Which is Better? Accepting or Fighting?

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  • Опубликовано: 16 янв 2025

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  • @DKH712
    @DKH712 19 дней назад +27

    I agree that fighting isn't helpful. I think we can confuse fighting and being strong though. Surrender/acceptance helps me recover, but strength helps me through the really hard moments when symptoms are intense. Strength isn't the same as fighting though. It's the difference between not wanting the fear to be there and being brave in the face of it. Surrender is about letting the fear be there, strength is about moving forward despite of it.

    • @belugaflying
      @belugaflying 18 дней назад +3

      True a lot of the people in this community have repressed their anger and the "fight" in fight/flight response. Sometimes the best way to move towards acceptance is to embrace and accept the fight/the anger/the strength, before moving on to true peacefulness/lack of care.

    • @DKH712
      @DKH712 18 дней назад +4

      @belugaflying i can see where you're coming from. In this journey so far, I've really had to learn how to be angry and how to process past anger. Anger is a very valuable emotion. I think the "fight" Dan is describing can also be the the resistance to the emotions. So if you're unwilling to feel your anger your stuck fighting it.

    • @belugaflying
      @belugaflying 18 дней назад +3

      @DKH712 great distinction

    • @AuntAugusta
      @AuntAugusta 18 дней назад +4

      Very helpful comment Thankyou. Next time symptoms are challenging I will remind myself not to resist, but allow them to be there and pass in their own time as I keep moving forward with life. I think this is a form of strength
      Thanks Dan for the daily videos

  • @melissaellzey7550
    @melissaellzey7550 18 дней назад +7

    I don't know what I would do without your daily videos. Thanks Dan!!!

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  18 дней назад +1

      I'm glad they are helping.

  • @janphilipphermannlohmar
    @janphilipphermannlohmar 18 дней назад +27

    At some point in life even the healthiest human being will suffer. In my opinion when you learn to be comfortable in discomfort and learn to be able to find joy in all circumstances you are invincible. Paradoxically you will suffer less when you accept that life itself is or will be painfull sooner or later

    • @nancyrussell6598
      @nancyrussell6598 18 дней назад +2

      I AGREE WITH THIS PHILOSOPHY - IT'S THE HARDEST THING WE DO BUT THE MOST IMPORTANT

    • @Samsomani77
      @Samsomani77 18 дней назад +1

      God bless you

    • @belugaflying
      @belugaflying 18 дней назад +1

      This is why the pain is here - teaching this realization to those who have a harder time learning it 😅

  • @reneea6357
    @reneea6357 18 дней назад +8

    Like many of your dailies, this is well timed for me. Last night I decided ‘this is it and it’s gone too long and I’m not going to take it anymore and I’m going to fight this thing’!’ As a result I slept terrible and woke up feeling amped-up symptoms and depressed and drained on top of it! I guess we need to keep learning these lessons over and over until we can chill with it and our subconscious finally believes us. Today, mine isn’t buying it. But today I’ll try to be more kind to myself. I’ll get there! Thanks Dan.

  • @mikeshields2530
    @mikeshields2530 18 дней назад +7

    I found that just allow & accept symptoms really helps dial down the fear and pain!

  • @dj1028
    @dj1028 17 дней назад +2

    Thank you for this Dan!🙏💖 My problem is that I genuinely feel like this world is an unsafe place and I don't understand how anyone can NOT have terrible anxiety living this earthly existence. How does one truly feel safe in this world?

  • @Lenneke8422-b3t
    @Lenneke8422-b3t 18 дней назад +6

    I totally accept where i am today i am calm respond well to the sensations it will go away when it goes away 😊 ty Dan love you ❤❤❤

  • @gordon.5556
    @gordon.5556 18 дней назад +4

    Hi Dan, great video. I get chest pains and the odd palpitation. This is so difficult to stay calm when i get them. Doctors and Cardiologist say nothing is wrong with me, had all the tests. I'll try and accept that this is anxiety. All the best to you and everyone who reads this. 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

    • @ektasrivastava7194
      @ektasrivastava7194 18 дней назад +2

      Hey। I too had chest xray, blood tests, echocardiogram, ecg all came back normal. But still I get chest pains at one specific portion of chedt. Yes I think it's anxiety.

