smash this.

    • @lilcarlitos2231
      @lilcarlitos2231 4 года назад +2

      you can’t be addicted to acid and mushrooms bro u cap congrats on the alcohol tho

    • @leonghchan
      @leonghchan 4 года назад +1

      @@lilcarlitos2231 that's what I thought. Felt like the original message made it seem like it was an addictive substance when in fact many people use it to cure their other addictions.

    • @pijips123
      @pijips123 4 года назад +2

      @@lilcarlitos2231 psychological addiction

  • @Joe40972
    @Joe40972 5 лет назад +9

    From the son of both parents of addicts I can say I've had alot of emotional things to deal with but you can change at any point. You still are a human just ask for help.

  • @Megan-wf2yv
    @Megan-wf2yv 5 лет назад +1

    Mad how much of an impact that one comment had. Being there for people, letting people talk about their issues can work actual miracles.

  • @chloebaarb8697
    @chloebaarb8697 2 года назад +2

    I used to be alcoholic until I became intolerant and now my depression and anxiety has got worse having to face it all sober 🙃 my heart goes out to anyone with addiction x

  • @CthulhuXVX
    @CthulhuXVX 4 года назад +28

    On August 1st I celebrate 6 years free from alcohol, drugs and tobacco

    • @patriciamoradamacabulos8506
      @patriciamoradamacabulos8506 3 года назад +2

      That is truly amazing. Well done, you!

    • @thomasdelaney4984
      @thomasdelaney4984 3 года назад +2

      Amazing mate! :)

    • @OfficialMyxomatosis
      @OfficialMyxomatosis 3 года назад +2

      *YAAAAASS* I am about to hit 10 years without a single cigarette/tobacco -Jesus that was hard and I dream about smoking. 1 year from booze. *You are amazing. Please keep rock steady*

    • @thomasdelaney4984
      @thomasdelaney4984 3 года назад +1

      @@OfficialMyxomatosis well done mate 👌🏽

    • @OfficialMyxomatosis
      @OfficialMyxomatosis 3 года назад

      @@thomasdelaney4984 Cheers and many thanks!

  • @cj5273
    @cj5273 4 года назад +67

    day 7 clean and sober, "for real" this time ;)

  • @seangregory3098
    @seangregory3098 4 года назад +5

    This hits home. Heroin and benzo addict. Low point was waking up in jail not knowing what I did. Sad existence.

    • @bambi7563
      @bambi7563 4 года назад +2

      sean gregory luckily never experienced the jail part but I feel you. Thinking maybe a year or two have passed and next thing you know it’s been over six years and you’re still keeping up the same bad habits and the deeper you get the more hope it seems to steal

  • @krisc2535
    @krisc2535 4 года назад +2

    Have a family member addicted to heroin who wanted to meet up to see me and a younger relative. She didn't turn up and in my anger I sent a message saying 'shame on you'. She replied apologising profusely and described how chaotic her day to day existence is at the moment, living hand to mouth. She said she shouldn't organise anything with anyone at the moment, she just got caught up in the excitement of leading the life she really wants and foolishly made plans. Hopefully things will change soon!

  • @ksplyff
    @ksplyff 3 года назад +2

    Finally a video on the internet that includes recovery as a way to stay clean.

  • @samthomas3818
    @samthomas3818 4 года назад +3

    I'm just In tears watching this it's so hard to quit but I know it needs to be done

    • @Ugly_Tsarevich
      @Ugly_Tsarevich 4 года назад

      You can do it man, you have the strength to do it, just need the will to make it happen

  • @erikadowdy686
    @erikadowdy686 5 лет назад +1123

    Addiction is almost the “ Normal” nowadays
    It’s getting BAD

    • @PapaSeed
      @PapaSeed 5 лет назад +117

      porn

    • @ultimateness3034
      @ultimateness3034 5 лет назад +83

      Caffeine

    • @space_racc
      @space_racc 5 лет назад +89

      Marijuana

    • @Mr-ye1vu
      @Mr-ye1vu 5 лет назад +48

      Quavers

    • @jodawgsup
      @jodawgsup 5 лет назад

      @@ultimateness3034 Yeah, Coffee is actually incredibly healthy so I don't know what you are on about. www.bmj.com/content/359/bmj.j5024

  • @BKnight_
    @BKnight_ 5 лет назад +11

    I love this series. It really opens your eyes and is incredibly wholesome.

  • @cFuz8T8
    @cFuz8T8 4 года назад +1

    From one addict to a couple of others, thanks for sharing.
    Being able to to own who and what we are, go forth into the world with our differences as our armour and continue to learn and grow as we trudge our own paths of selfless happy destiny is the greatest gift we have ever been given.

  • @misterspaceman9563
    @misterspaceman9563 4 года назад +1

    Used to be deep in the NYC club scene around 2012-2015. That "k-hole" he talked about is terrifying, especially when you see a friend in that zombified state for the first time. They look at you and don't even know who you are. I'm so glad this man got help, good on both these gents for being brave enough to share their stories.