  • @cindygaudet1390
    @cindygaudet1390 16 дней назад

    Watching this on new years eve, my 68th birthday. I deem 2025 my yr to be unbothered by my pain symptoms and to undo my anxiety over other issues! Thanks Dan❤

  • @MarjoleinVegter
    @MarjoleinVegter 18 дней назад +2

    I love you, Dan! 🙏🏻🍀

  • @markmuzeroll2928
    @markmuzeroll2928 15 дней назад +1

    Congrats, Dan. Thank you for being a great trooper, serving humanity and relieving suffering. Your work is awesome. It is great that you have completed this book which will inevitably increase the benefit to people. Thank you for the work you do. And happy new year. 🎆🎊🎈 🎉

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  15 дней назад

      Thanks, I appreciate it. Happy new year to you too!

  • @sabinacolladio4647
    @sabinacolladio4647 18 дней назад +1

    "This is where I am today, but I'm not staying here". Exactly. Your simple but direct tips have their own way of getting stuck into my mind, and it works. After years of fighting against my "new" me, I find so easier and healthier accepting her. Taking care of her, no matter what she'll be in the years to come. I wish you a very happy new year Dan 😊

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  17 дней назад +1

      Thank you Sabina - I believe in you.

  • @rosenichiporuk8974
    @rosenichiporuk8974 18 дней назад +2

    Dan thank you seems so inadequate for all you’ve done for so many of us. I look at the program I did very differently now. You have changed my perspective and it has really helped me. I now say “I’m not broken, I’m teaching my brain safety” it has made a huge difference for me. A HUGE THANK YOU Happy New Year 🎉and I can’t wait to read your book! 👏

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  17 дней назад

      Happy New Year! You’re teaching your brain safety - that’s the key.

  • @macijane236
    @macijane236 17 дней назад +2

    Needed this one today it’s been a rough one for a few days man. Thanks Dan ❤

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  16 дней назад

      Keep your head up, you’ll get through it.

  • @hea7055
    @hea7055 18 дней назад +5

    This makes me wonder about how mainstream medicine and the media conveys the messages of fear with their terms 'the fight against cancer', 'the fight against C***d', 'the fight against flu' etc. How these messages of fear impact the public psyche.
    I've presently got C***d. With my previous C***d infections I didn't know about what you teach about and I felt fear and worry the whole time, because all I had was Dr Google to refer to. I'm feeling a lot more empowered this time. As I'm listening to your channel every day, doing other mind/body exercises and keeping my nervous system calm. Thank you. 🙂

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  18 дней назад +1

      Trust your body to recover from Covid. You will be just fine. Your body knows what to do.

  • @zeusthegreek4664
    @zeusthegreek4664 18 дней назад +2

    Thank you for the daily videos. You are an angel on earth. 🙏🏽

  • @KathySpaulding-o3i
    @KathySpaulding-o3i 15 дней назад +1

    Thanks for your dedication making these videos, Dan. Happy New Year! 🎉

  • @amandataormina12
    @amandataormina12 17 дней назад

    I am definitely struggling with acceptance. I get some success and pain/anxiety free moments then it comes back and I spiral and feel despair. Great video Dan

  • @carterstephan8275
    @carterstephan8275 18 дней назад +5

    Instead of fighting just rest in the knowledge that you are not broken.

  • @peterm2372
    @peterm2372 18 дней назад

    One of the best pieces of advice I heard years ago from a mentor was: “don’t give the enemy a man to fight with.“ … it helps to know at the outset what battles you can win… and lose. For most of us, I’m sure symptoms are the enemy.
    Perhaps a better way is to take Dan‘s advice of many times, and stand in front of the mirror and negotiate calmly with the symptoms … and work out a peace agreement.

  • @suzannefailla108
    @suzannefailla108 18 дней назад +2

    I am so grateful for you Dan, God bless you♥️

  • @lisasenior1463
    @lisasenior1463 19 дней назад +2

    Thanks Dan. So helpful.

  • @mezzoishere
    @mezzoishere 18 дней назад +3

    Pain doesn’t irritate me so much, I just can’t turn my brain off - anxiety - not about pain much anymore but about everything. I need to keep working with my brain…. 😊

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  18 дней назад +2

      Consistent messages of safety like I teach will resolve the anxiety too.

    • @mezzoishere
      @mezzoishere 18 дней назад

      @ thank you! I was hoping you’d say that 🥰

  • @DarrenCarter-z9u
    @DarrenCarter-z9u 18 дней назад +1

    Thanks dan all the best

  • @anjash6169
    @anjash6169 18 дней назад

    Thank you Dan🙏🏻❤️💪.
    I’ve fought against my pain for years and often still do. Acceptance is hard, especially when you’ve to say no to friends because it’s to much.
    But I’m also grateful when I can go with them by example to the theatre but I can’t have dinner with them in the restaurant before going to the theatre. Even though going to the theatre isn’t that easy for me because I can’t sit such a long time. I must stand after a while🙈I feel so ashamed. But💪.

  • @Bachconcertos
    @Bachconcertos 18 дней назад +4

    Out of work 19 months and no no family - went on a job interview last Thursday and woman tried to scam me. I've been in bed for three days from the fear now. I don't feel safe.

    • @marieleak8731
      @marieleak8731 18 дней назад +2

      So sorry, sending you prayers and a hug.

  • @Karen-wo2yk
    @Karen-wo2yk 18 дней назад +1

    Its hard to accept when you fear death 😢😢😢😢

  • @LukePettigrew-zv1ql
    @LukePettigrew-zv1ql 16 дней назад

    Guys if you can tolerate exercise i implore you to check out foundation training. It isnt exercise per se. The movements are great and the practice is really short. Loads of testimonials on their videos including people saying their physical therapist and chiros have recommended.

  • @robval7465
    @robval7465 18 дней назад +1

    Hello Dan first thank you for your daily videos they resonate with as I'm experiencing intrusive tinnitus since March of 24. I am thinking of joining the calls just wondering if you have tinnitus students in your calls. Really looking forward to getting your book. Some days I'm okay others are a struggle. Anyway thank you.

    • @reneea6357
      @reneea6357 18 дней назад

      I just had an irritating week of tinnitus during Christmas week. I know it comes and goes for me so it gets easier to just accept each time. And instead of it lasting months it lasted a week. I have other symptoms that aren’t as fading yet but that’s one my brain turns on and off. Proof it’s TMS. The others WILL fade at some point I’m sure! I hope your tinnitus fades too. I know it is really irritating!

    • @robval7465
      @robval7465 18 дней назад +1

      @reneea6357 Thank you so much for posting gives me hope. I try and treat it with indifference just Dan and others have said about my brain perception of it. Thank you yes I hope so or at least habituate. Much blessings

  • @ektasrivastava7194
    @ektasrivastava7194 18 дней назад

    Plz 🙏 make the video regarding chest pains. It will be so nice of you

  • @lauram.838
    @lauram.838 18 дней назад +3

    Is it wise to treat the fearful thoughts and the emotion of fear like we do in meditation? When they occur, we watch it and see it for what it is, the emotion fear or a fearful thought, not engage with it and let it pass. Is that a good approach?

    • @ohyouglow_
      @ohyouglow_ 18 дней назад +1

      Yes it’s really important to do that. Most of your thoughts are just thoughts. I’ve heard that thoughts are like heartbeats, so you can stop it and also they don’t matter because they’re something your brain does and it’s ok, this mean you have a healthy brain. But thinking, if you start to engage with the thoughts or ruminate about them, that’s only up to you.

  • @Roxytrish
    @Roxytrish 18 дней назад +3

    My journey began 9 years ago when i went to a surgeon for my back pain and he took x-rays and guess what..... nothing wrong. Time for some research. Anyway i 😊was wondering if this happens to people with traumatic childhoods because mine was a shit show. So there you have it.

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  18 дней назад

      Perceived danger can have many forms. My fast start playlist will tell you what's going on and what to do to end the pain. DansFastStart.com

    • @mkykta9140
      @mkykta9140 18 дней назад +1

      Ho' opono opono. Saying it helped me.
      Forgive yourself & your inner child. It wasn't your fault. You did the best you could to survive a challenging childhood. No one is perfect. Accept that we are no longer our past. Be kind to your mind & body. Treat them like a best friend. Listening to Dan's videos will help you work through it.