  • @saauuccEE
    @saauuccEE 5 лет назад +7

    This is very powerful, Its sad to think that every single person watching this could or has been affected by addiction.

  • @joecarter3735
    @joecarter3735 4 года назад +4

    I do deserve to be happy. Great line. That one stays with me.

  • @maximumaction1125
    @maximumaction1125 5 лет назад +35

    My cousin got addicted to cocaine and one day he walks out my bath room and drops vomit and blood all on his face. We rushed him to the hospital and it turns out he had a really bad od and a seizure due to a reaction that happened he never fully got over it till nan died when she asked for him to stop and he did

  • @clairedawson
    @clairedawson 3 года назад

    Theses 2 men are inspirational..to over come a addiction that kills many is something to be so proud of...that takes strength and courage beyond what most of us have..xxxx

  • @EddVCR
    @EddVCR 5 лет назад

    My wonderful therapist who was once destroyed by alcoholism due to Vietnam War PTSD just recently had 40th anniversary of sobriety. His message is, with mental illnesses and substance abuse, you can and _will_ get better if you keep up the treatment with proper help. He is a living testament.

  • @alwayswinning9910
    @alwayswinning9910 5 лет назад +105

    I drink n drug when around people to relieve anxiety, when im by myself i use drugs and drinks to feel lesss lonely a viscous cycle

    • @blahkay9348
      @blahkay9348 4 года назад +4

      I'm the same way brother.

    • @zarinewman
      @zarinewman 4 года назад +3

      I relate so much to this

    • @leeloo324
      @leeloo324 4 года назад +3

      Describing alcoholism as a viscous cycle is probably the most punny and accurate tpyo-faux-pas I've ever seen. Not to make light of it, I've been in the exact same miserable place and am now in recovery. You can choose when it stops, there is help. Hugs!

    • @personontheinternet6525
      @personontheinternet6525 4 года назад

      lmao fuckin L Bozza

    • @sevenrue4754
      @sevenrue4754 4 года назад +1

      Wow this is crazy to think about. I read another comment from someone who recovered they said something along the lines of “ addiction isnt the disease it’s a symptom and until u fix the root cause you’ll never get better” i hope that can help in someway. I hope u can maybe to talk to someone and figure out where this anxiety and feelings of loneliness is coming from and stop relying on these terrible drugs. I have faith that u will get better. God bless

  • @knogface
    @knogface 4 года назад +9

    If these two men were at an AA or an NA meeting, I would go. Please start a RUclips recovery channel guys. It would go incredibly well

  • @wolfharthiphop
    @wolfharthiphop 5 лет назад +394

    The internet is my addiction, I really need to reduce the time I spend on this.

    • @franckmarronier130
      @franckmarronier130 5 лет назад +2

      Lol

    • @zatoichiMiyamoto
      @zatoichiMiyamoto 5 лет назад +3

      You can do it bro!!!

    • @enigmapublius1
      @enigmapublius1 5 лет назад +65

      same, sometimes I get sad when I realize the hours I lose over a phone

    • @franckmarronier130
      @franckmarronier130 5 лет назад

      Mise en abyme

    • @F1rstp3rson
      @F1rstp3rson 5 лет назад +13

      Yeah was my first addiction to. Got into to it because of bullying and lack of friends. Had a rough Family and upbringing too. Dad was an Alcoholic. After the Internet, Cigarettes and Alkohol got hold of me, then with 15 started smoking weed and taking all kinds of Drugs, never used opioids though. That shit is Scary. My clutches right now are Alkohol and Weed but I am working on that. I try to spend more time with my GF and not to sit on the Computer.

  • @cg-rezi7597
    @cg-rezi7597 4 года назад

    I remeber when my addiction started i felt as if i had control. every sense of comfort and control has sense vanished. even after becoming sober there’s always a void that nothing but a line can fill.

  • @ruthyfleur
    @ruthyfleur 4 года назад

    I'm a 29 (soon to be 30) year old female primary school teacher in recovery from alcoholism. I'm just over 8 months sober. Addiction can get anyone. I am so grateful everyday that I found a way out. x

  • @Gary0s92
    @Gary0s92 5 лет назад +5

    9:30 one of the most honest answers I've ever heard.

  • @MrFuzzwuzzle
    @MrFuzzwuzzle 5 лет назад +9

    All bants aside I’m happy to see people getting their lives back on track, I worked in an off-licence and I’ve seen some terrible states and it’s a lot easier to fall into than people think

  • @imunro007
    @imunro007 4 года назад +7

    There's not many ketamine users that speak of the addiction. Thank you so much for this!

  • @rachelware227
    @rachelware227 2 года назад

    As someone with addiction I think it's brave for them to share and great it is being brought to people's attention