    • @Roxytrish
      @Roxytrish 18 дней назад +1

      @PainFreeYou thank you, but I'm no longer in pain and became totally aware of TMS when the surgeon told me there was nothing wrong. I was lucky he told me the truth. I keep watching you anyway for a refresher course. Thanks again

  • @mikeshields2530
    @mikeshields2530 18 дней назад +2

    Dan are those blu-Blockers that you are wearing?

  • @mariesundholm398
    @mariesundholm398 18 дней назад

    I have had post covid with a lot of symptoms for 4years but after I found tms i focused on that and everything turned around. It took a while but I was symphtom free , of course I had somedays it came back but i didnt care and it always dissapeared. But now 2 months ago I woke up with a new symphtom that wont go away, headache and neckpain from morning to nights all day. I have been to the doctor nothing is wrong. I know its tms but it wont dissapear . And now my brain cant relax about it😢

  • @boostandflow4603
    @boostandflow4603 18 дней назад

    Maybe, maybe not. Maybe I'll have symptoms today, maybe not. Either way I'll carry on. Maybe, maybe not.

  • @jackielee6258
    @jackielee6258 18 дней назад

    HI Dan do you think burning mouth syndrome could relate to tms. ❤

  • @linareese3064
    @linareese3064 18 дней назад +1

    Hi Dan, I’m going through a flareup. Can I do some stretches for my lower back pain just to feel a little more comfortable after , is that OK?

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  18 дней назад +1

      Yes, being kind to yourself and making yourself comfortable is okay. Just be clear with yourself that the cure is not stretching. The solution is in teaching the brain there is no need for the pain to begin with. My fast start playlist will tell you what's going on and what to do to end the pain. DansFastStart.com

  • @JanellSailer
    @JanellSailer 18 дней назад +1

    Is doing my pelvic exercise for my IC ok or is it telling me my brain I'm still in danger. I still get flares from eating the forbidden foods which are listed on the IC diet.

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  18 дней назад

      Do you have a problem with your pelvis or do you have TMS? TMS means the brain is creating the pain based on the perception of danger. The pelvis is not the issue. Are you clear on that? Have you done the assessments? IsThisTMS.com

  • @joywilcox1124
    @joywilcox1124 18 дней назад +1

    I am experiencing chronic digestive issues at moment and I know I sometimes let myself think about the symptoms like what is causing it is it something I ate, is it serious, should I be concerned?
    My stomach felt so tight last night and painful and didn't sleep well. I sometimes wonder should I give in to it and have a rest during the day and if I'm tired and don't rest is that fighting it?
    I know I keep thinking about the symptoms, like eating and drinking blows me up and my stomach is tight. I try to not keep thinking about the symptoms.

    • @kateking3953
      @kateking3953 18 дней назад +1

      Anxiety and nervous stress is a common issue with digestive problems. If you need a sleep, have one! Why wouldn't you.

    • @PainFreeYou
      @PainFreeYou  18 дней назад +1

      Making yourself comfortable is a great thing to do. Self kindness.

    • @joywilcox1124
      @joywilcox1124 18 дней назад

      Well I have linked it to stress and anxiety as few weeks ago had bad depressive episode so guessed was delayed reaction. I know I have a habit of looking after everyone else.

  • @Archiebean
    @Archiebean 18 дней назад

    Hi Dan, would you answer this question, I know I have PDS, I also have a knee and an ankle that turn in, could that also be PDS?

    • @mkykta9140
      @mkykta9140 18 дней назад +1

      Temporary using an AFO (foot ankle orthotic) with an anti roll bar helped me train my foot not to turn in. Once the muscles & tendons know a neutral position again, you are good to go without the AFO. By the way, Ortho doctors & PT's did not think it was possible to correct with an AFO. I figured out that the anti roll bar was the key.

  • @wednesdayschild3627
    @wednesdayschild3627 18 дней назад

    Tbe thing is doctors will look forever. It is hard to draw the line. It moves blah blah...

  • @kathleendillon1572
    @kathleendillon1572 18 дней назад +1

    God Bless You Dan, I look forward to your video each new day to help me get through adrenal fatigue ❤️‍🩹